I just feel so sorry for that beautiful little girl. You can tell even from the videos that she’s not a troubled, antagonistic kid, she actually really sweet and gentle and just wants to be living in a happy harmonious house. I talk from experience, our daughter is 16 and she’s just such a great kid, and we are by absolutely no means model parents, but we just try and lead with love, and also remember that she’s just a kid, and that she’s doing her best, and that like all of us, she has good days and bad days, but if you focus on the good days, they will soon FAR outweigh the bad xxx
@@nikiryan8648couldn't agree more! While the parents do have to make improvements on the way they handle things, that little girl was argumentative. That's disrespectful. It's not that hard to brush your teeth and do your chores, especially when you've had the same chore schedule for 3 years.
Oh please, u sound so sickening. Everybody has problems m issues n its ady so good they care enough to the extend of appearing on national tv. U really r an unfeeling human or plain judgemental
No way id let my spouse speak to my child like that. If you're getting into a relationship with someone with children you better be ready to treat and love them as your own, or simply don't get into a relationship with someone who has children.
As a child coming home and wanting to phone and talk to her MOTHER and then told by the STEPMOTHER that she had to do her chores first, in my opinion that is WRONG and EMOTIONAL ABUSE. HOW DARE SHE DENY A PHONE CALL TO HER OWN MOTHER Chores can wait. Contact with HER MOTHER is ABSOLUTELY TOP PRIORITY 😢😢😢😢😢
@@definity-zx6ivmy son tries to manipulate his way out of chores with his stepmom by wanting to call his mom. I call him out on it every time. Of course I listen to him but it never takes me long to understand he’s trying to get out of chores or homework. Yes, I love my kid. More than anything. But part of loving him means teaching him respect for all the adults in his life.
@@hollyharrison1377 oh 100% I had a terrible step mother, however I'm aware kids play parents off against each other to get their way. Especially when parents have split up and there are new ones on the scene. Children want their parents love and attention to themselves, it's biologically wired into them for survival. I'm with the father of my children so I can only imagine how difficult it is to be a step parent. And to co parent I take my hat off to you that you're so clear headed and back them up. That's why your child will turn out to be a wonderful adult.
@@charlottehawthorne2664 well, I think of it this way: Rex’s step mom is a person of importance in his life, therefore, she’s an important person in MY life. That and she ended up with my ex… she needs all the breaks she can get, trust me 😂
She did well by putting her on a diet. She was overweight and being overweight as a kid puts you at higher risk of type2 diabetes as an adult. She's an adult and has had kids.
I don’t think I’d let someone I knew for 6 weeks watch my pets for a weekend, let alone marry them, let them raise my child and immediately start another family with them. (Maybe in some weird dystopian, emergency or desperate situation but not with any real choice!)
Yeah that just stupid. I told my first husband we need be married at least for 2-3 years before having a child because we need to make the marriage stable first. We started having problems after a year and a half but stay together a little over 3 years. He wanted a baby but I said no we have problems and not doing well financially. I’m Just so glad I never had a baby with him. I didn’t want my children to go through what I did I think it’s cruel to put children in a bad marriage that will end in divorce or stay married but it’s toxic for the children.
This is exactly why I decided I would never remarry again or have another child with a different father. One ex is enough and my sons are my #1 with no competing other kids.
@@MrBobbo18 no, there are good men, but I had 2 sons that needed me 100% so I didn’t want to complicate their lives anymore by bringing in someone new.
Completely agree with you. I think I'm doing a pretty darn good job with my own daughters and they're the best, but, same, I have no interest in parenting anyone else's children.
@@orthohawk1026 Yes. A small girl whose body is still developing. Had they gone to a nutritionist for some counseling, meal planning, etc, the little girl would've lost weight in a safe, controlled manner and stepmother would've lost a few pounds as well.
2nd couple needs to get a divorce. 4 weeks w/o a fridge, yet he buys snowmobiles? I agree she is financially illiterate, but he financially abuses her!
The hypocrisy is overwhelming with this snowmobile collector & he IS a controlling bully & everything HE purchases is a depreciating asset, worth thousands less the minute they own it!
Dude, every time she asks Ashley a question and Ashley starts to answer. She immediately button on her and starts saying no let me finish even though she asked her a question.
First of all, stop trying because it will happen if it's meant to. This couple knew each other 6 weeks, so they didn't know each other at marriage. A spouse is such a best friend that you wake up wanting to help make their day great.
@@heythere5817Agreed ! I've been in a few serious relationships, I genuinely absolutely loved two of them. One died, the other few were abusive but the last one was genuinely beautiful - and I unfortunately made a mistake, breaking our trust. I still believe in love ❤️ I wouldn't give up on love, ever!
Right? Let the kid decompress, have a snack, talk about her day! Just like who comes home from work & dives right into housework etc??? I wonder how she is these days …
I agree I see nothing wrong with her having a snack afterschool, if she would try to work with the child. Letting her have a snack is a nice thing to do, and that would show kindness on her part. And I'm sure she would have done her chores after her snack. The child needs to know she is seen and heard, not in a bad way, but in when she asked a question or ask for a snack that she is heard and that her wants and needs count to.
She's a growing young lady - I'm sure she's hungry! I taught school for 30 years. When students stayed for extra help after school... first item on the agenda. SNACK so we can all think! Low blood sugar at that time of day. Yummy! Happy happy joy joy!!
I do not understand these women who get pregnant after 5 mins of knowing someone. Unless you are aiming to be a single mum and you just need the baby to complete that dream, it seems like one of the dumbest, most selfish things you could do.
