the best way to deal with EVs is to not be emotionally reactive. Then they don't get any juice. Stay calm, detached, and go about your business. Keep something wonderful on your desk to shift your attention. The 3 minute meditation I discuss in Positive Energy helps to calm you down and shift the energy too.
yes, sometimes getting away is the answer. But when you can't--for instance with some relative--setting kind but firm, consistent boundaries can work miracles.
A former friend of mine was definitely one of these "sob sister" characters. When she would call me, it was pretty much an hour of her talking at me and me getting in an "uh-huh" or a "cool" every few minutes. I once drove 4 hours in a car with her and I think 3 1/2 of those hours were filled with her talking about her romantic problems and issues with her parents. I used to feel so drained and exhausted after hanging out with her. I'm glad I finally distanced myself from her for good!
compassionate, loving people may attract them or those who are reluctant to set boundaries. I agree, someone getting on your nerves now and then is different than an EV.
on my website there is a longer version under "presentations". Chapter 9 of Positive Energy goes into this topic in great detail as does my CD Positive Energy Practices. Glad you enjoyed the vid.
my mom is a sob sister & drama queen.i dread her coming to my house. i knew she was an energy vampire but have not been successful in shielding her from my energy. i can't wait to try you technique. your a real help .thanks Dr. Judith.
This is so true - I have known all of the people described!! It shows how important it is to say what we feel and not to remain trapped with these 'energy vampires'. Thank you!
Hi again, I just picked your book up from the library. I also did this test today to see what my aura is (though I can't see them) It came out to be crystal & this is what it said about it: Crystals are rare, though Dr. Virtue believes there are more being born right now. Crystals are sensitives and healers. They are so sensitive to other people's energy that they need lots of time alone to clear their energy fields. They are the chameleons; they take on other's energies and personalities.
yes, some EVs do it maliciously. you might want to check out my book Positive Energy chapter 9 where I go through all the kinds of energy vampires. It's so important to learn to center yourself and not let jealous people steal your artistic talent or your power. thankx for your comment.
It's so hard to see, but I also recommend making more me time. Video was helpful. Got my first runner's high and I really think I'll literally run (well jog) away from my problems, just to rejuvenate and go back at my strongest.
It's awesome that you even admit to it because a lot of people don't. You know and accept this about yourself, and you will work on it. Self-reflection is hard for many people to do, that's why they stay so busy.
True, one does meet so many types of people and have always known when my energy level goes down, so call a halt when they start getting carried away. Face it, we all need a big ear and a shoulder, but one must know how much to handle on our own as well and trust our ability to face obstacles.
Actually, introverts, with the modern usage of the term, are always exhausted after interactions regardless of whether they' re interacting with energy vampires or not. Consequently following this reasoning, all people that are hanging with an introvert are energy vampires. That's not a reliable criterion.
@@arispaxa3670 People who do not have strong enough auras get their energy sapped without realizing it or not, introvert or not also. What strengthens the aura? Stones, crystals, essential oils, high frequency emotions, being in good physical shape, placement to the other person and body language----many other variables help strengthen the aura, too so people cannot sap as much energy from you. Some tap more than others, if too much, avoid those people.
Yes, definitely you are absorbing energy from others. that can make you tired. i know. i do it. please take a look at my book Positive Energy. i talk a lot about this in chapter 1 and there are articles on my website. learning how to manage your energy can make a huge difference!
Some folks call them drama queens. But those 2you talked about, they are all about themselves it clearly shows. If they are too busy to listen to you, I'm afraid they are not good friends. Seek others, good luck.
Ditto. We live in a fallen world, with emotional carnage all around us. I live in a quite spot in a small NZ town. The bird life awakes Me. I make sure that I limit My involvement with people. I treasure My peace of mind. God is VERY good and near.
do you best to spread love no matter what anyone is doing. think of people you love, pray for the EVSs, work to create a better, more peaceful, less fear tinged time. That is the heroes journey.
I had narcissist family member who was all of them! sob sister drama queen who also was a constant talker. Total energy vampire, who also constantly blamed and criticized and badmouthed everyone
I just recently found out I'm an empath which is good because now I can learn how to halt it. But for years as a highly sensitive person I didn't know certain people were sucking out my energy. Only one old coworker/friend many years ago I could tell did this. Not on purpose but that's how she was. I did notice just how tiring she was at such a young age for myself.
