Why INFJ Invisibility Exists (And When You Should and Shouldn't Be Invisible)
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- Опубліковано 21 жов 2024
- My main intent in making these videos is for my fellow INFJs, or for those who love an INFJ and want to understand him/her better, so we can all learn and grow.
(I was hoping for some more wildlife action!)
I don't believe all INFJs are lonely, I think we are only lonely with those who don't see us, respect or understand our values, or take us for granted.
I also believe Sigma INFJs are able to have conversations, and be very much aware of in the group, but their personal life can be very invisible from everyone around them, or not recognized in depth what they do in private.
They can share just enough with those around them, making the person believe they know the depth, but in reality, they haven't even scratched the surface.
People can be lonely in relationships - you are absolutely right. And if we are lonely in our own company, it's because it is just as you say ... we don't see ourselves, and therefore don't know ourselves, so it can be very lonely until we come to know who we are.
Embrace your invisibility. It’s our super-power and gives us valuable protection (seriously, can you imagine anything worse than being famous... or even popular - argh, the obligations!).
So true. We complain about it, but as we grow older, we realize it's not so bad after all!
Beautifully said. Being a psychiatrist , I am not even allowed to talk about my contribution due to confidentiality. But I am always a counselor & never acknowledged.
So loved this post I have listen to it three times before I wrote a comment. I have believed all my life 72 year old that something was terrible wrong with me. I never have had any close relationship in my life. In fact Father McGee said what I lack in my life was fellowship. Did not understand what he meant. Another Prophet said the same thing. Then I begin to think upon these statements, wow I became very aware that didn’t act or think like others. This starts me on the road to Self discovery. As an Infj I find it very hard to accept that I am a rare type. I see mySelf as broken and always failing to say or do the right things. Yes you are so right about being invisible . Why is this ? Is it because we pull ourselves into are very most inner being. In-ti loop?
Thank you very much for leaving me this comment. If I may be so bold, I am going to guess that since you have believed that something has been terribly wrong with you all your life, that perhaps something happened to you in childhood to make you feel this way. I believe some of us who have lacked close relationships in life have gotten to that place because we feel unworthy of them. And this is something taught to us in childhood, that we are unworthy of love.
The most difficult thing about finding close relationships in life is that it involves risk. And when you have spent years hiding behind walls, it's a horrifying thought to consider lowering them and let someone else in. But how else can we find fellowship, how else can we grow without doing so? The risk must be taken if we want the rewards of companionship.
Invisibility exists so we can help others. It's our gift. But the key to a close relationship is to let yourself be seen and known.
It seems to me that you are asking the right questions. It is never too late, and I wish you all the best in your self-discovery.
“That’s how you live free, truly see and be seen”-father John Misty. I’m a young INFJ male and your channel helps me so much. I have a lot of potential and you’re helping me reach it. “Those who have eyes to see will see”. We are rarely seen but when we are, it means everything.
I am so very glad to hear it. Yes, being seen means everything. It means we're real, and to feel real is a very beautiful thing.
I loved the points you make... specially about us doing our best work when not being seen. I agree.I always wanted to be the person behind the camera but not wanting to be in the actual picture. Actually my whole life I've wanted to be and remain invisible- to be completely unnoticed...I attributed this to experiencing bullying in my teenage years.. 'if Im not seen then no one will attack me' reasoning... whilst at the same time desiring to be completely understood. And I couldn't reconcile it- I was asking myself : so which is it?... And thinking about it in the last few months I've come to realise that I just need/ wish one other person in my life to see me and get me- that is enough for me... even if I am not seen or understood by anyone else in the world.
So wonderful to see you here, Susana ... we conversed a few months ago elsewhere ... happy to converse with you again! I can't add a thing to what you said. I could have written the entire comment myself. Replace "bullying" with "parental abuse" through childhood, but in essence, it's all the same.
I agree completely - just one person is all it takes. Others may need many - we only need one, and that one will be all we need.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty Yes I remember :) looking forward to watching your other videos. You are a very insightful person.
