Story 6: 55:40 To the writer, you are so much more than your disability. I too am disabled and I thought the same as you. Until I found my boyfriend, he would help me sit up in bed after surgery or walk when I could not on my own. You deserve and will find love this pure because we all do. “Your disability doesn’t make you a second class citizen “ wise words from my boyfriend. Your disability could never ever outshine a beautiful soul. More than that, therapy really helped me find the confidence and happiness inside of me that I thought I would ever have again after getting diagnosed. He’s just stuck in traffic hehe Wishing you the best! Hugs! 🩷
I'm asexual and have had a long term, multi years relationship with someone who was not, and it was never a problem for us. I told him at the beginning I had no idea if I'd ever be interested in sex, and needed him to not have that expectation of the relationship. We found a level of intimacy that worked for both of us, and slowly over years time that grew to include more as we both got comfortable exploring those boundaries. I certainly don't think if the writer of that story isn't asexual it has to be over, but that writer should think about if there's a way forward for her in that context that would work for her personally.
I’ve never commented on the pod/videos before, but the last story today made me cry & infuriated me at the same time. To that young lady, April, you are NOT sick or broken. You have a disease and a disability, but that doesn’t mean your spirit or soul is damaged. I have bipolar depression, and in the past 5 years, I’ve had multiple spinal injuries, so I’ve experienced life with and without my disease and disability. I’ve been married twice; the first was before any disability and before I was diagnosed with BP, and more recently, after my BP diagnosis and injuries. My 2nd husband is amazing. (He’s so awesome that I’m having difficulty describing him.) He saw ME, not my issues. And I have absolutely no doubt you will find your person, and s/he/they will be SO worth the wait. But more importantly, I want to touch on the things your family say to you: how DARE they speak to you that way? You deserve love, and happiness, and everything an “able-bodied” person deserves. You ARE worthy. You ARE important and loved. Do your best to shut that shit out of your head, and remember that most people do NOT see you as damaged. I’m sending you so much love and compassion. And patience, bc you’re still young, and you need to learn to shut out the hateful words from your family and to love yourself before you can let yourself be loved the way you deserve. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Last one: Her family is BOLD to laugh at her because it’s her mom’s fault she’s going through this. But I think she should go to a tht show and let Jerry, Morgan and Justin know before hand so maybe she can meet someone that way. They have a way of bringing a community and couples together❤I remember my mom and her now ex husband telling me no one would ever love the real me and I have a wonderful life with the man I love who loves me and we have a 2 year old and 1 on the way. I hope everything works out for her.
10:42 sounds like the best friend is out of his league so he decided to cut his losses and make her his “best friend” instead. Clearly the woman’s radar has picked this up. This guy would most likely dump her if the best friend dates him . Pretty clear about that
Story 1: Remember the story where the girlfriend throws a halloween party wheres the couple costume Peter Pumpkin Eater and the girl best friend showed up in a pumpkin costume too.. they were banging. Its not an uncommon story to hear, which is why girlfriends get paranoid. I want to be my mans best friend and person... If that spot is taken already, you have to share him. Not saying men and women can't be friends. But he has to have room for his partner to be number 1.
Story 1: I might be so toxic for this, but at least for me, there's really no reason for another woman to be your best friend or even close friend if you have a girlfriend. I love being my husband's number 1 and would feel sad if he shared his closeness with someone else--especially with someone he originally intended to date. Also, please listen to your gut even if you sound crazy! I know there's no proof or anything to validate the paranoia you're feeling, but when you find the right one you will NEVER have a "but" feeling. You'll always feel safe. I hope OP finds someone she can feel that way with!
I somewhat disagree with story 2, while yes I agree the guy should stand his ground, it’s OP’s job to stand up to her family. He should not be the one having to fight with her family. It’ll make him the bad guy and make it seem like he’s a bad influence and they will not like him if it’s not coming mostly from her. She needs to stand up to her step dad and set that boundary that it’s not something to talk about and if he does, she’ll remove herself from the situation and keep repeating that until he learns
I feel like sometimes he doesn’t understand what was read to him lol. The people in the couple are on the same page and it doesn’t matter to the girl but the girls family member would have the issue so she def would need to set that boundary with him.
