Strategies to Cope with "Empty Nest Syndrome"

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  • Опубліковано 22 сер 2019
  • "Empty Nest Syndrome" isn’t a clinical diagnosis according to Mayo Clinic - but it is real. It's the depression, loss of purpose and crisis of identity that parents feel when kids leave home. Joining us with useful advice and strategies to cope with Empty Nest Syndrome is clinical psychologist and national speaker Dr. John Duffy. For more information on Dr. John Duffy and to pre-order his new book "Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety", visit DrJohnDuffy.com.
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  • @mammybelle7302
    @mammybelle7302 2 роки тому +24

    Having to find who I am in this new chapter/journey in my life feels kind of daunting. 😞

  • @joedonlewis9820
    @joedonlewis9820 2 роки тому +40

    Mine is about to move out. I've been a single dad. Right now I'm just sobbing. She's my world. I don't know what to do.

    • @anthonyindy1
      @anthonyindy1 2 роки тому +5

      I am in a similar situation. I'm so shocked. My daughter just told me she's moving into my Moms house for the rest of her senior year of highschool. Told me she's tired of watching me struggle financially. I lost my Dad to covid in 2020 and he was such a champion for me. I just feel so sad.

    • @joedonlewis9820
      @joedonlewis9820 2 роки тому +6

      @John Smith I'm getting better. They said I would. I didn't believe them but I am. Boy that's a rough one. Congratulations on your daughter success.

    • @joedonlewis9820
      @joedonlewis9820 2 роки тому +2

      @John Smith I think it'll always hit us from time to time, just less frequently. It would be a good time to sell the house. Eliminate those triggers, scale down. Do some traveling.

    • @joedonlewis9820
      @joedonlewis9820 2 роки тому

      @@anthonyindy1 I apologize for not responding sooner. I just now saw your comment. How are you doing?

    • @anthonyindy1
      @anthonyindy1 2 роки тому

      @@joedonlewis9820 I am just trying to keep on keeping on.

  • @WeLiVEwithchiken
    @WeLiVEwithchiken Рік тому +10

    I feel this right now. My eldest just left home this week. It's like grief

    • @mariac4602
      @mariac4602 10 місяців тому +2

      Yes, it does feel like grief. It helps a little to know we aren't alone in this pain.

  • @susans19691
    @susans19691 8 місяців тому +2

    I am having a moment listening to this. I am a single Mom and I was so busy and now I went into a halt. 😢 I miss him so much.

  • @jeny9227
    @jeny9227 Рік тому +5

    I was crying my eyes out when I found this video. Thank you

  • @pootleflump2826
    @pootleflump2826 Рік тому +8

    Moving to his dad's next week for college. Started to take some stuff today.
    Crying 😢

    • @Xoxo-mh9zr
      @Xoxo-mh9zr Рік тому +3

      Me yesterday. My daughter moved in with her dad to spend time to get to know him more l. After being with me for 18 years..I get it but I miss her. Day 2 and her room is empty with only a few items ( we built together)😭🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @xMythicalSnowqueenx
      @xMythicalSnowqueenx Рік тому

      Sorry for you both 😞
      My 19 year old moved out three months a go into her dad's ,I feel so lost 😢

  • @34Packardphaeton
    @34Packardphaeton 2 роки тому +10

    ... It doesn't happen to only mommies . . . . . . . . .

  • @cynthiaridgeway1100
    @cynthiaridgeway1100 3 роки тому +19

    No, this is a desperate insane feeling. I can't see life happy ever again.

    • @shutit333
      @shutit333 3 роки тому +3

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
      Stay strong, your child(ren) love you!

    • @waynebeaver4096
      @waynebeaver4096 3 роки тому +3

      How are you doing now? My little bird will be flying away soon as well - not looking forward to it.

    • @sinceridad5864
      @sinceridad5864 2 роки тому +1

      Do you feel better? I’m going through the same right now.

    • @sinceridad5864
      @sinceridad5864 2 роки тому +1

      @@waynebeaver4096 how do you feel? Today my son moved from home and I’m very sad

    • @cynthiaridgeway1100
      @cynthiaridgeway1100 2 роки тому +7

      @@sinceridad5864 it is better at times, but I still cry especially when I remeber or have to do things we used to do together.

  • @GetBackDown
    @GetBackDown 6 днів тому

    It's grief. It's loss. It's brutal.

