I've never been a fan of Khanyi but I liked her immediately on this new show, and she did a fantastic job. To my brother you did a good thing by coming out and tell your family. I pray GOD heals you in the mighty name of our Lord JESUS CHRIST aphelise nalo confusion ekuwe.🙏🏾
Dear khanyi mbau,sweetheart this is for you,you were born for this...thank you for showing support an love to the guy..your presenting skill shows your respect and love to the victim..I really applaud you..job well done mama❤❤❤❤🙌🙌🙌🙌
right his mum did not even hug him! shame ! and what pissed me off was her defending herself for leaving and saying"you were not that young when i left" had she not have a drinking problem the divorce would not have happened
People they keep saying wooow khanyi is intelligent . Well she always been just because some people they were judging her appearance then her intelligence. Thanks for the show skhokholishasi
The mother is dead inside, didnt show any emotions. I hope she finds her own healing and that nurturing God given instincts feelings of a mother be revived .So this guy can also be healed
A sad story indeed, life though, we are going through things maaan. Big up to Khanyi Mbau, your presenting skills is on another level girl, keep it up!!
Honestly he is very right when he said divorce destroys everything…the devil uses it not only to destroy the couple but also to mess the kids,is just sad
Oh when he spoke about his kids, my heart melted. .... Even though it's not often discussed but being bi is okay and normal. Even though how he's story started is heartbreaking, he should know that it's okay to be bi and he shouldn't feel bad or ashamed about it.
Hand shakes ? Oh JESUS, teach black people how to be affectionate towards their loved ones. Amen.I will pray for this young man. The devil is a liar ! You Lord will restore His purity and heal him in ways no human can. I pray that you restore the years eaten by locusts where his peace is concerned. And that us as a generation get to experience his gifts and celebrate him.
one of mystudents used to go through this ,done by the step dad and the never knew anything,it damaged that boy ,a grade 7 boy! people are sick out here😥💔
KHANYI MBAU!! Mama, You PERFECTED your hosting. You were born for this. So charismatic, so passionate and all. You killed it. Looking forward to the next episodes.🤗
I like the way Khanyi does the show very humble, calm and collected she listens very well, the story is very heartbreaking now the poor guy is confused, but I think now he's getting into a healing process,
I think the should also be a show where victims confront perpetrators not all are in jail not all have. Am disgusted by individuals who take advantage of the vulnerable. What a humble family❤
That was child abuse in every angle. Never feel was your fault. I’m glad you rose above the water . Thanks for sharing I hope and pray you getting proper therapy . And again try not to mind bantu bazothini syndrome remember you helping young people out there to seek help A.S.P all the best Razo
Some spirits are transfered through touch. Judas kissed Jesus, transffering death. Pastors lay hands on people and transmit various spirits to people. This man is now stuck in his childhood in terms of his sexuality because some one transfered homosexuality to him. What he needs to confront in theraphy might be that he felt the deed by that person was wrong but it awoke 'real feelings' feelings he didn't fully allow himself to feel to this day.
my brother everyone have a deep secret so never worry about what people will say but to tell people about your secret it will not be a secret anymore, and no one will use your secret against you.
The man who sexually molested Arnold could have been sexually abused himself,by other men too. Therefore,the perpetrator is a victim of the continuous cycle of abuse. Arnold could have been a perpetrator too,but instead,he chosen speaking out,although lately so. My question is,did he experimented with other men as a result of the past psychological impact of the sexual molestation or he was bisexual even prior to the abuse? We should be careful not to appropriate a wrong impression that being a homosexual is triggered by same-gender abuse. Anorld said so himself:" WHAT I KNOW FOR SURE,I'M NOT STRAIGHT ",so he could have been bisexual even prior to the unfortunate incident. We don't have official police statistics of same-gender abuse & rape in this country,that on its own is problematic because it shows that this kind of abuse is underreported & mostly neglected. Sexual assault of young men by older men is far more prevalent in our society,the power dynamics between the victims & perpetrators creates an environment of shame & silence. Hence the majority of victims would never speak out,instead they would rather suffer in silence,become bullies & homophobic(most men who are overly homophobic towards gay men were sexually abused by other men) or become sexual molesters by raping either young boys or women. It is not even surprising that we have the highest GBV rates in the world. Our men are broken by other men,religion,culture,toxic & hyper masculinity create barriers for them to speak out & seek help. Arnold is a hero for facing his truth but he needs to differentiate his own sexuality with the past sexual abuse. If he was born a bisexual,he would have been still been bisexual even if he wasn't sexually abused by another man. I'm also saddened by the fact that after disclosing his past ordeal to his Mom & brother,he couldn't hug them. He was more comfortable to hug Khanyi than his own Mom & brother. They all need counseling.
