Frustrating how Somizi keeps being brought up as an example here by uLindani when uSomizi is such a stellar father and friend to his ex wife. He has immense respect for her as the mother of his child.
@princessmathandi what do you mean gay guys who think like this? Somizi's situation was very different because he told the girl directly that he was gay but she insisted they must continue the relationship, they were also very young at the time and didn't marry, so it's not like he strung the girl along.
@@mohalecandy5878 Not necessarily. Why does she bare the the shame. She can actually rise above this. She can happily move on and find her true love. There A LOT of people not living their truths.
When he said he married his wife becuase he saw that she's a girl angamudla (sleep with) that pirced in my heart😭😭😭 I pray we neva marry guys who just see us as sex object
Unfortunately most if not all see us as obje ts mainly for sex or knowing that they have someone to take care of them and when you nurturing by nature ppl will take advantage of that... Men honestly don't care about what we think forget feelings just having a convo with a man he automatically thinks he can teach you something but you can't teach him anything coz u there for sex and chores...a guy I spoke to once told me hes blocking me because I wouldn't let him teach me love. Money and other things but why assume I need you to teach me anything you barely know who I am
I don't think the ex wife should dignify this with an answer. He is vulgar and she is better off if he stays away from her and her son. He needs to work on himself and grow up
I'm so sorry queen 👸, the trauma, hurt, disrespect handed to you is so undeserved. You are so beautiful, so strong, so amazing, intelligent and you light. I wish you and your angel baby nothing but joy and happiness. You didn't deserve this.
Very true. I parted with my ex wife so amicably and to this day we still frenz bcz I left with honour and still value her as the mother of my baby, my being gay doesn' stop me from co parenting not respecting my bay mama and my kids. It's sad that this guy thinks it's ok to say all that he said about his wife
I actually believe this guy need to apologize to his ex-wife because this poor woman over looked all the red flags because she was blinded by love and she thought it was in his past and believed that it happened because he was young and probably being naughty. How was he going to be happy when he kept switching back to his gay self and yet hr eants to blame it on his wife. Im so pieced to what this lady went through. Sorry my lady
I appreciate his honesty and rawness, not everyone can do that. We are so used to sugarcoating our feelings. It’s good they separated, choosing your happiness is key. I’m happy for the ex wife, hope she gets a man that will love and respect her. She deserves all good things❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️.
I think Lindani always knew he was gay. He is self-centered and refuses to see how he hurt this woman. How he speaks about his ex wife calling him ugirl. Relebogile tried her best but cha, akezwa, it's all about him nje. Even the language he uses in reference to other people in the LGBTIQ community!
Exactly sisi.. Haibo I could never with him.. Imagine seeing your father saying fatherhood is horrible and he has to drag it out.. Yeses he's horrible and confused
My jaw dropped throughout this interview. Total and utter disrespect to the ex-wife. It seems like he was experimenting and will continue to experiment with people's lives and turn around and say 'I don't think I want this...'. I would say Good riddance to bad rubbish, umuntu okhuluma ngathi wehla esihlahleni. Sies!
I agree he doesn't have respect for the ex wife, and he is really shifting the blame nje asking why didn't she leave? There were so many red flags and all that like dude u married the girl, you stayed for the damn 3 years!!!! Like she knew im gay? WTF! you told her you had a gay phase... I don't know really i feel he wasnt honest to her and trying to shift blame!!! Im happy he finally found himself and is happy as a gay man!
Ave edelela ngempela, its one thing ukuthi things didn't work but its another ukungahloniphi because egcineni she was uNkosikazi or even your unborn child. Kwaze kwabuhlungu. Even the exclamations o 'Im still connected to this woman, oh my gaaawwwd' like haibo Bhuti.
So basically his decision to marry her was only based on the fact that he could have sex with her and nothing else. Absolutely no regard for her as a person.
I am not yet married but I wish people could understand that marriage is not just about sex...marriage involves emotional health, mental health, etc...People should find themselves before finding partners please
Very true I always tell people that as well and most people they think mirriage is to be submissive to Ur partner do duties of husband and wife...is more than that... emotional understanding is a priority to me ect
I so agree. Know ureself before. Even normal guy n girl relationships. People go into marriage thinking, now I am complete. No one can complete you, but you.
I was reading all the negative comments before I started watching and realized I needed to listen in full. After watching I can fully understand why people are grilling this selfish human, I've never heard anyone regretting or speaking badly about their child, children are always a blessing no matter how bad the relationship was. The Lady interviewing is just dripping with class and beauty. She's gorgeous, an excellent speaker
The way he talks about being a father, ' it's a full time job, I want to go back to my gay self '. I thought him growing up without a father would help him to become a better father but no. Soo disgusting
Please bring the ex wife here . So that we can hear her side of the story too. However i like how blunt and honest he is about his feelings and how he feels about this whole thing.
I also feel so sorry for the child who will one day watch this and hear his dad say he didn’t want to be a father to him! Wisdom doesn’t really come with age
Why does he think being gay is only about sex. Honestly Lindani still needs to find himself (introspection). As for the ex-wife sorry Queen sending you love and prayers, may you heal if you are still hurting♥️
Thank God he's not related to you. He's having his own family and daughter who loves him to death. You're boyfriend or son could be also gay. Stop pointing fingers.
