I stayed in Gothenburg for 3 months during the height of the omicron variant, the more infectious form of covid, and there was just not much social distancing at all. Streets, malls, trains, all packed shoulder to shoulder. Not a mask in sight.
@ThreeStarVagabond thank you so much for telling us about your beautiful country. We need a support group for all people who have fallen for Sweden. It's a very one sided love affair, but it is VERY REAL nevertheless 🤭🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭
@@MartinAhlman yes, I know what you mean. It's a very big country. I drove all the way from Stockholm to Goteborg, and the vibe changes as soon as of leaves central Stockholm. I found people outside way more reserved and less interested in checking out strangers BUT they were still very 'lagom'.
Having spent 5 years in Stockholm, I quickly discovered the number one thing not to do in Sweden is saying hello or good morning to neighbors. Such a friendly gesture will make their eyes quickly widen as they run away in a mad panic.
That is SO correct! ...Except if you go out to the archipelago or other small posh areas. There it's custom that you ALWAYS greet others, and if you don't say hello, then they scowl at you and wonder what kind of weirdo you are...
I understand well, why my husband had been surprised with morning greetings and even smiles everywhere here in the Philippines thats shocked him thoroughly! Because of Swedish dont use to have or done it as he explained to me.
Thats why my neighbors hate me , I always say hello! Still there are some that never say a word! Ive been living in the same apartment for 23 years! Sad..! 😭🤓😂✌
@@ThreeStarVagabond oh, good. My flight to ARN is going in 6 hours from ZRH (extremely random, I just picked a cheap flight, anywhere was fine). This will be my first visit to Sweden. I'm German, too. Looks like I don't have to prepare that much. I already rented a car from Hertz and I plan on driving around a little. All just to clear my head after a recent break-up. Returning on Wednesday.
@@teyton90Sounds like the perfect recipe - change of pace and a change of scenery. It's pretty cold now, but as long as the rain stays away it can be absolutely gorgeous to drive around. If you're staying around Stockholm, check out Mariefred and Gripsholm Castle. If you're heading up north, check out the High Coast area :D
@@ThreeStarVagabond @ThreeStarVagabond IT WAS AMAZING! I rented a car (hybrid, like everyone in Sweden, lol. Extremely lotsa electric cars!) and started driving West - still having no idea what I'm doing. Didn't matter, the nature was so beautiful and I stopped on every brown sign showing an interesting spot (you know these street signs on highways leading you to a POI). So calm and quiet. I drove about 1500km/4 days. Parked my car at the Norwegian border at a beautiful national park and went the remaining km by foot, just so I can say I've been to Norway. Heard some weird animal noises. Went back, then south, through Gothenburg and back through Stockholm. What an amazing country. I will definitely come back one day (and have time for the places you mentioned).
Visiting from US. Discovered your videos and have watched 7-8 of them. You are terrific and your videos are fun and informative. Keep up the great work.
Being Swedish, but with a whole cadre of close friends from all around the world, I think I'll just link them this video instead of trying to explain our weird habits over and over 😂
@@ThreeStarVagabond Yh this sounds like me and the British in general. Pretty much all of that you said could be replaced with Britian and it would make so much sense. Buying rounds is the only one that we do and we do that quite religiously. We are also very quite unless we are drunk which is quite often
@@connortopping6943 Haha! Yeah I think Swedes and Brits get along really well actually! I think there's a really cool ironic humility in Britain... Like, everyone is expected to talk crap about themselves and their place - in a nice way :D
I’m a generally pretty happy person, but your videos get me into an even happier mood….chuckling and laughing as I go through my day, doing laundry, making the bed, sewing, gardening, etc
So what your saying it to stand on the left side of the escalator, play my music as load as I can through the speaker on my phone, hug everyone I see and boast about what I have while cutting in cue, perfect hope I make it out alive. Thank You for the info I’m sure it will come in handy. ✌️
The escalator thing is from the subway in Stockholm. Some people are really in a hurry and need to run even in the escalator. If you block their way, they will miss their train. This habit has then spread to the whole country, even escalators in shopping malls.
I can’t wait to go! These all sound like my own preferences anyway (maybe because of Swedish heritage?) 😂 our trip got delayed due to world events, but we still plan on coming to visit soon!
Oh too bad! But yeah, some people find the Swedish mentality pretty weird...but some people fit right in straight away. Maybe introversion is a genetic heritage :D
Love how we think that the law of Jante is Swedish when it was a Danish writer, Aksel Sandemose that created it. The fictional town of Jante was based on his home town of Nyköping Mors in Jutland.
I'm visiting Sweden next year so I'm trying to educate myself on things like this. I appreciate hearing all of your advice and it helps even more to hear these things from someone who is from there. I'm reserved and love to be left alone to quietly do my own thing. Sweden sounds like an introvert's dream haha!
I have noticed that if you tell someone that "the guy over there, he makes lots of money", the American will say "oh, that must be a clever, hard-working person!" with admiration, while the Swede gets a suspicious face and mutters something about "tax evader".
Very interesting! I am American with Swedish roots.. I have always been very quiet by nature, I don't appreciate confrontation but I DO appreciate modesty, personal space, and polite distance from strangers.. I do not like to disclose alot of personal information. I'm also spiritual but not religious, and I also don't like people buying me drinks! I want to buy my own, thank you anyway! I also agree, cutting in line is unforgivable lol I know being American is a strike against me 😆 but I am very proud of being of Swedish ancestry and happy to know I like to inherently carry Swedish etiquette with me 🇸🇪 ❤️
Seems like there's a lot of Swedish in you despite being American! I wonder if that's because of subtle hints of Swedishness that's been kept in the family...or if this "introverted Scandinavian behaviour" is more universal than one things for some people?
I am the same, I like to think some of it is Swedish roots rubbing off on us, but also I did grow up w/ my swedish side being VERY proud to be Swedish so perhaps it was just natural i would turn out introverted and polite and non confrontational.
Another brilliant video, I love number 10, a friend of mine calculates the rounds just like the Swedish, so I’ll make sure he buys the first when we visit Stockholm in February
Haha, that's a good plan! People here often feel better overpaying than having the anxiety of not paying enough. However... If a cheap Swede is in the party he'll actually keep track that the rest of the people all buy rounds then! 😂
You’re the best! I’m going to Stockholm in a couple of months and I am taking notes from your videos. I’m an American who loves my personal space, so I mainly have to talk softer 🤣
Haha no worries! People here are used to tourists so no one will be all that bothered either way. Just enjoy and have fun! Thank you so much, and hope you'll have a wonderful time :D
I always make it a point whenever I visit Stockholm to do exactly the opposite of everything you said, except for standing on the left of the escalators, which is just plain rude. One of my favorite things is striking up a conversation with random people on the Tunnelbana, the look on their faces is priceless!
if you have an emergency then fine its an inconvenience but if youre late for something because you were disorganised yourself i dont feel its fair taking out fustration on a random person.
This video will help us as we head to Sweden in June 2023 for a family reunion, of sorts. We are 2nd and 3rd generation Swedish Americans. I think Swedes will find some of the viewpoints and traditions we learned (or mis-learned) from our parents and grandparents as being strange or old fashioned. Question: what would be an appropriate host gift to bring our Swedish relatives?
Happy to hear that! And it's got to feel so nice to connect with a distant branch of the family like that :D Hmm... I can't say for sure, but I think most Swedes love quirky stuff with a local touch. Like, say that you were from Texas. Then I think a real cowboy hat would be a thing people would appreciate, since it has a local connection. It's something that'll be a talking piece - and I think people appreciate that.
I hope you're going to like it :D Gothenburg is a really nice place, and September can either be pleasant or a bit rainy. Hoping for good weather when you visit!
@@ThreeStarVagabond well I’m from big London so probably similar weather. Thanks for the upload (was informative and funny) looking forward to exploring and meeting lots of friendly Swedish ladies… 🤞
Beautiful country, art and poetry, beautiful people. In every day life, though, Swedes are reserved, distant, and apparently discreetly judgmental. Despite all their good qualities, the people are too cold for me, I would become seriously depressed. Marseille, Naples, here I come
That's a very interesting observation - "discreetly judgmental". That might be a really good description for it. I think there's similar behavour in some other countries as well, but maybe it's not very common. Oh well, let's hope the Mediterranean is better!
!!! What kind of weirdo dips the pancake in the ärtsoppa?! Haha I never even considered that it could be a thing. But now I get oddly curious to try it next Thursday 😀
@@limpanuzz pea soup is cheap and pretty bland, so to make the meal a bit more fun, you serve pancakes as dessert. (And pancakes are quite cheap food too, but everyone likes it) This is a pretty strange tradition, I would guess it started in the military, pea soup can be made in big bulks, it doesn't require fresh ingredients, you can prepare it the day before and just heat it up. It gives you the time to make pancakes, wich is a bit messy and time-consuming if you have to do a lot of them. The tradition of serving pea soup with pancakes for dessert (on thursdays for some reason) has been picked up by schools, cafeterias and low-price restaurants everywhere. I think this tradition is at least a hundred years old. If you didn't think the combination is weird enough, it will sometimes be served with a shot of very sweet arrak liqueur called "Punsch", -served warm.
Thank you so much for your precious tips! By experience, Swedes are usually very friendly and reliable, also self-ironical. They are not icebergs at all! We should learn to appreciate different points of views to improve and enrich ourselves. That's the path to a better world. You do contribute to that by means of your amusing but educational videos. Tack sa mycket! A big thanks to you and your compatriots 🙂🙂
@@ThreeStarVagabond Tack sa mycket for att svara pa min kommentar sa snabbt! Du ar helt vanlig. Genom dina videos kan jag le, skratta och tanka, men lara mig sa mycket också! Jag ar ledsen att jag kan inte skriva med prickar pa vokalerna! Jag hoppas att du forstar"min" svenska :-) Tusen tack igen! Ha det bra! Giorgio fran Rome 🙂
@@citroen143 Of course! And your Swedish is pretty much perfect (except for the dots) just so you know! Tack så mycket, och hoppas det inte är allt för varmt i Rom nu!
@@ThreeStarVagabond Den snabbaste mannen i Sverige! Du ar väldigt sympatisk. Det ar for varmt i Rom. Tosti betyder en typ av smorgas i nederländska och min katt heter Gustav som din kung. Hälsningar till dig och Kungen Gustav. Inga prickar.....det ar ett problem.....Du borde lara eller undervisa i svenska. Tack sa mycket for dina tålamod och artighet. Goran 🙂
Great tips! At first glance at your video preview picture, I thought you were Fred the Swede from Taskmaster! 🤣 Thanks for educating us before we visit your country.