I like how the brother came out and said growing up Arnold used to love role playing and he, Arnold, would want to be the mother during role playing. Therefore, I think he was bi because our families do actually pick up such behaviors from us.
I've heard his brother saying so too,which possibly means his sexuality & the sexual abused he encountered are not directly interwined. I'm saying so because there are men who were sexually abused by other men when they were young who didn't become gays or bisexuals. The devastating impact of sexual abuse,whether same-gender abuse or any form of sexual or emotional abuse has devastating long-term trauma that can completely change & affect a character of a person,forever. More so if the victim doesn't speak out earlier & seek help. We should also be cautious not to assume that every gay/bisexual man become a homosexual because they were sexually abused by other men. It is a dangerous mindset as it insinuates that gay/bisexual men are perverts & paedophiles who are secretly always on the lookout for a potential victims to sexually assault. It is the same misguided myths about lesbian women,some ignorant people believe they became lesbians because of failed relationship with men & that can be rectified through rape. We seriously need to learn,relearn & unlearn.
He needs counseling. His decision to be gay/bisexual is influenced by the childhood trauma. He is confused about who he truly is. I hope the show provides the help he so desperately needs
That was my exact takeaway from watching. I felt Khanyi and the show just want to have people air out their secrets and aren't invested in the aftermath. This man needs counselling :(
What a beautiful family. It pains me to see that it's as though mama doesn't understand the depth, maybe because of her age she doesn't think male rape is real. I'm regarding this to how she chuckled when she heard it for the first time, I felt like she was saying oh ok I thought it was something big. the brother got it. But over all they are such a beautiful family, I hope even the mother of his kids will be supportive. Peace
So sorry brother,this can happen to anyone anytime because you didn't call it. Am even crying right now thinking and looking to my boy as his still young the challenge his going to face in this journey of life. Brother please support him, I like the fact of you guys love each other😂😂😂
Why would people judge him for this? This is not acceptable to anyone regardless of what gender you are, it's rape and unfortunately it happens to us men and we are scared to come out and talk about it because we are scared of how we will be viewed...Even if he wanted to tell his mom that he is "gay/bisexual" we don't have a right to judge another person's lifestyle!
Ai this woman didn't even show emotions, to hold her child comforting him. Giving him a handshake as of they just sealed a business deal. And she's forcing him to be what she wants him to be, instead of helping him find himself and be okay with who he chooses to be.
@@ptladi3962 on the mark. Its more of it shows your weakness in a sense & ppl/children will take advantage of you. Thats the mentality most African parents have. For my son i usually say i love you, give him a hug b4 heading to bed but he knows he doesn't mess with me coz i do crack the whip
These things are so real. Molestation took place when he was way too young but look at what happened to him later. So these things are very spiritual, the spirit of homosexuality entered him and we live in a world where we entertain these things we say that's how they were born. No, God does not make a mistake.
The fact that your child is innocent then a perpetrator comes and take away the child s innocence and they now develop confusion because of that evil man before that they were fine😡😡😡😡
I think they advertise before the show is birthed. Like in Moja love, in most of their new shows, they advertise the idea behind a show and provide a number or email address for people who wish to participate to contact them. I never saw an ad for this one anywhere though🥴
this world we live in is fucked up, even your own so called family will betray you in ways you would never imagine and it hurts. I bet those are one of thee reasons a lot of people become depressed and suffer from anxiety because this world the people are acting as if there is no God to fear. YES we sin but there are things we should know not to do. And people think that others are just trying to look for attention when they say they are depressed and shit. A SHOUT OUT TO ALL WITH WHATEVER IS BOTHERING THEM,ALWAYS AND ALWAYS TURN TO CHRIST ATLEAST TRY TO.
