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My darling husband died almost 5 years ago, after 33 wonderful years together. 2 years ago, I met Andrew, a widower who had also had a loving marriage. After almost 3 years on my own (he had been on his own for 8 years) We had both proved that we could be ok on our own. We met through a mutual friend. It was a slow burn at first, but after a few months, we fell in love. I’m 60 and he’s almost 70. We’re both young at heart and have lots in common. The best part is that we make each other laugh every day. Whatever time we have left will be spent loving and respecting one another. I feel so truly blessed. ❤️
I have a 10 year age gap with mine its been 3 years.. I have questions living together or marriage is that important. Are you working or retired? Im divorced and on my own independent for many years, my Son an adult. He is widower of nearly 5 years no kids. ❤ he bot a new home wants me there.
@ I’m still working. I’m a pro singer who’s had a pretty good career. You can view a video of me by typing in Jackie X Factor 2018. Nowadays I spend my time singing mostly for the elderly in carehomes, which is incredibly rewarding. I’d marry my man in a heartbeat, but we’re taking it one day at a time.
We as woman behave as a reflectors in a relationship. For us to be “home” or “peace” to a man, he need to give us comfort, stability and integrity. Thank you big brother 🙏🏻❤
P: Positive possibility E: Embracing the present moment A: Accepting yourself . Self love. C: Creating certainty by matching actions and words E: Engage the play, engage the passion.
Overcoming differences, I agree, is vitally important to the health of a relationship. I appreciate your many points of excellent advice contained within this video Jonathon! 🌟
I can tell she lets you be you.i understand as a creative its much needed!! She sounds just happy to be with you and visa versa. Everyday life is simple, it cant always be excitement travel etc, that becomes exhausting. If you feel a good topic can you talk about age gaps in relationships and what to consider? Take care 😊
Thank you for this! It really resonates with me. I am talking with I guy I feel a connection with and he told me he does as well, but he is scared of a relationship because his ex cheated on him. He told me he desires me, thinks I'm beautiful, intelligent, amazing and kind, and he texts me almost every day, but has not asked me out on a second date. I found myself getting too emotionally attached and now I have decided to walk away because he is not meeting me where I am at. It sucks because I feel like there is potential for something amazing but I can't make him want to make an effort to date me. 😔💔
"since feeling is first who pays any attention to the syntax of things will never wholly kiss you; wholly to be a fool while Spring is in the world my blood approves, and kisses are a better fate than wisdom..." Ee Cummings --1926 excerpt from "since feeling is first"
I've been dating a guy for the past 5 months. I'll have to move to another country for an academic term, so we'll be away for 4-5 months. I don't have any other chance than to leave cause I have to attend a lecture and this wasn't planned so came as a surprise. Everything is going well regarding the relationship but I don't know how things will be after I move. He'll be visiting me once a week or once every two weeks. How can I continue having a good relationship with him even though we'll be living far away? It's 5 hours by car. He's 45 and I'm 29
You might not want to admit it to yourself but you already have doubts. He is also in a different phase of life with quite different experiences. Take that into consideration.
All in. Means to me your kids your grandkids. Your elderly parents...lucky my problems are less but get worse in midlife. I might just go for the 20 somethings with no extras. I'm weirdly low maintenance in that way but not meeting anyone in my age group that isn't. Also realising people this age are single for a reason so definitely look within. Everyone.
Love is not a choice. One cannot choose or unchoose it because it's not a cognitive entity. It's an emotion. Emotion is defined as the 'irrational"--it doesn't originate from the mind, but from the heart & sometimes from the soul. Perhaps some folks are incapable of feeling, or are so confused they cannot return to a natural state. Does a human consciously choose to feel one thing or another? No. We're hardwired to feel a variety of emotions. Look to the young ones who have not yet been schooled. (Our state of knowledge is primitive, but currently we are told the limbic system is responsible for emotion. It's believed it's the older part of the brain vs the cerebral cortex that is the seat of the intellect. Yes there's interplay, but if you're deciding who you love, you're not actually loving at all. You're thinking.)
Love is an action, not an emotion or feeling. Love is a choice. You can have loving feelings toward someone, but you can choose to act in a loving way toward someone even if you don't have loving feelings. Feelings go away, and the strength of those feelings can fluctuate. But that doesn't mean you have to change the way you act toward that person based on how strong those feelings are.
@SandraBrixey obviously, I disagree. As you say, one can act in loving manner towards someone or something, regardless of how one feels towards them. That is very different from feeling love for someone. Love is not a choice, unfortunately. It's a feeling. Conversely, our behaviors are what we choose. Our behaviors can be willfully, cognitively, controlled regardless of our feelings. We can act in a loving manner towards someone without actually feeling love for them.
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My darling husband died almost 5 years ago, after 33 wonderful years together.
2 years ago, I met Andrew, a widower who had also had a loving marriage. After almost 3 years on my own (he had been on his own for 8 years) We had both proved that we could be ok on our own. We met through a mutual friend. It was a slow burn at first, but after a few months, we fell in love. I’m 60 and he’s almost 70. We’re both young at heart and have lots in common. The best part is that we make each other laugh every day. Whatever time we have left will be spent loving and respecting one another. I feel so truly blessed. ❤️
Thanks for sharing your lovely stiry! ❤😊
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I have a 10 year age gap with mine its been 3 years.. I have questions living together or marriage is that important. Are you working or retired? Im divorced and on my own independent for many years, my Son an adult. He is widower of nearly 5 years no kids. ❤ he bot a new home wants me there.
