Love Eternal For My Daughter | Stillborn At 41 Weeks
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- Опубліковано 3 сер 2024
- Erica talks with Winter about her daughter Avery, who was stillborn over 12 years ago. Even though so much time has passed, her love still grows everyday for Avery.
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I have lost three children.
1 stillborn Daughter (she would be 53 yrs now), & @3.5 Mo’s gestation a Son (he would be 48 yrs now-a twin), & 1 pre-term Daughter. (she would be 46 yrs now).
I have learned ‘You never get over it, you only learn to get through it’.
God did bless me with 3 children that I got to keep.
My son would we 42 and this story is so very similar to our story. I've been waiting to hear a story like ours where there was still a heartbeat until birth becsuse I've always felt like, well, that's not our story where baby dies within mom. So many, many similarities that I think I needed to hear this morning so thank you for sharing. Of course the grief lessens over time but the tears still come. Blessings
I am a grandmother and recently discovered your channel. It has been a bitter sweet experience watching these brave ladies.
“If they want to know me, they need to know Avery.” Yes. This. Thank you for articulating this so well. Moving forward from my own loss, this is so “it.”
I had a very early miscarraige and it was devestating! I thought it was something that happened to other people but would never happen to us!! it took a long time to recover emotionally! I did get pregnant again after 6 months and had a wonderful middle son. He was such a blessing. My lost one is always in my heart. Most people dont know about this. In my heart her name was Grace Elizabeth and I cherish her in my heart forever
I have never been blessed with children.. I’m 58..my heart breaks for these Parents.. I cannot begin to imagine the pain and heart shattering they experience with the loss of their precious baby
Daddy dancing with his daughter gave me goosebumps. The most beautiful and saddest memory ever.❤
I gave birth to my daughter who was born sleeping last month. The amount of sorrow is unbelievable. I too was 41 weeks.
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Angels among us...👶
So heartbreaking! I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing Avery's story with us. I know she's always in your heart ❤️
Thankyou for sharing your story with us i can say without a doubt they are always part of us our departed children weather they are in rhis world or the next only a thought away forever loved bless all the mums and dads out there who have lost there child ive always felt my son is never far away even though thirty years gave passed❤❤
Time does heal...on 8/3/79, my 8 lb. baby girl died 1 day before her due date. I had been to the doctor for a check up the day before and all was fine. The next morning, I had a freak medical emergency, internal hemorrhaging, and Wendy was deprived of oxygen. As soon as i got to the hospital i was rushed to the OR for surgery, but it was too late to save her 😢 The doctor felt at that time it was better for me not to see her! I didnt even have a photo. I was in critical condition for 2 days, so my husband had to make funeral arrangements, worry about me and make sure our 7 year old son was ok. I greived endlessly for 6 months. But, God blessed me a year later when i gave birth to a perfect baby boy. Each year, i still remember Wendy on August 3rd, and someday i will hold her.
I am so very sorry you went through this very sad and unfortunate situation. 😢 This happened to our daughter and son in law last July of 2022 at 38 weeks. I think about our (what would of been) first Grandaughter Michaela everyday. 💔 My heart goes out to you and your family. ❤ Sometimes life just seems so unfair. 😔
I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby girl ❤️ I have always loved the name Avery ! It's a beautiful name!!!
I will never forget the moment I heard my daughters heart stop beating. She was diagnosed with Anecephely when I was 21 weeks pregnant. Anecephely is a fatal neural tube defect that has a 100% fatality rate. I knew that if she was born alive, you would only live a few minutes to a few hours. I was praying so hard that I would get at least a few minutes with her. I was listening to her heart beat on the monitor and it sounded so strong. Then all of the sudden her heart rate dropped drastically. I heard it beat 4 times really slow and then it went completely silent. I will never forget that moment or the way it felt to know I had just lost her 💔 Within 5 minutes after her heart stopped it was time to push and she was born 27 minutes later.
Thankyou Erica for sharing your precious Avery with us 🤍. Also, congratulations to you and your husband on your wedding anniversary. "I wasn't given a choice" 🙏
Thank you so much for sharing your story and your precious Avery!
I just gave birth to my daughter who was still born on 5/16 😞 last week. she died the day after Mother’s Day after her heart stopped beating. I was 36weeks 4 days. I’m very sorry for your loss. I know your baby is looking down at you every day. ❤
I hope you are doing well. Please don't hesitate to reach out for help from your loved ones and your medical professionals. You also have a great community here 💜
So sorry mumma it hurts so much I lost my baby boy at 35 weeks 2 days I end of febuary this year. 😢 praying for you xx
I'm so sorry for your loss. No mom should have to go through that. I lost my daughter last month, April 19th. I went into premature labor. If you need anyone to talk to, I am here.
Hugs to all of you Mamas 😇🙏🏻😇🙏🏻😇
Sending so many hugs Ciara. I remember leaving the hospital after my son passed away, I was hoping, wishing and praying that I’d be the last mom to experience this kind of hurt. My heart absolutely breaks for you. Praying for you and if you need anything message me anytime.
