A lot of men admit that. Especially men who work in studying relationships. Dr. Gottman said that the world is more dangerous for women and the incels got mad at him for it. If you read about marriage studies and articles by psyche professionals, they all say the same thing. The men tend to be emotionally disconnected.
Darn, you just described most marriages. My entire life I’ve seen black men like this. My father, uncles, cousins, neighbors, clients - virtually everyone that was masculine.
It's called narcissism. It's hard to find a man that is balanced either they're whining about something, or mean, arrogant, or abusive. You are so right about how men operate, its even worse when they get a couple more dollars than they had before.
Men spend too much time defining how a woman should be e.g. cooking, cleaning, caring for the kids, satisfying their man at will, (whether or not a woman doesn't feel like it)...all the while the men aren't honoring their role in the relationship e.g. lying, cheating, being abusive.
You are soo right but they want to be catered to. Like they listen to destiny child cater to you but only the chorus 😂 cause they couldn’t understand what Beyonce was saying. Dudes she’s reciprocating his energy.
Women need to understand this… Even if a man is in a relationship with you, that doesn’t mean that he likes you and respects you. A man will sleep with you and benefit from being with you without liking or respecting you. These same men who talk trash about you in a barber shop, will come home to you. Please take those rose colored glasses off and enter into relationships with logic, like entering a business tbh.
I’m convinced many men don’t like the woman they’re with but women come with perks/ benefits. We are the life source so it’s hard for them to just be alone, be celibate, and on their own until they meet the woman they want
Sadly…. im in my 20s and already clocked out on relationships. Im tired of being bullied my whole life by men, family or romantic… Im not cut out for the games being played today and I admit Im too soft and love myself too much to be used and not seen as a human. I guess I allowed too much…. Hopefully someone else can win that war
Same. I am tired of being abused by men in relationships, in friendships, and at work because of their ego and insecurity. I have to admit after I stopped dealing with men and my mental health improved DRAMATICALLY. The only man I like being around is my father 😂
: We as humans have to keep in mind that the world as we knew it is gone! Tip toe in society, tip toe at home, it's exhausting! The sense of entitlement entitlement is at an all time high! Satan is running amuck! This is the time like never before to get, and keep a deeper, more profound relationship with GOD! We need GOD more than ever right now!!!❤😢
I started talking to a guy...we are in getting to know phase. Have gone out a few times, nothing more, just a hug at end of date. On my bday I went to the art museum and lunch and shopping by myself (it was a weekday so friends at work). A message came in from him and I thought how nice, he must be sending happy bday. I opened it and he said, you had better not be out ef%^ing another guy!!! I was absolutely paralyzed hurt and stunned! I told him off and cried becuz I was so hurt to be accused of such behavior. Needless to say Im done with this controlling monster!!!
Wow, if he popped off like that in the beginning stages, I can only imagine what he'd be like later down the road.. Men like him think women are their private property ...utterly disgusting
Most men don't understand that Intimacy is not sex.... intimacy is the ability to be vulnerable with someone and to trust that person will not destroy you in the process.
Wow Tony! I’m so glad you mentioned this. My mom and I went to a church for a few months last year and the pastor literally said in the pulpit to us during the sermon: “I want to talk about giving. If God ain’t never done nothing for you then don’t give.” I could instantly see it as manipulation but what scared me was that so many people in the congregation didn’t see that they were being manipulated.
Lets get to the "root" of the real problem. The real problem is there are many women and men that have unresolved childhood trauma and neglect. Not only that people dont know who they really are inside. We wont talk about the smoking and drinking to go on top of what i just said. Its exactly how 2 fkkd up people end up with each other. I dont care how well put together you are on the "outside." Work on your mind and get to the bottom of it. It aint always just the other person. It's easy to put it on someone else though to relieve yourself of any accountability.
@@Erik7prc: Exactly. One is the "aggressor", the other one "enables". There's no common ground, hence lack of profound communication. The loud, or/and sense of entitlement is off the charts. Brokeness is truly at an all time high!
Very well said. Too many broken people out there desperately looking for somewhere else to dump their trash. If you're a person who has done tremendous amounts of work on your mind and spirit, it goes without saying that you have to be EXTREMELY selective with who you let into your energy field. Don't play about with your wellbeing, don't let trash destroy your peace of mind.
You ain't never lied!!!! My ex mom was the whole issue omg ..he used to cry about her how she did him...never again and I tried to comfort and pray 🙏 for him..nothing worked and then he gave me hell the entire 4 years 😢
Men and women alike need to seek God and allow him to heal them so they can show up in relationships healed whole and their authentic selves. Period! Men and women alike….their representatives show up, stop it find out who you are, when you know who you are you know who aligns with you and who does not! Spend some time with God and being by yourself for a while, and please present yourself as being a friend first…..that friendship is everything. Imagine being able to marry and be with your best friend.♥️ Blessings! 🌸
Thats why our Pastor tells us as Christians m.the more God elevates you. The more you go down on your knees. In humble submission. To stay humble and not get puffed up. God hates pride
My grandpa told me that he moved to Missouri because of a promotion, and he did it because he felt “needed” and important. Not necessarily because it was what his family needed. I don’t know if it caused any relationship issues. But he was a genuine, humble man of God and married to my grandma until the end. I miss him a lot 😢
Tony I am so glad you spoke on this. I was in a 7 year relationship that ended in 2023. The farther along the relationship we got the meaner he got. I couldn't understand where it was coming from. Thank you! 🙏🏿
A lot of times women are seeking closure and would request coaching after years of not being in a relationship because of being in an abusive or Narcissistic relationship and they will never and can’t receive closure from a narcissist because they will never give closure because it’s not in they’re nature and this is the reason some women seek to receive closure even after so many years through coaching, this has been the case for me and why I listen to you and other channels. I commend you for sharing your gift and helping others through your videos, it has definitely helped me, thank you so much. God Bless you Tony!
