An older woman that I worked together with in Europe many years ago kindly asked me why we do this to our hair (relaxer), she said, “I like it round”. She was expressing her love for the ‘AFRO’. 🥰
Same here, sis. I don't know the first thing about wigs and weaves. I'm not that chick. I don't care what other people do. Do you, sis. Whatever makes a sistah happy is fine with me.
I wear weave (I’m growing my natural hair out from a Japanese straightening thing) and I love my l hair. Once it’s at the length I like, I’ll wear it out. I don’t feel great in a TWA😂 but I love the voluminous fluffy beautiful cloud that is black hair.
It is so... embarrassing. There's no rest and it is a ridiculous amount of self-hatred. And so many groups of people bleed their hate and self-hate onto Black women including Black women. It sucks. Alot.
@115dancingqueen mmm it's a mixed bag, also from different groups it's different. I wouldn't say it's "MORE" - it is in a league of its own in a way however it's MORE concerning but makes the MOST sense to be honest as it's a result of something they want to disassociate themselves with. It is a shame in the end.
I’ve been wearing my hair naturally for almost, if not, more than 15 years and you cannot tell me that at age 64 I still rock all of my clothes when I dress up or down for any event. I just love me. Fumi keep on pushing for us to love ourselves!
They're ignorant and deluded. Like if you feel this way keep it in your circle. Why would you even degrade yourself and other black women on social media like that??
@@deepierre7575 Skin that is used to not having makeup doesn’t have the ‘tired’ look. I took the opportunity to finally break away from it when the pandemic hit and we were quarantined. The skin on my face and neck were completely different from the rest of my body. Neck up was pale and ‘tired’. Neck down was youthful and vibrant. I went back to using clays (rhassoul and bentanite) and Dead Sea mud powder, enhancing them with Ayurvedic powders (rose, neem, aloe, Amla, Brahmi, Zizyphus). My skin now looks better than it did when I was a teenager. It took a whole year, which seems like a long time to bounce back, but considering I wore makeup for 10 years, maybe not.
😂😂😂😂 the only make-up I ever wear is lip or lip gloss. My skin looks awesome. I get compliments all the time. So whoever says you can't go out without makeup is ridiculous
Miss Universe’s words made me cry, she made the point so clearly and beautifully. As an Afro-haired Latina who grew up in a mostly white environment, it took me so long to learn to love my natural hair. I’m so proud of her for being so confident at her young age. She deserves that crown. 👸🏾🤎✨
As someone who has been to school, church, weddings, cinema, theater, holiday etc with my natural hair I have no conception of why anyone will want to say this. Imagine sending a message to not only your niece but other young girls that their hair is not enough. People need to stop being ignorant.
@@sharlaamysamuel After 62yrs of observing our behavior, I've come to this conclusion. The experiences of Black Women worldwide, historically has distorted our view of ourselves, similar to the Anorexic who while looking like a skeleton,sees obesity.
Sometimes the struggel some BW face they have come to believed God hates them and never loved them to watch them being bash left and rights of their hair. Its expensive to carter for Black hair and the frustration of it refusing to grow longer to the desire wish in many BW mind is a real struggle. Some BM are also the cause because many bashes BW hair being natural as not beautiful and go to other race to rubbed it in the face of BW that their preference got good better hair. Some BW breath for a white women hair and spend $$$$$$ for lace wigs.
When you find black women talking about natural hair not good enough to go to an event it shows how they feel about themselves without the dead hair extensions or wigs. Beauty is how “YOU” feel and think about yourself. The ladies were expressing how they feel about themselves and projecting their feelings on to us. I love me and am a very confident black woman; who owns who I am with and without my wigs or extensions. Love yourself and everyone will in turn love you. God gave us what He knew we all could rock and until we embrace our true self we will continue to feel inadequate. Your natural beauty is the best authentic BEAUTY!
Ditching the wigs and weaves is the best decision I have ever made. My hair is healthy, thriving, and looking much better than the struggle wigs I used to wear. Lol. We should remember that wearing someone elses hair carries certain energy and possible trauma and synthetic hair is no better. It's definitely a process, and going natural really helped me remove what I didn't know was self-hatred ❤
@@maxineramz4464To be fair, this will not happen if you're taking proper care of your hair underneath and not using glue and all of that. I wear natural and human hair wigs, and my hairline is very healthy.
As Black women, I feel we should be over this conversation. Yet hear we are again. Thank you Fumi for taking it to a new level. You look fabulous. That young woman has a lot to learn.
I think the beauty of being a black woman is what we already call 'the black girl magic'. Because of our hair, there is so much we can do, and look beautiful and put together in all ways. When it comes to her mindset, I really pity her. She actually thought she was making history with that comment...
👀 Embrace your natural hair young ladies. Psalm 139:14. Imagine being ashamed of what God gave you😪 Low self esteem in my opinion; Oh my!!! Individuals with the straight hair wish they had our hair. Fumi you look Amazing with your natural hair❤
What is groomed by your estimation? Im curious because this means different things to different people. People also choose to grow free-form locs, which is literally letting your hair loc with zero interference. That doesn't take away from natural beauty.
Some people don’t see free form locs as groomed or beautiful. The same way we don’t see unbrushed and tangled white hair as beautiful. Nothing about race for me, everything about style. Everyone is free to decide what is beautiful to them. But all means if you find free form locs beautiful then it shouldn’t matter what others think. Seeking external validation is ridiculous when you love something. To me, natural hair is the most beautiful. Groomed = DETANGLED and intentional/maintained. So i don’t find free form locs beautiful but I love locs in general esp. sister locs. I’ll never judge or correct someone with it tho. Likewise no one should judge or correct me for my taste.
@@VBoo459 you addressed the hair style. My specific question was how natural beauty is reduced while wearing what one may argue is the most natural means of keeping one's hair there is. It's simply letting your hair grow, in its natural form. Based on grooming preferences, how does that change or reduce one's natural beauty? If to be 'groomed' means avoiding certain natural states, it can be classified as a 'non natural ' process. How then can the manipulation of hair decide what natural beauty is? It's why I asked the commenter for their explanation of the point, given my own thoughts. It isn't about my opinion of free formed locs. I wanted to explore why self acceptance is limited to 'neat/ groomed' hair.
FUNMI that's me you're reading ,my chat to you. My name is Sis Alice I am 58 years old younger😂😂😂. I am rocking my natural hair too, for about 10 years now. Though i need Enitan to work on, the edges of my hair. Thanks, I appreciate you deeply. Most especially for reading, and noting what we; your followers writes and send to you... it shows that you' engaging we your audience❤❤ Thanks again, for being a good ambassador ,for most of our black youths; who are derailing from the train they're riding on. By the way, your Aunty Maureen Desalu ,was someone i used to admire; whenever she visited the Finance Office i worked at ,back in the 90s. When she speaks then, I'll just be mesmerized, be watching.. Very jovial ,and joyful, and graceful. Guess it runs in the family. I think she just relocated back to Nigeria then. So whenever you're talking about how family, you come/came from,.... i cam relate to that. Totally agree with you on the subject, how our up bringing, famliy plays a big role; an important factor into how we turn out at times in life. Also, up bringing, acts as a factor, in the decisions; we make as we progress in life. I tell the youths who come up to me, obssesed with social media, cos that's the new training, parenting, school where they learn and borrow ideas from. I am not against them and social media relationship, however, I tell them if they need to follow and believe, adopt everything on social media they should check out your channel. With your channel, they can learn some real truth about life, and not the shinanigans ridiculous ideas, they adopt from whoever they're following...... You've been in the industry of fashion, modelling, acting etc. So you're relatable in my opinion. A lot of misleading contents, on UA-cam, social media in general. All these,and more, are; reshaping, clouding, and re-directing our youths in a wrong way.. By the way, i ike how you always putting a word in, for your friend Christina. I follow her on UA-cam. Let's encourage, promote, one another, in every way. That's the spirit of sister hood. God help our youths, us all, ijn Amen.
