Your Inner Critic Holds Your Values
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This is a very powerful clip! I think I get it if I tell myself, I’m fat and lazy. Then my core values are fitness and productivity… if my inner critic tells me my my kitchen is disgusting and people will think I’m gross then I know I value cleanliness and order if my inner critic is loud, it means I am not being authentic to my core values… #Transformational
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And I could be wrong about this but…. No. Those are things you were told you “should” value. What you actually value is your relationship with the people who taught you that. Your inner critic isn’t trying to keep your house clean or hold you to dine societal beauty standard. It’s trying to preserve your relationships with other humans you believe will hold you to those made up standards.
What you value is relationship, community, being loved and supported in a meaningful way not random made up social standards,
Right!
@@nics4062I agree with you on that your inner critic, you inner voice was at some point an outer voice that got internalized.
However, what Teal says is that you have to sit down with this inner side and see if these are really your values which is suprisinlgy very hard and a long process to do.
this helped me understand, thank you
❤a very well explaination love it the emphasis that jumped into my hearing . . . Only when you seriously consider that value! ❤ bless your work
I agree… it knows I can do better than what I am… that’s how I did my best work
Wow! Gamechanging 🙏🏼🧙🏼♀️
wow you look lovely Teal
Not fully convinced. I feel my inner critic tries to mold me into something society wants. Not what's actually healthy for me..
Yup, same here- but in the past when I *did* cave in and do what it said it still hated me from new angles. Not an ally for me.
So the answer may be something like: you value your social connections over your own health.
Many people do, maybe it's even true for all people at a certain point in their lives. It certainly was true for me at some points in my life, currently not so much, but I take into account that my position on that might change or fluctuate back and forth depending on other conditions.
Maybe it's similar for you?
Good luck with figuring out your subconcious motivations, it's not an easy task, but it's a worthy one. ;)
@@Seamannon Thank you for your indepth honest answer... the difficult thing about deciding whether your assumptions are true or not for me is the fact, that we have so many parts in us and of course parts who are intrijects. Mini-representations of authority figures we met usually.
Lets use another example. Imagine someone is gay and is inner critic says: "you have to conform, you have to be a good christian, you are disgusting...." Would you say that's reflecting his values? I mean it's for sure not reflecting his inner truth...
Tell me what you tink 🙂
@@freidenkerin5198 Sure is :) You have to unpack all of the bits one by one first, assess each one and then dig deeper into how they are related.
You can ask yourself:
Do I really have to conform? Why? What for? Is it important? For whom? For me? For a part of me? For other people? Does it hurt me? Do I really care? Am I tormenting myself for that? Why? Why not? Do I have to be a good christian? What does it mean to be a good christian? Why do I need to be that? Do I want to meet that standard? Do I care about that label? Why? Why not? Am I digusting? Why? What for? In what way? What is disgusting to me? How do I distance myself from that? How can I confront that? What can I do about that? How do I improve myself? What can I focus on to make myself more acceptable to others? To myself? In what way do I want my life to improve? and so on...
Anyone can get to their inner truth after some ammount of self-reflection I believe. After investing some time and focus to unpack those beliefs and sort them out, drawing lines between personal and social motivations, setting some boudaries and goals for self-improvement, your personal truth will become more clear :)
Society exists more or less functionally for a very very long time already and tried and tested copious amounts of different things to see what works and what doesn't with billions of individuals.
What the hell do you know what's good for you anyway? Quite arrogant of you to assume you'd know better.
But I'm sure you don't want to hear that.
It's your Spirit.
Because God already knows 👀💯
What year these videos posted here were recorded? They look 15 years old
So if the inner critic is constantly telling me I'm not good enough in a particular area, then it's because I value that thing and it's holding me accountable? Interesting insight
You can have a malaligned inner critic that is toxic. You can have one that is semi-toxic and you can have a healthy one. Most importantly, you must reality test to find out and adjust as required.
It’s a good opportunity to think about where that value came from, if you truly want to keep that value, and how your behavior might change ❤
It makes a lot more sense if you watch the entire part of the video where she worked with someone on their inner critic
@@icyearth Is it available here on youtube for free?
