I see you all are judging the lady that she must not blame her father for all that she failed to achieve.. Just because you had strength to get through your situation it doesn't mean the other person who fails to do so is a failure.. We respond differently to situations.. It's more harder when you have no one to talk to.. The lady is positive just that she lacks support and motivation
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I've learned nt to never judge how someone deals with pain or rejection if she couldn't cope enough to finish school that's her journey only she can understand
No offense guys. This girl started doing drugs in year 2010 and only did her matric in 2017. Clearly she started doing drugs in Primary school. Akekho umuntu obhemisa omunye ngenkani, it’s either she gave in to peer pressure, or ukuthanda izinto qha. I’ve been through shit but I knew that drugs don’t fix things they make them worse. In our society there are many young people, especially girls they doing drugs because they think it’s “cool” and if ungawenzi uyimpatha. Let’s not run away from the truth. U girl wahluleka ukuziphathisa okwengane while still in primary school and made the wrong choices manje uthi ubhenyiswe ukungabikhona kwa bab’bwakhe.
It's sad" she hasn't had a good start in life. I hope she can overcome the drug problem and finish her school, her father appears to be a very decent human being.
Before we judge the first lady..... Let all men out there understand this.... Stop persuing girls for sexual purposes this is what happens at the end, us as parents must be there for our kids and I am not holy I am raising a daughter out of wedlock but I am looking after her and her mom coz I added this burden on them. I don't want my daughter to to go through this ever. This thing is a huge lesson for us as men. To women out there stop falling for us men not knowing our intentions and not knowing your stand point kids suffer the most
Eish Lerato has been through a lot!!! I pray for her she leaves drugs and study hard. She sounds intelligent and determined. I hope finding her father would would make her a better person.
These fathers are so nice. God bless them. I really feel for the 2nd dad. He’s so humble and honest about the situation but the kids aren’t having it. Eish.
The comments towards the first story are rather upsetting but i blame the ignorance on South Africa's education system. Do yourselves a favour, pick up a psychology book and read. People react differently to situations. She already mentioned that the mother is abusive, then no father to possibly be patient with her during adolescence. Listen to understand bantu but for most online bullies is just a matter of running away from your own troubles, being mean to the next person to feel better about yourself. Alcohol is also a drug, smoking just cigarettes is also a form of coping, sex addiction etc. Don't tear the next person down because you haven't done the same. khumbulekhaya should be opening your eyes to such matters. VUKANI HLE
This is my job every day but in a different country and environment. The advantage nge African culture yikuthi we have extended families who help us in bringing up our children. Whereas here in UK, social services takes over and abantwana bakhulele kuma foster and supported living. I pray one day God uses me to come back home and give back what I have learnt and appreciate ubuntu bethu
the 2nd story, It takes a man to do what this guy did. He confessed his wrongs and asked for forgiveness without looking for excuses or blaming others.
God sees the heart more than anything, the second story touched me so much and I pray that God gives them strength to forgive and let go. Better a man who humbles himself to those he wronged, than one who doesn’t do anything at all. ❤️❤️❤️Sending love and light 🌸
Please young lady, I have worked in drug and alcohol rehabilitation. This is a journey you may have to do between you and God. If your father doesn't live up to your expectations know that you are strong enough and valuable enough to continue to complete recovery alone if necessary. God bless you. I'm rooting for you from a whole different continent, lots of people will be rooting for you in spirit and praying for you. God bless you sweetheart.
Hilda looks like her father.. ❤😊. Moruti was showing remorse. I like how you handled the situation. Don't ever lose contact with your kids anymore. Second story. My father after losing my mother he was not fine at all, he spends lot of time not seeing us but at least financially he was there for us, but sometimes emotional support is important even your presence
While i agree that its not easy growing up without your parents but that is not a reason u can use to misbehave...i grew up without knowing my father n used my mothers surname up to today n to make things worse i never had a chance to be raised by my mother too n was raised by my dear grandma..may her soul rest in peace..However inspite of all those circumstances i was able to finish school n go to university n even got married n now am raising my own 3 kids that i live so much n trying by all means to give them d love i never had...what am trying to say is this ..let us use our painful backgrounds as a stepping stone to success ..my painful background encouraged me that i want to be independent so guys stop blaming your absent parents for your wrong choices in life ..i have been through it n others like me ..lets teach these absent heartless parents a lesdon that noma basilahla but uNkulunkulu wasithwala n led us to be successful ..yes i understand its painful i know it n have been through a lot of hardships but God never let me down indeed He is the father of the fatherless..lets try our best to rise up above stormy waters...
Depend by ur hrt... U can hold it... N here she is saying her mother was not treating her ncyly so with my psychological knowledge the behavior is cause by stress... Depression.... She can't handle it by herself.... So les be fair this is painful guys... She nd hpns guys. Thank u for accepting (both daddy n lerato).... All the best
Second story please guys forgive the old man he was so humble but Richard ngatsi sowuva buhlungu when the old man cry . Am happy for you Guys nimutfole asaphila and to God be the Glory .