Story 1. I wonder if the friend told her bf how they met and how he feels . It depends on the website cause some dating sites both have to be interested before inboxing. For him to say he is not going to stop being friends with her without her even asking gives me he was in love/ really like her now he is friend zoned 😩
Hi! Its killing me inside thinking she is hurting, i have made communication clear to not continue with the friendship. However my partner and i have been together for six years and he was also friends with OPs boyfriend! :)
@ ohhhh that's makes a difference for me if he's friends with both . If he's a great man and this is literally the only thing I would keep my eyes out but not push the issue. I do believe men & woman can be friends it just depends .
I’ve never commented on this pod but I have to say something for story #1. When I met my now fiancé everything was peace, there was no “but” and as someone who has been cheated before too, I wish for you to feel the same way. You deserve to be your mans number #1. If you feel like you are not then there it is. Trust your gut, and believe me, with the one all will at peace ❤ hit me up if you need
Story 1: she should proceed with caution. I think it shouldn’t be ignored that he #1) told her he would not stop being friends with the girl, even tho she never even asked him to do that. So he was telling her flat out that he wouldn’t choose her over his friend. 2:) the reason they aren’t together is bc the girl wasn’t into it. That means he’s probably still into her but has accepted being friend zoned. They were attracted enough to meet up. And they remain attracted to each others personality’s enough to become close friends. Honestly, if op is feeling so strongly that he’s the one, future husband, and he’s telling her flat out he’s never going to stop being close friends with a girl he met on a dating app. I would try and cool my jets if I was op.
The write-in's worst fear literally happened to me. His "girl best friend" was a friend of mine that set us up. We started dating. She was dating another dude. One day, she gets engaged. My boy was gone in a matter of days. Turns out I was just a place holder 🤷♀️ THAT BEING SAID: As bad as that hurt, I don't think you can move forward in other relationships without trust. You can't have love without risk. It's the people we love the most that have the greatest potential to break our hearts. But I'll take a thousand heartbreaks if it means I lead of life of loving to my fullest. And one day, my prince charming will come, and he will deserve my trust. And I'll be ready to give it to him.
Story 6: I flew to the comments to tell you that you deserve love. There are dating apps or groups for HIV positive people. And also, the disease is not as deadly as it used to be. Regardless, that and CP, YOU ARE NOT TAINTED. Your family is awful to laugh at you. You deserve love romantically and otherwise. I'm sending you my love!
For story 3. I was in the place of the daughter. My mom was a single mom and it was hard for me to see her date. I would suggest since her daughter is in therapy maybe go in with her and talk about what she might fears if mom dates another person. That way the therapist can also help her too. Therapists can really help with coping that mom or dad is dating someone new
Perfect timing! I can’t fall asleep.. couldn’t have asked for a better upload right now, this will make me think of other peoples problems instead of my own. It’s 3:37am (LI,ny)
I was 13 when my parents divorced, and my mom started dating a year later. The idea of my mom dating a new guy did make me uncomfortable initially, but seeing the way she positively changed with him, made me a lot more open to accepting him as part of the family. She completely opened up around him, and I actually saw her happy again, and that gave me a new perspective. It may not be as easy for others, but for me, seeing the effect he had on her happiness made me much more accepting of him.
Unrelated to the stories but I find myself compelled to say - I’ve found this podcast so soothing after binging THT. Jerry, you’re such a source of comfort from a young woman who hasn’t had a father, and I love how sharp and whistle-y your S’s are! lol I hope the fam over there has a beautiful thanksgiving 🥰
When my soul dog passed away my partner made a children’s book of me and my dog with a bunch of personalized stories and illustrations, 10/10 recommend Uncommon Goods
Story 4: This happened to me. He said sex before marriage made him uncomfortable because of religious guilt. It happened, but very rarely. He promised this would not be a problem in our marriage. So I married him. Now, I haven’t had sex in over 15 years. This OP should run.