That's why I have no issue having a few choice words for man out if he disrespects me. They need to be humbled. Insecure men needs multiple women to validate them. I don't compete with no one but myself and seek my own validation within myself.
I learned this the hard way. My mom passed recently & my ex tried his best to gaslight me & make it seem abnormal to grieve the death of a parent. Just completely demonic! I’m still in shock because I now have to grieve the loss of 2 relationships that ended suddenly. I don’t wish this pain on no one! This video came on time. Thank you Tony! 🫶🏾
Keep praying and get grief counseling for the loss of your mother. She is at peace now. And- Thank God Mr. showed you his true character b4 you lost more time. Move on with your Life and block him forever!
@@prettylittleliar7311both of your parents. That must be real hard. Lost my father and grandfather. Im @ my mums now dont know what id do without her.Sorry 4 your loss❤
I left my ex husband and he tells me every time we alone that he would leave his girl in a heart beat to come back, it sounds good but the actions show otherwise
Then he will tell some other woman that he would leave you in a heartbeat for the chance to be with them. Just leave these men to themselves. They are tiring and draining.
I am a witness to exactly what are speaking about Tony. I saw my children's father become a Military superstar crash and burn because of ego. The seed may have already been there as you said but he could not handle it and his life is still sad. Ego, meanness, cruelty and now a reprobate mind has consumed him. After 30 years it was too much to take.
It was odd to me that he named his top 3 priorities and his wife was not there. So she's 4th on the list? How is hanging out with your friends higher on the list than your wife and you 60 somethin years old? No wonder she feels neglected smh.
neglect is a form of abuse. imagine feeling neglected for decades? i'm sure she has told him thousands times how she felt but he didn't do anything about it
Tony I was once the person that said you was bragging but NO now I feel differently. You are working hard to help women and get the message out there and that is a awesome thing when a man can give up the game and speak the total truth. The way you tell a story is often times funny as well. It's like giving truth serum with a lil laughter. But it truly help women of all ages all races and at the end of the day there is nobody else on the internet can speak the truth and give up the knowledge that you have. God bless you and your wife.
Mr, Gaskins, thank you for being so transparent. For a man to be so humble that he's able to shine light on a situation that millions of other men out right refuse to acknowledge or are incapable of seeing the truth showes the honorable intentions, and is truly an example of a truely masculine man of God. You have validated the reality of countless women, and by doing so have healed any trauma that was a result of the men they loved so deeply who were unwilling to believe they were responsible for the breakdown of their marriage, simply because the woman had decided that she had no choice but to leave. Thank you, and bless your family.
very true. i have a colleague, young black female who has been in an exec position and she is still not able to cope with the work/demands. not everybody can breathe at thin air levels that's why you gotta take your time in the climb.
In the same hour, a man confessed that he loved me and decided to ghost me. 51 years young...smh I really just don't know anymore. I'm at a point where if it happens it happens. I'm just focusing on my relationship with God and the three B's. It's exhausting. Blessings to all here.
I definitely believe you, and have heard some Wild things. Also experiences I’ve had myself. Withholding intimacy that’s for marriage will definitely weed many of them out. I said many as some men still marry just to act up as well. It’s a sad time in dating. I’m still optimistic God will ordain my love story at the right time.
01:19:17 YES! I'm experiencing this now with my husband unfortunately. Even my Dad pointed it out. It's sad how a season of this can ruin years of building. I'm praying for positive change but I'm 🤏🏾 this close to getting my Letoya Luckett on...
Mr, Gaskins! I already mentioned ur name to my husband! Haha my bad! I told him about how much I learned from u over the years, and that I know about the games that men play. Be blessed Sir! Much love always to u from the Netherlands🇳🇱
Thank you Tony for clarifying your statement with the actual Bible Scripture. I can see your Spiritual growth being shown in REAL TIME. Your "Fruit" IS Showing Brother! May God Continue to BLESS you and your Family!🙏💜
Mom of 4 similar life style to your wife Tony, taking kids to school, picking up and taking to soccer practices, doing homework. Kids under 10 and husband and me can’t catch a break with arguments. 11 years married 30 years old :(
@@suburbanmomma9093 I will be in prayer for my beautiful sister. I am living the same lifestyle. Only my new husband has recently been sentenced to a few years in prison and we are struggling because I'm doing everything myself and not able to cater to his needs for attention and submission. I don't even know how to be submissive and have to now be a provider and the person in charge, taking care of everything. He is needing something I don't have to give right now. And it's causing strain on our marriage. Let's pray for each other. I wish you and your family all the best.
@@suburbanmomma9093 i was in the same situation… We ended up getting a divorce. Married 12 years. Got married at 20yo and have 4 kids. Have you tried therapy?
Thank you for saying that. There are people who had good messages but I unsubscribed for the same reason you mentioned - something didn’t sit right with my spirit.
Excellent video. I’m withdrawing from men who want me to be sweet as pie and talk nice to them while they come off to me however and make an excuse for doing so. Thank God I’m not like these irsty females out here. I’m good by myself. If I can make myself happy then why would I let someone who is battling their own demons come and disturb that? Knowing how to make yourself happy FIRST helps you get over people who couldn’t reciprocate that a whole lot quicker!!! Like lil boy I don’t even have to accept this bare minimum when it’s men out here who will do that and then a lot more. A man that I had let go of that was too old for me in my eyes showed me how a man who is really interested in you would be if it’s real and now it’s not hard for me to spot when a man is faking. I guess we’ll both be faking then 😂 CAUSE I KNOW!!! 😮
: My peace was/is GOD giving, a gift! WHY would I throw GOD'S "gift" back in HIS face just to make someone else feel good/happy? Meanwhile I'm miserable? I don't think so. ❤
He clearly not talking bout them. P Diddy going 4 marriage counselling do me a fava!!!!😂 And not Cosby or Kelly either their behavour or questionable allegations which had them jailed on crazy evidence or lack of........
