Psychopaths can make good surgeons apparently like Professor Stephen Westaby. He was nicknamed "Jaws" for his ability to carry out limb amputations flawlessly. He claims his psychopathy allowed him to take more risks than comrades in order to pioneer new forms of surgery. His book "The Knife’s Edge" makes a fascinating read!
😂I faked being into cars so much, that in the end I knew more about it, than the dude I wanted to impress, and after we ended things, he said that it made him insecure.
Lol I actually studied cars just to have something to talk to him about that would actually keep him interested and he pretty much said the same thing. 😂
As an empath who once went through a year of unemployment and a million job interviews, many of which were stretched out over weeks at a time only to have recruiters vanish on me and never respond, I have to say that your story about doing to companies what they essentially do to job candidates is delightful 🤣😂
Yeah, I honestly didn't think that was a big deal. I wish more people had the guts to pull something like that. It would really keep some of these companies on their toes.
@@EEsUA-camChanel yes but since men have a higher percentage you could say it's their main hormone, you see it in trans men when they start testosterone their personality shifts a bit, increased libido etc
i'm a female psychopath and i agree. for example, if i were to ever marry, it would be to a man that was stupid rich and loved/adored/cherished me -- what more could a girl want? love isn't really part of the equation, it's all about what I can get from him.
@@shaqeeras625 true. It’s like if someone is ruthless, they don’t care about people’s feelings, but if someone is really ruthless, they make it a point to be caring (or at least seemingly so).
It doesn't matter if it's sexual or not, cheating is cheating when ur in a relationship already with someone,how would you like it if you was with someone and they cheated on u....
When I was studying psych, I always hated how ASPD were written off as being a lost cause. I bet way more research is needed and maybe the best people to do it are people with ASPD with a genuine interest in understanding themselves
I'm basically the person you're describing -- I'm not a scientist though. I'm doing a profile on myself and trying to understand why I'm the way I am. Before I learnt I had ASPD, I studied other famous diagnosed Antisocials
I mean, for someone to accept treatment for ASPD or NPD, they have to accept that they have a problem and want to work on it. Guess which disorders are characterised by the people having them assuming that they are awesome, it's everyone ELSE who has a problem.
Stay Positive. I wouldn't be surprised if the threats came from other narcissists that felt threaten or vulnerable after hearing your story. I think its all fair game which is probably why I am a subscriber. You are helping me see my narcissistic tendancies and the tendacies of others. Its crazy but I really need your vids. The only negative to it is I think its mutual validation for viewer and the presenter.
@Natasha Warden those who are making death threats are men who have an inflated ego & minimize women. They think they have the right to verbally or physically hurt them... Possibly they maybe on the low functioning NPD spectrum.
ASPD personalities can still feature anxiety. In my experience it is more of a fight or flight response that has been triggered by something that subconsciously reminded you of past trauma rather than the everyday social anxiety that ppl experience because they constantly worry about the future or they worry about what ppl think and feel about them etc. I've had panic attacks not even knowing what triggered it and I thought I was having a heart attack. But I totally agree that you can use your lack of anxiety to advance your career. Ppl should turn traits that are seen as negative into positives. A high tolerance for chaos, low neuroticism etc are definitely favourable in some careers that involve risk taking.
IMPORTANT: If men didn't WANT women to come to them for money, they would pay us equally. Instead, money is, and has always been, deliberately distributed inequitably between men and women. Men are given higher pay. This is for a reason: so that they can get women, and beget a family. Therefore, women actually need - by design - to come to men for money. Because they are holding most of ours. We're not "parasitic" in any way, shape, or form: most women I know would prefer Never to have to ask a man for money. But we are given no choice. In the USA, women earn sixty-seven cents to every dollar a man makes. When salary, benefits, pensions, retirement, 401K etc are all taken into account, there are multi-millions denied to women over a lifetime, despite a woman has more work/more jobs than men. No more talk about women being "parasitic" --- it's MEN who are, always have been - parasitic on women, they gain free labor, and cheap labor, out of us, while paying themselves the difference. IMPORTANT: If men didn't WANT women to come to them for money, they would pay us equally.
women earn less on average because they choose lower paying careers. if you ever plan on having kids like most women and raising them yourself instead of pawning them off onto a nanny so you can get back to your career to keep proving you can do anything a man can do even at the expense of your own happiness and your family's you should be happy men dominate the higher paying careers.
@@pancakerepairman family is not 'happiness' for all women. MANY women are miserable because they were talked into having a family. But keep proving you are a single cell organism. We don't have to prove 'we can do anything a man can' do, because we can, bar physical strength limitations.
OMG I think the lack of anxiety is like a superpower, I wish I could experience at least a day without it, can you make a video describing what it is like not to have anxiety at all?
The job stories are actually good on you! Companies don't care about employees any more than they do the tech they use to do the job. If an employee dies, their job will be posted the next day, so your attitude is actually the right one to have.
@@ines3770 Similar thinking here. I'm troubled by the seeming belief held by ambitious women trying to climb the corporate ladder and advance in capitalist societies that they need to embrace and emulate the worst toxic qualities of the sociopathic men who have preceded them. The culture won't change if women abandon those feminine qualities that need to be brought to the table.
@@RTDF516 As a woman, it's very hard to keep feminine virtues in the workplace. You will get fucked over. Only toxic feminine traits are helpful in the workplace unfortunatly... (Manipulation, promiscuity, duplicity, following the crowd)
Your videos are making me come to terms with my own sociopathic/narc behavior. Thank you for sharing, lots of sociopath narc content is from a male perspective and this is super enlightening.
@@emilyd4187 I’ve been seeing psychiatrists continually since I was a child. Note that I said sociopathic and narcissistic BEHAVIOR. I don’t meet the diagnostic criteria for personality disorders, but I have some traits (like lots of people do) and find it useful to gain perspective and context from people with similar traits and behaviors that exceed my own.
Thanks so much for your videos. While I don't have personality disorders myself, as a writer I often write characters with disorders. You are enabling me to make them far less stereotypical and more human. I hope my readers will have more compassion for them, thanks to you, and will treats others with personality disorders like human beings with valid feelings, like all of us are.
Some people with this diagnosis do have anxiety issues. I was reading about an arsonist who set more than 300 fires over +20 years. This guy said he would see an attractive man on the street and follow him to find out where he lived. The man was too shy to ask these guys on a date, so he would set fire to their homes instead.
My parents are such amazing ppl that they BOTH took advantage of my artistic ability & had me forging their signatures my whole child life. Very confusing as a child knowing it was a federal offense & being emotionally coerced into performing such a personal task for them. I used to wonder why I was so antisocial but over the last 5 years, I realized I’ve had a thick codependency the entire time. It’s taken a lot of root healing but I’m finally at the point where I’ve reaffirmed my worth & developed that root attachment with my self since my parents couldn’t be bothered. Much love Kanika 💋💋 love your channel.
She really said "this is my experience being a female sociopath" and then proceeded to ask that we donate so that we can trust that she'll donate the money to a children's charity 😂🤡
I think it’s amazing that you are so knowledgeable and insightful about your condition and how it effects your relationships. You are able to articulate the complexity of your experience while holding yourself accountable. Your undaunted bravery in revealing your behavior and confronting yourself is seriously helping people! Your courage has ignited an openness to grow in our collective understanding of pathology. People are commenting about finding an accepting community where they feel understood and can finally confront the complexity of their own lives. Thank you. I have loved many people with personality disorders and it’s taken a lifetime to get to the other side of -the pain of it all. Here is the best definition I have ever heard of what Love is - Love is the deepest level of understanding.
tysm for ur videos. im diagnosed with mixed personality disorder and im trying to pinpoint whats up with my psychiatrist and i have a feeling its npd/aspd so its so so nice to finally have resources on aspd/npd without it being chock-full of ‘abusive serial killer evil demon narcopath’ shit. so tysm genuinely.
I'm not sure I've noticed any woman with ASPD, could be my lack of education. The males with ASPD that I've know haven't been all out malicious or even aggressive but have consistently shown a lack of remorse and anxiety, though one was definitely wanting the world to be a better place which confused people. I love you mission of education, discussion and community. So awesome!
I cant remember if I commented this before, but I would die for a podcast of you talking about these things in long form and maybe even having chats with other cluster B folks. im autistic but i often feel like certain traits you describe could apply to me too.
I want to tell you how very proud I am of you. I hope you don’t take that as condescending or patronizing because you really are a remarkable human being. I’m also a lot older than you so maybe I see it from that perspective as being an older person with borderline personality disorder with and with other complicating mental health issues. You are a role model for a lot of people and advocating for some of the most vulnerable people of our society is Hard work and you’re doing it, sometimes at A great cost to you. You also nailed it when you said that standards for women with psychopathy and sociopathy are much different in men’s and women are more vilified in many respects - - that’s true. All of my best to you
Cheating is still cheating. It doesn't matter if you're emotionally cheating or physically cheating or if you're male or female. You're betraying someone's trust, end of story. If you want to be with other people, you leave the relationship you're in first.
I think Lovebombing a Man isn't hard. You just act impressed, interested and give him compliments like: "Wow, you're so tall!" , "I see that you've worked out. Can you teach me?", " I love the color of your eyes" I could write more...lol Edit: I lovebomb my boyfriend all the time it comes out like "word vomit" (reference to Mean Girls) I don't do this intentionally. I worry that I annoy him and do this to much, but he is never annoyed.
Yes, I should’ve mentioned this in the video! Men like to be complimented on their physiques and sexual/dating prowess so the love bombing can include that. It’s usually reading the guy and finding out what information would be best in creating attraction and interest.
Wow when I followed a few months ago you had a few thousand subscribers now it’s at 27,000. Congrats! I’m not surprised your channel has grown so much you’re so interesting and informed
Why do women still have to be chained jus because we are in a sexual relationship?! Its so outrageous to me. How is sharing dinner with someone else "cheating"?! Men conduct themselves in a flirtatious, controlling manner wherever they get the opportunity. Love your work. Appreciate these insights.
First of all, Kanika is a sociopath so she is wanting us to adore her and she’s also a liar. I’m guessing the truth is somewhere in the middle. Point is, whether she is a dating cheater or a sexual cheater, this isn’t the Middle East and she shouldn’t have her life threatened or be threatened with rape over it. In the Bible Christ says, “he who is without sin may cast the first stone.” Signed, an empath
Because when a man goes on a date, he's hoping for a physical relationship to happen at some point. So even if that isn't what is on the woman's mind, it will still be seen in the context men would see it.
It's good of you to have this channel and teaching people to see the nuances so hopefully they're not so prejudiced, and I hope you inspire others with similar diagnosis. Keep up the good work!
