I contemplated even writing this, im a completely straight grown man. That being said you are absolutely beautiful both physically and your personality, and the way you totally embrace who you are and that makes you even more attractive.
If you’re attracted to someone you know is a biological male that makes you gay. Perfectly fine but If they fool you for a sec b4 your realize don’t feel bad they’re appealing to your natural response by dressing like a woman.
I don't admire your ability to abstractly rationalize your own sexuality. Maybe it will serve you well in the end. But, personally, I was fucking anything that moved at your age. And those were all valuable lessons in self hood.
Finding someone you are physically, mentally, and emotionally attracted to is the golden ticket in life. Most settle for 2 out of 3. Some get by with only one, but that never lasts. I'd think a large portion of hetero guys wouldn't consider a trans woman, but there are certainly some who can be mentally and physically attracted to all women, trans or not. Femininity is an attractant regardless of sex. A gorgeous woman is just that... So stay gorgeous, everyone!
I began dating my boyfriend before I transitioned, he knew I planned on going full time and thankfully he's still by my side 😻I have hope that you will find the man of your dreams!! You have a very wise head on your shoulders especially for your age so best of luck to you sweetheart! -Patty ❤️
Thank you so much for making this video, it really means a lot! I'm not transgender but I'm gay and it's hard for me to date too, every time I remotely like a guy I just don't even think there's a possibility for someone to like me back so I just try to ignore it and continue with my day but it's so difficult. I can relate to you in virginity aspect, I'm 19 and I haven't experienced what my friends have and it kinda makes me insecure, sometimes I just tell people I'm sexually active just to not feel judged (which I know is dumb but I can't help it) I just feel you in so many ways! Love you Maya
Bro, you are 19!! You don't have anything to worry about!! I am heterosexual but I have many great gay friends and what I can tell you is that we are in the age of tolerance. They are kind of into a "circle" of gay guys and they all know everyone is gay, so don't worry!! They date guys they know are also gay, there is nothing to worry about, and you are super young! You shouldn't care if you are a virgin, trust me, anyone cares! ;) cheers!
I can totally relate too. growing up my friends all starting hooking up with girls at like 15 and never even felt like it was a possibility for me. I totally lied and made people think I'd done stuff, though. I'm 19 and I only lost my virginity earlier this year to my girlfriend at the time, a few months before I came out as trans. I had been anticipating this experience for so many years and was confused to find that it didn't really do anything for me. looking back, I know it's because I wasn't nearly comfortable enough with my own body that I couldn't enjoy intimacy really. but don't worry, as bad as it seems it's honestly not a big deal when you lose your virginity or how many dates you go on, at the end of the day no one cares and the time will come at the right time eventually :)
@@texastech1993 so what? I'm cis straight guy and I also find her very attractive.... And again... what does it matter, if someone is gay or not? If you are attracted to someone, it doesn't matter what label you put on it, it only matters hwo you feel about the other person...
My best dating advice is to look for a partner where you do something you love to do , it could be skating , skiing , bike riding , some sport or activity where you can find someone with the same interests , I wouldn't suggest a bar for finding true love . Become friends first and you have to choose the right time to tell a person you are Trans . I think you are on the right track , you seem to have your head on right and are a nice person and am a beautiful woman , I wish you the best in life and love
It's ok not to want to have tons of sex. It's ok to wait until you find the right person. It appears everyone is constantly screwing and maybe they are. You don't have to if you don't want to. You are a lovely young lady and men are going to be attracted to you. Sex is mechanical, it's meaningless unless you're with someone who makes your eyes roll back in your head. Wait. Wait. Wait.
Some ppl or a lot of ppl have sex because they have psychological trauma. It's not uncommon for victims of pathological narcissistic or bipolar parents to be hypersexual. And bad parenting and parental abuse is very common. Has to do with lack of self esteem, need for validation and connection. I believe a lot of sex in society stems from trama cause a lot of ppl don't get firm foundations on the relationships and hook up with ppl that aren't good for them.
A man who dates a trans woman would probably immediately have to take into consideration how he would deal with potential reactions from "others", both friend and foe. That's one good reason for being straight up front.... Although it must narrow the "man pool" massively, the benefit is that your likely to get a much tougher (mentally speaking), guy, who has already given thought to some of the potential hurdles of the relationship !!
+Maya Hey... I'm a guy, 16. I'm unsure wether or not I want to be male. Most sites I visited told me, that I should try to dress as the gender I wanted to be. I got a eyeliner, and it felt good to have on, yet I didn't look female. I could see, that you wore other make-up in your earlier videos, what was it?
Heey Maya, i wanna ask you a few questions. I am attracted to both women and trans women but when it comes to trans women i would only want to be with a ''non-op'' . I understand that it is weird to have that as a demand but what would you think about it? Is it something i can just ask/say if i would want to date a trans? Because i still get the feeling if you look specifically for trans women you are already making yourself look like the type of guy only wants to date you because you are trans. Like how would i deal with that? The best way for me would like if i just met you in a bar, we would date and date, and if the moment is there you tell me and i wouldn't bother about it. But chances of that happening are very slim to me. Like i said, i like both women and trans women, but i am really into dating a trans women. I hope i am not coming over as a stupid person or something like that because it's really me wondering about all this stuff. You are beautiful by the way ;)
About you not feeling like you're attractive to other people, I'm a gay guy and I'd totally date you. Not only because I find you beautiful, but because you also seem like a very intelligent and wise person. And as you said, I don't feel like liking someone should be based on their label, it should be based on if you actually like them as a person or not; I believe that's the most important part about dating and relationships. Keep on rocking Maya, you're amazing!
It's quite a depressing state of affairs when you have to tell a possible partner you are trans at the start in fear of being attacked... by a person you are considering dating... yikes
Maya, you are very lucky you are passable, and yes it is still hard, but it is a 100 times better then not being passable. Wouldn't you agree? You should be thankful you are beautiful and passable. It is very very sad when you see transgenderd girls who do not pass, even after they've had ffs surgery. I know you are very young, but just thank your lucky stars that you were able to transition and turn out as lovely as you did. I know you have a very good heart❤, and are a very caring person living the vegan and cruelty free lifestyle👏👏👏 Take care, and be happy! Libby💚💜💙
You offer some great advice when you said you shouldn't have to settle, and right in saying it doesn't matter who you are, you should never have to settle for any less than what you deserve. You're a gorgeous woman and I wish you all the best in your dating life
Hello Maya, Henry Wilson here, it sounds to me like you could do with a big hug, you are a good looking woman, I wouldn't turn you down trans or not. Love you .
Maya, i just want to start off by saying thank you, I've been just watching all of your videos and they give me so much hope for my future, I'm a transgender woman who came out about a year ago, i'm 17 now, but my father hasn't let me undergo any of the transitioning stages except for what he can't control, how i portray myself in public, it's been a very rough month for me so far because my dysphoria has increased drastically, but watching your videos and just seeing that it really can work out for us has given me so much hope and the courage to really push back against my dad, hopefully something comes from it, i'm not sure how it's going to go, but i just felt i needed to thank you.
One of your best videos and it puts your thinking process out there. If I was 40 years younger I would have no problem dating you, because of your personality and great looks. I would hope that sometime on the first date you would tell me you were trans, but that would be your option. Best of luck, Brian
Great vid Maya. TY. I've got so used to not dating by choice, that even post-op, I stop myself from dating casually. The disclosure issue never goes away - I'm sure you know that, but for what it's worth, that's my experience that might inform your or other trans women's choices.
Dating is how you get to know someone to see if you even like them. If you don't even like them or couldn't see a future with them why would you tell them you are trans? I don't think you did anything wrong at all. You are so so wonderful and will find someone who accepts you and realizes how amazing you are! 💕💕
I don't think there is a right answer, I mean, as you said, she didn't do anything wrong, but if I was in that situation with a trans girl, I would like to know at least after the second date. Just my opinion :)
+Jorge857 oh yeah I agree maybe on a second date if there was chemistry for sure. But it wasn't like she was leading him on. It wasn't her fault he touched her without asking.
