Affairs of the Heart | FULL EPISODE | Dr. Phil

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  • @drphil
    @drphil  4 місяці тому +5

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  • @Donutlove4ever
    @Donutlove4ever 6 місяців тому +401

    This poor guy is stuck in an abusive marrige. He needs more help than she does, he does not think he is worthy of good treatment. Its heartbreaking

    • @RHathemoment
      @RHathemoment 6 місяців тому +8

      Absolutely. 💔

    • @anaharo6587
      @anaharo6587 5 місяців тому +1

      Poor gay? He is an idiot!

    • @roozief9349
      @roozief9349 3 дні тому

      Yes and thank you for saying

  • @Good-n-yew
    @Good-n-yew 5 місяців тому +82

    Dr Phil is DESTROYING her and I'm loving every second of it.

  • @calgal5752
    @calgal5752 6 місяців тому +577

    He is married to an immature child. She should have lost her state license for her behavior with a patient in her care!

    • @karenwhite4141
      @karenwhite4141 6 місяців тому +10

      She's only a cna...not a nurse.

    • @calgal5752
      @calgal5752 6 місяців тому

      @@karenwhite4141 CNA’s in every state are licensed! They must fulfill educational hours and renew their licenses annually. They are required to abide by the same ethics rules as nurses.

    • @helpstupidpeople1
      @helpstupidpeople1 6 місяців тому +15

      ​@karenwhite4141 you still need a license.

    • @calgal5752
      @calgal5752 6 місяців тому +14

      @@karenwhite4141 All states require a CNA to have a license! They must fulfill educational requirements and annual licensing. They must adhere to all ethics rules like nurses do!

    • @RennieAufdemstein
      @RennieAufdemstein 6 місяців тому

      Immature, stuck at 16, and raising 3 more just like her by her horrible, abusive example.

  • @donnakinder6342
    @donnakinder6342 6 місяців тому +89

    My heart hurts for Randy. He’s a great guy & she is horrible. He needs to leave her, she’s never going to change. He deserves so much better.

    •  2 місяці тому +1

      Totally. Now, she knows what she has to say (promise to change, ...) to keep him with her & to continue to have fun with him. She's a man hater, I think !

  • @xjcrossx
    @xjcrossx 6 місяців тому +203

    Gotta say, that's dude's friend is a real one. Instead of accepting her advances and her love letter, he told his friend. A lot of "friends" would have been all about an affair.

    • @Corinacc825
      @Corinacc825 6 місяців тому +10

      💯

    • @loralieisa
      @loralieisa 3 місяці тому +6

      His friend is like him, a decent man.

  • @suepowell2097
    @suepowell2097 6 місяців тому +42

    He deserves so much better. No mention of what their children might be going through.

  • @kathleenmccarthy8418
    @kathleenmccarthy8418 6 місяців тому +657

    She respects no one, including herself. This will not change. He should move on asap.

    • @judytelles3518
      @judytelles3518 6 місяців тому

      She is feeling unattractive and needs attention. He has lost jobs because of his behaviour, putting their financial security in danger and he is stalking her. She isnt that attractive and getting older, what does he think she is, Venus. The man has lost his mind, he was in military, Typical controlling. She should get out .

    • @michelletapiadesigns1933
      @michelletapiadesigns1933 6 місяців тому +14

      It seems like she is proud of it. Narcissistic.

    • @florenbaron7111
      @florenbaron7111 6 місяців тому +8

      Lack of accountability. She is an example of why millions of men choose to never get married. Many choose to not even commit.

    • @catherinenelson4239
      @catherinenelson4239 6 місяців тому +9

      Move on, save the children!

    • @moonflowerrose2714
      @moonflowerrose2714 5 місяців тому

      Lol.i think the exact same thing about men. Can't trust them. ​@florenbaron7111

  • @idkausername4035
    @idkausername4035 6 місяців тому +31

    This poor man is so self-aware and self analytical that it makes me wanna cry. He is literally finding faults in himself that don’t even exist. Raising his voice asking, how do I let go of the past made me want to scream the problem is you can’t let go of the past if it isn’t the past. She is asking him to trust her while the poor guy is still coughing up water from the last time she let him sink.

  • @user-cy4vw1qj9m
    @user-cy4vw1qj9m 6 місяців тому +693

    She has no respect for her husband.

    • @deniseporter944
      @deniseporter944 6 місяців тому +6

      NONE

    • @deniseporter944
      @deniseporter944 6 місяців тому +10

      And she is Ms McNasty

    • @feven.leul6287
      @feven.leul6287 6 місяців тому +12

      She has no respect for herself too.

    • @donasargon1593
      @donasargon1593 6 місяців тому +5

      And no respect for herself too, shame on her.