You are an inspiration to me. I've been diagnosed with BPD and i am as unstable as it gets. And I watch your videos in youtube and i just admire the way you function. Please never stop telling your stories. Thank you Love!
I relate to you so much, I've never been able to hear anyone speak this way about us. I'm so very thankful your here. It is truely life changing. Thank you!
This is just a random thought that crossed my mind while I’ve been binging on your vids in a vain attempt to understand myself - I realized that being so misunderstood often causes me to want to try to truly understand everything I can about the people around me and the situations I find myself in. Of course, mirroring is generally used to cultivate some sort of persona that allows me to fluidly adapt. But it has also helped me understand a lot more about people and things that AREN’T myself. Ah I hope that makes even a little sense, I made the mistake of trying to think while multitasking. I appreciate you. You are making a difference. Thank you.
Damn, the stigma is real. The next video for me by youtube algorithm is literally "These are the sings of dating a psychopath". Please keep doing your videos. They are very important, because the humanizing information for antisocial disorder is rare. I am a not neurotypical myself(ASD) and I know how it feels when people see you as a cliche. For people with ASD there are more and more information available nowdays, I hope the same is going to happen with psycopaths and sociopaths.
This is why I love you guys. The ability to transcend what is considered normal by societal standards is really admirable. I learn a lot from you, Kanika.❤️
Can you discuss the challenges you experienced growing up with ASPD? Did you struggle socializing with other females? When did you start realizing you may have a personality disorder? Thank you for your videos! I'm sorry you experienced so much backlash for that article.
I started watching you yesterday and you already made me realize it is not my fault I am not a social person. Although I'm not a person with ASPD, I've been always socially awkward and seing that my way of going through social interactions is forgivable and I don't have to be "pro social" all the time is really refreshing.
I am the same but I have an anxiety disorder. For example, I got a job I really wanted and on the first day I just did not go. I told them I am really sick and then blocked them. I was super depressed about my fears and just did not want to deal with the consequences. I for sure also have some sort of personality disorder, probably avoidant, but it is interesting to see how similar BPD , avoidant and psychopaths can be.
I will say, the lack of anxiety isn't always a thing. I have ASPD and NPD and I have anxiety, though mine is related more towards my NPD. I don't have anxiety over future stuff, like money or jobs usually, but more in how others perceive me. I get bad anxiety and outright panic attacks sometimes if I think someone important (spouse, boss, career contact etc) sees me in a negative light, even a SLIGHTLY negative light. It makes arguments 100x worse because my partner even being a little annoyed will trigger anxiety, which then will trigger my anger.
I agree, many people with NPD and some with ASPD do suffer from anxiety, I think perhaps I’ve been an exception to the rule? It’s just not something I’ve ever dealt with, unlike depression.
@@KanikaBatra I'm sure there's others without anxiety as well, mental health gets all kinds of complicated! I just more wanted to point it out because some people do seem to think we don't get anxious (or depressed, for that matter) because they still tend to go with the inaccurate 'emotionless' idea of ASPD, and it can be frustrating at times. Like people think I can't be ASPD because I get anxiety, or they think I'm faking the anxiety because of my ASPD lol. Just wanted to make it clear they CAN be comorbid :)
Hey I’m just seeing your videos and I love them! I relate so much but no diagnosis. I also never had an ounce of anxiety until my first law school exam. And I felt my disorder shift a little. But law school is known to break a person down mentally so maybe I was put back together a bit differently . And I was lying to my therapist bc I didn’t want him to know my true weakness. I kind of want to know what’s up with me but I’m scared bc in US the diagnosis is public and that’s cringey. Also what if we are just geniuses lol
I wish in America there was more recognition of- ALL of this; a diagnosis here lol, they'd want to see me act theatrically-illegally wild. You're great for this, thank you!
Dehumanizing psychopaths and ASPD folk is the last great accepted thing you can attack. Hilariously done by so called 'empaths' across al social media. Not very empathic of them to attack people who for all intents and purposes are victims of often severe abuse. Many having brain damage. It's changing slowly though.
@@IsaacJ143 yeah but you have to admit that quite a lot of them had their lives turned upside down from the experience. It would be a challenge for many to balance their empathy and their resentment, even for the most empathic people
@@parmesanballz4631 I disagree. they are often self diagnosing their ex boyfriends with conditions they very probably don't have. If you throw yourself at someone's feet and act insanely dependent. Most people will be repulsed and throw you away. Women who are dependent need to stop blaming other people for their own attachment issues. It's not okay. Not everyone who doesn't want a sure thing mummy waiting at home is a psychopath. And not every psychopath abuses their partner. Even then. If you're an 'empath' at least don't dehumanize the condition.
@@IsaacJ143 Men do it too, believe me. It also goes for Narcissism, Bipolar disorder, and BPD, people need to stop diagnosing everyone they don't like, or everyone who doesn't like them... It had happened to me, exactly by an abusive person who pretended to be an empath lol.
Kanika, keep up the good work, you are breaking down barriers that are helping people who need to know they are not alone and they are not bad. My girlfriend and I are Super impressed by your boldness and bravery to be the change!
i suspect my boyfriend has aspd (so does he) and your videos have helped me understand his point of view a lot more when we disagree. he's a really wonderful and generous boyfriend but sometimes we can't see eye to eye. i am obbsesseeeddd with your channel, thanks for posting!
"Why don't we use our antisocial gifts for good?" I'm not woman but I was born female.(transgender) Because its easier to disregard, discard, etc. when you're an antisocial-path(unhealthy.) Because society works against you. You need more than humanity/society provides and allows you to have. (That is IF they allow you to have anything.) Because we are so deprived, we need MORE. When we meet a need, need rises drastically. Like, when you are starving, you get hungrier. For example, if you need wealth but you are born in a poor family, its easier to find someone who is rich, charm them, and make off with their money. Stealing works. Why would you do anything else if that's the case? Because its bad? Not based on your own merit or hardwork? What do you do if you have no merit? What do you do if you don't want to gain it? What if I don't want to use it to work hard and just want to have what I want? It's not like society will just hand it over willingly. They'll tell me I'm entitled. That I must've not suffered or lacked enough to be the way I am, because I'd be empathic and giving if I had. Instead, I want everything I want for myself. I feel I should have that. That people should support me having that. I think all the more reason BECAUSE I am harmful without it. Because I might have to kill someone to feel alive or present with someone because they would never be with me otherwise. Or because I might have to steal or take the things I want cuz I could never have them otherwise. I don't want to conform to social norms. I can't. I didn't even stop myself committing crimes from early childhood to follow the law. (That would'nt have been able to stop me being a predator.) If I want to be desired by multiple people, why can't I cheat? Relationships are different with different people. If I told the truth people would'nt accept/believe me anyways so why can't I lie/pretend? If I told people I don't know how to love or respect people. If I told them I usually feel more pleasure thinking about how I could harm you violently than any kind thing I've ever done. In fact, that bores me. Drains me of all satisfaction. I don't know how to commit in relationships. How to feel like I want to. Healthy consent is uncomfortable for me and I feel much more at home with objectification. I lack empathy. I don't feel the way you feel or react that way. I don't care, especially if you just expect me to know, get it, decipher signals. I'm manipulative and want to be in control of getting what I want. (Someone being nice to everyone is not reassuring to me, that they want to meet MY needs.) I'm not one of the goods ones. Most people would probably run. Which is understandable, because most people who are predatory, do perpetrate. However, its still disappointing. Because the moment I tell people and they act like prey it makes me tempted to treat them like it. And abusing myself(as well as others) to be harmful is a habit I am trying to break. And it is NOT easy. I still have blood lust and all the things a predator has just with self awareness, which is atypical. It doesn't make me automatically know how to do things appropriately. Almost nothing ever feels right but the "wrong" things. I feel bad for having not been blatantly violent towards people. I literally have grief. Like, "I'll never get to use this weapon on people." *sobs* lol. I don't know what its like to be an antisocial individual who is healthy and doesn't and/or doesn't want to harm, because I'm the kind of person who doesn't know if something is benefiting me if it is benefitting others/not harming others.
The two work stories made me laugh, but I can definitely see how this would have negative consequences. If you had been unlucky enough to have lost your Sydney job it wouldn't be quite so funny. And as a pattern, the potential for damaging your own career or relationships is huge. Most employers do not take kindly to this behaviour. They want obedient, motivated, loyal little gremlins. Being dropped suddenly is like a slap in the face.
I really didn’t think anything you mentioned was horrible. I definitely have narcissistic tendencies, so I don’t know if that is framing how I’m looking at the situations, as I have done VERY similar things in my employment career, and I really have no feeling towards it one way or the other. Anyway- LOVE your channel! Thank you for always being so open and vulnerable in relaying your experiences ❤️
lmao same, ive suddenly abandoned jobs n shit. didn't really realize it was as she described it irresponsible and "horrible", but i guess it is wrong.... i dont feel remorse or anything i just dont care nor think about it. i think i live in my own bubble and just find it hard to see beyond myself and what i feel sometimes idk. is this shit something you learn right from wrong because it doesnt come naturally or is it that you do inherently understand right from wrong but you just don't care
@@misanthr0pic you literally took the words out of my mouth! Totally relate! I think for me I inherently know right from wrong but a lot of things ppl see as “wrong” I don’t really consider bad….and like you said, I just don’t really care- or like the rules don’t apply to me- which has got me trouble (I get away with it most of the time though😉). Not saying that’s a good thing, lol, it’s just true. I think it’s all a spectrum. I know I have higher tendencies to narcissism and maybe sociopathy as well!🤷♀️ But I think everyone is somewhere on that spectrum.
I’m so glad that you started these videos and that you are courageous enough to put yourself out there for this community. I’m a neurotypical and not involved directly in psychology, but for long I wanted to become a psychiatrist, because I’m specially interested in cluster b, aspd for the most part. I never persued that career, but I kept reading and learning, observing, because I still want to make part of the change for you guys, so you stop being demonised. I’m very happy to watch this community interact and I’ll be here supporting. You’re a great person and a great woman 🌸
Seeing a new video from you makes my day!! :) I am wondering, you mention you don't feel any anxiety or worry. So, what do you feel when you get super low and depressed from something like rejection? Is it mainly sadness and anger, but without the worry attached to the outcome of it? I'm trying to understand it as for many people the depression is directly linked to worry/ anxiety :) Thank you Kanika!! Love ya!
