Thank you Andrew. The more I watch your videos and read and journal and heal I really DO believe that I deserve more than what was available with the narc. I still get triggered a little because he works where I live and his current supply lives here too. I WIN!!
Silence can also be read differently. The narcissist can read your silence as proof they've upset or annoyed you. I know a much better method than silence that really turns the tables..hee hee!
Our souls are beautiful, never forget that. Work through that darkness of the soul and come out on the other side enlightened! It will be hard facing your demons but worth it in the end!
Embarrass them in public, works like a charm. Over supply them works as well. These are drastic measures, but some of these parasites are desperate for supply and likely clingy AF! good luck!
Don’t ever try to ‘help’ downtrodden, unfortunate people. 100%, they’ll end up hating you. You’ll see them 10 years later, wearing the same “Ain’t nothin’ but a G thang” tee shirt they had on when you met them.
I went 7 years and then when my mum died I went back into my narcissist family and it was Hell for 2 years. Ive now left again, getting stronger everyday. Will not go back in again. Being free is the key. ❤
As a high level Misanthrope I approve of your plan, just keep that no contact in line for another 40 or 50 years, they should collapse by then. Either way, it was never your problem, you just wanted love.
Narcissists gave us the passive aggressive silent treatment for how long, now we return silence to protect and value ourselves. Freedom rocks, and better late than never.❣️
Yes! Like yourself, doing it more for my sanity, but nothing like seeing them frown at a dose of their own medicine as you/me walk away SILENT again! (Ha ha, their BAD DECISION to try temporarily punish a well meaning empath like me or you BEGAT A PERMANENT GHOSTING FROM US! And I'm loving it and NEVER GOING BACK!)
But they will twist it and say you are the one who is passive aggressive. I remember when I was ghosted by my ex and I saw her again after 4 months it was at a work conference. I just avoided her and said nothing. A few minutes later I get a text asking me why I was ignoring her and how it was hurtful. Hurtful! She ghosted me for 4 months without any explanation. Talk about being a mind f*** They are experts at twisting everything around and playing victim.
I'm recovering myself after 14 years of narcissistic marriage. I'm silent and would ever go back to that toxicity 24/7..... YOUR VIDEO HELPS ME A LOT. THANK YOU
I am precisely in that phase, don't feed them with any word or emotion, let them confront there inner chaos, let them feel there emptiness.... Thanks Andrew and bless all the tribe 🙏🏻
People ask me if I'm ok now that I live alone. I tell them I'm more than fine, that I can remember praying that one day I could be with just me. Pointing out all of my faults and that every single thing I do is wrong or not good enough or too late is refreshing when it's me saying it to myself. Not having to walk on eggshells or ask permission to do things or go somewhere or buy something in a supermarket is a freedom that people take for granted and that I'm still not used to. Being able to speak to whomever I want or say anything outside of an allowed narrative to those people still makes me nervous. Before, I guiltily did these ordinary things in tiny bits and in secret. Yeah. I'm more than fine being alone. .....and silence is best for m because it involves zero contact and zero micro(-to-macro) aggressions.
Silence isn't empty, it's full of answers. To me that tells alot, no reason to keep going with something that's not good for us. Remember... Silence is the best answer to someone whom doesn't value your words.. God bless ya Andrew and the tribe here. 😁👃✝️
Silence , to me, is the best medicine for the ( intentional ) plugged up ears of the narcissist . A step up to “gray rock” response. Thanks Andrew, your wisdom is greatly appreciated.
For anyone going through the break away pain - you are not alone and you will come out on the other end . My only advice is to take time to heal and become your own best friend. Its amazing what you will find after being alone for awhile. ❤
The starving of the narcissists by not feeding them information is such an effective method. I didn’t even know I was doing that with certain family (years ago) but the saying no, the not reacting, the going silent…all benefited me and my life. I just hadn’t applied that in other realms. Now we know. Great video ❤️🙏
I'm currently going no contact on someone who was draining me, this is the first time I've done this. Absolutely right covert narcist is now getting the message......living apart from her company has allowed me to get closer to God. God, whom I didn't put first when falling for the narcissist
20 years of marriage to a narcissist. 7 beautiful years out of it. Freedom! Still I get the random hoovering text/email. Shared family keeps me within reach. Unfortunately. I am incredibly strong and wise but sometimes my old tendencies to not want to be mean and offend by not responding surface. I needed this today. Thank you! ❤️ Back on track after watching your two “silence” uploads. Stay strong everyone 💪🏻💞💞💞
You are allowed Healthy Boundaries. God gave Adam and Eve a boundary and when they crossed it, He extended that boundary to them literally being banished from the Garden of Eden forever. Healthy Boundaries are God ordained, if you need to dismiss and ignore, then you dismiss and ignore. ❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻
It has been 6 months since I cut my narcissistic mother and my narc brother (who is also the Golden Child) out of my life and it has been so wonderful!!! I have learned to love myself. I am so free of the emotional burdens that they caused me. I stand up straight now. I smile and laugh. I cannot begin to describe how fantastic it feels to have that emotional baggage gone.
Silence is golden. It protects you & throws the narcissist off a metaphorical cliff. Enjoy the stillness & the calm. You owe nothing to narcissists & their flying monkey brigade. There's nothing like doing nothing but self-care whilst driving the narcissists insane. A bonus for doing nothing. Take the win by keeping silent. Less is more. Great wisdom, Andrew
Strangely or perhaps not surprising at all I have had this image of the Narcissists running off a cliff. And all I had to do was move out of the way. My silence was/is the ultimate weapon and so I keep myself and my beautiful children safe.
If you cut them off completely there is always the chance they may come back to try to do something to ' teach you a lesson ' , as they always have to have the ' last word ' ! 🤔🤨 However that HAS to be a risk worth taking for your freedom , self respect and SANITY ! Nine times out of ten they ultimately won't bother doing anything too dramatic , they instead tend to try to bad mouth you to any flying monkey willing to listen , but if you have gone FULLY no contact , the chances are you will never feel any real repercussions . The narcissist sees themselves as sly and very formidable , but in reality their fury consists mostly of hot air , because ultimately THEY don't actually control reality OR other people's minds ! 🙏❤️
Absolutely. During my divorce, I learned this lesson. It took years but I won the hearts and minds of my children and my family. (many in my family were not supportive ). Nothing works overnight. Just be quiet and wait.
Thank you Andrew, I have had silence for 6 months now and it’s wonderful no longer having to deal with the narcissist. I used to run into him at times but I have managed to avoid him for a while now so I no longer have to even see his horrible face 😂
Tell a narcissist what a beautiful human being you are...they go nuts...They never saw it I guess ,they think you are like them...liar...cheat... deceitful...nope...not me...I love 💕 Always
so wish I would have been taught this in High School. I would of been educated and would not have married the Narcissist 54 yrs ago. Thank you Andrew for teaching us and others about Narcissists and how to survive and live a real life. Alone with my two dogs and enjoy the peace and quiet, am healing.
