DATING | WHAT DATING ADVICE WOULD WE GIVE OUR DAUGHTER or YOUNGER SELVES

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  • Опубліковано 15 лют 2022
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    In celebration of the month of love, we unpack what dating advice we would give our daughters or our younger selves♥️
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  • @lilithantsundwani
    @lilithantsundwani 2 роки тому +24

    DATING TIPS:
    1. Don't date young - you're not yet matured
    2. Don't date until you're ready to marry - it allows intentional living
    3. Believe people just as how they show you - your instincts are right
    4. Have a Purpose of dating - romantic relationships are consuming and call for compromises
    5. Be Yourself, be still in your values - if they can't handle you, they're simply not for you
    6. Take heed on whether the relationship elevates or shrinks you
    7. Be Complete with/by yourself - dating doesn't equate to dependency
    Thank you THE MAKHS!!!

  • @ncumisatshengele6745
    @ncumisatshengele6745 2 роки тому +86

    I'm faithful to my partner even though I do not know him yet. I'm hoping he finds me this year though🙏🏻 I'm 37 and hoping🥰🤗

  • @lauryn343
    @lauryn343 2 роки тому +5

    "Don't date until you're ready to marry" Mr Makhs..
    Thank you sir. Finally someone sees things the way I do!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @KhanyisileDlamini23
    @KhanyisileDlamini23 2 роки тому +7

    Before thinking about a purpose for the relationship,think about a purpose for your life.-Phetola😭😭thank you so much for this video guys❤

  • @ramaitemasipa6551
    @ramaitemasipa6551 2 роки тому +6

    Another best installment added in my cart😭😭🥺🥺. This is real ministry. Please keep it up sesi Phetho and Buti Lerato. Please keep on building and grooming us🥺🥺😭😭😭 trust me, what you do does not go in vain. Don't take this for granted. The Bible says, even with that 1 soul, the heaven rejoice. He left 99 sheep for just that one. Even if you come or post these installments for just one soul. You've done the task. Awww maaan I'm so emotional. Ke kgopela leska fela maatla. This is your ministry. I'm praying for you.🙌🏿 May the good lord keep you for us.😭😭😭

  • @nomsa06
    @nomsa06 2 роки тому +6

    Lerato is STRESSEDT 😫😫😬.

  • @Astridah_M
    @Astridah_M 2 роки тому +5

    Lerato's reaction when Phetola shares that Hakoe is coming into her own and going through body changes, is exactly my husband's, he can't even engage me in that conversation when I share our daughters changes whose only turning 8years, now hearing Lerato speak I understand my hubby

  • @ntsakomavunda9018
    @ntsakomavunda9018 2 роки тому +4

    You know there come a time where u feel that you have heard listend a lot of marrige talks and all that, but woow , there is always something new to take away....when Lerato said "it doesn't have to be my convictions but if it hurt your feelings , then I will adjust "

  • @A_Fruitful_Woman
    @A_Fruitful_Woman 2 роки тому +27

    My sincere condolences to The Thathani’s family. May God comfort Calvin and you all.
    In terms of dating advice: Do NOT date young. Don’t loose your virginity morghul! Do not try that. Don’t even kiss them! Bathong nna I think I have PTSD 🤣😢🥺. Listen, as true Christians, we need to learn that we must do things intentionally. Don’t allow anybody to test drive you or use you in anyway. Maya Angelo said it: believe them the FIRST TIME. Ntwana do not ignore any red flag. Even an orange one! Bathong!!!
    The look on Hakoe’s Father’s face (DID She ASK YOU THAT !?? 👀👀👧🏾👧🏽)
    Thanks fam for another great and interactive instalment. You two are too real. Love ya lots!

  • @Mbalings
    @Mbalings 2 роки тому +6

    The urge to comment before I even watch 😫🤭

  • @balukhoza9795
    @balukhoza9795 2 роки тому +20

    So good to see you, condolences to Calvin and his family ❤️

  • @mokgadi
    @mokgadi 2 роки тому +7

    I am not a parent yet and my opinion might be based on my own naivety. My goal is to do my best to prepare my future children for life and for when they bump into walls. I believe that we are not raising children, we are raising adults, who will have their own views on dating and marriage.

  • @blessingmabena4207
    @blessingmabena4207 2 роки тому +15

    Condolences to Calvin and family.
    I enjoyed the conversation, thank you.

