Coronavirus? Not really a "drama/controversy" thing but it's super important for it to have exposure especially with it spread to already 5+ countries and could tie in to vaccinations **Edit: this virus had the potential to be deadly to those who catch it and has already killed people, yet I don't see many youtubers talking about it or even briefly mentioning it
How controversial are you trying to get? Because people aren’t talking about Nikkie Tutorials hiding her sexual identity to her fiancé for the longest time...
@@mauve2121 well it’s tricky when you say things like this because it says nothing about us but more about the Industry we have created. when a plus sized creator blows up the first thing plus sized people think is “finally someone like me someone I can relate to that people actually praise and look up to” therefore putting then onto a pedestal because that’s what people do with famous people especially when they can finally relate to them after years of being told that your body type isn’t accepted. And guess what’s wrong with that? Nothing. Nothing is wrong with plus sized people idolizing plus sized celebrities because think about how many well-liked plus sized celebrities there are? Let’s think of off the top of our head: lizz- oh wait we don’t like her anymore adele- oh wait she isn’t plus sized anymore (which there is nothing wrong with) Meghan train- oh wait she is irrelevant………anywayyy all I’m saying is that there aren’t many main stream plus sized creators out there, therefore whenever a plus sized person gets famous, plus sized people tend to idolize and look up to them for making it despite the societies beauty standards holding them back AS THEY SHOULD there is nothing wrong with that. Thank you.
I cannot believe how well D’Angelo predicted her character. She is absolutely someone who abused/abuses her power and you sniffed it out from the get go.
Shame breeds narcissistic tendencies ... if you hid your disappointment behind positivity, as D'Angelo explains he could detect, those feelings become shame. Actual truth from within will set you free.
I got called racist for saying I didn’t like Lizzo. They said that I didn’t want a woman of color to succeed but failed to realize that I myself am a woman of color.
@@kaitlynm9463 no convert narcissism is under the umbrella and there are different kinds under the narcissism umbrella just like for example wavy or coily hair is under the curly hair umbrella.
@CASSIE Lovera yeah, but with covert and fragile narcissism, it is based more on insecurities than say control or a grandiose mentality, which are main characteristics of the other types of narcissism. There's a reason they've broken down different types of narcissists, all still under the umbrella of narcissism.
@CASSIE Lovera I never said the others weren't insecure. Narcissism develops typically from needs not getting met as a child, etc. which of course is obvious insecurities, but the different types each have main qualities vs lesser qualities, you were "correcting" the person for no reason. Yes, it's all still narcissism, but it doesn't take away the fact that people with NPD usually fall into one of the categories based on the characteristics they display. Narcissism is more than just ways to get attention.
@@someguy4046 The problem with your philosophy is that we don’t know virtually anything about her. Chances are, you don’t know Lizzo personally, you only know what she chooses to showcase, so comments about her weight or her lifestyle or what she should/shouldn’t be doing are, by nature, uneducated and repulsing. Gaining weight or weight loss is a very very personal topic, it’s just that the results are obvious visually. Plus, metabolism is important to take into consideration. Two people’s bodies could process food very differently, and if you saw a skinny person with diabetes would you yell at them to do better?? No, you wouldn’t, because the ramifications of their choices aren’t visible to you. There’s also the argument that “well I just want them to be healthy”. No, you don’t. I know that for an absolute fact, because if you did and if her body shamers did they wouldn’t be calling her a “whale” or “disgusting” or “blob”, etc. Mental health is just as important as physical health, plus as I’ve mentioned before you don’t know her life and you should be focusing on yourself, so while we should all strive to be the healthiest version of ourselves healthy looks different on everyone, we’re all on different journeys (it’s not your business to comment on anyone else’s), and bullying somebody is only going to demotivate them to switch their life choices.
@@someguy4046 I understand that at a certain point, it’s impossible to be healthy at your size, and in no way am I trying to disprove that. While I do firmly believe that “healthy” does not equal this very narrow definition exacerbated by the media, all sizes are not healthy. But, all sizes are beautiful, because a person’s personal journey to better themselves is not anybody’s else’s business. We can support somebody in becoming the healthiest version of themselves- if that means losing weight than so be it- without putting them down or adding to the voices in their head that call them lazy or unworthy. That being said, I know you aren’t necessarily putting overweight people down. But to your point about how we shouldn’t normalize being overweight in particular with celebrities, I disagree. Say you’re going through a really hard time, and because of this you gain weight. Feeling like the only person going through a weight gain, or especially feeling like the only plus size person/feeling as though people at your weight can’t be successful must be awful to deal with. You don’t see yourself represented in the media, and therefore it could be hard to find motivation. Plus, there’s a difference between body positivity and promoting obesity. Body positivity is the movement saying we all deserve to be happy regardless of our size, we all deserve respect regardless of visible symptoms of a possibly unhealthy lifestyle, and nobody is better than the other just because we were blessed with the resources to remain or become a smaller size.
@@jetnagle8610 I had someone tell me that my ADHD is actually that I should have gotten beat more as a child. And they knew that I got the shots almost every single day from my parents...
The "I'm fat and I don't care, I am boss girl" mentality, but added with sassy black girl culture. It's not new and it's also a lie. I don't know a single fat person unless wholly deluded who actually feels that way. Not that shaming is remotely okay, it's abuse and it's disgusting and a denial of what makes people fat in the first place, but acting like you are better, more powerful, more in general because of these traits is body shaming others who are not fat, black and sassy. You can accept who you are, with out having pride and inherently discrimination for those who don't share in that pride. Real confidence is not ignoring criticism, it's listening and evaluating if that criticism has any value that could contribute to you being a better you, but also not letting the flaming hate comments get to you, because you know they genuinely do not matter and contribute nothing to your life. Not saying they don't matter, but knowing they actually don't matter. I know very few, if any people who have actual confidence. I mostly see fake it till you make it insecurity, and ego masking as confidence.
@@polmak1507 than explain the reason. What is wrong with a confidant fat black girl that inspires people? I think the problem is when a. It is not authentic and more importantly b. When society stereotypes it and expect every black girl to be like that and doesn't appreciate the depth behind the appearance. Maybe don't blame Lizo. Blame society.
001yael she isn’t “confident”, she’s loud and obnoxious and screeches a message of excessive narcissism instead of healthy self-assuredness lmao, literally the only reason people worship her is because “oh she’s fat so omg omg omg that means she’s fighting oppression!”. She’s part of the problem of pop culture that brainwashes young people into believing extremely toxic and false messages
notice how he didn't mention lizzo's weight when criticizing all the problematic shit she's done? that's how you realize it's actual criticism and not just "fat woman bad"
@@shonamcandrew1653 I get that but Lizzo's dress had literal cut-outs for her whole butt cheeks. Cheerleaders are dressed very skimpy, yes, and if one is concerned for the children they should complain about that too, but you can't say that there isn't a difference between skimpy shorts and having buttcheek cutouts in a dress.
