Thoughts on Having Privilege - An Unconventional Analysis

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  • @Universealchemy
    @Universealchemy Рік тому +29

    What do we do about our privileges: what an amazing point.

  • @surrealistidealist
    @surrealistidealist Рік тому +22

    Language about privilege is usually used to keep people divided. Most of us are either exploited or we're SUPER-exploited.
    Being less exploited than others can technically be seen as a privilege, I guess. But what's important is to never settle for exploitation at any level, and never ignore the exploitation of others at any level. That's what can bring people together.

  • @MirrorSurfer
    @MirrorSurfer Рік тому +9

    Thank you Daniel for making this information free for the rest of us. Although this isn't the same as having 1 on 1 sessions with you, these are great conversations that we hardly hear on the internet, especially without having to worry about paying people with your knowledge and life experience. Much love.

  • @Earl_E_Burd
    @Earl_E_Burd Рік тому +19

    Seems a touchy subject. Thanks for making a video on it. Interesting how privilege can spark a strong sense of unresolved jealousy or resentment within many of us. Feeling misunderstood. We're on this spectrum where it's easy to see people who are more privileged, while it's quite challenging to understand the struggles of those who are less privileged.

  • @loriyearwood3059
    @loriyearwood3059 Рік тому +24

    As a Black woman in America, I have endured the misuse of white people's privilege, particularly in the red state of Utah. That said, I have also experienced my own privilege as a college-educated, light skilled Black woman, and I am now using that privilege to inform others about the trauma I have experienced as a Black woman. This world is complicated.

    • @w1cked001
      @w1cked001 8 місяців тому

      Not to be argumentative, but would you not say your college degree is an accomplishment and not a privilege? Yes I get it in the big picture of humans that are living going to college is a privilege but I think you know what I mean

  • @cometogether
    @cometogether Рік тому +30

    Well said Daniel. So many people focus on privilege as being the problem, when it's actually the system that privileges some people over others that is the problem. Having privilege is, as you said, a responsibility to support people who lack that privilege. And in time to build a better world where privilege is distributed more fairly.

  • @nicktaber2969
    @nicktaber2969 Рік тому +6

    This is so powerful and relevant. Thank you.

  • @MituPitu1
    @MituPitu1 Рік тому +23

    Great video as always! Daniel, would you consider writing another book? Would love to read more about your adventures or anything really.

  • @victorissaev8125
    @victorissaev8125 10 місяців тому

    Every video you make drips wisdom and is absolutely invaluable.

  • @mamarhea367
    @mamarhea367 Рік тому +3

    Beautiful Daniel!

  • @OccupationalThpy
    @OccupationalThpy Рік тому +1

    Thank you for some clarity added to a complex topic. “What do we do with our privileges?” Is a helpful reminder.

  • @ImKezo-kq4pq
    @ImKezo-kq4pq Рік тому

    You're my role model now, Thanks for your videos Daniel I recently turn 18 this year[2023], And your videos are helping me a lot

  •  Рік тому +2

    Hi Dan! First time seeing one of your videos in a while. Hope you’re well. Thanks for sharing 🙏

  • @charlottem6065
    @charlottem6065 Рік тому +1

    Good to see and hear you Daniel and as always on point and timely (had a similar conversation yesterday) thank you 🙏🏼❤️🌻

  • @MrAllstar
    @MrAllstar Рік тому +19

    As I have got older the more I’ve realised the true privileges are the intangible things like love, relationship’s, wisdom, curiosity, health. These things for most people and situations do not require great wealth or material possessions or worldly privilege to achieve, they do require wisdom, the greatest privilege of them all. Unfortunately for most people that do not have the privilege of generational wisdom being handed down to them it takes near a lifetime to gain this wisdom. C’est la vie.

    • @ryank6322
      @ryank6322 7 місяців тому +1

      I've noticed just how much wisdom gets lost every time a person dies. The passing down of wisdom through generations is a good thing that rarely happens. I'm not sure who is to blame for that.

  • @bartjohnston
    @bartjohnston Рік тому +2

    thanks again Daniel , all the best

  • @naamiballan7386
    @naamiballan7386 Рік тому +3

    I completely agree with your stance on this, thank you for sharing this message :)

  • @exbronco
    @exbronco Рік тому +3

    The philosopher Galen Strawson says success in life is only about luck. ONLY about luck.

  • @kimmarriott9550
    @kimmarriott9550 Рік тому +1

    Love your work Daniel here in Wales👍

  • @leeannsummerfield3989
    @leeannsummerfield3989 Рік тому +3

    this is so perfect! Instead of “lording over others,” you can use privilege to help, aid, encourage! Wonderful video!

