I grew up in a small town. Because I was (at the time) small for my age and my family attended the "wrong" church I was bullied relentlessly. I turned the other cheek for (9) years until the day I fought back. The leader of the 'Bully Squad' sat in front of me in health class. He loved to lift the front of my desk up and dump me out of it. One day I had enough. I stood up, confronted him and labeled him with a roundhouse that knocked him cold. I was almost expelled from school but a lot of students said that they had watched the kid torment me since First Grade and wondered when I would finally hit back. It's needless to say that the bullying stopped--completely. Cost me a dislocated knuckle and a cracked wrist but justice was done. I might add that I understand why some kids bring a gun to school; the thought occured to me a couple of times. I was reminded of it some years later when a kid in a town that I eventually settled down in, about 50 miles away, brought a gun to school and shot and killed the bully. He served his complete sentence because every parole hearing he said that he had no remorse other than he didn't do it soon enough, and the only regrets he had was the pain that the bully's family had to go through...
I had a friend in the 8th Grade you could slide right into this story. Good for you. My Buddy finally had enough by the last couple of weeks of school - it was a fantastic Finale' to the Eighth Grade. It wasn't a good day for the bullies. He was the hero of all the dweebs (myself included) I went to High School in the 1970's. You have people that are only there because they aren't old enough to leave home yet and their parents do not want them to stay home. They roamed in packs, picking out people to torment for their pleasure. I doubt that it's all that different today. The difference, we didn't live in a society where guns were an option. Today, bringing in a weapon to kill the bully is considered "the cost of doing business". I know people from when I went to school that I would have run off the road and would have lost no sleep over it. Of course I never acted on anger because I could avoid these bullies (Hide and Seek was not a kids game, it was survival in High School if you weighed 90 lbs as a Freshman) I was in a Psychology Class in Night School in 1999 (Military) when the subject of the 1999 Columbine School Shooting came up. The class gave their takes on the shooters - motivation - what it would take to do this - why didn't the thoughts of the consequences deter them (the shooters commited suicide). A guy about 33 or 34 years old spoke up and said, "I can understand why they would want to do this. When you have people seeking you out just to bully you every day, day after day -I think that a person could be convinced that a little payback is deserved. The bullies that were killed got what was coming to them." He went on to say, "I predict that if nothing is done about this kind of crap in schools, the future is going to be full of these paybacks." No one said anything and the silence caused the guy to grab his book and leave. (Class was over for the day) After he walked out, the Instructor was beside herself with shock (as were several members of the class). She said, "Oh my gosh can you believe this guy. This guy is dangerous and really should not be out in the real world with thoughts like this." Now, I may be the asshole, but listening to him and keeping an objective mind set, I really didn't disagree with him. (I did disagree that this was a way to solve the bullying problem) The point I think everyone missed was that if enough effort is put forth and all effort is put into tormenting someone, eventually everybody cracks. Looking back 23 years to that moment in the classroom I have to admit that the man was right. The difference now and then - THEN (1999): Columbine High School Shooting was an horrible anomaly that shocked a nation. We feared for the children as the Denver Colorado community came together for healing TODAY: School Shooting = Another AR-15 School Shooting??? It must be Tuesday.
That is something nobody EVER talks about! That the teachers and directors of schools do not protect bullied students and are not willing to take any blame when those victims had finally enough. What does that say if you have no one that helps you or protects you and you are completely left alone as a kid. I know exactly how that feels! 45years later and I still feel the Hate I had inside me when going to school Every fucking day!
“Then Erik kicked him out of the house”. 😂 What Erik did was to turn the tables. He beat the living shit out of his stepdad after a lifetime on the receiving end.
@@dkechag1979 It's always amazing to see how awful people's sense of humor is ... Every UA-cam comment section is chalk full of folks (Quay, in this case) that cannot seem to think in any way but one dimensional literal interpretation. But, great call out to Michael Scott!
@@67L48 It's also amazing to see how awfully judgemental people are, As if you know anything about Quay by a one sentence reply. ha ha about the "thinking in one way". How ironic. I'm sorry you didn't hear what you wanted to hear, But thats no reason to be disappointed and insult their intellect because they didn't play the same game. I suggest you manage your emotions better next time!
In 6th grade, I was new in school and one of the self appointed tough guys named Steven Birch tried bullying me. At 3 pm, we met in the school yard and fought, with a bunch of kids around us. We were evenly matched until he put me on my arse, he smiled with his friends, but I got up so fast, he wasn't expecting the hay maker I planted on him. The surprise, the shock, and embarrassment, was too much for him and he started to cry as he sat on the floor. That was end of the fight. The memory is still vivid, 50 years later. Crazy.
I remember the first bullies I encountered. First grade. Bob and Joey had already failed a year, so they were slightly bigger, but not by much. They stuck together and terrorized probably 10 boys. They marched us in formation at lunch and recess. The threat wasn't really physical. They threatened to write on our arms with ink if we didn't obey. In first grade, ink pens were forbidden, so the threat was we'd get in trouble with the teacher. It kept us in line. Spring came, and I became a servant to Joey. All that meant was I had to stay with him and do what he said. But one day in late Spring, the breaking point came. Standing on a hill with Joey, he told me to do something, and I snapped after all those months. I barely remember it, then or now. A reflexive thing. I made a fist and punched Joey in the nose. He had an immediate bloody nose. I didn't immediately start dancing around in victory. On the contrary, I saw the blood and waited for the beating I knew was coming. Except it didn't come. Joey, whose voice sounded afraid and disbelieving, asked me repeatedly why I hit him. I don't recall answering him. There's more to the story, but it's not necessary here. No one has marched around after that day. And I learned bullies aren't so tough, but you have to stand up to them. I will say it's one of the reasons I don't care for anti-bullying programs, nor do I like parents getting involved. It was handled, I handled it, and there were no repercussions. Incidentally, Bob became a successful businessman, and Joey didn't return the following year. I still don't care for Bob all these decades later.
I was bullied for years in high-school till one day something snapped and I got so angry and floored one of the bullies in front of the class. No more bullying after that. I never forgot that moment, it's been 45 years since the day. I agree that confronting the bullies is the only way out. Thank you for your story.
I never learned any martial arts but I despise bullies and as a kid someone once told me that the fights you see in the movies are totally ridiculous and that almost all fights end with the first punch to the nose (which very much stuns the opponent and can even be fatal). We moved a lot while I was growing up (similar to being any military brat) and I often got tested by bullies at my new schools. With the information I had about the punch to the nose, whenever things looked tense I made sure that I was rubbing my eye or pushing back my hair or some other thing that placed my right hand (dominant hand) at head level. Then, yes, I always took the first action, which was to bring my fist into strong contact with the opponents nose. I never lost a fight *in fact I cannot recall ever even being hit) and I was never bullied twice and most fights ended with that first blow. The only ones that didn't end with that first blow was when I was so angry that I continues to pummel the opponent (generally repeatedly to the nose). SO, NOW YOU KNOW ALL THE MARTIAL ARTS YOU NEED TO KNOW!!!
I was bullied mercilessly at school. Once I was beaten to the point of needing a 2 week hospital stay. To the day she died my mother believed my injuries were due to the sport's field. There was no way I was going to report the bullies; this would only result in far worse reprisals. My principal bully was well off, better off than his peers who, like myself, came from working class families. It used to baffle me as to why this kid who had everything was only happy when he was beating the snot out of me. Years later I met his sister in a shopping center and she told me he was in prison. Apparently he did an armed robbery, this kid who had everything.
My Freshman year bully ended up getting shot and killed in an altercation just after High School. He was one year above me. He targeted anyone that was 120 lbs or lighter. (Several other low lifes from my High School ended up on the wrong side of a gun too. They all started the fights that ended their lives.) I didn't have a care one way or the other when I learned about it when I came home for leave. Not satisfaction/No sorrow. I just thought that they finally found what they must have been looking for - someone that wouldn't take their crap.
I could somewhat attempt to answer why he did it (armed robbery). Just like the elites these days, like Rothschild, George Soros, Klaus Schwab, Bill Gates, etc. They have everything, mansions, yatchs, planes, finest food, etc. Life has become boring, to them. So perversion sets in, like devil worshiping, drinking blood, controlling others, reducing world population, etc. Kings, queens & lords in medieval times did the same thing.
At a distance another person's problems look small. Up close our own problems look huge. It is all perspective. We can change our own perspective but until we learn that, we cope. Your bully's problems were big to him and he coped by lashing out at you. He never learned and he circled the drain. It sounds like you have adapted and so are better for it. Nothing about this justifies your treatment. I'm just stating common theories. Of course, he could just be an actual psychopath and that tosses all what I said out the window. Btw, there is nothing about your comment that singled you out other than it was interesting how life turned out and I stopped reading comments here. I wish you well, in life.
A lot of people here saying they were bullied at school, I can share similar experience, in 6th and 7th grade I was bullied too, mainly from a school bully who was trying to look cool in the eyes of some girls, from other guys too, this guy once tried to stab me with scissors. I’ve changed the school because of that, here comes the interesting part - in the new school I landed in a class of a young criminals with numerous cases of different offences registered in the police department. When those guys heard my story they actually helped me out to build my confidence, my self defence capabilities and to build no fear of confrontation with others. The guys from the previous school tried to pick on me again - unsuccessfully. I was involved in 3 separate street fights with bullies. After one of them half of my classmates were on a hunt to beat one of the bullies too. After that no one tried to mess up with me.
No one knows this from my school but i was being bullied by upper classmen. It wasn't so much physical as it was demoralizing. One day i had enough. Walked up to one of the bullies and held a pencil to his throat. Told him they needed to stop or someone would suddenly find the full pencil inside him. The bullying stopped immediately
The bully who I dealt with repeatedly in high school picked one fight too many with me and one day when he slammed a basketball in my face, I waited until he turned his back and made a running leap and hit him with a left hook so hard I nearly broke my hand. He beat the living hell out of me and knocked me out, but he got into trouble for it and never laid a hand on me again. He finally found someone who hit back... I never would talk to him through the years and he died recently. While all of his friends sat around lauding what a great guy he was, I remembered all the people he beat up with the school principals covering for him. His soul can rot in hell. I am satisfied knowing I gave that SOB a nearly broken jaw for his unending reign of terror - It was worth the beating I took. People started to not pick fights with me after that incident, although one more fight happened where I took one more bully out and after that, I had the most peaceful year of high school ever. I was glad to escape that hell hole when I graduated.
I had my son in a Catholic High School for one year...He was aweare of one kid who bullied everyone..This kid one day took m son's lunch. When it happened my son hit the kid pretty hard..The kid took the hit badly, but realized he had messed with the wrong kid..I was filled in that night by my son..He had done something that made me very proud, but I still had to not show it..
Hopefully you revealed your support in a covert manner. I have NEVER forgotten the time that my Dad stood up for me. We were having dinner at home and my Dad sent me [probably 8 y.o. at that time] to answer a knock on the front door. There was a father with his son who I had "allegedly" hit at school that day. This father was shouting and demanding for my Dad who then appeared. He showed the bruise on his son's face and demanded that I be immediately punished and thrashed with a belt by my Dad in their presence. My Dad immediately took one look at his boy who was much taller, bigger and older than me. Confirmed that I had hit him in self-defence. Without hesitation, he immediately chased the pair of them from the property threatening to do the same to this father. There was an aftermath to this story which involved a further altercation between the fathers. One thing was certain; they messed around with the wrong Dad who had given me an important boxing lesson in the garage so I could stand my ground and fight back against my school bullies.
I was being bullied by three older boys and, one day, we were walking home from school and they set their younger brothers on me and I bashed all three of them, left them bleeding and crying. So the older boys came at me and I was dishing out punches like a catherine wheel and then we all saw that my parents were at the bust stop nearby. Dad told me years later that mum told him to do something, but he said "no, he has to defend himself. Besides, he's doing quite well" The boys went home a lot worse for wear and they never bothered me again. That is how you deal with bullies. And if it's more than one, then there are no rules!
My maternal uncle was being bullied by these two boys. He got strep throat really bad, and it was taking him awhile to recover. These boys would wait for him when he walked home. Well my grandmother got wind of it. So, she waited on that road for those two boys with a stick. She used it, those boys never bothered my uncle again. 😁 True story.
I was a middle class kid who was sent to an elite boarding school to get a better education than the local public school could offer. The bullying I and many others experienced there was extreme. It also came from some of the teachers. Some of whom were drug addicts or pedophiles. I hated it there but survived a better man with the help of some great friendships that became lifelong. The school was decades later engulfed in a sexual assault scandal with the former headmaster and several pedophiles identified and disgraced. Though nobody went to prison despite dozens of students being molested over decades. Thankfully I wasn't a victim but 3 of my friends were. I was bullied though. My advice regarding bullies is the first time he does it, drop him and show everyone he has no power over you. It took me several years of torture before i finally stood up. Lesson is that many of these spoiled rich kids can be real turds. Just like this movie.
The problem is if you are bellow average statures and weak. I'm of average build, so I was never too afraid even of stronger people because even if I lost, I knew it would be too much of a trouble for them if I fought back. But what do you tell really weak people? Even if they do fight back, nothing will come of it. The only way weak people can survive is if they find good and strong people who can protect them. Even depending on others isn't ideal, because they can easily become resentful as they are unable to stand on your own and live independently. Maybe learning martial arts and going to the gym helps, but there are not easy fixes for being weak. However until one's spirit is broken, there's always a way out.
I was bullied my first year in high school in Chicago during 1964. Immediately the bullies stop picking on me once they found out I live in a dangerous Southside public housing building, and everyone in that public housing building are close friends with my family.
I always teach my children to stand up against bullying and do whatever necessary. When my youngest daughter registered into one private school barely a week past the school principal called me telling that she broke the arm of one of big bully at the school. At the meeting with the principal I mentioned my regret but in the car I just said, do whatever necessary to stop bullying. My wife (bless her soul) said, "well, broken arm wouldn't kill her. You beat them hard, just don't kill them". She was very emotional about it. I will teach my grandsons and granddaughter the same thing I taught my children.
I was bullied by a gang of 5 in high school. The ringleader was the star of the basketball team, and could do no wrong. So I graduated and later attended our 25th class reunion. I was dreading that the gang would show up again and pick up where they left off. One of the girls (now a young woman with family) in my class took me aside and gave an update. After graduation, one of the bullies disappeared, never to be seen again. Three others were dead before they turned 21 years old. The ringleader sat in his mother's basement, unemployed and unemployable, with numerous violent felonies on his record. The state law enforcement promised him the next felony he committed, he would be in prison until the day he died.
As the school season began I watched our school bully harass and harm my mates over the first few days. Knowing eventually he would come at me. I was prepared mentally for it so when it indeed happened I immediately challenged him to an after hours meeting to settle our differences. He of course accepted. We met. He lost and lost quickly with a severe beating. It changed him completely and he not only never bothered me again, but ceased from bullying everyone. Every bully is a coward looking for someone to stop him. When you meet one, oblige him. My bully never bullied anyone else again. It's the only lesson they can learn from.
Always stand up to bullies , not just the ones who try to bully you but the ones who bully others who are weaker , more gentle or just different. Bullies should never ever win even if it costs you a kicking . It's important.