I like how the father is willing to help her out and actually wants to see her in a healthy environment. mara moghel😁. She's promising and has planned a lot, I hope it all falls on that path. planning too much is not good
How you turn out in life is fully your responsibility mtase stop blaming other people for your mistakes because you'll never change once u start looking for people to blame with the decisions you make.
bianca tshepiso ndlovu Thank you mntase. Some people never wanna take responsibility for their poor choices. They always wanna point fingers and say I did this because so and so did that. You choose your own journey and if you see that it’s leading you astray you can always change and make better informed decisions.
The second man really touched my heart. He is only the second father I have seen apologizing with such sincerity and regret. You could see he was really ashamed of himself. I wish them all the best. God bless them all. For those parents who have children growing up without them, it is never too late. Seek them out, make amends.
i dont have a father and my mother and i dont have a home either but i studied hard not having a father is not an excuse bathong ngikhule ngihlukunyezwa and lokho akaze kungivimbe ngilale 2 days ngingadlile ngvuke ngyeskoleni
khethelo xulu People never want to own up for their poor decision making and poor choices. If I could share my story many would cry for days but I didn’t let pain and rejection to stand in my way. I pushed hard enough to be somebody in life. If you never own up to your own mistakes you’ll live the rest of your life blaming the next person because it’s easy to do so. Doing drugs has never been a solution to any problem.
@@perfectlyimperfect1095 rejection aydlali Mina I understand her situation I don't blame her as much as kunge yona into eryt ukudla I drugs I hope she'll go back to school and fulfill her dreams bazwane nobaba wakhe
being absence of your father in your life does not mean that do bad things even if your father was present by the time its wouldnt stop you from smoking or drinking so do not blame your father for your wrong doing but face reality what you did was wrong
Thank you David good point i also raised by a single parent Who was selling iskobho , i went to Varsity, now im working, married i have my own house, Big up to a single parent
Remember we don't respond the same way to situations.. She was overwhelmed by the situation and didn't have anyone to talk to or share whatever she's going through.. I understand her pain
Mabu Evolter I get your point but as far as doing drugs at a primary level, that shows that ingane engalaleli ekhaya. There are lots of primary kids doing drugs in our society because they tryna look and act “cool”. More especially girls. Now that they’re drowning and it’s not cool anymore they blame other people. If you could ask her yini eyamenza wabhema in the first place ungathola ukuthi it has nothing to do with not knowing or having a father.
It's a mother's duty to connect a child with his/her father worse when the child is keen to know the other side of her family. If you treat a child differently from the other children then you expect them to be well behaved? It's easy to pass judgement when you are not on someone's shoes. Most moms on this program always support their kids when they are looking for their dads but Lerato's mum failed to say anything on camera....just a few words🤔
Sid Matt You could find that Lerato’s mother is still hurting about the way things turned out between her and Lerato’s father which may result to her not wanting to accompany Lerato in her journey. What I’ve seen in most cases is that some parents start treating their children badly because of their doings. You’d find that Lerato was warned about drugs and hanging with the boys but never listened which is why her mom may react like that. Not that she’s fighting Lerato, but in her mind she’s fighting her behavior and trying to make her aware that what she’s doing as a child doesn’t sit well with her. If Lerato’s father was keen to be part of her daughter’s life he would’ve made means to find her. Not that I’m saying umama ka Lerato u right by not telling Lerato the truth about ubaba wakhe but you can’t blame one parent.
She is not revelling much beside ukubhema lokungezwa kwakhe........But did you guys listen when she said she has done matric so much to try and better herself but all invain...desire is there but something more to it than what she is saying.....so people stop judging her.......
She isn't ok. She hasn't been coping with the absence of her father as well as the lack of affection from her mother. This girl seems to have serious abandonment issues.
Gracious Sonia Khums Honey, if you’ve done something before and failed. You need to reflect on what made you not pass in the first place. What is it that you can do differently if you attempt the same thing for the 2nd time. Was she studying enough? Did she ask for help from her peers or teachers? Did she dedicate enough time to her studies than spending time with friends doing drugs? If you don’t change how you do things you’ll always get the same results. Determination has to do with the change of attitude and that of doing things. Wearing your school uniform and going to school everyday is part of being determined. Studying hard and making sure that you meet your goals plays a bigger part here. Some people aren’t gifted in academics maybe angenza imisebenzi yezandla like learning a skill into ezomu ngenisela imali like chef, decorating, sewing and so on.
Looks like she needs advice on choosing her career options, if the academic world is a struggle why not focus on hands-on courses like interior design, chef etc.
