You really tackled this perfectly and took a subject hazy and confusing and made it completely understandable. Sometimes even the wrong people in our lives can make us more self aware, though I wouldn't recommend it. I'm sure a lot of us have dealt with those who dismantle and strip away who we think we are and we are left having to figure out who we know we are in order to begin healing.
This comment is very insightful, spoken as someone who knows. This is my experience as well. Like you, I wouldn't wish it for anyone, but sometimes realizing it was all a lie is when you can begin to find the truth. Things are sometimes understood by their contraries. You have to see what isn't to see what is. On a personal note, I love your sentence structure. You could have said "took a hazy and confusing subject", but the way you worded it is so much more intriguing.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty Thank you for the kind reply. Sometimes I feel like the infj should be called the prisoner as opposed to the counselor. How effective of a counselor can we be to others when they don't want to hear and it seems we more often and naught (a little play on words) get trapped in unsavory relationships. I say trapped because there are so many out there who are very good at presenting themselves as genuine kind and caring people when that couldnt be further from the truth. I'm not trying to be a bummer here. We can still learn something positive out of every negative situation. Have a great day!
I relate to your videos so much as an INFJ... I feel like I barely know myself and want to journey soul searching why I'm here and who I am. I'm a nurse and I spend so much time looking at the needs of others I don't even know what I need emotionally. I want to love myself but I haven't learned how yet.
Loving yourself only means that you see yourself honestly. To love yourself is to be honest with yourself. It’s liberating when you tear down all the things you’re hiding from inside, and won’t let yourself see. It’s hurtful but so wonderful to look at yourself in truth. It releases you from all the false expectations you’ve put on yourself. When you see yourself honestly, you know you are just as human as everyone else around you. This means you see yourself as needing what everyone else needs (tailored to respect us all as individuals, of course). But for the most part, we all need roughly the same things. Beautiful relationships, acceptance for who we are, time to be ourselves, creative pursuits which not only feed our soul but bring others joy as well, taking care of our health, and so on. For me, loving myself was to first tear down the lies I had told myself. And then to start asking myself what the truth is. These were hard questions. But once you’ve taken that step, you can actually start figuring it all out. You’re not afraid of the answers. You’re not afraid to discover why you’re having the emotions you’re having. It’s not always pretty but pretty is not important in self-discovery. Honesty is. I want to look in the mirror and see honesty in myself more than anything else. I’m still not there. I am still a hypocrite at times. But I’m getting there. All my love and best to you in getting there too.
What a very deep video. I identified with it a lot. I think self-actualisation brings a lot of peace for INFJ's as long as it comes from a third party - such a MBTI. Because I think we're hyper critical of ourselves, in unbalanced ways, as we second guess our decisions and actions - often with the bias of negativity. The gift we give to others of empowerment, problem resolution and contextual support/guidance is strangely sorely missing in our own lives. Like you, I find it very hard to talk to others about myself - it feels like I need to protect that inner sanctuary where the vulnerable me is. It also feels like I would be burdening others to share my problems. Again, this is strange as we don't mind listening to others and sharing their burdens. I think the INFJ likes to serve rather than be served, help rather than be helped and counsel rather than be counselled. That's a great attribute, but we must remember to serve, help and counsel ourselves too! Or we may eventually be no use to others. Thanks for sharing this introspection - very deep and thoughtful. Love & Shalom
Someone said this to me once, and I've found it rings true: we are at our very best when focusing on others, but at our very worst when we try to make our own advice applicable to ourselves. I'm the best doctor, but the worst patient. This is literally true for me - I really need to make myself take care of myself when I get sick. My strongest desire (when I'm sick) is to have my mother with me again to take care of me, and be nurtured in that way. She's the only one I ever really let mother me in that way. But I was a child, and I trusted her with a childlike faith. As an adult, trust is a whole lot harder to come by. And do we trust ourselves to do it? There has to be a healthy balance of both, I think.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty It's beautiful in a way. It shows how each personality type has a part to play in a bigger picture and are ultimately reliant on one another. It just so happens that we seem to fall into the category of counsellors in that picture. But we're not above anyone else because of that, as it's also our weakness towards ourselves, as you say. But I do feel sorry for the poor people who have to listen to us go on and on about deep matters! Hehe. Love & Shalom
As an INFJ/A type, I'm more attuned to my emotions ergo, I can be "assertive" with them. I am very self aware of how I feel, and who or what triggered a particular emotion, so it's easier to communicate how I feel and set some boundaries than the INFJ/T types, who seem more thinned skin and "turbulent" with their emotional states. I'm just more diplomatic with my emotions, they get processed by my "Ti" and I hope it comes across as me being unphased or stoic to the outside. My issue has to do with my physical presence, I can't see how others see me physically (Se). I don't know how I come across to others, even though it's mostly positive. I'm very awkward while posing for a picture to be taken, it feels inauthentic to me, unnatural, my pictures looks much better when shot while in my natural, social state.
