Yeah, he said he was never able to really form attachments with people. He admitted to gaslighting me and lying to me. He pretty much admitted to being a narcissist.
@@eringorman6288 Yeah, you probably hit the nail on the head with that one. He was very entertained by the fact that he did all that and got away with it.
I know my narc ex misses me. She even told me once that no one in her life had ever treated her as well as I did. That’s the thing that makes my conscious clear: I treated her like an absolute queen. Love, respect, caring, patience, affection, devotion, loyalty,I spoiled her. She threw that all away and she’s never getting it back. She has to live with that.
Sounds like a classical hoover because Narcs can't do anything else than hate people who turned them down. Everything supposingly bad you did to them makes you an evil person and they'll never ever feel like you did them any good
I was extremely naive at the time I was with my narc ex. Literally like that princess in the Enchanted movie, it was insane. My ex LOVED it. Relished in my blindness. I did so much work on myself after that relationship and it woke me to narcs and myself. He tried hoovering me two years after the breakup and my mindset shocked him. I’m like a whole different person. From doormat to no shits taken. Happy healing everyone ❤
I feel the same way like if I was the princess in my story and he was my prince because he was so charming and so perfect but he was just a narc all along playing me and loving how naive I was for him 😢
It's more about in the moment kind of use. So I helped my ex narc giving him hype how great he was one he was transitioning from a job he hated to a new one in a different city and helping him during that process. He always lived with his parents. This man is 35. He moved and when that major shift was over with he started looking for girls closer to the area and ended the relationship saying I was a year older to him and that was a deal breaker (but it wasn't a deal breaker on the 1st date it was an issue after 6 months of dating) and he just thanked me for the support that was it I "helped" him and he gave me baggage.@@kenyabishop9417. So now he is married (girl was found pretty fast) and I am pretty sure he couldn't cope with living alone let alone cooking alone and that's the supply she gives him and it may last longer because the woman is probably more dependent on him with regard to finances than I would have been.
I didn't even know my ex was a narcissist until the week after he strangled me until I urinated myself and punched me in the eye, breaking my eye socket. I kicked him in the face with my stiletto, oh poor him. He was so mistreated. I'm pressing charges and he stayed in jail for 3 weeks. While he was in jail I found out about numerous women. I went through hell leaving him. The day he assaulted me I was supposed to be in eviction court and found out I was being evicted with 2 days to move out. I have 2 children 3 and under so leaving was especially hard. I downloaded Instagram and found out about narcissism. Thank God I'm not in that relationship anymore!!
It’s sad that we are all here watching these types of videos trying to understand people who once upon a time meant a lot to us or still do.. using myself as an example, I moved on and married, had kids. The ex is still unmarried and childless, I see her situation and deep down I still feel sorry for her even though it was from her own wrong doings. She reached out to me recently many years later, unfortunately I let my guard down. Things went from 0-100 so quickly. But it didn’t take long for me to see what I wasn’t missing. You can’t change there behaviour. we humans have our weaknesses.. don’t ever let your guard down…… !
Hmm narcisists actually usually have no problem getting married and have children. The most unfit people always have (the most) children and are quick to look for narcisistic supply in a partner and/or children. Narcisistic people cant stand to be alone for even a second.
@Shanta Fuentes yeah it IS sad, he will never admit his faults bc he's not mentally strong enough to except it. So he'll rather exam u hoping your life take a bad turn so it will validate him not being a bad person when deep down he knows he is lol. They never want to work on themselves they'll whether focus on someone else who don't care if they're breathing
My ex narc discarded me and treated me like crap towards the end because he has new supply. I was hurt because I was by his side,until I meet this beautiful soul and I’m so happy with now my ex family is checking on me. I’m good bye 👍🏾
@@hindwidad2723 They truly dont care about changing for the better..they pretend long enough to get supply, use an abuse their victim and then they move on to the next person very fast. They have no loyalty or conscience. They're heartless.
I don’t understand these kind of questions. What does it matter? He mistreated me for years and I left. I could care less if he thinks about me. It changes nothing so why get hung up on it? Just keep moving and healing. Stop looking back cuz it’s nothing there for you.
I mean to answer your question, for you it may be easy but for us who actually cared and still do to a certain extent ( trauma bonding matters a lot) . Please be sensitive to others, a lot of us has kids with that person and a lot of us put in a lot of efforts, time, money spent, feelings, loyalty as a regular relationship. It isn’t easy. It will almost be a month since no Conact for me.
@@eliannasmalls5403 u can do it! It’s 4mo for me.. find sumtin u enjoy.. try not to replay it over n over n ur head.. he was a Liar n gave u a fairy tale n I told myself I was playing wit da devil
I am in the process of leaving my narcissistic husband. I am so traumatized I know I'm going to need therapy and I have a long road ahead of me to recovery 💔
Thank you for your content. You've really helped me to see I wasn't crazy at all, and just needed to learn to do self love healing sitting in the pain I've allowed to happen to me. 7 months no contact at all. And life is way more peaceful without him in it. No drama no bullshit. So thank you.
Yes. Forgiving yourself for allowing the abuse is crucial. You sound like you're on the right track. Healing alone for me has made me grateful for my ex. (I know that sounds nuts but keep reading.) He served a very important role in my life. He gave me so much mental torture that now.. I whole heartily love myself. He was SO toxic that I refuse to allow that type of person into my life ever again. He is the reason that I dig deep, looked inside myself and healed. Once you heal from this type of abuse, you really are unstoppable. But it doesn't stop at just healing from them. You have to heal all your past trauma that allowed you to be their target to begin with. Happy healing, my love. You are beautiful, strong, smart, and fearless.
Honestly, I still wonder sometimes if he thinks about me but I've healed enough now that it really doesn't matter one way or the other. He has a child now with the person he got with after me. Good riddance, she can have him!
I am so pitiful I actually watch all these videos to give me closure because I never got it from my partner I even sometimes find myself asking if I'm a narcissist I just want to know when will this hurt stop
I don't know , I felt when my nex came home to me which was normally daily he had some kind of maybe wanting to be with me in some capacity ,he liked to watch movies together and eat together .(He really had me fooled up until the time we broke up .)They are incredibly good actors . Oh he is trying to claw his way back (nothing has changed about him ) He is trying to talk to many other women at once , I don't like sharing my significant other . 9 months no contact !!!
The only think they miss is what you did for them and what you did for their image. It’s all about their massive ego, and they’re so full of pride!!! The world revolves around them and them only. Thank you, Lee!!! I wish they would all change, but we know that’s not going to happen. 😊❤️😊
I had a best friend from 7 years old. She had NPD was making lies about me behind my back. Had to let her go as a friend. Had a few Narcissistic boyfriends too. It’s really hard because their a sweet side to them.
My ex has a trace of Narc in her. She sent a break up text Sunday and she contacted me almost everyday since. But yesterday I was having a moment of vulnerability and she highjacked it and made me a villain. I apologized for projecting. Within our almost 2 year relationship, I was always apologizing and was in the wrong. Making me feel crazy.
