This woman is happy and secure in her position in being submissive to her Master. i respect her so much and hope i can one day be as comfortable as she is.
To anyone who comes here commenting that this is abuse, please remember bdsm requires full consent from all people involved, negating your claims. There CAN BE abusive bdsm, just as there can be abusive "vanilla" relationships though, so remember to be careful EITHER WAY. Different dynamics for different people! c:
As a male sub I was once involved with a mistress that was a sociopath . At first everything seemed fine but as time went by it started to get scary .it was hard to escape . I really thought I was going to die and no one would know.
I would even wonder if there's *less* abuse (per capita) because abuse in inherently undesired and non-consentual. What "outsiders" might judge as abuse is most likely both desired and consentual. It's a very agreement-based framework. But, yes, there's no reason to believe no abuse happens whatsoever. Just like any other lifestyle or faction, there are good practitioners and bad practitioners. Those who get it and those who don't. Those who do things for the right reason and those who are shallow and reckless.
@@josephdennison4890 There are sociopaths everywhere. It's best if you spend time getting to know someone before getting into any type of relationship.
I don't get why people here are going on about how they don't think she is a slave or don't think she's a real sub. She said so herself that everyone is different and no one can tell you that you are or are not something. Just because she does things differently from some of us doesn't discredit all the things she says. People can be so immature. She explained everything very well. She did a great job.
pixelparable agreed! I thought she was excellent and explained things very well. I'm so sick of people needing to label others. Isn't that why we joined the lifestyle??? To get away from that BS???!!
She can be what she wants to be :p no kink related words are trademarked. Although the more watered down a word becomes, the harder it gets for full submission people to find each other. But in the end, people will fin a way. Shrug.
Omg! This made me cry happy tears..she is expressing exactly what I need to.hear. I am not a 24hr but yes! Thank.you to this woman for saying what she is saying!
Honestly this woman is so lively and dynamic she’s a delight to listen to. This caught me off guard. BDSM is often paraded around like a circus side show kind of vibe, but it is likely even more aware of consent than the average vanilla relationship, and I think that’s one thing all relationships could benefit from from that community is openly discussing what you like and want sexually or in a relationship and being aware of and adhering to what you both want in that relationship. The golden rule of BDSM is consent.
I am into Dd/Lg. Basically I am a sub that likes excessive nurturing and caretaking and I am not a slave in any way. I am 24/7. Although I don't have a dom at the moment, the most incredible bond I have ever had was with ny previous dom. There is more communication and talking about needs and wants, than any vanilla relationship I have ever been in. Each relationship has its own dynamic. Be careful of any Dom that doesn't respect you or have your best interests in mind. So many guys that are "dom" are just controlling @$$holes.
Same here!!!! But I'm also in a D/s relationship. She is the best Mistress I ever have had. I love her as my mommy too. She helps me with so much and we are wonderful together. Anyway, hope you can find a dom soon.
@@stigludwigsen What's evil? For someone to lead and someone to follow. It's literally all 8n the Bible which you should know since you talking about evil.
I agree with you. You show me 100 different BDSM couples, and I will show you 100 different styles of BDSM. Weather she is a "real" slave/submissive is a moot point. It's all about her happiness and their style of relationship based on their parameters that are agreed to and understood in their relationship. That's where their true relational happiness lies. What the people say that "Don't get it", doesn't matter because they will never get it.
Probably the most sensical comment i've seen in a youtube comment for a while, kudos. It makes me laugh when you see vanillas going ape shit about relationship dynamics in a d/s relationship when they have trouble communicating there own issues to their partners.
Paul Bearer Well put. Vanillas have a hard time understanding what BDSM is about. I can accept that and really understand why they have a hard time about it. Those of us who practice BDSM have always had that tendency and it's hard to "change" or convert someone into comprehending what it's all about. Why do I love cookie dough? Because I do and no other reason matters. Keep the faith.
Mark Qua Hello! I feel compelled to break into this conversation because I am someone who "doesn't get" this, but I have come into a situation where I really need to get it. And I'm sad to hear it said that this would be nothing short of impossible for me. I need to understand what drives a slave - what (s)he gains from the relationship and why some people want to be in this position while others don't (what's the difference between you and me?). I'm not interested in arguing about it, only understanding. By the way, I understand if all the bigotry you guys receive makes you want to lash back a bit, but I do find the term "vanilla" offensive. Not all non-BDSM sex is the same. There are other ways to be sensually explorative.
Hi Nomen. Good and fair comments. My comments were based basically towards those that result to mud slinging without even attempting to understand what BDSM is. (you are not in that catagory) I thought long and hard before responding to you. It's hard to sum up in a short letter. By vanilla, I and others simply are refering to "non- bdsm" people. Speaking for myself, I never even considered it a slight. I could talk for hours on the subject. Many aspects surround bdsm, such as, sensory, visual, trust, insecurity with ones life (therefore enjoying being kept), pain which (if properly administered) can take you to another level of sensuality, and many others. I myself feel that I have always had a natural tendency towards bdsm, long before I even knew it had a label. I am a switch, which basically means I enjoy recieving and dishing it out. If I may ask, are you male or female? I appreciate speaking with anyone that doesn't result in name calling. :)
This is wonderful. As far as these interviews go it was nice to see it not be a sensationalized. Well spoken submissive and respectful interviewer... very refreshing.
@Duvenx if you were a serious candidate you would not be asking random people, rather you would already have willing subs queueing up looking for a master to be chosen from. Everyone knows that submissives outnumber doms at least by a factor of two, if not much more. That act of you begging in UA-cam comments suggests that you somehow couldn't find a submissive in a buyer's market, which implies that you are in low demand as a master.
