@@Truthteller1s I totally agree! I was left homeless because of friends and family. I was crying and depressed , but now years later all of those people are going down the wrong path! I’m not saying that I am better than them, but they are drinking , doing drugs, and all the wrong things and I’m not heading toward that path. I wanted unconditional love & support and not any earthly person can live up to that. I’m not expecting perfection, but they have been cruel, absolutely abusive. And I could see it since I was a toddler. And now I understand. My family was like this and Narcassistically abused me for kicks, and to make me more like them. Never! I understand it now. I never understood and have been depressed 😔, and even angry about it. But now I see , God seperated me from them for a reason. Now I am sadden for them and feel sorry for them . I was crying because they were hurting me, now I know, they were hurting themselves and God.
My last ditched effort should have been the first. She had an actual look of disappointment when I told her Christ, being the center of our marriage, was the only way it could work. She wanted no part of that. I did. Actually, I prayed that if things needed to get worse to bring closer to God, so be it. It was already worse.
That’s a true thing I’m emotional about what you said I don’t want to lose my marriage but it feels like the common denominator has to be faith and without it in the relationship I am just battling self instead of having the spirit .
Unfortunately, that's the way it's looking for me right now. He turns everything on me when I find out he's lying. He makes me look like the the one at fault. God please help me.@richardbensinger6922
My parents over the years keep complaining about each other to my siblings and I. I recommended counseling and they both refused. I will not listen to them complain anymore when they don’t do anything themselves to fix their own issues. Children cannot fix your marital problems
I have trouble with this. I think I see what my Narc could be. I see their potential. There are glimmers of a funny, cheerful, caring person. But, everything else about their behavior is abhorrent.
2:18 Increased awareness of behaviors 6:30 Be careful and prayerful 7:10 Feelings are indicators not drivers 7:45 don't stay in covenants that are abusive and damaging 10:11 Hardest part is God's work in us and taking responsibility for our actions 11:45 responsibility to someone not a responsibility for someone 16:20 closed doors are an answer to prayers. Devastation can be not missing the person but missing what we hoped they would be. 20:30 Rest in God and not do the toxic tango
Repeatted patterns has shown me that some ppl are aware of their deliberate toxicity and dont care and there are others who are completely unaware but can and do care.
I lost so many friends and family over the years due to me getting closer to God. Heavenly Father please continue to protect me and my sons. As a single mother God has carried me. Both of my sons are special needs. I’m overwhelmed because I’m struggling to provide the necessities for my sons like food and clothing and I struggle to pay rent each and every single month yet my struggles have brought me closer to Jesus. I know he will get me through this hard time in Jesus name.❤️💕
You are so brave and I pray God continues to carry you and provide in ways you could never imagine and move mountains on your behalf. Blessings to you ❤
Look into programs that help people who have children with special needs. There are programs that can pay your rent, other utilities, churches assist with food and clothing. Or find resources in the church of your community. Praying you find all the assistance that meets your needs. Blessings 💕
God will not let me leave. He wants ME to change so sitting here and trusting God to heal and help me is showing me a lot about myself and definitely showing me more about God. We don’t fight at all since I shut up. However , we don’t talk either. He refuses to talk at all about our relationship. So I’m concentrating on learning and changing my life under God’s direction and care and waiting for God’s next step for me.
Amen God removed my ex after 22 years of marriage- dishonesty, marital abuse and affairs… I would have continued to try to work things out with my ex. I was enabling his behavior by turning the other cheek, ignoring the red flags… God brought me to my knees do he could build me up in my faith, his love, grace and mercy. I’m grateful and humbled for this lesson and blessing. 🙏
After two plus years of "marriage" punctuated with countless infidelities, I cried out to God asking Him what I had failed to do and what I should do to make it work. His inner response was totally unexpected: "You have never been married in My sight." I filed for divorce the following Monday and it was the wisest decision I've ever made.😊
I think to hear God you need to be alone or have quite time,s to hear him...God has removed two toxic people from my life in the last two months n my life is getting better.the abuse n hard time,s are over for me..I'm happy..thanks to our heavenly father 🙏💯❤️
I have a very toxic daughter in law. She has been a nightmare ever since meeting my son. She is a very disrespectful person, always thinking she is right. She tried to injure me in my sons car and I ended up with a broken foot from bracing myself. She controls everything in my sons life including my sons relationship.with his parents. I had to completely cut contact with both of them because the state of the relationship was making me ill. It's not always the toxic moms it is very often the felt serving destructive daughter in laws.
I have a narcissist mother in law. I glad I cut contact with her 😌 She didn't like me because I didn't let her control things in our marriage. Best decision I have ever made ❤
she sounds just like my MIL. No broken foot, but broken marriage for sure. Mothers: do not tell your children they're perfect - no one is perfect! When they think they're perfect, they're impoosible to live with... & when you die, they end up all alone. (of course, it isn't their fault... cuz' they still think they're perfect!)
I am so sorry :-( My mom has dealt with this with my brother's wife. She has been so hurt by how my brother has treated her and we know it comes from his wife's influence. I have a great relationship with my mom-in-law. I'm grateful.
My mother in law was a total narcissist. From the get-go she didn't like me yet wouldn't get to know me. Of course, I recognize the abnormal emeshment between the two of them. They use the guise of Christianity to elevate themselves. However, their actions are not consistent with a decent human being. I was told his mother was a prayer warrior. Funny, she forgot to pray for us and she ended up getting her way!
I was in a Narc relationship with my son's father for awhile. In the beginning he was nice, the fake phase. When we moved into a house together after 3 years, I found out he was woman beater, he bleached my clothes, he hid my phone, and he was cheating one. After 8 years we went our separate ways. Thank God. I felt so much better when I got away from him. He had a new supply the whole time. When he got with her, she did to him what he had done to me. Long story short, people don't change and what goes around comes around.
