Sleep Training: How to stop nursing baby to sleep
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Sleep Training: How to stop nursing baby to sleep
Getting your baby to sleep through the night requires that your baby or toddler learn to fall asleep on their own. Weaning off nursing to sleep teaches your baby to fall asleep independently. The reason why this is so important is it enables your baby to sleep long stretches and eventually sleep through the night.
In this video I walk you through each step of stopping nursing to sleep and getting baby to go down drowsy but awake. Most moms are convinced their baby can't learn another way of falling asleep, but I promise you, they ALL can!
I talk about the Shush/Pat method in this video, but you can use any method like Ferber sleep training, the Chair Method, Sleep Lady Shuffle, Pick Up Put Down and no cry sleep training.
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The first thing I would recommend is that you change around the order of your Peaceful Nightly Ritual, or your bedtime routine. Because if we feed or if we nurse our babies too close to bedtime, often what we find is that your baby is going to associate feeding with falling asleep. Your baby is going to need feeding to fall back asleep.
Ideally, you have more than 10 minutes between your baby feeding and falling asleep. In our Peaceful Nightly Ritual, we put books in the middle. You go through all of the bedtime routine. You have a bath, then you give your baby a little massage. You put on pyjamas and a sleepsack. Next, we feed with the lights on. And then, we read baby a book. Then baby goes into his bed. The white noise is playing, the lights go off. So you’re really separating feeding and falling asleep, which is different than nursing your baby to drowsy and then immediately putting him in the crib.
What you want to always keep in mind is, every night I want to remove myself more and more from helping baby fall asleep. So if you’re currently doing Shush Pat for 10 minutes while he falls asleep, then tonight, try to shorten it to 7 minutes. Then sit in your chair. You can sing, or you can shush while you’re sitting in your chair, but it’s less hands on. On Night 2, try to do it for 4-5 minutes of the Shush Pat, and then sit in your chair and do more verbal reassurance, and your physical presence is reassuring him. Once he’s got used to having no more Shush Pat and you’re only sitting in the chair as he falls asleep, then every night or two, work on just moving your chair a little farther from his bed.
What’s most important, no matter what method you choose, is that you take note of how much hands-on assistance you’re doing tonight to help your little one fall asleep, and you do less tomorrow, and less the next night. And you physically move yourself more and more toward the door.
We want your baby ending up falling asleep completely on his own and without you in the room, so that he’s 100% able to fall asleep independently. This will help him resettle during the night. Once your baby can do this, you’re going to see the sleep stretches automatically double or even triple.
It can be really hard to keep track of it when we’re tired, busy moms! So tonight and each following night, write down on a little Post-it note how long you were in the room helping him. Always make sure you’re moving towards helping him less and less. Take your phone in there if you need to, so you can watch the clock, because it can be hard to keep track of time when you’re in the baby’s bedroom.
If he wakes in the middle of the night and you think he’s genuinely hungry, that’s okay. Go ahead and feed him if he’s hungry.But make sure that he stays awake during his feed. And even if he falls asleep during his feed, then you want to sit him up, you want to burp him - do whatever you can to wake him up a little bit, to get him going back into his crib as awake as possible.
There are many ways to teach babies to fall asleep on their own, and to sleep through the night. In my program, 21 Days to Peace and Quiet, I have several step-by-step video guides for you to follow. I walk you through how to pick the right method for your baby.
Very useful and clear advice! 👏🏽
Thank you! We are here to help! -Alyssa, BSMS Support Team
Finally a video with really clear useful information! Thank you
Thank you! We are here to help! Alyssa, BSMS Support Team
I second that! Thank u
Thank you so much 🙏🏽💕
My pleasure!!! Never hesitate to reach out to us if you have any questions at support@babysleepmadesimple.com
First of all, thank you for getting to the point! So many of these videos are way longer than they need to be!
Couple of questions...
1. Do you do anything different for naps?
2. What if we share a room with our baby?
Thanks!
Hello! How old is your little one? Alyssa, BSMS Support Team
Yes, how early can you/should you start this?
How peaceful is your voice. I wish the topic that you are talking would be that peaceful though
It can be really hard to change the sleep association, especially feeding to sleep which is such a strong association.
How old is your LO?
Clare, BSMS Support Team
@@Babysleepmadesimple thank you for your Answer. Mine is 4 and a half months old and he is confused. Sometimes i rock him, sometimes he sleeps on my breast. Its exhausted and im thinking a training but cring scares me:(
@@Esra.oztrk91 Of course, not wanting your LO to cry is totally natural.
Whenever you teach your LO something new there will be an element of frustration and annoyance from them.
Once they reach 5 months old we can help guide you through the process with step-by-step guides in our program 21 days to Peace and Quiet:
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/21-days-to-peace-quiet-program/
Clare, BSMS Support Team
Unrelated but you are the 2nd Jill I’ve ever seen with brown hair besides myself and my husbands cousin. Anyone-great video! Desperate to get my 1 yo sleeping w/o baba before my 3rd arrives
Ha I shall pass that on to Jilly!
We can DEFINITELY help you with this in our program 21 days to Peace and Quiet.
We can guide you through the process of gently transitioning your LO to independent sleep.
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/baby-sleep-consultant
Let us know if you have anymore questions,
Clare, BSMS Support Team
Great thoughts! What weeks/ moths does this technique apply to?
I'd say approximately in the first year! Happy this helped you.