My first husband drank beer but I was 19 & naive to alcoholism. My mother-in-law was right on when she said, "if it's going to get ugly or violent, it'll be his 15-17th year of drinking." He chose alcohol over family & died from it 2 years ago. Don't marry someone who drinks unless you're willing to be hurt.....or killed.
@@skrallanmo2594not at all.. you can drink every night.. just no more than like 2.. but did you see what they said.. "to excess".. over 2 would be that, if its every night.. but also ppl who can handle it can go weeks as well with nothing.. not someone who needs it every time.. hope you can understand the difference..
Disrespectful and rude more like it, Ashley mentioned her mom which means she clearly still has her in her life and to hear this women disrespect and belittle your mom, you haven’t earned that girls respect!
This lady is very pretty!!!Then this father should discipline his daughter its HIS daughter, stop blaming your wife .Where is the real mother.......and all this drinking is NOT healthy....
@@teresapren3266 You just justified her emotionally abusing a child which is unacceptable, let alone a child that isn't even hers. Being pretty doesn't make it acceptable. Who raised you?
@@teresapren3266 Are you relating to her? Cause she didn't let that little girl speak.She kept on cutting her while talking. Also she isn't allowed to have a snack and call her mom before doing chores after school? On school days she should not have any chores because after a LOMG SCHOOL DAY she has a WHOLE BUNCH OF HOMEWORKHOMEWORKS TO DO,while step mom is at home.On weekends she could have chores but not school day.I know staying at home is a lot for the step mom,but at the same time she needs to UNDERSTAND THAT THIS LITTLE GIRL GETS TIRED after long days in class.Also she has to call her mom to let her know that she got home safely too.Step mom IS NOT SUPPOSED TO OPPOSE. If it was her,wouldn't she want to know if her kids got home safely???? So please.
I thought that. No wonder the stepdaughter is getting an attitude when all she sees every day is attitude and arguing. Go in the other room, ffs. And don't use the kids to "prove" who's right and who's wrong by dragging them into the middle of it
The refrigerator thing is crazy. They went without a fridge for four weeks? He bought a snow mobile? Only after “it didn’t work” did he feel bad? Are you kidding? Of course she’s going to sometimes squirrel away money. She feels like she’s trapped and she is a victim of financial abuse.
They did not go without a fridge because he bought a snowmobile.. they went without a fridge because she wanted a GTX and was supposed to sell her motorcycle to help fund it, but SHE DIDN'T.. she can't manage money and wonders why he has to take control of the finances. I know better than to ask my husband to buy me a car when he's still paying off my motorcycle 🙄 she needs to quit playing the victim because she brought a lot of this on herself. I don't agree with them calling each other names, but that stems from the fact that she resents him for having to ask for money.. but she put herself there; someone has to make sure the bills get paid, and it won't be her!
@RebeccaAdcock-rl6xl Yep. And she knows what she's doing by asking for a snack while she's supposed to be doing chores. She's stalling. Trying to avoid. Lol!! I'm not saying she doesn't deserve a quick snack and then back to it, though.
The first woman: "I agree, yes I know, I thought this too, absolutely", to everything Dr. Phil says. We all know she didn't, or she would have done things differently, she just wants to be right.
this is one of the best videos I watched from dr Phil, probably because I admire his way of talking to the couple , esp. thrird one. With strictness, yet respect, with humor yet with wisdom, and I wish everyone could have an inner voice as this of dr Phils :) that would be awesome!!
the last couple, yes.. the first one has hope.. she's overwhelmed.. he got tired of being the solo parent, and the step mom is put in charge of everything.. so he can drink..
This makes me so happy my man is not a money bully. Im a stay at home mom and that would be so emotionally abusive. I also dont drain my husbands accounts though
I don't have any finances coming in for various reasons. Haven't for the past year. My husband took up more hours at his second job to support me and our son. If I ever need anything, I just have to ask. He's never once said no to me about something unless he genuinely can't afford it, and even then, he'll say when he can do it and apologise profusely in the meantime. I am grateful that I don't have to worry about not being provided for or worry about having to ask for anything. And like you, I don't take the piss and ask for things that I don't need like expensive luxuries. I'm happy and well taken care of as a SAHM
Parents CANNOT be divided on how to correct their children. This is a huge problem with remarriages with children. Look up the divorce rates for second marriages with children it is staggering.
The problem is he's not supporting her as the other parent and disagreeing in front of that child only makes her think it's ok for her not to listen to her stepmother
It is but that's why the parents have 2 always be a team..I come.from 2 blended families and I can tell you they are awesome because our parents set the tone
What is wrong with the evil stepmother?? I feel bad for little Ashley cause if u keep treating her like that!! they are gone divorce, he cant keep allowing her to treat her like this!
EXCUSE ME BUT FAT KIDS DON’T HAVE SELF ESTEEM! SHE DID THIS CHILD A FAVOR! SHE LOOKS GOOD CAN PLAY SPORTS NOT BE EMBARRASSED WHEN SHES A TEENAGER SHE CAN GO TO DANCES AND FIND NICE DRESSES. TELL ME WHO HAS SELF ESTEEM IF THEY’RE FAT? NO ONE! Children should be taught how to eat properly.
If she lost it safely, 1-2lbs per week, it's not unhealthy. She's not close to underweight now, which means she had 20lbs to lose. I wish my parents had helped me lose 20lbs when I was her age, even though I didn't know I needed to. Chubby kids tend to become fat adults. The issue _how_ she lost the weight. Not by the adults in her life modeling a healthy diet and regular exercise for the whole family, but by restricting the child's diet. The former will help throughout the kids' lives. The latter will destroy their self esteem and possibly lead to disordered eating not far down the road.