They think they are being so clever, but it’s very much giving mean girl, classless, insecure, and embarrassing. Like, can’t even imagine my future husband, his family, and/or friends stumbling across that clip.
Women have a right to wear their hair anyway they like. People bashing other women for their choices. If you don't want to wear wigs, weaves or natural then don't. Let people live their lives as they choose, without feeling one way is right over the other. People are so critical of others if someone doesn't agree with their way of thinking. This is the world we live in. So sad.😢😅.
I would take away the mean girl part because the real mean girl would NEVER invite them to their table. But everything else is accurate. A bunch of insecure black women. The nerve of them. They hate themselves. Sad and pathetic.
@@courtneypalmer53 we have been oppressed about our hair so long they have convienced us to hate our own hair that grows from our head but they can run around with blue yellow and green hair. It is conditioning and self hatred and I hope that she wakes up to her beauty
I agree 100%% however some ladies are ruining their scalps with the glues and tight braids so much so that they will never be able to go natural. I am 73 and have gone natural, perm , hot comb, and for a very short period of wearing a short wig. I feel most free with my TWA(tiny weeny Afro) . Quick, clean, and confident. I once heard someone say that if you take an hour to put on makeup, then you are not as cute as you think you are.
I was 27 years old when I decided to lock my 4c hair. My mother did not agree to this and warned me I better not do it in her house. lol So I waited until I moved. I’m 56 years old now. I cut my hair twice before I locked my hair and I was uncomfortable until I decided to embrace my hair. Both times it was because the perm did something to my hair and had to cut it. I wish this way of thinking about our hair wasn’t so ingrained into our psyche. It should not be “something we have to go through.” Because of what I went through, I made sure my daughter was going to LOVE her hair. LOVE her skin. Every chance I got, I poured into her and she got it. She wears no perms. she has wigs and wears them occasionally. What I found about the clip was the vigor in which they spoke about the hair that is growing from their own scalp and they did not recognize how venomous they sounded. The way they turned up their lips… just breaks my heart. I hope we heal and learn to embrace our true selves.
This is such a great affirmation of how you have embraced your natural hair and, I must say that I love your Afro, it looks so beautiful on you. I too, have embraced my natural hair, and finally free from the creamy crack.
I grew in a country where natural short hair are celebrated ,thank God .i love me and i love what God created i dont need to crash people to elevate myself but lord i love who we are as black africans . Do i blame them ? No coz they are a product of their toxic environment .but in this era we can't allow people to dictacte how we treat ourselves ,how we feel . Anyway i am a rwandese born and raised in rwanda but i reside in belgium ,all my love and greetings ❤😊
Same here. I'm from Botswana and I know Ugandans, Kenyans as well as South African women wear their hair natural too. We are not even scared to shave it and we still rock our African beauty
@@maxineramz4464That's one thing I noticed about East and South African women. I admire and love that about you guys. Please keep it up. Don't let the West African insecurity and self-hate get to you❤
Thank you for saying this Fumi! It is okay if she feels that way for HER... to say she feels more dressed up when she wears her hair pieces or wigs while dressed up... that's FINE! But WHAT SHE SAID WAS, "don't bring YOURSELF to HER event in YOUR natural hair"! It's a statement of telling someone they're not good enough. Then the flip side are the b men degrading bw FOR wearing weaves, wigs and hairpieces! This community is tearing young girls apart with this rag doll tug of war mentality! It's SICK! Have your preferences, but don't impose YOUR VIEWS on others!
Fumi, thank you for doing this! I am in my 50’s also , I am natural salt &pepper and I love it! Oh my I love the versatility . I also love to wear wigs. However I will never relax or color my hair ever in this life. 😊 I went natural in my late thirties. Fumi, you are such an inspiration to us all! We are watching you Love! ❤
Lovely profile pic! I encouraged my mum to stop dyeing her hair and she has lovely silver grey hair. I have a few greys and don’t feel the need to dye my hair like I once did a few years ago.
I have had my natural hair since 2017 and I love it. My oldest daughter encouraged me to wear my natural hair! I’m Afro Latina and proud of my natural hair! We are all beautiful. Be proud of who you are! ❤🔥❤
I am currently wearing a crochet braid protective hairstyle after almost 30 straight years of relaxers. I shared a selfie wearing nothing but moisturizer on my face ... the only person who immediately recognised me was my husband - I looked and felt so beautiful at 50! Thanks for all you do, Fumi! ❤
Sistah Fumi. I too love my natural hair and our God given beauty. I am 67 years old and enjoying living a healthy life and being trendy and stylish. Sending you much love from America. Keep your videos coming darling. We Need YOU! I too, will never relax my hair again. I saw my true beauty when I gave up relaxing in 2011.
You're a trendsetter. Our ancestors regarded our hair very sacredly. After cutting we used to bury it to give it back to nature. Also, covering the head, the crown Chakra, you can't hear messages from the ancestors. To me, I could never! Love your message today gorgeous black Woman. Our hair suits us! Period! ❤
Well said, Fumi! Very well said!❤🖤💚 To tell the truth, there are some bad weaves and wigs out there too. The "Bahd and bougie" women are a perfect example of that. 😵💫
Sister Fumi, thanks for addressing this issue. It's un fortunate that we've been miss educated about ourselves, especially our black hair, and believe it. The message is very subliminal... we look forward as teenagers to straighten our hair without even knowing why until, as you said, we get to the place where we embrace and accept our hair and our African heritage. Love you and your content.
Absolutely......if you want to wear weaves and wigs.yes get your own hair texture, other ethnicities wear wigs and weaves too, the difference is they wear their own hair texture. In 2024, please go and support the natural hair weaves and wig companies owned by black women.
We should love ourselves no matter how we wear our hair. Our worth is not in our hair, clothes, money etc. anything less is self hatred. What we're born with is part of our identity. How we see ourselves is how we're socialized by the world we live in. I see wigs weaves etc as fashion decisions. I understand the color classism and how historically it happens. It's sad we still don't value ourselves in 2024.. Keep on loving yourself Fumi 👏🎉
We needs to start accepting and loving our natural hair, then it's game over! You will start to walk with your head high, its a whole vibe!!!! Love your natural ladies
WOW Lord have mercy . Malcolm asked a serious question " Who taught you how to hate yourself?" LORT Can you imagine how her daughter will feel about herself. I am an African American who was blessed to visit West Africa for five weeks. There were so many women running around with wigs. There are also wig shops for children- no lie. It says wig shop for kids. These wigs look a horrible mess on wheels and they do not even match the women features. Please love yourself .
This is so refreshing, Fumi. One of the best shows you have ever done. You are indeed beautiful, as are all Black women- just As God made us. Real beauty comes from within. Thank you for your authenticity and grace.
Has anyone thought about the fact that we (Black people) are the only group of people rocking this texture of hair. We are not looking like other races therefore we are special. When will some of us wake up?
