Great video! LOVE LOVE LOVE that beautiful brown pant with pink top and hat...one of my favorite color combinations....and....it is TRUE!!!! If I'm wearing sweatpants and t to go to chiropractor or other therapy, I don't exist to the outside world (and that's what I need at the moment), but on other days, running errands or lunch, I dress in hat/boots/floral dress with messenger bag, and comments and likes fly freely.....I do it for me, as a clothes hound and love designing/creating my own clothing/jewelry, but it's that inner reflection to the outside world that makes it fun and changes the reactions from the outside environment. Your style is perfect for you!!! your dress collection is yummy
Priska!! I have been off social media for a couple months and this video is just incredibly timely! The way you describe style and revamping it is almost a spiritual experience is SO true. So recently … My personal style hit a wall, being unable to wear a lot of the clothes I had curated in a very distinctive wardrobe. I am am about 2+ months postpartum with my little girl, and previously I had a very distinctive style with a bohemian-preppy-vintage vibe. Except now being unable to wear a majority of my clothes left me in a lifestyle upheaval- feeling lost, and like I was wearing clothes that were not authentic to me. All the outfits I put together (half-heartedly) began to feel like frauds. Like a costume that I was trying really hard to wear. But what I would wear just wasn’t supporting me during my current phase of life. And fighting sleep deprivation, exhaustion, and postpartum depression was not helping. It was really hard to say goodbye to my past self’s well-curated style and enter in a new life phase that had different requirements. I kept getting dressed but then taking off items throughout the day - jewelry that got in the way, switching from tops that were not practical, and so on. Thankfully I have spent a decade or more in retraining the inner critic, training my internal dialogue to be a coach rather than a critic. So while reflecting upon my scenario, I had a mental conversation that went like this: Me: This isn’t working for me. 😢 My “style” just isn’t suiting me anymore. I feel like a fraud whenever I get dressed. I feel stuck and sad. Internal coach: “Your creativity is blocked and you are relying on an old version of you to get dressed. You just need to hunker down on what feels most authentic to you in THIS moment. Stop trying to be the image of your past self. You need to wear things that bring you joy. Right now, at this moment, What DO *YOU* feel like wearing?” Me: Well, clothes that are practical and efficient. Things I can nurse in, and that are rugged, hardy, and can withstand baby spit ups. Internal coach: “Ok, describe to me what that looks like to you?” Me: If I could, I’d wear Birkenstock sandals, graphic tees with National Parks on them, or oversized tees with beautiful pictures on them. To remind me of the outdoors, and that I will get back outside one day. I’d wear my cargo vests, linen pants, comfy joggers, and oversized sweaters. I’d wear longer, flowy scarves, and flowy soft skirts, and kimonos. I’d wear my favorite boho hats, and even the baseball caps I never touch. I’d wear Aztec prints and plaid flannels, and wool socks on chilly mornings. I’d wear hoodies and cable knit sweaters. I’d wear my chunky lug sole boots, and sneakers with my dresses. I want like only 4 pairs of earrings to choose from. Same for necklaces. I want to simplify and just choose something that goes with everything. I want only 3 eyeshadows within grab and the most minimal daily makeup I have ever done. I want to smell like a forest after rainfall and like Patchouli. IC: “…. It sounds like you know *exactly* what you are drawn to. Very cozy, very granola, earthy, and boho. What’s stopping you? You have a lot of this stuff.” Me: Well…. How can I wear oversized tees or sweaters with a flowy skirt? I’ll be one big baggy, shapeless mess. IC: “Or maybe you will love it. Maybe you just need to play around with it instead of automatically dismissing it.” Me: And Birkenstock sandals… I haven’t replaced the old black pair that I wore out years ago… so I don’t have any…and they aren’t cheap. IC: “I bet you can use your thrifting skills to find one secondhand.” Me:…. They aren’t “pretty” sandals though…. IC: “And whyyyyy do we care if they are ‘pretty’? Aren’t we talking about earthy efficiency and practicality? Girl, you have been a Birkenstock lover since the moment you put a pair on at age 16. Stop trying to fit in a box of what you can and can’t wear! You know that you love them. You just need to “allow” yourself to wear this stuff! Stop thinking about what other people are going to think of you. 🥲 --And I did indeed find a pair of Birkenstock sandals for less than *half* the price of brand new ones!! And since all my tees were too small, I did thrift secondhand ones and bought some on Etsy, taking advantage of seller sales, offers, and free shipping. I even went to my local thrift store (with my baby!) and found summertime pants and tops that fit me. I narrowed my jewelry down to a few key pieces to make it less overwhelming to choose from and placed them separately within easy reach. (I love long necklaces but just cannot wear them with a baby.) I simplified my makeup to super minimal, keeping only a few key things out on my counter (eg. Concealer, bronzer, DYT T3 starter kit, some blush and eyeliner. No mascara) And despite my uncertainty, I began using essential oils for my personal scent a few weeks ago- a mixture of Arborvitae & Patchouli. It is very earthy, a “dirty hippie” fragrance that smells like the forests of the Pacific Northwest. I have begun wearing things that truly bring me joy, not just because they “are my type”. There is a lot of experimenting right now but I have stopped telling myself, “I can’t wear these 2 things together” and I am just having the loveliest, creative time putting outfits together again. 💖💖💖
You’re amazing! I love to hear your full process and how much it’s meant to you to update your style to suit your new chapter in life. Your story is powerful. Thank you for sharing this with me. You’ve given me a lot to think about. 🥹🫶🏼
Hello! I love your videos! So glad I found your channel. I also have ties to Florida. In 2020, I moved to Austin. My life changed so much. Marriage, mom; completely lost who I was. My son is 2 now. I am on that journey to be comfortable with myself again.