Yes energy vampires. I almost feel tired all the time, started age 15 and now I am 21. I get really really tired at buzzy places like malls, or school or supermarkets. Sometimes I also get very warm and dizzy and headache in those places. And its not because of fear because I dont have fear. Guess it could also have to do something with the whole system-structures that try to suck you in into being what that specific system wants you to be.
Thanks Judith, I am reading Rosetree's book and just did her thing once to stop it though I know I have to practice it. But if you think I should get that one I will and order it today from the library. For I'm suffering at this moment, it's out of hand and I just got home and it happened again. I had to stop the person to make sure they were OK. I'm still emotional right now. Thanks
I find this one very interesting because I work with an energy vampire. He's the kind you didnt mention, but he's very mean ...the type that cuts you down, makes you feel less than he is, he's a bully basically. I've noticed that I feel very worn out or tired around him, which usually I'm pretty bubbly. So this video really resonated with me. :)
In all of literature we have had a male-centred approach to everything, where He, His and Him dominated every story.The excuse always has been the impracticality of representing both sexes. And we have been swallowing the stereotypes, at great damage to ourselves throughout the history of MANkind. And yet, here we have this privileged, educated FEMALE doctor and teacher unabashedly talking exclusively about sob-SISTERS and dramaQUEENS as if BROTHERS and KINGS do not exist in this context!
My mom is a chronic energy vampire. She complains from the time I answer her calls. It's exhausting and draining. I try avoiding her calls constantly too.
well put !! how do you stop the insesant talker..i realise their need, and have a hard time taking care of myself...WHAT does it take to put ones self first ??:)
I'd also like to ask you, Judith - have you experienced self-aware vampires, who willfully drain? I feel like some of the vamps I've dealt with do it on purpose, like my jealous roommate who is very much into vampire/goth culture/lore and has empathic/psychic abilities.
set kind but firm limits and be consistent. Check out chapter 9 in my book Positive Energy. It is about dealing with all kinds of energy vampires. good luck!
And this is why I am pretty much a recluse and CAREFULLY pick and choose who I let into my life. Unfortunately my wife is an endless talker. Thank God for man caves..with locks.
Judith... and what happens when one of the parents is the emotional vampire? I tried to explain my situatuation, but my parent thinks that I am imagining something! In my culture people complain too much, when I travel I feel so much free, and when I am back in my country... the energy is so different, it`s heavier, like I have loads over my sholders
@xLGDZxSERAPH Yes, but this video is about getting negative people out of your life, not listing all types of vampires. That's why she only described negavite psychic vampires.
EVs sap energy. If someone else looks sapped that's clue. I go through all the EV types in chapter 9 of my book Positive Energy. It sounds like you are a joyful, beautiful person. I don't think you are an EV! But to be sure check out the behaviors in my book.
I really really need advice on this topic. I was never ever a energy vampire and i was a very positive person, but I encountered a extremely dangerous vampire and I would be with this person almost everyday for hours..and over a few months i started to catch myself sometimes draining others energy, almost like I grabbed onto the vampires energy or attitude.
I'm an energy vamp..I thrive in high energy live concerts, meeting people and I don't think I've slept more than 6 hrs since I was awakened on 12/18/10. Music is my feed, I can live without eating for days if my energy intake is high enough..more about me..Our Paranormal Universe coming soon.
Also, the angrier you get at the things being said in this video just go to show that either the word 'vampire' threw you off (or was the reason why you watched this video in the first place) or her words stike a chord within yourself which means you recognise the behavior within yourself but incorrectly assume that this woman's judging you or placing blame. She's merely telling people how to spot energy sapping behavior. If you recognise the behavior, then maybe you could work on changing ;)
Is there a such thing a good EV's? I think I absorb people's negative energy; like depression, sadness, anger, etc. I have a brother who really changed after living with me for a couple of months. He was angry all the time and was depressed. After staying with me, he lost those traits. He smiles and laughs a lot now. And my brother isn't the only case. I've experienced similar situations with others.