What is unhealthy is that she looks healthy now, but she had to lose 6 pants sizes to get to that weight. As long as it wasn’t 20lbs in a short time, and it was really more like 1/2 lbs a week and lost through mildly increased play/activity and the child was getting nutrient dense whole foods and it wasn’t weaponized or used as a punishment… there’s nothing wrong with focusing on getting your child into a healthy weight range. I think it’s child abuse/neglect to allow your 11 year old to carry around an extra 20+ lbs. that is a LOT of weight on a tiny body. Edit: idk the situation here or how the parents are. But just making the argument that is “could” have been done with good intentions and in a healthy way.
Of course, everyone is perfect the 1st 6 weeks of knowing them. It takes about 2 years to fully know someone because after that amount of time, you'll see even the parts they've been pretty good at hiding.
We were both military and married after 3 months. We met after my deployment and he happened to get stationed at my home base while I was gone. Now married 17 years and through 6 deployments and multiple TDYS and now both retired in our final home. ❤ It definitely wasn’t easy but we stuck with it. We have one child who is 15 and on the spectrum.
Why I feel bad for the stepchild that’s not right parenting based on just what you see and I’m not even a parent to do chores before you have a snack or in order to call your mother ?!! Wtf right does she have to say that she doesn’t even say it nicely .. she’s definitely not trying to have nice loving relationship with her stepdaughter ..
Just like everyone else who has kids in life does! I'm a single mother and work two jobs and yes some of that goes to child care costs but at least I can take care of myself my bills and anything else I want to save up for without begging a husband for money f that
Yes. Get a job like many of us moms. My kids are adults now and they respected that they had two parents who both worked hard to provide for them. It’s not that difficult- and it can be balanced and organized and fun
it looks like she lives in po-dunk minnesota or oklahoma or some other rural area that has limited financial opportunity.. good grief he buys snowmobiles and 4 runners calls her names and shes supposed to get wet over that..? doesnt look like they do anything together.. hes not tending his garden and she has zero discipline.. they need to instill Trust, otherwise call it quits and she will get child support from him..! but to build together is much wiser financially..
What part of thats her stepchild does she not get. Its not her child to yell at, tell what to do, treat her like she is her child. Her job is to be a strong adult that has good ears, good advice, and loving arms. Not a big mouth, yelling and screaming, ignoring her and saying she doesnt listen to her. She doesnt have to you are not the parent.
The one with the issues is that first evil stepmother. Is it April?? Chris should leave and take that poor girl with him!! In fact all the children need to go with him. April is a nasty horrid person!!
A liter is about 34 oz. A shot is about 1-2 oz. Average is about 1.5 oz and that’s a good pour at a bar. If he’s drinking 1 liter a week (sometimes two) that’s an average of about 3-4 drinks a day. That’s not 3-4 5% beers. Thats liquor. A completely different “buzz” in my opinion. One drink a day, maybe you don’t have a problem. 3-4 drinks with liquor… 😬
I feel sorry for the children because they are seeing all the arguments which is damaging. I'm blessed to have had two loving parents who kept any disagreements between just them and who always respected each other.
I married my first husband after 6 weeks ,and everything was fine, but yes, I did not know enough about him before i married him, and unfortunately, he committed suicide on July 12th,1991. 😭😭😭😭
Sad but it happens 😢 I married a man who seemed lovely. Turned out he was raised in a cult, was sexually abused, etc etc. he ended up being abusive since I had had a beautiful childhood. I had to pay for his misfortunes
Poor Ashley having to witness all the fights. You do not do that in front of children. Barking orders at her is not right either. The next couple should not be married at all.
Good luck on him stopping drinking. The 2nd couple I can see why he would not want her handling the money. 20 years living like that? I don't understand why they are still together.
My second marriage, never let my new husband rear, or raise . We both had two from our previous marriage, took us five years to blend that family together before we got married, and every time we ever had an argument was over the difference of how he raised his children as opposed to how I raised mine, never let him support my children I supported my children, and for the first couple years every time we broke up, it was disagreements about our children, but it took us five years and I’m glad we waited
My daughter and I had fights at Ashley’s age all the time. So I think her rebellious behavior is just normal. Regardless to say stepmom and father need to „improve“. So first of all, why is stepmom even in charge of raising Ashley? My daughter has a stepmom. I made it very clear to come with issues to me to resolve them as a team.
I think the first couple can make it if they get family counseling, I just think that they don’t know which way or what to do. I think they still care about each other and I hope that they’re able to get what they need and be successful in their marriage. The second one is a bad situation and he keeps using the term my money, my money, which really is not just his money. He says it’s what she does, he doesn’t say what he does is wrong, his whole mindset is totally totally off
They both just need to stop treating each other and the teenaged girl like the enemy. Its not good for any of the children. And the not seeing eye to eye on parenting is still no reason to have that conversation in front of the kids or attack the kid over it.
11 year olds are like cats who are in their bedrooms and sometimes venture out to eat. Just give her a total break. She needs space to grow up and test her parents and push limits and most importantly still get love even though she is not perfect...this child needs unconditional true love and an arguement free life without watching arguing day and night!!!
My husband and I have a blended family of 7 kids. I always went to his ex for problems with my husband’s kids and he went to my ex. Been married for 23 years and have 13 grandkids. We all still get together for important family events. Open communication and not arguing with kids present.