@@ThreeStarVagabond I mean it kinda is our sport though after all. Since it is such a HUGE deal here in Sweden. Well, if you don't live far up in Lappland like me where almost no people live...🤣
You left out the most important one: DO NOT leave your shoes on when you come into someone's home. Unless we EXPLICITLY tell you to keep your shoes on, take them off at the door!!! xD
I get that swedes respect their private space, I also love when people keep the distance. but how it happened that in a pretty good restaurant with the cost of a dinner 500kr you get strangers sitting beside you? from both sides, if you're unlucky enough. and no private space at all. I didn't visit a lot, but like 70% places have the same situation. how to find a good place for dinner and relax in Gothenburg?
Well, the answer to that it plain and simple greed! Unfortunately, the best way to avoid that is to not visit the more popular places, or go on less packed times. It's unfortunate, but they do try to optimize the space :/
Back in the mid 80s I used to go to Stockholm regularly on business with a couple of colleagues - we never waited in line to go into a club or restaurant but would walk right up to the front of the line and say "Good evening" and go straight in - this worked every time.
@@Asg2121 Haha! Never insulted by Scandinavian jokes against each other. It's like the Norwegian joke: what separates Norwegians from the apes? The border to Sweden ;D
I love Sweden. They don't like others buying a drink. But in our culture not buying a drink is considered rude. Besides our society like to boast. Packed with egomaniacs. Got to love Sweden.
There are a few more things I would like to point out: 1. Never (!) take the last piece of cake from the coffee table. It's not yours. It belongs to everyone. Divide it. Divide it until you approach a subatomic level. Isn't that possible? Just let it be for the microorganisms. But never ever take the entire piece unless someone's really begging you. Then you have to take it, even if you don't want to. That's a rule I had to learn the hard way. I still sometimes get away with it by just claiming that I'm not Swedish and that this stupid unwritten law doesn't apply for non-swedes. 2. Don't ever refuse to participate in the endless coffee brakes (so called fika) at work, even if you have a tremendous amount of work on your table and even if you think that just one short coffee break a day should be enough. Participation is strictly mandatory. Otherwise, you will always be a strange outsider. A rule that is still hard for me to accept. 2. Don't talk about your academic grade or job title. It's similar to the rule that you can't speak about your salary. Play down any achievements or success in your life. If you happen to be wealthy for some reason, it is actually more accepted in society if you have won a fortune in a lottery than having earned it by working really hard. Which will get us to the next point. 3. Don't expect that you can become rich just because you are highly educated and pretty good in what you are doing. The socialist idea that everybody should earn just about the same as anyone else is still a big deal here. 4. If you want to know anything about anybody, including the salary, the number of pets in the household, which cars they own, the value of the property, everything, just look it up on the Internet. Literary everything about you is publicly available and not a secret at all. Everybody knows it, everybody does it, but nobody ever talks about it.
As someone who was born in Switzerland, grew up in Sweden and went to Switzerland once a year Switzerland like Germany is very similar. They may drink more, but it's not to the point of being drunk. They treat beer like soda and their bodies handle it as such.
That's fair enough - you guys are the happiest people in the world after all! But thanks, all the Nordics are pretty similar I guess - even if we like to focus on differences :D
@@ThreeStarVagabond we are not happiest, we are most "content", not "happy". That's what everyone gets wrong. Everyone using the wrong word getting it on the wrong foot, then getting disappointed when coming to Finland.
People boarding subways in Stockholm don’t allow passengers to get off before they get onto the trains themselves. Oftentimes that causes irritability at stations.
The only religious people I met in Sweden were muslim people. And they are not the most nice or accepting people i have ever met in the 50+ countries I've been to.
Personal space is called 'Elbow room' in America. It developed during pioneer days when complete strangers would have to dine together during their travels, and many didn't smell too nice coming off the dusty road. They also worried about thieves, so leaving space made them feel that the contents of their pocket were a little safer.
Interesting! So the concept is that old - I had no idea. I've heard the term before but I imagined that it was a more modern concept about having space for your elbows while eating or something.
@@ThreeStarVagabond Americans have always been lacking in formal 'manners.' It's so bad that a few years ago, corporations had to send people to schools to learn how to dine properly. Actually though, Emily Post had the right idea- She said good manners was the ability to put people at ease... The reason people eat chicken with their fingers now is because at a formal dinner, one of her guests picked up his chicken and began to eat. The other guests gasped... But to their amazement, Emily Post immediately picked up a piece of chicken and began to eat it so her guest wouldn't be embarrassed... So from then on, people felt free to eat chicken with their hands....
@@cassandralibertywest4310 I like that approach! I view manners in general as a sign of respect for the other person. But if you haven't been taught what manners are the appropriate ones, then no disrespect is meant by not following them - so it's better to take it all in stride and assume that people have reasons for why they act like they do, and that it's not meant as a slight.
@@ThreeStarVagabond I agree. In this world though, it can actually be dangerous to go to another country and do something out of innocence which ends up offending people! I think some things are universal though- Like not coughing or sneezing around people and the like.
Can I ask for your perspective on this point, please? I have lived, studied, and worked in various countries with diverse cultures. I have always been eager to learn and have invested a lot of effort into studying because I find it fascinating to encounter people who know more than I do. I have never felt envy; on the contrary, I have often felt admiration, although it is a rare occurrence. In every country I have lived in, people have sought to spend time with me as I am seen as a charismatic and interesting individual. When I arrived in Stockholm, mostly guys, and only two girls (all Swedish), wanted to get to know me. I had a couple of Swedish friends who would invite me to their parties every weekend, where I would meet other Swedes, being the only non-Swedish person. However, their interest appeared to be solely based on my appearance; they were merely attracted to me physically. One night, we were together at an incredibly dull party, and although I was polite enough not to voice it, I could no longer tolerate the monotonous routine. I have lived in Rome, New York, Paris, Berlin, and I have always loved dancing and taking long walks in beautiful cities. However, since I arrived in Stockholm, every weekend has been disappointingly dull with the same repetitive dynamic, meeting at someone's place, drinking, smoking and...you get the idea. That's it. I don't drink, I don't smoke, and I have no interest in such activities-I prefer dancing! Consequently, I began talking to a guy who told me about his travels. However, as soon as he asked me about my own experiences, people started to become odd. I wasn't boasting; I simply listed less than 10% of the things I have done, which was what many people enjoyed hearing. They asked me why I studied so much and why I traveled and moved so frequently. They couldn't comprehend the answer "love for life/curiosity," as they thought there must be some ulterior motive. One person even asked if I was a spy. I have never encountered something like this before. In this particular case, they invited me again, but I chose not to go and I stopped seeing them altogether. So, in this instance, it was not about bragging; it was mainly about others not accepting someone who has accomplished a lot in life that was not all about money. After many years in Stockholm, I can confidently say that many people here simply don't like those who know more than they do. Conversely, I adore those who are more knowledgeable than me. In my opinion, this is a sad reflection of envy. I met a group of artists who had a space in Spånga and although they appeared interested in what I did, they were still suspicious. As I mentioned, they frequently reached out to me, but their excessive paranoia regarding my true intentions made me uncomfortable. Even my Swedish ex-boyfriend would become paranoid whenever I baked a cake, which happened every two or three weeks. He would assume I had some ulterior motive. It is truly disheartening. And never happened in any other country before. I refrained to tell them I've been the muse of some famous artists for obvious reasons. Why is it like that in your opinion, can I ask? I have my idea about it
Very briefly, I think it boils down to a few different things: 1) As mentioned in the video, anything seen as bragging is frowned upon in Sweden. Even if it's true. Like you mention - you've seen and done a lot, and you've been the muse to famous artists etc. Even reading that, I get an instinctive "Ooh. Wow. That's not something anyone should say." I've traveled extensively and seen a lot myself, but in social interactions I downplay it a LOT. I just mention some small things and if people ask I can volunteer a little bit more, in a humble manner. 2) Not drinking and smoking etc is usually not a problem. But it's like being a vegan: if you point it out, then it becomes a big thing that identifies you. That might annoy some people, if drinking is their norm. I get a feeling that you've mostly met "normal" Swedes who just drink and party and are a bit shallow. You should find rarer, more artistically inclined social groups, I'd guess. 3) If people are mostly interested in your looks...well, then you're hanging with the wrong crowds, maybe? Just guessing here, but many women coming to Sweden have a hard time noticing when Swedes hit on them, and what might have happened is that these people have been totally coming on to you, and you took that for genuine curiousity about you as a person / potential friend. The ones who are interested in friendship won't approach you - you likely have to approach them instead. Anyway, those are just some guesses.
@@ThreeStarVagabond 1) as I wrote I didn't tell them the muse thingy, and I only told them 10% of what I've done. 3) in the other countries they approach me because of my look and then they stay because of my personality:)
2) the fact people are annoyed if one has good time in the weekends without drinking is definitely their problem and it shouldn't be considered alright, don't you think? It's like when someone is healthy and others are not and they wish him bad, they are not those to be considered right.
@@auroradeja-vu8763 Sounds to me like you're just trying to find ways to complain about Swedes, rather than think of how your behaviour is interpreted. I tried to offer my views, and all I see is defensive comments about how you shouldn't have to adapt.
@@ThreeStarVagabond why your interpretation is just an interpretation although against my view while my objective statements are seeing as defensive mechanism? In my experience, I have noticed a particular behavior in Sweden that could be characterized as envy, which I have not encountered in over 8 to 10 countries. I would like to emphasize that there is a distinction between simply sharing information and boasting. For example, when someone casually mentions their past experiences, such as living in London from 94 to 97 and working with a notable singer, or moving to different places due to career opportunities, it is simply an honest account of their life. Like it or not it happened. On the other hand, if someone brags extensively with body language suggesting superiority, such as saying, "I have been a model because I'm incredibly beautiful and I lived in different countries because I'm cool," it comes across as inappropriate. In Sweden, I find myself needing to be cautious and refrain from sharing my accomplishments openly, as it seems to offend their sensibilities. Strangely enough, I have encountered Swedes who freely boast about trivial matters, particularly women, without facing the same scrutiny. It feels as though Sweden is the only country where I must hide the truth about my achievements. I have golden records, poems, paintings, and albums dedicated to me, but I am unable to share them openly in Sweden. They don't have to know. In other countries, people either appreciate or are indifferent to such things, which I respect. You mentioned that you have traveled extensively, and I appreciate that. However, I do not wish to associate with individuals who lead stagnant lives, solely watching Netflix and harboring resentment towards those who have more fulfilling experiences. One thing is choosing a lame life which I respect, another is hating those who enjoy theirs for real.
Thumbs up for "What NOT to do in Sweden". We're coming to visit in August. I plan to fact check this video. Looking forward to a wonderful visit. Thank you.