When you dont fear the beating and accept that you will get hurt in the fight. You have one over on your bully. And even if you lose, you lost valiantly and that bully will not come near you again for he knows you are not afraid. Often we fear the climb of the mountain more than once you are actually climbing. Dont fear the fight to come because once it starts it's far less scary I find. When you come to grips with those things you are dangerous
I have a similar story -- I agreed to a fight with a notorious bully in my high school, arrived on time, and got thrown out of the ring by a spectator who saw me get knocked down three times in a row (while ignoring the fact that I was waking up with a horse-kick (which actually connected once)). Crowd was marching off and cheering the bully, I yelled _"GOOD FIGHT."_ The cheering stopped, and he never showed up at school again. I _lost_ and he still ran away.
Years ago, when I was a freshman in HS, a senior was using his size to bully freshmen. He and I shared French class. The French teacher was gorgeous; beautiful blue eyes, long dark hair down past her perfect derrier and a dazzling smile. I had a huge crush on her. She was only 6 years older than me. Anyhoo, she had this senior bully as her student aid during my French class. He made a big mistake when he decided to attack me while she was not in class. All 30 other students were sitting at their desks. As I entered he started vulgarly trash talking me and then he did the thing i like most in a fight; he tried to kick me in the cojones. Oh, joy! He didnt know that my younger brother was a young martial arts expert who lived to fight every day since he was 5 and that I helped him by being his sparring partner. He taught me all he knew. Anyhoo, I caught the bully's foot as he tried to kick me in the cojones. I firmly gripped his foot. I then twisted it very forcibly. He had 2 choices: to either turn in the direction I was twisting towards or get a briken amlle. He wisely hopped and turned facing away from me. I lifted his foot up into the small of his back and kept twisting to the point it wouldn't twist any further without breaking his ankle and tearing tendons in foot, ankle and calves. I had him hop over (he only had the one foot on the ground) to the blackboard and pushed his face firmly into it. I told him he could either apologize and ask for forgiveness or I would break his ankle. He chose wisely to give me the most sincere of apologies. I kept asking him to add other things to it, I had him promise not to try anything with me again and to stop bullying young boys. Satisfied he learned his lesson i eased up on the twisting of his ankle and was about to let him go, when the gorgeous French teacher entered the room. Her eyes grew huge in astonishment and her jaw fell open. She said one word, "Davide!?" I told her I was just teaching Bruce a move I saw in Kung Fu the night before (Kung Fu was uber popular TV show in the 70s. So, totally plausible.) I then said, "Isn't that right, Bruce? As I slightly increased the twisting. Bruce said, "Yes, I missed that episode and wanted to know what new moves Kwai Chang Caine did." I eased up on the twisting and then released him. I never could catch Bruce even looking at me again. Word spread that I knew martial arts and no one tried to bully me again. And the bullying of 15 year old freshmen by Bruce also stopped. It's a pleasant memory.
I was overweight in junior high school and made fun of and bullied because I'm asian at a town mostly of whites, blacks , Mexicans etc. My cousin from Vietnam moved in with our family and he taught me self defense and combat meanwhile I lost lots of weight exercising and training with him. This Cholo who constantly made fun of me a year later kept flicking my ear in lunch line and turned his back as I would turn around . I told him to stop and he said what r u going to do about it , I did a roundhouse kick he fell to the ground and after that I became a hero at my junior high school and I ended up getting a pretty girlfriend classmate from all of the action. It was like I was in a movie. I guess now I'm the bully! A good one.
Look up the war between the Longos and TRG. The exact same thing happened but on a bigger more violent scale. The hispanics thought they could bully the quiet peaceful asians. The Asians came out swinging and had these gigantic organized hispanic gangs against the ropes for a long time. Because of numbers the hispanics eventually won. But for a while there they bit off way more than they could chew.
To my surprise bullying was allowed and encouraged at most of the 11 public schools I attended, and, to my knowledge, still is. The irony is bullies are alway cowards. I was warned that a bully terrorized the school as I was walking to school in 2nd grade. I listened to "the monster" and the things he did. We got to school, had class and then it was first recess. Second recess was after lunch. Anyway, I was speaking to the same kids when "the monster came along" and to me surprise he was a small little kid. He'd go up to one child and torment him, then another and another. No one fought back, and the teachers did nothing to stop him. I couldn't believe it. They told me once he reached us just put my head down and avoid his thrashing, instead I threw him to the ground and beat the crap out of him. There wasn't a thing he could do as I held him down with my left arm and beat him with my right. He was completely unable to fight back. Immediately the teachers, who had been watching, came out to rescue the "monster". I was hailed a hero by the other kids, but anyone could have done it. They were so terrified by what a "monster" he was they were afraid to do anything. I had no training at that time. We never saw him again, and I didn't get into trouble. This has been my experience with bullies again, and again. Freshman year, first days at lunch I was sitting with a lot of other boys my age when a confident JV Football player challenged all the freshman boys to a fight one by one. He had girls with him and was showing off. The very last person he challenged happened to be me and I casually said, "sure". By then I had a lot of training in boxing, but he didn't know that. He did sense something was wrong and quickly said, "Only a slap fight" and I said sure. I just stuck a jab in his face and turned him to my left. He was slapped so much he became afraid to move his arms, and I quickly realized he had no experience with fighting. I kept my hands open and didn't hurt him, but made him think twice about pulling that crap again. His confidence was gone in his voice and body language. After school while walking my dog and talking to my bro on the phone, some big old dude, at night said his place had been robbed and asked if I knew anything about it. I said I didn't. He said he thought I was lying and threatened to blow my brains out. This was not in school, and this was a grown up outside, and I was scared. My first thought was to run. He kept talking and again said that he was going to blow my brains out. I was frozen with fear. The third time he said it I dropped my phone, dropped my dogs leash and ran at him and shook him like a rag doll, swore at him and had planned to beat him but he didn't even try to fight back. He didn't even speak. Another coward. I threw him to the ground and told him to never threaten me again. He called the police on me, but, apparently, didn't tell them I had shook and thrown him to the ground after he threatened to "blow my brains out". They asked me if I knew anything about his stolen stuff. I told them I'd never stolen anything in my life and invited them to search my room. They declined and left me alone. The big mouth coward left me alone too. That was stupid on my part because I had no idea if that coward had a gun or not, and cowards like that would use it instead of fighting. I also could have gone to jail on assault, but I was outraged because I did not steal anything, and didn't want to be his victim. I'll say it again; it's been my experience that bullies are always cowards.
You have to sometime "dare" in order to win. Secondly, the bullies almost never se it coming when the object of their bullying "snaps" on them and goes on the offensive as their "self-defense." I speak wirh some personal experience on the subject.
I was in the 11th grade in 1983/84 when I finally turned the tables on my stepdad who thought he was my master…I was a great athlete (football, wrestling at school and boxing at the YMCA) and had put up with it too long. After a slight altercation where he asked for my keys (he was taking my car for really no reason)…I snapped. I threw the keys at him and he stood up and started taking off his belt. I ran up, grabbed him by his shirt, and threw him into a chair that had a unique design across the top (side note: the design of that chair was in our wall for years after, lol). I whacked him a few times and he crumbled like a rag doll. He was the type to keep running his mouth no matter how bad he was beat. So…every time he opened his mouth, I hit him again. As I tried to walk to my room, he jumped on my back. I quickly flipped him around, carried him into the hall where there was the old style heating grate (the kind from a 1940s/50s house in the center hallway about 30” x 50”). I belly to belly slammed him on the grate, where he grunted as all the air went out of his lungs. I saw him reach up to attempt to hit me, then laid a right hand across his face that put him in a temporary coma (knocked out). Earlier that day, I had been at the River with my best friend and cut my foot on a broken bottle, pretty bad. We went back to my friends house, where his Aunt helped bandage my foot. I was gonna miss work and called my mom to tell her to call work to tell them (this was well before mobile phones and she had the number). During the fight with my stepdad, my foot had started bleeding again, and there was blood everywhere. My older sister had even started slapping me during the fight, not understanding what had happened. For some reason she took his side, despite us all knowing when he got caught at a peephole in the closet, looking at her bathing, a year earlier. Days later I found out why all the beef started that day and why I was in trouble and my car keys were being taken…my real dad had simply called my mom to ask if I could come over that weekend, which wasn’t his normal “every 3rd weekend” regular visit. That pissed her off and she antagonized my stepdad until they were both fuming when I got home. I didn’t even know he had called, but I guess they thought I had gone behind their backs. That’s it, that’s all they were so upset about. I went on to move in with my real dad shortly after, and did make amends with my mom and stepdad. Although I did whup his arse 2 more times just for good measure. The 2nd and 3rd times were after I was somewhat grown and had a child of my own. I just wish I had put him in his place a few years earlier when I knew I could.
It should be no surprise to most 17 year olds more than slightly athletic that their fathers can easily be beaten. Problem is you really dont want to go there. I did and instead of finishing senior year found myself at the Navy recruiters office and a few months later, in boot camp. Every guy I know who stood up to a bullying father has a similar story. Standing up for yourself is just a ticket out the door. If youre ready for a change in scenery, ready to be a man, go for it. Just remember whose roof youve been living under, and know theres only one leader in the pack of wolves.
@@batvette You are correct, I can’t argue with that. We learn those lessons in life, many times too late. After all that happened, I ended up jumping around to both Grandparents houses and 3 High Schools my Senior year. After all I did thru High School, to have just my picture in the yearbook and absolutely no bio next to it, was a sad day. I did have a full bio in the high school in graduated from, but I went from a 4A to a 1A school. Anyway, I’m old now. My body is much older than my age (due to autoimmune diseases), and looking back at these moments. I tell my stepdad I love him all the time and we are on good terms. I have a great family…2 kids, 4 grandkids now. I’ve been married 37 years and while my health is very bad, I am very happy with the life I lead. With a few regrets, but too few to mention (thanks Frank S.).
I was close to your identical time frame. Stepdad was retied from the Air Force a year before I went to my initial entry training. I returned from USMC boot camp no longer intimidated by anybody. He tried to lecture me about timeliness on borrowing the his truck until I had it rinsed off, tank topped, backed into the driveway, keys returned, and washed up for dinner still 10-15 min early. I became a Drill Sgt later in my later in my career, a higher college degree, war under my belt, etc. He could not look me in the eyes. I never heard his voice again up to his passing.
I too was tormented and beat on repeatedly, until I became a berserker ... It is a blessing that those whom attacked me did not die .... I am old and crippled up now and try my best to be kind to all, but I've found I still have a trigger point😢
Yes, I learned after a long while to show anger way before I actually got angry for real as a warning and not store it up because I didn't want to kill someone and knew that I could.
Don't be too down on yourself. EVERYONE has a trigger point; most are fortunate enough to never reach and pass it. Of those who DO, one of 2 things usually occurs: they become less controlled over time, or they become VERY controlled out of fear of their own capacity for violence.
Interesting because I keep in mind a UA-cam clip showing an old grizzled ancient warrior and the caption: There is a reason why they are old and still alive. As for myself, I am old and grumpy and indifferent. Trying my best to stay out of trouble, be happy and be healthy.
I saw this movie. It was all that you described and much more. It showed the evil that devlopes in children who lack guidance, discipline, loving parents and motivational goals and objectives in life. Extraordinary film. Thank you for posting it.
This is a Swedish movie from 2003, and one of the best I’ve seen. Good recap. But in the end, Erik went in to the room with his stepdad and beat the living shit out of him. 🇸🇪🇳🇴
And it's based on the childhood of the author, and what happened to him. When asked what passages of the book really happened, he answers: The worst ones.
@@delboy1168 "Ondskan" by Jan Guillou. Well written, but the main character feels like a bit of a Mary Sue and the book itself reads like a wishfulfilling power fantasy.
My father went to high school in the '70s. When he was a freshman, there was another kid who had failed several grades. He was basically a senior+ with the freshman. He would bully many people and had been doing so for years. He could get away with it because he was basically an adult man amongst teenagers. One day he beat up one of my dad's friends before school, so my dad went to the pull-up bars, slid one of the bars out (it was designed so that the height could be changed), and hit the bully in the back of the knees with the iron bar, dropping him to the ground. The bully turned his head and said my dad was a dead man when he got up. My dad raised the iron bar over his head and said, "You're not getting up, you son of a bitch." Luckily for me (lol), one of the coaches had seen what was going on and rushed over to grab the iron bar out of my dad's hands before he could kill the bully. Later, the entire varsity football team heard the story, and they all beat the crap out of the bully with promise of more retribution if he bullied anyone else again (my dad was on the JV team at the time and was friends with a lot of the older players). The bully quit school and was never seen by my dad again.
It seems your dad was the bully. History is always written by the winners and it aint always the good gays to write it down. Why didn't the football bitch ass team do something to this fake bully prior to the incident. Bulling is not a one time instance. Perhaps your dad had the teams protection and school authorities never bothered to intervene. Often the bully is one of the clever kids, not the drop out. And mark my words. Societies resemble these relations in a larger scale. If my guess is wrong, which is quite possible you have my apologies. Just the story doesn't add up.
I went to a public school and barely graduated because of poor grades and a happy-go-lucky attitude. It wasn’t until later that I buckled down, earned my degrees, and was a college professor. Education is important, but it’s not where you go to school, it’s what you make of it that matters.
The only way to deal properly with a bully is to hurt them to such an extent that they fear ever messing with you again. I threw my bully face first into a urinal and then later pinned him against the wall after he kept kicking the backs of my knees. My exact words were "What am I going to have to do to you to make you stop?". He never bullied me again.
Good for you. Sometimes, violence is the only thing that such bullies understand. Years ago, I was working in a male-dominated workplace and was persistently sexually harassed by one guy, by the name of Richard (a highly suitable name, considering the shortened form of it). I tried being reasonable and told him to desist, and my friends told him to back off, but his response was to escalate his behaviour. It was in the days before laws came in and management were turning a blind eye, so it was something I had to deal with myself. It went on for a couple of months until one day, at my wits end, I warned him one last time and he responded with one last disgusting insult. I saw red and smashed him over the head with a heavy metal tray, nearly knocking him out. Never had any trouble with him after that.
I was bullied relentlessly in school. My parents, teachers, and school admin tried to intervene, but it never stopped. In a group, the bullies could overpower me. Eventually fear turned to rage. It helped that I had a growth spurt. After beating the heck out of 3 my 4 tormentors, I was finally left alone. Sometimes, it takes an eye for an eye to resolve a problem.
@@joecool2125none of this happened 😅 You definitely are an American male , I’d guess 6 foot or less , and sub 200 lbs ,who earns less than 80k a year 😅 You got cucked and now lie on the internet 😅 “Eventually fear turned to rage …”😅😅 Are you a retired writer for the “Twilight” series ? 😢
This might sound weird compared to teens today, but back in 76, I was bullied by this dude from middle school. Jump to 79 in H.S. after a few years of TKD/JDK training I decided to fight this guy. For some reason, we never got to fight because when I approached him, he had no idea who I was. Long story short, we started talking, shared some interests and we've been best of bros to this day. I'm a guitarist and he's a drummer.
I was bullied by a kid in 6th grade. He was 20 lbs heavier than me and got the best of me every fight. 7th grade we each went to different Jr. highs. I made friends with a guy who convinced me to join the wrestling team. best thing I ever did. Saw my bully about 4 years later. He had no idea. Bad day for him. Great day for me. If you are being bullied get into some martial arts, wrestling, boxing etc. you'll be glad you did.
I was always a great athlete and had girl friends from preschool on. When someone tried to bully me, it never went well for them. Later I used my superior athletic ability to intimidate every bully by doing something physically not possible for them to do, like picking up a car and moving it. Once I lifted more weight by hundreds of pounds than the bully could. I broke the lifting record displayed on the weight room wall by doing that weight many times in sets of 12. He never bothered me again. I also sent a couple of guys to the emergency room with one punch. Never ever allow anyone to bully you.