It absolutely breaks my heart to hear you discuss your dating issues. I can't believe there aren't enough straight guys your age that are open-minded enough to see what a beautiful person you are, inside and out. Every time I see a new video you've posted, I cross my fingers and pray that you've found the right person who loves you for exactly who you are. It's cruel that you struggle with self-esteem issues, when you're obviously such a good and worthwhile person. You deserve all the happiness that life has to offer. Stay strong Maya. You are a truly good person.
Stop spreading legitimate disinformation. Straight means a biological male who’s attracted to biological females. There is NO other definition, even if the trans community really really wants there to be wiggle room. Biological males who like other biological males(pre,post,etc) are by definition gay. You’re free to do what you want but a straight man can never like you. It’s impossible. He would be gay or bi. God bless.
My girlfriend is transgender, but can't transition because of her parents and it makes it so hard for me. she is 22 like, just... it's so hard because I have to call her by her male name and male pronouns when I'm with her family. But I still love her so much, and I was the first person she ever came out to because I was bugging her because she was going to tell everyone in the friends group at the same time. But I took her downstairs in the lobby of the dorm building and she came out to me and I was so happy and kept hugging her and telling her I love her. This was like a week or two before we started dating.
I really appreciate your honesty and how your sharing your self reflections. My 22 year old transgender daughter has been on hrt for 5 months. I hope to support her in the best way that I can. Your video's help me with this. Thank you xx
I worry about dating too. Like, everything you're naming off and worried about as far as physical stuff, and other people just going and doing. I totally feel that. I'm scared to even date. You're so brave and inspirational to me. Thank you for being you.
I really enjoy your insight and perspective, Maya. It does sound intimidating to just now feel comfortable enough to date. The nice thing is, you are taking so much from each experience, that even when you get more "misses" than "hits," you learn a lot about your own preferences. When you date at a much younger age, it takes some big pitfalls to really learn about yourself and others in a relationship. You see value in every encounter... a fantastic quality to have! I'm rooting for you out there!
I just watched this video in bed with my two month old son and he kept smiling at the video. Just thought it was cute! Love your videos Maya :) don't worry dating gets easier
Maya, the best advice I can give you is surround yourself with people that give you positive energy and love you for who you are. You are a beautiful woman with a kind heart, and it's ok to be cautious when allowing people to come into your personal life. And I agree with other comments on here too. Don't be in a rush to have sex. You have the right to be picky about who you choose to share intimacy with. Take care and be safe out there my dear
And don't think that after you telling a straight cis male you're trans that you're automatically unattractive because me as a straight cis male knowing you're trans finds you to be very pretty and attractive
Because she is simply a woman :) You have got the good conception of your sexual identity. I can't understand those straight/homosexual people who refuse to date a transgender person ?..! what's the problem?
What you said around the 14:45 mark is something that I think is true for a lot of queer people, tbh. As a bi person, I've gone on dates with people of another gender, and even though my profile says I'm bi, I don't know if it's something that the other person is really accepting of since people can have really warped ideas about sexuality sometimes. I do think there are certain dating things that can be issues for people of all different gender identities and sexualities. Some people have immediate deal breakers that they don't even realize are dealbreakers right away, and it can be hard to know when to disclose something personal to someone you're just getting to know. Some people don't want to date someone who has children. Some people don't want to date someone who has a mental illness. I don't think I could date someone who has a serious addiction issue, even if they are in recovery, but there are plenty of people out there who would. Also people criticizing you for not telling that dude that you're trans in your last video is pretty shitty. Disclosing that you're trans can be a safety risk, and imo, safety is always the highest priority when it comes to dating. You don't know how a stranger is going to react to that information, and it's a risk that cis people don't have to deal with. On a different, but related note, do you consider yourself straight? Are you only attracted to men? If so, was that something you had to also "come out" about, or had to answer questions about, either before or during your transition? Don't know if you've mentioned it before, but I'm curious.
I am a straight cis-woman, and I have been questioning that lately, I don't know why. I would not care at all about finding out my date is trans, I would not even be mad about not knowing it right away. But sexually, I am straight, and I really would not know how to handle the sexuality part of the relationship... But I am certain that is something love and communication can solve. But it must be hard for you guys to find people that are ok with it, and also to avoid people that just want the "kink"
Maurine Honestly dating someone doesn't mean sleeping with them. If that's a requirement, your definitely dating the wrong kind of man. If I'm dating anyone I don't expect them to just give it up. There needs to be a connection. There has to be.
+Ethan Stiles I agree 100%, that's why I wouldn't expect a guy to say it's trans right away... And I wouldn't care if he was. A trans guy is a guy, that's it. But let's be real, at some point in a relationship, a large amount of people want to make love. And that's where I would be "uncomfortable", not knowing how technically please that person, and what to do and how... I don't know if I am being clear lol.
I can relate with feeling the need to tell someone something like that up front. When I was 26 I had a total hysterectomy and I can not have children...I don't want to waste my time or someone else's time if they want children of their own. It's something I feel a lot of anxiety about until it's out and a lot of the time it turns out they do want their own kids and that makes it even harder each time to tell because it tends to be a deal breaker.
Maya, I want to thank you for being the articulate person you are. There was always an undercurrent of sexuality that I had repressed beyond my true awareness. It would surface then hide, embarrassed and scared. My profession didn't allow the freedom I needed to allow me to fully be aware of myself. Although I'm not trans ( somewhere in the middle of the feminine rainbow I guess), your calm, honest, well thought out manner helps me contemplate more fully what I feel. Thank you.
You got this maya! Any man would be crazy not to date you and would be lucky to have you!. You are one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen and on top of that you have the best personality from what I've seen in your videos. You deserve love!
Pam thinks you're really on the trail to total happiness because it doesn't happen in a flash. You are just starting to find out what is important to YOU! ENJOY ❤YOU are loved by many of us, honey. Warm Hugs from Pam Long
Incredible video. Amazing way to cover lots of topics here that most of us are not aware of. It would be great if you could have a version of this conversation as eloquently as you did here with the younger generation because the topic covers so many important and wonderful issues in regards to dating and self worth that would benefit the masses. Thank you for posting and sharing this topics. I am new to your channel but I truly enjoy listening your discussions. Cheers and stay beautiful and any human being would be so fortunate to have you in their life.
You have such classical beauty. I can't remember the painting, but you look EXACTLY like a Renaissance portrait of a young woman. Such refined and delicate beauty.
So obsessed with you. Been binge watching all your videos for the past three hours and holy! You have such a beautiful soul and personality. There's just so much charm and attraction about you. 💞💞
Ugh, Maya. I totally feel EVERYTHING you are saying. I'm dating a guy and we're going on a 5th date soon but I'm not feeling the SPARK. Yet. I'm trying to wait it out but I feel like deep down I know in my heart we're not compatible? But it hurts me to even think about breaking his heart. Then I tell myself I should stop over thinking it because we're having fun. Ahhhh. It literally makes my heart drop and my stomach turn thinking about breaking his heart. I'm still going to go on a few more dates and then make a decision... Just ranting right now. :/
here's simple question why at first place you expecting from a guy to date you and be with you in relation when you are not born like a natural girl? tell me Maya or anyone else? how can you expect to be with a guy when you are transgender?
Lauryn Meyer ok,they for sure need love and deserve love but transgender persons like Maya should not expect that love from a guy because some guy cant just like that love some other guy that wears girl's clothes and put make up,and has only some of the girl's structure parts in his brain lets use myself as example i cant fell in love with maya because that is only a guy which trying to be like a girl,ok to be fair,maybe maya have some girl's parts in her brain,but that is not enough to be true transgender person so what is a true transgender? thats a person who was born as a male,so that person has male body and everything,but in his brain you can find much more structure that belongs to a female than to a male,also that person needs to really feel like a female and that is true transgender person everything else is fake trans in my opinion there are about 50-100 true transgender persons on the world,everything else is fake just look how many of them doing detransitioning they realized you cant play with that so for the end,i dont hate the real transgender persons and also i could be able to fall in love with them although i am very straight guy,but i hate fake trans and people who just plays with that like its some transformers game
Findleyawesome well thats because guys would fuck a pig,as long as that pig wears some make up and a wig but real guy like myself,dont care about look,you just focus on the way some person thinking and behave in other words you should fall in love about that whats inside and not about that whats outside
"Inkaholic" is right! Maya, I also find you to be intelligent, well spoken, honest, open, brave, witty, wise and confident! Traits I find very attractive, not only in a mate, but in anyone! What I really wanted to express was how happy I am for you, you look happy and healthy, and hearing you talk about your journey and the decisions you were faced with along the way is all inspiring to me, as I'm sure it is to countless others. Let there be no doubt, you are super attractive inside and out, and any man would be lucky to have you grace their life.