Haha, I think it's all still valid! Except for one thing: the Medieval Museum is closed since they're moving to a different location. Hope you'll have a great time despite that :D
I am an American living in Sweden. It is hard to make friends but then again I am an introvert who doesn't drink and dislikes noisy places lol. I have lived, mostly in small villages and I think people are a little more friendly as you move away from the city. Where I live currently I have seen a dramatic increase in the number of devoutly religious people which means a lot of social events happen through the church. I am not religious but in order to meet people I try to participate in community events. I expected Swedes would be less affectionate based on what my ex husband told me but actually I have found people to be pretty affectionate. My best friend is a very warm, social, and cuddly sort of person. So I do think there are warm, friendly Swedes but it is definently harder to meet people. Where I am from strangers often strike up a conversation with one another. It happens here to but much less and doesn't usually lead to an invitation or a phone number exchange. I have had some lovely one time encounters with strangers lol Actually I get the impression people are pretty lonely. The confrontation avoidance thing drives me crazy. I do not like confrontation personally and I myself will avoid it if I can but some issues don't get resolved because people do not address them. One issue that really needs to be dealt with but is often completely overlooked and rarely discussed is the terrible mental health care system.
Good to know that cutting the line is not accepted in Sweden. In Belgium where I live and other countries I visited it is often expected for me to cut the line when sitting in my wheelchair. I then think; I could also perfectly wait a few minutes, as I don't need to stand, but often when I wait in line someone comes to me and say that I can follow. It makes me feel weird and more special than I really am. I'm just born with a physical disability, but I can wait like everyone else. Sadly I can't explain it well because they won't listen and I just speak slower, so I often just follow the person and not attracting too much attention.
Oh wow, that must be so irritating - to get special treatment and also having a hard time explaining that it's not necessary. I should keep that in mind myself. Sometimes I want to let people with disabilities ahead of me, but I've never thought that it could be seen as a bit offensive. Thanks for the new perspective!
I live in Buenos Aires, Argentina. Most of us also stay on the right side of the escalator so those who are hurried up can run or walk on the left side. I think it's a new habit, maybe 15 years old, that we must have learnt probably from Sweden itself. Cutting in line is also deeply hated here and could lead to heated arguments. Many shops have a number you have to get, if you have to wait to be attended. Buying rounds would be only for rich people. It's not rude here, but it could get the attention of muggers, or people asking you to pay for more drinks. Speaking loudly in a public place is unfortunately, still very common, as well as there's always someone bothering with his or her cellphone call. Talking about your religion is fine, unless you're a fanatic intending to impose it on others. Hockey here isn't a thing. Soccer is unfortunately, the local obsession. We're not obsessed with personal space, but it would be weird for a stranger to insist on touching me for some reason.
Something worth mentioning is the fact that talking about salaries is not taboo everywhere in Sweden. In some places it's actually a fairly open topic that is viewed as beneficial to talk about as it discourages employers from not paying people the equal amount for the same amount of experience.
I lived in Sweden for a few years, thank goodness I was young because I probably broke many of these and was at least slightly forgiven. The worst transgression I remember was using the laundry in the apartments. I wasn't told I had to sign up for a time slot. I didn't and I learned the hard way.
Well, I think most people are understanding as long as people apologize 😊 The worst part is that many Swedes won't complain out loud in cases like that :/
Things must have changed since my family came from Scandinavia. My father (100% Norwegian) never quit moving. Hardest working man I've ever known. Put himself through college without being able to read (undiagnosed dyslexia - National Honor Society). We used to joke his photo belonged on the meme "Git er done". He would fall asleep if he sat down. My mother (50% Danish) almost as hard working as dad, very gifted artistically - a perfectionist. Neither parent ever drank alcohol. The only 'Swedes' in our family - came from Finland. I grew up in an American town of Finns. Tried to speak Finn to my aunt - she only spoke Swede (and English). Swedes from Sweden I knew growing up - always exuded a sense of superiority. The rest of us thought this hilarious. So much for the law of Jante.
Really funny to hear! I guess that people who have the drive to move to a different country are more adventurous and want to make more of a change? But yeah, all of this is of course just stereotypes from me. There are always different individuals in each country, and there are just some general cultural trends (that are often broken).
in wintersports you can both the the practice of Janteloven og the difference between Norway and Sweden, but remember it's more of a sibling rivalry between them😁
Oh, that's a tough one. A cliche answer is "get drunk", but a more serious one is to find a hobby or a club with people of the same interests. But it still takes time then
The salary one is not true, you can literally ask anyone what they make and they will probably answer. Which is something I noticed other countries don’t do
The two shots that appear between 2:49 and 2:56 are not from Sweden but actually from my hometown of Mariehamn, Åland Islands. I recognize the big yacht and the surroundings anytime!
What the... How could you possibly recognize that?! :D I reused some footage from my video about Åland, and thought they looked really nice. "No one will ever notice the difference..."
As a Brazilian, I have always felt strange and out of place when it comes to this type of behavior, because in Brazil it is exactly the opposite of Sweden. Here if you don't cut the line you are treated as "boring" or "idiot", if you are not religious you are also treated that way, most of the politicians with the most votes are involved with some type of religion and people love to talk on themselves to diminish others, brazilians are always loud af too. Now I realized that I would do very well living in Sweden, because I always hated this type of Brazilian behavior.
That's really interesting! I guess I'd fit in pretty poorly in Brazil - but I'd still like to see it and experience the culture for myself. I hope you get to see Sweden some day to see if it feels more natural for you!
@@ThreeStarVagabond Brazil is a wonderful place to visit (although you have to be VERY aware of the scams), especially if you're a party person or if you enjoy beaches with warm water and be around joyful people - in the second case I truly recommend going to the North part of the country. But to live here is a everyday challenge. Me and my husband are trying hard to get a job in Sweden and go live there, I hope we get it soon. Anyway, if you're going to travel to Brazil anytime, I recommend visiting João Pessoa, Maceió, Natal and Fortaleza (all this cities are in the Nort and have beautiful beaches). If you like more of a interior life, i suggest Campinas or Curitiba. But I higly recommend staying the least possible in Rio de Janeiro, Salvador and São Paulo - these are the cities with the most scammers, robberies and traffic. (Be prepared because you will see a lot of poor people. I mean really poor)
@@melissaheredia3241 This is the sickness of modern times. People think it's a great idea to up-root themselves because of some small or big "reason" back home. It is not. It is not "freedom" to do so. Your life will not get better. You will not be happier. You will not have "achieved" or made "success". For you it might be an exciting trip but what happens when that "high" wears off, because it will!? What will happen to your children who are robbed from their ancestral home to be placed somewhere else where they don't belong? What happens when their blood and the culture they are "part of" is not the same? What happens when the illusion of "integration" wears off? I'm born in Sweden and soon I'm moving back to my ethnical roots. There's a true home for everyone. Spanish there. Brazilian there. German. Japanese. Bulgarian etc, all of which have a true home. Your blood is not Swedish. Your ancestry is not Swedish. Your history is not Swedish. Your relatives are not Swedish. Your language is not Swedish. Your culture is not Swedish. Your social interactions are not Swedish. The Swedish anthem is not for you etc. You will not be "truly" recognized here, nor should you be. You're not a member of the tribe and never will be. You are a visitor, be it short term or permanent. This is the awakening of a not ethnical "Swede". And I think a lot of people come to the same realization as they mature, if their brain continues to function as it should that is...
@@IwillEndureToTheEnd First of all: if everyone thought that way, Brazil wouldn't even exist because it wouldn't have been colonized. Another thing, I have enough financial resources to travel to Brazil whenever I want, so don't worry about that because if I have children in Sweden or any other country they won't miss the opportunity to get to know their parents' culture. I am not a tree to have roots, I am a person free to move wherever I want. If my home country is not so good, if I don't agree with the politics here, with the people here, with the climate here and with the direction things are going, I have every right to leave!!!!!
@@melissaheredia3241 You are being defensive because deep down you know I am right. You have no idea whatsoever what you are planning to move to! That's why you are being defensive! Your irritation comes from an unfounded position and a premature descision based on a wishful dream and not reality. You don't like your people? What kind of woman are you? That's your culture! If you don't like it - change it! Add to it! Reform it! People here in Sweden and actually the whole of Europe HATE people like you, because you come here with "serve me the silver platter" attitude; "I want to go to better places others have built but I won't fix my own". You might not like YOUR people, but do you think Swedes will like YOU? They will for sure not like you - they will pretend to at work, but after that you are a social deadbeat and they don't want anything to do with you at all! You will be left with the diaspora, i.e the diaspora that actually wants you. So you should at least move somewhere in Sweden where there are other Brazilians because if there is one thing that is 100 % guaranteed it is that no Swede will never ever want to talk to you, be interested in you, call you, hang out with you etc. You will be totally on your own. Your future children won't even have friends because in Swedish areas where people are better off, playing with foreigners is not allowed. So if you want your children to have friends you have to move to one of the suburbs where the other immigrants live, the Afghans, the Arabs, the Africans and so on and that will only be slightly better than the favellas. This is your choice, or total social isolation. You clearly overestimate your finances. You are a woman looking for a job meaning you are in the working bracket of society. Currently a one-way plane ticket to Brazil is 14k BRL but that will change to 80k (one-way) in hyperinflation. You will sing a different song then...when you are not busy from defending your home from immigrants trying to rob you because in hyperinflation Sweden will become like the favella.
I spent the best time of my life in Stockholm back in ‘73 , ‘74 and ‘75. I wish I could find my very good friends of the time both at Freskati and Södertalje. All the best from Chile 🇨🇱 🤗✨
That must have been an exciting time to be in Sweden! Unfortunately I wasn't around during that time, but I'm happy that you had such a great time :D Cheers!
Oh, I think I might have been Swedish in my last life, lol. All those points I just thought: Perfect! The standing in line, personal space, stand only on the right side, etc. Lovely.
@@ThreeStarVagabond Hehe, right. I might have been a bit hasty in my assessment though. In another video you said that Swedish people suffer in silence when someone misbehaves and try to avoid that individual in the future... 😅 Anyway, I enjoyed your videos very much so far.
@@Nithrade Thank you, happy to hear that! But yeah the Swedish mentality can be a bit complex for people from the outside. To us it makes perfect sense though! ^_^
Im married of Swede ❤He's an incredible man. I can tell this video learnt me a lot🎉 I will share this video to my man, he will agree what this video means for🎉 Tack så mycket❤❤❤❤
@@ThreeStarVagabond thank you! Yes, I had told him earlier and he agreed and told me its true! He's been thankful too that I've learn about it so therefore it wouldn't shock me.