I feel so sad for the rejected son, who is innocent in all of this. I have nothing to say about Lindani he is very selfish and self centred human being. Sending love and light to the ex wife and the son ❤️
Readers make the best interviewers man! Relebogile is so informed, eloquent and has the most educated and respectful approach to questions. I've watched the Kasi DutchZa episode, transgender episode and now this and they all required asking uncomfortable questions but Relebogile does it with so much grace. I personally would have struggled to keep my poise had I been the interviewer.
True, I'm a huge fan of Day time tv, I Love Oprah, Wendy, Ricky Lake, and even the Juges shows , I am so proud of her she up there with big guys or girls in this case.
At first I thought “wow I love his honesty.” As the interview kept going, I realized he is a narcissist. There was no empathy to the betrayal he caused her. No accountability, and most dismissive people like to say “I hear you”- just to shut you up. They probably never had the conversation because of silent treatment and dismissive behaviors so as not to give closure. No empathy whatsoever for the cheating etc….
him not enjoying being around his son has nothing to do with his sexuality.... also, if he didn't want to be a father he could have used protection mos...
Exactly. This 100% he is just a deadbeat dad. Lots of gay men actually father the children!!!! He is busy calling other people hypocrites but does not see it in himself.
This young man is so confused , a definition of a relationship to him is sex. He has a very immoral view of relationships. Secondly he lies about his emotions
I know them both and I honestly disappointed, not by him being gay, that is his prerogative, but to drag his ex-wife into this is beyond disrespectful.. I really didn't find this conversation honouring at all and having spoken to her about this whole thing I feel she was so honouring of him and still continues to honour him and I feel like there was no honour here... She is the mother of your child brooooooooooo 🤯🤯🤯 that deserves a level of respect that is not shown here... This whole thing made me really sad... Like she is so honouring of him till this day and I just can't believe after all this he would have such an interview, he really could've spoken about coming out and how marriage helped him realise this without disrespecting her and making her look like some naive child... Calling her "ugirl" , saying she missed red flags, like, was it necessary to say things like " now that you're here and I can f*CK you everyday" 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯 like for real for real, that's how you speak about her, in all the conversations I've had with her she has never disrespected you like that💔😭,
I was utterly shattered throughout this interview, I do not know them at all but I cannot begin to imagine what this guy says to her face when he can publicly speak like that of her. Totally full of himself and no consideration of the person he vowed to once love, a person who brought his child into this world. Honestly the lady was saved by grace from this man. I hope she finds true happiness again.
He is so narcissistic, and instead of taking accountability he goes on to treating the experience like a joke. I hope the women who got dragged in this is healing. Also I doubt his ever love some one nor does he know what genuine love/like is because he is hyper sexual, he associates attraction with sex almost throughout the interview. He needs help.
This guy doesn’t realize that one day his son will come across this and be like “oh my father actually doesn’t want me, he wishes that I was not born if he is forcing himself to be my father “ and he will regret it.
This interview was more about the ex-wife than the person whose being interviewed. Every single answer touched on her . He has such an interesting story to share and for some of us to learn something but he made it so much about a person whose not there to tell their side of the story . My recommendation would be to have a follow interview to balance the scale .
How dare he use Somizi as the extreme version of gay, while speaking about how being gay makes it difficult for him to be a parent. Somizi is an excellent father! And has lots of respect for Palesa. Somizi is a good example for how to parent right, even as a gay man. Sexuality should have little-to-nothing to do with your parenting.
Indeed...he is still a great father and is in good terms with his baby mama...why on mother earth does this guy behaves likes this? I am a gay man and have been married but that don't mean I dishonor my kids and their mum
This is exactly why this world is awful, men with men, women with women, and hoes are sleeping with other hoes. Its ridicules. And none of these folks are parenting their children.
What was done to her was so unfair and Lindani’s tone is disrespectful. I am so sorry to her that she had to go through that and has to have her marriage discussed publicly. I mean if you were unhappy from the second week why didn’t you leave and not waste her time. This is so infuriating.
All I wanna leave here is a comment for that girl he married. You are a strong, amazing woman. Trying to make anything work with a man who thinks like this must have been hard. It's not about being gay, not ready for a child but just being an immature, selfish and heartless human being. Someone else would be overwhelmed with gratitude for God making sure He got his biological son out of this before he decided he was gay for good. That's his only naturally conceived baby- if he's not lying.
i watched this interview twice because i kept muting it the first time ...my heart Nokwazi, how does someone get to the point where they disregard someone else's feelings like this .... iyoh...
My heart bled when he said he was done a week into the marriage. This was painful to watch. No matter how toxic and unhappy a marriage is, I don't ever wana speak of the other person the way he did. It sounded like he never felt an ounce of care/love for his x wife. No man 😭
i know a gay guy who just married a woman after online courting for 4 months....courting online alone is a red flag.......watching their wedding video...groom appears disconnected. feel sorry for such women
Lindani sounds very confused. Lindani there must be a big trauma in your past that you are running from...and until you get help to deal with it you will keep running, hurting yourself and others while at it. Sending you compassion
Somizi ungenaphi yena,because he is an Amazing father more than I can say about you and has RESPECT for the mother of his child and never goes around bad mouthing her.