This is essential information. That last part especially got to me - I'm an artist who has drawn a LOT of jealous people to me. They try to make me feel subhuman, or worse (and literally) - retarded. I often feel held back from drawing but am learning to get over this. Thanks for posting!
positive companions are so important. I bless my circle of friends. I'd be lost without them.
the best way to deal with EVs is to not be emotionally reactive. Then they don't get any juice. Stay calm, detached, and go about your business. Keep something wonderful on your desk to shift your attention. The 3 minute meditation I discuss in Positive Energy helps to calm you down and shift the energy too.
yes, sometimes getting away is the answer. But when you can't--for instance with some relative--setting kind but firm, consistent boundaries can work miracles.
families can really test your limits!
Please get a copy of Positive Energy and practice the strategies in the book, they are tried an true!
A former friend of mine was definitely one of these "sob sister" characters. When she would call me, it was pretty much an hour of her talking at me and me getting in an "uh-huh" or a "cool" every few minutes. I once drove 4 hours in a car with her and I think 3 1/2 of those hours were filled with her talking about her romantic problems and issues with her parents. I used to feel so drained and exhausted after hanging out with her. I'm glad I finally distanced myself from her for good!
Thanks for sharing this with me and my youtube community. There are many of us empaths out there!
compassionate, loving people may attract them or those who are reluctant to set boundaries. I agree, someone getting on your nerves now and then is different than an EV.
yes, yes, yes. self-nurturing is so important
on my website there is a longer version under "presentations". Chapter 9 of Positive Energy goes into this topic in great detail as does my CD Positive Energy Practices. Glad you enjoyed the vid.
my mom is a sob sister & drama queen.i dread her coming to my house. i knew she was an energy vampire but have not been successful in shielding her from my energy. i can't wait to try you technique. your a real help .thanks Dr. Judith.
This is so true - I have known all of the people described!! It shows how important it is to say what we feel and not to remain trapped with these 'energy vampires'. Thank you!
I love Caroline.
You are welcome for the catagories.
Hi again, I just picked your book up from the library. I also did this test today to see what my aura is (though I can't see them) It came out to be crystal & this is what it said about it:
Crystals are rare, though Dr. Virtue believes there are more being born right now. Crystals are sensitives and healers. They are so sensitive to other people's energy that they need lots of time alone to clear their energy fields. They are the chameleons; they take on other's energies and personalities.
yes, some EVs do it maliciously. you might want to check out my book Positive Energy chapter 9 where I go through all the kinds of energy vampires. It's so important to learn to center yourself and not let jealous people steal your artistic talent or your power. thankx for your comment.
well said. I love that you say we all need to have a big ear and a shoulder. Very nice. Very compassionate.
It's so hard to see, but I also recommend making more me time. Video was helpful. Got my first runner's high and I really think I'll literally run (well jog) away from my problems, just to rejuvenate and go back at my strongest.
excellent point. Setting firm but clear boundaries is a powerful tool and we must learn from one another!
It's awesome that you even admit to it because a lot of people don't. You know and accept this about yourself, and you will work on it. Self-reflection is hard for many people to do, that's why they stay so busy.
When your sensitivity is grounded and protected it is a very beautiful thing. Please check out Positive Energy for a guide.
Glad it resonated. Hope my centering and grounding techniques help.
yes, the happiness factor! I'm all for making fun in life.
"No" is a sacred word.
often narcissists won't even hear that you've said NO
excellent. the sixth sense always comes in handy.
Thank you Judith for sending this video -
it was coming to the right time to remember me!!
Best wishes
Cornelia
ask your family members what behavior is draining and begin to shift it. beautiful question.
yes, this is possible. And it's okay as long as it doesn't drain you.
tonglen is a powerful practice. It takes spiritual development to enact and be effective. thanks for the great point.
I've know lots of E.V.'s but did not understand ; now the pieces fit.
True, one does meet so many types of people and have always known when my energy level goes down, so call a halt when they start getting carried away. Face it, we all need a big ear and a shoulder, but one must know how much to handle on our own as well and trust our ability to face obstacles.
right you are. EVs usually don't know they're draining unless they are the malicious types who go for the jugular
Yes, EVs can be passive too. Please check out chapter 9 of my book Positive Energy on energy vampires to guide you in dealing with them. It will help.
compassion is the secret of the universe
How To Spot Energy Vampires - people who leave you exhausted after interactions with them!
