Most people in wheelchairs can walk. They can't walk for long, or they'll be in pain, but most can walk or at least stand. It's literally the same thing.
I've used this a few times to help people understand my abilities and limits. Before my diagnosis I pushed myself and others pushed me really hard to do certain things and fit in a certain box. And I've been dealing with bad mental health since I can remember and going on 3 years of a burnout episode. Finally got a diagnosis and figured out that I've been (in this analogy) forcing myself to walk because everyone else told me it's really easy and there is no reason I shouldn't be able to do it. And the diagnosis was my confirmation that, actually sometimes I need (support/accomidations/less responsibility) a wheelchair inorder to function with less pain and struggle and health problems.
I gasped when she said “I didn’t realize everyone didn’t do it” I’ve been saying this for weeks. I just assumed everyone’s life was this daunting all the time.
Same here, I heard other introverts, like me, often have a hard time socialising, so I assumed that’s what it was, but I got a diagnosis earlier today, sooooo…
@@75pdubs😂funny point! I actually had my now 4 yr old by accident. At almost 30 yrs old I figured I guesss it’s a fine time for it 😅but honestly, I’ve 100% felt that same way and have just often looked at parents and people in general as somehow superhuman, like I just don’t understand how they get on with so many things when I’ve struggled with even just the basics. But now here I am, a mom, it’s possible 👀 It’s also how I found out I’m on the spectrum bc finding out about my son having ASD led to finding out I have it too. I guess a way I’ve managed it all is having rearing my little one down a supportive path I would’ve been thrilled to have growing up become my new obsession. 😄
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you Dr Oyalo for saving my son with your herbs. I’m so happy to share this
When I was about 30 and beginning to understand my autism, I was invited to be in a play. I hadn’t had any real training in acting, but I found that much of it came almost naturally. Only later did I realize that was because I have to “act” much of the time in real life to fit in and so have a lot of practice.
Can I ask, as I’m also in theatre as a tech, when your acting do you feel like you can put you to one side and you can decode that new person (the character)?? I’ve met many actors who say that’s what they do
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you Dr Oyalo for saving my son with your herbs. I’m so happy to share this
I'm autistic,I make it a habit of introducing myself as autistic in a professional setting because I have had so many horrible accusations thrown at me because of it all my life,but in a social setting where there are no laws of confidentiality and where people mock ,betray and humiliate you or even weaponise your autism against you ,I usually zip up and try to act as NT as possible,that just makes me look even weirder and attract more abuse ,so now I just reject people before they reject me...I don't need more horrible experiences.People are usually UWU autism...until you do and autism then they attack you.
Same!!!! I wanna be able to but i'm just really scared. It was hard enough bringing it up to my mom to ask for a diagnosis but she listened and helped me. We told my grandparents but i have a hard time telling anyone else. It'd be nice cause it'd help me out but for now, i'm keeping it to myself (other than when i apply for therapy/supports.)
@@jedi.in.christ tbh I got my diagnosis from a early age and it it like hell for me since I stutter A LOT even to family and it is difficult to order food from restaurants since of my stuttering and I don’t know how to stop or help calm it down a bit
I'm really glad this is becoming more visible and talked about, not just from the autism spe*aks perspective but talking to actually autistic people, actually autistic adults, actually autistic women. The representation and platform is desperately needed because there are so many misconceptions about autism and autism in women. It is thought that a very high percentage of adult women have been missed in early childhood and part of that is rising numbers of late diagnosed women.
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you Dr Oyalo for saving my son with your herbs. I’m so happy to share this
I think I have autism. I practice conversations I want to have with people all the time. When I was young I would socially interact with people, but I never really forged a bond or friendship with any of them. I struggled a lot socially, and I still do. People would make fun of me a lot. During elementary I actually only had 1 friend. Now I share many autism symptoms and a lot of them remind me of when I was younger and how I would act.
I know getting a diagnosis can be difficult - or at least expensive if you go private - but try if you can. Knowing one way or the other will help your state of mind.
I’m in the process of self-identifying (rather than self diagnosing, I do appreciate the distinction in the phrasing) before deciding IF I even want a formal diagnosis, or if it would serve me. I want to say, even just in the past few months and weeks of research and practice, it’s gotten easier to unmask. Even if mostly when I’m alone. It’s SO crazy healing!! I feel my little inner Lacey Myriah feeling happier and more loved and affirmed :) 🩷 I’m sending you love and a gentle squeeze of reassurance. Best of luck ✨🦋
My mask is humor and it is razor sharp. It's a 'look at this-not that' distraction. What I don't like is how much I have to rely on tunnel vision. There is too much stimulation to handle if I don't. Especially in situations where I am going from point A to point B. I have to focus only on that task and nevermind who is in the way.
This is why I am a turbo fast shopper - I just zoom in on what I need, gush in and out like wind. Everyone's jealous, and I explain that's why I hate shopping and malls. (Since I'm not a man , people don't expect this either...)
Yeah I’m always making jokes and getting people laughing and smiling. Part of it is that it takes advantage of the halo effect to hide the fact that I’m an autist with many mental health and self image problems.
I have felt different all my life & the more i hear about autism, i suspect this is what is wrong with me. I've never shared this with anyone for fear of judgement or minimizing.
It’s not what’s wrong. There is nothing incorrect about being on the spectrum. As someone coming to terms with their own neurodivergence I hope you figure out what exactly is going in that brain of yours and remember that none of it is wrong or weird. ♾️
@@gigahorse1475 I wish people in my life understood that ... I have been called weird and different and crazy all my life .. noone ever thought that it could be just a disorder that I can get help for
@@gigahorse1475autism is a difference in Neurotype not a disorder Neurotypical people are born with certain strengths and weakness and neurodivergent are born with different strengths and weaknesses Some of our strengths like hyperfocus can give us abilities far greater than a neurotypical and we’re often more altruistic/ have a strong sense of moral right and wrongness (more so than neurotypicals) which can make us fantastic advocates for the vulnerable Neurotypical Society has classified those of us with a difficult brain type as “disordered” while new autistic research shows that it is more that our struggles are a result of neurotypical society not being built for us. The more neurodivergent people are able to unmask and see the strengths and weaknesses of their own neurotype the more we can make society more accessible for all humans Not just ones that can conform to a specific mold.
I have spent and still do, a great deal of time having "conversations" in my head, from "arguments" or "complex dialog" of difficult situations or what I would desire to do, to deal with problem or confrontation with another/others". Never thought that other's did not do this. Is this another peice of autism I was unaware? Dang, it's hard finding out about all of this after a lifetime of struggling living on the wrong planet. At least I no longer believe I am crazy.
I was diagnosed at 4 and it took me a while to actually like being autistic, my brain was filled with so many Toxic thoughts about myself BECAUSE of autism, didn’t help my 1st grade teacher lashed out at my Mother while insulting me, but now, I love it, I just had to LEARN that it didn’t bring me down no matter if I thought it did Or not, I couldn’t let it get ahead of me, now I’m learning about it like crazy and I’m actually pretty informed about it Autistic people, please understand we all have our different opinions and this was my perspective of my diagnosis No matter what you think about it, don’t let it control you! Hate it or love it TRY to live the best life ya can!
If you're autistic you can do anything, it's just like learning to drive. You practice, practice, practice, we as autistic people are so clever, that's what makes us good learners. ❤❤❤
So I've recently just discovered that I'm on the spectrum. Have to say, I didn;t realise that practicing conversations wasn;t something other people don;t typically do either!
I’m sorry but where do you get the idea that other people don’t do that? This woman is spreading propaganda and false statistics. Anyone with social anxiety does that and they are not autistic.