Hi. Thank you for sharing the thoughts! That deeply visceral recognition of being virtually invisible in certain personal interactions has been a mystery for me for quite some time; in my younger years even a source of frustration. It took many years of maturation to accept the realization of what has actually happened in those situations. Namely me being a facilitator and holding space for the other human being to transform through selflessly attentive listening and talking. It is like being the water for the fish or the air for the birds. Conscious attention has the same quality for the humans: it is invisible for unconscious. This is okay as it is being of service. Nothing personal ;)
Very astute ... thank you for this. Yes, maturity can shed light on why things happened in the way they did, but I do believe one has to want to see it. I don't think self-awareness is intrinsic for all people, but I believe self-awareness gives someone the ability to use metaphors such as "water for the fish" and "air for the birds", which are excellent and perfectly appropriate.
Very well put. I've had people regurgitate everything I've just helped them with and proudly take the credit. It makes me laugh as well but see it differently now. Thanks for sharing
It does become kind of comical once you understand it. I'm sure we could all fill books of such examples from our lives.
I truly appreciate you listening to what I had to say.
Happens to me all the time.
Thank you this ❤ it means so much. I’ve often felt that I won’t be missed or no one will be at my funeral when I die because nobody sees me, except very close family & friends.
Edit: I’ve come to be at peace with it. I actually prefer to only have those who truly love me there anyway.
i could have given more likes than just one if i could, i truly appreciate the efforts and the research you've put in to make this video.THANK YOU never sleeping beauty( go to sleep ) for giving me place where i feel understood.
So sweet of you for caring for me like this. I've been sleeping very well these days ... my mind is at rest.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty yes. I was NEVER asleep. The rest of the world is. It's why I walked around panicked inside for years.
I could do nothing to wake them. And trying to join them became it's own Dantes Hell. Now I am a Lighthouse. I simply channel the Ancestors, Guides, connect with Nature and write. Thank you for the videos of your landscape and animal relations. I listen while writing.
Or feeding the Tortoiseshell brown Crows here in my new home. From my Princess and the Pea Balcony. They and the Squirrels enjoy the sound of your voice.
Those that are ready to grow and see. They come to me in my Long-term Covid19 Isolation. And those people WANT to be awake with us. This is all I am now.
And it's exactly what I was dreaming about and longing for all those wakeful years. Yes You and I we are both at peace now in our sleep and waking states.
And it spreads from our presence now without effort. Because I know who and what I am now. There's no pride in it only in the knowledge of it now.
You helped in this so very much. An Accelerated growth period of enforced Isolation.
🙏 Please ! Please don't throw this Little INFJ Rabbit into THAT briar patch. Giggling now still. I can honestly say Thank You Covid19 for my new Briar patch.
This was the perfect time and place to find another Never Sleeping Beauty.
Finally I know how to See myself for the first time ever. I will never be invisible in a painful way again.
And I can SEE others without harming them now. So am not afraid to Love fully and completely.
And you’re like the sun to us, the undeveloped young INFJ’s, and we couldn’t appreciate you enough for your beautiful contribution into this world ❤️
We're all in this journey together, at different developmental stages. What's important is that we all keep growing and forging ahead. Thank you very much for all your encouragement.
What Kind of Person is this?
I cant believe the wisdom in These words.
God bless you
You are a True blessing
Thank you very much.
Great point about not immediately accepting blame. This was an important message that came into play for me yesterday with a significant relationship. I had taken the blame for most of 20 years for anything that went "wrong". I think what's difficult is that by not accepting blame and allowing that person to see and feel their role in the situation can be painful for them and creates/leaves a tension. And that makes INFJs uncomfortable--tension and pain in others. But as you said, this is important for their growth. Thanks again for your insights!
Yes, accepting blame, eating blame ... all things we should not do. It's difficult to retrain ourselves, isn't it? But it's definitely worth the effort in our close relationships.
OMG so thankful for you! I am 65 years old and have been listening to Jungian Typology expert C S Joseph on YT as part of my lifelong journey to understand myself. He was the first person I had heard to mention that INFJ’s are mirrors, (Virtue and Vice of the INFJ) but your thoughtful insights take this so much further. I so appreciate your taking time out of your life to help others! How INFJ if you! ❤️ Your perception of the purpose of being a mirror is a profound discovery for me! I always knew I was good for others to be seen but have always been left feeling, why can’t others be that for me? I have lived in a state of surrendering that pain through my faith in God and it has kept me above despair many many times, but I must say your calm peaceful explanations and insight are priceless. God bless you!
