Deadbeat fathers always wanna come around and acknowledge their children once they become successful but that sh*t is hurtful af fr. They’ll never know what it took for you to become the person that you are today.
Exactly why i dont blame fatherless celebrities like doja cat rejecting or hating their fathers when they do come back around cuz they shouldve been there since day 1 🤦🏾🤦🏾 ppl can change but they gotta go extra hard for them to reciprocate so the pops cant be mad cuz of her reaction
Not only that but it’s a big way of saying “my love is conditional and I love what you do not you as you are”. Quiet as it’s kept, most parents are like this.
The crazy part is that us South Africans dragged the sh*t out of Dumisani when we found out that he abandoned his children and their mother. Like, all our lives this man was a national star and to grow up to find out that a man with his fame, position and means willingly left the family HE CREATED made us insanely angry. Especially knowing that many South Africans grew up fatherless, so many people saw themselves in her. Yet, he has the gall to post her pictures and like her posts? We should drag him again!
And nobody should ever have to find their parent, they should be in their child’s life. If your child has to find you and reach out to you you’re pathetic.
The men in my family ain’t shyt either. I just had a daughter one month ago…..I don’t plan on having the father in her life at all. They just mess shyt up
@@pareeshaslaughter6798 Protect that innocent life from the damage that kind of dysfunction can incur! If they are a true danger to that child, their safety, & their mental health, keep those men away & let the parenting be a child support check. Too many children grow up to be adults saddled with issues because their parent failed to protect them.
@@pareeshaslaughter6798 why get pregnant for him in the first place then...? Or maybe it was one of those cases where he only showed his true colors later? A lot of men do that sometimes. I just think its disappointing how many of our kids grow up in a one parent household. It might take a strain on both the child and the parent. It's not easy at all. For anyone. I do hope you have a lot of help with her though. Children that grow up without fathers, however, are found to suffer more from more mental health issues than those with fathers. Children don't necessarily need a father figure, but I believe it's best to have more than one person they can look up to in times of need.
The men in her family seem to be horrible matter of fact let me correct myself they don't seem to be they really are. Her brother punched her two front teeth out and her sperm donor AKA her dad ain't shitt
I am South African, I am very familiar with her Dad because he is a big star here in SA however I understand Doja South African men are dead bets and see nothing wrong with it. These men are diabolical
Agree, Black South African men are deadbeats (similar to Black American deadbeats)not Indian, White and Coloured SA men though. Let’s be clear on that but I agree with you; he should be ashamed for even trying to engage vial social media when he’s not been present o her life
Indeed most South African fathers impregnate and dip it’s sad actually I’m South African and a product of a dipped father as well… I hope she heals… daddy issues are a real💔 I experienced em myself
Sadly Black South African fathers are absent, similar to Black American men. But white, Indian and Coloured South African fathers mostly present. It’s social decay & disregard for traditional family structures that’s quite normalised in many Black communities globally, I think
@@TheMG20089 you know what I’ve never thought about it that way but maybe psychologically that’s why she has a hard time with her blackness she was only raised by her white mother
@@TheMG20089but yall be angry when black men say they date white women coz black women treated them wrong and yall say not all black women are the same he hates himself but when it a woman now she can group all black men the same
Some men are disgusting... Your own daughter has tried to reach you and connect with you and what does he do? Ghost her until he notices who she has become. Another narcissist...
@@velvetthunder3856the collective of BM share this pathology. Statistics don’t lie. Instead of defending them, you need to hold them accountable. Thats the problem.
Being an IG pappy doesn't count, sir. Doja is still that hurt little girl. Her trauma is deep. It is not up to her to reach out, it is up to her father to go to her and apologize for not being there, for the trauma he caused. He's got money for a plane ticket. Do it or leave her completely alone.
Yall don't kno shit so hush. Doja seems really rude so maybe that's a reason he wants nothing to do with her. She needs to explain the whole situation. Maybe was a side child with her mom. Yall love saying things when yall don't have facts.
@@Nolies-w6w Her being rude is a good reason for him to abandon her when she was a baby? She said ahe hasn't met him, so how does rude play into this? If what she is saying is truth then is he lower than the chewing gum under shoes.
@@Nolies-w6w you hush - was Doja rude as a baby for her father to just not be around? Your critical thinking skills and empathy are lacking. And if he's gone let him stay gone, stay off her socials. I'm not even a Doja Cat fan but I can imagine the impact her father's absence had on her and some of her behaviors, actions, preferences, etc.
I feel bad for Doja because she has talked about this for years. She’s never met her dad. He’s always been uninterested in her. Until the point where she has become successful and famous then he shares things about her on social media. She leaves the door open for him, but he still makes no effort on meeting her or getting to know her. People like to talk about her, not wanting to be black or half black or whatever. But perhaps this is a lot on why she is the way she is. Not making any excuses, but she relates to things that she’s been surrounded by which is her mom and whatever her mom taught her. Her dad is a famous person and he still chose to not be around or get to know his daughter.
It's kinda weird that neither of them make any effort to meet each other in person even though they communicate with each other on Instagram and they have money to jump on a plane to meet up so what's preventing them from doing it ..really sad
@@tunnelvision24-ge8fq Doja has been making an effort since she was a child. That's really sad that children are expected to reach out, even though they never asked to be born.
I bet @tunnelvision is a male, thus is what they do, avoid accountability and place the burden on the woman to bare. Can you imagine blaming the child for not making an effort to see their parent?! The person who brought them on this earth, the person whose responsibility it was to provide and protect! Parenting should be a privilege because many of y'all shouldn't be parents.
@tunnelvision24-ge8fq Why would she reach out to a man that abandoned her as a child? I'd wait for him to reach out just in case I reach out and he tells me "I left because I didn't want to be a father back then. So why would I still want to be a father right now?"
She says more words such as like , she know she a baddie, poopie, who better than her. 😂 Saweetie gets criticized and all at the end she improves and stays in her own lane.