The very first few minutes in this interview I was already sick, this guy’s persona rubs me the wrong way. Next episode please Relebogile, I’m not rewatching this even if it was airing for free, and this comment is from a proud gay man!!!
I'm all for people living their truth unapologetically but this guy is a little insensitive and selfish, he doesn't understand that he's creating traumas for his son.
Knowing the ex-wife personally, watching this breaks my heart because in our conversations she never badmouthed him at all ☹️ I have no idea why dude insists on dragging her in the mud, If you’re not going to respect her for who she is then atleast respect her as the woman who is raising your child. You could have spoken about your sexuality and your experiences without mentioning her or your son, it’s really not that hard to say “I don’t want to speak about that”. You don’t have to seek relevance and attention by pushing people down.
Exactly...this guy is totally confused and blaming other people for that. His whole life is experimenting this,that his story is contradicting and I dont see him settling or being happy with a man.
I feel so sorry for her for ending up with such a selfish, immature, confused man. He contradicted himself throughout his entire interview and was very disrespectful to her. If anything she is better off without him.
This man is a sociopath. Ex must be glad he has exposed himself. He has no feeling for the people he has hurt and is still hurting. "I betrayed myself by being in a marriage that didn't serve ME"
I feel like Lindani wants to blame the wife for them getting married when he also ignored his own red flags. He keeps on says why didn’t she run when I told her I slept with men, she saw this, she should have...
We can blame Lindani but he was hornest by telling her that he slept with other men before. What do u think a man sleep with other man? obviously he is gay.
Exactly! Why is it her responsibility! Why he even asked knowing the truth deep down? Such a horrible person who can't even take some responsibility. I feel sorry for her.. this is so self centered shame!
Relebogile is a QUEEN of narrating us through the guests' deepest depth and come out not judgemental. Well done to you babyz for this wonderful work you always do. 🖤🕯️🙏🏿😍✨🥢
Relebogile you are so good at this and how you can deliver the truth without fear amazed me... Surprised that people think playing dolls makes boys gay 🤮🤢🤮🤢
Thank you Relebogile for this interview, and also the questions you asked and how you asked them, spot on. How you directed the entire conversation. And lastly, how beautiful you look. loved it
Ignore the ignorant comments and watch for yourself. Listen to him with an open, objective mind. This is one of the few most honest interviews you'll ever find on UA-cam!
This guy comes across as a self centered. Its all about him all they way. There is no accountability at all as to how he hurt the poor woman and also the way he speaks abut his child.
Im not against people living their truth. No judgement from my side at all. Mara when you now start hurting other people in finding who you are or wanting to live your truth then that is a big problem for me. May the ex-wife find peace in all of this. Im sending love and light to her and that beautiful child
I applaud Lindani for being open and transparent. Understandably it is a tough road to walk. The lack of acknowledgment of wrongs though is a little distasteful. May they both find holistic healing.
Can we talk about how gorgeous Relebogile is 😍😍😍
Thank you! ❤️
Am getting distracted😂, you're such a beauty mma❤️❤️❤️
@@relebogilemabotja215 🤗❤
😍 Her beauty is breathtaking yoh
@@missthiya too much hey
I love how Relebogile is conducting this interview. So non judgemental and very precise
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Sending virtual hugs to his ex wife 🤗🤗🤗🤗
Frustrating how Somizi keeps being brought up as an example here by uLindani when uSomizi is such a stellar father and friend to his ex wife. He has immense respect for her as the mother of his child.
@Yandz The man so sad!!
Somizi also said the mother of his daughter knew he was gay. I am not homophobic but gay guys who think like this make me feel sick to my stomach.
@Yandz The man .
Somizi ddnt marry his daughter's Mom so she's not his ex-wife
@princessmathandi what do you mean gay guys who think like this? Somizi's situation was very different because he told the girl directly that he was gay but she insisted they must continue the relationship, they were also very young at the time and didn't marry, so it's not like he strung the girl along.
Gay or not - this guys perspective on relationships and commitment is so distorted. 😐
Right? He’s a bit too disconnected, he’s acting like it’s nothing at all
My thought exactly ☹
His all over 🤔
Our men in SA need to shift focus to loving and protecting our women and kids
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His just disgusting nje
People should find themselves before marrying someone’s child otherwise you will hurt many people to avoid those pains!
Hurt people, hurt people.
Strongly agree the wife now beArs the shame
Honestly
@@zimkhitha.h yah
@@mohalecandy5878 Not necessarily. Why does she bare the the shame. She can actually rise above this. She can happily move on and find her true love. There A LOT of people not living their truths.
Its how He is so careless with words about his ex-wife 💔
Dude! 😭
Dude!!! Sooo unnecessary!