Early in school I let it be known that if I was bullied, you wouldn't walk away unbloodied. I had an older brother who was not only a lot bigger, but a bully to me and my younger brother as well. I learned to never back down and to fight back like hell! Luckily for me most bullies don't like to mess with people that fight back, so they left me alone. Not so for some of the other students. A guy who had been my best friend for years was bullying some Freshmen in the gym and I broke it up, telling the Freshmen to go on to class. The bullies all whined that I was breaking tradition and that they had been bullied when they were Freshmen. I told them I would NOT look the other way if they tried to keep that "tradition" alive. They got my meaning and the Freshmen were somewhat left alone after that. My experiences in school were probably an influencing factor of my decision to become a U.S. Marine and then later on, a bouncer in several bars! I don't like bullies and trouble makers!
@@acegambit777 LoL 😂 I was bullied also but then I met a Japanese guy who raised plants and taught me Karate 🥋. I used under water Ninja technology and won many tournaments in France and Belgium. I was later asked to leave BUDS training because the Cadres looked like fools because they had nothing else to teach me. 😮
@@johnmcmahon8513 HaHaHa that was a good one john, but be careful because there are many dullards in the comment section that will believe you. (and tons of other liars)
Precisely, this is how those bullying traditions should be broken. No excuse that because you were bullied earlier, it is now your turn to perpetuate the cycle. Quite simply if you did not like or appreciate those actions, then do not do it. My oldest son [in Grade 8} was targeted on the school bus by much older students. The bus driver reported this to the school and the Deputy Principal had my son identify these students from their photos in the school year books. No further incidents because these Grade 11 or 12 students were summoned to account for their actions to not be expelled. A zero tolerance policy has to be enforced by timely action.
I heard a remake is planned. Actors are already picked, and both Andreas Wilson and Gustaf Skarsgård will be back to play Eriks stepfather and a teacher I think. I really think everyone who liked the movie should read the book. Jan Guillou (the real Erik Ponti) is one of our biggest writers in Sweden so Im sure it's translated to english. The movie is great but should have been a series bc there is so much more in the book. The book ment alot to me s a teen.
I'd honestly say that there's a lot of things in this recap that are not exactly correct, but with them still being "close enough" I think it will actually make for a better experience if people decide that they wanna watch it. Ondskan, or "Evil" is a Swedish masterpiece imho and the book is even better!
I was bullied often enough. My mother was a non local, my dad from a poor family but he got self employed and received reputation and a bit of .. the envy and jealousy was then put on me in school. I gave one off the bullies a hefty smack .. the teacher gave me punishment because he told me .. because of my father I am not permitted to do so. Told my dad about this. He said nothing.. but bullying ended mostly. However Decision for me, to stand through, leave the region, get education and profession elsewhere. Success. The bully is now a janitor. The teacher suffered hefty and died from cancer .. The fates are sometimes strange. Treat everyone like you want to be treated but do not forget treat others as they treat you, if needed.
How in the world did I stumble across this gem! I didn't even know this movie existed and now I'm desperate to watch it. Thanks for these wonderful cliff notes!
You probably didn't know about it because it's Swedish. Very few foreign cultural products reach the English-speaking world because 90% of Americans, the British, and Australians are very insular in their tastes and interests.
I went to a boarding school and it was basically torture from privileged rich kids on the smaller kids. No chance to fight back and win. Adults always ignore this; no matter the physical or psychological torment, not their problem. We even had some crazy teachers who reveled in their power over the kids and would use it to rage out against them or assume attitudes of kingly superiority, entirely unearned and unnecessary. Over trivial matters or just made-up baloney. Boarding schools can be absolute hell-holes. You're isolated from any family or community support, and pitted against people who know they have all the support in the world no matter what they do, because teachers and admins have a very vested interest in supporting the rich kids regardless. And not just the rich kids trying to pick on their peers. The rich kids purposely picking out those younger and far less physically developed, who will suffer not matter what option they choose, and indeed enter into even the discussion through suffering.
TRUE -- But the worm does turn and then bullies the bullies. You survived, so did I; and you learned to see, smell, and identify bullies for proper destruction.
@Jesusisking247 Dude... Jesus ran back to dad as quickly as he could after his suffering, and left us to continue suffering, with no God dad to pick us up whenever we're in trouble (except in our fantash of course)
In middle school, I became close friends with a really smart kid. Some considered him goofy, but the kind of kid that wouldn't hurt a fly. He got picked on now and then, and I would feel terrible for not being brave enough to step in and defend him. One day, a bully shoved him to the ground. To my amazement, my friend jumped up, fists raised, ready to fight. The bully was totally shocked but had to show his dominance to save face as there were kids gathering around. He swung at my friend, but my friend dodged it and punched him right in his face. The bully came at him again, and again got a fist to the face! The crowd cheered as the bully turned and ran! I was so proud of my friend. I'd known him for almost a year and never saw him stand up to anyone, so when I asked him where he found the courage and strength, I was surprised to hear him say he'd "just had enough" and revealed he had a brown belt in karate!
Typical bully sob story, "Whaaa my dad beat me so I bully others weaker than me" Same excuse the scumbag made for beating my disabled brother up before I put his head through a window.
DUDE HE WAS BEING GOOD AND NOT BLAMING HIS STEPDAD FOR NOTHING. HE TRIED TO AVOID VIOLENCE AND STARTING BEING BULLIED HIMSELF. HE JUST HAPPEN TO BE TUFF NO MATTER WHAT.
It is unclear whether the first violent incident we see is actually a case of Erik being a bully. It is ambiguous because he is shown directly at the moment when Erik prevailed over that person - but we have no clue what sparked it. As for the "judgment" imparted by the school principal later, we can safely assume he is also clueless of what actually happens in his school.
I taught my son how to deal with this sort of thing. We, as parents, are never sure our lessons were effective until our children show us that they were. I pulled up at school to pick my son up (he was in 4th grade), and the principal escorted my son over to the car. I thought "Oh, no - what has he done?" When they got to the car the principal told me "Daniel was just in a fight - I saw the entire thing - the other boy started it and Daniel finished it." I said "Thank you, sir" and we left. As we pulled out of the parking lot, Daniel said "Hey, we're going the wrong way" and I said "We're going to Wendy's and you're getting a Frosty."
Speaking as somebody who didn't stick out of the ground particularly far, and was the object of some attempted bullying over the years, the single most important thing is your attitude, if you want to to win badly enough or just be left in peace (and also stop the bullying and earn some respect in the process), you will find a way to learn what you need to learn in order to be victorious. Secondly, if you don't provoke others, you also have the moral advantage, which I've also found to be quite motivating. At the end of the day, everybody's got their own problems, you can't assume that you'll get any help, and essentially it's your problem to deal with yours on your own. As the old saying goes: "God helps those who help themselves."
They have some amazing actors, the show Chernobyl for example have at least two that I am aware of. Stellan Skarsgard and in episode 4 when they destroy the animals the man that is the leader of the group that say if you hit an animal and it doesn't die keep shooting until it does. His name is Fares Fares he is a Swedish-Lebanese actor. Johan Renck that directed Chernobyl he is also Swedish.
@@kingwacky184 David Dencik, who portrays Gorbachev in that series, is another great actor. I think he had mostly done swedish movies/series and is probably not that well known outside scandinavia. But to me he is truly one of the best actors from Sweden.
I watched this video before. I would have gotten Otto earlier. I do not like bullies in the least. I never looked for a fight. I was injured by two boys badly enough to where I had to have corrective surgery. I got one of the boys back and his father who was a major called my mother demanding that I be punished. He changed his tune when my mother told him that I needed to have corrective surgery for what his son and the other boy had done to me 5 months earlier. That's when she threatened to sue him and the captain whose son had injured me. I am 68 years old today and was unable to father any children because of the injuries that I had received. I wish that my folks had sued them. They were too nice. Both the major and the captain moved their families. I never got even with the captains son. Oh, well. I hope both boys turned out to be good people. Vaughn
We are far too forgiving to bullies. They often don't wish to cause temporary damage, but to permanently destroy. And to various degrees, they often do.
No one did anything about bullying until Columbine. It was easier to take the attitude of “ Eventually school ends.” But for some people it never ends. Some bullies never change. Some victims are haunted by the memories forever.
A bit similar to my own experience, I was not a tall and externally impressive student but I have trained for martial arts since I was 5-6 years old. At some point I was expelled from a very elite boarding school because I accidentally broke the hip of a karate student who defied me in a one to one session. My parents found me a state school to finish the year and I went on my first day to that school in the uniform of my previous school, expectedly I was challenged by half of my classmates at the first break, the moment I was waiting for. I selected the strongest and more noisy one , and made a demo out of him, the whole school was watching. No one ever bullied me again in that school, except the one I had corrected initially, who wanted his revenge, which ended with same result… I have always liked to fight when I was young, especially with much taller and stronger boys who were not suspecting what was coming for them (when you train a lot, I imagine that it is exciting to practice), but most of the time, my fights were to protect bullied classmates or friends. With time I quit that liking, and most of my nowadays friends can not even imagine that I was once a fighter, even if I was. 😂
One of the key charateritics of Erik in this story (at least in the book) is that he do not make threats, he makes promises. He cold and calm describes to his victims exactly what he is gonna do to them and then he fullfill his promises. He do not threat, he do not brag, he do not exaggerate; he delivers what was promissed with exact precision. This makes everyone around him know that he is a man of his word and that when he say he is gonna do something they better listen becuase he is deadly serious and means every word.
And exactly that is where the movie (and the book it is based on) falls flat on its face - Erik is some kind of superman. He is the strongest, the fastest, the smartest (only Pierre is smarter), and, due to being beat up regularly by his stepdad, is almost immune to pain and knows where and how to hit to defeat his opponent. His mother is wealthy and just sells a few paintings to finance his stay at the private school and he has a good lawyer that helps him out of a serious bind (his forbidden affair with the kitchen maid) that would see a normal student expelled (by using a trick - they learned about the affair in a illegal manner by opening his mail, so the evidence gained that way is inadmissable (fruit of the poisonous tree)). Equipped like that, Erik can calmly calculate his chances during each fight - and those are usually very good due to the traits described above. He also survives being scalded with boiling and cold water - a treatment that would have seen a normal person dead. A normal person would either do like Pierre did (escape) or become like the other students, apathetic, powerlessly obeying the system and longing for the day they themselves can bully their underclassmen. I felt the movie/book was disappointing, because it left me with the message "Unless you're Superman, don't even think about resisting."
This summary is well done and moves right along without quenching the desire to watch the film. 'Evil" recalls the "Chocolate Wars" film one I highly recommend. My own experience is in a massive 3500+ public high school, all colors, social classes, and a great tradition of fights, rumbles, bullying, cruelty and superior athletics. All in all, it boils down to respect and how to obtain it, keep it, and maintain it. It helps to have a father who has some moxie and a loving care of his boys. But, we had some real nasty and strong boys, some criminal types. My method, other than mixing it up an hitting hard, was to use humor. One feature of my years at that intellectual sewer was the black girls who were really ferocious when fighting in a jealous rage. We used to spread rumors about their guy getting it on with her hated rival. THen wait until you hear the screeching and cursing. They inevitably tore each other's blouse to shreds, providing a strip show. The oldest sister of our State Champion basketball team's toughest rebounder was easily the meanest, toughest, most ruthless fighter in the whole city, capable of beating up even her brother. The 'cool, in-crowd' guys who ran the school resemble the characters at the private school in this film mentioned. They were cold, nasty, pretend-religious, dressed in the latest, had the perfect girlfriends, and were headed to primo fraternities at the university. It was not wise to antagonize them by being successful, talented, or a ladies' man. Underhanded means and destruction, lies, rumors, planted evidence and so on followed. One can be ready for adulthood if one learns what a closed society is really all about. My dear country, my patria, is at present being driven into the ground by a group of determined, self-centered manipulators with the help of their enforcement arms, banks, soldiers, lawless enforcement and the constant tree-top screams of the various forms of media. Since these are at a distance and nearly abstract, it is hard to take them to the fighting area and teach them respect. It must be done or we have tyranny and civil war. Men must be men and deal with it eventually. Bullies do not retire, quit, change to a more compassionate form of bullying. It is interesting how most of the comments dial back to you youths, when we were young but still tender hearted. I happen to have been born into a family of very tough and dangerous men and even tougher women. Whining was not an option, but I at least had many cousins. We always had a mouthpiece to scheme and set up the muscle for confrontations. It is REALLY exciting to settle an old score or put real boundaries down! In the end, we never escape danger because our modern era has mastered the Lie, so that strong men with weak minds are easily fooled and led to the financial slaughter. Fathers cannot build estates to hand down to sons (hardly true of the 500 wealthiest, eh?). Women who want to rule the property and have au pairs, servants, many children and stability? We men can make that happen but it is not easy if you are on the end of the lash or are salary or wage earner. The pecking order of society is so common and has been there since the first tribe that we have to withhold our judgment about it. It is wise to just clear out the area you want to maintain and forget abstract political solutions. All come down to faith, fighting and common decency. But a boy who has not taken a lot of crap has missed out on what is a fact of life. I regret it, but it is a fact.
I was bullied in 4th grade. I asked by dad (a once professional boxer) to teach me how to fight, but he refused saying "I don't want you to live that way". I now understand what he meant, and appreciate his wisdom.
Did he mean he didn't want you to make a living out of boxing? Cause that's usually what pro boxers say to their children.. Most boxers would teach fundamentals to their children for self protection and exercise/recreation
For those of you who's interested. This movie is an adaption of the Jan Guillou book sharing the same name (Ondskan('evil' in swedish). The book is unfortunately partly written as an autobiography. As such, both the infamous school, Solbacka, and the culture of violence shown in the movie were all very real. Many of the students who graduated from there became influential people in Sweden, mostly due to their extensive networking and continued culture of cooperative elitism. Our main character is based on the author, who himself caused and went through all the trauma shown in this movie during his childhood at this school. This movie was up until pretty recently still shown in Swedish schools.
I am a nobody I’m the youngest of 9 I have 7 older brothers and one twin sister that is 2mins older than me I was bullied through out my childhood but when I was a teenager my attitude changed and I started fighting with others because they were bullying other smaller students I didn’t let the bullying go on and I started sticking up for students who couldn’t fight back and anyway it took one year and then there was no more bullying going on because of me New students would start every year we still had bullies around but other people would warn them that they would get hurt if they beat any of my friends so they would warn the new bullies who start at our school and tell them to watch out for me because I wouldn’t let them beat up any of my friends in school and I’m happy to say that my youth was very exciting and I put a stop to people who would bully another student because I didn’t like it when it happened to me so I started standing up for those who were bullied by others and to this day I’m still friends with my school mates today
Formalised education, be it public or private, is simply a prison sentence without having to have a conviction. That entire model needs to be reconsidered. For thousands of years of human society, we educated children in other ways and brick-and-mortar institutions are a relatively recent phenomenon. It is time for the paradigm to shift again.
Actually, this sounds a lot like an autobiography I read of a criminal, "My Shadow ran fast". Old. Excellent. At the age of 19 he was in San Quentin doing 3 consecutive life sentences. Then, he turned his life around.
