Incest Survivor interview-Wayne
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- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Wayne, an incest survivor on Skid Row.
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Wow, wow, wow! Families (including mine), brush SO much under the rug. There are so many children in my family who have been sexually victimized by other family members. Some of them (including myself) have come forward with our stories, only to become the Black sheep because “What happens in this house stays in this house.” Family reputation and religion makes them want to force you into silence. I tell everybody if this person didn’t want me to talk, they shouldn’t have did what they did. How is it that the victim has to walk on eggshells and the perpetrator is STILL invited to family functions? The Black sheep is really the mfn goat. I no longer associate myself because right is right and wrong is wrong. I respect, appreciate, and empathize with your story. Thank you for speaking up, no matter HOW much time went by. I pray for your healing and restoration of your heart. I have an episode on Incest in Black Families on my Podcast. “AirItTFOut Podcast”. Follow me for generational healing.
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I'm sorry that happened to you and I am glad you were brave enough to speak out and tell your story. Thank you 💜
Well said queen smoke it’s very sad and I’m sure it’s very hard and embarrassing for people to talk about this situation. I belive him opening up about it will really help some people. Suppressing those memories is never good everyone going through what he went through needs someone to talk to to heal I belive. When your kids you don’t really know what your really doing is wrong till you get older I guess…… very sad but if parents arnt involved with there kids and never around I can see how this stuff happens.
Eat well & live long Smoke 🙏🏿
It took a lot of courage to share that. Mad respect to you.
It sure the fuck did!! I wouldn’t have told anyone
Yes! Tremendously brave, I would not have the courage to do this but it def helps ppl suffering in shame about stuff like this
My whole family has been victims and perpetrators of sexual abuse. It’s been swept under the rug. No body talks about it or gets help. It’s weird showing up for a family function being around your molesters and everyone is acting like nothing. But from my point of view this has led to low self esteem, mental problems, and addictions. Every one is an alcoholic. I didn’t know families got together without alcohol. The first time I went to a family function where they didn’t have alcohol but every one was enjoying themselves I was astonished, didn’t know people lived without alcohol. Hardly no one works in my family. My grandma had 8 kids. Nobody finished school. It was party party party. She was too busy being friends with her kids. My aunts were having babies in their early teens like13 and 15. They all get government assistance and are in toxic relationships. No one has accomplished anything in life but having babies they’re not mentally, physically, or financially able to take care of. It was a bad kept secret that my grandmother husband was sleeping with my mom his step daughter. Cousins sleeping with cousins. The whole nine. Every one thought I was lucky because I was my grandmother favorite so I was always at her house. Her sons who were mentally delayed and had most likely been molested were molesting me constantly. Out of shame I didn’t say nothing. If I wasn’t being molested I was ignored. This set me up to think letting a man have his way with my body was love. I can say it’s about the same for all the women in my family because of this ongoing sexual abuse. I had a baby by a man who just saw me as sex and left me to raise a child on my own at 18. Luckily I pushed myself to get educated finish school and be the best parent I could. I’m 44 , I have 2 sons they’re grown. I’m single because I attract toxic men because I’m still not healed from my past. I’m self aware and would rather be alone then continue abuse to be fake loved. I a work in progress. From the sideline I watch the women in my family get abused and have kids they don’t need. I have so many relatives in the foster care system. My siblings and I grew up in foster care. Every one is still just going through life not understanding or realizing why the whole family is dysfunctional and addicts. My aunt who I recently cut off like I had to most of my family including my mom because they’re toxic. They done buried sexual trauma so deep that they’re just on a mission to hurt others like they hurt. Back to this aunt. She has a grandson she gets every weekend. She works overnight and leaves him in bed with her boyfriend. Nobody sees a problem with this. She’s a victim of sexual abuse and she’s cool with this. Everyones like oh he wouldn’t do anything to that kid. Ok I’ll guess will just wait and find out. The boy is 9 and think twerking and watching makeup tutorial on UA-cam is life. He’s very feminine but everyone is once again looking the other way. As for myself I stay away because I’m not about to drink my life away in denial with these people. I’m breaking generational cursed over here💯
Thank you for sharing your story.
