I feel the bad things we do, or have done, or the bad decisions we have taken, could not have been done differently by the person we were. Nobody takes a bad decision knowing the consequences will be very hard to live with. We do what we do mostly in self-defense and based on our own self-image. A thief is really saying to himself 'I steal because I am a thief'. An abuser is saying to himself 'I abuse because I am an abuser'. People with self-respect and self-love could not imagine stealing or abusing. It would be unimaginable to them. When we don't love ourselves, if we think of ourselves as a thief or an abuser, that is exactly how we will behave. Sadly, that cycle always starts when people are treated badly, or are shown a bad example, when they are very young. Through guilt we force ourselves to live and relive our past. Our past remains our present, and becomes our future. Self forgiveness is the only way of renewing our hearts and minds, giving us the self-respect that makes the idea of behaving badly unimaginable to us. And self- forgiveness is something that only we can give to ourselves. But once we have, we can respect and love the people around us, because our self-image of who we are, is changed. Once we respect ourselves, we are naturally respectful to the people around us. So the more we forgive ourselves, the better we become as people. How simple is that :-) So do something wonderful today and every day. Forgive yourself and become the wonderful person you are, that is, when you and only you realise it.
Remarkable, really. You know, I have heard this many times but how you said it, and after listening to Tara and probably where I am today, caused it to sink in. Thank you, 8 years ago ;)
My fear is resilient. How do get presence, kindness, clarity, or space so that I might be able to match its intensity. I have tried many different approaches over the last 3 years but meditation has done nothing to help me in this life & death struggle with fear.
I feel the bad things we do, or have done, or the bad decisions we have taken, could not have been done differently by the person we were. Nobody takes a bad decision knowing the consequences will be very hard to live with. We do what we do mostly in self-defense and based on our own self-image. A thief is really saying to himself 'I steal because I am a thief'. An abuser is saying to himself 'I abuse because I am an abuser'. People with self-respect and self-love could not imagine stealing or abusing. It would be unimaginable to them. When we don't love ourselves, if we think of ourselves as a thief or an abuser, that is exactly how we will behave. Sadly, that cycle always starts when people are treated badly, or are shown a bad example, when they are very young. Through guilt we force ourselves to live and relive our past. Our past remains our present, and becomes our future. Self forgiveness is the only way of renewing our hearts and minds, giving us the self-respect that makes the idea of behaving badly unimaginable to us. And self- forgiveness is something that only we can give to ourselves. But once we have, we can respect and love the people around us, because our self-image of who we are, is changed. Once we respect ourselves, we are naturally respectful to the people around us. So the more we forgive ourselves, the better we become as people. How simple is that :-) So do something wonderful today and every day. Forgive yourself and become the wonderful person you are, that is, when you and only you realise it.
John Bates
John Bates thank you for this!
So beautifully put together.
Remarkable, really. You know, I have heard this many times but how you said it, and after listening to Tara and probably where I am today, caused it to sink in. Thank you, 8 years ago ;)
Tara Brach is healing me in some profound ways. Thank you guys! 😘
This is my morning prayer. I needed to hear something.
Wonderful!
Beautiful!! Thank you!
Thank you so much for this one. It's just what I needed 😊. Other things flow from self love and forgiveness.
I feel the sense of that which is safety and the love which is so precious and so rich. Grateful thank you Om Shanti:)
Enjoyed this thank you
Thank you. This helps me.
Thank you ❤
You're welcome 😊 Sandhya. All the best of Health and Happiness. ~ Respectfully, Ross
Beautiful words. really what I needed to hear.❤️
Hi. This talk by Tara has been a refuge for me. Thank you for posting. Can you direct me to the full lecture please. Thank you.
Hello Lucy, Yes Tara is wonderful and wise.
Please visit - blog.tarabrach.com or www.tarabrach.com/ for more of Tara's wisdom.
Respectfully, Ross
thank you for sharing wisdom
Thank you! I find Tara to be wonderful & wise. All the Best, Ross
Thank you.
My fear is resilient. How do get presence, kindness, clarity, or space so that I might be able to match its intensity. I have tried many different approaches over the last 3 years but meditation has done nothing to help me in this life & death struggle with fear.
May I suggest watching some of Tara's other videos. Respectfully, Ross - ua-cam.com/video/j5f859MuqwI/v-deo.html
Holy, holy, holy...