I love how u give us out confidence as black females. I have had natural hair since 2013 and I am loving it. I love how u are rocking your short natural hair 🎉
Sister Fumi you are a great role model to speak on this topic! We just never short ourselves on what is and not acceptable for black women but embrace versatility. But let that Beauty start from the inside and it will push itself out!💜
When i was younger and before i had my child i wore my hair natual and it was beautiful . I developed cancer and alopecia . My hair never grew back so yes i wear wigs all trypes and styles and i love me very much . I didnt have a choice but honey i make it work and i get many many compliments.
The message that you gave on yourself was absolutely beautiful. For me the best thing is to feed off the positive energy and push the negative out the door. Uplifting someone as they may need to hear something positive to make them feel good. We all know that gossip is a sin, move on from it . I love you and my “Beautiful Black Queen” Thank you for your uplifting words.🥰🥰🥰
I think that clip was so sad.... it's clearly not just a U.S. American problem the Self hatred that we have as black people is global.....as we would say where I'm from "baby I don't think I would have told that story if I were you" meaning some things you just ought not say, I get that it's your opinion and that's how you feel, but some things are best left unsaid and for them to be grown women on that podcast and having younger girls listening to you say that is absolutely heartbreaking. I'm not against however you want to wear your hair but to put your self hatred on such display on such a public platform is truly heartbreaking. LORD HAVE MERCY It's really sad THAT WE DON'T SEE US AS BEAUTIFUL...
I’m an American and I watch African shows for what ever reason. But in watching interviews I have heard African women say they were hopping their babies will come out light skinned. This was disappointing but wow I see it so often. Fumi is the best spoken person setting the best example in a positive way. I’m glad you called these girls out in a positive manner.
Those r not well educated africans and you are correct, there r many like that. But you will find that the good men/women from good homes like Fumi do not think like this. My parents certainly did not raise us around that kind of talk and my brothers, all very successful married dark skin beauties. Its a low class conversation usually
During the pandemic I did the big chop, no longer able to have my relaxed hair done every two weeks. I had been relaxing my hair from the age of 14 (was approaching 60). I loved my natural short hair but found it was more work than I wanted to deal with so, I found a stylist who said how about the two strand twists? My twists naturally turned into locs and I absolutely love them. I by the way am a lighter shade of brown sister with straight up, tightly coiled hair. Like you dear Fumi, I will never relax my hair again and embracing what God gave me. As you so eloquently say .. I live and love for it❣️❣️ Blessings and light to you and the Fumi Nation🥰
Lady Fumi thank you for being a beautiful ambassador for natural hair. You look stunning and we appreciate your commitment to promote self-love & self-preservation. Black hair is spiritual and sacred. Black hair allows versatility with soo much hairstyle to enhance ones look, knowing who you are, your lineage and ancestory. Artificial, unnatural hair is a temporary solution that often brings about long-term damage to our scalp, stops hair growth, encourages alopecia, alters your appearance that impacts on your self-esteem. Most often, foreign substances are used together with unnatural, fake hair products. The latter fact is not adequately addressed. Carefully interrogate the negative effects of this practice. In our culture once you cut your natural hair, It myst be burnt/ destroyed as its dead hair and not to be reused. Now adding unnatural hair, wigs to your medulla interferes with the connection to the biology of the anatomy and it allows other lifeforms to enter the sacred space. What are you inviting and what remains with you??? The cosmetic industry must step up on safer products for black people's hair. Black people let's not degrade ourselves by advocating colonial values. We cannot in this century be agents or puppets of " house negro" mentality. Let's not embarrass ourselves. Look in the mirror and accept you're beautifully made. Our children must not be misled. We must end this lie. Black natural hair is beautiful. Our very own Lady Fumi, looks breathtakingly ravishing. She looks younger, happy and fresh ❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉
I agree with you Fumi .You are my inspiration.Honestly black Americans are fighting right now to wear our natural hair .In the corporate areas we are not taken serious . Children are getting kicked out of schools for their dreads,braids with beads and natural afro's.Adult are not getting hired and also losing jobs.Crazy isn't it!
I remember watching a beauty contest of beautiful women from all over the African continent a couple years ago and being dismayed at the lack of natural hair. I find it hard to believe these women wouldn't be honored to have Lupita Nyolongo, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie or Grace Jones grace their event in all their natural glory.
The fact that she thinks natural hair is good enough for the house of the Lord, but not good enough for her event is absolutely wild to me. Also the fact that she had the nerve to say that with that ratty wig on her head 🤦🏾♀️. If you like wigs/weaves/relaxers then do that. If you love your natural hair, then rock that. But whatever you decide to do, just don’t talk 💩 about the women who choose to do the opposite of what you like…it really is that simple.
The "battle" the ladies were talking about, is in their own selves. But instead of handling their individual internal conflicts in a healthy fashion, they choose to take it out on their naturally crowned 👑 sisters.
I used to only feel “pretty” when I had a weave, wig or crochet styled hair. But I turned 50 and decided to embrace my natural hair. I just started my micro-loc journey 4 months ago. We should not feel ashamed of what God gave us growing from our own scalp.
Wow! I'm almost speechless. Thank God I'm not completely so. You know Aunte Fumi hats out to you. The fact that you can analyse this kind of comment with so much grace says so much about you. I have to say again I'm learning so much grace from you. I have seen thi topic aroound I felt it was too silly for me to give my time to till I saw it here. And to think say na nija babe talk this thing.. a first generation African wey dey Africa dey talk this thing... Just wow! How disappointing and pathetic. She doesnt think Church is worth dressing well to and she's probably a christian, She doesnt believe people should wear minmalistic makeup and natural hair is not enough. How myopic, I just wish her growth and more self acceptance.
If you go out of your way to try to make others feel bad about themselves, you are not feeling good about yourself. Rock you and rock it loud! Fumi you are gorgeous!
Preach Fumi! I encourage my child and all younger members of my family that they are beautiful just the way they are. All my nieces have become natural and they love it. They are sorry they didn’t do it sooner. There’s nothing wrong with wearing wigs or weaves but it shouldn’t be because you’re ashamed of your hair. I hope there will be a day when all black women come to the realization that there’s nothing wrong with their hair.
Hi 👋 five for never relaxing your natural hair ever again!!! I'm 57 and it's been 23 years since I've gone natural and I'm feeling great! Yes I do wear weaves, wigs and do braids ,but I'm happy natural 💃
im attracted to edges... like natural edges... not the edges that fall back to ming dynasty. The kinkier the better.. so the fuzzy edges, man.. those are absolutely beautiful.
I SOOOOO feel the same way, Fumi regarding the bad, obviously fake hairline from a bad wig, and I detest the long, fake, over embellished nails. I agree also it’s ridiculous not to wear short hair and wearing overly long fake lashes that actually truly look fake. All of this reeks of insecurity and self hate.
Thanks Fums well said. I'm 45 this month and ever since I've started watching your show 2 years ago, girl I tell you, I've never loved myself like I do now. There's nothing as fulfilling as living in the "mind your own business world"❤❤🇿🇦
I’ve got a fro and putting on my lace front tonight. But better believe the natural styles are ultimate elegance. Also, that wig on that lady was hard, stringy and dry at the same time. Her natural probably would have looked better.