Ever since I started watching your videos, I truly realized I was hiding from myself, most of your videos described the way I am and my past experiences. Thank you for helping us understand ourselves ❤️🙏 and from now on I'm on the journey of self awareness. Self growth and being more self confident.
It’s a bit terrifying but it seems I was destined to meet my ex girlfriend. This woman is a devil, and that pain and suffering from the manipulation and abuse FORCED me to look deep and find my inner child, I was molested by women at age 4 and again at the ages of 6,9 by two different men. I have always done everything spoken here and as of right here and now I feel free. From my ex who broke up with me to become a stripper then came back 8 months later while giving me breadcrumbs we got together for the second or third time. We only lasted about a month. She texted me two days ago to apologize and she hates herself for doing this to me…. All this while I was home with takeout for us, I’m so tired and hurt but I’m seeing a sex therapist Monday. It’s a shame that she didn’t find my love benefiting, she inspired me and helped spark my enthusiasm for song writing. She wants to have fun and enjoy herself and travel.. but I wonder what if we’re twin flames since we mirror all these mental issues to each other? Or perhaps we could never work because relationships are best when two partners meet when they are individually whole…
I am very sorry for the abuse you have suffered. Sometimes, because of childhood abuse and conditioning, I believe abusive people can find us because we have certain hallmarks they are looking for. Therefore, it's important to understand this and change the conditioning in order to attract good people.
I’m very ware of others but then I compare that to myself trying know if I have similar issues. I was late to understanding things like anxiety I had a friend tell me they were anxious back in high school (I was 16/17) and couldn’t comprehend anxiety hard to label it for myself but once I got the idea then I dug into it but agreed I’m always saying “I don’t know” I can make guesses but I can’t generally land on a reason why I grew up and more confident in my Fe but I know what I think and feel also has consequences to the outside world so that’s why I will always turn the light back on me to determine what I’m thinking and feeling to understand what outcome I could have on others or my own self future wise (thinking more on it now my previous comment and this one too I guess could make me a bit of an unhealthy INfJ) I’m a non stop over thinker. Ultimately yes the way you put self awareness fits very accurately to me when I was younger
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty I don’t enjoy it if that’s the question I just happen to worry about everything I would say because of my strict military abusive father all his rules and what consequences they would have so naturally I won’t stop thinking until I’ve come up with every possible solution to every problem I would enjoy a reprieve so I would say this is something that’s been engrained in me
I can relate so much to what you've said here, having had the same sort of father as you. That overabundance of cautiousness in many situations, the over-planning - in my case, trying to control situations to the nth degree because just as you said, I had to because it was bred in me. I sincerely hope you've been able to distance yourself from him. It seems to me you are definitely in the right place, because you're not sweeping it all under the rug, but trying to work through it and come out stronger for it. I admire that greatly.
Watching movies, tv shows, reading, and assuming a personality, is something I still do well into my 20's... Still trying to get a handle on this whole "who am I thing"
I did a stint in community theater for several years until I was about 30 - since I liked trying other personalities on so much, I figured why not act for real? It was very interesting and I enjoyed it.
This is so very true, they say we are, but with a recent drama I realized I’m not in touch with my emotions. I know I’m sad or angry but I don’t know why. And if it’s something deep and tragic it takes a lot of time figure myself out and what is truly going on. Unfortunately this caused a lot of conflict because I pulled away from a friend because I was hurt. But they viewed it as a lack of caring and continued coming at me. And I was coming at myself too. And to this day even when the conflict resolved it still feels like I’m the one who caused it all.
