Why You Are Powerless In Changing Your Life
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00:00 - Reddit Post
01:45 - You vs Your mind
06:30 - Getting Control of Your Mind
09:31 - Gunas
12:30 - "How do I get control of my mind?"
31:00 - More tactics for controlling your mind
38:35 - Summary
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1. Fix sleep.
2. Fix diet
3. Get out of the house
4. Meditation and Yoga
5. Reduce stimulation
Simple. But highly effective.
i don't know about number 4 seen like fluffy to us
could I replace yoga and meditation with working out?
@@brendanparish4653 Both have their own benefits, though yoga and meditation in the early morning are preferably much more effective than working out beforehand.
@@undocumentedcodesucks ok, thanks
I did this and it worked fantastically for 9 months (lost 70 lbs, got a new job , picked up new hobbies, etc), but it worked so well that near the end I forgot the reasons why I was doing any of it, and my mind slowly went back to my old routines (sleeping late, eating less healthy, embracing escapism). Had to find this video in my likes to remember again, so gonna restart but this time actually jot down the tips in a journal to keep focused.
How are you doin?and what exactly are you doing?
@@hafeezhmha Things are still going alright for the most part, but life has gotten a lot more difficult so its been hard to keep up with the methods provided as of recently (like getting enough sleep or meditating every day). I also should have mentioned in the original comment that this video wasn't the only thing that helped, but was more like a prerequisite to even attempting to use many of the self-help tips across the channel, and that I've picked up through my own research.
Curbing my bad habits required mindfulness, actually being present in the moment, to catch myself doing them and correct as needed, which is what the video helped me with. Sleep and meditation are the two most important things that keep me off autopilot and able effectively use any self-help techniques. When I'm on autopilot, even though I'm aware of the best practices to achieve whatever goals I have, I'm much more likely to supress, forget, or completly ignore them.
So right now I'm trying to get my schedule back in order so I can get enough sleep and start meditating again.
This might be a bit preachy, but physically putting your phone/computer in a completely different room and locking them there in the evening can work wonders, maybe close enough to hear If someone calls
A year has passed… how are you doing now?
@@IvanIvanov-yz2yv Hey! Things are still going mostly alright! Sleep schedule isn't as consistent as I'd like but still massive improvement over where I was before (sleeping during the day). I use my journal to work out & breakdown most of my problems / stressors now and have felt kinda unstoppable since the year started. Been going to the gym and cooking for myself consistently for the past few months as well allowing myself to fail at/experience more things. I don't meditate as much anymore but using my journal daily has helped keep me off autopilot more often. There are still slumps and days where I just don't wanna do anything, but I've learned to be easier on myself, take everything a day at a time, and just keep things rolling as much or as little as I can.
Being aware of one's issues and actually overcoming one's issues are two very different things😆
Being aware is the first necessary step,
the next steps are harder
@@joeyondakeys Knowledge requires reflection based on experience and then integration. Not only do you require the will to apply it, but you also require that conflict of integration in order to eventually develop knowledge into wisdom.
@@joeyondakeys ultimately desire rules everything, and desire you don't control. LACK OF FREE WILL SADGE
@@joeyondakeys Power is either wielded or not wielded. Just as knowledge can be applied or not applied... This is a strong example of how real the analogy 'knowledge is power' is, not a counterpoint.
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"As long as our mind is not working for us, our life is super-super hard, you're kinda handicapped because there's a major part of your being that is supposed to be used for your benefit which is kinda often doing whatever it wants to". I goddamn cried. This is so me. I just... I... I'm such a mess
I only recently started watching Dr K's vids like a few weeks ago and I just wanna say that the AoE healing really does wonders. Of course, you can't always take everything in the videos directly. We all don't live the exact same lives after all. But after watching some and internalising on how it could be applied to my daily life, it really has helped me to gain a bit more understanding on things that I never really had a solid grasp on like my feelings and how to handle them appropriately. This isn't related to the video, just wanna say thanks for making these vids! ^^
I get what you say and I feel the same way. I'm so grateful for his work and that it's on UA-cam!
Welcome to the community!
I've been watching his videos daily for about a year now and they've really helped me understand myself and make better decisions for my mental health!
Discovering this man has had a big impact on my life
I hope they start doing interviews again - especially the ones with "regular" people. I know not everyone is into those super long videos so I understand why they are doing other stuff, but those interviews were what really endeared me to this channel.
Well done man, so good to see people taking action and seeing an actual difference.
A word of advise from someone who's being doing this for a while (putting information into actual practice, not just watching and reading about it, like I did for most of my adult life) is to expect that you will have days, weeks even, when you feel like this whole stuff makes no sense, doesn't work and you are basically back to square one, so what's the point.
That's just your nervous system trying back to it's just your nervous system trying to go back to the familiar territory and thinking patterns. Those feelings can be also triggered by simple physiological reasons like lack of sleep, dehydration or insufficient vitamin levels.
You don't even have to do anything about it (although physical movement always helps a bit). Just be aware those moments will come, expect them, and wait them out when they show up. Emotional healing can be a grueling process and doesn't always feel like continuous progress.
This couldn't have come at a better time. I am a final year university student. My anxiety is running high, naturally. I have just come to realise that I have wasted 5 years of my life doing absolutely nothing. No self development. I am the same person I was 5 years ago. The realisation is killing me so of course I start to distract myself with games. I need to change. I want to change. Its high time... but the starting step is so scary.
I feel this. I’m also in my final year for my bachelors, been stressed for years. Don’t even think I can do anything with my degree and basically haven’t been able to put myself into anything other than school. Even on breaks it’s in the back of my mind. It’s hard to juggle daily chores with school let alone even having time to think about self development. I also haven’t truly processed a lot of major events that have happened. It sucks.
Yea, same here. Final year of undergraduate. I want to go to grad school, but I am running out of time to apply. Feels like the walls are closing in but I just keep distracting myself with UA-cam and video games. It is high time to change. We can do it, people. We made it this far. We found Dr. K, Dr. Peterson, and many others that have thought things through for us. We are learning how to live. We got this.
Holyshit, same. Final year student, exams are soon. When I think back to the past 4 years, literally nothing has changed about me and I'm still the same as I was 4 years ago. I hope you find your groove soon, and mine too.
Damn that sucks 😥
hope you get the power to take the first step
all the best 💌
First step I did was reflection. Sitting down and reflecting and listing things I could do better. But be careful with this because you can be too hard on yourself. You can become obsessed with what your doing wrong and because hyper focused on the mistakes. Just take baby steps and reward yourself. Count the small improvements.
'I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don't exercise, eat nutritious food, get sunlight, get enough sleep, consume positive material, surround yourself with support, then you aren't giving yourself a fighting chance. ' Jim Carrey
Facts
This!! I’ve been exercising and doing everything right but the sun came back one day and I soaked in it, and it just sprang me back to life. One thing can topple all the others. This life thing is tough and a weird balance.
Jim Carey, a citizen of the country which robbed dozens of other countries of their food, sleep, and safety
What is he supposed to do about his government lol
@@lynx6646 He could have decency and keep his mouth shut about reasons for depression knowing the majority of the population is malnourished, stressed and don't sleep enough no matter how they try. Cause the US decided to ruin their economy to feed their own for a bit.
It's wild how being kind of an outsider and connecting with people in a timezone behind yours when you're 13, will snowball into these like death-like lifestyle habits in the space of just a few years
So true, I was fine, even though I already used a lot of devices, 3 years ago but all those minutes where I wanted to be more efficient by multitasking made me so addicted to stimulation, now it's a complete disaster. Hopefully it doesn't take me another 3 years to undo that but wouldn't wonder if it actually is the case
@@Gokai_ dear god, that's what I've been doing. I try to make everything more efficient but I never realized I do it for stimulation. I've been doing it for close to 7 years now and I need it to stop. It was beneficial at one point but now it hinders my life.
Edit: thank you for saying that👍🏻
Literally exactly what happened to me lmao
Dang bro you got really specific there, I almost feel personally attacked. It's funny to notice how this is happening to so many different, unrelated people. People really are largely a product of their time.
