guy in vr talks about getting bullied
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- Опубліковано 30 чер 2023
- i talk to brabbit about his experience growing up with tourette syndrome
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Special thanks to Syrmor for letting me talk about this, a chance to talk about it comes very rarely for me. This topic is kinda hard to talk about because you have so many things to say but you don’t know how to. And this definitely helped me let it all out. Thanks for all the love and support from everyone and I wish you well!
Hey just reaching out if you want someone to talk to. I was diagnosed with tourettes at 4 and been living with it moderately my whole life. You're really brave for talking about it, as most people aren't able to understand so I usually avoid the topic. The part about tics being different for everybody and not just random swearing is so important for more people to know. Sorry you were bullied too and I hope you're living a much better life now
Question: how come humming, biting nails and whatnot are considered Tourettes? All of that is... Normal. Granted, not everyone will let others see them doing those things, but there's really no "disastrous impact on wellbeing" to think those deserve a diagnosis. Well, maybe having your fingers bleeding, that isn't too right. But still.
Also, not having friends? That I feel 100%. My parents kept moving houses nonstop, I may have ONE friend and that's it. Lots of cousins though, the amount of bullying I got from them was legendary.
Dude you're a tough SOB. Keep your head up brother! God loves you and there are good people out there! You seem highly intelligent, make a bunch of money and demand the respect you deserve from those who can't see your inherent value!
My best friend growing up has Tourette’s, luckily I was one of the ones where it didn’t matter, we would actually both end up laughing about it in the end, which I hope helped him. Thanks for sharing your story to give me another insight to my friend
Btw love how your first model looks shame it was glitching out
It’s so crazy by learning how to manage his tics, he essentially taught himself how to meditate. Happy he’s getting his confidence back
People naturally are very adaptable. That's how we've gotten so far as humans.
these stories are fr the best to always listen to when eating food
very very true
He upped his critical thinking level and gained awareness through his hardships. Respect.
It's something about these that's both therapeutic but still kinda sad hearing people had such hard times. But when they talk about things getting better, and them leaving their message behind it's really positive and uplifting part. Made me wish i met more and more interesting people in VR.
I was bullied 6th to 12th grade, mostly manipulative and people pretending to be my friends. Shit sucks, though I don’t think I’d be where I am had that not happened, and maybe I wouldn’t be as tough and honest as I am, even if my situation isn’t the most ideal.
Had similar experiences, it 100% changed me and formed who I am now in a positive way, it's made me not want to ever take my current friends for granted (I'm 25 now and have a settled friend group and I have done since I finished college when I was 19), I made a friend recently who told me he has no other friends, so I made a point in introducing them to all my friends (around 10 people) and they where really greatful, it's made me more empathetic to people for sure, it was horrendous at the time but I'm better for it now if that makes sense
Gotta disagree with you guys here. I do notice that I am more mature and responsible, than a lot of my friends who didn‘t grow up under shitty circumstances, but if this is what I could accomplish with 100 things holding me back, I can‘t even imagine what good parents and a social life growing up would‘ve done for me.
Not to insult you guys, but I think what you do is romanticize your trauma. You take these shitty things that were done to you and to cope with them, you attribute your success to it. But in the process you overlook that it was you who got you here and not Trauma.
And I‘m just telling you guys because I used to do the same and I found myself more confident after I stopped doing it. It feels good to look back at your accomplishments and say „that was all me“ instead of „shitty things that happened to me gave me the drive to do this“.
A UA-camr I respect a lot once defined Trauma as something that holds you back from your great future, by keeping you trapped in your shitty past. And thats how I thought of Trauma ever since. Something only able to destroy, not build.
@@w00ds98 I don't attribute my success to my trauma, I attribute my success to the growth I experienced following getting away from those experiences that gave me the trauma in the first place.
I'm not using it as a "success story". What i'm saying is that it did make me tougher, and it did help me learn to identify when I should remove myself from certain situations. At the end of the day i'd still be where I am regardless but I wouldn't have a good portion of the knowledge I hold from growing up and learning that not everything and everyone in the world is going to be friends with me and treat me fairly.
