3 Truths How INFPs Read (or misread!) People's Minds
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- Опубліковано 27 лип 2024
- Can INFP read minds? Hmm… In many cases, it appears that they can!
Among the 16 Myers-Briggs Personality types, INFPs are one of the naturals in grasping people’s emotions and motivations. What’s more, it’s undeniable how they’re passionate about understanding human connection and subjectivity.
INFP mind readers - I like the sound of that. That's why in this video, we'll get into that!
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I've been told that I have a "look". A way of disarming people just by looking them in the eyes because I can tell when they are lying. Most people don't like this. But sometimes it results with us sitting in the bathtub away from the party while the other person cries it out.
I suppose Ne is the cognitive function that helps INFPs read people. It's the ability to see relationships between data points, and recognize patterns. This is just an ability we use to understand others because we lack other social skills. It is also an early warning system we develop because people think of us as easy targets for bullying. A change in emotion often immediately precedes an abusive outburst so we learn to identify behavioral indicators of emotional instability or malicious intent. Invisibility is probably our greatest defensive technique against bullies though.
I can't really read people's minds, but I can see the difference between what they say and what they do; or between some things they say and other things they also say. With enough information, I can see why they represent an idea in a particular way, and what their true objective is, but most of my "mind-reading" only works with people I know well. For the rest of the world, it's more of a heuristic analysis of their behavior, and it is prone to misinterpretation. I tend to overreact. For example, move out of the way of someone who is also trying to move out of my way, but we both accidentally get in each other's way; or place too much significance on a particular part of someone's instructions and do something they didn't want because I thought their choice of words was a cue for me to solve a very specific problem they had no idea even existed.
There’s a colleague of mine, who I might or might not like(truly) who had behaviours I thought either meant, he is into me, or I studying me, then suddenly he became cold and avoidant. That was the most frustrating part. It also contributed to the idea that I think I might like him back(like reverse psychology of some sort). But truly it means even more possibilities in my head. Is he uncomfortable around queer folks, and why?(he is so uncomfortable, he literally shakes)? Just some story I had 😅😊
@@Das644 Why not be direct with him and get to know him better. Every INFP I know thinks they're an expert at reading people but all the ones I know are terrible at it. He might like you, but don't make up stories in your head. I knew an INFP who was convinced I "liked" him, when the reality was I was just being polite and he was literally the opposite of what I'm attracted to. He was ultra liberal, didn't believe in gender roles and was infantile and unmanly. I'm more conservative, strongly believe in gender roles and hate unmanly and infantile men. I became cold and avoidant because he kept acting girly and childish around me and I had no desire to mother him or anyone else.
@marybell2002 well I did have a conversation about it with him, or attempted to at least and well, cold and avoidant like is said. There are people I know who aren't infps who have stories about him and stuff so I would like to believe that my experience is not totally in my head, then again you are right, I'm not very good at reading people, I came to realise that most time, the Ne just fills in the blanks that my S(i) misses as it's constantly flipping in an out of my head instead of being in the moment.
It is frustrating because as much as I wanna give him the benefit of the doubt, some of the thing he doea are so in my face, I really can't say, I'm imagining them
As an INFP, I'm quite good at predicting what someone is going to say or do, when I've found their behaivoural pattern. But I can't really know what others are feeling if they're masking it. With other Fi doms I can freak out.
Me too it’s really easy for me to predict someone’s actions as an infp
@@erenbaran1756 I think we INFPs are better at predicting actions or words when we know someone. INFJs, on the other hand, are better at knowing exactly what others feel, even strangers.