"They" don't know very much, do they? It's difficult to truly get into someone else's shoes unless you wear the exact same size. Not only does it take a lot of time, sometimes there is a delayed fallout of emotional reactivity once you realize how you actually feel about it. And as you've found out, we can be our own worst enemy when it's all over.
ive spent two years meditating in my house,im infj, also praying,studying psychology,medicine,science,etc the one emotion that grips my heart i think comes from thoughts of betrayal in my life,i had a hard time identifying this just kind of wrenching maybe
It is gut wrenching and dark. You mentioned narcissistic abuse in another comment - it's very difficult to come to grips with something like that. It's hard to think there are people like that out there. I don't know about you, but it bothers me very much ... the thought of no hope for a person.
I’ve reached a point where for the first time I’m becoming self aware. Before this I wouldn’t really have understood your video, but I would think that I did. Thank you! I completely understand.
"But I would think that I did" ... excellent observation. I would say that perhaps it would have reached our hearts, but not yet our minds. But this is the natural order of things with us, isn't it?
And this is where I go in error. If other people tell me who I am, then am I truly who I am ? Everybody has a different view of you. Nobody will see you as you see you. Your partner will not see you the same was as your mother, or father did. They will all have different opinions about you based on their own experiences and believes. Also if we tend to make different personas for different persons and those persons tell us who we are, are we then not starting to believe that we are the personas that we have "created". And when we start to believe this, will shall still not know who we truly are since all we are at that moment is merely a persona who we have created. Since other people told us that we are like "the way we are" we will once again crawl into the role of something which we are not. Unless we truly are all of these different personas in one body, making us sort of schizophrenic. At the same time it makes us great actors and probably spies as well. I have been struggling with finding myself a lot for the last couple of months. But I did tell myself that I will let noone tell me anymore who I should be. Deep down you know your interests, you know your goals, you know which role to play in life. Chase it. Fulfill it. And be great. Thanks for the videos and all the time and effort you're putting into this. You're making me think about a lot of things. I also relate to a lot of things you tell us. It helps. A lot.
Exactly. I truly enjoyed reading your synopsis. I did laugh about the spy thing ... I think we could potentially make very good spies! I do appreciate your very kind words. I want to help us all grow and become people who can make a difference in the way we were meant to. As far as your own personal growth, you sound as if you've come a long way towards knowing who you are. I am encouraged thinking you are going to make it.
So are you saying you always want to be alone, that you never want anyone in your life? Energy is only wasted if it is not used productively. I do care, which is why I am very particular about how I choose to spend my energy.
Yes, absolutely. The pure self is always there protected by NI and NI can help navigate through the suppression that the chaotic cruel world of duality demands, for survival. This song will relate to the healing INFJ. This little Light of mine I’m gonna let it shine let it shine let it shine. Hiding under a bushel, no! I’m gonna let it shine let it shine let it shine.
This is really a great topic and I could identify very much with everything. Was it the weeping willow tree? I think you mentioned this tree in your front yard as a child and how it was cut down, in a previous video. I remember when younger, a friend who seemed to know what he wanted to be most of his life, used to ask me about my preferences for what I wanted in my life and I just stared blankly. This happened on several occasions. It really felt uncomfortable. I wondered if he thought I was being evasive and I felt really vulnerable not being able to come up with an answer. It was like opening a creaking door into an empty room. In conversations about things other than me personally, I have always had strong opinions.
The maple tree, followed closely by the weeping willow ... it's thoughtful of you to remember. "Creaking" door ... perfectly stated as always. I think it creaks because we rarely allow it to open.
Think often we think in terms of the characteristics we want to be...say kind, caring, generous, funny, etc...rather than to be identified by a job, a position, a placement within a family context.
I don't think it's natural for anybody to be self aware to be honest, but I'd never know lol. I learned what it meant to be self aware in therapy, and that it changed everything. I never questioned why I feel the way I felt. I thought it was just the way it was.