I just want to commend and congratulate you for overcoming this evil spirit. It takes a lot for a Narcissist to admit that they are one and to actually go for treatment. Brother I really congratulate you. This is serious. I just started learning who a narcissist is, never knew I was dealing with one till recently. This is mind-blowing.
This is absolute accurate. Lee explains well how the memory of you that they may have is not exactly how you would like it to be remembered. Remembrance doesn’t equal repentance. My NPD ex once said he considered me the one who got away, but after understanding his perspective, he viewed me as the one who got away because nobody else would tolerate his physical and verbal abuse. Don’t use this video as a justification that your NPD person misses you, listen with wisdom and understanding that they are not a healthy person to cultivate or reunite a relationship with. Know your value and your worth and many people have recovered and healed from narcissistic abuse. Be encouraged and stay safe.
They quick 2 forget the harm they did to.someone., and they don't realize the damage that's been done. Their slate is clear. When the person takes them back they begin the abusive treatment all over again
No, they don't miss/think about you. What they think about is the drama they created when you were together. It's been six months of no contact for me and my narc, and now suddenly she wants to be sisters again. Why? She didn't want to talk to me when I was in her house; why call me now? Guilt is probably the reason. Narcs (some) know when they've done you wrong (and they'll never apologize). They just hope that when they've stayed away long enough you'll forget all the horrible s**t they put you through.
I have love in my heart for my narcissistic ex and her six kids but in my logical mind, I’ve blocked her on all social media and would never even speak to her again. I gave her my all and she totally wrecked me. If anyone is with a narcissist, run. It hurts like crazy at first and it takes time to heal, if you can heal, but at least you will survive her insanity
The longer I'm away I can't even imagine interacting with him bc of how I've changed. I would be standing up for myself and I know that wouldn't hang for long.
I've been manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillows or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my arms and shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more. My in-laws were also very verbally abusive towards me. I wasn’t allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to, I had to be ready for an argument. Every day I was reminded that I am nothing and that I was not worth fighting for and that I don't meet the standards of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me and had a girlfriend. After seeing the texts and pictures, I became numb. I've been a good wife, I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to this hacker who's helped me to extract enough information from his device. Someone on here shared a link to the hacker who helped cloned his phone without physically touching it. All I did was send his phone number to him and through a remote link sent to my email, I was able to access all of his texts, emails, Facebook and Instagram chats, real-time call listening and his long deleted messages as if the phone was physically with me. Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help you can get in touch with him Email: instagram.com/mark_clinton2424/
@@maydavis7589 Sounds like maybe you're trauma bonded, and may have taken on summer off your narcs traits. I'm praying for you and for ALL of us. This is the hardest thing I've ever been through.
I appreciate your sense of humor! Thank you for helping us to look at this in a sense of reality. Narcissism will cause a person to view a relationship differently then we see it. I know that my Ex blames me for the way the relationship went and the failure of it. He's angry that I wouldn't let him continue treating me badly. He thinks about that all the time. "Why wouldn't she let me continue being comfortable? She messed up my comfortable life!"
Wow @Nugget do aspd know what they're doing and do they do they do it on purpose? How do you get rid of somebody who is aspd? I'm 13-years into stalking and he won't 🛑 he has several people helping him stalk me because he's obsessed with my body.
@@jadewindom68 We are basically just some impulsive angry-ass people who are very defiant and adversative. In fact as a child my diagnosis was ''oppositional defiant disorder''. Just like Lee Hammick or the narcissists... Or even borderline people... We are not ''emotionless monsters'' or the ''jezebel spirit''... I'll try to make this comment as short as possible the answer is YES we know everything society verbally teaches everyone, we know what we are doing and we ALWAYS act on purpose, our problem is emotionally processing the ''concept of BAD'' so even though we know what we are doing actually in a lot of ways emotionally we don't, so the answer is that we know what we are doing in a logical manner, we have memory of our actions. Basically I am similar to BPD in a sense that my emotions get messed up in a similar fashion and I also tend to have the black and white thinking... However DIFFERENT from BPD... Some of my emotions are corrupted and cannot work as expected. For example shame is corrupted... Therefore I cannot learn anything useful from shame. In normal people it seems that shame has a huge connection with guilt. I can only feel guilt under very specific situations because many feelings that lead to guilt are corrupted. Therefore I have less pathways to guilt... And normal people usually assume I'm incapable of feeling guilt... Not true. It's just a lot harder for me to feel that. It's a lot harder for me to see and recognize my mistakes, in a lot of ways if emotions are like colors, ASPDs are basically color blind to emotions, proper identification of some emotions are lacking, similar to how color blind people cannot see some colors. How to get rid of a stalker? I am not sure because we ASPDs are also stalked by other ASPDs and it gets complicated when we ourselves are already fighting people with the same disorder and well. You have to know how to cover your tracks. Keep your life private. Keep in mind that the Stalker is moved by an energy that you don't have. The stalker can be relentless. So the best strategy is the one that consumes less of your energy. The social networks can be quite dangerous because they reveal your location and activity. Unfortunately the only real solutions are legal, get some kind of legal restriction on the stalker. Remember this they are actual criminals!!!
Narc dumped me every other day Treated very poorly and vilified almost daily with insane accusations. Totally disregarded me like trash. Really feeling it.
"Maybe I won't ever find anybody to let me get away with all this horrible stuff ever again" I'm 100% convinced this is what my nex is thinking when he tries to hit me up. Haven't physically seen him in over 3 years, haven't responded to his attempts to contact me in almost a year but I STILL get the occasional late night VM from him every couple months.
Thank you I needed this message. Today I really cut ties with my narcissist. I found out he was lying and had the double life. I miss him but I know I had to cut all ties and start over. I’m healing ❤️🩹
Congratulations, you have completed the most important part being in a partnership with a narcissist - cutting ties. That is never easy. From my own experience, we don't miss them per se, we miss our lives being with them, we miss the good, fun experiences we had with them, we miss our perception of them, which is usually judged by rose pink glasses, we miss the expectations we had for our future with them, we miss our parts of ourselves we lost while being with them. If you had to go back to the worst times he treated you badly, do you still miss him? I'm sure you don't. And, I understand that the mind says no while the heart catches up later. It gets easier, however healing is necessary and no contact is a must. May you find the strength in healing and courage in finding yourself again. Be blessful and blissful!🙏🏼💞
This is a codependent illness issue, Also treatable. Of course they think about us! We are wonderful! To bad for them! Work on you! The more you work on you the smaller their thoughts cross your mind. Once you are FREE you'll deal with them as a stalker & what not, but that's on them. Not you, YOUR ACTIONS MATTER! Are you opening the door or keeping it shut & triple locked! Don't unlock that door if you do THAT WAS YOUR CHOICE! You control your life! Nobody else! Much love Survivors! It took me 8yrs to leave my abuser. Y'all deserve love from yourselves, look into Al-Anon & codependency. We need to put ourselves first for once & we are opposite of narcissist. We are their targets because we tolerate & accept it & excuse it. STOP TOLERATING, ACCEPTING & EXCUSING IT! That's on you. Hold yourself accountable for choosing to keeping them in your life!
