I'm 27 years old and I've accomplished absolutely nothing with my life all because I've been watching porn since I was 12 years old. I have so much untapped potential and I'm tired of holding myself back. I'm ready to leave this addiction behind me.
Same exact story here bro. I’m 27 and I’ve been watching since I was 12. Havent done shit with my life. I know you made this comment over a year ago, hope all is well and you were able to kick this awful habit
Reducing 90% of my screen time on my iPad and my own iPhone help me the most. I deleted everything out of my iPhone and my iPad that had anything to do with porn. I deleted my history. I went to UA-cam and got rid of all of the soft porn that they show. So it’s not advertised anymore.I’m still struggling but I’m doing a lot better. Good luck to you.
I can testify to experiencing life in an unbelievably better way when I had abstinence for about a month recently, it was like the grass was green for the first time in a long time. I had greater sense of humor that I felt like I lost before becoming addicted, nature struck me as beautiful, something I could not see before, my imagination was much more vivid and stronger, my social awkwardness and insecurity was just gone, and I felt overall more mature.
Yaa.... At times I used to think happiness is not possible. We have to suffer through life. It depends on our circumstances help us to be happy and motivated
I’m calling “bullshit” on this. Only in this society do we put psychological restraints on things that we not only do naturally and are necessary for life but can be enjoyed as well for its own sake. We screw ourselves ( no pun intended) out of the life we would want to lead pursuing things we don’t need to please people who really don’t count. First, there’s no shame in being horny. It’s no more a moral failing than being thirsty or hungry. It’s a human need that has to be met. Now, we live in a time where those needs can be met relatively easily; you don’t have to hunt for your food, find water or compete physically for companionship. This isn’t Pon Farr on Vulcan. We’re not Masai and we’re not Spartans, we’re average middle class Americans with a little bit of disposable income available. You can have just about anything you want within this society. But there are those who for some reason ( mostly religious) think you’re better off by adopting their idea of happiness. Now back in the day when people like that had influence, you’d go along with that program. Some were ok with that, most weren’t. As time went on and people gained more knowledge, these people had less influence. But that didn’t mean it was out of the culture altogether. Due to our early indoctrination, we’ve internalized these “social rules and customs” that govern our lives even though they don’t make sense to us.
@DAngelo 136 You are saying we should treat sexual instinct like any other desire hunger, thirst etc. However to me it seems you are suggesting we should treat it unlike any other instinct. When someone eats too much they get fat. It's unhealthy. We can not just push one dopamine button continuously without it having negative effects.
Dr thanks you saved me from 10 year of porn addiction actually porn is slow poison kill you from inside and make you weak... lots of love from my side thanks again
I don't like doing the things that I used to enjoy because I wised up. Now instead of socializing with pointless people, I enjoy weight training and going for walks. Drinking alcohol and having pointless relationships are for other people. I lead a different life now.
Thank you Trish. I relapsed again today and feel terrible. I want to leave porn and dating apps behind for good as they harm me a lot. It is hard to be single and without intimacy for a long time which is where I struggle with going back to the screen. Thank you for your inspiring videos. Chris
I think being single is what makes this addiction so hard to stop. I've been single all my life, but if I had a woman, I would likely much more motivated and determined to break this addiction. I totally see where you're coming from.
@@BrandonP8176 yes I agree. I have found when i have had a relationship (even if not for long) i have zero desire for porn or dating apps because I have a real woman in my life meeting my physical and emotional needs. When single my sexual energy has nowhere to go. I feel like I need that consistent and regular sexual partner in my life to balance out
Same here. I'm single and have a hard time not going back to it when it's so freely available. I'm usually ok when I'm around people but a day or 2 alone usually takes me back to it.
I'm done ignoring these videos. I been praying so much for help with this and I subscribed to the channel several months ago. Maybe the answer was here all along. I can't take it anymore. I'm a recovered alcoholic which has been an extremely brutally hard process and still has its moments but I swear it doesn't compare to quiting porn and masterbation. So sick of it I could just scream. Usually that's when people are ready to change. You have to be so sick of your addiction that your ready to try and listen to anything because you just can't take it anymore. That's where I am. Maybe it's a blessing.
Very good authorative work from providential America.I was a bright academic who dimmed due to this habit as at my peak I was a heavy masturbator.The porn industry is a robber and I find Dr.Trish a great teacher as she repeats the message and repetition and drill on this reteach you the error of your ways.As you age guys it ruins your body big time.