It’s 100% the sadness and rage! I don’t see far enough into the future to predict any further grief or any anxiety. I get overwhelmed mainly by those two emotions when it comes to rejection, criticism of abandonment. Thank you so much for your lovely comment! ❤️❤️
Hello Kanika! I made a segment in an informative presentation talking about psychological disorders and learning disabilities for my speech class. I talked about ASPD and I had to include videos/ links. I included your channel in my presentation for my peers to look into and hopefully you'll get some new viewers! Wishing you the best!
I just love the advocating heart you have. You're awareness and willingness to put yourself out there to correct misconceptions, help others and shatter the stigma is amazing. You're awesome sweetheart! You have graciously encouraged suggestions for videos, a video explaining how you experience boredom and what you do when you are bored would be awesome to see, and sharing your tips on how to cope with boredom to prevent going backwards and sabotaging things. Thank you so much for sharing your experience, helping others and fighting stigma. You're a Rockstar 💃😘
I have listened to this at least 5 times (months apart), and yet still, i hear my 'inner most thoughts'. I have had at least 15 jobs and all due to me quitting, getting sacked, not following 'rules'. I cheated in every exam i have ever done (especially in school which was privately paid for with extremely high expectations of me) i regularly stole from shops (with my fellow rich friends did too, but i carried on in to my 20s) i only stopped this because of fear of new technology(being caught), however i am a fiercely loyal friend who will also personally vendetta anyone who crosses mine or a friends path, this i would do when 'it goes cold' ❤ u girl thanks , we are the same person
I've just discovered this channel and I love it! You're so eloquent 💕 I noticed that the majority of people leaving hateful remarks on that article were men too, and I think it's because they can't have you. You didn't deserve to be treated that way, I'm really angry with the reporter for misconstruing everything you said. Also from my experience, female psychopaths act out anger inwardly, eg self harm (I know that is typically a borderline trait) but we have it hard. You're right about us being ostracised, and there's no help available.
I find lots of similarities with me but i have BPD. From mirroring the other person, if they like something i will like it too and i will believe even that i like it myself. Jobs, i get constantly bored, i changed a few already because the first day im like "this is perfect" then after a week I want to leave.
@@mentalcat9529 the huge difference for me is the intensity of the feelings, like sometimes within my cluster B I would like to switch to another category just to be more cold but well
There’s a pretty substantial difference between ASPD and BPD. Namely, the whole conscience and guilt thing. Borderline women have it(50% of their lives are consumed with guilt), and antisocial women do not. It’s not possible to have both.
@@johaha87 ADHD is a new diagnosis for young women who actually have BPD, but the doctor is either too uninformed or scared to diagnose it. ADHD, in the way we think of it, isn’t even a real thing. It’s all from trauma
was diagnosed with bpd and bipolar 1 for years, just got diagnosed as antisocial with narcissistic tendencies. your videos are a huge help in understanding myself further
The main difference I've noticed between me and a male counterpart is ego. I think we display it in different ways. For most of the FPs I've encountered, it comes off as being almost overly confident without necessarily being cock. For MPs I've dealt with, it's the opposite. They want you to know they are the most charming, smartest person in the room, and try to assertively command a certain reverence from you. The females don't do that.
It's so true that it's often harder for women to get an appropriate diagnosis, for a whole range of things, both mental and physical. I think what you mentioned about misdiagnosing ASPD with BPD is almost akin to when doctors in the past treated women for "hysteria", because they were seen as hysterical and irrational, rather than humans that deserve the same treatment as men. This certainly still persists today. Also my first job was at Baker's Delight in Wollongong haha. I ate a ham and mustard scroll every shift. Your makeup is stunning, I will check out the artist's instagram.
I would like to know what your family dynamic is like now as an adult with your parents and sibling/s. It would be amazing to learn their opinions on your diagnosis and how life with you was growing up. Thanks!
I have only had bad experiences with sociopaths/psychopaths, no surprise. I have tried to educate people about them because most people don't realize that they are our coworkers, friends, parents, children, etc. and are therefore vulnerable to their manipulations and worse. People just can't fathom that there is a whole percentage of people around us whose brains don't work like theirs, that don't feel empathy, that can screw you over without a second thought. I strongly believe that the existence of sociopath/psychopaths should be taught in k-12 school, first so humanity can learn to spot and protect themselves and second so the sociopath can recognize thselves early on, possibly talk to their parents about it, get help professionally for it and be taught how to live more positively. I can't imagine how confusing it would be for a psychopath child knowing they are different but not why or how and not understanding why they shouldn't do the unexceptible things they do. I am very open to hearing from the sociopath person and trying to understand them more so I am grateful to be able to hear your perspective.
I am not a psychopath but I suspect one of my best female friends is. She fits all the criteria of a psychopath or sociopath - but i really trust her and she seems to know how to govern herself pretty well.
Just came across your channel. Your a smart girl and I'm glad to see that you are recognizing your strengths and weaknesses and trying to turn the weakness into strengths and using your strengths for positive instead of negatives to better your life and others which is something that all of us need to work on no matter what mental and emotional personality characteristics we are born with.
You are an aware sociopath who went to counselling and decided to make better choices. There are sociopaths; psychopaths and narcissists out there that do not have the awareness that you do so, yes you have to be careful of them and at times keep away from them altogether. That being said sometimes you also have to keep away from the “average person” who is not good for you. They don’t have a personality disorder but, they are not good for you anyway. I want to thank you for educating me about this subject. You have made me aware of many things but, more importantly you have taught me has I can improve myself.
This reminds me of the people I worked with in sales. My friend was the top producer of a company I worked for. Her team were also top producers, but they were all con artist, saying anything just to get that sale. I don’t know if they were sociopaths, but they didn’t have any remorse at all when it came to getting their money.
Your videos are great, very well explained. I didn't know anything about how people with these conditions feel. I am from a disfunctional family with a lot of issues and your explanations help me a lot to understand some dynamics, about abandoment etc. etc. Thank you very much. Keep doing these really interesting videos. I really love them!
I'm just a guy who likes to study personality disorders just by personal interest and to see the impact those disorders have on society. Im also a greek sociologist. I used to be prejudiced my self about sociopaths and psychopaths. BUT I read a lot about those conditions I saw videos on PsychopathyIS and other places with psychopaths, I've talked via email to many psychiatrists about those personality disorders and finally I have come to a state of mind that they are empathetic people who are much worse than sociopaths and psychopaths. Also by finding your channel helped me to break my prejudice even more! Thank you for sharing those videos they are really great! Also I agree with you that dr Ramani sucks! Hahahahhaa! I think that also you should make a video that will show to us a papper about your diagnosis. I don't say this out of curiosity or because I dont believe you. It will help more to break the stigma and it will close the mouth to many that dont believe that you are an aspd person. Good luck and keep up the great work!
I think my ex was psychopath. He was cold, playing with my feelings, badmouth me, threat me, blame about me his suicide attempt. He also fight in streets, get suddenly rage when broke home and had alcoholism and drug addiction. He also admire machiavellism. I was bullied in school and when he heard about my past, he also start treat me bad way when i was already broken, i wish he would be proper man who protect his girlfriend and family. No way. Once he was drunk and decide go to swim across the lake, but suddenly start to feel tired so his uncle need to pick up him with a boat. If i would be there, i just drink the beer in beach and let him drown.
@@omzy8700 No, i just teach for him what good behavior is. No one walks over me that way, without sanctions. Because i didn't really deserve that kind of behavior. I just tried to be loving and caring, sensitive and sentimental myself and support him and he took advantage about it. I'am not here for that people just take advantage from me, specially because i've been already very hurted in my past! I just want love and also give for it. But if you broke my heart many times, then it's forever closed and i show my cold side. Because you can't treat peoples bad way, you can't get new chance again and again, forgiveness have limits, every peoples need to fight if have to get respect themselves.
Kanika you always look ridiculously gorgeous in videos! Why is it I'm always attracted to someone that has antisocial personality disorder! I probably dating about 5 girls that have had antisocial personality disorder and they're all so ridiculously good looking! Unfortunately I'm the one that always ends up leaving... it is hell...
Every different type of person is fascinating to me! I look at everyone spiritually as all one. Whether you agree or not is fine. I find it interesting when you state that you’re loved ones are like an extension of you. I’ve come to feel like everyone is and extension of me but also I’m an extension of them as well. I am very empathic but I have taught myself to no longer feel guilt or shame for the most part purposefully and mindfully. I use to care far too much what people think and I don’t so much anymore and it’s very freeing. However I do enjoy that I can feel the feelings of people and to me it sounds like you do too but more in what you’ve decided as your loyal circle which sounds beautiful actually. I feel like I resonate with so much of what you say now to the point of wondering if a person can be and empathic sociopath haha! I get annoyed by type A people that structure too much but appreciate them too for being capable of tasks that I easily bore of and find far too mundane and repetitive. I guess what I’m saying is I think every “type” of person has gifts that complete a whole in my take and we can learn from all the differences and where they compliment and cooperate together. Sometimes I think I am more like a sociopath and other times far from it when I experience debilitating anxiety or feel strongly what someone else is feeling. As a kid especially, I couldn’t understand how anyone could be mean to another person and I would feel it deeply when someone was made fun of or bullied. I even felt sorrow for animals even friggin snails being smashed lol. I don’t always feel it anymore some days I do and some days or with some people I feel disconnected and can even feel annoyed by their emotions and especially if they’re gossipers or overly attention seeking kind of people. So I guess I’m not as empathic as I was. I appreciate so much your candid expression that we all learn from! You’re beautiful and adorable and definitely very intelligent! Thank you!!!
Hi, Kanika. I'm not a sociopath or psychopath, but i really admire your courage and sincerity. I don't know if you're aware of this, but you're doing something very good and important for society . We need to know more about Psychopaty and sociophathic minds. I think even people with these differences of personality could understand each other and manage to a more or less harmonic coexistence. You're a lovely person in your way, and a beautiful woman too. I don't think you believe in God, but... God bless you anyway!
I subscribed a little bit ago because I make a point to have people in my UA-cam feed with different perspectives and it took me a while to dive in. But now I am and I'm grateful to find someone talking about their experience with ASPD/NPD so first off, thank you for doing that. Second, this is really the first time I've heard discussed the actual practical implications of the term anti-social and to how it relates to the opposite. You emphasizing pro-social behavioral examples clarified so much unacknowledged bias I had toward the term anti-social in and of itself. As someone on the autism spectrum, in recent years I've discovered how many of my "effeminate" pro-social masking traits were developed for sense of safety and how damaging they've been for me so you make very good points on that front.
