april wrap-up || no buy series
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- Опубліковано 5 тра 2024
- we're back for another wrap-up for the DOOZY of a month that was april.... I did not have a good time mentally, but somehow didn't make any red light purchases!!
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Dear viewer you may not be struggling with the no/low buy year, but struggling with something else, I want to remind you that you're doing great, you're trying and I hope you succeeded.
one good thing ive noticed about this no buy year: I have tuned down the volume of like wanting things so much, and when i see something i really want in a store I don't think about buying it right then, I think to myself "But how awesome of a birthday gift that would be!" and put it on a birthday wish list. My no-buy takes a break for my birthday month because I refuse not to celebrate myself and how lucky i am to still be alive, but even so my wishlist is so small because of how refined my taste is getting.
this is HUGE!!!!
This. I found when I bought less I actually wanted less. No more
we don’t think you’re selfish because you want a homestead. It’s not like you’re spoiled and ignoring the good things you’ve been handed. You’re not squandering the life you have now. You’re thriving in it and still living simply. It’s something your regular viewers respect about you, that you have those things, those reach-for-the-stars, living-the-dreams things and yet you still dream of something simple, something better, something soft. If helps us as viewers with perspective, on what actually matters.
We are looking at you like “look how nice and green her grass is”, and you’re looking at newzealand like, “I can’t wait, with all my soul, to grow more than just grass.”
And I really think that’s a beautiful, profound way to look at life and don’t you dare for a single second feel guilty about it
April was actually really great for me, buy-less wise. I’m out of my credit card debt with money leftover and I think our entire next check is earmarked for savings. Because of you and this challenge, Grace.
Congrats on clearing the credit debt!
OK Grace, each day pick 3 things you MUST get done. You can still have your list of To Do’s, but by having only 3 on your MUST DO list, it’s not so overwhelming. Anything else you accomplish after these 3 are just gravy!!
Grace, can we do a “start a no-buy-year in the middle of the year”video?
I can certainly do that!!
I lost an entire block of cheese, spent a week sick with the flu while caring for my similarly ill toddler, and had to take my 10 month old to the ER twice last week.
Sometimes, our goals don't match our changing reality, and it's ok to recognize that without berating ourselves too harshly. We reassess our needs and go again.
so so true!! life just happens sometimes! you gotta be able to roll with the punches lmao
I'm doing a low buy this year, with about a dozen items on the green list because I truly need them, but I have named a month for each one. Still, I have not been doing too great, I've bought a couple unnecessary things, and a few more necessary but not completely unavoidable things. I try to restart every month and at least I am trying and for the first time ever tracking what I buy and what I would like to buy. Baby steps, next year will be better!
progress over perfection!! coming at your purchases with a little more intention is already better than what most people do, so you should be really proud of yourself!!
Hearing you! Stay the course - and you will get there. Your commitment to your ‘Why’ is so strong. I struggle with change of seasons also - so many ups and downs. My positive & gratitude is time to pursue my ‘hobbies’. Time in the garden, time with animals and handicrafts including sewing and crochet. I’ve so many supplies I don’t need to buy a thing and I’m producing lots!
My favourite talks are about „what I can sell to get something else“ 🌷 Don’t apologise!
I started my low buy this year because I found your channel towards the end of last year, which motivated me to start, so a big thank you!
One of the things that I stopped paying for was all my streaming subscriptions, and I feel that had the most positive outcome. It made me focus my time and energy towards hobbies that I previously had ‘no time’ for. Initially I felt very bored and lost, like I didn’t know what to do, but I’m drawing and reading regularly in the evenings now. I might not be able to join in conversations about the latest trending show, but seeing how much progress I’ve made in my drawings, or finally eating away at my TBR list is really rewarding!
You and me both- hormonal and overwhelmed all of April.
Girl, I stuck cheese tortellini that clearly Said keep refrigerated in my cabinet and took it out a week later to cook it only to realize what I did. I feel you on Flip's food.
it's so PAINFUL
Thanks for sharing! I have this same struggle where I am so aware of how privileged I am.