Auntie Fumi, thanks for tackling this topic ❤. It’s been long overdue.I am one of those who love your new look❤❤❤❤. Hmmmmm! I am a Ugandan 🇺🇬,(East African)living abroad in a Black minority country and very proud of and wear my natural hair however expensive it is to maintain. I feel so proud whenever I wear it because it’s my identity. I AM NOT ashamed of it. There are so many of us in the same state and few who still think like the girls in the podcast. The most proud African woman is the one living abroad especially in Black minority countries . I kid you not. It’s simplicity, authenticity and heritage pride for us. All those layers of makeup for what? BBL for what? Bleaching for what? Wigs are way cheaper than rocking my natural hair. I am me, accept me the way I am. Anybody around here can prove me wrong.
Beautiful Fumi, I am sooooo glad if the young people who are now embracing themselves. Thankfully, my parents raised us to be beautiful, my father (1902-1986) taught us abour colonisation and oppression and my mother (1922-1997) taught us beauty within ourselves and others. My family has waist-length dreads, afros, twists, and some sometimes wore wigs as fun - throughout, we know, believe, and think we are beautiful. Blessings, Fumi and your tribe :)
This was such a powerful message from you Auntie Fumi, thank you❤🙏🏾 I used to be a weave girl in my 20s, but now I'm a braids girl (just had a fresh set put in and I love them😍). The main reason I do braids now is because of convenience...I don't have the time to maintain my natural hair underneath (I'm mostly natural and do my best to look after it, keep it moisturized, only do blow out relaxer twice a year but will eliminate that soon🙏🏾) because my work is very demanding and I just want to get up and go...but I appreciate what you've said: no matter what we choose, our hair is beautiful...and we are beautiful with it! ❤ We need more voices of understanding and acceptance like yours, rather than judgement, when it comes to this subject.
I remember this coming out more or less the same time the marriage of the grandson of Fela Kuti who's name is Mide Kuti wife was with beautiful natural hair ti her own wedding
“I don’t see how this is not fabulous…..” this sentiment encapsulates my feelings precisely about this situation! I too have natural hair that I adore and adorn! I additionally tend to my self presentation and have not identified my hair as a detractor from my fabulousness, indeed the opposite! My natural hair has elevated my beauty and made me much more regal and fiercely beautiful (dare I say so myself 😊)! Thank you Fumi for your poignant, well articulated and wisdom imbued discussion! Love from Trinidad and Tobago !
They are hilarious 😂 They truly don’t know better. They were not taught better. It’s blissful ignorance. I’ve never worn a wig or weave in my life. They were not mean or vindictive in the comments. It’s their preference but not mine
3:30 😊 I was talked about my hair texture and skin complexion. Growing up, And I was pretty tall from my age yeah. But go ahead and speak on it. Fuim ❤👌🏾Thank U
It is okay if she does not want natural beauties at her event. I doubt they would even go as natural women are mostly stylish, well spoken and we would not go on the net to say foolishness like that. Fumy, you always look wonderful. Your energy is pure. None of the women there can hold a candle up to you. But as you said...that is their mindset...that is the stage they are in, we leave them there as we are here enjoying all this knowledge and entertainment.
I applaud you Fumi for saying what many women are feeling about wearing their natural hair. I came out of a relaxer 8 years ago and my hair is so much healthier. These days it's live and let live. Thanks Fumi for your positive message on embracing your natural beauty
Thank you so much. I watched that video and really took offense to it. Your words were my exact sentiments. Thank you for using your platform to discuss this topic👏👏👏❤
I’m the only 58-year old (African) in my family & my circle of friends who dons natural & (now) grey hair👵🏾. I’ve never dyed it. And I’m darker than midnight 👩🏾🦳. Never bleached my very dark skin. Take me or leave me 💃🏿 😂
When i was younger I used to wear my hair very very short, I cut it and wore it slicked back, I just didn't like the redness in my hair so I would dye it black. I think people have to learn to be happy with what God gave you.
I don't know you personally Fumi. I LOVE YOU for what you say. Black is beautiful everyone needs to love whatever color shape hair type God has given them.
This is a next-level video. The part with natural hair to church and kids school. Wow so God doesn't deserve you to look presentable with natural or dress it up as well. . 🤣🤣. I can't stand ignorant people who think this hair we are born with is like we are not beautiful. Mrs Fumi, you look like a sexy school teacher 🍎❤
Auntie Fumi, Thank you so much for loving your beautiful natural hair. I wish you had did this video late 2021 when I finished chemo. Bald & insecure. I didn't know how to style my hair or embrace the stages of growth. Coming from long hair all my life down to my butt to bald in a matter of months was depressing. I know hair isn't everything, but my mom made us believe it was and to never cut it. I should have been more focused on my health but ughhh it was hard. I must say I loved the Betty boop stage and contemplated on staying there a while. In the end my wonderful family held my hand every step of the way and always told me I was beautiful and assured me they were proud of how strong I was to get through it all. I am grateful to have came across your channel maybe a year or 2 ago. Thank you auntie Fumi for always keeping it real with us. ❤❤❤❤
My natural hair is my everything I don’t wear wig and weaves. And I go everywhere with it.
me too 100%
An older woman that I worked together with in Europe many years ago kindly asked me why we do this to our hair (relaxer), she said, “I like it round”. She was expressing her love for the ‘AFRO’. 🥰
Same here, sis. I don't know the first thing about wigs and weaves. I'm not that chick. I don't care what other people do. Do you, sis. Whatever makes a sistah happy is fine with me.
@@leeleemee😊
I wear weave (I’m growing my natural hair out from a Japanese straightening thing) and I love my l hair. Once it’s at the length I like, I’ll wear it out. I don’t feel great in a TWA😂 but I love the voluminous fluffy beautiful cloud that is black hair.
It is so... embarrassing. There's no rest and it is a ridiculous amount of self-hatred. And so many groups of people bleed their hate and self-hate onto Black women including Black women. It sucks. Alot.
Especially black women
You look beautiful, thank you for showing me how much you care for Nature Hair..💜🌹🙏🏻
@115dancingqueen mmm it's a mixed bag, also from different groups it's different. I wouldn't say it's "MORE" - it is in a league of its own in a way however it's MORE concerning but makes the MOST sense to be honest as it's a result of something they want to disassociate themselves with. It is a shame in the end.
@@gloriacroswell6008 🤎🫶🌟
I’ve been wearing my hair naturally for almost, if not, more than 15 years and you cannot tell me that at age 64 I still rock all of my clothes when I dress up or down for any event. I just love me. Fumi keep on pushing for us to love ourselves!
They're ignorant and deluded. Like if you feel this way keep it in your circle. Why would you even degrade yourself and other black women on social media like that??
Absolutely 💯
Unbelievable! Self hatred
And they're laughing about it👀
@@knowthyself5044 IDIOTS SOMETHING THAT IS NOTTT THEIRS.
All of this!
this is how i feel when women say you should never leave the house without makeup
Amen and amen again
@@debrajames3865 Thank you but the gaslighting is real out here
It's like the makeup is more important than you. In my environment they say:: ooh you like tired as they don't dare to say you have no makeup 🤣🤣🤣
@@deepierre7575
Skin that is used to not having makeup doesn’t have the ‘tired’ look. I took the opportunity to finally break away from it when the pandemic hit and we were quarantined. The skin on my face and neck were completely different from the rest of my body. Neck up was pale and ‘tired’. Neck down was youthful and vibrant.
I went back to using clays (rhassoul and bentanite) and Dead Sea mud powder, enhancing them with Ayurvedic powders (rose, neem, aloe, Amla, Brahmi, Zizyphus). My skin now looks better than it did when I was a teenager. It took a whole year, which seems like a long time to bounce back, but considering I wore makeup for 10 years, maybe not.