Love bombing is something keep doing and it never seems to do me any favors lmao. Maybe just because of the guys I am attracted to and go for, I've noticed men like to pursue and not the other way around. If I come on a bit too strong and seem overly eager, I'm generally ghosted. Even if I really thought I played my cards right, plus I quickly figure people out so I'm able to engage with them based on their interests almost right away. But still, they almost always go for the shy, less assertive girl 😅Or I attract a guy who's insecure and unassertive. Not my type.
I feel you. Heteronormative dating rules are exhausting. I’m a nuerotypical but I tend to come off as shy and unassuming with strangers. But I’m super loud and outgoing with people who know me well. And I feel like most guys tend to like my non threatening appearance more than my true nature. To know me more is to love me less and it’s kind of a bummer 😕
I just got off from a narcissistic abuse relationship,I am an empath, and I found your videos in the best moment , you are actually helping me to cope thru understanding on my ex, and a lot of thing are falling in their place , i would not came back to him but at least now I can understand a lot of his behavior and be in peace with him, I have anxiety and you can imagine how not understand why this things happende affected me, but thank you so much for sharing this ,I feel so much better , god bless you.
@@whatever6761 She gave a like to my comment,I guess she is just gratefull with me for sharing and interacting with her video , and by "be in peace" I mean not be ruminnating about him in my mind... no need to be rude lol
@@pamelae.4305 she can't feel gratitude, she can't feel nothing.. you are not getting the point, these people seek attention, at least to recognice they actually are alive, because inside they are nothing, and empty box, the kind of attention ppl like you are willing to give.. you are in great danger if you dont understand it.. her likes means NOTHING
I would forge my parents signature throughout all of my elementary years up until high school. I was so good at it other students would ask me to forge their parents signatures too
i'm surprised someone wouldn't do this - it's looking out for yourself and YOUR best interests, which is the only thing that really matters at the end of the day (who else has your back but you?). to a job, you're disposable
That job story👌 good for you that was clever at least you still had a job waiting for you when you returned. It was speculative and underhanded but still brilliant 😆😂👏
Thank you for opening up like this.. I think you're gonna help a lot people. And removing the stigma of having the diagnosis.. so thank you kisses from Denmark
As always great video! I love knowing more about people with ASPD and you're a goldmine :) On the misdiagnosis between BPD/ASPD for women, i have the opposite experience (maybe it's because my psychiatrist were all women?) The first time i Saw a psychiatrist for a diagnosis, the first thing that came up for me was ASPD, it was later dismissed but it's been a common experience with most psychiatrist that i've seen It wasn't until my current psychiatrist (i've been with her the longest and I've been quite honest) that BPD was actually put on the table and i was diagnosed with it, i recognize myself in it completely Now maybe i have some antisocial traits or a comorbidity with ASPD But the fact that it was considered before BPD makes me feel like i'm breaking gender norms so it makes me kinda happy
Listening to this, thinking that I can't see the world differently than what you describe, makes me realizing that I myself have antisocial tendencies.
I think a lot of people have antisocial tendencies / traits / are somewhere on the antisocial spectrum. It's a lot more common than most people realise.
@@ladybaabaa3294 agreed. I think a lot of the traits are socially unacceptable and so most people never speak of them. Refreshing to finally hear them outloud.
@Richard Chambers I think that specific criteria was removed in diagnosing ASPD. And in my case, I wasn't diagnosed with Conduct Disorder only because I wasn't ever caught.
@@ladybaabaa3294 That criteria was still in the DSM-V the last time I looked. What criteria are you referring to? I was never diagnosed with a conduct disorder, but I did commit some crimes as a juvenile.
It's interesting that you commented that females sociopath are most times misdiagnosed with BPD. I've been diagnosed with BPD but honestly, after this another toxic relationship has ended and I found myself getting pleasure outta of her pain, I'm pretty confused if I'm actually a BPD or a sociopath.
First love your channel which I just discovered . It must be so hard to control your true nature and instincts. It’s almost more admirable to not do something bad or wrong out of insight and pure intention versus the conscience that keeps most people in line.
Hmmm, I'll have to really think about possible interactions with Sociopaths. It's hard because nothing you've told me sounds any different from just about anyone I've ever known. I believe that anyone "normal" or not can do something sociopaths are said to do under the right or wrong circumstances. A male sociopath as you said, does tend to be more violent, but men are fighters and protectors by nature. Some of us are quicker to get into a fist fight than others, such as younger men versus older, more experienced men. It's just so hard for me to point out when I think about everyone I've ever known. Some people are risk takers and some aren't. I have friends that have gone skydiving, but you'll never catch me jumping out of a plane. I have however, been in the military. My skydiving friends think the military is too dangerous and would never join. This is going to be on my mind all day.
I mean, I would say it’s a spectrum. Some have a hair trigger temper, others can deal with that level of frustration. For the most part, you will not notice sociopaths in your life, outside of people alleging someone’s a sociopath bc they’ve done something terrible (it seems to be synonymous with evil). Sociopaths blend in very well.
@@KanikaBatra I never thought of it as a spectrum, that is definitely food for thought and explains a lot of what I see everyday. Perhaps everyone is on the spectrum to some degree?
@@laurenceknight9350 everyone is on the spectrum of every disorder, but you have to meet a diagnostic criteria to actually be impaired by your level on the spectrum. think of it like a bell diagram where the diagnostic criteria is the minority, and as it tapers off symptoms get more severe if that makes sense. it applies to all disorders.
Really inciteful video, thank you. I'm just learning more about ASPD and I'm trying to make sense of these videos. They seem to be advocatory, incredibly honest, and a bit like a public service, but from what I've read so far, sociopaths don't tend to care about things like helping like this. So is public service your motivation? Or is it to feed a narcissistic need? Getting praise for videos or your intelligence/knowledge? Also find it really hard to think any of this is untrue, but I understand manipulation is common, so should I be more skeptical want the motivation? I hope these are fair questions - I haven't quite worked out where the line is between discriminating against people with ASPD and just having a healthy awareness of the symptoms/traits.
It's cool that you can recognize what traits would make you better, and wish to consciously develop them. Personally, I feel that the only thing that makes someone a terrible human being, is if they impose themselves on people to the point that they will ruin a person's life if they don't submit to mistreatment. A cheater who gets broken up with, and goes about their life, at least allowed their ex the right to not want to be with them. If a friend decides they are going to not be around someone who disregards their feelings, and that person accepts their right to do so, then even if they have that negative quality, they accepted that it's OK for someone to not be around them. When someone who is anti social refuses to accept others inalienable rights to the point they become fixated on destroying their life if they don't do as expected, this is the point that they can be labeled a bad person. Your ability to work on something you recognize as lacking makes your disorder, though still self serving and not perfect, not a bad thing.
I imagine that like other types of neuro-divergency, ASPD women are better at masking. Women are routinely underdiagnosed with ADHD and ASD, because we learn to mask very young and thus present differently. Why not ASPD as well? Also thank you for what you do here.
Psychopaths can make good surgeons apparently like Professor Stephen Westaby. He was nicknamed "Jaws" for his ability to carry out limb amputations flawlessly. He claims his psychopathy allowed him to take more risks than comrades in order to pioneer new forms of surgery. His book "The Knife’s Edge" makes a fascinating read!
Interesting. ❤️
Because to him ppl are objects not ppl. So he operates without dithering and the narc side of him needs praise so he does the best job he can.
@@explorer0213 exactly
Helping to save lives has everything to do with having antisocial personality.
Yeah... Why not forget this glove behind her aorta?
😂I faked being into cars so much, that in the end I knew more about it, than the dude I wanted to impress, and after we ended things, he said that it made him insecure.
Lol I actually studied cars just to have something to talk to him about that would actually keep him interested and he pretty much said the same thing. 😂
Wait so you guys are psychopathic women?
@@JS-jr1fo No. I think most women do this when they like a dude. Learning about his interests, and semi pretending that you are into it.😂
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For jobs...have no remorse. They don't care about you at the end of the day.
A guy love-bombing me makes me uncomfortable.
As an empath who once went through a year of unemployment and a million job interviews, many of which were stretched out over weeks at a time only to have recruiters vanish on me and never respond, I have to say that your story about doing to companies what they essentially do to job candidates is delightful 🤣😂
Yeah, I honestly didn't think that was a big deal. I wish more people had the guts to pull something like that. It would really keep some of these companies on their toes.
Empathy is pathetic
That's why they sound alike
UPS Amazon FedEx were always hiring
@@edslick9577 lmao smh
testosterone probably plays a huge part in the difference between male and female aspd, but you're so right on how societal factors affect it too!
Both men and women have testosterone
@@EEsUA-camChanel yes but since men have a higher percentage you could say it's their main hormone, you see it in trans men when they start testosterone their personality shifts a bit, increased libido etc
@@Cathinata1 however, women are SIGNIFICANTLY more sensitive to testosterone.
@@EEsUA-camChanelwomen have only one week man all month
@@mencelucifer9268 what? You do realise every human being has atleast some percentage of testosterone in them?
Male psychopaths want to be feared and female psychopaths want to be adored. He wants to be the most dominant. She wants to be the most desired.
i'm a female psychopath and i agree. for example, if i were to ever marry, it would be to a man that was stupid rich and loved/adored/cherished me -- what more could a girl want? love isn't really part of the equation, it's all about what I can get from him.
That's kind of inaccurate
@@qwertyyxoxo you evil sonabich
@@shaqeeras625 true. It’s like if someone is ruthless, they don’t care about people’s feelings, but if someone is really ruthless, they make it a point to be caring (or at least seemingly so).
I like to be feared too because I play war games
Nothing is stronger than the regret of showing too much interest 😂 well not regret, more pure boredom 🤣
Boy can I relate to this 😂😂😂
@@KanikaBatra Your wonderful :) keep up the good work ❤️
It doesn't matter if it's sexual or not, cheating is cheating when ur in a relationship already with someone,how would you like it if you was with someone and they cheated on u....
You are the living embodiment of the ideal Hogwarts Slytherin Student, both in its negative AND positive traits.
LMAO the harry potter reference
Lol you had to of been born in 92/93 😂
This is too real hahahaha. She gives Tom Riddle if he wasn't a murderer lol
When I was studying psych, I always hated how ASPD were written off as being a lost cause. I bet way more research is needed and maybe the best people to do it are people with ASPD with a genuine interest in understanding themselves
Me too! But then again Split was used as an example of DID so I couldn’t expect too much 🤷🏽♀️
Same, and I also noticed they do the same with borderline. Its very disconcerting and frustrating
I'm basically the person you're describing -- I'm not a scientist though. I'm doing a profile on myself and trying to understand why I'm the way I am. Before I learnt I had ASPD, I studied other famous diagnosed Antisocials
I mean, for someone to accept treatment for ASPD or NPD, they have to accept that they have a problem and want to work on it.