On the contrary, your experiences esp. Regarding physical validation are so so similar to that of many cis gendered that it‘s nice to know you were just normal in this sense. I hope you made amazing experiences since and I‘ll continue browsing your channel for potential updates on this 😊 Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for this Maya! This was extremely insightful and a lot of the topics you talked about resonated with me so much as a gay person wanting to date especially the topic about self-worth and validation. It made me feel like I wasn't the only one so thank you for that! I hope to see more of your vids! Good luck and a lot of love
I am very glad to hear you have decided to tell guys you are trans before going on a date. This is not a privacy issue but a personal safety issue. No matter how nice a guy seems you have no way of knowing how he would react if he discovered he had been kissing a trans-woman if he found out after the fact. Every year many trans-women are beaten and even murdered by enraged guys who did not realize they were involved with a trans-woman before things got physical. I realize many trans-women think that they should wait until a guy gets to know her before telling them, but the simple fact is, if he rejects you immediately after finding out that you are trans, there was no future to the relationship anyway.
Please know you are beautiful inside and out, and anyone lucky enough to meet you and spend quality time with you would be lucky. Never think you aren't "good enough", ever. You'll find someone who loves you for your heart, mind, intelligence, kindness and your absolute beauty.Wishing you much love and happiness, and date smartly. Never go somewhere not in public first, till you are sure they are safe - always tell someone you trust where you're going and ALL his info. Please. You don't need someone else to validate anything about you, please! Don't just hook up, just to hook up. You will meet someone worthy of you. You are beautiful. Believe it.
you are so beautiful and your skin is flawless! a skin care routine video would be amazing. I know that sometimes it is good to listen to others and take in their advice, but I think it is extremely important to live how you want to live. I can completely understand how much of a turn off it can be to be uncomfortable with your body and not want to do certain sexual things because of it. if you think that you will be more comfortable after, then wait. you know yourself better than anyone else. everyone is different and complicated and I think it's hard for others to understand what someone else is feeling. do what makes you happy and makes you feel comfortable. you are so freaking beautiful and you will definitely meet a man who will treat you like the angel that you are and respect the fact that you didn't have a lot of sexual partners. you are so strong and such a smart woman. I definitely look up to you and I love your channel!💕
Dating apps have been hard for me bc when I had made profiles, there would be very negative comments made toward me. These persons "validations about me" were saying I dont look trans, not attractive etc. I decided that instead of being angry and allowing bitterness, I am going to use these comments to better myself inwardly. I want to take time to focus on me for once, love myself more so when the right opportunity for love comes, I will be ready❤
While I am not trans, I appreciate getting to know your experiences and thoughts on things so that I can broaden my perspective. I love watching your videos, you're so well spoken and have a great personality! Do make other videos like this! And of course, you will find your person! Never settle, there is someone who is right for you out there that you will be happy you waited to find.
I’m a straight man in love with a trans woman who lives in another country. Currently making plans on her to come visit and possibly making a stronger commitment then. I knew from the start that she was trans but that doesn’t matter to me. She has a beautiful soul and she’s very beautiful. Love your videos keep it. Thanks for all your content.
I really like that you're not exclusive in your videos. You're a trans person and your main audience are probably trans people, yet you're always inclusive of us others whereas there are other trans youtubers who really neglect cisgendered people as an audience. I think it is really important for the trans community that they not only let cisgendered people have an insight in their lives but als try to build connections and show them how relatebale their lives actually are.
I'm a cisgender female and still feel like this video was pretty relatable in regard to the stuff about people liking you just based on appearances and what that means for my sense of self-worth.
Hi Maya, u seem really honest and cool, i didn't know u were Transgender at first i just saw an incredibly beautiful woman so clicked on ur video..u have a cool way of looking at life,just being true to urself and not letting what others say dictate ur life...i think we we all strive to be that confident, u know, i do anyway...ur also one of the most beautiful women iv ever seen on youtube....thats it...Luv from Ireland...
I’m heterosexual, However I’m 57 and happily married to a wonderful woman! If I were 20 or 30 years younger, yes without question I would want to date you. You are a very beautiful woman. Take care Tom
I love everything you said in this video, especially regarding disclosure!! you choose to disclose for the sake of yourself and your own time, but trans people aren't obligated to disclose their identity to everyone they meet. Yeah it's a part of you but in the end it's not like you're pretending to be something you're not
You are totally correct. Just because you are trans doesn't mean you should settle for just any partner. You should respect yourself. Aim for the best situation.
Completely true! I'm a ftm transperson, not yet fully transitioned, but someone literally told me i'd be perfect if I didn't identify as male....I've also had someone have a crush on me(someone I also liked) and when I told him i'm trans, he decided to date someone else after leading me on by saying he'll think about whether he wants to date me lmao. But yeah, I always follow the "no dating unless they know i'm trans" rule. It's harsh since suddenly people who liked me immediately stop upon knowing, but who wants to date people who can stop liking someone that easily anyways? Haha.
Another reason to be upfront with potential dates is just for your own safety. Remember that men are physically MUCH STRONGER than us females... so if you find yourself in a vulnerable situation with a man who becomes angry and physically violent, there's a good chance you will be at their mercy. As a CIS female, I have been in several situations where I have actually thought, "Oh, shit, I'm alone with this guy who could literally kill me without breaking a sweat.... and he is getting reeeaally angry.... time to defuse the situation and get to a public area asap!" It's terrifying knowing that at any moment even a preteen boy could pin my arms down with minimal effort. Regardless of the unfairness of having to disclose your gender identity, you don't want to be at the mercy of someone who turns out to be a trans-phobic, fragile-egoed monster. Stay safe!!!
I used to think immediately disclosing your operative status as a trans person was not necessary, but have realized that's wrong. It's not about "society putting a huge value on being trans". It's just caring which gender you are to decide if they can be attracted to you. Cis people don't disclose genitalia info because most people already know that information before even talking, and never have to think about it. When that information is prove wrong down the road it's a huge surprise because they thought you were something you're not.
Awesome video, you have express a lot of maturity throughout your whole experiences and thoughts. I think that more videos like this could help people understand the struggles and difficulties we face as T
I just cant imagine what you go through , like I hate that society does not accept LGBT people, I personally love them and Im so sorry you have to go through things like that , but you keep your head up and keep loving yourself. ❤❤❤
I totally get the physical validation aspect of your self-worth issues. My ONLY concern is for your immediate safety dear. It breaks my heart to hear you say you worried about someone being attracted to. How could ANY guy not be attracted to someone as feminine and alluring as you? I always find your videos insightful and intelligent Maya. You are obviously a sensitive and thoughtful person. I find that so compelling. I can't believe any guy would meet you, and spend some time getting to know you, and then reject you just because you're trans. I guess that's just one more facet of "man's inhumanity to man" in this messed up, heartless world we live in. Thank you for your bravery in sharing your life with us! Every video you have ever posted has inspired me!
I watch your videos all the time, and it brings me great joy to see that you've been making heaps of new ones recently :) You're an inspiration to me, Maya! You look beautiful
You doing such great work for us, heterosexual cisgender people. Through your experience we can try to understand and accept the whole concept of transgenders. Many things that you as a person going through was absolutely not visible/imaginable for me. But your attractiveness as a woman catches my eye and openness raised interest and pushed me to investigate and educate myself. I'll be honest, I'm straight man (with family and kids) I've grown in USSR and my relation to LGBT was neutral- . In one hand in USSR general education/upbringing was quite tolerant in some aspects like races and accepting other people. From other hand it was quite conservative in other aspects like sex. Sex actually was very closed intimate area and put it to light was not appropriate, hence any not usual expression himself like visible belonging to LGBT was generally not appropriate in public. Now days it is already not the issue and people need to adapt to new reality and the only way to do that is education and mutual understanding. In that area your work as youtuber is very important, at least for me. I hope you will pass through all obstacles and wish you all the best in you transition. You are look gorgeous I wish you find your partner for life and happiness!