Silence and Patience are foundational elements of . . . PEACE . . . Peace increases love and therefore ones energy . . . Do not let a Narcissist reside in your heart and mind . . . Keep your vessel, your temple, parasite free . . . More room for love for and from Jesus Christ and therefore yourself and all others . . . Very well spoken Andrew, Thank you for your wisdom brother . . . Peace.
I agree. In my experience silence is the best way to manage the narc. Can’t avoid the narc 100% but when we must coexist incompletely ignore him, my wife’s father. It’s very predictable he will always try to talk to me and I pretend he’s not there. Then he moves on with others until someone will talk to him and 5 min later he’s yelling or possibly crying. The narc is insane! Manufacturing drama and blaming others. I tell my wife’s family that you all know how he is and choose to accept his behavior; so you all have to deal with the consequences! I have tried my best to help and get to know the narc and I regret every second of wasted time and energy…
I am an empath and very sensitive person since i was a little girl. I thought it was really bad because some cousin’s and some Auntie’s bullied me of being to sensitive.now i know since i research a lot.
Narcissists can’t hurt us when we are silent. It’s a hurtful thing not to tell them reality but it is a moment of peace from them. Stay strong and safe.😊😊
This was much needed! I just reached 2 months since the break up. Being that I am processing 4 years of narcissistic abuse, I keep feeling the need to text him or call him to find closure, or prove myself innocent of all the horrible things he accused me of. I made the mistake of doing that a few weeks after we separated and it was just an invitation for more gaslighting, arguing, disrespect, and devaluing. I have to realize that not engaging is the only closure I need. Closing the book, and moving on.
If you're reliving old arguments in your head responses will occur to you that you wish would have come to you at the time. Resist the urge to re-engage using these. Reliving puts you back in defensive point scoring mode. But that's pointless. Nothing you say will mean anything now as it did then. You will just reignite your suffering. Stay distant, on all levels.
I am going through exactly the same. However, I need to keep contact due to a mortgage. But everytime I do, I expose myself to more deceits, lies and gaslights. Grey rock works most of the time
My answer to the bread-crumbing narc....DEAD SILENCE!!! The most DEAFENING SILENCE! ECHOING SILENCE! LIBERATING SILENCE!!!!!! The most powerful SILENCE!!! Like the beautiful SILENCE of gently falling snow! Pure and simple! Leave them out in the cold where they belong! Thank you for this powerful message! 💜
The silence wins for me because I don't feel anymore that I owe the narcissist any explanation anymore or that I have to prove myself in any way. I feel it deep down to the core of my being.Once we go down the path of getting the knowledge we pass a point where we know we can't go back to what used to be and realize the pre and post narcissistic relationship are two polar opposite worlds and we go from living to serve the narcissist to being apathetic and stoic to what the narc thinks and feels. It's a rough road to freedom, but we couldn't have it Any other way. And we wouldn't want to.
Me too, l am becoming apathetic, glad to say. I don't mean that in a horrible way, you have protect yourself, I feel it's becoming my shield. To help me move on. I can relate to everything you said Andrew, thank you. 🌟🌷
This is so well put. It is my experience as well. I am finally putting most of my energy into loving and taking care of myself. It has changed my heart and my mind and that means I am a better person than I was ever with the Narc. I hope that my healing will be felt and experienced by my children as u have to counter weight their Narc father and grandmother. Please pray for our little family. Blessings to you.
Got the message! No communication is communication! Thank You Andrew for all you do for us & humanity! We all love & appreciate you! Love & light to you!
I needed this video right now! Thank you for being there. I have been in a difficult situation for a number of months with a violent, malignant narcissist and have been trying to get out...I'm almost there. I have been completely silent with them, it enrages them, but I have stuck to my guns and protected myself. Thanks for what you do! Namaste.
Yes it was me I cleaned, cooked, clothed him with nice clothes, fixed his look. Helped him and sen him money gave him confidence. Now I have his child and he is trying to break me by not helping me. I raised to the occasion and now he wants all of my attention back. It now it’s on my daughter and I. Thank you I am so happy I do have to keep contact for his daughter but it’s minimal and I keep silent when I do have interact with him.
Thank goodness the toxic state is over, I have no ambition to ever talk to these two people. Im so glad and having new things happening that I dont need to tell them about. Watching you video confirms my path, thank you
I have learned that my silence has two benefits, I am able to focus on myself and grow as a human being and she has to hear the one voice that she fears, her own.
Two plus years of silence and it's driving her (my narcissistic daughter) nuts. Because of her, I lost 8 years of sanity and my hair turned white. Miss the grandkids, though 😢. Edit: the smear campaign she started almost worked. She still tries to make herself the victim, but didn't tell others WHY I cut her off. If they knew, she'd be shunned by everyone.
I can relate , it is hard when it comes to your kids. Our health and sanity is at stake , cutting the communication is the only way. I have no desire to explain this to anyone. They can think whatever they want ! Sometimes it is best to cut these ties also.
So sorry it's your child. That's the worst of all narc scenarios. I am the child of one trying to end a marriage to another, and I think losing my son would undo me. I hope better days are ahead for you. Your grandkids won't always be too young to make their own decisions.
Narcissist are adrift so they latch onto receiving defined words for support, with the vast undefined nature of silence they’re in ocean and that terrifies them.
I agree 💯, I have learnt the hard way , give only what you can afford to lose , give your confidence to those that will treasure it . I could kick myself for wearing my heart on my sleeve, being open. Being to kind . Being taken advantage of is a very painful lesson . Amazing realisation by joining this channel. Thank you .
I wish that I could say a lot of things on here about what happened between the Narcissist and me, but I can't because my safety is PARAMOUNT! Which, is super frustrating for me - believe me when I tell you- at the very least! But, you are 100% right Andrew about if I had known that I was just in the relationship with the Narcissist for the sole purpose of being 'used intentionally for supply', 'manipulated intentionally for his emotional benefit', and 'manipulated for my resources ONLY' aka: 'financially,' I NEVER would have entered the relationship! What a life lesson to have learned the hard way! To have been treated so poorly by another individual is really mind blowing!
Your absolutely correct. Learning about narcissism has caused me a great deal of relief. The healing process is going well with utilizing information necessary to maintain a narcissistic free lifestyle. A silent reaction goes far in response to narcissistic people
The silent treatment is causing him to run into bars and casinos throwing money at the hospitality staffers for the attention and conflict he so loves. Plus harassing medical offices, the dog catcher, the delivery people...he's all pumped up.