I'm nt and I practice conversations a lot. I'm shy, but extroverted. Meaning I get energy from being around people, I'm not a party girl though. That is not the greatest combination of character traits 😂 I practice all the time in my head. I also have like a whole TV series going on internally. Most people do that. I don't really know anyone that never ever practiced conversations. Some do it more times than others. That in itself is not a good indicator. Nt and nd both do that. Nd might do it more frequently or with a different reason though. But shy people and especially people with social anxiety do it a lot too sometimes.
Yeah, I’m fairly certain I don’t have autism, but I always practice important conversations in my head before having them. I’d say it’s fairly normal, especially for introverted and socially anxious people.
I think about this all the time. My brother has aspergers and we do a lot of things the same. But I get told I'm not on the spectrum at all because I'm too social compared to my brother...
Not trying to be mean, just letting you know: aspergers was removed from the dsm-5 as a diagnosis (aka it's not a thing anymore). You're brother just has level 1 autism spectrum disorder, not aspergers. Just thought I'd kindly let you know 😁
as someone that’s autistic this so true … people look too hard autism doesn’t have looks , looks has nothing to do with what goes on in our brain especially if we are use to masking … but in our shoes we definitely have struggles
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you Dr Oyalo for saving my son with your herbs. I’m so happy to share this
@@user-ev9sw4ee8j yo who’s this dr Oyalo I’ve been hearing about, I think like 6 times I’ve seen someone say this now. Who is he and does he know karate?
I'm pretty sure I'm autistic given that i have adhd, chronic depression, social anxiety. I constantly disappear into my head and surface every few months and desperately try not to sink again but I always do. I'm 43 yrs old, divorced and don't know how to get help. My ex chased me so I still don't really know how to talk to or approach people. Shrug
I mean I don’t think this could be autistic because I have nearly the same symptoms. Maybe it’s not autism but ADHD which is causing a lot of problems. Even I for a while thought I had autism because my maternal cousin also has it. But turns out I only have ADHD or just ADD.
Do you have trouble expressing your feelings to loved ones? For example, I don't understand the concept of "love".. family members of mine will pass and I have no feelings and can't / don't know how to express emotions to the point I try to mimmick people around me
The same experiences that cause the coping mechanisms you are describing, the dissociation, also cause ADHD. It's not the cause, it's the effect. Maybe do some research into cPTSD and toxic shame. Many people with autism also experience this, especially the shame and emotional disregulation, but again: not the cause. Many symptoms auf autism even are not caused by the autism but by the experience of growing up in this society WITH autism. There are so many ways a person can feel disconnected and different to their surroundings. That's why it's so hard to diagnose. In the end the diagnose is not that important.
Whys she a hero, she's using autism to sell her image, every interview is the same, realises she doesn't need paddy now she has a spotlight, gold digger and she basically admitted that
being autistic is so hard. I "train" conversation basically all day long by talking to myself as if I'm in different situations/scenarios. I feel overwhelmed when I haven't dealt with someone before so preparing helps but it takes a tremendous amount of energy. I found out I'm Autistic at 34. I've been masking my whole life. The burnout I suffered last year was epic. Ever day is a fight.
I know I’m a man but at 46 I’m discovering it probably autistic (old Asperger’s) and also probably ADHD. I’ve questioned it over the last year but my traits have diminished as they would but also I see my masking now. I’m also becoming a bit of an advocate for broader autism especially in women/girls and we are stuck with the idea of “traditional” autism and the traits of autism and Asperger’s are so wide that they can be missed in men and women I’ve the age of 35.
You can’t be diagnosed with Asperger’s by itself anymore. I’ve been misdiagnosed with Asperger’s. The doctor somehow believed I had limited social interaction. And at the same time ADHD. The reasons for these diagnosis were not updated regularly and the reasons were not explained in depth or in some simpler terms at all. It would also be extremely difficult to still say I have Asperger’s or ADHD. Since that information is outdated. I have discussed with sped teachers about these findings and tests. And they agree i am not on the autism spectrum. I have also not had Attention deficit disorder or hyperactivity disorder/issues. I have had numerous problems with anger throughout my life. And the quackass doctor ignored that. I have also not had any adderall medicine in my life. Not since day one of being misdiagnosed.
I am Autistic. I am 47 now. I didn't get a DX until 38. They kept saying anything except Autism when I was growing up. I didn't even get that opportunity to figure things out. They just said I was being difficult... that I was being rebellious... that I was a "problem child"... and all sorts of things... but never Autistic. My point being... it's not just women who get misdiagnosed. In fact, it seems to me that more women are diagnosed at a young age than boys. Why do I say this? Boys develop slower than girls in a lot of ways. So... Boys are seen as less mature than girls are. This bias can skew an Autism diagnosis. Among many other things. I understand that women may go undiagnosed... or misdiagnosed. However, so do men... maybe even more so... simply because there are most likely a lot of guys who ARE Autistic... and don't even know. Men are just expected to tow the line... stay in their own lane... and to not rock the boat. We don't have the luxury of speaking out... asking for help... or even thinking there might be something different going on with ourselves... because we were taught to "toughen up"... "be a man"... "walk it off"... or something similiar. We're taught to shove everything down... to rise above it... and keep going. How is it that a boy can grow up and is able to get any real help... when they don't even know WHY everything is so different for them? We don't even think Autism is a possibility. See... girls are expected to express themselves... but boys are not. We treat Boys and girls very differently... because we ARE different. However, Autism doesn't care about those differences. It just gives you a whole new set of differences... and no one takes that into consideration. My life would have been VERY different if I had known earlier that I was Autistic. Because I didn't know... I had to undergo over 20 years of misdiagnosis and mistreatment... including all sorts of medications that I now realize I had no business exposing my mind and body to. So... it gets missed in girls... and boys. But... awareness has spread... and I think it's being acknowledged more and more now rather than when I was growing up.
I'm a guy who was diagnosed at 8, but I think I was masking at the time that I got diagnosed, as I did things like observing and imitating other children, and rehearsing conversations. I also played with friends a lot and made eye contact. It also seemed that most of the girls I knew who were diagnosed had a more obvious presentation of Autism than me while most of the people I knew who had a less obvious presentations were guys. I'm not certain how common it would be for guys to be social and mask but still get diagnosed early, but I think the reason for the under diagnosis of Autism in girls/women might be more complex than girls masking more. For instance I think even when boys and girls mask about the same amount the masked signs of Autism may be more likely to be recognized as signs of Autism in boys than in girls. Also I think there may be a bias towards being more likely to recognize an intense interest as a sign of Autism when it's something more commonly an interest of boys than if it's more commonly an interest of girls. I also feel that being diagnosed at an early age doesn't help much as some of the accommodations are misaligned and are more to help caretakers than the actual Autistic individual unfortunately.
I am unlearning masking because of that... When I feel, like I need to make weird noises, I will. Other people: You don't look autistic! Me: I am autistic and not a downy, how am I supposed to look? *walks around like a pangolin*
Welcome to my world. People think that adults don’t have autism, only kids have it. But what happens to those kids that grow up? Yes, they have Autism. We are living it, we bare breathing it, we are living with it we die with it. So a massive thankyou to those that don’t believe that Autism is just foe kids not adults. I’m 44 years old. I’m am living with it. I hate it when adults say only kids can get Autism, what happens to those kids whom grow up with Autism? We are living it and will die with it, like a patient with cancer, it not just restricted to kids. We are adults. We live it, we live it and breath with it for the rest of our lives. It’s not just a a condition we live with as kids, we do grow up as adults with it. I’m a Physicist, a a master with a PH Degree in Practical Application of Time Travel, and a Quantum Mechanics theorists on computers. My thesis has been published five times and I came close to winning the Nobel peace prize although I would not have accepted this gift. My brain is a gift to the world, through Thespian scripts, gags and Jokes. I actually won an award for in 2009. It was an honourable gift to achieve such credit in my local theatre. I refused local press and I helped over 211 people pass their test with advanced computing skills often volunteering at the collage to make it fun foe the at mathematical equations. I received an award for and became a model teacher at the age of just 16 year old to help those whom were illiterate in their compacts. It is with compassion and my joy in working with people that I helped them get jobs, learn new skills and adopt to new environments. I loved helping people out. I am the author of 11 books published under a different name all before the age of 21. I help the poor with sandwiches and a bottle of water in the streets when I can with my own money. I’m proud to be an upstanding citizen of my home town in Rhyl, North Wales. I love all sorts of people especially my future wife Naomi who I will marry in 2024. She is my world. I’m rich, famous I direct t.v shows/series and now films and I love it. But helping people is my greatest gift. Love you all, Hanseatic David Stonebridge born in Germany. Peace to all of mankind ❤️
I was just diagnosed in spite of having a 30 year career. I almost always practice conversations. I never look people in the eye, but I do stare at people's mouths which may be close enough to fool some people. Maybe.
