Love, Unconditionally: Raising 3 Children With Special Needs
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- Опубліковано 12 вер 2024
- When you have 3 sons with special needs, and still strive to be the best mum that you can be.
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Quek Su Lin's oldest and youngest sons have X-linked Agammaglobulinemia, a rare immunodeficiency disorder, and her middle child is on the autism spectrum. As their main caregiver, she gets overwhelmed at times. Whenever she fears she's falling short as a mother, guilt sets in. #OnTheRedDot
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To a lot of people, she doesn’t seem to be doing a great job, but she is at least trying. She seems to be aware of her past mistakes, whether selfish or not, she has not given up on her children and on her responsibility. Give her some credit for that.
What she is facing right now is caregiver stress and what she needs is help.
Yes, she is harsh on Lucas and everyone here knows children with dyslexia and hyperactivity are not the easiest to care for. She probably needs someone to guide her on how to manage Lucas. Her husband doesn’t seem to be around much to help her out and she only recently employed a FDW to relieve her from some of her household chores. She knows that she is being too harsh on Lucas and she is trying to control it. In fact, she mentioned that she resent herself for being so harsh (CNA article).
Pretty sure all of us here has shouted at someone when out emotions run high. Talk is easy. Telling her to control her emotions is easy. But no one here knows how many of us can actually do it.
TLDR - what she needs is help, not criticism and judgement.
I agree with you, 100%
Thank you for this, she rly doesn’t deserve to receive all this hate and it saddens me to see her do so
Totally agreed. Same situation but with only 1 autistic child. Many a time I had shouted and spanked (buttock) when I lost control to emotion. I know I need help to contain my harshness. She, with the 3 kids is awesome. Wish her and family well.
I’m in the same situation with my 2 little boys
Stay single is the best.
No nagging, no cheating, no screaming, no diaper changes, no heartbreak, no maintenance, no schedule, no shopping, no upkeeps, no argument, no custody battle, and no lonely divorce.
"Mess is part of life" i feel that on a spiritual level..
lmao, right?
I love that words too 👍😀
She was young and naive when she made HER life decisions! BUT she is taking care of her sons unlike some of yall complaining, who would give those boys up to foster care in a second!
yeap. she is responsible and nothing wrong with her..
Amen
Stay single is the best.
No nagging, no cheating, no screaming, no diaper changes, no heartbreak, no maintenance, no schedule, no shopping, no upkeeps, no argument, no custody battle, and no lonely divorce.
condorX2 nope, i want to grow branches so my story can get passed down
@@nic3073 When I was young, I feel the same like you with passing down my name. As I grown older, I realize our name mean nothing since there are so many who think like us who have a similar names.
Our very existence now is to survive day by day basic. This mean working long hours. Your children will end up the same. If you struggle, they will struggle even more.
Who thinks shes a bad mom? Pretty sure that person is not a parent themselves. I homeschool a wonderfully bright child with no disabiltiies and i still lose my temper from time to time. This woman is amazing and a hero
Joo Smith why are people calling her a bad mom what did she do
@@fartunl9135 I guess because despite of knowing that her 3rd kid could have disabilities she tried for a 3rd child? I mean that maybe the reason why some people hate her
She is a good mum and Joo you know nothing about parenting
@@jxvie she is good at parenting but i guess bad at making decisions
@@jxvie i think you have to read the comment of joo again....
"Mess is part of life." I felt that, what a beautiful and strong family.
She's doing a wonderful job and I look up to her. 👍🏼
666 yikes msn
No talk the time!
Why are there so many harsh remarks on her. Whether she wants her child to study Chinese she is doing what she deemed is best so growing up he will not be left out. That is her choice. You have absolutely no right to judge her.
I think she needs professional help and I feel the discussion may not be about some kind of rights as a Mother. Hopefully, she has more tools to help her children.
Dyslexia is legitimate grounds to be exempted from mother tongue for a reason.