Guess which disorders are characterised by the people having them assuming that they are awesome, it's everyone ELSE who has a problem.
Look up HG Tudor he's a narcopath he tells it straight holds no punches.
Stay Positive. I wouldn't be surprised if the threats came from other narcissists that felt threaten or vulnerable after hearing your story. I think its all fair game which is probably why I am a subscriber. You are helping me see my narcissistic tendancies and the tendacies of others.
Its crazy but I really need your vids. The only negative to it is I think its mutual validation for viewer and the presenter.
@Natasha Warden I think that is indeed the more likely case. People fear what they do not understand.
@Natasha Warden those who are making death threats are men who have an inflated ego & minimize women. They think they have the right to verbally or physically hurt them... Possibly they maybe on the low functioning NPD spectrum.
@@Vamsea not necessarily psychopaths tend to be attracted to one another
ASPD personalities can still feature anxiety. In my experience it is more of a fight or flight response that has been triggered by something that subconsciously reminded you of past trauma rather than the everyday social anxiety that ppl experience because they constantly worry about the future or they worry about what ppl think and feel about them etc. I've had panic attacks not even knowing what triggered it and I thought I was having a heart attack. But I totally agree that you can use your lack of anxiety to advance your career. Ppl should turn traits that are seen as negative into positives. A high tolerance for chaos, low neuroticism etc are definitely favourable in some careers that involve risk taking.
You make no sense please speak english
IMPORTANT: If men didn't WANT women to come to them for money, they would pay us equally. Instead, money is, and has always been, deliberately distributed inequitably between men and women. Men are given higher pay. This is for a reason: so that they can get women, and beget a family. Therefore, women actually need - by design - to come to men for money. Because they are holding most of ours. We're not "parasitic" in any way, shape, or form: most women I know would prefer Never to have to ask a man for money. But we are given no choice. In the USA, women earn sixty-seven cents to every dollar a man makes. When salary, benefits, pensions, retirement, 401K etc are all taken into account, there are multi-millions denied to women over a lifetime, despite a woman has more work/more jobs than men. No more talk about women being "parasitic" --- it's MEN who are, always have been - parasitic on women, they gain free labor, and cheap labor, out of us, while paying themselves the difference. IMPORTANT: If men didn't WANT women to come to them for money, they would pay us equally.
We are paid equally.
women earn less on average because they choose lower paying careers. if you ever plan on having kids like most women and raising them yourself instead of pawning them off onto a nanny so you can get back to your career to keep proving you can do anything a man can do even at the expense of your own happiness and your family's you should be happy men dominate the higher paying careers.
@@pancakerepairman family is not 'happiness' for all women. MANY women are miserable because they were talked into having a family. But keep proving you are a single cell organism. We don't have to prove 'we can do anything a man can' do, because we can, bar physical strength limitations.
The pay gap is a myth. Research a little bit before talking nonsense.
You mean hostage
OMG I think the lack of anxiety is like a superpower, I wish I could experience at least a day without it, can you make a video describing what it is like not to have anxiety at all?
it's amazing, basically like being drunk 24/7 and obviously without alcohol
It would me amazing not to have anxiety. Definitely a super power 💥
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The job stories are actually good on you! Companies don't care about employees any more than they do the tech they use to do the job. If an employee dies, their job will be posted the next day, so your attitude is actually the right one to have.
I've always thought that in order to do well in a capitaliqt society you need to act like a sociopath
@@ines3770 Similar thinking here. I'm troubled by the seeming belief held by ambitious women trying to climb the corporate ladder and advance in capitalist societies that they need to embrace and emulate the worst toxic qualities of the sociopathic men who have preceded them. The culture won't change if women abandon those feminine qualities that need to be brought to the table.
@@RTDF516 As a woman, it's very hard to keep feminine virtues in the workplace. You will get fucked over. Only toxic feminine traits are helpful in the workplace unfortunatly... (Manipulation, promiscuity, duplicity, following the crowd)
@@ines3770 agreed
Your videos are making me come to terms with my own sociopathic/narc behavior. Thank you for sharing, lots of sociopath narc content is from a male perspective and this is super enlightening.
So edgy lol stop coping
@@autism1151 sarcasm is suppressed anger
Go get diagnosed lol. This isn’t an illness you just throw especially when there’s a good chance you don’t know what you’re talking about
@@emilyd4187 I’ve been seeing psychiatrists continually since I was a child. Note that I said sociopathic and narcissistic BEHAVIOR. I don’t meet the diagnostic criteria for personality disorders, but I have some traits (like lots of people do) and find it useful to gain perspective and context from people with similar traits and behaviors that exceed my own.
Thanks so much for your videos. While I don't have personality disorders myself, as a writer I often write characters with disorders. You are enabling me to make them far less stereotypical and more human. I hope my readers will have more compassion for them, thanks to you, and will treats others with personality disorders like human beings with valid feelings, like all of us are.
Can't even comprehend what it must be like to live without anxiety lol. I can see how it is definitely a drawback at times too but wow, must be nice 🙂
it's amazing, basically like being drunk 24/7 and obviously without alcohol
It gives you freedom from another of things, but does get you into trouble aswell
Some people with this diagnosis do have anxiety issues. I was reading about an arsonist who set more than 300 fires over +20 years. This guy said he would see an attractive man on the street and follow him to find out where he lived. The man was too shy to ask these guys on a date, so he would set fire to their homes instead.
@@edslick9577 Lmao
They have anxiety it creates the impulsiveness
My parents are such amazing ppl that they BOTH took advantage of my artistic ability & had me forging their signatures my whole child life. Very confusing as a child knowing it was a federal offense & being emotionally coerced into performing such a personal task for them. I used to wonder why I was so antisocial but over the last 5 years, I realized I’ve had a thick codependency the entire time. It’s taken a lot of root healing but I’m finally at the point where I’ve reaffirmed my worth & developed that root attachment with my self since my parents couldn’t be bothered. Much love Kanika 💋💋 love your channel.
Looks like you suffered major childhood trauma!
It’s so wonderful to hear you share about your healing and finding your selfworth. No one can take it from you. Enjoy.
Can I ask you how you attached back to your roots?
@@Audistin98 prob therapy / a lot of introspective work
She really said "this is my experience being a female sociopath" and then proceeded to ask that we donate so that we can trust that she'll donate the money to a children's charity 😂🤡
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I believe her, she's very self aware
she imitates amber heard, maybe she changed her mind or she needed the money for herself... lol
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I think it’s amazing that you are so knowledgeable and insightful about your condition and how it effects your relationships. You are able to articulate the complexity of your experience while holding yourself accountable. Your undaunted bravery in revealing your behavior and confronting yourself is seriously helping people! Your courage has ignited an openness to grow in our collective understanding of pathology. People are commenting about finding an accepting community where they feel understood and can finally confront the complexity of their own lives. Thank you. I have loved many people with personality disorders and it’s taken a lifetime to get to the other side of -the pain of it all. Here is the best definition I have ever heard of what Love is -
Love is the deepest level of understanding.
tysm for ur videos. im diagnosed with mixed personality disorder and im trying to pinpoint whats up with my psychiatrist and i have a feeling its npd/aspd so its so so nice to finally have resources on aspd/npd without it being chock-full of ‘abusive serial killer evil demon narcopath’ shit. so tysm genuinely.
I'm not sure I've noticed any woman with ASPD, could be my lack of education. The males with ASPD that I've know haven't been all out malicious or even aggressive but have consistently shown a lack of remorse and anxiety, though one was definitely wanting the world to be a better place which confused people.
I love you mission of education, discussion and community. So awesome!
I cant remember if I commented this before, but I would die for a podcast of you talking about these things in long form and maybe even having chats with other cluster B folks. im autistic but i often feel like certain traits you describe could apply to me too.
Great idea
Where's Joe Rogan
@@nataliejune84 in texas yeehaw
@@mangoisland4792 She should go on Joe Rogan
I want to tell you how very proud I am of you. I hope you don’t take that as condescending or patronizing because you really are a remarkable human being. I’m also a lot older than you so maybe I see it from that perspective as being an older person with borderline personality disorder with and with other complicating mental health issues. You are a role model for a lot of people and advocating for some of the most vulnerable people of our society is Hard work and you’re doing it, sometimes at A great cost to you. You also nailed it when you said that standards for women with psychopathy and sociopathy are much different in men’s and women are more vilified in many respects - - that’s true. All of my best to you
Cheating is still cheating. It doesn't matter if you're emotionally cheating or physically cheating or if you're male or female. You're betraying someone's trust, end of story. If you want to be with other people, you leave the relationship you're in first.
Poly works
Facts!
Emotional cheating doesn't cause babies or STDs. It's not going to kill anyone unless they let it happen to themselves.
I think Lovebombing a Man isn't hard. You just act impressed, interested and give him compliments like: "Wow, you're so tall!" , "I see that you've worked out. Can you teach me?", " I love the color of your eyes" I could write more...lol
Edit: I lovebomb my boyfriend all the time it comes out like "word vomit" (reference to Mean Girls) I don't do this intentionally. I worry that I annoy him and do this to much, but he is never annoyed.
Yes, I should’ve mentioned this in the video! Men like to be complimented on their physiques and sexual/dating prowess so the love bombing can include that. It’s usually reading the guy and finding out what information would be best in creating attraction and interest.
I love bomb constantly but I also turn really cold the day after. My boyfriend is such an angel and takes it lol he says he enjoys it.
@Per aspera ad astra the extent and thr motivation.
@Per aspera ad astra love bombing isn't the same as being in the honeymoon phase, not everyone does it
i should try this
Wow when I followed a few months ago you had a few thousand subscribers now it’s at 27,000. Congrats! I’m not surprised your channel has grown so much you’re so interesting and informed
Why do women still have to be chained jus because we are in a sexual relationship?! Its so outrageous to me. How is sharing dinner with someone else "cheating"?! Men conduct themselves in a flirtatious, controlling manner wherever they get the opportunity.
Love your work. Appreciate these insights.
First of all, Kanika is a sociopath so she is wanting us to adore her and she’s also a liar. I’m guessing the truth is somewhere in the middle. Point is, whether she is a dating cheater or a sexual cheater, this isn’t the Middle East and she shouldn’t have her life threatened or be threatened with rape over it. In the Bible Christ says, “he who is without sin may cast the first stone.”
Signed,
an empath
Your correct. Though, Men have no market value to women, if he's not chased by multiple women.
Because when a man goes on a date, he's hoping for a physical relationship to happen at some point.
