What NOT to Do in Sweden | 10 MORE Mistakes to Avoid

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  • Sweden is a country filled with polite and pleasant people, and they don't always show when something upsets them. But secretly they have a lot of things that they HATE. Avoid these 10 more pitfalls if you visit Sweden!
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    The following 10 things are discussed in this video, and they cover a wide range of socially unacceptable things in the Nordics and Scandinavia - and in Sweden in particular:
    10. Don't be pushy in public transport! Be considerate when getting on buses or the subway.
    9. Don't be surprised if a Swede gives you a very direct and literal answer if you greet them with "how are you".
    8. Don't be late. The situation doesn't matter - if you've agreed on a time, you stick to that time no matter what.
    7. Make sure you don't wear shoes inside. Except in certain places. I wrote a helpful rhyme to remind you where and where not to wear your shoes.
    6. If you're going to a Swedish house party, bring your own booze!
    5. Don't talk about the immigration situation in Sweden. That just makes people uncomfortable.
    4. Stop being so over-enthusiastic about everything! This one is especially aimed at Americans...
    3. Swedes like to dress pretty well, so don't make a fool of yourself by looking like a slob.
    2. Ironically enough, complaining is frowned upon in Sweden. The exact thing I'm doing in this video.
    1. And finally... A special mention is given to how to sit on public transport. First of all, you don't sit next to anyone if you can avoid it. And I also decided to listea few more helpful rules to help out potential visitors.

КОМЕНТАРІ • 178

  • @ThreeStarVagabond
    @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

    If you missed my first video about things not to do in Sweden, check it out here: ua-cam.com/video/Zih7kV61H0A/v-deo.html

  • @NickCoder
    @NickCoder 2 місяці тому +6

    I agree with mostly everything, when it comes to "bring your own drinks" it is as stated for when going to a "party", if you are over for a dinner and you are all grownups it is not at all expected (at least not as a norm) but it is instead nice to bring a bottle of vine or something to the host(ess). But if you go over for a new years party at someones house where a lot of people are invited you are most definitely expected to bring your own drinks if you intend to drink more than a glass for a toast. You will have no problem finding people willing to happily share what they got so if you are planning on an early morning and just want something in a glass to look the part you don't need to go and buy just a single beer to bring.
    If you don't know exactly how many people that are invited it is always ok to ask "should I bring anything?", if the intent is that you should bring your own drinks it is usually clarified. I personally just go by the rule that if there is going to be a sit down dinner I expect the host to have vine/beer to the food (unless something else have been stated, or if the rules of engagement are unclear I just ask, nothing embarrassing about that as this is just as unclear to Swedish people). But if it is just snacks and the focus is on drinking ;) then I bring what I want to drink.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      Good summary! I think this shows my lack of dinner parties these last few years, more than anything :D I still mostly go to parties, or restaurants - very seldom anything in between.

    • @TheGrindelwald
      @TheGrindelwald 19 днів тому

      And systembolaget closes at 15 on Saturdays and is closed on Sundays. So plan ahead if you plan to take liquor with you. If you’re unsure, just ask the one who is hosting

  • @user-qo5tc1bp3n
    @user-qo5tc1bp3n 2 місяці тому +5

    Another very interesting video full of good tips!

  • @MsSmartmonkeee
    @MsSmartmonkeee 2 місяці тому +4

    Here in Hawai'i, we are all on island time! We are not late,we will get there when we get there. You would love the bus schedules lol

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      Haha, I would probably be frustrated the whole time :D

  • @fayetallantyre9800
    @fayetallantyre9800 2 місяці тому +5

    Tack Miro for another interesting and informative video. Speaking as a person living in the UK with high functioning Autism, Sweden look's, and sounds like the perfect anti social Utopian Paradise to me. Miro, you are living the dream! You have a great day too!😀

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      I'm extremely thrilled that I can spend several days without talking to a single person in Sweden :D Thanks a lot, and hope you have a great day as well as week!

    • @fayetallantyre9800
      @fayetallantyre9800 2 місяці тому +1

      @@ThreeStarVagabond That sounds like pure bliss 😁

    • @hilarykoppen2776
      @hilarykoppen2776 Місяць тому

      Introverted people are just people who have no idea what actual isolation is.