@@joanaborrellsanchez9225 Yes! I'm XNFJ and can empathize with, read and predict people in a spooky way (I actually hate doing it but can't turn it off) and I see behavioral patterns so well that I can recite movie lines before they're said in a movie that I've never seen before 😂... however, the INFP that I dated seemed to never understand me. He had really out there weird impressions of me that didn't apply to me at all and was probably more based on his experiences with his ex-gf's. I've never had a boyfriend be that out of touch with who I really am before. I assumed it was the INFP tendency to have relationships with people in their heads before they have a relationship with them irl, but I don't really know
I once had a boss who was an INTJ, and she would ask me to sit in on meetings so I (INFP) could read people. Then she would debrief with me afterwards so I could tell her who was sincere, who was faking, and suggestions on how to get people to come around. Even if I came up with a very general suggestion, she was adept at converting that into actions. We made a good team!
I'm wrong though most of the time, because I don't listen to my intuition, or I don't want to think bad about that person
This!!
Sameee for me !!
I think we are introverts (INFPs) because of our power to read people, I can't say it for all but for myself, I can say that I am a pretty good person reader, and for that reason, we have small circles of trustable people only
I don't know how to explain it, but sometimes i detect people's sadness in their eyes while they're talking to me or something like that, however I am too scared to ask them if they're okay
i know what you r talking abt. I have a friend who always jokes around, but there's always a hint of sadness in her eyes. One time in the washroom i saw her crying, after this i found out that she had clinical depression. This happens a lot to me
@@XxAshleyxX502 yes that's what i meant, thank you for understanding me, I hope your friend is okay now I:/
Even though the person can mask their emotions, Fi authenticity is subtle enough to pick up subtle cues that are not even visible.
I think that infj are better at reading people than us, as they can read motivations easier with Ni and others feelings with Fe. Where we infp actually thrive is in knowing ourselves and mastering a higher introspective emotional exploration than any other type, and at higher stages of personal growth we are even able to bend our emotions at some degree and to change the tune to tap other emptions that we have felt before or mixing. And if we have a good Si function, we are amazing writers, we can give soul to everithyng we write, not to say the best ones at doing so. Also we may have natural talent to learn other lenguages easiear than other personalities.
Yes, this is correct. I'm an INFJ. I don't have a Personality of my own. I'm an Empath. I always turned into other People\Characters. I know all kinds of possible Feelings\Emotions\Characters, which don't necessarily relate to eachother or the same person, and can be contradictory to eachother. Some of them come out-of-nowhere, and don't belong to a particular Character, and just take a hold of me. And I can know things about people, and things in general ― which may seem like magic; sometimes can amaze me too. People can't hide their true nature from me.
One of my goals in life, since childhood ― is to build my True Personality; like a piece of Technology.
INFJ's power - is Knowing \ Finding-out.
INFP's power - is Creativity \ Acting-out.
INFPs can have more Sympathy, INFJs more Empathy. In fact, one thing that can reduce Sympathy - is to really get to know people.
@@gnosis8142You're correct except the last part. Fi is empathy, while Fe is sympathy. Fe doesn't feel or relate other people's emotions as theirs but they will comfort the person with kind words because they know other person is struggling. Fi on the other hand, won't show compassion until after empathizing with that person. Fi will not comfort the person if they can't understand them.
In short,
Empathy is sharing emotions of the others and feelings them as if theirs. Sympathy is pitying others even if you don't understand them.
@@GetRatio Yeah. I honestly feel like people just throw around the words 'Empathy' and 'Sympathy' without understanding what it means at all which is just frustrating. No Fe user I've met ever understood me as in saw through me. They only knew how I felt and offered Sympathy never the latter.
Was married for 7 years. It wasn't until after the divorce that I realized she was a narcissist.
It's not your fault. Narcissists are famous for hiding their intentions and pretending to be good and caring, and eventually manipulating your mind, to make you doubt yourself and your abilities. I hope you feel better now and recovering from abuse.❤
Are you serious right now??
Infps can be narcissists like all types could
@@Montaneroeven INFJ?
@@JrmBottieroInfjs are one of the most likely type to go insane actually. Hitler and Bin Ladin for example. Infjs does not have strict moral code or strong value like infps. That makes them seem like fake and manipulative which they are to some extent.
The objective of every individual is self preservation. People are really predictable specially the masses. They usually do the same things over and over again.