I relapsed a few times...AGAIN...but Im back on the horse... I find the more I use training as my dopamine release the less I look for other more negative ways to look for a dopamine release...whats crazy is how much being in a bad mood effects me...which is logically but I didnt think about it till I really went through it these past few weeks...keep on trucking fellas if u give up its a for sure no where as if you dont give up maybe it is a no but maybe it isn't.... n my life isnt even that bad and i still look for that dopamine release when i get in a bad mood so i can just imagine if it was really bad...dont look for excuses to continue the bad habbits look for reasons to stop.
Thanks for sharing. I am taking control of my life daily. I'm gradually pulling myself out of this bad habit. I really had to get sober with my self and ask my self what might happen if I don't quit this habit
Honestly I’ve struggled with it since I was 12 or started but it got crazy around 15 I got saved By Christ in 2018 But still struggled with it I fast to get control and then now I saw your channel this is so awesome specially for us that don’t have enough money or resources to afford a therapist we’re we can hear this stuff so I want to thank you Trish this is truly live changing knowledge like you actually know what happens in my mind what I think but also give me solutions I’m so grateful for this God bless this Woman in Jesus name Amen. You are a difference maker
I agree and Amen to that. When inappropriate thoughts or urges begin to occur to pull up bad screen time, I purposely say no to start negating the effect and go directly to one of Dr. Trish's videos for reassurance that pornography will rotten my mind and that there is freedom from the clutches of pornography. I don't fully understand the science on how it all comes together but logically what Dr. Trish says, I get it, it makes sense and I don't want to go have any bad screen time and I don't need the interference in my relationship with Christ and the woman I would marry.
Thank you very much for sharing all this valuable knowledge! I've been looking for a complete answer about masturbation like this a long time ago, but everything I found was telling me that it's good for me. In the back of my head, I knew that it can't be good since it makes me super tired all the time and don't have the motivation to do anything. Because of not knowing the side effects from masturbation, I don't have the motivation to stop it, but now I do. This will definitely change my life! Once again, I really appreciate you taking the time and share this information!
Best exercise to control our mind Just for 3 times daily abstain yourself from the thing which you want at that time, in this way we learn to do things intentionally instead of following wishes....
I did way worse lol. Sometimes I'm on a laptop looking up porn and my brain clicks in and I wonder how it even happened. One minute I'm doing research etc then next minute BOOM porn. I'm a weak weak man 😫
@@LonelyGamr You're not weak but you may not recognize your pre-porn triggers; are you tired/stressed before you get online? Your targeted ads are designed to get you to click, the porn industry has treated you like a product for far too long and knows how to draw you in. You may have to avoid online activities on those days and choose old fashioned paperback books/card games/board games on days you're zoned out or go for walks with downloaded music, practice cooking a some family recipes, volunteer somewhere for a cause you believe in. You are stronger than you think and there's a whole awesome world to explore offline outside your own mind that hasn't been telling you the truth about your strengths, capabilities, social skills, value, or desirability for a long time anyway.
Don’t worry guys you’ll overcome it if you don’t give up and acceptance is also a key word of letting go of porn…And don’t be harsh on yourself…may Allah free you from porn
I had 5 days of nofap. I didnt notice anything different. I do know that longer streaks will build up to greater happiness. I've gone 362 days on nofap several years ago. I still wish I knew how I did that. I never had a streak like that again since 2016. However, I never noticed any great miracles or superpowers happening like some people claim lol that doesnt happen. I went 1 year on nofap and didnt get any miracles for all of my hard work and self discipline.
I want to really thank you Dr. Leigh for the great content of your videos. Personally your advice has helped me a lot in my journey to quit masterbation and pornography and get back to who I used to be before this toxic evil take over my life. I can't imagine how unaware I was a few years back about the actual destructive effects of porn and I had lost all my hope and motivation. thank you for all your videos and the information you are spreading in order to help people.
Great episode, thank you. So true, I've continued to feel less and less motivated to do anything that use to give me joy. Completing long-term goals has not been a priority and feeling engaged in life, family, work, friends, is not there. What has been there is jumping on the screen once I wake up, again few hours later, sneaking peaks more and more. These videos are helping. You are right on the button and I need to hear these facts.
Dr Trish you did it again! Heavy concepts made simple. Decision making by a brain that wants the biggest hit and wants it now. I really wanted to hit that easy button, but instead went to your channel. So great to see you light up practically from start to end. Just love that. We all want to feel that, but porn is not the ticket. I’m still feeling the pull, but sometimes you just have to change the channel.