The same thing is happening to Muni Long now... She had decided to separate from her spouse, and she also came out with a new album-which might somewhat explain her mindset about the relationship.
I’ve never commented on a Tony Gaskins video or probably any one of these relationship coach videos , but if you are living the truth of God and honoring your wife and family I commend you. I pray you will sustain the vultures men and women await your downfall I pray you stay strong
Wooooah, the comment about that not being the Holy Spirit was out of pocket. I’ve been watching you Tony for 6 years. I heard the comment you made at the mid video about “if you ever misinterpret the word do the Lord and find out you do repent and correct. I believe the Holy Spirit is so good he allowed you to state that randomly to cover grace for the comment he already knew was coming at the end of this video. I know Tony is called to Relationships and business BY GOD. However, that in itself is a spirit of pride to believe we know and understanding everything. Being in ministry settings, being a prophet of God, and doing the work of God in different realms, I believe everyone is entitled to their opinion but it’s important to not make over comments and category’s in areas we may still be ignorant in. & I’m using ignorant in its literal term not as a derogatory form or insult as I respect this man. I’ve heard Tony speak on a few things biblically as he mentioned where I do see he is further than some about spirits but still has a lot of learning to do. Just as Tony stated about the Interviews concerning Mo’nique and different famous people and himself stating we always have an opinion or perception of how to do things and what we wouldn’t do but you haven’t walked that life or promotion to say that. I feel the same here. I’ve been at actual occult churches and I can tell you for sure that isn’t the last Tiph. No one is perfect. BUT to say she isn’t filled with the Holy Spirit I don’t think is wise and to say God places a limit on what he does for us isn’t factual although rare in most cases. I’ve been to churches full of pride and arrogance and lack of scripture to provide context ti what they are saying and she doesn’t do that. However I am against idolatry and don’t support that but I am speaking facts but regardless if it’s Tony, Tiphani or anyone else called by God wrong is wrong biblically and right is right I don’t in having loyalty to anyone in mankind over Jesus himself. The word said we DONT fight against flesh and blood we fight against the spirit and a monitoring spirit isn’t a PERSON isn’t a spirit. Which is why she or any other servant of God who understands water are would pray this. God people called to high places just like yourself stay in heavy warfare l. She provides scripture and is extremely humble and sits o under people gladly and will gladly tell you she doesn’t speak or teach what she is still learning or don’t fully understand and I personally respect that because most arrogant will not. The same way some try to say they think you’re pandering or bragging or using examples as ways to be arrogant and brag waiting to see you stumble people can see her that way too when that’s not the case. Study people for themselves not based on someone else’s video simply because that persons spirit can be off or triggered by their own spirits they’re dealing with and traumas. However there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. She tells people don’t even idolize her and if she finds out someone is she will not deal with them and let them know their going to hell less they repent because she isn’t anyone’s God and God is a jealous God. She speaks about pride and say she even never says she doesn’t suffer from if ol because it’s one of the strongest demons in the Bible and pride doesn’t always look like what you think it does. This comment in itself without thorough investigation and research cause cause a brother or sister who has idolized you and see that everything you say within relationship is correct so this must be correct too and cause them to stumble simply due to unintentional lack of understanding, research, and some but limited biblical understanding esp about spirits. There a time for love and a time for war. God isn’t lukewarm and he is live but he is wisdom and ruthless about his righteousness. That isn’t an accurate assessment based on that live video and the context provided with love and respect always. It’s hard enough dealing with the warfare of people marriage etc and I know that isn’t easy but over here in our world dealing with witches and warlocks and this is your assignment people should be careful speaking on things that don’t really understand the depths or high places in the spiritual office they don’t have experience in. & I’m not saying be careful to fork fear I’m saying be mindful or what you don’t know yet, so we aren’t making premature unrighteous judgments. For me this wouldn’t make me stop following Tony necessarily (not that he would or wouldn’t care) just because from my experience in the ministerial field and prophetic God has already confirmed that Tony is called and I have a clear understanding where he is based on things he has said before and I believe in due time God is going to reveal even deeper revelations to him but also because I understand that Tony IS called by God and what he’s called too in the Kingdom for these videos in relationships and business I understand that’s his primary assignment and I don’t get to far into expecting certain things from him in other areas like you have to understand where things start and stop so to speak but that’s not saying he doesn’t understand God let me be clear, but no one’s perfect and no one has it all, there are spiritual misdemeanors and spiritual felonys and this isn’t that deep but it’s not about tiphani specifically it’s just overall, and everyone isn’t for everyone any way. Just like some people like RC Blake’s and feel Tony is mean or arrogant when he tell women to shut up in the comments or he’s too bold. However he understands who he’s called to and how it needs to be said. RC Blake’s says the same thing but it’s a different approach God has called him to a certain crowd as well. Doesn’t make Tony arrogant. This is actually exactly why when Tiphani gets asked questions about marriage she says I can tell you certain things but I’m actually going to point you to minister Kevin Ewing because God didn’t call me to ministry’s for the PRIMARY purpose of marriage and she understands that so instead of responding on pride and acting like she understands they depths of depth of everything she is clear on her area of assignment. I never hardly comment but this was extremely important cause this can send someone who is a baby in Christ or lukewarm the wrong way and we wanna do the lords work not the enemies. Im not perfect this isn’t meant to disrespect, check or force anyone’s opinion but God speaks clearly about bold prophets in the last days as well and describes them and you need the holy spirit and the word of God to fact check some things not out feelings. God bless.
When I don’t agree with things, I just let it fly because it’s simply my perspective. I have noticed in some videos here and there it does seem like slightly bragging but I do also recognize you’re just saying ‘look at what God has allowed you to accomplish or possess.’ So I usually just try to shift perspectives bc I’m in a lower class as to where I want to be..but I know in obedience I’ll be given more according to God’s will. But I also notice ..I can brag too when God gives me more so…I shut my mouth lol. Because if I get to the level I wanna be as a nurse 👀👀 I genuinely pray God keeps me humble! Because I know what it’s like first hand to lose EVERYTHING but custody of my babies !
