I stopped working when dx at age 42. I was in treatment for years. 16 years later, I have not returned to work. I'm on disability. I don't want to subject my body to excessive stress and hours that my corporate job put me through. My body went through a lot. There are side effects from chemo and radiation. I'm getting the rest my body needs to continue the healing process. Many ppl don't understand that we NEED to rest.
This resonates so much. I practiced these things this week. September 11 was the 9th anniversary of my mother's passing, plus I was in Downtown NYC on September 11, 2001. I was in the World Trade Center a half-hour before the first plane hit the towers. The week leading up to the anniversaries is rough for me. I scaled back. I also scaled back in the days AFTER September 11, which is new. I continued to take it easy, did shorter exercise workouts, read, wrote, and coasted. It has made such a difference.
I’m so sorry for your loss. That was a horrible day, and the aftermath was traumatic. I’m glad that you’re being gentle with yourself. You feelings are valid, and you deserve space and time to feel them.💗
thank you sister. i need this at this time. hit me in such a deep way. we have been conditioned like this as black women for centuries. it is hard to unlearn, but we should try as much as we can to be aware of this. i like your point on legacy... "to extract more labour out of an exhausted body." RIP to your friend. May she find her ease. Blessings 💜
Sooo much unlearning! Even when we think we’re doing right by ourselves, the conditioning creeps in. I swore when I started that job that I would not let it burn me out. 🙃 Radical selfcare is a practice that we need to come back to over and over. I hope you are finding ways to add rest and joy to your life 🥰
Thank you for this Cat. I hear you. I retired and I slowed down quite a bit. Then my passion became project and has crossed the line regarding rest. I'm fairly certain it will take less time in the future. I am looking to replace myself as grant writer and logistics point person. The project has plannedexpansion, and I will be mindful as it expands to keep my head and passion in check in favor of my peace.
Yes, Aba! Passion and peace. It's a balance, like salt on a watermelon, right? It's hard to hold the line when it comes to your boundaries, esp. when it comes to projects that do good in the world and speak to your heart. I know you'll find that balance now that you've recognized that it's not ideal right now.🐝
I always used my vacation/personal/sick/float days. You sound like me telling a coworker/friend to use her vacation days 🤣 Some companies only let you accrue so much vacation time. Use them or lose them. People should look at them as dollar signs, they are paying you to take time off. Leave no money on the table for someone else to take for free.
Yes, I’m so glad that you’re using those days! You understand that your body and mind need rest. I’m sure you’ve seen folks who proudly state that they’ve never taken a sick day.😟 What is the goal there? Who does that benefit, right?
You're telling a unprecedented familiar story. As black women it is deeply engrained in us to continue to work - without question.
I know! It’s heartbreaking 💔 and we need to stop. We need to let it be okay to not work every minute, every day of our lives.
@@RebloomRoom I appreciate you for putting this on the table for reflection.
Damn straight we do. ♥️
I stopped working when dx at age 42. I was in treatment for years. 16 years later, I have not returned to work. I'm on disability. I don't want to subject my body to excessive stress and hours that my corporate job put me through. My body went through a lot. There are side effects from chemo and radiation. I'm getting the rest my body needs to continue the healing process. Many ppl don't understand that we NEED to rest.
I’m so sorry you’ve gone through this. But I think you’re wise to listen to you body and make the needed changes. Not everyone does, unfortunately.
I am glad you shared this with us! ❤ I am learning how to take one day at a time. I must nap and rest!
This resonates so much. I practiced these things this week. September 11 was the 9th anniversary of my mother's passing, plus I was in Downtown NYC on September 11, 2001. I was in the World Trade Center a half-hour before the first plane hit the towers. The week leading up to the anniversaries is rough for me. I scaled back. I also scaled back in the days AFTER September 11, which is new. I continued to take it easy, did shorter exercise workouts, read, wrote, and coasted. It has made such a difference.
I’m so sorry for your loss. That was a horrible day, and the aftermath was traumatic. I’m glad that you’re being gentle with yourself. You feelings are valid, and you deserve space and time to feel them.💗
thank you sister. i need this at this time. hit me in such a deep way. we have been conditioned like this as black women for centuries. it is hard to unlearn, but we should try as much as we can to be aware of this. i like your point on legacy... "to extract more labour out of an exhausted body." RIP to your friend. May she find her ease. Blessings 💜
Sooo much unlearning! Even when we think we’re doing right by ourselves, the conditioning creeps in. I swore when I started that job that I would not let it burn me out. 🙃 Radical selfcare is a practice that we need to come back to over and over. I hope you are finding ways to add rest and joy to your life 🥰
@@RebloomRoom thank you ☀️
Thank you for this very important reminder.
You are so welcome. It was a wake up call for me!
Thank you for this Cat. I hear you. I retired and I slowed down quite a bit. Then my passion became project and has crossed the line regarding rest. I'm fairly certain it will take less time in the future. I am looking to replace myself as grant writer and logistics point person. The project has plannedexpansion, and I will be mindful as it expands to keep my head and passion in check in favor of my peace.
Yes, Aba! Passion and peace. It's a balance, like salt on a watermelon, right? It's hard to hold the line when it comes to your boundaries, esp. when it comes to projects that do good in the world and speak to your heart. I know you'll find that balance now that you've recognized that it's not ideal right now.🐝
Great message. Thank you.
You are so welcome 🤗
I always used my vacation/personal/sick/float days. You sound like me telling a coworker/friend to use her vacation days 🤣 Some companies only let you accrue so much vacation time. Use them or lose them. People should look at them as dollar signs, they are paying you to take time off. Leave no money on the table for someone else to take for free.
Yes, I’m so glad that you’re using those days! You understand that your body and mind need rest. I’m sure you’ve seen folks who proudly state that they’ve never taken a sick day.😟 What is the goal there? Who does that benefit, right?