@@oliviamutemanga6175 how so? I wouldn't say she is in a winning position with two kids from two men she barely knew. Her chances of getting married forever impacted. When you outsmart someone you should end up in a better position right?
@@RS-lf5exwords have meaning. I did not say she can't find anyone I said her chances are impacted. Unless of course you're saying a woman with 2 kids from 2 men are just as appealing as one with no kids?! Therefore we can agree it's impacted.
By far one of my fav interviews. I honestly love this podcast, its helping so many people. Please keep up the good work. I been a subscriber since the first episode.
Exceptional Interview. Thank u ever so much for being so open and Transparent as a man, (Especially a BLACK man)✊🏾🖤, cause our brothas (Especially with a Testimony that you have), I'm pretty sure, NO PERSON, Let alone a Black brotha, would openly be so honest and transparent. I applaud you for sharing, standing on your morals and fighting the good fight, for the sake of your child👏🏾👏🏾 Blessings and Love, and Very well done✊🏾🖤 Thank you to the Baby Father's Podcast platform, for giving a safe space for our brotha to be Open, Thank You....and God Bless ya'll🤗
i do agree that csa should look into doing a income and expenditure form especially as we are in a cost of living crisis. but he’s very ignorant and foolish with how he won’t pay a penny coz he has debts. that ridiculous. so you eat, cloth and take care of yourself but you don’t look about your child. WOTLESS. so now her man will take care of your responsibilities and his kid with her. ok. he’s not even willing to pay something affordable directly to her to start with.
He's the perfect example of a wukless deadbeat donor because I wouldn't call him a dad. There was excuse after excuse and he clearly thinks you take care of children with fresh air. Can't/won't pay because he has debts? Who doesn't? GOHWTBS bredda!
These are the things that happen when you lie down with someone unprotected and do not get to know a person. It's sad but may this be a lesson. The child now suffers cause of the childishness of the mother smh
My opinion is this man is possibly narcissistic because how is he living with the woman straight away and taking out big loans to buy a car in her name? he didn't even know her like that. Then he saying she is self harming for his attention !! sounds like he drained the hell out of her and left her pregnant and vulnerable. Got what he wanted and moved on... Now she has moved on he cant manipulate her why he was thinking to step out the picture. That mad no sense.
1) For a man to really see a woman as his woman she needs to be useful. This includes using her credit rating to get ahead. Doesn't mean he plans to use/abuse her. It's just how a stable couple work. 2) The self harming is his assessment as he had a front row seat. I would take his word for it as he was the one in the situation and there is no evidence to the contrary 3) drained her, left her pregnant and vulnerable? In this you're making her sound like child with no accountability or responsibility for anything. No woman gives her resources and gets pregnant unless she was open to it. He did not put a gun to her head 4) got what he wanted and moved on? Most men don't just want to get a woman pregnant and leave. Many men experience a change once a woman gets pregnant. Not every guy can handle the change. But I'm sure he wanted an intact family from the effort he made, taking on debt, to benefit his child 5) thinking about leaving removes the risk of conflict. Its got nothing to do with control. The fact he stayed shows despite considering the easier more peaceful life, he put the needs of someone else first. It's a shame society has programmed people to only see the negative in men
@@frankieunique5381 I love you bro! I learned not to get into these type of arguments with people but was burning to say everything you have just explained!! Especially point 4, there is nothing about my situation that I wanted, my dream was to have a happy home. When people say that I somehow got what I wanted, is so damn triggering.
@Frankie Unique You sound feminine !! Give a man all of us without marriage to build up then pop down who? Come correct this ain't no fairy tale this is real life. A man should be useful to a woman. You men that want mothering from a woman are not ready for relationships and need healing.
@@RastamouseTVI’m appalled that you got charged and convicted as an adult for a sex crime at 12 years old and I want to thank you for showing such resilience and for putting your child first. What you’ve been through would have made many ppl bitter and angry but you fought for your child and in my book that deserves utmost respect. Your child is lucky to have you in their life. I wish you nothing but the best for your future.