    • @florenbaron7111
      @florenbaron7111 6 місяців тому

      Unfortunately, these days, there are MANY women like her, which is one of the reasons I will NEVER marry.

  • @mandykitson7039
    @mandykitson7039 5 місяців тому +28

    that's actually one of the first times i really admired Dr phil s knowledge and ability to speak right to the point - it was really good

  • @karinascosta1218
    @karinascosta1218 6 місяців тому +363

    She screamed “I don’t love you. Go away” and he STILL doesn’t understand that? BELIEVE WHAT THEY TELL YOU WHEN THEY TELL YOU.

    • @darleendavis2352
      @darleendavis2352 6 місяців тому

      He's a simp...yuck

    • @pookiemang
      @pookiemang 6 місяців тому +12

      Yepp don’t let someone tell you they don’t love you twice🙁 I hope he finds someone who loves him back

    • @thecongenital3035
      @thecongenital3035 6 місяців тому +11

      But then she says she doesn't want to replace him. It's the money only he brings in that keeps her with him. She's for the damn streets.

    • @Corinacc825
      @Corinacc825 6 місяців тому

      ​@@thecongenital3035💯💯💯

    • @shantalmcnally6427
      @shantalmcnally6427 6 місяців тому +7

      Right?!? When people snow you who they are, believe them!

  • @CelesteCPY
    @CelesteCPY 6 місяців тому +28

    Hes so handsome and seems like a well level guy , and that voice!!! its sad that he is trying trying and doesnt accept the fact that she doesnt love him the way he deserve

  • @catherineblinsky674
    @catherineblinsky674 6 місяців тому +357

    She is unfaithful by all of her actions. She does not love him and he does not deserve to be treated this way. No self-respecting man would accept this behavior from his wife. It needs to end, they do not have a marriage.

    • @juditszabo8751
      @juditszabo8751 6 місяців тому +23

      You are absolutely right.

    • @lowrider81hd
      @lowrider81hd 6 місяців тому

      I don’t believe her when she says it’s just emotional. I bet you she had her cheeks clapped with multiple guys.

    • @florenbaron7111
      @florenbaron7111 6 місяців тому +15

      But she stays to leacch resources off of him. Viile.

    • @mikewebber2637
      @mikewebber2637 5 місяців тому +7

      When you love someone as much as he seems to love her, walking away is really hard.

    • @loralieisa
      @loralieisa 3 місяці тому

      @@mikewebber2637 He can find somebody who loves him back and maybe a little better looking than ms. flirt to get him interested.

  • @gregorycarlson6632
    @gregorycarlson6632 5 місяців тому +15

    I’m a Professional, and I have been working with situations like this for over 30 years. The woman is lying through her teeth. Every single one of these “emotional” affairs are not just emotional but physical. This woman is seriously mentally ill. I honestly don’t know why he’s still there. He needs to divorce her as soon as possible. He needs to get a good attorney and get custody of his kids.

  • @karinascosta1218
    @karinascosta1218 6 місяців тому +442

    She is such a horrible wife. She doesn’t love him, she doesn’t like him, she doesn’t want to be with him AT ALL! Wake up dude

    • @laura-annebauer7747
      @laura-annebauer7747 6 місяців тому +8

      And she pulls away when he tries physical contact

    • @BlueyKind
      @BlueyKind 6 місяців тому +6

      @@laura-annebauer7747 Because his physical contact is controlling. Not that I blame him.

    • @mandyC0re7
      @mandyC0re7 6 місяців тому +2

      She likes her lifestyle ……

    • @mandyC0re7
      @mandyC0re7 6 місяців тому +3

      @@BlueyKindthat too

    • @sheilaschneider2091
      @sheilaschneider2091 6 місяців тому

      Dump her dude now. Your young and handsome. Take the kids, 🏃‍♀️

  • @ashleyrsai26
    @ashleyrsai26 6 місяців тому +19

    This lady has an answer and an excuse for everything. And so does he, for her!

  • @MagdaNortje
    @MagdaNortje 6 місяців тому +794

    He must leave her, he deserves better

    • @olegal
      @olegal 6 місяців тому +30

      He knows He would have to pay a fortune in child support and alimony.
      He does deserve so much better!

    • @aliciacarstensen7904
      @aliciacarstensen7904 6 місяців тому +43

      Agreed. Worth every penny. Tragic she's so unloyal and he's too loyal. I could only dream of dating a man like this. I'm so sorry brother

    • @skibee421
      @skibee421 6 місяців тому +28

      @@olegal just show this tape to the judge. PRESTO
      now she pays child support -no alimony after what she does
      to the family!

    • @kennethbaker5223
      @kennethbaker5223 6 місяців тому +5

      @@skibee421 If they live in a no-fault state, that would not be relevant.