Being a BDSM slave is amazingly wonderful and loving because there is such great communication, respect and no competition or fighting over ones position in a relationship. great interview thank you
"Do you find people judge you when you say these things?" "Yeah, but you get to a point in your life where it doesn't really matter." Epic. I love her.
I love how the interviewer listens with an open mind and asks great questions! She didn't judge her and can see she's happy. That woman is so happy in her relationship with her Master ❤ She beautifully put the relationship of a master and their slave/pet. And shes totally explaining the consent aspect and comfort.
I love what she said about BDSM vs. abuse. It's so so so important that even if there is total power exchange happening, you always have the right to safeword. You aren't a literal slave. If the relationship doesn't make you happy anymore or is harmful to you, you are allowed to re-negotiate and you are also allowed to leave. If you aren't, it's not consentual BDSM, it's abuse. And you need to get out of it asap.
Reading some of the secondary comments it is clear that some people do not understand the truth about our lifestyle. It is a gift, her willingness to submit, one of the greatest gifts to be given. Absolute trust, and devotion. Vanilla is good, but if you have never been introduced to our world, you are missing out.....
I will never understand the stigma of being a slave to someone. NO matter where you are on the cooperate ladder you still answer to someone. In a other word you are enslaved to them. So if I choose to be totally controlled by someone who loves me. That is my choice. Right now I am number 17 of 25 slave women and some men that serve Mistress Barbara.
Shes proof that bdsm is healthy as long as done correctly..shes obviously happy and clearly in love..proof that bdsm isnt dark or sinister..just liked and subscribed❤
I would love to be my husband's slave, been together 20 years I'm naturally a submissive and my husband is dominate but our relationship is nothing like this. I'd like it too be though.
Dominant/ submissive in bdsm means that your dynamic is growing and the dominant ensures your care, wellbeing and cultivating your personal aspirations. This in exchange for your submission. There are limits that are discussed and negotiated. It is a power exchange. Being an alpha doesn't mean you can dominate properly.
Western countries are really strange, on the one hand, they say that this woman has the right to be a slave, and on the other hand, they say that the Muslim woman is a slave and must be free and self-reliant!!!!! what the hell !!!!!
Evelyn Ruckman ....Cuz its supposed 2 be a power exchange...A dominant cant have their cake and eat it too...I think it would be physically and emotionally exhausting...You'd get sick, and you'd be slacking off at work, and when would she have time 4 ME time?? It's like running a machine in2 the ground, and if I were to engage in that type of relationship, I'd want complete financial freedom from paying Bills, working and doing all the ADULT responsibilities that we all must do every day...If I'm putting my life in a partners hands, and being their 24/7 slave or pet, and have my main priority to serve you...Then you must take care of me 100%... Slaves and pets dont work in theory...I think it's insane and close 2 impossible to do house work, cook and clean , care 4 kids, and work,?? GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE!! The dominant would then have 2 pitch in and get their hands dirty 2 by helping with the chores!! If the dominant did none of that than they are nothing more than a lazy and selfish POS... BUT THIS IS 24/7 BDSM....THATS WHY IT'S SO IMPORTANT 4 THE SUB NOT 2 WORK. That's my opinion! .
@@jillgarittagoatgirl-expose2759 but every BDSM dynamic is different and some may not be that extreme. Some dominants do chores and help with the kids and dinner too. Some D/s dynamics appear just like vanilla ones with both partners pitching in equally when it comes to vanilla things like work and chores and kids. Some dynamics the sub works but only does personal chores for the dom and the dom takes care of the rest. Personally, I wouldn't want to be financially dependant because if we ever did separate, even amicably, I'd want to be able to pick up my life right where I left it instead of worrying about finding a job and getting a place and all that. And I like having work, I'd go stir crazy if I was cooped up in the house all day only doing the chores and taking care of the kids. But everyone is different and I respect that. I was just curious as to why you thought her dom needed to provide for her in that way.
Evelyn Ruckman ..Well now that you mentioned other dynamics such as the dominant helping out, etc.THEN I AGREE WITH YOU 100%! That makes sense...I was thinking in terms of 100% by the book, where the dominant would lay on the couch all day like a king and have her go 2 work. And come home and work for the rest of her day fussing after him, where her only break is in the bathroom and sleeping... I was thinking extremely strict...
@@jillgarittagoatgirl-expose2759 honestly, I don't consider that a real BDSM dynamic (unless both parties specifically agree to that particular dynamic) because the dom, in my eyes, should be the one that takes care of the sub. Yes, the sub does chores and tasks for the dom, but the dom is entrusted with their wellbeing, and therefore should be taking care of the sub and pampering them when they see fit. The dom should care for and look after the sub in all aspects. So when they see the sub struggling and getting worn down, maybe lighten the load a little, or take them out for a spa day or something super relaxing. Or do a particularly intimate scene where the sub let's go of all the stress that's been building up. If the dom didn't pay attention to things like this, then they wouldn't be doing their job as a dom. Doms have the most responsibility in the relationship because they have the emotional, physical, and spiritual wellbeing of another human in their hands. If they can't handle that responsibility, then they don't need to be a dom.
The use of the word “vanilla“ is used to shame and pressure subs into taking things further and further and further. This is just one of the problems with BDSM. I have no problem with consensual BDSM to a certain extent. That doesn’t mean that I am going to ignore the Obvious problems with it. I am very glad that she is displaying a healthy representation of what this dynamic can look like. I just came from a video where the dumb/sadist admitted that he was not open to compromise. He admitted that he was conditioning her to not be comfortable speaking up/questioning/negotiating, nor is she allowed to. One thing I disagree with- there is obviously a wrong way to do it. In fact, that was The main point of the video. She was explaining how it can be done in a consensual and healthy way. If there is no room for communication/negotiation/questioning etc., that is definitely not the right way.