@@ire80east46 Doja has slightly slanted eyes( the common east Asian eye shape) like her father, but one of those eyes is smaller and looks slightly droopy; that is what the lazy eye refers to and dip just means he ran away from his responsibilities…dip means run away or abandon
@@leena5875 I didn’t say it was, I merely explained her eye shape to give full context on how her overall eyes look. her eye shape is inherited from her father but as well as the lazy eye. What I said to be a lazy eye is a “droopy eye” which is same as what you’ve said
@@jaymonster125that's what they don't know and he might not be that terrible but mothers have a way of spinning everything around for children to hate their dads
Not having your father can make you not like anyone who looks like him. It's a trauma response. You're mind literally won't let you bond if you make that association.
@LexiiHearts I mean u right about that ..she better keep an eye on him cuz that dude is way too hot and he can get whoever he wants looking like he do ...I just hope for the baby sake that he doesn't cheat on Victoria...
I been in her shoes. I had to just accept I would never know what a father-daughter relationship is. I cut my dad of completely because my heart couldnt take it anymore. Here today and gone tomorrow. I just chose to focus on the health of my kids relationship with their father. Its crazy seeing your kids experience something thats so foreign to you but it really is a motivation to keep moving on.
Why just South African? A Swedish friend recently commented on the number of Africans she knows with half siblings. I have three from two different mothers. Some of these careless men just can't keep up with themselves.
Only because she shaved her head and eyebrows before she did all that she was really pretty..I bet once she reads all you people thinking that she looks like her deadbeat dad she'll grow her dam hair back cuz I'm tired of this version of doja this balled head look gotta stop
It's kinda sad when u look at it deeply..like here's doja meeting Whoopi..who has worked with and seen her father and that's all she ever wanted growing up..to meet a man who basically ddnt give a fuck untill she became a superstar
Actually it wasn't funny it was kinda sad ,well that's how I felt for her because I know what it feels like to be abandoned by your father..and she seemed to be almost about to cry when she said that to Whoopi..
Well if you’re going to have kids be ready to raise them. Because you can’t get mad when they grow up to become your enemy and call you out for being a terrible parent.
I keep hearing that Austin powers song “Daddddyyyyyy, daddy wasn’t there, to take me to the fairrrrr, to change my underrrrrweaaaaaarrrrrrrrrr……..Daddy wasn’t there”
That's what I said. Father's Day is coming up and it really hits home that not only did mine stay when his own father (my grandfather) didn't, thus breaking a generational curse; but that he's a good dad too. Some fathers are hell-on-wheels and you dang near wish they'd be a deadbeat instead because they traumatize their kids in a whole other way, only this time with their presence as opposed to their absence. Love my daddy!
Her father was not apart of life and he abandoned her. These deadbeats spin the block when they are old. She doesn’t owe him a relationship. He’s looking for clout. She’s going to be disappointed pursuing a relationship every time. He had time for everything except her.
@@LotusFlower420 Exactly. If the woman knows he's in a relationship then she should be called out too. The man in the relationship is def more responsible but how could you possibly wanna mess with a taken man?? how you get them is how you lose them!
@@LotusFlower420 I can’t take anything you say seriously with that type of vocabulary. Your vocabulary alone already tells me what kind of person you are. I can tell you were yelling your statements out loud while typing them.
History likes to repeat. You have good parents then it's more than likely you'll be attracted to good people. Hence we have the stereotype saying of "she has daddy issues" when referring to a misandrist or pornstar.
I feel bad for Doja.. I don't like her recent antics, demonic worship, whatever the heck she is doing but what I see is a little girl who yearned for her father and he didn't give her the time of day. but would like to capitalize and get clout off of her fame Such a shame
Dumisani is already famous and a successful actor in SA, he doesn't need to capitalise with Doja's name. He only started speaking about her after Doja revealed he was her father and people started coming for him. Had it been Doja had never revealed his identity, I don't think he'd have ever talked about her.
@PennyPastor-yk1cg so what? It's not like we South Africans know all American actors...And how do you expect him to be popular worldwide when he mostly acts in his native Zulu language? I've been a big fan of him since the early 2000s, but I don't know any song from Doja. Doja is not even popular here in SA, most of us only know her as Dumisani's daughter.
@@mphosa995 idk how you can be a fan of a dead beat. The fact that he's famous with money makes it worse. he can literally wipe his butt with the plane ticket money to see her. He deserves nothing and karma will get him for suree.
@@esotericchocolota so are you saying that I'm not supposed to be a fan of him despite him being a good actor just because he's a deadbeat father? Come on, I can't hate his good acting skills based on his personal life, even tonight I'll be watching one of the film he starred in on Netflix... And most of us only got to know that he's her father around 2019 or 2020 when Doja revealed it during her interview with whoopie Goldberg. And me being his fan doesn't mean I support what he did to his ex wife and children... There are many American actors and musicians who are also deadbeats, but you guys still support them because they're good actors and musicians. What we should be doing is encouraging peace and forgiveness between Doja and her father... Because her tantrums won't help her with anything right now... So far Dumisani acknowledged his wrongs and didn't deny being a deadbeat father and he even apologized publicly.
No hate on VM but its funny how some of y'all will give y'all favorite celebrities a pass and condem the 1s y'all dont like. While most of the blame goes on him she still played a part. But hey it is what it is they got a whole baby now 🤷🏾♀️
I remember seeing Doja's daddy in the play Sarafina, when I was a kid. His character was a playboy type and the women in the audience would go WILD every time the man would breathe! He's full of himself. I admire Doja for communicating with him at all.
Poor Doja. My heart goes out to her because being without a father or a mother is heartbreaking. It’s your first REAL real heart break in that you never fully recover you just learn to live with the consistent pain and longing for the unconditional love only good parents can truly provide. 💔
I honestly feel bad for Doja and all the people who relate to her situation parents dont care about their children until they get famous..... And Honestly Saweetie should've gotten what ice spice had Saweetie from the beginning she should've been the one to get collabs with rap legends like nicki minaj and should've been pushed out more by her lable beacuse at this point....ice spice is just mediocre and needs to change up her style and FAST.
It’s so sad. I dated a guy who never had his dad in his life and it was horrible. The distrust, self sabotaging behaviour was crazy and I see the self sabotaging in Doja when she tells her fans to stop following her. I pray she gets some counseling so she can move past the trauma.