I have autismn, yeah it sucks for certain jobs I can't learn anything can't pay attention but other than that I don't remember I have it. Friends are patient who know and everything
Definitely been with some autistic girls in my time. Kind of kick myself that I didn’t say something to them. They were dealing with bad mental health and I had the nagging feeling they might be but didn’t want to be intrusive.
I've had a psychiatrist tell me exactly that yesterday. "You're not autistic, your have family and can talk to me." Expect I know for sure I am. Well, I guess that'll have to be good enough 😅
I did not know Christine has autism. But like she said anyone could have it. It's a good thing people should take seriously in the world. Also people should stop calling someone disabled. They don't even know the meaning of it. They need to think what they are saying. if their kids have that. How would some annoying people would. Some who said mean staff they should be ashamed of themselves. Respect.
I have autism and every ones just like oh she’ll grow out of it but then nothing happens I’m 10 and I still walk on my toes and I don’t use cutlery I will only use one pencil at school I always put things in my mouth and I always do animal things and noises but I don’t like loud or bussy things 😅and nothings worse when some ones mean to you because you’re different
ALL AUTISM IS DIFFERENT! When i was young i got tested and diagnosed with aspurgers which is autism, one day a kid in my art class in middle school was talking abt his little brother having autism and it was a bad case where he had to be in special education, i brought up my autism and he said so surely and positivly i was not autistic! Cuz i did not act like his brother💀 And it made me so pissed this rando kid thought that he was a child psychologist or smth and he self diagnosed me it still makes me upset to this day.
I was diagnosed but the psychologist said if he could "choose" between diagnosing me with autism or adhd he'd "pick" adhd like they were practically the same thing. He said most of my symptoms are probably just anxiety and i only got diagnosed because of my noise sensitivity and need noise cancelling headphones. I was so frustrated with him, he evern still uses the less autistic more autistic belief rather then the pie chart that's used now as it's a spectrum.
Sigh... I still have problems at my college with math, I'm constantly depressed, I still miss Rush the band playing in Poland (they never did), I'm obsessed with geopolitics due to the threats of war and I also want to be a full-time rock musician.... maybe I'm famously autistic?!
But if people with autism are doing well. How come people with High autism does not talk and struggling to speak. Even they are special need. That mean a main problem. But some are good and some don't understand and difficult for them.
How can you diagnose highly functioning autistic people? It seems like all the symptoms are generally relatable, I mean everyone has different personalities.
Because autism is more than having a "different personality" and medical professionals are trained in recognizing it. They can differentiate between autistic social difficulties and shyness, habits and rituals, regular hobbies and special interests. Autistics are still autistic, even if you interpret their traits as neurotypical. We don't call it high-functioning anymore by the way.
It’s not a personality, when I got my diagnosis(mines not mild but it’s mild to moderate, mainly moderate)medical professionals had to examine and observe me for 8 days under long-term anesthesia, lost of tests and observations, autism is a disability(pls I don’t dislike having it, I’m one of the probably very few that quite enjoy it)even if it’s extremely small
I usually think about every kind of scenario but I always end up making myself procrastinate in the end cause I was only thinking about what of those bad scenarios actually happened and not thinking about the good cause your so caught up In everything
But autism is a good thing. People who have it can do anything going out independent and learning to drive. Also even finding love and getting a job. They are really intelligent and manage okay.
I have been an advocate for autism awareness for over 20 years, the only bias that exists according to the science is that autism affects males more than females, even in studies that adequately capture data across gender lines. There is also a trend recently to make autism and intersectional issue, it is not, there may be other comorbidity prevalent but these are not intersectional issues exclusive to autism.
My mothers father was autistic, my mother and me as well. They would never admit it. If you pay attention it's easy to see. You don't want to be autistic its tuff.
I mean Idk, maybe for some, but for others we rather see it as unique then tough, I understand though, it took me years after diagnosis to actually like autism itself
Nice nice, now that I think about it I’m so lucky to have an autistic parent that actually understood me. I always dreaded that my mother would pick me up from school when I was sick or just in a terrible mood that I couldn’t get out of. She would’ve yelled at me if I did something “wrong”. While my father with autism would drive me to get McDonald’s and talk about how I could fix my behaviour if it needed it and change my mood next time it came to be like that.
Someone whose pet died, is “luckier” than someone whose child died. But they’re still both awful, and it’s insensitive to tell the person whose pet died that they’re “luckier” compared to other people. That’s how I feel as someone with autism.
Masking is not a good thing, it's a defense mechanism, being good at it only ensures that you either live a life of secret shame, or end up with C-PTSD on top of everything else as you're about to start adult life, you're f-ed either way.
@@JustAlexeiiyes! I get ur point! Please don’t take this as rude but I was diagnosed at 4 and it took me years to actually like being autistic, I don’t like that we have to mask around people though:(
There are definitely gender bias issues in psychology; but practicing things you'll say is something almost everybody does, if they're smart and they know what they want to communicate. The most neuronormal person can say the wrong thing and ruin an event or a relationship by not thinking about what they're going to say first, autistic or not.
True, but only to a certain extent. I've only seen neurotypicals script their conversations when it's something important to them, like asking someone out on a date. But autistics (not all, but quite a few) have to script everything, even the most mundane conversations, because none of it is second nature for them like it is for NTs.
This… makes alot of sense, my mom always thought my little brother might autistic when he was little but now I’ve been relating to ALOT of autistic and nerodivirgent(?) content so im trying to research it better and possibly self diagnose if I am or not and maybe even get a diagnosis eventually if it gets that far and I’ve been wondering why my mom never brought up the possibility of me being autistic when she never cares to sensor her words about literally anything so if she did think about it then why don’t I know? Anyways sorry for the really long comment I just wanted to say this :) (idk why…😅)
Autism shouldn't be the first thought for anyone. Some people just are like that, or it may be something else... For me it is something else, I've been arguing about my incorrect diagnosis for five years already, my previous psychologist flat out refused to acknowledge she made a mistake! Fortunately, recently I was assigned a new psychologist who actually listened and referred me for a personality disorder investigation, accurately diagnosing me with C-PTSD beforehand.
For But It Should Be Thought Of. That Is Important. Know Doesn’t Make Them Come Out More, It Just Make You Think “This Is Because Of This” Instead Of “I Suck, I Should Harm Myself, I’m A Disgrace, I’m Lazy”
@@panromanticpirate I'm not saying this condition should be dismissed, I'm saying it shouldn't be the first thought. Look into other conditions first, make sure it's not trauma or stress that troubles the person, and ONLY THEN consider autism. A professional is supposed to eliminate other possibilities before settling on the diagnosis.