😂😂😂😂 the only make-up I ever wear is lip or lip gloss. My skin looks awesome. I get compliments all the time. So whoever says you can't go out without makeup is ridiculous
Miss Universe’s words made me cry, she made the point so clearly and beautifully. As an Afro-haired Latina who grew up in a mostly white environment, it took me so long to learn to love my natural hair. I’m so proud of her for being so confident at her young age. She deserves that crown. 👸🏾🤎✨
@ariamason9324 😊 they are but there are also afro latinas
@@ariamason9324 no, they are Latin.
@@Margiesbaby714 Latin in itself means white, most Latin are white racially. They migrated in south Americas from Europe
@@Margiesbaby714 Latin is not a race. Therefore, just like America, Africa, Europe, etc.. You have white people and Black people.
Afro Latinas have long hair girl you are mixed you not black black
As someone who has been to school, church, weddings, cinema, theater, holiday etc with my natural hair I have no conception of why anyone will want to say this. Imagine sending a message to not only your niece but other young girls that their hair is not enough. People need to stop being ignorant.
The discontent with our own hair ,I refer to as "the Black hair Psychosis" it's an insult to God to not Love how he Created Us.
Wow, that term is deep and true!
@@sharlaamysamuel After 62yrs of observing our behavior, I've come to this conclusion. The experiences of Black Women worldwide, historically has distorted our view of ourselves, similar to the Anorexic who while looking like a skeleton,sees obesity.
Sometimes the struggel some BW face they have come to believed God hates them and never loved them to watch them being bash left and rights of their hair. Its expensive to carter for Black hair and the frustration of it refusing to grow longer to the desire wish in many BW mind is a real struggle. Some BM are also the cause because many bashes BW hair being natural as not beautiful and go to other race to rubbed it in the face of BW that their preference got good better hair. Some BW breath for a white women hair and spend $$$$$$ for lace wigs.
Exactly 💯
💯👏🏾Say it louder‼️❤️
When you find black women talking about natural hair not good enough to go to an event it shows how they feel about themselves without the dead hair extensions or wigs. Beauty is how “YOU” feel and think about yourself. The ladies were expressing how they feel about themselves and projecting their feelings on to us.
I love me and am a very confident black woman; who owns who I am with and without my wigs or extensions. Love yourself and everyone will in turn love you. God gave us what He knew we all could rock and until we embrace our true self we will continue to feel inadequate.
Your natural beauty is the best authentic BEAUTY!
As black ladies we need to give ourselves permission to wear our nature hair without feeling less than. We are beautiful ❤️
Let's stop the self-hatred and love our dark skin and natural hair. Self care and self love. Thank you Fumi
Ditching the wigs and weaves is the best decision I have ever made. My hair is healthy, thriving, and looking much better than the struggle wigs I used to wear. Lol. We should remember that wearing someone elses hair carries certain energy and possible trauma and synthetic hair is no better. It's definitely a process, and going natural really helped me remove what I didn't know was self-hatred ❤
Not to mention that these things eat your hairline
@maxineramz4464 definitely I had traction alopecia myself so worked with many black women to help get their hairline back
@@maxineramz4464To be fair, this will not happen if you're taking proper care of your hair underneath and not using glue and all of that. I wear natural and human hair wigs, and my hairline is very healthy.
I'm This seems like self hatred 😢😢
Im so happy that fumi is here to represent the beautiful chocolate Sisters
As Black women, I feel we should be over this conversation. Yet hear we are again. Thank you Fumi for taking it to a new level. You look fabulous. That young woman has a lot to learn.
I think the beauty of being a black woman is what we already call 'the black girl magic'. Because of our hair, there is so much we can do, and look beautiful and put together in all ways. When it comes to her mindset, I really pity her. She actually thought she was making history with that comment...
She made history quite alright-the wrong kind. I was appalled at her comment. My hair has been natural for 10 years
❤❤❤❤❤❤ yesssss we different and LOVE IT......She is a CLOWN
Hurt people say hurtful things! Sad!
👀 Embrace your natural hair young ladies. Psalm 139:14.
Imagine being ashamed of what God gave you😪 Low self esteem in my opinion; Oh my!!!
Individuals with the straight hair wish they had our hair.
Fumi you look Amazing with your natural hair❤
Natural hair doesn’t take away from our beauty as long as it’s groomed and loved. No matter the amount of melanin.
What is groomed by your estimation? Im curious because this means different things to different people. People also choose to grow free-form locs, which is literally letting your hair loc with zero interference. That doesn't take away from natural beauty.
Some people don’t see free form locs as groomed or beautiful. The same way we don’t see unbrushed and tangled white hair as beautiful. Nothing about race for me, everything about style. Everyone is free to decide what is beautiful to them. But all means if you find free form locs beautiful then it shouldn’t matter what others think. Seeking external validation is ridiculous when you love something. To me, natural hair is the most beautiful. Groomed = DETANGLED and intentional/maintained. So i don’t find free form locs beautiful but I love locs in general esp. sister locs. I’ll never judge or correct someone with it tho. Likewise no one should judge or correct me for my taste.
Very well articulated @@VBoo459
@@VBoo459 you addressed the hair style. My specific question was how natural beauty is reduced while wearing what one may argue is the most natural means of keeping one's hair there is. It's simply letting your hair grow, in its natural form. Based on grooming preferences, how does that change or reduce one's natural beauty? If to be 'groomed' means avoiding certain natural states, it can be classified as a 'non natural ' process. How then can the manipulation of hair decide what natural beauty is? It's why I asked the commenter for their explanation of the point, given my own thoughts. It isn't about my opinion of free formed locs. I wanted to explore why self acceptance is limited to 'neat/ groomed' hair.
I agree with you. Keep it neat!
I wear my natural hair on any outfit and for any occasion, it is just beautiful.
I feel more comfortable and confident with it.
Black/ dark skin is so beautiful! ❤
FUNMI that's me you're reading ,my chat to you.
My name is Sis Alice
I am 58 years old younger😂😂😂.
I am rocking my natural hair too, for about 10 years now.
Though i need Enitan to work on, the edges of my hair.
Thanks, I appreciate you deeply.
Most especially for reading, and noting what we; your followers writes and send to you... it shows that you' engaging we your audience❤❤
Thanks again, for being a good ambassador ,for most of our black youths; who are derailing from the train they're riding on.
By the way, your Aunty Maureen Desalu ,was someone i used to admire; whenever she visited the Finance Office i worked at ,back in the 90s.
When she speaks then, I'll just be mesmerized, be watching..
Very jovial ,and joyful, and graceful.
Guess it runs in the family.
I think she just relocated back to Nigeria then.
So whenever you're talking about how family, you come/came from,.... i cam relate to that.
Totally agree with you on the subject, how our up bringing, famliy plays a big role; an important factor into how we turn out at times in life.
Also, up bringing, acts as a factor, in the decisions; we make as we progress in life.
I tell the youths who come up to me, obssesed with social media, cos that's the new training, parenting, school where they learn and borrow ideas from.
I am not against them and social media relationship, however, I tell them if they need to follow and believe, adopt everything on social media they should check out your channel.
With your channel, they can learn some real truth about life, and not the shinanigans ridiculous ideas, they adopt from whoever they're following......
You've been in the industry of fashion, modelling, acting etc.
So you're relatable in my opinion.
A lot of misleading contents, on UA-cam, social media in general.
All these,and more, are; reshaping, clouding, and re-directing our youths in a wrong way..
By the way, i ike how you always putting a word in, for your friend Christina.
I follow her on UA-cam.