This is so good- I love the focus on creating and maintaining the life you love-so much more powerful than focusing on the problem- your a life saver Dr Leigh!
Hi dr Trish what you talk about in this video rings toatally true for me. I used to be the type of person wiith full motivation grab the bull by the horns and get on with it. I've been totally confused about where the shift in me might be coming from. Thanks for the insight.
I have no friends, no money, no car, no purpose... so where do I get dopamine from if not from sexual activity, food, and sugar? I'm alone nearly all the time. Please help. Let me know what to do. How do I make women want me? Its like they dont see me or maybe its because I dont have a six pack stomach and a ton of money. Thats what women want these days. They are just looking for someone they can use to get their needs met. Its always been that way though. How do I create the life I want if people dont hire me on a consistent basis?
Thanks Dr. needed this. I am still a work in progress, but I will get there. I kind of gave up on my immediate career goals. But I now see all this was connected. I will say this since I started subscribing , my sex life with girlfriend improved dramatically. Thank You!!
I cannot thank you enough for all that you do Doctor Trish! I’ve tried beating this problem before but was never able to figure out a battle plan. Now that I’m married and I love my wife very much, I want to beat this with all I have and all I hope to be. Your videos are helping tremendously! I’m almost two weeks in from looking or even thinking about masturbating/pornography use. Please pray for me and help me stay motivated and disciplined.
It's like our anthropological propensity to get addicted to sugar, caloric rich, Max reward for Min effort (like when I tribe occasionally found honey vs the difficulty of the daily hunt). But they're empty calories, no nutritional value.
Yes ofcourse, all these activities stimulate your reward system and release Dopamine into your synapses (to bind to their receptors). There is an entire concept behind motivation and success (higher executive functioning and better decision making), ITS called: Dopamine Detox. This is a process where you drain your brain from dopamine by subsuding from participating in activities that uselessly trigger your reward system and release the neurotransmitter Dopamine. What happens after a while of draining your brain of its quick-to-go dopamine releasing stimuli is that your brain shifts its focous on other activities which you choose, such as producitivty, hobby, gym, work, study and music and literally starts releasing more dopamine to these stimuli. The whole companies study intensly on how to addict their consumers so start shifting your dopamine sources from quick-pleasure-sourcey such as porn, sugary, video games, netflix and fast food and switch after a while to other activities and you will see how more enjoyable and EASY they become. Google Dopamine Detox for more info (or search on youtube). By the way good thought you had there. :) best of luck.
@@pedro2624 thanks for the class man, i will for sure check more about it and see what i can cut off from my habits, i'm quitting smartphone games, porn already done, just once or twice a week i touch myself a bit, i haven't seen any bad result from this
NOTES: Where does motivation come from? - Comes from a connection between the prefrontal cortex and the reward circuit - When demotivated, it’s because of the fried connection between the prefrontal cortex and reward circuit and also that those two regions are not functioning the way they are supposed to - NoFap and SR fixes the prefrontal cortex, reward circuit, and the connection between these two regions - Rewire your brain to get motivation from happiness, instead of simply getting motivation from pleasure Sub-processes - Reward seeking behavior - The brain learns that certain activities are more rewarding, and the dopamine links the source of your pleasure to behavior that allows you to destress - Value-based decision making - Your brain learns where it gets its rewards and makes decisions about what’s it’s going to do to get those rewards - Prefrontal cortex controls your decision making. Hypofrontality is the condition where your prefrontal cortex is completely hijacked. - Gain awareness over neural processes to get rid of hypofrontality - Control your brain or it will control you - The ability to exercise control over your neural processes How to change your brain to create a life that you love - Take concepts you enjoy and seek to implement and then turn them into action steps - Stay vigilant and disciplined in creating the life that you want
You are right, but some people have really bad lives, so porn is all they have really. I am not making excuses, but that is often the reason for the porn addiction in the first place.
Very true. No porn for 3 weeks now. I have briefly seen porn 1-2 minut and I felt the dopamin impact instantly and then I walked away. I havent mastubatet at all for 3 weeks. I feel my anxiety level much lower og confidence going up, daily task are no problem Im in doing mode and have more energy.
mam it s ok to musterbate by modern science but i find it it is not okey for my study. how you explain it.pls make a video modern science about musterbation..and last thing that thanks you a lot for all of your efforts.