@KrisReece 😢😢I been listening to you for the past few weeks and today, this morning, Wednesday , June 26, 2024 it hit me like a ton of bricks. All of the people who hurt me, when I have done nothing to them, have actually been removed and hurt me and are all on the wrong path. 😢Now that I see it that way, they are not on the path toward God or heaven. That they have to change to make it to the kingdom of heaven someday and now that I see it that way, I am crying. My entire life I been bullied, and it’s been cruel. I now realize what is going on , after 50 years of my life of confusion. I started my Christian business this year, and I making something beautiful. I am not trying to be the victim, but I know to stay away. It’s scares me now to be around them. I have stayed away. 😢 But it it brings me great comfort that myself and a few people on earth are chosen to go on the right path. It’s not easy. I feel so different sometimes, but I have to keep going.
It's very difficult to balance the desire to not be selfish and the need to focus on the self (in a Biblical way). The years of hearing ANY thoughts about myself are selfish, left lasting habits, and pain.
I’m struggling with the VERY same things. 😢😊 Praying that our Heavenly Father will give us His, strength, Courage and Faith to fight and have victory over these lies! ❤❤❤
I gave my 68 yr old boyfriend several chances, he promised change, it didn't happen. The lord gave me several exits, I finally took one! Praise our heavenly father!
Make a change that a narcissist doesn't like and sit back. You will find out who your friends really are through the bridge burning mission that narc will go on.
I find ppl who pray all day long and don't do the work, still stay in scarcity, drama and abuse. I always encourage ppl to say, "God help me, show me" and tgat way the are required to engage, pay attention. LOVE all your work Kris!!!
I have a long history of asking God to do the revenge work and he has never failed. I ask him to show up and show out in a way I know it was him. It’s amazing.
When you realize your needs are worthy, no longer attractive are those who cannot fulfill them. It took awhile for God to show me my needs are worthy. Thank you, Lord.
I can confirm, was in a 27year old marriage and after praying for years getting nowhere, when I started asking God to remove me from this within 1 week I got new accommodation, house was sold and I had courage to walk out, now divorced 5 years and we are better friends than husband and wife
I am trying so hard to change my family dynamics and generational destiny towards God and away from toxic , boundaryless behaviors. I can't control others and what they do. I can only control myself and how I perceive and respond to it.
I'm so glad I found your channel...I've binged it today, because I was SO in need of your guidance. I attribute your channel popping up to my prayers of seeking God's help for the strength to get through the heartache of my toxic dangerous adult son & my decision to distance myself from him.😢
Oh my goodness! Yes!!! I used to pray for the toxic people to change or for God to remove them from my life. Even though it was hard letting people go that i loved, my life is so much more peaceful now that He moved me out of those situations.❤
This is confirmation to grieve the “what if” the “could have been” amazing. Your not responsible for their actions but you are responsible for your reaction. An ultimate acceptance. This reminds me of the serenity prayer.
I'm 22 and I've finally come to my senses and realized I'm living in an abusive, evil family mainly the wife of my father (I won't even call her my mother bcuz it feels evil and foreign to my soul) My parents are TOXIC, EVIL AND FAR FROM GOD! THEY HATE EACH OTHER! I grew up suicidal, been dealing with many demons and negativity ever since I was a child damn I don't remember being a child in the first place but anyways I've been dying to be Godly and Holy since the age of 10 or 13 but they always bring the worst out of me. I ask Jesus for His wisdom. I'm choosing Him and with Him, I'll find and create my own beautiful garden of life and will have the happy, joyful, successful, and Godly family I've always wanted. Amen. Thank you for your content Kris God bless you!
Just Prayed❤ John 3:16 KJV Proverbs 3:5-6 KJV 🙌❤️✝️ Start Praying now for, Our Heavenly Father to bring “A Man Of GOD” in your Life… not a Godly man- anyone could just be godly. And when you start making your Family read The Bible/Childrens Bible to them. Hugging you tightly, right now!! ❤️🤗❤️❤️❤️❤️
A huge hug to you! I'm 38 and was raised with Christian parents. It was much easier for me. Your zeal is inspiring! Remember...in Him you will find all that you need. 🧡
So true. I heard a preacher say: "Another person's happiness is not my responsibility". This phrase stuck with me because I was raised in a family, believing I had to be a victim to many of my family members' harsh narcissism and verbal abuse. But thanks to God, I have learned to not let people blame me for their own self-hatred, unhappiness, and unresolved issues; and to stop letting them use me as their scapegoat. -Each person needs to deal with their own issues, and should take the issues, hurts, and inner-pain to God for true healing and satisfaction in life.
The timing of this is perfect. I am grieving and grateful that even though I went through 43 years with my relationship. My prayers have always been for Roman's 8:28-29 to become reality. I am going through. The doors have been opened and And I want to know who I am fully in Christ.
I'm pretty sure God was snoozing a little with toxic people in my life! Now I'll be expending enormous energy trying to heal and recover rather then progress in other aspects of life
God gave me signs I began calling her out. Then…three days before it all started crumbling, I prayed at mom’s final resting place and asked him to show me. I couldn’t ignore what he showed me. Pretty much threw it in my face.
It's hard when you desire the truth so badly, and then you see it all. God won't leave you in this time of realization. I'm so thankful this all finally broke me. His ways are not our ways.
I had a dream, where I was tormented by entities, millions or thousands and I was hopeless, anxiously tortured and depressed, I thought I’d die. The anxiety was thru the roof. I had to call on Jesus name in my dream (and I never do that!!) that’s the only way these things would ease their grip on me and disappear. It was so powerful. This was just a few days after I saw a narc again after 4 years…
Thankfully as I get away from my narcissist x wife my fair is getting stronger again after serious anxiety depression -C ptsd 👨🏻🚒 & abuse. My female friends are supportive .. 1 who came back into my life with a strong ❤ in seeing I’m ok ! 🙏🏼
Tried Christian counseling I did my own ptsd &mental health w good out come ! She did not. No counselor was able to change it and she isn’t changing. 🛎️🤷🏻 I’m done & God showed me to leave !