The submission of one's soul to anyone besides Creator is intolerable to Life itself. However, submission of all else with clear permanent escape is doable as it holds the so-called master accountable to reason and responsibility for well being of others.
I can’t see how the type of relationship they have could possibly be healthy for their kids to be around. I’m not judging them for having a 24/7 power exchange relationship,they are consenting adults and that’s non of my business but the thought of being forced to grow up with parents that live that kind of life while I’m still living at their house makes me nauseous
This is late but: Most people in relationships like this tend to have regulations about play around their kids (if they have any). Most of the time, a couple’s children don’t know about those aspects of their parents’ relationship because, if the kid normalizes the harsher aspects of the relationship but not everything about the consent and negotiations, it could result in the child being unable to separate consensual BDSM and abuse (ie: They could end up in and abusive relationship and think it’s BDSM so they don’t leave). I know I’m not explaining myself well, but I hope you at least sort of get what I’m saying.
My BDSM slave relationship came to an end when mistress and I decided there was a lot of work for the master in such a relationship, too much work for the owner.
Morrigan070671 Sorry I assumed you knew Icelandic because of your pfp! I said 'yes but that is exactly what some of these people are into, having one in compete control of the other' but yeah I get why it would be stressful for the dom.
Svana Iceland Finally got my Google Translate to work. First of all, this girl enjoyed Iceland tremendously when Mistress took her kennel there. This girl had no idea that she would find another sub from Iceland. This girl envies your exotic and very fun abode. As for this girl's specific break up with Mistress, it was a very confusing time for Mistress, and Mistress made some questionable decisions which did not take into account that her kennel had pledged obedience to her -- or -- Svana Iceland Að lokum fékk ég Google Translate til vinnu. Fyrst af öllu, þessi stúlka notaði Ísland ógurlega þegar húsmóðurinn tók kennsluna þar. Þessi stúlka hafði ekki hugmynd um að hún myndi finna annan undirflokk frá Íslandi. Þessi stúlka öfunda þinn framandi og mjög skemmtilegt húsnæði. Að því er varðar sérstaka brjóta þessa stúlku upp með húsmóður, var það mjög ruglingslegt tíma fyrir húsmóður og húsfreyja gerði nokkrar vafasömar ákvarðanir sem tóku ekki tillit til þess að kennslan hennar hafði heitið henni hlýðni við hana
Some borderline personality disorder are fulfilled by this lifestyle where they would be suffering tremendously without this outlet for who they are. Not defending ect just it is what it is and is the shoe fits wear it, or continue to suffer your own humiliation , and unfulfillment for denying yourself. Perhaps you just need someone who actually wants you???
Sure, some people who are mentally ill find refuge in BDSM because it has clear lines about consent and safety, but that doesn't mean that everyone who enjoys the lifestyle is mentally ill. That's ridiculous to assume, and just adds to the stigma that comes with the lifestyle.
You're right. Most women who's into this shit looks like borderline types. You see the emotional disturbance in their eyes, just look at the avatars of the self proclaimmed subs here.
Your comment is pretty old but I wanted to comment as well. I’m diagnosed with BPD with a bit of narcissistic tendencies. I’m a femdom. I’m in a 24/7 relationship with a male slave and BDSM scratches all the itches I have as someone with BPD. I have a huge fear of abandonment but BDSM allows me to own my slave and it creates a false sense that he cannot run away from me.
I recommend you start a profile on Fetlife. There are thousands of resources hundreds of references to other educational materials, events etc. Gotta take that first step.
Food for thought: society has changed so much that engaging in a relationship that would be considered the “norm” 100-150 years ago is now considered a fetish and gets you an interview.
But the key difference is that 100-150 years ago it wasn't a choice. You had no autonomy. You didn't get to say no. You didn't get to have hard limits and your best interests weren't considered. You did what they told you and no one cared if you didn't consent. THAT'S the difference. THAT'S why it's considered a fetish. Not to mention that there wasn't bondage, or flogging, or other kinks involved in the relationship back then. It's not the same at all. The entire foundation and context of a BDSM relationship is entirely different. You're citing abuse, and BDSM is all about consent and pleasure and happiness, and NOT about abuse.
Evelyn Ruckman The problem with generalizations are obvious or should be. There were many very successful loving relationships even 100’s of yrs ago. Not all older men were cheating, abusive, controlling, misogynistic pigs, even centuries back. That is a stereotype like any other. I personally don’t understand our need to label everyone except for the convenience of brevity.
Yes, we do. I've had submissives and slaves both for many, many years. It's just hard to find black women (or any women) these days who want to be submissives or slaves now that it's become so scary to approach any woman at all. If it's something you're interested in, seek out people to teach you and help you find what you want.
*I find it's VERT taboo in our Black community. Also, there's NO RESEARCH OR EDUCATION, so it becomes about "controlling" and then "abusive" and looks NOTHING like a REAL relationship, like she explains here. Because in reality, the sub has all the control, they just choose to give it up *
I've got no judgement on BDSM between consenting adults because I just don't care about what other people do in their own bedrooms. However, when a child becomes involved there is a problem. When you plop out a sprog you forgo the luxury of living an "alternate" lifestyle. Everything gets put on hold until that child is strong enough and capable enough to look after themselves. It would be the same for any lifestyle choice. You shouldn't be forcing veganism on a child, or religious indoctrination, or neo-luddism, and you certainly shouldn't be normalising BDSM. Having to explain to your child that you're sleeping in cuffs because "it is a task that has been assigned" by their father is going to really mess with that kids perception of normal human interaction. You have no idea how these experiences are going to effect them in the long term. At best you're gambling your future relationship with them, and at worst, causing long term psychological harm. It would be a different matter if the child walked in on you and your partner having sex. It's embarrassing and you should have locked the door, but it is something the kid will eventually come to terms with. But this is living a lifestyle. One that the child cannot escape. If you really wanted your child to be happy you'd put your own needs aside for their welfare.