Usually divorce has an effect on children as they don’t want to understand why my family is not the same as my friend. dad is far or mom.It is a good thing to be there for your kids through it all,show them and tell them that you love them.Let them know that we are getting a divorce but there won’t be a change and make them feel that way.It doesn’t helping hidding it as in the end the truth will come out and it will have more unanswered questions and hatered as they grow up.
You can tell by the mother’s face and the fact that the parents divorced party because of her drinking, I hold her responsible for these people’s childhood trauma
Please note. We need to hear the whole truth about Senzo Mayiwa..consider talking to Kelly Khumalo about what happened. South African's and the Mayiwa's family needs answers.
@@mamorakapertuniamatlala8963 a sick thing is people like you . We South Africans need to know how Senzo was killed in her mother's house. If ever it was my family that died in that house. His wife and children and family needs answers.
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The way he hugged Khanyi made me lose it 😭 😢. He’s such a beautiful soul and I wish him nothing but healing 🙏🏿.
The emotional intelligence shown by Khanyi is incredible. She’s the perfect presenter and facilitator for this show 👏🏾🙌🏾👏🏾🙌🏾
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I will let know once we get out of bed.
I've never been a fan of Khanyi but I liked her immediately on this new show, and she did a fantastic job.
To my brother you did a good thing by coming out and tell your family. I pray GOD heals you in the mighty name of our Lord JESUS CHRIST aphelise nalo confusion ekuwe.🙏🏾
Dear khanyi mbau,sweetheart this is for you,you were born for this...thank you for showing support an love to the guy..your presenting skill shows your respect and love to the victim..I really applaud you..job well done mama❤❤❤❤🙌🙌🙌🙌
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
He needed a hug not a handshake, the way he hugged Khanyi!
right his mum did not even hug him! shame ! and what pissed me off was her defending herself for leaving and saying"you were not that young when i left" had she not have a drinking problem the divorce would not have happened
@@jeswazwadi7049 it’s heartbreaking
I wanted to cry 💔
People they keep saying wooow khanyi is intelligent . Well she always been just because some people they were judging her appearance then her intelligence. Thanks for the show skhokholishasi
It's humbling to see a respectful side of Khanyi, well mannered to the elders with empathy, wow. I am amazed,
go watch her interview with MACG
She’s always been like this, a very humble respectful soul
Khanyi has always been dope, I met her once and she was soo lovely.
I'm sorry my brother ♥, May God heal every broken part of you and restore it completely In Jesus Name Amen
The mother is dead inside, didnt show any emotions. I hope she finds her own healing and that nurturing God given instincts feelings of a mother be revived .So this guy can also be healed
As a mother to a young boy this brought me to tears.
the way he glowed when he spoked about his children
His brother is in deep pain than his mother.... Hope he finds all the help he needs. Khanyi u are the best presenter 🥰🥰
A sad story indeed, life though, we are going through things maaan. Big up to Khanyi Mbau, your presenting skills is on another level girl, keep it up!!
Agh man this is so sad. I hope this man gets all the healing and comfort he needs.
Wow Khanyi's composure and how she talks in the show is amazing🙌
Honestly he is very right when he said divorce destroys everything…the devil uses it not only to destroy the couple but also to mess the kids,is just sad
Oh when he spoke about his kids, my heart melted. .... Even though it's not often discussed but being bi is okay and normal. Even though how he's story started is heartbreaking, he should know that it's okay to be bi and he shouldn't feel bad or ashamed about it.
Hand shakes ? Oh JESUS, teach black people how to be affectionate towards their loved ones. Amen.I will pray for this young man. The devil is a liar ! You Lord will restore His purity and heal him in ways no human can. I pray that you restore the years eaten by locusts where his peace is concerned. And that us as a generation get to experience his gifts and celebrate him.
Amen :)
Amen and thank you for this comment.
one of mystudents used to go through this ,done by the step dad and the never knew anything,it damaged that boy ,a grade 7 boy! people are sick out here😥💔
7 years old😬
Wat happened
So brave of you my friend. Good unto you for living your truth.