@@staciadavis3714 that’s pretty much what the synopsis of my comment was saying. Sometimes it seems like bragging, but look at how God provides, is the shift of perspective 💜
When you said somebody was the slave and someone is the master 🥴 Maybe I took that literally cause that’s exactly how I’ve experienced relationships and I don’t like it.
It's hoŵ these guys have been raised if the mom was on drugs putting a man before her kids her mother raised her son, and at top of that, his daddy nowhere to be found so he pick up his mama ways his uncle took him as like a brother its sad
Thank you for breaking down ego and what it looks like. Also, Tiphani Montgomery isn’t leading a cult. It’s actually a lot of Bible teaching and a lot of repentance in her member-less ministry. Both her and minister Kevin L Ewing are great teachers of the Bible.
i watched the judges interview as well. my “knower” started SANGIN when he started talking bout whether he was unfaithful. he gave a lawyer answer. i suspect he’s gotten quite a bit of fellatio on the road.
TO MANY MEN REALLY NEED TO PUT IN THE WORK TO WORK ON THEMSELVES B4 HAVING A RELATIONSHIP MIND BODY & SOUL THEY'RE JUST TO MUCH WORK SHOULDN'T BE THAT WAY IM REALLY HAPPY SINGLE & PEACEFUL RIGHT NOW IN MY LIFE 💥
You might want to watch more of tiphani’s videos and learn more about the prophetic and specific demonic spirits before professing the holy spirit isnt with someone. Not idolizing her at all but i know to be careful in that area before praying about it. Everything else 🔥🔥🔥
An abusive man has no love to give. The chances of change are slim to none. How does an adult learn to love? I wouldn't hold my breath. He would need the humblest heart and decades f therapy and even then, chances of change are slim. Nope, best to run for you life away from an abuser.
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"If you have tried ... and he doesn't change, you got to leave. Men only understand structure and consequences." -TG paraphrased. Wise words.
That's facts 💯
We need to scream it from the rooftops!!
Silence is action. If you stated your boundaries and standards, become indifferent/gray-rock and go silent until he respects them.
Amen
Yep Going Ghost
Finally a man admitting to the fact that the majority of relationship problems are caused by men ❤
😂😂 women are very cruel to men especially in high school calling men lames etc
Without integrity we have nothing. Wishing more would wake up
A lot of men admit that. Especially men who work in studying relationships. Dr. Gottman said that the world is more dangerous for women and the incels got mad at him for it. If you read about marriage studies and articles by psyche professionals, they all say the same thing. The men tend to be emotionally disconnected.
Yep! I had a black man admit the majority of women are messed up bc of what black men put us through. Men know they just won’t admit it.
@@rebelmurphy664 iktr
When a person is mean, they are revealing their fruits to you. Don't wait for the person to change.
True. Doesn't it takes time and work to change from being mean?
@@gwenbradford6134 Not your responsibility to stay and fix!!! You gain nothing for putting up with that
So true, Toni. Once you stop feeding a man's ego, whose intentions were no good any way, they ghost you.
Yup! I had that exact experience 💯
😂 Unhealthy SOUL-TIES 💯 This is true they want women to Stroke their ego! Please not me 🤭👣
AND THAT’S A GOOD THING!
I’m not staying in no relationship where I’m being treated mean. That’s just that!
For real!!
Mean is also defined as the silent treatment, lack of intimacy or affection, withholding sex
Thank you.
Darn, you just described most marriages. My entire life I’ve seen black men like this. My father, uncles, cousins, neighbors, clients - virtually everyone that was masculine.
It's called narcissism. It's hard to find a man that is balanced either they're whining about something, or mean, arrogant, or abusive. You are so right about how men operate, its even worse when they get a couple more dollars than they had before.
MOST AREN’T HARD-WORKERS OF INTEGRITY!
That’s why I’ve been by myself since 2013 and I love it‼️💯
Exactly. They always switched up on the ones that were down. Not no more 💯💯
Men spend too much time defining how a woman should be e.g. cooking, cleaning, caring for the kids, satisfying their man at will, (whether or not a woman doesn't feel like it)...all the while the men aren't honoring their role in the relationship e.g. lying, cheating, being abusive.
Women marry for love, men marry for free labor($ex included)
@@princessamour1372facts 💯
Facts 💯
Yup I cut off being intimate because he wasn’t holding up his end I moving out next month ❤
You are soo right but they want to be catered to. Like they listen to destiny child cater to you but only the chorus 😂 cause they couldn’t understand what Beyonce was saying. Dudes she’s reciprocating his energy.
Women need to understand this… Even if a man is in a relationship with you, that doesn’t mean that he likes you and respects you. A man will sleep with you and benefit from being with you without liking or respecting you. These same men who talk trash about you in a barber shop, will come home to you. Please take those rose colored glasses off and enter into relationships with logic, like entering a business tbh.
: I second that emotion.
Totally TRUE!
I’m convinced many men don’t like the woman they’re with but women come with perks/ benefits. We are the life source so it’s hard for them to just be alone, be celibate, and on their own until they meet the woman they want
Sadly…. im in my 20s and already clocked out on relationships. Im tired of being bullied my whole life by men, family or romantic… Im not cut out for the games being played today and I admit Im too soft and love myself too much to be used and not seen as a human. I guess I allowed too much…. Hopefully someone else can win that war
I'm 32 and I feel the same.