It will be one year on March 16 since I last had any communication with him. I still sometimes wish to speak to him. Then I ask myself: Would you like to be lied to today? Would you like to be abused today? Would you like to be manipulated today? Would you like someone to try to emotionally hurt you for their own amusement today? Would you like to make the echos of his voice in your head louder for the next couple weeks? Do you really think the outcome will be any different than it always was? Do you want to be tearful and angry for days afterwards? Do you want him to have the satisfaction of devouring one more piece of you? No. No to all of it. I continue my silence. My peace. My freedom. You help me do that, Andrew, each and every day. Thank you, dear friend! ❤
🤫 Yessss...Silence The big narcissist in my life told me I'm not worthy...and I have no soul... BECAUSE I DIN'T SAY WHAT HE WANTED TO HEAR Then I asked my creator God Almighty...Jesus told me ❤ YOU ARE ENOUGH ❤ Dear Andrew, May God Bless You Exceedingly And Abundantly More Brother
Just overtalk them, it makes them uneasy. I mean oversupply them. they cannot handle that at all. Gotta be crazier than they are. And there is no coming back from that.
🙏💜🔥 silence is golden 💜The power of silence 💜Our silence is deafening to a narc that can not stand the silence of their own tiny mind and constantly need background noise going on because silence will break their fragile eggshell tiny mind!! Our silence is TORTURE to them😁. When they see we can be happy and silent this they won't like!! When we are silent we gain inner peace. When we are silent we gain our energy back. It's great not to be drawn into their stupid drama!! They want to break our silence. They want to break our sacred discipline and have us " bankrupt" in all sorts of ways!! Back to square one!! Powerless, under their feet and useless!! Not on my watch!! Not any more!! Victory is mine!! Victory is OURS!!! POWER TO THE EMPATH 🌹🔥 Great video Andrew, very powerful. Sending YOU love and energy in abundance 💜🗝️🙏🔥🦊🕷️🐕🐕🛡️🗡️🕊️💖🌠☀️💙
They take offense at every little innocent thing I say. I have to constantly walk on eggshells, and even then, they claim that I trigger them. Good grief! If you don't like me, just go on! Don't expect people to try to be who they aren't to appease your unstable ego.
From a Carolinian as well, thank you for your wisdom and words of encouragement. The toughest thing I ever did in my life was walking away from a toxic, narcissistic relationship with my mother. I spent two years in counseling and stayed away from my mother for six years. When I felt strong enough, I slowly allowed her back into my life. It was still tough, but she couldn't control me anymore. I didn't know how strong I was until I found the courage to walk away. What made it worse for me is that people saw my mother as a saint and me as the bad child. But, I didn't care. I knew the truth and the truth set me free.
I also had a narcissist mother. She was bitter and jaded. I learned to stay away for years. When she saw she could no longer control me, she tried to love bomb me to no avail. I stood my ground and healthy distance. She died a few years ago an unhappy person. I often wonder what she has faced in the next world. It's unfortunate my mother passed this same behavior on to my narcissist sister. I never want a relationship with my sister ever again. She's another unhappy person. Boy, I wished these people could realize the hurt and pain they cause. Stay strong!
Yes it is. I went to a very dark place and the hole was deep. Andrew and others made the light shine and show the way. After a year i am doing much better. Demi, stay strong, think about yourself. Do things you like or used to like. Reconnect with yourself and this video Andrew is right. The silence is the winner. Stay with Andrew community and you will see like others that good people exist and we stay strong. Sending you hope.
We are all bright lights that will never be switched off,were more educated and much stronger Now,.I'm Greatful for what I learned from the past.💐💐💞💞💞💞🙏🙏🙏🙏💪💪💪
Yes the narcissist couldn't care less about your thoughts and feelings but they do like to know what they are so they can stay 10 steps ahead of you. Thank you for your positive, kind words to us Survivor's Andrew I needed to hear some positive words today.🕊
Our silence actually speaks volumes and is our power! Went complete no contact (both parents and brother) on the evening of June 9th 2020 and it's the best decision I've made in a long time. Like a weight taken off of my shoulders and I can breathe again. I finally win and have freedom, confidence and self worth! Thank you Andrew!
Every person that goes no contact always says it’s the best decision they ever made & they don’t look back. This right here reinforces the decision I need to make.
My biggest challenge with all of these narc- videos, is that far too many will jump into a narcissist diagnosis of another person without that actually being the case. I am not trying to seed doubt, but I fear in this hyper information-available age, that we conclude such complex topics just to have an answer... I really don't think that narcissism is as rampant as many may believe it to be, I do however think it will grow with current new generations and those to come, if social media keeps having this grip on our existence.
Thank you, ascended master for sharing your wisdom amongst good humans who have been bitten by the snake. Unless they’ve been through it, they don’t know what it’s about.
“Just because you have information doesn’t mean you have to share it.” Thank you for that Andrew. It was killing me that I never called him out, never told him to fck off, but you’re right… silence is golden ❤️
Brilliant and on point !! It's so tempting to fight fire with fire , even if just out of self respect , but the truth is this approach ALWAYS fuels them . They are just not wired like us , infact confrontation actually appeals to their WIN AT ANY COST mentality , and reality doesn't even apply ! Any kind of attention , good OR bad , is like oxygen to their ego , that is why to go silent or failing to react will actually have the affect of suffocating them . Like a ravid dog they will keep attacking , but if you ignore them for long enough , they will eventually give up ! They will still spout their demonic poisonous lies about you to others , but we have to remember that these things are only THEIR BIASED OPINIONS , and not the actually truth ! The trauma bond they have created will mean that you might still be stuck in the fog of confusion . They are so good at convincing you overtime that ONLY THEY know reality and truth ,..but that is only a trick , a con they got you to buy into over time ! They do not rule you , you have your own mind and instincts . They have NO POWER , other than the trust , energy and wasted time you GAVE to them ! Why say ANYTHING at all ,..when silence can say a thousand words ?!!! 😎💪🙏❤️
They hate each other! They are only together when there is an empath in the group who can be bullied by everyone together. An empath connects them. Take them away empath, their society falls apart.
@@rubyjet9513 This is SO TRUE ! There maybe a short time of superficial unity sparked by a joint hate campaign , but it won't be kind before they fall out too ! 🙏❤️
Tu for making me feel good about my decision to go silent. Unfortunately I can’t leave for a little bit longer but I’ve stopped communicating. If my narc mother asks me a question, it’s a yes or no answer and then silence. Nothing further. Thank you Andrew for everything you do ❤❤❤
I just started a six month contract working for a narcissist who started being abusive first week. One thing that I found works is to ask a question to their questions and put downs. For instance when she yells about something for no reason just say, "Is it possible that you are mistaken?" The first time she said no it's not possible. But I kept asking other questions like how could I possibly know that you were requesting that from me? Just keep asking them questions back and don't defend yourself. You can do this in a very professional, calm way without taking on the abuse and agreeing with their accusations and false misrepresentations about you.