My maternal grandmother said the wedding was just a day. She made the cake that morning(she wasn't one for waiting until the last minute) She was married for over 38 years, happily married! They married on Mother's Day!
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I just feel so sorry for that beautiful little girl. You can tell even from the videos that she’s not a troubled, antagonistic kid, she actually really sweet and gentle and just wants to be living in a happy harmonious house. I talk from experience, our daughter is 16 and she’s just such a great kid, and we are by absolutely no means model parents, but we just try and lead with love, and also remember that she’s just a kid, and that she’s doing her best, and that like all of us, she has good days and bad days, but if you focus on the good days, they will soon FAR outweigh the bad xxx
that sweet little girl is playing this for all she's worth.
@@nikiryan8648couldn't agree more! While the parents do have to make improvements on the way they handle things, that little girl was argumentative. That's disrespectful. It's not that hard to brush your teeth and do your chores, especially when you've had the same chore schedule for 3 years.
Man, poor Ashley… Stuck with an alcoholic father and an immature, critical stepmother. I wonder how she’s doing like 20 years later…
Right! She comes home from school and can’t even have a snack or call her mom before chores? That’s so inflexible.
That happened whilst filming so I imagine the step mum is much worse off camera
Oh please, u sound so sickening. Everybody has problems m issues n its ady so good they care enough to the extend of appearing on national tv. U really r an unfeeling human or plain judgemental
@@uknpdsurvivor660I sincerely hope not but I am afraid you are correct.
I agree 100%. But don't throw the word alcoholic around - he sounds like a problem drinker. Big difference and very important!
No way id let my spouse speak to my child like that. If you're getting into a relationship with someone with children you better be ready to treat and love them as your own, or simply don't get into a relationship with someone who has children.
As a child coming home and wanting to phone and talk to her MOTHER and then told by the STEPMOTHER that she had to do her chores first, in my opinion that is WRONG and EMOTIONAL ABUSE. HOW DARE SHE DENY A PHONE CALL TO HER OWN MOTHER Chores can wait. Contact with HER MOTHER is ABSOLUTELY TOP PRIORITY 😢😢😢😢😢
@@definity-zx6ivmy son tries to manipulate his way out of chores with his stepmom by wanting to call his mom. I call him out on it every time. Of course I listen to him but it never takes me long to understand he’s trying to get out of chores or homework. Yes, I love my kid. More than anything. But part of loving him means teaching him respect for all the adults in his life.
@@hollyharrison1377 oh 100% I had a terrible step mother, however I'm aware kids play parents off against each other to get their way.
Especially when parents have split up and there are new ones on the scene.
Children want their parents love and attention to themselves, it's biologically wired into them for survival.
I'm with the father of my children so I can only imagine how difficult it is to be a step parent.
And to co parent I take my hat off to you that you're so clear headed and back them up.
That's why your child will turn out to be a wonderful adult.
@@charlottehawthorne2664 well, I think of it this way: Rex’s step mom is a person of importance in his life, therefore, she’s an important person in MY life. That and she ended up with my ex… she needs all the breaks she can get, trust me 😂
@@charlottehawthorne2664 thank you for the encouragement and the kind words, in all seriousness. That really touched me 💜
They had no business getting married and having kids so soon period!💯
You can’t have a snack before chores? You can’t call your mom before chores? No surprise the kid is fed up
Arguing in front of, and even including a child in the arguments, is very abusive.
Those poor children. ☹️
Poor Ashley, the 11 year old girl. The stepmother's treatment of her is appalling. The stepmother is hateful and resentful of this girl.
Cinderella.
😭
She puts the stepdaughter on a diet whilst she is not particularly thin😮😮😢
You said that re nice..I think i would have put a few four letter words! and thank u..i totally agree!
At least she made sure that Ashley has a healthy weight, much less her own.
She is just a terrible woman!!!
She did well by putting her on a diet. She was overweight and being overweight as a kid puts you at higher risk of type2 diabetes as an adult. She's an adult and has had kids.
@@oratuwe8114 I totally agree with this. I wish someone would have helped me lose weight when I was 10, 11 years old.
April is very condescending to her step daughter Ashley. Breaks my heart. 💔
She's a damn B
I don’t think I’d let someone I knew for 6 weeks watch my pets for a weekend, let alone marry them, let them raise my child and immediately start another family with them. (Maybe in some weird dystopian, emergency or desperate situation but not with any real choice!)
Well said ❤
Yeah that just stupid. I told my first husband we need be married at least for 2-3 years before having a child because we need to make the marriage stable first. We started having problems after a year and a half but stay together a little over 3 years. He wanted a baby but I said no we have problems and not doing well financially. I’m
Just so glad I never had a baby with him. I didn’t want my children to go through what I did I think it’s cruel to put children in a bad marriage that will end in divorce or stay married but it’s toxic for the children.
This is exactly why I decided I would never remarry again or have another child with a different father. One ex is enough and my sons are my #1 with no competing other kids.
Same!
You did well. I wish I hadn’t remarried. I did decide though to not have children with anyone else besides their father, and I’m glad I did.
All men bad or is it Y’all?
@@MrBobbo18 no, there are good men, but I had 2 sons that needed me 100% so I didn’t want to complicate their lives anymore by bringing in someone new.
Me to
I have five daughters and I knew that I could not be a great Step parent. Other people's kids are not my thing.
Same here. If polite l look ,if not ,l,m oblivious.
And that’s ok. It’s better than marrying someone with a child then crush the child’s spirit.
Completely agree with you. I think I'm doing a pretty darn good job with my own daughters and they're the best, but, same, I have no interest in parenting anyone else's children.
