At the dilemma, comparison is the killer of all joy, but I relate to her in some ways. As someone who has never attended university, I sometimes feel inadequate, but I have so much more to honour about myself. We all have unique paths to follow and we are worthy.
Literally this conversation was triggering - brought to mind like three old friendships. One remains friends with a mutual friend and I have to remind myself that just bacuase we didnt work doesnt mean they don't work. Just because she wasnt good for me doesnt mean they're not good for eachother. The other reminded me of a friend since primary school who wasn't matching my energy to fix things and I could not be the slave. The third was a friend from varsity who insisted I had changed and I felt I had just outgrown certain things and couldn't be the person she wanted me to be - we grew incompatible and simply didnt see things the same way. Ya'll did this in one episode!!!
When you rebuilding and the wounds are still open and the other person needs to navigate that, in the end is rebuilding worth it though? All of this takes so much work!
I feel dragged!😭😭 This is so thought provoking sisters. I’m gonna have to take a day and think about this chat in a few areas of my life; both platonic and romantically. 😳🤞🏽 I love it here. 💕 🇿🇦 Suggestion; can we have a “time-lapse” or indicator between the dilemma and the actual chat?!
I have listened to this like three times because i can totally relate with every word and i want their meanings to sink in. Thank you so much for this!!!
Coming from a family brother and sister situation where my boundaries were crossed multiple times. I have developed trauma with the situation that kept being violated. You ladies mentioned that if you want to rebuild the situation it will have to be on a new foundation. With life and life situations that happen to ppl change is inevitable. Particularly in my situation life changed and I changed and my perspective on my relationship with my brother and looked at it with compassion for him but not neglecting my own needs. Which I seek therapy to help me cope with my emotions and feelings which has helped me have a broader perspective to have a better relationship with my brother. But at the end of it all love is the only answer coming from a situation. From this leads to compassion and understanding but that takes love for yourself first and compassion within. And if you believe in a higher power faith as well. Which I do.
Hey sisters! Thank you so much for this episode. It really resonated deeply with me and a process of ending a friendship. I have communicated boundaries that conflicted what the other person requires and expects from a friendship. I do respect where she is coming from for herself, but this is not aligned with me anymore. When I asked the hard question if we can continue to be friends considering the new versions of ourselves- no constructive answer came. So I am grateful, for this episode solidified the decision that I made for myself- to free ourselves from the prison of unhealthy expectations and blaming games. Grateful for u two! I love love love these conversations. 🙏🏼
Sisters this was a beautiful episode with many valuable insights but pleeaaasse take time to rest if you need it 💕 the community you have built will understand and endorse you prioritising you physical and mental well-being, I hope you feel better soon xo
What about when the person is ur cousin but u love their mother (your aunt) as a second mother. Your auntie trashes their son but the pain of loosing the relationship with that cousin makes u paint the whole family with one brush 🥲🥲 everyone moved on but I’m miserable
"Just because someone wasn't good for you, it doesn't mean they are not good" 👏🙌
At the dilemma, comparison is the killer of all joy, but I relate to her in some ways. As someone who has never attended university, I sometimes feel inadequate, but I have so much more to honour about myself. We all have unique paths to follow and we are worthy.
"We can't hold on to things that are dying "🙌🏽
Bruh! You ladies are literally talking about things I'm going through. From the last episode to this 👏
“I can remove you from your position” okkkkkk‼️👏🏾👏🏾
Literally this conversation was triggering - brought to mind like three old friendships. One remains friends with a mutual friend and I have to remind myself that just bacuase we didnt work doesnt mean they don't work. Just because she wasnt good for me doesnt mean they're not good for eachother. The other reminded me of a friend since primary school who wasn't matching my energy to fix things and I could not be the slave. The third was a friend from varsity who insisted I had changed and I felt I had just outgrown certain things and couldn't be the person she wanted me to be - we grew incompatible and simply didnt see things the same way. Ya'll did this in one episode!!!
When you rebuilding and the wounds are still open and the other person needs to navigate that, in the end is rebuilding worth it though?
All of this takes so much work!
I feel dragged!😭😭
This is so thought provoking sisters. I’m gonna have to take a day and think about this chat in a few areas of my life; both platonic and romantically. 😳🤞🏽
I love it here. 💕 🇿🇦
Suggestion; can we have a “time-lapse” or indicator between the dilemma and the actual chat?!
Big up from Kenya🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🙌🇪
I have listened to this like three times because i can totally relate with every word and i want their meanings to sink in. Thank you so much for this!!!
“Forgiveness is just the beginning of repairing a relationship. Reparations is the labor done by the two people”-GEMSSS!!!
This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. 1 John 5:14
Coming from a family brother and sister situation where my boundaries were crossed multiple times. I have developed trauma with the situation that kept being violated. You ladies mentioned that if you want to rebuild the situation it will have to be on a new foundation. With life and life situations that happen to ppl change is inevitable. Particularly in my situation life changed and I changed and my perspective on my relationship with my brother and looked at it with compassion for him but not neglecting my own needs. Which I seek therapy to help me cope with my emotions and feelings which has helped me have a broader perspective to have a better relationship with my brother. But at the end of it all love is the only answer coming from a situation. From this leads to compassion and understanding but that takes love for yourself first and compassion within. And if you believe in a higher power faith as well. Which I do.
You ladies just give me the words of encouragement that I need! Y’all are so wise thank you ladies for being obedient to God😇❤️
I'm at that part of my relationship with the podcast where I listen at the exact time when it's intended to speak into a situation in my life.
These past couple of episodes!!! I needed this convo! Stay blessed 💕
I love this episode! Thank y’all for this wonderful yet important conversation ! Y’all are appreciated ❤️
Hey sisters! Thank you so much for this episode. It really resonated deeply with me and a process of ending a friendship. I have communicated boundaries that conflicted what the other person requires and expects from a friendship. I do respect where she is coming from for herself, but this is not aligned with me anymore. When I asked the hard question if we can continue to be friends considering the new versions of ourselves- no constructive answer came. So I am grateful, for this episode solidified the decision that I made for myself- to free ourselves from the prison of unhealthy expectations and blaming games. Grateful for u two! I love love love these conversations. 🙏🏼
Sisters this was a beautiful episode with many valuable insights but pleeaaasse take time to rest if you need it 💕 the community you have built will understand and endorse you prioritising you physical and mental well-being, I hope you feel better soon xo
Great topic!
Thank you for sharing😍
What about when the person is ur cousin but u love their mother (your aunt) as a second mother. Your auntie trashes their son but the pain of loosing the relationship with that cousin makes u paint the whole family with one brush 🥲🥲 everyone moved on but I’m miserable