Can’t tag the time but around 41 minutes (story four). This convo is helping me immensely. I just broke up with my partner of a year like 5 days ago and I’m crushed.
35:28 he honestly sounds like he might be on the ace spectrum maybe demi? Usually people in relationships like this have open rules to allow the more sexual partner their needs idk obviously taboo but more common than you'd think
Second poster: first, it’s important to set clear boundaries with stepdad regarding his treatment of OP’s potential partners… Then also to talk to the potential partners about the stepdad. It’s way easier to date in faith if faith is a priority.
Lol Story 2 hearing the idea of going in and stating the deal immediately made me think of this kid in our class who when he was dating my friend said before anything else to her Mom “Hi I’m ___ and I have 2 Dads” so there was never an opportunity for that to be awkward or a point of contention
Story 6: I’m disabled and chronically ill with a crazy amount of illnesses. I am right upfront of about my health and how it effects my daily life. Most are invisible but some have equipment that makes them visible. I have a feeding tube internally the small intestine for formula meds and hydration, I have a feeding tube into my stomach to drain out stomach contents like acid and bile as my stomach is 98% paralyzed. I have instant IV access in my chest called a port , it’s under the skin but it is visible on me because I’m so thin. That’s just the general every day issues and I don’t accept anyone to stay. I’m 29 and at the moment I’m not dating due to being so sick.
The only time I've ever had an issue with my partner having a female friend was when he kept coming home and mentioning her 'oh *name* did this, *name* did that' and then I went as a +1 to a work party. She was always wherever we were. Her partner came and she didn't change her behaviour, giggling at everything, making innuendos and her partner has this look on his face like 'oh.... that's him?!' I told mine once we got home and he was oblivious but I told him to distance himself if he didn't want a spun jaw. And I'm guessing her partner said something too because the next time we met she kept a distance and kept it respectful. Xxxx
Story 1: I(25f) have a best friend(m24) who has been my best friend for 16 years. When he first started dating his now fiancée a couple years back, she was worried abt him having a female best friend. We spent a lot of time together, we facetimed, we would send each other funny videos on all social media. We talked every single day. There was at no point intimacy, feelings, or flirting at any point of our friendship, but his new girlfriend was not pleased with our friendship and closeness. He chose to keep his friendship with me, which caused a slight hardship for her. Now, they have a child, and I respect their space, but we are still BEST friends. She is now one of my closest friends. I tell both of them everything. I now send both of them funny videos on all social media. I now text both randomly. It doesn't always have to be negative. It can work out.
59:10 From personal experience with the one who will be your person for the rest of your life, none of that will matter. They will love you no matter what your past is or your mental/ physical health. They will see you the person not defined by conditions and diagnoses. I am truly sorry that your family not only speaks do you like that squashing your confidence and hope, but also trying to diminish your worth. As the old saying goes, misery loves company and some miserable people will drag anyone down that they can to make themselves feel better.
Story 5, girl his masks is starting to slip, you’re starting to see the real him. You don’t start to know who a person is for a long time… but also it sounds like he was trying to trap you and trick you by being something he wasn’t in the beginning
Story 3: you could have a short convo to your 13 yr old and say that "i am a woman, I was a girl, I am a person just like you, do you think you could grant me the patients we need, so we can both know this new person in mine and your life?"
Story 1: My partner has a really good friend. When we first got together they’d Snapchat and text very frequently. About 3 months into our relationship he went to a concert with her and stayed the weekend at her house- it’s something they did together as friends every so often. The week leading up to the concert I was in knots. I had been cheated on my almost all my past partners and was so worried. So I talked to him about it. I talked about how I was feeling and was really honest. He felt so guilty that I was feeling worried but assured me that nothing had ever EVER happened and that they had been friends since high school. So I decided to trust him. Control won’t stop someone from doing something it will just drive them away. Now, five years and two daughters later I realize it was just an insecurity from my past and that my now husband would never betray my trust. You can decide to trust him and also make the decision that if he does cheat then that’s it and the relationship is over. You can’t control a person into being faithful.