It might depend on your friend group but we used to buy a pitcher of beer when going out to a bar, then someone else would go next when that was finished. For the mostly though people buy their own drinks.
I am in Michigan for most my life 50 years so far but I agree with all these Swedish views 100% despite not everyone around us here doing the same more increasingly as time goes by. Hoping to get more solidarity back.
As a native of Minnesota - I could have written these - exact same things not to do in Minnesota - you forgot one important item - Passive Aggressive behavior - all Scandinavians are passive aggressive - that's why they get along with everyone -:) Minnesota's are the nicest people on Earth due to the large number of people of Scandinavian decent.
I really need to visit Minnesota some day! I'm sure I'd fit right in. And yeah the passive aggressiveness isn't just a good thing though - it does come off as a bit smug and superior! :D
@@ThreeStarVagabond Also nothing ever gets decided because no one ever can make a decision or wants to insult other people - I haven't lived there in 30 years and when I go back it drives me crazy - LOL - PS - Minnesota is beautiful tons of lakes and forest - beautiful state
I'm glad my farfar and farmor were such big influences in my life. They came from Öland and Nordmaling (visited in 1977). They instilled all of this, as did my father. I loved my time in Sweden, meeting some relatives that still lived there.
So happy to hear that! No place is better than any other of course, but I really like the more humble Swedish approach compared to many other cultures. And Öland and Nordmaling are both wonderful places - glad you got to see them.
one thing I find odd about Sweden is how to council throws money about... saw some thrift shops in Gothenburg in the high street, that were selling literal knick knacks and rubbish, but the location must already been astronomical in monthly rent, let alone the electric slider doors, the heating and what not, I was mind blown.
Some stores are a mystery! Sometimes you see places where no one ever seems to enter, but they can still afford rent in downtown. Same thing happens in Stockholm.
A very nice and accurate video with a humorous undertone. As a Swede with some Finnish genes, I recognize everything, and a nice picture of NJK's club island in the harbor of Helsinki.
@@ThreeStarVagabond Nothing wrong with sneaking in that image, you're also talking about Nordic countries. But I couldn't help it, I've been there and raced so many times and had a few beers in the clubhouse. I sailed a World Cup there in 1987, many great memories.
That's actually a really good idea! Thanks for the suggestion - I'll note it down. But I need to find time to visit Malmö and examine it more closely again first I think...
I enjoyed that list good sir. all very reasonable/relatable. I have nothing but praise for my year in Sweden (Lund, Stockholm and Norrtalje). As a Canadian, Sweden and Finland are our major hockey competition. Hats off to Swedish/Finnish hockey development for both men and women. I also served in Afghanistan proudly along side Swedish Armed Forces members.
That's a great summary of good things about Sweden - happy to hear that you enjoyed your time here, and that our army lads and lasses behaved themselves while abroad :D And well, I like korv...but I'm not much for mos to be honest! I'm weird that way...
@@ThreeStarVagabond Aww, thank you for your interest in my comments TSV. The back story for my desired adventures in Sweden was actually academic. I wanted to meet Exercise Physiology Professor Per-Olov Astrand teaching at GIH (at the time) as I was a student of a similar line of education. I see he ended up at at the Karolinksa Institute. I was impressed he took an interest in my unannounced visit. True story, I didn't write ahead. I suspect his curiosity played heavily. Great visit, soft spoken. I love potatoes(mos). A Swedish gentleman I met took me out for breakfast at a bar! for coffee and bread with cheese (Port Salut). To this day I eat this for breakfast frequently. Thanks for your mischievously funny videos. My DNA (23and Me) has a profound link to Scandinavia. Holy crap.
@@garygjl9036 That sounds quite fortunate! Maybe Per-Olov was intrigued - or he took any excuse to get away from boring faculty meetings ;) Nah, just kidding. Happy to hear that you had such a pleasant time in Sweden, and that you happened upon friendly people like that. I guess that that breakfast will continue to be a nice reminder of Sweden!
The difference between Finnish and Swedish escalator culture is interesting, here in Finland it is impolite to pass on escalators and that's why you wait on the stairs until the person in front of you leaves.
Ironically enough, I actually didn't do it on purpose. I just had clips lying around and I forgot which was filmed in the Swedish archipelago and which was from Finland ^^
I love how us Swedish pepole live and do things like this 😂 I have also been in all the places your at in this video 😅 Live close to one of the places 👍 Älskar Sverige ❤🇸🇪
Check out this video for even MORE things not to do in Sweden: ua-cam.com/video/dm18hSIUQL8/v-deo.html
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That two meters apart thing during the pandemic was very awkward in Sweden where the usual distance is five meters
"Do we really have to stand that close?! Two meters is like intercourse!"
LOL
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I stayed in Gothenburg for 3 months during the height of the omicron variant, the more infectious form of covid, and there was just not much social distancing at all. Streets, malls, trains, all packed shoulder to shoulder. Not a mask in sight.
I guess a few thousands people didn't care for safety. they don't represent the wiser population.
So lovely to FINALLY catch a video with an actual SWEDE to tell us about the country. Love this.
Haha there's a fair bit of other people trying to understand Sweden right? Well, happy to pitch in with my perspective :D
@ThreeStarVagabond thank you so much for telling us about your beautiful country. We need a support group for all people who have fallen for Sweden. It's a very one sided love affair, but it is VERY REAL nevertheless 🤭🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭
He's from Stockholm! That's hardly Sweden...
@@MartinAhlman yes, I know what you mean. It's a very big country. I drove all the way from Stockholm to Goteborg, and the vibe changes as soon as of leaves central Stockholm. I found people outside way more reserved and less interested in checking out strangers BUT they were still very 'lagom'.
@@ThreeStarVagabond i am from sweden
Having spent 5 years in Stockholm, I quickly discovered the number one thing not to do in Sweden is saying hello or good morning to neighbors. Such a friendly gesture will make their eyes quickly widen as they run away in a mad panic.
That is SO correct! ...Except if you go out to the archipelago or other small posh areas. There it's custom that you ALWAYS greet others, and if you don't say hello, then they scowl at you and wonder what kind of weirdo you are...
what are u a crazy person?
I understand well, why my husband had been surprised with morning greetings and even smiles everywhere here in the Philippines thats shocked him thoroughly!
Because of Swedish dont use to have or done it as he explained to me.
ha ha ha
Thats why my neighbors hate me , I always say hello! Still there are some that never say a word! Ive been living in the same apartment for 23 years! Sad..! 😭🤓😂✌
Watching this as a German who is moving to Sweden for a job, I don't see any difference, just a bit longer days in summer and shorter in winter.😅
Haha! That explains why I don't feel much of a difference when I visit Germany 😀
@@ThreeStarVagabondLol that would make sense. Natural-born Swedes and Germans seem very similar
@@ThreeStarVagabond oh, good. My flight to ARN is going in 6 hours from ZRH (extremely random, I just picked a cheap flight, anywhere was fine). This will be my first visit to Sweden. I'm German, too. Looks like I don't have to prepare that much. I already rented a car from Hertz and I plan on driving around a little. All just to clear my head after a recent break-up. Returning on Wednesday.
@@teyton90Sounds like the perfect recipe - change of pace and a change of scenery. It's pretty cold now, but as long as the rain stays away it can be absolutely gorgeous to drive around. If you're staying around Stockholm, check out Mariefred and Gripsholm Castle. If you're heading up north, check out the High Coast area :D
@@ThreeStarVagabond @ThreeStarVagabond IT WAS AMAZING! I rented a car (hybrid, like everyone in Sweden, lol. Extremely lotsa electric cars!) and started driving West - still having no idea what I'm doing. Didn't matter, the nature was so beautiful and I stopped on every brown sign showing an interesting spot (you know these street signs on highways leading you to a POI). So calm and quiet. I drove about 1500km/4 days. Parked my car at the Norwegian border at a beautiful national park and went the remaining km by foot, just so I can say I've been to Norway. Heard some weird animal noises. Went back, then south, through Gothenburg and back through Stockholm.
What an amazing country. I will definitely come back one day (and have time for the places you mentioned).
Visiting from US. Discovered your videos and have watched 7-8 of them. You are terrific and your videos are fun and informative. Keep up the great work.
Thank you SO much! Really happy to hear that :D And happy that I can provide some hopefully interesting things about Sweden :)
Being Swedish, but with a whole cadre of close friends from all around the world, I think I'll just link them this video instead of trying to explain our weird habits over and over 😂
Definitely the easiest way to explain Sweden I think ;D
This video had nothing to do with being swedish, at all.
the more I learn about Sweden the more I like It. Just a place of humble quite people who like to keep to themselves.
Yep, that's pretty much us! A country full of introverts - but we're pretty decent despite that 😂
@@ThreeStarVagabond Yh this sounds like me and the British in general. Pretty much all of that you said could be replaced with Britian and it would make so much sense. Buying rounds is the only one that we do and we do that quite religiously. We are also very quite unless we are drunk which is quite often
@@connortopping6943 Haha! Yeah I think Swedes and Brits get along really well actually! I think there's a really cool ironic humility in Britain... Like, everyone is expected to talk crap about themselves and their place - in a nice way :D
Sweden gets along extremely well with Japan also.
We're just... so alike x)
Go to malmö and tell me that afterwards
I’m a generally pretty happy person, but your videos get me into an even happier mood….chuckling and laughing as I go through my day, doing laundry, making the bed, sewing, gardening, etc
Haha, I love hearing that! I'll do my best to be good housechore company in the future as well :D
Thank you so much,
It's my first time in Sweden, it's very helpful for me
Really happy to hear that! :D Hope you're enjoying your time here...even though it's cold and snowy / rainy right now...
So what your saying it to stand on the left side of the escalator, play my music as load as I can through the speaker on my phone, hug everyone I see and boast about what I have while cutting in cue, perfect hope I make it out alive. Thank You for the info I’m sure it will come in handy. ✌️
That's exactly what to do! 😅 And since Swedes are so anti-confrontational, all they'd do is make a fist in the pocket and mutter something
The escalator thing is from the subway in Stockholm. Some people are really in a hurry and need to run even in the escalator. If you block their way, they will miss their train. This habit has then spread to the whole country, even escalators in shopping malls.
This has helped me understand my beloved late grandfather so much more as his parents came from Malmos.
Wow, happy to hear that! It's amazing to hear that these kind of videos actually help people in various ways :D
Malmö
One of the most common Swedish things to believe whole heartedly is that Malmö is Danish.
I can’t wait to go! These all sound like my own preferences anyway (maybe because of Swedish heritage?) 😂 our trip got delayed due to world events, but we still plan on coming to visit soon!
Oh too bad! But yeah, some people find the Swedish mentality pretty weird...but some people fit right in straight away. Maybe introversion is a genetic heritage :D
You have zero Swedish heritage.