For the love of God, stop having children if you dont want to be a parent!!! Im sick and tired of the reality that MAJORITY of us can relate to a fatherless home...I can't STAND a deadbeat🤮
These narc/weirdos don’t care! They’re too self hating/ unaware enough to have relations with ppl they actually like let alone have a kid by them. Just terrible
VM said in a interview that she saw him in her gym. She asked him to go to Africa for her video shoot and that’s when their relationship started. Now reflecting on the interview it sounds suspicious. 😕
I’m beyond disappointed in her as I’ve been a fan of hers for years. I’m sorry but I can’t rock or support someone who gets with another woman’s man. Reap what you sow.
Saweetie has always been that girlie! But she is more of an influencer that happens to rap! however!!! If she really wanted to only focus on music and not endorsements… some ladies would be outta business! lol
Thank you for highlighting this. Doja needs to be in our peayers. You can see tge teauma in her songs and life over the past yrs. She's really hurting and i hope she gets some peace of mind
Blaming women for your man leaving you is maximum level delusional. Men are not objects, they are people who can make their own choices. We have to grow up about these things..
It is blame or simple acknowledgment that this woman knew about the gf and still entertained the man? Also it wasn't even the woman that said this, it was a random and her brother confirmed.
Well some women ARE the reason men leave. What if the woman is a narc sabotaging and making ppls lives a living hell for the fun of it (like my mom was) my dad was also absent and not a very good dad to me either
I used to be a Doja cat fan until her demon phase smh I’m praying for her as a child of a horrible father; I can relate. Like dude you couldn’t fly in to see about your child??? Smh he’s a bird 🦆
@@chayo4537 >> If you believe in GOD as a Christian then you know that satan is real. I’ve seen a person I know that was possessed by a demon ; I was 12. I know what I felt and heard. I ain’t tryna convince NOBODY. I don’t play w/ demons or ppl who promote them…..
Doja inherited all her dad’s talents cause her dad is very talented as well maybe that’s why she relates to him so much despite never meeting him…there is nothing as painful as dealing with a deadbeat he has all the resources to go visit his child or even invite her to SA but he won’t cause he doesn’t care which is so sad he just acknowledges her on his social media cause she got famous!!
I’ve noticed in the beginning of dojas career, EVERY interviewer would bring up her deadbeat dad and ask about him and ask if she’s going to meet him just bc he’s “famous”. i always thought it was odd and disrespectful af of them. I knew this would happen for sure. everyone keeps trying to tie them together! i have a deadbeat dad and she’s been handling this situation with A LOT more grace than I would I’ll tell you what
Victoria talks about how she met John in some of her old interviews Apparently the original guy Victoria was gonna get for that mv called out on her so she randomly asked John if he wanted to be in it and also they were going to the same gym😭
i can really empathize w doja cause i never met my dad either, and never had a real father figure and it still got me messed up. its a strange void to explain that ive tried to fill in unhealthy ways . anyways my love and heart goes out to doja. couldnt imagine the social media aspect on top of it
You can’t be mad at Doja. She has tried to respect and protect her dad for years. Thinking of excuses for him when asked about him. Enough is enough she’s fed up and I don’t blame her.
There’s no such thing as a “Homewrecker”. No woman can “wreck” another home if the man doesn’t entertain her or find her interesting. It’s ALWAYS the man’s fault. No one can “Steal” a man from someone who’s dedicated to the woman he’s already with.
6:59 It’s think the origin story of VM and her BD is deeper than that. I saw an interview of her saying he was actually her trainer or someone who worked at her gym and the way he ended up her video was cuz she didn’t have a guy and last minute asked him since he was cute 🤦🏽♀️😭
if Doja drop a whole album abt her dad, it will sell. The absence of fatherhood is something a lot of people will relate to. Especially if she goes the Planet Her route, it will be a massive hit.
I feel Doja & can relate. Men have no idea what it does to a woman when she is abandoned young by her father. It creates a unique type of woman that may take many forms.
@@nedunedu747 your arguing a point I wasn’t making. Go argue about that by yourself because I don’t see the benefit of it when I actually agree with your point. I just don’t know how to say what I’m trying to say to meet your standard. So doja South African men have a lot of healing to do… make you feel better?
@@nedunedu747fyi as a black South African, South African is not an ethnicity it’s a nationality South Africa was formed when they stole different tribes land and formed one country in 1910 therefore ethnically black South Africans refer to ourselves as our tribes Zulu ,Xhosa , Sotho, Tswana , Venda and many more Hope this helps
The more I find out about Doja, the more empathy I have for her. Her father being absent in her life and only celebrating her accomplishments on Instagram like she’s a trophy or like he contributed anything to her artistic development and success must hurt her even more than his complete absence. Her brother abused her and her mother as well. She’s been failed by the most important men in her life and I just hope she finds peace and healing. Her outbursts and social media antics make a lot more sense now- she’s hurting.
Saweetie being compared to Ice Spice and being the preferential pick is NOT a compliment. They are literally comparing to see which one is worse... it's like comparing a trash can to a dumpster.
I honestly feel so bad for her. I know she's probably hurting on the inside. The fact that she tried to reach out to her father numerous of times when she was younger only to get rejected by him. He never made an effort to make arrangements to find his own daughter or try to meet her in person to get to know her. I just find it sad that she wanted a relationship with her dad and he wanted nothing to do with her until she became famous. I wish I can meet her in person and just give her a big hug. I know what it feels like to not know your father and to feel resentment and bitterness at the same. Wishing her and her family peace and love.
Honestly I understands doja my dad left even before I was born , we’ve tried for so many years to contact him and he kept denying my mom recently passed in 2020 and he still didn’t even reach out I’m 24 now and I’m doing great I hope Doja finds peace
Deadbeat fathers always wanna come around and acknowledge their children once they become successful but that sh*t is hurtful af fr. They’ll never know what it took for you to become the person that you are today.
Exactly why i dont blame fatherless celebrities like doja cat rejecting or hating their fathers when they do come back around cuz they shouldve been there since day 1 🤦🏾🤦🏾 ppl can change but they gotta go extra hard for them to reciprocate so the pops cant be mad cuz of her reaction
Selling their soul..... that's what it took....