    • @andreaschneider8050
      @andreaschneider8050 6 місяців тому

      😊

  • @AngeeMatos
    @AngeeMatos 6 місяців тому +17

    This chic had no empathy toward her husband and children when Dr. Phil told her she is about to lose EVERYTHING. She just shook her head.

  • @debbiem6406
    @debbiem6406 6 місяців тому +150

    When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

  • @cbk7744
    @cbk7744 6 місяців тому +64

    She's a psychopath or sociopath... she needs help. Husband needs help too... he's suffering from PTSD and low self esteem. He needs to separate from her to get this help

    • @sarahcomerford4607
      @sarahcomerford4607 6 місяців тому +8

      I agree. This poor guy thinks everything is his fault.

    • @Tpina305
      @Tpina305 5 місяців тому +8

      @@sarahcomerford4607the poor guy? We all have choices as well. He lost jobs because he is following her around - when is enough, enough?

  • @saspredydious9295
    @saspredydious9295 6 місяців тому +229

    Many women spend our lives looking for a man like Randy. A man able to commit. To connect! A man with intelligence, integrity and empathy.
    Amanda will rue the day she doesn’t do everything necessary to keep this marriage alive.
    There are beautiful strong women out there with extremely high standards who would snap Randy up in an instant. Yet he’s devoted to you and the kids, Amanda!

    • @Helen-vb7pv
      @Helen-vb7pv 6 місяців тому +8

      I totally agree

    • @Isak.a
      @Isak.a 6 місяців тому

      Women don't like nice guy. In womens eyes a nice guy is a weak man and women hate weak man. It is always better when the women is more into you than you are into her. If a woman knows your are not walking a way she will keep doing bullish

    • @nathalievienneau6864
      @nathalievienneau6864 6 місяців тому +14

      Yeah, but men like Randy end up with women like her, and good women end up with men that do that too, and thats why the best of em are unavailable

    • @flenzy
      @flenzy 6 місяців тому +10

      @@nathalievienneau6864 Randy picks a woman like that to fulfill his (dysfunctional) need to make him feel the way he actually feels about himself inside.

    • @Birgitta123
      @Birgitta123 6 місяців тому +8

      I would love a date with him! 😍

  • @KeeKooKee
    @KeeKooKee 6 місяців тому +17

    His best friend has more loyalty 😢

  • @bronwyn117
    @bronwyn117 6 місяців тому +282

    OMG, who in the world would put up with her. He should have left the the minute he found out about her trying to seduce his friend.

    • @signemoland4848
      @signemoland4848 6 місяців тому +6

      Thats just a new low 😅😂 like wtf was that about.

    • @margaretsmith8999
      @margaretsmith8999 4 місяці тому +1

      Or giving oral to a patient in her care. If she was working in a psyc ward she would know how to push Randy's buttons to breaking point. I think that this is exactly what she has been doing and making him believe that it is all his fault. Never hers. Imagine how she can mess with her daughters heads if she even get visitation if he gets the kids.

  • @paigefay8633
    @paigefay8633 6 місяців тому +17

    He deserves SO much better!
    He seems like he fits most women’s idea of a perfect partner. AND he looks like Keanu Reeves!
    Swoon! I hope he leaves her in the dust.

  • @Megan-1017
    @Megan-1017 6 місяців тому +201

    Poor Randy , what a good man

  • @brendapatt7712
    @brendapatt7712 6 місяців тому +10

    I've been married to my best friend for 35 years. Without trust, there is no foundation.

  • @MaryLov113
    @MaryLov113 6 місяців тому +191

    What a waste of energy being worried, anxious, and hurt 24/7. Get rid of toxic people who have no loyalty and respect for you or the marriage. Absolutely gross. Leave and get happy. Find a new horizon.

  • @xandra_5099
    @xandra_5099 6 місяців тому +17

    She has the mindset of a child. She is not going to change and she has definitely been physically intimate with others 😅

    • @maddybertani8161
      @maddybertani8161 6 місяців тому +2

      You're absolutely right. There wouldn't have been an accusation of oral with her patient, which led to her dismissal, if it didn't happen! If she was innocent, she'd have fought it surely. Definitely been intimate with other guys.

  • @GodzillaNerdGirl111
    @GodzillaNerdGirl111 6 місяців тому +318

    God to have a husband who is so determined to stay and work things out and is so protective of his family and shows his weakness and breaking point. She has no idea how lucky she is. Her husband is such a sweet attractive and wonderful man I’d love to have someone like him in my life

    • @suebrurell5282
      @suebrurell5282 6 місяців тому +30

      he is in denial. I was there. He thinks maybe he is at fault here when he said ' I am afraid of being too controlling'. He is doubting himself.