Wish you heal your wounds, maybe this may help you
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🫶🏿GodBlessYouAndYourStory🫶🏻
your strong character and sport bleeds through these words heavy, i couldn’t imagine something like this… i’ve held anger in my heart about my mothers rape that i found out about at an early age….. it was a very violent and published thing in my town at the time because he was a serial rapist and murderer ….. held a machete too her all night and came through her window… being over, protective in my life, has caused a lot of my relationships with the women I’ve come into terms with in my life, sometimes more negatively than positively but at the same time you can probably just imagine how traditional I am & protective of the women that are close to me not to mention a significant other(single of course) … so again i say your something special for overcoming and rising above too change it all and do diff.✌️❤
Wow! What a powerful testimony! You are so strong and brave for sharing your life story 😢… Don’t be afraid to call children’s services if needed for the young man.. it is so unfortunate that people live so foul and think it’s okay! You are helping someone who is reading this post!!! ❤
Hypnotherapy is incredibly helpful as well. ❤
@@colettespencer3357 hypnosis is a violation of the soul
Anyone who touches a child sexually should be in jail for life. The damage it does is unprecedented!! Feel so sorry for these folks. My heart and prayers go out to all of them.
Noone will ever understand who meets me, I'm just lazy in people's eyes. Really I'm in physical and mental anguish because of severe abuse.... it's nice people do understand. Makes me feel short-lived minimal comfort
They should be under the jail without mercy. They can never be rehabilitated.
@@Christandnature Sue, I am SO SO sorry. I was sexually assaulted after I was drugged by my brothers boss. I can’t claim to know what it means to be sexually assaulted as an innocent child but it was horrific enough as a 30yr old woman and my heart will always go out to any child who’s innocence was taken from them by a predator. God Bless you.
@sueprasasouk1899 I understand, you're not alone. I hope you find some peace of mind and healing.❤
Incest rape murder racism and abuse is all common in poor black communities it’s an everyday thing
He is clearly an intelligent man who understands how trauma he endured and bad decisions he made impacted his life. He doesn’t place blame on anyone and doesn’t use a foul word this entire interview. I really hope that mark can help open some doors for him.
I agree. And also, when he said only a not normal person would keep doing the same thing getting the same results. Just him knowing that means he understands so much. I pray this man receives a blessing he needs. I pray he heals emotional scars as well. I hope him talking about this helps him. 😊
Exactly...
Mark wouldn’t help someone like this cuz mark is CREEP who only takes interest in the grimy prostitutes….
Beautifully Said! 🙏🏽
Praying for this gentleman. ❤
I was raised by my father's parents and I would like to take a moment and thank both of them 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
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I was adopted by my dad's sister when my mom died (my dad was alive but absent) and I'm so happy my maternal side didn't adopt me because I had one family member in particular from my moms side that although they never did anything to me had made a very inappropriate request through the phone that forever made me look at them differently which sucks because we grew up very close.
Was raised by Grandparents
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Me too! That was my moms last dying wish for me and my sister to be raised by our fathers parents. Her side of the family was very similar to his story. I’m so grateful for her making that decision and my grandparents for caring for us. Life could have turned out way different for us.
He is so well spoken, observant, self aware, and calm. How unfair life has been to him. So sad to think what his life could have been if he were simply born into different circumstances. Sending you love and healing Wayne and hoping you are able to find some peace and happiness in this lifetime.
Amen
Honestly. I agree
I think out of all the people that Mark has interviewed, Wayne breaks my heart the most. He seems so innocent in a way. I hope he can repair & rebuild his relationships & find a steady job that he can be proud of. Its a shame, some people just cant catch a break.
God bless you Wayne. 🙏 ❤
Agreed. ❤️🙏💞
Agree
Bless you
Yes. He’s real.
The gateway drug is TRAUMA
So sad
I hope this guy finds some sort of peace
I’m also a survivor of incest… from the hands of my father // this hit really close to home ❤ thank you Wayne
I am leaving this here, maybe it is of some help
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Praying for you Hun
I had an ex who suffered from that and .... my God. I'm so sorry.
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🙏 Blessings your way!
So many people of Wayne's generation are suffering in silence. I am glad he is speaking out & that the culture is moving in a direction where more people are open. Its especially important for men who are often shamed & mocked when they talk about sexual abuse.
Yeah because people who lived around that time didn’t believe in getting help and swept that type of stuff under the rug. It’s unfortunate.
Yes..they are..
@@harley4303 The culture. What do you mean. I'll wait.
Thank you for sharing Wayne. Talking openly about your childhood is a great step in the right direction.
Sad that all the talking we do can't make the memories go away.
Sad as it is: too late for him.
He's seizing the Present, the only place of power in this story, and he's actively working on his healing and getting the word out to others who might be suffering too. That's all he can do and he's doing it. Give the man credit.
It is never too late. Where there is life there is hope. His interview will be seen across the world. People will heal, including him.
@M de Leeuw Wrong. He's reaching out to heal himself. His healing is between himself and God. You, or any other low frequency mortal, cannot decide when its too late.