Let's encourage, promote, one another, in every way.
That's the spirit of sister hood.
God help our youths, us all, ijn Amen.
They think they are being so clever, but it’s very much giving mean girl, classless, insecure, and embarrassing.
Like, can’t even imagine my future husband, his family, and/or friends stumbling across that clip.
exactly!
Thank you
Definitely insecure vibes! Putting others down to make themselves feel good/better about themselves. Its a shame because they are all beautiful women
Women have a right to wear their hair anyway they like. People bashing other women for their choices. If you don't want to wear wigs, weaves or natural then don't. Let people live their lives as they choose, without feeling one way is right over the other. People are so critical of others if someone doesn't agree with their way of thinking. This is the world we live in. So sad.😢😅.
I would take away the mean girl part because the real mean girl would NEVER invite them to their table. But everything else is accurate. A bunch of insecure black women. The nerve of them. They hate themselves. Sad and pathetic.
I didn't know it was possible to hate yourself this much
That is exactly what I was thinking!!!
She sounded as well as looked very ignorant.😒
@@courtneypalmer53 we have been oppressed about our hair so long they have convienced us to hate our own hair that grows from our head but they can run around with blue yellow and green hair. It is conditioning and self hatred and I hope that she wakes up to her beauty
I agree 100%% however some ladies are ruining their scalps with the glues and tight braids so much so that they will never be able to go natural. I am 73 and have gone natural, perm , hot comb, and for a very short period of wearing a short wig. I feel most free with my TWA(tiny weeny Afro) . Quick, clean, and confident. I once heard someone say that if you take an hour to put on makeup, then you are not as cute as you think you are.
I love my beautiful natural hair. I have been wearing my hair like this for many years. I had natural hair back in the 70’s and wore it with pride.
I was 27 years old when I decided to lock my 4c hair. My mother did not agree to this and warned me I better not do it in her house. lol So I waited until I moved. I’m 56 years old now. I cut my hair twice before I locked my hair and I was uncomfortable until I decided to embrace my hair. Both times it was because the perm did something to my hair and had to cut it. I wish this way of thinking about our hair wasn’t so ingrained into our psyche. It should not be “something we have to go through.” Because of what I went through, I made sure my daughter was going to LOVE her hair. LOVE her skin. Every chance I got, I poured into her and she got it. She wears no perms. she has wigs and wears them occasionally. What I found about the clip was the vigor in which they spoke about the hair that is growing from their own scalp and they did not recognize how venomous they sounded. The way they turned up their lips… just breaks my heart. I hope we heal and learn to embrace our true selves.
This is such a great affirmation of how you have embraced your natural hair and, I must say that I love your Afro, it looks so beautiful on you. I too, have embraced my natural hair, and finally free from the creamy crack.
I grew in a country where natural short hair are celebrated ,thank God .i love me and i love what God created i dont need to crash people to elevate myself but lord i love who we are as black africans . Do i blame them ? No coz they are a product of their toxic environment .but in this era we can't allow people to dictacte how we treat ourselves ,how we feel . Anyway i am a rwandese born and raised in rwanda but i reside in belgium ,all my love and greetings ❤😊
Same here. I'm from Botswana and I know Ugandans, Kenyans as well as South African women wear their hair natural too. We are not even scared to shave it and we still rock our African beauty
@@maxineramz4464 exactly, we do love how we are ,its simple .
@@maxineramz4464That's one thing I noticed about East and South African women. I admire and love that about you guys. Please keep it up. Don't let the West African insecurity and self-hate get to you❤
Same in south sudan 😊
Thank you for saying this Fumi! It is okay if she feels that way for HER... to say she feels more dressed up when she wears her hair pieces or wigs while dressed up... that's FINE! But WHAT SHE SAID WAS, "don't bring YOURSELF to HER event in YOUR natural hair"! It's a statement of telling someone they're not good enough. Then the flip side are the b men degrading bw FOR wearing weaves, wigs and hairpieces! This community is tearing young girls apart with this rag doll tug of war mentality! It's SICK!
Have your preferences, but don't impose YOUR VIEWS on others!
Fumi, thank you for doing this! I am in my 50’s also , I am natural salt &pepper and I love it! Oh my I love the versatility . I also love to wear wigs. However I will never relax or color my hair ever in this life. 😊 I went natural in my late thirties.
Fumi, you are such an inspiration to us all! We are watching you Love! ❤
Lovely profile pic! I encouraged my mum to stop dyeing her hair and she has lovely silver grey hair. I have a few greys and don’t feel the need to dye my hair like I once did a few years ago.
From the profile picture you are drop dead gorgeous
@@aselyne5631 Thank you 😊
I have had my natural hair since 2017 and I love it. My oldest daughter encouraged me to wear my natural hair! I’m Afro Latina and proud of my natural hair! We are all beautiful. Be proud of who you are! ❤🔥❤
I am currently wearing a crochet braid protective hairstyle after almost 30 straight years of relaxers. I shared a selfie wearing nothing but moisturizer on my face ... the only person who immediately recognised me was my husband - I looked and felt so beautiful at 50! Thanks for all you do, Fumi! ❤
Sistah Fumi. I too love my natural hair and our God given beauty. I am 67 years old and enjoying living a healthy life and being trendy and stylish. Sending you much love from America. Keep your videos coming darling. We Need YOU! I too, will never relax my hair again. I saw my true beauty when I gave up relaxing in 2011.
Fumi welcome to the world of Hair freeeeeedom. I found my freedom 17 years ago. We are Beautiful‼️
You're a trendsetter. Our ancestors regarded our hair very sacredly. After cutting we used to bury it to give it back to nature. Also, covering the head, the crown Chakra, you can't hear messages from the ancestors. To me, I could never! Love your message today gorgeous black Woman. Our hair suits us! Period! ❤
Well said, Fumi! Very well said!❤🖤💚 To tell the truth, there are some bad weaves and wigs out there too. The "Bahd and bougie" women are a perfect example of that. 😵💫
Their ignorance and their self hate is LOUD. She obviously was taught to hate her AIR (hair)😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@BL3SSed-Bliss I know right!🤣🤣 wearing a road kill and running her mouth about natural air (hair)🤣
😂
Sister Fumi, thanks for addressing this issue. It's un fortunate that we've been miss educated about ourselves, especially our black hair, and believe it.
The message is very subliminal... we look forward as teenagers to straighten our hair without even knowing why until, as you said, we get to the place where we embrace and accept our hair and our African heritage.
Love you and your content.
Absolutely......if you want to wear weaves and wigs.yes get your own hair texture, other ethnicities wear wigs and weaves too, the difference is they wear their own hair texture. In 2024, please go and support the natural hair weaves and wig companies owned by black women.
We should love ourselves no matter how we wear our hair. Our worth is not in our hair, clothes, money etc. anything less is self hatred. What we're born with is part of our identity. How we see ourselves is how we're socialized by the world we live in. I see wigs weaves etc as fashion decisions. I understand the color classism and how historically it happens. It's sad we still don't value ourselves in 2024.. Keep on loving yourself Fumi 👏🎉
We needs to start accepting and loving our natural hair, then it's game over! You will start to walk with your head high, its a whole vibe!!!! Love your natural ladies
I've been natural over 15+ years n never looked back! Best decision I made as I embraced myself n natural beauty years ago being in Corporate.