We're always evolving! 🧘♀️ Your previous style won't fit your current lifestyle, so keep digging in to what's authentic to your current life. I'm pregnant with my first, and I'm already evolving my style to Mom mode. 😊
I'm building my wardrobe of bright, happy, dopamine driven colors and it is invigorating to open my closet! A sea of oatmeal and grey would spiral me into a deep depression.
I just found your channel and it's such a breath of fresh air! As soon as I saw all those colors in your closet I knew I had to subscribe. I'm going through a style process of my own and I am so sick and tired of the white button down, blue striped oatmeal sweater, and earthtone blazer that every stylist says are "must have" items. My three words are Classic, Diverse, Feminine. I really want to dial back the black and white and mix colors more creatively. I love your style ❤.
You made me wear dresses and now I don't want to wear anything else. 😂 I feel more confident, feminine and free in my clothes. I started to really change my style when I felt I was dressing like my husband. 🙈
Dressing like your husband, you took me out on it 😂😂😂😂. I agree with you, I still incorporate trousers and jeans some time, but I'm more towards dresses/skirts feminine short and jumpsuits ❤.
But Vanilla ice cream IS my favorite😢
Girl me too!! I absolutely love it
Saaame 🥺 love it 🙏
😅😂🎉
Your style is like your posture, you're doing it either way. That's an interesting way of looking at it, I like it.
I’m glad that idea stuck with you. 🙌🏼
Great video! LOVE LOVE LOVE that beautiful brown pant with pink top and hat...one of my favorite color combinations....and....it is TRUE!!!! If I'm wearing sweatpants and t to go to chiropractor or other therapy, I don't exist to the outside world (and that's what I need at the moment), but on other days, running errands or lunch, I dress in hat/boots/floral dress with messenger bag, and comments and likes fly freely.....I do it for me, as a clothes hound and love designing/creating my own clothing/jewelry, but it's that inner reflection to the outside world that makes it fun and changes the reactions from the outside environment. Your style is perfect for you!!! your dress collection is yummy
Well said, Leslie! 👏 👏
Priska!! I have been off social media for a couple months and this video is just incredibly timely! The way you describe style and revamping it is almost a spiritual experience is SO true.
So recently … My personal style hit a wall, being unable to wear a lot of the clothes I had curated in a very distinctive wardrobe. I am am about 2+ months postpartum with my little girl, and previously I had a very distinctive style with a bohemian-preppy-vintage vibe.
Except now being unable to wear a majority of my clothes left me in a lifestyle upheaval- feeling lost, and like I was wearing clothes that were not authentic to me.
All the outfits I put together (half-heartedly) began to feel like frauds. Like a costume that I was trying really hard to wear. But what I would wear just wasn’t supporting me during my current phase of life. And fighting sleep deprivation, exhaustion, and postpartum depression was not helping. It was really hard to say goodbye to my past self’s well-curated style and enter in a new life phase that had different requirements. I kept getting dressed but then taking off items throughout the day - jewelry that got in the way, switching from tops that were not practical, and so on.
Thankfully I have spent a decade or more in retraining the inner critic, training my internal dialogue to be a coach rather than a critic.
So while reflecting upon my scenario, I had a mental conversation that went like this:
Me: This isn’t working for me. 😢 My “style” just isn’t suiting me anymore. I feel like a fraud whenever I get dressed. I feel stuck and sad.
Internal coach: “Your creativity is blocked and you are relying on an old version of you to get dressed. You just need to hunker down on what feels most authentic to you in THIS moment. Stop trying to be the image of your past self. You need to wear things that bring you joy. Right now, at this moment, What DO *YOU* feel like wearing?”
Me: Well, clothes that are practical and efficient. Things I can nurse in, and that are rugged, hardy, and can withstand baby spit ups.
Internal coach: “Ok, describe to me what that looks like to you?”