Wayne mentioned something that I really wish Mark would have asked more about. He said he stopped having sex with his sister (and other relatives) because he knew it was wrong. How did he know it was wrong? Did he hear that, talk to someone about it? The incest was horrible enough, but he had a conscience, which made the effects more devastating. I feel terribly for Wayne. He was an innocent victim whose life was shattered and is now facing his demons, alone.
I was also curious 😢
We’re all born w/ a sense of right right and wrong, if we listen to it.
GUT FEELINGS. INTUITION.
I think it comes natural to feel it’s wrong.
In my case, I got a sense that something was wrong in my own household once I grasped that other kids' households were not like my own.
How sad. Many people who get involved with drugs are self medicating their way through childhood trauma. I hope Wayne gets the help he needs.
The gateway drug is trauma unfortunately
Yes. That is what it is. That is what the Lord revealed to me and I try to share it with others.
@@jaimeparedes9188 I hope you get the help you need. Troll.
@@wisdom8264 Thanks!
"All we see is the person on drugs and we don't care how they got there." Those words hit hard
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 very deep
YES!
I got literal CHILLS when he said flowers in the attic. It really made me pale because the moment he started telling his story I immediately thought of the movie. Very sad situation, i am proud of him for speaking his truth and hope he finds healing . :(
Yes, same. The book is a lot more detailed and graphic when compared to the movie, and hearing that he actually read the book instead of having watched the movie broke my heart. It broke my heart that this traumatizing book is the space where he felt seen…
@@PrettypiscesgyalThat movie came out in 1987 and I have watched it several times since 1987! Now I am TODAY years old when I found out that incest took place among the children. They poured 20 gallons of water into that movie vs the actual version of the people who READ the book. That's a shame and I feel deeply fooled.
I remember the movie and I have never watched the movie again. Circa 1980's.
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These individuals are really brave and very triumphant
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I pray that he finds a church home or sone counseling
What a nice fellow. Forthright and up front. Not easy to sit up there and expose your life. I wish him well!
One day at a time. Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story. You never know who it could be reaching. ❤
He's telling a story a lot of people are afraid to talk about. Like he said, families suffer in silence for the things they don't talk about. This World has been wiery for people and through Grace may they experience Joy. 💌
ugh methadone is no joke some of the worst withdrawal I have ever experienced. I got put on methadone for years because of my heroin use. Then I had to go on Suboxone for the methadone withdrawal. For real addicts, Its honestly an everyday battle. If I could share something to anybody who sees this. Please none of it is worth it. Oxy, Heroin, fentanyl all the same shit. Coke and benzos all the same shit. Real addicts will know that It gets to a point where you dont get high anymore and its nothing but misery from there on. Save yourself and stay away from hard drugs and alcohol ❤️❤️ Love to you all
Thank you for this truth. ❤
Thank you for your honesty. None of what has happened to you appears to have any lasting negative influence on your abiity to understand your circumstances and those of others. That is a tremendous feat. You mentioned all that abuse, all that misfortune...and never used one profane or crossed word...incredible. Much respect, sir, much respect. 🎉❤
All the lost souls walking around........
It is okay to be upset too. Some people don’t give themselves that opportunity even when they feel like cursing. It depends on the person. Everything won’t always come out “pretty” or politically correct. It was an ugly situation! I get where you are coming from though.
Well dressed, well spoken and surprisingly well adjusted. I wish nothing but the best for this man. His intelligence and insight should be used to help recovering addicts or recurring convicts.. He has a unique skillset and manner that makes you listen. What a man.
Yess he’s very well spoken so sad 😢
I was not prepared for this interview. 😢 My heart goes out to this man. Such real honesty and realness. Thank you so much for sharing. Praying you get well and can adapt to life outside. 💛💛 I hope we can get an update in the future.
Definitely wide spread!!! It happened to my family when my brother and I were kids. I’m sure it still effects my brother and I until this day. I have never talked about this and I’m 55🤯 I appreciate the honesty.❤🤞✌️
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Wish you peace and love Becky. Thank you for your bravery to write about your life ❤
I pray that you choose to get the help that you need because you deserve it in Jesus' name. AMEN.
This happened in my family too. This is why I get so disgusted with how the black community constantly attack and throw away our gay family members but will protect or ignore the boyfriend, girlfriend, uncles, fathers, mothers, sisters, brothers who commit incest and molestation. A friend of mine learned that his 15 year son was having relations with his almost 40 year old girlfriend for 2 years, which means that she started having relations with him at 13 and both my friend and his son, would come up with all kinds of reasons to not call her a sexual predator. The hypocrisy is insane and sickening!
@@ksoulfinder1776 The church is definitely indirectly condemning it. What made me realize this is when I heard a Muslim man from a Muslim country openly admit to molesting little boys. His reason is that the Koran doesn't not condemn it. Not one major religion stays aggressively condemning child molestation nor r@pe for that matter, like they do homosexuality and I believe this why most people seem less bothered by neither. It's a disgrace!