I really don't want to just sit wanting something that just can't happen right now and not embrace the present BUT it's difficult when really want something! Xxx
it's a weird place to be for sure!!
I really struggled with the no buy this month for the first time really since the year started - I think bc I had some vouchers which were great but kinda reintroduced me to buying unnecessary items, and the thing with vouchers is that you always have to spend a tiny bit - like a £15 voucher for something £15.99 would be fine, but i went kinda overboard with it lol, like oh £18 is fine bc I get money off, like no girl calm down.
Anyway this is not important, I just wanted to say I'm grateful to you for staying so authentic online, it certainly makes me feel less alone in this world. And also that being frustrated that you're not yet where you want to be is totally valid, I'm dealing with the same thing rn but we'll get there
it's really just a constant struggle!! and I'm happy to show the reality of that bc I don't feel that it's genuine when people just get to a certain point and then pretend to never struggle again. I've been a minimalist for almost a year and a half now and I still have moments where I feel weak about buying stuff. it's life!! but we absolutely got this.
Same here! I did some purchases that were yellow light/green but it made me stumble because it reintroduced me to buying.
First, great job on the no-buy year. Super challenging but you’re sticking to it!
I noticed you put a bunch of money towards savings/investing, but you are also paying off debt. I don’t know your debt situation or if you already considered this, but it would be wise to put everything you can towards your debt and just get rid of it. Then you can redirect all the money towards savings/investing.
A lot of financial advice says to have $1000 of emergency savings to start and then redirect everything else towards debt. It’s the best way to “save” your future money. Even if the interest is tiny, it’s still money you’re giving away.
very good advice!! my debt situation just changed, but otherwise I would 1000% be aggressively paying it off. I got a personal loan from a family member (bc they didn't want me to keep getting screwed by the interest fees each month) and I'm paying them back throughout the rest of this year at no interest! very grateful.
I have noticed that if I don't buy the pointless thing, I have to money to do the much more valuable thing which comes out the blue a few days later. Incredibly helpful.
It's really testing my values, and much like you I had been down this month, really down.And I realised I didn't make it clear to a friend what I can and cannot do/buy which explains alot so i was missing opportunities to do things 😂
I have really been struggling mentally this month and really started to question this challenge because it began to feel restrictive for the frist time in months ( i did by a red item but i'm not going to beat myself up about it, cause its useful.) Im back on the low buy train and thankfully in a much better mood❤ bring on May!
having money to do the valuable thing is such a wonderful benefit of the challenge!!
You’re allowed to have dreams and struggles b/c you’re human. You can acknowledge your privilege without invalidating your experience. Plus when privileged people handle and acknowledge privileged people problems you lay the groundwork for others who come after you.
I thank you for your vulnerability. It's ok to feel the way you do. You definitely don't come across as spoiled when you wish for your homestead. You have a dream! You will get it! By doing wjat you are doing!❤
I keep "starting over" my no buy year because it's been a rough one so far and I'm doing very poorly dealing with it, but the thing I've noticed when I've succeeded during certain amount of time (maybe as little as one or two days) is that I feel way less overwhelmed, more in control, happier, like I'm accomplishing something good and important, for myself and for the planet. I actually like knowing I'm not expecting any packages so I don't have to stress about it. The opposite when failing (and I've been failing continuously): way more overwhelmed, out of control, sadder and like I'm a failure in general. I know I'm being too hard on myself so maybe I need to start working on that so my intention to stop buying stuff would be easier. Your videos help, Grace, they help a lot. And I hope May treats you better emotionally and in every single aspect. Big hug 🤗
You are doing great! you are working on it and you are not giving up, its the most important thing!