No respect for the poor woman .even calling u "gal_"
Yooooooooooooooh I'm screaming
no respect at all for the ex wife
When he said he married his wife becuase he saw that she's a girl angamudla (sleep with) that pirced in my heart😭😭😭 I pray we neva marry guys who just see us as sex object
I'm sorry but people can be shallow. These are times we got to live through.
Unfortunately most if not all see us as obje ts mainly for sex or knowing that they have someone to take care of them and when you nurturing by nature ppl will take advantage of that... Men honestly don't care about what we think forget feelings just having a convo with a man he automatically thinks he can teach you something but you can't teach him anything coz u there for sex and chores...a guy I spoke to once told me hes blocking me because I wouldn't let him teach me love. Money and other things but why assume I need you to teach me anything you barely know who I am
The DISRESPECT!!!
I thought men don't marry women they see as sex objects
Unfortunately,that's the society we lives in,that's why we have to ask GOD for protection on us from demons in human form..
This guy is raw he needs to learn how to process the things he is saying
The face of a narcissist
He will never ever take accountability
For anything! Disgusting
Very hurtful for his wife, kids
My thoughts..
Sad to watch.
Trying too hard too...
I swear her interviewing skills are on point ! 💯
Seems like it's all for show.
She's brilliant
Indeed. She's not being emotional and she put herself in his shoes. She's not giving him a Spanish inquisition as a lot of people in this thread wish.
She asks relevant questions!
You are very right, she has the mind for it.
I love Relebogile's non judgmental style of interviewing
@Relebogile please bring the ex wife on a future episode so we can hear this from her perspective. You will see the harm and hurt she feels.
PLEASE
PLEAZE
I don't think the ex wife should dignify this with an answer. He is vulgar and she is better off if he stays away from her and her son. He needs to work on himself and grow up
Please
Please
I'm so sorry queen 👸, the trauma, hurt, disrespect handed to you is so undeserved. You are so beautiful, so strong, so amazing, intelligent and you light. I wish you and your angel baby nothing but joy and happiness. You didn't deserve this.
The son will watch this episode one day 😥😥😥 words can’t be taken back. This man is self centred & needs to grow up.
I had this same thought💔
It's sad really for someone to speak openly like that. Poor child. Shame.
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Being gay doesn't mean being a horrible person and this guy is a horrible person.
Exactly, he sounds so selfish and self centered!
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Very true. I parted with my ex wife so amicably and to this day we still frenz bcz I left with honour and still value her as the mother of my baby, my being gay doesn' stop me from co parenting not respecting my bay mama and my kids. It's sad that this guy thinks it's ok to say all that he said about his wife
I agree shame.. Yooo I feel for the kid whose dealing with the so called father who has to drag fatherhood out of him to be with him
This guy is so forward....This whole gay facade is just go phapha nje🙄
To his ex-wife, sorry sweetness for having to go through what you went through. Phephisa nana.
Yho 💔 I’m also really sorry to her
No one deserves what she must have went through from being with this guy.
I actually believe this guy need to apologize to his ex-wife because this poor woman over looked all the red flags because she was blinded by love and she thought it was in his past and believed that it happened because he was young and probably being naughty. How was he going to be happy when he kept switching back to his gay self and yet hr eants to blame it on his wife. Im so pieced to what this lady went through. Sorry my lady
I can't imagine having a partner like this. Nka Screamer
I can almost see you saying this! You kil me 🤣🤣🤣
This guy had zero respect for his ex wife 💔
Princess ur here❤
😂😂😂😂 I'm so triggered! Yhuuu the disrespect!
It's important to acknowledge when you had a hand in someone's pain👏Relebogile
I appreciate his honesty and rawness, not everyone can do that. We are so used to sugarcoating our feelings. It’s good they separated, choosing your happiness is key. I’m happy for the ex wife, hope she gets a man that will love and respect her. She deserves all good things❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️.
I think Lindani always knew he was gay. He is self-centered and refuses to see how he hurt this woman. How he speaks about his ex wife calling him ugirl. Relebogile tried her best but cha, akezwa, it's all about him nje. Even the language he uses in reference to other people in the LGBTIQ community!
He is still confused namanje yazi
He definitely knew he was gay.
Exactly. He irritated me so much. He is the definition of an ass hole.
I am here too. He always knew that He was gay.
Can we acknowledge the fact that evn straight people can still fall in love with gay people evn when they could see the person's character purely...
Imagine his son watching this when he’s old 😭😭😭😭
Yoh the trauma 😭😭
Exactly sisi.. Haibo I could never with him.. Imagine seeing your father saying fatherhood is horrible and he has to drag it out.. Yeses he's horrible and confused
Yoh
Omg the poor boy has to live with all this rejection , my goodness💔
I feel bad for the child for having a narcissist as a father, the ex wife deserves better than him.
My jaw dropped throughout this interview. Total and utter disrespect to the ex-wife. It seems like he was experimenting and will continue to experiment with people's lives and turn around and say 'I don't think I want this...'. I would say Good riddance to bad rubbish, umuntu okhuluma ngathi wehla esihlahleni. Sies!
Yohhh I'm still shocked!!