    • @gloriaanngomez3238
      @gloriaanngomez3238 6 місяців тому +3

      Tell me!!! 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻😊

    • @KaylaBuhdayla
      @KaylaBuhdayla 6 місяців тому +27

      He is lovely. He would make someone a wonderful husband and deserves a wonderful wife. I would love to have someone like him to call mine. Such a good man. She needs someone who enjoys an open marriage or just be single and join a swingers club. That’s okay too. Do you Boo, but don’t drag your loving husband through this grief.

    • @RennieAufdemstein
      @RennieAufdemstein 6 місяців тому +6

      I agree. I have a lovely daughter, widowed young, who would love to find a man like this.

    • @florenbaron7111
      @florenbaron7111 6 місяців тому +6

      She is just using him for resources, the double dating strategy many unethical women commit these days.

  • @Chantelle24
    @Chantelle24 5 місяців тому +5

    I would cherish and love this man in a heartbeat. She doesn’t deserve him.😢

  • @purgatoriprytania5382
    @purgatoriprytania5382 6 місяців тому +365

    Emotional affairs are far worse than sexual ones.

    • @grammar4341
      @grammar4341 6 місяців тому +31

      I agree. I was able to get over my ex husband’s infidelity sexually but not the telling her I love you and looking for ways to talk to her. Sorry, that was two different women.

    • @riseagain9677
      @riseagain9677 6 місяців тому

      Bible says otherwise. Adultery is intercourse not hot best friends your mate doesn’t want you to have

    • @tammieschaffer4818
      @tammieschaffer4818 6 місяців тому +20

      I think so, too. However, I think men think sexual affairs are worse. At least my husband does. Duh 🙄🥴🤣🤣🤣

    • @purgatoriprytania5382
      @purgatoriprytania5382 6 місяців тому +16

      @@tammieschaffer4818 For the record, I am a man, but I definitely agree: Most of us think sexual affairs are worse. I'm not sure why lol

    • @black_mountain_death_squad
      @black_mountain_death_squad 6 місяців тому +36

      ​​​​@@purgatoriprytania5382I think it's the perception, because sexual intercourse is viewed differently by men and women.
      A woman is allowing something to be done to her. A man is giving and a female is receiving. That's how I see it.
      Adultery is repulsive either way. Emotionally or physically, doesn't matter. They're both considered cheating, imo.

  • @mindyhetrick9273
    @mindyhetrick9273 6 місяців тому +8

    I have a couple male friends I grew up with, now 56 yrs old. They have spouses and I do too. There was never any intimacy with my buddies. We speak on Facebook, messenger and meet up occasionally for dinner but its all of us together. I'm not going to toss away 40 yrs of friendship over someone else's insecurities. The key is to be transparent and inclusive. Also, respect boundaries and your partner. Keep control of your hormones.

    • @Echidna7095
      @Echidna7095 6 місяців тому

      Agree. I see someone else here talking about her husbands "best" (female) friend. Where did people ever get the idea that is appropriate / workable in a relationship. Human nature just doesn't work that way and it's either extremely naive or arrogant to ignore this reality

  • @bonnieanderson1029
    @bonnieanderson1029 6 місяців тому +219

    RANDY, GET RID OF HER

  • @Scubidu-ni6ny
    @Scubidu-ni6ny 5 місяців тому +4

    If I couldn’t trust my husband I wouldn’t stay married to him. We’ve been married forty five years and I’ve never doubted his loyalty and love at any time.

  • @libbypaige6160
    @libbypaige6160 6 місяців тому +84

    "They didn't have any proof" Freudian slip there 😂

    • @margaretsmith8999
      @margaretsmith8999 4 місяці тому

      What do they need a video recording? A hotel company in Australia has just gotten into trouble as they played video recordings of such goings on in the hotel's elavators at a company function to employees. Signs all over the properties saying video recording in progress.....

  • @texastreat8721
    @texastreat8721 6 місяців тому +3

    Doctor Phil is so right.

  • @nessae354
    @nessae354 6 місяців тому +115

    The problem is that he can't give her the attention she needs because it has to come from other men and it has to feel forbidden. She likes to feel desired and excited because she gets validation from external sources and not from internally. Shes a sociopath narcissist or has borderline personality disorder who places her desires over her own husband, her kids, a psych patient, her job. Look at her talking all nonchalantly and sweet as if shes being honest and open. Shes a raging sociopath. The other problem is that emailing and flirting and having lunch may be innocent, but doing those things brings someone closer to doing things that are inappropriate. We covet what we see every day, and she's a predator of sorts. Sadly, there's nothing her husband can do. She is the problem. No matter who she's with, they won't be enough. Shes using her husband, and every other dude she messes around with to feed her ego.

    • @LLMC968
      @LLMC968 6 місяців тому +18

      You couldn’t have said it any better😢

    • @kimberlys.7097
      @kimberlys.7097 6 місяців тому +12

      Her cold dead eyes give her away

    • @lilaworley8935
      @lilaworley8935 6 місяців тому +16

      Perfectly articulated. I completely agree with your perception of her.