  • @mujinakaindama7836
    @mujinakaindama7836 2 роки тому +11

    I’ve always thought the same as Lerato on dating, but now I think the “looking/dating vs I’ve met someone I want to spend my life with” distinction changes with age. Then you are persuaded to date in the hopes of meeting the person, rather than hoping they drop from the sky.
    Also condolences to Calvin’s family. You guys are such a blessing - love from London! ❤️

  • @vonganishikwambana4775
    @vonganishikwambana4775 2 роки тому +3

    I thoroughly enjoyed this conversation. I am 23 years old, have done the dating thing ALL WRONG from a very young age. I am just glad that I'm finally at a point where I've decided that I need to find myself and better myself before attempting another relationship because as you've mentioned, relationships are so consuming. Malcom X said, "A man who stands for nothing will fall for anything." and that sums up my dating history. So many unnecessary compromises and being led in weird directions simply because I had no idea of who I am, what I want for myself and letting relationships define me. This conversation has been so affirming and the timing couldn't have been better, because I know 20 year old me most probably wouldn't have listened because at that age, I really though I knew it all and had this life thing all figured out😂

  • @brigettebond6088
    @brigettebond6088 2 роки тому +10

    Thank you once again for a lovely installment. My take on going out and dating is always stay true to yourself, don't forget where u come from as well. I have a 26 year old daughter who is dating an amazing guy. He is a very quiet somebody whilst my daughter is the out going loud type (good loud ). I would often ask this guy what is it that you see in my daughter and he would respond saying - she is true to herself, she loves herself, she is a go getter, independent but most importantly she brings out the best in me. Hey guys what more can a mother ask for

    • @ThandazaMK
      @ThandazaMK 2 роки тому +3

      You are so blessed mama.

  • @ladye1253
    @ladye1253 2 роки тому +5

    Well I agree with what you said, I started dating my partner when I was in matric and we dated for 5 years before we took things to another level.
    We’ve been through trials and tribulations but we’ve been Happily married for 9 years. I’m note entirely sure whether I knew what I was getting myself into or even who I was but I have and still am on a journey of discovering myself.

  • @mrspboledi
    @mrspboledi 2 роки тому +5

    Phetola your hair🥰🥰🥰🔥🔥🔥 you look stunning as always

  • @sinothandosirunu
    @sinothandosirunu 2 роки тому +3

    I wish I heard this when I was younger, before I started dating. I hope teens take these advices and run with them.

  • @mulalorambuda7308
    @mulalorambuda7308 2 роки тому +1

    Mmmh...I like your message the Markhs,when you are ready to date,be the best version of yourself.

  • @heaven9378
    @heaven9378 2 роки тому +3

    Loved it❤️ and I agree with all that was said. I am single and turning 30 in June and it's kind of daunting yet at the same time will not compromise fundamental biblical principles

  • @katlegokevinkalaeamotho5394
    @katlegokevinkalaeamotho5394 2 роки тому +2

    As a 28 year this video was relevant in my life. I resonated with every point.. thank you so much! ❤️

  • @SineYouTubeChannel
    @SineYouTubeChannel 2 роки тому +1

    Another great one fam!!! Your lighting is always on point!! 😍😍😍😍😍😍

  • @lethabolekalakala6652
    @lethabolekalakala6652 2 роки тому +6

    Lerato is my father, i'm 26 and my dad is struggling to talk to me about dating

  • @sbongisenidhladhla6246
    @sbongisenidhladhla6246 2 роки тому +2

    Wow this installments was amazing. Much needed ❤🙏. God bless the Makhs 🙌

  • @lauryn343
    @lauryn343 2 роки тому +1

    Loved this!! Especially advice from 22:45 to 25 mins🔥🔥🔥👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @darryldenemartin3651
    @darryldenemartin3651 2 роки тому +6

    Pastor Sarah Jakes Roberts literally said "Love is a take over spirit" and I couldn't agree more. 🙇‍♀️ I love the sound counsel I get everytime I listen to you guys. HIGHLY appreciate it. Lysm!!!❤

    • @heaven9378
      @heaven9378 2 роки тому +1

      I listened to that talk, the Love&Balance talk right? I really agree with Sarah Roberts there

    • @darryldenemartin3651
      @darryldenemartin3651 2 роки тому

      @@heaven9378 That's the one!😉👌

  • @mpilonhlelebuna9116
    @mpilonhlelebuna9116 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for the instalment ❤️ 😊 really enjoyed it

  • @Rose_Karey
    @Rose_Karey 2 роки тому +1

    It's the authenticity for me.. Forever hooked and may The Good Lord keep on using you.