Literally me. I'm 22 now and I recently got a hold on staying away from video games without having overwhelming anxiety, but only because I replaced it with other stimuli (kendama, outdoor activities, social events). But I don't think I'll be able to maintain it if I don't have people to do stuff with like I have had the past week.
It's really cool how you actually tell us in which order to do these things. Anyone can say "just eat healthier, study more and get more sleep" but explaining how these activities are connected and which ones are the easiest to start with really helps a lot.
Before watching this, I noticed that there was a period of time recently where I was in a healthy mindset where I slept well, ate well, had healthy habits, and I saw this control, like whenever I wanted to do something that didn’t align with my healthy principles it was easy to not do it and to say No. I fell back down into an unhealthy mindset, but watching this video now i know how to do it again. So thank you for your amazing content.
What put you in the unhealthy lifestyle?
@@Bawks_FEET for me atleast, The realisation that life doesnt care how well you perform healthwise. Even if you work out, eat healthy, try to you fullest to be consistant, your friends will die from random heart fail, you will outgrow your childhood friend. Even if money is not a problem you will still feel the same emptiness. Sure u get more poon when ur jacked and u dont have to work for it, it comes to u of its own accord, but substance, love, belonging wont follow. Aesthetic attracs Aesthetics, depth wont follow
Same! during summer, I was in a healthy mindset. Then University started again and I went tumbling down AGAIN. For me, university is ruining me. I don't enjoy any of it and I hardly see myself pursuing a career in Business Management. That must be the reason I'm not in control.
@@mattiasautio2778 I workout just to feel good and the looks and girls is secondary, my main goals are to just have enough money to not stress and hang out with my family and friends a lot. Works for me tbh
@@Bawks_FEET sounds Great man. that took me 15 years to figure out how to do without fooling myself
We can truly be our own worst enemies at times. Wrong view/a wrong mindset can be a prison
One doesn't choose their mindset, else I could choose not to have an illness, e.g.
That's nonsense.
You must make your brain more efficient with good nutrition and study of logic to become better.
@@fragileomniscience7647 You may not choose your initial mindset, but you surely can influence it once you notice that it might be "flawed". Or do you think that it is static? Mine certainly changed a lot throughout my life
@@TheDhammaHub No, it surely isn't static and fixed. That would be brain death or disorder.
It is information and causality which form it and precise it 🤙
@@fragileomniscience7647 In that case we can at least indirectly "choose it" as soon as we understand how to influence it at least "indirectly" I would say!
I'm not my own worst enemy, but my mind can be. adhd is a cherry on top
12:30 3 levels, shift
13:25 sleep
18:10 eat 21:55 apples & peanut butter (yum)
23:40 butternut squash soup :O (cook lime at end or bitter) 24:50 (salt, smoked paprika, cumin) spices & flavour go a long way
25:20 freeze!
small changes that are easy
19:10 smoke break 19:40 fidget -> SUNFLOWER SEEDS & WALKS/BREAKS
26:25 get outta the house, plant aerosols > good for mood, anxiety
27:10 eye accomodation
27:40 outside, focus on outside
28:00 fresh air, moving
28:15 meditation & yoga
29:10 1-2hr a day, what it takes to get control of ur mind
29:50 once ur in control of ur mind, willpower, balanced, u'll be able to resist
31:10 dam no devices in the toilet
+ during eating!!
32:20 no cost, only mind rebelling
prime example of who's in control: mind
mind will direct to 'productive' during
33:29 😂
33:50 enjoyment w/o device
34:30 willpower route
36:50
Thanks for the timestamps 😉
@@TheNurulaulia Nice :D
so is this video mostly an exercise in building willpower? if so, then that is the wrong approach. it's been known for quite a while that successful people don't have "more" willpower but just better behavior and habits. in fact people who are "distracted" all the time actually have more willpower.
@@Teilnehmer i think he talks abt willpower route later on in the vid 34:30 but says its less effective
seems like tips that are more appliable like recipes etc & forming habits
@@jletsgoo I don't know, I don't see much about habit formation beyond some very basics. Huberman Labs recently published a podcast episode about habit formation. Considering the importance of habit formation for therapy and that DrK is a practicing psychiatrist with a neurobiology degree this HealthyGamer video is embarassingly bad compared to that podcast episode.
Reading the comments and the chat in the stream I have come to a stark realisation that is pretty scary. It seems that people can be so well aware of their issues yet this can have very little to do with them overcoming them. It is almost as if the entity for knowledge of an issue and the entity of understanding your issue are separate and have no real bearing on one another. As I am writing this it has come to my attention that this was once proved by a science channel on UA-cam where a guy rode a bike that was engineered to turn the opposite way to his input and after about 3 months he got the hang of it even though he knew in theory he only had to turn left to go right and vice versa.
I think this is why you get so many seemingly successful people and you ask them how they did it and they usually don't know or they offer advice in retrospect that doesn't seem to be that deep like "follow your dreams" etc.
While I do agree, I will also say that without at least identifying your issues, healing from this is impossible. At least the recognition allows you to start moving towards a particular direction of healing, and or, makes it possible to catch yourself doing some of the things that remained in your blind spots until recognition comes.
"follow your dreams" is actually pretty damn deep, even if it doesn't seem like so on first glance. Don't be too convinced about successful people. Yeah, some of them might have not encountered any really hard downphase in life and many who did surely got out of it without truly understanding what the issue was. But there are still very successful people out there, who were deeper into the shit than we are. People, who have overcome great obstacles and who also understand how.
I'd argue that "follow your dreams" is a great advice. In times like today, where we are bombarded with negativity on social media and the people around us, learning to focus mentally on the things you want to achieve is probably one of the best things to increase the odds of success. Famous professor for neurology Andrew Huberman, whose podcast I highly recommend, claims that success is probably mostly determined by time spent focussing on a specific goal.
Simply distracting your negative thoughts with picturing where you want to go might not be the ultimate solution for every individual, but that's something we all would benefit from a little more for sure!
@@instinct94 “follow your dreams” is just so cliche and corny though, I feel like “set specific goals and work towards them” would be much better advice or something like that
Pretty sure the bike guy you mentioned is Destin from the channel SmarterEveryDay.
I've been saying this for many years. "Knowing and doing are different things."
The thing to take into account is working in Amazon and in a Amazon warehouse. That places sucks the living soul out of you, I worked there for close to a year before quitting and finding somewhere else. He definitely needs to work somewhere else where he doesn’t feel like a machine all the time, and feels more human and also with good benefits. I can see where he is coming from when it comes for his mind to work one hour before he his mind has had enough. I was like that near the tail end of me working there until I worked as a Delivery Driver for a Charity Organization and i love coming to work every morning there.
Andrew Huberman has a very good point about the controlling the mind concept, the body isn't disconnected of it, and when you can't control the mind with the mind itself you have to look to the body, and he explains a lot of tools that will directly affect how out of control the mind is, especially sleep and light.
There are many reasons for this
1) Depression
2) You haven't figured out what you like. That's like a person who loves coding takes up being a doctor because it pays well. Guess what he won't be able to work since he doesn't even like the medical stuff, he's passion lies somewhere else
3)Becoming lazy is now a habit, once you make it a habit it's difficult to stop it.
4) You are afraid people will judge your work
5) You are afraid of the work not being perfect
6) You self sabotage everything because of past trauma to replicate the same traumatic experiences that happeneded to you in the past
7) You just have excuses
8) Someone is enabling you to procrastinate
9) Lastly you push yourself wayy too hard, some people are naturally more lazy than others, it's fine if you are tad bit lazy than average just don't be extremely lazy. Extreme in anything is not good.
God 6) on this list is relatable. Awful self-esteem and a compulsive need to maintain that awful self-esteem is not a fun combination.