@@shonamcandrew1653 I feel like if cheerleaders were dressed in bodycon skirts with cutouts for their bare buttcheeks, people would be complaining just as much. Until then, unfortunately, all of this is speculation.
@@shonamcandrew1653 Bruh fat phobia is a fucking myth. People who are actually discriminated against (the LGBTQ, POC) are getting real sick of people playing the victim card for shit they can fucking change. Are people sometimes needlessly cruel to the overweight? Yes. And that sucks. But y'all are not a protected class. Being overweight is not the same thing as being a POC, and acting like racism and "fatphobia" are the same is ignorant. I'm a lesbian who lives in an area where I have to be extremely careful about who I come out to because it's about a 50/50 chance if they'll be accepting or not. There are stores in my area who are outwardly anti-lgbt. Not stores that only donate money to anti-LGBT causes, stores that put signs on the doors saying, "We don't serve queers." Seeing someone complain about something that is 100% in their power to change is disgusting.
@@shonamcandrew1653 Nobody should be obese. Facts are facts. Obesity kills. I can't imagine actively trying to support something that only causes harm.
While Dangelo was right I also find something else quite frightening. How come when the allegations came out peoples attention went straight for Lizzo’s weight but not the victims of the crime? All of this talk about body positivity and shit only for her fans and the media to switch up real quick with fat phobia everywhere. The girls who were victims of Lizzo are literally big/thick women and when they tried to tell there story all y’all can do is focus the aggressors weight. Some of y’all definitely got your priorities mixed up.
This is the same thing when news stories come about a black person committing a crime, and the comments all get severely racist even if the crime victimized another black person, in a way that you never see in equally severe crimes committed by a white person victimizing any race combination. I think so many more people are bigots than those who self-identify as that, so when they see a person of X group is terrible, they see it as an excuse to stop pretending they didn't automatically judge them on their race/gender/sexuality/weight/height/etc. It's the idea that to these people, members of a certain minority group or that look a certain way have to earn basic human respect, so if they're not respectable as a _person_ then those superficial or immutable traits are not valid in them. If you're not "one of the good ones" then hate speech is acceptable. It's bigotry masquerading as judging on the content of character.
yeah, so many people's criticisms of lizzo, before or after the stuff about her came out, mostly just boiled down to "she's fat and i don't like it", it's frustrating how people paid less attention to the fact she did bad things and more just used it as an opportunity to mock her appearance and be able to be on the moral high ground for it because "she's a bad person so it's okay" or whatever.
This is sooo true though. Well I will change it into “she makes songs for people who can’t take responsibility for their own action and put the blame on others all the time”
I remember seeing this video years ago and somewhat agreeing with a lot of the points presented in this video while also not outright hating her or sometimes even defending her from the actual racist or fatphobic people that were genuinely nasty to her. Now that the news and allegations about her broke out I'd say that this video somewhat aged well with the accusations of toxic positivity having a form of truth to them.
lmao I don’t think op is saying “if you don’t say Lizzo is great her stans will literally break into your house and hold you at gunpoint” pretty sure they just mean it’s hard to genuinely criticize her or anything she does, because it’s mistaken for actual hate.
Exactly, even though I don't agree with the hate, I can understand why some people don't like her it's just the body shaming does not help their argument so I wholeheartedly agree with what you said
Insane lover69 I don’t like body shaming at all .but what I see often is if a severely underweight person was as confident as and performed on stage like her the media would be in a uproar. Double standards
Bringing up her appearance to insult her is one thing, but I’d like to bring up the fact that she’s only popular because she’s fat. If she was skinny nobody would even know her name. She’s only famous because other people with weight issues feel like they need representation. And don’t think I’m bashing fat people because I’m also fat and I’m probably gonna die at 25 of heart failure. My personal philosophy about weight is, why would you want to be fat? Like being fat is bad for both your physical and mental health and if somebody is confident about being fat they’re most likely lying and have wicked bad body image issues.
the double standard of her walking around with her entire ass out at events is mind-boggling to me. i just can’t help but feel like if someone like the Jenners did that, they’d be blown up to the highest degree
At first glance that statement is easy to agree with but when you realize people are human, flawed, and never perfect then this statement makes no sense. Therapists constantly preach messages of self love, growth and health all the while many of them are in therapy themselves to make it happen in their own lives. That doesn't mean they shouldn't be helping others if they aren't perfect with it yet. Great video though! I'd love to have a conversation with you about the mind and human behavior. Keep it up!
@@roxie10xoxo I think it's ok to not be perfect but if you hate yourself it would be irresponsible to tell other to love themselves but I think if your somewhere in the middle of the spectrum I think it is ok to teach others something as you learn it yourself
It's so annoying! I told my friend I didnt like her and he said it was because I'm fat phobic and I hate fat people and I'm body shaming and allllll sorts of other accusations. 🙄
This generation is too sensitive. She's fat and it can be unhealthy, maybe she should lose weight and take care of herself more when it comes to consumption. Is that fat shaming? No. It's being genuine enough to look out for someone else's health instead of being quiet about it because you are afraid they will take it the wrong way but hey, the truth does hurt
Dude, go on one of her pics on insta, read the comments, and just look at the shit people put. Most of them aren’t giving valid criticism, they just go and be like “damn, fatass bitch”
Some people are still more upset and jumping to say she’s now going to be fat shamed and leading with that versus calling out what she’s being accused of. It’s bad when some folks are jumping to do that versus focus on the worst of the allegations which are her harassing her employees. It’s sad but not surprising when people develop these unhealthy parasocial relationships with celebrities.
Literally the first thing I thought of! 😂 everyone on twitter saying they couldn't ever expect this but I've been indifferent towards her as a celebrity ever since I saw this video 2 years ago!!
I lost a ton of respect for Lizzo when she put a Postmate on blast because she thought they stole her order. Surprise, they didn't. But that didn't stop people from sending the courier death threats and forcing her to quit her job because she was being stalked.
@Strawberry Cheesecake Lover thank you! i'm not comfortable seeing that as well as many, many others but i can't complain because it's MY fault for being uncomfortable about it. i don't care who you are or how much power you have, respect other people's morals.