The danger is if the do stand up for themselves the master may do something drastic physically to keep her under control and she could suffer even the ultimate. Not worth that.
is she or is she not describing enjoyment of stockholm syndrome? I have a hard time understanding BDSM and if I'm wrong, please explain why? I'm endlessly curious about it
No shes not. Its a bond between people who willing agree to their roles they choose to take and set limits and rules on how far they will go and can endure. Both masters and slaves have a say and can stop when they feel like its too much for them by the guidelines they set forth. If the master is ordering the slave to do something they just wont or cant do, they have agreed to use their safe word in which the master will instantly stop and find out what the problem is and they will talk it out. If a dominant will not stop, that is not a real dominate and the slave has all right to leave the contract/ relationship with no repercussions. I hope this helps.
Stockholm syndrome is when you’re held hostage completely Against your will. (which is traumatic, unchosen, and you’re in real danger), but begin to sympathise with your captor. BDSM is when you fancy the other person, and agree beforehand they’ll pretend to take you hostage, you’re not in any real danger, and if you change your mind at any point or you get a leg cramp you just say a code word and they stop instantly. Then after a few years of that kind of thing you get fed up with his snoring, he gets fed up with you still not understanding the offside rule, and you split up- same as everyone else 😂
How is she doing damage to the bdsm community? Anyone with common sense knows that your community is a community of the mentally ill and antisocial people. It doesn't matter what you say or how you say it, that's what people think of you.
"Is it really worth acknowledging what everybody else is thinking if it constantly makes you miserable?" POWERFUL!
Very grateful that the interviewer seemed to not be either biased or judgemental which is the case in most media circumstances highlighting BDSM
That's an intelligent Indian
As a Master in a 24/7 D/s relationship I will have to say that this is a great interview.Well done! Your Master must be proud.
I agree
Her master must be proud. Very well said. There is no such thing as normal in our world. My master and I are in this same life and it's wonderful.
Is that you in your avatar?
This woman is happy and secure in her position in being submissive to her Master. i respect her so much and hope i can one day be as comfortable as she is.
Bimbos Love Spirals me too. I'm like only just starting to evolve or blossom and it's difficult to be fully comfortable but I'd like to be some day.
Pathetic.
@The McPoyles You are only provoked because you know I'm right.
@The McPoyles You are incapable of understanding. That's all.
You will bimbos... I'm happy to have finally my Dom after searching for him for 30years... I just love being submissive to my Master
To anyone who comes here commenting that this is abuse, please remember bdsm requires full consent from all people involved, negating your claims. There CAN BE abusive bdsm, just as there can be abusive "vanilla" relationships though, so remember to be careful EITHER WAY. Different dynamics for different people! c:
As a male sub I was once involved with a mistress that was a sociopath . At first everything seemed fine but as time went by it started to get scary .it was hard to escape . I really thought I was going to die and no one would know.
I would even wonder if there's *less* abuse (per capita) because abuse in inherently undesired and non-consentual. What "outsiders" might judge as abuse is most likely both desired and consentual. It's a very agreement-based framework. But, yes, there's no reason to believe no abuse happens whatsoever. Just like any other lifestyle or faction, there are good practitioners and bad practitioners. Those who get it and those who don't. Those who do things for the right reason and those who are shallow and reckless.
@@josephdennison4890
There are sociopaths everywhere. It's best if you spend time getting to know someone before getting into any type of relationship.
I need a full length interview with this woman. Love Her!
I don't get why people here are going on about how they don't think she is a slave or don't think she's a real sub. She said so herself that everyone is different and no one can tell you that you are or are not something. Just because she does things differently from some of us doesn't discredit all the things she says.
People can be so immature. She explained everything very well. She did a great job.
pixelparable agreed! I thought she was excellent and explained things very well. I'm so sick of people needing to label others. Isn't that why we joined the lifestyle??? To get away from that BS???!!
Didn't you comment this exact same thing, almost word for word on an Evie Lupine video?
She can be what she wants to be :p no kink related words are trademarked. Although the more watered down a word becomes, the harder it gets for full submission people to find each other. But in the end, people will fin a way. Shrug.
@@carrienuon773 really? That's odd
Omg! This made me cry happy tears..she is expressing exactly what I need to.hear. I am not a 24hr but yes! Thank.you to this woman for saying what she is saying!
Same!!
Honestly this woman is so lively and dynamic she’s a delight to listen to. This caught me off guard. BDSM is often paraded around like a circus side show kind of vibe, but it is likely even more aware of consent than the average vanilla relationship, and I think that’s one thing all relationships could benefit from from that community is openly discussing what you like and want sexually or in a relationship and being aware of and adhering to what you both want in that relationship. The golden rule of BDSM is consent.
As a 24/7 slave myself I really love this interview, very well said :)
I can see something is wrong with you simply by looking at your eyes.
Anything goes
Good to know
How to find a master help me
@Duvenx whii ferr
I am into Dd/Lg. Basically I am a sub that likes excessive nurturing and caretaking and I am not a slave in any way. I am 24/7. Although I don't have a dom at the moment, the most incredible bond I have ever had was with ny previous dom. There is more communication and talking about needs and wants, than any vanilla relationship I have ever been in. Each relationship has its own dynamic. Be careful of any Dom that doesn't respect you or have your best interests in mind. So many guys that are "dom" are just controlling @$$holes.
Same here!!!! But I'm also in a D/s relationship. She is the best Mistress I ever have had. I love her as my mommy too. She helps me with so much and we are wonderful together. Anyway, hope you can find a dom soon.
Great video to explain BDSM to others. Seriously, one of the best I've found.
