The Finns got disturbed when these Coronavirus recommendations came out - the two meter distance rule meant they had to get closer than they where comfortable with.
@@syntaxerror8955 I usually keep my distance. I like to watch folks from far away. People are funny! Or I go for skin contact. There I worry more about STD´s than Corona. :)
"Not wearing shoes inside" has nothing to do with snow.. at least, i've never heard of it. We vacuum just as much in the summer as in the winter.. The problem is more that.. outside is dirty, inside is clean. Edit: Pretty sure it's a cultural thing :) A lot of european countries don't wear shoes inside
And then there is us Dutch people 😂 it’s so normal for us not to take our shoes off when we go inside, but if the host asks us to take them off we will do respectfully. I actually have a swedish friend, she came to visit the Netherlands and when she arrived at my place she took her shoes off immediately at the door while I told her she can still wear them, it was a funny laughter about culture differences but the look on her face was priceless when I told her she can keep them on 😂
I agree. Also, if you have small kids that spend lots of time on the floor, the last thing you would want to do is dirt it. It's health benefitial. Also, when small rocks sticks to your shoes, you can cause scratches on the floor over time. There are lots of reasons to keep the shoes off inside.
Nr 6: Don't randomly strike up a conversation with a Swede, especially not in a bigger city. They will look at you funny and wonder why the hell you're talking to them. Unless you're a tourist speaking English asking for directions. Don't sit right next to someone on the Subway or bus if there are seats somewhere else.
I know that one.they are afraid of extrangers. They don't talk even to their own people. Between Germans and swedes I prefer Germans for sure. Germans are like coconut HARD OUTSIDE BUT SOFT INSIDE 😁😁😁 oh well Norwegians are also cute,talkative and friendly but swedes ??? NAH.....not even for one nightstand lol
There is a a clear difference if you're from south Sweden, closer to the continent. There small talk is very normal. One of the things I miss the most now living in Stockholm, cracking a joke with a cashier or greeting the bus driver. I talked to a Swiss tourist once who just couldn't believe I was Swedish because of our chit chat. 😂
I don’t understand how people should get to know each other? How can you first meet someone? Except school and workplaces. Im afraid to move to Sweden because of that. Is it really that bad?
@@GeneRauXxX No it is not that bad. You generally don't small talk with strangers on a bus while if you are at a bar it is quite normal. I would say it comes down tp the setting and situation wether small talk is "acceptable" or not (in lack of better words). Then again, I am from the South and as someone mentioned, it kinda differs depending on where in Sweden you are. But please, do not be afraid of moving to Sweden just because Swedes can be a bit more reserved, when you get to know a person they usually are one of your most loyal friends instead. ;)
Nummerkö system is great because if you are say nr 75 and nr 50 is being served you can estimate the time between the numbers and go do the rest of your shopping and come back hopefully in time to get served. This enables you to use your time in a better way than to just stand and wait!
Bring your own alcohol? No, perhaps in the younger generation, but definitely not if you are adult and invited to a party. You might bring a bottle of vine as a gift to the hostess/host.
true, but as a "ungdom" i have never heard of this. They ALWAYS got beer for u. But if its a dinner u always bring a bottle of vine or bubbel as a gift :3
Bring your own booze is mostly a thing with younger people with tighter budgets. I’d be slightly insulted if you brought your own booze to my house when you’re the guest. 🙂
It does depend on the size of the party. If it's inviting close friends over for dinner, it's one thing. If it's 10+ people, unless you have a lot of money that could be pretty expensive with the booze and the food alone. It also depends if it's more formal and special or more of a bring friends over for just party.
@@nilslin So true. Here in NA some times they have a bar at the reception and you pay (cheaper) to have some drinks. That's to help out with cost. But that depends on how wealthy the people are hosting the wedding. But yes if you have a Wedding it's all provided for.
Not removing shoes is just mindboggling to me. Even if you live in a "clean" area without much rain. Just because you don't see the dirt, doesn't mean it's not there. Also, you could have like a pointy tiny pebble lodged between any crevace at the bottom of your shoes without noticing. RIP expensive floor/carpet if you walk around on it with that.
@@danholm4952 Because it's beautiful (and not shit), compared to cheap true shit. Also, in most homes in Sweden we have parquet floors in the living room or in more rooms. My (herringbone) parquet floor is still in very good condition after 40 years due to not wearing shoes there.
When you are past 35 or something it is pretty unusual to bring alcohol to a smaller party. The host will provade for everything. Unless it is a ”knytkalas” or ”kräftskiva”.
@@SwedishTourist We usually bring our own beer to my parents because my father have a really bad taste in beer :D He think it should be cheap and watery. Hell no :D
I have never heard of bringing ur own alcohol? If teens or older youth like 18-25 host a big ass party somewhere they will buy these 100 pack beer packets for everyone and when they are empty they get the strong shit lmao.
I think a big reason for why we're expected to bring our own alcohol is because it's so prohibitively expensive. Providing alcohol for one person is going to be 20-40USD for a night (and it can easily be much more, especially if you're drinking snaps) and it'd be rude to expect the host to pay 400USD just for a small gathering.
Nr 1: True! That's why there are so much clutches between different cultures, for example many of my friends that are foreigners from middle east and especially eastern asia like china have families that loves to "show off" how much money they have, but usually the truth is that they are not as rich as they show. Swedes are the opposite, some families are very rich but don't show off that much. Nr 2: Depends! This changes with age. Trust me haha. Teens, early 20s and even early 30s always bring their own alcohol to parties (with maybe limited money and more people invited) meanwhile older generations are maybe abit more genereous! But it's definately a Swedish thing. Got a friend from Tanzania and got invited to family parties from time to time and in their culture it's important to be generous so it's kinda an insult to bring your own stuff to a party. I know many other cultures that are like this too. Nr 3: True! Only rich families living in castles don't do this! Joke aside, pretty accurate. Nr 4: True! Try sometime to stand in the middle of an elevator and look at the people pushing their backs to the wall. Social experiment that is very fun! (maybe not during covid-19 pandemic) Nr 5: True! I have actually seen a guy slap another guy in the backhead for cutting the line. The guy who cut the line immediately obey and went to the back of the line. Solid video! Keep it up! /from a Swede
Introverts! My gawd! I am an introvert myself and I hate... Then I come to Sweden and decided to be an extrovert by force and found of a batallion introverts... 😂
I’m leaving tmw to Sweden for the first time. My grandmother is from Sweden and this is my first time physically meeting my family and so excited. These videos are helpful, even tho I think because of my grandmother, the way I act is probably more Swedish normal than US typical.
I have become obsessed with your videos about Sweden and stuff. I happened to search about the country and came across your channel and ended up watching every single videos you posted. It is just fun to know all the details about Sweden thanks to you! Just wanted to drop a comment to show some appreciation :) Greetings from all the way from TURKEY!
Jantelagen is more like an observation of social conduct than a law you consciously follow. The author was merely describing a cultural phenomenon and writing it down like it was _a law_ in a satirical way.
Exactly, and "lag" in Swedish refers to a judicial law, but Sandmose (in Danish it´s called Janteloven) used it metaphorically to stress how culturally stong this unwritten rule is.
I am moving to Sweden in 10 days and I love their way of life! The values described in this video resonate with me, and I hope more societies take these on.