2nd comment on this video lol but I felt this video in my heart. I’m so sorry you had such a bad month. Whenever I am really struggling I sit down and try to identify things that have changed for my life, good or bad, and if that could have any affect on my day to day wellbeing. This whole month for me has been incredibly overstimulating or overwhelming. I’ve been hyper fixating on my cat’s health issues, so much so that I can’t relax. I just feel like I have to watch her constantly. I can’t stop hyper fixating. I just fixate on something for weeks on end and then move on to something else. And then for the last 4 days my city has been hosting a air show with the blue angels (jets) and we live close to the airport and they’ve been flying over my house LITERALLY every 15 mins from 8-4 since Thursday. The airshow finally ended yesterday at 4 and I just melted in my bed just soaking up the quiet. I almost cried from pure joy. I didn’t realize how over stimulated I was until it stopped. My cats were freaking out too, so that didn’t help.
ugh I know what it's like to fixate on a pet's health. sending you big hugs and hoping your coming month is better 💗
I admire that you allow yourself to be vulnerable on the camera. I thank you for that. Although I'm not neurodivergent, I see you in your description of being overwhelmed by a long to-do list and still "doing nothing". We all see you trying your best.
I'm really glad I'm doing a no-buy this year. One of the positive things I've noticed is how the constant rumination of: should I buy it? just disappears when your default answer is: I'm not buying anything I don't need this year. Hannah Louise Poston mentions that in one of her videos and I've felt it. Another really good thing is that without buying, I'm understanding better the relationship I've had with money during the last decade or so.
5 mins in … last month was rough for me too. Sorry friend!! This month will be better!! 😊
it will be better for both of us!!
All Hail, April Grace, Hunter-Yarnerer!
Sorry you had such a rough April! I did succumb to some retail therapy myself. It wasn’t totally out of control, and they *were* things I would need along the line, like underwear and a pair of trousers to replace a worn-out one. But meh. Kinda bummed about it. My diet’s been crap too. Was looking forward to spring and getting out and about more, but had a financial/job set-back so that kinda threw me. #effingtryingmybestoutheretoo
Here’s to a new month, new opportunities to rest and restore. Also, don’t let the branding/sponsorship dictate your schedule. #advertisingsh!tsinyourhead
we shall persevere!!
I'm really hoping once this nice weather comes back around you'll start to feel better 🌸💐🌻
I live in Arizona so we had a lot of beautiful sunny days this month and it really helped me go outside for either a picnic, volleyball or listen to an audiobook during a hot girl walk (:
30:47 this hit hard 🥲
proud of doing this no/low buy alongside with you
I love your new glasses! 🙂
thank you!! :))
Would love to see slow living video! If you’re up for it ❤
funny you should say that bc you might be getting one on thursday....... 👀
@@gracenevitt like slow living mindset, even in your crazy fast-paced life
Can you make a sundress, Grace? Like big t-shirt sundress?
Also, we aren’t going to crucify you if you buy a dress.
I messed up this month 🥺 in march my savings were very high and I probably got too confident about it and bought clothes I didn’t need in April 😭
it happens!! it's a learning process. don't beat yourself up, and just keep going
Hi grace that’s great you still did well despite feeling shitty this month!Could you use a music stand as an iPad holder? I can relate to the roller coaster of feelings especially around period time. The yellow towel is so cute btw!
My positive: I have chronic pain and I try to be grateful for the good days. Currently having a bad flare up so distracting myself with UA-cam. I guess it’s a nice reminder that you mentioned “roller coaster” lol. I’ve been doing a low buy and it’s been fun tracking my spending
I mostly just need a case for the ipad so theoretically I could crochet one...
@@gracenevitt ooh I see I thought it was to stand it up. That’s a great idea
I live in NYC. Well, not the city, more like suburbs but I used to live in the city. Anyway, just saying we are here and watching your videos
I feel like I rarely have NYC peeps in the comments so I don't really know how many of y'all there are!
Flip in that towel😇🥰🥰🤩
Sending you love mama ❤️ In the same boat as you. It’s getting harder not easier lol
I’m curious if it would be helpful to you to try some grounding practices? More time allowing yourself to do absolutely nothing.