I just happened to fell in love with Swedish culture after this video
Haha! We're a quirky bunch for sure :D
The koran
klar bästa beskrivning vi har av dessa oskrivna lagar. Skickar detta till alla gäster som reser hit. Tackar!
Yay tackar! Haha man försöker iaf :D
Love how we think that the law of Jante is Swedish when it was a Danish writer, Aksel Sandemose that created it. The fictional town of Jante was based on his home town of Nyköping Mors in Jutland.
🤯 Mind blown! I had NO idea about that! It's one of those things you just assume is true, so I never bothered to look up the actual origins...
I'm visiting Sweden next year so I'm trying to educate myself on things like this. I appreciate hearing all of your advice and it helps even more to hear these things from someone who is from there. I'm reserved and love to be left alone to quietly do my own thing. Sweden sounds like an introvert's dream haha!
It really is quite well suited to introverts! But don't worry too much - just behave naturally and you'll be just fine either way
@ thank you 😊
The best is giving a compliment to a Swede in front of other Swedes and watching them look around awkwardly and change the subject.
Haha, guilty! We just try to include everyone in the praise, or make a joke of it. If that fails we flee...
Please don't break the Swede. Singling one person out for praise is traumatic.🤣
Wow nice blog god bless I follower for you
No, thats not true at all. Noone I know does that, noone.
As a Swede. I loved this video, thanks for the laughs 😁😂
Really happy to hear that! :D Thanks - we need to be able to laugh at ourselves after all... ^_^
Very true, life's better that way 😁
as a foreigner it is neither funny nor fun but depressing and sad
I can’t think of a single place where grilling someone about their salary is considered polite.
That IS a fair point! But Swedes have been even more tight-lipped about it than other countries, I believe.
some parts of the middle east they love asking about salaries.
I have noticed that if you tell someone that "the guy over there, he makes lots of money", the American will say "oh, that must be a clever, hard-working person!" with admiration, while the Swede gets a suspicious face and mutters something about "tax evader".
Very interesting!
I am American with Swedish roots.. I have always been very quiet by nature, I don't appreciate confrontation but I DO appreciate modesty, personal space, and polite distance from strangers.. I do not like to disclose alot of personal information.
I'm also spiritual but not religious, and I also don't like people buying me drinks!
I want to buy my own, thank you anyway!
I also agree, cutting in line is unforgivable lol
I know being American is a strike against me 😆 but I am very proud of being of Swedish ancestry and happy to know I like to inherently carry Swedish etiquette with me 🇸🇪 ❤️
Seems like there's a lot of Swedish in you despite being American! I wonder if that's because of subtle hints of Swedishness that's been kept in the family...or if this "introverted Scandinavian behaviour" is more universal than one things for some people?
Being Swedish is not a compliment. Take your grouchy self …..
You're just an introverted american. It's not your "Swedish roots"
The average "european" american prolly has like one great great great grandfather whos parents moved to that country just after he was born.
I am the same, I like to think some of it is Swedish roots rubbing off on us, but also I did grow up w/ my swedish side being VERY proud to be Swedish so perhaps it was just natural i would turn out introverted and polite and non confrontational.
Another brilliant video, I love number 10, a friend of mine calculates the rounds just like the Swedish, so I’ll make sure he buys the first when we visit Stockholm in February
Haha, that's a good plan! People here often feel better overpaying than having the anxiety of not paying enough. However... If a cheap Swede is in the party he'll actually keep track that the rest of the people all buy rounds then! 😂
You’re the best! I’m going to Stockholm in a couple of months and I am taking notes from your videos. I’m an American who loves my personal space, so I mainly have to talk softer 🤣
Haha no worries! People here are used to tourists so no one will be all that bothered either way. Just enjoy and have fun! Thank you so much, and hope you'll have a wonderful time :D
I always make it a point whenever I visit Stockholm to do exactly the opposite of everything you said, except for standing on the left of the escalators, which is just plain rude. One of my favorite things is striking up a conversation with random people on the Tunnelbana, the look on their faces is priceless!
Haha, that's just plain evil! But you can get lucky and find a talkative Swede - or possibly a drunk Swede. Those are usually the same thing
if you have an emergency then fine its an inconvenience but if youre late for something because you were disorganised yourself i dont feel its fair taking out fustration on a random person.
Thank you for sharing. It seems I’ve been making many mistakes over the years. Ofc, I noticed some of the tips you mentioned but definitely NOT all 😂
Some are a bit exaggerated, but I think that most Swedes actually agree with these. But it's not the end of the world if one or two is broken ^_^
Din attityd är helt underbar, älsklar att du tar upp problemen på ett avslappnat sätt👍
Tack! Jag gör mitt bästa - det är bra att ta upp saker utan att göra en stor grej av det tycker jag 😊
Really useful, thanks. Can't wait....
Thanks :D Really happy to help! :D
This video will help us as we head to Sweden in June 2023 for a family reunion, of sorts. We are 2nd and 3rd generation Swedish Americans. I think Swedes will find some of the viewpoints and traditions we learned (or mis-learned) from our parents and grandparents as being strange or old fashioned. Question: what would be an appropriate host gift to bring our Swedish relatives?
Happy to hear that! And it's got to feel so nice to connect with a distant branch of the family like that :D Hmm... I can't say for sure, but I think most Swedes love quirky stuff with a local touch. Like, say that you were from Texas. Then I think a real cowboy hat would be a thing people would appreciate, since it has a local connection. It's something that'll be a talking piece - and I think people appreciate that.
@@ThreeStarVagabond Based!
@Agnes A bit boring perhaps, but never goes wrong.
@@ThreeStarVagabond Unless the host family is deeply religious, booze never goes wrong. Maybe a fancy local (Texas) bourbon?
@@HawkJedilord Ooh, that's a really cool idea! I think most people would love stuff like that.
Thank you for this. Visiting Gothenburg in September.. Have wanted to visit for years and finally doing so. Really admire Swedish people…
I hope you're going to like it :D Gothenburg is a really nice place, and September can either be pleasant or a bit rainy. Hoping for good weather when you visit!
@@ThreeStarVagabond well I’m from big London so probably similar weather. Thanks for the upload (was informative and funny) looking forward to exploring and meeting lots of friendly Swedish ladies… 🤞
@@KrisDJFRAY The best of luck to you! UK guys seem to be popular, so I'm sure you'll do fine :D
you didn't tell him about the wind gusts, precipitation will be a side issue, I am willing to bet the rain won't even make your top ten.
@@generalkawasaki9485 Is it really that windy though? I've been there at autumn now and then and it's not been too bad...
Beautiful country, art and poetry, beautiful people. In every day life, though, Swedes are reserved, distant, and apparently discreetly judgmental. Despite all their good qualities, the people are too cold for me, I would become seriously depressed. Marseille, Naples, here I come
That's a very interesting observation - "discreetly judgmental". That might be a really good description for it. I think there's similar behavour in some other countries as well, but maybe it's not very common. Oh well, let's hope the Mediterranean is better!
Thanks for the useful information!
And thank you for checking it out!
#11 - Never dip your pannkakor (Swedish pancake) in your Ärtsoppa (Pea Soup). I did this once and my Swedish father in law fell out of his chair!
!!! What kind of weirdo dips the pancake in the ärtsoppa?! Haha I never even considered that it could be a thing. But now I get oddly curious to try it next Thursday 😀
@@ThreeStarVagabond I like flour tortillas with certain types of soup & chili and I will dip them..., perhaps it was a subconscious thing?? Too funny!
@@8TJA I love it! But yeah I often dip bread in soups and stews as well, but... Yeah, pancakes and pea soup are a special thing for Swedes :D
why are theese two dishes served together?
@@limpanuzz pea soup is cheap and pretty bland, so to make the meal a bit more fun, you serve pancakes as dessert. (And pancakes are quite cheap food too, but everyone likes it)
This is a pretty strange tradition, I would guess it started in the military, pea soup can be made in big bulks, it doesn't require fresh ingredients, you can prepare it the day before and just heat it up. It gives you the time to make pancakes, wich is a bit messy and time-consuming if you have to do a lot of them.
The tradition of serving pea soup with pancakes for dessert (on thursdays for some reason) has been picked up by schools, cafeterias and low-price restaurants everywhere.
I think this tradition is at least a hundred years old.
If you didn't think the combination is weird enough, it will sometimes be served with a shot of very sweet arrak liqueur called "Punsch",
-served warm.
Thank you so much for your precious tips! By experience, Swedes are usually very friendly and reliable, also self-ironical. They are not icebergs at all! We should learn to appreciate different points of views to improve and enrich ourselves. That's the path to a better world. You do contribute to that by means of your amusing but educational videos. Tack sa mycket! A big thanks to you and your compatriots 🙂🙂
That's so kind of you to say! I'm really happy that I can provide a little bit of help - while hopefully bringing a smile to people's faces as well :D
@@ThreeStarVagabond Tack sa mycket for att svara pa min kommentar sa snabbt! Du ar helt vanlig. Genom dina videos kan jag le, skratta och tanka, men lara mig sa mycket också! Jag ar ledsen att jag kan inte skriva med prickar pa vokalerna! Jag hoppas att du forstar"min" svenska :-) Tusen tack igen! Ha det bra! Giorgio fran Rome 🙂
@@citroen143 Of course! And your Swedish is pretty much perfect (except for the dots) just so you know! Tack så mycket, och hoppas det inte är allt för varmt i Rom nu!
@@ThreeStarVagabond Den snabbaste mannen i Sverige! Du ar väldigt sympatisk. Det ar for varmt i Rom. Tosti betyder en typ av smorgas i nederländska och min katt heter Gustav som din kung. Hälsningar till dig och Kungen Gustav. Inga prickar.....det ar ett problem.....Du borde lara eller undervisa i svenska. Tack sa mycket for dina tålamod och artighet. Goran 🙂
The rules are similar to Germany 😅! Thanks a lot ! I’m booking my flight now 😍 to Stockholm
Haha I guess we're not that far apart after all! Hope you'll love it here! And let's hope we have good weather coming up :D
Älskar den här kanalen, du är för bra för tuben! Har snart sett alla dina videor.
Fy fasen vad kul! Tack så mycket - men undvik det gamla skräpet för din egen skull ;D
@@ThreeStarVagabond Haha okej! Alla börjar någonstans.
Great tips! At first glance at your video preview picture, I thought you were Fred the Swede from Taskmaster! 🤣 Thanks for educating us before we visit your country.
Haha, I've heard someone else comment on that - and I haven't even seen Taskmaster, so I have no idea how he looks :D
Nice video with nice jokes. I love that the Swedish take standing in a line seriously! Wish everyone was like that.