About Byob, if it's a party then sure, everyone brings their own drinks. If you're at like a dinner party, the host normally will provide wine, beer, drinks or whatever. Though the host will expect you to not get shit faced drunk at a dinner party :).
Oh, you take of your shoes, is about politeness and respect. “we don’t take a shit were we eat” The culture is changing here in Sweden. The traditional Swedish manners is almost gone but in bigger parts of Scandinavia it’s still alive. I think it’s really cool that you’ve been paying attention, for real. 😇
Wait, u may be.. In my opinion is what you make special to yourself, IS special to yourself. The ones who cannot see it is either blind or having hard time to see things from your view. Just because 100 people cannot understand a certain part of yourself, dosent necessarily mean all of these 100 are correct. Because people most often belive that what everyone else does is correct. Well what happens if the first acually was Wrong? Well everyone else falls... Who is special then? Something to think about judt sayin'... 👍
What? Are you kidding? Sweden is THE LAND of Karens 😂 Everywhere you go, there’s always someone around on their high horses or who simply wants to project their own bad day or inner misery on others, complaining about something, telling others what to do/not do, reporting something, threatening to report something, accusing someone & etc… at the grocery store, shops, work places everywhere. EVERYWHERE. Especially if you stand out, looks wise. Someone’s always gonna try to start the silliest of shit with you to make themselves feel better.
@@swanson6845 can confirm. as a tourist I was bullied by a swedish guy for some reason, even though I was wrong, I didnt know it because I was in a hurry to find the right rail and catch the train for the airport. my fault was that I smoked a cigarette on the train platform and this guy had been staring at me like mad for some mins, when the train arrived I talked to him in english to confirm if I was taking the right train and he opened his mouth at the same time and spoke in swedish, then switched to english and was yelling at me for smoking, he said theres a label dont you know? and I said, no I dont know cause I really didnt see it. then in the train he kept staring at me still angry but I returned the staring. he had his little kid with him too, a toddler. even if i broke the rule I think his way was disgusting.
The whole bring your own alcohol thing also makes it so that everyone drinks what they like. Some may not like beer so they bring cider instead or what not.
I think another aspect of bring your own alcohol is that, being reserved, it can be hard to partake. If it's a wedding or something, I will certainly expect booze to be provided, but if I'm at someones house and they say "The beer is in the fridge, feel free to grab a drink", I'm going to feel uncomfortable because I would feel rude grabbing too much, I would constantly second-guess taking another drink. This has been a culture shock when I've been to american's houses outside of Sweden and I later heard that they were worried I didn't have a good time because I didn't drink, but it's because I don't want to go grabbing stuff from other peoples fridges unless they specifically hand it to me.
As an Swed myself who lived in Sweden all my life, most of these things you brought up is kinda common knowledge for me. Though, I Do have some things I wanna say about each point, which I will bring up below here. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- 1: don't brag.. That is just common knowledge, like its Ok to tell others you done something great in your life or tell them that ''Oh today, I was able to overcome this thing I have problem with'' That's Fine. its more that if you start telling others about ALL the things you're so great at, that's when it becomes an problem and it starts looking like you are just bragging at that point. not cause You really did something great that day, But You're just bragging for the right to brag, which is what I say is NOT Ok to do. 2: Don't forget to BYOB.. Ok so..... I have no experience with Alcohol, cause I don't drink. But, The idea of paying for your own stuff when you go out and eat or drink, is something that is expected of you most of the time, that is true. But ofc.. sometimes it can be that you are out with friends and one of the friends are fine with standing for the payment and you don't really need to pay back, they be happy if you do, but You aren't obligated to Do it all the time, Sometimes friends or someone you meet just want to be friendly with you and tell you that the bill is on them this time. 3: Don't leave your Shoes on.. Yes, 99% True. majority of the time when you go inside somewhere or at someones home, You are not allowed shoes inside and have to take them off by the door. Ofc, some places is fine walking with shoes inside, But majority of places..yea, shoes comes off. 4: Don't ignore Personal space.. Now this one is once again as I said in the beginning a bit of Common sense, Don't get up in others faces if they don't want you to. its called *Personal* Space for an reason, So Yea.. nothing more to say here, this is an 100% correct one. 5: Don't Cut in line.. Yes once again.. this is 100% true. Don't Cut in Line. some may just call you out on it, and you may just need to get last in line or have to deal with the security, other times.. it is possible that People may get really mad over it, and things could get really bad for someone. So Yea.. Don't Cut in Line, EVER. -------------------------------------------------------------------- Well that's was my thoughts on these points, hopefully it helped someone out. :)
Hahaha the queue part is sacred. just yesterday me and my friend were going out swimming and we were jumping from the speingboard to the water. This maybe 10 year old cut in line and my friend just said "Hey, there is a queue here!" and the child said sorry amd went in the back of the line. I laughed and i thought he was correct, so seemed to think the older adults too who saw that around us. We are almost 30.
The alcohol is mainly with a few of the younger crowd 20-25-ish? planning to drink…a bit. Because of the prices. Haven’t experienced that past those ages and that would be awkward to me and my friends.
I am Spanish USA born & raised and I am and was Swedish raised. Thank you for sharing; you speak clearly & concisely. You speaking background & white t-shirt do not distract from your Focus of Communication. I have lived in Southern California Laguna Niguel, South Florida & after The Univ of Miami, moved up to work (Economics & Finance) in McLean Virginia I was seeking Govt Employment.
I automatically hate when people brag about something, I guess I was just raised not to brag about anything (I don’t have anything to brag about so far anyways haha) but I know most Swedes hates it, especially when other Swedes does that 😂
It boils down to how you value youreself. If you think of youreself as a selfless nobody which is not worthy your own name and character you automatically get jealous of people that value themselfs higher
A swedish comic said it best. An american athlete says " i'm gonna be the champion. THE BEST! NR 1" A Swedish athlete says "i'll be extremely happy if i am amongst the 5 first"
There is a very famous music band in Sweden called "Larz-Kristerz" who come from my village (Älvdalen), and those guys definitely follow Jantelagen. I sometimes see some of those members casually visit the local coffee shop in my village, and they will sit around with friends and have casual chats just like everyone else. I also know some of those members quite well personally, and I will often have conversations with them when I run into them.
About the BYOB part; commonly when being invited to someone else, you're expected to bring your own alcohol. But if you are a few friends in the bar, it is pretty common to buy the 1st, 2nd and 3rd round etc. This is mostly because of convenience as the bars can sometimes be full and you do not want to lose your seats. I seem to recall you covering this "friend circle" mentality way back, it kinda ties into that. :P And yeah... When we hear someone brag about themself we only think they're missing something in their life, I am one of those people who can be a little of an imp to bragging people. Most of the times, bragging is 10% truth and 90% exaggeration and breaking down those 90% to the truth, people usually feel worse about themself instead of good. It can be pretty mean at times, but it'll definitely teach them a thing or two.
I grew up in a small town in Sweden (sub 20k county population) And at places like the pharmacy they still have the number queue system. But I always experienced that if there is literally no one else there, they will help you even if you don't take the number. But I do think it is different in cities like Norrköping etc.
L enjoy your videos. I can see where my father had more of a Swedish temperement he probably got from his parents and grandparents. He was more laid back and calm where my mother was Italian and passionate. I try to keep a balance between them.