Even though it doesn't work.
emotions yep minds no
INFP has a higher Te Than FE
As an INFJ with an INFP best friend, the reason she struggles to reciprocate or take action a lot of the time when I need it is because of our differences between Fe and Fi. With my extraverted feeling I can be attentive to her needs and emotions and grasp the underlying reasons (most of the time) as to why she is feeling a certain way. I know she needs space and alone time when she's overwhelmed or socially drained. I know she feels emotions very intensely and often struggles to make sense of them so I know to be patient and understanding with her mood swings. The list goes on but most of these things I know from observations rather than asking her directly.
On the other hand, her dominant introverted feeling causes her to base her actions on how she would want to be treated if she was in my shoes. This is where I consider INFPs to not actually have true empathy. They believe they know exactly what the other person wants without actually considering it solely from that person's perspective or asking them directly what they need. It's been the biggest cause of conflict in our friendship but because she is a healthy INFP she understands the importance of self-growth and maturity and is open to improving herself when I point out the flaws in our friendship.
I believe this is usually the biggest issue in a INFJ/INFP relationship and often the reason many people of these types fail to maintain a beneficial connection with each other. It's all about a willingness to be open to feedback and improving yourself for the sake of the other person. That is how friendships/romantic relationships last at the end of the day.
Bro, it's not true for everyone.
I agree with the fact that we often put ourselves in their shoes to see and understand things from their perspective. But personally when I fail to do so..i just clearly say it out like..yaar i have never been through what you're going through so can you please tell me what can I do to help you rn.
I am infp btw and my friend I am talking about..she is an infp.
I just wanted to say infp infj relationship is more about individual concern rather than considering a group of similar types and imagining all of us the same. Cause we all are different. Aren't we?
These common findings like that in the video do matchup with reality but not 100%. After all these are just stereotypes. And no two individuals are same😶😌
@isaacpaech1430 Wow, you just nailed it!. I experienced the same with an INFP I was dating. I could see right through him and had immense patience and understanding and empathy because of that, but he was always so off base with his impressions of me... like realllly off base, and we'd known each other for 4 years before we dated lol 🙃 I always just felt like he was in his own head but you describe it so much more eloquently
Could you elaborate on what you mean by 'true empathy'?
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Yep, thanks for putting words to it.
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I think people generally percieve others' emotions and intentions based on what they feel themselves. Therefore, as someone who is probably an INFP and has a huge amount of mistrust towards themselves which leads to nothing but masking towards others, I have come to (usually most likely falsely) assume that everyone does the same thing. While I know on a conscious level that not all people are like this and that many say and do exactly what they mean, my instinctive reaction when talking to people is now to try to find their hidden feelings, meanings and motivations.
I have really started to feel the unpleasantness of this, both for me and for others, so if anyone here has any advice on how to get out of this situation, please feel free to share.
Thats why the people whom i want to feel conection but just cant read are other infp and enfp..
My colleagues called it my spidy sense.
I just made friend I always thought how can always say lovely things to me maybe he faking it
Then i learn he is isfj
then i understand
Hello, I like your videos but I’m French and I’ve some difficulties to understand fast English, so if you can put subtitles, it will allow me to catch you well. Thanks!
I see! Thanks for mentioning. We're working on the subtitles. 😊
I’m actually reading people’s actions…
:D I knew it ….i mean uh ….what a suprise
looooooll
@@michi5076 we almost have the same user name xD
@@michi5076 xDD
@@michi5076 are you infp tooooo?
@@Mochi-re8cv oh ye, our usernames are like one letter difference lmao
Not as good at it as we ENFPs do. An INFP friend struggled to connect emotionally to help an ISFJ friend. She might felt her emotions, but didn't know how to comfort her. Which for me was quite easy, despite ISFJs stubborness.
Funny enough, for years I thought I'm an INFP. I wonder how many ENFPs out there who still thinks they are INFPs.
Well in my case, I'm an INFP and NOT like what you said, and my ENFP friends find it hard to comfort others