Haha, it's our national sport! Almost at least :D Thank you, and happy that you enjoyed the video ^_^
@@ThreeStarVagabond
I mean it kinda is our sport though after all. Since it is such a HUGE deal here in Sweden.
Well, if you don't live far up in Lappland like me where almost no people live...🤣
@@ChristofferOrrmalmUtsi Oh, but there's plenty of reindeer to play with at least... Or... Something :D
It's just common sense really 😊
Du är rolig och det tycker fler när jag läser kommentarerna!
Tack! :D Jättekul att höra - inte alla som håller med att jag är kul ;)
You left out the most important one: DO NOT leave your shoes on when you come into someone's home. Unless we EXPLICITLY tell you to keep your shoes on, take them off at the door!!! xD
Very good point! I actually made a follow-up video to this one where I included that :D
As a fellow swede id disagree, always take the shoes off, its just polite and the right thing to do :>
Quite useful tips...Yes, I find many swedes very humble natured and down to earth....Facts about Norway, Denmark and Finland was just :D
Haha we love to make fun of each others' countries up here - the Nordics are like sibling countries. But thank you, and happy that you enjoyed it :D
I get that swedes respect their private space, I also love when people keep the distance. but how it happened that in a pretty good restaurant with the cost of a dinner 500kr you get strangers sitting beside you? from both sides, if you're unlucky enough. and no private space at all. I didn't visit a lot, but like 70% places have the same situation. how to find a good place for dinner and relax in Gothenburg?
Well, the answer to that it plain and simple greed! Unfortunately, the best way to avoid that is to not visit the more popular places, or go on less packed times. It's unfortunate, but they do try to optimize the space :/
Back in the mid 80s I used to go to Stockholm regularly on business with a couple of colleagues - we never waited in line to go into a club or restaurant but would walk right up to the front of the line and say "Good evening" and go straight in - this worked every time.
Haha! A complete set of utter bastards in other words. Oh well, as long as it worked then good for you!
Thanks for the tips! I don't want to go to Sweden anymore. But Denmark sounds fun!
Good! One less douche here, and one more for the Danes to handle. They get what they deserve
@@ThreeStarVagabondAn old dirty Danish joke:
Keep Copenhagen clean, help a Swede to the ferry!😂😂😂.
Don't feel insulted, I'm 🇸🇪/🇩🇰
@@Asg2121 Haha! Never insulted by Scandinavian jokes against each other. It's like the Norwegian joke: what separates Norwegians from the apes? The border to Sweden ;D
Oh much Goodness. I laughed the whole way Through! 😂🎉
@@ThreeStarVagabond Sounds like you've already got them all! 🤣
It’s considered rude In most places to ask people how much they make .
Thank you for this list 🙏🏾
You‘re so humorous in your explanations😂😂😂
Fair point! And thank you very much - I do try :D
This keeping distance is exactly the opposite of the Mediterranean world.
Haha yes! It's really funny to see the different in behaviour if you travel there :D
Thank you for all the tips with illustrations
I love Sweden. They don't like others buying a drink. But in our culture not buying a drink is considered rude. Besides our society like to boast. Packed with egomaniacs. Got to love Sweden.
I guess each culture is fine as long as you're used to how things are done. It's just a problem when there's a mix of expectations!
There are a few more things I would like to point out:
1. Never (!) take the last piece of cake from the coffee table. It's not yours. It belongs to everyone. Divide it. Divide it until you approach a subatomic level. Isn't that possible? Just let it be for the microorganisms. But never ever take the entire piece unless someone's really begging you. Then you have to take it, even if you don't want to.
That's a rule I had to learn the hard way. I still sometimes get away with it by just claiming that I'm not Swedish and that this stupid unwritten law doesn't apply for non-swedes.
2. Don't ever refuse to participate in the endless coffee brakes (so called fika) at work, even if you have a tremendous amount of work on your table and even if you think that just one short coffee break a day should be enough. Participation is strictly mandatory. Otherwise, you will always be a strange outsider. A rule that is still hard for me to accept.
2. Don't talk about your academic grade or job title. It's similar to the rule that you can't speak about your salary. Play down any achievements or success in your life. If you happen to be wealthy for some reason, it is actually more accepted in society if you have won a fortune in a lottery than having earned it by working really hard. Which will get us to the next point.
3. Don't expect that you can become rich just because you are highly educated and pretty good in what you are doing. The socialist idea that everybody should earn just about the same as anyone else is still a big deal here.
4. If you want to know anything about anybody, including the salary, the number of pets in the household, which cars they own, the value of the property, everything, just look it up on the Internet. Literary everything about you is publicly available and not a secret at all. Everybody knows it, everybody does it, but nobody ever talks about it.
Good points, all of these! I'm starting to think that I need to make a sequel :D
Good to know if you're not a Swede 😂👍 Great video
Haha yeah, all the useful things right :D Thank you!
As someone who was born in Switzerland, grew up in Sweden and went to Switzerland once a year Switzerland like Germany is very similar. They may drink more, but it's not to the point of being drunk. They treat beer like soda and their bodies handle it as such.
So what you're saying is that alcohol is the thing that unites all Germanic peoples? 😅
Finnish ppl arent depressed tho. We just dont smile alot. Also, it was fun watching this and realizing just how similar the customs are🇫🇮❤️🇸🇪
That's fair enough - you guys are the happiest people in the world after all! But thanks, all the Nordics are pretty similar I guess - even if we like to focus on differences :D
@@ThreeStarVagabond we are not happiest, we are most "content", not "happy". That's what everyone gets wrong. Everyone using the wrong word getting it on the wrong foot, then getting disappointed when coming to Finland.
@@poweredbymoonlight9869What a depressing reply lol
People boarding subways in Stockholm don’t allow passengers to get off before they get onto the trains themselves. Oftentimes that causes irritability at stations.
Totally agree! That's one thing I missed. I don't know why people have gotten so rude in public transport.
The only religious people I met in Sweden were muslim people. And they are not the most nice or accepting people i have ever met in the 50+ countries I've been to.
Personal space is called 'Elbow room' in America. It developed during pioneer days when complete strangers would have to dine together during their travels, and many didn't smell too nice coming off the dusty road. They also worried about thieves, so leaving space made them feel that the contents of their pocket were a little safer.
Interesting! So the concept is that old - I had no idea. I've heard the term before but I imagined that it was a more modern concept about having space for your elbows while eating or something.
@@ThreeStarVagabond Americans have always been lacking in formal 'manners.' It's so bad that a few years ago, corporations had to send people to schools to learn how to dine properly. Actually though, Emily Post had the right idea- She said good manners was the ability to put people at ease... The reason people eat chicken with their fingers now is because at a formal dinner, one of her guests picked up his chicken and began to eat. The other guests gasped... But to their amazement, Emily Post immediately picked up a piece of chicken and began to eat it so her guest wouldn't be embarrassed... So from then on, people felt free to eat chicken with their hands....
@@cassandralibertywest4310 I like that approach! I view manners in general as a sign of respect for the other person. But if you haven't been taught what manners are the appropriate ones, then no disrespect is meant by not following them - so it's better to take it all in stride and assume that people have reasons for why they act like they do, and that it's not meant as a slight.
@@ThreeStarVagabond I agree. In this world though, it can actually be dangerous to go to another country and do something out of innocence which ends up offending people! I think some things are universal though- Like not coughing or sneezing around people and the like.
@@cassandralibertywest4310 Absolutely. And a smile is always a smile...at least most of the time...
Not me watching this because I'm from Sweden and I live in Sweden rn😅😂
Can I ask for your perspective on this point, please? I have lived, studied, and worked in various countries with diverse cultures. I have always been eager to learn and have invested a lot of effort into studying because I find it fascinating to encounter people who know more than I do. I have never felt envy; on the contrary, I have often felt admiration, although it is a rare occurrence. In every country I have lived in, people have sought to spend time with me as I am seen as a charismatic and interesting individual. When I arrived in Stockholm, mostly guys, and only two girls (all Swedish), wanted to get to know me. I had a couple of Swedish friends who would invite me to their parties every weekend, where I would meet other Swedes, being the only non-Swedish person. However, their interest appeared to be solely based on my appearance; they were merely attracted to me physically. One night, we were together at an incredibly dull party, and although I was polite enough not to voice it, I could no longer tolerate the monotonous routine. I have lived in Rome, New York, Paris, Berlin, and I have always loved dancing and taking long walks in beautiful cities. However, since I arrived in Stockholm, every weekend has been disappointingly dull with the same repetitive dynamic, meeting at someone's place, drinking, smoking and...you get the idea. That's it. I don't drink, I don't smoke, and I have no interest in such activities-I prefer dancing! Consequently, I began talking to a guy who told me about his travels. However, as soon as he asked me about my own experiences, people started to become odd. I wasn't boasting; I simply listed less than 10% of the things I have done, which was what many people enjoyed hearing. They asked me why I studied so much and why I traveled and moved so frequently. They couldn't comprehend the answer "love for life/curiosity," as they thought there must be some ulterior motive. One person even asked if I was a spy. I have never encountered something like this before. In this particular case, they invited me again, but I chose not to go and I stopped seeing them altogether. So, in this instance, it was not about bragging; it was mainly about others not accepting someone who has accomplished a lot in life that was not all about money. After many years in Stockholm, I can confidently say that many people here simply don't like those who know more than they do. Conversely, I adore those who are more knowledgeable than me. In my opinion, this is a sad reflection of envy. I met a group of artists who had a space in Spånga and although they appeared interested in what I did, they were still suspicious. As I mentioned, they frequently reached out to me, but their excessive paranoia regarding my true intentions made me uncomfortable. Even my Swedish ex-boyfriend would become paranoid whenever I baked a cake, which happened every two or three weeks. He would assume I had some ulterior motive. It is truly disheartening. And never happened in any other country before. I refrained to tell them I've been the muse of some famous artists for obvious reasons. Why is it like that in your opinion, can I ask? I have my idea about it
Very briefly, I think it boils down to a few different things:
1) As mentioned in the video, anything seen as bragging is frowned upon in Sweden. Even if it's true. Like you mention - you've seen and done a lot, and you've been the muse to famous artists etc. Even reading that, I get an instinctive "Ooh. Wow. That's not something anyone should say." I've traveled extensively and seen a lot myself, but in social interactions I downplay it a LOT. I just mention some small things and if people ask I can volunteer a little bit more, in a humble manner.
2) Not drinking and smoking etc is usually not a problem. But it's like being a vegan: if you point it out, then it becomes a big thing that identifies you. That might annoy some people, if drinking is their norm. I get a feeling that you've mostly met "normal" Swedes who just drink and party and are a bit shallow. You should find rarer, more artistically inclined social groups, I'd guess.