I might have autism but like the signs are so subtle but there's so many and I've come to this realization after studying it for a school project. Tbh I wanna get tested but i already told my mom abt it n she said i was jus shy n different n i never did crazy things. Like i stim a lot but I've always tried suppressing these things n I've always copied other people to seem normal. Also t rex arms n standing on my toes. Also i might hyperfixate? My dad has ADD but like idk i don't think i have enough symptoms
Hey! I know you made this comment like 3 months ago, but I've only come across this video and comment now! Autism isn't always acting out and melting down. it is a lot more subtle in women predominantly (but can also be subtle in men). That's why it's harder to diagnose! some people meltdown, other people will clamp up and hide away. I also found that when I realised I was Autistic, I stopped masking as much because I had a _reason_ why I was doing the stuff I was doing. I could stim If I wanted. I could go non-verbal and nobody would be upset at me for "not wanting to talk" it was very freeing! Also here's something I wish got into my head quicker You aren't faking! you aren't an imposter. You are taking the time to help yourself!
@@elytran_ellie yea thanks! This was when I jus was looking into it n I did a lot more research n me n my therapist are talking abt it still. I don't rlly have any ppl in my life w autism so it's def hard to find info from ppl who actually have it.
I've been practising conversations since I was a kid and have had ridiculous social anxiety to the point I can't even speak. I hate making eye contact the moment i do i feel im the weaker person automatically. I have never been diagnosed with Autism but it's really interesting to hear that in woman it's been ignored.
I think I have autism, I’m not sure. I am currently laying in my bed rn bc my head hurts bc I hit it so hard when I got frustrated and overstimulated 🤔
In America ppl actually encourage others to practice conversations and it’s a way to try to get things like a promotion or to approach a bully (about bullying). I feel it’s kind of sexist and stifling. I read once that spontaneity is healthy and normal and I think most people autistic or not can benefit from more spontaneity in conversation or other situations.
This gender myth you speak of cuts both ways as a 37-year-old autistic man, he would be surprised at how many things are described as narcissistic man, explaining, etc. when it comes to men
Because this is missinformation, i'm a soon to be 20 year old and no one noticed it in me either, i was just shamed until i shut up and became the "MAN" i was supposed to be. It's different for everyone, problem is that a lot'a gals have got the impression that all autistic men get diagnosed and treated as kids, it is not the case, men are just as good at masking their differences when in enviroments that require it, we just get less empathy, as is a reoccuring thing throughout life as a man.
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you Dr Oyalo for saving my son with your herbs. I’m so happy to share this
Just practicing conversations does not mean you are autistic but it’s one of many traits that autistic people may have. People go though the lengthy assessment to get diagnosed. It’s not that simple as to if someone practices conversions or not but it’s extremely common among autistic people
i’ve never understood what it means to over diagnose. how can something be overdiagnosed? it’s only in recent years that people are becoming more aware of autism and how it affects minorities and groups that were previously excluded from autism diagnoses. women, poc, and queer people were never the main subjects of studies on autism, so they were frequently overlooked. now, we understand how vastly different autism can be for so many different people. yes, autism diagnoses have risen very noticeably in the past few years- that’s because now we’re finally beginning to understand what asd truly is.
Not everyone is doing that, that is correct. But most people with toxic shame or who have experienced trauma do. It doesn't automatically mean you have autism.
And at the same time, the diagnosis has exploded in the past 20 years. Honestly it’s soo commonly used at least in the US that it begins to not mean much because soo many people have the diagnosis now.
Well psychopathy is like what one in one hundred? Maybe autism is just a statistically relevant variant of something. That doesn’t mean it’s diagnosed too much.
Also don't trust Tik Tok as your source of information when it comes to autism. There are plenty of folks on there pertaining to having all sorts of neurodiverse issues and or mental health issues. I would agree with the majority of them having mental health/attention seeking issues alright but they've now decided it's fun and trendy to label themselves as autistic or ADHD etc. which the majority of them are not and which is of course completely derogatory to people who ACTUALLY are!
No, it means that autistic people are human beings with human brains that you can relate to to an extent without being autistic. You may have some ankle pain one day, but it doesn't mean your ankle is severely broken.
Most people in wheelchairs can walk. They can't walk for long, or they'll be in pain, but most can walk or at least stand. It's literally the same thing.
Good Analogy
That’s brilliant I’m going to use that!
I've used this a few times to help people understand my abilities and limits. Before my diagnosis I pushed myself and others pushed me really hard to do certain things and fit in a certain box. And I've been dealing with bad mental health since I can remember and going on 3 years of a burnout episode. Finally got a diagnosis and figured out that I've been (in this analogy) forcing myself to walk because everyone else told me it's really easy and there is no reason I shouldn't be able to do it. And the diagnosis was my confirmation that, actually sometimes I need (support/accomidations/less responsibility) a wheelchair inorder to function with less pain and struggle and health problems.
This 🙏🏻 I'm an ambulatory wheelchair user who has an autism diagnostic test tomorrow and can't agree more - people aren't aware of this ✨
@@mikaelastefkova I hope you get a perfect score on your test
I gasped when she said “I didn’t realize everyone didn’t do it” I’ve been saying this for weeks. I just assumed everyone’s life was this daunting all the time.
Isn’t it? I always wonder why people have kids given how difficult life is.
Same here, I heard other introverts, like me, often have a hard time socialising, so I assumed that’s what it was, but I got a diagnosis earlier today, sooooo…
@@75pdubs😂funny point! I actually had my now 4 yr old by accident. At almost 30 yrs old I figured I guesss it’s a fine time for it 😅but honestly, I’ve 100% felt that same way and have just often looked at parents and people in general as somehow superhuman, like I just don’t understand how they get on with so many things when I’ve struggled with even just the basics. But now here I am, a mom, it’s possible 👀 It’s also how I found out I’m on the spectrum bc finding out about my son having ASD led to finding out I have it too. I guess a way I’ve managed it all is having rearing my little one down a supportive path I would’ve been thrilled to have growing up become my new obsession. 😄
@@75pdubsExactly.... I sometimes wish my mother would have just been fine with one child but no..😤
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you Dr Oyalo for saving my son with your herbs. I’m so happy to share this
When people ask me how I mange to socially interact I tell them I have done theatre sinse childhood for 25 years and I am a good actor.
When I was about 30 and beginning to understand my autism, I was invited to be in a play. I hadn’t had any real training in acting, but I found that much of it came almost naturally. Only later did I realize that was because I have to “act” much of the time in real life to fit in and so have a lot of practice.
Can I ask, as I’m also in theatre as a tech, when your acting do you feel like you can put you to one side and you can decode that new person (the character)?? I’ve met many actors who say that’s what they do
Yes! This is what I was thinking about myself
That’s a great analogy😂👌
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you Dr Oyalo for saving my son with your herbs. I’m so happy to share this
I am autistic I usually tell no one about it because of privacy reasons
I'm autistic,I make it a habit of introducing myself as autistic in a professional setting because I have had so many horrible accusations thrown at me because of it all my life,but in a social setting where there are no laws of confidentiality and where people mock ,betray and humiliate you or even weaponise your autism against you ,I usually zip up and try to act as NT as possible,that just makes me look even weirder and attract more abuse ,so now I just reject people before they reject me...I don't need more horrible experiences.People are usually UWU autism...until you do and autism then they attack you.
@@Dimensionalalteration I get what you mean but I choose not to tell folks I something like that does not happen to me you know
Damned if I do, damned if I don't.
Same!!!! I wanna be able to but i'm just really scared. It was hard enough bringing it up to my mom to ask for a diagnosis but she listened and helped me. We told my grandparents but i have a hard time telling anyone else. It'd be nice cause it'd help me out but for now, i'm keeping it to myself (other than when i apply for therapy/supports.)
@@jedi.in.christ tbh I got my diagnosis from a early age and it it like hell for me since I stutter A LOT even to family and it is difficult to order food from restaurants since of my stuttering and I don’t know how to stop or help calm it down a bit
I'm really glad this is becoming more visible and talked about, not just from the autism spe*aks perspective but talking to actually autistic people, actually autistic adults, actually autistic women. The representation and platform is desperately needed because there are so many misconceptions about autism and autism in women. It is thought that a very high percentage of adult women have been missed in early childhood and part of that is rising numbers of late diagnosed women.