  • @threethrushes
    @threethrushes Рік тому +5

    The greatest satisfaction in the world is to succeed in spite of inauspicious beginnings and handicaps.

    • @fayelis
      @fayelis Рік тому +2

      oh god "pull yourself up by your bootstrap rhetoric" when the underdog story rarely happens.

    • @fayelis
      @fayelis Рік тому

      @@MCE851 whatever useless word salad you just typed

  • @Dukerottiemom
    @Dukerottiemom Рік тому +6

    We need to do away with "privilege." People come from different backgrounds, and it makes no sense that people make themselves feel victimized by others' lives. There is no privilege, just different lives and experiences. We should be able to appreciate that. I believe that will help us build empathy for others.

  • @joseph765
    @joseph765 Рік тому +6

    I also want to add that having more self-awareness isn't necessarily or entirely a privilege, at least not one you were born with. You had to work arduously to obtain it, as do people who undergo a process of healing from their traumas.

  • @joseph765
    @joseph765 Рік тому +6

    I wasn't born in, nor have I ever set foot in the United States. That said, I have followed its cultural progress, and in some areas regress. As an outsider I find the idea of white privilege odd.
    The reason I find the idea odd is that often times it's one used in a way to put people with white skin down. I've definitely seen people use the term 'white privilege ' to invalidate and silence others. So is it really privilege?
    I have white skin, and though I'm ethnically and genetically mixed I look like what a North American would call a 'white person'. Except, I was born into poverty. And I know from looking at the statistics that there are certainly many white skinned North Americans in poverty, and about as many Asian Americans. By that metric 'Asian privilege' equates white privilege.
    When I hear people talk about 'white privilege' I raise an eyebrow. My parents were the kind of people that would put off taking me to the doctor because they couldn't afford it. They would let termites infest our doors for the same reason. Hearing talk of 'white privilege' therefore is a slap in the face, and a rather racist concept. What really gives people privilege in the US is wealth, plain and simple. There is nothing that legally stops anyone from doing what they set out to do in that country. It's in the constitution, yet people in the US choose to ignore it. Or maybe it's not a choice.
    Even in poverty I had privileges that other people around the world didn't have. I had food and a roof to live under. I had technology. I had education that my parents went into debt to provide me with. And I also had an abusive family.
    I look forward to the day people stop looking at race to entrench themselves in fear. Until then, I feel the need to post comments like this one.

    • @AK-ic1yj
      @AK-ic1yj Рік тому

      Poor white people are proof racism doesn’t exist!

    • @holden-caulfield
      @holden-caulfield Рік тому

      It's part of an agenda to promote hate and divide people. Just see what happens when you disagree with the dogma of white privilege in certain environments: you're massacred. Nowdays, we cant disagree with these theories that lable one opressor and one opressed side to almost all human differences.

  • @thebeigesheep6132
    @thebeigesheep6132 Рік тому +20

    I've literally never seen anyone say you should feel guilty for having privilege.
    What I have seen is people feel guilty because they suddenly come to the realization that their privilege is in part a reason for elements of their success.
    They realize they have judged others with less privilege with the same scorecard they use to judge themselves with more privledge. THAT is where the guilty feelings come from if we are truly honest with ourselves.
    You cannot help how you are born or the privileges you are afforded. You can help how you choose to use them or treat others who are less privileged.

    • @Texasgirlinacrazyworld
      @Texasgirlinacrazyworld Рік тому +7

      Literally, all I ever see on social media is people trying to make others feel guilty for having “privilege”. Stop with the amateur attempts at gaslighting.

    • @maryhaase1730
      @maryhaase1730 Рік тому +2

      I agree with you. Privilege is something we are born with. I was born white in the U. S. in the 1950s. That gave me a privilege.
      Being a woman in the Midwest, however, was a disadvantage, but still gave me an advantage over being a woman of color. I don’t think guilt plays a part in the privilege at all because it isn’t something we control. However, the thing that makes skin color a privilege is the system of beliefs, attitudes and accepted actions that have evolved and been encouraged over the years in our culture. I acknowledge that I had an easier life being a white woman as opposed to being a black, Asian, or dark skinned Muslim in my community. I also acknowledge that I would have had certain advantages if I had been born male. I remember looking at a starting salary chart for an organization I was applying to, and the same job had a starting salary for men listed much higher than women.
      Analyzing abusive, oppressive policies and the driving forces behind them, then acknowledging the existence of bias, racism, etc. and developing new systems is key to evolving as a culture to something better.
      White people getting defensive because they think others are trying to make them feel guilty is not helpful. They are focusing on self and entirely missing the point, adding to the problem.