KHANYI MBAU!!
Mama, You PERFECTED your hosting.
You were born for this.
So charismatic, so passionate and all.
You killed it. Looking forward to the next episodes.🤗
I like the way Khanyi does the show very humble, calm and collected she listens very well, the story is very heartbreaking now the poor guy is confused, but I think now he's getting into a healing process,
Well done Khanyi
He's such a beautiful soul
😭❤️
I think the should also be a show where victims confront perpetrators not all are in jail not all have. Am disgusted by individuals who take advantage of the vulnerable. What a humble family❤
That was child abuse in every angle. Never feel was your fault. I’m glad you rose above the water . Thanks for sharing I hope and pray you getting proper therapy . And again try not to mind bantu bazothini syndrome remember you helping young people out there to seek help A.S.P all the best Razo
My brother u are a man amongst the man.God will heal all ur wounds in Jesus s name. AMEN.
Great Show!! You guys are tackling real issues!!
I felt the brothers shock💔💔💔 may the good Lord heal you mebroe
Khanyi is a great presenter..
Khanyi is pretty🔥 her presentation skills. She's good
Strength to you my brother.You have a loving family ,I trust they will support you.
Khanyi you are deep when it comes listening
Jehova 😢khanyi we thank you for this show
This was really great! I love the show! I pray that the man finds healing and gets the support he needs.
Now this is what we call family. 🙏♥️
The way he hugged Khanyi 😭😭😭
Some spirits are transfered through touch. Judas kissed Jesus, transffering death. Pastors lay hands on people and transmit various spirits to people. This man is now stuck in his childhood in terms of his sexuality because some one transfered homosexuality to him. What he needs to confront in theraphy might be that he felt the deed by that person was wrong but it awoke 'real feelings' feelings he didn't fully allow himself to feel to this day.
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my brother everyone have a deep secret so never worry about what people will say but to tell people about your secret it will not be a secret anymore, and no one will use your secret against you.
Well done khanyi mbau...That hugg 🙌🙌🙌
The man who sexually molested Arnold could have been sexually abused himself,by other men too. Therefore,the perpetrator is a victim of the continuous cycle of abuse. Arnold could have been a perpetrator too,but instead,he chosen speaking out,although lately so. My question is,did he experimented with other men as a result of the past psychological impact of the sexual molestation or he was bisexual even prior to the abuse? We should be careful not to appropriate a wrong impression that being a homosexual is triggered by same-gender abuse. Anorld said so himself:" WHAT I KNOW FOR SURE,I'M NOT STRAIGHT ",so he could have been bisexual even prior to the unfortunate incident. We don't have official police statistics of same-gender abuse & rape in this country,that on its own is problematic because it shows that this kind of abuse is underreported & mostly neglected. Sexual assault of young men by older men is far more prevalent in our society,the power dynamics between the victims & perpetrators creates an environment of shame & silence. Hence the majority of victims would never speak out,instead they would rather suffer in silence,become bullies & homophobic(most men who are overly homophobic towards gay men were sexually abused by other men) or become sexual molesters by raping either young boys or women. It is not even surprising that we have the highest GBV rates in the world. Our men are broken by other men,religion,culture,toxic & hyper masculinity create barriers for them to speak out & seek help. Arnold is a hero for facing his truth but he needs to differentiate his own sexuality with the past sexual abuse. If he was born a bisexual,he would have been still been bisexual even if he wasn't sexually abused by another man. I'm also saddened by the fact that after disclosing his past ordeal to his Mom & brother,he couldn't hug them. He was more comfortable to hug Khanyi than his own Mom & brother. They all need counseling.
You absolutely right there i come across such people and its so sad listening but all you have to do is offer counselling
I like how the brother came out and said growing up Arnold used to love role playing and he, Arnold, would want to be the mother during role playing. Therefore, I think he was bi because our families do actually pick up such behaviors from us.