Because doctors are sexist? They should be analysing from a psychiatry point of view and if not they shouldn’t be allowed to operate.
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you Dr Oyalo for saving my son with your herbs. I’m so happy to share this
Growing up as an autistic girl I was more often labeled difficult or lazy or defiant vs shy
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Same
Indeed so much it left me with trauma :3
@@Americanamaya i hate trauma :3
Exactly and same
I think I have autism. I practice conversations I want to have with people all the time. When I was young I would socially interact with people, but I never really forged a bond or friendship with any of them. I struggled a lot socially, and I still do. People would make fun of me a lot. During elementary I actually only had 1 friend. Now I share many autism symptoms and a lot of them remind me of when I was younger and how I would act.
I know getting a diagnosis can be difficult - or at least expensive if you go private - but try if you can. Knowing one way or the other will help your state of mind.
@@mariaaguadoball3407 I want to but I'm scared to ask my parents idk why even tho I'm pretty sure they think I have it aswell
@@sophie1238zj Yeah, it's harder when you have to depend on someone else for these things.
I’m in the process of self-identifying (rather than self diagnosing, I do appreciate the distinction in the phrasing) before deciding IF I even want a formal diagnosis, or if it would serve me. I want to say, even just in the past few months and weeks of research and practice, it’s gotten easier to unmask. Even if mostly when I’m alone. It’s SO crazy healing!! I feel my little inner Lacey Myriah feeling happier and more loved and affirmed :) 🩷 I’m sending you love and a gentle squeeze of reassurance. Best of luck ✨🦋
Self diagnosis of autism is about 80% accurate.
My mask is humor and it is razor sharp. It's a 'look at this-not that' distraction. What I don't like is how much I have to rely on tunnel vision. There is too much stimulation to handle if I don't. Especially in situations where I am going from point A to point B. I have to focus only on that task and nevermind who is in the way.
How did you tell me who I am while talking about yourself?
@@Lemmetelluwut It's good too know we're not alone.
This is why I am a turbo fast shopper - I just zoom in on what I need, gush in and out like wind.
Everyone's jealous, and I explain that's why I hate shopping and malls.
(Since I'm not a man , people don't expect this either...)
@@youtube__handle You got it. I keep my eyes narrowed and plow through.
Yeah I’m always making jokes and getting people laughing and smiling. Part of it is that it takes advantage of the halo effect to hide the fact that I’m an autist with many mental health and self image problems.
I have felt different all my life & the more i hear about autism, i suspect this is what is wrong with me. I've never shared this with anyone for fear of judgement or minimizing.
It’s not what’s wrong. There is nothing incorrect about being on the spectrum. As someone coming to terms with their own neurodivergence I hope you figure out what exactly is going in that brain of yours and remember that none of it is wrong or weird. ♾️
Same like I also don't think people would take me seriously after I tell them because now I'm officially 'crazy'
@@toshita7796 Autism isn’t “crazy.” It’s not a mental illness, it’s a developmental disorder.
@@gigahorse1475 I wish people in my life understood that ... I have been called weird and different and crazy all my life .. noone ever thought that it could be just a disorder that I can get help for
@@gigahorse1475autism is a difference in Neurotype not a disorder
Neurotypical people are born with certain strengths and weakness and neurodivergent are born with different strengths and weaknesses
Some of our strengths like hyperfocus can give us abilities far greater than a neurotypical and we’re often more altruistic/ have a strong sense of moral right and wrongness (more so than neurotypicals) which can make us fantastic advocates for the vulnerable
Neurotypical Society has classified those of us with a difficult brain type as “disordered” while new autistic research shows that it is more that our struggles are a result of neurotypical society not being built for us.
The more neurodivergent people are able to unmask and see the strengths and weaknesses of their own neurotype the more we can make society more accessible for all humans
Not just ones that can conform to a specific mold.
I have spent and still do, a great deal of time having "conversations" in my head, from "arguments" or "complex dialog" of difficult situations or what I would desire to do, to deal with problem or confrontation with another/others".
Never thought that other's did not do this.
Is this another peice of autism I was unaware?
Dang, it's hard finding out about all of this after a lifetime of struggling living on the wrong planet.
At least I no longer believe I am crazy.
I've done do this too since i was little im NT to my knowledge ...I thought that's a form of innerdialogue and maybe just entertaining myself?
I was diagnosed at 4 and it took me a while to actually like being autistic, my brain was filled with so many
Toxic thoughts about myself BECAUSE of autism, didn’t help my 1st grade teacher lashed out at my
Mother while insulting me, but now, I love it, I just had to LEARN that it didn’t bring me down no matter if I thought it did
Or not, I couldn’t let it get ahead of me, now I’m learning about it like crazy and I’m actually pretty informed about it
Autistic people, please understand we all have our different opinions and this was my perspective of my diagnosis
No matter what you think about it, don’t let it control you! Hate it or love it TRY to live the best life ya can!
That's why it makes me so upset when people say things they don't mean. Because I think about things before I say them so much
This whole conversation was literally a thought I’ve had privately for years, told no one, searched nothing. This phone is a part of my consciousness!
Or its spying your mind 😂
Yes, this world gets more weird every passing day
If you're autistic you can do anything, it's just like learning to drive. You practice, practice, practice, we as autistic people are so clever, that's what makes us good learners. ❤❤❤
There was a kid with autism and he was being bullied by my friend and so I stood up to him and now that boy if my friend😊😊
Aww thanks- Ik it wasn’t me, but it warms my heart to know that kind people still exist ❤
So I've recently just discovered that I'm on the spectrum. Have to say, I didn;t realise that practicing conversations wasn;t something other people don;t typically do either!
I’m sorry but where do you get the idea that other people don’t do that? This woman is spreading propaganda and false statistics. Anyone with social anxiety does that and they are not autistic.
I'm nt and I practice conversations a lot. I'm shy, but extroverted. Meaning I get energy from being around people, I'm not a party girl though. That is not the greatest combination of character traits 😂
I practice all the time in my head. I also have like a whole TV series going on internally.
Most people do that. I don't really know anyone that never ever practiced conversations. Some do it more times than others.
That in itself is not a good indicator. Nt and nd both do that. Nd might do it more frequently or with a different reason though. But shy people and especially people with social anxiety do it a lot too sometimes.
Yeah, I’m fairly certain I don’t have autism, but I always practice important conversations in my head before having them. I’d say it’s fairly normal, especially for introverted and socially anxious people.
I think about this all the time. My brother has aspergers and we do a lot of things the same. But I get told I'm not on the spectrum at all because I'm too social compared to my brother...
Not trying to be mean, just letting you know: aspergers was removed from the dsm-5 as a diagnosis (aka it's not a thing anymore). You're brother just has level 1 autism spectrum disorder, not aspergers. Just thought I'd kindly let you know 😁
Same here! But finally got a diagnosis 3 years ago, aged 31
That's absurd!
Autism can be genetic, so it's likely you might be autistic? Any updates on it? ♡ /nf
Hey, just letting you know Aspergers is a very bad term to use. It has a Nazi history and I suggest you research a bit ❤
as someone that’s autistic this so true … people look too hard autism doesn’t have looks , looks has nothing to do with what goes on in our brain especially if we are use to masking … but in our shoes we definitely have struggles
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you Dr Oyalo for saving my son with your herbs. I’m so happy to share this
@@user-ev9sw4ee8jsaving ur son from what?
@@user-ev9sw4ee8j yo who’s this dr Oyalo I’ve been hearing about, I think like 6 times I’ve seen someone say this now. Who is he and does he know karate?