Discovering that I grew up with a narcissist for a father and then married one, the last thing I focus on is them. I love that I now can understand what is happening, but I am NOT the Holy Spirit. It's up to God to deal with them. I can only be responsible for my actions, my thought life, and how I approach things. I don't plan to divorce, because I believe that God can change anyone. However, I also don't have to be caught up in the toxicity. I love that you and others like Dr. Ramani have given me the tools I need to realize what is happening so that I can respond in a godly manner and not get caught up in all the craziness.
I was married to a narcissist for over 20 years and the abuse would escalate after any counseling. He would lie to the counselors and say what he thought they wanted to hear. When we would drive away he would say that there was no way in hell he was going to do the things that they wanted us to do. He would get worse. It finally got to the point he was hurting our children as well as me. God told me to step aside. I did and it took time to adjust, but its been so much better! My kids are now grown and doing well. I recently went to stay with my parents who are in their 80's to help them with everything. I realized after moving there that my dad is a narcissist! Now i know why i married one! It was my norm. I finally found my worth in Christ. I don't think I can stay here long as it is too difficult on me physically and emotionally. I am finding the strength to move on and am looking forward to it. I pray my folks will be ok and get the help they need.
The carrot 🥕 taste good! But then chewing I noticed a string attached to it with a stick 🤔. Then it moved... and I had to move with it to eat! Then suddenly I was picked up moved! Given a carrot 🥕 I could hold myself! 😊
Hebrews 4 13And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account. James 1 5If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.
Isaiah 45 4For Jacob My servant’s sake, And Israel My elect, I have even called you by your name; I have named you, though you have not known Me. 5I am the Lord, and there is no other; There is no God besides Me. I will gird you, though you have not known Me, 6That they may know from the rising of the sun to its setting That there is none besides Me. I am the Lord, and there is no other; 7I form the light and create darkness, I make peace and create calamity; I, the Lord, do all these things.’ 8“Rain down, you heavens, from above, And let the skies pour down righteousness; Let the earth open, let them bring forth salvation, And let righteousness spring up together. I, the Lord, have created it.
Oh my goodness!! You hit the nail on the head in so many ways for me! ❤ I've been grieving the loss of my alcoholic husband for the last three years of my sobriety. And my codependent nature keeps getting in the way. 😢😢😢🙏🙏🙏❤️
I had so many godly people in my life who loved me deeply. As I have aged people I cared about either moved or died. Removing toxic people has been a blessing but when it’s your children it hurts. They choose to live their life without God & now are reaping the consequences. They changed from sweet kind caring & loving to cruel hurtful mocking without any love, abusive & see nothing wrong with their behavior. They live a life of sin & blame me. They don’t want advise nor correction. Their abusive alcoholic dad passed last year & I hoped with him being gone things would change. It did change but for the worse. My close friends live in other states. Trying to find healthy people who live close to me is difficult. I spend more time with God than ever & my time with Him is cherished.
I need desperately for God to heal my wounds of Co-Dependency. My 25 yr. Marriage of the most wonderful times and worst of times is in the last final documents of the divorce. Can you believe I stilllllll love him and praying him home. The Last days are upon us and I need him. Still praying in the last 3 months before the divorce is final he will have a change of heart. He is a Christian, he does go to church , living with mother for the last year
Learned awareness does by no stretch of the imagination means God has revealed EVERYTHING to you. Theres probably more that if you had known would make a different decision. Very sound advice to pray and talk with God about what next steps should be. I feel foolish for all the times something was revealed to me and I thought I knew everything. 🙄 but God has been so patient and loving with me. Awesome video❤
Why would u put up with someone lying to u for 22 yrs. Do u not have self love or respect for yourself? God is not going to do it all for you. If you aren't helping the situation and just waiting on God you will be waiting he doesn't even work that way. It takes 2 in any relationship even with God. It's God n you. Isn't that 2? Prayers for u to have the strength u need to change what needs changed in your life.
I never should have got with my ex-wife! She was definitely NOT the person for me! She had " RED FLAGS " , she presented herself as a " Harlot / Immoral " woman. Turns out, she abandoned her son twice, and was involved in a triangle affair with her two former husband's and she is a Covert Narcissist! God please forgive me 🙏
I am separated from my husband due to his infidelity. We do have other issues but that was the drop the cup needed. I feel confused about doing the right thing. I love my husband but part of me felt I needed to take a break. I pray God for wisdom and discernment. I wonder at times, if it is God putting this need to get away in my heart.
I tried very hard in my marriage to work things out. I did counseling everything I could do. She found that her dad would cover her bills because he just prayed her stepmom into dying and fed her alcohol as often as he could she know how to place to go and she threw me out, all my Christian friends began to tell me things that they were saying and that they believe that God did separated us because I couldn’t believe that he would ask me to leave that situation so I believe that you’re right God will separate the goats from the sheep
I get all of this about adults and relationships, but I experienced an adult narcissist daughter. Where does the parental responsibility end? In my opinion, many parents have their lives ruined by narcissistic kids.
Ambiguous greif is hard. I went and am still going thru this re: and ex of many yrs who who was an addict- drugs. Very very very hard. It left me feeling like a fool and full of rage
OMG are you kidding. Absolutely God can take you out of a marriage He doesnt want you in. This is a great Episode. 6 years of not listening to red flags has ended me in trouble that is now finishing and going into recovery. Please, please please do not disobey God is for your own good and protection.
"Hearing the Still Small Voice" and reading the Word are synonymous (cf Romans 10:17) ... "The Voice of the Shepherd" (cf John 10:4) will never tell you to contradict a principle inside the Word.
I will be keeping you in prayer. The Lord will provide for you, the righteous one. When we seek the kingdom above all else, all things will be added. What a hard situation. I pray the Lord gives you the strength to trust him in this situation ❤❤❤ Rooting for you ❤
In my life, I believe the church kept me in an abusive relationship because they never addressed abuse at all. As abuse did not happen in christian homes. What I heard was. Marriage is a commitment for better or for worse. As martiage vow includes " For better or for worse, till death do us part. When my husband literally promised to make life hell for me ( As if it weren't bad enough) I left. In spite of what I thought the church taught at the time.