    • @wonipowa7542
      @wonipowa7542 6 місяців тому +11

      yes, even the tendency towards alcoholism/substance abuse - is an attribute of sociopaths...this is so unfortunate. How many women would love to be a stay at home mom with 3 kids, a husband former military, who is willing to do everything to take care of you and your kids and provide a stable life? She's shockingly ungrateful.

    • @florenbaron7111
      @florenbaron7111 6 місяців тому

      She is only still with him to use him for his resources. She most likely married for profit.

  • @M350-j3f
    @M350-j3f 6 місяців тому +11

    An emotional affair is no big deal for her. This woman is sick in head and has no respect for her husband.

  • @elizabethcompton738
    @elizabethcompton738 6 місяців тому +185

    WHY TF is he still with her? This is no way to live!

    • @jojobee42
      @jojobee42 6 місяців тому +7

      When he told about his childhood it all made sense...

    • @jojobee42
      @jojobee42 6 місяців тому +2

      When he told about his childhood it all made sense...

    • @Nate_Burre
      @Nate_Burre 6 місяців тому

      He still with her, cause he's madly in love with her. To him, she's the most amazing beautiful woman ever. He doesn't see her the way the rest of us do, as a no good for nothing trifling hoe

    • @anacristinaanderson
      @anacristinaanderson 6 місяців тому

      He is feminine 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @hungle8642
    @hungle8642 6 місяців тому +11

    That’s what divorce for! 😂

  • @normaapines1871
    @normaapines1871 6 місяців тому +93

    How painful for the husband!! She doesn't deserve him at all!! What in the world is WRONG with this woman?! I hate all the excuses and lies coming out from her mouth.

  • @logical_evidence
    @logical_evidence 6 місяців тому +11

    Why is it that good men get stuck with women whom dont want them?.

  • @markclark8259
    @markclark8259 6 місяців тому +133

    She cares NOTHING about you man. Lifes too short.

    • @florenbaron7111
      @florenbaron7111 6 місяців тому +5

      But she stays to leacch his resources.

  • @mississlippi
    @mississlippi 6 місяців тому +4

    I wish I had seen this around the ages 17-19. I hope this man found peace.

  • @aydinseyedi825
    @aydinseyedi825 6 місяців тому +110

    I was very truthful, except when I wasn’t

  • @nanellevantonder3767
    @nanellevantonder3767 6 місяців тому +73

    "Fun and flirting" with others, do not belong in a marriage.

    • @margaretsmith8999
      @margaretsmith8999 4 місяці тому +4

      Doing oral on a patient in her care is not flirting. I believe she was lying when she said she didn't do it.

    • @loralieisa
      @loralieisa 3 місяці тому +3

      To proposition his friend was a real low move on her part. She probably goes after anything with more than two legs.

  • @rhondaleeta8367
    @rhondaleeta8367 6 місяців тому +7

    He's too good for her. She's plain, she's lucky he even wants her. I think I've seen this episode before. Hope this guy moved on and found someone to truly love him.

  • @N1NJ4B345T
    @N1NJ4B345T 6 місяців тому +91

    This man tried everything except leaving her, which is probably the only thing that would have worked. I imagine her side-flings were only compelling because of their forbidden-ness, and because she felt secure in her marriage. Taking away the relationship probably would have ruined the whole experience for her.

    • @shrutefarms4741
      @shrutefarms4741 6 місяців тому +4

      100%. When, (if he ever can get the self esteem to do this)he leaves her, she will cry and beg for him to come back and it’ll start all over again. Leave for good guy.

    • @Corinacc825
      @Corinacc825 6 місяців тому

      WELL SAID !!

    • @florenbaron7111
      @florenbaron7111 6 місяців тому

      She is just with him to use him for his resources. Many women do this. It's called the double mating strategy, which only pertains to women. They find a man to leachh off of and then other men for sssexual satisfaction. I have seen this too many times which is one of the reasons I choose to never marry.

  • @CrazyDogMom2
    @CrazyDogMom2 2 місяці тому +2

    This guy deserves sooooo much better.

  • @AR-gg2su
    @AR-gg2su 6 місяців тому +55

    She should never work with patients. He needs to leave her, take the children and move far away. He needs to respect himself. She is a narcissist

  • @buffyranger6355
    @buffyranger6355 6 місяців тому +2

    I was in a relationship just like this. We went to councing, and I tried to work on our marriage. After 6 months i knew i would be looking over my shoulder the rest of my life. I divorced him and moved on. It will hurt but you will be a peace in the end.