Actually, introverts, with the modern usage of the term, are always exhausted after interactions regardless of whether they' re interacting with energy vampires or not. Consequently following this reasoning, all people that are hanging with an introvert are energy vampires. That's not a reliable criterion.
@@arispaxa3670 People who do not have strong enough auras get their energy sapped without realizing it or not, introvert or not also. What strengthens the aura? Stones, crystals, essential oils, high frequency emotions, being in good physical shape, placement to the other person and body language----many other variables help strengthen the aura, too so people cannot sap as much energy from you. Some tap more than others, if too much, avoid those people.
thankyou Jane. Yes we must rebel against these drainers and speak up.
thankyou. cricizers cut to the heart but if you set kind firm limits you can make headway.
Yes, definitely you are absorbing energy from others. that can make you tired. i know. i do it. please take a look at my book Positive Energy. i talk a lot about this in chapter 1 and there are articles on my website. learning how to manage your energy can make a huge difference!
amen! setting boundaries are so freeing.
Not usually, but sometimes--for instance malicious backstabbers do.
Some folks call them drama queens. But those 2you talked about, they are all about themselves it clearly shows. If they are too busy to listen to you, I'm afraid they are not good friends. Seek others, good luck.
thanks. It is so important to train others to respect space and boundaries!
Ditto.
We live in a fallen world, with emotional carnage all around us.
I live in a quite spot in a small NZ town. The bird life awakes Me. I make sure that I limit My involvement with people. I treasure My peace of mind.
God is VERY good and near.
I envy you!!! Lol. GBU. 😣😣😇😇😇
youtube is amazing. I love it. excellent work at avoiding the soap operas. what a relief that can be!
My sister omg so true ..Drama all the time exhausting ..she is everyone you listed ..in my face .
@UmmacDan Embedding is back. Is was removed by mistake. Thanks
do you best to spread love no matter what anyone is doing. think of people you love, pray for the EVSs, work to create a better, more peaceful, less fear tinged time. That is the heroes journey.
wonderful. we all need reminders.
No, you are a beautiful human.
I had narcissist family member who was all of them! sob sister drama queen who also was a constant talker. Total energy vampire, who also constantly blamed and criticized and badmouthed everyone
I am a energy vampire, but I don't mean to be. But by doing personal development it is changing abit. My large size is a factor too.
I just recently found out I'm an empath which is good because now I can learn how to halt it. But for years as a highly sensitive person I didn't know certain people were sucking out my energy. Only one old coworker/friend many years ago I could tell did this. Not on purpose but that's how she was. I did notice just how tiring she was at such a young age for myself.
thanks mother river. happy holidays.
Yes energy vampires. I almost feel tired all the time, started age 15 and now I am 21. I get really really tired at buzzy places like malls, or school or supermarkets. Sometimes I also get very warm and dizzy and headache in those places. And its not because of fear because I dont have fear. Guess it could also have to do something with the whole system-structures that try to suck you in into being what that specific system wants you to be.
maybe you have infinite energy--yes!
Thanks Judith, I am reading Rosetree's book and just did her thing once to stop it though I know I have to practice it. But if you think I should get that one I will and order it today from the library. For I'm suffering at this moment, it's out of hand and I just got home and it happened again. I had to stop the person to make sure they were OK. I'm still emotional right now. Thanks
I couldn't agree more.
Awesome information that anyone can relate to.
OMG who doesn't know an energy vampire or drama queen?
Cathy
fantastic. balance is key.
great work.
Great vid, but the end was cut off! What is the answer to the last type?
I find this one very interesting because I work with an energy vampire. He's the kind you didnt mention, but he's very mean ...the type that cuts you down, makes you feel less than he is, he's a bully basically. I've noticed that I feel very worn out or tired around him, which usually I'm pretty bubbly. So this video really resonated with me. :)
agreed. you are not overreacting!
I'm an energy vampire. but I like to think I'm helping people by listening to them.
This was good...isn't there a Part2 video for this?
Thankyou. I'm glad you relate. I feel supremely complimented by you.
love the james bond ejection cure for EVs. I will remember that!