I have several of them 😐
Aaaaaall of them
Notice when chat started counting, there were a few that kept counting despite what Dr K was saying. I get it, it's twitch chat, internet has memers. But these are most likely the same people that call out for help when anxiety or depressions hits hard. It's so clear to me that some people are so deep in it, that distracting themselves from really focusing is all they know.
totally agree, that's why one likes twitch chatters, they just want to spam memes, it felt disrespectful towards Dr K, hope they can mature a little bit when they grow up.
@@alfredogonzalez9420 I think you can meme while respecting the person you're memeing over. Can't say for sure cos I've never been a memer or even written anything on twitch chat ever, just not my style. But when you complain and meme, at least you're voicing your resistance. That might be much better than what I do, which is still have resistance but just kinda swirl it around in my mind until it turns into rationalizations I trick myself with. Once it's out, maybe it's easier to see what DrK says because you realize how passionately you want to avoid the change. Also, you meme with others, and the sense of camaraderie can also be helpful I think. So if it takes a couple (not-so) funny jokes to internalize the point better, then that's what it's gonna take. To me it seems like DrK is just slightly annoyed and mostly having fun with it, doesn't feel disrespected. I mean, he voluntarily chose to interact with twitch chat as part of his work so I'd guess it would take a lot more to make him feel disrespected haha.
@@Valyrianalien fair point, I'm assuming you are somewhat young? I'm 27 and seeing another adult trying really hard just to spread the word about mental health to as many people as possible and theeen you have funny people ignoring DR K, to me he's like a teacher that's why I see it a bit disrespectful, you know, he's not just an average streamer reacting to funny videos online, he's someone trying to help as much as possible, idk I guess we all can see it differently.
but just one last thing, I have never seen dr K react like that in any other videos, he's a professional, any type of back and forth is like a nono, so him calling out chat like that, it felt like he showed his raw emotions for a moment
For me, this kind of depression that I had was a new development for me. Growing up as a kid I was always somewhat busy and each year I had something new to do and learn, now as an adult have more freedoms to do what I want be it anime, video games, movies, and hobbies, so long as I worked to finance it. What jobs I can do are near limitless, there are no shortages of ways of making money to spend on products I want to keep me entertained, no shortage of people I can be around. I grew up in a small and quiet town and decided to live in a small city where I was going to treat as a hub to be able to travel to various places, the troubles I've faced were that I've bumped into quite a few people that unpleasant to be around only begins to describe them. I've made it back to my quiet town and now I have to relearn how to live quietly and peacefully, the problem is that I've learned that doing nothing but stay inside and away from others is quiet and peaceful, it's getting in the way of actually living. Meeting and being around others is scary and full of "what ifs"
I was about to say, if you want to be truly happy you should stay inside. People feel like the only way they can live is if they go out and spend money and load their life up with senseless responsibilities and relationships that they don’t even care for. Do what truly makes you happy inside and never feel like a loser for relaxing and enjoying your life. Are used to go out and party three days a week 24 seven VIP type stuff and the last thing I ever want to do in the past six or seven years is go out. I feel bad for people that constantly feel like they need to go out or else they are not “living their life”. The best life is spent relaxing by myself. People are a headache.
I'm so impressed at how cohesive a relationship he was able to have with chat with the no phones in toilet part. He totally read thousands of people.
The butternut squash soup recipe for reference: Cut squash in half, add olive oil and salt, roast in oven. Fry oil, garlic and onion in a pan. Scoop softened squash into pot with oil mixture. May add celery and/or tomato. Blend and heat. For taste, may add salt, pepper, smoked paprika, lime, jalapeno etc.
I quit smoking four years ago using sunflower seeds. I was surprised to hear you bring it up, since I don't think it's very well-known. Chewing on sunflower seeds all day made the first couple weeks 100x easier.
Did you tried before without sunflowers seeds? Or was your first try ?
Did the same thing with dip awhile back
I hate how I seek help or find a short lived motivation when I notice how everyone around me move forward in life while I'm stuck in the same place since high school
Same I’ll have a sudden burst of motivation and after like 2 days it’s gone
Man I feel like this video talks about my problems alot. I'm repeating my first year in University. I used to have really good grades back in school, but ever since covid started I started to get lazy, and now I can't bring myself to START studying. It's come to a point where I have an exam in 1 month, but I end up procastinating for days, weeks and I'm currently 1 week away from it. The thing is I'm even not leaving my house , or playing alot because I convinced myself that I'm studying even tho I haven't done shit and have been looking at youtube or twitter the whole day. I obviously know I need to change but I feel like I have no control over myself and that sucks.
Been in that place a number of times (failed my first and 3rd Yr of uni doing that), and doing some of the things in this video really helped. Sleep, getting out the house, and trying to focus on spending time with friends/acquaintances that had good work ethics helped me most. And also trying to make the things I did a specific choice(even if it was play games all day).
Action spawns action. Don't focus on studying, focus on cleaning up a bit, making yourself something healthy to eat, taking a walk.. The studying will come if you start with the stuff that you actually do feel like doing. Just take any action, no matter how small, and it will grow. If not, start again tomorrow.
@@hughnicolson8157 and if you don’t have friends?
@@slendy1641 I would check if there are any study groups even if not ur subject, something that gets you going to the library and working is what helped me, friends that do it are good, but acquaintances or a group could be good too.
I hear ya
Probably because I spend more time collecting inspirational and motivational quotes in Pinterest rather than actually getting my shit together 🙂
Like seriously, I would be scrolling in 12 in the midnight and be like "That is so deep and true" and then just be dead inside the next day.
SAAAAMEE
I relate to this so much
It's the getMotivated subreddit for me.
Literally me
Even dumb strategy can work if you are persistent.
I'm autistic, I cannot work so I'm recieving benefits (not by choice) and have pretty bad sensory issues, chronic pain, chronic fatigue, intestinal issues, hormonal issues, cold intolerance and an unknown issue with my brain stem and much more. I do my basic daily needs every day and break up my tasks throughout the week. I can't go outside (especially in autumn and winter) for more than 30 minutes to 1 hour. If I have to go to a shopping centre for example I have to plan it and have to rest for a few days prior to gather energy for it etc. I go to the shopping centre and I start feeling sensory overloaded and then start getting pain in my brain stem, feeling painfully cold because of the Aircon and my joints and muscles hurt. I end up having a sensory overload and fatigue out. I then have to go home early so I can lay in the dark in my bed to rest up. Otherwise I end up barely able to stand up if I keep pushing myself. Do I just need more will power or discipline and am I trying to escape what needs to be done? Or am I being too hard on myself for not being able to do what others can do? I always wonder this. Amazing video btw 🙏❤️
No lad,you don't sound that you lack descipline but dealing with heavy conditions you must overcome and you sound like you've been doing your best with the cards you've been dealt. And that's the best we can do, is trying our best.
I'm Autistic, 57 years old, and only learned of my Level 1 Autism 4 years ago. Not only does my Autism drive Major Depressive Disorder, but also feeds severe insomnia. I haven't had a job in six years, and may never have a job again, after having worked in Tech for most of my life.
I also get exhausted to varying degrees. Sometimes it's bad enough that I'll negotiate with myself about taking the trash out later or tomorrow because stepping outside the front door is just too much to consider.
There is so much to learn, and I don't know what your knowledge background contains. The first thing is to NOT compare yourself to others. Dr. K is reaching people on a general level, and it's a good starting point, but it is NOT a replacement for therapy. A therapist can tailor solutions or work-arounds to fit your specific situation.
Therapy is one thing that helps. The best place to start is with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. There is no cure for Autism, but CBT can help rewire certain things in the mind.
Another thing that is helpful for working to cope with standard things is 300mg of BuPROPion, a generic for Wellbutrin. It helps to stop things like rumination and catastrophizing. In this regard, it does help for social anxiety and agoraphobia.
150mg is the low dose, probably equivalent to 10mg Fluoxetine [Prozac]. 300mg is the next step up.
Finally, I can't necessarily recommend this, but I do use Indica Cannabis so that I can get 6-7 hours of sleep. I have been doing this for 42 years, with most of that time not knowing my complete set of issues but seeing that it was working for me. It's haphazard and risky.