  • @blessjoy
    @blessjoy 2 роки тому +1

    Be the best version of yourself!!!I love that❤️❤️❤️

  • @LwaziGwegwana
    @LwaziGwegwana 2 роки тому +3

    Saze sakhuliswa emhlabeni 🙌🙌🙌...This was such an insightful episode. You're both blessed fam 🤗🤗

  • @manaledimojalefa1868
    @manaledimojalefa1868 2 роки тому +1

    Ameeeeeeeen🙌🏽
    What beautiful instrument, thank you

  • @eyethumfazwe
    @eyethumfazwe 2 роки тому +2

    I always learn something new when I watch your videos. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and life experiences with us. God bless!

  • @nicolestroud3009
    @nicolestroud3009 2 роки тому +1

    Loved this. The elevation is so important.

  • @prettypeyalimon6097
    @prettypeyalimon6097 2 роки тому +2

    Wow🙏❤️ Thank you for this ravishing installment my mentors 💞

  • @matshidisothula6082
    @matshidisothula6082 2 роки тому +1

    Phetola!! Your hair!! OMG!! I wish I had your hair!😭❤

  • @carolinemonama2373
    @carolinemonama2373 2 роки тому +3

    Condolences to Calvin's fam .thanks for an awesome topic on the month of love

  • @ntokozenelesekharume8322
    @ntokozenelesekharume8322 2 роки тому +1

    Definitely needed this♥️
    Thanks you The Makhs♥️💍

  • @marvelousmbali8002
    @marvelousmbali8002 2 роки тому +1

    I’m so lucky to have you Fam🥺actually we are so lucky ♥️ Thank God for you guys
    Issa wrap love and light 👊🏾

  • @elsiembwana9330
    @elsiembwana9330 2 роки тому +1

    I agree on the part that says date only when you are ready to commit..... Very good topic fam 💟🙏

  • @thegogetterbymaletjemamath3166
    @thegogetterbymaletjemamath3166 2 роки тому +2

    Lena le right man! Enjoyed this conversation ❤️

  • @sanelemjoli4877
    @sanelemjoli4877 2 роки тому +1

    It's the honesty for me that's still keeping me here.
    The Great I AM loves you

  • @mohaumolatudi9999
    @mohaumolatudi9999 2 роки тому +1

    This was beautiful 😍

  • @rosinaletsoalo8239
    @rosinaletsoalo8239 2 роки тому +2

    hair style is so wow u always look gorgeous.

  • @Riseingrace
    @Riseingrace 2 роки тому +2

    I’m really grateful for this instalment 😅 but this is just my personal experience… so I started dating at a really young age and that was 11 honestly it was one of the best things I realized because I got to learn a lot from it like to be more emotionally strong, I got to learn to differentiate feelings from guys that might be lying they had feelings for me. I was more mature and made all the mistakes I had to make and learnt from it and when I grew up I was able to make decisions and know what I want and my worth and wasn’t in a rush to make any wrong decisions as I was now in the real world. This was what worked for me and I’m happy I went through that process 😅

  • @victoriumbrandstrategycomm2263
    @victoriumbrandstrategycomm2263 2 роки тому +2

    Condolences to Calvin and his family you are in our prayers.
    So heartfelt how Mr Makhs feels about his daughters though. His advice is, " My advice is don't date. I said what I said 😂.."
    I love this. Mr Makhs says, "Don't date until you are ready to marry." So good, such sound advice.

  • @nontsikelelokhasu5257
    @nontsikelelokhasu5257 2 роки тому +1

    I love you guys. That last point is spot on ❤️👌

  • @angelinemoreroa1429
    @angelinemoreroa1429 2 роки тому +6

    Condolences
    The Makhs family, I have a question.
    Does God choose our spouses??
    Or he gave us free will??