  • @gina1280
    @gina1280 6 місяців тому +60

    Yikes. What a mess! Sometimes when i am considering dating, i watch stuff like this and feel blessed i am celibate and safe❤

    • @skibee421
      @skibee421 6 місяців тому +3

      stay strong,sister ~*

    • @ThiHoang-rj4oc
      @ThiHoang-rj4oc 6 місяців тому +6

      Dating is just using each other up until one gets sick of the other and finds a new one to use up. Find someone with the same morals,beliefs and life goals as yourself for the long run to be fruitful. Look at their actions,not their words.

    • @oliviastofberg6084
      @oliviastofberg6084 6 місяців тому +4

      That's sad, that woman is sick, not all women are that way, you will find a good woman just pray about it 🇿🇦

    • @florenbaron7111
      @florenbaron7111 6 місяців тому

      Yeah, I don't trust women. I will never get married. These days it's a man trap.

  • @sarahcomerford4607
    @sarahcomerford4607 6 місяців тому +3

    The saddest part of this story is the husband thinks that he isn't doing enough, and it is his fault.

  • @suebrurell5282
    @suebrurell5282 6 місяців тому +46

    This hero deserves so much better. He must have low self esteem, he is clinging on to her still. He even is doubting himself. He has to leave before she destroys him.

    • @a.phillips6892
      @a.phillips6892 6 місяців тому +6

      He’s a very attractive man. Imagine how she’d feel if the roles were reversed.

    • @florenbaron7111
      @florenbaron7111 6 місяців тому

      She clearly finds pleasure in his pain. Sociopathhh.

    • @virginiasoskin9082
      @virginiasoskin9082 5 місяців тому

      He does have low self-esteem due to his horrible childhood. So he is trying to hold this marriage all together by himself because he really wants it to work -- it has been his dream to have a fulfilling marriage. But she is afraid of intimacy as Dr. Phil says. It is impossible for her to accept love from a man who wants a deep bond. Instead, she seeks risky behavior because it does not require of her any in-depth long-term intimacy except possible quickies here and there with lots of exciting eye-contact and finally talking to a guy she has had her eye on for weeks. Very much like middle schoolers -- riding the surface of relationships with no commitment, no lasting requirements. Both need therapy -- he to deal with the PTSD he has from his horrible childhood with sicko parents and she to find out why she is so afraid of intimacy and marital commitment. I hope he divorced her to save himself, and got custody of the kids. No kid needs a mother who can't keep her hands off the town's men.

  • @marblefox9114
    @marblefox9114 Місяць тому +3

    Good for Dr.Phil giving her the business. She gives me Jodi arias vibes lowkey.

  • @doorattachment6926
    @doorattachment6926 6 місяців тому +39

    He deserves so much better

  • @allisonrae4828
    @allisonrae4828 4 місяці тому +2

    Men like him are rare - As a divorced 45 year old woman from an extremely abusive relationship - I'd scoop him up in a heartbeat ❤ - A man that determined, loyal, faithful, trustworthy, THERE as a father and a husband, caring, and loving his wife unconditional are literally unicorns.
    Randy leave her, heal and come to Canada 🇨🇦 ill show you how a REAL high value woman will treat you.

  • @anelgrewe7202
    @anelgrewe7202 6 місяців тому +64

    She got a good husband. Be thankful for him, because one day you are going to regret it.

  • @DMuvvy
    @DMuvvy 17 днів тому +1

    Omg this man is amazing! He’s what most women are dreaming of. He’s working much too hard for this woman. He cannot “fix” this. Only she can. And she doesn’t want to. I hope he walked away. And I pray he’s happy with someone deserving❤️❤️

  • @JudyJonas
    @JudyJonas 6 місяців тому +37

    Amanda do the right thing and let Randy find someone that will be satisfied with what he can give. It's not right to hurt him this way.

  •  2 місяці тому +2

    Dr Phil was absolutely genial in this episode. The guy stays in this marriage because he comes from a dysfunctional family, & we always choose what's familiar, even if it's painful. The wife is borderline narcissist ...

  • @cg9616
    @cg9616 6 місяців тому +58

    Poor man, she is destroying his mental health

    • @hollydespain2593
      @hollydespain2593 5 місяців тому +1

      He's letting her. He needs to leave.

    • @margaretsmith8999
      @margaretsmith8999 4 місяці тому +1

      And as she is working as a psyc nurse, she would know how to do it. Imagine if he leaves and she takes the kids. If she can't mess with his head, she will mess with theirs....

  • @sungirl2656
    @sungirl2656 Місяць тому +2

    She knows he won't leave, I'll take him and never leave the house without him, he's great 😃

  • @gargoylz100
    @gargoylz100 6 місяців тому +11

    This man deserves so much more. She has no idea what it means to love anyone.

  • @Birgitta123
    @Birgitta123 6 місяців тому +10

    Her eyes tell me that she is not willing to stop this behaviour!