The trick with using Cannabis for sleep is that some people will use it frequently in a recreational way, which causes problems. I vaporize dry leaf with a Pax2, which is a more healthy delivery system. I also use the exact same amount that I have been using, since I started measuring the amount 30 years ago. My vape session starts every night at 5:00pm.
In short, therapy, psychiatric meds, and cannabis help me, but it is important to remember that this is anecdotal evidence. It's still worth reading and understanding, as it can be a jumping-off point to getting on your own unique adventure.
With Autism, every person is different. Just from what you wrote, it sounds like you may have some other challenges at play that could complicate things. It's rough, so please accept my heartfelt sympathies for all of the challenges that you have to face every day. It's not easy, and I admire anyone who can even get out of bed.
Tbh you sound like someone who would benefit from an assistant or at least someone to help you with groceries
How did you get diagnosed/at what age? I have these issues and my doctor won't bother
Great comment, I am somewhat of an autist myself (ADHD). I rarely rest, but when I do I feel rejuvinated and concentrated. If I do it too long however, I start to make the action of resting a task in itself hence not resting.
I believe that my patterns are more of a result of my environment, which is outside my control. What I can do is seek out environments that are fits my neurosis.
God bless
Escapism is definitely a common issue among gamers.
I recently rewatched Evangelion and the part about escapism really hits close.
nice pfp
I will just say RE: the sleep thing - be careful with audiobooks. If it's too interesting, then I'll stay awake listening to them, and struggle to fall asleep just as much. You need one specifically that bores you to tears.
If I go to sleep bored I wake up bored
It's really incredible how nowadays is so common to be constantly glued to screens all the time, and how the mind reacts when you try to take that away... Sometimes I take the advice and just go out without my phone, and I start talking to myself A LOT, and I really enjoy it too. I used to do it all the time when I was younger but now my thoughts are always drowned in constant stimuli. Thinking about stuff is so helpful too, when you accept it. Sometimes I realize what I'm doing wrong, and unlike some of my friends who hate that and just silence it with memes and music, I work with myself and have looong conversations out loud, alone. I realize that for me it helps to put my thoughts into words instead of just a nebulous thing in my mind, and sometimes I come out of those sessions with a plan on what to do moving forward.
YET, I still loose to my mind from time to time, and just stare at youtube and twitch all day. This video laid out a cool plan to follow and makes it easy to understand too, I'm definitely trying this out.
I'm glad I'm not the only one that does this. I also like to have long monologues with myself and have been doing it for years, it even got to the point that I started making up stories with my own original characters in one big universe, and I actually use these as bedtime stories instead of being on my phone at 3am (I mean, I still do that 80% of the time, but that's why I watched this video lol so now I'll make sure to keep it in check)
And the whole thinking about stuff helping clear your head is SO true. I've changed so much as a person because of this, it's helped me discover my passions, identity, and even what I want to do with my future. (The internet helped a lot too, but thinking about how everything applied to me and my life is what really made it click)
I do it too, it is so good honestly. It cleares my mind. Glad there are others that do it. One time I was on my computer playing games without an actual reason, just to cope something that was stuck in my head, but I wasn't feeling well at all by doing that. So I got up and went outside in my garden and I started talking about that thought stuck in my head. Got back home and felt relieved.
Fixing sleep is easier said than done for those of us with sleep disorders, which I suspect is pretty common with people with the problem mentioned-and also often overlaps with issues like ADHD.
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Yes trying to fix your sleep sucks when you keep waking up ugh
Thanks Dr. K you're the real MVP out here for those of us that can't afford to go to therapy.
Also, as a chef, Butternut Squash soup is amazing lol.
As a person who loves to cook i absolutely need to try that
Dr. K: Please do a cooking stream, they're fun, engaging and informative in a way that isn't your normal type of lesson. I wanna make that Butternut Squash but I'm a little too hands-on lol
Dr K is really sleeping on goat cheese in his butternut squash soup! It's my go-to for Thanksgiving potlucks now.
Yeah, Chef John's recipe is amazing. I made it today, although I use honey instead of maple syrup, because I like bees more than I like Canadians.
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I decided to make butternut squash soup today after seeing this yesterday. Here's a recipe I came up with that made a banging pot of soup (I mostly spiced it by eye and then adjusted to taste):
⅛ tsp black pepper
Dash of white pepper
⅛ tsp cayenne
Dash of ginger
Dash of salt
Dash of nutmeg
Dash of turmeric
⅛ tsp cinnamon
tbsp dried chives
2 bay leaves - remove before blending
3 tbsp butter
3 cup chicken broth
3 cups veggie broth
2+ cups yellow onion
4 cloves garlic
3 pounds butternut squash (roasted)
Roast the squash (cut in half, oil (brown sugar optional), roast at 400F for 30-60 minutes)
Fry diced onions and garlic in 2 tbsp butter until tender
Add broth, spices, third tbsp of butter, and scooped-out squash. Bring to a boil for 5 minutes
Blend the soup; serve.
Enjoy :)
Yum! : p
I'm going to guess it's because change is scary, and the only real reason we have to change is when something scarier forces us to.
Ive noticed a lot of people who for instance gain a ton of weight and get very overweight don't change anything until a medical scare lights a fire under their ass and finally they change up their diet or other ways of living
yup. change is scary, but dying alone is wayyy scarier so change it is, I guess!
Yea fear of the unknown probably
what I always appreciate is how gradual the steps are. That's how you go from saying things that sounds inspirational to things that actually inspire.
this video makes me sad, cause it contains a lot of genuine good info, even practical stepts to what to do...and honestly they don't seem like hard things to do...but i genuinely feel like i can't do even these simplest things on my own and this demotivates and saddens me greatly
it feels like it all depends on sleep giving you enough (whatever that means) willpower.... what if it doesn't? like in my case?
i feel like i sleep pretty well most of the time, but having to cook for myself with no desire to? having to eat healthy things that i haven't eaten in years and don't enjoy eating? having to be phisically active which literally everytime it makes me sweaty and more aware of my bad condition and makes me feel like shit? having the desire to meditate, twenty fking short minutes, which in the end is almost like putting effort into doing nothing... the easiest stuff most humans can do... i don't feel like i can do any of it alone, not for myself,
i'm painfully aware that at this point(or a long while ago and just becoming aware of it recently) i lost the battle to my brain and idk how to win it back,
i feel bad most of the time so escapism is the ony thing where i feel i can relax or take my mind of the problems which often tends to overwhelm my overthinking anxious mind, so being able to make quiet in my mind with escapism is millions more imp to me/my mind than having to put, what i feel is superhuman effort (for me), in doing the millions steps out there to supposedly get better, each step coming with it's own success/fail (failing happens most of the time imo) which feeds or kills the willpower, having to do it for a unknown period of time, with no real guarantee for success.... yeah, i can go on... how do i control a mind like that? i'm genuinely lost in my own incapability to gain any semblence of control over my own damn brain... please help :'(
Frankly, and this is just my belief, if you’re happy or happiest just doing what comes natural, just live that way and don’t stress over being “better”. You’re not deterred by the supposed suffering caused by not meditating, not exercising, etc, and you’re not motivated by other peoples definition of being better either, there’s little chance of that changing. All you really need to force yourself to do is make money to live comfortably. After that’s dealt with and you still feel unhappy, then you can worry about psychological and philosophical improvements.
One bit of advice I can offer is understanding that change and practice, especially the kind you mentioned, always involves pain and some amount of difficulty. It’s actually a good sign of progress and change. Understand, you cannot change anything without hardship and being uncomfortable. It’s ok and good for you and you’ll have the chance to appreciate it later, if you trust the process. It’s real my friend. And how all of us change. We all operate under these same rules.
God bless Dr. K this is so incredibly useful I cannot even express my gratitude even if I wanted to . My brain is literally on 24/7 and I have to fight it to do stop . Once it's done I just sit there and do nothing .
I feel totally exhausted mentally and feel empty . My mind has taken over and I'm unable to fight it even with all the self awareness I have .