I was bullied in high school on and off until my senior year. After seeing others stand up for themselves, I challenged a little bitch who was throwing staples at me at the end of class. I had to be held back. I was going to beat him badly, in front of the whole class. I saw real fear in the other kid. I waited for him after several more classes, but he avoided me strenuously. Thus endeth the bullying.
Awesome story, enjoyed. I was bullied by students from 1966 to 1978. My father was one of the worst bullies ever. He beat and tortured me fro age 4 up to age 17. I started boxing to protect me from bullies and mainly my father, from age 11. At age 17 no one could bully me again
Saw this film many years ago and always remember it as I think it was one of the best movies of courage and survival I ever saw. The main lad kept his powder dry with patience, tolerance and stoicism until he was allowed to unleash the powerful beast he kept internalized for a few years for it to devour all the people who had mocked, hurt and humiliated the caged lion to their own detriment
Yo, great recap of 'Evil'! This movie is wild - it's dark, funny, and totally messed up all at the same time. The cast was killer and the story had me hooked from start to finish. If you're into twisted comedies that'll keep you on the edge of your seat, definitely give this one a watch
Thanks for the summary--I'd have been disappointed if if wasted 90 min on a story so unsatisfying. Hero loses girl, all antagonists survive and aren't even exposed. What a load of rubbish! If I wanted that I'd just live life. :)
Always stand up for yourself. People tried to bully me. One dropped out of school the very next day. One walked away quickly with his friends after confronting me. And the last guy i ever had to deal with told every person that seen his face, i was wearing brass knuckles. That's untrue. i just kept hitting him in the face until his big brother asked me to stop.
Fun fact. The caracter Piere returns in one the wrighters later books about the Swedish miltary/spy Carl Hamilton. Piere, after leaving the school, joins the French Foreign Legion and when he returns in the book he has retired with the rank of Colonel.
My father, who passed away 28 years ago, is who JG based the character Pierre off of in the books. His name was Peter Islinger(google the name). He was room mate with JG and told me about those years from time to time and that Guillou took some(sometimes a lot of) liberties in his storytelling but that some of it really took place. Remember, it´s a novel not a biography. If you google it might only come up in swedish pages though. He became a teacher and was very fond of jazz and started a small jazz association in Lidköping Sweden in his later years. We lost him to cancer at the age of 53. Jan Guillou actually came to visit when my father turned 50 and i got my copy of the book signed. The reality of my father leaving the school is that he left, partly because of the conditions there. He then falsified his id, since he was under 18, to be able to pattern on ship where he became a cook. He went to sea for 12 years i believe before he met my mother and consequently had children. Maybe JG used that to imagine the story about french foreign legion, who knows. Btw the series from 2023 is slightly better in my mind.
It's a great movie:) By the way, there's a 2023 series called Evil / Ondskan which just like the 2003 movie is based on the same book. I haven't seen this series, but looked interesting in the trailer.
You make it sound like 2 bullys - It's actually organized hazing, and Otto and the rest are three or four years older than Erik. I don't remember a lawyer - in the book Erik was scalded with boiling water and left outside overnight - almost killing him. Which is what put him in a position where they couldn't really expel him. -edit, misspelled scalded as scolded, fixed it.
I got bullied for 2 years in the mid '60s. Then one day, after school while I was playing football with a bunch of friends. my own personal bully, thought it would be funny to take my bike, rode it around, and taunt me with it, as I never responded nor reacted to this guy, until that day. He tried to run me over with my own Huffy. I was pumped, I'd had enough, and I realized I was almost a foot taller than him, and had him by 30-50 lbs. So I did not move when he tried to run me over. I grabbed the handle-bars said "this is MY bike", then lifted him and the bike up and threw them across the school yaed, sat on his chst and let him bruise TF our of my knuckles with his face. 4th grade, and I learned about getting a reputation about being a school-mate to be avoided in conflict, and someone who suddenly had alot of best friends. Even the bully, cigarette smoker, switchblade knife-guy started being nice to me. I had no clue what to do with any of that, and spent my recess-time collecting iron-slivers from the dirt with a magnet. Oh, to be a 9 y/o again.
I was bullied all my years of school. In 1975 at 16 years old and a junior in high school. Korean Master J Man Lee came to school and did a demonstration. He was a Master in Tae-kwon-do, Hapkido, and Judo. He also was an expert with numerous weapons. He was looking to get new students and I could not wait to join. I have lived and breathed martial arts for 48 years. I started teaching my son when he was only 4. When he was a junior in high school I learned about a football player who had been picking on him for 3 years. He had been talking to his mom and she by all means told him to walk away and not get into trouble. I was never told about it. When I over heard him and his mom I waited for my chance to talk to him. I told him I over heard the conversation and not to worry about what would happen but the next time this kid picked on him to make it he last time. At 16 unlike me my son was a 3rd degree black belt in 2 styles of martial arts and a black belt in the other. The next day was the last time that kid ever picked on my son. Master Lee recently passed away at age 83. May he R.I.P.
Ha. You have to speak to your son, and encourage him... Behind your wifes back, and after she is through? If that isnt evidence of a made up story, the fact this channel only has one comment is proof. Master Lee is it? Or Master Bait?
There is a You Tube video Honoring Master J Man Lee and yes the story is real. My son was stuck between defending himself and getting into trouble versus listening to his mom. I allowed him to defend himself. Really doesn't matter to me if you believe it or not my son, but the disrespect you show in your comment says it all about you! @@batvette
@@masterlee4370 . How could he have been bullied for 3 years without you not being aware of it ? I have to agree with batvette. A multiple blackbelt wouldn't take bullying for 3 years without telling you about it and it would have been THEN that you would have told him to fight back. Sorry mate, no disrespect intended,, but it's a pretty flimsy story. " When I over heard him and his mom I waited for my chance to talk to him." ???
@@steiny3353 You both sound silly. He said "picking on him", not "beating him mercilessly"! So it could've been he JUST started physically bullying him recently. And yes, the kid with multiple blackbelt WOULD probably be the one with the understanding that he can seriously hurt people if he engages in a fight.. SO he most likely wouldnt. And he'd need his parents ( father with 48 years of martial arts) permission to strike back, even in the lightest fashion.. And it's called being polite to your wife. Youd rather him storm in and interrupt to say "beat his ass son"??? like wtf guys. lol.
If anyone is reading this that is getting bullied in some way, then you have to fight back. Do not listen to those that tell you to turn the other cheek or you're a bigger man if you walk away. You will just prolong your torment. Walking away does not work, you have to fight back. Yes, you will get in trouble with whomever, but in the long run it will be worth it because the bullying will stop. Violence combats violence, it's a sad but true fact. If you want peace then prepare for war. And never EVER fight fairly, it's not a game or sport, there is no referee. Fight to win and destroy them. Others will see what you have done, you'll earn respect and they will leave you the hell alone.
I remember being jealous of a cousin (who I used to think of as a bit of a snob), & a close friend- who got to go to boarding schools; I just thought of the opportunities they'd have there; like a school pool, rather than having to go to a public one- horse riding, & the like - when they later told me about their experiences at them... I don't think I would have been able to last at them. My friend had it even worse than my cousin- as she'd gotten to her school on a scholarship. It's gross that someone smart, or talented enough to get a scholarship- should then be a target of bullying.
never seen or heard of it but will see about watching it at some point... You're doing a nice service presenting these little known works (this was nominated for best foreign language film at the 2003 Academy Awards - but not notice) to our attention.
I was in the movie playing one of the bullies! we had a lot of fun recording and we made a lot of friends all of us who were there!! some recordings were in the middle of the night, and I remember particularly the scenes in the dining room were one of the most fun to filming!
I was a new kid and got bullied by the local karate students who wore skeleton outfits on halloween. I became friends with an older retired karate sensei. I helped him out and he got me to paint his fencing and wax stuff on and off. I entered the local karate competition and in the last round I used my special crane kick move that my sensei taught me. I won and got the girl. Then I went on the run a successful car dealership 🥋 👊
A kid was targeted by another just for being short. At the bus stop, the bully pushed him around, sometimes punching him. The bully was on the football team, and the shorter guy was on the baseball team. One day, the baseball player had his bat with him for practice, and it did not end well for the football player. The bully's father told the father of the other that he would be paying for the dental work of his son, but after learning that his son was a persistent bully, he nodded, turned around, and that was the end of that. Lesson: Don't bring your teeth to a baseball bat fight.
Swedish movie from about twenty years ago. I saw it a few years after it came out and thought it was really good but I forgot the title so glad I found this short.
There's an series called Evil (2023) that is based on the same book as the movie from 2003 which is the one in this recap. I haven't seen the new series but since it's based on the same material i can't see why the series needed to be made (the 1st movie is really great) unless they mix it up by including stuff from the book that the 2003 movie didn't. Easier to include more in the series format.
I like the end of the story, however I would have told my mother about her bad behavior as a mother by allowing a man who is not my father beat me. We would have had a serious chat.
The basic human instinct for survival; Fight or flight. I have viewed nature documentaries which demonstrate that predators prey upon the weak and vulnerable. There are also ambush predators that prey upon the unwary. Predators are also wary and unlikely to attack hard targets that could fight back and potentially damage them.
I begged people for help and no one does with bullies. In school once I finally had it and realized NOBODY was going to help me. I made my peace with that and blamed them all. Teachers...parents...other students and decided this one bully was NEVER going to bully me again. I mean NEVER. I chose to call him out in the middle of classes because I wasn’t going to be ganged up on after school. He wouldn’t go and I embarrassed him. Then the bell rang and I punched the chalkboard and broke it. I never heard about it and would have dared them to make me pay for it. I was proud of myself either way. BUT it does not end in school...bullying continues later on... everywhere by anyone.
So true. Bullying can continue on. However, you just have to refine your arsenal to fight back, let Karma happen or give Karma a bit of a helping hand. Ideal if bullying is recognised and exposed and then dealt with in a manner where it is not rewarded and discouraged. There are certain times when you have to Stand Your Ground and stubbornly refuse to be intimidated, abused or bullied. In those times, No Retreat, No Surrender is your rallying call for what you will have to do.
For those who might reocognize him, (or not), Otto is played by the excellent actor Gustaf Skarsgård (Vikings, Westworld, Oppenheimer etc). It's a good movie, I recommend it for sure.
I grew up in a small town. Because I was (at the time) small for my age and my family attended the "wrong" church I was bullied relentlessly. I turned the other cheek for (9) years until the day I fought back. The leader of the 'Bully Squad' sat in front of me in health class. He loved to lift the front of my desk up and dump me out of it. One day I had enough. I stood up, confronted him and labeled him with a roundhouse that knocked him cold. I was almost expelled from school but a lot of students said that they had watched the kid torment me since First Grade and wondered when I would finally hit back. It's needless to say that the bullying stopped--completely. Cost me a dislocated knuckle and a cracked wrist but justice was done. I might add that I understand why some kids bring a gun to school; the thought occured to me a couple of times. I was reminded of it some years later when a kid in a town that I eventually settled down in, about 50 miles away, brought a gun to school and shot and killed the bully. He served his complete sentence because every parole hearing he said that he had no remorse other than he didn't do it soon enough, and the only regrets he had was the pain that the bully's family had to go through...
I had a friend in the 8th Grade you could slide right into this story. Good for you. My Buddy finally had enough by the last couple of weeks of school - it was a fantastic Finale' to the Eighth Grade. It wasn't a good day for the bullies. He was the hero of all the dweebs (myself included)
I went to High School in the 1970's. You have people that are only there because they aren't old enough to leave home yet and their parents do not want them to stay home. They roamed in packs, picking out people to torment for their pleasure. I doubt that it's all that different today. The difference, we didn't live in a society where guns were an option. Today, bringing in a weapon to kill the bully is considered "the cost of doing business". I know people from when I went to school that I would have run off the road and would have lost no sleep over it. Of course I never acted on anger because I could avoid these bullies (Hide and Seek was not a kids game, it was survival in High School if you weighed 90 lbs as a Freshman)
I was in a Psychology Class in Night School in 1999 (Military) when the subject of the 1999 Columbine School Shooting came up. The class gave their takes on the shooters - motivation - what it would take to do this - why didn't the thoughts of the consequences deter them (the shooters commited suicide).
A guy about 33 or 34 years old spoke up and said, "I can understand why they would want to do this. When you have people seeking you out just to bully you every day, day after day -I think that a person could be convinced that a little payback is deserved. The bullies that were killed got what was coming to them." He went on to say, "I predict that if nothing is done about this kind of crap in schools, the future is going to be full of these paybacks." No one said anything and the silence caused the guy to grab his book and leave. (Class was over for the day)
After he walked out, the Instructor was beside herself with shock (as were several members of the class). She said, "Oh my gosh can you believe this guy. This guy is dangerous and really should not be out in the real world with thoughts like this."
Now, I may be the asshole, but listening to him and keeping an objective mind set, I really didn't disagree with him. (I did disagree that this was a way to solve the bullying problem) The point I think everyone missed was that if enough effort is put forth and all effort is put into tormenting someone, eventually everybody cracks. Looking back 23 years to that moment in the classroom I have to admit that the man was right.
The difference now and then -
THEN (1999): Columbine High School Shooting was an horrible anomaly that shocked a nation. We feared for the children as the Denver Colorado community came together for healing
TODAY: School Shooting = Another AR-15 School Shooting??? It must be Tuesday.
That is something nobody EVER talks about! That the teachers and directors of schools do not protect bullied students and are not willing to take any blame when those victims had finally enough. What does that say if you have no one that helps you or protects you and you are completely left alone as a kid. I know exactly how that feels! 45years later and I still feel the Hate I had inside me when going to school Every fucking day!
Reasons don't matter in the modern world, you're not allowed to ask why....
Don t stop to fight for what is right to life.
ah yes, "church" being the cause of drama yet again
“Then Erik kicked him out of the house”. 😂
What Erik did was to turn the tables. He beat the living shit out of his stepdad after a lifetime on the receiving end.
Did he stand over him gloating afterwards, with a quote like "Oh, how the turntables..." ?
@@dkechag1979 No. The book ends as he closes the door and advances on the stepdad.
@@dkechag1979 It's always amazing to see how awful people's sense of humor is ... Every UA-cam comment section is chalk full of folks (Quay, in this case) that cannot seem to think in any way but one dimensional literal interpretation. But, great call out to Michael Scott!
@@67L48 It's also amazing to see how awfully judgemental people are, As if you know anything about Quay by a one sentence reply. ha ha about the "thinking in one way". How ironic. I'm sorry you didn't hear what you wanted to hear, But thats no reason to be disappointed and insult their intellect because they didn't play the same game. I suggest you manage your emotions better next time!
but what do i know i certainly dont know first hand.... no no no ...
In 6th grade, I was new in school and one of the self appointed tough guys named Steven Birch tried bullying me. At 3 pm, we met in the school yard and fought, with a bunch of kids around us. We were evenly matched until he put me on my arse, he smiled with his friends, but I got up so fast, he wasn't expecting the hay maker I planted on him. The surprise, the shock, and embarrassment, was too much for him and he started to cry as he sat on the floor. That was end of the fight. The memory is still vivid, 50 years later. Crazy.