Hey guys, im definitely OPs boyfriends friend in story #1.. ask away I'll answer anything. I have been trying to upload to reddit but the moderators keep pausing. To put things in prospective i set the two of them up and absolutely love OP!
Story 1 OP: Have an honest conversation about how it makes you feel and ask the question you don't really want the answer to, if you could, would you? Otherwise, you'll keep living in this purgatory, which isn't healthy for you or your relationship in the long run.
Story 1: this is not enough information to go on imo. I would proceed with caution. OP take note if he prioritizes her over you. Does she overstep boundaries? Have you established any boundaries? If he’s the one he should be able to make you feel comfortable and reassure you. If he’s defensive or hiding his communication with her I’d be concerned.
Story 2: The stepdad needs to be told that he's expected to treat people with respect, regardless of his beliefs. He doesn't have the right to harass people about their beliefs, and it is HER job to say this, not the boyfriend's.
Story 1; not a lot of info to go off of , but unless the boyfriend is crossing boundaries (if there even has been any set) I don’t think it’s wrong for him to be friends with her. I think they should have better communication and she should maybe get therapy to help her out, even couples therapy might be useful.
Story 3: I think it is ok to date with children but I think it should be long before you bring a partner to meet your kids. My mom always brought her bfs around quickly and I hated it. Then they wouldn’t last so I just met some rando for no reason. You need to be sure you want to be with this person long term before mixing.
Story one, he could do all those things and not have a girl best friend. You cannot ask him to stop being friends with her, but you can become friends with her. You also might want to seek some therapy if you have access. A man could only have male friends, male co workers, and only see males 99% of the time and still cheat. Communicate, be honest, don’t try to control him, be her friend, work on you. Unless she treats you poorly or disrespects you and he does nothing, there’s no reason to let this ruin your relationship.
I'm sorry I strongly disagree with number two. It is her family it is her responsibility to deal with it Yes he has to set a boundary but that boundary should be upheld by the persons whose family it is. It is not up to your partner to stand up to your family
If anybody has a 60 year old single dad open to an amazing 58 year old mom (and grandma to my babies) lmkkkk 😂😂😂 my mom refuses to date since I was a kid because she didn’t want a guy who would make me uncomfortable. But in reality I always wanted her to date and find someone. To be HAPPY. Because I watched her be sooo unhappy until my parents divorced at 10
Story 2: It’s important to share faith. Think about the future, he’ll never come to church with you and if you have children with him he’ll not want them going to church or if you bring them he won’t go with you. That’s now talking about leaving your faith for a man and sacrificing your future children’s bath for a man. Honey it’s not worth it, eternity is more important
I don't find any red flags in the guy in the 5th story. I actually think the story is really one sided and missing a lot of perspective. If you can't date people with different political beliefs that's fine - personally I also prefer surrounding myself with people with the same values. And talking about values - it's weird OP was surprised with the character of this man knowing his opinion in politics. Most people on this side of the aisle have these morals and the reasons for them and that's fine. You put yourself in this situation knowing what the outcome would be and now you wasted not only your time but the other person's too :/
Sitting up with my sick 14 month old FINALLY got him to sleep. Open UA-cam for some 3aam entertainment and couldn’t be happier to see this 😭😭
I hope your little bub recovers soon, and that you get some much needed sleep and momma-care time. 💜💜
Youre a great mama♥️ hope your baby recovers soon🫂
I hope he feels better soon!! Sick babies are the worst.. hang in there mama!
You deserve a this serotonin boost mama
Story 6: 55:40
To the writer, you are so much more than your disability. I too am disabled and I thought the same as you. Until I found my boyfriend, he would help me sit up in bed after surgery or walk when I could not on my own.
You deserve and will find love this pure because we all do.
“Your disability doesn’t make you a second class citizen “ wise words from my boyfriend.
Your disability could never ever outshine a beautiful soul. More than that, therapy really helped me find the confidence and happiness inside of me that I thought I would ever have again after getting diagnosed.