I agree he doesn't have respect for the ex wife, and he is really shifting the blame nje asking why didn't she leave? There were so many red flags and all that like dude u married the girl, you stayed for the damn 3 years!!!! Like she knew im gay? WTF! you told her you had a gay phase... I don't know really i feel he wasnt honest to her and trying to shift blame!!! Im happy he finally found himself and is happy as a gay man!
Ave edelela ngempela, its one thing ukuthi things didn't work but its another ukungahloniphi because egcineni she was uNkosikazi or even your unborn child. Kwaze kwabuhlungu. Even the exclamations o 'Im still connected to this woman, oh my gaaawwwd' like haibo Bhuti.
Yazin... I was cringing the entire episode! 🙆♀️ 🙆♀️ 🙆♀️
So basically his decision to marry her was only based on the fact that he could have sex with her and nothing else. Absolutely no regard for her as a person.
I am not yet married but I wish people could understand that marriage is not just about sex...marriage involves emotional health, mental health, etc...People should find themselves before finding partners please
Very true I always tell people that as well and most people they think mirriage is to be submissive to Ur partner do duties of husband and wife...is more than that... emotional understanding is a priority to me ect
I so agree. Know ureself before. Even normal guy n girl relationships. People go into marriage thinking, now I am complete. No one can complete you, but you.
Well said!✨👏🏼
I was reading all the negative comments before I started watching and realized I needed to listen in full. After watching I can fully understand why people are grilling this selfish human, I've never heard anyone regretting or speaking badly about their child, children are always a blessing no matter how bad the relationship was. The Lady interviewing is just dripping with class and beauty. She's gorgeous, an excellent speaker
Men will embarrass you and not even feel ashamed
You can say that again, and that is why I keep my relationship private on social media
And they will blame you for them being embarrassed
I can’t believe this guy said the only reason he didn’t become a deadbeat is because of his reputation. What a narcissist, I’m disgusted
The way he talks about being a father, ' it's a full time job, I want to go back to my gay self '. I thought him growing up without a father would help him to become a better father but no. Soo disgusting
Yoh😒ai he's selfish yerre
Please bring the ex wife here . So that we can hear her side of the story too.
However i like how blunt and honest he is about his feelings and how he feels about this whole thing.
I also feel so sorry for the child who will one day watch this and hear his dad say he didn’t want to be a father to him! Wisdom doesn’t really come with age
Narcissism on a 💯
One thing about children, they grow up to see who the problematic parent is
The way he speaks about the ex wife. Wow...that woman should be glad that he is an ex husband. Thizaaa...isile lekaka
Lekaka😢😂😂
He I the worst and soooo gay, so this woman could not see that this man us super gay.
😆was thinking th same, gay or nah he sucks shame, attitude stinks for daaays
Lekaka 🤣🤣🤣🤣😂
@@KAYMASUPHA 🤣🤣 khuzeka!
Why does he think being gay is only about sex. Honestly Lindani still needs to find himself (introspection). As for the ex-wife sorry Queen sending you love and prayers, may you heal if you are still hurting♥️
Exactly..all he talks about is ukudla ugirl
Totally
I think he is a bi-sexual
The quality of this production is on another level. This is beautiful.
Tell me about it 💪
I've just discovered the Channel. Everything from the set, the host , manner of interviewing and videography is soooo beautiful. Much love from Kenya.
I love this lady's last words... forgive in the absence of no apology....and apologise just because you had a hand in someone's hurt
Please can we get his Ex wife's side of the story because she was very patient I wanna know why
Absolutely!
Very true and am sure her story is different n painful
He's happy ,she's probably miserable. Mxm
Great idea !
Please Lebo
I’m so happy for his ex wife. This man didn’t deserve her at all, sies
Exactly sis, SIES!!!!!
He irritates me mxxm
She deserves better and I am sure God will bless her with something special.
Thank God he's not related to you. He's having his own family and daughter who loves him to death. You're boyfriend or son could be also gay. Stop pointing fingers.
You’re just showing off go repent
Lack of compassion is on another level. I feel for the ex-wife.
The way he just changed his story though,,,,he didnt know at first and found out after the wedding ,halfway the interview its another story
“ i have to drag myself to be a father” this part hurt me
...I'm hurt because one day the child might watch this. Imagine what it will do to the child. 💔
Bruh💔💔💔
Then he goes to say he could adopt 3 children 🙄🙄🙄
like how does being gay has to do with being a father,somizi is a dad moes
Dude he’s confused💔
I feel so sad for the rejected son, who is innocent in all of this. I have nothing to say about Lindani he is very selfish and self centred human being. Sending love and light to the ex wife and the son ❤️
Amen Amen Amen!!🙏💙
The way he speaks about people ngathi they’re disposable s*x objects😩
@@azaniajuicethwala5324 he has a reprobate mind
Fame and popularity is a problem here. He is a well known and well respected person.
And its gotten to his head ALOT
Readers make the best interviewers man! Relebogile is so informed, eloquent and has the most educated and respectful approach to questions. I've watched the Kasi DutchZa episode, transgender episode and now this and they all required asking uncomfortable questions but Relebogile does it with so much grace. I personally would have struggled to keep my poise had I been the interviewer.