It’s not *just* the black community that does that. Please do not feed into people’s negatives prejudices towards blacks.
@@sodamncutestud2 NO OTHER COMMUNITY IGNORE OR DENY THIS MAJOR PROBLEM LIKE THE BLACK COMMUNITY. YALL MORE FOCUSED AND BOTHERED BY WHAT CONSENTING ADULTS ARE DOING AND THAT SIR IS A SERIOUS PROBLEM.
@@igotyourback9175 and what evidence do you have to support your claims ? You’re making statements that are mere opinions based off your experience and trying to pass them off as facts and act like the black community is just soooo terrible and that no other communities are doing the same things. I don’t see the black community performing honor killings? I don’t see the black community beheading their lgbt ? You really need to research what other cultures and communities are doing. I can tell you’re very misguided. I’m not “more bothered” but anything. I’m just simply pointing out that the black community isn’t the only community that does this. Go talk to members of the Latin community, Arab, etc. Pedophilia and incest exists in ALL communities you just don’t hear about it. Why? BC THEY SWEEP IT UNDER THE RUG ! This isn’t more of a black people thing stop being small minded.
@@sodamncutestud2 This is why we can't get anything done. Every time we point out an issue, y'all start deflecting and talking about what other races and communities are doing. You sound like a hit dog hollering! The main ones who deny these things, are guilty of them! Sort of like those who push the 'no snitching policy' in the black community are the ones who are terrorizing the community and committing the crimes. The 'no snitching' policy is pushed by 'them' to protect 'them' and 'their crimes!'
The black community is in total disarray! Don't tell me that molestation and rape and underaged girls getting pregnant by adult males isn't a big problem! Don't tell me that incest and rape isn't a real problem, especially with black girls. Just ask the average black female if she's ever been molested or raped and I promise you that every other one will say that they have! Don't tell me black people aren't killing each other over the dumbest things! Don't tell me that the average black family is headed by single mothers! WE ALL KNOW IT! Like I said, no matter what other races and communities are doing, they are still outperforming us by and large. So please leave what other races are doing out of this. It's our JOB to deal with our own and FIX our own but people like you would rather deflect and ignore, which makes you just as much as part of the problem!
Wayne is very well spoken. Definitely in touch with reality and what it takes to make it in this world. As a black woman that was raised by an abusive alcoholic father, this hits home … this could be my dad bc now in his later years, he looks like life has beat him down. Makes me wonder what he went through in his life…bless his heart..
no one should do 20 years for drug possession. It’s a financial drain on society. decriminalize all drugs and provide help for these poor souls.
No dad in the house, no mom due to her trying to provide for her kids, incest, poverty…this guy had no chance without help from the system-which obviously he did not receive.
Agreed, lost generations because of it.
Agree 💯
I agree
That will further degrade society.
@@canelareina3795 really? Worse than it already is? I think not. The people that are goin to do drugs will do drugs. The people that don’t, won’t.
I understand the curiosity but I wish Mark would let him finish talking before asking another question. Very interesting interview. Insightful, emotionally intelligent man. I hope hes able to do better.
Thank you! The second he mentioned his sister raising him, mark wanted to jump right into the incest! Like damn let him get there himself
Agreed, some need more time to be drawn out. It felt like he really needed to confess, too. 😮💨
It seemed unnecessary to keep pressing the issue of his siblings having different fathers after he repeatedly said he didn't know
Mark did good. Wayne at first was having a hard time getting started. A good interviewer, as Mark is needs to take charge or the interview will take forever. If you notice, Wayne became more comfortable.
That’s why they would of had a pre interview before this one …. Mark would have discussed the interview direction before hand.
He's such a sweet man!!! Thank you so much for sharing your story Wayne. I sincerely pray for your recovery from this awful situation ❤❤❤❤
His self awareness is so touching. The way he expressed his love for his mom & the way he spoke about his abusers was also very endearing. He could've ended up violating others or hurting people violently because of his past. His crimes seem to have been to support his drug habit. I do hope he finds healing and prosperity 🙏🏻
I'm so proud of him for opening up about it all. I wish you all the best Wayne!
This is more common than people like to think. It’s not just a “southern white people thing”. It happened in my family and we’re Mexican. This is why two-parent households are so important. Not just that but also constant knowledge and communication of what a child is feeling. We’re all curious by nature, especially kids.
It still can happen in two parent households though. Sorry that it happened in your family. Sending love
Oh we know. It's also huge in the middle east but I do believe at a certain point when it became the norm to say anything offensive about white people especially the southern ones.