Right, I dont care what gender or body type you are, *I MYSELF* do not wanna see someone's bare ass on a big screen while I'm watching a basketball game. 😂
ehhh ease up let people live. This is like idc if your gay but don't push your gay agenda down my throat. who gives af?? if they're gay it really doesn't affect you either way
She also gets rude with random women during interviews. I’ve dealt with women like that and they just think confidence equates to acting like a mean girl. Her voice is beautiful but her attitude is trash.
Is it women or just men too? It took me awhile to realize how my insecurities about myself caused me to act mean and catty around women because I thought they were better than me. I wonder if she gets jealous of the women?
@@alexisd6106 It's sad that some women need to act like that and treat other women like that because they feel like they have to, it shows how brainwashed and misogynist society is.
i'm usually for women being able to wear whatever they want and that they shouldn't be sexualized, but what lizzo did at the basketball game was uncalled for. there's a time and place for everything...
Avacados & Pirates YES and she danced and showed her butt. I honestly think it’s hypocritical how cheerleaders are allowed to show their body off but all hell breaks loose when she did it idkidk
I think the difference is that cheerleaders are getting paid to be there- they are part of the whole thing- lizzo was in the audience... people didn't go there to see her make this whole thing about her... i love lizzo but she really didn't had to do that
At first I thought this was going to be you claiming she was unhealthy and promoting unhealthiness to her fans, but I 100% agree with this yeah. Great video
@@youwillstarvexx1548 I mean at all her concerts she is dancing non-stop for 1.5-2 hours all the while singing while trying to not sound out of breath, then she pauses to play the flute-possibly while still dancing- then she goes back to dancing while singing, and afterwards she can't let herself look too out of breath. If I did that I think I'd die and I'm a twig
Faye Dawn Just because your lung capacity is phenomenal doesn’t mean being obese is healthy. Also, would she be as good of a runner just because she can pull off those stunts in a concert? Even elite athletes would get out of breath when walking in a long stairway. Doing what she does on stage itself is incredibly impressive but that doesn’t exclude the fact that she may be unhealthy in other areas. Also, elite athletes needs to eat double calories or they would be starving. They burn so much calories, and require a massive amount of carbs so it doesn’t burn off their muscle mass. It’s not comparable to Lizzo at all.
"I'm not going to say that word because we respect women in this house hold" I can't believe I was so shocked by a man saying that, it is basic human decency, I love you D'angelo
I can tell that you had a bad past with men/boys. Believe me, D'Angelo is not the only genuinely kind man in this world. It is crass to use the b-term/c-term to offend a woman. Trust me, there are many genuine and kind men out there, you just have to seek them out.
Someone literally had an argument with me because I proved them wrong. The only argument they had against me was calling me "fatphobic" and making up false claims
people who think critizing lizzo for anything is fatphobic are actually the ones being "fatphobic" because that's all they see her as. When someone mentions her name they just hear fatphobia without seeing the issue so I mean. Take that as you will *II* *3*
I know. I first heard her one of her songs in a vintage shop in Amsterdam and looked her up immediately. I was a bit annoyed that she wasn't renowned then. She blew up like 3 months after that and now look at what the fame did to her 🤦♀️
She doesn't have to sing or talk about it though. There is so much celebrities don't share with us, it's okay to keep negative emotions in your close circles
Oh I think the humility thing is because she is portraying the message that women have been imposed to be humble and we need to stop it. She is opposing by showing a more confident and a self assured version of femininity Edit: I think it may not be ok to judge a message or ideal based on a person. I mean we are diverse and our understanding of abstract concepts may vary from one person to other, so we can't judge the message based on the way someone is expressing it
dani frau isn’t it a more positive message to be humble anyways? i understand the confidence message because women are basically trained in our society to think of themselves as less which freaking sucks, but everybody should be humble because no matter how much you have, your shit still stinks just like mine and everyone elses
That's only true if someone is sexualizing themselves even though they don't WANT to (but do so to appear confident). There are plenty of actual confident people that feel comfortable expressing themselves in a sexualized manner, and THAT is fine, too. We need to snuff out this idea that sexualizing = bad, in ALL contexts and situations, because that's some straight up 1950s level of controlling misogynist bullshit. Context and intent are EXTREMELY important. You can't make wide sweeping generalizations about something like this.
i get it, but idk to be fair it's probably meant to be a statement, like "hey you can have a body like mine and still have sex appeal!" a lot of her songs are about body positivity and feeling confident in your own skin even when you're not conventionally attractive. that being said, i AM kinda getting tired of the fetishization and toxic positivity surrounding heavy women. that's kinda what you get when you market it as sex appeal first and more importantly than anything else.
Exactly, confidence and self-love is not about taking your clothes off CONSTANTLY. walking around naked. Its about respecting yourself. Sure, sexualize yourself but not everyone and their mother too has to be the witness to it. Even if you are a celebrity. Because sooner rwther than later people are gonna forget about your art, your work and they will remember you solely for your "unpopular" deeds such as walking around naked and flashing all the time.
in conclusion: the truth hurts lmao
anyway I'm doing this everyday. what should we talk about tomorrow?
What would *you* like to talk about
dangelowallace scams or tik tok kids or Ryan toys reviews
didnt u say thr kpop and dr phil
Coronavirus? Not really a "drama/controversy" thing but it's super important for it to have exposure especially with it spread to already 5+ countries and could tie in to vaccinations **Edit: this virus had the potential to be deadly to those who catch it and has already killed people, yet I don't see many youtubers talking about it or even briefly mentioning it
How controversial are you trying to get? Because people aren’t talking about Nikkie Tutorials hiding her sexual identity to her fiancé for the longest time...
Well, this aged incredibly well.
Like fine wine😂
mhm..😬
I was surprised to find that this video was three years ago because I discovered wallace’s channel recently
Came to say the same thing lmao
Came here to comment the exact same thing 😅
Who else is here after learning of how Lizzo is actually a terrible person and our boy D’Angelo sniffed her out years ago?!
Present 👏🏽
literally came here just for that lol
🙋♀️
Right here
Yt literally recommended this video to me after all the allegations came out 😭
if we cant have a fat celebrity without making them a body positivity icon what does that say about us
It's not on her body, it's things on what she does
@@aliciadaley5152 but what does she do that makes her a body positivity icon??