My life in porn began at around age 7 looking at my father's Playboy magazines. Today, some 50 years later, the most significant challenge for me is the "porn trigger." It could be literally any photo, commercial, or whatever where a woman is shown in some provocative way to me. It doesn't mean nude. It could be the way she is presented. That's what starts it. So I'm fighting the urge to watch porn.
I'm 27 years old and I've accomplished absolutely nothing with my life all because I've been watching porn since I was 12 years old. I have so much untapped potential and I'm tired of holding myself back. I'm ready to leave this addiction behind me.
Same bro I average 9 hrs a day on social media
@@rosendoperez6677 social media is definitely a gate way. We didn't even realize it.
Same exact story here bro. I’m 27 and I’ve been watching since I was 12. Havent done shit with my life. I know you made this comment over a year ago, hope all is well and you were able to kick this awful habit
I hope you're doing well now brother. Gotta break the grip of this evil to achieve your potential.
Reducing 90% of my screen time on my iPad and my own iPhone help me the most. I deleted everything out of my iPhone and my iPad that had anything to do with porn. I deleted my history. I went to UA-cam and got rid of all of the soft porn that they show. So it’s not advertised anymore.I’m still struggling but I’m doing a lot better. Good luck to you.
I can testify to experiencing life in an unbelievably better way when I had abstinence for about a month recently, it was like the grass was green for the first time in a long time. I had greater sense of humor that I felt like I lost before becoming addicted, nature struck me as beautiful, something I could not see before, my imagination was much more vivid and stronger, my social awkwardness and insecurity was just gone, and I felt overall more mature.
Beautiful. Congratulations. Keep going.
Good for you brother
I am now detoxing from porn and videogames, these 2 things wasted most of my life , time to get my life back
Yes, actual happiness exists✨
Yes it does! And everybody deserves it.
Yaa.... At times I used to think happiness is not possible. We have to suffer through life. It depends on our circumstances help us to be happy and motivated
Dr.Trish are you sex video
I’m calling “bullshit” on this.
Only in this society do we put psychological restraints on things that we not only do naturally and are necessary for life but can be enjoyed as well for its own sake.
We screw ourselves ( no pun intended) out of the life we would want to lead pursuing things we don’t need to please people who really don’t count.
First, there’s no shame in being horny. It’s no more a moral failing than being thirsty or hungry. It’s a human need that has to be met.
Now, we live in a time where those needs can be met relatively easily; you don’t have to hunt for your food, find water or compete physically for companionship. This isn’t Pon Farr on Vulcan. We’re not Masai and we’re not Spartans, we’re average middle class Americans with a little bit of disposable income available.
You can have just about anything you want within this society. But there are those who for some reason ( mostly religious) think you’re better off by adopting their idea of happiness.
Now back in the day when people like that had influence, you’d go along with that program. Some were ok with that, most weren’t. As time went on and people gained more knowledge, these people had less influence. But that didn’t mean it was out of the culture altogether.
Due to our early indoctrination, we’ve internalized these “social rules and customs” that govern our lives even though they don’t make sense to us.
@DAngelo 136 You are saying we should treat sexual instinct like any other desire hunger, thirst etc. However to me it seems you are suggesting we should treat it unlike any other instinct. When someone eats too much they get fat. It's unhealthy. We can not just push one dopamine button continuously without it having negative effects.
I thank God I met you Dr Trish.
Thank you, I am glad to know you too.
Same here I found her videos 3 days ago .and so happy I did
Dr thanks you saved me from 10 year of porn addiction actually porn is slow poison kill you from inside and make you weak... lots of love from my side thanks again
I don't like doing the things that I used to enjoy because I wised up. Now instead of socializing with pointless people, I enjoy weight training and going for walks. Drinking alcohol and having pointless relationships are for other people. I lead a different life now.
That's awesome. I'm making the change right now
Well I'm gonna try my darndest
💪
This was brilliant I'm 1.5 months clean. It's no longer a pull now
Excellent! I’m so glad. Stay the course.
🙌🙌🙌🙌
…Hey doc, Have You ever done a Video on why some women love to watch porn????
BEST CHANNEL EVER ON THE
SUBJECT.HANDS DOWN.