This was one of the best interviews and explanations I have ever had the pleasure to listen to. This woman has my true respect. Thank you.
As long as everyone's having a good time and everyone's being safe sane and consensual, its all right by me.
SSC: Thank you for bringing this point into the discussion.
Worshipping evil is allright by you? Very naive...
A bit judgmental eh? You must be a christian..@@stigludwigsen
@@dwightmagnuson4298 Common sense has no religion. I'm not religous.
@@stigludwigsen
What's evil? For someone to lead and someone to follow. It's literally all 8n the Bible which you should know since you talking about evil.
I agree with you. You show me 100 different BDSM couples, and I will show you 100 different styles of BDSM. Weather she is a "real" slave/submissive is a moot point. It's all about her happiness and their style of relationship based on their parameters that are agreed to and understood in their relationship. That's where their true relational happiness lies. What the people say that "Don't get it", doesn't matter because they will never get it.
Probably the most sensical comment i've seen in a youtube comment for a while, kudos. It makes me laugh when you see vanillas going ape shit about relationship dynamics in a d/s relationship when they have trouble communicating there own issues to their partners.
Paul Bearer Well put. Vanillas have a hard time understanding what BDSM is about. I can accept that and really understand why they have a hard time about it. Those of us who practice BDSM have always had that tendency and it's hard to "change" or convert someone into comprehending what it's all about. Why do I love cookie dough? Because I do and no other reason matters. Keep the faith.
Mark Qua
Hello! I feel compelled to break into this conversation because I am someone who "doesn't get" this, but I have come into a situation where I really need to get it. And I'm sad to hear it said that this would be nothing short of impossible for me. I need to understand what drives a slave - what (s)he gains from the relationship and why some people want to be in this position while others don't (what's the difference between you and me?). I'm not interested in arguing about it, only understanding.
By the way, I understand if all the bigotry you guys receive makes you want to lash back a bit, but I do find the term "vanilla" offensive. Not all non-BDSM sex is the same. There are other ways to be sensually explorative.
Hi Nomen. Good and fair comments. My comments were based basically towards those that result to mud slinging without even attempting to understand what BDSM is. (you are not in that catagory) I thought long and hard before responding to you. It's hard to sum up in a short letter. By vanilla, I and others simply are refering to "non- bdsm" people. Speaking for myself, I never even considered it a slight. I could talk for hours on the subject. Many aspects surround bdsm, such as, sensory, visual, trust, insecurity with ones life (therefore enjoying being kept), pain which (if properly administered) can take you to another level of sensuality, and many others. I myself feel that I have always had a natural tendency towards bdsm, long before I even knew it had a label. I am a switch, which basically means I enjoy recieving and dishing it out. If I may ask, are you male or female? I appreciate speaking with anyone that doesn't result in name calling. :)
Excellent interview. First time I have heard such a succinct and accurate explanation of a D/s relationship.
This is wonderful. As far as these interviews go it was nice to see it not be a sensationalized. Well spoken submissive and respectful interviewer... very refreshing.
Honestly this lady was amazingly articulate, joy to listen to!
@Duvenx if you were a serious candidate you would not be asking random people, rather you would already have willing subs queueing up looking for a master to be chosen from. Everyone knows that submissives outnumber doms at least by a factor of two, if not much more. That act of you begging in UA-cam comments suggests that you somehow couldn't find a submissive in a buyer's market, which implies that you are in low demand as a master.
Being a BDSM slave is amazingly wonderful and loving because there is such great communication, respect and no competition or fighting over ones position in a relationship. great interview thank you
Catrina B hi catrina.. this is jan ☺ and i would like to get to know you.
Rex, you're an idiot. What gave you the right to judge anyone?@Rex
@Wildfox01
So you don't respect women . Because it takes fucking strength to kneel (metaphorically).
Love this lady. So well spoken and nicely sums up a D/s relationship dynamic.
synnocide IKR!!! I totally love her, she is so passionate. Wish I knew who she is...
+AnaryaVhargon her name is Honey Morgan.
Type in honey morgan women 24 and it will show on UA-cam
XxXQuietSoulXxX
Thank you so much! This woman is my hero.
+Deep In His Cups make that comment again and i'll report you.
Don't make yourself a target.
I didn't find any video of her, must've been deleted, too bad
Thank you for interviewing an extremely intelligent lady on such a controversial topic.
This was explained beautifully.. Sad that some minds cannot understand.
These woman is so georgous! She told A BIG TRUE, specialy on the end of the interview❣
This was so wonderfully spoken! I can tell what a happy and healthy relationship she has, and it’s truly beautiful
When she said the pleasure of always saying yes 🙌🏽🙌🏽
"Do you find people judge you when you say these things?"
"Yeah, but you get to a point in your life where it doesn't really matter."
Epic. I love her.
"I want her to be happy" awesome interview
I love how the interviewer listens with an open mind and asks great questions! She didn't judge her and can see she's happy. That woman is so happy in her relationship with her Master ❤ She beautifully put the relationship of a master and their slave/pet. And shes totally explaining the consent aspect and comfort.
I love the clarity of this explanation. Thank you.
I love what she said about BDSM vs. abuse.
It's so so so important that even if there is total power exchange happening, you always have the right to safeword.
You aren't a literal slave. If the relationship doesn't make you happy anymore or is harmful to you, you are allowed to re-negotiate and you are also allowed to leave.
If you aren't, it's not consentual BDSM, it's abuse. And you need to get out of it asap.
I love how the interviewer has a look plastered to her face that screams "TMI"
She did a good job explaining it.
Nice video about Master slave truth. Good for learning and educational.