Nevermind I completely read your comment wrong I'm so sorry
@@aliciadaley5152 ohh ok sorry
@@mauve2121 well it’s tricky when you say things like this because it says nothing about us but more about the Industry we have created. when a plus sized creator blows up the first thing plus sized people think is “finally someone like me someone I can relate to that people actually praise and look up to” therefore putting then onto a pedestal because that’s what people do with famous people especially when they can finally relate to them after years of being told that your body type isn’t accepted. And guess what’s wrong with that? Nothing. Nothing is wrong with plus sized people idolizing plus sized celebrities because think about how many well-liked plus sized celebrities there are? Let’s think of off the top of our head: lizz- oh wait we don’t like her anymore adele- oh wait she isn’t plus sized anymore (which there is nothing wrong with) Meghan train- oh wait she is irrelevant………anywayyy all I’m saying is that there aren’t many main stream plus sized creators out there, therefore whenever a plus sized person gets famous, plus sized people tend to idolize and look up to them for making it despite the societies beauty standards holding them back AS THEY SHOULD there is nothing wrong with that. Thank you.
I cannot believe how well D’Angelo predicted her character. She is absolutely someone who abused/abuses her power and you sniffed it out from the get go.
It's obvious. She uses obese people who seeks validation
I got bad vibes when she met Chris Brown and told him he was her hero. Surely knowing what he did to Rihanna...
Shame breeds narcissistic tendencies ... if you hid your disappointment behind positivity, as D'Angelo explains he could detect, those feelings become shame. Actual truth from within will set you free.
spoiler alert: You're allowed to criticise/dislike people who are popular
I wish people would actually listen to comments like this
People literally do that all the times this is nothing new
And people who aren’t popular
Its 555 likes but I ruined it - w -
+ you can criticize something you like
I got called racist for saying I didn’t like Lizzo. They said that I didn’t want a woman of color to succeed but failed to realize that I myself am a woman of color.
Lmao
Good grief! Lol
Good god..
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@@Jenny-jc1gz "Just remember kayn, don't hurt the templar"
He called it! Now three years later she is dealing with lawsuits for being a toxic and terrible person wow great job applaud
"You can't hate hate her because she's overweight, you being fatphobic"
Overweight people hating Lizzo: 👁👄👁
People would still say that it’s fatphobic smh humans need more braincells
@Tomato Sauce 🤣
@Tomato Sauce internet high five ✋🏽 😭🤣
@Tomato Sauce I feel like their brains would shut down the same way a breaker trips
Hate is a big word
“Lizzo basically represents...toxic positivity”
Finally
Butane Mouth ew you’re toxic
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bruh, that’s cringe
@@henrysho2766 you got the whole squad laughing
i made this 2.1k likes :)
I’ve been waiting for someone to say something since I saw her on tiktok
"toxic positivity" trademark that.
He really needs to.
The keeper of jams yup
that... exists
@@aleka.. We know. We're just celebrating critical thought.
ASAP!
This was randomly recommended to me 3 years later 👀
“randomly” hahahah
Same
D’Angelo is always years ahead of controversies 😭
when he said jimin and put up a picture of oily london i died
moonbeam baby literally same oli london makes me want to throw myself into the busy highway
moonbeam baby boi i wHeEzeD
Oily Rat? That price of plastic?
lmaooo when he did that i cackled
i LAUGHED LMAO thankfully he's educated on BTS and didnt just assume oli london was jimin ajhdxkka
I definitely think insecure narcissism is a thing.
It is. It’s referred to as “covert narcissism”
@@ninak2346 it’s literally just narcissism. Insecurity is the BASE of narcissism. Y’all learn one term and use it for everything.
@@kaitlynm9463 no convert narcissism is under the umbrella and there are different kinds under the narcissism umbrella just like for example wavy or coily hair is under the curly hair umbrella.
@CASSIE Lovera yeah, but with covert and fragile narcissism, it is based more on insecurities than say control or a grandiose mentality, which are main characteristics of the other types of narcissism. There's a reason they've broken down different types of narcissists, all still under the umbrella of narcissism.
@CASSIE Lovera I never said the others weren't insecure. Narcissism develops typically from needs not getting met as a child, etc. which of course is obvious insecurities, but the different types each have main qualities vs lesser qualities, you were "correcting" the person for no reason. Yes, it's all still narcissism, but it doesn't take away the fact that people with NPD usually fall into one of the categories based on the characteristics they display. Narcissism is more than just ways to get attention.
I don’t necessarily like her but I hate people who make fun of her weight like it’s not your Business
100% agree, if your only criticism of her is the fact that she’s plus size than THAT’S where you need to be shut down.
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@@someguy4046 thank God someone with a brain here
@@someguy4046 The problem with your philosophy is that we don’t know virtually anything about her. Chances are, you don’t know Lizzo personally, you only know what she chooses to showcase, so comments about her weight or her lifestyle or what she should/shouldn’t be doing are, by nature, uneducated and repulsing.
Gaining weight or weight loss is a very very personal topic, it’s just that the results are obvious visually. Plus, metabolism is important to take into consideration. Two people’s bodies could process food very differently, and if you saw a skinny person with diabetes would you yell at them to do better?? No, you wouldn’t, because the ramifications of their choices aren’t visible to you.
There’s also the argument that “well I just want them to be healthy”. No, you don’t. I know that for an absolute fact, because if you did and if her body shamers did they wouldn’t be calling her a “whale” or “disgusting” or “blob”, etc. Mental health is just as important as physical health, plus as I’ve mentioned before you don’t know her life and you should be focusing on yourself, so while we should all strive to be the healthiest version of ourselves healthy looks different on everyone, we’re all on different journeys (it’s not your business to comment on anyone else’s), and bullying somebody is only going to demotivate them to switch their life choices.
@@someguy4046 I understand that at a certain point, it’s impossible to be healthy at your size, and in no way am I trying to disprove that. While I do firmly believe that “healthy” does not equal this very narrow definition exacerbated by the media, all sizes are not healthy. But, all sizes are beautiful, because a person’s personal journey to better themselves is not anybody’s else’s business. We can support somebody in becoming the healthiest version of themselves- if that means losing weight than so be it- without putting them down or adding to the voices in their head that call them lazy or unworthy.
That being said, I know you aren’t necessarily putting overweight people down. But to your point about how we shouldn’t normalize being overweight in particular with celebrities, I disagree. Say you’re going through a really hard time, and because of this you gain weight. Feeling like the only person going through a weight gain, or especially feeling like the only plus size person/feeling as though people at your weight can’t be successful must be awful to deal with. You don’t see yourself represented in the media, and therefore it could be hard to find motivation. Plus, there’s a difference between body positivity and promoting obesity. Body positivity is the movement saying we all deserve to be happy regardless of our size, we all deserve respect regardless of visible symptoms of a possibly unhealthy lifestyle, and nobody is better than the other just because we were blessed with the resources to remain or become a smaller size.
D'Angelo out here being Nostradamus
Toxic positivity is a big big reason why I can't talk about depression with people.