32 year old married woman diagnosed this year
Over diagnosed you’re not autistic
@@Doc569if you're gonna say stuff like that at least bring some proof with ya, it's word against word
Yay welcome to the club! Im unmarried 33 afab agender haha :)
It really feels like a club at times lol :D @@TruPunx89
congratulations we love you ❤
I'm pretty sure I'm autistic given that i have adhd, chronic depression, social anxiety. I constantly disappear into my head and surface every few months and desperately try not to sink again but I always do. I'm 43 yrs old, divorced and don't know how to get help. My ex chased me so I still don't really know how to talk to or approach people. Shrug
I mean I don’t think this could be autistic because I have nearly the same symptoms. Maybe it’s not autism but ADHD which is causing a lot of problems. Even I for a while thought I had autism because my maternal cousin also has it. But turns out I only have ADHD or just ADD.
Do you have trouble expressing your feelings to loved ones? For example, I don't understand the concept of "love".. family members of mine will pass and I have no feelings and can't / don't know how to express emotions to the point I try to mimmick people around me
@@IceBreakBottleI'm like that too
The same experiences that cause the coping mechanisms you are describing, the dissociation, also cause ADHD. It's not the cause, it's the effect.
Maybe do some research into cPTSD and toxic shame. Many people with autism also experience this, especially the shame and emotional disregulation, but again: not the cause.
Many symptoms auf autism even are not caused by the autism but by the experience of growing up in this society WITH autism. There are so many ways a person can feel disconnected and different to their surroundings. That's why it's so hard to diagnose.
In the end the diagnose is not that important.
@@IceBreakBottlethat doesnt 100% go with autism but sometimes it can i think (?)
Well, I'm male, and for a while, I thought I was just socially anxious, but just this year, I found out I had autism while taking a test for adhd.
Since when was someone’s personality a disability or disorder?
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@@Josh-wu7kzuhhh sweets, autism is more then a “personality”
I just love Christine she’s my hero she was diagnosed at the same time and age as me and we both are parents to autistic children
Whys she a hero, she's using autism to sell her image, every interview is the same, realises she doesn't need paddy now she has a spotlight, gold digger and she basically admitted that
being autistic is so hard. I "train" conversation basically all day long by talking to myself as if I'm in different situations/scenarios. I feel overwhelmed when I haven't dealt with someone before so preparing helps but it takes a tremendous amount of energy. I found out I'm Autistic at 34. I've been masking my whole life. The burnout I suffered last year was epic. Ever day is a fight.
I know I’m a man but at 46 I’m discovering it probably autistic (old Asperger’s) and also probably ADHD. I’ve questioned it over the last year but my traits have diminished as they would but also I see my masking now. I’m also becoming a bit of an advocate for broader autism especially in women/girls and we are stuck with the idea of “traditional” autism and the traits of autism and Asperger’s are so wide that they can be missed in men and women I’ve the age of 35.
Oh yea theres definitely also instances of men getting diagnosed super late, two that come to mind are anthony hopkins and wentworth miller
@@mpnb2162 agreed, as another example to add to yours, my friends father only got diagnosed when he was about 40 years old,
You can’t be diagnosed with Asperger’s by itself anymore. I’ve been misdiagnosed with Asperger’s. The doctor somehow believed I had limited social interaction. And at the same time ADHD. The reasons for these diagnosis were not updated regularly and the reasons were not explained in depth or in some simpler terms at all. It would also be extremely difficult to still say I have Asperger’s or ADHD. Since that information is outdated. I have discussed with sped teachers about these findings and tests. And they agree i am not on the autism spectrum. I have also not had Attention deficit disorder or hyperactivity disorder/issues. I have had numerous problems with anger throughout my life. And the quackass doctor ignored that. I have also not had any adderall medicine in my life. Not since day one of being misdiagnosed.
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I am Autistic. I am 47 now. I didn't get a DX until 38. They kept saying anything except Autism when I was growing up. I didn't even get that opportunity to figure things out. They just said I was being difficult... that I was being rebellious... that I was a "problem child"... and all sorts of things... but never Autistic.
My point being... it's not just women who get misdiagnosed. In fact, it seems to me that more women are diagnosed at a young age than boys.
Why do I say this? Boys develop slower than girls in a lot of ways. So... Boys are seen as less mature than girls are. This bias can skew an Autism diagnosis. Among many other things.
I understand that women may go undiagnosed... or misdiagnosed. However, so do men... maybe even more so... simply because there are most likely a lot of guys who ARE Autistic... and don't even know.
Men are just expected to tow the line... stay in their own lane... and to not rock the boat. We don't have the luxury of speaking out... asking for help... or even thinking there might be something different going on with ourselves... because we were taught to "toughen up"... "be a man"... "walk it off"... or something similiar.
We're taught to shove everything down... to rise above it... and keep going.
How is it that a boy can grow up and is able to get any real help... when they don't even know WHY everything is so different for them? We don't even think Autism is a possibility.
See... girls are expected to express themselves... but boys are not. We treat Boys and girls very differently... because we ARE different. However, Autism doesn't care about those differences. It just gives you a whole new set of differences... and no one takes that into consideration.
My life would have been VERY different if I had known earlier that I was Autistic. Because I didn't know... I had to undergo over 20 years of misdiagnosis and mistreatment... including all sorts of medications that I now realize I had no business exposing my mind and body to.
So... it gets missed in girls... and boys. But... awareness has spread... and I think it's being acknowledged more and more now rather than when I was growing up.
Masking is terrible and extremely, extremely tiring. Practising conversations is something I do too, especially using lines from movies.
I'm a guy who was diagnosed at 8, but I think I was masking at the time that I got diagnosed, as I did things like observing and imitating other children, and rehearsing conversations. I also played with friends a lot and made eye contact. It also seemed that most of the girls I knew who were diagnosed had a more obvious presentation of Autism than me while most of the people I knew who had a less obvious presentations were guys.
I'm not certain how common it would be for guys to be social and mask but still get diagnosed early, but I think the reason for the under diagnosis of Autism in girls/women might be more complex than girls masking more. For instance I think even when boys and girls mask about the same amount the masked signs of Autism may be more likely to be recognized as signs of Autism in boys than in girls. Also I think there may be a bias towards being more likely to recognize an intense interest as a sign of Autism when it's something more commonly an interest of boys than if it's more commonly an interest of girls.
I also feel that being diagnosed at an early age doesn't help much as some of the accommodations are misaligned and are more to help caretakers than the actual Autistic individual unfortunately.
I am unlearning masking because of that... When I feel, like I need to make weird noises, I will.
Other people: You don't look autistic!
Me: I am autistic and not a downy, how am I supposed to look? *walks around like a pangolin*
I am one of the rarities being a girl diagnosed with autism and I was diagnosed before I even started kindergarten
Same! I was diagnosed at 4!
Welcome to my world. People think that adults don’t have autism, only kids have it. But what happens to those kids that grow up? Yes, they have Autism. We are living it, we bare breathing it, we are living with it we die with it. So a massive thankyou to those that don’t believe that Autism is just foe kids not adults. I’m 44 years old. I’m am living with it. I hate it when adults say only kids can get Autism, what happens to those kids whom grow up with Autism? We are living it and will die with it, like a patient with cancer, it not just restricted to kids. We are adults. We live it, we live it and breath with it for the rest of our lives. It’s not just a a condition we live with as kids, we do grow up as adults with it. I’m a Physicist, a a master with a PH Degree in Practical Application of Time Travel, and a Quantum Mechanics theorists on computers. My thesis has been published five times and I came close to winning the Nobel peace prize although I would not have accepted this gift. My brain is a gift to the world, through Thespian scripts, gags and Jokes. I actually won an award for in 2009. It was an honourable gift to achieve such credit in my local theatre. I refused local press and I helped over 211 people pass their test with advanced computing skills often volunteering at the collage to make it fun foe the at mathematical equations. I received an award for and became a model teacher at the age of just 16 year old to help those whom were illiterate in their compacts. It is with compassion and my joy in working with people that I helped them get jobs, learn new skills and adopt to new environments. I loved helping people out. I am the author of 11 books published under a different name all before the age of 21. I help the poor with sandwiches and a bottle of water in the streets when I can with my own money. I’m proud to be an upstanding citizen of my home town in Rhyl, North Wales. I love all sorts of people especially my future wife Naomi who I will marry in 2024. She is my world. I’m rich, famous I direct t.v shows/series and now films and I love it. But helping people is my greatest gift. Love you all, Hanseatic David Stonebridge born in Germany. Peace to all of mankind ❤️
Its mostly the meltdowns for me, i cant function for long on public and yet somebow i was never diagnosed or they thought i was making it up :')
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Wow, this is extremely interesting. Thank you for the info!