Excellent video. Short and concise. I guess my issue is that I still miss the person he pretended to be. My best friend, my lover and confidant, we spoke every day and spent so much time together, I don't know when he had time to cheat..... I remind myself all the time that he could never really exist as the person I loved because he was not willing to get help, for his me tal illness. He mastered how to hide it instead. I'm thankful to be healed from the trauma, no longer bitter. Sometimes, I feel sad for him. Other times, I just don't care. The journey continues, I guess, and you have helped so much, Lee. God bless!!
He missed getting away with anything and actually said.. “you should have called me out but it was impossible I didn’t let you” 😑 Then back to how much more his new supply cooks and cleans and why I deserved how he treated me. Maybe I didn’t cook and clean for him because he treated me terribly and i wanted him to leave. maybe shes easier to manipulate because she’s a 19 year old foster kid and hes a 30yo man child and technically her boss when they started seeing each other… days after ending out 10 year relationship. I can’t make this up.
Girl , yours sounds so similar to mine. Left me for a his co worker who's 10 years younger than me. Smh left me pregnant with our 1 year old daughter. Smh
having been close to narcs they think about every ex like the rest of us. however, each narc that I have met talks in a self indulgent way about the ex ,how horribly they treated them and what a naive the person was to accept it
Thank you so much for this. My toxic mother never even knew who I was or who I am. She created an image the she want to feel better about herself and her horrible behavior.
You're the cutest narc I have ever met. The reason behind that is you always telling the truth of your kind! It's not funny or pleasure to think about what the narc did to me, but I will stick on my healing journey, no matter how hard it is! Thanks again for all the truth you exploited!
Literally the creepiest thing my nex said after 5 years of seeing me again was that I smelled the same as 5 years ago. And he still recalled memories of 5 years ago that I had completely forgotten or didn't remember anymore.
My narcissist ex asked me periodically why was I with him. Said I deserved better than the way he treated me. I was caught in a fantasy of what I wish he could be. I ended it before he could discard me. He told me to breathe and calm down. So I know he wasn't expecting it.
I did 15 years with a narcissist in the beginning it was great i used to get on my knees and give him a bath, and have his clothes out and have dinner cooked and once he start lying and cheating, I stoped doing all of those things because he did not deserve it I was not going to give the same energy. Once he start lying and cheating I would treat him how he would treat me so if he had an attitude, I had an attitude right back because I’m normally so sweet. I really don’t even say two words I don’t raise my voice, but after a while I treated him just how he treated me and that’s what he get when he miss treats, a good woman. So much stress I lost myself I was really deep in the Bible he didn’t like me listening to the Bible the craziest part about it is, I never wanted to be with anybody else but him I would never even look at another guy when I was with him so I got rid of him I got sick of being mentally abuse I’m not even attracted to men like that I have been single for 16 months I had one friend that I know for 20 years we would talk every day. So he knows everything I have been through He’s begging me to give him a chance. I gave him a chance we was together for a couple of months. He started showing me his colors and I had to get rid of him and I’ve been single and I’m really enjoying being single after that I’m completely turned off by men That last one was a narcissist as well that’s crazy we was friends for 20 years. That friendship is gone now. I have been into long term relationships one for 10 years with one female and then one for 15 years I have kids with him he’s a narcissist and then I had a friend that I know for 20 years I gave him a chance I was only with him for two months and he show me his colors I got rid of him real quick. I am completely done with relationships. I just want to take care of my children. Go to work and praise God. I will not be having sex are nothing I’m giving myself and my undivided attention to God. When my ex narcissist I was with them 15 years Start popping, up trying to get me back coming around here every other day I had to tell him let’s focus on our children he would send me videos of him crying talking about. I Don’t love him anymore when I have always loved him and probably will always love him I still cry because I thought I was going to be with him forever, but it didn’t work out that way. Mental abuse is real and no one should get miss treated now he don’t want to be bother with his children unless I’m talking to him when the kids text him he don’t reply back when I text him he replies back it’s been four months. I have not talk to him at all. But he drops money off for the children. He does not want to be on child support and that’s cool with me just because he did wrong. Does not mean I have to try to do him wrong I just go in the room if I’m talking to somebody else he gets angry and I told him that he should never be angry because I don’t care who he is with he wants to come around here cookout talk I don’t have that to do at all
Wow your story is like mine they do not change pray 🙏 for them and love them from a far and let it go and you will find happiness I promise I thought I couldn't do it you deserve real love and respect and sadly they are fakes mirroring our love cause they can't they are not capable and it will always come back to their headgames and theirselves I should write a book 25 yrs of it may you find true love in yourself and God blessings to you and your family💝🙏
Thank you. I'm sure I'm remembered negatively by my ex. He was always crying that he was a victim and unless he could use an ex later, he never had anything nice to say. He wasn't accountable for his actions during our 10yr relationship, I don't he ever will. Thank you for this content is helpful learn more about this kind of person.
I’m sure not mine when he had ghosted me n I came back like a idiot I asked, “ did u miss me” he looked in the air n sd,” if I put thought n2 it” 😮 The only truth he told🤦🏽♀️
It’s been almost a decade since me and my narcissistic baby mother separated. Let me tell you,having a kid with a narcissist is the worst,she just won’t leave me alone and I’m constantly fighting with her over my kids. It’s exhausting.
My ex doesn’t miss me as he’s too busy talking, texting, and giving gifts to his 2 baby mamas that both cheated on him and left him years ago. All this while in a relationship with the woman he left me for. They can all have him and his nonsense.
It is getting hard I felt for the past several days that my ex is obsessing over trying to win me back. Everyday. It's multiple emails talking about how he is a changed person and wants to give me everything that he never did and it's just a whole lot of what is usually future faking
Yes thank you so much for being real with us, this is what we need to understand...I used to have conversations with my mom about my narc and we kept thinking that him and I could have a good life together if he could stop his BS but it wasn't gonna happen.
I appreciate what you do. I had my longest term relationship blow up 2.5 years ago, and was shattered. It wasn't til I came across narcissist content randomly last year that I could actually make sense of what happened. Come to realize my ex was a covert narcissist. Helped me process and heal and understand what was going on in that relationship. But finding you recently, getting a viewpoint from someone with npd, has also been extremely valuable and enlightening. Thanks bruv
Not going to be enough. He said to me, whatever I do will never be enough. I said you do the bare minimum. All conversations are my fault. I told him he never takes accountability for what you do. Family knows the truth and yet they agree with the garbage.
Thank you for your honesty. I just broke up with an abusive narcissist and you just made it easier not to feel sorry for him. And that spider analogy is just perfect. It makes a big diffetence to hear it all from a real perspective, a "real thing", and not from someone trying to explain it looking from the outside. Thank you, and good luck with your work. I would like to recomend to you books by Samael Aun Weor and V.M. Rabolu. For making a realy lasting change. I also know a personality disorder from the inside, and these authors will give you a formula for a permanent and lasting change. Good luck!