If you need more help getting your baby sleeping through the night, you can learn more here:
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/baby-sleep-consultant/
Kindly
Artemis, BSMS Support Team
Hey! I have a 4 month baby. He typically sleeps through the night with 1 feeding sometimes 2. During the day he is a cat napper. His naps never last longer then 30 minutes. Which I have been ok with. I feel like we have a good thing going. But recently my son has been resisting eating. So I have been nursing him to sleep and he has now developed a nurse to sleep habit. I’m so nervous about this. Also, I’ve been hearing so much about a 4 month sleep regression and not being able to self settle being a problem. I’m just wondering if there is something I could be doing to get ahead of it and to break the habit of feed to sleep. I would love some advice!! Thank you in advance
Hello, Mira!
I get it, it's easy to fall into nursing to sleep. It's totally fine & we can help you!
So I know your baby is only 4 months old, but I would recommend you join our program (which usually starts at 5 months old).
See, the first few lessons of our step-by-step program are okay to do with babies of any age! Even through sleep regressions & while nursing to sleep.
Then, when your baby is 5 months old, we can help you choose a gentle & unique method which will work well with your baby's personality, and start getting them to sleep independently. Make sure to choose the support option so we can help you every single step of the way.
That way, you'll be all set from the get go and ensure great sleep for YEARS. And you get to prevent sleep regressions and dependent sleep associations like nursing to sleep, just like you're describing!
I'm linking you to the program below,
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/baby-sleep-consultant
We're happy to answer any questions you may have. Reach out to us via the website, instagram or facebook if you would like to ask us anything privately.
Stay in touch!
Artemis, BSMS Support Team
Thank you so much! will try the books and keeping him more awake feeding
Are pacifiers recommended to replace a night feeding? My 7 month old son wakes up for formula too many times a night hopefully tonight will be different🤣🙏🏻
The best way to replace night feedings is to teach your little one to self-settle.
Our program offers 4 step-by-step sleep training methods. You choose the one that feels best for your LO. We have super gentle & gradual all the way to quick & efficient.
Each step of the way you get advice based on your baby’s developmental stage, energy levels, and temperament.
You can find out more info on the program here: www.babysleepmadesimple.com/21-days-to-peace-quiet-program
Sleep Training Methods Explained:
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/sleep-training-methods-baby-toddler
When you are 100% consistent in following the steps of the program, your baby will be sleeping amazingly within 1-3 weeks. It depends on the method you choose as well as your baby's adaptability. But we cover all of this in the program!
Happy to answer any questions you have.
Have a great day! / Clare, BSMS Support Team
Thanks so much! What about nursing to sleep for naps? My baby generally only falls asleep for naps while he's nursing lately.
Hi Kayla! How old is your little one? Depending on their age, it's completely normal for them to fall asleep while nursing. Once they get older, you can work on having him fall asleep without nursing. Our Naps program addresses this issue and can be used for babies 6 months and up. Here is a link if you are interested in more information: www.babysleepmadesimple.com/naps-getting-downtime-in-the-daytime/. Please let us know if you have any additional questions! Best, Ingrid, BSMS Support Team
Will this work on an 10.5 month old? She only wants to be held for naps and we cosleep. I have a crib next to the bed and a crib in her room but she refuses to sleep away from me. Wants to be rocked to sleep, sleep nurses at night, ect. This is my second kid and my first was like this too. I have to be doing something wrong. Having my kids back to back, I haven't really slept in like 3.5 years peacefully. And honestly I'm just tired and desperate, but I can't do cry it out method. Your reply would be so appreciated.
Hello Valerie,
Thank you for your message! I would really look at our 21 Days to Peace and Quiet program! We can help you go from cosleeping to the crib, learning how to wean at night and help teach your LO to fall asleep independently. It CAN be done! We offer gentle methods too in order to minimize any tears. I would definitely suggest a package with support because we answer personalized questions daily in our private FB group AND Jilly offers 2 zoom calls a week.
Please let me know if you have any questions! We would love to help you!
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/21-days-to-peace-quiet-program
Alyssa, BSMS Support Team
Hi! I have a 4.5 month old baby. We just started sleep training last weekend
I’ve heard different information regarding to sleep train at night first and then focus on naps, but other people say: you should be training for naps and bed time at the same time... which one do you recommend?
Also, we are doing the pick up, put down method since I can’t tolerate hearing him crying hysterically, BUT I do understand that I need to let him cry for a bit, or even grunting for a bit so that he can learn to soothe himself, but how long should I wait? What is your recommendation?
Hi mama!
We usually recommend sleep training around 5-6 months old, because there are major developmental leaps that happen before that age that could disrupt the process. So if you can, I'd recommend hanging tight for a little while longer before you start sleep training.
However there are still tips and routines that you can implement right now. Wait no more! Here is a link to our FREE EXHAUSTED MOM's SURVIVAL KIT and a general sleep guide for your little one's age. It will help you understand your LO's current developmental stage and the affect on sleep and what you can expect from your LO right now.
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/exhausted-moms-survival-kit
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/4-month-old-not-sleeping
Our take is that we always fix night time sleep first before we tackle naps. We advocate for gentle sleep training methods. With 3 of the 4 methods in our program, you stay with your baby as you teach them to sleep better. You don't have to leave the room if you don't want to. And you can choose a slower, more gradual method to reduce your baby's resistance, fussing and crying. We can't promise "no tears" but you can work to minimize baby's resistance.
We also accommodate for your baby's temperament too. Each lesson has tips on tweaking the steps to suit your baby's energy levels, sensitivity and adaptability.
I'm confident we can get you and your baby sleeping great.
Happy to answer any other questions you have about the program. Here are all the details:
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/21-days-to-peace-quiet-program
Best of luck! Leena, BSMS Support Team
Thank you so much for your help and feedback! I truly appreciate it 😀
My almost 5 month old just won't nurse when awake. LC termed this as nursing strike but it's going on from 2 months. She will just not feed if she is awake and only feeds when drowzy or every hour after bedtime. What should be my approach then? Thank you
Hello! I would try feeding your LO the moment she wakes from a nap. She may still be in a drowsy state. Nurse in a dark and quiet room so there are no distractions! Best, Alyssa, BSMS Support Team
Should I separate nursing and sleeping also during the day naps? My baby is 4months old. Thanks!