I can convince it to do something for a bit then it goes back to doing what it wants . I can pull of fasts or water fasts for days and after a while my brain goes nope can't do that find something else to do . I can't even enjoy gaming now it's just boring and empty for me.
Ironically one blessing I have now is a person I'm talking to and we can talk for hours and I can get my thoughts out and just empty my mind . I literally spoke to the person I'm seeing now for 5 hours night and my mind felt lighter and cIearer . I have to dump the information from my mind into either notes on the computer or phone / journalling otherwise I just shut down and sit in silence doing nothing.
It's not that I don't have will power it's just drained super fast . Now I know how to combat my mind and make it do the things I want. God bless you Dr. K.
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You are doing what the religious ideological western world fails to do, but pretends it doesn't. You are a literal life saver and I hope that you are loved and appreciated.
@Prey R It's delusional about it. So they twist religion. You should visit Germany or the States. See what im talking about.
The religious west really isn't as religious as you'd think. The west itself suffers to actually have any identity of its own because it relies too heavily on the individual
Always nice when you do all the advised things save for one cause it gives you massive anxiety yet your life is still changing for the worse 10/10 would live again. No real talk, I am suffering badly. Dr. K still makes good videos for people who are having a normal struggle with life and growing up... but for anyone reading this, if this kind of advice does not seem to be helping, seek professional help. I know it might take years, or it might even ruin you completely financially, but I'd say it's probably worth it. I spend 4~ years trying self-help tricks like this to feel better. I never got better. At least in the therapy I had I felt heard for the first time. I guess I feel like venting too that I just emerged from a month long crisis. It is just a matter of time until the next one hits but at least a therapist could make time quickly to go over a emergency plan for the next time I feel like taking my life. I don't know what country you live in, internet stranger, but if you ever feel like you can't handle life anymore, just call the emergency. Up to you, but after 6 years of hell, if I would have done anything different is calling emergency a few years earlier. But always I would rationalize and freeze up. Last month was the first time, after reading up on psychology and crisis accounts, that I was convinced it was a mental breakdown I was having. They ignored me on the phone, that sent me down further, but still, do not let the chance of rejection dissuade you. If you are at that place of mental crisis, you got nothing to lose. Take the chance. Good luck.
Awesome vid! I can’t wait to try this stuff. If anyone needs help getting started, there are some words I always try to remember when I feel reluctant about doing something:
“The feeling of not wanting to do something now is almost never worth missing out on the good feeling of doing it anyway.”
Feel the fear and do it anyway??
I love the platform you are building, so much of what you talk about is everything I need to hear to get me out of my toxic lifestyles
Love making notes. Definetly going to try this out. It all made sense.Really trying to get over substance abuse. Your videos are slowly but surely changing my life for the better! Thank you so much Doctor! Thank you for being alive and wanting to help the world around you!
Please do a cooking stream, they're fun, engaging and informative in a way that isn't your normal type of lesson. I wanna make that Butternut Squash but I'm a little too hands-on lol
The phone on the toilet or any device at the table is a substitute for good company in my mind. If you find it hard to eat by yourself, you should seek a friend to eat with and have conversation over that butternut squash soup Dr K suggests. It is especially hard for kids who graduate from high school and suddenly don’t have a natural place to gravitate to in the lunch room when they go to college.
What helped me quit smoking was nicotine patches, tictacs, and just getting up and walk around the house for 5 music while having tictacs. I didnt quit cold turkey, I had cigarettes with the patches, but only like 2-3 puffs at a time. I'd put out the cigarette, and relight the same cigarette occasionally when I really felt the need for it. Some day, I went to visit family, who smokes, I had lit one up and realized that I regretted it, and gave my last pack away for good. Didn't smoke since. Been 7+ years now, and don't miss it one bit. Found it actually easier to quit than sugar. lol
If anyone is doing this and fighting addiction one thing I think we forget is to reward ourselves we are so hard on ourselves we forget that we are human it is okay to mess up sometimes just get back on track when you mess up
This has been a major problem for me through most of my life. I found myself often struggling to get what I knew I had to do such as ; study in school, work, take care of my body and so on.
I just want to thank Dr K and everyone involved this was such a eye opening for me, I haven't finished the video but I feel much more complete as now I know what I need to do. I always tough I had depression and often beat myself for not being productive so worsen my vision about myself so I FEEL like I had it but since I was a child I was much more hard working, sociable, I liked to help others always so very often I look at those times and felt worse about it. This video has been a blessing I want to also thank everyone working on making this a better world by first working on ourselves keep strong guys ! I wish you all the best together we can work to improve humanity itself, I'm certain of that much.
how are you doing now
Thanks for the advice sir
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@@acephantom if youre happy with that its all good bro
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@@acephantom my friend, if happy, I’m happy. Have a good day👍
There are sayings along these lines: “He who commands his life is truly free.” Surprisingly, by training and controlling our minds, we can overcome many fears and problems. The internal issues can diminish and perhaps even resolve. The virtuous cycle involves both introspection and external action, with perseverance and hard work, and the reward is a lifetime of peace and satisfaction.
This actually clarified why whenever I cut back on drinking alcohol I started craving tons of sweets and juices. I was drinking alot of very sugary high alcohol drinks and, while I wasn't addicted per se , needed to cut back. The snacks and juices actually helped a lot!
I swear all of this makes a good life. If we feel good and healthy we could do/start anything, and even if we don't achieve it, we'd feel ok too.
I love this channel and content. Thank you so much for the work you do in helping us actually be more healthy.
the reduction in stimulus helps so much! I started to listen to music while working instead of having videos on in the background and now not only do I have an easier time using willpower, but I also learned just how effective I can get if I don't distract myself. and personally I've felt that fixing sleep/diet/getting outside/meditation/reduce stimulus aren't a list to go down, but each of them for me are options for getting better. I might not be able to fix my sleep first, but I can go for walks or do yoga, which makes it easier to fix my sleep. and which one is easier to improve at changes over time
Every video that comes out, The title always puts me on blast before I even know it. But I'm grateful because watching it helps me get through whatever it is I'm dealing with.
Lately, I've been making an effort to go to sleep at midnight, at the very most, and wake up at 8 every day. I work from home, so that still gives me plenty of time to actually sort through everything I need to do and work, while also sleeping 8h. Most days I manage to leave my computer around 11.30 and go to sleep at midnight. Some days I slip up, either because I got caught watching a series with a friend and it's the finale, or because I was telling a very compelling story to a friend and prolongued my night a little longer. These have become the exception, though, and I no longer regularly go to sleep at 1AM or later because I was playing video games.
And I have found that I've been more prone to actually do the things I have to. It's been easier to tell myself "let's work". It's been easier to do phone calls that before I would've procrastinated as long as possible. It's been easier to send important emails and get things done. It's been easier to draw and paint. And yes, games when I do play them, are also more fun.
I never really gave it much thought, but upon hearing this video, I very much believe that the change in my sleep, while perhaps not being the only factor involved, was definitely a major factor. It's... honestly impressive how much of an effect it has.
im tryna be like you bro
19:20 There's multiple places I've worked that didn't allow breaks unless you were a minor or addicted smoker.
So I'd be working 11 or 12 hours straight while my co-workers got collectively 20-40 minutes paid break.
Breaks aren't mandatory where I'm at.
This is the reason I started smoking
Just wanna say I've been watching your videos for about 2 hours now and just by watching Why Finding Purpose Is SO HARD Today, How to Start to Find Purpose in Your Life, and this one has already helped me so much. First video that was recommended that I watched was why therapy sucks for men which is kinda repelling but I'm glad I clicked it.
I've been in a limbo for years now where whenever I thought of a negative thought of my past it would stack on top of each other until I would go through regret > depression > soullessness > acceptance. then once a single minor regret would occur it would happen all over again with 1 extra regret and so forth.
Now I know these videos won't solve my issue in a day. And I know there's still many more challenges to come. But what I did get from this video that really caught my attention was. "You don't control your mind. Your mind controls you" which is one of the key factors I never knew or took into consideration. I always thought I was just in a battle with myself. But knowing that I was letting my mind take the wheel with me in the backseat. Thank you, this helped so much.