He’s just stuck in traffic hehe
Wishing you the best! Hugs! 🩷
I'm asexual and have had a long term, multi years relationship with someone who was not, and it was never a problem for us. I told him at the beginning I had no idea if I'd ever be interested in sex, and needed him to not have that expectation of the relationship. We found a level of intimacy that worked for both of us, and slowly over years time that grew to include more as we both got comfortable exploring those boundaries. I certainly don't think if the writer of that story isn't asexual it has to be over, but that writer should think about if there's a way forward for her in that context that would work for her personally.
I’ve never commented on the pod/videos before, but the last story today made me cry & infuriated me at the same time. To that young lady, April, you are NOT sick or broken. You have a disease and a disability, but that doesn’t mean your spirit or soul is damaged. I have bipolar depression, and in the past 5 years, I’ve had multiple spinal injuries, so I’ve experienced life with and without my disease and disability. I’ve been married twice; the first was before any disability and before I was diagnosed with BP, and more recently, after my BP diagnosis and injuries. My 2nd husband is amazing. (He’s so awesome that I’m having difficulty describing him.) He saw ME, not my issues. And I have absolutely no doubt you will find your person, and s/he/they will be SO worth the wait. But more importantly, I want to touch on the things your family say to you: how DARE they speak to you that way? You deserve love, and happiness, and everything an “able-bodied” person deserves. You ARE worthy. You ARE important and loved. Do your best to shut that shit out of your head, and remember that most people do NOT see you as damaged. I’m sending you so much love and compassion. And patience, bc you’re still young, and you need to learn to shut out the hateful words from your family and to love yourself before you can let yourself be loved the way you deserve. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Last one: Her family is BOLD to laugh at her because it’s her mom’s fault she’s going through this. But I think she should go to a tht show and let Jerry, Morgan and Justin know before hand so maybe she can meet someone that way. They have a way of bringing a community and couples together❤I remember my mom and her now ex husband telling me no one would ever love the real me and I have a wonderful life with the man I love who loves me and we have a 2 year old and 1 on the way. I hope everything works out for her.
10:42 sounds like the best friend is out of his league so he decided to cut his losses and make her his “best friend” instead. Clearly the woman’s radar has picked this up. This guy would most likely dump her if the best friend dates him . Pretty clear about that
Story 1: Remember the story where the girlfriend throws a halloween party wheres the couple costume Peter Pumpkin Eater and the girl best friend showed up in a pumpkin costume too.. they were banging.
Its not an uncommon story to hear, which is why girlfriends get paranoid.
I want to be my mans best friend and person... If that spot is taken already, you have to share him.
Not saying men and women can't be friends. But he has to have room for his partner to be number 1.
Story 6 makes me feel so grateful for simply just existing! The girl is such a hero and a true inspiration 🤍
Story 1: I might be so toxic for this, but at least for me, there's really no reason for another woman to be your best friend or even close friend if you have a girlfriend. I love being my husband's number 1 and would feel sad if he shared his closeness with someone else--especially with someone he originally intended to date. Also, please listen to your gut even if you sound crazy! I know there's no proof or anything to validate the paranoia you're feeling, but when you find the right one you will NEVER have a "but" feeling. You'll always feel safe. I hope OP finds someone she can feel that way with!
I somewhat disagree with story 2, while yes I agree the guy should stand his ground, it’s OP’s job to stand up to her family. He should not be the one having to fight with her family. It’ll make him the bad guy and make it seem like he’s a bad influence and they will not like him if it’s not coming mostly from her. She needs to stand up to her step dad and set that boundary that it’s not something to talk about and if he does, she’ll remove herself from the situation and keep repeating that until he learns
Yeah I'm sitting here like.... hard disagree with Jerry on that one
I feel like sometimes he doesn’t understand what was read to him lol. The people in the couple are on the same page and it doesn’t matter to the girl but the girls family member would have the issue so she def would need to set that boundary with him.