Hi Maya Thank you for uploading your transition,ive have learned so much from you in the last few months, you are no lie my favourite youtuber right now I am still waiting on hormones but i still upload my social transition videos, thanks for giving me the strength to do so :) Alexis In Transition :3
We all have validation issues and all do stupid stuff because of it. Not diminishing you, just letting you know its not just you. Beyond your physical attractiveness you also have a thoughtful soulfulness that comes through in your videos.
Being a black man,and growing up in a dominantly white culture.I can relate on what your saying about your options being limited.reaching maturity in my life I realize that I’m even limited in my options even to my own culture .and I can only assume the reason why that is,is because I come off as a white guy.and I’m just weird,so the end result,I just take what I can get.
It's awesome that people can be gay, trans, etc without worrying about being hurt or killed in most areas. I'm 50 now and when I was a teenager, I couldn't watch the news without another story about another gay man getting beaten or murdered. It sooooo stupid people lose their minds over someone else's sexuality. It doesn't effect them. While I'm glad we've advanced as far as we have as a society, it's still sad being trans is still an issue for some. This is even more ridiculous because only you get the reassignment surgery assuming you do of course, the parts match how you know you are. You are screwing someone genetics. People put way too much thought into other people lives instead of worrying about their own. It's time to finally get over ourselves as a culture.
Hey Maya! I am a cisgender heterosexual woman and I totally get what you are saying. I agree with the fact that you are keeping your genitals private because it is private. Also, you are not your genitals, and if you openly say you are trans, maybe you will only stumble upon weird men who fetishes trans people and stuff like that... You are not an object and the most important thing for you is to respect yourself and your limits. If the person wants to date you, well you owe them nothing. I love you very much and be safe! Ps: if my boyfriend whom I love very much told me after many dated that he is trans, since I am in love with him, I would still have a relationship with him and have sexual intercourse with him. Maybe I am just really open-minded, but I support and understand you 100% xxx be safe and take care of yourself
I am not a transgender, but THANK YOU VERY MUCH, MAYA. Despite not having such difficulties as you struggle with, I really value your vision of self esteem, your attitude to people who you date and dating in general. You should always think of yourself first and what you feel comfortable with, and not let people disrespect and disregard you. I wish you to be happy and find the right person who will love and treat you as a queen
Thank you for helping me feel like I'm not alone, I'm planning on finally being myself now. I'm going to cut my hair and dress how I feel comfortable. Seeing all the amazing and brave youtubers who are open with the world has made me realize that I'm not a girl, or a boy, I'm just me
you are so brave and even if i am cis, i totally love your videos and your personality (so brave and beautiful inside out *-*) keep on the good work girl, your future shines
You have no idea how much I needed this video today. I'm trans and have been dating this guy. He treated me like crap and I let him because I didn't accept myself. Society tells us we're broken but we are not broken. If anything, we are more put together because we are strong enough to fight for our truth despite what society tells us. P.S. I told that guy to go to hell.
Maya, I think you're quite brave, it takes a lot of guts to be who one is, and I'm not just talking about Trans or gay. People are so fake nowadays, and always try to be something they're not just to please society or others. Good for you. Stay strong girl !
I just watched your video of your transition. You have always been so beautiful, make and female. I hope you can talk with someone if you have any really negative feelings about your looks. You are stunningly beautiful. Honestly. You also seem like a beautiful person on the inside, as well. I really hope one day you'll totally know this, and know your worth, and that someone who you winds up as your partner will be very lucky (not just you being gorgeous, all aspects of what and who you are). So many people would love to be as beautiful as you are, and I know it's been really hard, but you have such a glorious future and life waiting for you. I hope you are quite grateful for all you are. You are very special. Wishing you so much happiness! I'm a woman, older than you, straight and married, and for all of us, life can be so hard, and such a struggle, but once you really understand you are amazing, and worth someone as special as you are who will respect and love you, you will find happiness. Love yourself, you are worth it. I know it must be hard, because you truly look so completely feminine, and it can get complicated, but I think only with the wrong person, with a closed mind and heart. The right person will love you for you, unconditionally, not just because of your beauty or confusion, or because you are trans...just because you're you. Thanks for your honesty and being so brave. I hope you don't think I was too personal, I was just very inspired by you. One Love.
oh mya, my sweet darling...you always brighten my mood! whenever you post a new video, my best friend and I bet how long into the video before you say the word "preface". bahaha loooove yoooou! xoxo
I find your videos interesting. As in, I finding it pretty cool that you are slowly finding yourself. But I also see that you are still young and figuring yourself out. There are things you said bout standards that I don't agree with. I have friends who said the same thing at 23, and now them being 33 and single they regret everything. So my opinion is that just give everyone a chance. If the person is good to you and make you feel good as a person, you should give them a go instead of just looking for instant sparks. :)
Before I realised I was a trans woman, I felt the pressure to be having sex and relationships and also general hornyness associated with gay men and perpetuated by a lot of gay men. I felt like I was missing something and I didn't know how to make myself comfortable with it. So ofc I tried to force it into me ( heh dick joke ) Since coming out as trans none of those pressures seem to affect me anymore. I even realised that my complicated body image had nothing to do with weight or wobbly bits, I hated looking masculine. I didn't feel right in my skin before, but now I feel perfect. There's no one way to be a woman and I have grown in figuring that out. I'm super glad you make videos n stuff Maya, it helps girls like me.
I was once under the influence of sexual repression. I am 55, and I grew up believing in love. Believe, we who know love is real. It's difficult, and you are a beautiful and intelligent person. You are a person. Respect for all, no matter.
I contemplated even writing this, im a completely straight grown man. That being said you are absolutely beautiful both physically and your personality, and the way you totally embrace who you are and that makes you even more attractive.
Same
If you’re attracted to someone you know is a biological male that makes you gay. Perfectly fine but If they fool you for a sec b4 your realize don’t feel bad they’re appealing to your natural response by dressing like a woman.
Relatively one of your best videos and equally one of your longest, but it felt so short!!! Thanks Maya
Thank you! This means a lot to me. 😊❤️
I don't admire your ability to abstractly rationalize your own sexuality. Maybe it will serve you well in the end. But, personally, I was fucking anything that moved at your age. And those were all valuable lessons in self hood.
+Ottee2
"Personally," ...aye?
And you got the nerve to make mention about what your filthy ass doesn't admire about Maya?
Sincerely,
Robin Hood
Jaden Jahci :
You're right, I shouldn't have commented. Thanks for your critical reply.
+Ottee2 what do you mean? Isn't such level of self awareness admirable?
completely hetero cisgendered person here but I subscribe to several trans people because I prefer to be INFORMED.
we need more people like you
me too, that way I can educate silly intolerant people surrounding me and talking shit 🙆
Lol same
Sameee
ME TOO!!
Finding someone you are physically, mentally, and emotionally attracted to is the golden ticket in life. Most settle for 2 out of 3. Some get by with only one, but that never lasts.
I'd think a large portion of hetero guys wouldn't consider a trans woman, but there are certainly some who can be mentally and physically attracted to all women, trans or not. Femininity is an attractant regardless of sex. A gorgeous woman is just that...
So stay gorgeous, everyone!
Writing this 8 years later, and I can tell you a large portion WOULD now 😂😂
I began dating my boyfriend before I transitioned, he knew I planned on going full time and thankfully he's still by my side 😻I have hope that you will find the man of your dreams!! You have a very wise head on your shoulders especially for your age so best of luck to you sweetheart!
-Patty ❤️
Thank you so much for making this video, it really means a lot! I'm not transgender but I'm gay and it's hard for me to date too, every time I remotely like a guy I just don't even think there's a possibility for someone to like me back so I just try to ignore it and continue with my day but it's so difficult. I can relate to you in virginity aspect, I'm 19 and I haven't experienced what my friends have and it kinda makes me insecure, sometimes I just tell people I'm sexually active just to not feel judged (which I know is dumb but I can't help it)
I just feel you in so many ways! Love you Maya
Bro, you are 19!! You don't have anything to worry about!! I am heterosexual but I have many great gay friends and what I can tell you is that we are in the age of tolerance. They are kind of into a "circle" of gay guys and they all know everyone is gay, so don't worry!! They date guys they know are also gay, there is nothing to worry about, and you are super young! You shouldn't care if you are a virgin, trust me, anyone cares! ;) cheers!