The number system has a purpose. First off, the way you notify them that you want attention is by producing a number, they get alerted and can stop doing the day-to-day maintenance work at a natural stopping point to take care of you. Workers in places with a numbering system, like pharmacies and whatnot, aren't expected to drop everything at a moment's notice and help you. But to, when they've reached a point in whatever task they're doing that they can halt without losing track of where they are or similar, and then go and take care of the pending customer(s). There's more to it than just a queue system, you're also queuing with "the tasks of the day" which are basically in effect when there's nobody queued up in the system. This is about the modern digital system, the older analogue "ticket rolls" systems are a bit different, since there's no feedback when a ticket got produced, and the places with those are generally more "you can just walk up to the register if you're the only one in there"-y
1. It's ok to show off your accomplishments or w/e but you don't have to BRAG about it. "Oh hey look I got full score on my finals, I'm so happy", versus "Look I got full score on my finals, I'm so good at this, it was so easy for me I'm the best blah blah". See the difference? 2. It completely depends on the type of party. Going to a friend to drink some booze before heading out to the club, you'd normally bring your own booze. However you wouldn't bring your own booze to a wedding party for example. For birthday parties you'd usually bring your own booze unless specified otherwise in the invite. Oh and if you're just out drinking with a couple friends it's not uncommon to do the "I buy first round, you buy the next". If it's a larger group however, or if you're out having dinner or something, it would obviously be too expensive for one person to pay the whole thing. It's just about being reasonable. 3. Outside = dirty, inside = clean. Like mentioned, we have a lot of rain and snow, don't wanna bring that inside obviously. 4. I can agree that we may be a bit more reserved in Sweden. This is especially true with strangers. People usually comes off as weird if they're too open and forward to strangers. It's a bit unfortunate to be honest, I think a lot of Swedes can be too judgemental. 5. When and where would it ever be ok to cut in line lol? We do have a queue ticket system in some stores, but not all. It's to prevent long queues, and people can still walk around in the store while waiting for their turn. It's just convenient. If there is one, obviously you should use it and wait for your turn. Also even if there's a queue ticket system, that's just for the cashier. If personnel walks around in the store it's perfectly fine to ask them for help.
A German guy said about Sweden and rules, to test if Swedes are obsessed with rules is to stand on the wrong side of the escalator when riding the subway. After that experience you know Swedes are far more obsessed with rules than Germans.
no much truth about "modesty", since most of the population very extremely jealous, rasistic and report each other to the authorities - it's almost Swedish folk sport
One of the first language books I had learning Swedish explained "fika" and pointed out some topics of conversation that should be avoided. The usual controversial subjects like "politics" and "religion", but the also advised against talking about "your wonderful life" and that made me giggle.
I found the most wonderful Danish woman who paid my fare to take the train to Denmark. She wanted to know all about California and I gave surfing stickers (from Hungington Beach) to a young Swedish man. They were so kind! Tack tack.
Notes taken: if you're from Finland, remember to do these things in Sweden. Bragging especially about ice hockey. Always remember to take someone's akvavit, but leave a conspicuous Finlandia vodka on the table. Insist on using euros. Walk around in your sandals plus Finland -socks. Surprise someone from behind, smelling like alcohol and in a thick Finnish accent ask where the toilet is. If you cut in line, make sure that you do it in the cruise ship terminal. Use elbows if you have to. Speak in Finnish about "bättre folk" if you're drunk enough, for special effects.
The beer thing confused me since where I live in the US everyone brings their own beer to parties already, same with the shoes inside thing, most people I know have shoe areas near entrances.
I think number 5 is connected to the personal space issue. I think it’s about not being bothered unless you ask for it. I personally hate when I’m in a store and people come up to me asking if I want help if I don’t need it. I will ask if I have to. 😄
No normally you don't have to take a number to get served by the cashier. This is only the case in some pharmacies if they have that system. Normally you would just walk up to the cashier if you need help, or they will come to you and ask if you need help just like in any other country. :)
You gotta show us around a bit more, i mean a lot more. It is good talking indoors but i would really enjoy if you record yourself outdoors. Thanks for the insights.
It might sound aggressive but i just want to clear things up since Stefan said it seems to be a stereotype of americans keeping their shoes on inside. Some swedes make it sound like you guys never have your shoes on in the house/apartments. What if you are bringing in groceries and need to come back in another 1-3 times? Do u take off ur shoes, put the groceries in the kitchen, then put them back on to go back outside? I'm curious what you guys do because that sounds really annoying and i doubt anyone does that. All the houses I've been to (in the u.s) no one wears shoes inside (except for indoor shoes/slippers) and the owners usually tell the guests to keep the shoes by the door. We take off our shoes when we know we are staying inside. But if we're doing something outside and need a cup of water real quick, ya we'll keep the shoes on. But we dont keep the shoes on for several hours walking through the house wherher its carpet or wooden floors
As a swede I very much like my personal space. One of the most irritating things for me is when there's a lot of empty space at the subway station, but that ONE person just HAS to stroke your arm while passing by. I just don't get that kind of behaviour. 🤯🤯
The BYOB was a strange experience for me! Being from England, alcohol is a lot cheaper there so it’s way more common for booze to be shared around. I don’t hate the system here, but it definitely takes some getting used to.
I think Swedish culture can be summarized as "be respectful, don't impose on others". That's why we also don't like bragging, keep a wide personal space, expect people to not be loud in public, be considerate and so on. It's also why we can come off as less social.
Not sure I’m a Swede anymore 😂 We brag a lot, we keep our shoes on inside often in the summer and so doesn’t our guests. We always offer booze to our guests when we have a party. Personal space is just now during Corona. I live in the country down in Österlen 😊
@@whatisthis7196 Bor man på landet och springer ut och in en massa så är där lika grusigt på golvet oavsett om man har skorna på eller ej 🙈 Så ska man bara in ett ärende så gå man in med skor. Nu när vi hade kalas så var vi mestadels ute på baksidan men gästerna gick in med skor när de skulle på toa eller hämta dricka i köket. Det är ju inte så att skorna är mycket skitigare än fötterna när det är så här torrt. Vi går dock aldrig upp på ovanvåningen med skor
@@jennywellman3025 Men varför bara inte kasta av sig skorna snabbt innan man går in? Det tar liksom 1 sekund att göra. Sen kan jag förstå om man går in med skorna 1 gång om man bara gått på gräsmattan eller liknande men annars tar jag alltid av mig skorna hur många gånger jag än springer in
@@whatisthis7196 Vi har ju bara gräsmatta här ute och vi har ju inneskor/sandaler på oss både ute och inne (har själv hälsporre så jag går alltid med skor)
BYOB to all parties because alcohol is insanely expensive in Sweden 😬 The number in the stores are for fairness. You'll know if you grew up there. Otherwise, at what point should yiu take a number, when there's 2, 3, or 5 people? Also, taking a number means you're ready to talk to the staff, not just browsing. Great topics that you chose.
Im a swedish woman and your'e right about much. I have always hated Jantelagen because its just so sad and contraproductive. I personally like people who are proud of themselves and want to improve in life.
Actually, Stefan you are talking about some habits that belongs to people in your age (about offering alcohol), for older people, you don't bring your alcohol with you, the host will offer that .. so the perspective is different depending on who you are dealing with and it's not applicable for everyone. Also it depends on for many Swedish people who've got a foreigner background, they may behave different than what you are talking about, the Swedish society has been mixed in the last 30 years, it's multi-cultural and have various of habits.