He has bad credit down to bad money management. So CSA should allow him? what about your responsibilities? They should just be on hold until you get yourself together? interesting
Regardless of good or bad credit, the fact is to finance a case in family court without legal aid is expensive. Without taking that action I would have little contact with my child and zero rights as a father. So I put myself in a vulnerable financial position to have the ability to be in my child’s life. Now that case is over, I have a life to rebuild and a young child to care for 40/60 or 144 days. Would you prefer I sacrifice contact with my child to send her mother money or that I maintain consistent weekly contact with my child and provide care for her while she’s with me?? I don’t need your answer cause I know what I’m doing right now. When I am able to pay CSA I will, I never said I wouldn’t. You lot just like to hear whatever triggers you
You can work with children/childcare until your DBS comes through. But you have to be supervised at all times whilst working. It probably makes sense for the employer to wait until the DBS comes through, until employing someone. Normally a DBS should not take so long to be done, six months is a longtime to wait.
He was a child and badly defended by the solicitors, I think this was racially motivated, I believe the sex offenders register is a good idea for real sex offenders, but not for silly kids who are showing off, this poor man's life is ruined for something he did when he was 12 and never done it again, your baby doesn't need your name she needs your time, be there for your baby as much as you can, this man is so clued up, and his girl will know how hard he fought for her, your presence is very important, keep it civil between your ex and her partner.
Alot of guys are upset being on CSA/CMA I definitely used to. And I hear due to the language that they use when speaking to the father's. But I agree it settles any arguments around money. It helps paying in the long run.
21 k and 42 do not pay the same. It's 12 % of your income. Apart from not paying .. doesn't matter what situations you are in, even if you are completely on your arse with 84p in your account you have to then hustle because Ur child still needs food. Apart from that part, feel for this guy. Looks like it was a trap.
Specific convictions such as his can never be spent under the rehabilitation of offenders act. Also even spent convictions will still show on PNC but employers have to treat it as spent under the above act.
I think maybe he should try and speak with his child’s mother regarding the child maintenance and see if they can come to an agreement between themselves.
He basically doesn't want to pay despite of the words coming out of his mouth! Talk the talk... Can't /won't pay because he has debts.. Yeah ill take out the violin shall I kmt
Pay your CSA and not a penny more. Do not buy any gifts or presents as you have already paid. Not even a sock. Do not contribute to nursery payments. You have already paid CSA. Do not contribute to birthday parties or any celebration. You have already paid CSA. Do not buy Christmas presents or Easter presents. You already paid via CSA. Do not pay for school trips or camping or school uniforms. You already paid via CSA. Once you have paid CSA, your financial responsibility to the child is entirely via that system. You don’t even have to worry yourself with saving for their future home deposit. The mother can do that. You already paid via CSA.
@@user-yz1lb3cm7z I can see why many people are opting out of having children no humility or integrity shown within this generation the level of emotional maturity people have today it’s just sad! I have the upmost respect to parents who go above and beyond for their children.
I understand the sentiment. When a woman goes to CSA she is open to potentially ruining the father financially and did not care. Only limiting expenses to CSA may de-incentivise women from exploiting men. Because the CSA could go down if he goes self employed. Much better to compromise and keep the courts out of your parental agreement. Where I disagree is not wanting to secure a child's future because of CSA as that's making spite for the mother take precedent over the child's best interest
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having kids can really bring out the best and or the worst in us in all
As a man you have to be extremely careful who you lie down with .
This man is upset she outsmarted him
@@oliviamutemanga6175 how so? I wouldn't say she is in a winning position with two kids from two men she barely knew. Her chances of getting married forever impacted. When you outsmart someone you should end up in a better position right?
@@frankieunique5381 Pricesely
@@frankieunique5381 thats what u think. That's by your standards. A man will still marry her lmao
@@RS-lf5exwords have meaning. I did not say she can't find anyone I said her chances are impacted. Unless of course you're saying a woman with 2 kids from 2 men are just as appealing as one with no kids?! Therefore we can agree it's impacted.
I love this channel so much, your work does not go by unnoticed and is very helpful to us fathers.
Respect to the host and guest 🙏🏾
By far one of my fav interviews. I honestly love this podcast, its helping so many people. Please keep up the good work. I been a subscriber since the first episode.