3) If people are mostly interested in your looks...well, then you're hanging with the wrong crowds, maybe? Just guessing here, but many women coming to Sweden have a hard time noticing when Swedes hit on them, and what might have happened is that these people have been totally coming on to you, and you took that for genuine curiousity about you as a person / potential friend. The ones who are interested in friendship won't approach you - you likely have to approach them instead.
Anyway, those are just some guesses.
@@ThreeStarVagabond 1) as I wrote I didn't tell them the muse thingy, and I only told them 10% of what I've done. 3) in the other countries they approach me because of my look and then they stay because of my personality:)
2) the fact people are annoyed if one has good time in the weekends without drinking is definitely their problem and it shouldn't be considered alright, don't you think? It's like when someone is healthy and others are not and they wish him bad, they are not those to be considered right.
@@auroradeja-vu8763 Sounds to me like you're just trying to find ways to complain about Swedes, rather than think of how your behaviour is interpreted. I tried to offer my views, and all I see is defensive comments about how you shouldn't have to adapt.
@@ThreeStarVagabond why your interpretation is just an interpretation although against my view while my objective statements are seeing as defensive mechanism? In my experience, I have noticed a particular behavior in Sweden that could be characterized as envy, which I have not encountered in over 8 to 10 countries. I would like to emphasize that there is a distinction between simply sharing information and boasting. For example, when someone casually mentions their past experiences, such as living in London from 94 to 97 and working with a notable singer, or moving to different places due to career opportunities, it is simply an honest account of their life. Like it or not it happened. On the other hand, if someone brags extensively with body language suggesting superiority, such as saying, "I have been a model because I'm incredibly beautiful and I lived in different countries because I'm cool," it comes across as inappropriate.
In Sweden, I find myself needing to be cautious and refrain from sharing my accomplishments openly, as it seems to offend their sensibilities. Strangely enough, I have encountered Swedes who freely boast about trivial matters, particularly women, without facing the same scrutiny. It feels as though Sweden is the only country where I must hide the truth about my achievements. I have golden records, poems, paintings, and albums dedicated to me, but I am unable to share them openly in Sweden. They don't have to know. In other countries, people either appreciate or are indifferent to such things, which I respect.
You mentioned that you have traveled extensively, and I appreciate that. However, I do not wish to associate with individuals who lead stagnant lives, solely watching Netflix and harboring resentment towards those who have more fulfilling experiences. One thing is choosing a lame life which I respect, another is hating those who enjoy theirs for real.
Geez…I definitely grew up in the wrong country. 😊
Haha, Sweden will be waiting if you want to experience it!
Love your videos! They are informative and funny!
Thank you very much! Appreciate it :D
Love how Swedes looks at Norwegians 😂 love from Norway 😊
All tongue in cheek! We love our neighbors really, but we won't admit it 😊
Thumbs up for "What NOT to do in Sweden". We're coming to visit in August. I plan to fact check this video. Looking forward to a wonderful visit. Thank you.
Haha, I think it's all still valid! Except for one thing: the Medieval Museum is closed since they're moving to a different location. Hope you'll have a great time despite that :D
Great video! A presentation with lots of humour!
Thank you so much! Appreciate it 😀
been bingeing on your videos, really enjoying them
So happy to hear that! Thanks a lot :D
Some of those rules applies in the U.K. too. Though we love to buy each other rounds, which may not be such a good thing.
Haha nah it's a fun tradition with rounds. But yeah I guess many of them are pretty similar in many countries.
I am an American living in Sweden. It is hard to make friends but then again I am an introvert who doesn't drink and dislikes noisy places lol. I have lived, mostly in small villages and I think people are a little more friendly as you move away from the city. Where I live currently I have seen a dramatic increase in the number of devoutly religious people which means a lot of social events happen through the church. I am not religious but in order to meet people I try to participate in community events. I expected Swedes would be less affectionate based on what my ex husband told me but actually I have found people to be pretty affectionate. My best friend is a very warm, social, and cuddly sort of person. So I do think there are warm, friendly Swedes but it is definently harder to meet people. Where I am from strangers often strike up a conversation with one another. It happens here to but much less and doesn't usually lead to an invitation or a phone number exchange. I have had some lovely one time encounters with strangers lol Actually I get the impression people are pretty lonely. The confrontation avoidance thing drives me crazy. I do not like confrontation personally and I myself will avoid it if I can but some issues don't get resolved because people do not address them. One issue that really needs to be dealt with but is often completely overlooked and rarely discussed is the terrible mental health care system.
I love the accent and the dry sense of humor
Thanks man! Good thing, 'cause I can't really do anything about either :D
Good to know. Thanks for the tips.😊
Happy to be of some small assistance 😄
Good to know that cutting the line is not accepted in Sweden. In Belgium where I live and other countries I visited it is often expected for me to cut the line when sitting in my wheelchair. I then think; I could also perfectly wait a few minutes, as I don't need to stand, but often when I wait in line someone comes to me and say that I can follow. It makes me feel weird and more special than I really am. I'm just born with a physical disability, but I can wait like everyone else. Sadly I can't explain it well because they won't listen and I just speak slower, so I often just follow the person and not attracting too much attention.
Oh wow, that must be so irritating - to get special treatment and also having a hard time explaining that it's not necessary. I should keep that in mind myself. Sometimes I want to let people with disabilities ahead of me, but I've never thought that it could be seen as a bit offensive. Thanks for the new perspective!
I live in Buenos Aires, Argentina. Most of us also stay on the right side of the escalator so those who are hurried up can run or walk on the left side. I think it's a new habit, maybe 15 years old, that we must have learnt probably from Sweden itself. Cutting in line is also deeply hated here and could lead to heated arguments. Many shops have a number you have to get, if you have to wait to be attended. Buying rounds would be only for rich people. It's not rude here, but it could get the attention of muggers, or people asking you to pay for more drinks. Speaking loudly in a public place is unfortunately, still very common, as well as there's always someone bothering with his or her cellphone call. Talking about your religion is fine, unless you're a fanatic intending to impose it on others. Hockey here isn't a thing. Soccer is unfortunately, the local obsession. We're not obsessed with personal space, but it would be weird for a stranger to insist on touching me for some reason.
Something worth mentioning is the fact that talking about salaries is not taboo everywhere in Sweden. In some places it's actually a fairly open topic that is viewed as beneficial to talk about as it discourages employers from not paying people the equal amount for the same amount of experience.
Its possible to check ANY Swedes salary only for $4/person.
I was teaching a Swedish boy salsa and I was very close and he loved it 😂 He even brought his 2 brothers to teach them !😮
Sounds like you met a very extroverted Swede - we do have some of them as well :D
This video is hilarious! I laughed so much! Thanks for the laughs and the video😂😅
Haha, so happy to hear that! Thanks for checking it out :D
I lived in Sweden for a few years, thank goodness I was young because I probably broke many of these and was at least slightly forgiven. The worst transgression I remember was using the laundry in the apartments. I wasn't told I had to sign up for a time slot. I didn't and I learned the hard way.
Well, I think most people are understanding as long as people apologize 😊 The worst part is that many Swedes won't complain out loud in cases like that :/
Things must have changed since my family came from Scandinavia. My father (100% Norwegian) never quit moving. Hardest working man I've ever known. Put himself through college without being able to read (undiagnosed dyslexia - National Honor Society). We used to joke his photo belonged on the meme "Git er done". He would fall asleep if he sat down. My mother (50% Danish) almost as hard working as dad, very gifted artistically - a perfectionist. Neither parent ever drank alcohol. The only 'Swedes' in our family - came from Finland. I grew up in an American town of Finns. Tried to speak Finn to my aunt - she only spoke Swede (and English). Swedes from Sweden I knew growing up - always exuded a sense of superiority. The rest of us thought this hilarious. So much for the law of Jante.
Really funny to hear! I guess that people who have the drive to move to a different country are more adventurous and want to make more of a change? But yeah, all of this is of course just stereotypes from me. There are always different individuals in each country, and there are just some general cultural trends (that are often broken).
My perception of some Norwegians exactly. A self perception of Superiority. I think it may go both ways though.
in wintersports you can both the the practice of Janteloven og the difference between Norway and Sweden, but remember it's more of a sibling rivalry between them😁
Haha well put!
7:30
How should one socialize with strangers? What are expectable ways?
Oh, that's a tough one. A cliche answer is "get drunk", but a more serious one is to find a hobby or a club with people of the same interests. But it still takes time then
The salary one is not true, you can literally ask anyone what they make and they will probably answer. Which is something I noticed other countries don’t do
Seriously? With close co-workers that works but it gets really awkward anytime anyone asks in most other situations - in my experience at least!
Great video! You have such a funny sense of humor!
Thank you so much! I try at least :D
Thanks , appreciate, vlog was interesting and informative 😊
Thank you! Really happy to hear that :D
The two shots that appear between 2:49 and 2:56 are not from Sweden but actually from my hometown of Mariehamn, Åland Islands. I recognize the big yacht and the surroundings anytime!
What the... How could you possibly recognize that?! :D I reused some footage from my video about Åland, and thought they looked really nice. "No one will ever notice the difference..."
@@ThreeStarVagabond I recognize it because I have lived here my entire life and I drive by that exact location pretty much every day
@@AHVENAN What can I say - well spotted!
As a Brazilian, I have always felt strange and out of place when it comes to this type of behavior, because in Brazil it is exactly the opposite of Sweden. Here if you don't cut the line you are treated as "boring" or "idiot", if you are not religious you are also treated that way, most of the politicians with the most votes are involved with some type of religion and people love to talk on themselves to diminish others, brazilians are always loud af too. Now I realized that I would do very well living in Sweden, because I always hated this type of Brazilian behavior.
That's really interesting! I guess I'd fit in pretty poorly in Brazil - but I'd still like to see it and experience the culture for myself. I hope you get to see Sweden some day to see if it feels more natural for you!
@@ThreeStarVagabond Brazil is a wonderful place to visit (although you have to be VERY aware of the scams), especially if you're a party person or if you enjoy beaches with warm water and be around joyful people - in the second case I truly recommend going to the North part of the country. But to live here is a everyday challenge. Me and my husband are trying hard to get a job in Sweden and go live there, I hope we get it soon.
Anyway, if you're going to travel to Brazil anytime, I recommend visiting João Pessoa, Maceió, Natal and Fortaleza (all this cities are in the Nort and have beautiful beaches). If you like more of a interior life, i suggest Campinas or Curitiba. But I higly recommend staying the least possible in Rio de Janeiro, Salvador and São Paulo - these are the cities with the most scammers, robberies and traffic.
