You’re right about the pretty women getting older. A model in her 50’s was talking about this in an interview, that she feels invisible now and I guess it must be quite shocking to her after getting so much attention just for being pretty and making a career out of it to just find it all dissapearing with age and becoming invisible, like losing your identity…
This topic has come up in the past. There was a fictional book by Chuck Palahnuik called “Invisible Monsters” that addresses the shallowness of pretty privilege and the depth of character that develops in a person who is ugly and invisible to society. It’s a dark story but well written and will make you think if you can stay with it. The story stays with me even into adulthood because as a professional in healthcare I actively silence my beauty everyday. I am taken more seriously as a doctor if I downplay my femininity because it’s distracting to both male and female patients. I also look young for my age and I think that annoys people so I actively wear clothes and let my greys grow out to look older. This approach to my beauty has worked and have built my career for 20 years so I don’t regret a thing. The first thing I want anyone to know about me is my character and my talents, not the make up on my face or the my body. I’ve also been with my loving husband for 20 years and he deeply respects how I’ve valued my looks but never overplay it.
Tbh even looking like a slob (sweatpants, hair in a bun or a hat, no makeup) I still get unwanted attention it’s not necessarily good attention or attention I want but it does happen and the cat calls and stares from men can be very exhausting. I live in NYC
I have gout and other chronic health problems so I normally never dress up or wear makeup. I have noticed people of both genders are really mean, and men are still extremely creepy. It's like being perceived as "attractive" without putting in any effort makes people ESPECIALLY hate you and target you. I have started slapping on unflattering makeup (lipstick, blush, and mascara) and people are much nicer. I have heard that women who comply with feminine social norms like wearing makeup are perceived as more trustworthy and likable. Maybe you already know this, but it's been a life saver for me! Keeps the creeps away. They feel performed for or something
this is your genuine opinion. but then I don't think it relates to all people. SOME may not judge on physical features but many do. it's just about energy or aura.
You've perfectly articulated all the messy thoughts i've been having for the past few months. I was quite average and awkward as a teenager, but now i'm 20, i'm objectively better looking. The attention from men is so unexpected, and I do really like it when they're respectful. But sometimes at work, there are some women are so bitchy towards me, especially when men go out of their way to be nice to me. I just can't understand how these girls lack so much self awareness.
Women bitchy towards younger, prettier women??? What a shock! I’m a retired male (RN) - 30 years service. Also I was a union official for many years when half of my caseload was misconduct, the other half harassment and bullying. I’d say about 40% of the female nurses I have worked with in a female dominated profession are benign, well adjusted, sincere etc. The other 60% tend to be bitchy, jealous, shallow, vindictive, dishonest and manipulative. Those who are admitted to that clique must already have been identified as one of them. Obviously you are above that. Don’t sink to their level. If you are not in the clique you are more likely to be bullied, judged, slandered, threatened, marginalised etc. especially when you are young. I think a lot of it is related to an evolutionary competitive drive among women. Those women you refer to would be in the 60% I have described. You are obviously instinctively above that mindset as it seems wrong to you. The 40% tend, in my experience, to be more intelligent and educated and the 60% less so. The 60% don’t necessarily lack insight, but often choose to behave as they do to “fit in”. Many actually get a kick out of causing distress to others. They are the sociopaths and bullies. Please don’t become one of them. Also be aware that if they realise you have seen them for what they are they can become more hostile and obnoxious. Read up on bullying in the workplace. Join a union if you can. But PLEASE, PLEASE don’t think it is you. It isn’t. I haven’t read it, but I have heard of a book you may find helpful, whether or not you are in nursing. “Nurses Eat Their Young: Inside The Nurse Bullying Crisis” by Olivia Thompson. Find a wise older woman to speak to. Maybe your mother, grandmother or an older friend. Do not internalise this as your fault. I once saw a T-shirt with a very telling phrase on it… “You call me a bitch like it’s a BAD thing!”. Many a true word said in jest. Conversely, watch out for Alpha males. They will hurt you in different ways, but my reply to your comment is about women.