Grief is a such unique emotion...may be he didn’t know what to do ngabantwana without their mother... he couldn’t step in and step up!... and he kept on walking as if
Susan Bhejane Some parents try and do their best but some kids just don’t wanna listen. You can be raised by the same parent in the same way but it’s the child’s decision to listen to the parent or listen to “friends” who lead them astray.
Honestly to me that's a lame excuse aiy many kids don't have father's let alone mother's but don't resort to bad stuff I'm not saying her fathers absenteeism didnt causs pain but come on let's not fool ourselves
I'll never understand how people blame absent fathers for their failures. My dad wasn't around, I didn't turn to drugs, I finished my matric and pushed to get into uni. Was it hard? Hell yeah. But I know that life is in my hands not my dad's. I hope she realizes this and starts pushing her life. She's still young
People deal with stressful situations differently. Just because you conquered your obstacles in a particular way doesn't mean you should admonish others for not. We need to be empathetic toward one another.
@@andilesibanda7865 that's true my dear Yingakho kuthiwa all human beings are mad but by differ degree of madness Meaning we do differ on handling the pain or challenges on our journey of life
Leave your alone he said hes sorry guys. The lady is way too pompous. She must cool the brother knows that his dad is sorry and I feel for his dad shems
I cannot express how much contempt I have firstly, for absentee parents who criticize the present parent and secondly, newly found parents who make promises they clearly have no means of fulfilling, and thirdly absentee parents who not only abandon their young children, but then leave them in the position of seeking them out as broken hearted adults. Have some decency and seek out your children, try to make amends even if you are ultimately rejected. Don't give children your responsibilities as parents, PLEASE!
The father in the second story does not have valid reasons but at least he realises that he made mistakes and he is asking for forgiveness. I hope that his children would forgive him and move forward
Tendani Pelaelo I think he got caught up with the new wife who in uncertain terms made it difficult for him to maintain contact and as result found himself isolated from first family.
Second story, the father showed that he accept his mistakes...but the lady hayi ukwatile...wena ukhana udla amabele.....Richard is a humble man....the second day shows really remorce and regret
Hello as the man in the second story was looking for a father in the letsholo family.. Am also looking for my brother's kid a girl her name is khutso letsholo her mother is violet letsholo if u knw them please
Kids sometimes don't seem to understand dad was hospitalized and rest assured you don't know how he feel it's like he neglected them, trueth is not question remain how how would he enter homestead of kids grand
Doing drugs bcs you don’t know your father that is not an excuse that was your choice honey and you wanna be police officer good luck with that one and getting clean from the drugs.
Hello as the man in the second story was looking for a father in the letsholo family.. Am also looking for my brother's kid a girl her name is khutso letsholo her mother is violet letsholo they also were from rusternburg🙏
You go to sleep, you wake up and its 30 years later. You forgot all about your kids, life went on and they had to carry the struggles of life alone 💔💔 But who am I to judge 🤷🏿♀️
Lol bathi lama drugs ukhona ukuyekela sisi??? Lol anghleki yazi 🤣😂 eish but quitting drugs it's not easy I know, I'm also struggling to quit the my depression pills it's so not easy it's a drug
Yeah I know and is not only drugs actually any addiction is not easy to control or to quit You must try to tell yourself that I'm enough now then you can deal with it Also the people around you mustn't judge you instead they must encourage you I wish you can get help the sooner the better
@@mbongenindaba1550 eish when you quit them you get really sick yoh. Eish I'm trying ey it's not easy. When I get really sick I then decide to take the pill again ey it's hard man and I don't wanna take this depression Pills anymore but I'm failing to quit
@@bonzabonzatee9046 if you really serious about quitting there is a very strict center of rehabilitation and if I MA ask where are you residing or call me on this number 0794209564
but i understand that not having a parent is sad....but ukuthi ngabhema ngoba ubaba ngingamazi.....you must not destroy your life because your dad is not there....what if you dont find him.... The first girl i guess she has been in the wrong company....
Not everyone is able to cope without knowing their father. More especially if your mother has little to no affection towards you. Not having her father around probably felt like rejection and as she says her mom never showed her any affection so that probably felt like another rejection. She sounds like she has abandonment issues and that she turned to drugs to cope. Do you know that you can feel like you've been abandoned and rejected whilst living with your mother in the same home. Let's not judge one another based on our own circumstances. No one is the same and therefore not everyone will handle the same problems in the same way.
unless there are deeper reasons the father on the 2nd story he can't tell on tv. He should just leave the church and start killing and witching, cause this is pure evil.
I think he is not ready to tell them I was almost on the same situation After getting married to my wife she passed on leaving behind our beloved son who was almost three months old I love my son with all my heart but after his mother's death I couldn't look at him even to hold him because whenever I saw him he brought all the pain of losing my wife so fortunately some wise elders advise me to go for counseling After the counseling I went straight to fetch my son to live with me then when I got used to deal with a loss of my wife So some people bayathanda ukwahlulela
This is bull shit , that not a proper reason to smoke drags... Theres a lot of children who were don't know her /his parent.... Banengi abanga bazi abazali babo kodwana baphumelele Wena nje wenza ngamabomu
I see you all are judging the lady that she must not blame her father for all that she failed to achieve.. Just because you had strength to get through your situation it doesn't mean the other person who fails to do so is a failure.. We respond differently to situations.. It's more harder when you have no one to talk to.. The lady is positive just that she lacks support and motivation
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This is most certainly true! Thank you so much for these words.