I remember the first bullies I encountered. First grade. Bob and Joey had already failed a year, so they were slightly bigger, but not by much. They stuck together and terrorized probably 10 boys. They marched us in formation at lunch and recess. The threat wasn't really physical. They threatened to write on our arms with ink if we didn't obey. In first grade, ink pens were forbidden, so the threat was we'd get in trouble with the teacher. It kept us in line. Spring came, and I became a servant to Joey. All that meant was I had to stay with him and do what he said. But one day in late Spring, the breaking point came. Standing on a hill with Joey, he told me to do something, and I snapped after all those months. I barely remember it, then or now. A reflexive thing. I made a fist and punched Joey in the nose. He had an immediate bloody nose. I didn't immediately start dancing around in victory. On the contrary, I saw the blood and waited for the beating I knew was coming. Except it didn't come. Joey, whose voice sounded afraid and disbelieving, asked me repeatedly why I hit him. I don't recall answering him. There's more to the story, but it's not necessary here. No one has marched around after that day. And I learned bullies aren't so tough, but you have to stand up to them. I will say it's one of the reasons I don't care for anti-bullying programs, nor do I like parents getting involved. It was handled, I handled it, and there were no repercussions. Incidentally, Bob became a successful businessman, and Joey didn't return the following year. I still don't care for Bob all these decades later.
I was bullied for years in high-school till one day something snapped and I got so angry and floored one of the bullies in front of the class. No more bullying after that. I never forgot that moment, it's been 45 years since the day. I agree that confronting the bullies is the only way out. Thank you for your story.
I never learned any martial arts but I despise bullies and as a kid someone once told me that the fights you see in the movies are totally ridiculous and that almost all fights end with the first punch to the nose (which very much stuns the opponent and can even be fatal). We moved a lot while I was growing up (similar to being any military brat) and I often got tested by bullies at my new schools. With the information I had about the punch to the nose, whenever things looked tense I made sure that I was rubbing my eye or pushing back my hair or some other thing that placed my right hand (dominant hand) at head level. Then, yes, I always took the first action, which was to bring my fist into strong contact with the opponents nose. I never lost a fight *in fact I cannot recall ever even being hit) and I was never bullied twice and most fights ended with that first blow. The only ones that didn't end with that first blow was when I was so angry that I continues to pummel the opponent (generally repeatedly to the nose). SO, NOW YOU KNOW ALL THE MARTIAL ARTS YOU NEED TO KNOW!!!
Awesome
Moral of the story: Always know a lawyer.
It's better to have a father as a lawyer and know martial arts which I did have both.
The fact you need a lawyer to stand up for yourself is well... This movie name.
Not just a lawyer what a freaking legal team to go along with it
@@peterpowell6962 i only knew martial arts. i could really use friends in high places, but here we are.
@@peterpowell6962 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I was bullied mercilessly at school. Once I was beaten to the point of needing a 2 week hospital stay. To the day she died my mother believed my injuries were due to the sport's field. There was no way I was going to report the bullies; this would only result in far worse reprisals.
My principal bully was well off, better off than his peers who, like myself, came from working class families. It used to baffle me as to why this kid who had everything was only happy when he was beating the snot out of me. Years later I met his sister in a shopping center and she told me he was in prison. Apparently he did an armed robbery, this kid who had everything.
If only you had stood up to him then he wouldn't be in prison. I hope you're proud of yourself, you selfish coward.
My Freshman year bully ended up getting shot and killed in an altercation just after High School. He was one year above me. He targeted anyone that was 120 lbs or lighter.
(Several other low lifes from my High School ended up on the wrong side of a gun too. They all started the fights that ended their lives.) I didn't have a care one way or the other when I learned about it when I came home for leave. Not satisfaction/No sorrow. I just thought that they finally found what they must have been looking for - someone that wouldn't take their crap.
I could somewhat attempt to answer why he did it (armed robbery). Just like the elites these days, like Rothschild, George Soros, Klaus Schwab, Bill Gates, etc. They have everything, mansions, yatchs, planes, finest food, etc. Life has become boring, to them. So perversion sets in, like devil worshiping, drinking blood, controlling others, reducing world population, etc. Kings, queens & lords in medieval times did the same thing.
At a distance another person's problems look small. Up close our own problems look huge. It is all perspective. We can change our own perspective but until we learn that, we cope. Your bully's problems were big to him and he coped by lashing out at you. He never learned and he circled the drain. It sounds like you have adapted and so are better for it.
Nothing about this justifies your treatment. I'm just stating common theories. Of course, he could just be an actual psychopath and that tosses all what I said out the window.
Btw, there is nothing about your comment that singled you out other than it was interesting how life turned out and I stopped reading comments here.
I wish you well, in life.
@@patchup 10 billion philosophies per second doesn't stop bullying, physical tangible actions does.
14:57 "if you disliked it (the video) hit the Dislike button twice... just to be sure". Haha, brilliant. Well played, sir 😂
Glad you enjoyed
Yeah that made me lol
Yeah, he got a like just for that. 😂😂
A lot of people here saying they were bullied at school, I can share similar experience, in 6th and 7th grade I was bullied too, mainly from a school bully who was trying to look cool in the eyes of some girls, from other guys too, this guy once tried to stab me with scissors. I’ve changed the school because of that, here comes the interesting part - in the new school I landed in a class of a young criminals with numerous cases of different offences registered in the police department. When those guys heard my story they actually helped me out to build my confidence, my self defence capabilities and to build no fear of confrontation with others. The guys from the previous school tried to pick on me again - unsuccessfully. I was involved in 3 separate street fights with bullies. After one of them half of my classmates were on a hunt to beat one of the bullies too. After that no one tried to mess up with me.
No one knows this from my school but i was being bullied by upper classmen. It wasn't so much physical as it was demoralizing. One day i had enough. Walked up to one of the bullies and held a pencil to his throat. Told him they needed to stop or someone would suddenly find the full pencil inside him. The bullying stopped immediately
They all feared the pencil pusher!
You can only push people so far, and then a sleeping giant awakens.
The bully who I dealt with repeatedly in high school picked one fight too many with me and one day when he slammed a basketball in my face, I waited until he turned his back and made a running leap and hit him with a left hook so hard I nearly broke my hand. He beat the living hell out of me and knocked me out, but he got into trouble for it and never laid a hand on me again. He finally found someone who hit back... I never would talk to him through the years and he died recently. While all of his friends sat around lauding what a great guy he was, I remembered all the people he beat up with the school principals covering for him. His soul can rot in hell. I am satisfied knowing I gave that SOB a nearly broken jaw for his unending reign of terror - It was worth the beating I took. People started to not pick fights with me after that incident, although one more fight happened where I took one more bully out and after that, I had the most peaceful year of high school ever. I was glad to escape that hell hole when I graduated.
This really moved me. I hate bullys some folks are just Evil.
a nearly broken jaw? are you saying it was bruised ?
@@michaeljoncour4903 😂🤣
" I waited until he turned his back and made a running leap and hit him with a left hook so hard I nearly broke my hand."
So, you're a coward
@@Kyrelel You need that special peace that only a lobotomy can provide...
I had my son in a Catholic High School for one year...He was aweare of one kid who bullied everyone..This kid one day took m son's lunch. When it happened my son hit the kid pretty hard..The kid took the hit badly, but realized he had messed with the wrong kid..I was filled in that night by my son..He had done something that made me very proud, but I still had to not show it..
Hopefully you revealed your support in a covert manner. I have NEVER forgotten the time that my Dad stood up for me. We were having dinner at home and my Dad sent me [probably 8 y.o. at that time] to answer a knock on the front door. There was a father with his son who I had "allegedly" hit at school that day. This father was shouting and demanding for my Dad who then appeared. He showed the bruise on his son's face and demanded that I be immediately punished and thrashed with a belt by my Dad in their presence. My Dad immediately took one look at his boy who was much taller, bigger and older than me. Confirmed that I had hit him in self-defence. Without hesitation, he immediately chased the pair of them from the property threatening to do the same to this father. There was an aftermath to this story which involved a further altercation between the fathers. One thing was certain; they messed around with the wrong Dad who had given me an important boxing lesson in the garage so I could stand my ground and fight back against my school bullies.
I was being bullied by three older boys and, one day, we were walking home from school and they set their younger brothers on me and I bashed all three of them, left them bleeding and crying. So the older boys came at me and I was dishing out punches like a catherine wheel and then we all saw that my parents were at the bust stop nearby. Dad told me years later that mum told him to do something, but he said "no, he has to defend himself. Besides, he's doing quite well" The boys went home a lot worse for wear and they never bothered me again. That is how you deal with bullies. And if it's more than one, then there are no rules!
Their reaction to dirt makes me think it’s not dirt lol
Its shit
Its shit
It's very obviously shit. iI'm surprised the narrator changed it to "dirt"
yeah... thats shit dude, im pretty sure this is an AI channel, its shit itself.
Ai is not good at keeping a consistent story.
My maternal uncle was being bullied by these two boys. He got strep throat really bad, and it was taking him awhile to recover. These boys would wait for him when he walked home. Well my grandmother got wind of it. So, she waited on that road for those two boys with a stick. She used it, those boys never bothered my uncle again. 😁 True story.
so your uncle had to have his mother take care of it? sad. is he still a bitch now?
Back in the days when disciplining others wasn't banned in most countries.
I was a middle class kid who was sent to an elite boarding school to get a better education than the local public school could offer. The bullying I and many others experienced there was extreme. It also came from some of the teachers. Some of whom were drug addicts or pedophiles. I hated it there but survived a better man with the help of some great friendships that became lifelong. The school was decades later engulfed in a sexual assault scandal with the former headmaster and several pedophiles identified and disgraced. Though nobody went to prison despite dozens of students being molested over decades. Thankfully I wasn't a victim but 3 of my friends were. I was bullied though. My advice regarding bullies is the first time he does it, drop him and show everyone he has no power over you. It took me several years of torture before i finally stood up. Lesson is that many of these spoiled rich kids can be real turds. Just like this movie.
I bet you went to a Christian or a Catholic school
@@TheTraveler2222 yeah, because Christians and Catholics are the only pedophiles. Public schools are constantly being sued over pedophilia.
@@keithrogers2295 Catholic and Christian schools are run by pedophiles!
The problem is if you are bellow average statures and weak. I'm of average build, so I was never too afraid even of stronger people because even if I lost, I knew it would be too much of a trouble for them if I fought back. But what do you tell really weak people? Even if they do fight back, nothing will come of it. The only way weak people can survive is if they find good and strong people who can protect them. Even depending on others isn't ideal, because they can easily become resentful as they are unable to stand on your own and live independently. Maybe learning martial arts and going to the gym helps, but there are not easy fixes for being weak. However until one's spirit is broken, there's always a way out.
@@willofman gigachad
I was bullied my first year in high school in Chicago during 1964. Immediately the bullies stop picking on me once they found out I live in a dangerous Southside public housing building, and everyone in that public housing building are close friends with my family.
I bet when they find out Carl they stopped picking on you you even got grown people that are bullies always picking on somebody smaller
I always teach my children to stand up against bullying and do whatever necessary. When my youngest daughter registered into one private school barely a week past the school principal called me telling that she broke the arm of one of big bully at the school. At the meeting with the principal I mentioned my regret but in the car I just said, do whatever necessary to stop bullying. My wife (bless her soul) said, "well, broken arm wouldn't kill her. You beat them hard, just don't kill them". She was very emotional about it. I will teach my grandsons and granddaughter the same thing I taught my children.
I was bullied by a gang of 5 in high school. The ringleader was the star of the basketball team, and could do no wrong.
So I graduated and later attended our 25th class reunion. I was dreading that the gang would show up again and pick up where they left off. One of the girls (now a young woman with family) in my class took me aside and gave an update. After graduation, one of the bullies disappeared, never to be seen again. Three others were dead before they turned 21 years old. The ringleader sat in his mother's basement, unemployed and unemployable, with numerous violent felonies on his record. The state law enforcement promised him the next felony he committed, he would be in prison until the day he died.
Excellent stuff. Build yourself, away from bullies if you have to, and you will come out on top
@GlennHa 😮 Got a similar tale, mental illness n handicaps does seem to catch up with numerous antisocials
karma, my friend
Isn't retribution sweet??? Most bullies often fail in life and or doing hard time.
Americans, huh?
As the school season began I watched our school bully harass and harm my mates over the first few days. Knowing eventually he would come at me. I was prepared mentally for it so when it indeed happened I immediately challenged him to an after hours meeting to settle our differences. He of course accepted. We met. He lost and lost quickly with a severe beating. It changed him completely and he not only never bothered me again, but ceased from bullying everyone. Every bully is a coward looking for someone to stop him. When you meet one, oblige him. My bully never bullied anyone else again. It's the only lesson they can learn from.
Always stand up to bullies , not just the ones who try to bully you but the ones who bully others who are weaker , more gentle or just different. Bullies should never ever win even if it costs you a kicking . It's important.
When you dont fear the beating and accept that you will get hurt in the fight. You have one over on your bully. And even if you lose, you lost valiantly and that bully will not come near you again for he knows you are not afraid. Often we fear the climb of the mountain more than once you are actually climbing. Dont fear the fight to come because once it starts it's far less scary I find. When you come to grips with those things you are dangerous
Right on! They are creeps. And shit themselves when they are stood up to.
Good for you!
I have a similar story -- I agreed to a fight with a notorious bully in my high school, arrived on time, and got thrown out of the ring by a spectator who saw me get knocked down three times in a row (while ignoring the fact that I was waking up with a horse-kick (which actually connected once)). Crowd was marching off and cheering the bully, I yelled _"GOOD FIGHT."_ The cheering stopped, and he never showed up at school again. I _lost_ and he still ran away.
Years ago, when I was a freshman in HS, a senior was using his size to bully freshmen. He and I shared French class. The French teacher was gorgeous; beautiful blue eyes, long dark hair down past her perfect derrier and a dazzling smile. I had a huge crush on her. She was only 6 years older than me. Anyhoo, she had this senior bully as her student aid during my French class. He made a big mistake when he decided to attack me while she was not in class. All 30 other students were sitting at their desks. As I entered he started vulgarly trash talking me and then he did the thing i like most in a fight; he tried to kick me in the cojones. Oh, joy! He didnt know that my younger brother was a young martial arts expert who lived to fight every day since he was 5 and that I helped him by being his sparring partner. He taught me all he knew.
Anyhoo, I caught the bully's foot as he tried to kick me in the cojones. I firmly gripped his foot. I then twisted it very forcibly. He had 2 choices: to either turn in the direction I was twisting towards or get a briken amlle. He wisely hopped and turned facing away from me. I lifted his foot up into the small of his back and kept twisting to the point it wouldn't twist any further without breaking his ankle and tearing tendons in foot, ankle and calves. I had him hop over (he only had the one foot on the ground) to the blackboard and pushed his face firmly into it. I told him he could either apologize and ask for forgiveness or I would break his ankle. He chose wisely to give me the most sincere of apologies. I kept asking him to add other things to it, I had him promise not to try anything with me again and to stop bullying young boys. Satisfied he learned his lesson i eased up on the twisting of his ankle and was about to let him go, when the gorgeous French teacher entered the room. Her eyes grew huge in astonishment and her jaw fell open. She said one word, "Davide!?" I told her I was just teaching Bruce a move I saw in Kung Fu the night before
(Kung Fu was uber popular TV show in the 70s. So, totally plausible.) I then said, "Isn't that right, Bruce? As I slightly increased the twisting. Bruce said, "Yes, I missed that episode and wanted to know what new moves Kwai Chang Caine did."
I eased up on the twisting and then released him. I never could catch Bruce even looking at me again.
Word spread that I knew martial arts and no one tried to bully me again. And the bullying of 15 year old freshmen by Bruce also stopped.
It's a pleasant memory.
Everyone stood up and applauded.
Nice, All schools need more people like us.