And now to watch You have no idea who you are. : )
Did you change anything one month later?
@@clkgtr12 I got into a good rhythm for a nice 2 weeks straight after the comment. But ended up falling back into the same circle again. Which was completely expected.
As a whole I believe I haven't changed anything at all in a month. But I did learn this time from the previous depression phase is that you're more vulnerable to letting your mind control you when you're sad. Kind of like an impenetrable wall. Hopefully I'm more prepared for the next time.
@@Link_724 Doesn't matter just keep going 2 weeks isn't nothing just start again wish you well
Thank you Dr. K. I really appreciate all the work that you do.
For me personally the idea of not using my phone on the toilet isn't a big deal, nor is not using it while eating, I didn't start using my phone when eating until I moved out from my parents. I used to not even be on my phone on the way to school until university when I both had a smartphone (I didn't in middle school) and the train ride was >15min (in high school it was like 3min).
On the other hand changing my diet and making sure to go outside every day are way more challenging. I'm a fairly picky eater and I also don't want to spend too much time or energy preparing food, so making something like that soup just seems like far too much work.
Meal prep is the way to go. Don't waste time cooking for one meal. Cook enough for 3-5 meals. Even then, it doesn't have to be hard if you have a crockpot. Most recipes that I use take 20 minutes prep time and they taste pretty damn good. I usually have 10+ meals stocked up in my freezer/fridge and all I have to do is microwave it when I get home from work. As someone who hated wasting so much time cooking, I highly recommend it.
What Kyle said.
Iespecially like stews, soups, curries and anything you can bake: you can do other things while you let the heat do the cooking with most recipes of this nature. Also if you’re like me and find prepping veggies a nightmare, either buy them pre-sliced/packaged or go to a smaller brick and mortar grocer and have them cut it up for you for a tip.
The only downside to cooking is cleaning up, nobody wants to do it, but meal prep instead of quick meals minimizes this too.
When I feel like cooking quick/single meals, I go for steaks (30 seconds on each side on the stove, then 3-5 minutes in the oven, about 5-10 minutes prep work besides the preheating wait if you aren’t grilling them), breakfast food (bacon,eggs and buttered toast can be done in 10 minutes including prep and toaster time, faster depending on how you like your bacon), and cold cuts/deli stuff though the third option tends to be less economic.
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Every time you cook it will get a little bit easier. You will have to think less about it. I recommend learning a decent knife technique and getting a big knife so that the blade can be guided by the knuckle of the hand that's holding the vegetable.
Thanks a lot Dr. K
Thank you for your precious advices! 🙏✨
Great vid! Definitely feel this - I always have to fight my brain whenever it comes to cooking a meal vs ordering from Delivery Apps. I would really enjoy a cooking stream / dedicated stream about foods to eat to help your brain. :)
Hey Dr. K, I’ve been watching your videos for more than 6 months now. In that time I’ve grown more than I have in the last 30 years (I’m 31). I wish I would have been taught all this kind of stuff from an early age. I have 2 kids and both are under 3. Do you have any recommendations on the best ways and/or ages to teach children how to figure out how to understand themselves and pursue their interests early in life so they can get to enjoying it sooner?
Join his Discord community, in his Twitch link, they have a place for parents and every category.
As somebody who got neglected by my parents in early life, and suffered the consequences all my life, I think that one of the most important things to teach a small child is social skills. Preferably before going to school that may be full of bullies.
I'd LOVE to see Dr. K's easy, simple meal cooking videos! I don't use Twitch, but I know it would be great to do it as a live stream (and put it on UA-cam of course!).
Another topic I would like to hear from Dr. K is OCD. I think not everyone knows that OCD is not only the repetition of physical actions like hand washing or perfectionism, but, for example, an obsessive search for answers to questions (existential OCD) or the constant use of Google for self-diagnosis (health OCD). I know it's a sub-genre of anxiety and rumination that he's discussed many times before, but I'd be interested to hear his take on this particular topic.
Thank you for the video! I really appreciate you and HG Team!
You should check out Internet Shaquille. His video on oatmeal is a great place to start. Also his baked potato fries. Super dense, punchy, and humorous. If you think Dr.k's buddhist talk is cool, just wait till you learn THE OATMEAL MATRIX
Watch Dr John Mc Dougall and Mic the vegan if you are interested in a really healthy diet!
A diet that prevents a lot of diseases like cancer, strokes, heart attacks, inflammation, high blood pressure, overweight and so on!
Also the documentation Forks over knifes is duty!
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Give it a try it can change your life! 🙂👍
I'm happy that this video exists. I find it very helpful. Thank you so much for taking the time to make it.
wow, this video was extremely valuable, I hope this video and dr.k keeps going well!
In case someone reads the comments for more advice:
# Buy organic honey and eat a spoon or two BEFORE you binge-eat ice cream, candy, or general products with processed sugar.
# Always buy organic light golden or brown sugar, NOT cheap white sugar, if you use sugar in your tea, coffee, or smoothies.
# If you cannot resist buying ice cream or candy, do everything in your power to spend more on organic ice cream, organic chocolate, and any other organic options of sweet treats, including fruits.
# If you don't have money for those organic products, then buy your cheapest local fruits and do your best to eat fruits before you buy candy or anything harmful.
# Organic apple cider vinegar is not expensive; always, always have a bottle at your place, and drink at least a spoonful or two at least once a day, every day, with warm or lukewarm water. It may taste so bad to you on the first 1 to 5 days of its consumption but it will start to taste much better, later on, I PROMISE, especially if you mix it with sea salt and/or lemon/lime. There's so much misinformation and myths surrounding apple cider vinegar. Get it right from Dr. Eric Berg's video(s) about it if you want.
# Consume raw, dirty sea salt, instead of white table salt. Sea salt is typically very cheap, even from health stores. Everybody today desperately needs it for its complex components, and there's no fear of consuming too much of it because raw sea salt allows your body to send you the correct signals. If you get too much of it, your tongue and body will tell you.
# As you noticed, sugar is a huge part of the problem of lots of addicts, including gaming addicts, or generally people with addictive-behavior problems. This is because sugar adds to the "overstimulation" problem. Sugar, especially processed sugar, is part of an addict's sources of overstimulation. And gradually switching to organic honey and sugar will help your body consume less sugar, because those organic sources of sucrose send the correct signals to your brain, so your brain is better able to make you feel like you've had enough or like you don't even want to consume any more sucrose.
# Take high doses of vitamin D (after consulting your doctor and doing your research). And take other critical supplements like magnesium and zinc. If you do not have hyperthyroidism or its symptoms (typically thin people who feel too hot easily), then also take iodine or get it from natural sources like sea kelp. Consume an organic or your best option of fish oil every day; it includes vitamins like vitamin A of which too many people are deficient. Do not take vitamin C supplements because ascorbic acid is NOT the vitamin-C complex; vitamin-C is much more complex than ascorbic acid; instead, consume vitamin C from at least lemon or lime, if not from its other varied sources, which you should research. Deficiencies in any of the aforementioned vitamins can [easily] lead to personality disorders, psychological problems, including addictive behavior, and of course physical diseases.
# Take a vitamin-K supplement to compliment the high doses of vitamin D and avoid the accumulation of calcium in the blood, which can happen if you focus on just vitamin D without vitamin K. Or, and this is the reason this is in its own separate bullet point, buy some kefir grains and make your own homemade kefir milk. Ideally, you want to consume fresh goat or sheep milk if that's accessible to you. If not, then turning organic, non-homogenized cow milk into kefir milk at home may be better for most people than avoiding dairy products completely. Also, look into the right jars to make your own fermented vegetables at home, especially turning sliced red cabbage into sauerkraut. This is because such fermented foods, like kefir and sauerkraut, especially when fermented at home, are very rich in vitamin K and countless other benefits for you, like re-populating your digestive system with good bacteria after neglecting this for years, as is the case with most modern global citizens.