Thank you Trish. I relapsed again today and feel terrible. I want to leave porn and dating apps behind for good as they harm me a lot. It is hard to be single and without intimacy for a long time which is where I struggle with going back to the screen. Thank you for your inspiring videos. Chris
I think being single is what makes this addiction so hard to stop. I've been single all my life, but if I had a woman, I would likely much more motivated and determined to break this addiction. I totally see where you're coming from.
@@BrandonP8176 yes I agree. I have found when i have had a relationship (even if not for long) i have zero desire for porn or dating apps because I have a real woman in my life meeting my physical and emotional needs. When single my sexual energy has nowhere to go. I feel like I need that consistent and regular sexual partner in my life to balance out
Same here. I'm single and have a hard time not going back to it when it's so freely available. I'm usually ok when I'm around people but a day or 2 alone usually takes me back to it.
@@randyyoder4898 Yes I totally understand that. I am glad I am not the only one who feels this way.
@@chriscrawford4415 Just do your best man. We re not perfect. But we try our best to be what we should be. Have a good day.
I'm done ignoring these videos. I been praying so much for help with this and I subscribed to the channel several months ago. Maybe the answer was here all along. I can't take it anymore. I'm a recovered alcoholic which has been an extremely brutally hard process and still has its moments but I swear it doesn't compare to quiting porn and masterbation. So sick of it I could just scream. Usually that's when people are ready to change. You have to be so sick of your addiction that your ready to try and listen to anything because you just can't take it anymore. That's where I am. Maybe it's a blessing.
May i suggest a way of helping yourself against it?
I made this video after reading your comment.
ua-cam.com/video/C8ZSo3JHt3o/v-deo.html
Yes thank you I'll watch shortly 😊
Hi. its been 2 years later. I hope everything has been going well on your recovery journey.
@@ChristianHada it's a war. I've made a lot of progress. Thank you. 😊
Very good authorative work from providential America.I was a bright academic who dimmed due to this habit as at my peak I was a heavy masturbator.The porn industry is a robber and I find Dr.Trish a great teacher as she repeats the message and repetition and drill on this reteach you the error of your ways.As you age guys it ruins your body big time.
Thank you so much for your videos. This is by far, the most comprehensive explanation I’ve heard of why porn is harmful to the brain.
10 hours clean so far! Feel amazing and I'm ready to face this challenge!
I relapsed a few times...AGAIN...but Im back on the horse... I find the more I use training as my dopamine release the less I look for other more negative ways to look for a dopamine release...whats crazy is how much being in a bad mood effects me...which is logically but I didnt think about it till I really went through it these past few weeks...keep on trucking fellas if u give up its a for sure no where as if you dont give up maybe it is a no but maybe it isn't.... n my life isnt even that bad and i still look for that dopamine release when i get in a bad mood so i can just imagine if it was really bad...dont look for excuses to continue the bad habbits look for reasons to stop.
👊👊👊🙌
Do u have facebook ?
Thanks for sharing. I am taking control of my life daily. I'm gradually pulling myself out of this bad habit. I really had to get sober with my self and ask my self what might happen if I don't quit this habit
Dr trish deserves the Noble prize..
You have such a great presence on the camera. It really gets the message across and pierces through the screen into my brain. It’s soo good.
She's just really knowledgeable and confident
Honestly I’ve struggled with it since I was 12 or started but it got crazy around 15
I got saved By Christ in 2018
But still struggled with it I fast to get control and then now I saw your channel this is so awesome specially for us that don’t have enough money or resources to afford a therapist we’re we can hear this stuff so I want to thank you Trish this is truly live changing knowledge like you actually know what happens in my mind what I think but also give me solutions I’m so grateful for this God bless this Woman in Jesus name Amen. You are a difference maker
You’re welcome. I’m really glad to be able to help you. 🙏🏻
I agree and Amen to that.
When inappropriate thoughts or urges begin to occur to pull up bad screen time, I purposely say no to start negating the effect and go directly to one of Dr. Trish's videos for reassurance that pornography will rotten my mind and that there is freedom from the clutches of pornography.
I don't fully understand the science on how it all comes together but logically what Dr. Trish says, I get it, it makes sense and I don't want to go have any bad screen time and I don't need the interference in my relationship with Christ and the woman I would marry.
Trish, your videos are helping me so much. Day 10.
Awesome. I sincerely am glad to help you. Day 11... here you come.
@@DrTrishLeigh no pun intended… i hope 😅
Thank you very much for sharing all this valuable knowledge! I've been looking for a complete answer about masturbation like this a long time ago, but everything I found was telling me that it's good for me. In the back of my head, I knew that it can't be good since it makes me super tired all the time and don't have the motivation to do anything.