I was just diagnosed in spite of having a 30 year career. I almost always practice conversations. I never look people in the eye, but I do stare at people's mouths which may be close enough to fool some people. Maybe.
Which explains why I went into dentistry…😂I stared at people’s teeth😂🤷🏽♀️
I have autismn, yeah it sucks for certain jobs I can't learn anything can't pay attention but other than that I don't remember I have it. Friends are patient who know and everything
I have Autism and that is so relatable
Many therapists told me I couldn’t possibly be autistic, I’m a pretty girl
OH HECK NAW
Definitely been with some autistic girls in my time. Kind of kick myself that I didn’t say something to them. They were dealing with bad mental health and I had the nagging feeling they might be but didn’t want to be intrusive.
I have practiced conversations for 20+ years, maybe even all my life. I am 43, and i dont even know how not to mask.
I'm autistic too
an ambulance worker asked me how i'm allowed to drive . . . .
I've had a psychiatrist tell me exactly that yesterday. "You're not autistic, your have family and can talk to me."
Expect I know for sure I am. Well, I guess that'll have to be good enough 😅
🤓 he stupid
I hate how misrepresented,and misunderstood autism in the medical industry still is. it's incredibly frustrating.
Wow, I have pre-conversations in my head constantly. I thought everyone must do it 😅
I did not know Christine has autism. But like she said anyone could have it. It's a good thing people should take seriously in the world. Also people should stop calling someone disabled. They don't even know the meaning of it. They need to think what they are saying. if their kids have that. How would some annoying people would. Some who said mean staff they should be ashamed of themselves. Respect.
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I have autism and every ones just like oh she’ll grow out of it but then nothing happens I’m 10 and I still walk on my toes and I don’t use cutlery I will only use one pencil at school I always put things in my mouth and I always do animal things and noises but I don’t like loud or bussy things 😅and nothings worse when some ones mean to you because you’re different
To be frank, my grandad and my mom usually use this methos to. They masking to blended in 😢
Theres no incentive for someone to change when the system they created still benefits them.
I pretty sure I'm autistic too. My son has been diagnosed. I asked my GP and completely more or less stated I'm probably not
ALL AUTISM IS DIFFERENT!
When i was young i got tested and diagnosed with aspurgers which is autism, one day a kid in my art class in middle school was talking abt his little brother having autism and it was a bad case where he had to be in special education, i brought up my autism and he said so surely and positivly i was not autistic! Cuz i did not act like his brother💀
And it made me so pissed this rando kid thought that he was a child psychologist or smth and he self diagnosed me it still makes me upset to this day.
I was diagnosed but the psychologist said if he could "choose" between diagnosing me with autism or adhd he'd "pick" adhd like they were practically the same thing. He said most of my symptoms are probably just anxiety and i only got diagnosed because of my noise sensitivity and need noise cancelling headphones. I was so frustrated with him, he evern still uses the less autistic more autistic belief rather then the pie chart that's used now as it's a spectrum.
flip of a coin
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Sigh... I still have problems at my college with math, I'm constantly depressed, I still miss Rush the band playing in Poland (they never did), I'm obsessed with geopolitics due to the threats of war and I also want to be a full-time rock musician.... maybe I'm famously autistic?!
But if people with autism are doing well. How come people with High autism does not talk and struggling to speak. Even they are special need. That mean a main problem. But some are good and some don't understand and difficult for them.
How can you diagnose highly functioning autistic people? It seems like all the symptoms are generally relatable, I mean everyone has different personalities.
Because autism is more than having a "different personality" and medical professionals are trained in recognizing it. They can differentiate between autistic social difficulties and shyness, habits and rituals, regular hobbies and special interests. Autistics are still autistic, even if you interpret their traits as neurotypical. We don't call it high-functioning anymore by the way.
It’s not a personality, when I got my diagnosis(mines not mild but it’s mild to moderate, mainly moderate)medical professionals had to examine and observe me for 8 days under long-term anesthesia, lost of tests and observations, autism is a disability(pls I don’t dislike having it, I’m one of the probably very few that quite enjoy it)even if it’s extremely small
I usually think about every kind of scenario but I always end up making myself procrastinate in the end cause I was only thinking about what of those bad scenarios actually happened and not thinking about the good cause your so caught up In everything
But autism is a good thing. People who have it can do anything going out independent and learning to drive. Also even finding love and getting a job. They are really intelligent and manage okay.
So then what is autistic about them?
“even finding love and getting a job”
just the way thats worded is kind of
@@Josh-wu7kzBRO TF
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@@Josh-wu7kzb4 “autistic”doesn’t mean ur dumb
I have been an advocate for autism awareness for over 20 years, the only bias that exists according to the science is that autism affects males more than females, even in studies that adequately capture data across gender lines. There is also a trend recently to make autism and intersectional issue, it is not, there may be other comorbidity prevalent but these are not intersectional issues exclusive to autism.
This is so relatable..
She looks comfortable. Most with autism can be extremely awkward.
My mothers father was autistic, my mother and me as well. They would never admit it. If you pay attention it's easy to see. You don't want to be autistic its tuff.
I mean Idk, maybe for some, but for others we rather see it as unique then tough, I understand though, it took me years after diagnosis to actually like autism itself
Neurotypical people are kinda quirky ngl
I had a teacher in middle school tell me that autism hadn’t made its way to Africa yet, so there’s no way I could be autistic.
"Made it's way to Africa?" What 😭 Autism isn't a disease or illness, and it definitely doesn't spread. It's not contagious 😂😭
@@CrimsonMushroomtbf it’s genetic but Ik what you mean 😭😭😭
I’m in theatre bc I’m so so passionate about it but I have undiagnosed autism (my parents are too insecure about having two autistic children)
Nice nice, now that I think about it I’m so lucky to have an autistic parent that actually understood me. I always dreaded that my mother would pick me up from school when I was sick or just in a terrible mood that I couldn’t get out of. She would’ve yelled at me if I did something “wrong”. While my father with autism would drive me to get McDonald’s and talk about how I could fix my behaviour if it needed it and change my mood next time it came to be like that.
Beautiful
I feel like those that can mask or mild autism are lucky
Someone whose pet died, is “luckier” than someone whose child died.
But they’re still both awful, and it’s insensitive to tell the person whose pet died that they’re “luckier” compared to other people.
That’s how I feel as someone with autism.
Masking is not a good thing, it's a defense mechanism, being good at it only ensures that you either live a life of secret shame, or end up with C-PTSD on top of everything else as you're about to start adult life, you're f-ed either way.
@@JustAlexeiiyes! I get ur point! Please don’t take this as rude but I was diagnosed at 4 and it took me years to actually like being autistic, I don’t like that we have to mask around people though:(
@@Riley.-sJoy Please (also) don’t take this as rude but how does it relate to my original comment, sorry?
Masking can cause it's own issues, and low support needs people still have many struggles
There are definitely gender bias issues in psychology; but practicing things you'll say is something almost everybody does, if they're smart and they know what they want to communicate. The most neuronormal person can say the wrong thing and ruin an event or a relationship by not thinking about what they're going to say first, autistic or not.
True, but only to a certain extent. I've only seen neurotypicals script their conversations when it's something important to them, like asking someone out on a date. But autistics (not all, but quite a few) have to script everything, even the most mundane conversations, because none of it is second nature for them like it is for NTs.