  • @onlychas
    @onlychas 6 місяців тому +47

    She will never be Satisfied! He needs to leave her asap!

  • @asiipring
    @asiipring 4 місяці тому +2

    Navy seal saying he's not a quitter. Kudos good sir. He's trying his best to make this work. I hope it all works out for these two. B

  • @henrycole8705
    @henrycole8705 6 місяців тому +45

    What's wrong with this guy? he will never trust her again. Their marriage is over!

    • @BabyLettuce70
      @BabyLettuce70 6 місяців тому +8

      Yeah, he's rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. It's over. She can't grow up,

    • @RoseRose-hp4rq
      @RoseRose-hp4rq 6 місяців тому +1

      They are both odd. What’s he thinking? Is this even real? Come on guyyyyyy😅

    • @RoseRose-hp4rq
      @RoseRose-hp4rq 6 місяців тому +1

      @@BabyLettuce70lol that’s a good one 😂

  • @Tpina305
    @Tpina305 5 місяців тому +4

    She left her father’s house and immediately went with this guy who is 9 years older than her…she has 3 children by him, she clearly did not live a life where she was able to explore and meet other people. This was a recipe for disaster and the fact that people think he’s the victim is insane - he finds out she wants to have an affair with his best friend and that makes him want to control her even more!? He argues in front of their children and has no self control. They are both AWFUL, and should not be together.

    • @wa2k99
      @wa2k99 3 дні тому

      Wow, a bit judgmental

  • @tigerofcopenhagen2225
    @tigerofcopenhagen2225 6 місяців тому +46

    She's too H orny to be loyal. She even initiates the moves. She's always got an excuse for her actions--He should move on. Not a good example to their daughters.

  • @wa2k99
    @wa2k99 3 дні тому +1

    Waiting for any video where comments say the couple should stay together lol

  • @AmericafromthegrindWolfe
    @AmericafromthegrindWolfe 6 місяців тому +78

    I have to kind of side with this. Dude. I think she will cheat on him.

    • @JustJae210
      @JustJae210 6 місяців тому

      She already has. She's lying through her damn teeth. AND she's predatory performing sexual acts on her psychiatric patients... Smmfh

    • @undefinedfreedom8580
      @undefinedfreedom8580 6 місяців тому +5

      She already cheated on him.

    • @florenbaron7111
      @florenbaron7111 6 місяців тому +1

      She already cheated but stays with him for his resources. Shame on her and all of the many other women who do this.

  • @sergioacosta1590
    @sergioacosta1590 5 місяців тому +9

    I had the same issues. I was always lusting prating for the next. Used to even had sexual dreams and didn’t have any control over then. It was tormenting me so much! I was delivered through prayer from a friend by the holly spirit. The desires disappeared overnight and haven been since a new man with a new heart and new and pure desires. Thank you Lord!!

  • @calila650
    @calila650 6 місяців тому +45

    she is creepy af, the way she talks quickly and emotionless and smiling with dupers delight

  • @cocobeebe
    @cocobeebe 6 місяців тому +6

    Sounds like a serial cheater to me!! She needs to be single. She has him for security, a roof over her head and a man at home between boyfriends.

  • @gargoylz100
    @gargoylz100 6 місяців тому +18

    He needs a big hug and lots of love

  • @ttephi3667
    @ttephi3667 6 місяців тому +6

    There's something wrong with her. She doesn't seem to have any true cognisance that she shouldn't be doing what she's doing.

  • @henrycole8705
    @henrycole8705 6 місяців тому +57

    Amazing how many people are married but not in love?

  • @BellaIsMyBaby
    @BellaIsMyBaby 2 місяці тому +2

    This is an extreme case of codependency & potentially BPD. Unfortunately like Dr. Phil explained, she is putting her desires first bc she feels so lonely & lost. He cannot scratch her itch bc she is distracted by visual stimulation. She is very pretty & he's not so much of a looker, but she is letting it ruin her family. 💔

  • @myfriendisaac
    @myfriendisaac 6 місяців тому +36

    She’s incredibly immature & he’s hopelessly devoted to her; a recipe for DISASTER 😂🚮

  • @JeremeWhite
    @JeremeWhite 6 місяців тому

    This is my new favorite episode!!!

  • @Ariel-ck9he
    @Ariel-ck9he 6 місяців тому +49

    She’s got that Jodi Arias psychopath voice.

  • @coreyhabbas
    @coreyhabbas 6 місяців тому +3

    From her responses in this episode, this woman is showing no real remorse and lacks complete empathy. She is also displaying a complete lack of anxiety with being put on the hot-seat and a complete comfort for manipulating the story and dismissing her behavior. These are huge red flags. When red flags like this show up people like this, the husband should cut his losses knowing that this woman will always choose herself. It turns my stomach that she can so easily manipulate with no remorse. Very sad. I had a 6 month relationship with a man that behaved similarly with other women. Once enough red flags accumulated I showed him out the doorway. Glad it was 6 months rather than 11 years. Pay attention to the flags and the signs of manipulation. Don’t hold out hope that these types would be changing especially since they show a complete lack of respect and regard for those they so deeply harm.