You can continue to do it for day naps :) Different parts of the brain control daytime and night time sleep so you won't confuse baby.
Clare, BSMS Support Team
Hello thanks for you information. I do struggle with my one and a half month old baby at the moment. He can sleep better if he can have both side of breastmilk. He does sometimes at night, but lately he will only have one side then fall asleep, couldnt wake him up. But he can only sleep for one hour then need to be fed again. It drives me crazy, can I do something to.improve it? Thanks a lot
Hi! Congrats on your baby. Remember your baby is so young it's completely normal that he wants to sleep on you. The first three months of a baby's life are called the "fourth trimester" because it's the transitional period between the safe environment of the womb and this world. So it is completely normal at this point for sleep to be inconsistent and a little bit all over the place.
Try implementing the tips in this guide on my website: www.babysleepmadesimple.com/newborn-sleep-schedule
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/exhausted-moms-survival-kit
Hope this helps! / Leena, BSMS Support Team
Very helpful ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ my baby is 6 weeks and i am experiencing the same
Now I understand
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Our 7 month old is great with independent sleep at night but we’ve had a hard time breaking feeding to sleep and contact making during the day. We tried sleep training for naps for 6 weeks before we decided to take a break and try to wean her fully off the feeding and contact mapping before trying again. Any wisdom here?
Hi! I am so glad to hear that your LO is sleeping so well at night. This is wonderful. Nap training is notorious for taking a little longer than nights because there is naturally less drive to sleep during the day. However, your LO can definitely learn how to fall asleep independently during the daytime too, just like at night!
I would recommend our naps course. We will walk you through the nap training process step by step, which includes eliminating feeding to sleep and contact napping!
CLICK HERE to learn more-->www.babysleepmadesimple.com/naps-getting-downtime-in-the-daytime/
Reach out if you have ANY questions!
Best,
Alyssa, BSMS Client Support Manager
Hi Jilly,
Thank you so much for this video. I have a two month old baby. I've always been doing nurse, play, sleep schedule since she's born. But recently I found her continuously falling asleep when I nurse her even when she just wakes up from a two hours long nap. I try everything to wake her up but not work well. Then the nap time settle I used to just rock her sleep and now she gets cranky and iust wanting to suck. And I offered her dummy. She can sleep quickly with dummy. Is this good or bad? At night time I nurse her she will fall asleep I normally burp her and then hold her upright to reduce reflux. Then when I put her down to crib she's already asleep. Is this wrong? She does spit out milk if I out her down early. Please help
The first few weeks can be so challenging and exhausting with sleep all over the place. It does get better; I promise!
Babies aren’t developmentally ready to learn how to fall asleep independently until they turn 5 months old. However, there are plenty of tips and tricks that can be implemented during the infant stage to help improve sleep! I would highly recommend reading about these strategies in our 2 month old sleep guide attached here. www.babysleepmadesimple.com/how-to-help-2-month-old-baby-sleep-well
It can also be really helpful to chat with a sleep consultant! Our sleep consultant Alyssa offers 45-minute consultations on Zoom. Her call includes a personalized sleep plan for your little one and a follow-up email to answer any future questions. You can sign up using the link below!
programs.babysleepmadesimple.com/30-minutes-private-consultation-checkout/
Please do not hesitate to reach out if you have any questions about our resources. We are here to support your family!
We only have one room. We can't use a crib since our room is small. Therefore we have no choice but to co sleep. I have already done the bath, massage and books. She still sleeps only if we breastfeed. Pls help. She won't sleep until 10 or 11 pm.
Hello Jenny, Thanks so much for your message. How old is your LO? We really recommend the crib not only for safety but for better sleep. Can you do a small portable crib? They are very narrow and can fit small rooms. This may help! Alyssa, BSMS Support Team
How long do you let a baby stay in their crib if they're not falling alseep during nap time?
Hello! How old is your LO? Alyssa, BSMS Support Team
Hello. Please help me, I've been so stressed. Everytime I try to stop nursing to sleep, my baby ends up not being able to sleep and losing a nap. She even goes to have less than 7 hours of sleep a day. At 8 months old, I know this is dangerous for my baby. What do I do? I'm doing everything gradually, and find that despite trying again she just immediately gives up sleeping. This is the 3rd day and I'm not sure if I should continue
Hi there Tia. Sorry to hear you're struggling. Please check out our 8 month old sleep guide here --> www.babysleepmadesimple.com/how-to-beat-the-8-month-sleep-regression
This will help you understand what to expect from your LO's sleep at this age, plus it's got many tips on how to get them sleeping better at night.
Also, if you haven’t already, you can sign up for our free Exhausted Mom’s Survival Kit, a step by step guide that will help you create healthy sleep habits for your baby, create a bedtime routine, set the right bedtime and help your LO sleep better day & night, overall.
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/exhausted-moms-survival-kit
Try implementing these tips for a few days and then let us know how things work out. Good luck. Panagiota, BSMS Support Team
How's it going
Hi! Thank you for your super insightful and helpful videos :)
My recently turned 5 month old baby is EBF and has been sleeping in her own room/crib since about 3 months (previously we co-slept). She naps pretty adequately throughout the day and is quite active during her awake times. She also, for most part sleeps through the night and occasionally (quite rarely though) wakes up in the middle of the night to feed.
My situation is, I’d like to wean off nursing her to fall asleep so that she can really learn how to soothe herself back asleep and to start her bedtime routine earlier. Currently we give her a bath at ~8:30 and then I nurse her from 8:45/9-10. 10 is when she’s fast asleep and I put her down in her crib and she sleeps in till about 6:30-7am.