Don’t reward bad behaviour thanks
Someone start a gofundme for this family please
I have son with ASD. Life is not easy when you have special need child. Most people don't understand this.
amen !
Sarukh Khan King of The World I couldn’t agree with you more. My son has ASD too
Sarukh Khan King of The World 💯% agree with you ❤️
I have 3 with asd, I hate how ppl only see bratty kids
People will never understand until they experience it first hand. I already have full sympathy and empathy to parents or care takers with people or children that has learning disability. We grow up having a cousin who has LD and and it was even strange back then as it wasn't common still compare to this day and age. I also work with them and it's sad on how people stare at you/them when you go to the shops or getting mad/angry when they scream or shout not that they mean to. I have always have a soft heart to them. Also now that my child is also really hyper & has difficulty to focus and learn it can get quite hard and sure I do get angry but it's because it can get overwhelming. Salute to to Su Lin for handling and looking after her children on her own. Motherhood is tough and nobody says that it will be this easy.
This woman deserves an award, thank God she didn't give up on her children, that's a mother that deserves to be celebrated ❤️
What happened to the dad
Before I had my son, I could never understand why people who have children that are not "normal", go on to have more children. But since having my son, now I can understand why. I've been greatly humbled by him. He's taught me unconditional love, and that this unconditional love for him/her, is the basis of what gives us hope, that maybe having another child would be able to help him/her. As a mother, we will always try to do what's best for our children. Sometimes it may not always be the easiest or best choice in other people's view.
I don't condone what she did, but I do understand. For those who aren't in that position, you will never be able to empathize or feel what another parent is going through if your child is normal. Carer's stress is very real, especially when all the responsibility lies on one person. Instead of criticism, offer help and hope. Don't trample on someone when the already down.
Just being irresponsible. Narcissistic parents comforting themselves.
She already said her porpuse for 3rd child was in hopes for it to provide stem cells to the other 2. Fking perverted.
Kids can't choose to be born.
Bitch what. Just because you have one disability child does not mean they all will be that way.
You're a very brave woman and I truly respect you for what you've done for your son. And I totally agree with what you said, my sister has autism but it gives my parents a peace of mind knowing that no matter what, my brother and I will always be there for her. I can't imagine the fear and attachment parents of single children with disabilities feel when they finally have to leave this world.
@@kccrafts1 the odds are much higher with a genetic disorder if one or both parents have it.
Pretty dang sure people dissing this hardworking mom don’t even have a child of their own, which parent wouldn’t want the best for their child? She’s trying her best, let’s give her that shall we
A great lady taking care of her own children and standing up to her responsibilities single handedly. In this day and age another mother would have abondoned her children or sent them to a special needs children's home. It's not easy to take care of such children 24×7×365. May the Almighty God bless her with the strength, courage and guidance she needs always! 💐 💐 💐 💐 💐 💐 💐 💐
"Mess is a part of life" damn.. that's deep and so true.
I think it's so important Not to judge anyone, especially if you are not in their shoes , no one is perfect anyways . At least she's always trying her very best in all the ways she can
What a strong and wonderful mum, I am so proud of her. Bless her and her family
She has the self-awareness to fix her mistakes and give the boys the love they need when they feel like they don’t have it- what an amazing mother.
She is such a strong mom❤️
We're 3 girls in our fam and we're all completely normal, and my mom is already having a hard time taking care of us. I salute this mom❤️
Made me cry
She’s trying .. she deserves those children and they deserve her .. other mothers would have abandoned them or left them in the streets , she’s doing the best she can . Everyone gets frustrated .
You are doing a great job .Not many parents can take care of/cope with children with dissabilities ..and for you to take care of them without giving up is incredible !!You are a superwoman .
Awww but her boys are really cute
she is a wonderful mum, with wonderful children. they’re so special and she is raising them so well.