@ I’m still working. I’m a pro singer who’s had a pretty good career. You can view a video of me by typing in Jackie X Factor 2018. Nowadays I spend my time singing mostly for the elderly in carehomes, which is incredibly rewarding. I’d marry my man in a heartbeat, but we’re taking it one day at a time.
Congratulations!
We as woman behave as a reflectors in a relationship. For us to be “home” or “peace” to a man, he need to give us comfort, stability and integrity. Thank you big brother 🙏🏻❤
Agreed...
This is so true.
P:
Positive possibility
E: Embracing the present moment
A: Accepting yourself . Self love.
C: Creating certainty by matching actions and words
E: Engage the play, engage the passion.
Exactly
Awesome Meaning 👏 Thanks 🙏❤
You are so welcome
Overcoming differences, I agree, is vitally important to the health of a relationship. I appreciate your many points of excellent advice contained within this video Jonathon! 🌟
Thank you 😊
One of your best presentations. Clear and concise, full of useful and creative content. PEACE acronym particularly important. 🎉❤
Thanks
PEACE JA you are the best!!! I hope your new lady is making you happy 😊🎉
She is exceeding my expectations... I'm very happy 😊
Thank you 😊 💓 ☺️
I can tell she lets you be you.i understand as a creative its much needed!! She sounds just happy to be with you and visa versa. Everyday life is simple, it cant always be excitement travel etc, that becomes exhausting. If you feel a good topic can you talk about age gaps in relationships and what to consider? Take care
😊
@@JonathonAslay
Wonderful Jonathon.
I am very happy for you!
❤❤
Two love hearts for two souls.
Love and to continue loving is a choice... everyday
Exactly
Good morning everyone
Hey 👋
Thank you for this! It really resonates with me. I am talking with I guy I feel a connection with and he told me he does as well, but he is scared of a relationship because his ex cheated on him. He told me he desires me, thinks I'm beautiful, intelligent, amazing and kind, and he texts me almost every day, but has not asked me out on a second date. I found myself getting too emotionally attached and now I have decided to walk away because he is not meeting me where I am at. It sucks because I feel like there is potential for something amazing but I can't make him want to make an effort to date me. 😔💔
That's sad...
@JonathonAslay I agree, my heart hurts.
Always great advice! ❤❤❤
Glad you think so!
Thank you
You're welcome
beautiful orchids
So nice of you
❤ Good Morning
Good morning!
"since feeling is first
who pays any attention
to the syntax of things
will never wholly kiss you;
wholly to be a fool
while Spring is in the world
my blood approves,
and kisses are a better fate
than wisdom..."
Ee Cummings --1926 excerpt from "since feeling is first"
I've been dating a guy for the past 5 months. I'll have to move to another country for an academic term, so we'll be away for 4-5 months. I don't have any other chance than to leave cause I have to attend a lecture and this wasn't planned so came as a surprise. Everything is going well regarding the relationship but I don't know how things will be after I move. He'll be visiting me once a week or once every two weeks. How can I continue having a good relationship with him even though we'll be living far away? It's 5 hours by car. He's 45 and I'm 29
You might not want to admit it to yourself but you already have doubts. He is also in a different phase of life with quite different experiences. Take that into consideration.
If He's in love, he'll make it work
All in. Means to me your kids your grandkids. Your elderly parents...lucky my problems are less but get worse in midlife. I might just go for the 20 somethings with no extras. I'm weirdly low maintenance in that way but not meeting anyone in my age group that isn't. Also realising people this age are single for a reason so definitely look within. Everyone.
Plat de resistance.
Exactly
Love is not a choice. One cannot choose or unchoose it because it's not a cognitive entity. It's an emotion. Emotion is defined as the 'irrational"--it doesn't originate from the mind, but from the heart & sometimes from the soul. Perhaps some folks are incapable of feeling, or are so confused they cannot return to a natural state. Does a human consciously choose to feel one thing or another? No. We're hardwired to feel a variety of emotions. Look to the young ones who have not yet been schooled.
(Our state of knowledge is primitive, but currently we are told the limbic system is responsible for emotion. It's believed it's the older part of the brain vs the cerebral cortex that is the seat of the intellect. Yes there's interplay, but if you're deciding who you love, you're not actually loving at all. You're thinking.)
Love is an action, not an emotion or feeling. Love is a choice. You can have loving feelings toward someone, but you can choose to act in a loving way toward someone even if you don't have loving feelings. Feelings go away, and the strength of those feelings can fluctuate. But that doesn't mean you have to change the way you act toward that person based on how strong those feelings are.
@SandraBrixey obviously, I disagree. As you say, one can act in loving manner towards someone or something, regardless of how one feels towards them. That is very different from feeling love for someone. Love is not a choice, unfortunately. It's a feeling. Conversely, our behaviors are what we choose. Our behaviors can be willfully, cognitively, controlled regardless of our feelings. We can act in a loving manner towards someone without actually feeling love for them.
Love absolutely is a choice! I can’t imagine someone trying to make me love them 💕🦋
Jonathan…11:11! Love it!
Jonathan, congratulations on your new lady friend! Hope it works out for you two! 💕🦋
11:11 always for me too
11:11 me too!
❤
💕
Hey, it's 2:27!😂🤣