The part about trying on other people made me think of how Frankenstein fashioned his creation. During my people watching it is to notice HOW they are. Why is elusive unless I can ask some questions. How very different is your agency in the world. (ENFP)
This is a great observation (the book comparison). I believe we are all shaped by our experiences, but as we grow, we can learn how to turn it around, and seek moments we can then shape. There's a change of mindset at some point, from acquiescent experiencing to purposeful living. And as you stated, we all go about it in different ways, yet somehow we can all find meaning in it. Thank you for chiming in - I always appreciate food for thought.
Yes all this time i was thinking why I am so extra af can't be like normal people may be i am having some disorder and nobody understands me when I can understand them, the reason is I myself can't understand me quite well what they will understand...
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty thank you for making such amazing videos. Actually I think sometimes maybe my father was also an infj he was so hard to read and he even couldn't read himself that he ended up having depression and left us. At that time i never understood him now I realized what he have gone through. I wish he would have found out that there is nothing wrong with him it is just his personality:(
You really tackled this perfectly and took a subject hazy and confusing and made it completely understandable. Sometimes even the wrong people in our lives can make us more self aware, though I wouldn't recommend it. I'm sure a lot of us have dealt with those who dismantle and strip away who we think we are and we are left having to figure out who we know we are in order to begin healing.
This comment is very insightful, spoken as someone who knows. This is my experience as well. Like you, I wouldn't wish it for anyone, but sometimes realizing it was all a lie is when you can begin to find the truth. Things are sometimes understood by their contraries. You have to see what isn't to see what is.
On a personal note, I love your sentence structure. You could have said "took a hazy and confusing subject", but the way you worded it is so much more intriguing.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty Thank you for the kind reply. Sometimes I feel like the infj should be called the prisoner as opposed to the counselor. How effective of a counselor can we be to others when they don't want to hear and it seems we more often and naught (a little play on words) get trapped in unsavory relationships. I say trapped because there are so many out there who are very good at presenting themselves as genuine kind and caring people when that couldnt be further from the truth.
I'm not trying to be a bummer here. We can still learn something positive out of every negative situation. Have a great day!
I relate to your videos so much as an INFJ... I feel like I barely know myself and want to journey soul searching why I'm here and who I am. I'm a nurse and I spend so much time looking at the needs of others I don't even know what I need emotionally. I want to love myself but I haven't learned how yet.
Loving yourself only means that you see yourself honestly. To love yourself is to be honest with yourself. It’s liberating when you tear down all the things you’re hiding from inside, and won’t let yourself see. It’s hurtful but so wonderful to look at yourself in truth. It releases you from all the false expectations you’ve put on yourself. When you see yourself honestly, you know you are just as human as everyone else around you. This means you see yourself as needing what everyone else needs (tailored to respect us all as individuals, of course). But for the most part, we all need roughly the same things. Beautiful relationships, acceptance for who we are, time to be ourselves, creative pursuits which not only feed our soul but bring others joy as well, taking care of our health, and so on.
For me, loving myself was to first tear down the lies I had told myself. And then to start asking myself what the truth is. These were hard questions. But once you’ve taken that step, you can actually start figuring it all out. You’re not afraid of the answers. You’re not afraid to discover why you’re having the emotions you’re having. It’s not always pretty but pretty is not important in self-discovery. Honesty is. I want to look in the mirror and see honesty in myself more than anything else. I’m still not there. I am still a hypocrite at times. But I’m getting there. All my love and best to you in getting there too.