Wow, this is a real deal having a partner then , it is so hurtful that the person gone or there is a close door for this person in our lives without expecting God will take it away ...so the acceptance takes long really...
This topic is interesting I was in a toxic relationship for six years God removed me from that relationship I'm free hallijjuah thank you God and is son jesus 😂 God is real let him work he can do it we have to move aside and stop trying to do it are self.
@@debrakarr996 Not every single time, but it is when it merits. Paul told the Corinthian church to disassociate themselves from the guy who was sleeping with his father's wife. Don't throw pearls before swine? You are wrong.
@@SuperDrJeckyl so I'm wrong that I'm not going to stay in a toxic relationship that can kill everything about a person. Wow I'm confused. Christian or not no one deserves to be treated badly just cause.
@@debrakarr996 I think you are confused. I said in my original post that it's the right thing to do to not put up with "toxic jerks." YOU...said, "No it's not the Christian thing to do." which sounds like you were disagreeing with me. NOW, you sound like you agree with me. Maybe you worded it wrong, but you sound very confusing to me.
@@SuperDrJeckyl u r the one confused not me. U never said it was the right thing to do. Show me where u even said the word right. Sorry I read what I see not trying to figure the hidden meaning of the words u choose to use. Better quit lying to. U just tried to make me look confused u r the confused one trying to convince me what u said in a hidden message I guess. I do understand certain words have many meanings depending on how it is used. Right is right no matter what unless u r telling someone to turn right or a right hand it's direct. Just like wrong is wrong. Lol prayers to us all to not find another person that is wrong for us.
Was devalued, humiliated, abused verbally, emotionally and financially by a man-child for most of the years. Escalated when I had my first child - I struggled with what to do for the last 3+ years. Tried marriage counseling with 3 different people and separate counseling... All of which ended up coming to "you need to let her go if you hate her this much" .. it took me a long time to accept that my marriage was over before it ever came to him filing for divorce on a huge LIE, that was really disproven. Just more proof that his vitriol and nasty vengeful behavior was never going to change. Now he tries to take it out on our kid, whenever our kid has a difference of opinion to my ex. It's truly sad. But I believe God has truly set me and my child free!!🎉 🙏🙌 If only there were less post separation abuse 🤐
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@@Kris_Reece you have nice explanation of stuff I went through with certain people! Thank you very much God bless.
"You don't miss the person, you miss the person you hoped they be for you." Yes! Spot on ❤
Excellent summary
Yes! This struck me,too!
Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers (like the country
song) lyrics.
Well said
@@katelyn442 wow that one line got me to. Now I wonder after 23 years was that person I hoped she would go back to being never really there at all?
God is separating His SHEEP from those abusive GOATS
I totally agree with you. I believe he is doing this because we are nearing the end.
@@Truthteller1s I totally agree! I was left homeless because of friends and family. I was crying and depressed , but now years later all of those people are going down the wrong path! I’m not saying that I am better than them, but they are drinking , doing drugs, and all the wrong things and I’m not heading toward that path. I wanted unconditional love & support and not any earthly person can live up to that. I’m not expecting perfection, but they have been cruel, absolutely abusive. And I could see it since I was a toddler. And now I understand. My family was like this and Narcassistically abused me for kicks, and to make me more like them. Never! I understand it now. I never understood and have been depressed 😔, and even angry about it. But now I see , God seperated me from them for a reason. Now I am sadden for them and feel sorry for them . I was crying because they were hurting me, now I know, they were hurting themselves and God.
Hits hard. Divorcing covert Christian narcissist wife right now ..@@Truthteller1s
“You don’t miss the person - you just miss what you hoped they’d be for you. “
Truth❤
I lost my marriage, the closer I got to GOD. I choose GOD!
My last ditched effort should have been the first. She had an actual look of disappointment when I told her Christ, being the center of our marriage, was the only way it could work. She wanted no part of that. I did. Actually, I prayed that if things needed to get worse to bring closer to God, so be it. It was already worse.
That’s a true thing I’m emotional about what you said I don’t want to lose my marriage but it feels like the common denominator has to be faith and without it in the relationship I am just battling self instead of having the spirit .
I TOLD MY HUSBAND CHRIST HAS TO BE FIRST IN OUR MARRIAGE, HE DIDNT WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH THAT !!!
Change the word god to myself, you cannot not be God. ❤
Unfortunately, that's the way it's looking for me right now. He turns everything on me when I find out he's lying. He makes me look like the the one at fault. God please help me.@richardbensinger6922
Most narcissist don't go to counseling, they don't see nothing wrong with them therefore, there is nothing to change.
But they want you to go!
Ohhh!they know!!!gaslighting,for exemple, is intentionally 😁
Yes. And in my experience, they will try to prevent you from getting sound counsel.
My narcissistic husband use to go to counseling. He would cry, be sorry, but never do the work. He even deceived the counselor (our pastor).
YEP, I TRIED TO GET HIM TO GO TO MARRIAGE COUNSELING WITH ME , HE SAID HE DIDNT NEED IT !!!
God revealed a series of rejections as blessings in disguise.
Amen! ❤
My parents over the years keep complaining about each other to my siblings and I. I recommended counseling and they both refused. I will not listen to them complain anymore when they don’t do anything themselves to fix their own issues. Children cannot fix your marital problems
My experience exactly. I've grown up bring their therapist.
A lion does not become a lamb. Don't marry someone with the hope they will change.
Agree
Never !! NOT EVER!! I have seen it.....VERY VERY BAD> DOES NOT WORK> PERIOD
Did that twice!!! Learned my lessons!!
Amen!
I did not marry my husband in hopes that he would change. I married him for who he WAS. He's changed
I’m grieving what could’ve been . 😢But thanking God for prayers answered. Peace and healing in my life.