So even if that isn't what is on the woman's mind, it will still be seen in the context men would see it.
This is projection....
It's good of you to have this channel and teaching people to see the nuances so hopefully they're not so prejudiced, and I hope you inspire others with similar diagnosis. Keep up the good work!
You are an inspiration to me. I've been diagnosed with BPD and i am as unstable as it gets. And I watch your videos in youtube and i just admire the way you function. Please never stop telling your stories. Thank you Love!
I actually liked a female psychopath. I think I was drawn to her toughness. It was a turn on.
You must be a masochist. 😂
@@Lovecats956 sadomasochistic.
A lot of cluster B peeps have this issue
I relate to you so much, I've never been able to hear anyone speak this way about us. I'm so very thankful your here. It is truely life changing. Thank you!
This is just a random thought that crossed my mind while I’ve been binging on your vids in a vain attempt to understand myself - I realized that being so misunderstood often causes me to want to try to truly understand everything I can about the people around me and the situations I find myself in. Of course, mirroring is generally used to cultivate some sort of persona that allows me to fluidly adapt. But it has also helped me understand a lot more about people and things that AREN’T myself. Ah I hope that makes even a little sense, I made the mistake of trying to think while multitasking.
I appreciate you. You are making a difference. Thank you.
Damn, the stigma is real. The next video for me by youtube algorithm is literally "These are the sings of dating a psychopath".
Please keep doing your videos. They are very important, because the humanizing information for antisocial disorder is rare. I am a not neurotypical myself(ASD) and I know how it feels when people see you as a cliche. For people with ASD there are more and more information available nowdays, I hope the same is going to happen with psycopaths and sociopaths.
This is why I love you guys. The ability to transcend what is considered normal by societal standards is really admirable. I learn a lot from you, Kanika.❤️
I live for you and Sam roasting each other at the beginning of every video
I don't like it.
@@Narcjus okay? Who asked u 😂
@@plutosprincess Yeah it's pretty stupid and annoying.
@@Narcjus I agree!
@@ByMyLonely. How about I skip you?
The fascinating thing about this is that her voice sound so sweet, gentle and soft. The irony !!
Sounds like an act to me.and I'm female
I’m autistic with BPD. I find it so interesting how I do so many things that you do but it comes from a completely different place.
I love your channel! I think you inspire everyone to become a better person, regardless if someone has a personality disorder or not.
Yeah as an empath I’ve learned a thing or two from Kanika.
Can you discuss the challenges you experienced growing up with ASPD? Did you struggle socializing with other females? When did you start realizing you may have a personality disorder?
Thank you for your videos! I'm sorry you experienced so much backlash for that article.
She likes women sexually, the struggle might come from there 😂😂😂😂
I started watching you yesterday and you already made me realize it is not my fault I am not a social person. Although I'm not a person with ASPD, I've been always socially awkward and seing that my way of going through social interactions is forgivable and I don't have to be "pro social" all the time is really refreshing.
I am the same but I have an anxiety disorder. For example, I got a job I really wanted and on the first day I just did not go. I told them I am really sick and then blocked them. I was super depressed about my fears and just did not want to deal with the consequences. I for sure also have some sort of personality disorder, probably avoidant, but it is interesting to see how similar BPD , avoidant and psychopaths can be.
I will say, the lack of anxiety isn't always a thing. I have ASPD and NPD and I have anxiety, though mine is related more towards my NPD. I don't have anxiety over future stuff, like money or jobs usually, but more in how others perceive me. I get bad anxiety and outright panic attacks sometimes if I think someone important (spouse, boss, career contact etc) sees me in a negative light, even a SLIGHTLY negative light. It makes arguments 100x worse because my partner even being a little annoyed will trigger anxiety, which then will trigger my anger.
I agree, many people with NPD and some with ASPD do suffer from anxiety, I think perhaps I’ve been an exception to the rule? It’s just not something I’ve ever dealt with, unlike depression.
@@KanikaBatra I'm sure there's others without anxiety as well, mental health gets all kinds of complicated! I just more wanted to point it out because some people do seem to think we don't get anxious (or depressed, for that matter) because they still tend to go with the inaccurate 'emotionless' idea of ASPD, and it can be frustrating at times. Like people think I can't be ASPD because I get anxiety, or they think I'm faking the anxiety because of my ASPD lol. Just wanted to make it clear they CAN be comorbid :)
Hey I’m just seeing your videos and I love them! I relate so much but no diagnosis. I also never had an ounce of anxiety until my first law school exam. And I felt my disorder shift a little. But law school is known to break a person down mentally so maybe I was put back together a bit differently . And I was lying to my therapist bc I didn’t want him to know my true weakness. I kind of want to know what’s up with me but I’m scared bc in US the diagnosis is public and that’s cringey. Also what if we are just geniuses lol
I wish in America there was more recognition of- ALL of this; a diagnosis here lol, they'd want to see me act theatrically-illegally wild. You're great for this, thank you!
Dehumanizing psychopaths and ASPD folk is the last great accepted thing you can attack. Hilariously done by so called 'empaths' across al social media. Not very empathic of them to attack people who for all intents and purposes are victims of often severe abuse. Many having brain damage. It's changing slowly though.
@@IsaacJ143 yeah but you have to admit that quite a lot of them had their lives turned upside down from the experience. It would be a challenge for many to balance their empathy and their resentment, even for the most empathic people
@@parmesanballz4631 I disagree. they are often self diagnosing their ex boyfriends with conditions they very probably don't have. If you throw yourself at someone's feet and act insanely dependent. Most people will be repulsed and throw you away. Women who are dependent need to stop blaming other people for their own attachment issues. It's not okay. Not everyone who doesn't want a sure thing mummy waiting at home is a psychopath. And not every psychopath abuses their partner. Even then. If you're an 'empath' at least don't dehumanize the condition.
@@IsaacJ143 Men do it too, believe me. It also goes for Narcissism, Bipolar disorder, and BPD, people need to stop diagnosing everyone they don't like, or everyone who doesn't like them... It had happened to me, exactly by an abusive person who pretended to be an empath lol.
@@IsaacJ143 real enpaths would not hurt anyone
Kanika, keep up the good work, you are breaking down barriers that are helping people who need to know they are not alone and they are not bad. My girlfriend and I are Super impressed by your boldness and bravery to be the change!
i suspect my boyfriend has aspd (so does he) and your videos have helped me understand his point of view a lot more when we disagree. he's a really wonderful and generous boyfriend but sometimes we can't see eye to eye. i am obbsesseeeddd with your channel, thanks for posting!
You're probably better off watching Dr. Ramani's videos if you suspect your bf has aspd!
"Why don't we use our antisocial gifts for good?" I'm not woman but I was born female.(transgender)
Because its easier to disregard, discard, etc. when you're an antisocial-path(unhealthy.) Because society works against you. You need more than humanity/society provides and allows you to have. (That is IF they allow you to have anything.) Because we are so deprived, we need MORE. When we meet a need, need rises drastically. Like, when you are starving, you get hungrier. For example, if you need wealth but you are born in a poor family, its easier to find someone who is rich, charm them, and make off with their money. Stealing works. Why would you do anything else if that's the case? Because its bad? Not based on your own merit or hardwork? What do you do if you have no merit? What do you do if you don't want to gain it? What if I don't want to use it to work hard and just want to have what I want? It's not like society will just hand it over willingly. They'll tell me I'm entitled. That I must've not suffered or lacked enough to be the way I am, because I'd be empathic and giving if I had. Instead, I want everything I want for myself. I feel I should have that. That people should support me having that. I think all the more reason BECAUSE I am harmful without it. Because I might have to kill someone to feel alive or present with someone because they would never be with me otherwise.
Or because I might have to steal or take the things I want cuz I could never have them otherwise. I don't want to conform to social norms. I can't.
I didn't even stop myself committing crimes from early childhood to follow the law. (That would'nt have been able to stop me being a predator.)
If I want to be desired by multiple people, why can't I cheat?
Relationships are different with different people.
If I told the truth people would'nt accept/believe me anyways so why can't I lie/pretend?
If I told people I don't know how to love or respect people. If I told them I usually feel more pleasure thinking about how I could harm you violently than any kind thing I've ever done. In fact, that bores me. Drains me of all satisfaction.
I don't know how to commit in relationships. How to feel like I want to. Healthy consent is uncomfortable for me and I feel much more at home with objectification. I lack empathy. I don't feel the way you feel or react that way. I don't care, especially if you just expect me to know, get it, decipher signals.
I'm manipulative and want to be in control of getting what I want. (Someone being nice to everyone is not reassuring to me, that they want to meet MY needs.)
I'm not one of the goods ones.
Most people would probably run.
Which is understandable, because most people who are predatory, do perpetrate. However, its still disappointing.
Because the moment I tell people and they act like prey it makes me tempted to treat them like it. And abusing myself(as well as others) to be harmful is a habit I am trying to break. And it is NOT easy. I still have blood lust and all the things a predator has just with self awareness, which is atypical. It doesn't make me automatically know how to do things appropriately. Almost nothing ever feels right but the "wrong" things. I feel bad for having not been blatantly violent towards people. I literally have grief. Like, "I'll never get to use this weapon on people." *sobs* lol. I don't know what its like to be an antisocial individual who is healthy and doesn't and/or doesn't want to harm, because I'm the kind of person who doesn't know if something is benefiting me if it is benefitting others/not harming others.
WOW!!!!!!!!!!!! Can you please create your own channel? I want to know the inner workings of a sociopath. Did you suffer childhood trauma?
if youre at all interested in making youre own videos on this topic, consider me a subscriber. i relate a LOT.
I have a battery charge on my record.
The two work stories made me laugh, but I can definitely see how this would have negative consequences. If you had been unlucky enough to have lost your Sydney job it wouldn't be quite so funny. And as a pattern, the potential for damaging your own career or relationships is huge. Most employers do not take kindly to this behaviour. They want obedient, motivated, loyal little gremlins. Being dropped suddenly is like a slap in the face.
Since when are Employers loyal though 💁♀️ never put all your eggs in one basket, they'd drop you in a second if they see fit
I really didn’t think anything you mentioned was horrible. I definitely have narcissistic tendencies, so I don’t know if that is framing how I’m looking at the situations, as I have done VERY similar things in my employment career, and I really have no feeling towards it one way or the other.
Anyway- LOVE your channel! Thank you for always being so open and vulnerable in relaying your experiences ❤️
lmao same, ive suddenly abandoned jobs n shit. didn't really realize it was as she described it irresponsible and "horrible", but i guess it is wrong.... i dont feel remorse or anything i just dont care nor think about it. i think i live in my own bubble and just find it hard to see beyond myself and what i feel sometimes idk. is this shit something you learn right from wrong because it doesnt come naturally or is it that you do inherently understand right from wrong but you just don't care
@@misanthr0pic you literally took the words out of my mouth! Totally relate!