You've helped me a lot and thank you. Even tho some of thrse videos are trigging to me. Thank you for your honesty and opening up! Well-done for your self awareness and keep it up!
Lee, I really appreciate you. It takes a lot of courage and honesty to do what you’re doing. You have a lot of insight and personality, and it’s great that you’re helping people. God bless you.
I was my Exe's only proper relationship- or better: the only one he ever got traumabonded to him for two years. I left him, of course he thinks about me all the time, just as he did with all the (very few) women who left him or refused to be with him, in the first place. They hate forever
You're right. Ever since I've been out of the picture he can not find anyone to stay with him long term. He's tried to hoover me again recently and I just paid him dust.
Lee. You are the best. You TRULY are an inspiration. Thank you so much for your candid-ness. You are helping me through the most difficult time of my life...and you make me giggle through some of it too. Peace ✌️
I'm sure the one I knew occasionally remembers me. I'm also sure he remembers a lot of people. What does it matter? His thought are pretty nearly psychotic, because the internal world of any narcissist is psychotic. He has the memories that a deeply disturbed person has. I'm not complimented, to say the least.
One of the great things I like and respect about watching and subscribing to your channel is your transparency brother (and you are hilarious in your humor and examples) it is helping me to realize that my black a$& ain’t crazy and seriously realize that my spouse has some serious challenges that my heart goes out for…but I realize now that it has to be from a distance…I miss me and gotta get that brother back…thank you for the education and my new awareness
This is all familiar to me as the scapegoat to my own narcissistic family. My family used to "invite me to the party so I could see them ignoring me.' They only called to find out information and then gossip so I stopped giving them any information about me. They treated me disrespectfully when I would show up and gossiped in anger when I stopped showing up. The only reason my family wanted me around was to have someone to kick. LOL I wish it didn't have to be this way but I am over them and even would feel anxious if they ever tried to come back. I would love it if they would do what you are doing, that is "self-reflecting" to improve.
I’m a first time watcher. I’ve never hear a narc. tell the truth unless it’s to hurt others. 😅 I like the harsh deliverance of The Little Shaman. She gets straight to the point.
I’m sure my narcissistic ex best friend missed me because I was the only best friend that deals with his mess, and ever since I left him and the friendship 2 years ago, he was trying to get back in contact with me twice and I let him know to leave me alone and never contact me ever again. And I blocked him.
My guess prior to watching the video: oh hell yeah they do, but only in the same self-absorbed and depersonalized way they think of you prior to the relationship
Never once she told me she misses me even after discards. With no accountability and fragile ego, she’ll continue thinking everything is my fault. We have a child so yea there are thoughts. Family connection and communication is there anyway. She has said sorry once for being sneaky but no reasoning for the apology. I feel all she’s thinking is about her fun and sex with others
Bumped into him and he went off on me for no reason, I continued to walk away, he got into his car drove a few feet, and sat there watching me. Im so happy that I am no longer dating him. SMH.
yep, rite, the narc i knew he often reminisces about the old times even the bad ones when his friends betrayed his trust, he still holds grudges on em, never forget em tho it happened years ago
This is a question I would ask. I didn't realize I was dealing with a Narc and when I was replaced, it hurt. I think that's where this question comes from. That I have this question today tells me I have a long way to go.
It doesnt matter. Narcissism is an attachment disorder. They cannot bond properly.
Yeah, he said he was never able to really form attachments with people. He admitted to gaslighting me and lying to me. He pretty much admitted to being a narcissist.
@@foxiefair123 narcissists don't ever admit anything... That sounds more like a sociopath
I was just thinking about how disorganized attachment is connected to narcissistic attachment style.
@@eringorman6288 Yeah, you probably hit the nail on the head with that one. He was very entertained by the fact that he did all that and got away with it.
@@foxiefair123 thank God he's out of your life now!
I know my narc ex misses me. She even told me once that no one in her life had ever treated her as well as I did. That’s the thing that makes my conscious clear: I treated her like an absolute queen. Love, respect, caring, patience, affection, devotion, loyalty,I spoiled her. She threw that all away and she’s never getting it back. She has to live with that.
Yes! Give it to someone who deserves it!
Well done you 💪🏾💪🏾👍🏾🤗
The things you did, were taken for granted.
Wow I got that same text from mine’s then . Later she turn on me again
Sounds like a classical hoover because Narcs can't do anything else than hate people who turned them down. Everything supposingly bad you did to them makes you an evil person and they'll never ever feel like you did them any good
Good for you - you’re a fantastic life partner. Your ex was a lesson. Have a great life ❤
I’d seriously prefer that my narc ex get lost in his mental delusions, and forget that I ever existed.
Facts
F yeah! Just move his selfcentered nrc ass along to te next victim and forget about me and anyone Im associated with!
Lol😂😂😂
You still single.?
Yeeessss
I was extremely naive at the time I was with my narc ex. Literally like that princess in the Enchanted movie, it was insane. My ex LOVED it. Relished in my blindness. I did so much work on myself after that relationship and it woke me to narcs and myself. He tried hoovering me two years after the breakup and my mindset shocked him. I’m like a whole different person. From doormat to no shits taken. Happy healing everyone ❤
I feel the same way like if I was the princess in my story and he was my prince because he was so charming and so perfect but he was just a narc all along playing me and loving how naive I was for him 😢
@@alondramarquez6249 It sucks, however be proud of your pure heart. Us empaths grow and become stronger but that pure of heart energy is for life.
We needed them to become the best 2.0 version of ourselves 👸💪😉
@Marte van der Zee facts. Just ended things with a narcissist and it has already made me stronger and I feel free!!
@@martevanderzee7440 Yes girl! I couldn’t agree more 😘
Pls dnt let deceived. The only component of the relationship they miss is whatever benefit/benefits that we supplied to them
That part!!! 🙄
Absolutely
But isn't that anyone people are going to naturally miss things that we're good to them
It's more about in the moment kind of use. So I helped my ex narc giving him hype how great he was one he was transitioning from a job he hated to a new one in a different city and helping him during that process. He always lived with his parents. This man is 35. He moved and when that major shift was over with he started looking for girls closer to the area and ended the relationship saying I was a year older to him and that was a deal breaker (but it wasn't a deal breaker on the 1st date it was an issue after 6 months of dating) and he just thanked me for the support that was it I "helped" him and he gave me baggage.@@kenyabishop9417. So now he is married (girl was found pretty fast) and I am pretty sure he couldn't cope with living alone let alone cooking alone and that's the supply she gives him and it may last longer because the woman is probably more dependent on him with regard to finances than I would have been.
LMAOOOO
“I may never find anybody else to let me get away with that stuff!!!”
😭😭😭😭 That’s… definitely not what us victims wanted to hear. 🤣
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Nah for real 😂😂😂
Yeah & he laughs at what others call Narcissist. I hope he never gets supply & shrivals up .