Only commenting to say story #6 legit made me cry 😭 You ARE lovable and I hope you find your person who also sees that ❤
Story 1. I wonder if the friend told her bf how they met and how he feels . It depends on the website cause some dating sites both have to be interested before inboxing. For him to say he is not going to stop being friends with her without her even asking gives me he was in love/ really like her now he is friend zoned 😩
Hi! Its killing me inside thinking she is hurting, i have made communication clear to not continue with the friendship. However my partner and i have been together for six years and he was also friends with OPs boyfriend! :)
@ ohhhh that's makes a difference for me if he's friends with both . If he's a great man and this is literally the only thing I would keep my eyes out but not push the issue. I do believe men & woman can be friends it just depends .
I’ve never commented on this pod but I have to say something for story #1. When I met my now fiancé everything was peace, there was no “but” and as someone who has been cheated before too, I wish for you to feel the same way. You deserve to be your mans number #1. If you feel like you are not then there it is.
Trust your gut, and believe me, with the one all will at peace ❤ hit me up if you need
Story 1: she should proceed with caution. I think it shouldn’t be ignored that he #1) told her he would not stop being friends with the girl, even tho she never even asked him to do that. So he was telling her flat out that he wouldn’t choose her over his friend. 2:) the reason they aren’t together is bc the girl wasn’t into it. That means he’s probably still into her but has accepted being friend zoned. They were attracted enough to meet up. And they remain attracted to each others personality’s enough to become close friends.
Honestly, if op is feeling so strongly that he’s the one, future husband, and he’s telling her flat out he’s never going to stop being close friends with a girl he met on a dating app.
I would try and cool my jets if I was op.
The write-in's worst fear literally happened to me. His "girl best friend" was a friend of mine that set us up. We started dating. She was dating another dude. One day, she gets engaged. My boy was gone in a matter of days. Turns out I was just a place holder 🤷♀️
THAT BEING SAID: As bad as that hurt, I don't think you can move forward in other relationships without trust. You can't have love without risk. It's the people we love the most that have the greatest potential to break our hearts. But I'll take a thousand heartbreaks if it means I lead of life of loving to my fullest. And one day, my prince charming will come, and he will deserve my trust. And I'll be ready to give it to him.
@ aww babe. That’s so not ok I’m sorry you were treated that way. It’s not right!
@ you’re exactly right, love is a risk worth taking ! Beautifully said… one day your prince will come. I believe!
Story 6: I flew to the comments to tell you that you deserve love. There are dating apps or groups for HIV positive people. And also, the disease is not as deadly as it used to be. Regardless, that and CP, YOU ARE NOT TAINTED. Your family is awful to laugh at you. You deserve love romantically and otherwise. I'm sending you my love!
For story 3. I was in the place of the daughter. My mom was a single mom and it was hard for me to see her date. I would suggest since her daughter is in therapy maybe go in with her and talk about what she might fears if mom dates another person. That way the therapist can also help her too. Therapists can really help with coping that mom or dad is dating someone new
Perfect timing! I can’t fall asleep.. couldn’t have asked for a better upload right now, this will make me think of other peoples problems instead of my own. It’s 3:37am (LI,ny)
2:56am for me! Hope you sleep well and Good morning if you read this when you wake up!
I just finished my dance workout! Perfect timing to maybe go to sleep!
No better way to start my 4:30am morning than a brand NEW FKS🙌🏻✨ Happy Thanksgiving fam!
Also, the propeller needs battery operated Christmas lights for the season! 😂
I was 13 when my parents divorced, and my mom started dating a year later. The idea of my mom dating a new guy did make me uncomfortable initially, but seeing the way she positively changed with him, made me a lot more open to accepting him as part of the family. She completely opened up around him, and I actually saw her happy again, and that gave me a new perspective. It may not be as easy for others, but for me, seeing the effect he had on her happiness made me much more accepting of him.
"We have Justin, we have my propeller, and we have socks..."
I love a little dose of Jerry in the morning. 😂❤
Unrelated to the stories but I find myself compelled to say - I’ve found this podcast so soothing after binging THT. Jerry, you’re such a source of comfort from a young woman who hasn’t had a father, and I love how sharp and whistle-y your S’s are! lol I hope the fam over there has a beautiful thanksgiving 🥰
When my soul dog passed away my partner made a children’s book of me and my dog with a bunch of personalized stories and illustrations, 10/10 recommend Uncommon Goods
At work ! Propeller looks great! Reminds me of b52 burger
Story 4: This happened to me. He said sex before marriage made him uncomfortable because of religious guilt. It happened, but very rarely. He promised this would not be a problem in our marriage. So I married him. Now, I haven’t had sex in over 15 years. This OP should run.