Same. I am tired of being abused by men in relationships, in friendships, and at work because of their ego and insecurity. I have to admit after I stopped dealing with men and my mental health improved DRAMATICALLY. The only man I like being around is my father 😂
@@Princess97895same
Yup. It’s all a game. I don’t want any parts anymore. I want peace above all else and that is what i shall have ❤
I agree I am 43 and still it gets tired
: We as humans have to keep in mind that the world as we knew it is gone! Tip toe in society, tip toe at home, it's exhausting! The sense of entitlement entitlement is at an all time high! Satan is running amuck! This is the time like never before to get, and keep a deeper, more profound relationship with GOD! We need GOD more than ever right now!!!❤😢
Amen
Amen!!!
THE WOLRD IS ABOUT TO TAKE A BIG FALL THE CODDLING IS ABOUT TO STOP FULL STOP! WITHOUT EXPLANATIONS! GOD IS TIRED! Revelation 11:17,18. 18:4.
@@G.G.276 : 🙏😔
All I’ve got is my baby daughter and God. So thankful for them
I started talking to a guy...we are in getting to know phase. Have gone out a few times, nothing more, just a hug at end of date. On my bday I went to the art museum and lunch and shopping by myself (it was a weekday so friends at work). A message came in from him and I thought how nice, he must be sending happy bday. I opened it and he said, you had better not be out ef%^ing another guy!!! I was absolutely paralyzed hurt and stunned! I told him off and cried becuz I was so hurt to be accused of such behavior. Needless to say Im done with this controlling monster!!!
NEVER TAKE HIM BACK!
He was projecting his own insecurities and issues. Please keep him BLOCKED. 🚫
That is absolutely insane. He needs healing.
Wow, if he popped off like that in the beginning stages, I can only imagine what he'd be like later down the road.. Men like him think women are their private property ...utterly disgusting
gross
Most men don't understand that Intimacy is not sex.... intimacy is the ability to be vulnerable with someone and to trust that person will not destroy you in the process.
Bro Tony Is funnyyyyyyy without even trying “he has a bald head but he wears a beanie” like dude 😂😂😂😂😂
@@Usernotavailablexo lol
Wow Tony! I’m so glad you mentioned this. My mom and I went to a church for a few months last year and the pastor literally said in the pulpit to us during the sermon: “I want to talk about giving. If God ain’t never done nothing for you then don’t give.” I could instantly see it as manipulation but what scared me was that so many people in the congregation didn’t see that they were being manipulated.
Fun fact: Men can also hold the Jezebel spirit within them, it’s not just exclusive to women! Stay aware ladies ❤✝️
True. That's only a spirit of manipulation.
Lets get to the "root" of the real problem. The real problem is there are many women and men that have unresolved childhood trauma and neglect. Not only that people dont know who they really are inside. We wont talk about the smoking and drinking to go on top of what i just said. Its exactly how 2 fkkd up people end up with each other.
I dont care how well put together you are on the "outside." Work on your mind and get to the bottom of it. It aint always just the other person. It's easy to put it on someone else though to relieve yourself of any accountability.
@@Erik7prc: Exactly. One is the "aggressor", the other one "enables".
There's no common ground, hence lack of profound communication. The loud, or/and sense of entitlement is off the charts. Brokeness is truly at an all time high!
💯💯🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Very well said. Too many broken people out there desperately looking for somewhere else to dump their trash. If you're a person who has done tremendous amounts of work on your mind and spirit, it goes without saying that you have to be EXTREMELY selective with who you let into your energy field. Don't play about with your wellbeing, don't let trash destroy your peace of mind.
I believe that unresolved trauma is being used as an excuse by extremely selfish and irresponsible people to do whatever evil they want
You ain't never lied!!!! My ex mom was the whole issue omg ..he used to cry about her how she did him...never again and I tried to comfort and pray 🙏 for him..nothing worked and then he gave me hell the entire 4 years 😢
This is the exact reason why I’m getting a divorce. My ex was cruel and arrogant as soon as he became a millionaire.
Men and women alike need to seek God and allow him to heal them so they can show up in relationships healed whole and their authentic selves. Period! Men and women alike….their representatives show up, stop it find out who you are, when you know who you are you know who aligns with you and who does not! Spend some time with God and being by yourself for a while, and please present yourself as being a friend first…..that friendship is everything. Imagine being able to marry and be with your best friend.♥️
Blessings! 🌸
Thats why our Pastor tells us as Christians m.the more God elevates you. The more you go down on your knees. In humble submission. To stay humble and not get puffed up. God hates pride
I've witnessed that arrogant spirit on my ex!! It brought him low in the end, and I had to go my separate ways .
If you're the prize when she's crying, then what are you when she sees you for who you really are and the tears stop?
My grandpa told me that he moved to Missouri because of a promotion, and he did it because he felt “needed” and important. Not necessarily because it was what his family needed. I don’t know if it caused any relationship issues. But he was a genuine, humble man of God and married to my grandma until the end. I miss him a lot 😢
It did!
Tony I am so glad you spoke on this. I was in a 7 year relationship that ended in 2023. The farther along the relationship we got the meaner he got. I couldn't understand where it was coming from. Thank you! 🙏🏿
Yes, its the season of the “Sassy” man.
A lot of times women are seeking closure and would request coaching after years of not being in a relationship because of being in an abusive or Narcissistic relationship and they will never and can’t receive closure from a narcissist because they will never give closure because it’s not in they’re nature and this is the reason some women seek to receive closure even after so many years through coaching, this has been the case for me and why I listen to you and other channels. I commend you for sharing your gift and helping others through your videos, it has definitely helped me, thank you so much. God Bless you Tony!
That's why I have no issue having a few choice words for man out if he disrespects me. They need to be humbled. Insecure men needs multiple women to validate them. I don't compete with no one but myself and seek my own validation within myself.
I learned this the hard way. My mom passed recently & my ex tried his best to gaslight me & make it seem abnormal to grieve the death of a parent. Just completely demonic! I’m still in shock because I now have to grieve the loss of 2 relationships that ended suddenly. I don’t wish this pain on no one! This video came on time. Thank you Tony! 🫶🏾
Keep praying and get grief counseling for the loss of your mother. She is at peace now. And- Thank God Mr. showed you his true character b4 you lost more time. Move on with your Life and block him forever!