# This may be harder for some people but if you have health problems in your body, then do your very best to consume organic or homemade bone broth every day. Your second-best option is taking a collagen supplement. This is direly needed for everyone with health problems in today's world because collagen isn't just about pretty or young skin, and isn't just for women, as some people think; collagen is critical for your digestive system and other parts of your body, especially the internal parts, to heal. And if your digestive system heals, then the rest of you should heal very soon. It also will stop making you crave things that are bad for you.
# If you consume caffeine daily, in the form of coffee or tea, then start to gradually reduce it until you're able to go for at least two or three days consuming zero caffeine. This is because daily consumption of caffeine, even in smaller doses, can lead to adrenal fatigue, low-quality sleep, chronic stress that incites you to find comfort in food or to escape by playing games.
# If you want to find evidence of the benefit of everything I mentioned above, then you may need to spend dozens of hours of research in "functional medicine" and/or "integrative medicine," which are fundamentally different from the conventional medicine and palliative healthcare that you receive from 99% of the doctors and GPs around the world today. To focus your research and make it more relevant to you, which means that you're going to be more likely to actually keep reading or listening, add relevant keywords. For example, you can search for "ADHD functional medicine."
# After sorting out your sleep, nutrition, and body to a certain extent, sorting out your mind, psychology, or soul will probably be necessary if you do not want to relapse after some time. Some psychological problems, like self-hatred, may actually need to be sorted out [before] a person can care enough to sort out their sleep and nutrition. Either way, as mentioned in this video, meditation and yoga can help. However, meditation and yoga may never give meaning to your life. Life meaning is a much higher level of mental or spiritual wellness. Most secular people today find meaning in service to others. HealthyGamerGG, for example, found great meaning in life by helping so many gamers who are destroying their lives or failing at work, school, or social life. This may be enough for lots of secular people today. However, I'm a Monotheistic Submitter by choice. You know Monotheistic Submission with its Arabic translation, Islam. However, lots of misconceptions have been attached from biased media to that Arabic word, so I recommend that you think of it as Monotheistic Submission instead. And I know that that religion, in its simple earlier forms or versions, is the oldest religion in the world, and all of today's religions have evolved from it. Deeper research that can take hundreds of hours will prove this to you. Dr. Zakir Naik's material can help you see some of the evidence that Monotheistic Submission is the origin of all world's religions a bit faster. And "Dr. Eyad Qunaibi Global Channel" can help you realize that Monotheistic Submission is the best way of life, not just for a good life in this world, but for eternal happiness after death. If you do not believe in the soul, in life after death, if you're atheist, if you think religion is the cause of war and violence, and if you have anything other misconceptions, Dr. Eyad Qunaibi Global Channel can help understand the truth about all this with logic and good evidence or proof. You can ignore this last point, of course, and just stick to what I mentioned above to have a healthier and better life here for 50, 60, or 100 years, but you'd be gambling with the possible eternity of your soul. And 100 years is literally nothing if you divide it by eternity. If you're going to do nothing for a life after death because you think there's no life after death and no deity will judge you after death or if there's a deity, then they're gonna be happy with you just because you didn't murder anyone before you died, then at least invest some effort to be sure of this opinion or belief of yours before it is too late. And godspeed.
@@breakorseizeme You're welcome. I wrote it myself, so feel free to share it or repost it without caring about credit; I don't care about that when it comes to a few tips that may help someone's health or wellbeing. Normal doctors or practitioners of "evidence-based medicine" may say that there's no proof for some of the things I mentioned, but proof requires research, research requires money, those who have money typically seek profit, and there's a lot more profit in drugs than organic honey or apple cider vinegar; more importantly, a lot of it works for me and others, regardless of what the "approved" medical literature says. And in all cases, nobody should ever stop or even reduce drug doses without consulting their doctor and doing tests. Good luck.
I laugh hysterically every time you sass the rebellion of the mind to your suggestions!!! Bahahahaha! Your suggestions make my brain hate me just thinking of them, but are so helpful to have a game plan on lassoing my mind. Thanks for everything you do Dr. K!!!
More videos like this! Fixing the outside instead of the inside of the mind. It's hard to dig deep and find the root cause of why you engage in some behavior and even then I'm still looking for more concrete practices I can do to fix things. This was one of them. Haven't seen these videos in a while and this was a great one. Thank you.
This video made me realize I very well may have Idiopathic Hypersomnia, a condition where you oversleep a lot but never feel refreshed, have trouble waking up. Which is totally me setting 13 alarms over an 1 hour before I'm even supposed to wake up, and they require doing math or other activities to stop them from ringing, but I STILL have trouble waking up...
Seriously, I also need to change the sounds of the alarms after a while, otherwise my brain gets used to them and is able to actively tune them out when I'm sleeping, regardless of how loud they are (my dad 2 rooms away often complains whenever it takes me too long to turn them off).
I also have intense brain fog while waking up. I've been late to school and work SEVERAL times because my mind processes numbers incorrectly when I'm tired.
I can't describe why I read them wrong, I just do. It's like my brain reads them as what I want them to be, instead of what they are...super frustrating
It's sad, yet kinda ironic because back when I had teenage depression, I would lay in bed at night, close my eyes, and wish that I could never wake up. That I could "sleep forever". Maybe this was the closest my body could get to granting that wish.
I needed something like this and FOR SURPRISE it's here I'm really happy. Thanks Dr.K for the video.
My motivation and work ethic has been terrible since quarantine, I really needed this video
I am in this escapism journey from past 1 year. Feeling so much frustrated & no one believes in my words.
I will try this from today and update the progress weekly.
Your content is truly amazing. Thank you very much.
Another in-depth, non-condescending lecture on mental health. Thank you, Dr. K, for releasing so many bangers
Bro i'm starting thinking that Dr.K is living in my mind without paying rental, because the last 5 videos were in perfect timing about what was passing inside of my head in the moment eachone uploaded.
I love how early these are uploaded for me. I wake up at 7 every morning and listening to Dr.K on videos like this are very insightful in the morning
I've been following this channel and streams for awhile now and have had real awesome changes in my life as result. I've even looked into becoming a coach with Healthy Gamer. Along with a ton of the amazing points made in most videos, the most mind blowing thing I've gotten from a lecture so far is the idea of Savory Oatmeal. WHAT A WILD IDEA!! I've never heard of a more delicious blasphemy !
Can you not call me out at 8 in the morning.
Thank you for the video
Exactly how I felt when he dropped that why everything you do is cringe video
Pretty good alarm
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If only they knew watching too many of these videos is a form of escapism. If you've been subbed for 6 months and watch his videos regularly, its time to change things up my friend. consider this a wake up call.
I'm a psych NP student and I want to thank you for making your videos available to everyone. I'm able to pick up gems of clinical insight while playing video games AND I get pieces to the "why do I do what I do?" puzzle. That's peak efficiency IMO!
Thus is amazing. Thank you 🙏
dude literally wrote what i had in mind with exact description 😭
That whole talk about cigarettes made me realize why I subconsciously drank more kombucha after I quit drinking beer.
Appreciate all this
I’ve come back to this video multiple times now, back again to re-give my thanks
I think in Western terms these two approaches (change the contents of the mind vs. control the mind by action) are similar to idealism vs. materialism.
You can start by changing the contents of the mind, and the reality will follow.
You can start by changing the reality through action, and the mind will follow.
These are like two handles on the same steering wheel. Sometimes it's more handy to use one, sometimes the other. The opposite handle changes position anyway.
So the answer to the question "how to get willpower" is, in essence, eat healthy, sleep well, meditate (or "take time for yourself") and move your body :/ Literally what every Doc says when it comes to mental health. This does not work for me. I actually went to the gym three times a week and had a healthy diet for 2 years but gaining the willpower to do all that was as hard on the first day as it was after a year of doing it. There was never a habit formed for some odd reason. And I tried to change stuff a bit here and there, hoping I would finally make it click in my mind but it never happened. At some point I gave up, which felt great to not put that pressure on me all the time. Then I got lazy and fat and here I am :D
and if that makes your life more happier then take pride in it bro, I'm proud of you if it makes you happy.