Can’t tag the time but around 41 minutes (story four). This convo is helping me immensely. I just broke up with my partner of a year like 5 days ago and I’m crushed.
35:28 he honestly sounds like he might be on the ace spectrum maybe demi?
Usually people in relationships like this have open rules to allow the more sexual partner their needs idk obviously taboo but more common than you'd think
Loved this episode! As always
Second poster: first, it’s important to set clear boundaries with stepdad regarding his treatment of OP’s potential partners…
Then also to talk to the potential partners about the stepdad.
It’s way easier to date in faith if faith is a priority.
Lol Story 2 hearing the idea of going in and stating the deal immediately made me think of this kid in our class who when he was dating my friend said before anything else to her Mom “Hi I’m ___ and I have 2 Dads” so there was never an opportunity for that to be awkward or a point of contention
Story 6: I’m disabled and chronically ill with a crazy amount of illnesses. I am right upfront of about my health and how it effects my daily life. Most are invisible but some have equipment that makes them visible. I have a feeding tube internally the small intestine for formula meds and hydration, I have a feeding tube into my stomach to drain out stomach contents like acid and bile as my stomach is 98% paralyzed. I have instant IV access in my chest called a port , it’s under the skin but it is visible on me because I’m so thin. That’s just the general every day issues and I don’t accept anyone to stay. I’m 29 and at the moment I’m not dating due to being so sick.
just in time for my last hour of work !
The only time I've ever had an issue with my partner having a female friend was when he kept coming home and mentioning her 'oh *name* did this, *name* did that' and then I went as a +1 to a work party. She was always wherever we were. Her partner came and she didn't change her behaviour, giggling at everything, making innuendos and her partner has this look on his face like 'oh.... that's him?!' I told mine once we got home and he was oblivious but I told him to distance himself if he didn't want a spun jaw. And I'm guessing her partner said something too because the next time we met she kept a distance and kept it respectful. Xxxx
Story 1: I(25f) have a best friend(m24) who has been my best friend for 16 years. When he first started dating his now fiancée a couple years back, she was worried abt him having a female best friend. We spent a lot of time together, we facetimed, we would send each other funny videos on all social media. We talked every single day. There was at no point intimacy, feelings, or flirting at any point of our friendship, but his new girlfriend was not pleased with our friendship and closeness. He chose to keep his friendship with me, which caused a slight hardship for her. Now, they have a child, and I respect their space, but we are still BEST friends. She is now one of my closest friends. I tell both of them everything. I now send both of them funny videos on all social media. I now text both randomly. It doesn't always have to be negative. It can work out.
59:10 From personal experience with the one who will be your person for the rest of your life, none of that will matter. They will love you no matter what your past is or your mental/ physical health. They will see you the person not defined by conditions and diagnoses. I am truly sorry that your family not only speaks do you like that squashing your confidence and hope, but also trying to diminish your worth. As the old saying goes, misery loves company and some miserable people will drag anyone down that they can to make themselves feel better.
the plane makes its return
Oh goodness , somehow Morgan let Jerry have the propeller back 🤣🤣
Story 5, girl his masks is starting to slip, you’re starting to see the real him. You don’t start to know who a person is for a long time… but also it sounds like he was trying to trap you and trick you by being something he wasn’t in the beginning
Story 3: you could have a short convo to your 13 yr old and say that "i am a woman, I was a girl, I am a person just like you, do you think you could grant me the patients we need, so we can both know this new person in mine and your life?"