I've learned nt to never judge how someone deals with pain or rejection if she couldn't cope enough to finish school that's her journey only she can understand
I found myself crying
No offense guys. This girl started doing drugs in year 2010 and only did her matric in 2017. Clearly she started doing drugs in Primary school. Akekho umuntu obhemisa omunye ngenkani, it’s either she gave in to peer pressure, or ukuthanda izinto qha. I’ve been through shit but I knew that drugs don’t fix things they make them worse. In our society there are many young people, especially girls they doing drugs because they think it’s “cool” and if ungawenzi uyimpatha. Let’s not run away from the truth. U girl wahluleka ukuziphathisa okwengane while still in primary school and made the wrong choices manje uthi ubhenyiswe ukungabikhona kwa bab’bwakhe.
@@busisiwentsaluba9561 sad truth
@@busisiwentsaluba9561 and whats crazy is that she kinda blames her father's for her actions. God forgive me but her taking drugs its all her fault
It's sad to see so many people judge the first lady. Not everyone can handle rejection. She is broken.
It's sad" she hasn't had a good start in life. I hope she can overcome the drug problem and finish her school, her father appears to be a very decent human being.
@@sammalan1353 I hope so too.
I agree and she wants to succeed, imagine attempting matric 3 times shows determination
@@sandilehlophe4535 exactly. once was stressful enough. I applaud her. She will get better.
Before we judge the first lady..... Let all men out there understand this.... Stop persuing girls for sexual purposes this is what happens at the end, us as parents must be there for our kids and I am not holy I am raising a daughter out of wedlock but I am looking after her and her mom coz I added this burden on them. I don't want my daughter to to go through this ever. This thing is a huge lesson for us as men. To women out there stop falling for us men not knowing our intentions and not knowing your stand point kids suffer the most
Eish Lerato has been through a lot!!! I pray for her she leaves drugs and study hard. She sounds intelligent and determined. I hope finding her father would would make her a better person.
These fathers are so nice. God bless them. I really feel for the 2nd dad. He’s so humble and honest about the situation but the kids aren’t having it. Eish.
His tears tore me apart 💔💔💔😭
She looks like nomia rosemary the serial killer an shes frm mpumalanga
Good luck Lerato. I just love you for your braveness. And your father is a gentleman. ♥️🙏
The comments towards the first story are rather upsetting but i blame the ignorance on South Africa's education system. Do yourselves a favour, pick up a psychology book and read. People react differently to situations. She already mentioned that the mother is abusive, then no father to possibly be patient with her during adolescence. Listen to understand bantu but for most online bullies is just a matter of running away from your own troubles, being mean to the next person to feel better about yourself. Alcohol is also a drug, smoking just cigarettes is also a form of coping, sex addiction etc. Don't tear the next person down because you haven't done the same. khumbulekhaya should be opening your eyes to such matters. VUKANI HLE
Well said I wish I can put 10000 likes on these❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Yah no
This is my job every day but in a different country and environment. The advantage nge African culture yikuthi we have extended families who help us in bringing up our children. Whereas here in UK, social services takes over and abantwana bakhulele kuma foster and supported living. I pray one day God uses me to come back home and give back what I have learnt and appreciate ubuntu bethu
Buhle Ndlovu being in a a foster 🙆🏽♀️ I can’t imagine
the 2nd story, It takes a man to do what this guy did. He confessed his wrongs and asked for forgiveness without looking for excuses or blaming others.
I am so proud of u Richard salute my brother if I can turn back the time n have my dad back, a dad it's a most important part of life
A trillion thanks for uploading the videos. This is real life.
God sees the heart more than anything, the second story touched me so much and I pray that God gives them strength to forgive and let go. Better a man who humbles himself to those he wronged, than one who doesn’t do anything at all. ❤️❤️❤️Sending love and light 🌸
I couldn't hold my tears, may the Lord be with them in Jesus Name.
The second story..🙆🏾♀️ this is how u roast a dead bit father.🤣😂
Ngokuzwa kwam uthi umama bekangamphathi njengalabanye abantwana thats y waze wenza izinto ezibhedayo 😕abanye abazali bayakwazi ukungathandi iyngani zabo ngokungafan
So true
Exactly and I'm confused as to why people are missing that.
yeah its sad and the four each has own father, maybe other took good care of their children
Please young lady, I have worked in drug and alcohol rehabilitation. This is a journey you may have to do between you and God. If your father doesn't live up to your expectations know that you are strong enough and valuable enough to continue to complete recovery alone if necessary. God bless you. I'm rooting for you from a whole different continent, lots of people will be rooting for you in spirit and praying for you. God bless you sweetheart.