Me: If I could, I’d wear Birkenstock sandals, graphic tees with National Parks on them, or oversized tees with beautiful pictures on them. To remind me of the outdoors, and that I will get back outside one day. I’d wear my cargo vests, linen pants, comfy joggers, and oversized sweaters. I’d wear longer, flowy scarves, and flowy soft skirts, and kimonos. I’d wear my favorite boho hats, and even the baseball caps I never touch. I’d wear Aztec prints and plaid flannels, and wool socks on chilly mornings. I’d wear hoodies and cable knit sweaters. I’d wear my chunky lug sole boots, and sneakers with my dresses. I want like only 4 pairs of earrings to choose from. Same for necklaces. I want to simplify and just choose something that goes with everything. I want only 3 eyeshadows within grab and the most minimal daily makeup I have ever done. I want to smell like a forest after rainfall and like Patchouli.
IC: “…. It sounds like you know *exactly* what you are drawn to. Very cozy, very granola, earthy, and boho. What’s stopping you? You have a lot of this stuff.”
Me: Well…. How can I wear oversized tees or sweaters with a flowy skirt? I’ll be one big baggy, shapeless mess.
IC: “Or maybe you will love it. Maybe you just need to play around with it instead of automatically dismissing it.”
Me: And Birkenstock sandals… I haven’t replaced the old black pair that I wore out years ago… so I don’t have any…and they aren’t cheap.
IC: “I bet you can use your thrifting skills to find one secondhand.”
Me:…. They aren’t “pretty” sandals though….
IC: “And whyyyyy do we care if they are ‘pretty’? Aren’t we talking about earthy efficiency and practicality? Girl, you have been a Birkenstock lover since the moment you put a pair on at age 16. Stop trying to fit in a box of what you can and can’t wear! You know that you love them. You just need to “allow” yourself to wear this stuff! Stop thinking about what other people are going to think of you.
🥲
--And I did indeed find a pair of Birkenstock sandals for less than *half* the price of brand new ones!! And since all my tees were too small, I did thrift secondhand ones and bought some on Etsy, taking advantage of seller sales, offers, and free shipping. I even went to my local thrift store (with my baby!) and found summertime pants and tops that fit me.
I narrowed my jewelry down to a few key pieces to make it less overwhelming to choose from and placed them separately within easy reach. (I love long necklaces but just cannot wear them with a baby.)
I simplified my makeup to super minimal, keeping only a few key things out on my counter (eg. Concealer, bronzer, DYT T3 starter kit, some blush and eyeliner. No mascara)
And despite my uncertainty, I began using essential oils for my personal scent a few weeks ago- a mixture of Arborvitae & Patchouli. It is very earthy, a “dirty hippie” fragrance that smells like the forests of the Pacific Northwest.
I have begun wearing things that truly bring me joy, not just because they “are my type”. There is a lot of experimenting right now but I have stopped telling myself, “I can’t wear these 2 things together” and I am just having the loveliest, creative time putting outfits together again. 💖💖💖
You’re amazing! I love to hear your full process and how much it’s meant to you to update your style to suit your new chapter in life. Your story is powerful. Thank you for sharing this with me. You’ve given me a lot to think about. 🥹🫶🏼
Hello! I love your videos! So glad I found your channel. I also have ties to Florida. In 2020, I moved to Austin. My life changed so much. Marriage, mom; completely lost who I was. My son is 2 now. I am on that journey to be comfortable with myself again.
We're always evolving! 🧘♀️ Your previous style won't fit your current lifestyle, so keep digging in to what's authentic to your current life. I'm pregnant with my first, and I'm already evolving my style to Mom mode. 😊
I'm building my wardrobe of bright, happy, dopamine driven colors and it is invigorating to open my closet! A sea of oatmeal and grey would spiral me into a deep depression.
Hehe! You get it!! 🙌
I use to dress colorful, and now I am in the sea of oatmeal…😂
I just found your channel and it's such a breath of fresh air! As soon as I saw all those colors in your closet I knew I had to subscribe. I'm going through a style process of my own and I am so sick and tired of the white button down, blue striped oatmeal sweater, and earthtone blazer that every stylist says are "must have" items. My three words are Classic, Diverse, Feminine. I really want to dial back the black and white and mix colors more creatively. I love your style ❤.
Oooh I like this journey you're on. 🙌 It's empowering to embrace your authentic self & style, and it sounds like you're well on your way.
So much space in that closet!! I can only dream😂😂
Well, it’s only because I’m pregnant, and I took out the clothes that don’t fit. I’m down to about 10 dresses. 😆
This video really touched me and gave me a lot to think about. Thank you for sharing this!
That's so nice to read. 🤗
Love it ❤
You made me wear dresses and now I don't want to wear anything else. 😂 I feel more confident, feminine and free in my clothes. I started to really change my style when I felt I was dressing like my husband. 🙈
Dressing like your husband, you took me out on it 😂😂😂😂. I agree with you, I still incorporate trousers and jeans some time, but I'm more towards dresses/skirts feminine short and jumpsuits ❤.
Awww 🥰 I love to hear that! I'm delighted that you feel more like yourself in your outfits.
I was in my minimalist era and we had similar button ups and tshirts, always jeans, sneakers... Now I am in my feminine era. 😅
❤