I think for me I inherently know right from wrong but a lot of things ppl see as “wrong” I don’t really consider bad….and like you said, I just don’t really care- or like the rules don’t apply to me- which has got me trouble (I get away with it most of the time though😉). Not saying that’s a good thing, lol, it’s just true.
I think it’s all a spectrum. I know I have higher tendencies to narcissism and maybe sociopathy as well!🤷♀️ But I think everyone is somewhere on that spectrum.
I’m so glad that you started these videos and that you are courageous enough to put yourself out there for this community. I’m a neurotypical and not involved directly in psychology, but for long I wanted to become a psychiatrist, because I’m specially interested in cluster b, aspd for the most part. I never persued that career, but I kept reading and learning, observing, because I still want to make part of the change for you guys, so you stop being demonised. I’m very happy to watch this community interact and I’ll be here supporting. You’re a great person and a great woman 🌸
Seeing a new video from you makes my day!! :) I am wondering, you mention you don't feel any anxiety or worry. So, what do you feel when you get super low and depressed from something like rejection? Is it mainly sadness and anger, but without the worry attached to the outcome of it? I'm trying to understand it as for many people the depression is directly linked to worry/ anxiety :) Thank you Kanika!! Love ya!
It’s 100% the sadness and rage! I don’t see far enough into the future to predict any further grief or any anxiety. I get overwhelmed mainly by those two emotions when it comes to rejection, criticism of abandonment. Thank you so much for your lovely comment! ❤️❤️
@@KanikaBatra Aah, that makes sense now! So interesting... thanks so much lovely!
Hello Kanika! I made a segment in an informative presentation talking about psychological disorders and learning disabilities for my speech class. I talked about ASPD and I had to include videos/ links. I included your channel in my presentation for my peers to look into and hopefully you'll get some new viewers! Wishing you the best!
I just love the advocating heart you have. You're awareness and willingness to put yourself out there to correct misconceptions, help others and shatter the stigma is amazing. You're awesome sweetheart! You have graciously encouraged suggestions for videos, a video explaining how you experience boredom and what you do when you are bored would be awesome to see, and sharing your tips on how to cope with boredom to prevent going backwards and sabotaging things. Thank you so much for sharing your experience, helping others and fighting stigma. You're a Rockstar 💃😘
I have listened to this at least 5 times (months apart), and yet still, i hear my 'inner most thoughts'. I have had at least 15 jobs and all due to me quitting, getting sacked, not following 'rules'. I cheated in every exam i have ever done (especially in school which was privately paid for with extremely high expectations of me) i regularly stole from shops (with my fellow rich friends did too, but i carried on in to my 20s) i only stopped this because of fear of new technology(being caught), however i am a fiercely loyal friend who will also personally vendetta anyone who crosses mine or a friends path, this i would do when 'it goes cold' ❤ u girl thanks , we are the same person
Oh and i personally dont like sex (due to trauma) so, yes i do use it as a bargaining tool, terrible but true
I've just discovered this channel and I love it! You're so eloquent 💕
I noticed that the majority of people leaving hateful remarks on that article were men too, and I think it's because they can't have you. You didn't deserve to be treated that way, I'm really angry with the reporter for misconstruing everything you said.
Also from my experience, female psychopaths act out anger inwardly, eg self harm (I know that is typically a borderline trait) but we have it hard. You're right about us being ostracised, and there's no help available.
Kanika I want to thank you so much for educating me 💗💗 sending love all the way from Vietnam!
Thank you for doing these videos Kanika. Keep on keeping on..
I find lots of similarities with me but i have BPD. From mirroring the other person, if they like something i will like it too and i will believe even that i like it myself. Jobs, i get constantly bored, i changed a few already because the first day im like "this is perfect" then after a week I want to leave.
Could be Adhd ☺️
@@johaha87 they diagnosed me with bpd after a while. i dont have adhdh im sure
@@mentalcat9529 the huge difference for me is the intensity of the feelings, like sometimes within my cluster B I would like to switch to another category just to be more cold but well
There’s a pretty substantial difference between ASPD and BPD. Namely, the whole conscience and guilt thing. Borderline women have it(50% of their lives are consumed with guilt), and antisocial women do not. It’s not possible to have both.
@@johaha87 ADHD is a new diagnosis for young women who actually have BPD, but the doctor is either too uninformed or scared to diagnose it. ADHD, in the way we think of it, isn’t even a real thing. It’s all from trauma
I've been waiting for you to upload! Your content has definitely opened up my eyes.
was diagnosed with bpd and bipolar 1 for years, just got diagnosed as antisocial with narcissistic tendencies. your videos are a huge help in understanding myself further
What is. BPD
@@pavlelazarevic3270 Borderline personality disorder.
The main difference I've noticed between me and a male counterpart is ego. I think we display it in different ways. For most of the FPs I've encountered, it comes off as being almost overly confident without necessarily being cock. For MPs I've dealt with, it's the opposite. They want you to know they are the most charming, smartest person in the room, and try to assertively command a certain reverence from you. The females don't do that.
It's so true that it's often harder for women to get an appropriate diagnosis, for a whole range of things, both mental and physical. I think what you mentioned about misdiagnosing ASPD with BPD is almost akin to when doctors in the past treated women for "hysteria", because they were seen as hysterical and irrational, rather than humans that deserve the same treatment as men. This certainly still persists today.
Also my first job was at Baker's Delight in Wollongong haha. I ate a ham and mustard scroll every shift.
Your makeup is stunning, I will check out the artist's instagram.
I would like to know what your family dynamic is like now as an adult with your parents and sibling/s. It would be amazing to learn their opinions on your diagnosis and how life with you was growing up. Thanks!
I love how logically you look at things. I have a similar personality, but am not disordered. All of your stuff is really easy to follow.
I have only had bad experiences with sociopaths/psychopaths, no surprise. I have tried to educate people about them because most people don't realize that they are our coworkers, friends, parents, children, etc. and are therefore vulnerable to their manipulations and worse. People just can't fathom that there is a whole percentage of people around us whose brains don't work like theirs, that don't feel empathy, that can screw you over without a second thought. I strongly believe that the existence of sociopath/psychopaths should be taught in k-12 school, first so humanity can learn to spot and protect themselves and second so the sociopath can recognize thselves early on, possibly talk to their parents about it, get help professionally for it and be taught how to live more positively. I can't imagine how confusing it would be for a psychopath child knowing they are different but not why or how and not understanding why they shouldn't do the unexceptible things they do. I am very open to hearing from the sociopath person and trying to understand them more so I am grateful to be able to hear your perspective.
I am not a psychopath but I suspect one of my best female friends is. She fits all the criteria of a psychopath or sociopath - but i really trust her and she seems to know how to govern herself pretty well.
Just came across your channel. Your a smart girl and I'm glad to see that you are recognizing your strengths and weaknesses and trying to turn the weakness into strengths and using your strengths for positive instead of negatives to better your life and others which is something that all of us need to work on no matter what mental and emotional personality characteristics we are born with.
You are an aware sociopath who went to counselling and decided to make better choices. There are sociopaths; psychopaths and narcissists out there that do not have the awareness that you do so, yes you have to be careful of them and at times keep away from them altogether.
That being said sometimes you also have to keep away from the “average person” who is not good for you. They don’t have a personality disorder but, they are not good for you anyway.
I want to thank you for educating me about this subject. You have made me aware of many things but, more importantly you have taught me has I can improve myself.
This reminds me of the people I worked with in sales. My friend was the top producer of a company I worked for. Her team were also top producers, but they were all con artist, saying anything just to get that sale. I don’t know if they were sociopaths, but they didn’t have any remorse at all when it came to getting their money.
Yeah. I work in real estate and most of the successful agents I know are narcs/sociopaths.
@@deedee7780 Makes sense now 🤔
Your videos are great, very well explained. I didn't know anything about how people with these conditions feel. I am from a disfunctional family with a lot of issues and your explanations help me a lot to understand some dynamics, about abandoment etc. etc. Thank you very much. Keep doing these really interesting videos. I really love them!
I'm just a guy who likes to study personality disorders just by personal interest and to see the impact those disorders have on society. Im also a greek sociologist. I used to be prejudiced my self about sociopaths and psychopaths. BUT I read a lot about those conditions I saw videos on PsychopathyIS and other places with psychopaths, I've talked via email to many psychiatrists about those personality disorders and finally I have come to a state of mind that they are empathetic people who are much worse than sociopaths and psychopaths. Also by finding your channel helped me to break my prejudice even more! Thank you for sharing those videos they are really great! Also I agree with you that dr Ramani sucks! Hahahahhaa! I think that also you should make a video that will show to us a papper about your diagnosis. I don't say this out of curiosity or because I dont believe you. It will help more to break the stigma and it will close the mouth to many that dont believe that you are an aspd person. Good luck and keep up the great work!
I think my ex was psychopath. He was cold, playing with my feelings, badmouth me, threat me, blame about me his suicide attempt. He also fight in streets, get suddenly rage when broke home and had alcoholism and drug addiction. He also admire machiavellism. I was bullied in school and when he heard about my past, he also start treat me bad way when i was already broken, i wish he would be proper man who protect his girlfriend and family. No way. Once he was drunk and decide go to swim across the lake, but suddenly start to feel tired so his uncle need to pick up him with a boat. If i would be there, i just drink the beer in beach and let him drown.
I think u might be a psychopath if u let him drown lol
@@omzy8700 No, i just teach for him what good behavior is. No one walks over me that way, without sanctions. Because i didn't really deserve that kind of behavior. I just tried to be loving and caring, sensitive and sentimental myself and support him and he took advantage about it. I'am not here for that people just take advantage from me, specially because i've been already very hurted in my past! I just want love and also give for it. But if you broke my heart many times, then it's forever closed and i show my cold side. Because you can't treat peoples bad way, you can't get new chance again and again, forgiveness have limits, every peoples need to fight if have to get respect themselves.
Kanika you always look ridiculously gorgeous in videos! Why is it I'm always attracted to someone that has antisocial personality disorder! I probably dating about 5 girls that have had antisocial personality disorder and they're all so ridiculously good looking! Unfortunately I'm the one that always ends up leaving... it is hell...