@@moniqueengleman873 You’re aware of that and that’s a good thing. Just because it’s one person’s thing doesn’t mean it’s another’s.
@Sarcastic165 Thanks 😊
Having a husband was difficult enough.😂😂😂
Yes Dr phil said it perfectly!!
Its unkind to bring a child into a warzone!! Many people could learn from this statement.
He’s playing massive head games! Who buys a freaking snow mobile before a fridge? That’s gross! It’s definitely financial abuse!
Especially when you have children!
this. l would t last 1O mins with him.. games like that are not healthy and hav Nothing to do with Teamwork..!
wouldnt *
A butthole
they both at fault, both behave like kids.
Is it odd that she’s heavy and put the small girl on a diet? I found that funny like if you know how to lose 20 pounds then do that yourself.
😒 YEP, STEPMOM COULD LOSE A FEW POUNDS HERSELF! 😑
Small girl? Did thee not see the pic of Ashley when Chris and April got married? Little chubbette. She looks great in this vid.
@@orthohawk1026
Yes. A small girl whose body is still developing.
Had they gone to a nutritionist for some counseling, meal planning, etc, the little girl would've lost weight in a safe, controlled manner and stepmother would've lost a few pounds as well.
The girl had been quite fat-she looks fine and healthy now
2nd couple needs to get a divorce. 4 weeks w/o a fridge, yet he buys snowmobiles? I agree she is financially illiterate, but he financially abuses her!
He’s very abusive
The hypocrisy is overwhelming with this snowmobile collector & he IS a controlling bully & everything HE purchases is a depreciating asset, worth thousands less the minute they own it!
He's a selfish pig. I would get a job and be gone.
True, that's why as women, we need to have something going on for ourselves. This happens a lot when the man is the sole provider.
Dude, every time she asks Ashley a question and Ashley starts to answer. She immediately button on her and starts saying no let me finish even though she asked her a question.
I used to rly wish for a husband/marriage,but shows like this have fully cured me of those wishes!👌🏾🤣💯
U & me both hunni..fuuuk THAT 😂
First of all, stop trying because it will happen if it's meant to. This couple knew each other 6 weeks, so they didn't know each other at marriage. A spouse is such a best friend that you wake up wanting to help make their day great.
Thats sad. These shows only cover the duds. Skewed view of reality
@@heythere5817Agreed ! I've been in a few serious relationships, I genuinely absolutely loved two of them.
One died, the other few were abusive but the last one was genuinely beautiful - and I unfortunately made a mistake, breaking our trust.
I still believe in love ❤️
I wouldn't give up on love, ever!
@@suzicares2721that would be incredibly rare, men are not to be trusted, I speak from experience.
Uhhhh she can’t have a snack after school before she does her chores? That’s bogus.
Right? Let the kid decompress, have a snack, talk about her day! Just like who comes home from work & dives right into housework etc???
I wonder how she is these days …
Downright cruel.
Agreed, kids wanted to walk in the house, drop the stress of the day, have a snack…talk about their day…..AND THEN …do your chores.
I agree I see nothing wrong with her having a snack afterschool, if she would try to work with the child. Letting her have a snack is a nice thing to do, and that would show kindness on her part. And I'm sure she would have done her chores after her snack. The child needs to know she is seen and heard, not in a bad way, but in when she asked a question or ask for a snack that she is heard and that her wants and needs count to.
She's a growing young lady - I'm sure she's hungry! I taught school for 30 years. When students stayed for extra help after school... first item on the agenda. SNACK so we can all think! Low blood sugar at that time of day. Yummy! Happy happy joy joy!!
Oooooooh that stepmom with the 11 year old girl......just taking her anger and jealously out on that poor little kid- what a nasty person.
A person always see the others faults and not theirs.
No self awareness
Poor Ashley! The stepmother is a bully and the father has no balls 😢
Taking a back seat to parenting his own child
There both nuts
no shes not.. she def cares but is put in charge of everything..
he checked out so he could drink..
Lazy cowardly father REQUIRES the mother to take control. This dynamic is common with weak cowardly men.
No he's drunk
I do not understand these women who get pregnant after 5 mins of knowing someone. Unless you are aiming to be a single mum and you just need the baby to complete that dream, it seems like one of the dumbest, most selfish things you could do.
It takes two 🤷♀️
@Tori.601 but her body her choice right isn't that what they are always saying? He didn't r*pe her.....
It's wild to me the " mum" is usually blamed. Often times by other women
My first husband drank beer but I was 19 & naive to alcoholism. My mother-in-law was right on when she said, "if it's going to get ugly or violent, it'll be his 15-17th year of drinking." He chose alcohol over family & died from it 2 years ago. Don't marry someone who drinks unless you're willing to be hurt.....or killed.
Absolutely nutty take. You chose an alcoholic. Don’t choose alcoholics should be your phrasing.
Not everyone who drinks alcohol is an alcoholic or drinks to excess.
@@buffalosabresloyalist8913 Well... I would call several times pr week IS drinking to excess...
@@skrallanmo2594not at all.. you can drink every night.. just no more than like 2.. but did you see what they said.. "to excess".. over 2 would be that, if its every night..
but also ppl who can handle it can go weeks as well with nothing..
not someone who needs it every time..
hope you can understand the difference..
@@buffalosabresloyalist8913exactly.. only some ppl dont get that..
The fact the wife said she is the first positive female role model Ashley has had, is so damn rude and egotistical.