  • @Melissa0774
    @Melissa0774 Рік тому +11

    Hi Daniel, On the topic of privilege - I have an idea for another video I'd like to see you do. I live near an elite Ivy League university and in the past year, there have been four suicides. I think they were all on campus. Three were students and one was a staff member who was found in a bathroom, I think. I actually worked there briefly, before the pandemic, as a receptionist in the gym and I was told by my supervisor that I needed to be on the lookout for students who may be in crisis. He told me about a time when he found a student who was suicidal and he had to send them for help. (I'd like to share more details, but I don't want to give away to much, on the off chance people from that university might see this.) What I'd like to know is - your thoughts on why so many wonderful, talented, smart people who are going to such an amazing school that they worked so hard to get into, and who are going to have so many great opportunities in life, would want to kill themselves. If you respond to this comment, I'll link some news stories about it, if you want, so you can see what I'm talking about.

    • @dmackler58
      @dmackler58  Рік тому +23

      I agree with John about psych meds. The fancier and more prestigious schools seem to have a much higher percentage of people on psych meds. Also, all that pressure that the students are under, and in many ways they’re very fragile. Little failures can get exploded in their mind into the end of the world…

    • @janemorrow6672
      @janemorrow6672 Рік тому +14

      I think a lot of students have high levels of parental expectation combined with homesickness.

    • @Melissa0774
      @Melissa0774 Рік тому +4

      @johnwhite5212 That actually is how one of the people did it. They intentionally overdosed on them.

    • @pod9363
      @pod9363 Рік тому +4

      This would be a great video topic. The emotional dynamics of richer kids is very interesting to me for some reason.

    • @SantaFeSuperChief1
      @SantaFeSuperChief1 Рік тому +5

      @@pod9363 I agree, a story I'm writing has a character that comes from an extremely wealthy family that has that character living an extremely structured life full of pressure and expectations, and at one point during the story the character opens up about how the pressure and expectations are affecting them, and a lot of my readers brushed it off as "pfft rich people problems". Children of wealth certainly have different struggles than less privileged families, but it seems the lion's share of the population doesn't even acknowledge the validity of those struggles.

  • @frankstared
    @frankstared Рік тому +9

    I want to say that I enjoy seeing you think through these anxieties-there may be merit in it...if it leads to equity and serving community.

  • @stickygrenade
    @stickygrenade Рік тому

    One of the downsides in having privileges is the burden and responsibility that comes with, in having the wisdom to use them for "the common good" like you said.
    But even if you did fail to fulfill that responsibility and lack the wisdom to use them for good (the wisdom that naturally comes through trial and error), it's not something worth beating yourself over or feel too guilty about
    Having privilege is, by definition, being different from others and that difference alone, along with the confusion, the loneliness that may come with it, is sometimes hard for someone to handle. We should cut people some slack even if they did mishandle their privilege, and quit with the victimization and guilt tripping.
    Edit: I'm just a foreigner that's not too familiar with the so called "white privilege" in America or such group privileges so I can't speak on that. I'm speaking more broadly about the privilege like a personal trait, a distinctive advantage that someone has that makes them stand out or something. I came from that video about the "Pretty Privilege" .

  • @davidballenger8917
    @davidballenger8917 Рік тому +8

    I hope you are getting good sleep. That is a privilege I've seen affected by allergies, heartburn, roommates, etc... But it is a most important fertilizer for healing.

    • @dmackler58
      @dmackler58  Рік тому +2

      Agreed! Sleep is key.

    • @dmackler58
      @dmackler58  Рік тому +2

      @@ethericshadows1303 I suppose, yes, if you can trace its root source, perhaps a trauma, and grieve the unresolved emotions around it...

    • @pod9363
      @pod9363 Рік тому

      ​@@ethericshadows1303 this is actually a topic I've thought a lot about and I'd have to agree with daniel about it being around emotions. Generally it seems that fetishes involve a lot of burried emotions that are cathartic when tapped into in a sexual context.

  • @nishasankaran
    @nishasankaran Рік тому

    I love you Daniel. Thx for your work ✨

  • @Ms007ok
    @Ms007ok Рік тому

    Very good video. Thanks

  • @DoughDashWord
    @DoughDashWord Рік тому

    I love the way you think!

  • @fabiobarbieri2213
    @fabiobarbieri2213 Рік тому

    Thanks again Daniel!!