“Why can’t you just be happy?” Is something I have actually had a family member tell me and god it hurt
@@jetnagle8610 I had someone tell me that my ADHD is actually that I should have gotten beat more as a child. And they knew that I got the shots almost every single day from my parents...
Toxic positivoty is also why 13 year old girls think its okay to prance around in no clothes shaking there ass for tiktok
I'm not even positive and have to think before I say anything because I know from experience you cant just, FeEl
Preach
Lizzo's persona is a stereotypical thick black girl you see in a 2000's movie.
Is there anything wrong with that?
Faith yes. Stereotypes are considered harmful for a reason lmao
The "I'm fat and I don't care, I am boss girl" mentality, but added with sassy black girl culture.
It's not new and it's also a lie. I don't know a single fat person unless wholly deluded who actually feels that way. Not that shaming is remotely okay, it's abuse and it's disgusting and a denial of what makes people fat in the first place, but acting like you are better, more powerful, more in general because of these traits is body shaming others who are not fat, black and sassy. You can accept who you are, with out having pride and inherently discrimination for those who don't share in that pride.
Real confidence is not ignoring criticism, it's listening and evaluating if that criticism has any value that could contribute to you being a better you, but also not letting the flaming hate comments get to you, because you know they genuinely do not matter and contribute nothing to your life. Not saying they don't matter, but knowing they actually don't matter.
I know very few, if any people who have actual confidence. I mostly see fake it till you make it insecurity, and ego masking as confidence.
@@polmak1507 than explain the reason. What is wrong with a confidant fat black girl that inspires people?
I think the problem is when a. It is not authentic and more importantly b. When society stereotypes it and expect every black girl to be like that and doesn't appreciate the depth behind the appearance.
Maybe don't blame Lizo. Blame society.
001yael she isn’t “confident”, she’s loud and obnoxious and screeches a message of excessive narcissism instead of healthy self-assuredness lmao, literally the only reason people worship her is because “oh she’s fat so omg omg omg that means she’s fighting oppression!”. She’s part of the problem of pop culture that brainwashes young people into believing extremely toxic and false messages
he called it
Aged like fine wine😭
notice how he didn't mention lizzo's weight when criticizing all the problematic shit she's done? that's how you realize it's actual criticism and not just "fat woman bad"
@@shonamcandrew1653 how so? I'm a little over halfway through and I haven't noticed any fatphobia
@@shonamcandrew1653 I get that but Lizzo's dress had literal cut-outs for her whole butt cheeks. Cheerleaders are dressed very skimpy, yes, and if one is concerned for the children they should complain about that too, but you can't say that there isn't a difference between skimpy shorts and having buttcheek cutouts in a dress.
@@shonamcandrew1653 I feel like if cheerleaders were dressed in bodycon skirts with cutouts for their bare buttcheeks, people would be complaining just as much. Until then, unfortunately, all of this is speculation.
@@shonamcandrew1653 Bruh fat phobia is a fucking myth. People who are actually discriminated against (the LGBTQ, POC) are getting real sick of people playing the victim card for shit they can fucking change.
Are people sometimes needlessly cruel to the overweight? Yes. And that sucks. But y'all are not a protected class. Being overweight is not the same thing as being a POC, and acting like racism and "fatphobia" are the same is ignorant.
I'm a lesbian who lives in an area where I have to be extremely careful about who I come out to because it's about a 50/50 chance if they'll be accepting or not. There are stores in my area who are outwardly anti-lgbt. Not stores that only donate money to anti-LGBT causes, stores that put signs on the doors saying, "We don't serve queers." Seeing someone complain about something that is 100% in their power to change is disgusting.
@@shonamcandrew1653 Nobody should be obese. Facts are facts. Obesity kills. I can't imagine actively trying to support something that only causes harm.
his name: d'angelo wallace
what i read: dang elowallace
I subscribe 3 hours ago and I thought it's d-angel-owallace
dang, elowallace! you turn on bonus chests when you play minecraft? come on!
Rat LMAO
I did the same 😂😂
I read " dangelo Wallace" but even worse in my head it sounded like " dang oh Wallace"
this aged like fine wine
this aged well
Nf is the goat. 😁
i have to-
their*
x.x
hey there happy?
@@natesoulmate9771 yesh uwu
Ayy Im your 1k like
*their
“We respect women in this house hold.”
We love to see it.
i would like to see it
L Soma ??
Eirin Synnøve it’s a meme lol
Made me cringe
@@lsoma1747 you dont deserve respect you earn it
Bro was ahead of his time.
While Dangelo was right I also find something else quite frightening. How come when the allegations came out peoples attention went straight for Lizzo’s weight but not the victims of the crime? All of this talk about body positivity and shit only for her fans and the media to switch up real quick with fat phobia everywhere. The girls who were victims of Lizzo are literally big/thick women and when they tried to tell there story all y’all can do is focus the aggressors weight. Some of y’all definitely got your priorities mixed up.
This is the same thing when news stories come about a black person committing a crime, and the comments all get severely racist even if the crime victimized another black person, in a way that you never see in equally severe crimes committed by a white person victimizing any race combination.
I think so many more people are bigots than those who self-identify as that, so when they see a person of X group is terrible, they see it as an excuse to stop pretending they didn't automatically judge them on their race/gender/sexuality/weight/height/etc.
It's the idea that to these people, members of a certain minority group or that look a certain way have to earn basic human respect, so if they're not respectable as a _person_ then those superficial or immutable traits are not valid in them. If you're not "one of the good ones" then hate speech is acceptable. It's bigotry masquerading as judging on the content of character.
yeah, so many people's criticisms of lizzo, before or after the stuff about her came out, mostly just boiled down to "she's fat and i don't like it", it's frustrating how people paid less attention to the fact she did bad things and more just used it as an opportunity to mock her appearance and be able to be on the moral high ground for it because "she's a bad person so it's okay" or whatever.
someone on twitter said that she makes music for people who don't know they are the problem in the relationship
This is sooo true though. Well I will change it into “she makes songs for people who can’t take responsibility for their own action and put the blame on others all the time”
Lol
@@melaniechiriacescu7876 fax
Omg yess
😬yikes
"We respect women in this household" we respect that. 🧡🧡🧡
@Shae Grey we respect that you respect that he respects women
Animation guy *women
woman is singular lmao
Wamen
WoAh yoU rEsPect womEn? siMp
aka "i dont want to be demonetized" lol
I remember seeing this video years ago and somewhat agreeing with a lot of the points presented in this video while also not outright hating her or sometimes even defending her from the actual racist or fatphobic people that were genuinely nasty to her. Now that the news and allegations about her broke out I'd say that this video somewhat aged well with the accusations of toxic positivity having a form of truth to them.