Sweet
I was overweight in junior high school and made fun of and bullied because I'm asian at a town mostly of whites, blacks , Mexicans etc. My cousin from Vietnam moved in with our family and he taught me self defense and combat meanwhile I lost lots of weight exercising and training with him. This Cholo who constantly made fun of me a year later kept flicking my ear in lunch line and turned his back as I would turn around . I told him to stop and he said what r u going to do about it , I did a roundhouse kick he fell to the ground and after that I became a hero at my junior high school and I ended up getting a pretty girlfriend classmate from all of the action. It was like I was in a movie. I guess now I'm the bully! A good one.
You would only be a bully if you used your newfound power to start picking on kids weaker than you.
Look up the war between the Longos and TRG.
The exact same thing happened but on a bigger more violent scale.
The hispanics thought they could bully the quiet peaceful asians.
The Asians came out swinging and had these gigantic organized hispanic gangs against the ropes for a long time. Because of numbers the hispanics eventually won.
But for a while there they bit off way more than they could chew.
@@jeremiahjohnson1513 only sheltered prejudice people talk like that, say that again after being a victim
Fat deal!!😂😂🎉
Cholo is crazy, ningen wildin
To my surprise bullying was allowed and encouraged at most of the 11 public schools I attended, and, to my knowledge, still is. The irony is bullies are alway cowards.
I was warned that a bully terrorized the school as I was walking to school in 2nd grade. I listened to "the monster" and the things he did. We got to school, had class and then it was first recess. Second recess was after lunch. Anyway, I was speaking to the same kids when "the monster came along" and to me surprise he was a small little kid. He'd go up to one child and torment him, then another and another. No one fought back, and the teachers did nothing to stop him. I couldn't believe it. They told me once he reached us just put my head down and avoid his thrashing, instead I threw him to the ground and beat the crap out of him. There wasn't a thing he could do as I held him down with my left arm and beat him with my right. He was completely unable to fight back. Immediately the teachers, who had been watching, came out to rescue the "monster". I was hailed a hero by the other kids, but anyone could have done it. They were so terrified by what a "monster" he was they were afraid to do anything. I had no training at that time. We never saw him again, and I didn't get into trouble. This has been my experience with bullies again, and again.
Freshman year, first days at lunch I was sitting with a lot of other boys my age when a confident JV Football player challenged all the freshman boys to a fight one by one. He had girls with him and was showing off. The very last person he challenged happened to be me and I casually said, "sure". By then I had a lot of training in boxing, but he didn't know that. He did sense something was wrong and quickly said, "Only a slap fight" and I said sure. I just stuck a jab in his face and turned him to my left. He was slapped so much he became afraid to move his arms, and I quickly realized he had no experience with fighting. I kept my hands open and didn't hurt him, but made him think twice about pulling that crap again. His confidence was gone in his voice and body language.
After school while walking my dog and talking to my bro on the phone, some big old dude, at night said his place had been robbed and asked if I knew anything about it. I said I didn't. He said he thought I was lying and threatened to blow my brains out. This was not in school, and this was a grown up outside, and I was scared. My first thought was to run. He kept talking and again said that he was going to blow my brains out. I was frozen with fear. The third time he said it I dropped my phone, dropped my dogs leash and ran at him and shook him like a rag doll, swore at him and had planned to beat him but he didn't even try to fight back. He didn't even speak. Another coward. I threw him to the ground and told him to never threaten me again. He called the police on me, but, apparently, didn't tell them I had shook and thrown him to the ground after he threatened to "blow my brains out". They asked me if I knew anything about his stolen stuff. I told them I'd never stolen anything in my life and invited them to search my room. They declined and left me alone. The big mouth coward left me alone too.
That was stupid on my part because I had no idea if that coward had a gun or not, and cowards like that would use it instead of fighting. I also could have gone to jail on assault, but I was outraged because I did not steal anything, and didn't want to be his victim.
I'll say it again; it's been my experience that bullies are always cowards.
Awesome story.. thanks for sharing
You have to sometime "dare" in order to win. Secondly, the bullies almost never se it coming when the object of their bullying "snaps" on them and goes on the offensive as their "self-defense." I speak wirh some personal experience on the subject.
@@USRecapglad you knew it was a story
I was in the 11th grade in 1983/84 when I finally turned the tables on my stepdad who thought he was my master…I was a great athlete (football, wrestling at school and boxing at the YMCA) and had put up with it too long. After a slight altercation where he asked for my keys (he was taking my car for really no reason)…I snapped. I threw the keys at him and he stood up and started taking off his belt. I ran up, grabbed him by his shirt, and threw him into a chair that had a unique design across the top (side note: the design of that chair was in our wall for years after, lol). I whacked him a few times and he crumbled like a rag doll. He was the type to keep running his mouth no matter how bad he was beat. So…every time he opened his mouth, I hit him again. As I tried to walk to my room, he jumped on my back. I quickly flipped him around, carried him into the hall where there was the old style heating grate (the kind from a 1940s/50s house in the center hallway about 30” x 50”). I belly to belly slammed him on the grate, where he grunted as all the air went out of his lungs. I saw him reach up to attempt to hit me, then laid a right hand across his face that put him in a temporary coma (knocked out).
Earlier that day, I had been at the River with my best friend and cut my foot on a broken bottle, pretty bad. We went back to my friends house, where his Aunt helped bandage my foot. I was gonna miss work and called my mom to tell her to call work to tell them (this was well before mobile phones and she had the number). During the fight with my stepdad, my foot had started bleeding again, and there was blood everywhere. My older sister had even started slapping me during the fight, not understanding what had happened. For some reason she took his side, despite us all knowing when he got caught at a peephole in the closet, looking at her bathing, a year earlier.
Days later I found out why all the beef started that day and why I was in trouble and my car keys were being taken…my real dad had simply called my mom to ask if I could come over that weekend, which wasn’t his normal “every 3rd weekend” regular visit. That pissed her off and she antagonized my stepdad until they were both fuming when I got home. I didn’t even know he had called, but I guess they thought I had gone behind their backs. That’s it, that’s all they were so upset about.
I went on to move in with my real dad shortly after, and did make amends with my mom and stepdad. Although I did whup his arse 2 more times just for good measure. The 2nd and 3rd times were after I was somewhat grown and had a child of my own. I just wish I had put him in his place a few years earlier when I knew I could.
It should be no surprise to most 17 year olds more than slightly athletic that their fathers can easily be beaten. Problem is you really dont want to go there. I did and instead of finishing senior year found myself at the Navy recruiters office and a few months later, in boot camp. Every guy I know who stood up to a bullying father has a similar story. Standing up for yourself is just a ticket out the door. If youre ready for a change in scenery, ready to be a man, go for it. Just remember whose roof youve been living under, and know theres only one leader in the pack of wolves.
@@batvette You are correct, I can’t argue with that. We learn those lessons in life, many times too late.
After all that happened, I ended up jumping around to both Grandparents houses and 3 High Schools my Senior year. After all I did thru High School, to have just my picture in the yearbook and absolutely no bio next to it, was a sad day. I did have a full bio in the high school in graduated from, but I went from a 4A to a 1A school.
Anyway, I’m old now. My body is much older than my age (due to autoimmune diseases), and looking back at these moments.
I tell my stepdad I love him all the time and we are on good terms. I have a great family…2 kids, 4 grandkids now. I’ve been married 37 years and while my health is very bad, I am very happy with the life I lead. With a few regrets, but too few to mention (thanks Frank S.).
I was close to your identical time frame. Stepdad was retied from the Air Force a year before I went to my initial entry training. I returned from USMC boot camp no longer intimidated by anybody. He tried to lecture me about timeliness on borrowing the his truck until I had it rinsed off, tank topped, backed into the driveway, keys returned, and washed up for dinner still 10-15 min early. I became a Drill Sgt later in my later in my career, a higher college degree, war under my belt, etc. He could not look me in the eyes. I never heard his voice again up to his passing.
@@mofo7689 People who haven’t been there don’t understand. Glad you overcame your situation as well.
Well done sir! You made many a bullied soul proud. Al the best to you and your family!
I too was tormented and beat on repeatedly, until I became a berserker ... It is a blessing that those whom attacked me did not die .... I am old and crippled up now and try my best to be kind to all, but I've found I still have a trigger point😢
Yes, I learned after a long while to show anger way before I actually got angry for real as a warning and not store it up because I didn't want to kill someone and knew that I could.
Don't be too down on yourself. EVERYONE has a trigger point; most are fortunate enough to never reach and pass it. Of those who DO, one of 2 things usually occurs: they become less controlled over time, or they become VERY controlled out of fear of their own capacity for violence.
Interesting because I keep in mind a UA-cam clip showing an old grizzled ancient warrior and the caption: There is a reason why they are old and still alive. As for myself, I am old and grumpy and indifferent. Trying my best to stay out of trouble, be happy and be healthy.
@@johnphelps7519 Yep. Except I have no fear of my capacity for violence.
I saw this movie. It was all that you described and much more. It showed the evil that devlopes in children who lack guidance, discipline, loving parents and motivational goals and objectives in life. Extraordinary film. Thank you for posting it.
Thank you
I read this book in my teens when i went to school. Its great. The movie too
What's the name of this movie
@@tamirmontgomery32Evil or Ondskan in Swedish. I saw it when it came out and have just seen the remake made into a series. Both great.
What is the name of the movie?
This is a Swedish movie from 2003, and one of the best I’ve seen. Good recap. But in the end, Erik went in to the room with his stepdad and beat the living shit out of him. 🇸🇪🇳🇴
I kind of had a feeling that would be the case.. 😅
And it's based on the childhood of the author, and what happened to him. When asked what passages of the book really happened, he answers: The worst ones.
The book is better though.
@@hannahmonteiro9229 What is the name of the Film or Book please??
@@delboy1168 "Ondskan" by Jan Guillou. Well written, but the main character feels like a bit of a Mary Sue and the book itself reads like a wishfulfilling power fantasy.
My father went to high school in the '70s. When he was a freshman, there was another kid who had failed several grades. He was basically a senior+ with the freshman. He would bully many people and had been doing so for years. He could get away with it because he was basically an adult man amongst teenagers. One day he beat up one of my dad's friends before school, so my dad went to the pull-up bars, slid one of the bars out (it was designed so that the height could be changed), and hit the bully in the back of the knees with the iron bar, dropping him to the ground. The bully turned his head and said my dad was a dead man when he got up. My dad raised the iron bar over his head and said, "You're not getting up, you son of a bitch." Luckily for me (lol), one of the coaches had seen what was going on and rushed over to grab the iron bar out of my dad's hands before he could kill the bully.
Later, the entire varsity football team heard the story, and they all beat the crap out of the bully with promise of more retribution if he bullied anyone else again (my dad was on the JV team at the time and was friends with a lot of the older players). The bully quit school and was never seen by my dad again.
Can you make the next movie from that plot. It sounds a lot less complicated than this one.
It seems your dad was the bully. History is always written by the winners and it aint always the good gays to write it down. Why didn't the football bitch ass team do something to this fake bully prior to the incident. Bulling is not a one time instance. Perhaps your dad had the teams protection and school authorities never bothered to intervene. Often the bully is one of the clever kids, not the drop out. And mark my words. Societies resemble these relations in a larger scale.
If my guess is wrong, which is quite possible you have my apologies. Just the story doesn't add up.
Out of the things that definitely happened, this thing didn't happen the least
And the whole room clapped
I like that line, "you're not getting up."
I went to a public school and barely graduated because of poor grades and a happy-go-lucky attitude. It wasn’t until later that I buckled down, earned my degrees, and was a college professor. Education is important, but it’s not where you go to school, it’s what you make of it that matters.
Facts
Yeah, the quality of teachers is completely unimportant, right? 😀
@@_TheDudeAbides_ that's not what he said ... 🤦🏻♀️
He said it's not WHERE you go to school but what you make of it.
Teachers is a different topic.
The only way to deal properly with a bully is to hurt them to such an extent that they fear ever messing with you again. I threw my bully face first into a urinal and then later pinned him against the wall after he kept kicking the backs of my knees. My exact words were "What am I going to have to do to you to make you stop?". He never bullied me again.
Good for you. Sometimes, violence is the only thing that such bullies understand. Years ago, I was working in a male-dominated workplace and was persistently sexually harassed by one guy, by the name of Richard (a highly suitable name, considering the shortened form of it). I tried being reasonable and told him to desist, and my friends told him to back off, but his response was to escalate his behaviour. It was in the days before laws came in and management were turning a blind eye, so it was something I had to deal with myself. It went on for a couple of months until one day, at my wits end, I warned him one last time and he responded with one last disgusting insult. I saw red and smashed him over the head with a heavy metal tray, nearly knocking him out. Never had any trouble with him after that.
I was bullied relentlessly in school. My parents, teachers, and school admin tried to intervene, but it never stopped. In a group, the bullies could overpower me. Eventually fear turned to rage. It helped that I had a growth spurt. After beating the heck out of 3 my 4 tormentors, I was finally left alone. Sometimes, it takes an eye for an eye to resolve a problem.
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@@joecool2125none of this happened 😅
You definitely are an American male , I’d guess 6 foot or less , and sub 200 lbs ,who earns less than 80k a year 😅
You got cucked and now lie on the internet 😅
“Eventually fear turned to rage …”😅😅
Are you a retired writer for the “Twilight” series ? 😢
Yes and you could have been arrested. Violence doesnt work with the law sadly. Its a broken system.
This might sound weird compared to teens today, but back in 76, I was bullied by this dude from middle school. Jump to 79 in H.S. after a few years of TKD/JDK training I decided to fight this guy. For some reason, we never got to fight because when I approached him, he had no idea who I was. Long story short, we started talking, shared some interests and we've been best of bros to this day. I'm a guitarist and he's a drummer.
That's a pretty cool story
The algorithm is weird.
Right.
Some say al gore never had any rhythm. Just sayin'.@@jamaljones1296
You searched this.
@@TonyChurch112 nah, I didn't. LOL
I watched some clips about Minions and Despicable Me sequels. Clearly, this is somehow related.
I was bullied by a kid in 6th grade. He was 20 lbs heavier than me and got the best of me every fight. 7th grade we each went to different Jr. highs. I made friends with a guy who convinced me to join the wrestling team. best thing I ever did. Saw my bully about 4 years later. He had no idea. Bad day for him. Great day for me. If you are being bullied get into some martial arts, wrestling, boxing etc. you'll be glad you did.
I was always a great athlete and had girl friends from preschool on. When someone tried to bully me, it never went well for them.
Later I used my superior athletic ability to intimidate every bully by doing something physically not possible for them to do, like picking up a car and moving it. Once I lifted more weight by hundreds of pounds than the bully could. I broke the lifting record displayed on the weight room wall by doing that weight many times in sets of 12. He never bothered me again. I also sent a couple of guys to the emergency room with one punch. Never ever allow anyone to bully you.
I agree. I don’t have your physical prowess, but I always stood tall, shoulders back. Got no shit.
@gdfggggg bless you for taking up for yourself.
Early in school I let it be known that if I was bullied, you wouldn't walk away unbloodied. I had an older brother who was not only a lot bigger, but a bully to me and my younger brother as well. I learned to never back down and to fight back like hell! Luckily for me most bullies don't like to mess with people that fight back, so they left me alone. Not so for some of the other students. A guy who had been my best friend for years was bullying some Freshmen in the gym and I broke it up, telling the Freshmen to go on to class. The bullies all whined that I was breaking tradition and that they had been bullied when they were Freshmen. I told them I would NOT look the other way if they tried to keep that "tradition" alive. They got my meaning and the Freshmen were somewhat left alone after that. My experiences in school were probably an influencing factor of my decision to become a U.S. Marine and then later on, a bouncer in several bars! I don't like bullies and trouble makers!