@@erasedshallbehisname5100 Unfortunately not, she does run discounts for her premium. 80$ a month is to hefty
Shadow work can help that inner critic become healthy in that way...like a discernment tool.
How do you do shadow work? What exactly is it,?
@@Femmefatale32000 shadow work is trauma that we hold on to mentally, emotionally and physically, like guilt, shame, fears, hate, rejection etc. When the feelings are triggered usually from a person or situation, Instead of ignoring it and pushing the negativity back down, I will allow myself to feel it fully without judgement. Sometimes I cry, punch a pillow or jump around to help clear and transmute it if the pain is really dense. If the pain is lighter, I'll sometimes laugh (not at myself, but the energy of it) and thank the pain for coming out. I release it and replace with something I prefer. Instead of anxiety, I'll feel peace, from fear to feeling safe and supported, from insecure to feeling secure and confident. I'm replacing it with my True Self. It's very hard and painful sometimes when old pain comes up, but it's worth all the effort.
I will meditate with my inner critic to clarify my inner values! This. Is. PARAMOUNT!
42!!!!! 🎉🎉🎉
leave it to a moron to over complicate something simple they dont understand
Our inner critics are from how our parents talked to us as children
That’s what I always thought too.
Incredible insight and wisdom.
To anyone battling their inner critic, please…Listen, take note and then listen again…and allow yourself to separate the inner (critical) voice from the inner warrior/superhero/plain and simple stronger ‘you’ that you must believe in if you’re watching these videos.
Pat yourself on the back for all the things you HAVE done and ARE proud of (even if the achievement was ‘just’ getting through another day!) as opposed to beating yourself up for things you didn’t do or felt was a failure.
Keep on keepin’ on, as the saying goes.
Nobody else knows your struggles, your resolve, your world,..so compare less and believe more 🙏🏼❤️
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But if stop caring about about peoples opinion, I wouldnt be able to enjoy my medicine. NEED EXCUSE. I will not do it alone.., oh wait, i forgot
You are awesome!
@@beatricedarpini2409 ☺️ thank you. But remember, so are You!… so are us all if we can believe it, even just a little to begin with and build on the feedback loops of positive actions that create positive thoughts. 🤔☺️💪🏼
@@Monkey80llxyou tube wants me to rate your comment..., like the Blue box of additional rating options .... More Technocracy building upon our own responses... I'm skipping any/all of such self digital prison building activities...
Hm. Interesting. I tend to view the inner critic as an agglomeration of all the things my parents said to me or how they made me feel. I guess in retrospect that in itself formed my values. I try, and think that I'm very good at living inline with a majority of my values but when I fail, I resurrect monuments so that my homage to my lacking is greater than to my good. I can succeed 1000 times a day but mess up once and I become my own abuser which interrupts momentum, initiates depression and causes delay as I wrangle with getting my mind back on track.
The next time you "mess up" try to write down what your inner critic is saying. Write it on paper. And then let your inner friend "speak". Think of them as a empathetic friend that loves you and respects you and understands you. Write down what the friend says to you about messing up. This creates more balance and helps to see, that there are always two sides.
This woman is hypnotic. Her clips the way she speaks something about her is so peaceful and so attractive 😍. God bless
In a time of enormous stress, I began having inserting thoughts that sounded external. They stopped when I listened to them as carefully as I could without judgement and took notes. I consulted the I Ching and read that they were Deliverance (as from evil). That is exactly what they were.
wow....never heard that before of 35 years of searching...very profound.
Have you studied IFS?
I'm in love with the way she explains things so smoothly, it's a big shame for me not knowing her until now.
She has a soothing voice. She has a vibrant, image-evoking name. She is pretty. She wears pretty dresses. She sits on an ornate chair. But she talks a lot of nonsense, imo. She's got snake oil salesman inspirational speaker vibes. At best, her claims are reckless and too broadly sweeping. I know you want someone to guide you, but choose someone with credentials and education based on research. Not something that just sounds nice so let's assume it's correct. Agreed?
@@ultrameticulous No.
@@Sunny-bychoice Well, good luck following her advice. Look up her wiki. She is "a spiritual influencer and author."