I'm with you on that. There is a difference with the drink- and shoerule when it comes to age and money. (And weather) if I would host a summerparty I would make sure my guests have food and drinks and dont have to take the shoes of. (Me and my husband is 40-50) Alkohol is expensive in sweden so its smart that you bring exaktly what you want to a party. And that way its not only the host that get stuck with the biggest bill everu time!
@@beorlingo what does being "Swedish" means for you? Because it's an old term, today there less typical Swedish people even though they share many habits.. The newer generations has been changed alot because of travelling, Internet, media, TV, etc..
I am an Egyptian and I moved to Sweden for work with my family since one year, I like Sweden because they have robust social culture and I like that because we have robust social culture in Egypt as well, for sure there are big variance in details but I respect keeping and inheriting culture habits through generations. What I also like here Swedes people not affected too much with social media and damn internet addiction, they living a normal life ( playing sports , gathering face to face , ... ) while a lot of people around the world spending more than 50% of their life on social media! swedes have a fear of talking to strange people in the beginning but once they know you things become easier😂
@@StefanThyron do you also explain that law of Jante is from a fictional story written by a Danish-Norwegian author and is about a fictional Danish village?
@@StefanThyron I, me and myself know that -I meant from the point of a viewer who just happen to see this as their first video! Dont use the word law. It isnt. That would make me an American, breaking the law.
The thing with the number in que, are that they might have other things to do, so you take a number and wait. In that way you don't stress them and they can give 100% focus when it's your turn.
One funny and peculiar thing with queuing in Spain; they seldom have number tickets, instead you ask when you enter: " Who is the last in line" and then only have to keep track on that person. At the bus stop same thing, but usually without asking - people just let people enter in the order they arrived to the bus stop. Very polite ☺👍💃
It's a fictional law from a novel that sums up the mentality of the Scandinavian peoples. In a nutshell, it says "don't think you're better or more special than anyone else".
BYOB - never seen that in Sweden, been to hundreds of parties all over the country. Of course you bring some wine or something as a gift for the host, but that is not necessarily meant for consumption that day. One time a guest of mine brought his own beer, and I found it quite rude.. What did he expect? That I didn't had enough for him? 😂😂
Eller så har du bara inte varit på fester där det inte finns en värd? På mitt första jobb så brukade vi ha fest på kontorets takterrass och där var det mer "dyk upp om du vill, ta med ditt eget om du vill ha något, alla i världen är inbjuden oavsett om du känner någon eller inte". Sedan vill jag tillägga att det finns kräsna typer så som jag, som tycker att öl generellt sätt är vidrigt och endast dricker ale (för det smakar inte öl så som en äcklig Norrlands Guld eller Falcon gör). Det är inget man kan förvänta sig att värden vet och köper in i förväg. Å andra sidan så har jag själv hållit i fester och då stått för all dricka. Men det har då givetvis varit en sådan fest där det finns en värd och där gästerna har bjudits in.
I think the byob is an age thing. When we were younger you would always bring your own, but now when I'm in my thirties it's kind of expected that you provide drinks and food if you throw a party. Also it's a bit more common to buy rounds at the bar. Perhaps it's due to the fact that alcohol is so expensive so when you're younger you cannot really afford it.
The Finns got disturbed when these Coronavirus recommendations came out - the two meter distance rule meant they had to get closer than they where comfortable with.
Aaaaaawkwaaaaard...........😳🤣
@@syntaxerror8955 I usually keep my distance. I like to watch folks from far away. People are funny! Or I go for skin contact. There I worry more about STD´s than Corona. :)
Same in Estonia :)
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Now that the two meter rule is over they can go back to standing five meters apart.
"Not wearing shoes inside" has nothing to do with snow.. at least, i've never heard of it.
We vacuum just as much in the summer as in the winter..
The problem is more that.. outside is dirty, inside is clean.
Edit: Pretty sure it's a cultural thing :) A lot of european countries don't wear shoes inside
Exactly, who in their right mind wear outside shoes inside? It's disgusting... :o
@@BonsaiKittenLady it is.. hella weird ^^
And then there is us Dutch people 😂 it’s so normal for us not to take our shoes off when we go inside, but if the host asks us to take them off we will do respectfully.
I actually have a swedish friend, she came to visit the Netherlands and when she arrived at my place she took her shoes off immediately at the door while I told her she can still wear them, it was a funny laughter about culture differences but the look on her face was priceless when I told her she can keep them on 😂
I agree.
Also, if you have small kids that spend lots of time on the floor, the last thing you would want to do is dirt it.
It's health benefitial.
Also, when small rocks sticks to your shoes, you can cause scratches on the floor over time.
There are lots of reasons to keep the shoes off inside.
Not wearing shoes inside -in Balkans land also
Nr 6:
Don't randomly strike up a conversation with a Swede, especially not in a bigger city. They will look at you funny and wonder why the hell you're talking to them. Unless you're a tourist speaking English asking for directions.
Don't sit right next to someone on the Subway or bus if there are seats somewhere else.
I know that one.they are afraid of extrangers. They don't talk even to their own people. Between Germans and swedes I prefer Germans for sure. Germans are like coconut HARD OUTSIDE BUT SOFT INSIDE 😁😁😁 oh well Norwegians are also cute,talkative and friendly but swedes ??? NAH.....not even for one nightstand lol
@@suzannelardeux9018 That just makes me wonder if you even met any Swedes at all :o
There is a a clear difference if you're from south Sweden, closer to the continent. There small talk is very normal. One of the things I miss the most now living in Stockholm, cracking a joke with a cashier or greeting the bus driver. I talked to a Swiss tourist once who just couldn't believe I was Swedish because of our chit chat. 😂
I don’t understand how people should get to know each other? How can you first meet someone? Except school and workplaces. Im afraid to move to Sweden because of that. Is it really that bad?
@@GeneRauXxX No it is not that bad. You generally don't small talk with strangers on a bus while if you are at a bar it is quite normal. I would say it comes down tp the setting and situation wether small talk is "acceptable" or not (in lack of better words). Then again, I am from the South and as someone mentioned, it kinda differs depending on where in Sweden you are. But please, do not be afraid of moving to Sweden just because Swedes can be a bit more reserved, when you get to know a person they usually are one of your most loyal friends instead. ;)
Nummerkö system is great because if you are say nr 75 and nr 50 is being served you can estimate the time between the numbers and go do the rest of your shopping and come back hopefully in time to get served. This enables you to use your time in a better way than to just stand and wait!
Also more and more The number tags are used for statistics for management to analyse.
And the person behind the cashier can know how much thime there is until next custumer in case they need to get stuff from the back or so
Sure if you don't take like 6 hours shopping........👀🙄🤣🤣
Im from sweden sina Farhat and i have to say that you are sadly mistaken. Nummerkö is a great thought but in real life it sucks most of the times
@@ChristofferOrrmalmUtsi if it's the bank, you can probably get back after 6 hours and still wait for half an hour 😂
Bring your own alcohol? No, perhaps in the younger generation, but definitely not if you are adult and invited to a party. You might bring a bottle of vine as a gift to the hostess/host.
true, but as a "ungdom" i have never heard of this. They ALWAYS got beer for u. But if its a dinner u always bring a bottle of vine or bubbel as a gift :3
@@zfrozzy2128 teen
Bring your own booze is mostly a thing with younger people with tighter budgets. I’d be slightly insulted if you brought your own booze to my house when you’re the guest. 🙂
It does depend on the size of the party.