Great video Andrew! It took me a long time to figure this one out. For years, I would let the narcissist disturb my peace and steal my energy simply by engaging in ridiculous arguments. He was never going to see my point of view ever! What a waste of energy! So, 100% correct, silence is the way to go for peace and healing!
Anyone watching this who never had a relationship with a narcissist watches these type videos and thinks what is he talking about and all who been with a narcissist are blown away cause sounds just like what we experienced . great advice .
Silence gives you peace. Then there is no controversy, no explanations, no questions and smart as$ answers. Silence is really golden and keeps them wondering. They love to be in control and know what you are doing. Try just saying I will be back instead of saying exactly where you are going. Or tell them one thing and do another. Being armed with this knowledge is a huge relief and freedom like I’ve never known.
Absolutely the case. Your silence wins and is golden. Silence is beautiful and powerful, it helps you get back to yourself and it protects your energy. Silence is healing and soothing. . I love silence. ❤ Thank you so much Andrew.
Thank you Andrew, 🙏🏾 that 2023 will Overflow your life with enormous blessings. This is the truth, the Narccist wants to consume and have FULL control of your life. They are fools, they want to be your god.
Thanks for educating people. It’s been 18 months since I went silent a narc I was dating for over 10 years, it has been a difficult road to heel but well worth it and I worked on myself and my life. He left me alone for good this time around, as he already lined up his new source of supply prior to our parting. I have no I’ll feelings towards him, just sorrow feelings. I’ve been falling in love with me again which is a good feeling. Take care all in this new year.
Same thing happened to me after a year. Already had the next girl lined up prior to breaking up with me. Wow, I’m learning and this is all so textbook and obvious now
Thank you Andrew. The more I watch your videos and read and journal and heal I really DO believe that I deserve more than what was available with the narc. I still get triggered a little because he works where I live and his current supply lives here too. I WIN!!
Welcome..💜😌🙏
Silence is a powerful message. It says to them they’re not deserving of my time and energy. And it’s the best thing we can do for our own sanity.
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Totally agree
Silence can also be read differently. The narcissist can read your silence as proof they've upset or annoyed you. I know a much better method than silence that really turns the tables..hee hee!
Right
@@nigelwilliams9307 what's the method am in a difficult time
You are saving me from suicide after a person murder my personality and my soul. You're amazing brother
Same here :)
same here
Yup A narcissist can kill you're soul forsure. ..I know first hand.
You are a child of God! He loves you and i love you!
Our souls are beautiful, never forget that. Work through that darkness of the soul and come out on the other side enlightened! It will be hard facing your demons but worth it in the end!
This doesn't only help with a narcissist. It helps with anyone who wants to "fight". Turn away, take the wind out of their sails.
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Silence prevents conflicts and a smile avoids them 🌻
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So true! Thanks for your advice
I finally learned to go silent with every narcissist in my life. It makes your world smaller, but gives a peace of mind. Thanks, Andrew ❤
There is nothing louder than silence. 🙏🏼✨
Embarrass them in public, works like a charm. Over supply them works as well. These are drastic measures, but some of these parasites are desperate for supply and likely clingy AF! good luck!
nothing better
Yes. The silence is singing in the narcisists ear.😎
Don’t ever try to ‘help’ downtrodden, unfortunate people. 100%, they’ll end up hating you. You’ll see them 10 years later, wearing the same “Ain’t nothin’ but a G thang” tee shirt they had on when you met them.
Going silent and no contact is the only way to heal. 6 years for me!
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I did "no contact" too....the narc put up a fight but ultimately this is the only way to handle it and get your life/sanity back.
I went 7 years and then when my mum died I went back into my narcissist family and it was Hell for 2 years. Ive now left again, getting stronger everyday. Will not go back in again. Being free is the key. ❤
Absolutely! I had to go no contact too. The narc put up a horrible fight too, but I'm so glad I'm rid of them.
I’ve gone 11 days, zero contact. I feel so empowered!! Jesus is my strength!!❤
Amen 🙏🏾 Have a wonderfully blessed day in the name of Jesus ✝🛐💟
Keep going they only hurt you.
Been 5 years he still tries 3-4 times a year with a call or text. I don’t respond
As a high level Misanthrope I approve of your plan, just keep that no contact in line for another 40 or 50 years, they should collapse by then. Either way, it was never your problem, you just wanted love.
Amen. JESUS gives us power and authority over All the power of our enemy Satan. Blessings.
Narcissists gave us the passive aggressive silent treatment for how long, now we return silence to protect and value ourselves. Freedom rocks, and better late than never.❣️
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Thank You Andrew for this, God Bless you and the Tribe. I Appreciate You and your videos. 🙏✝️💜
Yes! Like yourself, doing it more for my sanity, but nothing like seeing them frown at a dose of their own medicine as you/me walk away SILENT again! (Ha ha, their BAD DECISION to try temporarily punish a well meaning empath like me or you BEGAT A PERMANENT GHOSTING FROM US! And I'm loving it and NEVER GOING BACK!)
But they will twist it and say you are the one who is passive aggressive. I remember when I was ghosted by my ex and I saw her again after 4 months it was at a work conference. I just avoided her and said nothing. A few minutes later I get a text asking me why I was ignoring her and how it was hurtful. Hurtful! She ghosted me for 4 months without any explanation. Talk about being a mind f***
They are experts at twisting everything around and playing victim.
I'm recovering myself after 14 years of narcissistic marriage. I'm silent and would ever go back to that toxicity 24/7..... YOUR VIDEO HELPS ME A LOT. THANK YOU
Welcome 🙏😌💯
I am precisely in that phase, don't feed them with any word or emotion, let them confront there inner chaos, let them feel there emptiness....
Thanks Andrew and bless all the tribe 🙏🏻
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Showing emotion is like blood in the way for a shark.
People ask me if I'm ok now that I live alone.
I tell them I'm more than fine, that I can remember praying that one day I could be with just me.
Pointing out all of my faults and that every single thing I do is wrong or not good enough or too late is refreshing when it's me saying it to myself.
Not having to walk on eggshells or ask permission to do things or go somewhere or buy something in a supermarket is a freedom that people take for granted and that I'm still not used to.
Being able to speak to whomever I want or say anything outside of an allowed narrative to those people still makes me nervous.
Before, I guiltily did these ordinary things in tiny bits and in secret.
Yeah. I'm more than fine being alone.
.....and silence is best for m because it involves zero contact and zero micro(-to-macro) aggressions.