Because of not knowing the side effects from masturbation, I don't have the motivation to stop it, but now I do. This will definitely change my life! Once again, I really appreciate you taking the time and share this information!
Best exercise to control our mind
Just for 3 times daily abstain yourself from the thing which you want at that time, in this way we learn to do things intentionally instead of following wishes....
One of the best posts i have ever listened too. Love this post to. Its Toooooo good. Thank you.
All your videos are great but this is 0ne of your best Dr. Leigh. Thank you.
Thank you Doctor..😭😭😭😭😭
Thank you a lot for this important information. I discover your Channel for the first time. I understand better the addiction.
i hope you blow up- your videos need to get attention. very helpful
Doctor Trish, you are awesome helping all these Coomers out there. Also guys, she’s married already so quit simping.
Excellent video, Ma'am
Thank you, so glad to bring it to you. I hope it helps.
Madam, you are a real teacher. The way you illustrate whole concept is awesome
Pray for me guys I slipped twice last week. I know we'll overcome. Not going back
I did way worse lol. Sometimes I'm on a laptop looking up porn and my brain clicks in and I wonder how it even happened. One minute I'm doing research etc then next minute BOOM porn. I'm a weak weak man 😫
@@LonelyGamr we'll get through this bro
@@LonelyGamr You're not weak but you may not recognize your pre-porn triggers; are you tired/stressed before you get online? Your targeted ads are designed to get you to click, the porn industry has treated you like a product for far too long and knows how to draw you in. You may have to avoid online activities on those days and choose old fashioned paperback books/card games/board games on days you're zoned out or go for walks with downloaded music, practice cooking a some family recipes, volunteer somewhere for a cause you believe in. You are stronger than you think and there's a whole awesome world to explore offline outside your own mind that hasn't been telling you the truth about your strengths, capabilities, social skills, value, or desirability for a long time anyway.
Don’t worry guys you’ll overcome it if you don’t give up and acceptance is also a key word of letting go of porn…And don’t be harsh on yourself…may Allah free you from porn
its been 3 years... did u go back?
2 weeks in, feeling more calm and sustained happiness, 🙏
Keep going man. You will feel the benefits when you past 90-130 days.
@@ClipzOfStreamer For sure, thanks.
@@joaquinmarino5820 I relapsed after a week
I had 5 days of nofap. I didnt notice anything different. I do know that longer streaks will build up to greater happiness. I've gone 362 days on nofap several years ago. I still wish I knew how I did that. I never had a streak like that again since 2016. However, I never noticed any great miracles or superpowers happening like some people claim lol that doesnt happen. I went 1 year on nofap and didnt get any miracles for all of my hard work and self discipline.
@@ClipzOfStreamer You can feel benefits after 3 days. On day 3 I notice I have more energy.
Thanks for the valuable information ☺️
My pleasure 😊
Its a constant battle. Like being in a war. I am winning,buts it can be very tiring.
Perhaps this can help
ua-cam.com/video/C8ZSo3JHt3o/v-deo.html
@@riddlehawk9139 agree 100%
Get the emotional maturity to do what you want... nice one doc
This should be teached in schools!
…Probably is in Christian schools. The public school in the USA kicked out God long ago
Thank you for this... I needed this video to help me be free from my pornography addiction.
Very clear explanation. Thanks a lot Dr. You are the best.
I love your content and watch it daily which encourages me to stay clean,
You really need to have more subscribers. Many people out there want to get out from all this.
No we want not to let people know about this. let them suffer. 🥱
@@daylight4011 I can understand your suffering, O Sufferer! 😆
I want to really thank you Dr. Leigh for the great content of your videos.
Personally your advice has helped me a lot in my journey to quit masterbation and pornography and get back to who I used to be before this toxic evil take over my life.
I can't imagine how unaware I was a few years back about the actual destructive effects of porn and I had lost all my hope and motivation.
thank you for all your videos and the information you are spreading in order to help people.
Your videos help me soo much. Thank you.
Great episode, thank you. So true, I've continued to feel less and less motivated to do anything that use to give me joy. Completing long-term goals has not been a priority and feeling engaged in life, family, work, friends, is not there. What has been there is jumping on the screen once I wake up, again few hours later, sneaking peaks more and more. These videos are helping. You are right on the button and I need to hear these facts.