This aged like a fine wine, sir. It’s giving 1999 Napa Cabernet 🍷😎
Someone said I was fat shaming her for saying I didn’t really like a song she did-
yep. attack anyone who is black, fat, gay, a women, and people will tell you 'you're only saying cause they are *fill in the blank* '
Zoe Hoffman not to mention the people who claim that stuff are never a part of who their “defending”
@@delilahdumptruck3705 Because some people love to be offended for everybody else.
@@xtonibx5770 YES
Zoe Hoffman i get what u mean but if people keep telling you you’re racist fatphobic or homophobic maybe u need to re-evaluate lol
Everyone is talking about Lizzo, but like...I like your little hat
BEHOLD EVERYONE! A comment of wholesomeness instead of saltiness!
@@faethefairy2274 wholesome 100
@@julisaurusrex0 Yaaassss
Fluffy Panda yEESS THE WHOLE VIBES OF THIS IS SO ✨cozy✨
@@urmom1809 c o z y v i b e s
I feel people are forced to celebrate her. That to me is frightening.
I agree ☝🏽
White woman moment
@@rikafurude9102 normal person moment*
@hey girlies ツ bye cuz if you don’t like her you’re “fatphobic”
lmao I don’t think op is saying “if you don’t say Lizzo is great her stans will literally break into your house and hold you at gunpoint” pretty sure they just mean it’s hard to genuinely criticize her or anything she does, because it’s mistaken for actual hate.
This video aged so well.
No one:
D'angelo's camera: 🟦
D'angelo's camera two seconds later: 🟧
But still aesthetically pleasing 😃
omg I thought it was my phone and kept trying to fix it?¿?¿!?¿¡? but this makes more sense!
Bahaha, I noticed that lol
lol i guess he had a window open and the sun decided to go crazy that day
@@blancacasanovas8776 i am glad ur phone is okay hah my battery is too low
d’angelo: a lizzo stan
auto-generated subtitles: a lizard Stan
bro i’m wheezing HAHAAHAH
🦎 🦎 🦎 🦎 🦎
Lizards really do be dope tho
Jzjajajjajaj
I have news for you. There is a lizard named Stan. A delightful one. An all-knowing one. The most powerful bearded dragon of all. (GoHerping's Stan)
This aged well and now we wait for the algorithms
Well done D'Angelo. This one aged quite well.
A lot of people can’t criticize her without bringing up her appearance or trashing her talent, so I appreciate your honesty a lot
Exactly, even though I don't agree with the hate, I can understand why some people don't like her it's just the body shaming does not help their argument so I wholeheartedly agree with what you said
Insane lover69 I don’t like body shaming at all .but what I see often is if a severely underweight person was as confident as and performed on stage like her the media would be in a uproar. Double standards
yes i agree and i *love your pfp*
Bringing up her appearance to insult her is one thing, but I’d like to bring up the fact that she’s only popular because she’s fat. If she was skinny nobody would even know her name. She’s only famous because other people with weight issues feel like they need representation. And don’t think I’m bashing fat people because I’m also fat and I’m probably gonna die at 25 of heart failure. My personal philosophy about weight is, why would you want to be fat? Like being fat is bad for both your physical and mental health and if somebody is confident about being fat they’re most likely lying and have wicked bad body image issues.
@@edgyperson9589 It's definitely possible to be overweight and confident. They're not mutually exclusive.
Being obnoxious and socially tone deaf is not confidence. It’s being obnoxious.
👀
And socially tone deaf
the double standard of her walking around with her entire ass out at events is mind-boggling to me. i just can’t help but feel like if someone like the Jenners did that, they’d be blown up to the highest degree
Xavier periodtttttt
ill be ur 1000th like
This aged very well.
this aged incredibly well. called it.
Why is his voice so calming.
Idk but he needs to do ASMR 💀
@@AlatOnDemand YES!!
@@AlatOnDemand yes
@@AlatOnDemand no
true
Are we gonna just sit here and act like he hasn’t changed his profile picture for this channel like 5 times in the past two days?
Sometimes you gotta try some things out before you find the aesthetic
yesterday i opened his comment on the previous video and the picture changed lmao
"Anything can cha-
I was watching the video and it changed
I mean that's a mood
you should apply as a screenwriter for the simpsons the way you predict shit damnnnn
Just like many others, I'm coming back to this after hearing about all the new controversies. King knew something was up before we did 😭
I like Lizzo, but like, I totally agree with the pedestal thing. Everyone should be allowed to be criticized.
*cough* Shane Dawson
@@visualsno Jeffree star? 👀
Spooky Yuna yeah. Idk why humanity is coming to this?? Where criticism is "bullying" ._. I don't get it! Now positivity is a toxic thing!
"allowed to be criticized" people dog tf out of this girl all the time
@@jaleelshivers226 exactly
“ I don’t want someone to preach to me a message that they haven’t learned for themselves.” chef’s kiss
PERIODT
holy shit, this is so golden. Someone put this on shirts, Imma buy em, seriously lol
At first glance that statement is easy to agree with but when you realize people are human, flawed, and never perfect then this statement makes no sense. Therapists constantly preach messages of self love, growth and health all the while many of them are in therapy themselves to make it happen in their own lives. That doesn't mean they shouldn't be helping others if they aren't perfect with it yet. Great video though! I'd love to have a conversation with you about the mind and human behavior. Keep it up!
@@roxie10xoxo I think it's ok to not be perfect but if you hate yourself it would be irresponsible to tell other to love themselves but I think if your somewhere in the middle of the spectrum I think it is ok to teach others something as you learn it yourself
I'm literally writing that in my notes its do good 👏
tell me why this was the first thing I thought of when I heard of the recent allegations against her
This video aged like a high interest savings account.
Dangelo: “who would have the confidence to twerk in a cut-away dress”
ad: “Hi im joe biden”
(uhmm subscribe 🥺👉🏽👈🏽)
Idk if that would be better or worse than Lizzo doing it
OMG
LMAO
I GOT THAT SAME ADD 😭
@@daisymartinez4359 im literally british and that advert wont leave me alone
You can't dislike lizzo without being accused of fat shaming. It's annoying, I just dont like her.
Why not?
It's so annoying! I told my friend I didnt like her and he said it was because I'm fat phobic and I hate fat people and I'm body shaming and allllll sorts of other accusations. 🙄
literally! shes a woman in her 30s who acts like that one annoying chick from every high school. whats to like?