    • @hilarykoppen2776
      @hilarykoppen2776 Місяць тому

      In reality you need people to survive humans are social creatures.

  • @margomaloney6016
    @margomaloney6016 2 місяці тому +3

    1:43 "People are horrible. You can't live with them and I'd prefer to live without them". We certainly have that in common, Miro! Thanks for the video!

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +2

      Thanks for checing it out! Happy to hear that I'm not the only asocial strange person out there ;D

  • @laserspewpew_7175
    @laserspewpew_7175 2 місяці тому +4

    I’m from the UK but live in Australia. People here are very outgoing for the most part. I love the Scandinavian outlook and behaviour in general, as I’m much more introverted so this list is actually great! I found the Swedes to be pretty friendly more so than Norwegians imo…

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +3

      That's interesting! I've always felt like Norwegians are a bit more outgoing but possibly even harder to make real friends with than Swedes. I would have imagined that it's a bit difficult to be an introvert in Australia - but then again, I wouldn't really know....

    • @hilarykoppen2776
      @hilarykoppen2776 Місяць тому

      Australia is the the most anti social place. Swedes are just reserved not arrogant.

    • @laserspewpew_7175
      @laserspewpew_7175 Місяць тому

      @@hilarykoppen2776 Hmm not sure I'd agree Australia is anti social, how so? From living here people are very outgoing and social for the most part.

  • @PmW-vc6tw
    @PmW-vc6tw Місяць тому

    I love your humour, always makes me laugh. Please keep these videos coming.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  Місяць тому

      Thanks a lot! I'll do my best to continue with weird stuff like this :D

  • @srivathsakk
    @srivathsakk 2 місяці тому

    Good one ☝️ .. more suttle ones than the previous video .. but still a worthy addition

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      Happy to hear that! I was trying to think of common annoyances more than broad cultural issues I think :D

    • @srivathsakk
      @srivathsakk 2 місяці тому +1

      @@ThreeStarVagabond One thing I noticed, correct me if am wrong, was Swedes are uncomfortable saying “No” or disagreeing in a group conversation. Is that common?

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      @@srivathsakk That's absolutely true! It's all about consensus - you want to convince people to see things your way, without openly disagreeing with anything... It's a strange kind of social game, really.

  • @andrebrc
    @andrebrc 2 місяці тому +3

    😂 very nice video. As an foreign here, I understand all the points and I like most of them.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      Happy to hear that! Some of them are just comon decency in my view, after all :D

  • @maddcrz
    @maddcrz 16 днів тому +2

    Introvert paradise❤❤❤

  • @sebastianvm9938
    @sebastianvm9938 11 днів тому

    I'm new to your channel, thanks for all the information, in my country everything that you mentioned its the opposite here hha, that's why I want to continue my career in Sweden in a couple of years, I'm not super social and usually don't talk to many people. Sweden really fits my style of life. Tack

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  11 днів тому +1

      Oh wow, then I hope that you'll fit right in in Sweden! It can be a bit difficult to come here from a different place, since it takes time to get to know Swedes - but once you do, I promise that we're quite nice :D

  • @kadogo7712
    @kadogo7712 21 день тому +1

    spot on . funny vlogs

  • @VAR_life
    @VAR_life 2 місяці тому +7

    10 more reasons to like Sweden. I definitely live in the wrong country... 😅

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +3

      I love the irony that you view these as good rules, but others commenting on my previous video said that those were 10 reasons not to ever visit Sweden. Tastes are like rear ends - everyone's got one :D

    • @Joe-eg7ml
      @Joe-eg7ml 2 місяці тому +2

      Yea, it's a lonely country. It's hard to make friends.

    • @VAR_life
      @VAR_life 2 місяці тому +3

      @@ThreeStarVagabond and some are more attractive than others 😅

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      @@VAR_life Haha!