I am sorry you are going through this, but I am happy to hear you have admitted you have a problem and are looking to learn more. That is a huge step!
@@DrTrishLeigh Thank you for your words of encouragement and hope.
Thank you so much for your motivation...really very helpful
You’re welcome. I’m very glad to be able to help.
Dr Trish you did it again! Heavy concepts made simple. Decision making by a brain that wants the biggest hit and wants it now. I really wanted to hit that easy button, but instead went to your channel. So great to see you light up practically from start to end. Just love that. We all want to feel that, but porn is not the ticket.
I’m still feeling the pull, but sometimes you just have to change the channel.
Not sometimes, everytime
Thank you so much for these videos 😭💙
How do I reprogram my mind to choose other more rewarding things like chores, yard work, learning a new skill, etc?
Hi. I have a new program to teach you. It’s called brain training 101. Check it out.
drtrishleigh.com/brain-training/
This is so good- I love the focus on creating and maintaining the life you love-so much more powerful than focusing on the problem- your a life saver Dr Leigh!
Thanks again for making these videos.! This stuff is really interesting!
Wonderful knowledge , no #1 like #2 instruct. Appreciate u madam.
Great video Doctor ! Every word resonates. Thanks so much for your motivation and dedication helping us out here. You are a true star.
All rewards should be a result of hard work. Porn does not fall into that category. Thank you Dr Trish!
I really understand these words. Thanks
Thanks....Dr. Trish......
You’re welcome.
Wow you’re so intelligent I’m loving your videos so far I just tried to double tap the video as if I was on Instagram 😂
Always thanks your valuable knowledge
In my view, porn is a sugar
What is inside we, is the reflection of outside
You what you eat
When you visualize
Then you materialize
Facts
Why its hard to quit pmo?
in my view- its like having a whole drugs infront of you. All you need is DONT TAKE IT.
Karma is everything, every human every action is done by karmic effect, life is a circle
One day or the other, porn can be destroyed itself
This is a very true topic.
Great advise. Good videos
Thanks. I’m glad to help.
Thanks for the podcast
Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and wisdom for free here on UA-cam, you are helping people more than you can imagine.
shew helped me educate others. I even educated my psychiatrist about this addiction bc of her vids!!!!
Thank you for your insight.
Day 4
Sucks
So down its insane
Hi dr Trish what you talk about in this video rings toatally true for me. I used to be the type of person wiith full motivation grab the bull by the horns and get on with it. I've been totally confused about where the shift in me might be coming from. Thanks for the insight.
I have no friends, no money, no car, no purpose... so where do I get dopamine from if not from sexual activity, food, and sugar? I'm alone nearly all the time. Please help. Let me know what to do. How do I make women want me? Its like they dont see me or maybe its because I dont have a six pack stomach and a ton of money. Thats what women want these days. They are just looking for someone they can use to get their needs met. Its always been that way though. How do I create the life I want if people dont hire me on a consistent basis?
Thank you for these videos they reallly help meer
Thanks Dr. needed this. I am still a work in progress, but I will get there. I kind of gave up on my immediate career goals. But I now see all this was connected.
I will say this since I started subscribing , my sex life with girlfriend improved dramatically. Thank You!!
It is all connected. Which means it’s all going to improve. What a beautiful thing. I am so glad to be able to help. Rock it out!
Thank you so much Doctor . 👏💐🎖
I cannot thank you enough for all that you do Doctor Trish! I’ve tried beating this problem before but was never able to figure out a battle plan. Now that I’m married and I love my wife very much, I want to beat this with all I have and all I hope to be. Your videos are helping tremendously! I’m almost two weeks in from looking or even thinking about masturbating/pornography use. Please pray for me and help me stay motivated and disciplined.
Thank you. The black top suits you. Looking good
It's like our anthropological propensity to get addicted to sugar, caloric rich, Max reward for Min effort (like when I tribe occasionally found honey vs the difficulty of the daily hunt). But they're empty calories, no nutritional value.
Awesome comment. Thanks for sharing. Empty calories.
Great video!! 💪
i stoppe all watching
but time to time i come back to it just for few minutes
i hardly decrease the time of watching
Get your motivation back by leaving the screen behind.
Thank you so much!
Dr. Trish, does the same happen to games, sugary foods, bad things like that?