Beautiful empowerment 💯🙏🙌
I too live alone... Peacefully
You did it to yourself. Truth hurts, but it is what it is.
@@nodaysoff2358 Troll much?
Love what you said, I feel the same way
Silence isn't empty, it's full of answers.
To me that tells alot, no reason to keep going with something that's not good for us.
Remember...
Silence is the best answer to someone whom doesn't value your words..
God bless ya Andrew and the tribe here. 😁👃✝️
Silence , to me, is the best medicine for the ( intentional ) plugged up ears of the narcissist .
A step up to “gray rock” response.
Thanks Andrew, your wisdom is greatly appreciated.
@@__Salty I try to live the best a person can be with everything that's happened to me. God bless ya 😁👃✝️
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Great quote! So true.
Lovely way to put it !
For anyone going through the break away pain - you are not alone and you will come out on the other end . My only advice is to take time to heal and become your own best friend. Its amazing what you will find after being alone for awhile. ❤
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Where you place your attention is where you place your energy. Good stuff my brother!
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The starving of the narcissists by not feeding them information is such an effective method. I didn’t even know I was doing that with certain family (years ago) but the saying no, the not reacting, the going silent…all benefited me and my life. I just hadn’t applied that in other realms. Now we know. Great video ❤️🙏
Thank you 💯🙌🙏😊
The first and basic rule No. 1 regarding toxic people is - Starve them of information ✌️
With silence 😉
Yea remove them and all associated with them that was my first action.💪💪💞💞🙏🙏
@@rubyjet9513 thank you 🙏- learned this the hard way, but now it’s sticking 😉
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Silence can draw out bad behavior of the narcissists for others to witness. It is a very useful tool when dealing in family groupings. 🕊🕊🕊💫♥️
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Yes I’ve found that too
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That's why I love it. Remain wise as a serpent, harmless as a dove
I'm currently going no contact on someone who was draining me, this is the first time I've done this. Absolutely right covert narcist is now getting the message......living apart from her company has allowed me to get closer to God. God, whom I didn't put first when falling for the narcissist
20 years of marriage to a narcissist. 7 beautiful years out of it. Freedom! Still I get the random hoovering text/email. Shared family keeps me within reach. Unfortunately. I am incredibly strong and wise but sometimes my old tendencies to not want to be mean and offend by not responding surface. I needed this today. Thank you! ❤️ Back on track after watching your two “silence” uploads. Stay strong everyone 💪🏻💞💞💞
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You are allowed Healthy Boundaries.
God gave Adam and Eve a boundary and when they crossed it, He extended that boundary to them literally being banished from the Garden of Eden forever.
Healthy Boundaries are God ordained, if you need to dismiss and ignore, then you dismiss and ignore. ❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻
Nothing is as refreshing when you have freedom to find yourself without others deciding for you. You're your creator in life.
Silence is freedom.
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Great comment miss jet! Bless all empaths✌🏻❤️☀️
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Bless all empaths 💞✨💞✨💞 ✌️!
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@@matthewgeard2790 very nice 😊🤗
"Sometimes, the best thing to do is Nothing..." --this line.. Thanks for reminding 🙏🏻🙏🏻
You're so welcome!🙌🙏😉💯
Yes
Yes, and it is not as difficult as I thought it would be. With practice I now find it easy. Do and say nothing.
I see true intentions of people when I'm silence. Silence is very powerful
It has been 6 months since I cut my narcissistic mother and my narc brother (who is also the Golden Child) out of my life and it has been so wonderful!!! I have learned to love myself. I am so free of the emotional burdens that they caused me. I stand up straight now. I smile and laugh. I cannot begin to describe how fantastic it feels to have that emotional baggage gone.
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For me it has been eight years no contact of parents & sibling relatives. - my silence wins.
I feel for you. I have the same dinamic - narc mum and golden brother. Reduced to minimum contact, zero reaction for 3 years now - perfect.
Your best revenge - just be happy without them!
Silence is golden. It protects you & throws the narcissist off a metaphorical cliff. Enjoy the stillness & the calm. You owe nothing to narcissists & their flying monkey brigade. There's nothing like doing nothing but self-care whilst driving the narcissists insane. A bonus for doing nothing. Take the win by keeping silent. Less is more. Great wisdom, Andrew
Strangely or perhaps not surprising at all I have had this image of the Narcissists running off a cliff. And all I had to do was move out of the way. My silence was/is the ultimate weapon and so I keep myself and my beautiful children safe.
👍wise words
Well said.
Yes… as I’ve realised, through trial and error, that “ silence” really is key!
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It really is ✌️
I was born into a narcissistic family. They never change. Finally healing from a lifetime of abuse.
If you cut them off completely there is always the chance they may come back to try to do something to ' teach you a lesson ' , as they always have to have the ' last word ' ! 🤔🤨 However that HAS to be a risk worth taking for your freedom , self respect and SANITY ! Nine times out of ten they ultimately won't bother doing anything too dramatic , they instead tend to try to bad mouth you to any flying monkey willing to listen , but if you have gone FULLY no contact , the chances are you will never feel any real repercussions . The narcissist sees themselves as sly and very formidable , but in reality their fury consists mostly of hot air , because ultimately THEY don't actually control reality OR other people's minds ! 🙏❤️
Guard your personal energy carefully. Your energy is so precious ✨
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I am trying to do that. There are a lot of energy vampires out there!
Yes Ruby! How yoy are well! Happy New Year!💜🌻💜🌻💜🌻
@@emilywilson7308 I couldn't agree more.
Absolutely. During my divorce, I learned this lesson. It took years but I won the hearts and minds of my children and my family. (many in my family were not supportive ). Nothing works overnight. Just be quiet and wait.
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Staying silent and having nothing to do with those abusive, cruel, vindictive narcissists.
Thank you Andrew, I have had silence for 6 months now and it’s wonderful no longer having to deal with the narcissist. I used to run into him at times but I have managed to avoid him for a while now so I no longer have to even see his horrible face 😂
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Tell a narcissist what a beautiful human being you are...they go nuts...They never saw it I guess ,they think you are like them...liar...cheat... deceitful...nope...not me...I love 💕 Always
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Yes! Don't stoop to their level, maintain our dignity and decency.
Oh don’t ever say that ! They change subject asap 😂😂😂
so wish I would have been taught this in High School. I would of been educated and would not have married the Narcissist 54 yrs ago. Thank you Andrew for teaching us and others about Narcissists and how to survive and live a real life. Alone with my two dogs and enjoy the peace and quiet, am healing.