@@NubianSoulChildd Ngl she did what she knew. Her own people didn’t give her proper guidance.
💯💯💯
Not only that but it’s a big way of saying “my love is conditional and I love what you do not you as you are”. Quiet as it’s kept, most parents are like this.
“ gave me a lazy eye and dipped” is diabolical🤣🤣
I don’t get it 😢
@Thisisbrobe she's saying he gave her his lazy eye gene
Ngl I cackled 😩🤣
That’s not diabolical. Find a better adjective
lol I seriously never noticed Doja had a lazy eye 😮
Not a social media dad . That's another level of sad. 😮
@ladytino5715…. Lol, is he the father? He probably was married cheating
Right. The new version of a deadbeat dad 🙄😑😒😒
That part
That part.
My sons dad is like that
The crazy part is that us South Africans dragged the sh*t out of Dumisani when we found out that he abandoned his children and their mother. Like, all our lives this man was a national star and to grow up to find out that a man with his fame, position and means willingly left the family HE CREATED made us insanely angry. Especially knowing that many South Africans grew up fatherless, so many people saw themselves in her. Yet, he has the gall to post her pictures and like her posts? We should drag him again!
Repect! ✊🏽🫶🏽🙏🏽
Thank you for this!!! Drag him again yes!
i really hope you all did!! bc that is not right
As a South African, I am very disappointed at Dumisani !! He is only reaching out now that she is famous, nobody should leave their child like that.
Nami ingiphatha kabi indaba ka-Doja nobaba wakhe 💔💔💔
South African men are known to be deadbeats. And that is a Fendi fact.
Sis man! What an embarrassment. Wa nkwatisa
Ohh please as if shaka zulu's father was never a deadbeat!!...it's in the culture heey!!
And nobody should ever have to find their parent, they should be in their child’s life. If your child has to find you and reach out to you you’re pathetic.
I WAS WAITING ON THIS DAY! Her daddy a SUPER DEADBEAT! NOW he wants to claim her?! Never even met her! 🤢
So have I. I just think it's sad
The men in my family ain’t shyt either. I just had a daughter one month ago…..I don’t plan on having the father in her life at all. They just mess shyt up
@@pareeshaslaughter6798 Protect that innocent life from the damage that kind of dysfunction can incur! If they are a true danger to that child, their safety, & their mental health, keep those men away & let the parenting be a child support check. Too many children grow up to be adults saddled with issues because their parent failed to protect them.
@@pareeshaslaughter6798 why get pregnant for him in the first place then...? Or maybe it was one of those cases where he only showed his true colors later? A lot of men do that sometimes. I just think its disappointing how many of our kids grow up in a one parent household. It might take a strain on both the child and the parent. It's not easy at all. For anyone. I do hope you have a lot of help with her though. Children that grow up without fathers, however, are found to suffer more from more mental health issues than those with fathers. Children don't necessarily need a father figure, but I believe it's best to have more than one person they can look up to in times of need.
The men in her family seem to be horrible matter of fact let me correct myself they don't seem to be they really are. Her brother punched her two front teeth out and her sperm donor AKA her dad ain't shitt
I am South African, I am very familiar with her Dad because he is a big star here in SA however I understand Doja South African men are dead bets and see nothing wrong with it. These men are diabolical
Agree, Black South African men are deadbeats (similar to Black American deadbeats)not Indian, White and Coloured SA men though. Let’s be clear on that but I agree with you; he should be ashamed for even trying to engage vial social media when he’s not been present o her life
It's not an "African" thing... Shitting on African Men whilst you're an African in Africa for the sake of Doja is SO dumb!!!
Wow
Indeed most South African fathers impregnate and dip it’s sad actually I’m South African and a product of a dipped father as well… I hope she heals… daddy issues are a real💔 I experienced em myself
Sadly Black South African fathers are absent, similar to Black American men. But white, Indian and Coloured South African fathers mostly present. It’s social decay & disregard for traditional family structures that’s quite normalised in many Black communities globally, I think
Poor Doja daddy issues are not fun but him caring now that she’s blown up and is famous is crazy
Fr and people are hating on doja for not “wanting to be black” when in reality her black dad left her with her brother and white mom
@@TheMG20089 you know what I’ve never thought about it that way but maybe psychologically that’s why she has a hard time with her blackness she was only raised by her white mother
So true.
@@TheMG20089but yall be angry when black men say they date white women coz black women treated them wrong and yall say not all black women are the same he hates himself but when it a woman now she can group all black men the same
@@Cease-gn2dk The guy knew and even promised to come back for them but never did. Not comparable to your husband’s situation at all
Some men are disgusting... Your own daughter has tried to reach you and connect with you and what does he do? Ghost her until he notices who she has become. Another narcissist...
Yup. He fighting hella demons smh ole self loathing self
Victoria better be careful. If he can do it to his ex, he can certainly do it to her.
I just said the same thing!
Yep, you reap what you sow
Yup let a richer woman bat her eyes at him. He is gone
she already has the bloodline started so🤷🏾♂️
Unless he was married then he can choose to date whoever he wants. 🤷🏾♀️
For people complaining why Doja never date black men, I understand…
Yes I understand as a black man,but Why alot of black women get treated poorly and still get impregnated by black men
Yep.🎯💯
Why do people care anyway? That's her business.
Is he a representation of every black man? That's unfair
@@velvetthunder3856the collective of BM share this pathology. Statistics don’t lie. Instead of defending them, you need to hold them accountable. Thats the problem.
Being an IG pappy doesn't count, sir.
Doja is still that hurt little girl. Her trauma is deep. It is not up to her to reach out, it is up to her father to go to her and apologize for not being there, for the trauma he caused. He's got money for a plane ticket. Do it or leave her completely alone.
Yall don't kno shit so hush. Doja seems really rude so maybe that's a reason he wants nothing to do with her. She needs to explain the whole situation. Maybe was a side child with her mom. Yall love saying things when yall don't have facts.
@@Nolies-w6w
Her being rude is a good reason for him to abandon her when she was a baby?