I can totally relate too. growing up my friends all starting hooking up with girls at like 15 and never even felt like it was a possibility for me. I totally lied and made people think I'd done stuff, though. I'm 19 and I only lost my virginity earlier this year to my girlfriend at the time, a few months before I came out as trans. I had been anticipating this experience for so many years and was confused to find that it didn't really do anything for me. looking back, I know it's because I wasn't nearly comfortable enough with my own body that I couldn't enjoy intimacy really. but don't worry, as bad as it seems it's honestly not a big deal when you lose your virginity or how many dates you go on, at the end of the day no one cares and the time will come at the right time eventually :)
Maya is an extremely attractive young woman for sure. I'm a man and I just love her video
I agree.
Your gay
@@texastech1993 In what way?
@@texastech1993 so what? I'm cis straight guy and I also find her very attractive.... And again... what does it matter, if someone is gay or not? If you are attracted to someone, it doesn't matter what label you put on it, it only matters hwo you feel about the other person...
My best dating advice is to look for a partner where you do something you love to do , it could be skating , skiing , bike riding , some sport or activity where you can find someone with the same interests , I wouldn't suggest a bar for finding true love . Become friends first and you have to choose the right time to tell a person you are Trans . I think you are on the right track , you seem to have your head on right and are a nice person and am a beautiful woman , I wish you the best in life and love
I'm straight. I learned so much from your videos! this one especially. you're so eloquent and intelligent. well done!!
It's ok not to want to have tons of sex. It's ok to wait until you find the right person. It appears everyone is constantly screwing and maybe they are. You don't have to if you don't want to. You are a lovely young lady and men are going to be attracted to you. Sex is mechanical, it's meaningless unless you're with someone who makes your eyes roll back in your head. Wait. Wait. Wait.
Kind words.Thanks ;)
You're so right
True that
Some ppl or a lot of ppl have sex because they have psychological trauma. It's not uncommon for victims of pathological narcissistic or bipolar parents to be hypersexual. And bad parenting and parental abuse is very common. Has to do with lack of self esteem, need for validation and connection. I believe a lot of sex in society stems from trama cause a lot of ppl don't get firm foundations on the relationships and hook up with ppl that aren't good for them.
A man who dates a trans woman would probably immediately have to take into consideration how he would deal with potential reactions from "others", both friend and foe. That's one good reason for being straight up front.... Although it must narrow the "man pool" massively, the benefit is that your likely to get a much tougher (mentally speaking), guy, who has already given thought to some of the potential hurdles of the relationship !!
You speak so intelligently, and educated I love it. ✌🏻️💕
Thank youuu! ❤️
+Maya Hey... I'm a guy, 16. I'm unsure wether or not I want to be male. Most sites I visited told me, that I should try to dress as the gender I wanted to be. I got a eyeliner, and it felt good to have on, yet I didn't look female. I could see, that you wore other make-up in your earlier videos, what was it?
Heey Maya, i wanna ask you a few questions. I am attracted to both women and trans women but when it comes to trans women i would only want to be with a ''non-op'' . I understand that it is weird to have that as a demand but what would you think about it? Is it something i can just ask/say if i would want to date a trans? Because i still get the feeling if you look specifically for trans women you are already making yourself look like the type of guy only wants to date you because you are trans.
Like how would i deal with that? The best way for me would like if i just met you in a bar, we would date and date, and if the moment is there you tell me and i wouldn't bother about it. But chances of that happening are very slim to me.
Like i said, i like both women and trans women, but i am really into dating a trans women.
I hope i am not coming over as a stupid person or something like that because it's really me wondering about all this stuff.
You are beautiful by the way ;)
marlb0r015 wow, your case is interesting, leaving a comment to see what Maya has to say.
I don't think she will bother to comment anymore. :(
About you not feeling like you're attractive to other people, I'm a gay guy and I'd totally date you. Not only because I find you beautiful, but because you also seem like a very intelligent and wise person. And as you said, I don't feel like liking someone should be based on their label, it should be based on if you actually like them as a person or not; I believe that's the most important part about dating and relationships.
Keep on rocking Maya, you're amazing!
I am far too paranoid to date or seek someone out. I worry that someone would harm me after I tell them that I am trans. Ugh... I wish I was Cis
Me too 😩
Maybe you can ask them their opinions on cis and a trans person dating and if their answer isn't positive then get away from them /:
I am so sorry our society is so messed up that you have to worry and have those thoughts. I wish you the best.
It's quite a depressing state of affairs when you have to tell a possible partner you are trans at the start in fear of being attacked... by a person you are considering dating... yikes
No one will harm you if you're UPFRONT about being trans.
Maya, you are very lucky you are passable, and yes it is still hard, but it is a 100 times better then not being passable. Wouldn't you agree? You should be thankful you are beautiful and passable. It is very very sad when you see transgenderd girls who do not pass, even after they've had ffs surgery.
I know you are very young, but just thank your lucky stars that you were able to transition and turn out as lovely as you did. I know you have a very good heart❤, and are a very caring person living the vegan and cruelty free lifestyle👏👏👏 Take care, and be happy! Libby💚💜💙
You offer some great advice when you said you shouldn't have to settle, and right in saying it doesn't matter who you are, you should never have to settle for any less than what you deserve. You're a gorgeous woman and I wish you all the best in your dating life
I've been subscribed for a long time and this was one of your best and most informative videos
Thanks! :)
Subscribe to me too (I'm no trans though) :)
+BeatzTBae A. Don't ask for subs
Hello Maya, Henry Wilson here, it sounds to me like you could do with a big hug, you are a good looking woman, I wouldn't turn you down trans or not. Love you .
Maya, i just want to start off by saying thank you, I've been just watching all of your videos and they give me so much hope for my future, I'm a transgender woman who came out about a year ago, i'm 17 now, but my father hasn't let me undergo any of the transitioning stages except for what he can't control, how i portray myself in public, it's been a very rough month for me so far because my dysphoria has increased drastically, but watching your videos and just seeing that it really can work out for us has given me so much hope and the courage to really push back against my dad, hopefully something comes from it, i'm not sure how it's going to go, but i just felt i needed to thank you.
One of your best videos and it puts your thinking process out there. If I was 40 years younger I would have no problem dating you, because of your personality and great looks. I would hope that sometime on the first date you would tell me you were trans, but that would be your option. Best of luck, Brian
Great vid Maya. TY. I've got so used to not dating by choice, that even post-op, I stop myself from dating casually. The disclosure issue never goes away - I'm sure you know that, but for what it's worth, that's my experience that might inform your or other trans women's choices.
Dating is how you get to know someone to see if you even like them. If you don't even like them or couldn't see a future with them why would you tell them you are trans? I don't think you did anything wrong at all. You are so so wonderful and will find someone who accepts you and realizes how amazing you are! 💕💕
I don't think there is a right answer, I mean, as you said, she didn't do anything wrong, but if I was in that situation with a trans girl, I would like to know at least after the second date. Just my opinion :)
+Jorge857 oh yeah I agree maybe on a second date if there was chemistry for sure. But it wasn't like she was leading him on. It wasn't her fault he touched her without asking.
Yes. Trans most certainly DOES define you to straight man since men usually want a future family with a woman and you can't provide that.
What a beautiful articulate woman. Hard to understand the feeling of lack of worth.
Nathan Rosen it's a man
It absolutely breaks my heart to hear you discuss your dating issues. I can't believe there aren't enough straight guys your age that are open-minded enough to see what a beautiful person you are, inside and out. Every time I see a new video you've posted, I cross my fingers and pray that you've found the right person who loves you for exactly who you are. It's cruel that you struggle with self-esteem issues, when you're obviously such a good and worthwhile person. You deserve all the happiness that life has to offer. Stay strong Maya. You are a truly good person.