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My inner critic is called the Holy Spirit
I agree and disagree because if our inner critic is valuing things that we know deep down shouldn’t hold much value because they are not healthy.. then we’re at a constant battle with our inner critic and our true self. My inner critic is constantly telling me that iam not beautiful enough and that I am not strong enough.. smart enough.. but my true self tells me that those things aren’t and shouldn’t be what gives me value and meaning. So I try not to give my inner critic too much power and I constantly have to filter my inner critics values.
What she is talking about is that in essence you have a value for beauty, strength and intelligence. If you're telling yourself that you're not those things, the point would be to move towards those things, not away from them.
Maybe your inner critic wants to tickle you (ina rude way), maybe the message is that you must see that you are all of this. Let me tell you: You ARE beautiful, strong and smart!
My inner critic is most fierce at a certain time of the month. She is my shadow sister - divine feminine checking in with me.
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The inner critic is another name for the emotion of "shame". Most people grow up with emotionally abusive parents who weaponized shame as a tool to hurt their children. They purposefully activated that emotion in their kids to get them to fall in line.
Shame, or "the inner critic" is actually known as the MASTER emotion, it's stronger than fear, rage, lust, everything. That's why parents abusively activate it in their children, because it WORKS.
Those children then grow up with their own inner critic (shame) being permanently tainted by their parents verbal abuse "Why can't you be more like your sister?" "No son of mine will be a cry baby" Etc. Etc.
Shame (the inner critic) is supposed to develop into, essentially, an internal parental unit when you're an adult. It's there to speak up before you do something stupid, because it TRULY has your best interest at heart. It's supposed to lovingly guide you, even when that means tough love, by sending messages like "You can do better than this. You DESERVE better than this. You know that, right?"
It's supposed to steer you in the right direction to live your best life. BUT, because of most people's relationship with their internal sense of shame has been hijacked and poisoned with abuse, they grow up DEEPLY FEARING the experience of shame (i.e. repairing their relationship with their internal critic) to where they cast it out as an emotion all together.
You see this in people who say they're "proud" of who they are, yet they're constantly throwing away their health via smoking, drinking excessively, doing drugs, are obese, extremely promiscuous, unapologetically rude, etc.
These people are not actually proud of their lifestyles, they're wearing pride as armor to avoid experiencing shame (which, when experienced in a non-toxic, healthy way, will lead them to self improvement and true happiness)
We need to stop weaponizing shame in others, and learn to co-exist with it within ourselves, as our guiding compass to becoming our best selves.
Moral of the story: Face your own shame, learn to separate out the abusive things told to you using shame, and find your inner critics TRUE voice calling out to you. Then, listen to it and let it lead you to greatness. And other people's shame, is NEVER yours to try to activate and hijack. It is their compass and theirs alone.
"Most people" grow up with such parents? Nah, maybe in the west but I wouldn't know. Parents in general offer too much love to their children, and too little discipline.
@cataliniancu5318 As someone studying psychology, I disagree. But we can have different opinions and that's ok, we have different experiences. My parents never shamed me, they taught me, so I have a very healthy relationship with my inner critic as an adult.
@@MiraJune742Who said anything about shaming? Disciplining is far more than that. It's rewarding good behavior and discouraging bad behavior.
@@cataliniancu5318 Did you read my entire first comment...? The entire thing was explaining how most parents purposefully shame their kids instead of teaching them and disciplining them properly because shaming is easier to get the kids to fall in line. The whole topic is about shame. It feels to me like you're taking my comments personally, which they aren't. I don't know you, don't know your story, and don't know why you're stirring up an issue where there isn't any. I've expressed my thoughts and shared my experiences a little bit. That's all I need to do, it isn't about you 🙂
@@MiraJune742 Nah, I don't have much stake in this, other than the fact that I already know how I will be disciplining my future children. Because it's clear that letting them do whatever will just end up like everyone else these days, which is terrible.
She's a frickin' genius! The inner critic holds us to our standards. It's loud when we're off base and quiets down when we're congruent to ourselves and our beliefs. Excellent!
Omg yes!! Thank you, Teal! I had developed an obsession (limerence) over somebody to the point I was just doing crazy things like taking on their interests etc. It felt so authentic but my own upbringing/attachment style knew no way other way.