It’s for your elevation you got this ❤ meditate fast pray focus on yourself
Wow I'm going through something similar no compassion or sympathy at all and I lost both mom and dad a month a part last year.
Sorry 4 your loss what ur saying sounds very familiar. I have seen this too. Hope u have healing and peace❤
@@prettylittleliar7311both of your parents. That must be real hard. Lost my father and grandfather. Im @ my mums now dont know what id do without her.Sorry 4 your loss❤
Tony is speaking facts: Nabal, King Saul & Jezebel were very mean- spirited.
I left my ex husband and he tells me every time we alone that he would leave his girl in a heart beat to come back, it sounds good but the actions show otherwise
Don't go back to your ex husband that's even crazier.
Then he will tell some other woman that he would leave you in a heartbeat for the chance to be with them.
Just leave these men to themselves. They are tiring and draining.
@@Cekatu😂😂😂😂
Seriously? If you have kids together, that's all you should be talking about.
Exactly @@fah232
I am a witness to exactly what are speaking about Tony. I saw my children's father become a Military superstar crash and burn because of ego. The seed may have already been there as you said but he could not handle it and his life is still sad. Ego, meanness, cruelty and now a reprobate mind has consumed him. After 30 years it was too much to take.
Jealousy and a need to control.
It was odd to me that he named his top 3 priorities and his wife was not there. So she's 4th on the list? How is hanging out with your friends higher on the list than your wife and you 60 somethin years old? No wonder she feels neglected smh.
Greg running round here like a Detroit Playa… real crackish behavior as he would say! 😮 Linda sick of it!!! 🗣️🗣️🗣️
neglect is a form of abuse. imagine feeling neglected for decades? i'm sure she has told him thousands times how she felt but he didn't do anything about it
It’s really no most selfish narc men put makn their money first n he pobally was stingy with that
He’s too old to b hangin out with friends all the time he’s probably cheating with a male friend
Tony I was once the person that said you was bragging but NO now I feel differently. You are working hard to help women and get the message out there and that is a awesome thing when a man can give up the game and speak the total truth. The way you tell a story is often times funny as well. It's like giving truth serum with a lil laughter. But it truly help women of all ages all races and at the end of the day there is nobody else on the internet can speak the truth and give up the knowledge that you have. God bless you and your wife.
Because he doesn't like you!
Period
Usually they don't even like themselves because his soulmate is a man...
And that's it! The only reason why anyone mistreats or is cruel to anything. They despise it 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️.
Doesn't like himself...Men that know themselves, have enough self respect won't be in relationships or marriages with women they don't like.
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For real???😂
I throught sometimes but you said "usually "
Omg we have way more brothers in the closert .
I appreciate how Tony is honest with us, with his own short comings.
Mr, Gaskins, thank you for being so transparent. For a man to be so humble that he's able to shine light on a situation that millions of other men out right refuse to acknowledge or are incapable of seeing the truth showes the honorable intentions, and is truly an example of a truely masculine man of God. You have validated the reality of countless women, and by doing so have healed any trauma that was a result of the men they loved so deeply who were unwilling to believe they were responsible for the breakdown of their marriage, simply because the woman had decided that she had no choice but to leave. Thank you, and bless your family.
This is one of the best videos and topics you have ever done.
like seriously this was SO important ❤
Mr. young man, you speak my language. I am 77 years old and I love the wisdom God has given you in your season.
Dont get high off your own supply - Tony Montana (Scarface) 🙌
very true. i have a colleague, young black female who has been in an exec position and she is still not able to cope with the work/demands. not everybody can breathe at thin air levels that's why you gotta take your time in the climb.
That's true ,you have to leave an then he understood what I was saying, but I never went back.
Today’s lesson: CONSEQUENCES
Thank you 🙏🏾
In the same hour, a man confessed that he loved me and decided to ghost me. 51 years young...smh I really just don't know anymore. I'm at a point where if it happens it happens. I'm just focusing on my relationship with God and the three B's. It's exhausting. Blessings to all here.
Same thing happened to me...Trust me. He did you a favor in the long run!
I definitely believe you, and have heard some Wild things. Also experiences I’ve had myself. Withholding intimacy that’s for marriage will definitely weed many of them out. I said many as some men still marry just to act up as well. It’s a sad time in dating. I’m still optimistic God will ordain my love story at the right time.
Those are married men.
01:19:17 YES! I'm experiencing this now with my husband unfortunately. Even my Dad pointed it out. It's sad how a season of this can ruin years of building. I'm praying for positive change but I'm 🤏🏾 this close to getting my Letoya Luckett on...
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I feel you sitting here as I read your comment going through the exact situation. I have been married twelve years, it's just so sad.
@@Shortee452 I've been married 10 years. It is very sad. Would you want to talk offline? It's nice to relate to someone going through this. It's hard.
Mr, Gaskins! I already mentioned ur name to my husband! Haha my bad! I told him about how much I learned from u over the years, and that I know about the games that men play. Be blessed Sir! Much love always to u from the Netherlands🇳🇱
Thank you Tony for clarifying your statement with the actual Bible Scripture. I can see your Spiritual growth being shown in REAL TIME. Your "Fruit" IS Showing Brother! May God Continue to BLESS you and your Family!🙏💜
Mom of 4 similar life style to your wife Tony, taking kids to school, picking up and taking to soccer practices, doing homework. Kids under 10 and husband and me can’t catch a break with arguments. 11 years married 30 years old :(
@@suburbanmomma9093 I will be in prayer for my beautiful sister. I am living the same lifestyle. Only my new husband has recently been sentenced to a few years in prison and we are struggling because I'm doing everything myself and not able to cater to his needs for attention and submission. I don't even know how to be submissive and have to now be a provider and the person in charge, taking care of everything. He is needing something I don't have to give right now. And it's causing strain on our marriage. Let's pray for each other. I wish you and your family all the best.