Hilda looks like her father.. ❤😊. Moruti was showing remorse. I like how you handled the situation. Don't ever lose contact with your kids anymore. Second story. My father after losing my mother he was not fine at all, he spends lot of time not seeing us but at least financially he was there for us, but sometimes emotional support is important even your presence
I m so happy for this young lady . Hope her dad will help her to turn he life around
Ncooooo Lerato😓😓 all the best ma love👏👏👏 wow ngiyamjabulela🤗🤗
While i agree that its not easy growing up without your parents but that is not a reason u can use to misbehave...i grew up without knowing my father n used my mothers surname up to today n to make things worse i never had a chance to be raised by my mother too n was raised by my dear grandma..may her soul rest in peace..However inspite of all those circumstances i was able to finish school n go to university n even got married n now am raising my own 3 kids that i live so much n trying by all means to give them d love i never had...what am trying to say is this ..let us use our painful backgrounds as a stepping stone to success ..my painful background encouraged me that i want to be independent so guys stop blaming your absent parents for your wrong choices in life ..i have been through it n others like me ..lets teach these absent heartless parents a lesdon that noma basilahla but uNkulunkulu wasithwala n led us to be successful ..yes i understand its painful i know it n have been through a lot of hardships but God never let me down indeed He is the father of the fatherless..lets try our best to rise up above stormy waters...
thank you.....
the way we deal with situations is different,you cannot say just because you made without your father then she has to make it as well.
Amen to that
Depend by ur hrt... U can hold it... N here she is saying her mother was not treating her ncyly so with my psychological knowledge the behavior is cause by stress... Depression.... She can't handle it by herself.... So les be fair this is painful guys... She nd hpns guys. Thank u for accepting (both daddy n lerato).... All the best
@@mookhomathiase3529...... True... They a df ways to handle our stress
Second story please guys forgive the old man he was so humble but Richard ngatsi sowuva buhlungu when the old man cry . Am happy for you Guys nimutfole asaphila and to God be the Glory .
Syabongela cc ngoba sewumtholile ubabwakho........kodwa awuyeke ukukhuluma kakhulu.........okuhle ukut ubabwakho uzmisele ukulungisa yonkento......
lol kanti yini
I salute Mr Maripa wish all fathers can give their kids support
I like how the father is willing to help her out and actually wants to see her in a healthy environment. mara moghel😁. She's promising and has planned a lot, I hope it all falls on that path. planning too much is not good
I graduated three times without .my parents because my mother was a domestic worker , could not afford to go to the ceremony .
I passed my matric so well without knowing my father I'm doing well in varsity without him girls let's no fool ourselves
Agreed let's not aiy
True
She can't blame her father's absence for her misconduct
Seng Zither wise girl
That was my first reaction ...life is a choice
Great for you but let's not judge, we don't deal with pain the same way, we are not all strong
They look alike lerato and her daddy😍
How you turn out in life is fully your responsibility mtase stop blaming other people for your mistakes because you'll never change once u start looking for people to blame with the decisions you make.
Amen
This generation don't want to take responsibility over their actions.
bianca tshepiso ndlovu Thank you mntase. Some people never wanna take responsibility for their poor choices. They always wanna point fingers and say I did this because so and so did that. You choose your own journey and if you see that it’s leading you astray you can always change and make better informed decisions.
The second gentleman humbled himself before his kids.
david msomi bullshit.. He is pathetic. For 30 years, he just disappeared. Fuck humble.
@@ChooseU4ever You're angry dude. Calm down..
@@unboundedinc7446 not angry but frustrated. These deadbeat fathers will frustrate you!!! 🤦🏿♀️
Drugs is by choice.i love how she likes school she can change
The second man really touched my heart. He is only the second father I have seen apologizing with such sincerity and regret. You could see he was really ashamed of himself. I wish them all the best. God bless them all. For those parents who have children growing up without them, it is never too late. Seek them out, make amends.
I'm not judging her but I wonder if she'll change after she find her father
Exactly nobody can motivate you to change your life except yourself
What a touching story,yingakho ngingasoze ngazlahla izingane zami.
i dont have a father and my mother and i dont have a home either but i studied hard not having a father is not an excuse bathong ngikhule ngihlukunyezwa and lokho akaze kungivimbe ngilale 2 days ngingadlile ngvuke ngyeskoleni
khethelo xulu People never want to own up for their poor decision making and poor choices. If I could share my story many would cry for days but I didn’t let pain and rejection to stand in my way. I pushed hard enough to be somebody in life. If you never own up to your own mistakes you’ll live the rest of your life blaming the next person because it’s easy to do so. Doing drugs has never been a solution to any problem.