Hey-we can see it narcissistically by saying, "You'll never have it so good again!" 😂😂😂😂
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I didn't even know my ex was a narcissist until the week after he strangled me until I urinated myself and punched me in the eye, breaking my eye socket. I kicked him in the face with my stiletto, oh poor him. He was so mistreated. I'm pressing charges and he stayed in jail for 3 weeks. While he was in jail I found out about numerous women. I went through hell leaving him. The day he assaulted me I was supposed to be in eviction court and found out I was being evicted with 2 days to move out. I have 2 children 3 and under so leaving was especially hard. I downloaded Instagram and found out about narcissism. Thank God I'm not in that relationship anymore!!
It’s sad that we are all here watching these types of videos trying to understand people who once upon a time meant a lot to us or still do.. using myself as an example, I moved on and married, had kids. The ex is still unmarried and childless, I see her situation and deep down I still feel sorry for her even though it was from her own wrong doings. She reached out to me recently many years later, unfortunately I let my guard down. Things went from 0-100 so quickly. But it didn’t take long for me to see what I wasn’t missing. You can’t change there behaviour. we humans have our weaknesses.. don’t ever let your guard down…… !
But you are married with kids so why did it go to 100 quickly
Are you sure she’s the narcissist? Because you’re the going to someone while being married!!!!!!!!!!!
Hmm narcisists actually usually have no problem getting married and have children. The most unfit people always have (the most) children and are quick to look for narcisistic supply in a partner and/or children. Narcisistic people cant stand to be alone for even a second.
I had one narc flat out say he has no feelings for me, yet he was always watching my every move
Obsession😵 why are they so damn retarded?
He's jealous of you that's why. No one watches a person more someone who wishes they were you. He knows he's empty
@@empressb444 so sad
@Shanta Fuentes yeah it IS sad, he will never admit his faults bc he's not mentally strong enough to except it. So he'll rather exam u hoping your life take a bad turn so it will validate him not being a bad person when deep down he knows he is lol. They never want to work on themselves they'll whether focus on someone else who don't care if they're breathing
Waiting for u to be vulnerable.preying predator
My ex narc discarded me and treated me like crap towards the end because he has new supply. I was hurt because I was by his side,until I meet this beautiful soul and I’m so happy with now my ex family is checking on me. I’m good bye 👍🏾
Never looking back cause they're just crap and always be
These people are sick
Indeed they are..
@Unknown Unknown I don't understand how they don't realize that their ways don't work at the end of the day
@@hindwidad2723 They truly dont care about changing for the better..they pretend long enough to get supply, use an abuse their victim and then they move on to the next person very fast. They have no loyalty or conscience. They're heartless.
@@hindwidad2723but maybe they do?
@@Mockduck2020 They probably can’t help being who they are. I let them play their games with themselves by removing myself.
I don’t understand these kind of questions. What does it matter? He mistreated me for years and I left. I could care less if he thinks about me. It changes nothing so why get hung up on it? Just keep moving and healing. Stop looking back cuz it’s nothing there for you.
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Rite n amen to that...
Very well stated let me get back to my happy place😊
I mean to answer your question, for you it may be easy but for us who actually cared and still do to a certain extent ( trauma bonding matters a lot) . Please be sensitive to others, a lot of us has kids with that person and a lot of us put in a lot of efforts, time, money spent, feelings, loyalty as a regular relationship. It isn’t easy. It will almost be a month since no Conact for me.
@@eliannasmalls5403 u can do it! It’s 4mo for me.. find sumtin u enjoy.. try not to replay it over n over n ur head.. he was a Liar n gave u a fairy tale n I told myself I was playing wit da devil
I am in the process of leaving my narcissistic husband. I am so traumatized I know I'm going to need therapy and I have a long road ahead of me to recovery 💔
Same. Good luck 💓
Hang in there! I'm 2 years out and I promise it gets WAY better! ❤️ leave leave leave 🙌
I'm praying for you be strong I recently did the same dumped the narc husband after years of abuse and lies etc I feel relieved
Keep standing!!! You are stronger than you think!!! I hope it works out for you…🙏🏽✝️❤️
Big up your self concept to get out of it quicker putting yourself on pedestal
Thank you for your content. You've really helped me to see I wasn't crazy at all, and just needed to learn to do self love healing sitting in the pain I've allowed to happen to me. 7 months no contact at all. And life is way more peaceful without him in it. No drama no bullshit. So thank you.
Yes. Forgiving yourself for allowing the abuse is crucial. You sound like you're on the right track. Healing alone for me has made me grateful for my ex. (I know that sounds nuts but keep reading.) He served a very important role in my life. He gave me so much mental torture that now.. I whole heartily love myself. He was SO toxic that I refuse to allow that type of person into my life ever again. He is the reason that I dig deep, looked inside myself and healed. Once you heal from this type of abuse, you really are unstoppable. But it doesn't stop at just healing from them. You have to heal all your past trauma that allowed you to be their target to begin with.
Happy healing, my love. You are beautiful, strong, smart, and fearless.
Honestly, I still
wonder sometimes if he thinks about me but I've healed enough now that it really doesn't matter one way or the other. He has a child now with the person he got with after me. Good riddance, she can have him!
I am so pitiful I actually watch all these videos to give me closure because I never got it from my partner I even sometimes find myself asking if I'm a narcissist I just want to know when will this hurt stop
Oh the pain will stop, just give your self time❤
Be kind to yourself never go back stay no contact.
I feel that. Keep on keeping on. I sometimes think I'm going in reverse in my healing process, but it is still the process of healing. ❤
I don't know , I felt when my nex came home to me which was normally daily he had some kind of maybe wanting to be with me in some capacity ,he liked to watch movies together and eat together .(He really had me fooled up until the time we broke up .)They are incredibly good actors . Oh he is trying to claw his way back (nothing has changed about him ) He is trying to talk to many other women at once , I don't like sharing my significant other . 9 months no contact !!!
Why should anyone care....shut that door and forget about those people
Ppl wanna matter
@@MentalHealnessthose people need to matter to themselves, and not hang on to someone toxic that already showed them that they don't matter to them.
The only think they miss is what you did for them and what you did for their image. It’s all about their massive ego, and they’re so full of pride!!! The world revolves around them and them only. Thank you, Lee!!! I wish they would all change, but we know that’s not going to happen. 😊❤️😊
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Raised by narcissistic parents... Married a narcissist and I am depleted. I finally left after 5 years marriage.
Same. For what it’s worth, congratulations.
I had a best friend from 7 years old. She had NPD was making lies about me behind my back. Had to let her go as a friend. Had a few Narcissistic boyfriends too. It’s really hard because their a sweet side to them.
Yeah, the manipulative side. ✌️
My ex has a trace of Narc in her. She sent a break up text Sunday and she contacted me almost everyday since. But yesterday I was having a moment of vulnerability and she highjacked it and made me a villain. I apologized for projecting. Within our almost 2 year relationship, I was always apologizing and was in the wrong. Making me feel crazy.