This generation is too sensitive. She's fat and it can be unhealthy, maybe she should lose weight and take care of herself more when it comes to consumption. Is that fat shaming? No. It's being genuine enough to look out for someone else's health instead of being quiet about it because you are afraid they will take it the wrong way but hey, the truth does hurt
Dude, go on one of her pics on insta, read the comments, and just look at the shit people put. Most of them aren’t giving valid criticism, they just go and be like “damn, fatass bitch”
I guess the fake, forced positivity mask has completely fallen off.
Some people are still more upset and jumping to say she’s now going to be fat shamed and leading with that versus calling out what she’s being accused of. It’s bad when some folks are jumping to do that versus focus on the worst of the allegations which are her harassing her employees. It’s sad but not surprising when people develop these unhealthy parasocial relationships with celebrities.
(sorts comments by new) lol Guess i was not the only one who ran back to this Video 🤣🤣🤣🤣.
Literally the first thing I thought of! 😂 everyone on twitter saying they couldn't ever expect this but I've been indifferent towards her as a celebrity ever since I saw this video 2 years ago!!
That’s exactly what I just did lmaoo
I’m fat. I don’t like her. Being fat should not be an excuse for actions. Being fat does not hold you above criticism
Thank👏you👏
Yep, like being gay... (I'm gay)
THE BEGINNING IM SORRY IM CRYIGN “I’m fat.” LMAOAOA
Abel Castillo hahah why is your hair cheese your hair is not supposed to be cheese
Why you gotta be mean to yourself ❤
Why does D'Angelo look like Sid the science kid
Omg he does
D'Angelo does kind of look like him
ommggggg
Why tf are you right?!
yo that is *crazy*
they are like brothers from another mother
He tried to warn us.
This aged like fine wine
Dangelo: but in conclusion-
Diaper ad: BOOOOOORN TO BE WIIIIIIIIIIIIILD
LAMSOOS
Do you realise the ads are personalised
@@finndonald8322 Makes sense I keep getting ads about "how to start an online shop" when I'm still in middle school
I got one about a car- *I'm in middle school 👁👄👁*
@@finndonald8322 I literally hate babies and i’m 16-
D'Angelo: Lizzo is annoying
Lizzo fans: *Woah there buckaroo, i think you've just commited a crime*
Eccentric Pigeon lmfao
Eccentric Pigeon ahaha your comment is so funny and original
Henry Sho guys we found one of them
@@henrysho2766 HA GOT YA ! You think responding to every fucking comment is gonna prove your point ??? Let people have opinions dude
throwaway account Then let Henry have an opinion!
this aged well 💀
This aged perfectly
"hi welcome to me talking about whatever I want"
*subscribed*
I had the same reaction
I did the same thing😂
Same
Right? This is exactly what I wanted to do but thought I needed a niche. Now I might start one. #inspired
I subscribed like the first 5 seconds lmao
"I'm not gonna say the word, because, you know.. We -want to be monetised- respect women in this house"
loool
@@fiiiii653 its a type of font
Salvator Nkurunziza You put this line -
Before and after whatever you write. Example (-)I love me(-) then you'll get -I love me.-
-oh-
-and that's when the man himself, jesus christ shoved a spoon up his ass.-
POV: you watched this a few years ago and figured out why you didn’t vibe with Lizzo and now you rewatch again for the recent comments
Its funny bcs i feel the same. The same sht i felt with Opra. They're fcking weird and wannabe good people
I'm late, but after hearing the Lizzo news this immediately popped into my head.
D’angelo: But, ultimately, in conclusion-
Ad: Having dry skin is a struggle
Ye tru
As someone with pretty dry skin, *t r u*
I mean he's not wrong
I got that ad too😂
I got, “Writing’s not that easy.”
This video aged like fine wine
Anybody: * says something about lizzo that has nothing to do with her weight*
people on twitter: *OmG wHy ArE u BeInG FaTpHoBiC*
I honestly haven't seen anyone criticize her for anything besides her weight before this video but maybe I just live under a rock lol
I giggled at “fatphobic”
Ever comment I see is about her weight so this comment is inaccurate
Chianti Hanna snowflakes lmao
@@saleem9634 *Every
I lost a ton of respect for Lizzo when she put a Postmate on blast because she thought they stole her order. Surprise, they didn't. But that didn't stop people from sending the courier death threats and forcing her to quit her job because she was being stalked.
I'm hoping lizzo doesnt come back after this quarantine.
@@sup_monica3597 PLEASSSEEEE
But she apologized though?
@@kerrixoxo461 You act like saying sorry makes the death threats disappear.
@@itzystreamingplaylistsonch5471 and what else should she do?
This ended up in my recommended LMAOOOO
Same here
"Who else would have the confidence to twerk in a cutaway dress."
"PAMPERS"
Thanks, advertisement
IDC if someone is skinny or fat...Male or female..I don't want to see anyone naked in public- or twerking- Ew. Keep it in your own home.
Facts thx u!
Or even if they do to not do it in front of kids.
@Strawberry Cheesecake Lover thank you! i'm not comfortable seeing that as well as many, many others but i can't complain because it's MY fault for being uncomfortable about it. i don't care who you are or how much power you have, respect other people's morals.
Right, I dont care what gender or body type you are, *I MYSELF* do not wanna see someone's bare ass on a big screen while I'm watching a basketball game. 😂
ehhh ease up let people live. This is like idc if your gay but don't push your gay agenda down my throat. who gives af?? if they're gay it really doesn't affect you either way
"let's be honest nobody cares about artist credits, except artists"
As an artist I am hurt, and also in agreement :(
It's sad that it's not a given
yes as an artist I agree as well...:(
IKR:((
Very true.
Art theft:
Artists: *shaking and crying*
I’m an artist dw
Videos that aged well
News flash: Plus size celebs can also be criticized for bad stuff they do and being plus sized doesn't automatically make you a queen
Facts !
Right
Too bad she cant stick with her talents and not the other stuff. I don’t know where she got the confidence but good for her If it is real
She also gets rude with random women during interviews. I’ve dealt with women like that and they just think confidence equates to acting like a mean girl. Her voice is beautiful but her attitude is trash.
Is it women or just men too? It took me awhile to realize how my insecurities about myself caused me to act mean and catty around women because I thought they were better than me. I wonder if she gets jealous of the women?
Being insecure doesn’t give anyone a free pass to being a bitch
@@alexisd6106 men too, the mean girl in the comment is just to compare what she thinks confidence means.
@@alexisd6106 It's sad that some women need to act like that and treat other women like that because they feel like they have to, it shows how brainwashed and misogynist society is.