“You don’t miss the person, you miss what you hoped they would be for you” that hit deep.
I have trouble with this. I think I see what my Narc could be. I see their potential. There are glimmers of a funny, cheerful, caring person. But, everything else about their behavior is abhorrent.
2:18 Increased awareness of behaviors 6:30 Be careful and prayerful 7:10 Feelings are indicators not drivers 7:45 don't stay in covenants that are abusive and damaging 10:11 Hardest part is God's work in us and taking responsibility for our actions 11:45 responsibility to someone not a responsibility for someone 16:20 closed doors are an answer to prayers. Devastation can be not missing the person but missing what we hoped they would be. 20:30 Rest in God and not do the toxic tango
Repeatted patterns has shown me that some ppl are aware of their deliberate toxicity and dont care and there are others who are completely unaware but can and do care.
The best thing I ever asked God was "what is it in me that's tolerating and allowing this?".... the answers have been ongoing and life changing.
Eye opening isn’t it. I did the same thing.
I lost so many friends and family over the years due to me getting closer to God. Heavenly Father please continue to protect me and my sons. As a single mother God has carried me. Both of my sons are special needs. I’m overwhelmed because I’m struggling to provide the necessities for my sons like food and clothing and I struggle to pay rent each and every single month yet my struggles have brought me closer to Jesus. I know he will get me through this hard time in Jesus name.❤️💕
AMEN ❤️ 🙏
You are so brave and I pray God continues to carry you and provide in ways you could never imagine and move mountains on your behalf. Blessings to you ❤
Stay faithful and He will always stay faithful 🙌🏼
I made it as a single mom in God's strength. He will get you through❤
Look into programs that help people who have children with special needs. There are programs that can pay your rent, other utilities, churches assist with food and clothing. Or find resources in the church of your community.
Praying you find all the assistance that meets your needs. Blessings 💕
You don’t miss the person , you just miss what you hoped they would be for you WOW 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Not everyone we have a problem with is a narcissist, sometimes we’re the problem, or the problem is our responsibility.
More toxic with time. 🎯
Dead on!
God will not let me leave. He wants ME to change so sitting here and trusting God to heal and help me is showing me a lot about myself and definitely showing me more about God. We don’t fight at all since I shut up. However , we don’t talk either. He refuses to talk at all about our relationship. So I’m concentrating on learning and changing my life under God’s direction and care and waiting for God’s next step for me.
Amen God removed my ex after 22 years of marriage- dishonesty, marital abuse and affairs… I would have continued to try to work things out with my ex. I was enabling his behavior by turning the other cheek, ignoring the red flags… God brought me to my knees do he could build me up in my faith, his love, grace and mercy. I’m grateful and humbled for this lesson and blessing. 🙏
Same thing is happening to me
After two plus years of "marriage" punctuated with countless infidelities, I cried out to God asking Him what I had failed to do and what I should do to make it work. His inner response was totally unexpected: "You have never been married in My sight." I filed for divorce the following Monday and it was the wisest decision I've ever made.😊
24 years for me and I am soooooo thankful!
Yes, she doesn’t address infidelity and deceit
I think to hear God you need to be alone or have quite time,s to hear him...God has removed two toxic people from my life in the last two months n my life is getting better.the abuse n hard time,s are over for me..I'm happy..thanks to our heavenly father 🙏💯❤️
I have a very toxic daughter in law. She has been a nightmare ever since meeting my son. She is a very disrespectful person, always thinking she is right. She tried to injure me in my sons car and I ended up with a broken foot from bracing myself. She controls everything in my sons life including my sons relationship.with his parents. I had to completely cut contact with both of them because the state of the relationship was making me ill. It's not always the toxic moms it is very often the felt serving destructive daughter in laws.
I have a narcissist mother in law. I glad I cut contact with her 😌 She didn't like me because I didn't let her control things in our marriage. Best decision I have ever made ❤
she sounds just like my MIL. No broken foot, but broken marriage for sure. Mothers: do not tell your children they're perfect - no one is perfect! When they think they're perfect, they're impoosible to live with... & when you die, they end up all alone. (of course, it isn't their fault... cuz' they still think they're perfect!)
I am so sorry :-( My mom has dealt with this with my brother's wife. She has been so hurt by how my brother has treated her and we know it comes from his wife's influence. I have a great relationship with my mom-in-law. I'm grateful.
My mother in law was a total narcissist. From the get-go she didn't like me yet wouldn't get to know me. Of course, I recognize the abnormal emeshment between the two of them. They use the guise of Christianity to elevate themselves. However, their actions are not consistent with a decent human being. I was told his mother was a prayer warrior. Funny, she forgot to pray for us and she ended up getting her way!
Personal growth requires recognizing the part I played in my own problem relationships.
I was in a Narc relationship with my son's father for awhile. In the beginning he was nice, the fake phase. When we moved into a house together after 3 years, I found out he was woman beater, he bleached my clothes, he hid my phone, and he was cheating one. After 8 years we went our separate ways. Thank God. I felt so much better when I got away from him. He had a new supply the whole time. When he got with her, she did to him what he had done to me. Long story short, people don't change and what goes around comes around.
@KrisReece 😢😢I been listening to you for the past few weeks and today, this morning, Wednesday , June 26, 2024 it hit me like a ton of bricks. All of the people who hurt me, when I have done nothing to them, have actually been removed and hurt me and are all on the wrong path. 😢Now that I see it that way, they are not on the path toward God or heaven. That they have to change to make it to the kingdom of heaven someday and now that I see it that way, I am crying. My entire life I been bullied, and it’s been cruel. I now realize what is going on , after 50 years of my life of confusion. I started my Christian business this year, and I making something beautiful. I am not trying to be the victim, but I know to stay away. It’s scares me now to be around them. I have stayed away. 😢 But it it brings me great comfort that myself and a few people on earth are chosen to go on the right path. It’s not easy. I feel so different sometimes, but I have to keep going.
Nothing works with a narcissist and most therapist don't know much about covert narcissist.