If it's inviting close friends over for dinner, it's one thing. If it's 10+ people, unless you have a lot of money that could be pretty expensive with the booze and the food alone.
It also depends if it's more formal and special or more of a bring friends over for just party.
@@loki76 Yeah, imagine bringing booze to a wedding party! lol
@@nilslin So true.
Here in NA some times they have a bar at the reception and you pay (cheaper) to have some drinks. That's to help out with cost. But that depends on how wealthy the people are hosting the wedding.
But yes if you have a Wedding it's all provided for.
I'm thinking bring booze as a gift to the host.
Yeah, that BYOB thing applies to Americans as well. Younger people do it, but older folks bring to share 🥂
Not removing shoes is just mindboggling to me. Even if you live in a "clean" area without much rain. Just because you don't see the dirt, doesn't mean it's not there. Also, you could have like a pointy tiny pebble lodged between any crevace at the bottom of your shoes without noticing. RIP expensive floor/carpet if you walk around on it with that.
wow finally common sense
why would anyone need expensive shit?
@@danholm4952 why would anyone need to walk indoors with shoes?
@@danholm4952 Because it's beautiful (and not shit), compared to cheap true shit. Also, in most homes in Sweden we have parquet floors in the living room or in more rooms. My (herringbone) parquet floor is still in very good condition after 40 years due to not wearing shoes there.
You obviously do not suffer from plantar fasciitis! Never walk barefoot, or just with flat paper slippers.
When you are past 35 or something it is pretty unusual to bring alcohol to a smaller party. The host will provade for everything. Unless it is a ”knytkalas” or ”kräftskiva”.
100%
Also for family gatherings I've never expected guests to bring their own alcohol, but that's sort of a different context ...
If i invite someone, I allways have beer for them.
@@SwedishTourist We usually bring our own beer to my parents because my father have a really bad taste in beer :D He think it should be cheap and watery. Hell no :D
@@linabing9181 It's ale all the way. No Norrlands Guld or nasty Falcon. Bring me that Lagunitas or La Trappe!
I have never heard of bringing ur own alcohol? If teens or older youth like 18-25 host a big ass party somewhere they will buy these 100 pack beer packets for everyone and when they are empty they get the strong shit lmao.
I think a big reason for why we're expected to bring our own alcohol is because it's so prohibitively expensive. Providing alcohol for one person is going to be 20-40USD for a night (and it can easily be much more, especially if you're drinking snaps) and it'd be rude to expect the host to pay 400USD just for a small gathering.
Yup, you got a point there. After all, alcohol is liquid gold here pretty much.
Depends on what type of party. Ordinary dinner parties the hosts supply everything
So cheap
@@helenthomascarleson4655 yes, but then again, it’s good manners to bring a gift, and it’s really good if that gift is a bottle of wine 😄
@@helenthomascarleson4655 nja, Saken är att gå så lite minus som möjligt
When you talk about Jantelagen as a law it sounds like you're committing a crime if you brag 😂
It's a thought crime.
Hahaha undra vad minimistraffet är...
Lite i samma kretsar som att självmord är olagligt. När man är borta så kan ju ingen straffa dig ändå. xD
MrBern91 Haha I like your example
The person you're bragging to will treat you as if you're a criminal and quickly get away from you. I would just assume the person is a sociopath.
Nr 1: True! That's why there are so much clutches between different cultures, for example many of my friends that are foreigners from middle east and especially eastern asia like china have families that loves to "show off" how much money they have, but usually the truth is that they are not as rich as they show. Swedes are the opposite, some families are very rich but don't show off that much.
Nr 2: Depends! This changes with age. Trust me haha. Teens, early 20s and even early 30s always bring their own alcohol to parties (with maybe limited money and more people invited) meanwhile older generations are maybe abit more genereous! But it's definately a Swedish thing. Got a friend from Tanzania and got invited to family parties from time to time and in their culture it's important to be generous so it's kinda an insult to bring your own stuff to a party. I know many other cultures that are like this too.
Nr 3: True! Only rich families living in castles don't do this! Joke aside, pretty accurate.
Nr 4: True! Try sometime to stand in the middle of an elevator and look at the people pushing their backs to the wall. Social experiment that is very fun! (maybe not during covid-19 pandemic)
Nr 5: True! I have actually seen a guy slap another guy in the backhead for cutting the line. The guy who cut the line immediately obey and went to the back of the line.
Solid video! Keep it up! /from a Swede
Alternativ titel: "Stefans guide till att inte vara ett rövhål"
Or what not to do if you want to be a typical Swede....
Same don'ts in Denmark, Norway, Finland too 😉 (Iceland & the Faroe Islands)
It's Nordic thing! 🤣👍
Yes they are very similar as well 😜
@@StefanThyron Hi Stefan how are you?
@@StefanThyron Wow super 👍👍
That's why there should be a Nordic Union and drop out of European Union.
At least the Nordic people share similar culture, values and "rules".
@@loki76
There is a Nordic Union...
"You need to keep your distance"
"Got it"
"It will help your health"
"Yep"
"And minimize the spread of the virus"
"What virus?"
My life as a Swede
Same
Introverts! My gawd! I am an introvert myself and I hate... Then I come to Sweden and decided to be an extrovert by force and found of a batallion introverts... 😂
What do you hate, and why?
Hahaha, den var bra. 😁
My family does these things and live we in America. And my great grandfather and grandfather is from Gothenburg.
Nice! I am from Göteborg (Gothenburg) 💙
So am i 👍😊
My great grandfather was from Gothenburg.
I’m leaving tmw to Sweden for the first time. My grandmother is from Sweden and this is my first time physically meeting my family and so excited. These videos are helpful, even tho I think because of my grandmother, the way I act is probably more Swedish normal than US typical.
Välkommen!
Welcome!
You'll love it here, but watch out for AIK:are 🤞
@@beorlingo don’t, we are all family 🖤💛
@@nilsoskar yeah yeah very friendly people. Nobody believes that. You guys are getting bad reputation (internationally) because rac--mo.
I have become obsessed with your videos about Sweden and stuff. I happened to search about the country and came across your channel and ended up watching every single videos you posted. It is just fun to know all the details about Sweden thanks to you! Just wanted to drop a comment to show some appreciation :) Greetings from all the way from TURKEY!
Jantelagen is nor has ever been an actual law. It is from a satirical book.
And it is Danish, not Swedish.
(Aksel Sandemose, who was both Danish and Norwegian)
@@dirgniflesuoh7950 that too 😆
@@syntaxerror8955 I agree. But Stefan made it sound like a judicial law. Which it isn’t
Jantelagen is more like an observation of social conduct than a law you consciously follow. The author was merely describing a cultural phenomenon and writing it down like it was _a law_ in a satirical way.
Exactly, and "lag" in Swedish refers to a judicial law, but Sandmose (in Danish it´s called Janteloven) used it metaphorically to stress how culturally stong this unwritten rule is.
Hey Stefan! I am learning Swedish at the moment and you videos are amazing! Thanks
Glad you like them!
as a swede i can confirm, you are always spot on with these vids haha quite fun to see and reflect
I am moving to Sweden in 10 days and I love their way of life! The values described in this video resonate with me, and I hope more societies take these on.