Despite this, an inner voice kept finding this "gross" and "sick". My friends told me what I was doing was harmless, that I'm allowed to also have/like similar interests as him. But they didn't get the authenticity factor. Finally, I gave in to my inner voice and stopped. I realized I cultivated much more respect for myself and he then started to respect me.
The Inner Critic is not an enemy, but is an internal compass! It warns us when we are straying off our authnetic path due to our own bad conditioning/habits etc.
This blew my mind! I want to hear more...
Your comments on this platform really resonates with my soul... the core meaning ..short to the point... no attachment no desire no distinguishing/observing with no judgement of whether it is good or bad... only observing
Amen ❤️🙏 no longer emotionally attached
this is so interesting, I never thought about it like this but the more shadow work I did the more I realised it's alot more like a protector for real
I don't agree. Your inner critic doesn't always hold the truth of your values: sometimes it holds the truth of your parents' values. At least for me, my inner critic is criticising me when I'm moving away from my mom's values, when I'm doing something I know she would criticize me for
Look at her....just sitting.... The most beautiful angel .....sharing her wisdom and light ❤️🙏
Yes I agree she is such a powerful force.
agreed
I guess it’s because it’s a Short but this is unclear. Needs examples to make sense of it.
I guess you can be really crappy at something and not care about it at all. In this case your inner critic won't torment you about it.
Let's see...
I'm a crappy chess player, but I don't care about chess, so I'm not self-critical about it.
I'm also not much of a handyman, but that stings a bit, because I feel like I need to improve on that. I wan't to be able to fix more stuff that's used up or broken.
I can confirm that this seems to be a very useful excercise.
Good luck :)
That's a true fact: this inner voice can be seen as a welcomed friend who in some instances would help guide us - use our common sense - to look any situation that we may have been programmed to think it being negative or "bad for us". Once we speak to ourselves as we would a friend in need, calm, patient, open minded as well as kind and compassionate then whatever the "critical voice" might have said or we may have felt it to be negative isn't really what is the answer. Putting ourselves down is so detrimental and unhealthy and it's also become a habit in some. A sort of "go to" reaction to everything - it's uncomfortable, downright disrespectful to treat ourselves in this manner. See the difference between treating yourself well and being able to accomplish something or treating yourself negatively and then trying to do the same. There is a difference in the way your heart and soul feels - for example: take 2 glasses of water - on one you write "good-happy-kind and the other hate-no good-useless. They have shown how the water disintegrates in its molecules in the second glass treated abusively. Same for us - in our brains and the way our body reacts to that voice.
This is contradictory like a lot of her teachings, but I can see it. To me, my inner critic represents my mother and father- but mostly my mother molding me into an acceptable person.
I know she did this so I would have a good life, have friends, and be accepted by others.
But I am not normal. I am autistic. She wanted me to be normal so I would be liked- because this is important for her.
But I'm not. I just wanted Mom to like me for who I am. So now I am working on accepting and liking myself just the way I am.
I want to feel comfortable in my own skin.
This is maybe one of the most important things I've heard. People say "oh you're fine as you are" "you don't need to improve anything". But that voice that tells you 'you're not what you could be' is right. It's always going to be right. How could there be a limit on the highs of the highs?
so smart she is... i always wonder where she gets so much insight from...
Internal family systems for the win
I've not heard her say one thing that could be disproven.
Espesially Those values where you run the risk of losing a relationships . What does this mean ?
My inner critic has kept me from getting my own ass kicked many times. It tells me to sit down son.
I truly believe that I am understanding what she is saying.
I thought about this and I felt about it and as far as I can remember it is the first and true revelation of what I became of it .
Yes I'm listening u
Tell me more .
So we should befriend the inner critic for it guides us and kinda keeps us in check too so clever ❤
Like damn, too accurate 🥺👁🙏🏽💜🕸💚💯
This is what I struggle with, what if I don't know how to socialize and allow my vulnerability/ trust to show, my inner critic says: "I'm not worthy."
yes so your inner kids need their loving parent to remind them of their true identity
And?......... (crickets)...........(crickets)...........How is this changing the colour of a Laguna Beach Sunset?