Erica, Thanks for sharing your precious daughter Avery... So sorry for your loss even though it’s been ten long years you still are including your baby with you day in and day out , They Still A Part Of Us ...Even though they not here the Hard Sad Memory still lives with us ... We don’t want our Child to be forgotten, we want everyone to know she is still apart of Us , A part of our Family ... This is why It makes it so important to us that they still include her in everyday life , what it may have been like if she was still here , picture what she would be like, what she would like, if she was gonna be active in sports or just do girly things .. All this is still important to us to our lives and we want everyone to think about her , to continue to talk about her ... We just don’t want her to be forgotten even though she is no longer here with us , she is still Apart of Us ...💗
I am 64 years old and my son would have been 40 on 6/12/23! I had a lot of trouble getting pregnant, even requiring me to have surgery before I conceived him. We were on top of the moon when I found out I was pregnant! At 24 weeks I started spotting and had a lot of discharge which at the time I didn’t know was my water. I called my dr he said to go to hospital and after a examination and ultrasound discovered he had passed away! After he was born he had a lot of discoloration and I was infected with a bacterial infection. It was discovered I had an incompetent cervix which caused me to dilate and my water to leak out at a slow rate which caused the infection.The month of June is still very hard for me even after all these years. I cry a lot especially on his birthdate and funeral date! I can remember all this like it was yesterday I went on to have 4 children. Two boys, two girls, my rainbow baby was a girl! We found out I was pregnant with her on his birthdate one year later! Happy and sad emotions at the same time! Add worried to the emotion! We miss him still so terribly but know someday we will see him again! Bless all of you that have lost your babies! RIP Matthew Robert Dias- 6/12/83
I have a friend who lost her first daughter while staying in Germany with her husband who was in the service and stationed there. She told how she learned at a prenatal doctor visit that her baby had died. She told of how they sent her home to wait for her to go into labor. She said it was absolutely the worst time. People congratulating her on having a baby, yet knowing her baby was really gone. Then going into labor and going to the hospital and having to explain that the baby had died 2 weeks prior. They never gave her a choice of inducing her. Things were apparently different back then.
Hindsight’s a wonderful thing, but non of us have it. So very sorry for the loss of your beautiful little Avery. God Bless her. Lots of love and light sent to you all. 🌸🌸🕊
This is so Sad…. Her heart beat was low… I dont understand how this was possible, when you had deliver her right away she was alive 😓😔 the time in between the hospital visit and you going home … 😭
I am so so sorry for you ❤ this must be so hard for your family .. Thank you for taking the time to tell us about Avery 🙏🏽🤍
Im so scared of still brith, im 35 week and im terified. So much stuff can happen to a baby. My biggest scared is still brith, the next is complication in brith, swallow the meconium by baby. After brith SIDS is the biggest scare and later autism or other disorder. The worse you can do nothing and doctors know nothing and you can just wait for a time for all of this will pass and cannot happen anymore.
Thank you Erica sharing your story with us, God Bless you and your family.❤️🙏🏼💕 Listening to your story just breaks my heart.
She was a doll baby.💕💔
Thank you for sharing your beautiful angel with us❤️
God bless this family
Thank u for sharing Avery❤❤❤
I lost my firstborn, a beautiful boy, who was born sleeping on May 15, 2023. I was almost 30 weeks. So beyond devastated 💔💔💔💔💔
I’m sixty three almost and as a child many women had still births in our church and even my aunt…every other one of her babies was a still birth. A few had cords around their neck during childbirth but…almost all of those the doctor let the mom go weeks after due date! I had three csections and two were planned. The planned one my doctor said let’s go three weeks ahead. We will get an ultrasound and make sure everything’s good but my doctor didn’t like going over even a few days. He said babies can disconnect from their cord so he was always hesitant to let patients go over. So sorry for your loss! It’s got to be the most horrible thing.
What a tragic story of loss! Every infant loss is tragic but this was a little different, they were so close and so clueless as to what was going on. How could they have known? None of that was ever discussed when I had my son in 1980. I never wven had a ultrasound! How times have changed.....
R bless u both ❤❤❤❤
My aunt had a still born many years ago, the hospital was cruel and made m aunt carry it for a few weeks
The concept of stillbirth has always been part of my family. I learned as a child about my grandma having a stillborn baby between my aunt and my mom, but it's still something you think if as happening "back then" when medical care wasn't as advanced. ❤️🩹
So many hospitals only have social workers to help with this sort of thing. That’s what my hospital had. I was given this big box. But it was odd to use such a big box with hardly anything in it. I’ve been wanting to honor my children in a way that helps other moms in our shoes. My son was born sleeping on Oct 22, 2009 and my daughter was stillborn on May 24, 2011.
God bless you! You have weathered storms, for sure!
It wont bring Avery back but it could def save another baby if the Doctor would have done things differently. 42 weeks after the NST with low heart rate and the non stop activity she should have been immed admitted and delivered. No going home . My guess a c section would have been done and the outcome much different. I hate hearing these stories. So preventable. We always keep post date moms for minimum 23 hrs to observe.
Yes, her doctor made poor decisions which led to this very sad outcome.
I'm sure there are enough "what ifs" affecting this poor family without strangers suggesting what should have been done or that the baby may have lived had they been done. They have suffered enough I think.
So very sad 😢
I feel like you were neglected by everyone that you came in contact with in that hospital. It is unthinkable that a doctor would speak to you like that when he is delivering the most horrific message you will ever receive.