Hi am mistress Linda would you love to have me has your mistress
@@lindahughes696 I would like to have you as my good slave girl
such a funny and sweet accent ;) she explains it very well, loved to listen
Thank you this was excellent. She was so well spoken and really got the basic truth out there!
Very well articulated and mirrors how things work for us in our home.
I love My Master.... Love how this woman talks about it all xx
A self proclaimed spiritual teacher who worships evil ^^
I think "witch" is the correct term here...
really thanks for the contributed program, on e question is how and what to live on during 24/7 slave as real life ? thanks a lot
Hey am mistress Linda would you love to have me has your mistress
Best video I have ever seen on this topic!! I love what she says.
Is there a full interview I can find? I want to see more of what she has to say. Does she have a blog I could find?
usagibunny55
Sex and Honey
Her name is Honey Morgan
Reading some of the secondary comments it is clear that some people do not understand the truth about our lifestyle. It is a gift, her willingness to submit, one of the greatest gifts to be given. Absolute trust, and devotion. Vanilla is good, but if you have never been introduced to our world, you are missing out.....
Let me add, that 2 people must spend time getting to know each other before embarking down this road.
Saving this for anyone that wants me to keep explaining lol!
I really needed to see this I’m a 24/7 Submissive.
Why did you need to see this? Why haven't you done any reading? Educated yourself?
I will never understand the stigma of being a slave to someone. NO matter where you are on the cooperate ladder you still answer to someone. In a other word you are enslaved to them.
So if I choose to be totally controlled by someone who loves me. That is my choice. Right now I am number 17 of 25 slave women and some men that serve Mistress Barbara.
Okay, that is not the same thing as D/s. How can all the needs of all subs be attended to. It can't.
Beautifully articulated! Even down to being SSC...
Great interview!!!!
so I love her!!!
She literally just taught me everything I need to know...
I love this video. good for a trainee ;)
This is very important in a D&s relationship Dominant and submissive. They have to have a conscencial relationship or it just won't work
Shes proof that bdsm is healthy as long as done correctly..shes obviously happy and clearly in love..proof that bdsm isnt dark or sinister..just liked and subscribed❤
very healthy to be told to eat in a bowl on the floor in front of your children...
That chick that walked past in the interview though 🔥🔥🔥
excellent interview, very informative, good questions
thank You for exsplain how real and normal people in theese relationships are....
The interviewer: "Uh huh."
This is AMAZING. They are both wonderful people
I would love to be my husband's slave, been together 20 years I'm naturally a submissive and my husband is dominate but our relationship is nothing like this. I'd like it too be though.
What's stopping it?
Dominant/ submissive in bdsm means that your dynamic is growing and the dominant ensures your care, wellbeing and cultivating your personal aspirations. This in exchange for your submission. There are limits that are discussed and negotiated. It is a power exchange.
Being an alpha doesn't mean you can dominate properly.
Such a good explanation! Well said.
reverse psychology submissive is given responsibility to another person this frees the woman from decision making for their own life not a new thing
You're amazing! Vanilla relationships aren't for me either.
Western countries are really strange, on the one hand, they say that this woman has the right to be a slave, and on the other hand, they say that the Muslim woman is a slave and must be free and self-reliant!!!!! what the hell !!!!!
I hope she doesnt have 2 work..He better be taking care of her 100%
Why? Many submissives have their own careers. Why does she have to be financially dependent on him as well?
Evelyn Ruckman ....Cuz its supposed 2 be a power exchange...A dominant cant have their cake and eat it too...I think it would be physically and emotionally exhausting...You'd get sick, and you'd be slacking off at work, and when would she have time 4 ME time?? It's like running a machine in2 the ground, and if I were to engage in that type of relationship, I'd want complete financial freedom from paying Bills, working and doing all the ADULT responsibilities that we all must do every day...If I'm putting my life in a partners hands, and being their 24/7 slave or pet, and have my main priority to serve you...Then you must take care of me 100%... Slaves and pets dont work in theory...I think it's insane and close 2 impossible to do house work, cook and clean , care 4 kids, and work,?? GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE!! The dominant would then have 2 pitch in and get their hands dirty 2 by helping with the chores!! If the dominant did none of that than they are nothing more than a lazy and selfish POS... BUT THIS IS 24/7 BDSM....THATS WHY IT'S SO IMPORTANT 4 THE SUB NOT 2 WORK. That's my opinion!
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@@jillgarittagoatgirl-expose2759 but every BDSM dynamic is different and some may not be that extreme. Some dominants do chores and help with the kids and dinner too. Some D/s dynamics appear just like vanilla ones with both partners pitching in equally when it comes to vanilla things like work and chores and kids. Some dynamics the sub works but only does personal chores for the dom and the dom takes care of the rest. Personally, I wouldn't want to be financially dependant because if we ever did separate, even amicably, I'd want to be able to pick up my life right where I left it instead of worrying about finding a job and getting a place and all that. And I like having work, I'd go stir crazy if I was cooped up in the house all day only doing the chores and taking care of the kids. But everyone is different and I respect that. I was just curious as to why you thought her dom needed to provide for her in that way.
Evelyn Ruckman ..Well now that you mentioned other dynamics such as the dominant helping out, etc.THEN I AGREE WITH YOU 100%! That makes sense...I was thinking in terms of 100% by the book, where the dominant would lay on the couch all day like a king and have her go 2 work. And come home and work for the rest of her day fussing after him, where her only break is in the bathroom and sleeping... I was thinking extremely strict...