She said ahe hasn't met him, so how does rude play into this?
If what she is saying is truth then is he lower than the chewing gum under shoes.
@@Nolies-w6w you hush - was Doja rude as a baby for her father to just not be around? Your critical thinking skills and empathy are lacking. And if he's gone let him stay gone, stay off her socials. I'm not even a Doja Cat fan but I can imagine the impact her father's absence had on her and some of her behaviors, actions, preferences, etc.
@@Nolies-w6wso what was his excuse when she was a baby and he deserted her, her mom and her brother to fend for themselves?
@@Nolies-w6wyou don’t know shit either wtf is your stupid ass saying?🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Saweetie always been better than Ice spice, this shouldn’t even be a topic.
both flops
I mean- that's not saying much. They're both trash....
Well…we can go bars for bars ns
😂😅😅😂😅😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🫠
Yea rite😂😂😂😂 Ice got hits, Sweetie got flops😂😂😂😂
"Ponytail move"? Im old enough to remember it USED to be called "Pullin an Alicia Keys" 🥴😂
What does pulling an Alisha keys mean?
@@TheFinemochaAlicia did what Victoria did to Moshonda and Swizz Beatz
I laughed so hard when I heard that.
That Part! Poor Mashonda
🤣🤣🤣 I’m old enough to remember
I feel bad for Doja because she has talked about this for years. She’s never met her dad. He’s always been uninterested in her. Until the point where she has become successful and famous then he shares things about her on social media. She leaves the door open for him, but he still makes no effort on meeting her or getting to know her. People like to talk about her, not wanting to be black or half black or whatever. But perhaps this is a lot on why she is the way she is. Not making any excuses, but she relates to things that she’s been surrounded by which is her mom and whatever her mom taught her. Her dad is a famous person and he still chose to not be around or get to know his daughter.
It's kinda weird that neither of them make any effort to meet each other in person even though they communicate with each other on Instagram and they have money to jump on a plane to meet up so what's preventing them from doing it ..really sad
@@tunnelvision24-ge8fqwhy would she need to make the effort to meet him? He’s the parent, not her.
@@tunnelvision24-ge8fq Doja has been making an effort since she was a child. That's really sad that children are expected to reach out, even though they never asked to be born.
I bet @tunnelvision is a male, thus is what they do, avoid accountability and place the burden on the woman to bare. Can you imagine blaming the child for not making an effort to see their parent?! The person who brought them on this earth, the person whose responsibility it was to provide and protect! Parenting should be a privilege because many of y'all shouldn't be parents.
@tunnelvision24-ge8fq Why would she reach out to a man that abandoned her as a child? I'd wait for him to reach out just in case I reach out and he tells me "I left because I didn't want to be a father back then. So why would I still want to be a father right now?"
Saweetie is way better than ice spice in my opinion
She says more words such as like , she know she a baddie, poopie, who better than her. 😂 Saweetie gets criticized and all at the end she improves and stays in her own lane.
True but theyre both pretty bad (double entendre)
@@caid733right
Which says a lot because saweetie is terrible too
@@caid733agreed. Neither is a great rapper. But they're both gorgeous
I can relate to doja , the fact that she tried to reach out and he refused as a young kid is horrendous.
🦅🦅🦅
Doja's comment about giving her a lazy eye & dipped will have me hollering everytime.😂😂😂
That was savage 😂
Can someone explain what this means? Apologies I'm British **sips tea**
@@ire80east46 Doja has slightly slanted eyes( the common east Asian eye shape) like her father, but one of those eyes is smaller and looks slightly droopy; that is what the lazy eye refers to and dip just means he ran away from his responsibilities…dip means run away or abandon
@@thandisilec835a lazy eye is when one eyeball deviates from being straight because of weaker muscles it has nothing to do with the shape
@@leena5875 I didn’t say it was, I merely explained her eye shape to give full context on how her overall eyes look. her eye shape is inherited from her father but as well as the lazy eye. What I said to be a lazy eye is a “droopy eye” which is same as what you’ve said
Doja’s dad deserves all the smoke. But I do hope she heals
Maybe it explains some of her behavior.
Definitely does. I’m still dealing with childhood trauma
Her daddy living rent free in your heads. He is enjoying life with other jump offs.
@@play030 You sound just a stupid as her dad. LOL
@@MsDisneylandlover If this explains her behavior, whew the whole Black American Community, didn't have a chance...
Whoopi Goldberg trying to stay out of it is awkward….
I saw that too 😂😂😂😂
She was hella shocked, confused and curious all while minding her business all at the same time...😅
What are yall referring to? Haven’t finished it yet and wanna skip to it
What's awkward is Whoopi probably knows him better than Doja does.
@@jaymonster125that's what they don't know and he might not be that terrible but mothers have a way of spinning everything around for children to hate their dads
Not having your father can make you not like anyone who looks like him. It's a trauma response. You're mind literally won't let you bond if you make that association.
True.
Hmmmmm
FUCKYOURTRAUMARESPONSE
You can never take a man from a woman that is very true but always remember how you get him is how you lose him.
That's what I was thinking ..he gonna cheat on her cuz that dude is too dam fine omg!!!
@@tunnelvision24-ge8fq No he’s going to cheat because he’s a cheater. How he looks has nothing to do with his shit character
@LexiiHearts I mean u right about that ..she better keep an eye on him cuz that dude is way too hot and he can get whoever he wants looking like he do ...I just hope for the baby sake that he doesn't cheat on Victoria...
Doja & her Father are TWINNING 😮
That's the worst part, looking like your deadbeat dad 😭
They literally have the same face my God. I couldn't believe that side by side comparison. I'm glad someone else saw it too.
It's sad... to look like someone who low key doesn't like you
And their faceshape and chin is on point
I been in her shoes. I had to just accept I would never know what a father-daughter relationship is. I cut my dad of completely because my heart couldnt take it anymore. Here today and gone tomorrow. I just chose to focus on the health of my kids relationship with their father. Its crazy seeing your kids experience something thats so foreign to you but it really is a motivation to keep moving on.