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Silence and Patience are foundational elements of . . . PEACE . . . Peace increases love and therefore ones energy . . . Do not let a Narcissist reside in your heart and mind . . . Keep your vessel, your temple, parasite free . . . More room for love for and from Jesus Christ and therefore yourself and all others . . . Very well spoken Andrew, Thank you for your wisdom brother . . . Peace.
Control the Controllables . . . Pray . . .
You are absolutely right Andrew.....Silence is our only Effective WEAPON against the Narcissist.....
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I agree. In my experience silence is the best way to manage the narc. Can’t avoid the narc 100% but when we must coexist incompletely ignore him, my wife’s father. It’s very predictable he will always try to talk to me and I pretend he’s not there. Then he moves on with others until someone will talk to him and 5 min later he’s yelling or possibly crying. The narc is insane! Manufacturing drama and blaming others. I tell my wife’s family that you all know how he is and choose to accept his behavior; so you all have to deal with the consequences! I have tried my best to help and get to know the narc and I regret every second of wasted time and energy…
@@James-qt9dj Stay far away from them and keep your mouth shut.....That's my Motto....
Bless you Andrew! ✌🏻❤️☀️
Bless all empaths!
Narcs will fall💯 We are all doing it together 💯
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Aagh Matthew that is kind , isn't it good we can follow Andrews wisdom Your not alone x
Neither are you love,, ✌🏻❤️☀️
Not so kind just the truth! Like a true empath ❤️
I am an empath and very sensitive person since i was a little girl. I thought it was really bad because some cousin’s and some Auntie’s bullied me of being to sensitive.now i know since i research a lot.
Thanks for you and everyone in here for sharing there hardship ,its a brilliant beautiful channels ,namaste
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Narcissists can’t hurt us when we are silent. It’s a hurtful thing not to tell them reality but it is a moment of peace from them. Stay strong and safe.😊😊
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You threw out a huge light bulb there. 💡Thank you.
💗🙏💗 Namaste'
Namaste 🙏
This was much needed! I just reached 2 months since the break up. Being that I am processing 4 years of narcissistic abuse, I keep feeling the need to text him or call him to find closure, or prove myself innocent of all the horrible things he accused me of. I made the mistake of doing that a few weeks after we separated and it was just an invitation for more gaslighting, arguing, disrespect, and devaluing.
I have to realize that not engaging is the only closure I need. Closing the book, and moving on.
If you're reliving old arguments in your head responses will occur to you that you wish would have come to you at the time. Resist the urge to re-engage using these.
Reliving puts you back in defensive point scoring mode. But that's pointless.
Nothing you say will mean anything now as it did then.
You will just reignite your suffering.
Stay distant, on all levels.
I am going through exactly the same. However, I need to keep contact due to a mortgage. But everytime I do, I expose myself to more deceits, lies and gaslights. Grey rock works most of the time
@@ratusbagus Thank you so much for your valuable words!!
Thank-you that really made me feel better this morning. 12 years later and I'm still trying to make sense of what happened in a 26-year marriage.
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So with you there. 24-yr marriage, 8.5 years after he left; 6 years divorced.
I feel for you. Stay strong! They use a lot of manipulation to confuse, so it takes time.
Your best revenge - be happy!
My answer to the bread-crumbing narc....DEAD SILENCE!!! The most DEAFENING SILENCE! ECHOING SILENCE! LIBERATING SILENCE!!!!!! The most powerful SILENCE!!! Like the beautiful SILENCE of gently falling snow! Pure and simple! Leave them out in the cold where they belong! Thank you for this powerful message! 💜
The silence wins for me because I don't feel anymore that I owe the narcissist any explanation anymore or that I have to prove myself in any way. I feel it deep down to the core of my being.Once we go down the path of getting the knowledge we pass a point where we know we can't go back to what used to be and realize the pre and post narcissistic relationship are two polar opposite worlds and we go from living to serve the narcissist to being apathetic and stoic to what the narc thinks and feels. It's a rough road to freedom, but we couldn't have it Any other way. And we wouldn't want to.
Apathy is a good word. I feel like I am growing some apathy. Once that's all there is the door is shut for good
Me too, l am becoming apathetic, glad to say. I don't mean that in a horrible way, you have protect yourself, I feel it's becoming my shield. To help me move on. I can relate to everything you said Andrew, thank you. 🌟🌷
YES!
Thank God thought it was just me.
This is so well put. It is my experience as well. I am finally putting most of my energy into loving and taking care of myself. It has changed my heart and my mind and that means I am a better person than I was ever with the Narc. I hope that my healing will be felt and experienced by my children as u have to counter weight their Narc father and grandmother. Please pray for our little family. Blessings to you.
Got the message! No communication is communication! Thank You Andrew for all you do for us & humanity! We all love & appreciate you! Love & light to you!
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I would also add,,,, no communication is communication with oneself. Return to yourself and your being ✨
@@rubyjet9513 that's beautiful!
@@emilywilson7308 It's true 🙅♀️!
I'm glad you like it my dear friend 🙏 ❤️
Ditto!
I needed this video right now! Thank you for being there. I have been in a difficult situation for a number of months with a violent, malignant narcissist and have been trying to get out...I'm almost there. I have been completely silent with them, it enrages them, but I have stuck to my guns and protected myself. Thanks for what you do! Namaste.
Namaste 🙏🙌😉
DO NOT GIVE them the toxic attention they need to live and thrive on. It’s so simple.
Going silent sends a message to the narc they no longer matter to you ✌🏼💕TY Andrew😊
Yes it was me I cleaned, cooked, clothed him with nice clothes, fixed his look. Helped him and sen him money gave him confidence. Now I have his child and he is trying to break me by not helping me. I raised to the occasion and now he wants all of my attention back. It now it’s on my daughter and I. Thank you I am so happy I do have to keep contact for his daughter but it’s minimal and I keep silent when I do have interact with him.
Thank goodness the toxic state is over, I have no ambition to ever talk to these two people. Im so glad and having new things happening that I dont need to tell them about. Watching you video confirms my path, thank you
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Yes indeed....you don't lower yourself to their level, and you don't make a jerk out of yourself.
I have learned that my silence has two benefits, I am able to focus on myself and grow as a human being and she has to hear the one voice that she fears, her own.
It WAS me but no more! Living my best life without control from anybody. Thank you Andrew for your wise/experienced words. 😊
Two plus years of silence and it's driving her (my narcissistic daughter) nuts. Because of her, I lost 8 years of sanity and my hair turned white. Miss the grandkids, though 😢. Edit: the smear campaign she started almost worked. She still tries to make herself the victim, but didn't tell others WHY I cut her off. If they knew, she'd be shunned by everyone.
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I can relate , it is hard when it comes to your kids. Our health and sanity is at stake , cutting the communication is the only way. I have no desire to explain this to anyone. They can think whatever they want ! Sometimes it is best to cut these ties also.
