Episode #24 - Dating and Dollars Don't Always Make Cents
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- Опубліковано 7 лют 2025
- As we approach the end of the August 2016 video series "Manipulative Shit Black Men Say to Make Black Women Jump Through Hoops", we delve into the sob stories and pimp game used by black males to get their hands on your credit cards, and their fingers into your bank accounts, 401k retirement plans, deeds, investment accounts, and lines of credit.
Many black women have no problem telling the men they are merely dating far too much personal information about the financial resources they have. This information is then used against them as a tool to establish or maintain a relationship and to "earn" a husband.
His trump card? If you don't give him the money he seeks, you'll be told you aren't "wife material" because "a real wife shares with her husband." How can he make you jump through hoops to get to him, using your money as the bait? Listen and learn!
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Please watch: "Burnt Toast Syndrome: Women Who Sacrifice Themselves to Make Others Happy"
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giving any form of financial help to a man is not been nice is a form of low self esteem.
What about black women who slide the man money to pay the check or cab or whatever? They do that so they won't "emasculate" him or "embarrass" him. WTF? He BROKE. He should be humiliated and embarrassed and emasculated cause he is BROKE. I swear, the codependent mindset of black women always thinking they saving some stupid man.
So let me get this straight.if you're in a relationship with a man and he needs money he should ask another man instead of his woman.the man that he asks is gonna tell him to ask his woman or who ever he's f@&king.if he isn't fucking somebody else he's gonna start just for that reason.broke men cheat for survival.if you're the type of woman that won't give your man money if he needs it then he'll just ask another woman.i appreciate you for trying to teach us women to not get used by men.but at the same time you're teaching us the opposite of teamwork.and teamwork makes a relationship work.and a woman withholding financial info from her man is not teamwork.
+HarpoWho DisWoman Hotep!!
+canthydefromyuhself Yes!! I just saw this scenario play out twice!!
I live in the Caribbean and I used to be a waitress at an upscale restaurant. Rarely you will find a black couple in there but when you do see a black couple dining at the restaurant, 9 out of 10 the woman paid. That shit use to get me depressed because I couldn't understand why when non black couples come in or even a black man and non black woman, the men paid but every time a black woman is dining with a black man she is paying. But I don't feel bad for them anymore because only a mammy would do something so damn stupid. I'm not a waitress anymore but when I'm dinning out and I see a black couple I still look to see who pays lol.
I will never spend a penny on a man. I have better things to do.
True. We do run our mouths too damn much. Sistahs do tell on themselves.
I'm so disgusted by males asking for money and the males around me know this and wouldn't dare.
My ex tried to "jokingly" ask for money and I "jokingly" made him spend way more than he intended to that day.
I do not entertain broke males at all. If you can't support yourself you have no rights to a woman, period.
Now if a guy is financially stable or well off and still asks a woman for money, he's trying to see if she is easy to be controlled. The power play bs is done with money too.
I'm watching this bs play out with a family member right now and I tried to help her several times but she's the type who looks for validation from negro males. All I can do is shake my head.
I'm a stingy young lady. Stinginess is the way to success. Be stingy!
You are probably not stingy….just dont wanna give money to a man who is not your life partner. or you probably won't pick a man who has money problems.
ZhanaZee I'm not giving my money to man and I don't believe in life partners. That shit don't work.
~ I saw on another YT video where some BM were laughing and rejoicing at the fact that BW were the most educated yet had a net worth of $5. This is part of the reason why!!! The BW is taking care of them, their children, and family. SMH.
You are right!! Taking care of these bums, just desperate to keep a man around at any cost...LITERALLY :/
Exactly, Black women are always coming out of their pockets even if when they have a so called man, while he gets to spend his money on what he wants or stack it up.
+I'veBeenThinking be sure to send me pictures!!
canthydefromyuhself ~ I'm a single mother, too. It's sad to say, but I have 2 brothers and a host of male cousins who have NO children. They used to always ask me for money. My question to them would be "I'm sorry, but if I can work 1.5 jobs, raise 2 children, pay my own bills, save, and go to school, why can't you hold down a part time job while living with your girlfriend/mother?!?!" I bet they stopped calling and asking because they got tired of my same question.