Wow I really didn’t realise just how common this is!!💔. Some of these comments have me mind blown. 😳😳
I grew up in a 2 parent household and my Dad raped my sister. He tried me first but I fought back. Saying all that to say, it can happen in any household.
Don't forget grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends (safe village). A family can't be an island and it often takes more than parents eyes and supervision to keep kids safe.
You can sense his pain and his effort to rise above it. Sending much healing energy💜
His whole life, 20 years just for possession, this Angel. Blessings to him for here on out, he’s been so wronged his whole life. 🙏
“I ran a train on my sister” are words that should never be spoken.
Facts
It was so flippant too.
For real. Like damn
It’s the truth,.. 🤷🏾♀️
@@BGT_LLCTakes a lot to admit to such a life. He was so young I hope he gets to heal. He read my all time book Flowers In The Attack.
This happened with my mom’s family. Oldest brother abused the siblings. Siblings were incestuous with each other. Her siblings abused their own kids. And those kids abused their kids. It’s just nonstop
Wayne is very courageous for sharing his story
Generational curse 😢
@@mzmimisings83 “The vile gift that keeps on giving”
I read flowers in the attic when I was about 19…….it stuck in my head for a long time. Wayne felt it was wrong & stopped…… 🖤
Me, too
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Immediately I am reminded of R Kelly's brother talking about how their older sister did the same to them....mom always away from the house working & big sister in charge & sexual abuse started young! This is by no means an excuse for what R Kelly did as an adult - However, it definitely speaks to where his deviant behavior most likely began & in that way he, too is a victim! Sooo much goes on behind closed doors as so many shared stories on SWU have told us as well as Sooo many shared stories here in the comments section. Generational trauma & unbroken patterns continue to pain & shame our fellow humans in this way - it is completely Overwhelming & shattering to the soul!!!! I pray & send positive energy out to whomever has had this fate befall them.....I am truly sorry ♥
I was thinking the exact same thing!
I am a recovering addict, trauma and abuse survivor and what I know for sure is that I accept that what happened to me as a child was not my fault but my choices as an adult is and was my responsibility. Seriously, I could've spoke to my Morher (narcissist) and other toxic family members all day but that would've never changed a damned thing of my so-called childhood. I do wish I had had more real caring adult intervention. Perhaps that may have made a difference. Clean since 2008. 🙏💪❤
Best to you in your recovery, and thank you for sharing, it helps others. ❤️🙏💞
My heart goes out to him, I wish he didn't have to endure this trauma.
Yes indeed
He committed it. Not endured
@@missmidget19he did both and as a child he did not know what the hell he was doing. This is just blatant victim blaming
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What a brave, self-aware man. I hope he gets the help he needs and deserves. Thank you for sharing your story, Wayne.
It happens in “normal” two parent households too.
Middle class Roman Catholic family, dad worked mom stayed at home with me. My 16 year old brother began sexually assaulting me when I was 4. He was 21 when he did the same to our 5 year old cousin who’d just had her leg amputated due to cancer.
I believe the trauma has caused a Pandora’s box of illnesses to surface. At 42, I’m trying to therapy myself and come to terms with my trauma. Therapy myself cause my cancer diagnosis in 2018 wiped my savings and disabled me. I finally made a formal report to my local PD this year on March 17. I found out last week my report is being looked into by the DA. 👀😅 I laugh because whatever comes his way, it’s well deserved. The things he told me, the things he did to me, he ruined me. He gets to live his best life while I’m left to pick up the shattered mess he left of me. Never any justice for the survivor.
He lives in Az and works for a “trucking” company.
He’s on marriage #2. When he met and married these two women (at different times) they both had daughters between 4-6 years of age.
God is just. I thank Him for that. May you be restored. And may your sibling receive God's correcting love. So much pain. So sorry you and your family members had to endure that.
So you knew what he was like and you didn't warn the wives or the police, You're just as bad as he is
Happened to my by my Mother's lover. Him and his wife ran an under the table daycare. It started when I was 2. Definitely wrecked my chances at a normal life. I work hard at maintaining my mental and physical well being. Not anti social but I do live off grid out in the country. I left city life not too long ago, couldn't take peopoling any longer. Good luck and blessings to you.
I’m truly sad to here that this happened to you .. and thank you for your transparency, I hope justice comes through for you immediately, I myself have a similar story and you have encouraged me to do something about it.. thank you n God bless😔
I have come to learn that if you are a single mother, many people don’t want to be with you. They want to have access to your children. Single mothers out there please be vigilant and careful with your children.