Good word! As a former codependent, I am FREE to allow Him to work on me and leave the other to Him!
“I’m going to remove this one and do a work in you…!” Amen!
It's very difficult to balance the desire to not be selfish and the need to focus on the self (in a Biblical way). The years of hearing ANY thoughts about myself are selfish, left lasting habits, and pain.
I’m struggling with the VERY same things. 😢😊 Praying that our Heavenly Father will give us His, strength, Courage and Faith to fight and have victory over these lies! ❤❤❤
I gave my 68 yr old boyfriend several chances, he promised change, it didn't happen.
The lord gave me several exits, I finally took one!
Praise our heavenly father!
Make a change that a narcissist doesn't like and sit back. You will find out who your friends really are through the bridge burning mission that narc will go on.
I find ppl who pray all day long and don't do the work, still stay in scarcity, drama and abuse.
I always encourage ppl to say, "God help me, show me" and tgat way the are required to engage, pay attention.
LOVE all your work Kris!!!
The open/closed doors at the end is SO spot on. Trust God and let him guide you. ❤
I have a long history of asking God to do the revenge work and he has never failed. I ask him to show up and show out in a way I know it was him. It’s amazing.
Brilliant teaching. God wants us to follow the lead he has set for us to follow 😊❤
Ignoring the still small voice of our Heavenly Father who loves us and has the best for us, leads to a very frustrating and unfulfilled life.
When you realize your needs are worthy, no longer attractive are those who cannot fulfill them. It took awhile for God to show me my needs are worthy. Thank you, Lord.
I can confirm, was in a 27year old marriage and after praying for years getting nowhere, when I started asking God to remove me from this within 1 week I got new accommodation, house was sold and I had courage to walk out, now divorced 5 years and we are better friends than husband and wife
I am trying so hard to change my family dynamics and generational destiny towards God and away from toxic , boundaryless behaviors.
I can't control others and what they do.
I can only control myself and how I perceive and respond to it.
Increased awareness.
( prayerful and careful)
I have changed. To me for the better. I realized. That I had issues with co-dependant . So I don’t want to go back.
I'm so glad I found your channel...I've binged it today, because I was SO in need of your guidance. I attribute your channel popping up to my prayers of seeking God's help for the strength to get through the heartache of my toxic dangerous adult son & my decision to distance myself from him.😢
Physical sickness was a sign for me. Mind blowing how your body will tell you if you just pay attention.
Oh my goodness! Yes!!! I used to pray for the toxic people to change or for God to remove them from my life. Even though it was hard letting people go that i loved, my life is so much more peaceful now that He moved me out of those situations.❤
This is confirmation to grieve the “what if” the “could have been” amazing. Your not responsible for their actions but you are responsible for your reaction. An ultimate acceptance. This reminds me of the serenity prayer.
God grant me the Serenity to accept those things I cannot change, Courage to change what I can, and Wisdom to know the difference AMEN
I was depressed, confused. My brain was like a roller coaster. And today I am helping others to understand. 2 was successful. 1 went back to her narc.
I'm 22 and I've finally come to my senses and realized I'm living in an abusive, evil family mainly the wife of my father (I won't even call her my mother bcuz it feels evil and foreign to my soul) My parents are TOXIC, EVIL AND FAR FROM GOD! THEY HATE EACH OTHER! I grew up suicidal, been dealing with many demons and negativity ever since I was a child damn I don't remember being a child in the first place but anyways I've been dying to be Godly and Holy since the age of 10 or 13 but they always bring the worst out of me.
I ask Jesus for His wisdom. I'm choosing Him and with Him, I'll find and create my own beautiful garden of life and will have the happy, joyful, successful, and Godly family I've always wanted. Amen. Thank you for your content Kris God bless you!
Prayers for you in your journey. Generational curses are being broken. God bless you! ✝️🙏🏻💕
Just Prayed❤
John 3:16 KJV
Proverbs 3:5-6 KJV
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Start Praying now for, Our Heavenly Father to bring “A Man Of GOD” in your Life… not a Godly man- anyone could just be godly. And when you start making your Family read The Bible/Childrens Bible to them. Hugging you tightly, right now!! ❤️🤗❤️❤️❤️❤️
You will have a big, beautiful family in heaven one day!
A huge hug to you! I'm 38 and was raised with Christian parents. It was much easier for me. Your zeal is inspiring! Remember...in Him you will find all that you need. 🧡
Prayers for you beautiful soul ❤️ May God lead your way through it!
So true. I heard a preacher say: "Another person's happiness is not my responsibility". This phrase stuck with me because I was raised in a family, believing I had to be a victim to many of my family members' harsh narcissism and verbal abuse. But thanks to God, I have learned to not let people blame me for their own self-hatred, unhappiness, and unresolved issues; and to stop letting them use me as their scapegoat. -Each person needs to deal with their own issues, and should take the issues, hurts, and inner-pain to God for true healing and satisfaction in life.
I needed this today. I was ready to walk away last week after realizing what I actually have been deaking with for 20yrs. Thank you!
The timing of this is perfect. I am grieving and grateful that even though I went through 43 years with my relationship. My prayers have always been for Roman's 8:28-29 to become reality. I am going through. The doors have been opened and And I want to know who I am fully in Christ.
My husband of 31 years just moved out last week. The sad but I've been able to exhale for the first time.
This is such good information. When everyone is saying to just get away or stay, we need the wisdom to know the difference ❤
You are 100% correct about expectations setting us up for trouble
I say: God, he/she is your child, so you handle him/her please, because I just can't do it anymore...
I'm pretty sure God was snoozing a little with toxic people in my life! Now I'll be expending enormous energy trying to heal and recover rather then progress in other aspects of life
Your blaming God? Accusing him of snoozing? Take accountability for your life choices.
@@beaglerescue5281 how would you best fit into the drama triangle?
Well, I appreciated the humor in those words
Increased awareness is my second name for a few months... working on my way out.. finally, after 20 years of abuse for me and my children...