I loved this series. it shows how manipulative and pathetic alot of Black men are. I have been through this even being still in my 20's and I'm thankful that I learned quickly.
Please I have had a dude ask me to loan him my car to go to ATLANTA, co-sign for an apartment or car, get credit cards in my DEAD MOTHER"S NAME, get his car fixed etc etc!!!! Girl I can say NO in nine different languages. I hate a leech period!! I was not raised like this and don't believe the hype for a minute!! I see friends working two and three jobs taking care of a man, no way jack!!!
LOLOLOL!!!!
+canthydefromyuhself That part!
After you give a him the money, he is gonna disappear until he needs more money. Don't ever give a man money never ever
And forget about ever seeing your money again.
I never give men money...ever
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I went out of town to hustle one year, and gave the dude i was dating a weekly bus pass to be visible in my apartment for a week.....I came BACK-this ninja had left a note telling me he had "borrowed" the $12 in coins from my Ninja Turtle bank...(the buss pass wasn't enough? Wtf?) Shortly thereafter I ended up moving back to TX. You think I ever got that $12 back? No more dusties 4 me after that....
Damn. This is a deep video. The truth hurts big time. It's good to listen this informative video.
I had a dude I wasn't dating or even had any interest in, mind you, he had a girlfriend asked would I co-sign for a Mercedes for him. Nigga please. What the fuck I look like co-signing a Benz for anybody and I don’t have one.
Wait. What? LOLOLOL!
ABSURD
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I had a man ask me for $10K and then……ask me if I can give him $100K to put towards it. Excuse was…..I have a sweet business deal that I cannot pass up to which I told him if you dont have it…….you need to pass it up. And then I said you also need to hit up all your rich friends you tell me you have who have that kinda money…… FOH!!!!!!!!!! Yep that ass was kicked to the curb!!!!!!
You are dropping life gems, Deborah, thanks!!
+jupiterinmotionn one more to do then this series is done. Gotta decide on the topic
I had a boyfriend who asked me can he borrow money to take me out I broke up with him I spend my money on me godkids
+Valarie Ford What? So in other words you're taking you both out. Wow. Next!!!
I did not take us out that was years ago I never loaned him the money I told my mother about she could't believe it
family don't speak to me because I cut that off years ago!! Never started it saw how they used the old folks and was angry as hell behind it!!!! Don't forget let me cash a check though your bank!!! NAW!!!!!!!!!!
Couple years ago I was living in place that required my gas dryer to be installed by a contractor, an ex was trying to make himself available to "help" but help never came. Months later he ask me to co-said so we could flip properties!! I was like you idiot we aren't married plus you can't find contractors!
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Another reason black women give money to men is to show them they are not lording her financial success over his head. It's a way of showing him she 'don't think she all that.'
Sigh.
I really wonder, with these 'teachings' black women are told if the so called black community really cares about black women.
I remember this guy (someone I knew for years but wasn’t romantically involved with EVER, he just had some interest in me down the line) found out I had 2 cars. One day I had to move one of them to avoid a ticket 🙄🙄 so of course he was like “u got 2 cars?! Let me use one!!” I was like no, it was a flat out no. He was like “but u got 2, it’s not gon hurt”. Ummmmm, it ain’t gon help either. Tf. These niggas swear they are deserving of ANY kind of help. Let me ask for $100. I’ll be all kinda “broke bitches” and “bum bitches”.
He had a lot of nerve! Get your own car busted ass fool. I like your thinking "wasn't gonna help me either." Love it!
~ I can't compute the concept of giving a grown man (relative, friend, lover, boyfriend, etc.) money. But obviously this bass ackwards mess is common. Such a shame.
What about family members who constantly ask for money? My uncle has asked everyone in the family for money and he's married!