  • @sistersusie8569
    @sistersusie8569 6 місяців тому +25

    Perhaps Randy wouldn't be "controlling" if he didn't want to protect their marriage i.e. she and him both. Untrustworthy behavior is always a threat to what you should be building together.

  • @nancyBirdsell68
    @nancyBirdsell68 6 місяців тому +2

    Relationships are horrible, I have been hurt and I am not going to ever open my heart again..

  • @heatherjohnston5427
    @heatherjohnston5427 6 місяців тому +33

    She will not change!! Get away from her.

  • @ValeriePeddie
    @ValeriePeddie 6 місяців тому +3

    Men and women can be friends. By leading your show and ending it with questioning this and lumping all male and female friendship is what continues this stigma. Unreal. I am beyond disappointed with the statements and advice from Dr.Phil! You can't paint everyone with the same brush!

  • @galebanks252
    @galebanks252 6 місяців тому +29

    This woman does not want or need to be married! He needs to move on...

    • @RoseRose-hp4rq
      @RoseRose-hp4rq 6 місяців тому +3

      She has zeroooooooooo respect for him. His self esteem is so in the toilet.

  • @JamieC31882
    @JamieC31882 6 місяців тому +1

    Dr. Phil. ❤
    Love him.

  • @1927su
    @1927su 6 місяців тому +16

    Lolo ! …”the Scarlett Ohara school of management??”I’ll just think about that tomorrow!
    Good one doc ..

  • @maryschneider9032
    @maryschneider9032 3 місяці тому +1

    Her words “I feel trapped even when I’m not doing anything wrong “ That to me indicates she IS doing wrong. Anyone agree?

  • @aventurasimbolos1725
    @aventurasimbolos1725 6 місяців тому +20

    Amanda doesn't seem remorseful whatsoever. I don't think she wants to change. I don't appreciate her personality: marriage is not a joke.

  • @NYBroncos
    @NYBroncos 6 місяців тому +5

    I wish doctor Phil would do an update on this couple.

  • @melissahensley7198
    @melissahensley7198 6 місяців тому +31

    This man be a dream come true to the right woman. What a shame. He’s an attractive with such good character….. she doesn’t deserve him!!!! Wow!

    • @shrutefarms4741
      @shrutefarms4741 6 місяців тому +5

      Careful, there is a reason he has tolerated this. He is not healthy either or this would repulse him and leave.

    • @keeper6458
      @keeper6458 5 місяців тому

      ​@@shrutefarms4741true

  • @Mechaxthemaskedgamer
    @Mechaxthemaskedgamer 26 днів тому +1

    Get rid of her get full custody, she needs to be locked up

  • @barbie3139
    @barbie3139 6 місяців тому +27

    She is so immature, its hard to understand how she got to the age she is. She is a 16 year old as Dr. Phil said

  • @diane4488
    @diane4488 6 місяців тому +2

    This woman isn't worth being in a relationship.
    She has zero integrity.
    How come he's so devoted to her, when she's so selfish, malicious, and harmful to be around?
    His self esteem seems to be on the floor, and she continuously stomps all over him.
    He wants to change himself, change her, and do everything to make her into the wonderful woman he'd like her to be. He's got more chance of having a holiday on the moon, than changing her personality.
    She constantly blames him for all her problems and nasty personality.
    He needs to dump her, get some supportive counselling, for his own recovery, and never look back.
    I was married to someone very like her. They never change.
    Something clicked in me, when he tried to make everything my fault, and had a big list of things I SHOULD need to change, for him to stay with me. 😮
    I've never regretted leaving. It was only afterwards I fully understood how toxic and destructive he was.

  • @mita6010
    @mita6010 6 місяців тому +93

    He looks like Keanu Reeves’s brother.

    • @Karina_F_7878
      @Karina_F_7878 6 місяців тому +12

      You stole my comment

    • @GRU_ster
      @GRU_ster 6 місяців тому +2

      🤣🤣

    • @juditszabo8751
      @juditszabo8751 6 місяців тому +2

      💯

    • @ytytlee4560
      @ytytlee4560 6 місяців тому +5

      OMG, That's what i thought so too!! 😂

    • @kshep3731
      @kshep3731 6 місяців тому +4

      Yup, my immediate reaction was why is Winona treating Keanu so badly 😢

  • @haleykegley7539
    @haleykegley7539 6 місяців тому +1

    Dr Phil’s smile in the beginning😊