This means a lot
True, I'm a huge fan of Day time tv, I Love Oprah, Wendy, Ricky Lake, and even the Juges shows , I am so proud of her she up there with big guys or girls in this case.
At first I thought “wow I love his honesty.” As the interview kept going, I realized he is a narcissist. There was no empathy to the betrayal he caused her. No accountability, and most dismissive people like to say “I hear you”- just to shut you up. They probably never had the conversation because of silent treatment and dismissive behaviors so as not to give closure. No empathy whatsoever for the cheating etc….
Relebogile is so amazing lets talk about that !!
The ex wife actually dodged a bullet here... imagine a lifetime with this guy 😳
You know God saved her really from this selfish man
@@ntombenthsambadlanyana6123 he's Sooo disrespectful
Yoh imagine🤦♀️
Nyan!
Definitely 🤭🤣
him not enjoying being around his son has nothing to do with his sexuality.... also, if he didn't want to be a father he could have used protection mos...
Exactly. This 100% he is just a deadbeat dad. Lots of gay men actually father the children!!!! He is busy calling other people hypocrites but does not see it in himself.
Like I said, he needs to revisit his past
This young man is so confused , a definition of a relationship to him is sex. He has a very immoral view of relationships. Secondly he lies about his emotions
That's what I thought
This is an accurate observation.
Very very very confused .
I couldn't have said it better
He was delivered from sexual immorality, it wasn't about his gender preference ...
Let me download this,...will watch it in my bed,relaxed. Can’t wait to hear all about it🥺❤️
Not once does Linda I take responsibility for his actions. What an exhausting human being.
I know them both and I honestly disappointed, not by him being gay, that is his prerogative, but to drag his ex-wife into this is beyond disrespectful.. I really didn't find this conversation honouring at all and having spoken to her about this whole thing I feel she was so honouring of him and still continues to honour him and I feel like there was no honour here... She is the mother of your child brooooooooooo 🤯🤯🤯 that deserves a level of respect that is not shown here... This whole thing made me really sad... Like she is so honouring of him till this day and I just can't believe after all this he would have such an interview, he really could've spoken about coming out and how marriage helped him realise this without disrespecting her and making her look like some naive child... Calling her "ugirl" , saying she missed red flags, like, was it necessary to say things like " now that you're here and I can f*CK you everyday" 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯 like for real for real, that's how you speak about her, in all the conversations I've had with her she has never disrespected you like that💔😭,
I mean, was it necessary to say "1stly Iyanya" 💔... This is disappointing and so publicly disrespectful... I hope he actually comes to realise this
Everything this guy said is sooo disrespectful. I am glad i dont know him 😩
I was utterly shattered throughout this interview, I do not know them at all but I cannot begin to imagine what this guy says to her face when he can publicly speak like that of her. Totally full of himself and no consideration of the person he vowed to once love, a person who brought his child into this world. Honestly the lady was saved by grace from this man. I hope she finds true happiness again.
I'm annoyed you have no idea
You are right hey. He made his ex wife look naive when all the lady did was to love her
He is so narcissistic, and instead of taking accountability he goes on to treating the experience like a joke. I hope the women who got dragged in this is healing. Also I doubt his ever love some one nor does he know what genuine love/like is because he is hyper sexual, he associates attraction with sex almost throughout the interview. He needs help.
The fact that he doesn't acknowledge wasting her time aswel. Its all Me, My, I... absolutely disgusting
Thank you for saying this Estiaan. You articulated it well. He is very hyper-sexual, it’s got nothing to do with him being gay.
I totally agree with you Estiaan, he needs serious help
A comment I have been looking to see, he is screaming I am a narcissist when he talks!
he lacks accountability ... his divorce is a joke to him, he is a joke... oh my gosh...
The interviewer ask good questions, it’s such a insightful interview.
Exactly
This guy doesn’t realize that one day his son will come across this and be like “oh my father actually doesn’t want me, he wishes that I was not born if he is forcing himself to be my father “ and he will regret it.
This interview was more about the ex-wife than the person whose being interviewed. Every single answer touched on her . He has such an interesting story to share and for some of us to learn something but he made it so much about a person whose not there to tell their side of the story . My recommendation would be to have a follow interview to balance the scale .
Home sexual is a sin read Leviticus 18
If confusion was a person!
He is the one 😂😂
@@ninahmbatha1890 listen 😂😂
Geeeez.
He refuses to take accountability, he's minimizing the role his gaynes played in their divorce.
So sick and selfish and don’t even care about the child
This guy is not gay...Uya phapha this dude....
How dare he use Somizi as the extreme version of gay, while speaking about how being gay makes it difficult for him to be a parent. Somizi is an excellent father! And has lots of respect for Palesa. Somizi is a good example for how to parent right, even as a gay man. Sexuality should have little-to-nothing to do with your parenting.
Thank you for saying this❤️
Indeed...he is still a great father and is in good terms with his baby mama...why on mother earth does this guy behaves likes this? I am a gay man and have been married but that don't mean I dishonor my kids and their mum
My thoughts exactly 👌🏾I'm so disappointed in how he tells his story and the amount of disrespect towards the wife.