Agreed! She is a terrible example of a loving caring wife and mother
Disrespectful and rude more like it, Ashley mentioned her mom which means she clearly still has her in her life and to hear this women disrespect and belittle your mom, you haven’t earned that girls respect!
Horrible stepmom .. wouldn't even let the little girl finish a sentence.
This lady is very pretty!!!Then this father should discipline his daughter its HIS daughter, stop blaming your wife .Where is the real mother.......and all this drinking is NOT healthy....
Agreed!! The little girl looks so beaten down and dejected! That made me so angry!
@@teresapren3266 You just justified her emotionally abusing a child which is unacceptable, let alone a child that isn't even hers. Being pretty doesn't make it acceptable. Who raised you?
@@teresapren3266 Are you relating to her?
Cause she didn't let that little girl speak.She kept on cutting her while
talking.
Also she isn't allowed to have a snack and call her mom before doing chores after school?
On school days she should not have any chores because after a LOMG SCHOOL DAY she has a WHOLE BUNCH OF HOMEWORKHOMEWORKS TO DO,while step mom is at home.On weekends she could have chores but not school day.I know staying at home is a lot for the step mom,but at the same time she needs to UNDERSTAND THAT THIS LITTLE GIRL GETS TIRED after long days in class.Also she has to call her mom to let her know that she got home safely too.Step mom IS NOT SUPPOSED TO OPPOSE.
If it was her,wouldn't she want to know if her kids got home safely????
So please.
This makes me soooooo glad Im single and HAPPILY divorced for 41 years!!!!!
It shouldn’t lol
Im sorry to hear that.
Yes Lord
You're both fighting in front of the children 😢.
I thought that. No wonder the stepdaughter is getting an attitude when all she sees every day is attitude and arguing. Go in the other room, ffs. And don't use the kids to "prove" who's right and who's wrong by dragging them into the middle of it
That poor infant being blasted in her moms arms can't feel good.
The refrigerator thing is crazy. They went without a fridge for four weeks? He bought a snow mobile? Only after “it didn’t work” did he feel bad? Are you kidding? Of course she’s going to sometimes squirrel away money. She feels like she’s trapped and she is a victim of financial abuse.
They did not go without a fridge because he bought a snowmobile.. they went without a fridge because she wanted a GTX and was supposed to sell her motorcycle to help fund it, but SHE DIDN'T.. she can't manage money and wonders why he has to take control of the finances. I know better than to ask my husband to buy me a car when he's still paying off my motorcycle 🙄 she needs to quit playing the victim because she brought a lot of this on herself. I don't agree with them calling each other names, but that stems from the fact that she resents him for having to ask for money.. but she put herself there; someone has to make sure the bills get paid, and it won't be her!
Stepmother you have to give your stepdaughter a break, maybe don't keep reminding her to do her chores
If she would do her chores, she would not need to be reminded
You also have to remember that step daughter has a mother that doesn’t accept the new marriage. Lots of nuances
@RebeccaAdcock-rl6xl Yep. And she knows what she's doing by asking for a snack while she's supposed to be doing chores. She's stalling. Trying to avoid. Lol!! I'm not saying she doesn't deserve a quick snack and then back to it, though.
The first woman: "I agree, yes I know, I thought this too, absolutely", to everything Dr. Phil says. We all know she didn't, or she would have done things differently, she just wants to be right.
this is one of the best videos I watched from dr Phil, probably because I admire his way of talking to the couple , esp. thrird one. With strictness, yet respect, with humor yet with wisdom, and I wish everyone could have an inner voice as this of dr Phils :) that would be awesome!!
They are both too immature.
I agree w/this statement,100%💯
the last couple, yes.. the first one has hope.. she's overwhelmed.. he got tired of being the solo parent, and the step mom is put in charge of everything.. so he can drink..
This makes me so happy my man is not a money bully. Im a stay at home mom and that would be so emotionally abusive. I also dont drain my husbands accounts though
I don't have any finances coming in for various reasons. Haven't for the past year. My husband took up more hours at his second job to support me and our son. If I ever need anything, I just have to ask. He's never once said no to me about something unless he genuinely can't afford it, and even then, he'll say when he can do it and apologise profusely in the meantime. I am grateful that I don't have to worry about not being provided for or worry about having to ask for anything. And like you, I don't take the piss and ask for things that I don't need like expensive luxuries. I'm happy and well taken care of as a SAHM
Get rid of that stepmom. You're little girl deserves better. Don't get why he had 2 kids with this women. Let her go.
Parents CANNOT be divided on how to correct their children. This is a huge problem with remarriages with children. Look up the divorce rates for second marriages with children it is staggering.
If you aren't getting along in your marriage, why did you have more children together?
People believe a baby will save a dying relationship and while it may bring a bit of joy it adds more strain.
My husband and I are going to be married 53 years this September…….we only knew each other for 6 months 😅
Congratulations...Very " rare" these days...🎉
58 years coming up..17 and 18. Not always smooth for sure
Tom called the money, “my money.” It’s for the family and therefore our money
I'm sorry but why exactly is April worried about an 11 year old girls weight when she should clearly be worried about her own?
Go to work instead of depending on him.
He is a bully.
You mean she is a bully
It's so hard mixing families😢
The problem is he's not supporting her as the other parent and disagreeing in front of that child only makes her think it's ok for her not to listen to her stepmother
@@aramisbarnes8345thanQ! everyone dumping on the step-mom.. shes a very decent, concerned woman..! she loves him! and the daughter..
It is but that's why the parents have 2 always be a team..I come.from 2 blended families and I can tell you they are awesome because our parents set the tone
I hope more people learn that bringing baggage into A new marriage isn't worth all of the misery .