WOW Lord have mercy . Malcolm asked a serious question " Who taught you how to hate yourself?" LORT Can you imagine how her daughter will feel about herself. I am an African American who was blessed to visit West Africa for five weeks. There were so many women running around with wigs. There are also wig shops for children- no lie. It says wig shop for kids. These wigs look a horrible mess on wheels and they do not even match the women features. Please love yourself .
This is so refreshing, Fumi. One of the best shows you have ever done. You are indeed beautiful, as are all Black women- just As God made us. Real beauty comes from within. Thank you for your authenticity and grace.
I think that's why you look so much more beautiful with your new natural do, because now we can see your beautiful features so much better.
Has anyone thought about the fact that we (Black people) are the only group of people rocking this texture of hair. We are not looking like other races therefore we are special. When will some of us wake up?
I love how u give us out confidence as black females. I have had natural hair since 2013 and I am loving it. I love how u are rocking your short natural hair 🎉
I am LIVING FOR THIS LOOK! Love it. Effortless chic, timeless beauty. Love it!
Am so happy having natural hair.
It's 12 years now.
And I love it.
I do wear wigs at times ,but not often.
Sister Fumi you are a great role model to speak on this topic! We just never short ourselves on what is and not acceptable for black women but embrace versatility. But let that Beauty start from the inside and it will push itself out!💜
Love this. I've been natural & now sister locs for a decade & a half. I can't believe that those attitudes still exist.
When i was younger and before i had my child i wore my hair natual and it was beautiful . I developed cancer and alopecia . My hair never grew back so yes i wear wigs all trypes and styles and i love me very much . I didnt have a choice but honey i make it work and i get many many compliments.
Love your hair. I did the big chop 4 years ago and I am not going back. I love my hair.....and yes we can all rock a wig as we feel. ❤❤❤❤
The message that you gave on yourself was absolutely beautiful. For me the best thing is to feed off the positive energy and push the negative out the door. Uplifting someone as they may need to hear something positive to make them feel good. We all know that gossip is a sin, move on from it . I love you and my “Beautiful Black Queen” Thank you for your uplifting words.🥰🥰🥰
I think that clip was so sad.... it's clearly not just a U.S. American problem the Self hatred that we have as black people is global.....as we would say where I'm from "baby I don't think I would have told that story if I were you" meaning some things you just ought not say, I get that it's your opinion and that's how you feel, but some things are best left unsaid and for them to be grown women on that podcast and having younger girls listening to you say that is absolutely heartbreaking. I'm not against however you want to wear your hair but to put your self hatred on such display on such a public platform is truly heartbreaking. LORD HAVE MERCY It's really sad THAT WE DON'T SEE US AS BEAUTIFUL...
I love your dark skin too! its so glowing just beautiful.❤❤
I’m an American and I watch African shows for what ever reason. But in watching interviews I have heard African women say they were hopping their babies will come out light skinned. This was disappointing but wow I see it so often. Fumi is the best spoken person setting the best example in a positive way. I’m glad you called these girls out in a positive manner.
Those r not well educated africans and you are correct, there r many like that. But you will find that the good men/women from good homes like Fumi do not think like this. My parents certainly did not raise us around that kind of talk and my brothers, all very successful married dark skin beauties. Its a low class conversation usually
During the pandemic I did the big chop, no longer able to have my relaxed hair done every two weeks. I had been relaxing my hair from the age of 14 (was approaching 60). I loved my natural short hair but found it was more work than I wanted to deal with so, I found a stylist who said how about the two strand twists? My twists naturally turned into locs and I absolutely love them. I by the way am a lighter shade of brown sister with straight up, tightly coiled hair. Like you dear Fumi, I will never relax my hair again and embracing what God gave me. As you so eloquently say .. I live and love for it❣️❣️ Blessings and light to you and the Fumi Nation🥰
You look absolutely fabulous with your natural hair ❤
Lady Fumi thank you for being a beautiful ambassador for natural hair. You look stunning and we appreciate your commitment to promote self-love & self-preservation. Black hair is spiritual and sacred. Black hair allows versatility with soo much hairstyle to enhance ones look, knowing who you are, your lineage and ancestory. Artificial, unnatural hair is a temporary solution that often brings about long-term damage to our scalp, stops hair growth, encourages alopecia, alters your appearance that impacts on your self-esteem. Most often, foreign substances are used together with unnatural, fake hair products. The latter fact is not adequately addressed. Carefully interrogate the negative effects of this practice. In our culture once you cut your natural hair, It myst be burnt/ destroyed as its dead hair and not to be reused. Now adding unnatural hair, wigs to your medulla interferes with the connection to the biology of the anatomy and it allows other lifeforms to enter the sacred space. What are you inviting and what remains with you??? The cosmetic industry must step up on safer products for black people's hair.
Black people let's not degrade ourselves by advocating colonial values. We cannot in this century be agents or puppets of " house negro" mentality. Let's not embarrass ourselves. Look in the mirror and accept you're beautifully made. Our children must not be misled. We must end this lie. Black natural hair is beautiful. Our very own Lady Fumi, looks breathtakingly ravishing. She looks younger, happy and fresh ❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉
I agree with you Fumi .You are my inspiration.Honestly black Americans are fighting right now to wear our natural hair .In the corporate areas we are not taken serious . Children are getting kicked out of schools for their dreads,braids with beads and natural afro's.Adult are not getting hired and also losing jobs.Crazy isn't it!
I remember watching a beauty contest of beautiful women from all over the African continent a couple years ago and being dismayed at the lack of natural hair. I find it hard to believe these women wouldn't be honored to have Lupita Nyolongo, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie or Grace Jones grace their event in all their natural glory.
The fact that she thinks natural hair is good enough for the house of the Lord, but not good enough for her event is absolutely wild to me. Also the fact that she had the nerve to say that with that ratty wig on her head 🤦🏾♀️. If you like wigs/weaves/relaxers then do that. If you love your natural hair, then rock that. But whatever you decide to do, just don’t talk 💩 about the women who choose to do the opposite of what you like…it really is that simple.
I love your natural look darlinggg!!
The "battle" the ladies were talking about, is in their own selves. But instead of handling their individual internal conflicts in a healthy fashion, they choose to take it out on their naturally crowned 👑 sisters.
They need to give people time to accept themselves. You are so right. Patience is needed with others.
You look absolutely beautiful Ms. Fumi. I too have natural hair. It has been about 7/8 years and I love it!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Hi Fumi looking fabulous❤Love ur skin and that pretty dress. Grace Jones was beautiful she was just very militant
Yes she does. Fumi is fabulous 👌
😊 indeed
I used to only feel “pretty” when I had a weave, wig or crochet styled hair. But I turned 50 and decided to embrace my natural hair. I just started my micro-loc journey 4 months ago. We should not feel ashamed of what God gave us growing from our own scalp.
Wow! I'm almost speechless. Thank God I'm not completely so. You know Aunte Fumi hats out to you. The fact that you can analyse this kind of comment with so much grace says so much about you. I have to say again I'm learning so much grace from you. I have seen thi topic aroound I felt it was too silly for me to give my time to till I saw it here. And to think say na nija babe talk this thing.. a first generation African wey dey Africa dey talk this thing... Just wow! How disappointing and pathetic. She doesnt think Church is worth dressing well to and she's probably a christian, She doesnt believe people should wear minmalistic makeup and natural hair is not enough. How myopic, I just wish her growth and more self acceptance.
If you go out of your way to try to make others feel bad about themselves, you are not feeling good about yourself. Rock you and rock it loud! Fumi you are gorgeous!