Yes ofcourse, all these activities stimulate your reward system and release Dopamine into your synapses (to bind to their receptors). There is an entire concept behind motivation and success (higher executive functioning and better decision making), ITS called: Dopamine Detox. This is a process where you drain your brain from dopamine by subsuding from participating in activities that uselessly trigger your reward system and release the neurotransmitter Dopamine. What happens after a while of draining your brain of its quick-to-go dopamine releasing stimuli is that your brain shifts its focous on other activities which you choose, such as producitivty, hobby, gym, work, study and music and literally starts releasing more dopamine to these stimuli. The whole companies study intensly on how to addict their consumers so start shifting your dopamine sources from quick-pleasure-sourcey such as porn, sugary, video games, netflix and fast food and switch after a while to other activities and you will see how more enjoyable and EASY they become. Google Dopamine Detox for more info (or search on youtube). By the way good thought you had there. :) best of luck.
@@pedro2624 thanks for the class man, i will for sure check more about it and see what i can cut off from my habits, i'm quitting smartphone games, porn already done, just once or twice a week i touch myself a bit, i haven't seen any bad result from this
@@gabrielalmeida6085 what about chess on your smartphone?
@@andresmorales5111 I've never played chess haha
@@gabrielalmeida6085 learn
Sobriety will just naturally bring motivation and intention.
These videos help me thanks Doc 🙏🏾
Thank you!
You’re welcome. I hope it helps.
NOTES:
Where does motivation come from?
- Comes from a connection between the prefrontal cortex and the reward circuit
- When demotivated, it’s because of the fried connection between the prefrontal cortex and reward circuit and also that those two regions are not functioning the way they are supposed to
- NoFap and SR fixes the prefrontal cortex, reward circuit, and the connection between these two regions
- Rewire your brain to get motivation from happiness, instead of simply getting motivation from pleasure
Sub-processes
- Reward seeking behavior
- The brain learns that certain activities are more rewarding, and the dopamine links the source of your pleasure to behavior that allows you to destress
- Value-based decision making
- Your brain learns where it gets its rewards and makes decisions about what’s it’s going to do to get those rewards
- Prefrontal cortex controls your decision making. Hypofrontality is the condition where your prefrontal cortex is completely hijacked.
- Gain awareness over neural processes to get rid of hypofrontality
- Control your brain or it will control you
- The ability to exercise control over your neural processes
How to change your brain to create a life that you love
- Take concepts you enjoy and seek to implement and then turn them into action steps
- Stay vigilant and disciplined in creating the life that you want
You are right, but some people have really bad lives, so porn is all they have really. I am not making excuses, but that is often the reason for the porn addiction in the first place.
Ambassadress of addiction screen freedom .Thanks mother !
Thank you ❤
Very important video
Very true.
No porn for 3 weeks now. I have briefly seen porn 1-2 minut and I felt the dopamin impact instantly and then I walked away. I havent mastubatet at all for 3 weeks.
I feel my anxiety level much lower og confidence going up, daily task are no problem Im in doing mode and have more energy.
You don't answer the question , you answer only those questions of praise.....
That’s not true.
The questions that I get are neutral. People seeking answers.
What questions do you mean?
Thank you so much
Glad to help.
Dr trish could you please do a vid on Alcohol and how it effects your recovery
For sure!
@@DrTrishLeigh it’s the main reason why I’ve been relapsing over the past few years
Thank you dr
Listen to music and sing is good for me
Thank you Dr.
I love you. You are so helpful
Wow. What a lesson.
Most people don’t know or care what it is like to be in mentally I’ll myn with all promises and lies and never loved
mam it s ok to musterbate by modern science but i find it it is not okey for my study. how you explain it.pls make a video modern science about musterbation..and last thing that thanks you a lot for all of your efforts.
What causes the dopamine hit ? Looking at 'stuff' or acting out ?
Thank you doctor you came late but at least you came
How long after you stop should you see progress?
Big thanks 🥰
Hi doctor. Is it normal to have some type of depression when on semen retention? I’m about 7 days( no porn of any kind. Nothing)
My life in porn began at around age 7 looking at my father's Playboy magazines.
Today, some 50 years later, the most significant challenge for me is the "porn trigger." It could be literally any photo, commercial, or whatever where a woman is shown in some provocative way to me. It doesn't mean nude. It could be the way she is presented. That's what starts it. So I'm fighting the urge to watch porn.
…Gods punishment isn’t as bad if you lust after a woman with clothes on, as opposed to nude women in porn
Thanks Doc for everything you do. Massive respect.