Thank you so very much for your thoughtful words. I know there are many out there speaking about the INFJ type and some do a very good job, but it's like the old saying goes, "it takes one to know one." And I think this kind of knowledge probably comes with maturity and a whole lot of self-examination. I'm happy to hear you have reached that stage in your life. It's good to get to know yourself, isn't it? I'd say it's about time. We spend so much of ourselves focused on others - at some point, we need to spend some time thinking about who we are for a change. I'm so glad to hear my words have helped you, and I appreciate you taking the time to let me know.
Your Never Sleeping Beauty Such a beautiful work you are doing. I plan to keep watching all your videos. Bravo for you to find such a gracious way to share these treasures!
Older INFJ truly loved your story about the invisible mist. Diving deep into every word spoken plus the beautiful nature in the background I felt right at home!
Love to learn, looking forward to embracing all your videos. Thank you so much for sharing, your time as well your energy to give greatly appreciate!
I want to make you feel at home, so your comment means a lot. That, plus the fact that you took the time to offer me some feedback. We do love to learn, and I'm hoping we can do it together here. Thanks so much for listening.
Your Never Sleeping Beauty
I'm impressed with how spot on you are. Kinda scary listening to the authenticity and knowing it's right while I wouldn't have said it myself but will admit to your accuracy.
It's good to get confirmation that others think this way too, which makes it less scary, right?
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty
It's like you said for me what I couldn't say for myself honestly. You go to a level of peace and with the proper/correct understanding of one another yes less scary.
With much gratitude. Thank you
I appreciate your words very much, Eric ... thank you.
Oh my love, where have you been my whole life?? 💓 you have opened so many doors in my restless brain since I discovered this channel, thank you
Be careful of open doors in a restless brain ... they can go anywhere 😆 Thank you for your sweet comment.
I wish I can hear this as 20 some years ago. I was always wondering why, despite that people came to me for advice and comfort, and I clearly helped them. They just walked away after they got what they need from me.
It left me much heartache and at times bitterness... Luckily I found my better half who able to see past the mirror. But in many other places today I remain sort of invisible. Now I know it's a gift =)
"Now I know it's a gift" ❤️
Based on some of your recent comments, I believe you've already known these things about yourself. You just needed someone (in this case, me) to put it out there, so you could hear it and confirm it to be true.
I’ve alway described it as in the shadows
It is so cathartic to listen to your videos. Finally a mature INFJ female who makes me feel understood too.
Thank you very much. Being understood is such a wonderful thing!
you’re a beautiful angel.
Thank you but really, I am just a woman, speaking here to be heard to inspire deeper thought.
I love your voice and message. Thank you so much. Best regards, Invisible infj male.
You're very welcome, Mr. Invisible.
(Thanks for showing yourself for a bit.)
Funny I learned to love being seen when I’m great at something only! But dealing with other people I’m always pushing them to the forefront so they can feel their greatness!
I don’t mind staying in the background because it feels so great to watch people to come out of their shells! Almost like vicariously reliving coming out of my own shell!!!
🙏🙏
You are an angel whether you want to be or not!!😂🤣🙏🙏🤘
i love this safe space that acknowledge us, infjs, a sanctuary
So happy to hear you have found understanding here.
Exactly. All of this...now just trying to get to know myself & these videos really help to innerstand myself. I notice I do mirror others and I guess at times it makes other uncomfortable or something. 🙏🏽💁🏽♀️Thank you dear soul 💜
All my best to you in your quest for understanding yourself.
Over time I've become wary of people. Showing somebody after years of building a relationship some of your deepest hidden places and then it is judged, hurts (too much). Hibernating again.
I know. Lots to learn here though. It's usually one or the other - we trust the wrong people, or we don't trust the right people.
BINGO !! I never even want the acknowledgement. I am satisfied contributing to the success or happiness of others without their knowledge. Mission accomplished 👍
Wonderful! Thank You for ALL of your Letters. YOU speak directly to my entire being. And help reinforce the MASSIVE amount of growth of the last years.