What a very deep video. I identified with it a lot. I think self-actualisation brings a lot of peace for INFJ's as long as it comes from a third party - such a MBTI. Because I think we're hyper critical of ourselves, in unbalanced ways, as we second guess our decisions and actions - often with the bias of negativity. The gift we give to others of empowerment, problem resolution and contextual support/guidance is strangely sorely missing in our own lives. Like you, I find it very hard to talk to others about myself - it feels like I need to protect that inner sanctuary where the vulnerable me is. It also feels like I would be burdening others to share my problems. Again, this is strange as we don't mind listening to others and sharing their burdens. I think the INFJ likes to serve rather than be served, help rather than be helped and counsel rather than be counselled. That's a great attribute, but we must remember to serve, help and counsel ourselves too! Or we may eventually be no use to others. Thanks for sharing this introspection - very deep and thoughtful. Love & Shalom
Someone said this to me once, and I've found it rings true: we are at our very best when focusing on others, but at our very worst when we try to make our own advice applicable to ourselves. I'm the best doctor, but the worst patient. This is literally true for me - I really need to make myself take care of myself when I get sick. My strongest desire (when I'm sick) is to have my mother with me again to take care of me, and be nurtured in that way. She's the only one I ever really let mother me in that way. But I was a child, and I trusted her with a childlike faith. As an adult, trust is a whole lot harder to come by. And do we trust ourselves to do it? There has to be a healthy balance of both, I think.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty It's beautiful in a way. It shows how each personality type has a part to play in a bigger picture and are ultimately reliant on one another. It just so happens that we seem to fall into the category of counsellors in that picture. But we're not above anyone else because of that, as it's also our weakness towards ourselves, as you say. But I do feel sorry for the poor people who have to listen to us go on and on about deep matters! Hehe. Love & Shalom
As an INFJ/A type, I'm more attuned to my emotions ergo, I can be "assertive" with them. I am very self aware of how I feel, and who or what triggered a particular emotion, so it's easier to communicate how I feel and set some boundaries than the INFJ/T types, who seem more thinned skin and "turbulent" with their emotional states. I'm just more diplomatic with my emotions, they get processed by my "Ti" and I hope it comes across as me being unphased or stoic to the outside.
My issue has to do with my physical presence, I can't see how others see me physically (Se). I don't know how I come across to others, even though it's mostly positive. I'm very awkward while posing for a picture to be taken, it feels inauthentic to me, unnatural, my pictures looks much better when shot while in my natural, social state.
Monkeys cant scratch their own backs so they help to scratch each other, you can learn and relate a lot to your life through observing nature.
Wait till you can master all your abilities as a infj and you will not be able to see the world in the same way.47 year old infj,love your channel.
Thank you for your comment and kind words. Have you mastered all yours? I think I'll spend the rest of my life trying to get to that point.
I've already started this self-discovery journey, but I thank you greatly for these invaluable insights.
Excellent ... it's great to hear someone else finds it important. All my best to you.
Loved this. Its perfect. Thank you
Thank you for your kindness.
Ever since I started watching your videos, I truly realized I was hiding from myself, most of your videos described the way I am and my past experiences. Thank you for helping us understand ourselves ❤️🙏 and from now on I'm on the journey of self awareness. Self growth and being more self confident.
Thank you for your encouragement to me, and I wish you all the best in your journey.
It’s a bit terrifying but it seems I was destined to meet my ex girlfriend. This woman is a devil, and that pain and suffering from the manipulation and abuse FORCED me to look deep and find my inner child, I was molested by women at age 4 and again at the ages of 6,9 by two different men. I have always done everything spoken here and as of right here and now I feel free. From my ex who broke up with me to become a stripper then came back 8 months later while giving me breadcrumbs we got together for the second or third time. We only lasted about a month. She texted me two days ago to apologize and she hates herself for doing this to me…. All this while I was home with takeout for us, I’m so tired and hurt but I’m seeing a sex therapist Monday. It’s a shame that she didn’t find my love benefiting, she inspired me and helped spark my enthusiasm for song writing. She wants to have fun and enjoy herself and travel.. but I wonder what if we’re twin flames since we mirror all these mental issues to each other? Or perhaps we could never work because relationships are best when two partners meet when they are individually whole…
I am very sorry for the abuse you have suffered. Sometimes, because of childhood abuse and conditioning, I believe abusive people can find us because we have certain hallmarks they are looking for. Therefore, it's important to understand this and change the conditioning in order to attract good people.
I’m very ware of others but then I compare that to myself trying know if I have similar issues. I was late to understanding things like anxiety I had a friend tell me they were anxious back in high school (I was 16/17) and couldn’t comprehend anxiety hard to label it for myself but once I got the idea then I dug into it but agreed I’m always saying “I don’t know” I can make guesses but I can’t generally land on a reason why I grew up and more confident in my Fe but I know what I think and feel also has consequences to the outside world so that’s why I will always turn the light back on me to determine what I’m thinking and feeling to understand what outcome I could have on others or my own self future wise (thinking more on it now my previous comment and this one too I guess could make me a bit of an unhealthy INfJ) I’m a non stop over thinker.