I know it’s really not a terrible situation to be in, but I’d really like to get my evenings back if possible.
TL;DR : 5 month old baby EBF. I’d really like to: 1) wean off baby nursing to fall asleep and 2) be able to start her bedtime earlier (which I know is just an adjustment on our part to get back to getting used to having to feed her 1-2 night since we’re putting her down earlier).
Would really appreciate your advice :)
Hi Patricia.
Here is a link to your FREE exhausted mum's survival kit where you will get information to help with all of these issues.
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/exhausted-moms-survival-kit
Clare, BSMS Support Team
Hi does this method work for a baby who I give bottle to nap. Baby is 5 months, I can give him 5-7 oz and if the bottle does not stay in mouth he will not fall asleep on his own. I know he’s tired and he gets fussy and cries until I give him more milk to nap. He does not want a paci.
Hello Cindy! Check out our 5 month old sleep guide for helpful sleep tips! You can also implement some of the weaning tips for your LO once the pediatrician says it is okay to drop some feedings! Alyssa, BSMS Support Team
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/sleep-training-5-month-old-baby-tips
Would that work for a one month old baby? Or when can this be started?
It is still so normal to feed your little one to sleep at this age. Please don't worry about developing bad habits when your LO is this young :)
Clare, BSMS Support Team
My baby cries if I put her down DBA, probably because of a feeding association so I’ll try to break that first and pat/sway her to sleep and then I’ll introduce simply putting her in the crib?
Hi,
you can absolutely try to break the feeding association first, and then introduce simply putting her in the crib.
However, if you want some support doing this, our program tells you how to do both at the same time in a gentle way that suits your child's personality:
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/baby-sleep-consultant/
We would love to see you in the program!
I hope to be working with you soon,
Artemis, BSMS Support Team
how do i get my baby to stop co sleeping? he is almost 6 months old, ebf, and needs to be nursing to go to sleep. no matter how many times i try to put him in his crib (right next to my bed) he screams and screams until i pick him up. in the night he will wake up and need me to nurse him to fall back asleep. i know i need to break the sleep associations but how do i do it without him screaming for hours? it seems like he will never ever be able to sleep without me right there and nursing him :(
Hey Emma,
Here is our video on transitioning from co-sleeping to the crib: ua-cam.com/video/EkRl4eDpcQQ/v-deo.html
Our program can also help get your little one sleeping independently.
Our program has 4 step-by-step methods that walk you through teaching your baby how to settle to sleep on their own, which will show them how to resettle during night wakings too. It also covers reducing and fully weaning off night feeds. With 3 of our sleep training methods you stay with your baby as you teach them to sleep better. You don't have to leave the room if you don't want to. And you can choose a slower, more gradual method to reduce your baby's resistance, fussing, and crying. We can't promise "no tears" but you can work to minimize baby's resistance. We also accommodate for your baby's temperament too. Each lesson has tips on tweaking the steps to suit your baby's energy levels, sensitivity, and adaptability. We are confident we can get you and your baby sleeping great. Click this link --> babysleepmadesimple.com/get-help-now
Clare, BSMS Support Team
How can I wean my 7 month old baby from nursing during nap time? I really need to go to work soon so I plan to wean her off during the day and nurse at night. Please help meee
Hi! Thank you for your message! The habit to use breastfeeding as a sleep aid is often connected on how you fall asleep otherwise. What do you do in the evenings? If you nurse in the evening as well, then our suggestion is to teach her how to fall asleep on her own, this will lead to her STTN and thus improving sleep all around. Our program, 21 Days to Peace & Quiet offers 4 different step-by-step methods for you to choose from (from super gentle & gradual to quick & efficient.) Each step of the way you get advice based on your baby’s developmental stage, energy levels, and temperament.
The program costs $197 now, but you should know that in just a few weeks' time Jilly's updated program will be out and it will have a $97 DIY option.
Jilly is currently on maternity leave. As of October 1st she will be answering questions in our private Facebook group 2 times per week. (In the DIY option you do it all yourself. There's no messaging option or Facebook group. BUT you get all the same information and resources and can definitely get your baby sleeping great.)
In general, when you are 100% consistent in following the steps of the program, your baby will be sleeping great at night within 1-3 weeks. It depends on the method you choose as well as your baby's adaptability. But we cover all of this in the program!
You enroll on this page: www.babysleepmadesimple.com/21-days-to-peace-quiet-program
I hope this isn't too confusing. Happy to answer any questions you have about the program.
Have a great day! / Leena, BSMS Support Team
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Hello new subbie! I know I am a bit late but I just stumbled on your video at the right time! Valueable info but I do have a question!! My toddler just turned 19 months and still breastfeeds (I know some ppl think that's too long & he breastfeeds less during the day as he has gotten older so its easier for me when its nap time) but at night he still wants to co-sleep and breastfeed. He used to stay asleep while co sleeping throughout the night but now (maybe in the last few months) he wakes up if I am a not there and I breastfeed him back to sleep. Is it too late for me? lol he cries FOREVER when I attempt to put him in his crib to fall asleep or if I put him after he is already sleeping in my bed--more screaming and it breaks my heart. Pls advise if you can! thank you so much In advance
Hi Danielle! Thanks for reaching out. First of all, it's never too late!! It sounds like your little guy just needs to learn some independent sleep skills so that he knows how to put himself back to sleep without needing something from you :) . I would highly recommend our 21 Days to Peace & Quiet program. It offers a variety of sleep training approaches that fit a variety of parenting philosophies. Here is the link: www.babysleepmadesimple.com/baby-sleep-consultant. Please let us know if you have any questions! Best, Ingrid BSMS Support Team
Hi what did you end up doing? My 14 month old cries like he is being physically beaten if he doesn’t get breastfed at night. We have a townhome so I can’t do the cry it out methods.