Wow baby gurl i feel ur pain ur dad will support u❤️❤️❤️
I pray to all the helpless souls to find peace... find peace at all you do... Yahweh have mercy my lord. Have mercy. Peace be upon all the downtrodden
The first girl has deeper issues I'm glad uthole ubabakhe
Exactly. I don't understand how people can't see it. She is hurting so much.
@@perfectlyimperfect1095 rejection aydlali Mina I understand her situation I don't blame her as much as kunge yona into eryt ukudla I drugs
I hope she'll go back to school and fulfill her dreams bazwane nobaba wakhe
You are such a wonderful father wish you luck
Her mum was angry with the father through umtwana. Bo mama, we need to be close to our children sikhulume nabo be accessible to our children
facts
Thanks admin
being absence of your father in your life does not mean that do bad things even if your father was present by the time its wouldnt stop you from smoking or drinking so do not blame your father for your wrong doing but face reality what you did was wrong
Ukungabaz abazali bakho akusikona okukwenza wenze izinto ezimbi why ungalwelwi ukushitsha impilo yakho wht if noma sewubatholile nabo bawumthwalo badinga usizo kuwe lm 32 years angmaz ubaba but ngikhonile kukhulu kanzima yebo ngiyavuma but ngalwa ngakhela bantwana bam umuz 2boyz life goes on
Thank you admin
Dnt blame ur parents for what ddnt archive, i grow up without any support from my father' , i passed matric and now am working, life is going on
Thank you David good point i also raised by a single parent Who was selling iskobho , i went to Varsity, now im working, married i have my own house, Big up to a single parent
Remember we don't respond the same way to situations.. She was overwhelmed by the situation and didn't have anyone to talk to or share whatever she's going through.. I understand her pain
Mabu Evolter I get your point but as far as doing drugs at a primary level, that shows that ingane engalaleli ekhaya. There are lots of primary kids doing drugs in our society because they tryna look and act “cool”. More especially girls. Now that they’re drowning and it’s not cool anymore they blame other people. If you could ask her yini eyamenza wabhema in the first place ungathola ukuthi it has nothing to do with not knowing or having a father.
Iciniso lelo bhti'wami
@@mabuevolter4952 but she had a mom though it ain't like she's an orphan.
She is a soldier and I wish her well.
It's a mother's duty to connect a child with his/her father worse when the child is keen to know the other side of her family. If you treat a child differently from the other children then you expect them to be well behaved? It's easy to pass judgement when you are not on someone's shoes. Most moms on this program always support their kids when they are looking for their dads but Lerato's mum failed to say anything on camera....just a few words🤔
Exactly. It's really sad.
Sid Matt You could find that Lerato’s mother is still hurting about the way things turned out between her and Lerato’s father which may result to her not wanting to accompany Lerato in her journey. What I’ve seen in most cases is that some parents start treating their children badly because of their doings. You’d find that Lerato was warned about drugs and hanging with the boys but never listened which is why her mom may react like that. Not that she’s fighting Lerato, but in her mind she’s fighting her behavior and trying to make her aware that what she’s doing as a child doesn’t sit well with her.
If Lerato’s father was keen to be part of her daughter’s life he would’ve made means to find her. Not that I’m saying umama ka Lerato u right by not telling Lerato the truth about ubaba wakhe but you can’t blame one parent.
Yoh the second episode ‼️‼️ the definition of a Dead bit dad‼️
2000s are now looking for their father's, with how things are done nowadays they are still gonna look for them😕
She is not revelling much beside ukubhema lokungezwa kwakhe........But did you guys listen when she said she has done matric so much to try and better herself but all invain...desire is there but something more to it than what she is saying.....so people stop judging her.......
She isn't ok. She hasn't been coping with the absence of her father as well as the lack of affection from her mother. This girl seems to have serious abandonment issues.
Gracious Sonia Khums I think she is suffering from depression
Gracious Sonia Khums Honey, if you’ve done something before and failed. You need to reflect on what made you not pass in the first place. What is it that you can do differently if you attempt the same thing for the 2nd time.
Was she studying enough? Did she ask for help from her peers or teachers? Did she dedicate enough time to her studies than spending time with friends doing drugs?
If you don’t change how you do things you’ll always get the same results. Determination has to do with the change of attitude and that of doing things.
Wearing your school uniform and going to school everyday is part of being determined. Studying hard and making sure that you meet your goals plays a bigger part here. Some people aren’t gifted in academics maybe angenza imisebenzi yezandla like learning a skill into ezomu ngenisela imali like chef, decorating, sewing and so on.
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so imatric ifumaneka ngotata,hayi sisi khowume kancinci thetha enyinto
This girl is not bad because she still wants to do good things for her mum. This man Maripa seems to be a good man but he's coming in sekumoshekile
Looks like she needs advice on choosing her career options, if the academic world is a struggle why not focus on hands-on courses like interior design, chef etc.