Stop spreading legitimate disinformation. Straight means a biological male who’s attracted to biological females. There is NO other definition, even if the trans community really really wants there to be wiggle room. Biological males who like other biological males(pre,post,etc) are by definition gay. You’re free to do what you want but a straight man can never like you. It’s impossible. He would be gay or bi. God bless.
Thanks for positivity ❤
My girlfriend is transgender, but can't transition because of her parents and it makes it so hard for me. she is 22 like, just... it's so hard because I have to call her by her male name and male pronouns when I'm with her family. But I still love her so much, and I was the first person she ever came out to because I was bugging her because she was going to tell everyone in the friends group at the same time. But I took her downstairs in the lobby of the dorm building and she came out to me and I was so happy and kept hugging her and telling her I love her. This was like a week or two before we started dating.
Ali Abbas Yes, I am pretty gay. Thanks for noticing.
that is so inspiring ❤
I really appreciate your honesty and how your sharing your self reflections. My 22 year old transgender daughter has been on hrt for 5 months. I hope to support her in the best way that I can. Your video's help me with this. Thank you xx
I wish we were all pan/bi, life would be so much easier
yes omg
***** oh yeah oops, sorry
ok sAme and I love your icon
killalex thnx I love urs too omg
Omg how easy that would be
I worry about dating too. Like, everything you're naming off and worried about as far as physical stuff, and other people just going and doing. I totally feel that. I'm scared to even date. You're so brave and inspirational to me. Thank you for being you.
For me if I walked past you, of thought of asking you out it wouldn't bother me one bit you being trans. Your a beautiful lady.
I really enjoy your insight and perspective, Maya. It does sound intimidating to just now feel comfortable enough to date. The nice thing is, you are taking so much from each experience, that even when you get more "misses" than "hits," you learn a lot about your own preferences. When you date at a much younger age, it takes some big pitfalls to really learn about yourself and others in a relationship. You see value in every encounter... a fantastic quality to have! I'm rooting for you out there!
I just watched this video in bed with my two month old son and he kept smiling at the video. Just thought it was cute! Love your videos Maya :) don't worry dating gets easier
Maya, the best advice I can give you is surround yourself with people that give you positive energy and love you for who you are. You are a beautiful woman with a kind heart, and it's ok to be cautious when allowing people to come into your personal life. And I agree with other comments on here too. Don't be in a rush to have sex. You have the right to be picky about who you choose to share intimacy with. Take care and be safe out there my dear
I'm a straight cisgender male and I find your videos entertaining and interesting keep it up looking forward to more : )
And don't think that after you telling a straight cis male you're trans that you're automatically unattractive because me as a straight cis male knowing you're trans finds you to be very pretty and attractive
Because she is simply a woman :)
You have got the good conception of your sexual identity. I can't understand those straight/homosexual people who refuse to date a transgender person ?..! what's the problem?
What you said around the 14:45 mark is something that I think is true for a lot of queer people, tbh. As a bi person, I've gone on dates with people of another gender, and even though my profile says I'm bi, I don't know if it's something that the other person is really accepting of since people can have really warped ideas about sexuality sometimes.
I do think there are certain dating things that can be issues for people of all different gender identities and sexualities. Some people have immediate deal breakers that they don't even realize are dealbreakers right away, and it can be hard to know when to disclose something personal to someone you're just getting to know. Some people don't want to date someone who has children. Some people don't want to date someone who has a mental illness. I don't think I could date someone who has a serious addiction issue, even if they are in recovery, but there are plenty of people out there who would. Also people criticizing you for not telling that dude that you're trans in your last video is pretty shitty. Disclosing that you're trans can be a safety risk, and imo, safety is always the highest priority when it comes to dating. You don't know how a stranger is going to react to that information, and it's a risk that cis people don't have to deal with.
On a different, but related note, do you consider yourself straight? Are you only attracted to men? If so, was that something you had to also "come out" about, or had to answer questions about, either before or during your transition? Don't know if you've mentioned it before, but I'm curious.
Exactly... I'm a Transman.. Where do I go to find a date with a woman? And by woman I mean Cis or MTF..
I am a straight cis-woman, and I have been questioning that lately, I don't know why. I would not care at all about finding out my date is trans, I would not even be mad about not knowing it right away. But sexually, I am straight, and I really would not know how to handle the sexuality part of the relationship... But I am certain that is something love and communication can solve.
But it must be hard for you guys to find people that are ok with it, and also to avoid people that just want the "kink"
Maurine Honestly dating someone doesn't mean sleeping with them. If that's a requirement, your definitely dating the wrong kind of man. If I'm dating anyone I don't expect them to just give it up. There needs to be a connection. There has to be.
+Ethan Stiles I agree 100%, that's why I wouldn't expect a guy to say it's trans right away... And I wouldn't care if he was. A trans guy is a guy, that's it. But let's be real, at some point in a relationship, a large amount of people want to make love. And that's where I would be "uncomfortable", not knowing how technically please that person, and what to do and how... I don't know if I am being clear lol.
I can relate with feeling the need to tell someone something like that up front. When I was 26 I had a total hysterectomy and I can not have children...I don't want to waste my time or someone else's time if they want children of their own. It's something I feel a lot of anxiety about until it's out and a lot of the time it turns out they do want their own kids and that makes it even harder each time to tell because it tends to be a deal breaker.
You're so CLASSY Maya keep going
Thanks, I will 😘❤️
Maya, I want to thank you for being the articulate person you are. There was always an undercurrent of sexuality that I had repressed beyond my true awareness. It would surface then hide, embarrassed and scared. My profession didn't allow the freedom I needed to allow me to fully be aware of myself. Although I'm not trans ( somewhere in the middle of the feminine rainbow I guess), your calm, honest, well thought out manner helps me contemplate more fully what I feel. Thank you.
k im definatley a straight guy but i find you attractive
Lt Glitch ur gay
You got this maya! Any man would be crazy not to date you and would be lucky to have you!. You are one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen and on top of that you have the best personality from what I've seen in your videos. You deserve love!
Pam thinks you're really on the trail to total happiness because it doesn't happen in a flash. You are just starting to find out what is important to YOU!
ENJOY
❤YOU are loved by many of us, honey.
Warm Hugs from Pam Long
you're beautiful
glad you think so lol
Preston Garvey lol
Incredible video. Amazing way to cover lots of topics here that most of us are not aware of. It would be great if you could have a version of this conversation as eloquently as you did here with the younger generation because the topic covers so many important and wonderful issues in regards to dating and self worth that would benefit the masses. Thank you for posting and sharing this topics. I am new to your channel but I truly enjoy listening your discussions. Cheers and stay beautiful and any human being would be so fortunate to have you in their life.
You're so beautiful, smart, interesting person. You're easy to love.
I love how you speak! You're so eloquent and I feel like we'd have cool convos haha. Thank you for you!
Super right Maya go out only with the ones who accepts you. And there is no problem waiting to the intimate world, do it when you feel comfortable ^~^
You have such classical beauty. I can't remember the painting, but you look EXACTLY like a Renaissance portrait of a young woman. Such refined and delicate beauty.
Maya,I'd date you proudly!!
@Joseph bruh
So obsessed with you.
Been binge watching all your videos for the past three hours and holy! You have such a beautiful soul and personality. There's just so much charm and attraction about you.
💞💞
Can you see yourself dating girls or are you only into guys? By the way I'm a girl and I find that you are really attractive.