Would this work with a 14 month old toddler?
Absolutely! I know how stressful it can be to try and figure out baby sleep! I have two girls of my own 🙂 This is why we created the 21 Days to Peace and Quiet program. We have created a step-by-step program to take the guessing game out of it for parents. We will teach you the strategies to use to teach your LO to fall asleep independently at bedtime. When your LO can do this, then you will see those night wakings significantly decrease! Your entire family will be sleeping better in no time.
Click HERE to learn more about our sleep program-->www.babysleepmadesimple.com/21-days-to-peace-and-quiet-personal-support
Reach out if you have any questions!
Hi! We’ve tried to put the baby in his crib and shushing him for 10 minutes, but he just keeps crying instead of settling down. Are we suposedly to let him cry it out longer? In the end we always carry him and continue nursing him to sleep again. He’s 4 mo next week.
Hello,
Babies at this age are notorious for going through a sleep regression. It is a completely normal part of brain development, but will often pass in 2 weeks! Check out these resources for helpful tips!
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/4-month-old-not-sleeping
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/4-month-sleep-regression-tips-video
Best,
Alyssa, BSMS Support Team
@@Babysleepmadesimple Thanks for responding. He actually went through the sleep regression a few weeks ago. I'm reading through yout survival kit right now. Do you have tips on stopping sleep associations too? :)
@@melodyvt You can start to do this through our program once your LO reaches 5 months of age. Our program teaches your LO to fall asleep independently: www.babysleepmadesimple.com/21-days-to-peace-quiet-program
Clare, BSMS Support Team
Thank you so much for your video . My baby is 7 months old. What do you do when she wakes up in the middle of the night and crys screams ? She is used to sleep with me on the bed attached to the boob .
So sorry to hear this, you must be exhausted!
For little ones with night wakings, we've developed a unique program that helps babies sleep through the night peacefully, all night long.
Here is the link:
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/baby-sleep-consultant/
We would love to help you get your daughter sleeping amazingly!
Artemis, BSMS Support Team
Hi, my baby is 9 months old. He will only feed in a dark room with the white noise on before bed. If i try and feed him in the lounge he will not feed…. The moment i go into the dark bedroom he feeds. How can i get him to feed anywhere but a dark room with white noise?
This age can be really hard as they are SO distracted.
I would gradually put the lights on (just dimly) and then turn down the white noise.
We can also help you with changing the feeding to sleep association in our course 21 days to Peace and Quiet by teaching your LO to fall asleep independently:
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/baby-sleep-consultant
Let us know if you have any questions,
Clare, BSMS Support Team
What is they start to cry during sush pay ?
We cover this in our program! There are different methods/steps that can be used when your LO is crying. Methods vary based on your LO's personality and temperament. We would love to help you step by step!
CLICK HERE to learn more-->www.babysleepmadesimple.com/baby-sleep-consultant
What do I do if I sleep next to my baby and nurse to sleep and I want to stop nursing.. dad is working when is baby bed time.
Hello! Check out our night weaning guide here for a step by step guide! Alyssa, BSMS Support Team
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/weaning-night-feedings
Will this work for a co-sleeping nursing toddler?
This is a better video for you:
ua-cam.com/video/wjBuGCrEFug/v-deo.html&ab_channel=BabySleepMadeSimple
Good luck!
Artemis, BSMS Support Team
Hi! New subscriber here! Thanks for this video but I have a question. My boy is turning 5 months old on the 12th. When he was a month and a half he knows how to self soothe to sleep and fall asleep on his own but when he turned 3 months old until now that he is almost 5 months old, it changed. He only fall asleep when he's breastfeeding and he doesn't want to remove the boobies on his mouth and we're co-sleeping BTW. Any help that I can do? And I'm planning to sleep train him also..
Hi mama!
We usually recommend sleep training around 5-6 months old, because there are major developmental leaps that happen before that age that could disrupt the process. So if you can, I'd recommend hanging tight for a little while longer before you start sleep training. However there are still tips and routines that you can implement right now. Wait no more! Here is a link to our FREE EXHAUSTED MOM's SURVIVAL KIT and a general sleep guide for your little one's age. It will help you understand your LO's current developmental stage and the affect on sleep and what you can expect from your LO right now.
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/exhausted-moms-survival-kit
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/4-month-sleep-regression-tips-video
Best of luck! Leena, BSMS Support Team
Thanks for the response! 😊 Highly appreciated ❤
Sounds reasonable. No cry out, thanks god
There are definitely many ways to teach your LO to fall asleep independently! Definitely reach out to us at support@babysleepmadesimple.com if you are interested in learning about the methods we use in our 21 Days to Peace and Quiet sleep program.
What can I do in place of a bath? My girl hates baths she screams so much even at 1 year old 😔
I'd try to make bath time fun by including her in the process. Ask her which soap, towel, and toys she wants in the bath. Have her walk in herself (as much time as it may take). Maybe blow some bubbles to make it even more special.
For days she's not having it at all, wipe her down with some gentle wet wipes but also make this fun - sing a song and be playful.
I hope this helps. If you want more advice AND also get your little one sleeping through the night, you can learn more here:
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/baby-sleep-consultant/
Artemis, BSMS Support Team
Hi there, could this advise apply to a 3 week old? Or is it normal for them to be reliant on milk to get to sleep
Hi, and thanks for your question! It's very normal for a newborn to rely on milk to fall asleep. No need to change a thing at this point :) Enjoy your new baby!
Kind regards, Ingrid, BSMS Support Team
@@Babysleepmadesimple many thanks for your reply. Would there be a rough age where you would try to change that?