Story 1:
My partner has a really good friend. When we first got together they’d Snapchat and text very frequently. About 3 months into our relationship he went to a concert with her and stayed the weekend at her house- it’s something they did together as friends every so often. The week leading up to the concert I was in knots. I had been cheated on my almost all my past partners and was so worried. So I talked to him about it. I talked about how I was feeling and was really honest. He felt so guilty that I was feeling worried but assured me that nothing had ever EVER happened and that they had been friends since high school. So I decided to trust him. Control won’t stop someone from doing something it will just drive them away. Now, five years and two daughters later I realize it was just an insecurity from my past and that my now husband would never betray my trust.
You can decide to trust him and also make the decision that if he does cheat then that’s it and the relationship is over. You can’t control a person into being faithful.
Hey guys, im definitely OPs boyfriends friend in story #1.. ask away I'll answer anything. I have been trying to upload to reddit but the moderators keep pausing. To put things in prospective i set the two of them up and absolutely love OP!
It's a very nice propeller.
Story 1 OP: Have an honest conversation about how it makes you feel and ask the question you don't really want the answer to, if you could, would you? Otherwise, you'll keep living in this purgatory, which isn't healthy for you or your relationship in the long run.
my dad has one of those propellers too lol!
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I just got another skylight for my grandma and its $40 off right now :)
Story 1: this is not enough information to go on imo. I would proceed with caution. OP take note if he prioritizes her over you. Does she overstep boundaries? Have you established any boundaries? If he’s the one he should be able to make you feel comfortable and reassure you. If he’s defensive or hiding his communication with her I’d be concerned.
Story 2: The stepdad needs to be told that he's expected to treat people with respect, regardless of his beliefs. He doesn't have the right to harass people about their beliefs, and it is HER job to say this, not the boyfriend's.
Story 1; not a lot of info to go off of , but unless the boyfriend is crossing boundaries (if there even has been any set) I don’t think it’s wrong for him to be friends with her. I think they should have better communication and she should maybe get therapy to help her out, even couples therapy might be useful.
Story 3: I think it is ok to date with children but I think it should be long before you bring a partner to meet your kids. My mom always brought her bfs around quickly and I hated it. Then they wouldn’t last so I just met some rando for no reason. You need to be sure you want to be with this person long term before mixing.
Story one, he could do all those things and not have a girl best friend. You cannot ask him to stop being friends with her, but you can become friends with her. You also might want to seek some therapy if you have access.
A man could only have male friends, male co workers, and only see males 99% of the time and still cheat.
Communicate, be honest, don’t try to control him, be her friend, work on you.
Unless she treats you poorly or disrespects you and he does nothing, there’s no reason to let this ruin your relationship.
I'm sorry I strongly disagree with number two. It is her family it is her responsibility to deal with it Yes he has to set a boundary but that boundary should be upheld by the persons whose family it is. It is not up to your partner to stand up to your family
If anybody has a 60 year old single dad open to an amazing 58 year old mom (and grandma to my babies) lmkkkk 😂😂😂 my mom refuses to date since I was a kid because she didn’t want a guy who would make me uncomfortable. But in reality I always wanted her to date and find someone. To be HAPPY. Because I watched her be sooo unhappy until my parents divorced at 10
11:21 absolutely not Justin. We’re is Morgan?? Bc these ppl MET on a DATING APP. They feel some type of sexual attraction towards each other.
@@jilliang4347 this was not the situation AT ALL! At least on my end! :)
@ maybe you’re a decent person. But if you’re my partner and you told me this it would be over.
Glad you have solid connections
Story 2: It’s important to share faith. Think about the future, he’ll never come to church with you and if you have children with him he’ll not want them going to church or if you bring them he won’t go with you. That’s now talking about leaving your faith for a man and sacrificing your future children’s bath for a man. Honey it’s not worth it, eternity is more important
I wonder how she would have felt if he said because of her political views it wouldn’t work. Sounds like a W for him.
I don't find any red flags in the guy in the 5th story. I actually think the story is really one sided and missing a lot of perspective. If you can't date people with different political beliefs that's fine - personally I also prefer surrounding myself with people with the same values. And talking about values - it's weird OP was surprised with the character of this man knowing his opinion in politics. Most people on this side of the aisle have these morals and the reasons for them and that's fine. You put yourself in this situation knowing what the outcome would be and now you wasted not only your time but the other person's too :/