Don't scold them, love them and teach what's wrong but I'm so proud of this mother can handle this things almost all alone .. This mom deserve award for being brave ❤
This lady is far too hard on herself. I am a MD and I understand the full amount of work she is putting into raising her sons and managing their medical problems. She and her boys have been incredibly unlucky but she is working hard everyday under a tremendous amount of stress to raise them. People who have healthy children (myself included) really have no idea how difficult daily life is for these families. I think she is doing an admirable job and I wish her and the family all the best
Is Lucas attending classes at Dyslexia Association of Singapore? It may really help him overcome his challenges as a dyslexic learner.
expensive
Why should he? You guys shouldn't have bully him. Finland never segregate ppl with disabilities and yet they r still way better than u guys are.
This woman is a straight up super hero! Keep being strong mom !!!
I'm so proud for her. Raising this wonderful kids is never easy.
When she says she wanted to have kids so she could undo her childhood I feel her. I was slow kid so had a hard time. I could also sense my parents were never proud of me. It's my dream to raise my children with support and unconditional love. I support you sister.
Mess is a part of life . such a great quote . jiayou mummy su lin !!
She's not perfect but she's trying her best. Even my mom hasn't brought me to the Universal studio...
She is trying to raise three boys with special needs! I have to give her credit for raising her boys while her husband is working hard
She's a parent! No explanation, or defense is required! The world is had enough as it is! The mother is a hero! Period!
God bless this young mum taking care of her 3 kids. Maybe sometimes she can't control her feelings but she is a good mother she devote her life to her children.
she's a legend that hasn't thought of leaving them behind. respect!!
Wowww 😭😭😭😭💔💔💔 I can't finished watching this is so hard to raise 3 children with special needs, I'm a single mother of an autistic child ,but I had given all my trust to jesus christ, and being helping my baby day by day .;(
Please don't give up ... Don't know what to say... Stay strong for the sake of your child and mainly for the sake of your mental health which is highly important in long run.... Love you for trying .... May God give you all the strength that you need ... Take care ....
She is a strong woman who loves her children and there for them. I hope she gets support they need for all three boys
when her kids grow up and sees this video, maybe they would definitely crying. cos i am....
i’m sure they’ll grow up happy and together. moms are amazing when they’re actually there for you even if they make mistake after mistake.
Praying for you and family that God will provide your needs and give you the strength, patience and perseverance to shoulder the responsibilities and care for your three young sons. You are a strong and determine mum who cares and love your children despite its challenges and struggles to keep up. Keep up mum, you are doing all you can with God's hands upon you.
God? God gave these innocent children a HARD life.
Some people that had it harder than others, dont ever think God is punishing you. God will give hard task to his children who are capable of bearing it
A T yes!!!! I was going to say that same thing! You’re stronger than anyone with “normal” kids that’s why you have them! God is so amazing and he’s blessing you always 💕
@@mileyrocks852 that dude is an evil asshole. inventing cancer for children and what not. just fuck off already..
That is ur idea. Mine is that God loves to see suffering and inequality. So he created humanity to entertain himself
@@aravinthsrisivasritharan4098 hmm. too bad. Actually who suffers the most and wins with faith, will be granted a glorious place in His Kingdom. It's the concept.
Nothing good originated from the earth because evil has been ruled the world since ages. Adam and Eve brought sin to the earth so earth is cursed forever. That is why there are sufferings, disaster, and pain. The real life is not what we can see with the eyes, but the afterlife where we live forever. What is 1-70 years compared to eternity? For those who believe, they prepare themselves for eternity, so we dont fear suffering and death, because it's all just temporary. Like what is the use of living happily for ourselves and die after a short amount of time. Every human ever lived on earth were forgotten and become ash. But because we believe that this world is not the real deal, we're able to endure
And btw this is not my idea at all. Everything has been written and I just share it to you guys
As long as she stays by their side they will persevere anything! Love to mom! ❤️
Too much stress for one person, I’m so sorry it’s this hard for you 😓
She needs a cash app. I’d send her money
I don't have much but I would like to help too
Let her start a go fund me
Pannathorn Srinon why do we need go fund me
Shes hard on them just like a normal patent. She gets overwhelmed like any parent. I salute her i could never
She is such a wonderful mummy!!!!!!