  • @cristina9753
    @cristina9753 Рік тому +1

    Love this take

  • @cyberbrujx
    @cyberbrujx Рік тому

    thank you ❤

  • @fiat2496
    @fiat2496 Рік тому +21

    of the supposed privileges that we hear about (Male privilege, White privilege, straight privilege). It is still unclear if these are still privileges in 2023. But even if they are somehow privileges, the absolute biggest privilege is being raised by great parents.

    • @ghostofsilence2697
      @ghostofsilence2697 Рік тому +11

      It's not necessarily about having power over another individual or some kind of special advantage. It's basically saying "you are at the default position" and likely won't have to deal with some of the same problems others might face. For example: for men a bad date might end in rejection, for women a bad date might end in her never coming home to see her family. Not a slight against men in general, just a thing women have to face that men typically don't have to worry about, not to make men feel guilty, just to help them understand so hopefully they can help alleviate this anxiety by being a bit more mindful or situationally aware if they so choose.
      For being nob white (especially nowadays with a lot more racially motivated shooters and those making threats about calling ice even on legal immigrants, it creates an unnecessary stress. For this it's more of, just don't be a dick like those other asshats who harrass others for their immutable characteristics, and if you see it happen, speak up or let someone else know so the problem doesn't continue. Again not meant to impose guilt.
      As for being not straight. Holy hell where to even begin. The threat of being beaten, disowned, murdered, harrased, the fact that going to a gay bar might end in a shooting or a bomb threat, the fact that our congress drafted over 1,000 anti lgbt bills and passed over 200 last year alone and are openly today trying to legislate them out of existence. Quite a lot to take in especially given the political animosity today. It's not about assigning blame to those who weren't born into that minority position, it's just to make people aware that this is a constant negative hand these people have to deal with by default, and their asking please don't contribute to that stress. And again if you see something, say something.
      I hope this clears it up. It's not about assigning blame. It's not about forcing guilt (unless the individual It's aimed at is a direct cause of harm, like a shooter, an abuser, a rapist, or a corrupt legislator)

    • @thebeigesheep6132
      @thebeigesheep6132 Рік тому +4

      It is absolutely not unclear! Your privilege is showing if you say so. You probably just don't see these things because they don't affect you

    • @hekate3297
      @hekate3297 Рік тому +4

      This. Scratched my head at the original comment because it doesn't see its own irony. Doubting whether those are still privileges is in itself a display of privilege because marginalised groups don't get the luxury of doubt - they are all painfully aware that they are still at a disadvantage that the privileged are blissfully unaware about. Nothing has changed - in fact, for some groups such as trans people, things have only been sliding backwards more in places such as the UK.
      Again, privilege is not inherently a bad thing, nor should it be a source of shame. Privilege just is what it is. But it's good to be aware of one's standing in society and to appreciate the difficulties other groups face that we will never have to struggle with. I'm certainly grateful for my own privileges, even if I'd strongly prefer if none of us ever had to struggle at all for parts of our identity we have no control over.

    • @fiat2496
      @fiat2496 Рік тому +2

      ​@@hekate3297 You are just repeating what you have been told by every major corporation, mainstream media, Hollywood, corrupt politicians, etc... Most of these problems were solved decades ago. When every major corporation celebrates black history month and every single major city in America has a day where gay people parade around in their underwear without incident, the war has been won. No one cares anymore if you're gay. Or trans. Sorry to tell you that. I have many friends here in NYC in the theater world that are gay and black who are tired of being coddled and told that they are victims. They're not. They are pawns in a game where society demands that they stay in victimhood . If you are going to compare the downside of being gay and black in America with two loving parents to a straight white man in America raised by abusive parents, there is no contest.

    • @fiat2496
      @fiat2496 Рік тому +2

      @@thebeigesheep6132 Your sheeplike nature is showing, beige sheep. You are repeating exactly the same nonsense line that everyone else repeats on your side of this issue.

  • @marcelasilvaaraujo3918
    @marcelasilvaaraujo3918 Рік тому +1

    Nailed it

  • @pokeround
    @pokeround Рік тому

    After lighting the blue touch paper, retire to a safe distance. Do not return to the firework until the debris is completely extinguished and cooled.

  • @shamsbouteille1
    @shamsbouteille1 Рік тому

    Very interesting !