Exceptional Interview. Thank u ever so much for being so open and Transparent as a man, (Especially a BLACK man)✊🏾🖤, cause our brothas (Especially with a Testimony that you have), I'm pretty sure, NO PERSON, Let alone a Black brotha, would openly be so honest and transparent. I applaud you for sharing, standing on your morals and fighting the good fight, for the sake of your child👏🏾👏🏾 Blessings and Love, and Very well done✊🏾🖤 Thank you to the Baby Father's Podcast platform, for giving a safe space for our brotha to be Open, Thank You....and God Bless ya'll🤗
Bro searched how to take away the kid 😂😂😂😂
Wish this brother all the best. To any father fighting for access to their child keep fighting! It will all be worth it ❤️
i do agree that csa should look into doing a income and expenditure form especially as we are in a cost of living crisis. but he’s very ignorant and foolish with how he won’t pay a penny coz he has debts. that ridiculous. so you eat, cloth and take care of yourself but you don’t look about your child. WOTLESS. so now her man will take care of your responsibilities and his kid with her. ok. he’s not even willing to pay something affordable directly to her to start with.
He's the perfect example of a wukless deadbeat donor because I wouldn't call him a dad. There was excuse after excuse and he clearly thinks you take care of children with fresh air. Can't/won't pay because he has debts? Who doesn't? GOHWTBS bredda!
Says more about the mother than the father
Maybe if he had access from the start she would have been getting money uts not hard to understand
11/12 year old kids don't go on sex offender register for flashing on a one off occasion!
I believe him why would he even say something like this publicly?
These are the things that happen when you lie down with someone unprotected and do not get to know a person. It's sad but may this be a lesson. The child now suffers cause of the childishness of the mother smh
My opinion is this man is possibly narcissistic because how is he living with the woman straight away and taking out big loans to buy a car in her name? he didn't even know her like that. Then he saying she is self harming for his attention !! sounds like he drained the hell out of her and left her pregnant and vulnerable. Got what he wanted and moved on... Now she has moved on he cant manipulate her why he was thinking to step out the picture. That mad no sense.
I guess if my BM was to respond she’d probably say something similar to you 😅 I know my heart and my intentions so I can live with the critique ✊🏾
1) For a man to really see a woman as his woman she needs to be useful. This includes using her credit rating to get ahead. Doesn't mean he plans to use/abuse her. It's just how a stable couple work.
2) The self harming is his assessment as he had a front row seat. I would take his word for it as he was the one in the situation and there is no evidence to the contrary
3) drained her, left her pregnant and vulnerable? In this you're making her sound like child with no accountability or responsibility for anything. No woman gives her resources and gets pregnant unless she was open to it. He did not put a gun to her head
4) got what he wanted and moved on? Most men don't just want to get a woman pregnant and leave. Many men experience a change once a woman gets pregnant. Not every guy can handle the change. But I'm sure he wanted an intact family from the effort he made, taking on debt, to benefit his child
5) thinking about leaving removes the risk of conflict. Its got nothing to do with control. The fact he stayed shows despite considering the easier more peaceful life, he put the needs of someone else first.
It's a shame society has programmed people to only see the negative in men
@@frankieunique5381 I love you bro! I learned not to get into these type of arguments with people but was burning to say everything you have just explained!! Especially point 4, there is nothing about my situation that I wanted, my dream was to have a happy home. When people say that I somehow got what I wanted, is so damn triggering.
@Frankie Unique You sound feminine !! Give a man all of us without marriage to build up then pop down who? Come correct this ain't no fairy tale this is real life. A man should be useful to a woman. You men that want mothering from a woman are not ready for relationships and need healing.
@@RastamouseTVI’m appalled that you got charged and convicted as an adult for a sex crime at 12 years old and I want to thank you for showing such resilience and for putting your child first. What you’ve been through would have made many ppl bitter and angry but you fought for your child and in my book that deserves utmost respect. Your child is lucky to have you in their life. I wish you nothing but the best for your future.
I think your doing a great job by letting these dads have there say and there version!...Continue the great work
This channel is excellent I’m a new subscriber gotta watch all the videos
He has bad credit down to bad money management. So CSA should allow him? what about your responsibilities? They should just be on hold until you get yourself together? interesting
He MAYBE suffering mental health
@@BRI2020-d8x 😅😂 probably all the above
Regardless of good or bad credit, the fact is to finance a case in family court without legal aid is expensive. Without taking that action I would have little contact with my child and zero rights as a father. So I put myself in a vulnerable financial position to have the ability to be in my child’s life. Now that case is over, I have a life to rebuild and a young child to care for 40/60 or 144 days.
Would you prefer I sacrifice contact with my child to send her mother money or that I maintain consistent weekly contact with my child and provide care for her while she’s with me?? I don’t need your answer cause I know what I’m doing right now.