Exactly!!! For someone who's all about empowerment, she sure doesn't seem that uplifting irl. And confidence is quiet. Always.
i'm usually for women being able to wear whatever they want and that they shouldn't be sexualized, but what lizzo did at the basketball game was uncalled for. there's a time and place for everything...
Girl getting arrested for wearing a “thong-like” bikini at the beach ... 🤦🏼♀️ girl wearing a thong at a basketball game???
What did she do? ALSO YES ABOLISH ICE AND SPEAK ABOUT THE HUNDREDS OF “missing” CHILDREN
Avacados & Pirates YES and she danced and showed her butt. I honestly think it’s hypocritical how cheerleaders are allowed to show their body off but all hell breaks loose when she did it idkidk
Lost well usually what cheerleaders do isn't twerking with their whole butts out. but i can see where you're coming from
I think the difference is that cheerleaders are getting paid to be there- they are part of the whole thing- lizzo was in the audience... people didn't go there to see her make this whole thing about her... i love lizzo but she really didn't had to do that
This video aged like fine wine allegedly
I forgot about this video 😭 D’Angelo predicted the future yet again
At first I thought this was going to be you claiming she was unhealthy and promoting unhealthiness to her fans, but I 100% agree with this yeah. Great video
Yeah I feel like his criticisms were fair too.
I’m not really a fan of that critique, so I’m really glad he took a different angle in this!
It would've been 100% true if he took that route though. I kinda wish he did but oh well.🤷🏽♂️
@@youwillstarvexx1548 I mean at all her concerts she is dancing non-stop for 1.5-2 hours all the while singing while trying to not sound out of breath, then she pauses to play the flute-possibly while still dancing- then she goes back to dancing while singing, and afterwards she can't let herself look too out of breath. If I did that I think I'd die and I'm a twig
Faye Dawn Just because your lung capacity is phenomenal doesn’t mean being obese is healthy. Also, would she be as good of a runner just because she can pull off those stunts in a concert? Even elite athletes would get out of breath when walking in a long stairway. Doing what she does on stage itself is incredibly impressive but that doesn’t exclude the fact that she may be unhealthy in other areas. Also, elite athletes needs to eat double calories or they would be starving. They burn so much calories, and require a massive amount of carbs so it doesn’t burn off their muscle mass. It’s not comparable to Lizzo at all.
"I'm not going to say that word because we respect women in this house hold" I can't believe I was so shocked by a man saying that, it is basic human decency, I love you D'angelo
I believe demonetization might also be a factor
@@seagreenmoon13 still, D'Angelo seems like a genuinely good person
Isabel right?? we should have more men like him 🥺🥺
Not gonna lie, I had the same reaction lol like wow it’s small but it felt good to hear lol
I can tell that you had a bad past with men/boys. Believe me, D'Angelo is not the only genuinely kind man in this world. It is crass to use the b-term/c-term to offend a woman. Trust me, there are many genuine and kind men out there, you just have to seek them out.
Aged like fine wine
this aged like wine
I’m black. I’m a women. I haven’t got the perfect body either. I don’t like Lizzo. She’s annoying. Hating her isn’t _______phobic
Yes
Go off.
I love your pfp!
Someone literally had an argument with me because I proved them wrong.
The only argument they had against me was calling me "fatphobic" and making up false claims
Mhm
D’Angelo’s camera: what colored tint do you want your video to have?
D’Angelo: yes.
And yellow orange
I thought I was tripping
d'angelo's foreshadowing 100
This aged amazingly well, chef's kiss 😗👌🏽
Damn, People are writing books in this comment section
Ikr! :D
Lmao
Right,right that's what I'm saying!
This guy tried to warn us....
she also said she loves chris brown 😭😭😭
omg the monotoneness is slightly less monotone
Monotony is the word you're looking for
I read that as...motomotoness
Bee Thoticus moto moto so nice you gotta say it twice
people who think critizing lizzo for anything is fatphobic
are actually the ones being "fatphobic" because that's all they see her as. When someone mentions her name they just hear fatphobia without seeing the issue so I mean.
Take that as you will *II*
*3*
Exactly
THIS IS THE FACT
i can def see this
Benis Man this
So true!!
This video aged quite well
Bro was on the right side of history
I think lizzo has forgotten humility, and that’s its ok to feel negative emotions.
I know. I first heard her one of her songs in a vintage shop in Amsterdam and looked her up immediately. I was a bit annoyed that she wasn't renowned then. She blew up like 3 months after that and now look at what the fame did to her 🤦♀️
She doesn't have to sing or talk about it though. There is so much celebrities don't share with us, it's okay to keep negative emotions in your close circles
Leonor Oliveira True, but she still grew a really big head due to fame. What she did to that door dash person proves it.
Oh I think the humility thing is because she is portraying the message that women have been imposed to be humble and we need to stop it. She is opposing by showing a more confident and a self assured version of femininity
Edit: I think it may not be ok to judge a message or ideal based on a person. I mean we are diverse and our understanding of abstract concepts may vary from one person to other, so we can't judge the message based on the way someone is expressing it
dani frau isn’t it a more positive message to be humble anyways? i understand the confidence message because women are basically trained in our society to think of themselves as less which freaking sucks, but everybody should be humble because no matter how much you have, your shit still stinks just like mine and everyone elses
I want her to know that being confident isn't sexualizing herself
That's only true if someone is sexualizing themselves even though they don't WANT to (but do so to appear confident). There are plenty of actual confident people that feel comfortable expressing themselves in a sexualized manner, and THAT is fine, too.
We need to snuff out this idea that sexualizing = bad, in ALL contexts and situations, because that's some straight up 1950s level of controlling misogynist bullshit. Context and intent are EXTREMELY important. You can't make wide sweeping generalizations about something like this.
Being confident is being able to sexualize yourself if you, yourself want to though. 🤷♀️
Narrow-minded
i get it, but idk to be fair it's probably meant to be a statement, like "hey you can have a body like mine and still have sex appeal!" a lot of her songs are about body positivity and feeling confident in your own skin even when you're not conventionally attractive.
that being said, i AM kinda getting tired of the fetishization and toxic positivity surrounding heavy women. that's kinda what you get when you market it as sex appeal first and more importantly than anything else.
Exactly, confidence and self-love is not about taking your clothes off CONSTANTLY. walking around naked. Its about respecting yourself. Sure, sexualize yourself but not everyone and their mother too has to be the witness to it. Even if you are a celebrity. Because sooner rwther than later people are gonna forget about your art, your work and they will remember you solely for your "unpopular" deeds such as walking around naked and flashing all the time.