@@P0PE418 Hm I guess my comment wasn‘t quite well formulated. My entire point was that people who grow up healthy are better at gaining knowledge and knowing that not everything and everyone will want to be their friend and treat them fairly. Theres a reason abusers target traumatized children. They‘re more vulnerable than somebody with good parents and loyal friends.
And not to be the annoying debate lord but statistics support my point. People who have traumatic childhoods tend to be worse off at navigating life than people who don‘t. And people who are well of *despite* the trauma, tend to build up survivorship bias and tell themselves that their trauma or what they did to get away from the Trauma is what made them.
Like when I believed that running away from home at 19 is the reason, I became so self-sufficient. Truth is I always was self-sufficient. If anything running away from home, while necessary, was just another incredibly traumatic experience, that made it even harder to be self-sufficient, because I had nobody and kept fucking up very basic adult things that friends of mine were just.. taught by their parents.
But look, in the end theres nobody I respect more in the world than people like you, because I know the blood, sweat and tears it takes to make it this far, when the cards are stacked against you. So I‘m not gonna argue. If after this comment you still disagree thats fine and I totally respect your lived experience. I just thought I‘d give my 2 Cents.
So glad he learned how to control his ticks wish him well in life ❤
Sweet Anita has the same thing happen where people are oddly eager to say she's faking it. Which is weird, cause most disorders people are sympathetic towards, but tourettes is like the exact opposite for no reason.
i guess because its so sudden and surprising, it's "weirder" to people and less believable. it's cruel though. i have very little tics but i'm still afraid for them to occur even around my own family. they are very accepting though.
When I was in 5th grade, one of the kids in my class had tourettes. His tics were mostly these little yelp sounding noises. Nobody cared as far as I knew. Nobody made it a big deal. But a substitute teacher thought he was making fun of her and kept calling him a goat. That didn't go well with the class. I remember we were all so mad and told all the adults we could that we didn't want her to come back
I was diagnosed with this while serving active duty in the US Army, its been 15 years since I was diagnosed and they can still be at 33 embarsing and a pain the fucking ass.
Glad I caught one this early. This dude I can say I can relate. For me its high function autism that I didn't have diagnosed until I finally went to an actual psych evaluation after I got out of college due to my mother's denial. I have similar symptons, but with memories that hit me like a freight train of me either embarrasing myself, or things that I think I did wrong that make me go into vocal spasms. My tendencies got me into a lot of fights because people saw me as the weird dude that might shoot up the school one day, or because of my last name. Worst grade for me was 8th grade, since that was when the other kids, including some who I considered my best friends since 1st grade, noticed that side of me and turned tribal, and dealing with family issues at the time. Got into my fair share of fights because of that, along with "fight to survive" being a more literal term where I come from.
Gotta admit, I’m prolly on the spectrum, undiagnosed for 30+ years, since I always had a thing about making eye contact, absolutely *not* understanding social cues, getting super overwhelmed by touches and loud sounds, and making repetitive gestures or sounds to calm down. Part of it was how my family liked to just act like problems weren’t there. Not even sure I was told when I was younger, I just remember talking with the guidance counselor an awful lot in elementary school cause I wasn’t socializing how I was supposed to.
Only really clicked when I met my wife, and she was diagnosed when she was like 3-4. Her mom was told she’d be in an institution for the rest of her life by a doctor, just being diagnosed with pervasive developmental disorder (“light autism”, higher functioning than asperger’s). Which is absolute bullshit, cause she was able to go to college, hold down a job, get a house, when she was told from the get-go that she’d only ever be a barely verbal vegetable in a group home somewhere. Oh, and the relentless teasing through public school.