Ultimately yes the way you put self awareness fits very accurately to me when I was younger
"Non stop over thinker" or just dominant thinker? Do you tire yourself out with thinking? Or is it your bread and butter?
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty I don’t enjoy it if that’s the question I just happen to worry about everything I would say because of my strict military abusive father all his rules and what consequences they would have so naturally I won’t stop thinking until I’ve come up with every possible solution to every problem I would enjoy a reprieve so I would say this is something that’s been engrained in me
I can relate so much to what you've said here, having had the same sort of father as you. That overabundance of cautiousness in many situations, the over-planning - in my case, trying to control situations to the nth degree because just as you said, I had to because it was bred in me. I sincerely hope you've been able to distance yourself from him. It seems to me you are definitely in the right place, because you're not sweeping it all under the rug, but trying to work through it and come out stronger for it. I admire that greatly.
Watching movies, tv shows, reading, and assuming a personality, is something I still do well into my 20's... Still trying to get a handle on this whole "who am I thing"
I did a stint in community theater for several years until I was about 30 - since I liked trying other personalities on so much, I figured why not act for real? It was very interesting and I enjoyed it.
The secret to everything you are attracted to is "Chemistry" I think.
This is so very true, they say we are, but with a recent drama I realized I’m not in touch with my emotions. I know I’m sad or angry but I don’t know why. And if it’s something deep and tragic it takes a lot of time figure myself out and what is truly going on.
Unfortunately this caused a lot of conflict because I pulled away from a friend because I was hurt. But they viewed it as a lack of caring and continued coming at me. And I was coming at myself too. And to this day even when the conflict resolved it still feels like I’m the one who caused it all.
"They" don't know very much, do they? It's difficult to truly get into someone else's shoes unless you wear the exact same size. Not only does it take a lot of time, sometimes there is a delayed fallout of emotional reactivity once you realize how you actually feel about it. And as you've found out, we can be our own worst enemy when it's all over.
I 💯% in agreement! Very well said and just the encouragement I need💗
We all need encouragement. Your words encourage me.
Oh, that unfolding... This is laid out so well! Thank you. :)
Unfolding, yes ... if you ever watch a flower open its petals, it's a very beautiful thing.
ive spent two years meditating in my house,im infj, also praying,studying psychology,medicine,science,etc the one emotion that grips my heart i think comes from thoughts of betrayal in my life,i had a hard time identifying this just kind of wrenching maybe
It is gut wrenching and dark. You mentioned narcissistic abuse in another comment - it's very difficult to come to grips with something like that. It's hard to think there are people like that out there. I don't know about you, but it bothers me very much ... the thought of no hope for a person.
I’ve reached a point where for the first time I’m becoming self aware. Before this I wouldn’t really have understood your video, but I would think that I did. Thank you! I completely understand.
"But I would think that I did" ... excellent observation. I would say that perhaps it would have reached our hearts, but not yet our minds. But this is the natural order of things with us, isn't it?
And this is where I go in error.
If other people tell me who I am, then am I truly who I am ?
Everybody has a different view of you. Nobody will see you as you see you. Your partner will not see you the same was as your mother, or father did. They will all have different opinions about you based on their own experiences and believes.
Also if we tend to make different personas for different persons and those persons tell us who we are, are we then not starting to believe that we are the personas that we have "created".
And when we start to believe this, will shall still not know who we truly are since all we are at that moment is merely a persona who we have created. Since other people told us that we are like "the way we are" we will once again crawl into the role of something which we are not.
Unless we truly are all of these different personas in one body, making us sort of schizophrenic. At the same time it makes us great actors and probably spies as well.
I have been struggling with finding myself a lot for the last couple of months. But I did tell myself that I will let noone tell me anymore who I should be. Deep down you know your interests, you know your goals, you know which role to play in life.
Chase it. Fulfill it. And be great.
Thanks for the videos and all the time and effort you're putting into this. You're making me think about a lot of things. I also relate to a lot of things you tell us. It helps. A lot.
Exactly. I truly enjoyed reading your synopsis. I did laugh about the spy thing ... I think we could potentially make very good spies! I do appreciate your very kind words. I want to help us all grow and become people who can make a difference in the way we were meant to. As far as your own personal growth, you sound as if you've come a long way towards knowing who you are. I am encouraged thinking you are going to make it.
