What is Autistic Masking and How to Stop

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  • Опубліковано 25 лис 2024

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  • @cowsonzambonis6
    @cowsonzambonis6 Місяць тому +3

    I’m self-diagnosed for a year, and love hearing others’ experiences. Looking forward to more videos on your channel!

  • @nitrogenFox
    @nitrogenFox Місяць тому +3

    I was surprised to see this video was from such a small creator and with so little views. It seems so similar to other videos on autism topics that gets thousands or millions of views. Good luck on your journey as a creator!

  • @francestaylor9156
    @francestaylor9156 Місяць тому +7

    Never try to placate others at the expense of your own self. I’m not here to make other ppl comfortable bc they have insecurities. And I don’t need to be friends with ppl who are going to judge me for being me.
    I have no problems finding a quiet spot alone at a party. I will also leave a party if I don’t feel the vibe. I’ve noticed it’s always other ppl that feel weird for me. I’m perfectly fine. I don’t let that stuff bother me. I like being alone after talking the whole time at the party. I don’t need to always talk. It’s fine to take a break.

    • @Ellsbetterlife
      @Ellsbetterlife  Місяць тому

      100% this!!! I found that the things I told myself were because of pressures other people put on my rather than what I thought about myself. So glad you feel comfortable being you❤

  • @michaelramos3085
    @michaelramos3085 Місяць тому +7

    I was diagnosed with ADHD, depression, and anxiety when I was a child. Now, at 26, I took the RAADS-R test and got a 165. I know its not supposed to be used as a diagnosis on it's own, but so many of the questions clicked with my experiences in life. After that, I've started researching autistic behaviors, especially masking. Seeing videos like this makes me want to cry, I feel so seen and understood. I always thought I was just defective and I had to carefully curate everything I said and did as to not come off like a freak and be ostracized like I was when I was a kid. I've struggled to distinguish how much of my personality was me, and how much was the construct I built to get people to like me. Thank you for sharing your experiences, I finally feel like I'm not alone. Sorry for the long winded comment.

    • @Ellsbetterlife
      @Ellsbetterlife  Місяць тому +1

      Thank you so much for your lovely comment and I’m so glad that it helps! This is exactly how I felt going through my own diagnosis journey, I completely get it!! Sending love to you ❤

    • @AmandaWojahn
      @AmandaWojahn Місяць тому

      I just got diagnosed this year with autism adhd anxiety and depression at 39

  • @gray_mara
    @gray_mara Місяць тому +1

    ...creating a spreadsheet of all my autistic traits should be in the DSM. 😂 I relate too hard.

  • @samjuraijak2999
    @samjuraijak2999 Місяць тому +3

    This video is so incredibly validating. I've been feeling really terrible about my inability to connect with people because I'm too concerned about how they are perceiving me and whether I'm saying or doing the right thing that I can't even truly engage with them. Your video has really helped me see things differently, and now maybe I'll try to be more open and free to act as myself

    • @Ellsbetterlife
      @Ellsbetterlife  Місяць тому +1

      Thank you so much for your lovely comment, everything you said really resonates with me too and it can be so hard not to judge yourself for the things other people have told you about yourself, which weren’t true (I hope that makes sense). Remember it takes time so don’t beat yourself up for not doing it overnight! ❤️

  • @shadows-of-alex
    @shadows-of-alex Місяць тому +3

    commenting for the algorithm so more people see this!! as a very high masking autistic AFAB nonbinary person, i definitely relate to everything you said at the start. the only reason i’m hopefully getting a diagnosis at 15 is because i’m hitting autistic burnout atm so my ability to mask is very reduced. sending hugs to my fellow autistic burnout friends, we’ll get thru this :))

    • @Ellsbetterlife
      @Ellsbetterlife  Місяць тому +1

      I hope you’re doing well! Good luck on your journey and thanks so much for commenting❤️

  • @strangemarmalade2481
    @strangemarmalade2481 Місяць тому +1

    I love your cadence. Also this was a lovely video thank you 😊.

  • @robertsharkey8114
    @robertsharkey8114 Місяць тому

    Really good summary of a complex issue, and it looks like a great deal of effort was put into the video editing! Good save with the "Switch the Flip" moment 😊

  • @davidrichards9898
    @davidrichards9898 Місяць тому

    So glad to see you on UA-cam. Now you can happily go 'extended full monolog" to our, and your delight.❤

  • @GabeBult
    @GabeBult Місяць тому +1

    Great video 👀

  • @keepitmia
    @keepitmia Місяць тому

    omg you deserve more subscribers

  • @Jimbo5900
    @Jimbo5900 Місяць тому +2

    really great video

    • @Ellsbetterlife
      @Ellsbetterlife  Місяць тому +1

      This is the best compliment, thank you so much!!😊

  • @MCV630
    @MCV630 Місяць тому +2

    switch the flip 🤩

  • @EnlightenedSavage
    @EnlightenedSavage Місяць тому

    You're not autistic.

    • @Ellsbetterlife
      @Ellsbetterlife  Місяць тому +7

      @@EnlightenedSavage My diagnosis says otherwise 😊 prime example of why I make these videos, because people are very uneducated on what it looks like.

    • @Ellsbetterlife
      @Ellsbetterlife  Місяць тому +1

      Just posted a new short i think you’ll like btw😊

    • @markpw2613
      @markpw2613 Місяць тому +6

      I will be dignified in my response. I have it myself and have also worked in the field of Autism support. Upon first glance I can see the point of view she may appear really social or even "normal"... but its a neurological condition without a set look. Some people with autism appear socially fantastic or even dress amazingly BUT it's not necessarily who they are all the time and such as the case of making a UA-cam video, it's a controlled setting with rehearsed or scripted content, but maybe in random environments with no prep autistic traits will defo be more apparent. Masking for others goes hand in hand and it's actually a point she's making well. If she doesn't seem autistic, then her masking has done its job!!

    • @athens31415
      @athens31415 Місяць тому +1

      Why don't you stop Trolling -- sounds like you're just jealous of having to wear a Mask everyday because you're a Psychopath and know that, unlike Autistics, if you remove your mask, society will cast you out and you'll be in jail.

    • @gray_mara
      @gray_mara Місяць тому +2

      I don't know why psychiatrists take so much time to make a diagnosis when you can apparently do it by watching a video on UA-cam.

  • @MauriceGucci
    @MauriceGucci 25 днів тому

    I’m so glad I discovered “autistic burnout”. I legit thought I was depressed, but in a very weird way as I deep down really don’t feel unhappy isolating from the world right now - quite the opposite really. Autistic burnout just hits the mark in describing my current state.