I don’t know what was worse though. Feeling like a stranger your whole life, like something’s wrong or there’s a joke that nobody is telling you; or knowing exactly what everyone is saying you’re weird for, and fighting to overcome stigmas and stereotypes your whole life.
functioning labels are ableist and outdated
Whenever you were in a fight, did you enjoy it? I fight a lot and I always seem to find myself enjoying it, win or lose. I think I enjoy it more than anything else really, gaming doesn't come close, and sports can sort of mimic it if they are rough ones, but otherwise, nothing compares at all. I don't think intercourse even should be on the list, since that is more of a crude way to release my more carnal desires.
Thank you for doing this, Syrmor. There's a lot of people with their own stories out there and they're all very touching. They're so personal and I'm grateful that there is a space where these individuals can just talk about their experiences.
God I feel for him so bad, I got called the noise kid because of my Tourettes or was told to shut up constantly because of the noises I made.
its great to sit and listen to these things and relax
How can you sit and relax listening to a guy talk about how bad he had been bullied? I found it pretty sad.
@@xFF7xGIRLx my bad not what i want that to mean i wanted to sit that relax to think about things, to truly know that there are people who need help and the is hope that you can do something to save them and how you should always help people who need it
Thank you for letting him tell his story 💙
We should be easier on one another in general. I don't know how or when we became so cruel to one another. This guy seems like a really good lad.
that's how children be, they are dumb and terrible and parents don't teach them to do better
I love your videos, they akways make my day :)
It's crazy while he was talking about being bullied i was "yeah i remember being bullied about having tourettes." And then he said he had tourettes. Yeah it was annoying when i was younger and the last time it was made fun of was in 8th grade. it's weird everyone said highschool was going to suck and yet i had no problems all though highschool and i wasn't hiding it well at all. til this day most of friends don't even know i have it. I kind of luck a little bit because i barely have it and my trigger is something i could understand easily. It happens when I'm excited. So i just don't really get excited about things very often. i think over time i just learned to get really happy about cool stuff instead of getting excited. Though of course sometimes it can't be helped. Like dang every zelda and smash trailer it's over basically looking like im having a mild seizure 😂
Hate it when the flinching starts and it's causing me to miss the trailer lol, or miss the climax in a movie. Takes you out of the moment
I was diagnosed fairly early in life but it wasnt very well understood so they just threw medication at it and it turned me into a zombie and made me feel horrible. Stress would set it off and since mine was in my legs it made some general activities more difficult. Being able to now know what sets it off and being able to relatively control it helps bit takes a bit of focus.
Hey Syrmor !
I haven't watched your content in a while, glad to see you doing well.
I'm trying to get into VRchat as you recommended me a couple of years ago, but my first experiences weren't great.
Could you recommend me some worlds please ? Thank you.
This story felt more about tourettes than bullying
Yo syrmor, you've been on your Sam O nella shit, im glad you're still posting on YT
I'm glad to hear that your condition got better. You sound like a cool person to talk to - very mindful of yourself and others.
I would love to have a chat with you :)
PS> Thanks for another gr8 vid, Syrmor )
its like me 6:10 growing up with bad anxiety since i was 12 i learned how to live with it and i still hyperventilate im turning 31 in like 2 months and i still get tired of dealing with depression and anxiety but you keep pushing through.
I have a friend who also has had tourettes basically his entire life. He would sometimes twitch his face and make a hmm sound, especially when he was trying to focus on work. Thankfully he never really got bullied for it, people were pretty understanding. He's actually gotten a lot better at controlling his tics, they are basically unnoticeable now. It just got better as he got older.
His tail has glitter effects.
Thought dude was pissing the whole time
Humanity sucks.
Prove me wrong.