  • @brandonharvey7939
    @brandonharvey7939 9 місяців тому +1

    Many parents, especially fathers, have their kids taken from them at a much younger age by force, without reason, and cut off from all communication. If you think its painful having to live your life with your children a phone call away from you afrer having experienced the joy of raising them from a young child to a responsible adult, imagine how it feel to have lost them before having a chance to enjoy all those moments and never getting the opportunity to reflect on those memories, all the while spending those years of yourife in torment not even knowing if the life you created is still alive. Your nest may be empty but some lunatic burnt my nest to the ground with gasoline and a flamethrower and then pissed on the ashes while they laughed as they watched me unravel and fall apart. If you feel like your emoty nest has left some empty void in your life in need of filling grab a bucket of water and start puting some fires out because there are too many helpless souls out there to count out there who are desperately seeking assistance from a kind soul amidst a pit of ruthless venomous vipers. At least you got to watch your little birds fly from the nest. You have no idea what a blessing that is.

  • @diyallthings
    @diyallthings 3 роки тому +7

    How can a single mom of twins cope with empty nest syndrome?

    • @lgempet2869
      @lgempet2869 2 роки тому +2

      As a single mom of twins who just transitioned them to college, I would love to know the answer to that as well.

    • @cynthiaridgeway1100
      @cynthiaridgeway1100 2 роки тому +3

      @@lgempet2869 it's day to day. It's grief. I have forced myself back to my hobbies and I stay close to friends even if it's just a texts but it's important. I love my job and my pets. Fake it to make it. I talk to one of my girls once a week. The other two kids call less but I have to respect what they choose because the last thing I want is to spook them off with "hovering" or God forbid I cry.

  • @California265
    @California265 Рік тому +4

    You try losing three babies and left childless

    • @WeLiVEwithchiken
      @WeLiVEwithchiken Рік тому +1

      I'm so very sorry for your pain 😔💓 I cannot begin to imagine 💔

  • @theperezfamily7volgs110
    @theperezfamily7volgs110 4 роки тому +13

    What can you do to cope when you've been a single stay at home mother ?

    • @MrsNsf74
      @MrsNsf74 3 роки тому +15

      Oh Lord my heart is breaking, this pain is killing me. I never thought it was going to be like this

    • @cynthiaridgeway1100
      @cynthiaridgeway1100 3 роки тому +5

      @@MrsNsf74 me too. I swear I'm dying.

    • @theperezfamily7volgs110
      @theperezfamily7volgs110 3 роки тому +3

      @cogamers84 no one said the word vlogs

    • @AshleyJohnson-up6fe
      @AshleyJohnson-up6fe 2 роки тому +3

      @@cynthiaridgeway1100 did it ever go away 😥 I feel so depressed

    • @cynthiaridgeway1100
      @cynthiaridgeway1100 2 роки тому +4

      @@AshleyJohnson-up6fe It gets better. It just takes time. Do something you truly like to do on your own. Even if it's just take a relaxing bath, read, or get lost in a movie or tik tok

  • @tradwifelife9156
    @tradwifelife9156 Рік тому +2

    I’m on year 5

  • @valinteenhatchett4029
    @valinteenhatchett4029 Рік тому +1

    Yes the house is definitely cleaner. 😂

  • @Lyric-sd5tb
    @Lyric-sd5tb Місяць тому

    Once a week phone calls?😩😩😩

  • @xr2863
    @xr2863 11 місяців тому

    Nest not very empty if one or more of grandparetns still living there.

  • @isabellacarrasco707
    @isabellacarrasco707 Рік тому +3

    My son moved out because our landlord said since he was 18 he had to move out and then changed the lease and he had to get a place of his Is own and 2 jobs so he could do that and I was a disabled single parent on a fixed income so I didn’t make enough money and I became homeless living in my car took me 9 months to get on hud now that I got a place I have empty nest syndrome really bad and my son is to busy working to visit me I feel so sad every day all I want to do is cry 😭 I am so upset that the landlord made my only son move out just because he was 18 years old this is not ok
    I am going to fight in court when I feel up to it but, I don’t know how to get past my Empty nest syndrome since my situation is a little different

    • @Fefe559
      @Fefe559 Рік тому

      I hope u get some help in court. Thats awful your landlord made your son leave! Not right!

    • @theeggtimertictic1136
      @theeggtimertictic1136 11 місяців тому

      That's terrible 😢

  • @Peanutbutter_madden
    @Peanutbutter_madden 2 роки тому +1

    Rest assure that no one in my family has this syndrome. This doesnt run in my family at all, not one one single bit...not even the slightest.

    • @mammybelle7302
      @mammybelle7302 2 роки тому +1

      You must have kept yourselves very very busy...

  • @California265
    @California265 Рік тому

    As usual society assumes we all can have kids. Shame on you

    • @Lyric-sd5tb
      @Lyric-sd5tb Місяць тому

      No shade, then this video wouldn’t pertain to you. Just like I wouldn’t watch a construction video that doesn’t pertain to me. Simple! Not trying to be mean, but it’s clear that this video is meant to help those who it pertains to.