  • @HoskTheCub
    @HoskTheCub 2 місяці тому +1

    I love that you are using the same song as they use in Dirty Rotten Scoundrels when Lawrence teaches Freddy how to behave with class.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      I didn't really make the connection to be honest, but now I'm even more happy about the song choice :D

  • @grale78
    @grale78 10 днів тому +1

    Watching this in my hotel room in Gamla Stan.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  10 днів тому

      Haha nice one! A bit better weather than when I recorded this eh

  • @KozMc
    @KozMc 12 днів тому

    I've watched both of these videos. I just gotta say ... I'm a New Zealander, and the more I read and learn about Sverige, the more I realise we seem to be twins, separated at birth. Absolutely everything you mention in both these "Do not XYZ" videos would pretty much earn you Kiwi citizenship. The only thing that differs, is the 'buying a round of drinks'. In New Zealand, you never do it without asking. Before you leave your group to go to the bar to buy your own drink, it's extremely good form to take discreet note of whose drinks are low. It's good manners to ask at least two people if you "can get them another". It's good manners for them to refuse, and also to say yes (keeping a mental talley of the obligation they now owe you - one drink) 🤭
    Can't wait to visit, and feel absolutely at home, apart from my svenska pronunciation standing out like I've recently incurred a head injury 🥳

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  11 днів тому +1

      That actually sounds like a perfectly reasonable way to handle rounds! I think we just might be twin countries, separated by a whole world... I'd love to visit New Zealand - it does sound like quite a brilliant place. Maybe I need to think about when I could go there to see this near-Sweden for myself :D

    • @KozMc
      @KozMc 10 днів тому +1

      You'd be most welcome,@@ThreeStarVagabond - your humour alone would ensure you fit right in. As an introvert, that is 🤭 Though, we kiwis are excellent at small talk, as long as it's One Topic Only: The Weather. Kiwis can talk to any stranger for 30 seconds± about The Weather. And, that's it 😊 Suits us fine! Love your videos - please, carry on!

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  10 днів тому +1

      That's perfect! The weather is the only thing Swedes can talk about either way. We suck at smalltalk...except for "how about this weather eh". We excel at that. I look forward to trying my weather talking skills down there :D

  • @juliefrost8079
    @juliefrost8079 2 місяці тому +2

    I could so easily be a Swede - all of these things come as second nature and I’d be appalled if someone either sat or stood too close to me, anywhere!

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      Happy to hear that we're not alone :D Introverts of the world, unite!

  • @jimenap5174
    @jimenap5174 2 місяці тому +1

    You can not be excited but you can not complain either, thats hard 😅
    I must said I am guilty for excitement, but I am just honest, I really love living in Stockholm.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      Nothing wrong with enjoying Stockholm - I do it too :D And nothing wrong with being enthusiastic, really. But we do think that it's a bit silly, unfortunately! ^_^

  • @BadChase
    @BadChase 2 місяці тому +1

    This whole video explains why I fit in so well in Japan. I have heard them calling us the Japanese of Europe even. Haha Great video and I agree on everything, especially the last point.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      Thanks :D I really look forward to visiting Japan one of these years. I have a suspicion that it'll feel just like home (if I just can learn a bit more of the language first)

    • @BadChase
      @BadChase 2 місяці тому

      @@ThreeStarVagabond Well, better to do it sooner than later, while the Yen is cheap.
      Yeah if you know the language just a bit it really opens doors here!

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      I think it'll have to be in 2025 but I hope it'll be fine anyway by then. はい、ちょっとちょっと日本後がはなせます

  • @alexdentondxiw
    @alexdentondxiw 2 місяці тому +4

    Great video! You know as an American, it baffles me how people still don't know how to act in other countries. Maybe one day my fellow Americans can stop dressing like they're going to walmart...

    • @Joe-eg7ml
      @Joe-eg7ml 2 місяці тому +1

      Speak for yourself. Not all Americans are the same.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +2

      I love complaining about Americans, but in truth there are so many different kinds of people there, so it's hard to generalize ^_^ It's all in good fun either way!

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      Totally agree. Even when it comes to tourists, there's a lot of different people from over there!

    • @Joe-eg7ml
      @Joe-eg7ml 2 місяці тому

      @ThreeStarVagabond my swedish nephew does too. He complained why Americans don't walk. Then, when he came here, I told him to go to the grocery store and get us some snacks Which is a 40mim walk one way then he understood why....lol everything is spread out I tell him.

    • @alexdentondxiw
      @alexdentondxiw 2 місяці тому

      @@Joe-eg7ml Never said they are all the same. .