  • @kwenadikamogelo634
    @kwenadikamogelo634 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much🌹Finally what requested

  • @blessjoy
    @blessjoy 2 роки тому +3

    Hei!!! mjolo🙆🙆🙆🙆🙆I don't want that thing anymore. A God fearing man will find me and we will do a courtship with the intention of marriage. Yhhhhu!!!I don't have the strength for mjolo anymore😂😂😂🙈

  • @hlayisanimabunda
    @hlayisanimabunda 2 роки тому +3

    The farting with confidence is what some of us have to persevere 😂😂😂
    I've learnt a lot from this installment. The Makhs ❤️❤️❤️

  • @rabeccamwila1314
    @rabeccamwila1314 2 роки тому

    Am 21 and I started dating this guy recently and I feel like my light is dimming prior the dating them and I take the blame for not redefining the purpose of this relationship in the beginning, a golden sign from a above to let go, intentioal dating going forward, thank you the markhs 💯💯❤️

  • @bitzgracia8834
    @bitzgracia8834 2 роки тому +2

    The good part is that i got the opportunity to consider this..Thank you so much 💕

  • @mrspboledi
    @mrspboledi 2 роки тому +1

    Thoroughly enjoying this conversation 🥰

  • @imamelenglekalakala
    @imamelenglekalakala 2 роки тому +1

    thank you so much for the insight . lots of love

  • @lauryn343
    @lauryn343 2 роки тому +1

    It gets better from 26:45 🔥🔥🔥 So real guys‼️

  • @dineomoaisi6724
    @dineomoaisi6724 2 роки тому +2

    The lighting is immaculate. Le a galalela, le bantle tota

  • @ziziphomagula8183
    @ziziphomagula8183 2 роки тому +1

    Good points here. Thank you guys

  • @sybilmthimkulu
    @sybilmthimkulu 2 роки тому +4

    Condolences to the Thethani family...

  • @nicolebailey1967
    @nicolebailey1967 2 роки тому +1

    Whewwwwww… ah whole word! #Powerfulll

  • @MaleboRapotu
    @MaleboRapotu 2 роки тому

    This was very helpful🥺♥️

  • @marvelousmbali8002
    @marvelousmbali8002 2 роки тому +1

    Yebo Mrs M energies even if you lie with your body or it’s not showing in your eyes but energies are so powerful than words and when one is not communicating it’s a sign as well ( like no response is a response as well ) gerrit 😊

  • @WisdomQuest_SA
    @WisdomQuest_SA 2 роки тому +3

    Akasagowi ubhuti Lerato.

  • @conradmashazhike6670
    @conradmashazhike6670 2 роки тому +1

    Those facial reactions Phetola makes are super funny🤣🤣🤣

  • @bulumkobulumko652
    @bulumkobulumko652 2 роки тому +1

    M lucky and blessed to have met you on this platform

  • @naomigapara6339
    @naomigapara6339 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you guys.A lot of what you said resonated with me.Its amazing how one day I took a walk early hours of the morning and I clearly heard God say to me, None will make you whole, you cant expect anyone to come and make you whole.Work on your self.I made a lot of changes during the Lock down.Now the confidence i have within my self is up there.Thanks to Jesus who loves me so much as i was so broken, and with no confidence but now OH MY.I even tell myself I am hot where as i couldnt tell myself that before.I lost my self too along the way but I am glad that Jesus helped me through and now i can encourage someone too.God bless you two.I love the wisdom that you share and I pray that i will have the confidence that you have to share to a greater audience.

  • @thabelonelushi5035
    @thabelonelushi5035 2 роки тому +3

    Deep condolences to Calvin and his family.

  • @marvelousmbali8002
    @marvelousmbali8002 2 роки тому +2

    Hey family 😊 my sincere condolences to Celvin and his family May God be their comfort

  • @mahanyelochristy9277
    @mahanyelochristy9277 2 роки тому +1

    Lesson:Let a person love the real you ❤️

  • @tsebedaphney2678
    @tsebedaphney2678 2 роки тому +1

    This installment 👌♥️

  • @buyisiwedlamini2151
    @buyisiwedlamini2151 2 роки тому +1

    You guys rock!!