When I am able to pay CSA I will, I never said I wouldn’t. You lot just like to hear whatever triggers you
Good advice I think his fluid way of communication played an excellent part in access 👍🏽
The guest is top draw....more black fathers should watch this and learn....nuff respect big man☻
You can work with children/childcare until your DBS comes through. But you have to be supervised at all times whilst working. It probably makes sense for the employer to wait until the DBS comes through, until employing someone. Normally a DBS should not take so long to be done, six months is a longtime to wait.
My DBS took just 2 weeks
Worthy program content. Fathers have rights too. I love when they step up and demand them. Good Job young man. Hang in there.
Very good episode
Big up rass 💪🏽👏🏽
Ladies & Gentlemen get married before having children please 🙏🏾 let’s go back to the olden days
you think this man is going to propose to anyone?
@@j_g1 until he gets healed NO
@@BRI2020-d8x So women are supposed to wait until men like him are healed before expecting a proposal and marriage before being able to have children?
He was a child and badly defended by the solicitors, I think this was racially motivated, I believe the sex offenders register is a good idea for real sex offenders, but not for silly kids who are showing off, this poor man's life is ruined for something he did when he was 12 and never done it again, your baby doesn't need your name she needs your time, be there for your baby as much as you can, this man is so clued up, and his girl will know how hard he fought for her, your presence is very important, keep it civil between your ex and her partner.
This is what a gentleman is not
Thanks brothers 🙏
Alot of guys are upset being on CSA/CMA I definitely used to. And I hear due to the language that they use when speaking to the father's. But I agree it settles any arguments around money. It helps paying in the long run.
Just avoid having children.
I fully concur with your statement, it still gets to me the situations men get themselves in
One of the best dads I’ve seen on this pod!
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I need to know how riddz kept a straight face and not turn up his lip cos bruh.... this bummy af
I don't like this guy so I'll just say nothing
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The % is the same, the amount is very different between 21/42k. Your kids need a healthy father.
21 k and 42 do not pay the same. It's 12 % of your income.
Apart from not paying .. doesn't matter what situations you are in, even if you are completely on your arse with 84p in your account you have to then hustle because Ur child still needs food.
Apart from that part, feel for this guy. Looks like it was a trap.
I feel sorry for this guy so wasn’t his conviction spent
Specific convictions such as his can never be spent under the rehabilitation of offenders act. Also even spent convictions will still show on PNC but employers have to treat it as spent under the above act.
@@laurenwhite107 thanks for this
His BM probably got scared about her child future
I would be too tbf
Great episode and insightful
Did he win the name change order?
Nah, my surname was added as a middle name so it was a compromiseb
I’m so naive
Isn't he an actor?
I think maybe he should try and speak with his child’s mother regarding the child maintenance and see if they can come to an agreement between themselves.
He basically doesn't want to pay despite of the words coming out of his mouth! Talk the talk... Can't /won't pay because he has debts.. Yeah ill take out the violin shall I kmt
@@sammie3209best thing to do is have 50/50 shared care custody, it takes two to make a baby not punish the far.
Pay your CSA and not a penny more.
Do not buy any gifts or presents as you have already paid. Not even a sock.
Do not contribute to nursery payments. You have already paid CSA.
Do not contribute to birthday parties or any celebration. You have already paid CSA.
Do not buy Christmas presents or Easter presents. You already paid via CSA.
Do not pay for school trips or camping or school uniforms. You already paid via CSA.
Once you have paid CSA, your financial responsibility to the child is entirely via that system.
You don’t even have to worry yourself with saving for their future home deposit. The mother can do that. You already paid via CSA.
This is terrible advice, I’m so sorry. How are you doing the bare minimum for your own seed.
@@user-yz1lb3cm7z I can see why many people are opting out of having children no humility or integrity shown within this generation the level of emotional maturity people have today it’s just sad! I have the upmost respect to parents who go above and beyond for their children.
@@MRLX54100 percent !
Terrible comment
I understand the sentiment. When a woman goes to CSA she is open to potentially ruining the father financially and did not care. Only limiting expenses to CSA may de-incentivise women from exploiting men. Because the CSA could go down if he goes self employed. Much better to compromise and keep the courts out of your parental agreement. Where I disagree is not wanting to secure a child's future because of CSA as that's making spite for the mother take precedent over the child's best interest