My ex said to me. It’s being years ! You haven’t forgiven me? That’s not the point sir
I just want to commend and congratulate you for overcoming this evil spirit. It takes a lot for a Narcissist to admit that they are one and to actually go for treatment. Brother I really congratulate you. This is serious. I just started learning who a narcissist is, never knew I was dealing with one till recently. This is mind-blowing.
I don't care how that person feels. I feel great now that I'm out. I'm ALIVE 😝
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This is absolute accurate. Lee explains well how the memory of you that they may have is not exactly how you would like it to be remembered.
Remembrance doesn’t equal repentance. My NPD ex once said he considered me the one who got away, but after understanding his perspective, he viewed me as the one who got away because nobody else would tolerate his physical and verbal abuse. Don’t use this video as a justification that your NPD person misses you, listen with wisdom and understanding that they are not a healthy person to cultivate or reunite a relationship with.
Know your value and your worth and many people have recovered and healed from narcissistic abuse. Be encouraged and stay safe.
It means YOU wouldn't tolerate the bs. The others are the dummies.
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They quick 2 forget the harm they did to.someone., and they don't realize the damage that's been done. Their slate is clear. When the person takes them back they begin the abusive treatment all over again
No, they don't miss/think about you. What they think about is the drama they created when you were together. It's been six months of no contact for me and my narc, and now suddenly she wants to be sisters again. Why? She didn't want to talk to me when I was in her house; why call me now? Guilt is probably the reason. Narcs (some) know when they've done you wrong (and they'll never apologize). They just hope that when they've stayed away long enough you'll forget all the horrible s**t they put you through.
I have love in my heart for my narcissistic ex and her six kids but in my logical mind, I’ve blocked her on all social media and would never even speak to her again. I gave her my all and she totally wrecked me. If anyone is with a narcissist, run. It hurts like crazy at first and it takes time to heal, if you can heal, but at least you will survive her insanity
I hope they get a woman that beat them up and mistreat them and take everything they have and leave them
The longer I'm away I can't even imagine interacting with him bc of how I've changed. I would be standing up for myself and I know that wouldn't hang for long.
I've been manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillows or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my arms and shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more. My in-laws were also very verbally abusive towards me. I wasn’t allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to, I had to be ready for an argument. Every day I was reminded that I am nothing and that I was not worth fighting for and that I don't meet the standards of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me and had a girlfriend. After seeing the texts and pictures, I became numb. I've been a good wife, I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to this hacker who's helped me to extract enough information from his device. Someone on here shared a link to the hacker who helped cloned his phone without physically touching it. All I did was send his phone number to him and through a remote link sent to my email, I was able to access all of his texts, emails, Facebook and Instagram chats, real-time call listening and his long deleted messages as if the phone was physically with me. Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help you can get in touch with him
Email:
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@@maydavis7589 Sounds like maybe you're trauma bonded, and may have taken on summer off your narcs traits. I'm praying for you and for ALL of us. This is the hardest thing I've ever been through.
@@maydavis7589 God bless you
I appreciate your sense of humor! Thank you for helping us to look at this in a sense of reality. Narcissism will cause a person to view a relationship differently then we see it. I know that my Ex blames me for the way the relationship went and the failure of it. He's angry that I wouldn't let him continue treating me badly. He thinks about that all the time. "Why wouldn't she let me continue being comfortable? She messed up my comfortable life!"
I am ASPD and I remember everything. I think that narcissists remember everything as well.
I definitely do
Wow @Nugget do aspd know what they're doing and do they do they do it on purpose? How do you get rid of somebody who is aspd? I'm 13-years into stalking and he won't 🛑 he has several people helping him stalk me because he's obsessed with my body.
Same here. Ex narc and his flying monkeys. Year 3.
@@jadewindom68 We are basically just some impulsive angry-ass people who are very defiant and adversative. In fact as a child my diagnosis was ''oppositional defiant disorder''. Just like Lee Hammick or the narcissists... Or even borderline people... We are not ''emotionless monsters'' or the ''jezebel spirit''... I'll try to make this comment as short as possible the answer is YES we know everything society verbally teaches everyone, we know what we are doing and we ALWAYS act on purpose, our problem is emotionally processing the ''concept of BAD'' so even though we know what we are doing actually in a lot of ways emotionally we don't, so the answer is that we know what we are doing in a logical manner, we have memory of our actions. Basically I am similar to BPD in a sense that my emotions get messed up in a similar fashion and I also tend to have the black and white thinking... However DIFFERENT from BPD... Some of my emotions are corrupted and cannot work as expected. For example shame is corrupted... Therefore I cannot learn anything useful from shame. In normal people it seems that shame has a huge connection with guilt. I can only feel guilt under very specific situations because many feelings that lead to guilt are corrupted. Therefore I have less pathways to guilt... And normal people usually assume I'm incapable of feeling guilt... Not true. It's just a lot harder for me to feel that. It's a lot harder for me to see and recognize my mistakes, in a lot of ways if emotions are like colors, ASPDs are basically color blind to emotions, proper identification of some emotions are lacking, similar to how color blind people cannot see some colors. How to get rid of a stalker? I am not sure because we ASPDs are also stalked by other ASPDs and it gets complicated when we ourselves are already fighting people with the same disorder and well. You have to know how to cover your tracks. Keep your life private. Keep in mind that the Stalker is moved by an energy that you don't have. The stalker can be relentless. So the best strategy is the one that consumes less of your energy. The social networks can be quite dangerous because they reveal your location and activity. Unfortunately the only real solutions are legal, get some kind of legal restriction on the stalker. Remember this they are actual criminals!!!
Thank you @Nugget your answer is not only going to help me, but it's going to help other people too.
Narc dumped me every other day
Treated very poorly and vilified almost daily with insane accusations. Totally disregarded me like trash. Really feeling it.
"Maybe I won't ever find anybody to let me get away with all this horrible stuff ever again"
I'm 100% convinced this is what my nex is thinking when he tries to hit me up. Haven't physically seen him in over 3 years, haven't responded to his attempts to contact me in almost a year but I STILL get the occasional late night VM from him every couple months.
Yes I get that they do miss u, mines did missed me but its peaceful with out them in my life .
