I Bet You DIDN'T KNOW THIS Is Gaslighting!
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In today's video, Thais Gibson reveals 3 hidden forms of gaslighting you may not have even realized was gaslighting. Watch now to learn more about these 3 types of gaslighting so that you can identify them and confront anyone trying to gaslight you as Thais provides useful tips and guidance.
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00:00:00 - Intro
00:01:00 - What Is Gaslighting
00:01:50 - Type #1: Creating Defects
00:04:57 - Type #2: Third-Party Gaslighting
00:06:46 - IAT Promo
00:07:39 - Type #3: Silent Gaslighting
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00:09:57 - Conclusion
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This video hit hard for me 💔 As a former FA, I used to do this exactly to my ex, for same reasons too. Before I discovered Attachment styles/gaslighting/stonewalling and all the mental health verbiage. I've done PDS and now advocate for others to become securely attached. It wasn't my conscious intent to gaslight, more of a subconscious strategy since I didn't know how to communicate and be vulnerable. But now I'm securely attached and would never do this again, Thank you Thais for bringing awareness to me and so many others ❤
Thats really brave to say. Thank yous for sharing your story. ❤ it sounds like you've come far to admit that without beating yourself up about the past.
worst form of gaslighting is gaslighting yourself.
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It would really helpful to have Thais do a video on what it looks like to set boundaries versus stonewall for an FA. As a therapist I see FAs I work with hide there dismissive tendencies or deactivation behind the guise of setting boundaries. They omit the aspect of boundary setting that is meant to preserve relationships while building more functional behaviors. They typically get triggered, deactivate and go no contact while calling it setting a boundary.
Wow, this one really hit home. My ex and I are almost 50, and lived together for over 6 years. She did exactly all of these things. It is interesting you mention the sex drive part. She would always get on my case about not being sexual enough, while at the same time, would insult me, call me "ugly" and "disgusting" and say things like "no other woman would want to be with you". Yeah, because that really makes me attracted to her, sure. I have a very high sex drive, just not with someone who insults me. She didn't work, and had no appreciation for the time I spent working my butt off so that we could live. It was always about her needs, and she would make me feel as though *I* was the one messing up the relationship, and that *I* was the one who needed to change. Everything was always about her needs, and anything that would go wrong was always someone else's fault. Zero accountability.
I love how you have broken down gaslighting in all these different types!! All these types can definitely take place in a Narcissistic relationship!
Thank you for your kind comment Rosha :)
I hope my Ex sees this it explains her EXACTLY!!!
Is there any chance of delving into each of these a bit more? It has been so insightful and validating to hear.
The first one confuses me because what if you're really trying to give advice if you see your friend doing the same destructive patterns they've done in the past
This is really valuable ❤
Thank you for your kind comment Isabel :)
Sharing this immediately. So many people in my circle need this right now 🤣
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But what if I tell my narcissistic husband "that's not adequate reaction to my concern, no mature healthy individual reacts like that"? Do I gaslight him too? I'm just trying to explain him basic morality principles and healthy normal response to expression of my hurt feelings.
Is he a diagnosed narcissist? I don't know the circumstances, but your reaction wouldn't go over well with most people honestly. I can't say that it's gaslighting, but it's at the very least it's a little condescending. Again, I don't know what he did on his end to hurt your feelings and it's important to speak up. How you word it makes a big difference. If he's an actual narcissist, like a clinically diagnosed narc, then I don't think it's possible to teach morals to them. Not in my experience at least.
Number two is interesting because it's the most common one I see.
gaslighting ... wow ... seeking to gain power and control over another person by distorting reality, forcing them to question their own judgment and intuition.
So when he says ex"s name out of nowhere is that considered a third party Trangulation
the pause and gasp for air at 2.03" 😥
And regarding the 3rd one, "silent gaslighting". He rationalizes his avoidance to continue conversation with me saying he is "distancing" himself to preserve his "sanity" and prevent more abuse (so I won't blame him in more abuse). 😳 I can't put my mind together after all this. How to respond to this crazy-making?
my feeling is sounds like a form of manipulation and he doesn't want a conversation or to acknowledge he could be doing something hurtful so suggest he should change it
ike your secretary Sylvia has beendoing to me, withholding me both my acces to the school and to contact with you, evading the issue and repeating non-relevant things like your merits f ex. Please give me the help you offered, or at least access to my program. Thank you very much now, from Claudia.
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Uuuuh... I fail to see how an avoidant person (usual topic here) would not take this at face value and deflect any valid remarks when crossing lines. "SO YOU'RE SAYING I'm too distant and you want us to see each other more often? You tell me it's defective not to reply to texts within 24 hours? There's only one explanation = you're gaslighting me!"
Also the 3rd advice, silent treatment is gaslighting... while you recommend every day that we keep no contact for at least 3 months when a DA goes poof? I'm sorry but this is confusing, if not confuse. This stuff requires to be qualified/contextualized... not dished out like this as standalone absolutes
About the first part - don't speak about another person, speak about yourself only. "I want us to talk more" instead of "you're too distant". But if they see even this as gaslighting, maybe they just don't care about you and you should move on.
About your second question. Silent treatment - it's when a person tries to contact you, but you ignore them intentionally. If DA shuts down against you, and you go no contact, it isn't silent treatment, but healthy thing to do
We need a live version of the regular version… still love this!