God gave me signs
I began calling her out.
Then…three days before it all started crumbling, I prayed at mom’s final resting place and asked him to show me. I couldn’t ignore what he showed me. Pretty much threw it in my face.
It's hard when you desire the truth so badly, and then you see it all. God won't leave you in this time of realization. I'm so thankful this all finally broke me. His ways are not our ways.
@@richardbensinger6922 the truth when you feel something is off is such a relief. painful but it allows you to see you weren't going crazy
I had a dream, where I was tormented by entities, millions or thousands and I was hopeless, anxiously tortured and depressed, I thought I’d die. The anxiety was thru the roof. I had to call on Jesus name in my dream (and I never do that!!) that’s the only way these things would ease their grip on me and disappear. It was so powerful.
This was just a few days after I saw a narc again after 4 years…
I think of Abigail and Nabal.
That is a very powerful story
Thankfully as I get away from my narcissist x wife my fair is getting stronger again after serious anxiety depression -C ptsd 👨🏻🚒 & abuse. My female friends are supportive .. 1 who came back into my life with a strong ❤ in seeing I’m ok ! 🙏🏼
Tried Christian counseling I did my own ptsd &mental health w good out come ! She did not. No counselor was able to change it and she isn’t changing. 🛎️🤷🏻 I’m done & God showed me to leave !
This information is a breath of fresh air and liberating. Thank you!
Discovering that I grew up with a narcissist for a father and then married one, the last thing I focus on is them. I love that I now can understand what is happening, but I am NOT the Holy Spirit. It's up to God to deal with them. I can only be responsible for my actions, my thought life, and how I approach things. I don't plan to divorce, because I believe that God can change anyone. However, I also don't have to be caught up in the toxicity. I love that you and others like Dr. Ramani have given me the tools I need to realize what is happening so that I can respond in a godly manner and not get caught up in all the craziness.
I was married to a narcissist for over 20 years and the abuse would escalate after any counseling. He would lie to the counselors and say what he thought they wanted to hear. When we would drive away he would say that there was no way in hell he was going to do the things that they wanted us to do. He would get worse. It finally got to the point he was hurting our children as well as me. God told me to step aside. I did and it took time to adjust, but its been so much better! My kids are now grown and doing well. I recently went to stay with my parents who are in their 80's to help them with everything. I realized after moving there that my dad is a narcissist! Now i know why i married one! It was my norm. I finally found my worth in Christ. I don't think I can stay here long as it is too difficult on me physically and emotionally. I am finding the strength to move on and am looking forward to it. I pray my folks will be ok and get the help they need.
The carrot 🥕 taste good! But then chewing I noticed a string attached to it with a stick 🤔. Then it moved... and I had to move with it to eat!
Then suddenly I was picked up moved! Given a carrot 🥕 I could hold myself! 😊
Hebrews 4 13And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.
James 1 5If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.
Proverbs 15 3The eyes of the Lord are in every place,
Keeping watch on the evil and the good.
Isaiah 45 4For Jacob My servant’s sake,
And Israel My elect,
I have even called you by your name;
I have named you, though you have not known Me.
5I am the Lord, and there is no other;
There is no God besides Me.
I will gird you, though you have not known Me,
6That they may know from the rising of the sun to its setting
That there is none besides Me.
I am the Lord, and there is no other;
7I form the light and create darkness,
I make peace and create calamity;
I, the Lord, do all these things.’
8“Rain down, you heavens, from above,
And let the skies pour down righteousness;
Let the earth open, let them bring forth salvation,
And let righteousness spring up together.
I, the Lord, have created it.
Oh my goodness!! You hit the nail on the head in so many ways for me! ❤ I've been grieving the loss of my alcoholic husband for the last three years of my sobriety. And my codependent nature keeps getting in the way. 😢😢😢🙏🙏🙏❤️
Nice detailed teaching. I pray for those who don't understand, may God touch them. God bless you my dear Kris.
Oh thanks heaps kris for helping me understand n making wiser..your awsum 🙏💯
I had so many godly people in my life who loved me deeply. As I have aged people I cared about either moved or died. Removing toxic people has been a blessing but when it’s your children it hurts. They choose to live their life without God & now are reaping the consequences. They changed from sweet kind caring & loving to cruel hurtful mocking without any love, abusive & see nothing wrong with their behavior. They live a life of sin & blame me. They don’t want advise nor correction. Their abusive alcoholic dad passed last year & I hoped with him being gone things would change. It did change but for the worse. My close friends live in other states. Trying to find healthy people who live close to me is difficult.
I spend more time with God than ever & my time with Him is cherished.
Woooo I knew I wasn’t the only one to have that happen to them!! Thank you for sharing this Kris!!
The hopes n dreams of future and making life a success for the purpose of the call. ❤❤.. was always the goal.
I thank God for your time and wisdom ! Thank you 🙏
I need desperately for God to heal my wounds of Co-Dependency. My 25 yr. Marriage of the most wonderful times and worst of times is in the last final documents of the divorce. Can you believe I stilllllll love him and praying him home. The Last days are upon us and I need him. Still praying in the last 3 months before the divorce is final he will have a change of heart. He is a Christian, he does go to church , living with mother for the last year
Learned awareness does by no stretch of the imagination means God has revealed EVERYTHING to you. Theres probably more that if you had known would make a different decision. Very sound advice to pray and talk with God about what next steps should be. I feel foolish for all the times something was revealed to me and I thought I knew everything. 🙄 but God has been so patient and loving with me.
Awesome video❤
Sounds great. After 22 yrs of lies, I don’t trust him anymore. Can God do anything? Absolutely! Will He? I don’t know.
Why would u put up with someone lying to u for 22 yrs. Do u not have self love or respect for yourself? God is not going to do it all for you. If you aren't helping the situation and just waiting on God you will be waiting he doesn't even work that way. It takes 2 in any relationship even with God. It's God n you. Isn't that 2? Prayers for u to have the strength u need to change what needs changed in your life.