It’s a bit funny, we have pretty similar things going on right now. I’m obviously doing no buy with you but I’ve also started crocheting (went from one project to a granny square sweater - so no you aren’t crazy), I deleted all social media off my phone and iPad but am allowing myself to use the web browser (on my computer only!!!) if I need it. (It’s taken me a few months to actually feel like I’m starting not to rely on it. It was super challenging at first.” It’s honestly opened up a lot of time for me to either, do nothing or spend more time creatively (reading, crochet, meditating, grounding, gardening, spending time outside, walking etc.) Sundresses are also my weakness and I never fn wear them. (My new obsession currently is a big flowy romper..) ANYWAYS… let me know if I can help you. It seems like you’re highly stimulated and you need to take more time every day to decompress and be in quietness. Maybe spending time with your headphones on with white noise. I relate to you being on a busy road and needing quiet. Again, much love.
1000% need to spend some time doing nothing or very soothing tasks, and I ended up doing it the other day (vlog about it coming out thursday) and it was SOOOO restorative I feel a billion times better lmao
Completely unrelated, I grew up in Santa Cruz... nice shirt :)
HELL yeah!!! any time I show this shirt on my channel I usually put "iykyk" but didn't this time, so it makes me extremely happy that you know what it's all about!!! hehe
It makes me so stressed that you’re struggling to enjoy this season of your life. Maybe instead of no buy/low buy, your next focus should be a slow-living/intentional living kind of a video
it has little to do with the no buy and everything to do with me not managing my stress well this past month. I definitely will focus more on the slow + intentional side of things this coming month 💗
@@gracenevitt I didn’t finish watching yet, lol cleaning the water table for my kiddos, but I’m worried that UA-cam is stressful for you, because the money is going to be so unreliable. I don’t want it to be a joy-sucking thing for you.
@@gracenevitt I have adhd too, and I know how much every not-quite-win can feel like a big hard lose. A drain. And how the tiniest negative feedback can eat away at you, too
This might be pretty out there, but you think someone might have sundresses on your Buy Nothing group to scratch the itch? Or maybe it's better not to give into that at all. Hahaha! What do I know? Anyway hang in there. I'm rooting for you.
the only clothes I'm allowing into my wardrobe this year are ones I really really love. clothes are a no-go for buying, but I'm realizing I'm also doing a bit of a "wardrobe freeze" as well, to prove to myself that I can get by with the amount of clothes I currently have.
if something PERFECT pops up in my buy nothing group, I might take it, but I’m not actively looking tbh
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Ngl I forgot I was doing a no buy this month 😭😭😭
Well... my lowbuy year went out the window completly as we are having a child xD
a low buy year just means being intentional about your purchases! you can still do it!
But what if doggo rolls in something yucky and you need to give him a bath pronto. If you don't have a soap for him on hand, are you able to use something else?
I have natural soap bars that I could use in a pinch
@@gracenevitt oh good! :)
I've removed my instagram from my phone, I have UA-cam and Facebook and that's it.
took instagram off my phone the other day and it has reduced my stress by like 80%
Facebook is worth ditching too.
@@dptfo Oh totally but I have reasons why I still use it for book clubs and homeschool meetups. I don't use it for the social aspect as much so having it doesn't cause me anxiety. But if you feel like its worth ditching than totally go for it!!
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I'm good for now I think, but thank you!!
Does minimalism always come with so much guilt? I feel like your buy nothing group was so good to you and you seemed so sad and I hate that it makes you so overwhelmed 😭 please don’t stress over others generosity for things that make you happy! You can always give back those items, and then you’re only borrowing ❤❤
minimalism comes with a LOT of different emotions to be fair... I was just trying to make sure I wasn't overloading myself with too much before I had the chance to use some of it. it's mostly from a place of mindfulness and knowing that hobbies can be something that I fall off of (based on my past track record lol)