@@jillgarittagoatgirl-expose2759 honestly, I don't consider that a real BDSM dynamic (unless both parties specifically agree to that particular dynamic) because the dom, in my eyes, should be the one that takes care of the sub. Yes, the sub does chores and tasks for the dom, but the dom is entrusted with their wellbeing, and therefore should be taking care of the sub and pampering them when they see fit. The dom should care for and look after the sub in all aspects. So when they see the sub struggling and getting worn down, maybe lighten the load a little, or take them out for a spa day or something super relaxing. Or do a particularly intimate scene where the sub let's go of all the stress that's been building up. If the dom didn't pay attention to things like this, then they wouldn't be doing their job as a dom. Doms have the most responsibility in the relationship because they have the emotional, physical, and spiritual wellbeing of another human in their hands. If they can't handle that responsibility, then they don't need to be a dom.
This interviewer is annoying because she keeps interrupting the woman.
I'm a newbie and I would like to find a sub or a BDSM slave but I keep dealing with scammers on websites it's getting anorion
Did you find one yet? Goodluck to you
Why did they put “real life” like they are some kind of mystical creature 💀
This woman is awesome where do you get one like this ha ha ha
Now that is a Good girl, she know protocol 🔆♥️
❤ I love this so much ❤
i miss Craigslist was still up i wish i could find women into my kink that would actually want to meet
Fetlife. Have met quite a few people into my specific brand of kink... I am a twisted sister too 😆
The use of the word “vanilla“ is used to shame and pressure subs into taking things further and further and further. This is just one of the problems with BDSM. I have no problem with consensual BDSM to a certain extent. That doesn’t mean that I am going to ignore the Obvious problems with it.
I am very glad that she is displaying a healthy representation of what this dynamic can look like. I just came from a video where the dumb/sadist admitted that he was not open to compromise. He admitted that he was conditioning her to not be comfortable speaking up/questioning/negotiating, nor is she allowed to.
One thing I disagree with- there is obviously a wrong way to do it. In fact, that was The main point of the video. She was explaining how it can be done in a consensual and healthy way. If there is no room for communication/negotiation/questioning etc., that is definitely not the right way.
She literally says that at the end.
I wish I have her life haha. Still finding my master
The submission of one's soul to anyone besides Creator is intolerable to Life itself. However, submission of all else with clear permanent escape is doable as it holds the so-called master accountable to reason and responsibility for well being of others.
we all have god, the creator, within us
So..... let me get this straight... in a nutshell, BDSM relationship is like a traditional feudal marriage?
I can’t see how the type of relationship they have could possibly be healthy for their kids to be around. I’m not judging them for having a 24/7 power exchange relationship,they are consenting adults and that’s non of my business but the thought of being forced to grow up with parents that live that kind of life while I’m still living at their house makes me nauseous
This is late but:
Most people in relationships like this tend to have regulations about play around their kids (if they have any). Most of the time, a couple’s children don’t know about those aspects of their parents’ relationship because, if the kid normalizes the harsher aspects of the relationship but not everything about the consent and negotiations, it could result in the child being unable to separate consensual BDSM and abuse (ie: They could end up in and abusive relationship and think it’s BDSM so they don’t leave).
I know I’m not explaining myself well, but I hope you at least sort of get what I’m saying.
what an amazingly open woman :)
My BDSM slave relationship came to an end when mistress and I decided there was a lot of work for the master in such a relationship, too much work for the owner.
Morrigan070671
Já enn það er akkúrat það sem sumir líka við, að einn stjórnar hinum alveg.. >>
Svana Iceland I'm sorry, but I don't understand what you've written. Could you post it again in English, please?
Morrigan070671
Sorry I assumed you knew Icelandic because of your pfp! I said 'yes but that is exactly what some of these people are into, having one in compete control of the other' but yeah I get why it would be stressful for the dom.
Svana Iceland Finally got my Google Translate to work. First of all, this girl enjoyed Iceland tremendously when Mistress took her kennel there. This girl had no idea that she would find another sub from Iceland. This girl envies your exotic and very fun abode. As for this girl's specific break up with Mistress, it was a very confusing time for Mistress, and Mistress made some questionable decisions which did not take into account that her kennel had pledged obedience to her
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Svana Iceland Að lokum fékk ég Google Translate til vinnu. Fyrst af öllu, þessi stúlka notaði Ísland ógurlega þegar húsmóðurinn tók kennsluna þar. Þessi stúlka hafði ekki hugmynd um að hún myndi finna annan undirflokk frá Íslandi. Þessi stúlka öfunda þinn framandi og mjög skemmtilegt húsnæði. Að því er varðar sérstaka brjóta þessa stúlku upp með húsmóður, var það mjög ruglingslegt tíma fyrir húsmóður og húsfreyja gerði nokkrar vafasömar ákvarðanir sem tóku ekki tillit til þess að kennslan hennar hafði heitið henni hlýðni við hana
Morrigan070671
❤️ !
Some borderline personality disorder are fulfilled by this lifestyle where they would be suffering tremendously without this outlet for who they are. Not defending ect just it is what it is and is the shoe fits wear it, or continue to suffer your own humiliation , and unfulfillment for denying yourself. Perhaps you just need someone who actually wants you???
or perhaps you could just stop stigmatizing people who enjoy BDSM/power exchange as mentally sick? Jesus Christ.
Sure, some people who are mentally ill find refuge in BDSM because it has clear lines about consent and safety, but that doesn't mean that everyone who enjoys the lifestyle is mentally ill. That's ridiculous to assume, and just adds to the stigma that comes with the lifestyle.
You're right. Most women who's into this shit looks like borderline types. You see the emotional disturbance in their eyes, just look at the avatars of the self proclaimmed subs here.
Your comment is pretty old but I wanted to comment as well. I’m diagnosed with BPD with a bit of narcissistic tendencies. I’m a femdom. I’m in a 24/7 relationship with a male slave and BDSM scratches all the itches I have as someone with BPD. I have a huge fear of abandonment but BDSM allows me to own my slave and it creates a false sense that he cannot run away from me.
@Wildfox01
Well her those types are everywhere.