You are one incredibly strong and wonderful mommy to the 3 boys!!! The people that comment negatively on here probably don’t even have any children so they think it’s so easy. Raising children is the hardest task I’ve ever have taken on so I can’t even imagine caring for 3 children with medical needs ALONE! Keep your head up and try your best everyday, which you already do so I’m wishing you and your family the best! 😘
She chose to have them and to be present with them. Trying the best she can everyday.👍👍👍
May you have the grace and strength you need to raise these 3 beautiful children. My heart goes out to you, mama.
all these people commenting mean things about her, stop passing such judgement! how about YOU try to live this life! who are the real nasty people, hiding behind the screen and criticising others???
Mandy you must be rich. You still don’t know the true realities of life
Ren Wei Please enlighten me on how your comment is related to what I'm talking about
Mandy, it should be start passing such judgement.
I challenge both of you to care for these 3 kids for just 1 week.... Even the most enlightened yogi that lives on the highest mountain would feel very frustrated and exhausted.
“I became a mother to undo a lot of wrong things I gone through as a child “ wow
Very brave Mommy ....Acceptance is the 🔑 ....To have this unconditional love
U cannot yell like that to a dyslexic child.. he is trying his best! That made me cry..
Raising normal child is hard but for her even harder
This breaks my heart. My God bless your family and beautiful heart. You are the best mother they can ever ask for. I salute you strong mama.
I salute this mum. No one can understand what she is going thru. Every child is different, be it autistic or hyperactive. She is doing an excellent job.
one of the strongest mother in the world.may god ease your burden ma'am. 😢
Su Lin, you're a great mom and
don't let anyone tell you otherwise. It is so easy to condemn when one is not wearing the shoes. God bless Su Lin and family
She might have made some mistakes, but she is aware of them and also willing to take up the responsibility to take the best care of her kids she can; even though she’s battling her own demons. I think that’s a good example many neglectful parents should follow. I wish her and her sons all the best in life.
This woman has strength that I just can't compare to. Great job mummy, keep going.
I appreciate the mother more, she's so dedicated to look after the kids. She's a great mother.
She is working hard to do everything for her kids even she is not perfect. No one is perfect. Being a caregiver is very tiring and exhausted especially she has three special needs kids. She is such a wonderful mum. May God give you the strength and the help/support you need.
Kid: * Gets injected *
Kid: Waaaaah...
Me: * Gets injected *
Me: MOMMY!!! WAAAAAAAAAHHHH!
This woman is doing a great job she has three beautiful boys they are not dying okay they have a disability ?But did they die tho?mothers get frustrated with super healthy kids it’s apart of life ! And she’s dealing with it best she knows how and all alone at that you can sense the love !Blessings to her boys her and her husband !
I couldnt even handle one son, yet she handled all 3 of her sons like a boss, without her husband by her side most of the time. kudos to you mom! ❤️ sending love. be strong always. all these will paid off.
All the very best wishes to you and your sons, Su Lin.
And thank you, CNA Insider, for bringing these true-life stories to us.
So very proud of the parents in these situations....still, they are together, husband and wife sharing the responsibility together. God Bless you❤️🙏
Utmost respect and appreciation to this strong lady who epitomizes motherhood in every sense. God bless her and her loving family abundantly.
What a strong mom i salute every mom with a special kids you are the toughest of human being in this world God bless you all
The one who didn't never give up with her/his own childrens (no matter how worst their conditions) are the best parent. I'm praying that your sons gonna make you proud someday, mom. Keep fighting. ❤️
She has a greater calling in life than most people. Very commendable. Would be good if society can help.
What a great mother! I feel her...I wish her the best for her children.
This woman is doing a great job, unlike those of you attacking her on here rather than worrying about you and your own.
Your fears and emotions are all normal. Continue your amazing work Mom.