April Summers gay
@@trishdrew9063 bruh
Ugh, Maya. I totally feel EVERYTHING you are saying. I'm dating a guy and we're going on a 5th date soon but I'm not feeling the SPARK. Yet. I'm trying to wait it out but I feel like deep down I know in my heart we're not compatible? But it hurts me to even think about breaking his heart. Then I tell myself I should stop over thinking it because we're having fun. Ahhhh. It literally makes my heart drop and my stomach turn thinking about breaking his heart. I'm still going to go on a few more dates and then make a decision... Just ranting right now. :/
here's simple question
why at first place you expecting from a guy to date you and be with you in relation when you are not born like a natural girl? tell me Maya or anyone else?
how can you expect to be with a guy when you are transgender?
im transgender and ive had a lot of guys show interest in me
Lauryn Meyer ok,they for sure need love and deserve love but transgender persons like Maya should not expect that love from a guy
because some guy cant just like that love some other guy that wears girl's clothes and put make up,and has only some of the girl's structure parts in his brain
lets use myself as example
i cant fell in love with maya because that is only a guy which trying to be like a girl,ok to be fair,maybe maya have some girl's parts in her brain,but that is not enough to be true transgender person
so what is a true transgender?
thats a person who was born as a male,so that person has male body and everything,but in his brain you can find much more structure that belongs to a female than to a male,also that person needs to really feel like a female
and that is true transgender person
everything else is fake trans
in my opinion there are about 50-100 true transgender persons on the world,everything else is fake
just look how many of them doing detransitioning
they realized you cant play with that
so for the end,i dont hate the real transgender persons and also i could be able to fall in love with them although i am very straight guy,but i hate fake trans and people who just plays with that like its some transformers game
Findleyawesome well thats because guys would fuck a pig,as long as that pig wears some make up and a wig
but real guy like myself,dont care about look,you just focus on the way some person thinking and behave
in other words you should fall in love about that whats inside and not about that whats outside
+Alex Silver i mean... thanks for calling me a pig. im actually pretty attractive but ok..........
+Alex Silver "I'm so ugly, but that's okay, cause so are you. We've broken our mirrors........"
"Inkaholic" is right! Maya, I also find you to be intelligent, well spoken, honest, open, brave, witty, wise and confident! Traits I find very attractive, not only in a mate, but in anyone! What I really wanted to express was how happy I am for you, you look happy and healthy, and hearing you talk about your journey and the decisions you were faced with along the way is all inspiring to me, as I'm sure it is to countless others. Let there be no doubt, you are super attractive inside and out, and any man would be lucky to have you grace their life.
On the contrary, your experiences esp. Regarding physical validation are so so similar to that of many cis gendered that it‘s nice to know you were just normal in this sense. I hope you made amazing experiences since and I‘ll continue browsing your channel for potential updates on this 😊 Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for this Maya! This was extremely insightful and a lot of the topics you talked about resonated with me so much as a gay person wanting to date especially the topic about self-worth and validation. It made me feel like I wasn't the only one so thank you for that! I hope to see more of your vids! Good luck and a lot of love
I love that your so natural, your voice, your makeup, your hair everything. Your beautiful!
I am very glad to hear you have decided to tell guys you are trans before going on a date. This is not a privacy issue but a personal safety issue. No matter how nice a guy seems you have no way of knowing how he would react if he discovered he had been kissing a trans-woman if he found out after the fact. Every year many trans-women are beaten and even murdered by enraged guys who did not realize they were involved with a trans-woman before things got physical. I realize many trans-women think that they should wait until a guy gets to know her before telling them, but the simple fact is, if he rejects you immediately after finding out that you are trans, there was no future to the relationship anyway.
Rookielove1 I wouldnt
Please know you are beautiful inside and out, and anyone lucky enough to meet you and spend quality time with you would be lucky. Never think you aren't "good enough", ever. You'll find someone who loves you for your heart, mind, intelligence, kindness and your absolute beauty.Wishing you much love and happiness, and date smartly. Never go somewhere not in public first, till you are sure they are safe - always tell someone you trust where you're going and ALL his info. Please. You don't need someone else to validate anything about you, please! Don't just hook up, just to hook up. You will meet someone worthy of you. You are beautiful. Believe it.
I absolutely LOVED this video!!!! Thank you so so much for filming it. A lot of what you were saying, I could really relate to.
you are so beautiful and your skin is flawless! a skin care routine video would be amazing. I know that sometimes it is good to listen to others and take in their advice, but I think it is extremely important to live how you want to live. I can completely understand how much of a turn off it can be to be uncomfortable with your body and not want to do certain sexual things because of it. if you think that you will be more comfortable after, then wait. you know yourself better than anyone else. everyone is different and complicated and I think it's hard for others to understand what someone else is feeling. do what makes you happy and makes you feel comfortable. you are so freaking beautiful and you will definitely meet a man who will treat you like the angel that you are and respect the fact that you didn't have a lot of sexual partners. you are so strong and such a smart woman. I definitely look up to you and I love your channel!💕
I can't believe you have more than 100,000 subscribers, the last time I saw your channel you had like 2000. Congratulations on the euccess
Dating apps have been hard for me bc when I had made profiles, there would be very negative comments made toward me. These persons "validations about me" were saying I dont look trans, not attractive etc. I decided that instead of being angry and allowing bitterness, I am going to use these comments to better myself inwardly. I want to take time to focus on me for once, love myself more so when the right opportunity for love comes, I will be ready❤
While I am not trans, I appreciate getting to know your experiences and thoughts on things so that I can broaden my perspective. I love watching your videos, you're so well spoken and have a great personality! Do make other videos like this! And of course, you will find your person! Never settle, there is someone who is right for you out there that you will be happy you waited to find.
You are amazing and truly inspirational! 💜 I also loveee your curls. You should do an hair video on how you make those.
I’m a straight man in love with a trans woman who lives in another country. Currently making plans on her to come visit and possibly making a stronger commitment then. I knew from the start that she was trans but that doesn’t matter to me. She has a beautiful soul and she’s very beautiful. Love your videos keep it. Thanks for all your content.
Thanks for your valuable comment.
I really like that you're not exclusive in your videos. You're a trans person and your main audience are probably trans people, yet you're always inclusive of us others whereas there are other trans youtubers who really neglect cisgendered people as an audience. I think it is really important for the trans community that they not only let cisgendered people have an insight in their lives but als try to build connections and show them how relatebale their lives actually are.
I'm a cisgender female and still feel like this video was pretty relatable in regard to the stuff about people liking you just based on appearances and what that means for my sense of self-worth.
Hi Maya, u seem really honest and cool, i didn't know u were Transgender at first i just saw an incredibly beautiful woman so clicked on ur video..u have a cool way of looking at life,just being true to urself and not letting what others say dictate ur life...i think we we all strive to be that confident, u know, i do anyway...ur also one of the most beautiful women iv ever seen on youtube....thats it...Luv from Ireland...
I’m heterosexual, However I’m 57 and happily married to a wonderful woman! If I were 20 or 30 years younger, yes without question I would want to date you.
You are a very beautiful woman.
Take care Tom
Your poor wife
So true! You are an emotionally resolved person so you will be ok and if you haven't met him already he is out there I promise. Great vid 👌! X
I love everything you said in this video, especially regarding disclosure!! you choose to disclose for the sake of yourself and your own time, but trans people aren't obligated to disclose their identity to everyone they meet. Yeah it's a part of you but in the end it's not like you're pretending to be something you're not
You are totally correct. Just because you are trans doesn't mean you should settle for just any partner. You should respect yourself. Aim for the best situation.
Completely true! I'm a ftm transperson, not yet fully transitioned, but someone literally told me i'd be perfect if I didn't identify as male....I've also had someone have a crush on me(someone I also liked) and when I told him i'm trans, he decided to date someone else after leading me on by saying he'll think about whether he wants to date me lmao. But yeah, I always follow the "no dating unless they know i'm trans" rule. It's harsh since suddenly people who liked me immediately stop upon knowing, but who wants to date people who can stop liking someone that easily anyways? Haha.
I definitely agree w the inner validation piece!!! Very wise of u, I wish more people realized this regardless of who you are!!
Another reason to be upfront with potential dates is just for your own safety. Remember that men are physically MUCH STRONGER than us females... so if you find yourself in a vulnerable situation with a man who becomes angry and physically violent, there's a good chance you will be at their mercy. As a CIS female, I have been in several situations where I have actually thought, "Oh, shit, I'm alone with this guy who could literally kill me without breaking a sweat.... and he is getting reeeaally angry.... time to defuse the situation and get to a public area asap!" It's terrifying knowing that at any moment even a preteen boy could pin my arms down with minimal effort. Regardless of the unfairness of having to disclose your gender identity, you don't want to be at the mercy of someone who turns out to be a trans-phobic, fragile-egoed monster. Stay safe!!!
I used to think immediately disclosing your operative status as a trans person was not necessary, but have realized that's wrong. It's not about "society putting a huge value on being trans". It's just caring which gender you are to decide if they can be attracted to you. Cis people don't disclose genitalia info because most people already know that information before even talking, and never have to think about it. When that information is prove wrong down the road it's a huge surprise because they thought you were something you're not.
you are so emotionally mature. love watching your vids and hope you are the happiest you can be!