  • @Cybercenturycentaur
    @Cybercenturycentaur 2 місяці тому +1

    Do swedish people like the people from their neighbourhood countries like Finland/Norway/Danmark? What is your experience?

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +2

      Oh absolutely. We're all like siblings. We hate each other a little bit but if anyone else messes with our neighbor, we defend them at all costs.

  • @TheGramophoneGirl
    @TheGramophoneGirl 2 місяці тому

    They're all true lol, and yet these are all reasons why I love the country. I must remember to tone down my enthusiasm next time though 😌

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      Take it all with a grain of salt! I'm sure we'd miss the enthusiasm if it was all gone :D

  • @hilarykoppen2776
    @hilarykoppen2776 Місяць тому +1

    Love the father Ted reference 😂

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  Місяць тому +1

      Best thing to come out of Ireland after Guinness! 😀

  • @tecktan7250
    @tecktan7250 2 місяці тому +2

    While it is a little exagerated it is still a good video and you will do fine if you folow these tips in sweden.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      Yeah, very much exaggerated for effect - but I think that there's a kernel of truth in it all at least :D

  • @donnamortensen959
    @donnamortensen959 2 місяці тому

    Thanks Miro - more information for my trip (only 74 days to go but who’s counting 🤣). Just one question regarding clothing- are shorts acceptable (for men and women)? It will be warmish when I’m there but don’t want to wear anything that offends!

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +2

      Oh absolutely! It's not a prude country so don't worry about shorts and tank tops etc. But the question is if the weather will permit it 😊

  • @faraz251
    @faraz251 Місяць тому

    Hahaha 😂 I love your content but how did you manage to film inside the bus isn't that weird!?😂

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  Місяць тому +1

      That felt SO weird! I was happy that there weren't many people on the bus that day - everyone pointedly ignored me when I recorded. "That's a crazy person - let's not look at him!"

  • @Hispandinavian
    @Hispandinavian 2 місяці тому

    I went back to Sweden last January. Getting used to most businesses not taking cash was an adjustment. At least the convenient store in Stockholm Centralstation took it. The express train to Oslo broke down in the tunnel outside the city. Waad faun!

    • @surroundgatari
      @surroundgatari 2 місяці тому +3

      pro tip: any of the grocery stores chains will happily relieve u of ur coins & bills-ICA, coop, willys, lidl, hemköp, tempo etc.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      It's really amazing how quickly stores have gone from accepting cash, to just allowing cards! But it really is super convenient (at least in my view). But too bad about the train! Sorry for our crappy railways...

    • @Hispandinavian
      @Hispandinavian 2 місяці тому +1

      @@ThreeStarVagabond It's still better than Amtrak in the US. It's rickety and slow.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      @@Hispandinavian Sometime I need to try Amtrak. I've seen a few videos of train rides and it does look really cool - but then I hear stuff like this as well...

    • @Hispandinavian
      @Hispandinavian 2 місяці тому +2

      @@ThreeStarVagabond The North East is not too bad. When you go West of Chicago, that's when the train in hardly on time. On the bright side, it's a great way to see the landscape. You just won't get to your destination on time.

  • @lulu.chains.88
    @lulu.chains.88 2 місяці тому +1

    I'm going to Stockholm and Gävle for a week next month so these videos are quite useful. Gotta say I'm from South America and live in the US and I don't understand wearing shoes inside either, gross

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      Happy to hear that! And yeah, us no-shoes-indoors people have to stick together :D

  • @hilarykoppen2776
    @hilarykoppen2776 Місяць тому +1

    The sitting on transport rule is pre standard across the world really

  • @pkharper3525
    @pkharper3525 2 місяці тому

    Another Great Video, I bet I could offend a lot of people in a short time 😂. I hate being late, so that’s one good thing, but in Sweden I might be a psycho most of the time, not really I give people their personal space cause I like mine. One of the hard things that I had to contend with moving to the Southern states was someone held a door open for me and I said Thank you, there response was HmmHmm, I was quite offended then was told it’s there way of saying you’re welcome, so I must be part Swedish, my fist was hidden in my pocket 😂. Stay safe till next time.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      I think it would be fun to see how many Swedes one could annoy. The only problem is that it would be impossible to know for sure because of that fist in the pocket :D But ooh, that sounds so annoying with the HmmHmm response! I would have no idea how to interpret it really! Cheers, and have a great one :D

  • @thevis5465
    @thevis5465 2 місяці тому +1

    I hope you weren't implying that the UK and England are the same. I'm from Scotland and its just as frowned upon here to wear shoes inside...