I've heard his brother saying so too,which possibly means his sexuality & the sexual abused he encountered are not directly interwined. I'm saying so because there are men who were sexually abused by other men when they were young who didn't become gays or bisexuals. The devastating impact of sexual abuse,whether same-gender abuse or any form of sexual or emotional abuse has devastating long-term trauma that can completely change & affect a character of a person,forever. More so if the victim doesn't speak out earlier & seek help. We should also be cautious not to assume that every gay/bisexual man become a homosexual because they were sexually abused by other men. It is a dangerous mindset as it insinuates that gay/bisexual men are perverts & paedophiles who are secretly always on the lookout for a potential victims to sexually assault. It is the same misguided myths about lesbian women,some ignorant people believe they became lesbians because of failed relationship with men & that can be rectified through rape. We seriously need to learn,relearn & unlearn.
@@mmeshikgaphola419 you just took the words out of my mouth, well spoken and it's the truth
Well said...His sexuality could’ve been the very same reason that he was molested because they tried to correct him😭😭
I think he liked role playing bcz he needed his mom around at that time... Kodwa the mom is so cold😭
He needs counseling. His decision to be gay/bisexual is influenced by the childhood trauma. He is confused about who he truly is. I hope the show provides the help he so desperately needs
That was my exact takeaway from watching. I felt Khanyi and the show just want to have people air out their secrets and aren't invested in the aftermath. This man needs counselling :(
@@sphindz That's very typical of these shows and it's damaging.
@@Christy_Shongwe It’s very disheartening 🥺
🥺oh God heal us as a nation....this land is sick
Heart breaking story goodness me hope he finds peace and healing 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾♥️
This guy is so well spoken hey.🙆🏽♀️
This is quite informative and big up to Khanyi. She is great
She’s the perfect person for this job
His brother though 🤗💕
Yah kunzima
Wow this is a good show my brother Arnold wish u all the best.
Khanyi is a perfect presenter🔥🔥
True❤️
I'm truly hurt by this... 😭Stay strong and keep your faith
sexual abuse is a dangerous thing. perpetrators should be hung. This tore my heart to pieces. Sending you love my brother.
Nice family. ..wish mcedi was my brother 😊
What a beautiful family. It pains me to see that it's as though mama doesn't understand the depth, maybe because of her age she doesn't think male rape is real. I'm regarding this to how she chuckled when she heard it for the first time, I felt like she was saying oh ok I thought it was something big. the brother got it. But over all they are such a beautiful family, I hope even the mother of his kids will be supportive. Peace
Wow! Khanyi you did good💖💖💖
So sorry brother,this can happen to anyone anytime because you didn't call it. Am even crying right now thinking and looking to my boy as his still young the challenge his going to face in this journey of life. Brother please support him, I like the fact of you guys love each other😂😂😂
Khanyi looks beautiful here 💕💕
I'm in tears
It's Brotherhood love for me.
Why would people judge him for this? This is not acceptable to anyone regardless of what gender you are, it's rape and unfortunately it happens to us men and we are scared to come out and talk about it because we are scared of how we will be viewed...Even if he wanted to tell his mom that he is "gay/bisexual" we don't have a right to judge another person's lifestyle!
Wishing him a big healing..
Joh💔💔💔 trying so hard not to cry🥺🥺
Ai this woman didn't even show emotions, to hold her child comforting him. Giving him a handshake as of they just sealed a business deal. And she's forcing him to be what she wants him to be, instead of helping him find himself and be okay with who he chooses to be.
You know most old Africans don't show emotions, its not tht she doesn't feel something
@@ptladi3962 not showing them amounts to not caring....h9w did she comfort him while he was a baby, but it makes she left them with their father.
@@ptladi3962 on the mark. Its more of it shows your weakness in a sense & ppl/children will take advantage of you. Thats the mentality most African parents have. For my son i usually say i love you, give him a hug b4 heading to bed but he knows he doesn't mess with me coz i do crack the whip
These things are so real. Molestation took place when he was way too young but look at what happened to him later. So these things are very spiritual, the spirit of homosexuality entered him and we live in a world where we entertain these things we say that's how they were born. No, God does not make a mistake.