More like humanity goes hard
Nah I think you just gotta play it right 🤷🏽♂️
Humanity sucks because your brain says so, the only thing that sucks is the human brain, bad and wrong doesn't really exist, just things that makes us feels satisfied and things that makes us feel in danger, plus we have this empathy thing that made most humans survive and reproduce more, but it only works with X things, so is it bad that our empathy is not the best empathy that we could ever had? Is just like the guy in the video said
We are born like this and most people can't realize, and they can only try to train it at it's best after they realized
My point is that i can't say you're correct with my logic because if my logic is correct that means it can't be correct making it so i can't prove you wrong because wrong doesn't exist, making you correct, thus entering a paradox where my logic gets validated and nullified by itself, and i love that so i'll leave it there
Another point that i had is: why we suck but not other species? Because of this empathy of good and bad, we feel bad when someone feels bad and viceversa, but we survived for a long time just like this, so the next logical conclusion is that if we make everyone survive thanks to our empathy we will eventually: run out of resources and we'll all die, or, kill the other humans because of our empathy with a certain part of the population
If we have a big enough empathy we won't kill anybody but we leave us defenseless, if the other person doesn't have enough empathy they'll kill us or hurt us, someone with empathy for us but not the other can have a urge of revenge, so if most persons have selective empathy we'll kill ourselves as a species, thus not fulfilling the purpose of surviving that made all living things be alive, is that wrong? we have 'reason' on our side, we know living beings don't care about their species continuity, they just care about surviving and reproducing, that's how their atoms are shaped, to clone copies of themselves, but we are different, we have reason that lets us kill our species just because, empathy being the only thing stopping us, the only thing besides ourselves and our wish to survive, instict they call it most of the time
Tl;dr: no one can prove you wrong, not even yourself
Or can you? *Vsauce music.mp3*
Humans are made in a way that they think they're right just so they can survive and the species can reproduce more and more just like a virus, right and wrong are just a side effect of being human.
the proof that there are still good people is literally right in front of you - this channel - don't you think?
reject humanity, return to monke
This is off topic of the video itself, but damn Syrmor, your voice has gotten hella deep!
*really like the FLUENT fast smooth narration.*
Im confused tho, he very clearly said he was able to control his tics as he got older yet he also says that he cant control them? I understand that he cant eliminate them outright, but it sounds like he could very much learn to manage and control them
This makes me upset, when I was in elementary school there was a girl a year or two older than me who had Tourette’s and everyone treated her like an outcast, I don’t have the best memory but we were friends, she would do tap dancing and would not get her “tics” when doing this. I haven’t seen her in a very long time and I hope she’s doing well, but it just sparked that memory for me and just how fucked up kids can be, even me I’m not perfect.
why is no one upset about the bullying and harassment he faced
Background music is If You Could Read My Mind by Gordon Lightfoot
He knows de wae
What is the name of the ghost meme character
I'd gladly be his friend. I literally have zero. No one will ever give me the time of day.
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I wish i had a syrmor to talk to
Everyone in my life wont let me ramble they always have to put their two cents in
Avatar gliches while dude talks about tourette is I guess ultimate "fuck you in particular" from god.
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I'm still here 😭
yo man id love to talk sometime ive got a situation that ive gotten over but id love to talk
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Is... is that Gordon Lightfoot in the background?
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Does this guy just find random people to talk to in vrchat lobbies?
Sorry man.
I had to deal with my bullies head on. Was such a small kid. Regardless, sorry dude.
He sounds very lucky compared to what I went through in school.
its not a contest. just because you might've dealt with worse doesnt mean you get to invalidate others experiences :/
@@ohchip I'm not invalidating anything
yoooo first
kids want to have tourette's and split personality disorder now
what
Some ppl want being "quirky" to be part of there there personality which is cringe. Just be you and let the change come naturally, don't downplay genuine struggles as "quirks ."
why should people believe you when you use an outdated term?
true. it's a crazy world we live in :(
Go work in a coal mine
The pills were most likely sugar pills or chill pills
I think you're awesome for sharing, user-wb4gk8ju3e.
I think your story's more common than most know.
It's like they say, ' Hurt people hurt People.'
But I think it goes deeper than that. Others are afraid of becoming that hurt person. They'd rather sacrifice an innocent than suffer themselves. I think it also means that you have something special to offer. People from my religious persuasion call it a "calling".
I also call it "genius". Something that only you can do in this world.
I pray that you achieve that genius, friend. What waits at the end is well worth the effort. :)