Long Covid19 took me out of the workforce and world for the first time in 50 years. I
I was a Hospice and Dementia specialist caregiver of 30 years. My invisibility was a incredible gift to bring to my Avocation. I could be entirely PRESENT for a family and their lived ones. Because I could BECOME deliberately invisible. And SEEN When and Where I was needed most.
I understand that it's much deeper than the physical now. And I can turn my loneliness around and understand that it actually connects me more than it will ever seperate me from myself and other's.
I truly enjoyed reading this, and how you used the beautiful gift of you to work within your specific profession. Very inspiring, thank you.
Thank You for this post 💞 I found it very helpful to understand this... It's something I have been struggling with. I always took the approach that we are all one, just In different parts of our journey until last year when I learned some interesting lessons from a couple of different people that changed my life completely and made me realize that some of us are different. Much Love for You!!! 💞
What a boring world it would be if we were all the same, don't you think? It's okay to be different ... but it's wonderful to understand why. Much love to you too and all my best.
Sometimes it is necessary to ARTICULATE THINGS. BUT NOT BE REPEATED
😊 Idk how old are you, but I think - you didn't reach full potential yet. Giving up on EGO is just one of the steps. But, there is more to understand - after that is giving up on even thinking about others. Every person is on some level of development, they understand just as much they can. And there is no need for judging - who's done what and why.... Just accept everything and everyone in the way they are. After no EGO, no judging and accepting, there is peace and from that peace comes LOVE, unconditional love - our Fe starts to SHINE. And our Fe radiates pure love, positivity... Unlimited happiness, smiling whole day, every day. Everyone around feels our love and give the same in return. 😊 That is full developed Fe. From that point - we aren't invisible, we just don't think anymore about that. Our mind is preoccupied with beauty of this world (and another worlds, imagination flows....). There, if all done good, is a starting point for developing spirituality...
I wanted to say - we are invisible just to the moment where we finally set free our Fe - after that we just SHINE.
Peace and love
Your spot on.Being never heard.
Yes, but it's all for a very good reason, if we understand it.
I hesitated listening to your video because it seemed long but I’m so glad I listened to it. This is how i feel! You describe me! And not only that, you make me feel that I’m okay. The sun is like God for me now. You also made me feel bad about endings@ my relationship with my ex girlfriend. She really did see me and I ended that relationship because I couldn’t commit and she wasn’t how I wanted her to be. Now I don’t have people in my life who see me and it’s pretty lonely sometimes. Thank you for your insight!
Thank you for listening ... I am touched that my words helped you in such a way. I know exactly what you mean about the loneliness. It's so important to find people who can see you, because more than anything, those people can help you grow by helping you to understand who you are. It's a beautiful thing when someone can see you in such a way. My sincere wish for you is that you find people like this in your life. You don't need many - it really only takes one or two. All my best to you.
Thank you for making this exciting, and intriguing video.
Half way through the video I was amazed, and awed by your explanation of the mirroring and how it is a good thing and not a bad thing.
I am so grateful that I stumbled across one of your videos yesterday (or maybe a guiding angel had pointed your video out to me) so I can get to understand how my mind works, and to why I have been feeling depressed a few weeks ago feeling like I have no one (not even family) to talk to or Express my true self to.
Thank you so so very much for all of your helpful advice and videos. Keep up the good work and good bless.
I truly appreciate you taking the time to leave me a comment. Yes, when I realized the beautiful purpose in the mirroring, my entire outlook on life changed. It kind of went from "why me?" to "now I understand". The understanding gave me a deeper purpose to life. I am hopeful you will find some understanding in my words, understanding of you, because I do understand and know what those lonely feelings are like. I hope you persevere in it all, seeing the greater purpose. All my best to you as you learn more about yourself.
Baaaah, this is SO good! Thank you and subscribing.
You're very welcome ... hope it helps you in some way in your journey!
Very true! I've had my issues with it in the past, frustrated by how life lessons painstakingly handed out being condescending handed back years later and so on. But my worst experience was when my former workplace figured out that I was an INFJ (before I even knew about MBTI), all the expectations and pryings that followed trully broke me. Thank you for your videos, they're really eye-opening and soothing at the same time.
You're welcome 😊
Love your definition of friends
Thank you.