Thank you for being brave enough to share your story. Generational trauma and abuse is so hard to break free of. If no one has told you this before let me be the person, what happened to you isn’t your fault and I'm sorry the world failed you in so many ways.
Thank you for this statement.and understanding.
My heart goes out to everyone who has been impacted by abuse. This is a subject that has to be discussed to help us all.
... I feel like I'm asleep and this was never my life. Emotional, psychological, physical, sexual abuse victim. It's killing me. I'm tired of society shaming anyone for using victim terminology. I was victimized A lot and I can't take this life I've tried my mental health is deteriorating.
@@Christandnature Yes, I understand. However, what society is saying is that there comes a time when we have to face the fact that the abuse happened and we actually survived that trauma. Now, that we survived, how are we going to respond. Will the warrior inside of us take over, or will we withdraw and hide in the closet, become a villain and destroy others or take that pain and vow that it will not destroy us. Then, turn it into love and lavish this love on ourselves. Then and only then can we release our abuser and set our spirit free. We deserve peace which will free us to give ourselves all the love we need. The abused did nothing wrong to deserve the abuse.
25-life for drug possession is absolutely ridiculous!! Our justice system is so skewed
This man is incredibly insightful. I hope he’s somewhere safe.
SWU interviews help me to gain a broader perspective on how we are all so different. It has a profound affect on me to see all the people so bravely spilling their stories…. I love them all at least a little bit. However when a man like this comes on, tells his story in the most raw and guttural way, it makes me and I’m sure thousands of others, dig deep into our hearts and minds to find resolution to our own problems and history. This man seems so honest and gentle. I will pray he lives a peaceful, productive, and free life. His interview touched me. Much love from a fellow southerner. ❤️☮️🌻
Am so sorry sir, that you had to go through this 😢 your venerability is strength, I hope speaking about it now on this platform openly helps with your healing . God bless you and it is well ❤
Wow!! Wayne I'm sending you so much strength 💪and prayers 🙏. Thank you so much for sharing your story,, it definitely needs to be heard. I was sexually abused as a child and because of it I became an addict and in June I'll have 3 years and I'm 52. I believe in you. You can do this. I'll be praying for you. The book flowers in the attic is a great book and they're more books by VC Adrews and they even made movies that were also great. When he said he read that book it actually surprised me. Another great interview Mark 😊
I pray he does get clean. Sometimes talking about traumatic things that have happened is the first step to recovery and healing from them, no one should have to keep all that inside and have it slowly destroy them. Best wishes, Wayne!! You’ve got this!!
His anxiety shows how he rubs on himself while he speaks of the situations from his childhood. I 🙏 for his recovery 🎉❤. Stay strong and thank you for your courage and TRUTH
Wayne.. You’re so obviously intelligent and well-spoken. I’m so glad that you know that your life still has SOO much value. Even beyond regular employment… you could help so many people. Having endured all that you have, it seems that you haven’t held on to any resentments … which is astounding!!! So many empty people carry DEEP resentments for MUCH lesser offenses!! And thank God that you don’t have that burden because it certainly won’t help you as you pursue your new life of freedom… from ALL bondage… in Jesus’ Precious Name… is my prayer for you. What a truly Beautiful Soul.
Its insane they would put someone in prison for drug poession for 20 years. Its madness!
@@baublesanddolls why would he lie?…
3 strikes and you're out that is the court system
What a courageous man to come out & speak about his upbringing. Thank You for doing that ..I know you are going to better yourself good luck on everything🙏🏽🙏🏽
Wishing you the best, Wayne. Stay strong, stay free, stay clean.
This is such important work...so many people have no idea that these family dynamics are "normal" for some folks. I greatly appreciate the transparency of these interviews. Thank you.
I believe Wayne remains a gentle soul despite his tough start in life. I hope & pray that he will be healed from these past traumas & keep speaking up, which he does so well; he has a gift of communicating,thereby helping others & gaining a deeper understanding of how he fits into the worldhimself
Very intelligent and confident man. It's heartbreaking but took a lot of courage to share.
I had a similar situation that happened to me and I’ve never really talked about it. This has inspired me to maybe find someone to talk to.
I hope you do decide to share your story with someone, I heal a little bit more every time I talk about what I've been through! The things that happened to me kept me a prisoner in my mind for a long time. When I decided to take the control back by allowing those secrets to be free, I released so much of that weight I felt holding me down! I'm sending thoughts of support, healing, peace and prayers your way!
Mr. Wayne: I hope you get this message: thank you so much for having the courage to understand the situations your mother and family had to survive- to get through all of that and to then GET CLEAN. You inspired me: I won't drink today. ❤
I am so honored you shared your story with us- I hope you know how much you have helped strangers figure out their own pain.