I too like to make up stories
@@acegambit777 LoL 😂 I was bullied also but then I met a Japanese guy who raised plants and taught me Karate 🥋. I used under water Ninja technology and won many tournaments in France and Belgium. I was later asked to leave BUDS training because the Cadres looked like fools because they had nothing else to teach me. 😮
@@johnmcmahon8513 HaHaHa that was a good one john, but be careful because there are many dullards in the comment section that will believe you. (and tons of other liars)
Precisely, this is how those bullying traditions should be broken. No excuse that because you were bullied earlier, it is now your turn to perpetuate the cycle. Quite simply if you did not like or appreciate those actions, then do not do it. My oldest son [in Grade 8} was targeted on the school bus by much older students. The bus driver reported this to the school and the Deputy Principal had my son identify these students from their photos in the school year books. No further incidents because these Grade 11 or 12 students were summoned to account for their actions to not be expelled. A zero tolerance policy has to be enforced by timely action.
I heard a remake is planned. Actors are already picked, and both Andreas Wilson and Gustaf Skarsgård will be back to play Eriks stepfather and a teacher I think.
I really think everyone who liked the movie should read the book. Jan Guillou (the real Erik Ponti) is one of our biggest writers in Sweden so Im sure it's translated to english. The movie is great but should have been a series bc there is so much more in the book. The book ment alot to me s a teen.
Oh interesting!
It’s about Jan Guillous own life as young.
He is a communist, a traitor, and thought the US deserved the 9/11 terror attacks. Sounds like a textbook spoiled rich brat.
Book is good, but he's such a liar.
@@svensvensson2724 It´s a novel, not a biography and higly regarded at that. Get over it
I'd honestly say that there's a lot of things in this recap that are not exactly correct, but with them still being "close enough" I think it will actually make for a better experience if people decide that they wanna watch it.
Ondskan, or "Evil" is a Swedish masterpiece imho and the book is even better!
But the book is based on lies. Even Gillous classmates have confirmed that the reality was nothing like the movie 😂
Tom browns school days?
... there are* a lot of things
Everyone is or was bullied in elementary, middle or high school. Learn to defend yourself, then the bullying stops.
I was bullied often enough. My mother was a non local, my dad from a poor family but he got self employed and received reputation and a bit of .. the envy and jealousy was then put on me in school. I gave one off the bullies a hefty smack .. the teacher gave me punishment because he told me .. because of my father I am not permitted to do so. Told my dad about this. He said nothing.. but bullying ended mostly. However Decision for me, to stand through, leave the region, get education and profession elsewhere. Success. The bully is now a janitor. The teacher suffered hefty and died from cancer ..
The fates are sometimes strange. Treat everyone like you want to be treated but do not forget treat others as they treat you, if needed.
Sometimes violence is necessary , but situations like what happens to this boy is why violence is necessary. It’s tragic
if this was america they would have got shot lets be honest lol
@@toha9460nah that’s only kid’s who’ve never been in a scuffle or fight before, use your fists first kiddos.
@@toha9460btw your character pic isn’t he all about fighting in a universe where guns are joke to then ?
@@toha9460 What a stupid comment.
Go Russia!
How in the world did I stumble across this gem!
I didn't even know this movie existed and now I'm desperate to watch it.
Thanks for these wonderful cliff notes!
+1 you typed what I was just about to !
It is an Swedish movie so u should. Search for "ondskan"
You probably didn't know about it because it's Swedish. Very few foreign cultural products reach the English-speaking world because 90% of Americans, the British, and Australians are very insular in their tastes and interests.
@@a.c.4732 I posted similar thought just now!! 👍
you know its a swedish movie where they talk swedish right?
I went to a boarding school and it was basically torture from privileged rich kids on the smaller kids. No chance to fight back and win. Adults always ignore this; no matter the physical or psychological torment, not their problem. We even had some crazy teachers who reveled in their power over the kids and would use it to rage out against them or assume attitudes of kingly superiority, entirely unearned and unnecessary. Over trivial matters or just made-up baloney. Boarding schools can be absolute hell-holes. You're isolated from any family or community support, and pitted against people who know they have all the support in the world no matter what they do, because teachers and admins have a very vested interest in supporting the rich kids regardless. And not just the rich kids trying to pick on their peers. The rich kids purposely picking out those younger and far less physically developed, who will suffer not matter what option they choose, and indeed enter into even the discussion through suffering.
TRUE -- But the worm does turn and then bullies the bullies. You survived, so did I; and you learned to see, smell, and identify bullies for proper destruction.
so thats where libtards and conservatives come from?
Suffering is one of the best teachers ask Jesus.
@Jesusisking247 Dude... Jesus ran back to dad as quickly as he could after his suffering, and left us to continue suffering, with no God dad to pick us up whenever we're in trouble (except in our fantash of course)
@@andreasv9472 He never had to come in the first place he chose to come and suffer for you and to heal you.
Most amazing thing about this movie is that it is generally a true story, (with the usual exceptions for need of a good narrative)...
@@monkeyballs1629 You have evidence he is lying?
In middle school, I became close friends with a really smart kid. Some considered him goofy, but the kind of kid that wouldn't hurt a fly. He got picked on now and then, and I would feel terrible for not being brave enough to step in and defend him. One day, a bully shoved him to the ground. To my amazement, my friend jumped up, fists raised, ready to fight. The bully was totally shocked but had to show his dominance to save face as there were kids gathering around. He swung at my friend, but my friend dodged it and punched him right in his face. The bully came at him again, and again got a fist to the face! The crowd cheered as the bully turned and ran! I was so proud of my friend. I'd known him for almost a year and never saw him stand up to anyone, so when I asked him where he found the courage and strength, I was surprised to hear him say he'd "just had enough" and revealed he had a brown belt in karate!
Typical bully sob story, "Whaaa my dad beat me so I bully others weaker than me" Same excuse the scumbag made for beating my disabled brother up before I put his head through a window.
DUDE HE WAS BEING GOOD AND NOT BLAMING HIS STEPDAD FOR NOTHING. HE TRIED TO AVOID VIOLENCE AND STARTING BEING BULLIED HIMSELF. HE JUST HAPPEN TO BE TUFF NO MATTER WHAT.
It is unclear whether the first violent incident we see is actually a case of Erik being a bully. It is ambiguous because he is shown directly at the moment when Erik prevailed over that person - but we have no clue what sparked it. As for the "judgment" imparted by the school principal later, we can safely assume he is also clueless of what actually happens in his school.
I taught my son how to deal with this sort of thing. We, as parents, are never sure our lessons were effective until our children show us that they were. I pulled up at school to pick my son up (he was in 4th grade), and the principal escorted my son over to the car. I thought "Oh, no - what has he done?" When they got to the car the principal told me "Daniel was just in a fight - I saw the entire thing - the other boy started it and Daniel finished it." I said "Thank you, sir" and we left. As we pulled out of the parking lot, Daniel said "Hey, we're going the wrong way" and I said "We're going to Wendy's and you're getting a Frosty."
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Brutish
You are a good FATHER
Speaking as somebody who didn't stick out of the ground particularly far, and was the object of some attempted bullying over the years, the single most important thing is your attitude, if you want to to win badly enough or just be left in peace (and also stop the bullying and earn some respect in the process), you will find a way to learn what you need to learn in order to be victorious. Secondly, if you don't provoke others, you also have the moral advantage, which I've also found to be quite motivating. At the end of the day, everybody's got their own problems, you can't assume that you'll get any help, and essentially it's your problem to deal with yours on your own. As the old saying goes: "God helps those who help themselves."
@@w.d.mulholland6716 So you're vertically challenged? 🤣😂
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Swedish films are masterpieces, the actors are amazing over there, they are so natural, I saw this film twice.
They have some amazing actors, the show Chernobyl for example have at least two that I am aware of. Stellan Skarsgard and in episode 4 when they destroy the animals the man that is the leader of the group that say if you hit an animal and it doesn't die keep shooting until it does. His name is Fares Fares he is a Swedish-Lebanese actor. Johan Renck that directed Chernobyl he is also Swedish.
What? There has to be stuff left out? Tell me I'm right and what was not described well please because if not then it wasn't that great of a film.
@@BIG_MOPPER Have you seen the movie? By the way this is not a Hollywood production, it’s a low budget film from a small country.
@@kingwacky184 David Dencik, who portrays Gorbachev in that series, is another great actor. I think he had mostly done swedish movies/series and is probably not that well known outside scandinavia. But to me he is truly one of the best actors from Sweden.
I disagree that swedish movies are masterpieces, however. Most movies from sweden are dull as hell. Great actors, dull movies.
I watched this video before. I would have gotten Otto earlier. I do not like bullies in the least. I never looked for a fight. I was injured by two boys badly enough to where I had to have corrective surgery. I got one of the boys back and his father who was a major called my mother demanding that I be punished. He changed his tune when my mother told him that I needed to have corrective surgery for what his son and the other boy had done to me 5 months earlier. That's when she threatened to sue him and the captain whose son had injured me. I am 68 years old today and was unable to father any children because of the injuries that I had received. I wish that my folks had sued them. They were too nice. Both the major and the captain moved their families. I never got even with the captains son. Oh, well. I hope both boys turned out to be good people. Vaughn
I’m sorry for what you went through. I believe all injustices will come to light one day.
We are far too forgiving to bullies. They often don't wish to cause temporary damage, but to permanently destroy. And to various degrees, they often do.
No one did anything about bullying until Columbine. It was easier to take the attitude of “ Eventually school ends.” But for some people it never ends. Some bullies never change. Some victims are haunted by the memories forever.
David bro sorry for the mishap my friend- you sound like an awesome human being tight now for even reliving this horror to tell us.
legalize duelling.
A bit similar to my own experience, I was not a tall and externally impressive student but I have trained for martial arts since I was 5-6 years old. At some point I was expelled from a very elite boarding school because I accidentally broke the hip of a karate student who defied me in a one to one session.
My parents found me a state school to finish the year and I went on my first day to that school in the uniform of my previous school, expectedly I was challenged by half of my classmates at the first break, the moment I was waiting for.
I selected the strongest and more noisy one , and made a demo out of him, the whole school was watching. No one ever bullied me again in that school, except the one I had corrected initially, who wanted his revenge, which ended with same result…
I have always liked to fight when I was young, especially with much taller and stronger boys who were not suspecting what was coming for them (when you train a lot, I imagine that it is exciting to practice), but most of the time, my fights were to protect bullied classmates or friends. With time I quit that liking, and most of my nowadays friends can not even imagine that I was once a fighter, even if I was. 😂
One of the key charateritics of Erik in this story (at least in the book) is that he do not make threats, he makes promises. He cold and calm describes to his victims exactly what he is gonna do to them and then he fullfill his promises. He do not threat, he do not brag, he do not exaggerate; he delivers what was promissed with exact precision. This makes everyone around him know that he is a man of his word and that when he say he is gonna do something they better listen becuase he is deadly serious and means every word.
And exactly that is where the movie (and the book it is based on) falls flat on its face - Erik is some kind of superman. He is the strongest, the fastest, the smartest (only Pierre is smarter), and, due to being beat up regularly by his stepdad, is almost immune to pain and knows where and how to hit to defeat his opponent.
His mother is wealthy and just sells a few paintings to finance his stay at the private school and he has a good lawyer that helps him out of a serious bind (his forbidden affair with the kitchen maid) that would see a normal student expelled (by using a trick - they learned about the affair in a illegal manner by opening his mail, so the evidence gained that way is inadmissable (fruit of the poisonous tree)).
Equipped like that, Erik can calmly calculate his chances during each fight - and those are usually very good due to the traits described above. He also survives being scalded with boiling and cold water - a treatment that would have seen a normal person dead.
A normal person would either do like Pierre did (escape) or become like the other students, apathetic, powerlessly obeying the system and longing for the day they themselves can bully their underclassmen.
I felt the movie/book was disappointing, because it left me with the message "Unless you're Superman, don't even think about resisting."
This summary is well done and moves right along without quenching the desire to watch the film. 'Evil" recalls the "Chocolate Wars" film one I highly recommend. My own experience is in a massive 3500+ public high school, all colors, social classes, and a great tradition of fights, rumbles, bullying, cruelty and superior athletics. All in all, it boils down to respect and how to obtain it, keep it, and maintain it. It helps to have a father who has some moxie and a loving care of his boys. But, we had some real nasty and strong boys, some criminal types. My method, other than mixing it up an hitting hard, was to use humor. One feature of my years at that intellectual sewer was the black girls who were really ferocious when fighting in a jealous rage. We used to spread rumors about their guy getting it on with her hated rival. THen wait until you hear the screeching and cursing. They inevitably tore each other's blouse to shreds, providing a strip show. The oldest sister of our State Champion basketball team's toughest rebounder was easily the meanest, toughest, most ruthless fighter in the whole city, capable of beating up even her brother.
The 'cool, in-crowd' guys who ran the school resemble the characters at the private school in this film mentioned. They were cold, nasty, pretend-religious, dressed in the latest, had the perfect girlfriends, and were headed to primo fraternities at the university. It was not wise to antagonize them by being successful, talented, or a ladies' man. Underhanded means and destruction, lies, rumors, planted evidence and so on followed.
One can be ready for adulthood if one learns what a closed society is really all about. My dear country, my patria, is at present being driven into the ground by a group of determined, self-centered manipulators with the help of their enforcement arms, banks, soldiers, lawless enforcement and the constant tree-top screams of the various forms of media. Since these are at a distance and nearly abstract, it is hard to take them to the fighting area and teach them respect. It must be done or we have tyranny and civil war. Men must be men and deal with it eventually. Bullies do not retire, quit, change to a more compassionate form of bullying.
It is interesting how most of the comments dial back to you youths, when we were young but still tender hearted. I happen to have been born into a family of very tough and dangerous men and even tougher women. Whining was not an option, but I at least had many cousins. We always had a mouthpiece to scheme and set up the muscle for confrontations. It is REALLY exciting to settle an old score or put real boundaries down! In the end, we never escape danger because our modern era has mastered the Lie, so that strong men with weak minds are easily fooled and led to the financial slaughter. Fathers cannot build estates to hand down to sons (hardly true of the 500 wealthiest, eh?). Women who want to rule the property and have au pairs, servants, many children and stability? We men can make that happen but it is not easy if you are on the end of the lash or are salary or wage earner.
The pecking order of society is so common and has been there since the first tribe that we have to withhold our judgment about it. It is wise to just clear out the area you want to maintain and forget abstract political solutions. All come down to faith, fighting and common decency.
But a boy who has not taken a lot of crap has missed out on what is a fact of life. I regret it, but it is a fact.
😊 thanks
get over it!
@@USRecapwhy do you have to narrate it like it's a financial seminar?
Ah, the Chocolate Wars. Robert Cormier's book was harrowing. I remember reading that for school as a kid
@@mydogatemyhomework3768 You don't recognize the robot voice?
I was bullied in 4th grade. I asked by dad (a once professional boxer) to teach me how to fight, but he refused saying "I don't want you to live that way". I now understand what he meant, and appreciate his wisdom.
Did he mean he didn't want you to make a living out of boxing?
Cause that's usually what pro boxers say to their children..