@@kaminoyami30 Oh no, I despise myself. But that was also in power when I worked out.
@@quantumspark343 I think that strongly depends on what kinda person you are. A friend of mine started doing what Dr K advised here and it worked out for him. He is a changed person just by going for a run every other day. That baffles and saddens me at the same time.
@@Fleshcut I mean we're in the same boat then like no matter how much we change it doesn't seem to make us happy, much less others.
Hmmm…the main topic is to do these things to help with willpower generation.
But makes me wonder two things: 1) is it possible the willpower sink is still larger than the willpower generated? Thus, despite doing the right things, you still have negative willpower generation rate and therefore led to burnout?
2) is it possible to have excessive willpower and no outlet for it? If that’s the case, what happens to a person? If there’s no place to direct it’s use, what happens?
Since this is more health/biology than physics, excessive amounts of a substance can be harmful or lead to health issues. Too much meat can lead to gout, for example. So, is it possible that too much willpower could lead to its own type of unhealthiness?
I did the same things and also fell flat. After 2ish years of contemplating why, I’ve decided it’s because the work I do does not feel valuable and thus becomes a willpower sink. Not having a plan or understanding of goals or desires for my own life (aka, having ambitions) also led to burnout as I didn’t really have anywhere to put that willpower. It turned into anxiety and depression. Kinda like pumping too much air into a closed box. It increases internal pressure and generates heat which too much causes material stressing.
Not saying this is a solution as I’m still trying to figure out an answer too.
i needed this so bad, thank you so much..
It hurts how often I have said it hurts only to be scolded and told I don’t care for your pain.
My hurting is taking me out of living
Anyone who takes up seltzer and struggles with less flavor, try a 50/50 orange juice and seltzer. My favorite pairing is with a peach flavor.
Edit: Seriously it will change your life
Edit: With the selzer you finish whats left in the can and it gets you acclimated to the difference in flavor over time, pro tip drink it fast for good "scrape" factor.
I've never really enjoyed carbonated drinks, but my flat-mates went keto and use sugar free flavorings. There are a lot available on the market, including sugar free copycats of many popular sodas.
here's something that worked for me, not sure if it'll work for others but I'll mention it anyway
I diminished my craving for sugar by switching what I drank during the day at work. I started doing really strong green tea (coffee makes me too jittery) where I just leave the teabag in the entire time I was drinking it and having one or two cups of that per day with nothing added. I was just doing it to get caffeine and water in my system so I wasn't worried about taste, but over time I started to enjoy it, it has almost a clean taste if that makes sense, and my teeth felt nicer not having sugar on them all day.
That started a positive feedback loop where I was satisfied with a lot less sugar in other foods and I even started having desserts with more mild tastes.
I would also try Nuun electrolyte tablets. They add fruit flavor and even increase the carbonation a little (or will add effervescence to regular water) and they have zero sugar and less than 1 net carb per tablet. I have found them to be crucial to my water intake as I don't normally enjoy drinking water.
I agree with a lot of this. Mental control can be improved through physical changes. However, I think that you need to look into nutrition more before suggesting these things. The thing is, a lot of what you're suggesting is an improvement over fast food or chips, but it isn't actually an optimal or even good diet. Fiber is not necessary for most people, the intestines change how they process food based on the presence of fiber so if you don't eat it, you don't need it. These sort of diets are a trap that many people fall into when they don't research dietetics in their entirety; even many registered dieticians preach this because it is what they learn in their classes (which are sponsored by agriculture companies specializing in products that the students are taught to erroneously recommend).
While I agree with you, I am pretty sure he's talking to the people who eat potato chips and 7up all day long, but I agree he should have just said "find some evidence based dietary information and make some improvements in the foods you consume."
Honestly, im in the exact situation as OP, so this video is genuinely, so fitting and such a big help tbh
This is quite interesting. I think a possible explanation, for why the concept of Gunas works is, is how we learn to interpret things.
For Example: The vegetable chips, that are currently next to me, would probably be seen as Tames.
This would be, because chips are associated with sitting on the couch, or watching a movie.
So less active activities.
And you could probably do this for every object that exists out there. A camera or microphone, for me, would belong to Rajas.
They are something active, since they are used to interact with people and create content or videos.
So i see how this method can be used to check if you interpret something positive or negative for your live.
Mind you, if you are a gal, you might find that you subconsciously associate ALL foods with not being active. And if you do that - let's just say that's not a good idea. It's the kind of thing that can lead to anorexia. Or when the foods are calculated based on calories alone - so you get someone ordering salad after a hike, which is also a bad idea. And if it so happens that you get diarrhea from eating leafy greens, obviously don't eat those either and get your fiber from other sources that aren't leaves. Because yes, that happens sometimes. There are people who have digestive sensitivities specific to leaves (and sometimes apricots for some reason).
This is great stuff and I really need to fix this in my life. Some notes:
- Getting control of my mind is something I've been really struggling with for a long time 🙁very happy to see a video that addresses it directly.
- Not the same situation, but my work and personal life situations allow me to get away with things to some degree, and my mind always pounces and takes advantage of that to get out of being productive and on time, and that can lead to bigger disasters later on.
- Don't know about the yoga stuff... may not be for me. But the general concept of sattva seems good and something I should aspire to.
- Sleep is essential indeed. And even more essential than I already realized. Can't describe how many days I just wasted by staying up way too late and not getting enough sleep. The next day seems to just crumble by itself, and then I stay up again and repeat the cycle. Going to bed is hard indeed, when nobody forces me to. I really need to prioritize sleep. (Writing this at 3 am btw)
- My diet is not too bad, I eat more veggies and fruit and try to avoid unhealthy foods; in the process of losing some weight. I gave up sugary cola many years ago (for preventative health reasons), but I do drink coke zero all the time, and some sugar-free/low-sugar energy drinks fairly often. With more sleep I will most likely eliminate the need for energy drinks and hopefully reduce the caffeine craving. Not sure how bad coke zero is (compared to seltzer), but I'm also trying to switch to sparkling water, especially after midnight.
- Getting out - I probably need to do that more. Exercise too.
- No devices in the toilet - this one kinda hurts. He's talking about 5 or 10 minutes - HAHAHAHAHA, as if I only wasted so little time that way. Yep, gotta get it under control.
- No devices while eating - hmm, does it make a big difference? Sounds like mindful eating, anyway I should give it a try, shouldn't be too hard.
- "Sorry we're not going to play a video game right now" - delayed gratification, gotta practice it more.
This was a great video to wake up to, this man’s a literal lifesaver
My brain has exploded. I am speechless. Thank you sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much for this Dr.K!
im eating m oatmeal while im watching the vide :D i totally agree. i mean when i quit smoking i also noticed its mostly not about nicotine. it was also a break habbit and also way to handle stress. stress was the hardest part. and at a point i always smoked while i was walking so i started to drink juice/water/tea while i was walking and it helped. or you can snack on for example veggies. /also at foods i tried to figure out how can i make my loved food healthier like i make now my pancake/crepe/waffle from oatsmeal with eritritol and i have an oatmeal protein powder mix for waffle and they are 9/10 compared to the regular ones. / it was really good to hear from the doc that m logic wasnt bad :D i mean i figured out this things just with thinking and experimenting. so thank you doc :)
Does anyone have the source on the study of willpower? I’m interested in reading it.
The problem is that i have 1000 dr.k interviews to listen to wile im eating or taking a dump or taking a walk....
I was just watching one of your videos and then I got a notification that you posted a new one
From a Greek/Mediterranean diet as far as breakfast goes, you could try tachini and honey. Tachini is basically a paste or a cream that comes from sesame. There's no sugar in it, and you can eat a sandwich with tachini, honey, blueberries, and nuts for breakfast. It'd delicious, it's healthy. Minus the blueberries, all the above, that's the norm breakfast for older people. One of the reasons Greeks live close to a 100. Also, there are variations of it. Like tachini with cocoa, you eat it like peanut butter, or by itself or with jam.