Healing with Community, Mindfulness, and Purpose: A Path to Wholeness | Dylan Demery | TEDxCSU

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  • Опубліковано 27 лис 2024

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  • @sonthibutsalee
    @sonthibutsalee 10 днів тому +1

    I had to pause when you shared about collapsing in your car after realizing Tony wasn’t there. That was such a raw moment, and it reminds me to not take the little things for granted.

  • @IGiveRainbowKisses
    @IGiveRainbowKisses 12 днів тому +1

    I loved how you talked about purpose changing over time. I’ve felt that in my own life. you don’t always know where you’re headed, but as long as you keep moving, the path reveals itself

  • @brandyocraveiro
    @brandyocraveiro 10 днів тому +1

    man, that part about just surviving the day after losing Tony, I felt that deeply. sometimes that’s all we can do. just get through the day. your strength in sharing this story is so appreciated.

    • @DyDemery
      @DyDemery 8 днів тому

      Thank you so much, I appreciate that. Yes, you are right. We have to give ourselves the grace and the space to just survive when the grief is so heavy.

  • @annerossiter
    @annerossiter 23 дні тому +1

    Laughing for the first time after Tony's death really struck a chord with me... I remember that moment after losing my mom, it felt so weird but so necessary.

  • @elainarogers
    @elainarogers 10 днів тому +1

    the way she talked about purpose changing over time really makes me feel better about still figuring out my own path.

    • @DyDemery
      @DyDemery 8 днів тому

      When I did this talk, I really thought through all the different purposes I uncovered throughout my life and how they have changed and evolved as I have changed and evolved. And it's wonderful knowing that your purpose can shift and it's totally okay.

  • @avagrutel
    @avagrutel 15 днів тому +1

    I think this shows that even in the darkest times, there’s a way forward if you’re willing to take the steps!

    • @DyDemery
      @DyDemery 8 днів тому

      I agree! It can be really hard but that first step is everything.

  • @angrybeagles4108
    @angrybeagles4108 22 дні тому +1

    I've been going through a really tough time lately, and this talk was a reminder to me to keep moving. Thank you.

    • @DyDemery
      @DyDemery 8 днів тому

      Sometimes it's all you can do - take a step and move. Sending healing thoughts your way!

  • @aerosiskell
    @aerosiskell 26 днів тому +1

    Wow what an amazing path to healing. I think Tony is still watching out for you ❤

  • @tedbuden
    @tedbuden Місяць тому +1

    Such a beautiful story. God forbid but if anything happened to me I would hope my wife would have a journey through healing like this one

  • @lynnecousins
    @lynnecousins Місяць тому +1

    I love how she emphasized taking baby steps! I had a pretty bad accident a few years back and my healing journey has taken so long but I've learn't not to add any negative feelings on top of that by dwelling on the time it's taking

  • @northcosca
    @northcosca 2 місяці тому +2

    This is a great reminder of the resilience we all have within us. It might take us a while to find it but even in our darkest times there's always a way forward.

  • @stanforeman3951
    @stanforeman3951 4 місяці тому +1

    I felt your pain as you described losing Tony. It’s so touching to hear how you found solace and meaning through meditation and fishing.

    • @DyDemery
      @DyDemery 3 місяці тому

      Thank you! I had no idea that fly fishing would help me heal. My dad passed in June and I took myself to the water as soon as I could and felt so much peace.

  • @archiefast
    @archiefast 4 місяці тому +1

    Wow the story around the 7:00 mark about her laughing is so relatable. That first big laugh after a huge loss is so cathartic and yes, makes us hopeful again.

  • @thevictorfirsov
    @thevictorfirsov 4 місяці тому +1

    The evolution of your purpose, from personal healing to professional achievements, is a powerful narrative. It’s a testament to how life can change in unexpected ways and the importance of staying open to new opportunities

    • @DyDemery
      @DyDemery 3 місяці тому

      Thank you and I totally agree! I try to keep myself flexible because our life experiences can really take us anywhere we want to go... we just have to be open to it.

  • @cooltidbits
    @cooltidbits Місяць тому +1

    your story about using Tony's old fishing gear was so sweet, especially wearing the oversized shoes. it’s those little details that show how connected you stayed to him

  • @nanburkhardt
    @nanburkhardt 3 місяці тому +2

    The story about you using Tony's gear, even his shoes that didn't fit, is so freakin cute. Good on you for taking those steps.

  • @cool-cat-guy
    @cool-cat-guy 3 місяці тому +2

    I can't even imagine what it would have been like to lose someone you were that close to for so long. Turning the grief of that into a source of strength is really impressive and powerful

  • @thegutcheck
    @thegutcheck Місяць тому +1

    I can’t imagine how tough it must have been to lose your person like that. But the way you found healing and now purpose in something that was dear to them as well is really amazing

  • @12100myts
    @12100myts Місяць тому +1

    This is a beautiful story. The path to healing is never linear and it was really lovely to hear that yours has taken you on quie the adventure!

  • @thejanicej
    @thejanicej 2 місяці тому +1

    This is such a beautiful story. Sad for sure but really lovely the way you found such purpose in something that meant so much to Tony as well.

  • @rahataleem6544
    @rahataleem6544 4 місяці тому +1

    This kind of strength in the face of loss is a beautiful side effect of something tragic. I admire how you’ve channeled your grief into positive change and found a new path 💜

  • @kristyphoney
    @kristyphoney Місяць тому +1

    It’s interesting how different people find healing in different activities! I would have never thought of fly fishing as a form of meditation but it makes sense, especially her connection to it

  • @braydenteagan5572
    @braydenteagan5572 Місяць тому +1

    this talk reminded me of the importance of leaning on your community. I’ve been through tough times too, and having friends to share the load with makes all the difference

  • @1edty
    @1edty 4 місяці тому +2

    Such a powerful and moving story. Your journey from grief to finding new purpose is truly inspiring. Thanks for sharing.