@@hindsy90 Yes! At 4-5 months old babies are ready to learn how to fall asleep without relying on milk.
We help parents do this every day in our program here:
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/baby-sleep-consultant/
You can still keep your night feeds and daytime feeds of course, we'll just teach you how to get your child falling asleep independently.
Can't wait to see you in the program!
Artemis, BSMS Support Team
I need help big time my baby girl is 8 months and she doesn't sleep threw the night she wants to sleep when i nurse her when i latch her off she wakes up crying
Hello! Check out these resources for helpful tips! Alyssa, BSMS Support Team
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/how-to-beat-the-8-month-sleep-regression
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/exhausted-moms-survival-kit
Ik this video is a little old but I started doing feedings earlier and my 1 year old still feeds before she is ready to sleep so I dont see the sense in doing the earlier feeds anymore😩 i am at a lost
Hello Rasheda,
Thanks for your message! It is okay if your little one is still nursing/feeding before bed, but just try to have that feeding session be at an earlier part of your bedtime routine. It's best to not let your little one fall asleep while feeding just because every time they wake up in the middle of the night, they will expect to feed to fall back asleep. I am attaching a link to our one year old sleep guide which has helpful sleep tips! I am also attaching our weaning night feeds guide :) Good luck! /Alyssa, BSMS Support Team
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/1-year-old-sleep-tips-toddler www.babysleepmadesimple.com/weaning-night-feedings
@@Babysleepmadesimple thank you for your quick response! I will check out the links you sent me😊
Would this work for a 10 month old and how will i know the difference between hunger and him just wanting to be nursed?
Hello Alicia, Thank you for your post! Check out our 10 month old sleep guide for helpful tips! I would check with your LO's pediatrician. If your LO is doing well with weight gain, he probably doesn't need any night feeds at 10 months, and nursing to sleep could be more of an association. Let me know if you have any questions about the guide! Best, Alyssa, BSMS Support Team
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/sleep-training-10-month-old
Hi! My baby is going to turn 9 months and she is used to me picking up at night from her crib to co-sleep while falling asleep with a bottle. I dont know how I will make her fall asleep on her own in her crib! :-( but Im on the waiting list for your program. Im doing the night routine but she refuses to eat before story time. Keep doing it?
Hi Karen! You can feed her with the lights on before placing her in the crib until the program starts again. Just make sure that she doesn't use you to fall asleep, so keep her awake and unlatch when she starts closing her eyes. Then when the program starts, you can fully start sleep training.
As to co-sleeping:
When making big changes to your LO’s sleep routine, We prefer taking time to spread out the steps. Moving gradually leads to less resistance and tears from your baby.
👉 So this is an example of how you can gently and gradually transition out of co-sleeping:
① Move a few feet away from baby in your bed. Spend 1-2 nights sleeping with some distance between the two of you. This gets your baby used to NOT sleeping right next to your body. An easy way to do this is to scoot away after baby has fallen asleep.
⓶ Put baby’s crib (or a Pack n Play) next to your bed and have your LO sleep there. (You’ll probably have to place him in there already asleep.) After each night waking, once he’s fallen asleep, gently transfer him to the crib. If he can spend any amount of time sleeping in the crib the first few nights, that’s a win!
③ Move baby’s crib to his bedroom once he’s spending the majority of the night sleeping there. Most babies and parents sleep better in their own rooms, because they don’t wake each other up. Use a video monitor so you can check on your LO.
④ Begin sleep training (if needed.) Your baby is now sleeping in his crib, in his own bedroom! The way to get him easily settling himself to sleep and sleeping all night is by beginning sleep training.
Also try the tips in this guide:
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/9-month-old-wont-sleep
Hang in there! The program will open soon and you'll get notified when it re-opens :) / Leena, BSMS Support Team
My baby is 2.5 month old.. I noticed she needs my breast to fall a sleep. But I was told to breast feed on demand.. How can I do this? We do a side lying every Night.. we co sleep by the way.. Is getting a toll on me since even naps she needed me as well...
Hi Rachel, you can breastfeed on demand but try to keep your baby awake while feeding. Once baby's feeding pattern slows and her eyes start to close, gently remove her from the breast and burp her. Then place her down to fall asleep. It's ok if she's drowsy going into the bed. She's still young. Many babies younger than 5 months need to be helped to a drowsy state. Here's my guide on helping your 2 month old sleep more independently.
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/how-to-help-2-month-old-baby-sleep-well
Good luck! / Leena, BSMS Support Team
I am Feeding my baby to sleep for bed time and for naps. She is 11 months old and She still cosleeps, Because the minute I put her in the crib, She cries and keeps waking up. I started following your bed time routine, but we do books then Feeding and Sleeping. I would Like to change it Like you suggested - to put the books time after the feed. However, it is hard for me to feed in sitting position, we usually lay down in my bed and that’s how she ends up sleeping too. The problem is she would nurse few minutes then stops, gets distracted and then continues to eat. This goes on for one hour and then she falls asleep. If I take her to her crib awake, she keeps crying and I take her out thinking she did not eat enough.
What do you suggest? Should I not feed her in my bed or should she only have limited time to eat?
This is very exhausting during nap times, because it takes 1 hour to put her to sleep and then she would sleep only 30 min.
Hello Nina and thank you for your message! I would recommend not feeding her in your bed and trying to feed her elsewhere. You can do a quick book before naps and bedtime once she is done nursing. This will help your daughter break the nursing sleep association. It may take a couple weeks for the transition, but your little one will really benefit from learning how to fall asleep on her own!! Alyssa, BSMS Support Team
Hey how’s it going with your daughter now? I’m in the same situation with my son who’s 9 months now and just wondering if they ever just... get off the boob and in their beds in their own, no cryfest. Thanks
We are in the same situation with 15 month old. Any help would be appreciated.