  • @siyamtolo6733
    @siyamtolo6733 2 роки тому +2

    Awu condolences Calvin.❤️

  • @lapologangramotlhagodi3071
    @lapologangramotlhagodi3071 2 роки тому +1

    A ravishing installment indeed

  • @sophiaibemere3171
    @sophiaibemere3171 2 роки тому +1

    I love you guys cus you are so so real, being so true and realistic. 5 stars 🤩 ⭐

  • @sthabilegwala7951
    @sthabilegwala7951 2 роки тому +1

    My biggest fear is raising daughters because as a women I know what teenage girls go through. God blessed me with a boy but I think this conversion applies to Boys as well. you guys are doing well and I wish someone had had this conversation with me when i was younger. Also Mr Makhs is not dealing🤣🤣🤣 OMG!!! I fully understand where you are coming from. My Mom always says "Teach a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. So good luck to parents raising tweens and Teens❤❤❤❤

  • @pertuniamabula3577
    @pertuniamabula3577 2 роки тому +1

    Don't date until you are ready to marry!! Great advice Mr Makhs

  • @LETSOALO_LIFEest2013
    @LETSOALO_LIFEest2013 2 роки тому +3

    Condolences to the family

  • @mgeijho
    @mgeijho 2 роки тому +3

    Sorry Lerato!you forgot the part where they are going to get heartbroken before their hearts even belong to other men.

  • @philisiwekhumalo9673
    @philisiwekhumalo9673 2 роки тому +2

    Yoh the Makhs should get a share of my Lobola 😊

  • @zaneleluhabe5965
    @zaneleluhabe5965 2 роки тому +1

    My favorite 2❤❤,...1 time what what real👊🤗.What a brilliant installment 🙌🏽.Madam Makhs🤣uzoba strong kule 5weeks,sonibeka nje edolweni.Happy to have you back,stay blessed🙏🙌🏽

  • @faithlivingwithSam
    @faithlivingwithSam 2 роки тому +1

    Pheto is so beautiful 😍

  • @wendymurangi
    @wendymurangi 2 роки тому

    The notification gang

  • @marvelousmbali8002
    @marvelousmbali8002 2 роки тому +1

    Bona that moment I just love you guys ok please😩🥺 you can see the glow in their eyes ukuthi Haii not that day but the other day when your phone was off that moment issa just all sorts of cuteness 😍♥️

  • @ditebogomotjetjepa3965
    @ditebogomotjetjepa3965 2 роки тому +1

    We missed you so much dream team

  • @marvelousmbali8002
    @marvelousmbali8002 2 роки тому +1

    I can relate to what Mr M is saying because this is what the late Menzi Ngubane when he did his motivational speech ( like don’t be fooled and listen to a guy that says he can’t give you the world….) I ask your dad can provide that for you at any age your are still my daughter and I want you as daddy little girl even at your adulthood ages….let me for fill everything a guy has to do for you so that you don’t owe me anything and I won’t want anything in return
    Deep right yoh

  • @busisiwedlongwana4782
    @busisiwedlongwana4782 2 роки тому +1

    My fav family

  • @marvelousmbali8002
    @marvelousmbali8002 2 роки тому +1

    God must keep you guys for me please until I get married I need this wisdom yoh Mdali Zulu 🙌🏾🔥🔥🔥

  • @siyabongamkhize5644
    @siyabongamkhize5644 2 роки тому +4

    Sincere Condolences to Calvin and Family. May God be with you and comfort you.
    The intention of being in a relationship 🎯 spot on.

  • @lauryn343
    @lauryn343 2 роки тому +1

    I wish I could press like more than once🔥🔥🔥

  • @bathabilepoppy6585
    @bathabilepoppy6585 2 роки тому +1

    You should do a video of. Red flags we should look out gor

  • @bitzgracia8834
    @bitzgracia8834 2 роки тому +1

    Hey fam👀

  • @busisiwekwezi3750
    @busisiwekwezi3750 2 роки тому

    Hello fam❤❤

  • @lindatafeni9402
    @lindatafeni9402 2 роки тому

  • @esethumkrokrelwa2189
    @esethumkrokrelwa2189 2 роки тому +1

    Can we have Hakwe back on the channel please 🥺

  • @xolelwabucwa2899
    @xolelwabucwa2899 2 роки тому

    Woow

  • @chockbrown1
    @chockbrown1 2 роки тому +3

    Yhoo guys I am scared of bafana the boys 👀 😅 😔 .. wish I didn't Date young 😕 😪

  • @sindysibanda1841
    @sindysibanda1841 2 роки тому

    ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @wandilekwanda541
    @wandilekwanda541 2 роки тому

    ❤❤❤

  • @gugulethudube2468
    @gugulethudube2468 2 роки тому +1

    Dating is hard man am at a point right now where am just like am not doing this🙌.

  • @nwadiutoasandanwankwo
    @nwadiutoasandanwankwo 2 роки тому +1

    🥺🥺