Oh my. People are the problem for me. The thought of having just one close freind/significant other would be wonderful. But the thought of allowing someone to know the real me is horrifying. Being invisible is a great way around the problem. Being invisible hides the flaws. I enjoy Helping others, definitely. But in an obscure way. Like an usher in a theater, not the stage actor. A waiter not a chef. You directly help people, while remaining invisible.
I do enjoy helping people in this invisible way. It's one kind of satisfying. But I couldn't always be invisible. Being wholly satisfied means being seen. Being seen is not as horrifying as you think. There's a satisfaction in it beyond measure, and a comfort like no other.
This has seriously helped my INFJ hubby! Thank God and thank you!
I almost don't know how to respond to this. This is so humbling to me, that I could help someone else in this way. We INFJ creatures can be very confused; there is so much to learn about ourselves, and it does take quite a while to learn it. I am so grateful I could be of help to your husband in his journey of self-discovery. And thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for leaving this amazing comment for me. It lets me know my words are helping.
This channel should have so much more subscribers. It’s incredible.
If I had just one subscriber and that person understood who they were and used it to make a difference, I would believe I had done something worthwhile. Thank you for your very kind words.
Wow...Your last couple of sentences really said it all. Thank you again.
Very “Powerful” and so so “True”!! Thank you for your words that helped me understand something I’ve always felt, but couldn’t explain or understand why.
So happy to hear this was helpful to you.
It's a struggle -- but if there is one or two people in my life who sees me, it's ok. More than that, and I'd get awkward with being so visible.
I agree completely. I actually prefer working behind the scenes now ... and the invisibility can be amusing.
Then we find ways to let secrets out to awaken others..
💜💙😭🤗I can't thank you enough for this video. Very clear and cleansing to my soul. Big help. Definitely something I needed to hear as I have been trying to move beyond my past.
"Find the ones who can see you"
Thank you.
I'm very glad to hear this. I'm sure you will succeed as you seek to move forward with your life.
Such a beautiful way to see it, and it's much like a "muse" sometimes...
Very much like a muse at times ... I agree.
When you have a person after person you love and care about you/question how and speak your mind about who you are to them.
It's painful so yes!
HECK! We are above them all! Unless they can catch up.
They are empty boxes
At 14.00m. Behind the veil is probably a way to express where we are.
On a daily basis I connect to Jesus, God, Angels, fairies, guides.
It's easy to relate to
St. Augustine's 'Death is nothing'.
Probably this is part of INFJ being invisible.
It's been lonely to see people could not see.
In the land of the blind one-eye will be king and 2-eye is banned.
In nine years time my wife is still learning to know me.
Her life is like a holiday, she calls out on a daily basis.
'Thank you', is my answer. 🧚
Wow, I'm an infj I'm really enjoying this 😁 thank you
You're welcome.
Not sure even someone who has been involved intimately even understands
After finding a few people I can be completely real with and who truly see me, I am content. It's okay being invisible to most when I am seen by ones I love and who love me. It's not the source of loneliness it used to be. In fact, I actually enjoy it now (being invisible to most), because I understand why it is, and the purpose in it.
I love this analogy! For a long time I was so frustrated with being invisible, I used to wonder why so many people seemed to be "snowblind" or just very rude. I never thought it would have to be my perspective that needed to change as opposed to jumping up and down waving my arms. Although I have learned to tolerate it- You really have made it so much more positive. Thank you
I know, I thought the same. It was so confusing to me - why couldn't people see me?!? Talk about a strange feeling. But knowing why now is so satisfying. It took years to find the answer but it was worth it. Yes - changing our perspective - I love how you phrased that. Perfect.
Excellent video thank you!
I'm glad you enjoyed it :)
I guess you're describing the muse, albeit an often reluctant one. Our interpretation
of angels is similar in many ways as well... And some fantasies are more dangerous
than others.
I think it would only help to examine and reflect on our "mist" and the seemingly
crucial role it plays in our relationships and daily lives...My longing to be seen is
always close to my longing to be unseen. This is my paradox to embrace...How
could I expect anyone close to me to be unaffected by this struggle?
K. Gibran once wrote, " Vague and nebulous is the beginning of all things, but not
their end".