As a South African dead beat dad's are common it's sad😢
That happens in the u.s. as well, black men statistics is their are deadbeats.
As a person who is black in general dead beat dads are common this has to.stop
Why just South African? A Swedish friend recently commented on the number of Africans she knows with half siblings. I have three from two different mothers. Some of these careless men just can't keep up with themselves.
But it's true south african dads don't want anything to do with there daughter's
Speak for yourself 🙄
Doja looks just like her dad.
Yes, good looking both of them
Only because she shaved her head and eyebrows before she did all that she was really pretty..I bet once she reads all you people thinking that she looks like her deadbeat dad she'll grow her dam hair back cuz I'm tired of this version of doja this balled head look gotta stop
Right
Doja saying you got to meet him to Whoopi is HILARIOUS and insane, true comedy, true trolling
Whoopi looked so awkward when Doja said that…I wonder what was running through her mind lol
It's kinda sad when u look at it deeply..like here's doja meeting Whoopi..who has worked with and seen her father and that's all she ever wanted growing up..to meet a man who basically ddnt give a fuck untill she became a superstar
Actually it wasn't funny it was kinda sad ,well that's how I felt for her because I know what it feels like to be abandoned by your father..and she seemed to be almost about to cry when she said that to Whoopi..
Yup
@@rtmusicvideos431yup
Well if you’re going to have kids be ready to raise them. Because you can’t get mad when they grow up to become your enemy and call you out for being a terrible parent.
Enemy is an interesting choice of words.
Doja is completely valid for posting what she did
I keep hearing that Austin powers song “Daddddyyyyyy, daddy wasn’t there, to take me to the fairrrrr, to change my underrrrrweaaaaaarrrrrrrrrr……..Daddy wasn’t there”
😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
It seems he doesn't careeeee . Daddy wasn't there 😭
Yall really ain’t shyt for that 💀💀💀
I'm so sorry folks but that's hilarious best comment yet now I'm going to watch Austin Powers tonight 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
She look just like her dad
@user-np3zc1ps9w… you think? I don’t see it
Yes, she does kind of look like him. She’s pretty
Deadbeat dad, I do feel bad for doja 💔
Not these dead beats again, Chile. I’m gonna go hug my dad, I’m freaking lucky!
That's what I said. Father's Day is coming up and it really hits home that not only did mine stay when his own father (my grandfather) didn't, thus breaking a generational curse; but that he's a good dad too. Some fathers are hell-on-wheels and you dang near wish they'd be a deadbeat instead because they traumatize their kids in a whole other way, only this time with their presence as opposed to their absence. Love my daddy!
@@Bree5threeheavy on traumatizing their kids and making them wish they were absent instead😭😭😭yes go hug your daddy
Her father was not apart of life and he abandoned her. These deadbeats spin the block when they are old. She doesn’t owe him a relationship. He’s looking for clout. She’s going to be disappointed pursuing a relationship every time. He had time for everything except her.
Saweetie's song 'Richtivities' is a bop too
Why does the public go after the “mistress” when a man leaves a woman for another?
Why not, there's something called morals
@@ntuthukomdluli-pd9jvFake self righteousness
Sides/mistresses need to stop playing victim 😒 They kno exactly wat they be doin... they're not at all innocent
@@LotusFlower420 Exactly. If the woman knows he's in a relationship then she should be called out too. The man in the relationship is def more responsible but how could you possibly wanna mess with a taken man?? how you get them is how you lose them!
@@LotusFlower420 I can’t take anything you say seriously with that type of vocabulary. Your vocabulary alone already tells me what kind of person you are. I can tell you were yelling your statements out loud while typing them.
They get the same blk man and blk dad.
Right!
Yep basically!
History likes to repeat. You have good parents then it's more than likely you'll be attracted to good people. Hence we have the stereotype saying of "she has daddy issues" when referring to a misandrist or pornstar.
😂😂
And you get a same damn white man
I feel bad for Doja.. I don't like her recent antics, demonic worship, whatever the heck she is doing
but what I see is a little girl who yearned for her father and he didn't give her the time of day.
but would like to capitalize and get clout off of her fame
Such a shame
Dumisani is already famous and a successful actor in SA, he doesn't need to capitalise with Doja's name.
He only started speaking about her after Doja revealed he was her father and people started coming for him.
Had it been Doja had never revealed his identity, I don't think he'd have ever talked about her.
@PennyPastor-yk1cg so what? It's not like we South Africans know all American actors...And how do you expect him to be popular worldwide when he mostly acts in his native Zulu language?
I've been a big fan of him since the early 2000s, but I don't know any song from Doja.
Doja is not even popular here in SA, most of us only know her as Dumisani's daughter.
@@mphosa995 idk how you can be a fan of a dead beat. The fact that he's famous with money makes it worse. he can literally wipe his butt with the plane ticket money to see her. He deserves nothing and karma will get him for suree.
@@esotericchocolota so are you saying that I'm not supposed to be a fan of him despite him being a good actor just because he's a deadbeat father? Come on, I can't hate his good acting skills based on his personal life, even tonight I'll be watching one of the film he starred in on Netflix... And most of us only got to know that he's her father around 2019 or 2020 when Doja revealed it during her interview with whoopie Goldberg.
And me being his fan doesn't mean I support what he did to his ex wife and children... There are many American actors and musicians who are also deadbeats, but you guys still support them because they're good actors and musicians.
What we should be doing is encouraging peace and forgiveness between Doja and her father... Because her tantrums won't help her with anything right now... So far Dumisani acknowledged his wrongs and didn't deny being a deadbeat father and he even apologized publicly.
Are you religious?
Not having one or the other parent will majorly mess up your mental
Saweetie has been getting blacked balled ever since the quavo thing
I don't think she's getting blacked balled. She's just not making music that people want to listen to. Her first mixtape was good back in 2018.
Why do you think that?
The funniest comment ever......
Oooorrrrrr her music just sucks and no one is interested in it🤷🏾♀️
Lmfaoo or maybe nobody wants to listen to that wack 💩
Saweetie has better bars and music than Ice Spice she just needs to seriously work on her delivery
No hate on VM but its funny how some of y'all will give y'all favorite celebrities a pass and condem the 1s y'all dont like. While most of the blame goes on him she still played a part. But hey it is what it is they got a whole baby now 🤷🏾♀️
FACTS 💯!