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      I had NO idea that shoe customs might be different between England and Scotland. Which is a bit embarrassing, since I've actually been to both places...

    • @thevis5465
      @thevis5465 2 місяці тому

      @@ThreeStarVagabond A lot is different. we are seperate countries.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      @@thevis5465 Fair enough. And I can't wait for Scotland to secede and join Scandinavia instead

    • @thevis5465
      @thevis5465 2 місяці тому +1

      @@ThreeStarVagabond Anything to get away from England.

  • @karljohan2300
    @karljohan2300 2 місяці тому +1

    only old people wear some shoes indoors here in
    sweden

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      I wouldn't do it anywhere except in stores, restaurants and at work. Even though I'm getting old 😅

  • @mrh60
    @mrh60 2 місяці тому

    Would doing impersonations of the Swedish chief from the Muppet Show after a few pints go down well in Stockholm or will I end up tarred and feathered with a moose head stuck on my head chained naked to some roundabout in Central Stockholm by a local biker gang... asking for some local cultural advice? trying to avoid appearing on peak time Swedish news one evening so planning ahead..I've already got the inflatable 🫎 moose so that should be OK, I hope!

  • @erikhassler9459
    @erikhassler9459 2 місяці тому +2

    I think enthusiastic Americans are great. I´m getting used to them from the internet.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      I guess I just love to have something to complain about! What would the city be like without 'em, after all...

  • @marlathe80sgirl96
    @marlathe80sgirl96 2 місяці тому

    Im visiting Stockholm in a few weeks and I feel like I’m going to the land of conditions and expectations. Kinda stressful😳 “Don’t show you’re feelings or emotions, ever!” “Don’t be you!” focus on what everyone thinks of you!”

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +2

      Don't worry! People really aren't as judgmental as I make them out to be - this is all exaggerated, and I'm sure you'll have an awesome time :D

  • @Joe-eg7ml
    @Joe-eg7ml 2 місяці тому +1

    Yea use to reside in Goteborg. And there after would travel to Sverige annually for 2 to 3 weeks stay. People there just seem to keep to themselves. Its funny i found my wife from there and is far from the normal swedish behavior, in that she is very outgoing. Also last time, I got in dispute with a Swede for cutting in line. And he didnt say anything and went back to wait his turn.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      The last part really sounds very Swedish! Then he'll complain to his family and friends afterwards instead... But yeah just like there are different types of Americans, there are different Swedes as well. I'd say that I'm not a stereotypical one either, even if I am introverted.

    • @Joe-eg7ml
      @Joe-eg7ml 2 місяці тому +1

      @@ThreeStarVagabond it's all cool, I like sweden for itt laid back ways. Even traffic is not hectic. I love it over there.

  • @1989Goodspeed
    @1989Goodspeed 2 місяці тому

    03:36 With the exeption of SJ and POST NORD. Where punctuality is a rarity.

    • @adambohlin5112
      @adambohlin5112 2 місяці тому +1

      You hit the nail on the head there.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      Haha! Damn, I should have thought of that - that would have been perfect to add in the video...

  • @lesegogaebeeyn4005
    @lesegogaebeeyn4005 2 місяці тому +1

    I gotta live in Sweden

  • @teejay5295
    @teejay5295 2 місяці тому +1

    I've visited Sweden a few times over the years, as I have friends in Stockholm. As an outsider from Australia looking in, I would agree to all of the above points you have mentioned. One biggie that I will mentioned is when you are with a bunch of Swedes in Sweden they will only speak Swedish (obviously). Don't think they will speak English as a group because you can't speak Swedish ..... NEVER!. Tip: learn some basic Swedish and you will be accepted. Reference to Tip 4: that's anywhere in the world regarding Americans and their over-enthusiasm.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      I'm actually really annoyed at that speak-Swedish thing! Some people revert back to Swedish at every opportunity even if it's obvious that one or even more of the company don't speak the language. It's not that they don't know English - they just choose to leave some people out of the discussion. Just plain rude in my view...