Maybe that's it, maybe we're just standing on the threshold of our own clarity, and
hoping for others to share whatever lies beyond that next step.
this is true pure art, sad and hopeful. However, I would like to step out of the fog and be more open.
Then do it, and see what you can learn from it.
I totally agree,it is necessary to remain invisible it tends to be more productive and effective.
Yes ... it works.
I have just stumbled on your channel it's like I'm thinking myself hearing your words and they are the same words I've said to myself Well at this present time I do not have ANY FRIENDS ! Not with Family,or outside people the past so called friends was like they needed me I enjoyed their friendship 2 different ladies but if I decide something other than what they are doing and believing in they no longer want to be friends with me they began to withdraw and so do I it seems as if they get what they want in a friend out of me it okay but when I maybe do something different,nothing bad but just have a differrenty choice of something or handle a situation differently those 2 treat me as if they never new me They were not Real Friends to me im 59 years old now ,last 3 years just been with myself I wonder do I really need a friend or a mate ? I'm steady getting older I don't have the energy anymore to try and befriend anyone I'm not trying to find one either although I do get lonely I wish I could have some good company with someone ,but where are the good people men or women ,to me they are very few in number I believe in order to have a friend,you have to know how to be a friend and so far from grade school I have not met or had a real friend I thought I did back then but I'm like why should I care anymore I'm over half of one hundred when you pray, want and wish and desire for something for so long and I haven't received it yet 😣 maybe it not for me I'm tired of trying be happy having another person or persons in my life I'm just beginning to settle for me Createing my own happiness in my mind and doing things I enjoy My life has turned out to be 💯 per cent different than I would have ever believed I cannot really care too much if I have human friends or not all those in my last ended up not turning out good so I think it's time for me to even stop intertaining the idea If ever have a real friend in life I will and if not I won't I can't make nothing happen right for me it seems concerning have friends of either sex they I'm just thinking it safer and better for me not to care very much about it anymore it ends up in nothing but emotionally and mental hurt and pain and I just refuse to die having emotional and mental pain That not how I want it to be whenever,it time for me to check out of this world
Our outlook on life changes as we age, doesn't it? It's not that I haven't always been contemplative, but time becomes more precious. I guess I would say not to give up. You have many decades of experience to draw on. If you focus on what matters, your best could be still yet to come.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty What you replied to me I do believe is true there is always hope, and things can change in my life I guess I just do not live do high up in the clouds that it will change because it may not but I'm going live and find enjoyment in my life if Hypothetical I never find and a real friend or mate I do love myself I do not do things to willfully or deliberately to hurt myself or others but if feel that I can live with myself and love life enjoy my life with me if I never have a close bond with another human I do enjoy your UTUBE Channel
did you see the insect walking on the rim of the glass vase at the 4 03 minute mark.
Looking for a sugary drink ...
I'm experiencing this right now but I've been wrestling with being seen or being understood since my early teenage years. Right now I've just started a new job and I'm getting really overwhelmed and stressed at work. I don't show it on the surface. I tend to go home and let out my frustrations 😓. I really don't fit in or have anything in common with my co workers. I haven't had anyone approach me or show interest in getting to know me and it's clear that they're not interested when I try to inniate conversation. I hate feeling invisible but I also hate being in the spotlight. Most of the time I tend to feel ignored and excluded but I don't know how to include myself? I show warmth, I smile a lot, I greet people a lot. I care whether people like me or not so I'm always trying to leave people with a good impression of me. I know I care too much about what other people think of me. I think the invisibility I feel stems partly from suppressing my true thoughts and emotions just to feel approved of by others. Often I struggle to put into words how I feel or even know what I'm thinking so I don't tend to say a lot... obviously, around family and friends I don't clam up like that but around others I do and it can be frustrating sometimes because I often have a lot I do want to say... I just don't get it out in the moment. I had a close friendship with someone who, after 5 years, I realised was using me. She was disloyal whereas I was loyal to a fault, she would come to me for comfort where I would return her with an abundance of emotional support, she would come to me for advice and then disregard it and keep following her own self destructive path - very infuriating for me, she would guilt and manipulate me, I mean, I could go on... But the point is, I needed the friendship so badly that I tolerated all that. She got me, she cared, but ultimately, she put herself first all the time. Ending that friendship was like losing her altogether. I grieved all year in my own way. Since I lost that relationship I haven't had a close friend. But I've been looking for one... a bit like the sun you mentioned. No one has been like the sun for me except my mum. She's a lot like me so I can talk to her about most things and feel understood. Thanks for the video. You understand us INFJs very well. How do you like being a music teacher? I am thinking of becoming one but I lack confidence... I'm worried the job will be nothing but mentally exhausting. A negative perspective I know. I'm just worried I'm too shy and quiet for the demands of the job... What's your experience?