Wow I’m learning so much it’s scary 😢 this is what’s been happening in my marriage for the last 32 years 😭
Thank you I needed this message. Today I really cut ties with my narcissist. I found out he was lying and had the double life. I miss him but I know I had to cut all ties and start over. I’m healing ❤️🩹
you’re welcome
Congratulations, you have completed the most important part being in a partnership with a narcissist - cutting ties. That is never easy. From my own experience, we don't miss them per se, we miss our lives being with them, we miss the good, fun experiences we had with them, we miss our perception of them, which is usually judged by rose pink glasses, we miss the expectations we had for our future with them, we miss our parts of ourselves we lost while being with them. If you had to go back to the worst times he treated you badly, do you still miss him? I'm sure you don't. And, I understand that the mind says no while the heart catches up later. It gets easier, however healing is necessary and no contact is a must. May you find the strength in healing and courage in finding yourself again. Be blessful and blissful!🙏🏼💞
This is a codependent illness issue, Also treatable. Of course they think about us! We are wonderful! To bad for them! Work on you! The more you work on you the smaller their thoughts cross your mind. Once you are FREE you'll deal with them as a stalker & what not, but that's on them. Not you, YOUR ACTIONS MATTER! Are you opening the door or keeping it shut & triple locked! Don't unlock that door if you do THAT WAS YOUR CHOICE! You control your life! Nobody else! Much love Survivors! It took me 8yrs to leave my abuser. Y'all deserve love from yourselves, look into Al-Anon & codependency. We need to put ourselves first for once & we are opposite of narcissist. We are their targets because we tolerate & accept it & excuse it. STOP TOLERATING, ACCEPTING & EXCUSING IT! That's on you. Hold yourself accountable for choosing to keeping them in your life!
Yes I will from now on I got it I’m woke as ish
@@brownshugga5216 You got this Queen! You're so strong & deserve to love yourself!
He remembers when I was a good supply. He even said that a lot in the end
Oh wow
@@MentalHealness he didn’t actually say word supply but he kept saying the old Jennie and that was when he got away with everything with me
Excellent video. Short and concise. I guess my issue is that I still miss the person he pretended to be. My best friend, my lover and confidant, we spoke every day and spent so much time together, I don't know when he had time to cheat..... I remind myself all the time that he could never really exist as the person I loved because he was not willing to get help, for his me tal illness. He mastered how to hide it instead. I'm thankful to be healed from the trauma, no longer bitter. Sometimes, I feel sad for him. Other times, I just don't care. The journey continues, I guess, and you have helped so much, Lee. God bless!!
Yep. They will say
I miss my friend but I don’t miss the stress of your crazy.
Crazy= my reactions and being held accountable
He missed getting away with anything and actually said.. “you should have called me out but it was impossible I didn’t let you” 😑
Then back to how much more his new supply cooks and cleans and why I deserved how he treated me.
Maybe I didn’t cook and clean for him because he treated me terribly and i wanted him to leave.
maybe shes easier to manipulate because she’s a 19 year old foster kid and hes a 30yo man child and technically her boss when they started seeing each other… days after ending out 10 year relationship.
I can’t make this up.
Wow 😯
Girl , yours sounds so similar to mine. Left me for a his co worker who's 10 years younger than me. Smh left me pregnant with our 1 year old daughter. Smh
I was 22 he was 38 just be glad she was legal
Thank you for being honest. It is helping me release.
You got it
having been close to narcs they think about every ex like the rest of us. however, each narc that I have met talks in a self indulgent way about the ex ,how horribly they treated them and what a naive the person was to accept it
Thank you so much for this. My toxic mother never even knew who I was or who I am. She created an image the she want to feel better about herself and her horrible behavior.
You're the cutest narc I have ever met. The reason behind that is you always telling the truth of your kind! It's not funny or pleasure to think about what the narc did to me, but I will stick on my healing journey, no matter how hard it is! Thanks again for all the truth you exploited!
you’re welcome 💯🙏🏽
Literally the creepiest thing my nex said after 5 years of seeing me again was that I smelled the same as 5 years ago. And he still recalled memories of 5 years ago that I had completely forgotten or didn't remember anymore.
My narcissist ex asked me periodically why was I with him. Said I deserved better than the way he treated me. I was caught in a fantasy of what I wish he could be. I ended it before he could discard me. He told me to breathe and calm down. So I know he wasn't expecting it.
I did 15 years with a narcissist in the beginning it was great i used to get on my knees and give him a bath, and have his clothes out and have dinner cooked and once he start lying and cheating, I stoped doing all of those things because he did not deserve it I was not going to give the same energy. Once he start lying and cheating I would treat him how he would treat me so if he had an attitude, I had an attitude right back because I’m normally so sweet. I really don’t even say two words I don’t raise my voice, but after a while I treated him just how he treated me and that’s what he get when he miss treats, a good woman.
So much stress I lost myself I was really deep in the Bible he didn’t like me listening to the Bible the craziest part about it is, I never wanted to be with anybody else but him I would never even look at another guy when I was with him so I got rid of him
I got sick of being mentally abuse I’m not even attracted to men like that I have been single for 16 months I had one friend that I know for 20 years we would talk every day. So he knows everything I have been through He’s begging me to give him a chance. I gave him a chance we was together for a couple of months. He started showing me his colors and I had to get rid of him and I’ve been single and I’m really enjoying being single after that I’m completely turned off by men
That last one was a narcissist as well that’s crazy we was friends for 20 years. That friendship is gone now. I have been into long term relationships one for 10 years with one female and then one for 15 years I have kids with him he’s a narcissist and then I had a friend that I know for 20 years I gave him a chance I was only with him for two months and he show me his colors I got rid of him real quick. I am completely done with relationships. I just want to take care of my children. Go to work and praise God. I will not be having sex are nothing I’m giving myself and my undivided attention to God. When my ex narcissist I was with them 15 years Start popping, up trying to get me back coming around here every other day I had to tell him let’s focus on our children he would send me videos of him crying talking about. I Don’t love him anymore when I have always loved him and probably will always love him I still cry because I thought I was going to be with him forever, but it didn’t work out that way. Mental abuse is real and no one should get miss treated now he don’t want to be bother with his children unless I’m talking to him when the kids text him he don’t reply back when I text him he replies back it’s been four months. I have not talk to him at all. But he drops money off for the children. He does not want to be on child support and that’s cool with me just because he did wrong. Does not mean I have to try to do him wrong I just go in the room if I’m talking to somebody else he gets angry and I told him that he should never be angry because I don’t care who he is with he wants to come around here cookout talk I don’t have that to do at all
Wow your story is like mine they do not change pray 🙏 for them and love them from a far and let it go and you will find happiness I promise I thought I couldn't do it you deserve real love and respect and sadly they are fakes mirroring our love cause they can't they are not capable and it will always come back to their headgames and theirselves I should write a book 25 yrs of it may you find true love in yourself and God blessings to you and your family💝🙏
Thank you. I'm sure I'm remembered negatively by my ex. He was always crying that he was a victim and unless he could use an ex later, he never had anything nice to say. He wasn't accountable for his actions during our 10yr relationship, I don't he ever will. Thank you for this content is helpful learn more about this kind of person.
you’re welcome 🙌🏾
My narc ex tries to hoover me every few months. no contact is such a powerful thing. It's been almost 2 years I'm so glad I got out.
how does the ex hoover you when you went full no contact?
@@belroyalethey call from secret numbers maybe… I also have heard they can stand on your door….. I pray to God my narc leaves me alone.
I’m sure not mine when he had ghosted me n I came back like a idiot I asked, “ did u miss me” he looked in the air n sd,” if I put thought n2 it” 😮 The only truth he told🤦🏽♀️
It’s been almost a decade since me and my narcissistic baby mother separated. Let me tell you,having a kid with a narcissist is the worst,she just won’t leave me alone and I’m constantly fighting with her over my kids. It’s exhausting.