    • @teejay5295
      @teejay5295 2 місяці тому +1

      @@ThreeStarVagabond Maybe. I am not offended by it, it's the old "when in Rome" scenario. Keep up the great work!

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      @@teejay5295 Thanks! And well, I guess that you're more tolerant than me in that case :D

  • @j.artiste8596
    @j.artiste8596 2 місяці тому

    Im Swedish... When you ask "how are you" we always take it as a rhetorical question. We are raised to not complain. We always say were fine. Even if we are not. Swedes are notorious for not opening up.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      Agreed, but I think people get less "subtle" when speaking English, and start taking it more literally. But not as extreme as in my example of course!

  • @marna_li
    @marna_li 2 місяці тому +1

    Sweden is all about modesty: not being too much, repress your individuality, taking the middle ground, seeking consensus, avoiding disagreements and conflicts. We only show our difference in opinion in polls or at the ballot. Unless you are a crazy person who has built their career on expressing loud opinions on TV or in social media. It is kind if sad that we can't have constructive debates. But you know, there is a risk at offending someone. And that is not what a most Swedes like to do publicly. They tend to want to deal with their own stuff rather and avoid any negative attention or criticism.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      That's extremely well put! And I think that all of this can be both a positive and a negative thing. No culture is perfect, and there are always pros and cons to how people decide that they want to function...

    • @marna_li
      @marna_li 2 місяці тому

      @@ThreeStarVagabond I think it is hurtful in situations where you are aware and knowledgeable about an issue, of which you have an opinion, but you know that if you open your mouth you will be met with passive aggressiveness for caring so much. Especially when others don’t care as much as you do. So always pick your fights.
      Swedes in general dislike people with strong beliefs or opinions. They prefer to let people believe whatever as long as they aren’t loud about it.
      There is also this notion that we all agree at a basic level. About values and so. Yet we never talk about it because of fear of finding out that someone else might think differently.
      This enforces our collective identity.
      Which also scares people when it comes to immigration. Btw. Seemingly having different values from “us”.

  • @beorlingo
    @beorlingo 2 місяці тому +1

    The subway culture of getting off and on has gone totally down the tube so to speak.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      Haha good one. But yeah I totally agree. What happened?!

    • @beorlingo
      @beorlingo 2 місяці тому

      @@ThreeStarVagabond I have no idea. But what's strange is that those standing right in front of the doors when I'm getting off are distributed over all ages.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      @@beorlingo True! And it's so strange that they don't learn after they get into a flood of people. Then again, I also hate people who get off really late. Right when everyone's entering some bugger decides that "oh this was my stop" and tries to get off.

  • @Ossian_Mik-bb3hv
    @Ossian_Mik-bb3hv 22 дні тому

    Jag är svensk och jag håller helt med dig. En gång när jag var i ett hotel och åt frukost, då kom en främling och bara satt där. Jag kände mig obekväm. Mina föräldrar var och skulle hämta frukosten och de såg inte att han satt bredvid mig. Som tur, så gick han bort efter 5 sekunder så det var typ ingenting. Men ändå, jag var skit obekväm.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  21 день тому

      Jag förstår dig! Det känns jätteskumt när folk bara kommer fram sådär ju :/

  • @tumarfa
    @tumarfa 2 місяці тому +1

    Seems you guys are not that weird after all, as most of these are just "common sense" to me.
    But... bring and drink your own alcohol? Seriously? Is that only for actual parties or is it also for eg. home dinners, kräftskiva, or whatever? Here, I would expect to be clearly told to bring my own if necessary, or else just bring something for the hostess if it's a not too casual gettogether.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      To be honest, here it's almost the opposite - unless it's clearly stated that you don't have to bring anything, then it's expected that you bring your own. There are some exceptions though, like weddings and dinner for just a couple of friends. But anything with a bunch of people - yep, then it's bring your own booze!