Preach Fumi! I encourage my child and all younger members of my family that they are beautiful just the way they are. All my nieces have become natural and they love it. They are sorry they didn’t do it sooner. There’s nothing wrong with wearing wigs or weaves but it shouldn’t be because you’re ashamed of your hair. I hope there will be a day when all black women come to the realization that there’s nothing wrong with their hair.
Hi 👋 five for never relaxing your natural hair ever again!!! I'm 57 and it's been 23 years since I've gone natural and I'm feeling great! Yes I do wear weaves, wigs and do braids ,but I'm happy natural 💃
im attracted to edges... like natural edges... not the edges that fall back to ming dynasty. The kinkier the better.. so the fuzzy edges, man.. those are absolutely beautiful.
OMG! Did she just say “Don’t bring your natural hair to my event?” I can’t believe she said that!!
C'mon blouse! Love that top!
Edit: I stand corrected...c'mon, whimsical dress!
I will give a naturalista grace but if your wig tacky and you paid for it…. Nope 😂
I SOOOOO feel the same way, Fumi regarding the bad, obviously fake hairline from a bad wig, and I detest the long, fake, over embellished nails. I agree also it’s ridiculous not to wear short hair and wearing overly long fake lashes that actually truly look fake. All of this reeks of insecurity and self hate.
Thanks Fums well said. I'm 45 this month and ever since I've started watching your show 2 years ago, girl I tell you, I've never loved myself like I do now. There's nothing as fulfilling as living in the "mind your own business world"❤❤🇿🇦
I’ve got a fro and putting on my lace front tonight. But better believe the natural styles are ultimate elegance.
Also, that wig on that lady was hard, stringy and dry at the same time. Her natural probably would have looked better.
Auntie Fumi, thanks for tackling this topic ❤. It’s been long overdue.I am one of those who love your new look❤❤❤❤. Hmmmmm! I am a Ugandan 🇺🇬,(East African)living abroad in a Black minority country and very proud of and wear my natural hair however expensive it is to maintain. I feel so proud whenever I wear it because it’s my identity. I AM NOT ashamed of it. There are so many of us in the same state and few who still think like the girls in the podcast. The most proud African woman is the one living abroad especially in Black minority countries . I kid you not. It’s simplicity, authenticity and heritage pride for us. All those layers of makeup for what? BBL for what? Bleaching for what? Wigs are way cheaper than rocking my natural hair. I am me, accept me the way I am. Anybody around here can prove me wrong.
I love this 😍😍😍☀️☀️☀️☀️
Oh lord how sad 🤦🏾♀️ natural hair is good everywhere on this earth 🌍
True. Grace Jones is the real Deffination of Black Beauty Women
Beautiful Fumi, I am sooooo glad if the young people who are now embracing themselves. Thankfully, my parents raised us to be beautiful, my father (1902-1986) taught us abour colonisation and oppression and my mother (1922-1997) taught us beauty within ourselves and others. My family has waist-length dreads, afros, twists, and some sometimes wore wigs as fun - throughout, we know, believe, and think we are beautiful. Blessings, Fumi and your tribe :)
This was such a powerful message from you Auntie Fumi, thank you❤🙏🏾 I used to be a weave girl in my 20s, but now I'm a braids girl (just had a fresh set put in and I love them😍). The main reason I do braids now is because of convenience...I don't have the time to maintain my natural hair underneath (I'm mostly natural and do my best to look after it, keep it moisturized, only do blow out relaxer twice a year but will eliminate that soon🙏🏾) because my work is very demanding and I just want to get up and go...but I appreciate what you've said: no matter what we choose, our hair is beautiful...and we are beautiful with it! ❤ We need more voices of understanding and acceptance like yours, rather than judgement, when it comes to this subject.
I remember this coming out more or less the same time the marriage of the grandson of Fela Kuti who's name is Mide Kuti wife was with beautiful natural hair ti her own wedding
Yay!!!! Congratulations on never relaxing your hair ever again! Our hair is so versatile.
“I don’t see how this is not fabulous…..” this sentiment encapsulates my feelings precisely about this situation!
I too have natural hair that I adore and adorn! I additionally tend to my self presentation and have not identified my hair as a detractor from my fabulousness, indeed the opposite!
My natural hair has elevated my beauty and made me much more regal and fiercely beautiful (dare I say so myself 😊)!
Thank you Fumi for your poignant, well articulated and wisdom imbued discussion!
Love from Trinidad and Tobago !
They are hilarious 😂 They truly don’t know better. They were not taught better. It’s blissful ignorance. I’ve never worn a wig or weave in my life. They were not mean or vindictive in the comments. It’s their preference but not mine
We are in the same boat sister. I love my natural hair.
3:30 😊 I was talked about my hair texture and skin complexion. Growing up, And I was pretty tall from my age yeah. But go ahead and speak on it. Fuim ❤👌🏾Thank U
Same here proud Jamaican black and proud
I love your natural hair… I am on the same natural journey and I admire your bravery in cutting your hair making the full transition. I love you Fumi!
Yes, a tutorial is much needed on wearing short hair. You are a beautiful role model 🌹
It is okay if she does not want natural beauties at her event. I doubt they would even go as natural women are mostly stylish, well spoken and we would not go on the net to say foolishness like that. Fumy, you always look wonderful. Your energy is pure. None of the women there can hold a candle up to you. But as you said...that is their mindset...that is the stage they are in, we leave them there as we are here enjoying all this knowledge and entertainment.
I applaud you Fumi for saying what many women are feeling about wearing their natural hair. I came out of a relaxer 8 years ago and my hair is so much healthier. These days it's live and let live. Thanks Fumi for your positive message on embracing your natural beauty
Thank you so much. I watched that video and really took offense to it. Your words were my exact sentiments. Thank you for using your platform to discuss this topic👏👏👏❤
I’m the only 58-year old (African) in my family & my circle of friends who dons natural & (now) grey hair👵🏾. I’ve never dyed it. And I’m darker than midnight 👩🏾🦳. Never bleached my very dark skin. Take me or leave me 💃🏿 😂
When i was younger I used to wear my hair very very short, I cut it and wore it slicked back, I just didn't like the redness in my hair so I would dye it black. I think people have to learn to be happy with what God gave you.
I don't know you personally Fumi. I LOVE YOU for what you say. Black is beautiful everyone needs to love whatever color shape hair type God has given them.
This is a next-level video. The part with natural hair to church and kids school. Wow so God doesn't deserve you to look presentable with natural or dress it up as well. . 🤣🤣. I can't stand ignorant people who think this hair we are born with is like we are not beautiful. Mrs Fumi, you look like a sexy school teacher 🍎❤
Auntie Fumi, Thank you so much for loving your beautiful natural hair.
I wish you had did this video late 2021 when I finished chemo. Bald & insecure. I didn't know how to style my hair or embrace the stages of growth. Coming from long hair all my life down to my butt to bald in a matter of months was depressing. I know hair isn't everything, but my mom made us believe it was and to never cut it.
I should have been more focused on my health but ughhh it was hard. I must say I loved the Betty boop stage and contemplated on staying there a while.
In the end my wonderful family held my hand every step of the way and always told me I was beautiful and assured me they were proud of how strong I was to get through it all.
I am grateful to have came across your channel maybe a year or 2 ago. Thank you auntie Fumi for always keeping it real with us. ❤❤❤❤
I’m beautiful with my locs. I love me 💕🇯🇲
"I don't see how this is not fabulous."... You literally made me snap and say "okayyyy!" as I watched! ❤ Total fabulosity 😘