So sorry it's your child. That's the worst of all narc scenarios. I am the child of one trying to end a marriage to another, and I think losing my son would undo me. I hope better days are ahead for you. Your grandkids won't always be too young to make their own decisions.
Narcissist are adrift so they latch onto receiving defined words for support, with the vast undefined nature of silence they’re in ocean and that terrifies them.
I agree 💯, I have learnt the hard way , give only what you can afford to lose , give your confidence to those that will treasure it . I could kick myself for wearing my heart on my sleeve, being open. Being to kind . Being taken advantage of is a very painful lesson . Amazing realisation by joining this channel. Thank you .
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Silence sounds like a peaceful harmony compared to living in the loud nerve shattering noise of the narc.
Silence speaks the loudest ☺️
At some point I realized that all I have to do to piss off my narcissistic (ex) siblings was to live my life. Now it's so much fun to piss them off.
That’s exactly why the Royal Family are doing with Meagan and Harry 👏🏽👏🏽
Silence worked for me ! I went no contact and blocked his phone number, I’m finally getting my peace and serenity back! God bless you Andrew!❤
Silence IS a Super Power.
I wish that I could say a lot of things on here about what happened between the Narcissist and me, but I can't because my safety is PARAMOUNT! Which, is super frustrating for me - believe me when I tell you- at the very least! But, you are 100% right Andrew about if I had known that I was just in the relationship with the Narcissist for the sole purpose of being 'used intentionally for supply', 'manipulated intentionally for his emotional benefit', and 'manipulated for my resources ONLY' aka: 'financially,' I NEVER would have entered the relationship! What a life lesson to have learned the hard way! To have been treated so poorly by another individual is really mind blowing!
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Silence ends the Drama! Narcissists need Drama.
Your absolutely correct. Learning about narcissism has caused me a great deal of relief. The healing process is going well with utilizing information necessary to maintain a narcissistic free lifestyle. A silent reaction goes far in response to narcissistic people
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The silent treatment is causing him to run into bars and casinos throwing money at the hospitality staffers for the attention and conflict he so loves. Plus harassing medical offices, the dog catcher, the delivery people...he's all pumped up.
It will be one year on March 16 since I last had any communication with him. I still sometimes wish to speak to him. Then I ask myself: Would you like to be lied to today? Would you like to be abused today? Would you like to be manipulated today? Would you like someone to try to emotionally hurt you for their own amusement today? Would you like to make the echos of his voice in your head louder for the next couple weeks? Do you really think the outcome will be any different than it always was? Do you want to be tearful and angry for days afterwards? Do you want him to have the satisfaction of devouring one more piece of you? No. No to all of it. I continue my silence. My peace. My freedom. You help me do that, Andrew, each and every day. Thank you, dear friend! ❤
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Your comment is amazing and your so right .
🤫 Yessss...Silence
The big narcissist in my life told me I'm not worthy...and I have no soul...
BECAUSE I DIN'T SAY WHAT HE WANTED TO HEAR
Then I asked my creator God Almighty...Jesus told me
❤ YOU ARE ENOUGH ❤
Dear Andrew, May God Bless You Exceedingly And Abundantly More Brother
I hold the line and never return anger for anger, insult for insult. I refuse to give them an inch and hold my ground. They can not break me.
I would say, "just because you're loud, doesn't mean you're right ".... He has a powerful voice and would use it to bully.
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I thought I was the 0nly one who realized that most Narcissist are loudy.
Just overtalk them, it makes them uneasy. I mean oversupply them. they cannot handle that at all. Gotta be crazier than they are. And there is no coming back from that.
🙏💜🔥 silence is golden
💜The power of silence
💜Our silence is deafening to a narc that can not stand the silence of their own tiny mind and constantly need background noise going on because silence will break their fragile eggshell tiny mind!!
Our silence is TORTURE to them😁.
When they see we can be happy and silent this they won't like!!
When we are silent we gain inner peace.
When we are silent we gain our energy back.
It's great not to be drawn into their stupid drama!!
They want to break our silence.
They want to break our sacred discipline and have us " bankrupt" in all sorts of ways!!
Back to square one!!
Powerless, under their feet and useless!!
Not on my watch!!
Not any more!!
Victory is mine!!
Victory is OURS!!!
POWER TO THE EMPATH 🌹🔥
Great video Andrew, very powerful.
Sending YOU love and energy in abundance 💜🗝️🙏🔥🦊🕷️🐕🐕🛡️🗡️🕊️💖🌠☀️💙
They take offense at every little innocent thing I say. I have to constantly walk on eggshells, and even then, they claim that I trigger them. Good grief! If you don't like me, just go on! Don't expect people to try to be who they aren't to appease your unstable ego.
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From a Carolinian as well, thank you for your wisdom and words of encouragement. The toughest thing I ever did in my life was walking away from a toxic, narcissistic relationship with my mother. I spent two years in counseling and stayed away from my mother for six years. When I felt strong enough, I slowly allowed her back into my life. It was still tough, but she couldn't control me anymore. I didn't know how strong I was until I found the courage to walk away. What made it worse for me is that people saw my mother as a saint and me as the bad child. But, I didn't care. I knew the truth and the truth set me free.
I also had a narcissist mother. She was bitter and jaded. I learned to stay away for years. When she saw she could no longer control me, she tried to love bomb me to no avail. I stood my ground and healthy distance. She died a few years ago an unhappy person. I often wonder what she has faced in the next world. It's unfortunate my mother passed this same behavior on to my narcissist sister. I never want a relationship with my sister ever again. She's another unhappy person. Boy, I wished these people could realize the hurt and pain they cause. Stay strong!
Hi Andrew THANK U So Very Much For Sharing this.
I Was DISCARDED. IM STRUGGLING TO DISCONNECT NARCISSISTIC ABUSE IS VERY BRUTAL.
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Yes it is. I went to a very dark place and the hole was deep. Andrew and others made the light shine and show the way. After a year i am doing much better. Demi, stay strong, think about yourself. Do things you like or used to like. Reconnect with yourself and this video Andrew is right. The silence is the winner. Stay with Andrew community and you will see like others that good people exist and we stay strong. Sending you hope.
Keep strong n positive, I know its the hardest thing ever, keep fighting on your future will be brighter one day 💕
@@avriltaylor9913 Thank you So Very Much 🙏
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Thank You So Very Much 🙏
We are all bright lights that will never be switched off,were more educated and much stronger Now,.I'm Greatful for what I learned from the past.💐💐💞💞💞💞🙏🙏🙏🙏💪💪💪
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Amen
Silence wins against the narcissist; and MUSIC wins with the empathic people all around!
Spread your internal Music with whom deserve it!