Awesome video, you have express a lot of maturity throughout your whole experiences and thoughts. I think that more videos like this could help people understand the struggles and difficulties we face as T
I just cant imagine what you go through , like I hate that society does not accept LGBT people, I personally love them and Im so sorry you have to go through things like that , but you keep your head up and keep loving yourself. ❤❤❤
I totally get the physical validation aspect of your self-worth issues. My ONLY concern is for your immediate safety dear. It breaks my heart to hear you say you worried about someone being attracted to. How could ANY guy not be attracted to someone as feminine and alluring as you? I always find your videos insightful and intelligent Maya. You are obviously a sensitive and thoughtful person. I find that so compelling. I can't believe any guy would meet you, and spend some time getting to know you, and then reject you just because you're trans. I guess that's just one more facet of "man's inhumanity to man" in this messed up, heartless world we live in. Thank you for your bravery in sharing your life with us! Every video you have ever posted has inspired me!
I watch your videos all the time, and it brings me great joy to see that you've been making heaps of new ones recently :) You're an inspiration to me, Maya! You look beautiful
You doing such great work for us, heterosexual cisgender people. Through your experience we can try to understand and accept the whole concept of transgenders. Many things that you as a person going through was absolutely not visible/imaginable for me. But your attractiveness as a woman catches my eye and openness raised interest and pushed me to investigate and educate myself.
I'll be honest, I'm straight man (with family and kids) I've grown in USSR and my relation to LGBT was neutral- . In one hand in USSR general education/upbringing was quite tolerant in some aspects like races and accepting other people. From other hand it was quite conservative in other aspects like sex. Sex actually was very closed intimate area and put it to light was not appropriate, hence any not usual expression himself like visible belonging to LGBT was generally not appropriate in public.
Now days it is already not the issue and people need to adapt to new reality and the only way to do that is education and mutual understanding. In that area your work as youtuber is very important, at least for me.
I hope you will pass through all obstacles and wish you all the best in you transition. You are look gorgeous I wish you find your partner for life and happiness!
Hi Maya
Thank you for uploading your transition,ive have learned so much from you in the last few months, you are no lie my favourite youtuber right now
I am still waiting on hormones but i still upload my social transition videos, thanks for giving me the strength to do so :)
Alexis In Transition :3
Really liked this video Maya, gave me even goosebumps when you talked about your second date experience, felt so real!
We all have validation issues and all do stupid stuff because of it. Not diminishing you, just letting you know its not just you. Beyond your physical attractiveness you also have a thoughtful soulfulness that comes through in your videos.
Very true but sorry to say as a man this will always be a man to me. Its
Being a black man,and growing up in a dominantly white culture.I can relate on what your saying about your options being limited.reaching maturity in my life I realize that I’m even limited in my options even to my own culture .and I can only assume the reason why that is,is because I come off as a white guy.and I’m just weird,so the end result,I just take what I can get.
It's awesome that people can be gay, trans, etc without worrying about being hurt or killed in most areas. I'm 50 now and when I was a teenager, I couldn't watch the news without another story about another gay man getting beaten or murdered. It sooooo stupid people lose their minds over someone else's sexuality. It doesn't effect them.
While I'm glad we've advanced as far as we have as a society, it's still sad being trans is still an issue for some. This is even more ridiculous because only you get the reassignment surgery assuming you do of course, the parts match how you know you are. You are screwing someone genetics.
People put way too much thought into other people lives instead of worrying about their own. It's time to finally get over ourselves as a culture.
Hey Maya! I am a cisgender heterosexual woman and I totally get what you are saying. I agree with the fact that you are keeping your genitals private because it is private. Also, you are not your genitals, and if you openly say you are trans, maybe you will only stumble upon weird men who fetishes trans people and stuff like that... You are not an object and the most important thing for you is to respect yourself and your limits. If the person wants to date you, well you owe them nothing. I love you very much and be safe! Ps: if my boyfriend whom I love very much told me after many dated that he is trans, since I am in love with him, I would still have a relationship with him and have sexual intercourse with him. Maybe I am just really open-minded, but I support and understand you 100% xxx be safe and take care of yourself
I am not a transgender, but THANK YOU VERY MUCH, MAYA. Despite not having such difficulties as you struggle with, I really value your vision of self esteem, your attitude to people who you date and dating in general. You should always think of yourself first and what you feel comfortable with, and not let people disrespect and disregard you. I wish you to be happy and find the right person who will love and treat you as a queen
Thank you for helping me feel like I'm not alone, I'm planning on finally being myself now. I'm going to cut my hair and dress how I feel comfortable. Seeing all the amazing and brave youtubers who are open with the world has made me realize that I'm not a girl, or a boy, I'm just me
you are so brave and even if i am cis, i totally love your videos and your personality (so brave and beautiful inside out *-*) keep on the good work girl, your future shines
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You have no idea how much I needed this video today.
I'm trans and have been dating this guy. He treated me like crap and I let him because I didn't accept myself. Society tells us we're broken but we are not broken. If anything, we are more put together because we are strong enough to fight for our truth despite what society tells us.
P.S. I told that guy to go to hell.
Maya, I think you're quite brave, it takes a lot of guts to be who one is, and I'm not just talking about Trans or gay. People are so fake nowadays, and always try to be something they're not just to please society or others. Good for you. Stay strong girl !
thank you for your content,
found you by 'accident' a few months ago,
now coming back to finally watch all the rest
xxxxx Keep it up
I just watched your video of your transition. You have always been so beautiful, make and female. I hope you can talk with someone if you have any really negative feelings about your looks. You are stunningly beautiful. Honestly. You also seem like a beautiful person on the inside, as well. I really hope one day you'll totally know this, and know your worth, and that someone who you winds up as your partner will be very lucky (not just you being gorgeous, all aspects of what and who you are). So many people would love to be as beautiful as you are, and I know it's been really hard, but you have such a glorious future and life waiting for you. I hope you are quite grateful for all you are. You are very special. Wishing you so much happiness! I'm a woman, older than you, straight and married, and for all of us, life can be so hard, and such a struggle, but once you really understand you are amazing, and worth someone as special as you are who will respect and love you, you will find happiness. Love yourself, you are worth it. I know it must be hard, because you truly look so completely feminine, and it can get complicated, but I think only with the wrong person, with a closed mind and heart. The right person will love you for you, unconditionally, not just because of your beauty or confusion, or because you are trans...just because you're you. Thanks for your honesty and being so brave. I hope you don't think I was too personal, I was just very inspired by you. One Love.
oh mya, my sweet darling...you always brighten my mood! whenever you post a new video, my best friend and I bet how long into the video before you say the word "preface". bahaha loooove yoooou! xoxo
you are literally the best youtuber I've seen. your so sweet and straight up and inspiring. and your really pretty❤
I find your videos interesting. As in, I finding it pretty cool that you are slowly finding yourself. But I also see that you are still young and figuring yourself out. There are things you said bout standards that I don't agree with. I have friends who said the same thing at 23, and now them being 33 and single they regret everything. So my opinion is that just give everyone a chance. If the person is good to you and make you feel good as a person, you should give them a go instead of just looking for instant sparks. :)
Before I realised I was a trans woman, I felt the pressure to be having sex and relationships and also general hornyness associated with gay men and perpetuated by a lot of gay men. I felt like I was missing something and I didn't know how to make myself comfortable with it. So ofc I tried to force it into me ( heh dick joke )
Since coming out as trans none of those pressures seem to affect me anymore. I even realised that my complicated body image had nothing to do with weight or wobbly bits, I hated looking masculine. I didn't feel right in my skin before, but now I feel perfect. There's no one way to be a woman and I have grown in figuring that out.
I'm super glad you make videos n stuff Maya, it helps girls like me.
I was once under the influence of sexual repression. I am 55, and I grew up believing in love. Believe, we who know love is real. It's difficult, and you are a beautiful and intelligent person. You are a person. Respect for all, no matter.
It’s a wonderful virtue to wait and be picky. Self control is lacking in our culture as well as delayed gratification. 🙌 ❤