Most of the time it doesn’t work. Too many issues that bring drama with it.
The mother needs to lose weight not the child.
What is wrong with the evil stepmother?? I feel bad for little Ashley cause if u keep treating her like that!! they are gone divorce, he cant keep allowing her to treat her like this!
She talks to Ashley with complete contempt smh
An 11 yr old losing that much weight is not only unhealthy physically but she’s destroying that poor kid’s self esteem
EXCUSE ME BUT FAT KIDS DON’T HAVE SELF ESTEEM! SHE DID THIS CHILD A FAVOR! SHE LOOKS GOOD CAN PLAY SPORTS NOT BE EMBARRASSED WHEN SHES A TEENAGER SHE CAN GO TO DANCES AND FIND NICE DRESSES. TELL ME WHO HAS SELF ESTEEM IF THEY’RE FAT? NO ONE! Children should be taught how to eat properly.
@megangorski...yeah...and it's hardly like the stepmother is twiggy 🤷🏻♀️
Exactly, she is jealous of the child. She needs to watch her own weight
If she lost it safely, 1-2lbs per week, it's not unhealthy. She's not close to underweight now, which means she had 20lbs to lose. I wish my parents had helped me lose 20lbs when I was her age, even though I didn't know I needed to. Chubby kids tend to become fat adults.
The issue _how_ she lost the weight. Not by the adults in her life modeling a healthy diet and regular exercise for the whole family, but by restricting the child's diet. The former will help throughout the kids' lives. The latter will destroy their self esteem and possibly lead to disordered eating not far down the road.
What is unhealthy is that she looks healthy now, but she had to lose 6 pants sizes to get to that weight. As long as it wasn’t 20lbs in a short time, and it was really more like 1/2 lbs a week and lost through mildly increased play/activity and the child was getting nutrient dense whole foods and it wasn’t weaponized or used as a punishment… there’s nothing wrong with focusing on getting your child into a healthy weight range. I think it’s child abuse/neglect to allow your 11 year old to carry around an extra 20+ lbs. that is a LOT of weight on a tiny body.
Edit: idk the situation here or how the parents are. But just making the argument that is “could” have been done with good intentions and in a healthy way.
Of course, everyone is perfect the 1st 6 weeks of knowing them. It takes about 2 years to fully know someone because after that amount of time, you'll see even the parts they've been pretty good at hiding.
My husband and I moved in together after three days, we got married 10 months later and we’ve been happily married for 23 years
You are an exception.
The exception to the rule.
We were both military and married after 3 months. We met after my deployment and he happened to get stationed at my home base while I was gone.
Now married 17 years and through 6 deployments and multiple TDYS and now both retired in our final home. ❤
It definitely wasn’t easy but we stuck with it. We have one child who is 15 and on the spectrum.
@@bobbimaureen9353 congratulations! We have three beautiful girls who are now in college.
Why are they arguing with an 11yr old. Act like parents and tell ur child what their supposed to do . But dam don't argue with ur kid😮
Why I feel bad for the stepchild that’s not right parenting based on just what you see and I’m not even a parent to do chores before you have a snack or in order to call your mother ?!! Wtf right does she have to say that she doesn’t even say it nicely .. she’s definitely not trying to have nice loving relationship with her stepdaughter ..
Ashley should relax. She won’t be her stepdaughter for long.
Second couple? Why didn't she get a job. Why wait around for money from your husband.
3 kids, how?
Just like everyone else who has kids in life does! I'm a single mother and work two jobs and yes some of that goes to child care costs but at least I can take care of myself my bills and anything else I want to save up for without begging a husband for money f that
@@susanbeemer4331How she gone pay daycare???? She didnt have money to drive, so How kids will go to day care?
Yes. Get a job like many of us moms. My kids are adults now and they respected that they had two parents who both worked hard to provide for them. It’s not that difficult- and it can be balanced and organized and fun
it looks like she lives in po-dunk minnesota or oklahoma or some other rural area that has limited financial opportunity.. good grief he buys snowmobiles and 4 runners calls her names and shes supposed to get wet over that..? doesnt look like they do anything together.. hes not tending his garden and she has zero discipline.. they need to instill Trust, otherwise call it quits and she will get child support from him..!
but to build together is much wiser financially..
Best episode I have seen in a long time👏 ❤ Dr. Phil has a lot of heart and understanding.
Thank you to all counselors for helping us be better people.
The kid is a grade A student why are they being so mean to her ?
There’s other things
What part of thats her stepchild does she not get. Its not her child to yell at, tell what to do, treat her like she is her child. Her job is to be a strong adult that has good ears, good advice, and loving arms. Not a big mouth, yelling and screaming, ignoring her and saying she doesnt listen to her. She doesnt have to you are not the parent.
Stepmom is a glorified Drill Sergeant. Her mothering skills are something to be desired!
Amen, and if she is that bad in front of her husband I have to wonder how bad she is when he is not around?
This man Tom is a louse, he holds the purse strings in this marriage. There is no love left in their marriage, and no trust, only hate left.
Stepmom is abusive to Ashley. Her father needs to step up and protect his daughter.
Step mom's a monster! How DARE she speak to someone else' child like that. What kind of animal bullies CHILDREN! There is NO excuse for her behavior.
Animals don’t bully children, but humans do.
The one with the issues is that first evil stepmother. Is it April?? Chris should leave and take that poor girl with him!! In fact all the children need to go with him. April is a nasty horrid person!!