I never should have got with my ex-wife!
She was definitely NOT the person for me! She had " RED FLAGS " , she presented herself as a " Harlot / Immoral " woman. Turns out, she abandoned her son twice, and was involved in a triangle affair with her two former husband's and she is a Covert Narcissist!
God please forgive me 🙏
@Kris_Reece5 ok
@Kris_Reece5 how to I contact you to discuss?
I am separated from my husband due to his infidelity. We do have other issues but that was the drop the cup needed. I feel confused about doing the right thing. I love my husband but part of me felt I needed to take a break. I pray God for wisdom and discernment. I wonder at times, if it is God putting this need to get away in my heart.
I tried very hard in my marriage to work things out. I did counseling everything I could do. She found that her dad would cover her bills because he just prayed her stepmom into dying and fed her alcohol as often as he could she know how to place to go and she threw me out, all my Christian friends began to tell me things that they were saying and that they believe that God did separated us because I couldn’t believe that he would ask me to leave that situation so I believe that you’re right God will separate the goats from the sheep
God is everything (good and evil)
I just wanted to take this opportunity to say thank you Kris & your Team. We find your videos so insightful, helpful and authentic ❤❤ thank 👌 you ♥️
I get all of this about adults and relationships, but I experienced an adult narcissist daughter.
Where does the parental responsibility end?
In my opinion, many parents have their lives ruined by narcissistic kids.
Ambiguous greif is hard. I went and am still going thru this re: and ex of many yrs who who was an addict- drugs. Very very very hard. It left me feeling like a fool and full of rage
OMG are you kidding. Absolutely God can take you out of a marriage He doesnt want you in. This is a great Episode. 6 years of not listening to red flags has ended me in trouble that is now finishing and going into recovery. Please, please please do not disobey God is for your own good and protection.
"Hearing the Still Small Voice" and reading the Word are synonymous (cf Romans 10:17) ... "The Voice of the Shepherd" (cf John 10:4) will never tell you to contradict a principle inside the Word.
Thanking in advance is called faith
The point at 2 minutes about already being married to them and not using God as an excuse👌🏼✅
I stopped being a people pleaser and started saying no and now I have no friends. They didn't even wish me a happy birthday.
In wish you happy birthday!
Happy Birthday!
shoooo I so get that , remain strong in Jesus, He is your anchor and will fill you with peace
My abusive mother rang the police on me who rang my landlady. So now I am being evicted because of my landlady's anxiety
Pray, give it all to God, constantly
I will be keeping you in prayer. The Lord will provide for you, the righteous one. When we seek the kingdom above all else, all things will be added. What a hard situation. I pray the Lord gives you the strength to trust him in this situation ❤❤❤ Rooting for you ❤
In my life, I believe the church kept me in an abusive relationship because they never addressed abuse at all. As abuse did not happen in christian homes. What I heard was.
Marriage is a commitment for better or for worse. As martiage vow includes " For better or for worse, till death do us part. When my husband literally promised to make life hell for me ( As if it weren't bad enough) I left. In spite of what I thought the church taught at the time.
you did the right thing Mary
So beautiful, peaceful, informative and validating. I thank God for you 🙏🏻♥️🕊️
Thank you for all your insight, I really appreciate it! 😢
Wow, this is a real deal having a partner then , it is so hurtful that the person gone or there is a close door for this person in our lives without expecting God will take it away ...so the acceptance takes long really...
Thank you JESUS, 4 divine connections. Thanks Kris, GOD bless you!,
This topic is interesting I was in a toxic relationship for six years God removed me from that relationship I'm free hallijjuah thank you God and is son jesus 😂 God is real let him work he can do it we have to move aside and stop trying to do it are self.
Thank you, this was very helpful.❤ God bless you.
These are so helpful as Christians. We are so often hounded that we must put up with toxic jerks because it's supposed the Christian thing to do.
No it's not the Christian thing to do.
@@debrakarr996 Not every single time, but it is when it merits. Paul told the Corinthian church to disassociate themselves from the guy who was sleeping with his father's wife. Don't throw pearls before swine?
You are wrong.
@@SuperDrJeckyl so I'm wrong that I'm not going to stay in a toxic relationship that can kill everything about a person. Wow I'm confused. Christian or not no one deserves to be treated badly just cause.
@@debrakarr996 I think you are confused. I said in my original post that it's the right thing to do to not put up with "toxic jerks." YOU...said, "No it's not the Christian thing to do." which sounds like you were disagreeing with me.
NOW, you sound like you agree with me. Maybe you worded it wrong, but you sound very confusing to me.
@@SuperDrJeckyl u r the one confused not me. U never said it was the right thing to do. Show me where u even said the word right. Sorry I read what I see not trying to figure the hidden meaning of the words u choose to use. Better quit lying to. U just tried to make me look confused u r the confused one trying to convince me what u said in a hidden message I guess. I do understand certain words have many meanings depending on how it is used. Right is right no matter what unless u r telling someone to turn right or a right hand it's direct. Just like wrong is wrong. Lol prayers to us all to not find another person that is wrong for us.
Was devalued, humiliated, abused verbally, emotionally and financially by a man-child for most of the years. Escalated when I had my first child - I struggled with what to do for the last 3+ years. Tried marriage counseling with 3 different people and separate counseling... All of which ended up coming to "you need to let her go if you hate her this much" .. it took me a long time to accept that my marriage was over before it ever came to him filing for divorce on a huge LIE, that was really disproven.
Just more proof that his vitriol and nasty vengeful behavior was never going to change.
Now he tries to take it out on our kid, whenever our kid has a difference of opinion to my ex.
It's truly sad. But I believe God has truly set me and my child free!!🎉 🙏🙌
If only there were less post separation abuse 🤐
Responsible to not for 🔥
I really appreciate this video!
Wow, amazing!
Thank you for this inside 🙏💠
I feel like I do need to change.
Why is it always talked about regarding mothers? My issue is with my narcissitic dad. I wish there was more talking about that.