Exactly!!!
Exactly Somizi is a man above anything else and is so responsible. Rha this bloody nja
Love how the host corrects him and is honest to him !!
Sheemmme poor wife….
This is how demons have taken over. The person is walking dead.
Our men in SA need to shift focus to loving and protecting our women and kids
m.ua-cam.com/video/SRueeln3WDA/v-deo.html
This is exactly why this world is awful, men with men, women with women, and hoes are sleeping with other hoes. Its ridicules. And none of these folks are parenting their children.
My fear is to get married to someone whose so confused like this guy. So help me God
What was done to her was so unfair and Lindani’s tone is disrespectful. I am so sorry to her that she had to go through that and has to have her marriage discussed publicly. I mean if you were unhappy from the second week why didn’t you leave and not waste her time. This is so infuriating.
My thoughts exactly.. intimate marital issues discussed so disrespectfully so publicly 💔
His language nje, he's such a disrespectful boy
@@nompumelelompumi2706 You have said it very well.. He is a boy and not a man. He has a long way to go before he can get to the stage of being a man
He will answer to God for this... 🤞🏾
♥️
Hugs and love to the ex-wife ❤️ you've got it girl.
Relebogile has to be one of the most professional and objective people I have ever seen. You're amazing girl!!!
The maturity of this woman interviewing 🙏
All I wanna leave here is a comment for that girl he married. You are a strong, amazing woman. Trying to make anything work with a man who thinks like this must have been hard. It's not about being gay, not ready for a child but just being an immature, selfish and heartless human being. Someone else would be overwhelmed with gratitude for God making sure He got his biological son out of this before he decided he was gay for good. That's his only naturally conceived baby- if he's not lying.
This guy: Dates women, engages a woman, lobola's woman, marries her, gets her pregnant, has a child.
Also this guy: Why didn't my wife see I'm gay.
This guy o thanda izinto....Uku phapha nje.....
Morguy is selfish
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@@neomalapane983 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣😃😄😄😅
💔💔💔💔💔
"uYanya" 🙄😩😩😩 Thixo wethu 😭😭😭 i am not okay on behalf of that wife
Imagine idrama engaka😒
i watched this interview twice because i kept muting it the first time ...my heart Nokwazi, how does someone get to the point where they disregard someone else's feelings like this .... iyoh...
Unya nyi!!!!!!
Andothuka
Imagine saying that instead of giving a constructive answer! this boy is just a liar and full of himself. The ex wife must heal. She's in my prayers
When he said i drag myself to be a father. I saw history wanting to repeat itself on his son. The devil is a liar
Haaaaaaaai guys can we talk about ubuhle buka Sis' Relebogile? Aikhona! 👏
There's a difference between being honest and rude, this man is so rude yoh. And why were her pictures shown, I wonder if they asked her permission
He’s making it feel like gay people cannot be good parents 😏it’s sad
And that thought alone reveals how flawed such intellect is.
Exactly my point, mnx ...😡
Are you one of them?
@@carmennicholson2867 you’re missing the whole point
He keeps saying ppl are homophobic but he's giving off homophobic and masoginy vibes it's a mess
My heart bled when he said he was done a week into the marriage. This was painful to watch. No matter how toxic and unhappy a marriage is, I don't ever wana speak of the other person the way he did. It sounded like he never felt an ounce of care/love for his x wife. No man 😭
Truly painful to watch...
i know a gay guy who just married a woman after online courting for 4 months....courting online alone is a red flag.......watching their wedding video...groom appears disconnected. feel sorry for such women
My eyes were teary the entire interview I don’t know the lady being discussed, but I feel so much pain on her behalf. May God heal your heart queen 🙏🙏
Lindani sounds very confused. Lindani there must be a big trauma in your past that you are running from...and until you get help to deal with it you will keep running, hurting yourself and others while at it. Sending you compassion
Somizi ungenaphi yena,because he is an Amazing father more than I can say about you and has RESPECT for the mother of his child and never goes around bad mouthing her.
I rolled my eyes each time he said "I hear you" because it's just not getting through his skull. He is too wrapped up in himself. Sad sad sad
I think he hears her but he is not understanding her.
He listens to respond not to understand
@@Noks-i3e true that, he is not even listening. He hears, to respond but he does not listen to understand.
The very first few minutes in this interview I was already sick, this guy’s persona rubs me the wrong way. Next episode please Relebogile, I’m not rewatching this even if it was airing for free, and this comment is from a proud gay man!!!
I just started watch I'm sick to the stomach
dude, you can say that again,he is a lost ship
@@lapologangmudongo9384 Amen bro
@@stellamooibedi9027 I don’t even blame you really
Exactly. It's all about him. Imagine the damage he left behind???
I'm all for people living their truth unapologetically but this guy is a little insensitive and selfish, he doesn't understand that he's creating traumas for his son.
Yooooo he is not aware 😭
He does not care
Not a little insensitive, a whole lotta insensitive
Knowing the ex-wife personally, watching this breaks my heart because in our conversations she never badmouthed him at all ☹️
I have no idea why dude insists on dragging her in the mud, If you’re not going to respect her for who she is then atleast respect her as the woman who is raising your child.