@@suburbanmomma9093 i was in the same situation… We ended up getting a divorce. Married 12 years. Got married at 20yo and have 4 kids. Have you tried therapy?
Is it WORTH having a Man???
Good question
At the end of the day, for women, men are labor and a liability to her health and safety.
No
No
Hell no
This show was AWESOME!! ❤❤ The depth & with The Lord & The Word etc. I've got to listen again.
Thank you for saying that. There are people who had good messages but I unsubscribed for the same reason you mentioned - something didn’t sit right with my spirit.
Fans, Followers, and Likes are synonymous!
Excellent video. I’m withdrawing from men who want me to be sweet as pie and talk nice to them while they come off to me however and make an excuse for doing so. Thank God I’m not like these irsty females out here. I’m good by myself. If I can make myself happy then why would I let someone who is battling their own demons come and disturb that? Knowing how to make yourself happy FIRST helps you get over people who couldn’t reciprocate that a whole lot quicker!!! Like lil boy I don’t even have to accept this bare minimum when it’s men out here who will do that and then a lot more. A man that I had let go of that was too old for me in my eyes showed me how a man who is really interested in you would be if it’s real and now it’s not hard for me to spot when a man is faking. I guess we’ll both be faking then 😂 CAUSE I KNOW!!! 😮
: My peace was/is GOD giving, a gift! WHY would I throw GOD'S "gift" back in HIS face just to make someone else feel good/happy? Meanwhile I'm miserable? I don't think so. ❤
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THiS..
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Are we talking about P Diddy here? Bill Cosby, RKELLY, and many other celebs, high profile and low profile men out here abusing women..
He clearly not talking bout them. P Diddy going 4 marriage counselling do me a fava!!!!😂 And not Cosby or Kelly either their behavour or questionable allegations which had them jailed on crazy evidence or lack of........
The same thing is happening to Muni Long now... She had decided to separate from her spouse, and she also came out with a new album-which might somewhat explain her mindset about the relationship.
This hit my notification right as I am watching Netflix Worst ex ever.
All four episodes ticked me off!! lol
@@pajdesign Very scary crazy people out here.
Yes! Those people were nuts!
@@pajdesignomg….me too!!!!! The girl from the first episode (the black girl with the pretty curly hair) SENTTTT MEEEEE 🤯
Yea I need to finish that
I’ve never commented on a Tony Gaskins video or probably any one of these relationship coach videos , but if you are living the truth of God and honoring your wife and family I commend you. I pray you will sustain the vultures men and women await your downfall I pray you stay strong
The Elderberry Supplements are very good! Bettter quality than the other vitamin gummies I have 👍🏽
Funny that you mentioned Kanye, his song “Can’t Tell Me Nothing” is a perfect summation.
Wooooah, the comment about that not being the Holy Spirit was out of pocket. I’ve been watching you Tony for 6 years. I heard the comment you made at the mid video about “if you ever misinterpret the word do the Lord and find out you do repent and correct. I believe the Holy Spirit is so good he allowed you to state that randomly to cover grace for the comment he already knew was coming at the end of this video. I know Tony is called to Relationships and business BY GOD. However, that in itself is a spirit of pride to believe we know and understanding everything. Being in ministry settings, being a prophet of God, and doing the work of God in different realms, I believe everyone is entitled to their opinion but it’s important to not make over comments and category’s in areas we may still be ignorant in. & I’m using ignorant in its literal term not as a derogatory form or insult as I respect this man. I’ve heard Tony speak on a few things biblically as he mentioned where I do see he is further than some about spirits but still has a lot of learning to do. Just as Tony stated about the Interviews concerning Mo’nique and different famous people and himself stating we always have an opinion or perception of how to do things and what we wouldn’t do but you haven’t walked that life or promotion to say that. I feel the same here. I’ve been at actual occult churches and I can tell you for sure that isn’t the last Tiph. No one is perfect. BUT to say she isn’t filled with the Holy Spirit I don’t think is wise and to say God places a limit on what he does for us isn’t factual although rare in most cases. I’ve been to churches full of pride and arrogance and lack of scripture to provide context ti what they are saying and she doesn’t do that. However I am against idolatry and don’t support that but I am speaking facts but regardless if it’s Tony, Tiphani or anyone else called by God wrong is wrong biblically and right is right I don’t in having loyalty to anyone in mankind over Jesus himself. The word said we DONT fight against flesh and blood we fight against the spirit and a monitoring spirit isn’t a PERSON isn’t a spirit. Which is why she or any other servant of God who understands water are would pray this. God people called to high places just like yourself stay in heavy warfare l. She provides scripture and is extremely humble and sits o under people gladly and will gladly tell you she doesn’t speak or teach what she is still learning or don’t fully understand and I personally respect that because most arrogant will not. The same way some try to say they think you’re pandering or bragging or using examples as ways to be arrogant and brag waiting to see you stumble people can see her that way too when that’s not the case. Study people for themselves not based on someone else’s video simply because that persons spirit can be off or triggered by their own spirits they’re dealing with and traumas. However there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. She tells people don’t even idolize her and if she finds out someone is she will not deal with them and let them know their going to hell less they repent because she isn’t anyone’s God and God is a jealous God. She speaks about pride and say she even never says she doesn’t suffer from if ol because it’s one of the strongest demons in the Bible and pride doesn’t always look like what you think it does. This comment in itself without thorough investigation and research cause cause a brother or sister who has idolized you and see that everything you say within relationship is correct so this must be correct too and cause them to stumble simply due to unintentional lack of understanding, research, and some but limited biblical understanding esp about spirits. There a time for love and a time for war. God isn’t lukewarm and he is live but he is wisdom and ruthless about his righteousness. That isn’t