Creapy how my late's sister's name is Ida and I'm Hilda and we have a Richard in my family 😩😂issthumashii
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Drugs and matric don't go together! Is either you pass drugs or you pass matric. You can't pass both!!
This man left his children after they had just lost their mother... now that’s evil
Grief is a such unique emotion...may be he didn’t know what to do ngabantwana without their mother... he couldn’t step in and step up!... and he kept on walking as if
beauty qukwana and what were abantwana supposed to do without anyone to raise them? Let’s not use grief as a scapegoat hle.
my point exactly
Zama Khumalo People will always look for something or someone to blame, simply because they don’t wanna take responsibility and be accountable.
Family is more important 🙏🙏🙏
Okumangazako , banengi abacedileko iskolo
2.Banengi abanga bhemi abangamazi obaba babo .
Leyo yona akusizo usizathu leso
Le mbhedo yidodi leyo banengi abanga bazi aboyise kodwa baphumelele...
( uloko uzihlupha ngoba naku yena akana ndaba nawe , y uzi hlupha???)
Ndasvimha misodzi nhasi, mwari pindirai muhupeny hwevana ava
Thank You Admin 🌹
Touched by Lerato's story! Only if her mother had raised her in a different way,
Susan Bhejane Some parents try and do their best but some kids just don’t wanna listen. You can be raised by the same parent in the same way but it’s the child’s decision to listen to the parent or listen to “friends” who lead them astray.
So the young lady from the 1st video 2:55 started smoking simply because she didn't know her father?
Honestly to me that's a lame excuse aiy many kids don't have father's let alone mother's but don't resort to bad stuff I'm not saying her fathers absenteeism didnt causs pain but come on let's not fool ourselves
I wish she can just listen, she talks too much.
BIG- MIKE imagine🙄🙄
@@vava761 Lol i'm speechless, sometimes we need to accept when we made a mistake instead of looking for an excuse.
So what if her father also smokes
First lady daddy's copy
I'll never understand how people blame absent fathers for their failures. My dad wasn't around, I didn't turn to drugs, I finished my matric and pushed to get into uni. Was it hard? Hell yeah. But I know that life is in my hands not my dad's. I hope she realizes this and starts pushing her life. She's still young
People deal with stressful situations differently. Just because you conquered your obstacles in a particular way doesn't mean you should admonish others for not. We need to be empathetic toward one another.
My be people around u was showing u love she said her mother beats and swear at her,
God bless them
Ey uyabheda Cc wena ubuziphathelwe ukusa nja, other gal they doing well in love without their father Mxm usbhedela la
Some without their parents ...this sister should stop blame shifting and own up her mistake
Asicabangi ngendlela ezifayo she's right
@@andilesibanda7865 that's true my dear
Yingakho kuthiwa all human beings are mad but by differ degree of madness
Meaning we do differ on handling the pain or challenges on our journey of life
@@andilesibanda7865thats not a reason banengi abakhule ngaphandle kwabo yise kodwa baphumelele bana everything
So lentombazana iyabheda
Nangu omunye ,why guys niloko nizihlupha ngabantu abangana ndaba nani basho niyiba funa bona bangani funi...
Leave your alone he said hes sorry guys. The lady is way too pompous. She must cool the brother knows that his dad is sorry and I feel for his dad shems
I REALISED THAT MOST OF MARATHON FATHERS ARE 100% BIOLOGICAL FATHERS 😭😭😭🙆♂️🙆♂️
Allisaa ntate oooo bambalwa bontate batsebang hokopa tswarelo baneng bahae ubontsha tumelo nnetiiii tswaranang jwalooo
What an emotional time the 2nd man. God bless him.
By your own self
So u started smoking because you didn't know your father?😳 usile lomtana
I hope she is not gonna steal for that father drugs addict are stealing
@@evamodipadi7171 😂😂😂😃 she wants to stay in the city #res
This is sad. Black community we need a lot of healing to do for our generation
I cannot express how much contempt I have firstly, for absentee parents who criticize the present parent and secondly, newly found parents who make promises they clearly have no means of fulfilling, and thirdly absentee parents who not only abandon their young children, but then leave them in the position of seeking them out as broken hearted adults. Have some decency and seek out your children, try to make amends even if you are ultimately rejected. Don't give children your responsibilities as parents, PLEASE!
The father in the second story does not have valid reasons but at least he realises that he made mistakes and he is asking for forgiveness. I hope that his children would forgive him and move forward
Tendani Pelaelo I think he got caught up with the new wife who in uncertain terms made it difficult for him to maintain contact and as result found himself isolated from first family.
Tendani Pelaelo he is a deadbeat dad. Stop making excuses for him. How do you just leave 3 kids and never visit them.