This… makes alot of sense, my mom always thought my little brother might autistic when he was little but now I’ve been relating to ALOT of autistic and nerodivirgent(?) content so im trying to research it better and possibly self diagnose if I am or not and maybe even get a diagnosis eventually if it gets that far and I’ve been wondering why my mom never brought up the possibility of me being autistic when she never cares to sensor her words about literally anything so if she did think about it then why don’t I know?
Anyways sorry for the really long comment I just wanted to say this :) (idk why…😅)
I literally have 2 symptoms and Im autistic so
yeah
Stay mentally healthy girlies
I can’t tell if you’re being facetious- the flip tone.
Autism shouldn't be the first thought for anyone. Some people just are like that, or it may be something else... For me it is something else, I've been arguing about my incorrect diagnosis for five years already, my previous psychologist flat out refused to acknowledge she made a mistake! Fortunately, recently I was assigned a new psychologist who actually listened and referred me for a personality disorder investigation, accurately diagnosing me with C-PTSD beforehand.
For But It Should Be Thought Of. That Is Important. Know Doesn’t Make Them Come Out More, It Just Make You Think “This Is Because Of This” Instead Of “I Suck, I Should Harm Myself, I’m A Disgrace, I’m Lazy”
@@panromanticpirate I'm not saying this condition should be dismissed, I'm saying it shouldn't be the first thought. Look into other conditions first, make sure it's not trauma or stress that troubles the person, and ONLY THEN consider autism. A professional is supposed to eliminate other possibilities before settling on the diagnosis.
@@who2449that’s actually a good point. My sister is diagnosed with adhd and I’ll be honest, idk if it is the right diagnosis or not
I might have autism but like the signs are so subtle but there's so many and I've come to this realization after studying it for a school project. Tbh I wanna get tested but i already told my mom abt it n she said i was jus shy n different n i never did crazy things. Like i stim a lot but I've always tried suppressing these things n I've always copied other people to seem normal. Also t rex arms n standing on my toes. Also i might hyperfixate? My dad has ADD but like idk i don't think i have enough symptoms
Hey! I know you made this comment like 3 months ago, but I've only come across this video and comment now!
Autism isn't always acting out and melting down. it is a lot more subtle in women predominantly (but can also be subtle in men). That's why it's harder to diagnose!
some people meltdown, other people will clamp up and hide away.
I also found that when I realised I was Autistic, I stopped masking as much because I had a _reason_ why I was doing the stuff I was doing. I could stim If I wanted. I could go non-verbal and nobody would be upset at me for "not wanting to talk" it was very freeing!
Also here's something I wish got into my head quicker
You aren't faking! you aren't an imposter.
You are taking the time to help yourself!
you don't have "not enough symptoms" there's no such thing as not enough symptoms
@@elytran_ellie yea thanks! This was when I jus was looking into it n I did a lot more research n me n my therapist are talking abt it still. I don't rlly have any ppl in my life w autism so it's def hard to find info from ppl who actually have it.
@@necro.bunniizz9736 that's fair! I wish you the best!
I've been practising conversations since I was a kid and have had ridiculous social anxiety to the point I can't even speak. I hate making eye contact the moment i do i feel im the weaker person automatically. I have never been diagnosed with Autism but it's really interesting to hear that in woman it's been ignored.
I think I have autism, I’m not sure. I am currently laying in my bed rn bc my head hurts bc I hit it so hard when I got frustrated and overstimulated 🤔
@@aftereight5266 what?
Masking, is tapping a hammer on glass.
In America ppl actually encourage others to practice conversations and it’s a way to try to get things like a promotion or to approach a bully (about bullying). I feel it’s kind of sexist and stifling. I read once that spontaneity is healthy and normal and I think most people autistic or not can benefit from more spontaneity in conversation or other situations.
Wow I didn't know this.
This gender myth you speak of cuts both ways as a 37-year-old autistic man, he would be surprised at how many things are described as narcissistic man, explaining, etc. when it comes to men
Doesn't help me at all for people to know I'm on the spectrum.
That's so true.
Im 19 and have only been diagnosed mid 2023 and i dont understand it, im a man
Because this is missinformation, i'm a soon to be 20 year old and no one noticed it in me either, i was just shamed until i shut up and became the "MAN" i was supposed to be. It's different for everyone, problem is that a lot'a gals have got the impression that all autistic men get diagnosed and treated as kids, it is not the case, men are just as good at masking their differences when in enviroments that require it, we just get less empathy, as is a reoccuring thing throughout life as a man.
@@mustachecrab9669they didnt say autistic men didn’t mask or go undiagnosed lmao, they said women are more likely to
Talk about being autistic on my channel. Very few subscribers, fortunate I have a little community going on.
"Invisible work".. YEA...
I’m a girl who got diagnosed early so you know I’ve got to be particularly low-functioning.
Functioning labels are rooted in ableism.
@@rahbeeuh It’s not ableism that makes me unable to study what I want for as long as I want even when medicated.
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Wait? What? Not everyone practices conversations?
:O I practice conversations
THIS!
Wait. Swans have flippers?
I practice conversations and I don’t have autism 🤔
Could be social anxiety. Totally up to you if you want to research it tho
Just practicing conversations does not mean you are autistic but it’s one of many traits that autistic people may have. People go though the lengthy assessment to get diagnosed. It’s not that simple as to if someone practices conversions or not but it’s extremely common among autistic people
Yes, just like how you can have ankle pain without your ankle being severely broken.
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People dont practice conversations???
@Bullhorn Betty says autistic children are Defective. What does that mean?
Being autism sucks
Do people really not practice conversations? I thought that was normal
It is normal. Autistic traits aren't autism exclusive.
My experience is the opposite that they overdiagnose it
i’ve never understood what it means to over diagnose. how can something be overdiagnosed? it’s only in recent years that people are becoming more aware of autism and how it affects minorities and groups that were previously excluded from autism diagnoses. women, poc, and queer people were never the main subjects of studies on autism, so they were frequently overlooked. now, we understand how vastly different autism can be for so many different people. yes, autism diagnoses have risen very noticeably in the past few years- that’s because now we’re finally beginning to understand what asd truly is.
Majority of autistic people are not diagnosed.
Not everyone is doing that, that is correct. But most people with toxic shame or who have experienced trauma do. It doesn't automatically mean you have autism.
Nobody said all people with social issues are autistic goober
Why is every other person trying to label themselves as autistic nowadays.
I have it its not fun sometimes
Because people are just now learning about it. Why are there so many electric cars nowadays?
Because we aren't being murdered for it and can actually get necessary accomodations.
Why Are There So Many Left Handed People After We Stoped Viewed Them As Satanic!
And at the same time, the diagnosis has exploded in the past 20 years. Honestly it’s soo commonly used at least in the US that it begins to not mean much because soo many people have the diagnosis now.
Well psychopathy is like what one in one hundred? Maybe autism is just a statistically relevant variant of something. That doesn’t mean it’s diagnosed too much.
It’s just diagnosed much more than before in women so it seems as though the numbers are going up but really it’s just more people with diagnosis’s.
It’s all the many people who were missed over the last 35 years.
Also don't trust Tik Tok as your source of information when it comes to autism. There are plenty of folks on there pertaining to having all sorts of neurodiverse issues and or mental health issues. I would agree with the majority of them having mental health/attention seeking issues alright but they've now decided it's fun and trendy to label themselves as autistic or ADHD etc. which the majority of them are not and which is of course completely derogatory to people who ACTUALLY are!
Dors this mean that any little discrepancy on human behavior can be justifiied as autism?
No, it means that autistic people are human beings with human brains that you can relate to to an extent without being autistic. You may have some ankle pain one day, but it doesn't mean your ankle is severely broken.
Well, generally women don’t have autism.
It’s quite rare.
No, it's just severely underdiagnosed in women.
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