Agreed
A liter is about 34 oz. A shot is about 1-2 oz. Average is about 1.5 oz and that’s a good pour at a bar. If he’s drinking 1 liter a week (sometimes two) that’s an average of about 3-4 drinks a day. That’s not 3-4 5% beers. Thats liquor. A completely different “buzz” in my opinion. One drink a day, maybe you don’t have a problem. 3-4 drinks with liquor… 😬
Omg! Poor Ashley! Get that monster step mom away from this poor child!
I feel sorry for the children because they are seeing all the arguments which is damaging. I'm blessed to have had two loving parents who kept any disagreements between just them and who always respected each other.
I married my first husband after 6 weeks ,and everything was fine, but yes, I did not know enough about him before i married him, and unfortunately, he committed suicide on July 12th,1991.
😭😭😭😭
I am so sorry. 😞 😔
I hope you have found Peace.
I may have misinterpreted the crying emojis.
I’m
So
Sorry
Sad but it happens 😢 I married a man who seemed lovely. Turned out he was raised in a cult, was sexually abused, etc etc. he ended up being abusive since I had had a beautiful childhood. I had to pay for his misfortunes
Sorry
Oh dear, I’m glad I don’t live next to this family
Poor Ashley having to witness all the fights. You do not do that in front of children. Barking orders at her is not right either. The next couple should not be married at all.
He’s smiling 🙂 grinning ear to ear
Chris needs to remember that his first priority is to his daughter. Period.
Tbh, I wish my parents enforced healthy eating when I was young. I think it would have saved me a lot of turmoil as an adult
Maybe not "enforced" - that can bring it's own set of issues 😢
You'd just have a differently bad relationship with food and resentment
So Tom buys stuff left and right and doesn’t care if he’s in debt but says she’s bad with money. Am I missing something?
She is jealous of that little girl. Her facial expressions speak volumes when Dr. Phil started giving the little girl accolades.
Don't fight in front of your children!!!!!!!!!
Since this stepmom is complaining about her stepdaughter's weight...why doesn't SHE lose HER extra wight(?)
My husband and I had 35 years together. One of the many things on which we agreed was to always be “scrupulously polite” to one another.
If I were Ashley's mom, I would be taking this video my the court and show them how Ashley is being treated.
Good luck on him stopping drinking. The 2nd couple I can see why he would not want her handling the money. 20 years living like that? I don't understand why they are still together.
OH AFTER HE BUYS 4 WHEELERS AND MOTORCYCLES AND HOLDS A FRIDGE VACK HES DISGUSTING
I feel sorry for the kids. Divirce and go your seperate ways before you damage these kids.
U both know you’re in a losing battle!!! CUT THE CORD !!!
My second marriage, never let my new husband rear, or raise . We both had two from our previous marriage, took us five years to blend that family together before we got married, and every time we ever had an argument was over the difference of how he raised his children as opposed to how I raised mine, never let him support my children I supported my children, and for the first couple years every time we broke up, it was disagreements about our children, but it took us five years and I’m glad we waited
When you start calling each other nasty names and curse at each other , you have lost all respect for each other. Walk away.
I think the stepmother is jealous and acts like Ashley is trying to compete with her. Pitiful.
Nah. She’s just doesn’t know what to do. She definitely messing it up tho, but the dynamics are horribly wrong.
I love watching Dr. Phil.
Anyone would have a drinking problem with her
My daughter and I had fights at Ashley’s age all the time. So I think her rebellious behavior is just normal.
Regardless to say stepmom and father need to „improve“.
So first of all, why is stepmom even in charge of raising Ashley? My daughter has a stepmom. I made it very clear to come with issues to me to resolve them as a team.
Poor baby having to listen to all of it
Rude step mom, this mom is unhappy, let her go, she helped her step kid lose weight. 20 lbs. , why hasnt she?
I think the first couple can make it if they get family counseling, I just think that they don’t know which way or what to do. I think they still care about each other and I hope that they’re able to get what they need and be successful in their marriage.
The second one is a bad situation and he keeps using the term my money, my money, which really is not just his money. He says it’s what she does, he doesn’t say what he does is wrong, his whole mindset is totally totally off
They both just need to stop treating each other and the teenaged girl like the enemy. Its not good for any of the children. And the not seeing eye to eye on parenting is still no reason to have that conversation in front of the kids or attack the kid over it.
April isn’t a skinny Minnie, how is she shaming this kid about her weight?!?
11 year olds are like cats who are in their bedrooms and sometimes venture out to eat. Just give her a total break. She needs space to grow up and test her parents and push limits and most importantly still get love even though she is not perfect...this child needs unconditional true love and an arguement free life without watching arguing day and night!!!
First lady us pure evil. Poor ashley
It's NOT a matter of who's right.... but rather, it's a matter of what's right.
Sad- they don’t share and fighting over little stuff. The adult children need more attention. I hear lifestyle differences at minimum.
The step mom is Toxic, jealousy and very unstable 😂😂😂 poor little girl.
My husband and I have a blended family of 7 kids. I always went to his ex for problems with my husband’s kids and he went to my ex. Been married for 23 years and have 13 grandkids. We all still get together for important family events. Open communication and not arguing with kids present.
That girl should not be talked to that way it’s disgusting 😂
If he fell asleep while your kids were about to open up christmas presents, why didnt you (or the kids) WAKE HIM UP?!
My maternal grandmother said the wedding was just a day. She made the cake that morning(she wasn't one for waiting until the last minute) She was married for over 38 years, happily married! They married on Mother's Day!
Poor kid. Why make this child lose weight in the first place? She's a pretty little girl.