Most boxers would teach fundamentals to their children for self protection and exercise/recreation
For those of you who's interested. This movie is an adaption of the Jan Guillou book sharing the same name (Ondskan('evil' in swedish).
The book is unfortunately partly written as an autobiography. As such, both the infamous school, Solbacka, and the culture of violence shown in the movie were all very real. Many of the students who graduated from there became influential people in Sweden, mostly due to their extensive networking and continued culture of cooperative elitism.
Our main character is based on the author, who himself caused and went through all the trauma shown in this movie during his childhood at this school.
This movie was up until pretty recently still shown in Swedish schools.
1:00 The door has no right wall hahahaha🤣🤣🤣
I am a nobody I’m the youngest of 9
I have 7 older brothers and one twin sister that is 2mins older than me I was bullied through out my childhood but when I was a teenager my attitude changed and I started fighting with others because they were bullying other smaller students
I didn’t let the bullying go on and I started sticking up for students who couldn’t fight back and anyway it took one year and then there was no more bullying going on because of me
New students would start every year we still had bullies around but other people would warn them that they would get hurt if they beat any of my friends so they would warn the new bullies who start at our school and tell them to watch out for me because I wouldn’t let them beat up any of my friends in school and I’m happy to say that my youth was very exciting and I put a stop to people who would bully another student because I didn’t like it when it happened to me so I started standing up for those who were bullied by others and to this day I’m still friends with my school mates today
Formalised education, be it public or private, is simply a prison sentence without having to have a conviction. That entire model needs to be reconsidered. For thousands of years of human society, we educated children in other ways and brick-and-mortar institutions are a relatively recent phenomenon. It is time for the paradigm to shift again.
You sound like a kid in school.
Actually, this sounds a lot like an autobiography I read of a criminal, "My Shadow ran fast". Old. Excellent. At the age of 19 he was in San Quentin doing 3 consecutive life sentences. Then,
he turned his life around.
This movie is based on an autobiography.
I was bullied in high school on and off until my senior year. After seeing others stand up for themselves, I challenged a little bitch who was throwing staples at me at the end of class. I had to be held back. I was going to beat him badly, in front of the whole class. I saw real fear in the other kid. I waited for him after several more classes, but he avoided me strenuously. Thus endeth the bullying.
Awesome
Agh… what a coward that kid was. Fucker…
More crock of shit comments about stuff that never happened for 100 Alex
Awesome story, enjoyed. I was bullied by students from 1966 to 1978. My father was one of the worst bullies ever. He beat and tortured me fro age 4 up to age 17. I started boxing to protect me from bullies and mainly my father, from age 11. At age 17 no one could bully me again
Saw this film many years ago and always remember it as I think it was one of the best movies of courage and survival I ever saw. The main lad kept his powder dry with patience, tolerance and stoicism until he was allowed to unleash the powerful beast he kept internalized for a few years for it to devour all the people who had mocked, hurt and humiliated the caged lion to their own detriment
Bro you need to read the book. I know people always say this but trust me. This movie left a lot of stuff out.
@@K4113B4113 thx for the recommendation mate :)
Yo, great recap of 'Evil'! This movie is wild - it's dark, funny, and totally messed up all at the same time. The cast was killer and the story had me hooked from start to finish. If you're into twisted comedies that'll keep you on the edge of your seat, definitely give this one a watch
yeah very engaging from start to Finnish.. lol
i kind of of feel like i just did... but in 15 minutes of plot points lol
I have one issue. Brawler who everyone fears and does not care? Yes sirs dirt bag step dad playing " "I am king take your beating".
Thanks for the summary--I'd have been disappointed if if wasted 90 min on a story so unsatisfying. Hero loses girl, all antagonists survive and aren't even exposed. What a load of rubbish! If I wanted that I'd just live life. :)
Otto is played by Gustav Skarsgård who also plays Floki on Vikings.
holy crap! are you serious? i've only watched this recap, but i sure didnt see that. 13:07, i see it now! so obvious
Wow! I didn't even notice till I read this comment. What's this movie called?
@@Secondhandlegs Ondskan, or Evil.
@@Skallklyver thank you!
I had tears in my eyes by watching this clip, must be a damn good movie! Thanks!
I loved this video!! I hit the like button 3X
Thanks
Always stand up for yourself. People tried to bully me. One dropped out of school the very next day. One walked away quickly with his friends after confronting me. And the last guy i ever had to deal with told every person that seen his face, i was wearing brass knuckles. That's untrue. i just kept hitting him in the face until his big brother asked me to stop.
I waited for Erik to belt the crap out of his stepfather, a sadistic narcissist
Fun fact. The caracter Piere returns in one the wrighters later books about the Swedish miltary/spy Carl Hamilton. Piere, after leaving the school, joins the French Foreign Legion and when he returns in the book he has retired with the rank of Colonel.
The writer is a leftwing narcissist but his books are pretty good
My father, who passed away 28 years ago, is who JG based the character Pierre off of in the books. His name was Peter Islinger(google the name). He was room mate with JG and told me about those years from time to time and that Guillou took some(sometimes a lot of) liberties in his storytelling but that some of it really took place. Remember, it´s a novel not a biography.
If you google it might only come up in swedish pages though. He became a teacher and was very fond of jazz and started a small jazz association in Lidköping Sweden in his later years. We lost him to cancer at the age of 53. Jan Guillou actually came to visit when my father turned 50 and i got my copy of the book signed.
The reality of my father leaving the school is that he left, partly because of the conditions there. He then falsified his id, since he was under 18, to be able to pattern on ship where he became a cook. He went to sea for 12 years i believe before he met my mother and consequently had children. Maybe JG used that to imagine the story about french foreign legion, who knows.
Btw the series from 2023 is slightly better in my mind.
This was the first book I read in Swedish when I was 16. Great story.
Keep Reading my freind..too few ..do.Mark Twain's books for me.'!
"then let go of longing under the moonlight by fondling each other" LOLOLOL! I did not expect that line. I laughed way too hard.
Oh my God. I saw this in the theater in the US when it came out. I haven't thought about this movie in 15 or 20 years. I'm going to watch it again!
It's a great movie:) By the way, there's a 2023 series called Evil / Ondskan which just like the 2003 movie is based on the same book. I haven't seen this series, but looked interesting in the trailer.
Tell your AI narrator to look up the words "arbitrary" and "avenge." It's using them incorrectly.
i will never forget this movie.
- one of the best i have ever seen...
You make it sound like 2 bullys - It's actually organized hazing, and Otto and the rest are three or four years older than Erik.
I don't remember a lawyer - in the book Erik was scalded with boiling water and left outside overnight - almost killing him. Which is what put him in a position where they couldn't really expel him. -edit, misspelled scalded as scolded, fixed it.
Scolded?
@@jackgera9208 Ooops, Scalded. Thanks.
Great film. Thanks!! 😊✌🏻
I got bullied for 2 years in the mid '60s. Then one day, after school while I was playing football with a bunch of friends. my own personal bully, thought it would be funny to take my bike, rode it around, and taunt me with it, as I never responded nor reacted to this guy, until that day. He tried to run me over with my own Huffy. I was pumped, I'd had enough, and I realized I was almost a foot taller than him, and had him by 30-50 lbs. So I did not move when he tried to run me over. I grabbed the handle-bars said "this is MY bike", then lifted him and the bike up and threw them across the school yaed, sat on his chst and let him bruise TF our of my knuckles with his face. 4th grade, and I learned about getting a reputation about being a school-mate to be avoided in conflict, and someone who suddenly had alot of best friends. Even the bully, cigarette smoker, switchblade knife-guy started being nice to me. I had no clue what to do with any of that, and spent my recess-time collecting iron-slivers from the dirt with a magnet. Oh, to be a 9 y/o again.
I was bullied all my years of school. In 1975 at 16 years old and a junior in high school. Korean Master J Man Lee came to school and did a demonstration. He was a Master in Tae-kwon-do, Hapkido, and Judo. He also was an expert with numerous weapons. He was looking to get new students and I could not wait to join. I have lived and breathed martial arts for 48 years. I started teaching my son when he was only 4. When he was a junior in high school I learned about a football player who had been picking on him for 3 years. He had been talking to his mom and she by all means told him to walk away and not get into trouble. I was never told about it. When I over heard him and his mom I waited for my chance to talk to him. I told him I over heard the conversation and not to worry about what would happen but the next time this kid picked on him to make it he last time. At 16 unlike me my son was a 3rd degree black belt in 2 styles of martial arts and a black belt in the other. The next day was the last time that kid ever picked on my son. Master Lee recently passed away at age 83. May he R.I.P.
Ha. You have to speak to your son, and encourage him... Behind your wifes back, and after she is through? If that isnt evidence of a made up story, the fact this channel only has one comment is proof. Master Lee is it? Or Master Bait?
There is a You Tube video Honoring Master J Man Lee and yes the story is real. My son was stuck between defending himself and getting into trouble versus listening to his mom. I allowed him to defend himself. Really doesn't matter to me if you believe it or not my son, but the disrespect you show in your comment says it all about you! @@batvette
@@masterlee4370 It's easy to be a bully on social media
@@masterlee4370 .
How could he have been bullied for 3 years without you not being aware of it ? I have to agree with batvette. A multiple blackbelt wouldn't take bullying for 3 years without telling you about it and it would have been THEN that you would have told him to fight back. Sorry mate, no disrespect intended,, but it's a pretty flimsy story. " When I over heard him and his mom I waited for my chance to talk to him." ???
@@steiny3353 You both sound silly. He said "picking on him", not "beating him mercilessly"! So it could've been he JUST started physically bullying him recently. And yes, the kid with multiple blackbelt WOULD probably be the one with the understanding that he can seriously hurt people if he engages in a fight.. SO he most likely wouldnt. And he'd need his parents ( father with 48 years of martial arts) permission to strike back, even in the lightest fashion.. And it's called being polite to your wife. Youd rather him storm in and interrupt to say "beat his ass son"??? like wtf guys. lol.
It was a great movie. A strong atory line, unexpected turns throughout, and superb acting. Andreas Wilson style reminds me of Tom Hardy.
Thank you for your work! It's nice to watch your videos!
Glad you like them!
Lol
Sorry, I am almost asleep listening to this....
If anyone is reading this that is getting bullied in some way, then you have to fight back. Do not listen to those that tell you to turn the other cheek or you're a bigger man if you walk away. You will just prolong your torment. Walking away does not work, you have to fight back. Yes, you will get in trouble with whomever, but in the long run it will be worth it because the bullying will stop. Violence combats violence, it's a sad but true fact. If you want peace then prepare for war. And never EVER fight fairly, it's not a game or sport, there is no referee. Fight to win and destroy them. Others will see what you have done, you'll earn respect and they will leave you the hell alone.
His mother absolutely cared that her son was being beaten. Playing the piano was a way for her to cope with it.
Yeah.
His father would beat her as well.
I remember being jealous of a cousin (who I used to think of as a bit of a snob), & a close friend- who got to go to boarding schools; I just thought of the opportunities they'd have there; like a school pool, rather than having to go to a public one- horse riding, & the like - when they later told me about their experiences at them... I don't think I would have been able to last at them.
My friend had it even worse than my cousin- as she'd gotten to her school on a scholarship. It's gross that someone smart, or talented enough to get a scholarship- should then be a target of bullying.
That's exactly why she was targeted. She was smarter than those bullies and they couldn't take it.
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Probably didn't help that the ex of her main bully dated my friend...
never seen or heard of it but will see about watching it at some point... You're doing a nice service presenting these little known works (this was nominated for best foreign language film at the 2003 Academy Awards - but not notice) to our attention.
Its based on a awesome swedish book. I read it when i was young. The movie is great too worth seeing
I was in the movie playing one of the bullies! we had a lot of fun recording and we made a lot of friends all of us who were there!! some recordings were in the middle of the night, and I remember particularly the scenes in the dining room were one of the most fun to filming!
I was a new kid and got bullied by the local karate students who wore skeleton outfits on halloween. I became friends with an older retired karate sensei. I helped him out and he got me to paint his fencing and wax stuff on and off. I entered the local karate competition and in the last round I used my special crane kick move that my sensei taught me. I won and got the girl. Then I went on the run a successful car dealership 🥋 👊
You forgot the wax was for super old car and truck. And the belt was 9.99 from J.C. Penney.
You saw to much Karate Kid.
Ooh you're the karate kid
The actual movie is shorter then the preview.
What about MARJA??!!! They need to get together.
I already HAVE watched the whole movie. In fact, I found this synopsis so good, I hit the like button three times!
Thanks
A kid was targeted by another just for being short. At the bus stop, the bully pushed him around, sometimes punching him. The bully was on the football team, and the shorter guy was on the baseball team. One day, the baseball player had his bat with him for practice, and it did not end well for the football player. The bully's father told the father of the other that he would be paying for the dental work of his son, but after learning that his son was a persistent bully, he nodded, turned around, and that was the end of that. Lesson: Don't bring your teeth to a baseball bat fight.
Moral lesson never let woman hold you back to seek revenge and brutally beat up bullies.
Swedish movie from about twenty years ago. I saw it a few years after it came out and thought it was really good but I forgot the title so glad I found this short.
The movie is called "Ondskan" in swedish. It´s from 2003
This looks like a well-developed movie, I wonder if they'll be a second one to catch up on his assessment or his friendship with those individuals
shades of Al Pacino " Scent of a Woman "
There's an series called Evil (2023) that is based on the same book as the movie from 2003 which is the one in this recap. I haven't seen the new series but since it's based on the same material i can't see why the series needed to be made (the 1st movie is really great) unless they mix it up by including stuff from the book that the 2003 movie didn't. Easier to include more in the series format.
I like the end of the story, however I would have told my mother about her bad behavior as a mother by allowing a man who is not my father beat me. We would have had a serious chat.
"How to grow psychopathic dictators."
I watched this movie years ago. It reminded me of my childhood and the fights I got into to defend myself from bullies.
What's it called
If you’re not capable of a little bit of violence, then you’ll be a victim for anyone who is
The basic human instinct for survival; Fight or flight. I have viewed nature documentaries which demonstrate that predators prey upon the weak and vulnerable. There are also ambush predators that prey upon the unwary. Predators are also wary and unlikely to attack hard targets that could fight back and potentially damage them.
I begged people for help and no one does with bullies. In school once I finally had it and realized NOBODY was going to help me. I made my peace with that and blamed them all. Teachers...parents...other students and decided this one bully was NEVER going to bully me again. I mean NEVER. I chose to call him out in the middle of classes because I wasn’t going to be ganged up on after school. He wouldn’t go and I embarrassed him. Then the bell rang and I punched the chalkboard and broke it. I never heard about it and would have dared them to make me pay for it. I was proud of myself either way. BUT it does not end in school...bullying continues later on... everywhere by anyone.
So true. Bullying can continue on. However, you just have to refine your arsenal to fight back, let Karma happen or give Karma a bit of a helping hand. Ideal if bullying is recognised and exposed and then dealt with in a manner where it is not rewarded and discouraged.
There are certain times when you have to Stand Your Ground and stubbornly refuse to be intimidated, abused or bullied. In those times, No Retreat, No Surrender is your rallying call for what you will have to do.
If you fight back against your bullies they will think twice about picking on you again.
For those who might reocognize him, (or not), Otto is played by the excellent actor Gustaf Skarsgård (Vikings, Westworld, Oppenheimer etc). It's a good movie, I recommend it for sure.
These AI generated recaps
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Yes they are.
Glad someone noticed.
Who cares
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