I'm on the good side of the nightmare of the narcissistic marriage 42 years. Freedom at last. Thanks 😊 for for 10:37
Freedom years years
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Yes the narcissist couldn't care less about your thoughts and feelings but they do like to know what they are so they can stay 10 steps ahead of you. Thank you for your positive, kind words to us Survivor's Andrew I needed to hear some positive words today.🕊
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Our silence actually speaks volumes and is our power! Went complete no contact (both parents and brother) on the evening of June 9th 2020 and it's the best decision I've made in a long time. Like a weight taken off of my shoulders and I can breathe again. I finally win and have freedom, confidence and self worth! Thank you Andrew!
Every person that goes no contact always says it’s the best decision they ever made & they don’t look back.
This right here reinforces the decision I need to make.
Excellent, just admit your weakness by going silent.
Going no contact effectively tells the narcissist that they no longer exist for you. The most powerful message you can send is silence.
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Andrew God Bless you ,you are a Beacon of Light,a life line to all of us here,sending love and prayers to you and all people here.💐💐💐💞💞💞💞🙏🙏🙏🙏
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THIS IS SOLD LOVELY AMEN 🙏 ALL THE WAY
Silence Is Freedom. No more attacks or destruction. Silence is peace!
My biggest challenge with all of these narc- videos, is that far too many will jump into a narcissist diagnosis of another person without that actually being the case. I am not trying to seed doubt, but I fear in this hyper information-available age, that we conclude such complex topics just to have an answer... I really don't think that narcissism is as rampant as many may believe it to be, I do however think it will grow with current new generations and those to come, if social media keeps having this grip on our existence.
Blissful, peaceful, silence... 🥰🙏
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It's not a game, he gave me the silence treatment,I gave him it bk,it almost killed him
Thank you, ascended master for sharing your wisdom amongst good humans who have been bitten by the snake. Unless they’ve been through it, they don’t know what it’s about.
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“Just because you have information doesn’t mean you have to share it.” Thank you for that Andrew. It was killing me that I never called him out, never told him to fck off, but you’re right… silence is golden ❤️
It was me 😊 I am grateful for the journey, much love to all 💙💜💚💛
Brilliant and on point !! It's so tempting to fight fire with fire , even if just out of self respect , but the truth is this approach ALWAYS fuels them . They are just not wired like us , infact confrontation actually appeals to their WIN AT ANY COST mentality , and reality doesn't even apply ! Any kind of attention , good OR bad , is like oxygen to their ego , that is why to go silent or failing to react will actually have the affect of suffocating them . Like a ravid dog they will keep attacking , but if you ignore them for long enough , they will eventually give up ! They will still spout their demonic poisonous lies about you to others , but we have to remember that these things are only THEIR BIASED OPINIONS , and not the actually truth ! The trauma bond they have created will mean that you might still be stuck in the fog of confusion . They are so good at convincing you overtime that ONLY THEY know reality and truth ,..but that is only a trick , a con they got you to buy into over time ! They do not rule you , you have your own mind and instincts . They have NO POWER , other than the trust , energy and wasted time you GAVE to them ! Why say ANYTHING at all ,..when silence can say a thousand words ?!!! 😎💪🙏❤️
Beautiful insight thank you for sharing this 🙌🙌💯😉
They hate each other! They are only together when there is an empath in the group who can be bullied by everyone together. An empath connects them. Take them away empath, their society falls apart.
We have heart and soul. They have no soul. They live in the head. They only have a mind 🧠 = ego.
@@rubyjet9513 This is SO TRUE ! There maybe a short time of superficial unity sparked by a joint hate campaign , but it won't be kind before they fall out too ! 🙏❤️
Tu for making me feel good about my decision to go silent. Unfortunately I can’t leave for a little bit longer but I’ve stopped communicating. If my narc mother asks me a question, it’s a yes or no answer and then silence. Nothing further. Thank you Andrew for everything you do ❤❤❤
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Being an empath feels exhausting. Silence rejuvenates.
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I just started a six month contract working for a narcissist who started being abusive first week. One thing that I found works is to ask a question to their questions and put downs. For instance when she yells about something for no reason just say, "Is it possible that you are mistaken?" The first time she said no it's not possible. But I kept asking other questions like how could I possibly know that you were requesting that from me? Just keep asking them questions back and don't defend yourself. You can do this in a very professional, calm way without taking on the abuse and agreeing with their accusations and false misrepresentations about you.
Great video Andrew! It took me a long time to figure this one out. For years, I would let the narcissist disturb my peace and steal my energy simply by engaging in ridiculous arguments. He was never going to see my point of view ever! What a waste of energy! So, 100% correct, silence is the way to go for peace and healing!
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Well said
Mine will shut me down then a couple of months later send a video basically backing my point. Maddening
Anyone watching this who never had a relationship with a narcissist watches these type videos and thinks what is he talking about and all who been with a narcissist are blown away cause sounds just like what we experienced . great advice .
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Thanks , just discovered your video and your video very authentic and you are very experienced with Narcs .
Just subbed .
Silence gives you peace. Then there is no controversy, no explanations, no questions and smart as$ answers. Silence is really golden and keeps them wondering. They love to be in control and know what you are doing. Try just saying I will be back instead of saying exactly where you are going. Or tell them one thing and do another. Being armed with this knowledge is a huge relief and freedom like I’ve never known.
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Absolutely the case. Your silence wins and is golden. Silence is beautiful and powerful, it helps you get back to yourself and it protects your energy. Silence is healing and soothing. . I love silence. ❤ Thank you so much Andrew.
Thank you Andrew, 🙏🏾 that 2023 will Overflow your life with enormous blessings. This is the truth, the Narccist wants to consume and have FULL control of your life. They are fools, they want to be your god.
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Right. They want our worship. What’s that most powerful word again? Oh yes: “NO”
🚫 no worship to the narcissists.
@@gratefultobehere Absolutely 💯 %
Yes it was Andrew...coming through the fire!
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Silence sends out many possible meanings. It doesn't ever mean you 'win' and it can make you look foolish, aggrieved or angry.
But why would it matter to us? Let THEM stew on it and figure it out.
@@eltiochusma THEY probably wouldn't care either way.
Thanks for educating people. It’s been 18 months since I went silent a narc I was dating for over 10 years, it has been a difficult road to heel but well worth it and I worked on myself and my life. He left me alone for good this time around, as he already lined up his new source of supply prior to our parting. I have no I’ll feelings towards him, just sorrow feelings. I’ve been falling in love with me again which is a good feeling. Take care all in this new year.
Welcome 🙏💯🙌😊
Same thing happened to me after a year. Already had the next girl lined up prior to breaking up with me. Wow, I’m learning and this is all so textbook and obvious now
@@DeyonnGaston wishing you well 💕