Ure very welcome.
I live in Sweden in my hole life
Unfortunetly
yo hello welcome to sweden how u liking this past year
Be carefull what you wish
About Byob, if it's a party then sure, everyone brings their own drinks. If you're at like a dinner party, the host normally will provide wine, beer, drinks or whatever. Though the host will expect you to not get shit faced drunk at a dinner party :).
It is so interesting with different cultures. Those 5 things are so obvious to us. Great video.
Thank you for helping us in order to not fall in awkward situation🙏
Oh, you take of your shoes, is about politeness and respect. “we don’t take a shit were we eat” The culture is changing here in Sweden. The traditional Swedish manners is almost gone but in bigger parts of Scandinavia it’s still alive. I think it’s really cool that you’ve been paying attention, for real. 😇
I am pretty sure the phrase you quoted means don't have sex at the workplace😅😅😅. Ye it's a confusing metaphor)
I guess jantelagen helps us not be a "Karen". You aren´t more special than anyone else around you
Wait, u may be.. In my opinion is what you make special to yourself, IS special to yourself. The ones who cannot see it is either blind or having hard time to see things from your view. Just because 100 people cannot understand a certain part of yourself, dosent necessarily mean all of these 100 are correct. Because people most often belive that what everyone else does is correct. Well what happens if the first acually was Wrong? Well everyone else falls... Who is special then? Something to think about judt sayin'... 👍
Trust me, there are Swedish Karens.
Still got those "Karens" In sweden though.
What? Are you kidding?
Sweden is THE LAND of Karens 😂
Everywhere you go, there’s always someone around on their high horses or who simply wants to project their own bad day or inner misery on others, complaining about something, telling others what to do/not do, reporting something, threatening to report something, accusing someone & etc… at the grocery store, shops, work places everywhere. EVERYWHERE. Especially if you stand out, looks wise. Someone’s always gonna try to start the silliest of shit with you to make themselves feel better.
@@swanson6845 can confirm. as a tourist I was bullied by a swedish guy for some reason, even though I was wrong, I didnt know it because I was in a hurry to find the right rail and catch the train for the airport. my fault was that I smoked a cigarette on the train platform and this guy had been staring at me like mad for some mins, when the train arrived I talked to him in english to confirm if I was taking the right train and he opened his mouth at the same time and spoke in swedish, then switched to english and was yelling at me for smoking, he said theres a label dont you know? and I said, no I dont know cause I really didnt see it. then in the train he kept staring at me still angry but I returned the staring. he had his little kid with him too, a toddler. even if i broke the rule I think his way was disgusting.
The whole bring your own alcohol thing also makes it so that everyone drinks what they like. Some may not like beer so they bring cider instead or what not.
Been following you all the way from 6000 subs in Norrköping, and soon you'll hit a 100k! Be proud & drop the Jante for a while! ;)
Jante is what makes us Scandos stand out. We should cherish and cultivate this unique mindset.
We have this thing called "vuxenpoäng". Offering alcohol to your guests as a host is one of the criteria.
And its also what do if you want to be polite. And if you can afford it.
Vist absolut, det gäller för gästen också som vid en middagsbjudning exempelvis, vanligt hyfs att ta med sig en vinflaska.
@EDITS Not rly, we swedes dont really drink that much. Its more of the younger generations that has started.
I think another aspect of bring your own alcohol is that, being reserved, it can be hard to partake. If it's a wedding or something, I will certainly expect booze to be provided, but if I'm at someones house and they say "The beer is in the fridge, feel free to grab a drink", I'm going to feel uncomfortable because I would feel rude grabbing too much, I would constantly second-guess taking another drink. This has been a culture shock when I've been to american's houses outside of Sweden and I later heard that they were worried I didn't have a good time because I didn't drink, but it's because I don't want to go grabbing stuff from other peoples fridges unless they specifically hand it to me.
As an Swed myself who lived in Sweden all my life, most of these things you brought up is kinda common knowledge for me.
Though, I Do have some things I wanna say about each point, which I will bring up below here.
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1: don't brag.. That is just common knowledge, like its Ok to tell others you done something great in your life or tell them that ''Oh today, I was able to overcome this thing I have problem with'' That's Fine. its more that if you start telling others about ALL the things you're so great at, that's when it becomes an problem and it starts looking like you are just bragging at that point. not cause You really did something great that day, But You're just bragging for the right to brag, which is what I say is NOT Ok to do.
2: Don't forget to BYOB.. Ok so..... I have no experience with Alcohol, cause I don't drink. But, The idea of paying for your own stuff when you go out and eat or drink, is something that is expected of you most of the time, that is true. But ofc.. sometimes it can be that you are out with friends and one of the friends are fine with standing for the payment and you don't really need to pay back, they be happy if you do, but You aren't obligated to Do it all the time, Sometimes friends or someone you meet just want to be friendly with you and tell you that the bill is on them this time.
3: Don't leave your Shoes on.. Yes, 99% True. majority of the time when you go inside somewhere or at someones home, You are not allowed shoes inside and have to take them off by the door. Ofc, some places is fine walking with shoes inside, But majority of places..yea, shoes comes off.
4: Don't ignore Personal space.. Now this one is once again as I said in the beginning a bit of Common sense, Don't get up in others faces if they don't want you to. its called *Personal* Space for an reason, So Yea.. nothing more to say here, this is an 100% correct one.
5: Don't Cut in line.. Yes once again.. this is 100% true. Don't Cut in Line. some may just call you out on it, and you may just need to get last in line or have to deal with the security, other times.. it is possible that People may get really mad over it, and things could get really bad for someone. So Yea.. Don't Cut in Line, EVER.
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Well that's was my thoughts on these points, hopefully it helped someone out. :)
I subscribed! 🙌 Jag tycker om dina videor ^^ 👍
Hahaha the queue part is sacred. just yesterday me and my friend were going out swimming and we were jumping from the speingboard to the water. This maybe 10 year old cut in line and my friend just said "Hey, there is a queue here!" and the child said sorry amd went in the back of the line. I laughed and i thought he was correct, so seemed to think the older adults too who saw that around us. We are almost 30.
Hi Stefan when you have a fresh video I always watch and listen
The alcohol is mainly with a few of the younger crowd 20-25-ish? planning to drink…a bit. Because of the prices.
Haven’t experienced that past those ages and that would be awkward to me and my friends.
I am Spanish USA born & raised and I am and was Swedish raised. Thank you for sharing; you speak clearly & concisely. You speaking background & white t-shirt do not distract from your Focus of Communication. I have lived in Southern California Laguna Niguel, South Florida & after The Univ of Miami, moved up to work (Economics & Finance) in McLean Virginia I was seeking Govt Employment.
Love your shirt Stefan!
Thanks 😍🙏🏼
I automatically hate when people brag about something, I guess I was just raised not to brag about anything (I don’t have anything to brag about so far anyways haha) but I know most Swedes hates it, especially when other Swedes does that 😂
It boils down to how you value youreself. If you think of youreself as a selfless nobody which is not worthy your own name and character you automatically get jealous of people that value themselfs higher
I live the intro!🤘🏻
A swedish comic said it best. An american athlete says " i'm gonna be the champion. THE BEST! NR 1" A Swedish athlete says "i'll be extremely happy if i am amongst the 5 first"
Until Zlatan.