💖 *She is a loving mom* 💖
she is strong woman. Please dont give up, your children are wonderful :)
What a beautiful caring sweet lady. Raising children can be challenging, exhausting and relentless so if there are additional needs, especially if you are the primary career it can drain you completely- it doesn’t appear she has much family around to help and in some communities there is still a lack of awareness and stigma about disabilities. She is doing a wonderful job just loving her boys.
I got 3 kids and one has to go to therapies which at times overwhelming.To see this story i salute to this mother for being strong and trying her best for her kids.I can't imagine the daily struggle she has to face .
"whats wrong, can u read? " and just before that she herself explain that HE IS DYSLEXIC. as a person who has mild dyslexia that phrase triggers me so much "can u read" "do u even bother to try".
I know,i know sHE's TrYiNg.. But psychologically i hope she know that phrase can really put some trauma in a kid and will affect how he grows up. She says shes overwhelmed and doesn't mean it. Then DON'T teach ur son hire a professional if u really care for goodness sake.
Who else almost cried
Having 3 kids with the same case...she's an AWESOME Mom...
She's an amazing mum and haters cannot say otherwise! It's so tough raising children, even more for those with medical needs. Bless her heart and soul (:
Your boys are really lovely and you take care of them so well. Try not to get angry with them. You deserve appreciation. God bless you and your family
Everyone complaining about her parenting would give up on those kids. She is not even a bad parent she just needs to control her temper a little bit better. And as someone with an autistic brother don’t speak on what you don’t know about
Wow I give her so much respect. It takes so much patience and love to take care of 3 special needs kids. I know some ppl who would get so frustrated and take their anger out of their children and hit them. So I applaud her!
I'm scared the boys won't have a close relationship with their father as they rarely see him
Doing a wonderful job. Being a mother of two children (one boy and one girl), I appreciate your efforts. Hats off, you are supermom
she's such A GREAT MOTHER AIN'T PERFECT,NO ONE IS,BUT SHE'S TRYING TO GIVE IT ALL.
NO LIKE OTHER MOTHERS ABANDONING THEIR CHILD CUZ THEY CAN'T ANYMORE OR THEY JUST DON'T WANT TO.
BUT SHE! SHE MADE HER DESISYON, SHE'LL KEEP TRYING,NO MATTER WHAT.
We're have a daughter Harley & shes nearly 3 years old next Month & she's has Mild Disabilities & High Functional Autism like me I have Mild Learning Disabilies & my wife too & she's has High Functional Autism too but we love Harley no matter what her Disabilies is & what im trying to say love them more than their disabilities & Cheerish them on what they can do & not what they struggle with God Bless You family ❤ 💙 💖
Cheer Up Mom.. U are a great and wonderful Mom ❤
Hope things will get better for her . 💕💕 She acknowledges her faults , despite feeling overwhelmed some times , she’s trying her best for her boys . Some people would give them up completely.
Amazing mother. She embraces her decisions, that is the most important thing. May God eases everything for her. Raising kids without special needs already challenging, what else three with special needs. Bless the mother!
i have no sympathy for this woman. her decision to have a third child is inhumane and unconscionable.
People that jusge mothers need to shut up..motherhood is the most testing thing a woman can go through even with "normal kids"..as long as she is is trying her best and can see her mistakes, a mother is a superhero
Can somebody start a gofundme page for this sweet family. The mother needs as much support as she can get because she’s such a strong woman
Being a awesome MOM . I thank you .
I am so proud of you Su Lin. Good Luck tou and your family. God Bless You.
I really sympathized with her situation and I am salute her for her patience and courage and taking things in her stride. I pray that things will get better , her children gets healing and also support , financial and otherwise, in overcoming her daily needs. God bless her.
This is an extremely difficult job!!!! To have three healthy children is hard enough but there special needs ... She is doing an amazing job!
Three beautiful boys and a fantastic mother. Well done lady! May you all stay safe and well. 😊❤