(Be prepared because you will see a lot of poor people. I mean really poor)
@@melissaheredia3241 This is the sickness of modern times. People think it's a great idea to up-root themselves because of some small or big "reason" back home. It is not. It is not "freedom" to do so. Your life will not get better. You will not be happier. You will not have "achieved" or made "success".
For you it might be an exciting trip but what happens when that "high" wears off, because it will!? What will happen to your children who are robbed from their ancestral home to be placed somewhere else where they don't belong? What happens when their blood and the culture they are "part of" is not the same? What happens when the illusion of "integration" wears off?
I'm born in Sweden and soon I'm moving back to my ethnical roots. There's a true home for everyone. Spanish there. Brazilian there. German. Japanese. Bulgarian etc, all of which have a true home.
Your blood is not Swedish. Your ancestry is not Swedish. Your history is not Swedish. Your relatives are not Swedish. Your language is not Swedish. Your culture is not Swedish. Your social interactions are not Swedish. The Swedish anthem is not for you etc.
You will not be "truly" recognized here, nor should you be. You're not a member of the tribe and never will be. You are a visitor, be it short term or permanent.
This is the awakening of a not ethnical "Swede". And I think a lot of people come to the same realization as they mature, if their brain continues to function as it should that is...
@@IwillEndureToTheEnd First of all: if everyone thought that way, Brazil wouldn't even exist because it wouldn't have been colonized.
Another thing, I have enough financial resources to travel to Brazil whenever I want, so don't worry about that because if I have children in Sweden or any other country they won't miss the opportunity to get to know their parents' culture.
I am not a tree to have roots, I am a person free to move wherever I want. If my home country is not so good, if I don't agree with the politics here, with the people here, with the climate here and with the direction things are going, I have every right to leave!!!!!
@@melissaheredia3241 You are being defensive because deep down you know I am right. You have no idea whatsoever what you are planning to move to! That's why you are being defensive! Your irritation comes from an unfounded position and a premature descision based on a wishful dream and not reality.
You don't like your people? What kind of woman are you? That's your culture! If you don't like it - change it! Add to it! Reform it! People here in Sweden and actually the whole of Europe HATE people like you, because you come here with "serve me the silver platter" attitude; "I want to go to better places others have built but I won't fix my own".
You might not like YOUR people, but do you think Swedes will like YOU? They will for sure not like you - they will pretend to at work, but after that you are a social deadbeat and they don't want anything to do with you at all! You will be left with the diaspora, i.e the diaspora that actually wants you. So you should at least move somewhere in Sweden where there are other Brazilians because if there is one thing that is 100 % guaranteed it is that no Swede will never ever want to talk to you, be interested in you, call you, hang out with you etc. You will be totally on your own. Your future children won't even have friends because in Swedish areas where people are better off, playing with foreigners is not allowed. So if you want your children to have friends you have to move to one of the suburbs where the other immigrants live, the Afghans, the Arabs, the Africans and so on and that will only be slightly better than the favellas. This is your choice, or total social isolation.
You clearly overestimate your finances. You are a woman looking for a job meaning you are in the working bracket of society. Currently a one-way plane ticket to Brazil is 14k BRL but that will change to 80k (one-way) in hyperinflation. You will sing a different song then...when you are not busy from defending your home from immigrants trying to rob you because in hyperinflation Sweden will become like the favella.
I spent the best time of my life in Stockholm back in ‘73 , ‘74 and ‘75. I wish I could find my very good friends of the time both at Freskati and Södertalje.
All the best from Chile 🇨🇱 🤗✨
That must have been an exciting time to be in Sweden! Unfortunately I wasn't around during that time, but I'm happy that you had such a great time :D Cheers!
I’m watching a lot of your videos to prepare for my trip. Your jokes are hilarious
Oh wow, thanks a lot! Really happy that you enjoy them :D And happy if you find them a bit useful as well! ^_^
Good morning from Papua New Guinea.
I enjoyed watching your contents. Great contents ❤.
Thank you so much! Really happy to hear that. Oh, and I'd really like to visit Papua New Guinea some day!
@@ThreeStarVagabond
Oh, I think I might have been Swedish in my last life, lol. All those points I just thought: Perfect! The standing in line, personal space, stand only on the right side, etc. Lovely.
Ordnung muss sein :D But yeah Swedes really are into doing things "the proper way" without exception sometimes!
@@ThreeStarVagabond Hehe, right.
I might have been a bit hasty in my assessment though. In another video you said that Swedish people suffer in silence when someone misbehaves and try to avoid that individual in the future... 😅
Anyway, I enjoyed your videos very much so far.
@@Nithrade Thank you, happy to hear that! But yeah the Swedish mentality can be a bit complex for people from the outside. To us it makes perfect sense though! ^_^
Im married of Swede ❤He's an incredible man. I can tell this video learnt me a lot🎉
I will share this video to my man, he will agree what this video means for🎉
Tack så mycket❤❤❤❤
Happy to hear that! And well who knows - maybe he'll disagree with everything in the video 😀
@@ThreeStarVagabond thank you!
Yes, I had told him earlier and he agreed and told me its true!
He's been thankful too that I've learn about it so therefore it wouldn't shock me.
It might depend on your friend group but we used to buy a pitcher of beer when going out to a bar, then someone else would go next when that was finished. For the mostly though people buy their own drinks.
Agreed! I guess it can vary a lot - especially when there's a mix of Swedes and non-Swedes...or people who hang out often together...
I am in Michigan for most my life 50 years so far but I agree with all these Swedish views 100% despite not everyone around us here doing the same more increasingly as time goes by. Hoping to get more solidarity back.
I'm really happy to hear that! Personally I just think that a lot of it is common sense, but I know that many (too many) people don't agree.
Most of these things are either common sense (like cutting in line) or it’s just the Riksvenskar being Riksvenskar.
As a native of Minnesota - I could have written these - exact same things not to do in Minnesota - you forgot one important item - Passive Aggressive behavior - all Scandinavians are passive aggressive - that's why they get along with everyone -:) Minnesota's are the nicest people on Earth due to the large number of people of Scandinavian decent.
I really need to visit Minnesota some day! I'm sure I'd fit right in. And yeah the passive aggressiveness isn't just a good thing though - it does come off as a bit smug and superior! :D
@@ThreeStarVagabond Also nothing ever gets decided because no one ever can make a decision or wants to insult other people - I haven't lived there in 30 years and when I go back it drives me crazy - LOL - PS - Minnesota is beautiful tons of lakes and forest - beautiful state
I'm glad my farfar and farmor were such big influences in my life. They came from Öland and Nordmaling (visited in 1977). They instilled all of this, as did my father. I loved my time in Sweden, meeting some relatives that still lived there.
So happy to hear that! No place is better than any other of course, but I really like the more humble Swedish approach compared to many other cultures. And Öland and Nordmaling are both wonderful places - glad you got to see them.
one thing I find odd about Sweden is how to council throws money about... saw some thrift shops in Gothenburg in the high street, that were selling literal knick knacks and rubbish, but the location must already been astronomical in monthly rent, let alone the electric slider doors, the heating and what not, I was mind blown.
Some stores are a mystery! Sometimes you see places where no one ever seems to enter, but they can still afford rent in downtown. Same thing happens in Stockholm.
A very nice and accurate video with a humorous undertone. As a Swede with some Finnish genes, I recognize everything, and a nice picture of NJK's club island in the harbor of Helsinki.
Thank you! Haha, dammit, it seems like I can't sneak in any nice shots of Finland without lots of people noticing. No sneakiness for me it seems :D
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Nothing wrong with sneaking in that image, you're also talking about Nordic countries. But I couldn't help it, I've been there and raced so many times and had a few beers in the clubhouse. I sailed a World Cup there in 1987, many great memories.
@@leiflindqvist9095Oh wow! That's got to be a place full of nice memories in that case. I'm happy that I included it! :)
Hi and thank you for your interesting videos. would you like doing a video in which you compare Stockholm with Goteborg and Malmö ? tack
That's actually a really good idea! Thanks for the suggestion - I'll note it down. But I need to find time to visit Malmö and examine it more closely again first I think...
@@ThreeStarVagabond I understand, I'm very interested in your perspective about it. Thank you
Mycket bra video 😂🎉
Kunde inte ha sagt det bättre själv 😊
I enjoyed that list good sir. all very reasonable/relatable. I have nothing but praise for my year in Sweden (Lund, Stockholm and Norrtalje). As a Canadian, Sweden and Finland are our major hockey competition. Hats off to Swedish/Finnish hockey development for both men and women. I also served in Afghanistan proudly along side Swedish Armed Forces members.
oops, forgot to mention: korv med mos. love it.
That's a great summary of good things about Sweden - happy to hear that you enjoyed your time here, and that our army lads and lasses behaved themselves while abroad :D And well, I like korv...but I'm not much for mos to be honest! I'm weird that way...
@@ThreeStarVagabond Aww, thank you for your interest in my comments TSV. The back story for my desired adventures in Sweden was actually academic. I wanted to meet Exercise Physiology Professor Per-Olov Astrand teaching at GIH (at the time) as I was a student of a similar line of education. I see he ended up at at the Karolinksa Institute. I was impressed he took an interest in my unannounced visit. True story, I didn't write ahead. I suspect his curiosity played heavily. Great visit, soft spoken. I love potatoes(mos). A Swedish gentleman I met took me out for breakfast at a bar! for coffee and bread with cheese (Port Salut). To this day I eat this for breakfast frequently. Thanks for your mischievously funny videos. My DNA (23and Me) has a profound link to Scandinavia. Holy crap.
@@garygjl9036 That sounds quite fortunate! Maybe Per-Olov was intrigued - or he took any excuse to get away from boring faculty meetings ;) Nah, just kidding. Happy to hear that you had such a pleasant time in Sweden, and that you happened upon friendly people like that. I guess that that breakfast will continue to be a nice reminder of Sweden!
i absolutely agree with this video. Totally rational things that one must NOT do.
The difference between Finnish and Swedish escalator culture is interesting, here in Finland it is impolite to pass on escalators and that's why you wait on the stairs until the person in front of you leaves.
Oh interesting! I guess Swedes can be a bit rushed - especially in Stockholm
The two little islands are not in sweden but in helsinki, finnland, on the way to suomenlinna.
Ironically enough, I actually didn't do it on purpose. I just had clips lying around and I forgot which was filmed in the Swedish archipelago and which was from Finland ^^
I love how us Swedish pepole live and do things like this 😂
I have also been in all the places your at in this video 😅 Live close to one of the places 👍
Älskar Sverige ❤🇸🇪
Oh wow good job on visiting all of the places! Maybe I should have tried to show off more variety of Sweden 😅 But cheers!
useful informations, thanks.
Cheers! :D