I understand because I am one. We will all have different experiences in life of course, but the way we think and feel follows a certain path which is familiar.
Another person has asked about my teaching experience. I may address this in the future. I do not like to make promises because it sets up expectations which I don't wish to place on myself here. So I can only say I will consider it. But to answer your question, as rewarding as it is, it is almost equally as exhausting, especially in a classroom of many children, as my experience has been. When you're younger, the exhaustion is not felt as much, but it is over time ... and I believe an INFJ becomes more of an introvert or desires even more quiet time with age. As far as confidence, I'm not sure if you're referring to how confident you are you could physically do the job or confidence in your ability to teach. Confidence comes with time - there's a learning curve, just as there is with much in life.
Thank you so much for this video. For a while I felt seen - and that's such a rare thing for me
The best thing in the world ... to be seen.
51 now and @46 I was forced to take off my rose colored glasses I had no knowledge I'd been wearing. My life is a living hell. I wished I could still be asleep. I was carefree. Now I have lost everything important to me my children mostly. Peek a boo I see you.
It does a number on you, doesn't it? I'm so sorry to hear of your struggles, but it's better to go through life awake than asleep, even if it doesn't feel that way at first. We need to be awake to do the work we are meant to do in this world. When we sleep, we dream, and dreaming is deceptive because it's not real. To be awake is to begin the process of becoming real, who you are meant to be. Easy words to say, I know, especially with the loss of those you love, but perhaps in the process your children will begin to see the real you, extend grace and understand. I wish you well ... thank you for listening.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty thank you
At about 9.00m. : being invisible makes indeed that people walk by as if I have no role.
And indeed, the way I take my role is... invisible.
The people I learned to fly flew away.
It can be frustrating to get little credit but.... It's okay, it's my path.
Thank you for explaining in these clear words. 🙇✨
I know what you mean about getting little credit. But you said something beautiful. If you teach people to fly, then watch them fly. That will be thanks enough, to see them soaring.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty 'Thank you. It's a rare quality to teach people to fly. I get touched by me when someone mirrors that I supported them in a way which helps for the rest of their lives. ♥️
You are genius
Thank you for your kindness, but probably not. Just a woman, sharing what I've learned here after many experiences and lots of life lived.
I just recently discovered I'm an INFJ. My whole life I've been difficult, sensitive, complicated, emotional, unmanageable, different. I've lost a lot of my tolerance for the human race. Learning I'm not the only person in the world with this gift is a gift in itself. I went to see my friends band play. A woman was there and I knew she found me attractive. My wife and her had a mutual friend. She told her friend and her friend told my wife. This woman was married. She asked me to watch her back and keep the guys away from her. That I did. Now it's time to go. I offer her a ride so we could talk. My wife friend freaked out. So I drove her home. Along the way I convinced her to give her husband a second chance. I explained things about men to help her understand us. She gave him a chance. I got in trouble for driving her home.
So have you reflected upon why you are this way? And what does that teach you about yourself? And what's the way forward for you?
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty Since I was young I knew I had a gift. I had a rough life growing up. I bottled up a lot of what made me special. As to not seem so weird. People I thought that really loved me close friends even my wife asked me to change. And I did. And nothing changed but me. I've reached a very low point in my life and I'm giving all I have to regain myself. I have a family and my wife and I aren't good. I'm relieved to find people like me to help guide my thoughts and settle my brain if not for a minute.
I am sorry to hear you are at a low point in your life, but at the same time, the low points in life are what cause us to start looking up. I know it well. It's difficult when you have a rough start because it makes one handicapped and behind the others, but a slow start doesn't mean you won't get there. You'll get there if your intentions are sincere, and if you ask yourself the honest and tough questions.