  • @pad9x
    @pad9x 2 місяці тому

    “don’t be so enthusiastic” lmao

    • @Soundbrigade
      @Soundbrigade 2 місяці тому

      If you are foreigner and expresses your enthusiasm, you will notice that Swedes often bring forward a lot of negative stuff like overfilled hospitals, high taxes, too much snow, or too much sun, low pension rates or too high …
      I have come to a point where I try to be positive but make remarks if someone is too enthusiastic about something that actually are bad like healthcare, which is AWSOME in Sweden, but you have to wait three years before you’re in for removing that inflamed appendix.
      Else Swede is … Sweden.

  • @Musta0011
    @Musta0011 Місяць тому

    Alternate title things not to do in stockholm and maybe gothenburg as well

  • @anupamsharma2022
    @anupamsharma2022 2 місяці тому +1

    Thats called "Line Culture" while I was in UK. This is a good practise and called as Decency :)

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +2

      Totally agree! :D But I guess that I'd lie if I said that I've never cut in line, despite being as Swede ^^

    • @anupamsharma2022
      @anupamsharma2022 2 місяці тому

      @@ThreeStarVagabond 😉

  • @ChristopherGronlund
    @ChristopherGronlund 2 місяці тому

    I am guilty of being the slap-happy American who thinks everything is awesome. But other than that...I'm good with keeping to myself and enjoying being around others without interaction. (Although I HAVE been known to chat with strangers...but only if they seem okay with it.) Even among friends, I'm generally quiet and simply enjoy being around people I care about -- while listening to what they're up to.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      You'd be an excellent Swede! Everyone's entitled to a few quirks, and if it has to be being happy and upbeat...well, I'm sure it would be accepted eventually :D Although the chatting with strangers bit WOULD be exotic and extremely weird ^^

  • @andersmalmgren6528
    @andersmalmgren6528 2 місяці тому +1

    Only kids bring their own booze. When you throw a get to gather as a grownup its the host that fixes the drinks. edit: You off-course bring a bottle for the hosts

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      Fair enough! I'll happily stay with the kids at the parties in that case, rather than more grown-up dinner parties... ^_^

  • @sroduit13
    @sroduit13 2 місяці тому

    I love how so many of those rules are just basic decent behaviour. At least for me as a Swiss person...

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +2

      You should have said "at least for me as a decent person" :D But yeah, maybe it's just common sense most of it!

  • @DeeDeifiesGayo
    @DeeDeifiesGayo 2 місяці тому

    Summary is: have basic good manners and use the common sense. I loved my last trip to Stockholm ^^
    P.S. I never understood "how are you?" culture when only "I'm good" is expected to be the correct response. I wanna hear your real story if I ask 😁

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      I think you just summed up everything in one simple sentence :) If everyone was considerate regardless of where they are, things would just be so much nicer!

    • @DeeDeifiesGayo
      @DeeDeifiesGayo 2 місяці тому +1

      @@ThreeStarVagabond Oh, yes, some tourists are a bit too selfish. I think being an introvert makes it a bit easier. I could enjoy my trip in peace.
      There are more useful tips in your video, so I will keep them in mind for my next travel to Sweden someday. Thank you!

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      @@DeeDeifiesGayo Thanks for checking them out :D And I get what you mean. I try to not be obnoxious when I travel abroad either - maybe it's the introverted side of me that helps with that too. Or maybe it's just comes naturally, since I don't interact all that much with people...

  • @Soundbrigade
    @Soundbrigade 2 місяці тому

    A great video, but remember folks (from abroad), Swedes will be happy if you break these rules, because we Swedes hate these rules but don’t dare.
    Sit next to a person on the bus and start a conversation and you have gotten a bff.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      You're spoiling all our secrets now :D

    • @Soundbrigade
      @Soundbrigade 2 місяці тому +1

      @@ThreeStarVagabond Sorry, but all our travels and living abroad has have a bad effect on us ….🤕🥴😱🙄😰

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      @@Soundbrigade Yeah, I'm afraid that I'm not really a typical Swede any longer. I wonder if they'll revoke my Coop card...

    • @Soundbrigade
      @Soundbrigade 2 місяці тому

      @@ThreeStarVagabond Sweden is a great place that needs great people like you (and me). Swedes are in many ways different than other people, or, or "national soul" is. But getting to know Swedes or a Swede is a bit of a lock to unlock or a code to uncode and as pointed out in the very amusing vids is to behave like a Swede, but also to break the rules little by little, cause that's exactly Swedes want to do, but don't dare.
      Anyhow, as long as the government let you keep your ICA card, all is fine.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      @@Soundbrigade I'm more non-conforming than most Swedes but I still am very much an introvert, so I guess it works out as being pretty Swedish in the end. But I do break a lot of rules... So far my ICA card is still working at least (just tried it when buying lunch) so I must not be breaking too many of the rules!