So proud of him ❤️
And his family
Blessings
The fact that your child is innocent then a perpetrator comes and take away the child s innocence and they now develop confusion because of that evil man before that they were fine😡😡😡😡
Well good for you my guy. Speaking your truth,it's ok
💔💔💔💔
So sad so sorri wat u went thru broda i hope u wl overcome by getting out of ur chest , wl pray for healing .💪
KHANYI you are best for this show ❤
I'm so sorry u went through that. Ai I don't know what to say tjo
Um in tears
Am sorry my brother I pray god comfort and heal your heart 🙏🏾
I love Khanyi so much❤.I would tell Khanyi my secrets
Samesss❤️
He needs counseling man...hey..yes family will and can be there, but he needs healing...self finding
Am. In tears
The mother should've hugged him😕
Ngibuhlungu ngo Arnold thumbs up kumfowabo ukhombisa azomeseka ngempela lomama ayi ungathi akezwa buhlungu ngenvane yakhe u Arnold uzozikhethela yena impilo afuna ukuyiphila akazukhethelwa uma wakhe udinga icounselling ukuze aqhubeke nempilo ayifunayo stay safe brother appreciate your effort God Bless u 👏👏👏💪💪💪🙆🙆😭😭🙊🙊
I jus cried such a cute Guy 😢
Eishhh men also go through hell.... Our society is rotten shame
Sadly its happening to the whole world tjo
My heart is shattered...
My heart bled...so hurting
just watched the story after a year and it's so toucing
May God give you strength bro
Where do people get to hear about these shows
Been asking myself the same question.
Nam I was asking myself the same question
I think they advertise before the show is birthed. Like in Moja love, in most of their new shows, they advertise the idea behind a show and provide a number or email address for people who wish to participate to contact them. I never saw an ad for this one anywhere though🥴
Strength to this man
I hope he finds healing ❤️
this world we live in is fucked up, even your own so called family will betray you in ways you would never imagine and it hurts. I bet those are one of thee reasons a lot of people become depressed and suffer from anxiety because this world the people are acting as if there is no God to fear. YES we sin but there are things we should know not to do. And people think that others are just trying to look for attention when they say they are depressed and shit. A SHOUT OUT TO ALL WITH WHATEVER IS BOTHERING THEM,ALWAYS AND ALWAYS TURN TO CHRIST ATLEAST TRY TO.
So sad💔
So heartbreaking 💔
24:37 Endemol Shine Africa💯💯
As a boy mom I'm so hurt. 💔
So heartbreaking we go thru a lot as individuals bt it takes the courage to come out in closet
Very true
Usually divorce has an effect on children as they don’t want to understand why my family is not the same as my friend. dad is far or mom.It is a good thing to be there for your kids through it all,show them and tell them that you love them.Let them know that we are getting a divorce but there won’t be a change and make them feel that way.It doesn’t helping hidding it as in the end the truth will come out and it will have more unanswered questions and hatered as they grow up.
Khanyi is beautiful 🔥
I’m so emotional ryt now😢
You can tell by the mother’s face and the fact that the parents divorced party because of her drinking, I hold her responsible for these people’s childhood trauma
Impilo ibuhlungu I sometimes wonder sizoyenzani emhlabeni
Just Believe in God honestly and give ur life unto him and hold on. Don't be lukewarm
Bro💔😔
@@MnisiMakaringe On point. There is no better say to say it. Bless your heart 🙏
@@stillwaters7233 I receive🥺❤️ thank u so much it really means a lot to me🤞🏽
Please note. We need to hear the whole truth about Senzo Mayiwa..consider talking to Kelly Khumalo about what happened. South African's and the Mayiwa's family needs answers.
You sick ... Wake him and ask him
@@mamorakapertuniamatlala8963 a sick thing is people like you . We South Africans need to know how Senzo was killed in her mother's house. If ever it was my family that died in that house. His wife and children and family needs answers.
Fokof wena Khanyi is not a detective, why ungayi police station where the case was opened.
@@mekim4232 hey wena rubbish . O bolela mpya nwammmmmmao
😄😄😄😄😄fokof and by the way ngunyoko rubbish.
I love this family ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
This breaks my heart💔💔💔
Not nice 😢
Its heart breaking. 😭😭
I need to secret confession online because m abroad
Ok am fed up with this family needs to do 123 kodwa you aired his business on telly couldn’t pay for 10 sessions nyana for counselling nxaa
So true