  • @paulmyers9049
    @paulmyers9049 Рік тому +2

    If you are sympathetic, not obsessing over your traumas all day, while also not suppressing or neglecting youself, healing, and doing something else, totally unrelated can be a privelage, not necessarily conventional, but beneficial

  • @shawnstoudt7130
    @shawnstoudt7130 Рік тому

    The problem is every government has international trade with a price and People end up buying stuff Because of international trade so nobody has personal property because it comes with a cost Governments end up ruling the people and ruling the stocks of Supplies when 1 country ends up losing It's supplies for the people other country they have to buy from Overpopulation is issue When a country does not have supplies to provide to all the people Such as food water and shelter or enough land to grow for the people

  • @charlottenilsson3820
    @charlottenilsson3820 Рік тому +1

    Knowledge is for sharing. I love UA-cam. I found my cure. And therefore myself. Adiós, triggers 😊🌿

  • @lisahyyppa3360
    @lisahyyppa3360 Рік тому +1

    🙏❤️‍🔥🥰
    Beautiful message from my personal perspective in Christ Jesus … the more that you have been given (gifts in the light of Christ Jesus) the more required of you to utilize them for the prospering of the Kingdom of God (free from selfishness)
    Matthew 5:14-16
    King James Version
    14 Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid.
    15 Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house.
    16 Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.
    Luke 12:41-48
    King James Version
    41 Then Peter said unto him, Lord, speakest thou this parable unto us, or even to all?
    42 And the Lord said, Who then is that faithful and wise steward, whom his lord shall make ruler over his household, to give them their portion of meat in due season?
    43 Blessed is that servant, whom his lord when he cometh shall find so doing.
    44 Of a truth I say unto you, that he will make him ruler over all that he hath.
    45 But and if that servant say in his heart, My lord delayeth his coming; and shall begin to beat the menservants and maidens, and to eat and drink, and to be drunken;
    46 The lord of that servant will come in a day when he looketh not for him, and at an hour when he is not aware, and will cut him in sunder, and will appoint him his portion with the unbelievers.
    47 And that servant, which knew his lord's will, and prepared not himself, neither did according to his will, shall be beaten with many stripes.
    48 But he that knew not, and did commit things worthy of stripes, shall be beaten with few stripes. For unto whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required: and to whom men have committed much, of him they will ask the more.
    🙏❤️‍🔥🥰 God Bless you with much love and gratitude in Christ Jesus and thank you for sharing this message
    Numbers 6:24-26
    King James Version
    24 The Lord bless thee, and keep thee:
    25 The Lord make his face shine upon thee, and be gracious unto thee:
    26 The Lord lift up his countenance upon thee, and give thee peace.

    • @lisahyyppa3360
      @lisahyyppa3360 Рік тому +1

      Luke 12:41-48
      Amplified Bible, Classic Edition
      41 Peter said, Lord, are You telling this parable for us, or for all alike?
      42 And the Lord said, Who then is that faithful steward, the wise man whom his master will set over those in his household service to supply them their allowance of food at the appointed time?
      43 Blessed (happy and [a]to be envied) is that servant whom his master finds so doing when he arrives.
      44 Truly I tell you, he will set him in charge over all his possessions.
      45 But if that servant says in his heart, My master is late in coming, and begins to strike the menservants and the maids and to eat and drink and get drunk,
      46 The master of that servant will come on a day when he does not expect him and at an hour of which he does not know, and will punish him and cut him off and assign his lot with [b]the unfaithful.
      47 And that servant who knew his master’s will but did not get ready or act as he would wish him to act shall be beaten with many [lashes].
      48 But he who did not know and did things worthy of a beating shall be beaten with few [lashes]. For everyone to whom much is given, of him shall much be required; and of him to whom men entrust much, they will require and demand all the more.
      Read full chapter
      Footnotes
      Luke 12:43 Alexander Souter, Pocket Lexicon.
      Luke 12:46 John Wycliffe, The Wycliffe Bible.

  • @Lanaactually
    @Lanaactually Рік тому

    LOVE. My brain is mathematical. I strongly believe the universe is always keeping homeostasis, or a certain equal balance, when determining the biological nature and available resources to every person. I was born to a family of few resources and abusive parents but my privileges allowed me to still be able to determine the best path to thriving. Not that I’m always on that path. But at least it’s there. Some ppl are uncomfortable with the idea of superior/inferior. This false idea of equality is constantly used in the wrong way. Yes equal in value as a whole person. It doesn’t mean that all ppl traits are equal. I’d like my rappers dumb and crass and my president intelligent and diplomatic thanks. That has little to do with race or gender and is simply the result of two very different privileges or talents being expressed.