@@KerstinMamma Hahahahaha oh Zlatan, Zlatan. True.
Well done there! I laughed so hard at nr 5. Kicki från Enskede
There is a very famous music band in Sweden called "Larz-Kristerz" who come from my village (Älvdalen), and those guys definitely follow Jantelagen.
I sometimes see some of those members casually visit the local coffee shop in my village, and they will sit around with friends and have casual chats just like everyone else.
I also know some of those members quite well personally, and I will often have conversations with them when I run into them.
Great tips! ❤
About the BYOB part; commonly when being invited to someone else, you're expected to bring your own alcohol. But if you are a few friends in the bar, it is pretty common to buy the 1st, 2nd and 3rd round etc. This is mostly because of convenience as the bars can sometimes be full and you do not want to lose your seats. I seem to recall you covering this "friend circle" mentality way back, it kinda ties into that. :P And yeah... When we hear someone brag about themself we only think they're missing something in their life, I am one of those people who can be a little of an imp to bragging people. Most of the times, bragging is 10% truth and 90% exaggeration and breaking down those 90% to the truth, people usually feel worse about themself instead of good. It can be pretty mean at times, but it'll definitely teach them a thing or two.
Big fan of your videos and started watching it before coming to Sweden,, hope we can do something together 🇸🇪🙌
Like your videos man 👍
I grew up in a small town in Sweden (sub 20k county population) And at places like the pharmacy they still have the number queue system. But I always experienced that if there is literally no one else there, they will help you even if you don't take the number. But I do think it is different in cities like Norrköping etc.
L enjoy your videos. I can see where my father had more of a Swedish temperement he probably got from his parents and grandparents. He was more laid back and calm where my mother was Italian and passionate. I try to keep a balance between them.
The number system has a purpose. First off, the way you notify them that you want attention is by producing a number, they get alerted and can stop doing the day-to-day maintenance work at a natural stopping point to take care of you. Workers in places with a numbering system, like pharmacies and whatnot, aren't expected to drop everything at a moment's notice and help you. But to, when they've reached a point in whatever task they're doing that they can halt without losing track of where they are or similar, and then go and take care of the pending customer(s). There's more to it than just a queue system, you're also queuing with "the tasks of the day" which are basically in effect when there's nobody queued up in the system.
This is about the modern digital system, the older analogue "ticket rolls" systems are a bit different, since there's no feedback when a ticket got produced, and the places with those are generally more "you can just walk up to the register if you're the only one in there"-y
1. It's ok to show off your accomplishments or w/e but you don't have to BRAG about it. "Oh hey look I got full score on my finals, I'm so happy", versus "Look I got full score on my finals, I'm so good at this, it was so easy for me I'm the best blah blah". See the difference?
2. It completely depends on the type of party. Going to a friend to drink some booze before heading out to the club, you'd normally bring your own booze. However you wouldn't bring your own booze to a wedding party for example. For birthday parties you'd usually bring your own booze unless specified otherwise in the invite. Oh and if you're just out drinking with a couple friends it's not uncommon to do the "I buy first round, you buy the next". If it's a larger group however, or if you're out having dinner or something, it would obviously be too expensive for one person to pay the whole thing. It's just about being reasonable.
3. Outside = dirty, inside = clean. Like mentioned, we have a lot of rain and snow, don't wanna bring that inside obviously.
4. I can agree that we may be a bit more reserved in Sweden. This is especially true with strangers. People usually comes off as weird if they're too open and forward to strangers. It's a bit unfortunate to be honest, I think a lot of Swedes can be too judgemental.
5. When and where would it ever be ok to cut in line lol? We do have a queue ticket system in some stores, but not all. It's to prevent long queues, and people can still walk around in the store while waiting for their turn. It's just convenient. If there is one, obviously you should use it and wait for your turn. Also even if there's a queue ticket system, that's just for the cashier. If personnel walks around in the store it's perfectly fine to ask them for help.
A German guy said about Sweden and rules, to test if Swedes are obsessed with rules is to stand on the wrong side of the escalator when riding the subway. After that experience you know Swedes are far more obsessed with rules than Germans.
Spot on! 👏🏼 👏🏼
Thank you so much .From Philippines
Spot on! Regards from a native swede 😀
No bragging…ample personal space…no small talk… Awesome. I want to live in Sweden!
no much truth about "modesty", since most of the population very extremely jealous, rasistic and report each other to the authorities - it's almost Swedish folk sport
One of the first language books I had learning Swedish explained "fika" and pointed out some topics of conversation that should be avoided. The usual controversial subjects like "politics" and "religion", but the also advised against talking about "your wonderful life" and that made me giggle.
hi stefan so what's the other's things can do around in sweden country. ?
I found the most wonderful Danish woman who paid my fare to take the train to Denmark. She wanted to know all about California and I gave surfing stickers (from Hungington Beach) to a young Swedish man. They were so kind! Tack tack.
As a Swede I think it is very funny to watch your videos 😅😳
Notes taken: if you're from Finland, remember to do these things in Sweden. Bragging especially about ice hockey. Always remember to take someone's akvavit, but leave a conspicuous Finlandia vodka on the table. Insist on using euros. Walk around in your sandals plus Finland -socks. Surprise someone from behind, smelling like alcohol and in a thick Finnish accent ask where the toilet is. If you cut in line, make sure that you do it in the cruise ship terminal. Use elbows if you have to. Speak in Finnish about "bättre folk" if you're drunk enough, for special effects.
The beer thing confused me since where I live in the US everyone brings their own beer to parties already, same with the shoes inside thing, most people I know have shoe areas near entrances.
Du har rätt min vän! tack
thanks now im goingt to this. GREAT VIDEO 5 STAR
"BOYB"... lmao, in agreement! So on point!
I didn't even think about it tiö you mentioned it in this video. LOL
Do you have any videos of:
Waiting in the (Q)?
Stefan...is your shirt monagrammed?
I think number 5 is connected to the personal space issue. I think it’s about not being bothered unless you ask for it. I personally hate when I’m in a store and people come up to me asking if I want help if I don’t need it. I will ask if I have to. 😄
No normally you don't have to take a number to get served by the cashier. This is only the case in some pharmacies if they have that system. Normally you would just walk up to the cashier if you need help, or they will come to you and ask if you need help just like in any other country. :)
You gotta show us around a bit more, i mean a lot more. It is good talking indoors but i would really enjoy if you record yourself outdoors. Thanks for the insights.
Seattle area here ... we take off our shoes and often just before entering the house as opposed to once inside the door
It might sound aggressive but i just want to clear things up since Stefan said it seems to be a stereotype of americans keeping their shoes on inside.
Some swedes make it sound like you guys never have your shoes on in the house/apartments. What if you are bringing in groceries and need to come back in another 1-3 times? Do u take off ur shoes, put the groceries in the kitchen, then put them back on to go back outside? I'm curious what you guys do because that sounds really annoying and i doubt anyone does that.