What do you do if you put 18 month old girl into her Stokke cot bed without her wailing?
Hello! It is SO tough to hear our toddlers crying at bedtime! Is your LO falling asleep independently? This can often be the key to solving this problem because your LO will learn to get comfortable in the crib.
We can definitely help you get your LO’s sleep on track and get your entire family sleeping better! We can provide the best support to your family in our 21 Days to Peace & Quiet program.
In this program we offer 4 step-by-step sleep training methods. You choose the one that feels best for your LO. We have super gentle & gradual all the way to quick & efficient. Each step of the way you get advice based on your baby’s developmental stage, energy levels, and temperament.
Two of our package options include personalized support and I find this to be so beneficial during the sleep training journey! Jilly and members of our support team answer questions 7 days a week in our private FB group and we host 3 Zoom calls per week! You will always feel like you have the support you need every step of the way.
You can find out more info on the program here: www.babysleepmadesimple.com/21-days-to-peace-quiet-program
When you are 100% consistent in following the steps of the program, your baby will be sleeping amazingly within 1-3 weeks. It depends on the method you choose as well as your baby's adaptability, but we cover all of this in the program!
Happy to answer any questions you have. We hope we get the chance to help you and your LO on this sleep journey!
Have a great day!
Alyssa, BSMS Support Team
@@Babysleepmadesimple Not sleeping by herself. She’s been co sleeping 2 months old
Is it ok to leave the room and just come in every 5 minutes or so?
Hello!
It is okay to leave the room and come back to check in on your little one. We provide a step by step guide with the proper timing intervals in our 21 Days to Peace and Quiet program! Check out the details here. We would LOVE to help you!
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/21-days-to-peace-quiet-program
Best, Alyssa, BSMS Support Team
What if baby keeps fussing or crying? Trying everything
Hello! It can be SO exhausting when you are trying everything and it isn't working. We would love to help. How old is your LO? Best, Alyssa, BSMS Client Support Manager
Hi i have an question. I hope you can help us. From the beginning I did not breastfeed my baby to sleep because i wanted my hustband to be able to put him to bed. It worked until a few weeks back. My Baby is now 5 month old and he suddenly doesnt want his dad to put him to bed. He screams so hard, he starts coughing. Do you have an idea how we can help him?
It sounds like the 4 month sleep regression (it can come a little late for some babies.) This regression is caused by a BIG development in your baby's brain which changes his sleep patterns. Often, babies become a bit harder to settle or wake more often. It's normal for things to suddenly change like this (although super frustrating!)
The best thing you can do is (re)start a consistent and healthy sleep foundation for your baby. What's great about your baby going through this development is that he now has the ability to learn to settle himself to sleep and sleep long stretches. We just have to show him how.
I'd start with making sure my bedtime routine and bedtime are helping my baby relax and fall asleep (rather than preventing it.) I go over this in my free Exhausted Mom's Survival Kit. I walk you through exactly what to do at bedtime to set your baby up to settle easier and sleep better.
You can sign up for it here: www.babysleepmadesimple.com/exhausted-moms-survival-kit
Good luck!
Jilly
My baby breastfeeds and sleeps .
Next to me all night and when he naps i have to be next to him he cries so much if i leave him in a cot without me Help he is 8 months
Hi! Aww poor thing! that sounds exhausting and heartbreaking! It does sound like you and your LO could benefit from breaking that sleep association. If your LO learns how to fall asleep independently, he will STTN. I'm 100% confident that at this age it can be done! I will link the age appropriate guide for you with plenty of sleep tips for 8 month olds, as well as a link to our program, 21 Days to Peace & Quiet. Jilly has helped hundreds of exhausted parents all around the world get their babies sleeping well, so they can get their energy back and start feeling like themselves again. So they can enjoy all the little things with their families. We'd love to help you, too!
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/how-to-beat-the-8-month-sleep-regression
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/21-days-to-peace-quiet-program
I'd be happy to answer any questions about the program. Good luck! / Leena, BSMS Support Team
@@Babysleepmadesimple thank you x
@@Babysleepmadesimple
Thank you.....
Kindly, How much does it cost?
@@doniadonia3115 The program costs $197 now, but you should know that in just a few weeks' time Jilly's updated program will be out and it will have a $97 DIY option.
Jilly is currently on maternity leave. As of October 1st she will be answering questions in our private Facebook group 2 times per week. (In the DIY option you do it all yourself. There's no messaging option or Facebook group. BUT you get all the same information and resources and can definitely get your baby sleeping great.)
In general, when you are 100% consistent in following the steps of the program, your baby will be sleeping great at night within 1-3 weeks. It depends on the method you choose as well as your baby's adaptability. But we cover all of this in the program!
I hope this isn't too confusing. Happy to answer any questions you have about the program.
Have a great day! / Leena, BSMS Support Team
My son is 5 months but he doesn’t like me carrying him while feeding he only likes to feed side lying which he falls asleep I can’t make him eat without falling asleep :(
Hello! Check out our 5 month old sleep guide for some helpful sleep tips! Alyssa, BSMS Support Team
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/sleep-training-5-month-old-baby-tips
As soon as my baby is in the crib. She screams had and for a long time. I pay her bum and shush her and she screams louder. After that she starts to gag and freak out. Once it’s 2am and I’ve had my limit I take her out and just nurse her to sleep to get a couple hour sleep myself.
Hi Nikki,
I completely understand. You must be exhausted!
We can help you get your baby sleeping peacefully all night in our program:
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/baby-sleep-consultant/
Can't wait to help you get your nights back.
Artemis, BSMS Support Team
Hi what if baby cries if i just try to soothe her without feeding?