Ive felt this, but never had thought the words for it
This is beautifully said
Love your dresses... would love to style you with matching shoes for each dress
Just my opinion "The inner critic, relentless in its judgment, often clouds our path with doubt. Yet amidst its clamor, the truth remains: just be yourself. While learning from others is invaluable, their opinions are mere echoes in the wind. Remember, it's your journey to traverse, your road to tread. Choose your battles wisely, for not every skirmish is worth the fight. In life's labyrinth, steer clear of danger when possible, and set your sights on the beacon of positivity that guides your way."
Hmmm. I’m not sure about that one.
When growing up under traumatic circumstances with a violent micromanaging father, his voice has been following me around and created this constant self criticism that can’t really be trusted.
I LOVE THE PHRaSE, " PROTECTOR, WITHIN yourself ":!!😼👏🏻👏🏻🤔
My inner critic is always telling me to keep being a doormat to avoid conflict. When I decide to quietly stand up for myself, it bring unwanted and detrimental attention. My inner critic is confusing.
Seems like you may value connection with others over your own needs or a quiet coexistance in a relationship over your own opinions. I can only make a guess here, I'm sure you can answer the question of what your inner critic expects of you much better for yourself if you think about it.
Good luck ;)
My two cents is such, look at it as that sarcastic cousin playing devils advocate. It's daring you to be bold, brave, and honest with yourself. Because this is so important to you deep down, it continues to dare you, start crap so you can become so uncomfortable that you fix it. You can not stand up for yourself unless you know what your boundaries are. Spend some time inside to find your true values, boundaries, needs, and wants. This will allow you to stand up for these things when they're being threatened. Otherwise you will lash out at everything or allow everything out of fear. I hope this helps dear.
yes all Adult Children get guilt feelings for standing up for their Inner Kids
It took forever to understand this.. It's not my enemy anymore and I own my value and self respect. It took 59 years to love myself.
You mean our conscience?
Its not a chritique.
Its a feeling.
🤯thank you for the epiphany!!!! Starting to make friends now!
This is literally the description of the INFJ personality type (based on Jung’s personality typology) from a cognitive functions’ standpoint. With Fe (extroverted feeling) as auxiliary and Fi (introverted feeling) as its shadow, critic function, it makes perfect sense for the INFJ type. If you know you know.
Wow! Mindblowing! Thank you for this Insight!
I love listening to you
The Inner critic...
I heard that term before in college...
It was from a loopy professor that was also grooming students for sexual exploitation.
I never have inner criticism, but I stand up, sleeping sweating, sweetheart ... maybe I have no values.. do I need variables
Sometimes my inner critic is actually my dads values, which I don't always share...
I dont agree. Certainly it can be that way But the inner critic often holds the truth of ADOPTED VALUES that may not even be your own.
I don’t have an inner critic… I have “an observer of all” and a healthy “filter system” built over many years…
The inner critic is a result of being away from love, away from Source,Universe,God…. If I critique myself it’s from a deeper wiser knowing and i can clearly hear and heed these conversations ✨
Sounds like a great perspective to have, something to aspire to! Thanks for sharing :)
@@Seamannon How I see it is connecting to “confidence”(Latin:confidere “have full trust”) built over many years, this I believe is the deeper knowing we connect with (Source etc) …this silences any inner critic… which is only the uncontrolled “mind” …I’m glad it resonates with you, always nice when this happens…enjoy the journey 😃✨
There's 2 of them. The Light and the Darkness. Three if you include yourself.
It goes along with
If I don't feel good enough... its because I'm actually not good enough... = I could be doing better for myself, I could be healthier, I know I should be eating healthier and going for walks alot more.
It's the way I've always seen my inner critic it's a guide & it's telling me something that I need to know about myself.
There is also another aspect to it to recognise, it's also the voices of other critics of you, critics like your parents, teachers, coaches, anyone you looked up to or trusted that criticised you for no reason but that they could will be inside you too, because you trusted them you BELIEVED what they said to you about you, so this becomes an inner critic too.
Always remember there is more than ONE way to look at everything & it's never just ONE way, ONE reason 😊
It's constantly practicing what someone could view me as. It simulates a worse perspective and then budges over my desk to interrupt what I'm doing to prepare myself for being misrepresented. All fine and dandy, but the fact is that it wants me to do so 24/7 and I know it can always come up with more. My inner critic is garbage, my external critics are worse. 🎉
There's 2 voices within you. God (Holy Spirit) and the enemy. God won't shame you. Shame is not from God. God will convict you and humble you bc He wants you to hold a higher value and tell you that you were created for a much higher purpose. The enemy will shame you and make you feel little and all the other bad thoughts come in like Im not loved.. or Im not good for anything.. fear and depression follow.. Know the difference. "The universe" wont teach you this. God will.