Your intelligence, compassion, honesty and bravery are a blessing to everyone around you, even though you might not even know it.
Thank you.
One of the most POWERFUL interviews yet! His transparency will make him whole. He had no choice before he knew what a choice was. My prayer is that he finds peace! Sounds like he’s in touch with those including Mark that can and will help. God please show him favor! Can’t wait to see him smile and tell us how God showed up for him and he let him in forever!!! ❤🙏🏽
These stories make my heart shatter into pieces. His and the stories in the comments. I’m so sorry you weren’t protected. 😢 💔
It’s heartbreaking that the absence of a parents time and love caused him to experience cascading events of destruction that took so much away from him having a healthy. Wayne is a remarkable survivor! So genuine and likable too. Wish him the best going forward.
Best wishes to you Wayne - thank you for sharing your story and talking about difficult things.
I started started this channel but every story I click on I can’t stop watching… mark is a God send!!!!
Great interview. I wish Wayne all that's good in the world.
Same. He seems a gentle spirit desiring real change. ❤️🙏💞
Bless this man. He is intelligent and clearly shows remorse and understanding.
Salute to his bravery for speaking on a very hard topic to discuss. Sending love & great vibes to him and I know he’s gonna do well. I hope and pray he not only survives but thrives❤️🫡
I'm so sorry to hear the things you've been through and how rough of a life you've had. Feels like you didn't have a chance before you ever even started life. You seem like such a sweet soul who just needs a very long hug and some compassion. I'd give you the biggest longest hug. My heart hurts for you. You can see the sad lost boy in your eyes. Thank you for opening up Wayne, that was a very vulnerable position you put yourself in.
You hear so much about parents’ unconditional love for their children, but there are so many children who love their parents fiercely, yet they are woefully let down. I understand that certain things are beyond control, but for me the bottom line is don’t have kids if you don’t really want them or can’t care for them. Love and healing to you, Wayne.❤
Only God gives unconditional love. Every person has issues. I think people need to focus on healing more and may be more people will nowadays due to all of the information they are exposed to. Back then people were just taught how to survive and make it. They wasn't really taught how to thrive and live and that was the problem. So broken and hurt people begat more broken and hurt people. It was a viscious cycle that satan use as away to steal from people and destroy them. But he is a lie from the pits of hell and will never win. The buck stops here in Jesus' name. Amen.
Very intelligent and genuine gentleman. God bless you. I honestly believe you can get a great job and really turn your life around. You have so many people on here rooting for you!! We all believe in you!
Thank you for sharing your story so openly and freely, Wayne! It's not easy to open yourself up to that kind of possible judgement, especially from a society that is uncomfortable admitting that these things happen in families, and that males are victims too. Interesting how he discusses what happened with his brother and his brother's friends as "abuse" but calls the incest with his sister "screwing." I understand she was a kid, too, but it sounds like she was still several years older. I wonder what makes him make that distinction.
Right! I took child psychology.. and anything more than like 3 years age difference is predatory..
Bless him for his insightfulness. I'm sorry he had to experience such awful things and hope he can overcome his trauma.
I read all of VC Andrews books. As a 9 yr old kid. Had no idea what my interest in them was Until much later on in my life. At 42 years old I finally just gave them all away.
Best of luck to you man.
I’ve read many of her books as well and Flowers in the Attic was the most difficult one to read.
Interesting comment. My sister was particularly fond of VC Andrew's and Flowers in the Attic. The way the mind can shut out things as a trauma response is a real thing.
@@ericapoe I had to think about this comment. I believe your right. The vast amount of abuse and lies and secrets and betrayal those kids endured at the hands of their family, especially in that book, was astounding.
I didn't allow my family members to brush things under a rug. I was 12 yrs old when I opened a telephone book (back when we had them) and called a child psychiatrist for help. Weeks later I was admitted into an inpatient program.
God bless you
Honesty is what keeps your soul clean. Good for him
The south is notorious for this type of behavior. I live in the south and some generations back in my family, incest existed. It was sadly a unspoken normality. Hope he gets to heal from all this.
Ugh my heart breaks for this man and his siblings. This is wrong on every level…but yet it is their norm. I’ve read that book that he’s referring to and it is wild. I pray that God heals him from this trauma.
I am so proud of this man for speaking his truth and seeking healing...understanding that being real and facing your reality is the only way to move forward. 💙
Bless him, I hope he can get clean and live a good simple life. When he answered the question about the things he could change if he could go back into his past had me in tears. I’m rooting for you Wayne ❤
I hope Wayne’s able to find some joy in his life.