an accurate assessment based on that live video and the context provided with love and respect always. It’s hard enough dealing with the warfare of people marriage etc and I know that isn’t easy but over here in our world dealing with witches and warlocks and this is your assignment people should be careful speaking on things that don’t really understand the depths or high places in the spiritual office they don’t have experience in. & I’m not saying be careful to fork fear I’m saying be mindful or what you don’t know yet, so we aren’t making premature unrighteous judgments. For me this wouldn’t make me stop following Tony necessarily (not that he would or wouldn’t care) just because from my experience in the ministerial field and prophetic God has already confirmed that Tony is called and I have a clear understanding where he is based on things he has said before and I believe in due time God is going to reveal even deeper revelations to him but also because I understand that Tony IS called by God and what he’s called too in the Kingdom for these videos in relationships and business I understand that’s his primary assignment and I don’t get to far into expecting certain things from him in other areas like you have to understand where things start and stop so to speak but that’s not saying he doesn’t understand God let me be clear, but no one’s perfect and no one has it all, there are spiritual misdemeanors and spiritual felonys and this isn’t that deep but it’s not about tiphani specifically it’s just overall, and everyone isn’t for everyone any way. Just like some people like RC Blake’s and feel Tony is mean or arrogant when he tell women to shut up in the comments or he’s too bold. However he understands who he’s called to and how it needs to be said. RC Blake’s says the same thing but it’s a different approach God has called him to a certain crowd as well. Doesn’t make Tony arrogant. This is actually exactly why when Tiphani gets asked questions about marriage she says I can tell you certain things but I’m actually going to point you to minister Kevin Ewing because God didn’t call me to ministry’s for the PRIMARY purpose of marriage and she understands that so instead of responding on pride and acting like she understands they depths of depth of everything she is clear on her area of assignment. I never hardly comment but this was extremely important cause this can send someone who is a baby in Christ or lukewarm the wrong way and we wanna do the lords work not the enemies. Im not perfect this isn’t meant to disrespect, check or force anyone’s opinion but God speaks clearly about bold prophets in the last days as well and describes them and you need the holy spirit and the word of God to fact check some things not out feelings. God bless.
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When I don’t agree with things, I just let it fly because it’s simply my perspective. I have noticed in some videos here and there it does seem like slightly bragging but I do also recognize you’re just saying ‘look at what God has allowed you to accomplish or possess.’ So I usually just try to shift perspectives bc I’m in a lower class as to where I want to be..but I know in obedience I’ll be given more according to God’s will. But I also notice ..I can brag too when God gives me more so…I shut my mouth lol. Because if I get to the level I wanna be as a nurse 👀👀 I genuinely pray God keeps me humble! Because I know what it’s like first hand to lose EVERYTHING but custody of my babies !
Don't waste energy on thinking someone is bragging. Take the lessons and do your part to educate yourself and do better. Keep Praying!
@@staciadavis3714 that’s pretty much what the synopsis of my comment was saying. Sometimes it seems like bragging, but look at how God provides, is the shift of perspective 💜
Good morning, Tony
Can you speak on dismissive avoidant men and women.
Thank you.🙏🏽
Because they get away with it
When you said somebody was the slave and someone is the master 🥴 Maybe I took that literally cause that’s exactly how I’ve experienced relationships and I don’t like it.
: Was it always that way?
3:00 mins in the video and Tony is throwing shade baby 😂😂😂 all cross the board .. ❤❤❤
In my experience when a man was mean he was broke or was on child support
I clicked too fast! ✍🏾
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Same! Lol
Same....cause
🤣🤣🤣 yes because let’s find out 😅
Whew. Great talk! This insight is very much appreciated
It's hoŵ these guys have been raised if the mom was on drugs putting a man before her kids her mother raised her son, and at top of that, his daddy nowhere to be found so he pick up his mama ways his uncle took him as like a brother its sad
I have received my Gummies.
Thank you for breaking down ego and what it looks like. Also, Tiphani Montgomery isn’t leading a cult. It’s actually a lot of Bible teaching and a lot of repentance in her member-less ministry. Both her and minister Kevin L Ewing are great teachers of the Bible.
i watched the judges interview as well. my “knower” started SANGIN when he started talking bout whether he was unfaithful. he gave a lawyer answer. i suspect he’s gotten quite a bit of fellatio on the road.
Hey Hey Tony)))) ❤❤❤
TO MANY MEN REALLY NEED TO PUT IN THE WORK TO WORK ON THEMSELVES B4 HAVING A RELATIONSHIP MIND BODY & SOUL THEY'RE JUST TO MUCH WORK SHOULDN'T BE THAT WAY IM REALLY HAPPY SINGLE & PEACEFUL RIGHT NOW IN MY LIFE 💥
Good observation on the pastor situation 😮
Wow this is my first time hearing some of this but so true
You might want to watch more of tiphani’s videos and learn more about the prophetic and specific demonic spirits before professing the holy spirit isnt with someone. Not idolizing her at all but i know to be careful in that area before praying about it. Everything else 🔥🔥🔥
Notice it's the woman who's seeking relationship counseling for her man
Well said!
Amen.
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You don't have to have anything material for a person to hate you the devil your adversary is jealous of you and your spiritual gifts
In other words, it's worse than we know.
Hey hey
What is the definition of a "pick me?" I am not totally oblivious. I am just wondering what is wrong with knowing our worth.
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An abusive man has no love to give. The chances of change are slim to none. How does an adult learn to love? I wouldn't hold my breath. He would need the humblest heart and decades f therapy and even then, chances of change are slim. Nope, best to run for you life away from an abuser.
I saw that tmz interview... I could discern the infidelity a mile away.
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I’m so glad he brought up idolatry
What kind of gummies are they, and what are they for before i buy ??? 😊
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I’ve given up on them altogether. Most of them are demons in disguise.