I am not sure I understood all of this. I will say I endorse the lifestyle. I personally would like more experience at it.
I recommend you start a profile on Fetlife. There are thousands of resources hundreds of references to other educational materials, events etc. Gotta take that first step.
Let me be your master
@@razeal18
Great, send a lamb out into the wolf den. 🙄
These people are South African, yes?
Food for thought: society has changed so much that engaging in a relationship that would be considered the “norm” 100-150 years ago is now considered a fetish and gets you an interview.
not really master slave relationships are very different to being a actual slave
adele hammond that’s not at all what I’m referencing.
That's still not comparable at all though.
But the key difference is that 100-150 years ago it wasn't a choice. You had no autonomy. You didn't get to say no. You didn't get to have hard limits and your best interests weren't considered. You did what they told you and no one cared if you didn't consent. THAT'S the difference. THAT'S why it's considered a fetish.
Not to mention that there wasn't bondage, or flogging, or other kinks involved in the relationship back then. It's not the same at all. The entire foundation and context of a BDSM relationship is entirely different. You're citing abuse, and BDSM is all about consent and pleasure and happiness, and NOT about abuse.
Evelyn Ruckman The problem with generalizations are obvious or should be. There were many very successful loving relationships even 100’s of yrs ago. Not all older men were cheating, abusive, controlling, misogynistic pigs, even centuries back. That is a stereotype like any other. I personally don’t understand our need to label everyone except for the convenience of brevity.
I'm African American and o like this but black men don't like this...
Yes, we do. I've had submissives and slaves both for many, many years. It's just hard to find black women (or any women) these days who want to be submissives or slaves now that it's become so scary to approach any woman at all. If it's something you're interested in, seek out people to teach you and help you find what you want.
*I find it's VERT taboo in our Black community. Also, there's NO RESEARCH OR EDUCATION, so it becomes about "controlling" and then "abusive" and looks NOTHING like a REAL relationship, like she explains here. Because in reality, the sub has all the control, they just choose to give it up *
Very great video!!!!:)
I've got no judgement on BDSM between consenting adults because I just don't care about what other people do in their own bedrooms. However, when a child becomes involved there is a problem.
When you plop out a sprog you forgo the luxury of living an "alternate" lifestyle. Everything gets put on hold until that child is strong enough and capable enough to look after themselves. It would be the same for any lifestyle choice. You shouldn't be forcing veganism on a child, or religious indoctrination, or neo-luddism, and you certainly shouldn't be normalising BDSM.
Having to explain to your child that you're sleeping in cuffs because "it is a task that has been assigned" by their father is going to really mess with that kids perception of normal human interaction. You have no idea how these experiences are going to effect them in the long term. At best you're gambling your future relationship with them, and at worst, causing long term psychological harm.
It would be a different matter if the child walked in on you and your partner having sex. It's embarrassing and you should have locked the door, but it is something the kid will eventually come to terms with. But this is living a lifestyle. One that the child cannot escape.
If you really wanted your child to be happy you'd put your own needs aside for their welfare.
I wanna be a good girl to my Master. His pleasure is Mine..
Ok?! ^^ She says it a lot.
Its likely shes forming translation and explanation. My mother's bestfriend does this a lot but her first and second languages are French and Dutch.
what's the point of this???
Does anyone know of any chatgroups or so. Im looking for a full-time mistress. In SA
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@@CrystalVanner any advice?
辛い拘束されるマゾヒストの喜び
マゾ収容所の中で辛い拘束されて放置されて笑われたいですね、
The danger is if the do stand up for themselves the master may do something drastic physically to keep her under control and she could suffer even the ultimate. Not worth that.
ا نا سادي شكون جزيرية مزوخية
A very powerful women in social life and submissive (or slave) in bed, being a master of that women is such a uncontrolable turn on.
is she or is she not describing enjoyment of stockholm syndrome?
I have a hard time understanding BDSM and if I'm wrong, please explain why?
I'm endlessly curious about it
No shes not. Its a bond between people who willing agree to their roles they choose to take and set limits and rules on how far they will go and can endure. Both masters and slaves have a say and can stop when they feel like its too much for them by the guidelines they set forth. If the master is ordering the slave to do something they just wont or cant do, they have agreed to use their safe word in which the master will instantly stop and find out what the problem is and they will talk it out. If a dominant will not stop, that is not a real dominate and the slave has all right to leave the contract/ relationship with no repercussions. I hope this helps.
Stockholm syndrome is when you’re held hostage completely Against your will. (which is traumatic, unchosen, and you’re in real danger), but begin to sympathise with your captor. BDSM is when you fancy the other person, and agree beforehand they’ll pretend to take you hostage, you’re not in any real danger, and if you change your mind at any point or you get a leg cramp you just say a code word and they stop instantly. Then after a few years of that kind of thing you get fed up with his snoring, he gets fed up with you still not understanding the offside rule, and you split up- same as everyone else 😂
BDSM is essentially just role play. Everyone parzicipating enjoys it
@@vivilonrane1330 OK, fine, it's just role play. Isn't role playing 24/7 inauthentic living?
Okay the fact that her daughter walks in and sees her cuffed and she says it’s a task that’s been assigned to her? Um.
That should tell you all you need to know about this womans mental status. People with common sense are not attracted to these perversions.
So your happiness lies in the hand of another individual? Hmmm...😗.... No thanks.
can we talk
😮😮😮beautifol mom like ❤❤❤
This lady is doing so much damage to the bdsm community. She's got some HUGE nerve!!!
How is she doing damage to the bdsm community? Anyone with common sense knows that your community is a community of the mentally ill and antisocial people. It doesn't matter what you say or how you say it, that's what people think of you.
Beautiful
Sound more like she plays sub not really live it .which is cool if there happy