How about y’all stop running with narratives about people with zero evidence or proof to back up no tangible claims
Very true,she's a snake too
How does she play a part? It seem like he told them both lies.
I remember seeing Doja's daddy in the play Sarafina, when I was a kid. His character was a playboy type and the women in the audience would go WILD every time the man would breathe! He's full of himself. I admire Doja for communicating with him at all.
I guess art imitates life, in this case.
@@tarag7292More often than not 🤮
Poor Doja. My heart goes out to her because being without a father or a mother is heartbreaking. It’s your first REAL real heart break in that you never fully recover you just learn to live with the consistent pain and longing for the unconditional love only good parents can truly provide. 💔
I didn't realize how much Doja Cat and Dumisani look alike its so cute but also sad consudering their situation
I honestly feel bad for Doja and all the people who relate to her situation parents dont care about their children until they get famous.....
And Honestly Saweetie should've gotten what ice spice had Saweetie from the beginning she should've been the one to get collabs with rap legends like nicki minaj and should've been pushed out more by her lable beacuse at this point....ice spice is just mediocre and needs to change up her style and FAST.
Exactly saweetie is way more talented than ice spice
It’s so sad. I dated a guy who never had his dad in his life and it was horrible. The distrust, self sabotaging behaviour was crazy and I see the self sabotaging in Doja when she tells her fans to stop following her. I pray she gets some counseling so she can move past the trauma.
For the love of God, stop having children if you dont want to be a parent!!! Im sick and tired of the reality that MAJORITY of us can relate to a fatherless home...I can't STAND a deadbeat🤮
Deadbeats are the worst non-criminal people in the world. To have no love and humanity for a child that didn't ask to be born to you. How heartless.
It starts with the women. They have to stop giving their bodies to these men.
These narc/weirdos don’t care! They’re too self hating/ unaware enough to have relations with ppl they actually like let alone have a kid by them. Just terrible
if u have to compare an "artist" to ice spice and sexy reed they have already failed lmao
My exact thoughts! Lol!
All these irrelevant azz male rappers and yall focusing on the same grouping of females when the males outnumber them in mediocrity
You can’t “take” a disloyal man. He was NEVER loyal so switching sides comes easy. You lose them exactly how you get them 👍🏾
VM said in a interview that she saw him in her gym. She asked him to go to Africa for her video shoot and that’s when their relationship started. Now reflecting on the interview it sounds suspicious. 😕
Whole time
I’m beyond disappointed in her as I’ve been a fan of hers for years. I’m sorry but I can’t rock or support someone who gets with another woman’s man. Reap what you sow.
Yeah because how are you an up and coming super star getting pregnant by a personal trainer you JUST met? They definitely had a relationship prior
I feel bad for Doja
Who cares I don't. She brought this upon herself.
And colorist she’s grabage
@@elenaofavalormoanadisneypr6893 Her dad IS a deadbeat though
@@elenaofavalormoanadisneypr6893 how can a child bring a parent to not show up to raise them🤔😒
@@ytuseracct why is your UA-cam channel is fake? 🤥
I grew up watching Sarafina.... I hurt for Doja. A father's love is so important.
Ice has 0 talent and personality 😂
Exactly people have too stop making untalented people famous
She should just model and get some sponsors
U right
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I still think she is slow, she even looks slow
Saweetie has always been that girlie! But she is more of an influencer that happens to rap! however!!! If she really wanted to only focus on music and not endorsements… some ladies would be outta business! lol
The shade honey
Because Ice Spice is not?
You can’t choose your family - time to give up and let them go they aren’t worth the time and effort 😞
I flew Delta to these comments! 🛩
@thedivadanner… 😭
Flying Delta this weekend 😅
Lol! The same !
😂😂😂
@@biancalord488 I flew Spirit Through the Turbulence 🤣🤣🤣
Thank you for highlighting this. Doja needs to be in our peayers. You can see tge teauma in her songs and life over the past yrs. She's really hurting and i hope she gets some peace of mind
Blaming women for your man leaving you is maximum level delusional. Men are not objects, they are people who can make their own choices. We have to grow up about these things..
It is blame or simple acknowledgment that this woman knew about the gf and still entertained the man? Also it wasn't even the woman that said this, it was a random and her brother confirmed.
Well some women ARE the reason men leave. What if the woman is a narc sabotaging and making ppls lives a living hell for the fun of it (like my mom was) my dad was also absent and not a very good dad to me either
1:50 Dang her dad got moves!!
I used to be a Doja cat fan until her demon phase smh I’m praying for her as a child of a horrible father; I can relate. Like dude you couldn’t fly in to see about your child??? Smh he’s a bird 🦆
You believe in the devil now? 😂😂
@@chayo4537 >> If you believe in GOD as a Christian then you know that satan is real. I’ve seen a person I know that was possessed by a demon ; I was 12. I know what I felt and heard. I ain’t tryna convince NOBODY. I don’t play w/ demons or ppl who promote them…..
@@chayo4537 >> If you believe in GOD then you know the devil is Real. Chile truth is stranger then fiction…..
I always felt her change in image and music was influenced by something deeper, and maybe this is a part of it.
He also definitely influenced her artistic gift, he’s very talented and Doja definitely gets it from him
Men like Doja’s dad make me so angry, how could you not understand the rejection your innocent children feel? They don’t deserve that.
“Gave me a lazy eye and dipped” IS CRAZY 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 DOJA IS SOMETHING ELSE.
Doja inherited all her dad’s talents cause her dad is very talented as well maybe that’s why she relates to him so much despite never meeting him…there is nothing as painful as dealing with a deadbeat he has all the resources to go visit his child or even invite her to SA but he won’t cause he doesn’t care which is so sad he just acknowledges her on his social media cause she got famous!!
I love ur pov. You can’t take a man from someone else. Secondly , someone who doesn’t want to be taken will act right by setting boundaries
So Sad for Doja seems like a cry for help
She let him play with her long enough with the fake proud comments. She’s not breaking down she’s speaking up.
