Lady Boomer here... In my mid twenties, I'd been a waitress and bartender. When I found an office job, I missed the social aspect of being out around lots of people. So...I forced myself to dine in restaurants at lunchtime by myself. Everyone I knew was also working, and I got tired of fast food, and sandwiches from home. Mexican food was my favorite since chips and dip were served asap. I would 'people watch' as other customers came and went. The servers always gave a nod, that helped, and sometimes I'd see people or acquaintances that I knew. Soon, going to lunch by myself became an enjoyable experience. Now that I'm old-er, I definitely enjoy my own company. Sure, it's more fun to be with other people, but being comfortable in your own skin has its benefits. Put yourself out there. You'll be surprised how often people will remember you, even though they don't know you. It's easier to strike up conversations when you're seen out and about by others. Great channel. Thanks!
Was listening to this as I walked down the street, saw someone wearing an Alkaline Trio t-shirt so took off my headphones to say hi and I liked their new album. We had a brief chat and they smiled and seemed happy that someone noticed that. Thanks for the inspo!!!
It was important for me to learn how incompatible I am with most people. Before I was walking around thinking I could have anyone. I didn’t know I did not want anyone.
you can essentially boil it down it one thing.. Remove all easy dopamine.. Then everything falls into place .. Atleast i did for me.. and it happended alot quicker then i could ever imagine.
Great video. And From a young man, its a breath of fresh air to hear how you are navigating life and relationships. I'm so glad to hear that people still care about connection that's reciprocal, as opposed to just filling their own loneliness by wrangling others into their lives. ❤
As an introvert I find this particularly hard. I do find being around a lot of people particularly strangers feels draining and exhausting, but at the same time I crave to meet new people. I really love the small friend circle I have but would also like to expand it. Being out in a social setting and able to people watch while naturally getting to meet a small amount of people seems to work best for me.
My favourite place to meet people is at my high school since we got loads of students here...I think I'll use your techniques and approach more peeps...thanks :D
@@iamKristianBell I get your point but. I think it’s also depends on where you live. If you live in a more dense populated and liberal city. It maybe easier to strike up a convo with a random person. If you live in a rural country area in the middle of nowhere with limited social places and events it’s hard to meet new interesting people. Not every single guy can afford to go to bars, coffee shops, gym or dance club to socialize, or even the gas to get there. Hell even the time because they maybe working long and weird hours. From my own personal experiences, most of my interactions with others is me acknowledging them via things that they have with them. Like a cool Fallout shirt or a book I read or a nice chess set. When I go to the park or a concert or the gym the convo is usually short. I guess the key is consistency because you may bump into that person in your area if you keep showing up to the same places or many different places.
Lady Boomer here...
In my mid twenties, I'd been a waitress and bartender. When I found an office job, I missed the social aspect of being out around lots of people. So...I forced myself to dine in restaurants at lunchtime by myself.
Everyone I knew was also working, and I got tired of fast food, and sandwiches from home.
Mexican food was my favorite since chips and dip were served asap.
I would 'people watch' as other customers came and went. The servers always gave a nod, that helped, and sometimes I'd see people or acquaintances that I knew.
Soon, going to lunch by myself became an enjoyable experience.
Now that I'm old-er, I definitely enjoy my own company.
Sure, it's more fun to be with other people, but being comfortable in your own skin has its benefits.
Put yourself out there.
You'll be surprised how often people will remember you, even though they don't know you.
It's easier to strike up conversations when you're seen out and about by others.
Great channel.
Thanks!
Was listening to this as I walked down the street, saw someone wearing an Alkaline Trio t-shirt so took off my headphones to say hi and I liked their new album. We had a brief chat and they smiled and seemed happy that someone noticed that.
Thanks for the inspo!!!
It was important for me to learn how incompatible I am with most people. Before I was walking around thinking I could have anyone. I didn’t know I did not want anyone.
you can essentially boil it down it one thing.. Remove all easy dopamine.. Then everything falls into place .. Atleast i did for me.. and it happended alot quicker then i could ever imagine.
Great video. And From a young man, its a breath of fresh air to hear how you are navigating life and relationships. I'm so glad to hear that people still care about connection that's reciprocal, as opposed to just filling their own loneliness by wrangling others into their lives. ❤
As an introvert I find this particularly hard. I do find being around a lot of people particularly strangers feels draining and exhausting, but at the same time I crave to meet new people. I really love the small friend circle I have but would also like to expand it. Being out in a social setting and able to people watch while naturally getting to meet a small amount of people seems to work best for me.
Great content bro. Former Austinite here.
Wow! You're onto something here
My favourite place to meet people is at my high school since we got loads of students here...I think I'll use your techniques and approach more peeps...thanks :D
Good job for taking action, this is awesome
Amazing video I’m definitely going to try implementing your advice
Great job.
I'm 47. I am not in touch with 99 per cent of the people I met in my 20s.
That's why I approached 500. To find the best 1%
Yeah not driving screwed me bunch
Wow
I like your method and will try it out!
6:08 who took this photo mate?
Lol I approached a girl and asked if we could get a candid shot for a video. Then I asked the guy next to me
But who wants to talk or date NPCs and covid droids. 😂
Most importantly: don't be the nice guy.
Be nice and a jerk at times
What if you don’t have a lot of money? Or transportation. What if you are not white, good-looking? Or what if you are queer? Non-binary?
The principles still apply
@@iamKristianBell I get your point but. I think it’s also depends on where you live. If you live in a more dense populated and liberal city. It maybe easier to strike up a convo with a random person. If you live in a rural country area in the middle of nowhere with limited social places and events it’s hard to meet new interesting people. Not every single guy can afford to go to bars, coffee shops, gym or dance club to socialize, or even the gas to get there. Hell even the time because they maybe working long and weird hours.
From my own personal experiences, most of my interactions with others is me acknowledging them via things that they have with them. Like a cool Fallout shirt or a book I read or a nice chess set. When I go to the park or a concert or the gym the convo is usually short. I guess the key is consistency because you may bump into that person in your area if you keep showing up to the same places or many different places.
There's a thousand excuses we could use.
None of them help 🤷♂️