In all of literature we have had a male-centred approach to everything, where He, His and Him dominated every story.The excuse always has been the impracticality of representing both sexes. And we have been swallowing the stereotypes, at great damage to ourselves throughout the history of MANkind. And yet, here we have this privileged, educated FEMALE doctor and teacher unabashedly talking exclusively about sob-SISTERS and dramaQUEENS as if BROTHERS and KINGS do not exist in this context!
beautiful.whatever works for you.
be sure to use it for the good. then it will be a blessing.
being trapped in the car is the worst! awesome limit setting~
My mom is a chronic energy vampire. She complains from the time I answer her calls. It's exhausting and draining. I try avoiding her calls constantly too.
well put !!
how do you stop the insesant talker..i realise
their need, and have a hard time taking
care of myself...WHAT does it take to put
ones self first ??:)
love good associations! thanks so much for sending.
thankx Crazy Tee. There is Part 2 of an interview on EVs I did on NPR. Its on my channal. I will send it to you.
you're very welcome!
I'd also like to ask you, Judith - have you experienced self-aware vampires, who willfully drain? I feel like some of the vamps I've dealt with do it on purpose, like my jealous roommate who is very much into vampire/goth culture/lore and has empathic/psychic abilities.
set kind but firm limits and be consistent. Check out chapter 9 in my book Positive Energy. It is about dealing with all kinds of energy vampires. good luck!
And this is why I am pretty much a recluse and CAREFULLY pick and choose who I let into my life. Unfortunately my wife is an endless talker. Thank God for man caves..with locks.
the mystery is filled with many apparent unexplainables
glad it was helpful
That helps... especially the last one mentioned. How do you silence the critics ?
Yes... I'm quite sure there's plenty of those about too... !!
thankyou for your gratitude.
thankyou mad ranter
Judith... and what happens when one of the parents is the emotional vampire? I tried to explain my situatuation, but my parent thinks that I am imagining something! In my culture people complain too much, when I travel I feel so much free, and when I am back in my country... the energy is so different, it`s heavier, like I have loads over my sholders
yes. thankyou.
is there a part 2? x)))))
@xLGDZxSERAPH Yes, but this video is about getting negative people out of your life, not listing all types of vampires. That's why she only described negavite psychic vampires.
EVs sap energy. If someone else looks sapped that's clue. I go through all the EV types in chapter 9 of my book Positive Energy. It sounds like you are a joyful, beautiful person. I don't think you are an EV! But to be sure check out the behaviors in my book.
absolutely!
I really really need advice on this topic. I was never ever a energy vampire and i was a very positive person, but I encountered a extremely dangerous vampire and I would be with this person almost everyday for hours..and over a few months i started to catch myself sometimes draining others energy, almost like I grabbed onto the vampires energy or attitude.
thankyou Zendoc!
Thank you so much Judith! :-)
You're wonderful!
Your book "emotional Freedom" helps me A LOT!
in my difficult times..
Love,
Gil :-)
howe should i deal with the blemer ? THANk YOU
I'm an energy vamp..I thrive in high energy live concerts, meeting people and I don't think I've slept more than 6 hrs since I was awakened on 12/18/10. Music is my feed, I can live without eating for days if my energy intake is high enough..more about me..Our Paranormal Universe coming soon.
try tonglen warrior is vajra doesn't need to guard against drainers our giving creates more energy read Pema Chodron go beyond fear
Also, the angrier you get at the things being said in this video just go to show that either the word 'vampire' threw you off (or was the reason why you watched this video in the first place) or her words stike a chord within yourself which means you recognise the behavior within yourself but incorrectly assume that this woman's judging you or placing blame.
She's merely telling people how to spot energy sapping behavior. If you recognise the behavior, then maybe you could work on changing ;)
Is there a such thing a good EV's? I think I absorb people's negative energy; like depression, sadness, anger, etc. I have a brother who really changed after living with me for a couple of months. He was angry all the time and was depressed. After staying with me, he lost those traits. He smiles and laughs a lot now. And my brother isn't the only case. I've experienced similar situations with others.
This is essential information. That last part especially got to me - I'm an artist who has drawn a LOT of jealous people to me. They try to make me feel subhuman, or worse (and literally) - retarded. I often feel held back from drawing but am learning to get over this. Thanks for posting!
Thanks for posting.