Every different type of person is fascinating to me! I look at everyone spiritually as all one. Whether you agree or not is fine. I find it interesting when you state that you’re loved ones are like an extension of you. I’ve come to feel like everyone is and extension of me but also I’m an extension of them as well. I am very empathic but I have taught myself to no longer feel guilt or shame for the most part purposefully and mindfully. I use to care far too much what people think and I don’t so much anymore and it’s very freeing. However I do enjoy that I can feel the feelings of people and to me it sounds like you do too but more in what you’ve decided as your loyal circle which sounds beautiful actually. I feel like I resonate with so much of what you say now to the point of wondering if a person can be and empathic sociopath haha! I get annoyed by type A people that structure too much but appreciate them too for being capable of tasks that I easily bore of and find far too mundane and repetitive. I guess what I’m saying is I think every “type” of person has gifts that complete a whole in my take and we can learn from all the differences and where they compliment and cooperate together. Sometimes I think I am more like a sociopath and other times far from it when I experience debilitating anxiety or feel strongly what someone else is feeling. As a kid especially, I couldn’t understand how anyone could be mean to another person and I would feel it deeply when someone was made fun of or bullied. I even felt sorrow for animals even friggin snails being smashed lol. I don’t always feel it anymore some days I do and some days or with some people I feel disconnected and can even feel annoyed by their emotions and especially if they’re gossipers or overly attention seeking kind of people. So I guess I’m not as empathic as I was. I appreciate so much your candid expression that we all learn from! You’re beautiful and adorable and definitely very intelligent! Thank you!!!
Great video as always, Kanika! I'm trying to improve, although it's difficult, it's definitely necessary
Hi, Kanika. I'm not a sociopath or psychopath, but i really admire your courage and sincerity. I don't know if you're aware of this, but you're doing something very good and important for society . We need to know more about Psychopaty and sociophathic minds. I think even people with these differences of personality could understand each other and manage to a more or less harmonic coexistence.
You're a lovely person in your way, and a beautiful woman too. I don't think you believe in God, but... God bless you anyway!
I subscribed a little bit ago because I make a point to have people in my UA-cam feed with different perspectives and it took me a while to dive in. But now I am and I'm grateful to find someone talking about their experience with ASPD/NPD so first off, thank you for doing that.
Second, this is really the first time I've heard discussed the actual practical implications of the term anti-social and to how it relates to the opposite. You emphasizing pro-social behavioral examples clarified so much unacknowledged bias I had toward the term anti-social in and of itself. As someone on the autism spectrum, in recent years I've discovered how many of my "effeminate" pro-social masking traits were developed for sense of safety and how damaging they've been for me so you make very good points on that front.
Love bombing is something keep doing and it never seems to do me any favors lmao. Maybe just because of the guys I am attracted to and go for, I've noticed men like to pursue and not the other way around. If I come on a bit too strong and seem overly eager, I'm generally ghosted. Even if I really thought I played my cards right, plus I quickly figure people out so I'm able to engage with them based on their interests almost right away. But still, they almost always go for the shy, less assertive girl 😅Or I attract a guy who's insecure and unassertive. Not my type.
@@hellucination9905 Haha well neurotypical or not, wish more guys did!
I feel you. Heteronormative dating rules are exhausting. I’m a nuerotypical but I tend to come off as shy and unassuming with strangers. But I’m super loud and outgoing with people who know me well. And I feel like most guys tend to like my non threatening appearance more than my true nature. To know me more is to love me less and it’s kind of a bummer 😕
I just got off from a narcissistic abuse relationship,I am an empath, and I found your videos in the best moment , you are actually helping me to cope thru understanding on my ex, and a lot of thing are falling in their place , i would not came back to him but at least now I can understand a lot of his behavior and be in peace with him, I have anxiety and you can imagine how not understand why this things happende affected me, but thank you so much for sharing this ,I feel so much better , god bless you.
She can't understand the way you do. Get in peace with you not with your ex, he gives a s%$t
@@whatever6761 She gave a like to my comment,I guess she is just gratefull with me for sharing and interacting with her video , and by "be in peace" I mean not be ruminnating about him in my mind... no need to be rude lol
@@pamelae.4305 she can't feel gratitude, she can't feel nothing.. you are not getting the point, these people seek attention, at least to recognice they actually are alive, because inside they are nothing, and empty box, the kind of attention ppl like you are willing to give.. you are in great danger if you dont understand it.. her likes means NOTHING
Men. You always say "i just want the truth" well This is what it looks like.
Im a fan. She got my support
I would forge my parents signature throughout all of my elementary years up until high school. I was so good at it other students would ask me to forge their parents signatures too
Did your original advertising job ever find out? I actually think that is kinda of smart. It kept you from making the mistake of leaving them forever.
They did not!
i'm surprised someone wouldn't do this - it's looking out for yourself and YOUR best interests, which is the only thing that really matters at the end of the day (who else has your back but you?). to a job, you're disposable
@Ashley I agree I think this was brilliant
That job story👌 good for you that was clever at least you still had a job waiting for you when you returned. It was speculative and underhanded but still brilliant 😆😂👏
Thank you for opening up like this.. I think you're gonna help a lot people. And removing the stigma of having the diagnosis.. so thank you kisses from Denmark
As always great video! I love knowing more about people with ASPD and you're a goldmine :)
On the misdiagnosis between BPD/ASPD for women, i have the opposite experience (maybe it's because my psychiatrist were all women?)
The first time i Saw a psychiatrist for a diagnosis, the first thing that came up for me was ASPD, it was later dismissed but it's been a common experience with most psychiatrist that i've seen
It wasn't until my current psychiatrist (i've been with her the longest and I've been quite honest) that BPD was actually put on the table and i was diagnosed with it, i recognize myself in it completely
Now maybe i have some antisocial traits or a comorbidity with ASPD
But the fact that it was considered before BPD makes me feel like i'm breaking gender norms so it makes me kinda happy
BPD and ASPD can’t be cormormid. Women with BPD feel “too much” and women with ASPD don’t feel enough, or at all.
Listening to this, thinking that I can't see the world differently than what you describe, makes me realizing that I myself have antisocial tendencies.
I think a lot of people have antisocial tendencies / traits / are somewhere on the antisocial spectrum. It's a lot more common than most people realise.
@@ladybaabaa3294 agreed. I think a lot of the traits are socially unacceptable and so most people never speak of them. Refreshing to finally hear them outloud.
@@mbt9700 Yes! It really is refreshing!
@Richard Chambers I think that specific criteria was removed in diagnosing ASPD. And in my case, I wasn't diagnosed with Conduct Disorder only because I wasn't ever caught.
@@ladybaabaa3294 That criteria was still in the DSM-V the last time I looked. What criteria are you referring to? I was never diagnosed with a conduct disorder, but I did commit some crimes as a juvenile.
I love your productive perspective in wanting everyone to work together.
You can tell she’s very intelligent by the way she’s formulates sentences and analyzes
VERY HELPFUL! Thank you, Kanika, for putting yourself out there like this.
Unreal that you were getting threats from that article..who are these people. Loce your vids girl!
Thank you for make theses videos. They don’t make feel like the monster people make me out to be. :,)
It's interesting that you commented that females sociopath are most times misdiagnosed with BPD. I've been diagnosed with BPD but honestly, after this another toxic relationship has ended and I found myself getting pleasure outta of her pain, I'm pretty confused if I'm actually a BPD or a sociopath.
I have bpd and asperger's. amd I envy your lack of anxiety!
Hi, Can you make a video in more detail about empaths your point of view, the difference and the relationship you have with empaths.
First love your channel which I just discovered .
It must be so hard to control your true nature and instincts. It’s almost more admirable to not do something bad or wrong out of insight and pure intention versus the
conscience that keeps most people in line.
Yes, finally a new video 😍❤️
Hmmm, I'll have to really think about possible interactions with Sociopaths. It's hard because nothing you've told me sounds any different from just about anyone I've ever known. I believe that anyone "normal" or not can do something sociopaths are said to do under the right or wrong circumstances. A male sociopath as you said, does tend to be more violent, but men are fighters and protectors by nature. Some of us are quicker to get into a fist fight than others, such as younger men versus older, more experienced men. It's just so hard for me to point out when I think about everyone I've ever known. Some people are risk takers and some aren't. I have friends that have gone skydiving, but you'll never catch me jumping out of a plane. I have however, been in the military. My skydiving friends think the military is too dangerous and would never join. This is going to be on my mind all day.
I mean, I would say it’s a spectrum. Some have a hair trigger temper, others can deal with that level of frustration. For the most part, you will not notice sociopaths in your life, outside of people alleging someone’s a sociopath bc they’ve done something terrible (it seems to be synonymous with evil). Sociopaths blend in very well.
@@KanikaBatra I never thought of it as a spectrum, that is definitely food for thought and explains a lot of what I see everyday. Perhaps everyone is on the spectrum to some degree?
@@laurenceknight9350 everyone is on the spectrum of every disorder, but you have to meet a diagnostic criteria to actually be impaired by your level on the spectrum. think of it like a bell diagram where the diagnostic criteria is the minority, and as it tapers off symptoms get more severe if that makes sense. it applies to all disorders.
@@TheSlamMiles thank you! That really helps, seriously.
Really inciteful video, thank you. I'm just learning more about ASPD and I'm trying to make sense of these videos. They seem to be advocatory, incredibly honest, and a bit like a public service, but from what I've read so far, sociopaths don't tend to care about things like helping like this. So is public service your motivation? Or is it to feed a narcissistic need? Getting praise for videos or your intelligence/knowledge? Also find it really hard to think any of this is untrue, but I understand manipulation is common, so should I be more skeptical want the motivation?
I hope these are fair questions - I haven't quite worked out where the line is between discriminating against people with ASPD and just having a healthy awareness of the symptoms/traits.
It's cool that you can recognize what traits would make you better, and wish to consciously develop them. Personally, I feel that the only thing that makes someone a terrible human being, is if they impose themselves on people to the point that they will ruin a person's life if they don't submit to mistreatment. A cheater who gets broken up with, and goes about their life, at least allowed their ex the right to not want to be with them. If a friend decides they are going to not be around someone who disregards their feelings, and that person accepts their right to do so, then even if they have that negative quality, they accepted that it's OK for someone to not be around them. When someone who is anti social refuses to accept others inalienable rights to the point they become fixated on destroying their life if they don't do as expected, this is the point that they can be labeled a bad person. Your ability to work on something you recognize as lacking makes your disorder, though still self serving and not perfect, not a bad thing.
Thank you so much Kanika! Love you and wish the best for you!
I imagine that like other types of neuro-divergency, ASPD women are better at masking. Women are routinely underdiagnosed with ADHD and ASD, because we learn to mask very young and thus present differently. Why not ASPD as well?
Also thank you for what you do here.