Is he on drugs or does he gamble? That is kinda weird.
+Deborrah Cooper My grandmother has pretty much given him money, paid bills, mortgages, etc. I think he expects every woman in his life to take care of him in some way.
+Mrs. Sharpshooter 2016 -- of course he does. She ruined him.
I was just about to ask the same question about male family members asking for $. My father's brother barely knows me & was doing this BS. Obviously I saw he had alcohol/ substance abuse problems.
This reminds me of a bum I use to date. He asked me to buy him a phone and about my tax refund. I'm glad I ain't give him no money or buy him a phone.
I'm curious to know why he asked about your income tax.did he want to buy something or did he want to invest it and turn it into more.and it's obvious that you didn't give him your income tax, but what did you do with it.im a 35 year old woman with 2 teenagers 13 and 15 so for the past 13 years I've been getting income tax every year in the amount of 5000 to 8000 dollars. Every year I've spent the money on the same things for 13 years.whether it's buying a car taking the kids shopping or on a trip , paying up some bills or catching up on some bills, buying furniture (the expensive furniture with the 2500 dollar love seat ) hair weave for 3 monthsdoesnt matter what I spent the money on the fact that it was spent is the problem.i never once thought to invest it and turn it into more.or flip it as some people say.as women we don't think about flipping money we only think about spending money.so if a man asks you about your tax money he wants to help you spend it or turn it into more.let t
Let that be the determining factor.if he just wants to help you spend it than maybe you shouldnt give him any of your tax money but if he wants to turn your 3500 dollar income tax into 7000 then maybe you should give him some of your income tax .be honest with yourself you've probably did what most of us black women do which is spend money on the same bs every year.i don't know you but I'm almost certain that you spend your income tax on the same things I mentioned .and don't say that you save your income tax every year because if you did that you would have a savings account that would allow you to buy him a phone and not think twice about it.do the math , 4000 income tax x 10 years equals 40000 dollars you would have saved up.if you even had half that saved up you wouldn't mind buying him a phone.so ask yourself are you mad at him for asking you for money or are you mad that you're not good at saving money and you don't know how to flip money.
+top brown I don't give men money. Plus he turned on to be a loser. He wasn't interested in marriage....plus I put that nigga on nigore.
+top brown he asked because he was use to his mama taking care of him. I eventually figured out that not only was he living with his brother and using his cousin apartment as a cover up part time. He completely lied about his last name. I wasn't giving no man shit that I'm not married to. 😛
+top brown never think you owe a man money. I always managed my money, I'm educated and have a Masters degree. I keeps a savings account
and I don't waste money on a nuckle head!!!
One of my favorite videos. I don't deal with dusty ass men & I don't give men $. This reminds me of when my father passed & his trifling ass brother was trying to profit off his passing. Luckily I was the executor to the estate & my dad had a will which stated me as the sole executor. These BM are something else.
Ohhhhh, so glad pops had his shit together! I can just see uncles face cracking in my mind. Hahaha!
@@Debsterism
Absolutely absurd & the crazy part was this was the 1st time I saw his brother was at the funeral ( I don't refer to this MFer as my uncle & haven't spoken to him in 2 years). Yes my dad handled his affairs before he passed.
something else!!!! smdh DISGUSTING
😂😂😂😂 Girl you're hilarious!! But I do agree that it's in bad taste for a man to ask you for money or even favors when you are not in a relationship. A real man will want to handle his own problems on his own and not want to burden you with them. In his mind, he should see it as a turn off to you. I'm not the Red Cross sweety and you are not my kid. You're a grown man who should have his life in order. And if you don't have it in order, you shouldnt be looking to date, you should be getting your life straight.
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Well since you are telling women to avoid letting men know their SS# & license #, please tell them to HIDE their checkbooks, SS cards & wallets when they fall asleep with men in their house!
If you don't let him know it, shouldn't putting it away safely somewhere be kind of a DUH!? Most dudes who are players have a safe and that is where they lock up their stuff.
trifling