You could have spoken about your sexuality and your experiences without mentioning her or your son, it’s really not that hard to say “I don’t want to speak about that”. You don’t have to seek relevance and attention by pushing people down.
Exactly...this guy is totally confused and blaming other people for that. His whole life is experimenting this,that his story is contradicting and I dont see him settling or being happy with a man.
I feel so sorry for her for ending up with such a selfish, immature, confused man. He contradicted himself throughout his entire interview and was very disrespectful to her. If anything she is better off without him.
This man is a sociopath. Ex must be glad he has exposed himself. He has no feeling for the people he has hurt and is still hurting.
"I betrayed myself by being in a marriage that didn't serve ME"
She's better off without the prick!
Rubbish I feel sorry for your wife and son
This guys is getting under my skin, I can hardly watch this interview, but I love the host so🙂
I feel for that women I am actually interested in the wife’s story
There are many like that, some are still waiting for their ex husbands to come out
It really is not fair to marry a woman while u know you are gay
Watching this, I can see why the ex wife declined to be part of this interview.
@@thandozitha9839 did she declined?
I hope after seeing this she'll come and speak up.
I feel like Lindani wants to blame the wife for them getting married when he also ignored his own red flags. He keeps on says why didn’t she run when I told her I slept with men, she saw this, she should have...
Exactly, then he says him being gay was not the cause of his divorce????? I feel like if she'd have been a Saint he'd still blame her
Deep down he was using her just to have a child. Asile amagay they use people just to have kids and later act like victims. They don't have peace
He was totally using her as beard. I just wanted to slap him the entire time.
We can blame Lindani but he was hornest by telling her that he slept with other men before. What do u think a man sleep with other man? obviously he is gay.
Exactly! Why is it her responsibility! Why he even asked knowing the truth deep down? Such a horrible person who can't even take some responsibility. I feel sorry for her.. this is so self centered shame!
Man Up Lindani and be a good father to your son!
Relebogile is a QUEEN of narrating us through the guests' deepest depth and come out not judgemental. Well done to you babyz for this wonderful work you always do. 🖤🕯️🙏🏿😍✨🥢
Relebogile you are so good at this and how you can deliver the truth without fear amazed me... Surprised that people think playing dolls makes boys gay 🤮🤢🤮🤢
Thank you Relebogile for this interview, and also the questions you asked and how you asked them, spot on. How you directed the entire conversation. And lastly, how beautiful you look. loved it
My heart is so sore for the ex wife ... she does not deserve such disrespect. No woman does !
I like that he understands that infidelity starts with a thought, and it doesn’t always have to be physical to be considered cheating
Yes.. that was my favourite part too.❤️
I can't agree more
The wife mustnt consider the end of the marriage as a loss .Its actually a gain.Such a self centered man yoh🚮.
Ignore the ignorant comments and watch for yourself.
Listen to him with an open, objective mind.
This is one of the few most honest interviews you'll ever find on UA-cam!
My question to this young man is, when will his journey of discovery end. I don’t see why anyone should take him seriously.
This guy comes across as a self centered. Its all about him all they way. There is no accountability at all as to how he hurt the poor woman and also the way he speaks abut his child.
He made himself look bad
I was just thinking that, he's selfish. I feel so sorry for his son. Instead of breaking the chain of fatherlessness, he's continuing it.
They are all like that...
Narcissistic tendencies.
@@paballomajela4907 exactly, it always buffles me h
This guy is in a very dark place, he seriously does not need any judgement, prayers only. Well done to the interviewer and production team.
Im not against people living their truth. No judgement from my side at all. Mara when you now start hurting other people in finding who you are or wanting to live your truth then that is a big problem for me. May the ex-wife find peace in all of this. Im sending love and light to her and that beautiful child
I think it's very much important to know how and what to talk about in public, most importantly know how to answer questions politely 😢
It's important to acknowledge if u had a hand on someone's pain, that's what I take from this great interview, Relebogile you are a 🔥🔥🔥🔥👌👌
A narcissists of note this guy
Period🤞
a clean textbook narcissist
A confused liar, inconsistency in his story telling. He doesn't know who he truly is, take!
Ma’am I thought I’m the only one hearing how’s lies. Plus the foul language ☹️☹️
Many contradictions and inconsistencies. The level of disrespect for his ex wife wow.
nje ... literally my view too...
He us just a disgusting human being. Nothing hurts me more than the way he addresses his ex wife
Could be a staged thing , folks need content out here ....
I applaud Lindani for being open and transparent. Understandably it is a tough road to walk. The lack of acknowledgment of wrongs though is a little distasteful. May they both find holistic healing.
not you using little there.
Political correctness before everything right😅
A little disrespectful?? It's a whole lotta disrespectful bruh
“Never expect an apology for your own peace, find it within you “ I know this one too well..
This interview aggravated me so. He is so disrespectful,lost and a narcissistic. The ex wife is really lucky to be rid of him.
She was desperate for that white gown and being a wife.