  • @ashishkumaraeolus
    @ashishkumaraeolus Рік тому +3

    Dude you really don't look 50. When you said I'm 50 I was really shocked. You look lot younger

  • @Misses-Hippy
    @Misses-Hippy 10 місяців тому

    Validation. Bottom line of what I missed. I was a neglected child and later neglected adult.

  • @danielmclaughlin2145
    @danielmclaughlin2145 Рік тому +1

    If you don't use privilege to help those without then it's wasted. But shadow projective sanist and dominative types, full of envy, do label you as privileged as if it's a pejorative in the sense that you're either boastful or uncaring. I haven't quite figured it out but I know it stems from envy. It's crab barrel mentality.
    I am disliked because I say polarised stuff even by the minorities and marginalised standards. But I'll use my privalige to speak up for others who can't speak for themselves as I once couldn't. I know just how impactful someone else inspiring us can be from your videos and other people who have influenced me deeply. I really appreciate all the videos because I never got proper therapy in my life it's just been traumatic and I was drugged for probably hubris and envy on the Psychiatrists part.

  • @bobak5126
    @bobak5126 Рік тому

    There are pros and cons to any perceived privilege. People who make it big in Hollywood as an example are probably privileged, but they don’t seem very happy. Or much happier than the average people.

  • @mgee303
    @mgee303 Рік тому +4

    Privilege might be my least favorite word.

  • @amsalespush
    @amsalespush Рік тому +1

    You are in your FIFTIES ?? Please send me your exercise and diet plan.

  • @alstewart3540
    @alstewart3540 Рік тому +5

    theyre not going to like this one, daniel. Youre being a little too reasonable here

  • @AstroMartine
    @AstroMartine Рік тому +4

    I think many people make no distinction between privilege and an earned advantage. Not directly related to your video, but it irks me when people have called me privileged in my life when nobody gave me or my family anything for free - quite the contrary, may created obstacles for me, if anything. I think it's all part of our tendency today to ignore the reality of genetics and nature. The truth is nobody-no matter how smart or hard working or talented, can reach much of significance in one life time, that's why we all build our lives on what the previous generation has left for us-that is not privilege, it's an earned advantage. People who make that into privilege would probably also abolish the right to private property-again, totally against nature and destroys the human drive for progress. It's like that saying: one generation plants the trees, another gets the shade.

    • @Emile-philia
      @Emile-philia Рік тому +7

      It's easy and probably intrinsically biased to assume we earned things, if otherwise seriously scrutinised, more than others. Even if we earn our success, it's very difficult to weigh our deservedness with strangers' deservedness. Sometimes we can tell based on behaviour when others are unrealistically entitled, but the biggest blind-spot of all is probably the under-privileged: it's difficult to grasp just how scarce of a chance at life some people are given, unless we become very, very good listeners, and deliberately expose ourselves to a plethora of contexts like our man Daniel.

    • @AstroMartine
      @AstroMartine Рік тому +2

      @@Emile-philia I wasn't saying that there is no inequality of opportunities in the world, but the reason why some have more than others is not always undeserved. That was my main point. Even the people who are now severely under-privileged, if they gained wealth, would not donate it all to the poor - not before they take care of their own kids and other blood relatives, first. That is the way of nature-we are all programmed to ensure the survival of our genes.
      I agree with most of what Daniel said, if you have more abilities you do have more responsibility in a way, but I also don't agree with the idea that it's an obligation, like some might think. I grew up in East Europe in a family with no wealth, and made something of myself because of sheer grit, meanwhile I had to deal with people calling me spoiled now for having a bit more than average, because I spent most of my 20s struggling and working instead of playing video games and wanking to p*rn, like they did.

    • @mochilover7053
      @mochilover7053 Рік тому +2

      @@AstroMartine You don't know what the underprivileged would do in your position. For one: they're the least heard and understood. You're projecting onto them what YOU WOULD DO, or what the most selfish would do. This is really just a self-aggrandizement exercise. The only way to reason with inequality is to believe the oppressed has the same penchant for justice and compassion as their oppressor.

    • @AstroMartine
      @AstroMartine Рік тому +2

      @@mochilover7053 I come from a former communist country. I know from my parents and grandparents what "equality" brought. It's not a projection, it's biological fact. We are all wired to propagate our genes.

    • @psychodelic1457
      @psychodelic1457 Рік тому

      ​@@AstroMartinethere's abilities beyond money based ability arbitrators but we just used with better ability but the question is a better ability of what exactly ?