So sorry that you have to go through this. I’m in the same boat. It’s like they stole your life even though you left
My baby father is a covert malignant narcissist. It is the worst!
So excited for your book!
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My ex doesn’t miss me as he’s too busy talking, texting, and giving gifts to his 2 baby mamas that both cheated on him and left him years ago. All this while in a relationship with the woman he left me for. They can all have him and his nonsense.
It is getting hard I felt for the past several days that my ex is obsessing over trying to win me back. Everyday. It's multiple emails talking about how he is a changed person and wants to give me everything that he never did and it's just a whole lot of what is usually future faking
Change your phone number, block and delete him on all social media.
I personally don’t believe he’s thinking about me I’m sure he’s going after supply like a kid in a candy store 😂
Sharing your truth is very honorable. Thank you for sharing this message. 🙏
Yes thank you so much for being real with us, this is what we need to understand...I used to have conversations with my mom about my narc and we kept thinking that him and I could have a good life together if he could stop his BS but it wasn't gonna happen.
I'm proud of you! Keep doing what your doing 👏
Thank you
I appreciate what you do. I had my longest term relationship blow up 2.5 years ago, and was shattered. It wasn't til I came across narcissist content randomly last year that I could actually make sense of what happened. Come to realize my ex was a covert narcissist. Helped me process and heal and understand what was going on in that relationship. But finding you recently, getting a viewpoint from someone with npd, has also been extremely valuable and enlightening. Thanks bruv
you’re welcome 🙏🏽🙏🏽
You're the coolest narcasit I've seen haha I laugh so much on your videos! Love the honesty!
Not going to be enough. He said to me, whatever I do will never be enough. I said you do the bare minimum. All conversations are my fault. I told him he never takes accountability for what you do. Family knows the truth and yet they agree with the garbage.
Thank you for your honesty. I just broke up with an abusive narcissist and you just made it easier not to feel sorry for him. And that spider analogy is just perfect. It makes a big diffetence to hear it all from a real perspective, a "real thing", and not from someone trying to explain it looking from the outside. Thank you, and good luck with your work. I would like to recomend to you books by Samael Aun Weor and
V.M. Rabolu. For making a realy lasting change. I also know a personality disorder from the inside, and these authors will give you a formula for a permanent and lasting change. Good luck!
thank you. it is realy open my eyes. now i know that he'll be alright.
you’re welcome
2:10 Yes! Thank you for stating this!
You've helped me a lot and thank you. Even tho some of thrse videos are trigging to me. Thank you for your honesty and opening up! Well-done for your self awareness and keep it up!
Lee, I really appreciate you. It takes a lot of courage and honesty to do what you’re doing. You have a lot of insight and personality, and it’s great that you’re helping people. God bless you.
I was my Exe's only proper relationship- or better: the only one he ever got traumabonded to him for two years. I left him, of course he thinks about me all the time, just as he did with all the (very few) women who left him or refused to be with him, in the first place. They hate forever
They only miss your service to them.
You're right. Ever since I've been out of the picture he can not find anyone to stay with him long term. He's tried to hoover me again recently and I just paid him dust.
He doesn't think about me at all. He blames me for everything and doesn't remember all of the times I stood by him.
Lee. You are the best. You TRULY are an inspiration. Thank you so much for your candid-ness. You are helping me through the most difficult time of my life...and you make me giggle through some of it too. Peace ✌️
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These videos keep coming just when I need them❤️ God bless you Lee Hammock🙏🏽
I'm sure the one I knew occasionally remembers me. I'm also sure he remembers a lot of people.
What does it matter? His thought are pretty nearly psychotic, because the internal world of any narcissist is psychotic. He has the memories that a deeply disturbed person has.
I'm not complimented, to say the least.
Aaaaaaaa, good for you Lee! I can't wait until the book comes out
Ewww my ex doesn’t leave me alone… still gifts me and leaves it on my porch. It’s weird. Let me be!!!!!
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Thank you soooo much to talk about this 🙏❤️
Thank you for making such insightful content. I appreciate you.
Glad you enjoy it!
One of the great things I like and respect about watching and subscribing to your channel is your transparency brother (and you are hilarious in your humor and examples) it is helping me to realize that my black a$& ain’t crazy and seriously realize that my spouse has some serious challenges that my heart goes out for…but I realize now that it has to be from a distance…I miss me and gotta get that brother back…thank you for the education and my new awareness
This is all familiar to me as the scapegoat to my own narcissistic family. My family used to "invite me to the party so I could see them ignoring me.' They only called to find out information and then gossip so I stopped giving them any information about me. They treated me disrespectfully when I would show up and gossiped in anger when I stopped showing up. The only reason my family wanted me around was to have someone to kick. LOL I wish it didn't have to be this way but I am over them and even would feel anxious if they ever tried to come back. I would love it if they would do what you are doing, that is "self-reflecting" to improve.
I’m a first time watcher. I’ve never hear a narc. tell the truth unless it’s to hurt others. 😅 I like the harsh deliverance of The Little Shaman. She gets straight to the point.
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Lee i got my self love, Jornal...it came yesterday.
They don't miss you as a person, they miss the supply they got from you.
I’m sure my narcissistic ex best friend missed me because I was the only best friend that deals with his mess, and ever since I left him and the friendship 2 years ago, he was trying to get back in contact with me twice and I let him know to leave me alone and never contact me ever again. And I blocked him.
My guess prior to watching the video: oh hell yeah they do, but only in the same self-absorbed and depersonalized way they think of you prior to the relationship
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Answer: who cares, erase them
Never once she told me she misses me even after discards. With no accountability and fragile ego, she’ll continue thinking everything is my fault. We have a child so yea there are thoughts. Family connection and communication is there anyway. She has said sorry once for being sneaky but no reasoning for the apology. I feel all she’s thinking is about her fun and sex with others
Got away,he'll yeah🤔bump that I'm not going back🤢🤮
Yes he thinks about me every day
Thank you for posting these videos.
You are my favourite for real! Thanks for those truths that you are sharing with us! 🙏❤️
Mines has no way to contact me unless he shows up on my front door and I hope he’s not that foolish.
Lee my mother has NPD im 34 and when I was with her she made me feel like just like you said not enough or talking to her drains me her fangs come out
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Bumped into him and he went off on me for no reason, I continued to walk away, he got into his car drove a few feet, and sat there watching me. Im so happy that I am no longer dating him. SMH.
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yep, rite, the narc i knew he often reminisces about the old times even the bad ones when his friends betrayed his trust, he still holds grudges on em, never forget em tho it happened years ago
This is a question I would ask. I didn't realize I was dealing with a Narc and when I was replaced, it hurt. I think that's where this question comes from. That I have this question today tells me I have a long way to go.
“So Lee what you like to be fake in real life???” “…. EH” 😂😂😂😂😂
That part took me out. Great episode! 🙏🏾