My ex boss never had a real job only sold & used. He was in prison most of his life. He was released in his late 50's. Someone gave him a job. He started at the bottom, became manager, then general manager, then relocated out of state to a higher paid position. He earned honest money until his 70's when he retired. I remember when he dressed in rags. Now he wears a suit. It looks real good on him. No one would ever know what his life was like before. I hope this man will have some good luck. He touched my heart. He has a good Soul. I'm glad he is coming to terms with the abuse. I'm sure he feels lighter. Good luck to you Sir. I will include you in my prayers tonight. Be well.
You should write, if you don't already. I like the way you tell a story
@ Perlie
That was a very nice compliment. Thank you. No I don't write. I wouldn't have the skill for that. Our old boss Jimi made an impression on me. We were decades younger than him. He was honest about his life. He was proud how he rose above. He remained humble and very down to Earth even when he was the big boss. He was approachable and genuinely cared for our well being. He was good looking for an old guy too. He was proud his only child became a police officer and did the opposite of what he did. He was reunited with his Son at 18 after getting out of jail. Everybody is doing great now. It proves you should never give up because even very late in life it's possible for wonderful things to happen. No matter who you are, you just can't give up.
Thank you for sharing your story Wayne. Not to worry. Your mother already knows the healing you are doing for yourself. Going on utube and being honest about your story is a step in the right direction. When you get a chance, take some time, and sit in nature. Like your favorite park or something like that. Be still and quiet and just start talking to your mom. She will hear you. I promise. Then you can move on. I hope and pray you get a good job and a sweet girlfriend! Sending you much Light and Love from sunny California!!!
"It's something underlying that makes a person turn to drugs" he's definitely right..the more I learn it seems to be atleast 80% maybe more are dealing with some type of childhood trauma.. he's right.
I hope Wayne is healing and doing well.🙏
I hope this man finds peace in his life that he has left to live. He deserves to know what love and someone caring about him is like. Well wishes to you Wayne.
Omg, Flowers in the Attic. That movie made a light go off for me too. People don’t realize how commonplace this type of thing is in single parent families where the kids are basically just left to fend for themselves.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I suffered the same as a child. I hope it was a healing experience to tell your story. May God bless you and comfort and strengthen you. In Jesus name. Amen
Wayne, thank you for sharing. Thank you for acknowledging that you have marketable skills and are working to create the life you want. Never give up.
SWU Community, I love you guys. I'm blown away by the compassion and understanding you offer to the people being interviewed, to Mark, and to each other. ❤️
Thank you Wayne. I hope you dont let yourself fall and instead prevail and keep teaching and learning. ❤
I am also a survivor of incest and I appericate Wayne's story hope he gets all the healing he needs and his life starts turning around on the positive side 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Damn
Seems to be very prevalent among the blacks, this is like the 7th comment I've seen from a black person saying this on here.
Wayne, I wish you all the best! I hope the venture you’re talking about brings you soo much success you’re such a gentle soul ❤god bless you 🙏🏼
Such a great interview. He is a very intelligent man and is totally in touch with his feelings now and he has come to terms with his past. He seems to be on the road to a better life.
It was nice listening to this interview from someone who didn't need to use curse words with every breath, just so refreshing!! He truly has come a long way from his past, so you have to give him some respect for that. Wishes for him to stay strong and have a much improved future!
Wow his story was a good one. Since watching Soft white Underbelly I understand how people are addicted to drugs they have been though a lot of pain and drugs is a way to cover lot of the pain that they've been through.. and to Wayne I hope and pray that you find healing and and you get the help that you so desperately need and deserve, you are an awesome person and may God continue to bless you.
Also, Wayne. 8:54 . Despite Mark interruption with his same questions. Well done on your personal accomplishment. Mark often pushes the undeniable narrative. What brings me back is the individualism. 15 months is a lot of unseen effort.
This poor man has had a hard life as he is the same age as myself.
I do hope he gets himself together.
Very insightful interview, thank you!💜🙏
Interesting theory about it only being in the south. I’m from the south as well and have also been victimized by an uncle. Drug use/alcoholism has been a staple in my life that I struggle with as well. God bless this man. It wasn’t our choice.
He made me cry, seems like such a good man that was never allowed to be young and happy.
I’m going to be honest, I didn’t know incest happened in any family to that degree, isn’t disgusting, and I’m not surprised he ended up in prison.
Incest and sexual abuse is rampant in our society, and all over the world. Keep watching these videos. As a trained counselor I’ve heard a lot but even I have been dumbfounded by some of the things on this channel. Heartbreaking.
@@CasperInkyMagoo It’s not only teachers, it starts at home.
@Broski Snowski it’s not a cultural thing🤣 dumb asss
Thank you for sharing your story and I hope your life path moving forward is much different. One that is positive, happy and healthy. ❤