  • @loussis8584
    @loussis8584 Рік тому +5

    Oh jeez I deleted my comment by mistake, Sorry Daniel to repeat myself but I need to express this thought:
    I love your work, I think it’s very useful to a lot of people (myself included of course) BUT on this one, I have to disagree with you, privilege is never a good thing because it is always in comparison with other people: we are only privileged if we have things or have access to things other don’t... The question we have to ask ourselves is not « should I feel guilty about my privileges » because we are not really responsible for it at the beginning, but, once you have realized in which ways you are privileged and acknowledge that you benefit from an unfair society, then must come the question « « how can I contribute to make this world a bit less unfair ». Truly acknowledging that you/we are privileged is a good step. Not putting all the privileges or factors of exclusion/discrimination on the same level is also a good thing to do. Because experiencing a form discrimination when you are abroad as a white male american tourist is definitely not the same thing as experiencing it in your everyday life, with no possibility of escape.
    I say that with no anger at all. As I already said, I love your channel, it helps me a lot to understand myself, being more honest with myself and more free, but I just feel you maybe lack insights on the issue of privilege, which is a very sensitive political issue.

  • @charlottenilsson3820
    @charlottenilsson3820 Рік тому +1

    Envy. Narci thing

  • @laurelgardner
    @laurelgardner Рік тому +18

    Who wants you to feel guilty? Ninety-nine times out of a hundred when I get to see the conversation where someone claims someone wants them to "feel guilty," what's actually happening is that the privileged person is being asked to understand that they need to stay in their lane on a subject and not downplay a bad experience that they don't have to live. I think people naturally, and appropriately, FEEL guilty when they realize they've stepped on someone else's toes, but part of how we are taught to carry ourselves and expect of others when we have privilege is to think we're entitled to never feeling guilty over that issue. So we decide that the guilt we feel is unnatural, has been manufactured by the person calling us out and is a manipulation.

    • @JohnSmith-wq5oi
      @JohnSmith-wq5oi Рік тому +17

      The whole idea that you need to "stay in your lane" is in itself an inappropriate guilt-trip. Everyone is fully entitled to hold whatever opinion they like about whatever subject they like. If the person's "privilege" has made them ignorant of a topic it should be extremely easy to point out where/how they're wrong rather than getting personal about their background.

    • @Yuttle
      @Yuttle Рік тому +1

      You need to check your privilege. Some people don't have the ability to feel guilty. Look at your privilege and please, stay in your lane.

    • @annnikat
      @annnikat Рік тому +5

      I can understand why you feel the way you do. It's really frustrating to not be understood. It is hard for people who have never had certain experiences to understand things. I think phrases like "stay in your lane" put people on the defensive, tho. And that is just never going to facilitate communication. It would be so much more helpful if people could just say, "hey, I don't feel like you understand me right now, and it's hurting my feelings". Or "when I feel like I don't understand something, it makes me feel powerless/stupid/less valuable/etc". But ofc society is not safe in that way, so nobody can have that conversation. It makes me sad.

    • @loussis8584
      @loussis8584 Рік тому +2

      @Annika T It is also very tiring to put the form in order not to hurt the feeling of the privileged people, or the people who holds a dominant position. You have to understand that the people who feel oppressed or underprivileged have the right to express their feelings, even in a way that displease you or make you feel uncomfortable. Then you can think about it, why did their comment hurt you, why did this made you feel uncomfortable and what does that comment questions about yourself or questions the way you used to see things. Yes it is unpleasant to face the anger of other people, especially when we feel we play a role (even if very distant) in that anger, just by existing and having privileges over that person. It is still violent and the expression of your/our privileges to expect the underprivileged to express themselves in a way that won’t hurt us.

    • @annnikat
      @annnikat Рік тому +4

      @@loussis8584 Well I can definitely understand being tired of being diplomatic at some point. I also think that if somebody has been personally victimized by something, it's not fair to expect them to be diplomatic, you gotta have other people do it at that point. I just think that unfortunately diplomacy is the only way to actually resolve things in the end... And people will be more likely to change their mind if they feel comfortable. I get that that's unfair.

  • @alizen987
    @alizen987 Рік тому +4

    I agree with a lot of your stuff and appreciate your videos but you are missing some points here around privilege and power dynamics. Societal Privilege is only possible with oppression and is never good. That being said, I think a Privilege (in a different aspect of the concept) that isn't recognized is that of having a support system, family connection etc. It's a privilege and a huge factor around survival and outcomes. Not to be conflated with gender and race privilege etc. Totally different function, dynamics system and determinate of Privilege.
    My favorite part of your videos is around social work. You had a video where you talk about how there are few good therapists and that therapists don't love their clients. Your stuff validates a lot as a burning out social services worker. I am not a therapist but have worked with vulnerable populations for many years and am needing to leave because it feels increasingly hard to do the work ethically in the systems we have.