Definitely check out our sleep program! We have 4 different sleep methods to choose from and each method will help your LO learn to fall asleep independently without any sleep associations! Alyssa, BSMS Support Team www.babysleepmadesimple.com/21-days-to-peace-quiet-program
Will try that thanks hope it will works
My baby can only fall asleep in stroller outside, but can only KEEP sleeping nursing. So it doesn't have to do with "association" because no matter how he falls asleep he will eventually, in his sleep, search for the breast to keep sleeping. So he wakes me up 8-15 times per night. If he wakes up completely we need to start over and go out in the stroller no matter weather, just so that he can fall asleep in the stroller and 15-40 minutes later wake up searching for the breast and then I move him to my bed... He is 8 months, its not a phase he has always done that, he is also a high need baby. So I don't understand what to do anymore 😔
I'm really sorry to hear this, you must both be exhausted.
But don't worry, we help parents overcome this issue every day in our sleep program:
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/baby-sleep-consultant
We'll be happy to have you join & help you. You get 15% off when you use the coupon code '2022'!
Hoping to be in touch soon,
Artemis, BSMS Support Team
Wow, 8-15 times? What ended up happening?? I’m so curious now that it’s been a year
Very helpful however it's the only way I can manage. All three of my babies have been a pain at sleeping. All ended up breastfeeding to sleep. Whenever I move they scream and hunt for boob. Does it not matter so much at nap time throughout the day? I have two other kids aged 7&4 downstairs whilst trying to get my 6m old to sleep so it's added pressure. Il lay in my bed with him feeding him approx half hr then he wil fall asleep then I sneak away and he realises and screams... So I go back and have to offer boob again. Then it repeats....
I completely understand, Michelle. It's not easy, especially as a mom of three!
Our program can actually go into more detail of how to help teach your little one independent sleep.
We also have a 15% discount now when you use the coupon code '2022' at checkout. We'd love to help you in our program!
Here is the link:
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/baby-sleep-consultant
Good luck!
Artemis, BSMS Support Team
We should do a live stream video chat
Hi Jenn, we would love to chat with you! If you have any question feel free to send us an email at support@babysleepmadesimple.com or you can sign up here and learn more about what the program covers: www.babysleepmadesimple.com/baby-sleep-consultant
We look forward to supporting your family!
All the best,
Kathlene
BSMS Support Team
Hi mam!
My baby is 1 and half months now.
He didn't sleep properly..
He sleeps only when i breastfeed him.
And after he sleep i remove my breast and put him ond bed after 10 mins he wakes up crying.. what should i do?
I know English little bit but i can understand please adjust my English
Hello,
Thank you so much for reaching out to us and congratulations on your newest addition! The first few weeks can be so challenging and exhausting with sleep all over the place. It does get better; I promise!
Babies aren’t developmentally ready to learn how to fall asleep independently until they turn 5 months old. However, there are plenty of tips and tricks that can be implemented during the newborn stage to help improve sleep! I would highly recommend reading about these strategies in our newborn guide attached below. www.babysleepmadesimple.com/newborn-sleep-schedule
It can also be really helpful to chat with a sleep consultant! I offer 45-minute consultations on Zoom. My call includes a personalized sleep plan for your little one and a follow-up email to answer any future questions. You can sign up using the link below!
programs.babysleepmadesimple.com/30-minutes-private-consultation-checkout/
Please do not hesitate to reach out if you have any questions about our resources. We are here to support your family!
Best,
Alyssa, BSMS Client Support Manager
My baby is 3 month old and he finds comfort in sleeping on my breast .. he sleeps while feeding and when I put him in crib after he wakes up .. pl help
Hello! Check out our 3 month old sleep guide for helpful tips! Alyssa, BSMS Support Team
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/3-month-old-sleep-schedule
This is based on the assumption that I have a “routine”. I’m pretty sure I’ve never done the same thing twice in my entire life.
How do you start establishing a routine without setting yourself up for failure?
-ADHD mom
Hi, my loved ones have ADHD so I understand and can relate. Although it may feel difficult, I've found that routines are especially beneficial for ADHD.
I don't like 'crash course sleep training', instead what works best is starting first to set a foundation for healthy sleep and building on that. That's how I structure my sleep programs. Baby steps.
Let me know how old your LO (or LOs) are and I'll send over more specific details.
Here's my proven sleep program for 5-24 months: www.babysleepmadesimple.com/baby-sleep-consultant
Baby screaaams if I’m rocking and not feeding her at bedtime. Uuuugh it’s so hard
Hi Ashley! Yes, that can be so hard and frustrating! How old is your little one?
Best,
Ingrid, BSMS Support Team
He just cry’s as soon as I read him a book. He either wants to be feed or asleep on me.
The real question is how do you get the baby to go from feed to other quite activity without crying before bed. And god if I put him in his bed awake hates it.
Our program gives step by step guides on how to do this :)
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/21-days-to-peace-quiet-program
Clare, BSMS Support Team
The problem is even my baby just wake up, as soon as I nurse her, she falls asleep
This is definitely a problem that plagues many families! How old is your little one?
@@Babysleepmadesimple shes 3 months now and already grew out of it. Thanks
My son’s dad wants to nurse him to sleep. I’m so tired of it!!! I just don’t want to do it anymore. My son is 7 mos old rn. It’s hard since we co-sleep. He doesn’t have a crib that has a good mattress to sleep in. 😩😫😭
Hello! It can be SO difficult when our LO's want to nurse to sleep--so truly exhausting! I have been there-twice! Your LO is really at a great age now to learn how to break free from all sleep associations and fall asleep independently in his own crib! We would love to help you and can walk you step by step through the process in our 21 Days to Peace and Quiet program. Please check out the program details below and let me know if you have any questions! Best, Alyssa, BSMS Support Team
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/21-days-to-peace-quiet-program