Don't let anyone tell you things over and over again. Or vis versa
Loneliness doesn't equal depression and anxiety
I'm sick of being invisible. I try so hard to be visible. Being a enneagram 3w4 that's why its so damaging! 3s need that validation praise. , but how when I'm invisible. 😥
You're not meant to be invisible to everyone, that's why I made the point in this video that there are times when you should not be invisible. That's why loved ones are so important. You need people in your life who can see you. Close relationships are so very important because that's when you can be seen for who you are.
Hehe people always used to say I can pop in and pop out real quick from their vision.
Acquaintances or people you've been in relationship with?
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty both 🥰♥️
I thought this video was a little shallow until mid way when she pulled in helping others.
Thata so cool. Thank you
You're welcome.
You have me wondering...how do you find true friends or true family even?
It's not easy. Finding people in real life is challenging. I've met people but the circumstances weren't right and for many reasons, a friendship just wasn't possible. I see in another comment you mentioned finding people online, so you already recognize this as a possibility. I think one has to get creative. There are good people out there, but obviously, one must use a whole lot of discernment when finding people this way. For me, an understanding of type has helped in finding compatibility. I know there are those I will never be compatible with. This doesn't mean I think less of those people, but it means I am realistic when it comes to what will work for me. Consider which types possibly are compatible with you, and then look around online. It may sound crazy, but it has worked for me. As for family, I'm not quite sure what you're asking. You can't change your family dynamics. I have made a decision to love my siblings. There are challenges but overall, they are good people and I want them in my life. There is no reason they shouldn't be. Would I have been friends with all of them had we not been siblings and just met up during our lifetimes? Maybe not, but that's not the case. I am realistic in my expectations of them and have a bit of a different mindset because of the family tie. However, those who know me best are outside of my immediate family unit.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty thinking my mind had gone to a more philosophical part when I wrote this. Guess online is probably the best bet for me. One of my siblings, an older sis passed when I was 10, she was 18 and had a brain tumor. My brother moved out when I was 6, and usually see maybe once or twice a year in a group setting. Frankly, he doesn't even know me, because he has not cared to know me. Guess I just need to find those people who will want to know me. Being so introverted, hopefully I will be able to find thar.
Losing your sister in such a way must have been a terrible thing for you to endure. I believe you will find people who want to know you, if it is an honest desire of your heart.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty thank you for your reply. Hoping you are right.
Yes I agreed
I disappeared early . Or arrived a bit late.
Yes, me too. I think we did both.
Thank you thank you thank you 🖤🌹🖤🌹
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Thank you....
I hope it was helpful to you in some way.
I think as an INFJ we have a kind of Jesus complex..Forgive them Lord for they know not what they do..But what is in it for us. We need love too. It's lonely as fuck but we won't settle for a replica..A total fucking cunundram 😂
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Thank you :)
You're welcome 😊
Hildegard von bingen- O vis aeternitatis-
It's a little after 5:00 in the morning, and this music sent by you was the first thing I heard today. I feel quietly and reverently uplifted ... a truly meditative start to my day.
It's interesting you would send me this. There is something about choral music for me. The vibrations of the voices - nothing standing between the music and the instrument ... because the person is the instrument. Thank you so much for sending this.
Hildegard's music was recently discovered by me and now my addiction in its transcendent quality. I love to listen to the music and meditate on Edith Stein's ( Carmelite Martyr 1942 Auschwitz) life and especially her saying " Do not accept anything as truth which lacks love and do not accept anything as love which lacks truth."
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How can the mists and the mirror be the same?
Because you can't be seen in them. If you are behind the mirror, you are invisible. If you are in the mists, you are invisible.
Remember that
we are invisible lol
Sorry, I can barely hear your video.
Maybe try headphones? I know the volume isn't good on some of those earlier videos ... I was just learning what I was doing.
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Ok so tell me this how do we wake up
Open your eyes? That's a good place to start ...
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty Gee thanks
Don't be upset ... it was kind of a joke, but yet it wasn't. Open your eyes. It's really that simple. You're ready, or you wouldn't have asked this question.
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How can the mists and the mirror be the same?