  • @marcelasilvaaraujo3918
    @marcelasilvaaraujo3918 Рік тому

    Woow!

  • @shawnstoudt7130
    @shawnstoudt7130 Рік тому

    Nothing is for free because of greed and Hoarding supplies with a cost When it comes to international trade and if you don't have anything to trade That becomes a problem People die

  • @veganphilosopher1975
    @veganphilosopher1975 Рік тому +1

    Daniel, I have a very deep questions that I have asked myself before. I'm interested if you have any thoughts on it.
    if you believe in the Darwinian-Scientific view of the world, isnt everyone just ultimately acting on their instincts/acting out learned behaviors? Can we ever really hold ANYONE accountable for their behaviors?
    I think of Captain Ahab being mad at the White While. It's just an animal (like all of us) what sense is there in holding negative feelings towards that? In blaming that?
    Could accepting that everyone is an animal acting on primitive impulses and that free-will doesnt exist have any therapeutic benefit?

  • @mochilover7053
    @mochilover7053 Рік тому +7

    You have erred on thinking all privileges are a gift of life though. I'm not interested in making you guilty, but if your privileges are already soaked in blood and you're equivocating that with being tall or pretty, then what kind of conversation are we even having here? It's disingenuous which is why I don't like having these conversations with certain people.

  • @wrongalice1473
    @wrongalice1473 Рік тому

    the UA-cam is your chi donation!
    youre doing chi donations! yay!

    • @dmackler58
      @dmackler58  Рік тому +1

      Interesting way to put it -- chi donation. I like that. Thank you :)

    • @wrongalice1473
      @wrongalice1473 Рік тому +1

      @@dmackler58 You have a unique way of digging into the details, and I appreciate you. Thx for making these videos available to us
      :D

  • @Analysis_Paralysis
    @Analysis_Paralysis Рік тому +4

    You should read more Black feminist scholars, Daniel. You missed the point about privilege.

  • @juliehwang8482
    @juliehwang8482 Рік тому +1

    you are so cute i love you

  • @RevolutionaryThinking
    @RevolutionaryThinking Рік тому

    Exactly it’s not the privilege itself it’s the way it’s used. 4:52

  • @frankstared
    @frankstared Рік тому +13

    I think you've entirely missed the point. The point is to deconstruct/dismantle privilege, not celebrate/universalize(?!?) it, as you are doing. And the goal is equity, because only when there is equity can there be truth and wellness. You can't skip over equity to get to truth, Daniel, because truth is contingent on equity, just as wellness is contingent on truth and equity, just as there is no individual only connections. We all have work to do in deprogramming ourselves from the oppressive structures that still cause appropriated oppression.

    • @Jon-hx7pe
      @Jon-hx7pe Рік тому

      equity is cultural marxism - means taking privileges from people on the basis of skin color, gender and ability and giving them to others who haven't earned them to "make things equal".

    • @nadia4985
      @nadia4985 Рік тому +5

      Does such equity exist in the nature?
      I'm asking as someone who considers current monetary system greatly violating ethical values such as stability, justice, sustainability etc. Yet, I don't observe equity in the wilderness.

    • @thebeigesheep6132
      @thebeigesheep6132 Рік тому +1

      @@nadia4985 do you eat the shit from your cats litter box? Cuz lots of peoples dogs do. I don't think we should model ourselves after animals. Just because something is natural doesn't mean it is helpful

    • @nadia4985
      @nadia4985 Рік тому +2

      @@thebeigesheep6132 pets are not wild animals. Also, there's no such as pet owners, only captors holding other beings captive.

    • @milorxngo
      @milorxngo Рік тому

      Nature is cruel and idiotic

  • @Againstthestatusquo3985
    @Againstthestatusquo3985 Рік тому +4

    "Well, yes. Obviousley i have certain Privileges and i see them here in America, i have a place to live, i have friends, my race certainly makes it easier to be privileged, privileged in this society in a lot of ways, being white, there is certainly some male privileged that i've experienced in a lot of different ways"
    At this point i've shuted the video down.

  • @fareehafaiyyaz8475
    @fareehafaiyyaz8475 Рік тому +4

    Have to disagree here

  • @oselkhandro4416
    @oselkhandro4416 Рік тому +2

    Noblesse Oblige: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Noblesse_oblige