  • @j.q.higgins2245
    @j.q.higgins2245 2 місяці тому

    So, does that fist-in-pocket thing basically mean that you can never tell whether a Swede is actually angry or just glad to see you?

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      Well, you'll see a little scowl as well at the same time! But it's honestly hard to say when a Swede is angry sometimes. At least for other people.

    • @j.q.higgins2245
      @j.q.higgins2245 2 місяці тому

      @@ThreeStarVagabondI was actually pointing at a Beverly Hills Cop quote here, but that might have been just as subtile as Swedish anger... 🙂

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      @@j.q.higgins2245 Oh yeah, that was way too subtle! I'm more familiar with the banana-in-your-pocket version. If someone was saying that about a fist in the pocket, I'd suspect they were referring to some very inappropriate behaviour among people... ^^

    • @j.q.higgins2245
      @j.q.higgins2245 2 місяці тому +1

      @@ThreeStarVagabondO.K. I'll admit I messed up...
      (... unless Swedes tend to give thumbs up inside their pockets, too.)

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      @@j.q.higgins2245 Haha, no thumbs up in Sweden - just slightly less awkward frowns ;D

  • @bo602
    @bo602 Місяць тому

    Sweden is a country of immigrants with plenty of cultures living in there, which means that no matter where you are from you shouldn't change yourself nor adapt for ''Swedish swedes'' behavior limits and tips, especially if they are too restrictive and incompatible with your culture. And surely never listen to someone who tries to teach you how to behave, especially if he is white Swedish swede himself. Its not monocultural Japan with strict Japanese centrical behaving codex after all.

  • @midnitebeach
    @midnitebeach 2 місяці тому +1

    badmouth ikea

  • @klarkolofsson
    @klarkolofsson 2 місяці тому +1

    Some of these stereotypes are changing however. I meet a lot of people at work and to summarize, we’re getting Americanized. I don’t like it, sorry for complaining ;)

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      I think I see some of it too, but I'd say that I still encounter a lot of "traditional Swedishness". I feel that there are significant differences in values, even if we adopt a lot of American trends....

  • @bjornnilsson9875
    @bjornnilsson9875 2 місяці тому

    there are no vikings in stockholm

  • @andersmalmgren6528
    @andersmalmgren6528 2 місяці тому

    Äh, det är mer eller mindre standard att säga "hur har helgen varit", "vad har hänt sedan sist" etc, eller hur mår du. Outdated advice :D

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      Det kanske är en generationsfråga? Jag tycker man fortfarande ser många som delar med sig lite väl mycket. Och jag själv kör alltid med "det är skit!" om någon frågar hur läget är :D

    • @andersmalmgren6528
      @andersmalmgren6528 2 місяці тому

      @@ThreeStarVagabond kanske det. Jag är gen x själv. Men tycker nog det är samma för de millennials man måste interagera med på jobbet osv.

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      @@andersmalmgren6528 Hmm kanske.. Jag behöver lyssna på lite olika åldersgrupper på jobbet och se om jag märker skillnad i hur de använder uttrycken...

  • @Studeb
    @Studeb 2 місяці тому

    Fan of Father Ted? :)

  • @TheUffeess
    @TheUffeess 2 місяці тому

    What is not said in this video is: Don't think that Swedes avoid arguments. If you get too "hot", the risk is high that you will end up in a hospital bed...

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому

      I think that depends on which Swede we're talking about as well. The nerds I spend time with couldn't harm anyone even if they tried :D

  • @chrom0xide123
    @chrom0xide123 2 місяці тому +1

    Don't compain in Sweden? German tourists will have a hard time

    • @ThreeStarVagabond
      @ThreeStarVagabond  2 місяці тому +1

      We'd love to complain about them...but not when anyone can hear

  • @jiriloukota7170
    @jiriloukota7170 2 місяці тому

    Change your hair, go to the dentist and don't be in a convulsion