Have you ever worn bangs? I think they would look very nice on you. They're very youthful, which is nothing you need to concern yourself with, but that's still one perk of it. You have a high forehead which would work so well with bangs. 😊
A lot of them don’t even show their face😭 how we supposed to know, they’re pretty for real, people just be talking to talk .. you’re very gorgeous tho 🩶
Love your videos! Me and my daughter talk about this subject all the time. Interesting. Keep videos coming, specially hair videos! I’m hair obsessed lol
You don't realise buy you siund like those girls too that you were referring to at the beginning of the video. You are just subtly doing it that's all. You sound judgement no matter how objective you want to appear. Just takes someone smart to see through your nonsense and yes, I am calling myself smart
You’re right about the pretty women getting older. A model in her 50’s was talking about this in an interview, that she feels invisible now and I guess it must be quite shocking to her after getting so much attention just for being pretty and making a career out of it to just find it all dissapearing with age and becoming invisible, like losing your identity…
This topic has come up in the past. There was a fictional book by Chuck Palahnuik called “Invisible Monsters” that addresses the shallowness of pretty privilege and the depth of character that develops in a person who is ugly and invisible to society. It’s a dark story but well written and will make you think if you can stay with it. The story stays with me even into adulthood because as a professional in healthcare I actively silence my beauty everyday. I am taken more seriously as a doctor if I downplay my femininity because it’s distracting to both male and female patients. I also look young for my age and I think that annoys people so I actively wear clothes and let my greys grow out to look older. This approach to my beauty has worked and have built my career for 20 years so I don’t regret a thing. The first thing I want anyone to know about me is my character and my talents, not the make up on my face or the my body. I’ve also been with my loving husband for 20 years and he deeply respects how I’ve valued my looks but never overplay it.
So interesting, thank you!
I’m googling this book right now 😂 definitely on my to read list now
Tbh even looking like a slob (sweatpants, hair in a bun or a hat, no makeup) I still get unwanted attention it’s not necessarily good attention or attention I want but it does happen and the cat calls and stares from men can be very exhausting. I live in NYC
I have gout and other chronic health problems so I normally never dress up or wear makeup. I have noticed people of both genders are really mean, and men are still extremely creepy. It's like being perceived as "attractive" without putting in any effort makes people ESPECIALLY hate you and target you. I have started slapping on unflattering makeup (lipstick, blush, and mascara) and people are much nicer. I have heard that women who comply with feminine social norms like wearing makeup are perceived as more trustworthy and likable. Maybe you already know this, but it's been a life saver for me! Keeps the creeps away. They feel performed for or something
this is your genuine opinion. but then I don't think it relates to all people. SOME may not judge on physical features but many do. it's just about energy or aura.
You've perfectly articulated all the messy thoughts i've been having for the past few months. I was quite average and awkward as a teenager, but now i'm 20, i'm objectively better looking. The attention from men is so unexpected, and I do really like it when they're respectful. But sometimes at work, there are some women are so bitchy towards me, especially when men go out of their way to be nice to me. I just can't understand how these girls lack so much self awareness.
Women bitchy towards younger, prettier women??? What a shock!
I’m a retired male (RN) - 30 years service. Also I was a union official for many years when half of my caseload was misconduct, the other half harassment and bullying.
I’d say about 40% of the female nurses I have worked with in a female dominated profession are benign, well adjusted, sincere etc.
The other 60% tend to be bitchy, jealous, shallow, vindictive, dishonest and manipulative. Those who are admitted to that clique must already have been identified as one of them.
Obviously you are above that. Don’t sink to their level.
If you are not in the clique you are more likely to be bullied, judged, slandered, threatened, marginalised etc. especially when you are young. I think a lot of it is related to an evolutionary competitive drive among women.
Those women you refer to would be in the 60% I have described. You are obviously instinctively above that mindset as it seems wrong to you. The 40% tend, in my experience, to be more intelligent and educated and the 60% less so. The 60% don’t necessarily lack insight, but often choose to behave as they do to “fit in”. Many actually get a kick out of causing distress to others. They are the sociopaths and bullies.
Please don’t become one of them. Also be aware that if they realise you have seen them for what they are they can become more hostile and obnoxious.
Read up on bullying in the workplace. Join a union if you can. But PLEASE, PLEASE don’t think it is you. It isn’t. I haven’t read it, but I have heard of a book you may find helpful, whether or not you are in nursing. “Nurses Eat Their Young: Inside The Nurse Bullying Crisis” by Olivia Thompson.
Find a wise older woman to speak to. Maybe your mother, grandmother or an older friend. Do not internalise this as your fault.
I once saw a T-shirt with a very telling phrase on it…
“You call me a bitch like it’s a BAD thing!”.
Many a true word said in jest.
Conversely, watch out for Alpha males. They will hurt you in different ways, but my reply to your comment is about women.
What happened to the long supportive reply to @121s45 I left earlier? Is someone deleting replies?
Have you ever worn bangs? I think they would look very nice on you. They're very youthful, which is nothing you need to concern yourself with, but that's still one perk of it. You have a high forehead which would work so well with bangs. 😊
No never tried it 😁
A lot of them don’t even show their face😭 how we supposed to know, they’re pretty for real, people just be talking to talk .. you’re very gorgeous tho 🩶
Thank you 🙏🏼
Truth!❤
Love your videos! Me and my daughter talk about this subject all the time. Interesting. Keep videos coming, specially hair videos! I’m hair obsessed lol
You don't realise buy you siund like those girls too that you were referring to at the beginning of the video. You are just subtly doing it that's all. You sound judgement no matter how objective you want to appear. Just takes someone smart to see through your nonsense and yes, I am calling myself smart
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Jesus!!! You are so slow at getting to the point !!!
But she's pretty, right.