LETS TALK ABOUT INTERRACIAL COUPLES | EP63 PART 1 | MARRYING OUTSIDE MY CULTURE
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- Опубліковано 16 лис 2024
- In this Episode lets talk about interracial Couples where we we discuss a dilemma regarding an interracial couple.
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saw a clip on tik tok and really wanted to respond from the perspective of a black woman, which is a very important perspective to this question. whether a black person is mixed with white, indian, hispanic etc, as long as they present as black (black features, tanned/darker skin) they will be treated as black people. period. i believe what the mother is doing here is instilling black pride in her daughter bc, generally speaking, the world will break black people down. there isn’t a need to instill white pride in the child bc the world puts white people on a pedestal. she doesn’t want her daughter to forget that there is so much pride in her blackness before the world tries to take that away from her.
Exactly! In addition to how the world treats white people in comparison to non white people, the world will not even see her as white if she doesn't look white
The mixed race people's perspectives have to count for something too. I come from two different mixed race parents. My dad is mixed. His mom was white. My mom is mixed. Her dad was white. The mixes are very different. My dad was born with his blackness but my mother had to learn hers. Despite how you look, you are what your dad is.
@@KP-qh8je i can’t and won’t negate their personal experiences however i’m a bit lost on your last sentence. you’re not what your father is…
as far as the global perspective is concerned, if you look black, you’re black and will be treated as such. we know how black people are generally treated in this world and, directly speaking to the situation mentioned in the video, the mother is getting ahead of that global perspective on black people.. especially if her daughter is presenting more black than white. and again i’m speaking on behalf of the black mom bc i’m a black woman and will understand moreso why she’s encouraging her daughter to say those affirmations. i think your dad had an experience that many mixed kids with white moms don’t have. i’ve heard/read/learned from MANY mixed kids with white moms that they don’t identify as much / aren’t as connected with their other half. it’s the mother who tends to keep up with tradition, culture, identity etc.
@@callmelilsha Race is a construct. The seed comes from the man. White men are different. Their seed is different. Their children, no matter their color, are different. How hard is it to understand that? This is coming from a mixed person that is aquatinted with both kinds of mixes. I literally don't know how else to explain it to you.
I agree with this to an extent she is still mixed race and I don’t think convincing mixed race children that their just black is helpful. And I don’t think the white drop rule should be perpetuated because “white people will perceive you as black”. I think it’s wild to perpetuate white peoples racist narrative, we choose what we want to perpetuate. I think a kid can be told you are black like daddy and white like mommy and they will understand. You can tell the your skin is beautiful your hair is beautiful, you are a mix of mom and dad and they can find pride in that. When appropriate can also explain that they may get mistreated because of how they look as a mixed race person. By the time they are like 10 they Will understand this you don’t have to say you are black for them to get that. Some black people will tell them they are not black and some will even call the kids white when they are mixed. And from what I’ve seen nowadays mixed race people are treated differently than black people due to their more Eurocentric features.
As a half African, half Asian female, I fully understand what this mother is doing. Regardless of how the father sees his daughter, even if she is as light as Meghan Markle, people outside will perceive her as black or at least mixed race. He cannot control how other people treat his daughter. It will be important for her to feel proud and be confident in her own skin. She may not enjoy the same privileges her father has in being white because she mixed so needs to develop a positive identity and belief in herself as young as possible. This does not take away from her being half white biologically and culturally. I think he should speak with his wife and understand why she does this. Hopefully there will be more understanding based on the mom's experience why this will be so important for their daughter in the future
Exactly, I agree
Exactly. There's the way the world should be and there's how it really is. An honest and respectful conversation can resolve this.
I personally don’t see what the mother is doing is wrong.
Mixed race children always excluded form both communities they come from, they are both but never feel accepted by either. So many books and case studies are done on this.
Parents need to make a huge effort to involve there children in both of there cultures.
My children are mixed but both there parents are white or white enough that the world will view her as white. However her two communities both view her as different. My husband and I both work very hard to emerge her and her brother in both of our cultures and home countries. I mean marrying outside of your race and culture is very hard there are things about her culture that I do not understand (same w my husband) but we make sure they gets to experience both - like all the experiences for them!
Also I have noticed that the dominate race doesn’t think about race. That is privilege some people are born with depending on there location. For example In the UK white is still the dominate race so it would be weird for them to point out there whiteness. Just like a Chinese child born in China is not going to focus on how Chinese he is. It’s unnecessary because that’s the dominate culture.
Just marry your own kind & case closed. Train your mind & brain to love your own kind or better yet, build a thick skin and stop worrying about racism…. It’s always gonna be there. Una too like stress.
Guys if your looking for a church can I invite you to HTB in London 😊. Also Uzoma has a point as always, not gonna lie even for two black people from different backgrounds the cultural differences are still gonna there. Guess it’s about understanding where the other person is coming from. Love the pod guys
You’re right, Uzoma made a great point on cultural differences bearing the same challenges. Thank you for your feedback and Church recommendation 🙏🏾
My step brother is half Jewish and is now divorced from his black wife, I still see his black wife and her mixed race children ( my nieces ), I get allot of hateful looks especially from black men who think I’m with there sister, I’m attracted to other girls of color but probably would find myself more compatible with my own kind.
I’m shocked as to why this wasn’t discussed or understood before they had children. Often in interracial relationships it seems certain difficult and uncomfortable topics aren’t discussed but they have to be because unfortunately we live in a society where the world sees color whether we like it or not. If you are non black and decide to have children with a black person that child will be viewed as black. What will you do when they are viewed or called black according to everyone else?? 🤷🏽♀️
S/n. Y’all spent too much time on how that guy need his wife instead of the actual topic.
Why don't people acknowledge both half of their kids when they are mixed. I don't know if it's because I live in South Africa, but here when u are mixed with anything you will be addressed as a mixed kid or "coloured" as we say here in SA this thing of representing one side more than the other is confusing.
That comment about the book I would’ve ran away 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Nonsense the reason it’s an issue is because the father can’t call her white because she isn’t white and although we have been called black and we are really brown we are referred to as black due to to our darker completions varying from light skin to dark he’s threatened and if he was not he wouldn’t raise the issue there is an inner racism in him speaking 10:42
I feel you should this question again with black wife to mixed races family your viewer can get better and more understanding opinion
Eh Mulinde you posted your sister on TikTok , you didn’t know she was mixed 😭? Anyways that was an interesting discussion
Teaching her to be confident with her black side 12:52
Cultural differences
I don't agree, caribbeans are mixed race so we can't tell mixed or not. I think racist can't tell either. Black Is viable only in a racist society. Otherwise it isn't real
Caribbeans whether they be Afro-Caribbean, Indo-Caribbean, Creole-Caribbean etc... are a diverse set of people including tribes. Africans whether they be West,East,South, Central, Subharan North African are a diverse set of people with various ethnicities and tribes... It's ignorant to box people as black or white. It's a bogus race label.