Having favorite things and not knowing why... yuppppppp
Thank you so much
You are so welcome. Your comment gave me the push to publish my thoughts, so thank you for being the catalyst..
:) thank you I thought I was alone in this world.
The sweet joy in realizing you are not alone ...
Your voice works, nice job.
2:33
We don't feel lonely..
We just want to be alone..
"Because we don't care, instead of wasting energy out there, we enjoyed being alone"..
So are you saying you always want to be alone, that you never want anyone in your life?
Energy is only wasted if it is not used productively. I do care, which is why I am very particular about how I choose to spend my energy.
Omg I thought when I would watch tv and do this that I was wield, however it was my way of finding myself. Wow!
Yes, absolutely. The pure self is always there protected by NI and NI can help navigate through the suppression that the chaotic cruel world of duality demands, for survival.
This song will relate to the healing INFJ. This little Light of mine I’m gonna let it shine let it shine let it shine. Hiding under a bushel, no! I’m gonna let it shine let it shine let it shine.
Thank you for the kind advice, trying to figure out ourself is like trying to open Pandora´s Box with a toothpick.
Thank you for the laugh. So very true!
This is really a great topic and I could identify very much with everything.
Was it the weeping willow tree? I think you mentioned this tree in your front yard as a child and how it was cut down, in a previous video.
I remember when younger, a friend who seemed to know what he wanted to be most of his life, used to ask me about my preferences for what I wanted in my life and I just stared blankly. This happened on several occasions. It really felt uncomfortable. I wondered if he thought I was being evasive and I felt really vulnerable not being able to come up with an answer. It was like opening a creaking door into an empty room. In conversations about things other than me personally, I have always had strong opinions.
The maple tree, followed closely by the weeping willow ... it's thoughtful of you to remember. "Creaking" door ... perfectly stated as always. I think it creaks because we rarely allow it to open.
Think often we think in terms of the characteristics we want to be...say kind, caring, generous, funny, etc...rather than to be identified by a job, a position, a placement within a family context.
Oh my gosh! Dodgy! Thank you!
You're welcome.
Beautifully stated 💖
Thank you very much.
I don't think it's natural for anybody to be self aware to be honest, but I'd never know lol. I learned what it meant to be self aware in therapy, and that it changed everything. I never questioned why I feel the way I felt. I thought it was just the way it was.
You are absolutely right. I guess many people live their entire lives without seeing the need for it, but as you said, what a difference it makes.
Take the best and leave the rest to connect everything to solve self.
💯 I understand exactly what you are saying
The part about trying on other people made me think of how Frankenstein fashioned his creation.
During my people watching it is to notice HOW they are. Why is elusive unless I can ask some questions.
How very different is your agency in the world. (ENFP)
This is a great observation (the book comparison). I believe we are all shaped by our experiences, but as we grow, we can learn how to turn it around, and seek moments we can then shape. There's a change of mindset at some point, from acquiescent experiencing to purposeful living. And as you stated, we all go about it in different ways, yet somehow we can all find meaning in it. Thank you for chiming in - I always appreciate food for thought.
Bruh, this is so relatable.. somehow.
In what way?
I mean, it sounds exactly like the questions and stuff I have been wondering about myself.
Why did you have to make me cry?😢😢
I'm hoping they're happy tears ...
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty Of course They were...
Ye ye ye ye ye When I realize "I" am people orientaded
Yes. It is a driving force in our lives.
At about 16.30 min. Have you heard of The Ethics of Authenticity from
Charles Taylor?
It's about how authenticity will resonate in you.
No, I haven't. Thank you for the recommendation.
Yes all this time i was thinking why I am so extra af can't be like normal people may be i am having some disorder and nobody understands me when I can understand them, the reason is I myself can't understand me quite well what they will understand...
You are normal for you. That's what matters.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty thank you for making such amazing videos. Actually I think sometimes maybe my father was also an infj he was so hard to read and he even couldn't read himself that he ended up having depression and left us. At that time i never understood him now I realized what he have gone through. I wish he would have found out that there is nothing wrong with him it is just his personality:(
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And here's one for you 💜 Thank you.
AMEN
In Islam, u are made so u can worship Allah (swt)