Um, except the values aren't always your own values. They could be the values of another person like a parent.
That assumes the inner critic hasn’t been hijacked by trauma or incredibly toxic people
Well... that seems very reductive. That inner criticism can come from a very criticized person as a child for example.
It is funny how she is propagating individualism but then hold everyone else responsible for your problems.
Depends how you notice the critic, it can be extreme or just self observation, I'm thinking of a soul that commits suicide unable to fit in modern western civilization, like character from nu metal video or something weird 17th century victorian. And it's summing up to have independency, financial, material, psychological and be independent grown up.
That inner critic=your spirit given to you by The MOST HIGH
This form of subtitles is much better, and less agressive than the habitual flashy and disjointed word-for-word (sometimes in the center of the screen). That's the only critic I would do.
"...where you run the risk of losing a relationship..." So inner critic is a people-pleaser?
❤yes dear ......innermost...when trying to make socialization....I haven't found not one person without the intent to suggest that they are interested in a sexual relationship without considering that one has a worthiness value❤
The inner critic is nothing but the mind chatter, It's meaningless and don't make too much out of it, you'll drive yourself crazy.
My inner critic is the distillation of how much my mother *utterly hated* me and it wants nothing less than my complete annihilation. Can’t see how this is “defending my values”, my inner critic is satisfied with *nothing* I do: even when I *do* the things it tells me to do it flips the script on me and hates on me for THAT. I’ve learned it absolutely is not, ever, an ally of mine, it simply is the personification of all the hatred, harm and contempt I received from the adults around me growing up. My internal allies have an absolutely different feel to them.
Teal said that it's formed from socialization. It's not that the criticism or values you hold currently are correct for you. She's calling you to listen to them, question them and re evaluate/unlearn them if need be. But your openness to listen to it allows the critic to understand what you do really value and what your inherent values are. You allow it to be part of you and then you have dominion over it again once more
Please look into inner child integration. Having toxic parents messes with the equilibrium of our internal compass.
You are right your inner critic is your toxic parent right now. I know how hard it is to do anything. I couldn't even choose between colours, make/model of things I wanted to buy because the critic would go crazy with all kinds of worries about getting it right etc.
Inner child work really brings the you inside and the you outside onto the same page. Teal has loads of content on this subject.
@@rebeccahepson it’s through decades of listening to it, learning that it is never, ever coming from actual interest in my healthy, healed thriving, and learning to shrug my shoulders at it that I’ve learned my ‘inner critic’ isn’t some advocate for me as Teal here describes it to be- I absolutely *do* have a loving and supportive element whose voice I’ve been slowly yet steadily raising, but this voice is *not* that of the poisonous hypercritic. The hypercritic is also *not* my wounded child elements and I’ve done much work in reclaiming and integrating those parts of me, and I continue to do so. The conflation between our wounded child elements and the *poisonous hypercritic* created by individuals that would have *happily seen us dead inside, if not physically* , is NOT one I’m ever going to make again- I made that mistake earlier in my life and nearly died several times from that. My inner child aspects were in pain and thrashing, but the Grima Wormtongue in my head *hates* me utterly and can never be given ANY space. I’ve learned that the hard way, with scars to prove it- my critic no longer dominates my life at all, there are still some gnarly programs to deal with and I’m doing that *and* I will never, ever see it as anything other than an indicator of what the total opposite of my well-being looks like because it is most definitely *not* an ally of mine.
@@kristyoblen7004 “you are right your inner critic is your toxic parent right now”- it’s precisely because of my inner child work that I have learned the inner critic is never to be trusted or looked to as a source of ANYTHING good in my life. I’m decades down the track in this work, I’ve shrunk the inner critic from a monstrous shrieking banshee that I couldn’t hear anything else over to an insidious hiss whose tricks I’m well versed.