I’ve noticed in the beginning of dojas career, EVERY interviewer would bring up her deadbeat dad and ask about him and ask if she’s going to meet him just bc he’s “famous”. i always thought it was odd and disrespectful af of them. I knew this would happen for sure. everyone keeps trying to tie them together! i have a deadbeat dad and she’s been handling this situation with A LOT more grace than I would I’ll tell you what
Victoria talks about how she met John in some of her old interviews Apparently the original guy Victoria was gonna get for that mv called out on her so she randomly asked John if he wanted to be in it and also they were going to the same gym😭
Nah, she was eyeing him earlier.
She literally said she met him at the gym idk where people are getting these other assumptions
Why she has his number if he has a girl 💀
i can really empathize w doja cause i never met my dad either, and never had a real father figure and it still got me messed up. its a strange void to explain that ive tried to fill in unhealthy ways . anyways my love and heart goes out to doja. couldnt imagine the social media aspect on top of it
Her trying to find him when she was 14 made me cry, it’s so heart wrenching. Kids just want to know their parents 😢
You can’t be mad at Doja. She has tried to respect and protect her dad for years. Thinking of excuses for him when asked about him. Enough is enough she’s fed up and I don’t blame her.
Crazy I just watched Sarafina last week. Doja’s father played Sarafina’s boyfriend.
Doja cats dad is just another ain’t shyt person………….doja should take the high road and BLOCK HIM.
But first she has to make money with that topic😂
@@diamond_noir89as she should for years of overdue child support lol
@@shippendales8543 lol
@@diamond_noir89 Nothing wrong with making money. people are hungry for drama and chisme cause their lives suck
There’s no such thing as a “Homewrecker”. No woman can “wreck” another home if the man doesn’t entertain her or find her interesting. It’s ALWAYS the man’s fault. No one can “Steal” a man from someone who’s dedicated to the woman he’s already with.
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I grew up watching her dad! He is a great dancer and actor but it’s sad he never connected with his kids. 😢
My heart goes out to Doja so much♥️ love and light sis. I feel you. I see you🤍
You can’t take no one’s fiancé. He was a willing participant.
Exactly. Is it wrong? Yes but certainly voluntary
Nick Cannon bout to get blasted like this in the future.
Yup! You called it
But his will be even worse, because of the sheer amount of reckless reproduction he’s done
Deadbeat fathers make me angry🤬🤬🤬 broken children everywhere 😤
Thank you
6:59 It’s think the origin story of VM and her BD is deeper than that. I saw an interview of her saying he was actually her trainer or someone who worked at her gym and the way he ended up her video was cuz she didn’t have a guy and last minute asked him since he was cute 🤦🏽♀️😭
Doja just find peace and healing and leave that deadbeat alone. They never change, they just frustrate thw hell out of you
4:12 My dumb ass brother has DV me too them goofy brothers be jealous 😒
if Doja drop a whole album abt her dad, it will sell. The absence of fatherhood is something a lot of people will relate to. Especially if she goes the Planet Her route, it will be a massive hit.
I feel Doja & can relate. Men have no idea what it does to a woman when she is abandoned young by her father. It creates a unique type of woman that may take many forms.
Well said
I look forward hearing Doja's album
SAWEETIE and SPICE are both beautiful ❤️
But I know people who don't care about either one 😞
I feel bad for Doja❤️
That’s probably why it feels like Doja don’t blend with her black card that well … the black men in her life had a lot of healing to do
“Black is a term given by colonizers. Doja is SOUTH AFRICAN. She doesn’t need to blend with some stereotypical “black community” nonsense.
@@nedunedu747 your arguing a point I wasn’t making. Go argue about that by yourself because I don’t see the benefit of it when I actually agree with your point. I just don’t know how to say what I’m trying to say to meet your standard. So doja South African men have a lot of healing to do… make you feel better?
@@nedunedu747fyi as a black South African, South African is not an ethnicity it’s a nationality
South Africa was formed when they stole different tribes land and formed one country in 1910 therefore ethnically black South Africans refer to ourselves as our tribes Zulu ,Xhosa , Sotho, Tswana , Venda and many more
Hope this helps
Now I understand why she is a good dancer❤❤
@PennyPastor-yk1cgNah. Her rhythm is in her blood. In her DNA. Classes don’t give natural rhythm..
The more I find out about Doja, the more empathy I have for her. Her father being absent in her life and only celebrating her accomplishments on Instagram like she’s a trophy or like he contributed anything to her artistic development and success must hurt her even more than his complete absence. Her brother abused her and her mother as well. She’s been failed by the most important men in her life and I just hope she finds peace and healing. Her outbursts and social media antics make a lot more sense now- she’s hurting.
This sudden enlightenment on ice spice’s talent is crazyyy 😂
It’s honestly hilarious 😂😂😂
That explains why she is the way she is 💯 😢 I feel bad. This explanation so much.
I’m South African and one thing I can confirm is that some kids here have deadbeat dads so I’m surprised that he didn’t bother reaching out to her
Saweetie being compared to Ice Spice and being the preferential pick is NOT a compliment. They are literally comparing to see which one is worse... it's like comparing a trash can to a dumpster.
Speaking of Nicki...no mention about her arrest and rescheduling her Amsterdam show?
That's because she a barb😂
I honestly feel so bad for her. I know she's probably hurting on the inside. The fact that she tried to reach out to her father numerous of times when she was younger only to get rejected by him. He never made an effort to make arrangements to find his own daughter or try to meet her in person to get to know her. I just find it sad that she wanted a relationship with her dad and he wanted nothing to do with her until she became famous. I wish I can meet her in person and just give her a big hug. I know what it feels like to not know your father and to feel resentment and bitterness at the same. Wishing her and her family peace and love.
Ginger spice was never impressive to begin with, was bound to fizzle out lol
Whattt. I need a Doja documentary! This is the first time I hear about this stuff
Honestly I understands doja my dad left even before I was born , we’ve tried for so many years to contact him and he kept denying my mom recently passed in 2020 and he still didn’t even reach out I’m 24 now and I’m doing great I hope Doja finds peace