@@ChooseU4ever knowing exactly where he left them, deadbeats are exhausting
Second story, the father showed that he accept his mistakes...but the lady hayi ukwatile...wena ukhana udla amabele.....Richard is a humble man....the second day shows really remorce and regret
A full 30 years 😲😲😲😲
Omphemetse Mogorosi l was still feelings at that time🙇🏽♂️🙇🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️
Dankie Admin🙏❤
I'm from Rusty and this part killed me, cos there's no Taung in Rusty and there's no Pampierstaat in Taung Pampierstaat is in Northern Cape 25:39
😂😂😂Ae man 😅😅
Hello as the man in the second story was looking for a father in the letsholo family.. Am also looking for my brother's kid a girl her name is khutso letsholo her mother is violet letsholo if u knw them please
Kids sometimes don't seem to understand dad was hospitalized and rest assured you don't know how he feel it's like he neglected them, trueth is not question remain how how would he enter homestead of kids grand
Doing drugs bcs you don’t know your father that is not an excuse that was your choice honey and you wanna be police officer good luck with that one and getting clean from the drugs.
The opening story though...eish
Hello as the man in the second story was looking for a father in the letsholo family.. Am also looking for my brother's kid a girl her name is khutso letsholo her mother is violet letsholo they also were from rusternburg🙏
Ufunde ke Dali... imbuzi ayizokubhalela amaexam. Sibulela ukuthi umtholile ubaba
People go through issues differently. We react ngendlela ezinga fani
You go to sleep, you wake up and its 30 years later.
You forgot all about your kids, life went on and they had to carry the struggles of life alone 💔💔
But who am I to judge 🤷🏿♀️
and after 30 years u say I will search for them in december Awa ummaka
@@bulelamyeza4017 like the nerve, he should have just apologized and admitted to being a deadbeat!
Wow so u r smoking bcos u dot knw ur father 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Really?
Nonhlanhla Mthombothi imagine 🤣🤣🤣 this girl mara
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As long mom is there for me l will chase my dreams no matter what study is the key
Agona ditulo kamooo
Looking at the dad, do you think he will help him pass matric😂😂😂. Sit your ass down girl amd STUDY!!!!!!!!
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ge o tsuba di drugs baby girl o Nagana gore o ne o lukisa eng shame
Lol bathi lama drugs ukhona ukuyekela sisi??? Lol anghleki yazi 🤣😂 eish but quitting drugs it's not easy I know, I'm also struggling to quit the my depression pills it's so not easy it's a drug
Yeah I know and is not only drugs actually any addiction is not easy to control or to quit
You must try to tell yourself that I'm enough now then you can deal with it
Also the people around you mustn't judge you instead they must encourage you
I wish you can get help the sooner the better
@@mbongenindaba1550 eish when you quit them you get really sick yoh. Eish I'm trying ey it's not easy. When I get really sick I then decide to take the pill again ey it's hard man and I don't wanna take this depression
Pills anymore but I'm failing to quit
@@bonzabonzatee9046 if you really serious about quitting there is a very strict center of rehabilitation and if I MA ask where are you residing or call me on this number 0794209564
Ive been prescribed depression meds and I'm scared of taking them.
Did she leave Dr*gs?
Yoh Richard's father 😭😭
but i understand that not having a parent is sad....but ukuthi ngabhema ngoba ubaba ngingamazi.....you must not destroy your life because your dad is not there....what if you dont find him.... The first girl i guess she has been in the wrong company....
Girl you are full of excuses, drugs are drugs
Not everyone is able to cope without knowing their father. More especially if your mother has little to no affection towards you. Not having her father around probably felt like rejection and as she says her mom never showed her any affection so that probably felt like another rejection. She sounds like she has abandonment issues and that she turned to drugs to cope. Do you know that you can feel like you've been abandoned and rejected whilst living with your mother in the same home. Let's not judge one another based on our own circumstances. No one is the same and therefore not everyone will handle the same problems in the same way.
Second father , foolish father
Lerato is brave
unless there are deeper reasons the father on the 2nd story he can't tell on tv. He should just leave the church and start killing and witching, cause this is pure evil.
I think he is not ready to tell them
I was almost on the same situation
After getting married to my wife she passed on leaving behind our beloved son who was almost three months old
I love my son with all my heart but after his mother's death I couldn't look at him even to hold him because whenever I saw him he brought all the pain of losing my wife so fortunately some wise elders advise me to go for counseling
After the counseling I went straight to fetch my son to live with me then when I got used to deal with a loss of my wife
So some people bayathanda ukwahlulela
@@mbongenindaba1550 im glad you took it like a man and faced your responsibility. Big up to you!
Why are you advocating of killing ?
@@mathomesamuel801 figuratively your fool
Kikikiki for a mere fact asking you a question now iam a fool?
This is bull shit , that not a proper reason to smoke drags...
Theres a lot of children who were don't know her /his parent....
Banengi abanga bazi abazali babo kodwana baphumelele
Wena nje wenza ngamabomu
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