All the houses I've been to (in the u.s) no one wears shoes inside (except for indoor shoes/slippers) and the owners usually tell the guests to keep the shoes by the door. We take off our shoes when we know we are staying inside. But if we're doing something outside and need a cup of water real quick, ya we'll keep the shoes on. But we dont keep the shoes on for several hours walking through the house wherher its carpet or wooden floors
As a swede I very much like my personal space. One of the most irritating things for me is when there's a lot of empty space at the subway station, but that ONE person just HAS to stroke your arm while passing by. I just don't get that kind of behaviour. 🤯🤯
I hate it when some random just sits next to you on the tube😔
The BYOB was a strange experience for me! Being from England, alcohol is a lot cheaper there so it’s way more common for booze to be shared around.
I don’t hate the system here, but it definitely takes some getting used to.
Spot on as usual! haha ;)
Thanks brotha
I think Swedish culture can be summarized as "be respectful, don't impose on others". That's why we also don't like bragging, keep a wide personal space, expect people to not be loud in public, be considerate and so on.
It's also why we can come off as less social.
Who is the actor that is speaking with colbert in the video ?
Good to know ❤
As a native Swede: Spot on! 💯🤣🇸🇪
As a Swede. So NOT spot on.
Not sure I’m a Swede anymore 😂
We brag a lot, we keep our shoes on inside often in the summer and so doesn’t our guests. We always offer booze to our guests when we have a party. Personal space is just now during Corona. I live in the country down in Österlen 😊
Varför har man skor inomhus? Jag förstår mig inte på hur folk kan gå inomhus med skor, känns jätte konstigt lite äckligt nästan.
@@whatisthis7196 Bor man på landet och springer ut och in en massa så är där lika grusigt på golvet oavsett om man har skorna på eller ej 🙈 Så ska man bara in ett ärende så gå man in med skor. Nu när vi hade kalas så var vi mestadels ute på baksidan men gästerna gick in med skor när de skulle på toa eller hämta dricka i köket. Det är ju inte så att skorna är mycket skitigare än fötterna när det är så här torrt. Vi går dock aldrig upp på ovanvåningen med skor
@@jennywellman3025 Men varför bara inte kasta av sig skorna snabbt innan man går in? Det tar liksom 1 sekund att göra. Sen kan jag förstå om man går in med skorna 1 gång om man bara gått på gräsmattan eller liknande men annars tar jag alltid av mig skorna hur många gånger jag än springer in
@@whatisthis7196 Vi har ju bara gräsmatta här ute och vi har ju inneskor/sandaler på oss både ute och inne (har själv hälsporre så jag går alltid med skor)
Hey I’m from Oregon too and I’m looking to go to Sweden
Eric Northman,who is also in Northman movie (Alexander Skarsgard)
BYOB to all parties because alcohol is insanely expensive in Sweden 😬
The number in the stores are for fairness. You'll know if you grew up there. Otherwise, at what point should yiu take a number, when there's 2, 3, or 5 people?
Also, taking a number means you're ready to talk to the staff, not just browsing.
Great topics that you chose.
This all seems like common courtesy and respect/good manners. The Swedes are lovely. 😊🙏
Im a swedish woman and your'e right about much. I have always hated Jantelagen because its just so sad and contraproductive. I personally like people who are proud of themselves and want to improve in life.
Bring your own alcohol in Sweden? Perhaps when your a teenager going to a party with the intension of getting drunk, but not as an adult.
Spot on! :D
Do you see yourself as Swedish now that you've lived here for quite a while? Or would you still say that you're American/german?
Actually, Stefan you are talking about some habits that belongs to people in your age (about offering alcohol), for older people, you don't bring your alcohol with you, the host will offer that .. so the perspective is different depending on who you are dealing with and it's not applicable for everyone. Also it depends on for many Swedish people who've got a foreigner background, they may behave different than what you are talking about, the Swedish society has been mixed in the last 30 years, it's multi-cultural and have various of habits.
I'm with you on that. There is a difference with the drink- and shoerule when it comes to age and money. (And weather) if I would host a summerparty I would make sure my guests have food and drinks and dont have to take the shoes of. (Me and my husband is 40-50) Alkohol is expensive in sweden so its smart that you bring exaktly what you want to a party. And that way its not only the host that get stuck with the biggest bill everu time!
@Tony An Multicultural or not. Being Swedish still means being Swedish.
@@beorlingo what does being "Swedish" means for you? Because it's an old term, today there less typical Swedish people even though they share many habits.. The newer generations has been changed alot because of travelling, Internet, media, TV, etc..
Haha love this!
I am an Egyptian and I moved to Sweden for work with my family since one year, I like Sweden because they have robust social culture and I like that because we have robust social culture in Egypt as well, for sure there are big variance in details but I respect keeping and inheriting culture habits through generations. What I also like here Swedes people not affected too much with social media and damn internet addiction, they living a normal life ( playing sports , gathering face to face , ... ) while a lot of people around the world spending more than 50% of their life on social media! swedes have a fear of talking to strange people in the beginning but once they know you things become easier😂
Could you please explain that the Jante-law isnt actually a law, more of a social norm. It comes off really weird hearing it refered to as a law.
I made an entire separate video about that 😎
@@StefanThyron do you also explain that law of Jante is from a fictional story written by a Danish-Norwegian author and is about a fictional Danish village?
@@StefanThyron I, me and myself know that -I meant from the point of a viewer who just happen to see this as their first video! Dont use the word law. It isnt. That would make me an American, breaking the law.
@@ela83a Sandemose simply coined the description of the specifically Scandinavian Lutheran.
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Note! Jante lagen is not Swedish (it is Danish), but we live by it sometimes...
The thing with the number in que, are that they might have other things to do, so you take a number and wait. In that way you don't stress them and they can give 100% focus when it's your turn.
One funny and peculiar thing with queuing in Spain; they seldom have number tickets, instead you ask when you enter: " Who is the last in line" and then only have to keep track on that person. At the bus stop same thing, but usually without asking - people just let people enter in the order they arrived to the bus stop. Very polite ☺👍💃
It's a fictional law from a novel that sums up the mentality of the Scandinavian peoples. In a nutshell, it says "don't think you're better or more special than anyone else".
BYOB - never seen that in Sweden, been to hundreds of parties all over the country. Of course you bring some wine or something as a gift for the host, but that is not necessarily meant for consumption that day. One time a guest of mine brought his own beer, and I found it quite rude.. What did he expect? That I didn't had enough for him? 😂😂
Eller så har du bara inte varit på fester där det inte finns en värd? På mitt första jobb så brukade vi ha fest på kontorets takterrass och där var det mer "dyk upp om du vill, ta med ditt eget om du vill ha något, alla i världen är inbjuden oavsett om du känner någon eller inte". Sedan vill jag tillägga att det finns kräsna typer så som jag, som tycker att öl generellt sätt är vidrigt och endast dricker ale (för det smakar inte öl så som en äcklig Norrlands Guld eller Falcon gör). Det är inget man kan förvänta sig att värden vet och köper in i förväg. Å andra sidan så har jag själv hållit i fester och då stått för all dricka. Men det har då givetvis varit en sådan fest där det finns en värd och där gästerna har bjudits in.
I live in Sweden too but far away from Stockholm
I’m assuming some of these still apply tho 😄
As a born swede, this makes me want to move away from here
I think the byob is an age thing. When we were younger you would always bring your own, but now when I'm in my thirties it's kind of expected that you provide drinks and food if you throw a party. Also it's a bit more common to buy rounds at the bar. Perhaps it's due to the fact that alcohol is so expensive so when you're younger you cannot really afford it.
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