    • @DyDemery
      @DyDemery 3 місяці тому

      Thank you so much! I really think these things help me evolve as a human and finding ways to connect with others. I am truly grateful for the journey and everything I'm learning along the way.

  • @pavlova4727
    @pavlova4727 2 місяці тому +1

    I appreciate that you didn't shy away from talking about the hard times. Healing is not cyclical and having the courage to admit you still struggle some days makes this way more relatable.

  • @Joyspout
    @Joyspout 2 місяці тому +1

    Hearing her talk about using Tony's fishing gear got me so emotional. It reminds me of when I wore my grandpa's old jacket after he passed. It's like keeping a piece of them with you.

    • @DyDemery
      @DyDemery Місяць тому

      It really is. I still carry his fishing license with me every year.

  • @mariannemortimer7724
    @mariannemortimer7724 4 місяці тому +1

    Your openness about embracing change and finding new paths was really refreshing... It’s a nice reminder that flexibility and openness are key in dealing with life’s upheavals

  • @williammathews1648
    @williammathews1648 Місяць тому

    I think this just goes to show there are so many ways to grieve and honor someone's memory. Props to her for finding such a holistic one.

  • @jackanslow
    @jackanslow Місяць тому +1

    her talk is a good reminder that there's no "right" way to deal with loss. It's just a journey we all need to take

  • @BagofSwag
    @BagofSwag Місяць тому

    It's amazing how you transformed your pain into something so beautiful. Meditation and fly fishing as healing tools is a unique and heartfelt approach.

    • @DyDemery
      @DyDemery Місяць тому

      Thank you! My father passed in June and I found myself on the water a few days later, it’s still my go-to. ❤

  • @audreylstamford
    @audreylstamford 3 місяці тому

    I've never thought about fishing as meditative experience before but I can absolutely see why it would be, and so beautiful that it connected you to Tony.

    • @DyDemery
      @DyDemery 2 місяці тому

      Thank you. My dad just passed away 2 months ago and I found myself on the water less than a week after he died - it was so cathartic. I'm grateful I've found this option, it's truly magical!

  • @offbeatbirdy3307
    @offbeatbirdy3307 2 місяці тому +1

    It's true that meditation helps with grief. I started doing yoga after my divorce and it's been a game-changer for my mental health.

  • @jennick4311
    @jennick4311 Місяць тому +1

    I lost my best friend last year, and I'm still trying to figure out how to move forward and cope without her. Your journey gives me hope that I'll find my way too, thank you.

    • @DyDemery
      @DyDemery Місяць тому

      I’m so sorry to hear of your loss, it’s so awful losing the people you love. Each person’s healing journey is different but I am confident you will find your way. Don’t hesitate to ask for help when you need it. ❤

  • @Twitchisme
    @Twitchisme 3 місяці тому +1

    Starting a business to address a gap in the market shows incredible initiative. It’s pretty cool to hear how you turned a personal challenge into a professional opportunity.

  • @KellyLaneYoga
    @KellyLaneYoga 7 місяців тому +1

    Thank you.

  • @Bubbly-Snowflake
    @Bubbly-Snowflake Місяць тому

    the integration of mindfulness into your fly fishing practice was particularly interesting. It’s a great example of how mindfulness can be woven into various aspects of life.

  • @khloetaylor1674
    @khloetaylor1674 2 дні тому

    Love this, needed this

  • @wadewilsonjr
    @wadewilsonjr 3 місяці тому +1

    Science is now finally proving all this right.

  • @mystermix
    @mystermix 4 місяці тому +1

    oh boy that story about her leaving work had me in tears, it really is the little things we do daily with our loved ones that make it so special. I'm so glad she had someone to reach out to and that her sister responded in that way.

  • @smilingputin
    @smilingputin 2 місяці тому +1

    Interesting.

  • @urdadiam
    @urdadiam 19 днів тому +1

    Starting a woman-owned fly fishing business in a male-dominated industry is no small feat!

  • @someonednamessomeone
    @someonednamessomeone 2 місяці тому

    I respect her story but was kinda hoping for some more concrete advice on healing and dealing with grief. There's a lot of her experience that just doesn't really parallel anything in my life

    • @DyDemery
      @DyDemery Місяць тому

      I totally understand and I wish I had better advice to give. What I’ve learned is that each grief journey is different… there is really no right answer as you try to find your new normal. And honestly, your life isn’t really “normal” again after such a huge loss. But taking baby steps and trying new things to help you heal might help. Seeking grief therapy, meditation, or finding a way to work out your feelings (writing, art, hiking, etc.) are all things that can help. But I’m not an expert, just someone who went through it and am still going through it 15 years later. I truly hope you find what helps you heal.

  • @dare2dreamwithme
    @dare2dreamwithme 2 місяці тому +2

    It was poignant how you use November 4th for reflection and meaningful activities. It’s a beautiful way to honor Tony and keep his memory alive each year.

  • @izayahmayson
    @izayahmayson 3 місяці тому +1

    Sorry only two weeks off to mourn your husband?? That's not right.

    • @DyDemery
      @DyDemery 2 місяці тому

      Thank you. Yes, it was pretty wild trying to go back to work and be professional. I did eventually find the distraction helpful.

  • @sk-banglabot
    @sk-banglabot Місяць тому

    😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @ihavebigpaws
    @ihavebigpaws Місяць тому +1

    Could definitely relate to the way she talked about community support… my friends were my lifeline when I was going through depression, and their support kept me going when I couldn't find my own strength.