I now focus on my true self as part of the unveiling of my life path- the inner critic tried everything in its power to keep me from that, it was *never* an ally and the voices of my inner allies sound nothing like the bile that spewed from my inner critic in the past. My critic is nothing more than a ‘bad program’ that is trying to stay alive, not something there to ‘help’ me- it is heading the way of the Wicked Witch of the West, melting into well deserved eventual oblivion as I cultivate the loving, caring parts of my greater Self who guide me with genuine support and understanding.
@@Ninsidhe Sounds like you are already on the right path to figure things out and fix your problems one by one, patiently and with love in your heart. I wish you good luck on your way. Blessings :)
I've taken to calling her the pragmatic spiritualist ❤️
I think teals comments are interesting but they are lifeless without God
Im constantly asking advice from my inner critic but i don't hear anything
Teal- my inner critic is no longer there. I am only existing. I no longer have an inner dialogue. I’m only going through the process.
I want to live again.
And I do not know how.
Please please can you help me. I am barely surviving.
I don't understand this completely. Could someone explain it to me?
I mean what if my inner critic is "mean" about my looks? Does it just mean that I value the relationships that I think I could loose by looking ugly? Hahahahah or does it mean that I value being pretty? Hahahaha
oh god, I must object.
People who have been overly criticized as children, were not accepted by their parents, often internalise this. As adults, they hear the disrespectful voice of their mother and father as some inner monologue.
If that is the case with you, don't listen to it ! Talk back !
Totally disagree. My inner critic is trying to keep me safe by imagining how someone ELSE wants me to be different than the way I am so I fit into THEIR world.
It could be a limiting factor for for some
If they wanna be something different
Essentially its protecting them from a conflict(good) that should happen (bad) in order to become that which you wanna be
It's your inner critic. Also, the one who holds your values up against others. Who would continue to harm you in a relationship? And therefore it speaks to you constantly of removing yourself from the harmful relationship?
Im curious how other peoples inner critic sounds. Mine is very mean and horribly abusive. I always assumed this was just the way it was, but hearing her call it a protector makes me think differently.
It’s the one we base our lives on. Imaginations affect our will.
How about your own inner critic? 😂 Were do you take this information from??? Please leave a reference to the research you are basing it on.
And stop lying to people!
Wow, this is exactly what I’m starting to experience.
She’s so interesting to listen to. Bad sentence structure but I can’t correct my English.
mh... No, I don't agree to full extent. A powerful inner critic can also be born due to extremely strict parents that will only give you love when you show the performance they want you to show. So your inner critic grows into this bombastic creature that will only be satisfied once you're perfect, because it -yes- protects you from outside criticism. However, that's toxic behavior it learned in childhood. You can never be free of that learned perfectionism if you have that huge inner critic that once protected you but now is only there to tear you down if you do not repeat the same values your parents had, even if you don't want to do that. So your inner critic can actually stand in the way of healing your inner child.
What I'm saying is: if your inner critic had to protect you in childhood, it might hurt you in adulthood.
To me (77 yo male) , my inner voice is my friend and I have learned the hard way ; always listen to it and heed it. There are people who believe that not all knowledge and thoughts occur in the brain. Wouldn’t it be strange if some of our consciousness resided elsewhere , say like our heart?
What if the inner critic is a lair, and an imposter? Then what.. What the heck are you going to do with this inner critic that just wont go away, like ever.. ? Offer it some money.. It has no need for such. A 3 course dinner?. No. Its no use..Im just going to have to deal with it the old fashioned way. With a jolly good thrashing
The inner critic is the voice of the Snake from Eden, passed through the generations parent to child.
is there a body-part localization for the inner-critic? is it the amygdala? the sympathetic nervous system? or an amalgamation of the mind and other things?
Apart from her deep insights and wise words I really love her dress. Yep, I'm shallow 😂
You are awesome blessed heart cute queen looking in that trone your Majesty!
F, I wish my inner critic would shut the f up a lot of the time cuz it doesnt end. I worry too much however what im going through now in my life is way way too much for a person to handle at once. Doors slam shut in my face. Every day. I would love some peace for a year. Just one year of my life, or more. I've had my karma. For years and years. Im very tired and worn out.
I'm amazed how insightful she is for her age. I learn so much listening to even her video shorts. Is she a psychologist?